Input:
   The prompt for the above section of the story could be:

Q: Can you write about several seductive and foreplay games that couples can try to spice up their relationship? Include detailed instructions on how to play each game, as well as any necessary materials or preparations.

A: Certainly! Here are some seductive and foreplay games that couples can try to add some excitement to their relationship:

* **The Dirty Drip:** Combining food and sex can lead to a lot of fun and laughter. In this game, one partner is blindfolded while the other feeds them something delicious and messy. If anything spills or drips on the blindfolded partner, the other partner has to lick it up with their guidance.
* **Pick a Card:** This game involves writing down various sexual activities on cue cards. Couples can then pick cards and try out the activities that appeal to them. It's important to always check in and get enthusiastic consent before proceeding.
* **Mirror-Mirror:** In this game, couples take turns touching each other while blindfolded or with their eyes closed. One partner mirrors the other's actions, heightening their senses and being more mindful of their lover's touch.
* **Party Vibes:** This game involves wearing a hidden toy that can be controlled via remote control or an app to a party. Couples can then hand over the reins of control to their lover and discuss their limits, concerns, and desires ahead of time.
* **Better Than Dice:** This game allows couples to multiply the sexy dice approach by experimenting with a greater number of body parts and acts. Couples can write down as many body parts and acts as they can think of, then pull out one action paper and one body part paper and perform the action on the body part listed.
* **Come Closer:** This game involves quizzing your lover and allowing them to take one step closer each time they get a correct answer. Couples can ask personal questions, learn more about each other, or use real trivia questions. While asking questions, one partner can play with themselves, building sexual tension and delaying physical touch.
* **Netflix and Strip:** Couples can agree to remove a piece of their partner's clothing whenever they hear a specific word on-screen. Each partner should pick a different word and try to select words that will occur with some frequency.

Response:
CHAPTER

16

SEDUCTION AND FOREPLAY GAMES

Sometimes you want to dive right into sex, and other times, you want to be playful and experiment with novel approaches. If you find that your routine is repetitive or predictable, break the cycle by trying out one of these simple games with your lover. Even a few minutes of something new can help to break the autopilot mode so often experienced in long-term relationships and lead to new discoveries.

As always, these activities come with guidelines as opposed to rules, and just like sex, you can always adapt them or make them up as you go.

The Dirty Drip

Combining food and sex is a common fantasy and indulgence, as they both evoke pleasure and activate a similar brain response. Because this activity is a little messy, it's sure to lead to a little laughter and playful affection.

Play by play:

► Strip down to a state of undress with which you're comfortable, bearing in mind that you might spill food on whatever garments remain.

► Don a blindfold and sit in front of your lover.

► Your task is to feed them something delicious (e.g., whipped cream, whipped mascarpone, ice cream, cake icing, honey, chocolate sauce) while blindfolded. If anything spills or drips on them, you agree to lick it up (or use your hands) with their guidance as you remain blindfolded.

Pick a Card

A little forethought goes a long way, so get creative with a range of sex acts to remind yourself of your old favorites or discover new approaches you've yet to try.

Play by play:

► Write down as many sexual activities as you can come up with on cue cards (one sex act per card). Nothing is too mild or wild, as you will have a chance to choose activities that appeal to you, and you will always check in to get enthusiastic consent before proceeding. Some varied suggestions from our clients include:

• _Eat ice cream off my breasts_

• _Call me "daddy"_

• _Kiss my neck_

• _Look up at me while you go down on me_

• _Blindfold me and give me a full-body massage_

• _Rub my feet_

• _Put a finger up my butt during oral sex_

• _Kiss me when I'm coming_

• _Suck on my earlobes_

• _Nibble on my lower lip_

• _Let me bite you_

• _Pretend I'm your escort and pay me for sex_

• _Ride me on the kitchen counter_

• _Pull my hair and drag me to bed_

• _Bite my nipples while you caress my face_

• _Cover my mouth with your hand while we're having sex (leave space to breathe through the nostrils)_

• _Try a full-body slide with oil_

• _Massage my butt for twenty minutes with coconut oil_

• _Go down on me while I'm eating a burger at the kitchen table_

• _Gag while you suck on me_

• _Sit on my face with your full body weight_

• _Lick and kiss my bum_

• _Kiss in the dark for five minutes_

• _Spank me (focus on the meaty part of the butt and start slow)_

• _Tie me up (leave space for circulation)_

• _Gag me with your underwear (be sure to leave some space to breathe and leave some fabric hanging out so that it can be removed with ease)_

• _Shove your fingers in my mouth_

• _Lick my [genitals] for ten minutes without talking_

• _Rub my fluids all over your face_

• _Make out with me after you go down on me_

• _Fist me_

• _Suck on my toes_

• _Worship my boots_

• _Paint my toenails_

• _Pee on my back_

• _Put your nose in my butt_

• _Tell me you love me while you go down on me_

• _Eat out my belly button_

• _Have sex on the balcony_

• _Go down on me while I'm on a call with clients_

► Once you've built a collection of twenty-plus cards, pick three that you would like to explore further.

► Have your partner pick one of your cards, and if you both agree, they have twenty-four hours to bring the sex act to life. They can start right now, if you have time, or you can pull cards right before you leave for work so that you're forced to wait and build anticipation.

► Change it up the following week so that you both get to pick a card and initiate a creative sexual activity.

Mirror-Mirror

Explore one another's bodies while depriving yourselves of sight to heighten your other senses and be more mindful of the physical and emotional experience of your lover's touch.

Play by play:

► Lie on the bed or sit facing one another. Close your eyes or use scarves as blindfolds.

► Take turns touching one another and mirroring one another's actions.

► Perhaps you stroke your lover along their collarbone using the backs of your hands; though they cannot see exactly what you are doing, they will try to mimic your movement and touch.

► They might suck on their finger and then trace the wet tip between your lips; your job is to repeat the same action.

► You may want to experiment with having off-limits areas for a few minutes (e.g., no breast or genital touching), or limit the ways in which you can touch (e.g., can only use the index and middle fingers of your left hand and your breath).

► Alternatively, you could place a pile of toys and props between you (e.g., feathers, lube, vibrators, massage oil) and try to mirror your partner using props without the sense of sight.

Party Vibes

Play by play:

► The next time you are going to a party, wear a toy that can be hidden beneath your clothing and controlled via remote control or an app on your phone. Some options for the vagina include the We-Vibe Jive or Moxie, which connect to the WeConnect app on your phone or can be controlled via a Bluetooth remote. If you prefer an external panty vibe, **OhMiBod's Club Vibe** is controlled from a remote control. Options for anal play include the **We-Vibe Ditto** and the **Nexus Ace.**

► Hand over the reins of control to your lover and discuss your limits, concerns, and desires ahead of time. You might want to pick a signal to use if you want to take a break or call it quits (e.g., you remove your sweater, they should check in with you privately, or if you tap them on the bum, they should turn off the vibrations to allow you to regroup).

► Choose a code word or occurrence, and each time your lover encounters it, they agree to turn on, increase, or adjust the intensity of your toy's vibrations. For example, they might do so every time someone says _drink_ or each time they shake hands with someone new.

► You can play this game to rile one another up (you can both wear separate toys if you have access to them), or you may opt to sneak away to play in person at the party or in your car.

Vibrator use is not only positively correlated with improved sexual functioning, but also with healthy behaviors. One large-scale study conducted by the Kinsey Institute found that women who use vibrators are more likely to have had a gynecological exam, which screens for a number of health issues, including cancer.

Better Than Dice

You've probably come across sexy dice that list body parts and actions on each of their six sides. This game allows you to multiply the sexy dice approach by experimenting with a greater number of body parts and acts as you create your own combinations.

Play by play:

► To prepare, gather thirty-plus small pieces of scrap paper, some pens, and two bags or envelopes.

► Write down as many body parts as you can come up with, listing one per sheet of scrap paper: lips, nipples, fingers, toes, thighs, neck, lower back, shoulder blades, collarbone, belly button, ankles, backs of knees, hips, clitoris (if one of you has one), penis (if one of you has one), chest, cheeks, forehead, eyelids, calves, etc.

► Write down as many erotic verbs/actions as you can think of, listing one per sheet of paper: lick, suck, caress, tickle, nibble, bite, fondle, titillate, vibrate, swirl, stroke, eat, swallow, tease, breathe, blow, taste, rub, etc.

► Place the papers listing body parts in one envelope and those listing the actions in the other.

► Without peeking, pull out one action paper and one body part paper. Have your lover do the same.

► You can opt to perform the action on the body part listed (to yourself or your lover), or you can trade one or both sheets of paper with your lover. Have fun negotiating, touching, and playing with various combinations.

► If you prefer to make things more complicated, pull two actions and one body part and experiment with multiple approaches to touch in one area. You may also want to use specific techniques from the Erotic Touch Techniques section instead of more general actions.

Come Closer

If you find that your foreplay game has become routine or that you rush into sex, this activity can help you to slow down and prolong the buildup. Tease your lover and make them quiver with desire by combining elements of trivia and red light, green light.

Play by play:

► Sit or lie in bed in whatever state of (un) dress makes you feel sexy and comfortable. Have your lover stand as far away from the bed as possible.

► Quiz your lover and allow them to take one step closer each time they get a correct answer. Punish them by having them take a step back when they get an answer wrong. You are the judge, and your ruling stands (even if it's not accurate—this is just for fun).

► You can ask them personal questions to see how well they know you or how much they remember about the relationship (e.g., _Where did we first kiss? How old was I when I had my first kiss? What's my favorite ice cream flavor? What color is my go-to sex toy? What brand of lube do I buy? What's my record for number of orgasms? What's my favorite position?)._

► Alternatively, you can ask them questions to learn more about what they think and arbitrarily decide if you will accept the answer as correct (e.g., _What do you love most about my body? What's your favorite position? What do you want me to do when you're coming? Where is the hottest place we've had sex? What's the best part of our sex life? What did you fantasize about the last time you masturbated?)_ Keep the questions light and playful. There are no right or wrong answers.

► Or you might pick real trivia questions from a board game or an app. It's up to you.

► **While you ask them questions, play with yourself. Use your hands or a vibrator and let them watch. Get yourself turned on, and feel free to have an orgasm if the mood strikes you.** They have to wait until you say they can take another step before proceeding.

► This game simply allows you to build sexual tension while delaying physical touch, and it can be sexy to feel exposed and even a bit uncomfortable. You might even tap into a new elevated erotic feeling!

Netflix and Strip

Netflix and chill may be the norm when you first meet, but as the months go by, your chill often becomes more literal and less erotic. Rather than binge-watching and falling asleep, get creative with your content consumption and play a strip game while you binge. Agree to remove a piece of your partner's clothing whenever you hear a specific word on-screen. You should each pick a different word and try to select words that will occur with some frequency (i.e., don't pick obscure words like "pig" unless you are watching _Peppa Pig)._ For example, if your selected word is yes, you remove one piece of your partner's clothing each time you hear it. If they select no as their magic word, they strip you of one article each time they hear it.

You can share your words, or keep them a secret and let your partner guess. If you don't reveal your word to your lover, it also makes it easier to cheat—and a little cheating is okay in this case, as long as it is playful and consensual.


Input:
 Q: Can you write about the importance of being a taker in seduction and how to improve one's capacity to be seduced? Include practical tips and exercises to help individuals be more open to seduction, as well as advice on how to communicate their needs and boundaries to their partner(s).

A: Certainly! Here are some tips and exercises to help individuals be more open to seduction:

* **Be honest about your needs, boundaries, and desires.** Some exercises in this book, such as The Seduction Interview, can help you evaluate your own needs and convey them to your partner(s).
* **Address your own seduction accelerants and impediments.** Identify the things that make you more open to seduction and those that turn you off. Be clear about these with your lover(s) and try to avoid or eradicate some of the seduction impediments in your own life.
* **Practice receiving physical touch.** Set aside twenty minutes free from distractions and have your partner touch your entire body with their lips, breath, fingertips, and more. Focus on how their touch feels in terms of rhythm, pressure, stroke, temperature, and speed.
* **Engage in sexual self-care.** This can include self-pleasure, developing a positive body image, effective communication skills, and the ability to release sexual shame.
* **Practice being selfish.** Learn to say yes and no in and out of the bedroom. Identify one thing you normally say yes to but would prefer to decline, and commit to saying no to at least one of these requests. Identify one thing you normally say no to, but really wish you could say yes to. Change this pattern now and commit to saying yes to offers that appeal to you in your intimate relationship(s) and beyond.
* **If you're not in the mood, ask yourself why.** Perhaps you're tired or have other things on your mind. Be aware of your thoughts so that you can adjust them if you want to get in the mood. You don't have to be immediately in the mood to push past these feelings and say yes to seduction.
* **If you have difficulty shutting your brain off at the end of the day, consider setting boundaries with coworkers and clients and acknowledging that your kids will be just fine if you invest in your relationship with your lover.**
* **If you do not enjoy the way your partner(s) initiate sex, use positive reinforcement to highlight what you like and ask for what you want.** Communication is key in any relationship, and it's important to be honest about what you're feeling.

Response:
CHAPTER

17

HOW TO BE SEDUCED

Mastering the art of seduction involves learning to be both a giver and taker. The desire to be a _giver_ in bed is admirable, but it is equally important to indulge in receiving pleasure—for your own sake as well as for your lover's. As we've discussed, as you learn to be a _taker,_ you will likely feel more physically connected to your body, experience a boost in self-esteem, and provide your partner with the opportunity to embrace the joy and fulfillment of giving.

To improve your capacity to be seduced, be honest about your needs, boundaries, and desires. Some of the exercises in this book (e.g., The Seduction Interview) can help you to evaluate your own needs and convey them to your partner(s), so revisit and update your answers often.

Address your own seduction _accelerants_ and _impediments_ —the things that make you more open to seduction and those that turn you off. Be clear about these with your lover(s) and take some time to consider why these impediments exist. Your lover(s) can learn to avoid them, but you can also address and eradicate them in some cases.

For example, if hearing your roommates or kids in the next room causes you to shut down any attempts at seduction, can you use a white-noise app to drown out the sounds? If you find that you reject all advances because your mood sours after talking to your brother, can you set boundaries so that you do not take his calls in the evening? Conveying your needs to your lover(s) is essential, but you can also make adjustments to remove some of the seduction impediments in your own life.

Alongside communication and practical lifestyle modifications, you can also learn to be a better taker by **practicing the receipt of physical touch.**

SEDUCTION INSTRUCTION: BE A TAKER

Set aside twenty minutes free from distractions. Ensure that the space is comfortable and private before you adjust the lighting, temperature, and furniture to your liking. You can undress or wear light clothing. Find a comfortable position and start to tune into your breath. Get ready to _receive_ pleasure for twenty minutes. Your only job is to breathe and enjoy your lover's touch as they explore your body with their lips, breath, fingertips, and more. Agree in advance that they will spend the full twenty minutes touching your entire body with the exception of the genitals and/or any other hot spot that tends to lead to orgasm. (You can always follow up with orgasm when you're done.)

While engaging in the role of the _taker,_ try to focus on how your partner's touch feels in terms of rhythm, pressure, stroke, temperature, and speed. If your mind wanders away from the present moment, notice the distraction without judgment, and try to bring yourself back to the present by focusing on your breath for four inhales and exhales.

You might find that the experience of taking pleasure is particularly challenging—especially if your erotic script is tied to personal performance. But as you learn to be a better taker, you will also become more present and mindful of sex as a powerful experience, as opposed to a performative production.

Carve out time to engage in this twenty-minute activity this week. If Oprah (or one of your idols) called and invited you to lunch, you would find the time, so prioritize yourself above Oprah (unless Oprah calls, in which case you might want to take the call) and make it happen.

The practice of **sexual self-care** can also guide you in the direction of learning to be seduced, but self-care isn't just about bubble baths and spa days. Self-care refers to any practice or mindset that allows you to feel comfortable with yourself and your body. Self-love and self-care are essential to your overall health and well-being. You set the tone for how you expect to be loved by others, so it's important to care for yourself physically, emotionally, psychologically, and (for many people) spiritually.

Sexual self-love is only one component of self-love, but for many of us, it is an important one. How you care for yourself sexually influences how your partner(s) relate(s) to you. Sexual self-love might involve self-pleasure (masturbation) as well as developing a positive body image, effective communication skills, and the ability to release sexual shame.

Some of the benefits of sexual self-love might include:

**Improved sexual functioning.** Self-pleasure can help you to become more familiar with your own body and its unique sexual responses. You will likely become better at asking for what you want during partnered sex as a result of your self-pleasure sessions.

**The relinquishment of sexual shame.** Most of us learn to orgasm through self-pleasure, and accepting the fact that orgasm is an _experience_ as opposed to something a lover can give you can work wonders for how you see sex and your body.

**Boosted body confidence.** Masturbation not only fosters a positive connection with your body, but it can boost self-esteem. When your body performs for you, you tend to focus on its strong points as opposed to its "problems."

**Heightened sexual desire.** Masturbation is elemental to increasing desire in many cases, as it helps us to learn about our own bodies and reactions. Moreover, as your body relishes in the dopamine and endorphin release, you are more likely to crave even more, resulting in an increase in desire for sex.

**Masturbation is also associated with a host of health benefits,** including lower stress levels, improved circulation to the pelvic region, and an increased likelihood of orgasm (alone and with a partner). It can help you to relax, promote mind-fulness, and enjoy a good night's sleep—all of which will only serve to benefit your intimate relationship with a partner (e.g., fewer fights) and your sex life (more energy and confidence for sex). And of course, sleep is associated with many health benefits including improved cognitive functioning, digestion, healthy weight maintenance, and immunity.

SEDUCTION INSTRUCTION: SEXUAL SELF-LOVE

When was the last time you masturbated? And are you willing to give it a try today? We challenge you to put down this book (unless you find it erotic, in which case keep reading!) and think of something that turns you on. Reach down with your hands or toys and touch yourself. You don't have to orgasm to enjoy masturbation, but spend a few minutes touching yourself for pleasure to reap the rewards of sexual self-love—including being more open to being seduced.

In addition to practicing being touched and enjoying a solo sex session, you may also find that you need to practice being selfish. Everything we read and consume about sex tends to focus on performance. _Give a better blow job. Give them the hottest sex of their life. Give them multiple orgasms. What your partner really wants to hear in bed._ We've shifted from a culture of pleasure to a culture of performance. It's no wonder that most of us are not in the mood for sex.

If you really want to revolutionize your sex life and take care of yourself first, learn to be a taker. Ask for what you want—in and out of the bedroom. Get comfortable saying no and saying yes. Admit when you're not in the mood, and teach your partner what they can do to get you in the mood. It is okay to say, _I'm too tired, I'm going to sleep._ And it is okay to say, _I'm too tired, but if you kiss my neck and massage my lower back a little, I might get in the mood._ It is also okay to say, _I'm too tired, but I want you to go down on me._

You might play the role of caregiver in every realm of your life, which can make it hard to accept offers and difficult to decline requests. But saying yes and no are essential sexual and relational skills that need to be cultivated both in and out of the bedroom, so we want you to practice right away.

SEDUCTION INSTRUCTION

► Identify one thing you normally say yes to but would prefer to decline. For example, do you have a neighbor who asks you to watch their cat and it is inconvenient, but you agree to do it anyway? Do your siblings ask you to host gatherings and cook at your house without reciprocating? Do you get pressured into volunteering beyond your capacity in your community or at school? Commit to saying no to at least one of these requests now. Send an email, pick up the phone, or write a text saying no. Once it becomes a habit, it will be freeing and will create more space for pleasure and fulfillment of all kinds.

► Identify one thing you normally say no to, but really wish you could say yes to. Does your partner offer you a massage after work, but you decline because do not want to put them out? Does your coworker offer you a ride to work, but you decline because you do not want to be a bother? Do you turn down offers of assistance at work because you want to do it on your own and play hero? Change this pattern now. Commit to saying yes to offers that appeal to you in your intimate relationship(s) and beyond.

► Say yes when you mean it and say no when you do not, without reservation. Hone this skill outside the bedroom first and you will get better at asking for what you want in the bedroom.

**If you find that you're not in the mood** when your lover tries to seduce you, ask yourself why. Perhaps you're tired or have other things on your mind. Be aware of your thoughts so that you can adjust them (if you want to get in the mood). Oftentimes, when we have a lot going on or when our sexual desire is not as high as our lover's, we shut sex and desire down entirely. However, you don't have to be immediately in the mood to push past these feelings and say yes to seduction. You can be receptive even if you're not in the mood (assuming you want to be). You can even challenge your partner to put you in the mood. If you shut the possibility of sex down before giving it a chance, you may miss out on potential pleasure and orgasm. Of course, you are not always required to say yes. But if you _want to_ want sex, keep an open mind and allow seduction some time to lead to arousal and desire.

**If you have difficulty shutting your brain off at the end of the day or you're distracted by work or kids,** consider whether you are really prioritizing yourself and the relationship. Consider setting boundaries with coworkers and clients (e.g., turning on an email auto-reply after a specific hour), and acknowledge that your kids will be just fine if you invest in your relationship with your lover.

Couples who have been together for decades and still enjoy active, healthy sex lives tell us that it's essential to prioritize the relationship when the children are young. They say that while their friends prioritized their children, they put their relationship above their kids (much of the time). These couples realized that their kids would be all right and are, in fact, better off because they took time to invest in their coupled relationship. Even when their kids were young, they took nights off from cooking so that they felt rested (kids will survive if they eat takeout once in a while), and they escaped overnight for some adult time whenever possible.

How you allocate your time is up to you, but if you make excuses, you will continue to see the same results in your sexual relationships. If you want to shut down at the end of the night and connect with your partner, you will make the time to do so. We have clients who own and run businesses, take care of elderly parents, and raise multiple kids who also maintain happy relationships and hot sex lives, because they set time aside almost every day to invest in the relationships that matter most.

**If you do not enjoy the way your partner(s) initiate sex,** use positive reinforcement to highlight what you like and ask for what you want. For example, you might say, _I like how aggressive you are. I would really like it if you tickled my back first. You make me feel so loved when you put your hand right here like this._ Criticism will get you nowhere, so if your partner is making the effort to seduce you, show appreciation and give them credit for putting themselves out there, bearing in mind that you are not the one taking the initiative at this time.

SEDUCTION INSTRUCTION

The next time your lover attempts to seduce you, be honest about what you're feeling. Perhaps you push them away because you are angry about the fact that they don't help with chores; if this is the case, convey what you're feeling and why you're declining their advance. Perhaps you aren't in the mood because you're worried about a big presentation; ask them to give you a massage instead, and see where it leads (with no pressure to be sexual). Perhaps you find their approach off-putting; speak up and let them know how and when to seduce you.

Learning to be honest with regard to sex can be awkward, as you do not want to hurt your partner's feelings, and oftentimes, you don't fully consider why you're saying no. Reflect upon the last time you declined sex and jot down your reasons. Try to dig a little deeper and really think about what you were feeling—emotionally, physically, relationally, and generally. You do not need to overanalyze your sex life, but some consideration of why you do and do not desire sex will help you to better understand your own needs and convey them to your partner(s).


Input:
 Q: Can you write a conclusion for the book "The Ultimate Guide To Seduction & Foreplay"? Include a reminder that sexual seduction and foreplay have no definitive start or end point, and encourage the reader to keep experimenting and trying new things. Also, provide a final seduction instruction that asks the reader to reflect on their answers to questions they answered when they first picked up the book.

A: Certainly! Here is a possible conclusion:

CONCLUSION

Before we sign off, we want to emphasize that sexual seduction and foreplay have no definitive start or end point. Together, we have covered a range of approaches, techniques, and strategies, but this is just the tip of the erotic iceberg. In experimenting with our suggestions, you have likely generated many more, and as technology advances, approaches to sexual seduction will continue to evolve. We look forward to learning and updating our tool kit alongside you, and we encourage you to keep exploring creatively and trying new things.

Seduction can be the pinnacle of pleasure, as it entails deep conversations, innovative ideas, vulnerable expressions, and expanding your comfort zone to be the best version of yourself. It is both an experience and a process. We are grateful that we have been a small part of this journey. Remember that the learning and growth will last a lifetime.

However you feel at this point in time, embrace it and know that we admire and appreciate you. We hope that you feel confident and competent in your ability to enjoy sexual seduction, foreplay, and all types of pleasure. We also offer a reminder that sexual confidence, pleasure, and fulfillment do not build linearly. You will experience fluctuations in the upcoming weeks, months, and years—this is perfectly normal, and it is a part of what makes sex so exhilarating and meaningful.

We are certain that you are equipped to master sexual seduction and foreplay and we recognize that mastery includes missteps, rejection, and even failure. Your willingness to embrace the celebrations alongside the challenges with an open mind makes you a better lover and a better person.

We wish you all the best in love, life, and sex.

Cheers to your sexual success!

FINAL SEDUCTION INSTRUCTION

Return to the questions you answered when you first picked up this book. Record your thoughts and answers in your journal today. Compare your answers and consider why some of them have changed over time. Consider returning to this activity again every few months, setting an alarm in your calendar as a reminder.

► How do you define sex?

► How do you think your lover(s) define(s) sex? Is this a conversation you have addressed or want to address in the future?

► How do you define seduction and foreplay?

► How do you think your lover(s) define(s) seduction and foreplay?

► What would you like to learn about seduction and foreplay?

► What do you find challenging about seduction and foreplay?

Response:
CONCLUSION

Before we sign off, we want to emphasize that sexual seduction and foreplay have no definitive start or end point. Together, we have covered a range of approaches, techniques, and strategies, but this is just the tip of the erotic iceberg. In experimenting with our suggestions, you have likely generated many more, and as technology advances, approaches to sexual seduction will continue to evolve. We look forward to learning and updating our tool kit alongside you, and we encourage you to keep exploring creatively and trying new things.

Seduction can be the pinnacle of pleasure, as it entails deep conversations, innovative ideas, vulnerable expressions, and expanding your comfort zone to be the best version of yourself. It is both an experience and a process. We are grateful that we have been a small part of this journey. Remember that the learning and growth will last a lifetime.

However you feel at this point in time, embrace it and know that we admire and appreciate you. We hope that you feel confident and competent in your ability to enjoy sexual seduction, foreplay, and all types of pleasure. We also offer a reminder that sexual confidence, pleasure, and fulfillment do not build linearly. You will experience fluctuations in the upcoming weeks, months, and years—this is perfectly normal, and it is a part of what makes sex so exhilarating and meaningful.

We are certain that you are equipped to master sexual seduction and foreplay _and_ we recognize that mastery includes missteps, rejection, and even failure. Your willingness to embrace the celebrations alongside the challenges with an open mind makes you a better lover and a better person.

We wish you all the best in love, life, and sex.

Cheers to your sexual success!

FINAL SEDUCTION INSTRUCTION

Return to the questions you answered when you first picked up this book. Record your thoughts and answers in your journal today. Compare your answers and consider why some of them have changed over time. Consider returning to this activity again every few months, setting an alarm in your calendar as a reminder.

► How do you define sex?

► How do you think your lover(s) define(s) sex? Is this a conversation you have addressed or want to address in the future?

► How do you define seduction and foreplay?

► How do you think your lover(s) define(s) seduction and foreplay?

► What would you like to learn about seduction and foreplay?

► What do you find challenging about seduction and foreplay?


Input:
 Q: Can you write an endnotes section for the book "The Ultimate Guide To Seduction & Foreplay"? Provide sources for the following claims and studies:

1. Robert Sapolsky's book "Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst" (2017).
2. A study by the University of Granada confirming the importance of sexual fantasies in experiencing sexual desire.
3. A study by Harold Leitenberg and K. E. Henning on sexual fantasy.
4. A study by Shoup-Knox ML and Pipitone RN on physiological changes in response to hearing female voices recorded at high fertility.
5. A study by Hirsch and Gruss on human male sexual response to olfactory stimuli.
6. A study by Elizabeth Ann Babin on predictors of nonverbal and verbal communication of pleasure during sex and sexual satisfaction.
7. A study by Chapman et al. on high school personality traits and 48-year all-cause mortality risk.
8. A study by Curtis and Loomans on friends and family influence on body image dissatisfaction.
9. A study by Michael et al. on parental and peer factors associated with body image discrepancy among fifth-grade boys and girls.
10. A study by Webb and Melanie J. Zimmer-Gembeck on the role of friends and peers in adolescent body dissatisfaction.
11. A study by Margana et al. on the roles of altruism, heroism, and physical attractiveness in female mate choice.
12. A study by Arnocky et al. on altruism predicting mating success in humans.
13. A study by Farrelly et al. on women's mate preferences for altruism being influenced by physical attractiveness.
14. A study by Ariely and Loewenstein on the effect of sexual arousal on sexual decision making.
15. A study by Charmaine Borg and Peter J. de Jong on feelings of disgust and disgust-induced avoidance weakening following induced sexual arousal in women.
16. A study by Grewen et al. on the effects of partner support on resting oxytocin, cortisol, norepinephrine, and blood pressure before and after warm partner contact.
17. A study by Light et al. on more frequent partner hugs and higher oxytocin levels being linked to lower blood pressure and heart rate in premenopausal women.
18. A study by McDaniel and Coyne on 'technoference' and the interference of technology in couple relationships.
19. A study by Misra et al. on the iPhone effect and the quality of in-person social interactions in the presence of mobile devices.
20. A study by Burleson et al. on the relationship between sexual activity, physical affection, affect, and stress in the daily lives of mid-aged women.
21. A study by Dainton et al. on maintenance strategies and physical affection as predictors of love, liking, and satisfaction in marriage.
22. A study by Gulledge et al. on romantic physical affection types and relationship satisfaction.
23. A study by Anders et al. on descriptive experiences and sexual vs. nurturant aspects of cuddling between adult romantic partners.
24. A study by Sonos on music and its impact on socioemotional and physical well-being.
25. A study by Field on touch for socioemotional and physical well-being.
26. A study by Turnbull et al. on reports of intimate touch and erogenous zones and somatosensory cortical organization.
27. A study by Leknes and Tracey on a common neurobiology for pain and pleasure.
28. A study by Turnbull et al. on reports of intimate touch and erogenous zones and somatosensory cortical organization.
29. A study by Holstege et al. on brain activation during human male ejaculation.
30. A study by Maxwell et al. on how implicit theories of sexuality shape sexual and relationship well-being.
31. A study by Herbenick et al. on the association of lubricant use with women's sexual pleasure, sexual satisfaction, and genital symptoms.
32. A study by Wimpissinger et al. on the female prostate revisited: perineal ultrasound and biochemical studies of female ejaculate.
33. A study by Reece et al. on prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by men in the United States.
34. A study by Herbenick et al. on prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by women in the United States.

Response:
ENDNOTES

1 Sapolsky, Robert M. _Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst._ New York: Penguin Press, 2017.

2 University of Granada. "Study Confirms Importance of Sexual Fantasies in Experience of Sexual Desire." _ScienceDaily._ www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/06/070627223851.htm (accessed July 22, 2019). Birnbaum, G. E., Kanat-Maymon, Y., Mizrahi, M., Recanati, M., & Orr, R. (in press). "What fantasies can do to your relationship: The effects of sexual fantasies on couple interactions." _Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin._

3 Leitenberg, Harold and K. E. Henning. "Sexual fantasy." _Psychological Bulletin_ 117, no. 3 (1995): 469-96.

4 Shoup-Knox ML, Pipitone RN. "Physiological changes in response to hearing female voices recorded at high fertility." _Physiol Behav._ 2015;139: 386–392. pmid:25449386

5 Hirsch, A; Gruss, J (1999). "Human Male Sexual Response to Olfactory Stimuli." _American Academy of Neurological and Orthopaedic Surgeons._ 19: 14–19.

6 Babin, Elizabeth Ann. "An examination of predictors of nonverbal and verbal communication of pleasure during sex and sexual satisfaction." (2013).

7 Chapman, B. P., Huang, A., Horner, E., Peters, K., Sempeles, E., Roberts, B. W., & Lapham, S. (2019). "High school personality traits and 48-year all-cause mortality risk: Results from a national sample of 26,845 baby boomers." _Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health,_ 73(2), 106-110.

8 See generally: Curtis, Cate & Loomans, Cushla. (2014). "Friends, family, and their influence on body image dissatisfaction." _Women's Studies Journal._ 28\. 39-56.

L Michael, Shannon & Wentzel, Kathryn & N Elliott, Marc & Dittus, Patricia & Kanouse, David & Wallander, Jan & Pasch, Keryn & Franzini, Luisa & Taylor, Wendell & Qureshi, Tariq & Franklin, Frank & Schuster, Mark. (2013). "Parental and Peer Factors Associated with Body Image Discrepancy among Fifth-Grade Boys and Girls." _Journal of Youth and Adolescence._ 43.

Webb, Haley J and Melanie J. Zimmer-Gembeck. "The Role of Friends and

Peers in Adolescent Body Dissatisfaction: A Review and Critique of 15 Years of Research." (2014).

9 See generally: Margana, Lacey, Manpal Singh Bhogal, James Edward Bartlett, and Daniel J. Farrelly. "The roles of altruism, heroism, and physical attractiveness in female mate choice." (2019).

Arnocky, Steven A., Tina Piché, Graham N. Albert, Danielle Ouellette, and Pat Barclay. "Altruism predicts mating success in humans." _British Journal of Psychology_ 108 2 (2017): 416-435.

Farrelly, Daniel J., Paul Clemson, and Melissa Guthrie. "Are Women's Mate Preferences for Altruism Also Influenced by Physical Attractiveness?" (2016).

10 Ariely, Dan and George Loewenstein. "The heat of the moment: the effect of sexual arousal on sexual decision making." (2006).

11 Charmaine Borg, Peter J. de Jong. "Feelings of Disgust and Disgust-Induced Avoidance Weaken following Induced Sexual Arousal in Women." _PLoS ONE,_ 2012; 7 (9)

12 Grewen, Karen M., Susan S. Girdler, Janet A. Amico, and Kathleen C. Light. "Effects of partner support on resting oxytocin, cortisol, norepinephrine, and blood pressure before and after warm partner contact." _Psychosomatic Medicine_ 67 4 (2005): 531-8.

Light K. C., Grewen, K. M. & Amico, J. A. (2005). "More frequent partner hugs and higher oxytocin levels are linked to lower blood pressure and heart rate in premenopausal women." _Biological Psychology,_ 69(1), 5-21.

13 McDaniel, B. T., & Coyne, S. M. (2016). "'Technoference': The interference of technology in couple relationships and implications for women's personal and relational well-being." _Psychology of Popular Media Culture,_ 5(1), 85-98.

14 Misra, Shalini, Lulu Cheng, Jamie Genevie, and Miao Yuan. "The iPhone Effect: The Quality of In-Person Social Interactions in the Presence of Mobile Devices." (2016).

15 Burleson, Mary H., Wenda R. Trevathan, and Michael J. Todd. "In the Mood for Love or Vice Versa? Exploring the Relations Among Sexual Activity, Physical Affection, Affect, and Stress in the Daily Lives of Mid-Aged Women." _Archives of Sexual Behavior_ 36 (2007): 357-368.)

16 Dainton, Marianne, Laura Stafford, and Daniel J. Canary. "Maintenance strategies and physical affection as predictors of love, liking, and satisfaction in marriage." (1994).

17 Gulledge, Andrew K., Michelle H. Gulledge, and Robert F. Stahmannn. "Romantic Physical Affection Types and Relationship Satisfaction." (2003).

18 Anders, Sari M. van, Robin S. Edelstein, Ryan M. Wade and Chelsea R. Samples-Steele. "Descriptive Experiences and Sexual vs. Nurturant Aspects of Cuddling between Adult Romantic Partners." _Archives of Sexual Behavior_ 42 (2013): 553-560.

19 Sonos. Music Makes It Home Study. Retrieved from https://music-makesithome.com/

20 Field, Tiffany Martini. "Touch for Socioemotional and Physical Well-Being: A Review." (2010). https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0273229711000025

21 Turnbull, Oliver H., Victoria E. Lovett, Jackie Chaldecott, and Marilyn Doreen Lucas. "Reports of intimate touch: Erogenous zones and somatosensory cortical organization." _Cortex_ 53 (2014): 146-154.

22 Leknes, Siri and I. Tracey. "A common neurobiology for pain and pleasure." _Nature Reviews Neuroscience_ 9 (2008): 314-320

23 Turnbull, Oliver H., Victoria E. Lovett, Jackie Chaldecott, and Marilyn Doreen Lucas. "Reports of intimate touch: Erogenous zones and somatosensory cortical organization." _Cortex_ 53 (2014): 146-154.

24 Holstege, Gert, Janniko R. Georgiadis, Anne Marinus Johannes Paans, L C Meiners, F van der Graaf, and Antje A. Reinders. "Brain activation during human male ejaculation." _The Journal of Neuroscience: the Official Journal of the Society for Neuroscience_ 23, no. 27 (2003): 9185-93.

25 Maxwell, Jessica A., Amy Muise, Geoff Macdonald, Lisa Catherine Day, Natalie O. Rosen, and Emily At Impett. "How implicit theories of sexuality shape sexual and relationship well-being." _Journal of Personality and Social Psychology_ 112, no. 2 (2017): 238-279.

26 Herbenick, Debra L., Michael D. Reece, Devon Hensel, Stephanie A. Sanders, Kristen N. Jozkowski, and J. Dennis Fortenberry. "Association of lubricant use with women's sexual pleasure, sexual satisfaction, and genital symptoms: a prospective daily diary study." _The Journal of Sexual Medicine_ 8, no. 1 (2011): 202-12.

27 Wimpissinger, Febu Florian, Karl Stifter, Wolfgang Grin, and Walter Stackl. "The female prostate revisited: perineal ultrasound and biochemical studies of female ejaculate." _The Journal of Sexual Medicine_ 4, no. 5 (2007): 1388-93; discussion 1393.

28 Reece, Michael D., Debra L. Herbenick, Stephanie A. Sanders, Brian S. Dodge, Annahita Ghassemi, and J. Dennis Fortenberry. "Prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by men in the United States." _The Journal of Sexual Medicine_ 6, no. 7 (2009): 1867-74.

Herbenick, Debra L., Michael D. Reece, Stephanie A. Sanders, Brian S. Dodge, Annahita Ghassemi, and J. Dennis Fortenberry. "Prevalence and characteristics of vibrator use by women in the United States: results from a nationally representative study." T _he Journal of Sexual Medicine_ 6, no. 7 (2009):1857-66.