post_id,timestamp,title,content,subreddit,ups,num_comments,url,comments
1gd9l9c,2024-10-27T17:43:33,Elections and Politics,"Hello friends!

It's that time of the year again. We have always intended for r/mentalhealth to be a safe, politically neutral space for users, and we wish to keep it that way. We will be removing and locking threads that go out of hand with the political aspects of things.

Political anxiety is more common than you think around election time. If you are having trouble with political anxiety, there are ways to cope with the stress. Here are a few examples:

**Timeout**: Social media, including the news channels, are designed to have a negative tilt to collect views. They want you to keep coming back for more. It is an excellent idea to differentiate between thoughtful and stress-inducing, sensationalized material. It is okay to find out about news after it breaks. By waiting for accurate information and thoughtful analyses, you will be able to provide informative content for yourself. Limiting the use of social media to once or twice a day will be beneficial. If your political anxiety is still too much to handle, it might be time to take an extended break.

**Control**: The majority of what is happening in national and global politics is out of our personal control. Turning our attention to ourselves, our friends, families, and local communities can help us be empowered and productive. Engaging in activities you enjoy, such as hobbies, exercise, and time with friends, can be a healthy distraction. Practicing self-care through wellness techniques and programs can also help keep your anxiety in check. Here are some websites that provide helpful information and tips on self-care:

[MHA: Taking Good Care of Yourself](https://mhanational.org/taking-good-care-yourself)

[NHS: Self-Help Therapies](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/self-help-therapies/)

[El Camino Health: Emotional Self Care](https://www.elcaminohealth.org/community/chinese-health-initiative/specialty-programs/emotional-well-being/emotional-self-care)

**Community**: Connect with individuals who provide a safe space for understanding current events. Sharing what you are thinking and feeling with trusted peers can mitigate the negative effects of stress.

**Engage**: The feeling of helplessness can be stressful and discouraging. Getting involved with a local political party, volunteering with a community group, or participating in activism can help you feel a sense of accomplishment, power, and purpose. These activities also connect communities of like-minded people, which helps to alleviate stress.

**If you are experiencing a crisis or medical emergency, please contact your local emergency services. We have a** [list of resources](https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/wiki/index/resources/) **on our sidebar as well as a link to a** [global index](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines) **of emergency numbers.**

If you have any questions, concerns, or suggestions feel free to make a comment in this thread, or [send us a modmail.](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=r%2Fmentalhealth)

Stay safe out there!",mentalhealth,25,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1gd9l9c/elections_and_politics/,"[{'comment_id': 'lvndfcb', 'author': 'B3ncx12E', 'body': 'Please write something earlier in the post like: stay strong USA people, we are thinking about you.\n\nI woke up at 5 am and my USA friends are rather freaked.\n\n\nI dunt want anyone to feel that way :c\n\nGood night (´・ω・`)\\ (•◡•) /\\ (•◡•) /', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T09:58:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'lyt6typ', 'author': 'falconlogic', 'body': 'Could someone make a thread for political mental health support during the next 4 years?', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-25T03:37:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'ly0hkl1', 'author': 'savagegm6', 'body': 'Existential nihilism is the only healthy response to current events.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-11-20T05:05:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'lyv8278', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""I hear a lot of people showed up for groups the night of the election, maybe just because they were looking for one that's available at that time. It would be nice if nearly as many actually supported those groups as a community the rest of the time. (over here none of the people that went showed up next time 2 weeks later) People have to pay rent and organize those things and if it's going to be sustainable people probably have to treat it as more than something like buying a widget at the store. If that's peoples attitude next time there may not be any group to go to."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-25T11:34:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'm88uk6h', 'author': 'hiopilot', 'body': ""I'm almost 50 but have a good support structure.   Today was rough but tomorrow is a new day.   If you are having problems, reach out to a professional.   They are there and they do help."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-21T04:06:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'm9aso4l', 'author': 'Primary_Ambition_342', 'body': ""Thank you for sharing this important reminder about the impact of political anxiety on mental health. It's crucial to prioritize self-care and seek support during this time, and I appreciate the resources and tips you provided. Let's all remember to take care of ourselves and each other as we navigate through these challenging times. Stay safe and stay well, everyone!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-26T23:14:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'ma8r054', 'author': 'FlimsyInfluence9650', 'body': 'I want to die and not feel nothing I have no one\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-01T00:27:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'mbt0a6u', 'author': 'ArcticCircleSystem', 'body': ""What will actually help the problem part of the problem though, rather than trying to just mitigate it? I can't afford housing or healthcare by closing social media. Couldn't even afford it under Biden and now under Trump it might be the death of me as the people helping me not be homeless are also in deep financial trouble..."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T13:44:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'mft48zw', 'author': 'vh1classicvapor', 'body': 'RFK Jr. is talking about banning psych meds, and sending those who can’t cope without them to “wellness farms” (aka labor camps). \n\nThe conversation starts with banning them for children, but it will probably turn into an adult ban as well. That’s what they did for trans people taking gender-affirming medications in Texas.\n\nWhenever they talk about “reviewing the safety” of long-approved and well-studied medications, they’re planning to ban it. That’s what they did with mifepristone as well.\n\nI might have to move out of the country if they do this.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-03T22:41:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjy9c1', 'author': 'mavericksfan2011', 'body': 'Has anyone experienced dissociation or derealization since the election? I hate to be dramatic but I think my brain is literally trying to pull me out of this reality we’re living in. I can’t understand it and it fucking sucks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:27:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1gd9l9c'}, {'comment_id': 'mjrj8jn', 'author': 'SmileLongjumping9401', 'body': ""Where did you hear about this? That's genuinely terrifying if so. What the fuck?"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T07:18:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mft48zw'}, {'comment_id': 'mjrjqnt', 'author': 'SmileLongjumping9401', 'body': ""Yes absolutely, I have had days where I can't even begin to process just how distorted and backwards everything is in the USA nowadays. Truly scary times... I don't think you're being dramatic a lot of people feel this way about the current situation."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T07:21:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mjjy9c1'}, {'comment_id': 'mjucd35', 'author': 'vh1classicvapor', 'body': 'https://www.npr.org/sections/shots-health-news/2025/01/30/nx-s1-5281164/antidepressants-ssris-rfk-jr-heroin', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T20:25:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mjrj8jn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtd8xl', 'author': 'mavericksfan2011', 'body': 'I hate to say that it’s comforting to know people are dealing with the same mental health/dissociative state that I have been since it is so horrible, but it is in sad kind of way. It’s actually kept me from working and I think the political state of the country has really taken a toll on me.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T16:55:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mjrjqnt'}, {'comment_id': 'mjybn5t', 'author': 'SmileLongjumping9401', 'body': ""Likewise brother. There's more reasons why I'm struggling with my own mental health battle, but this certainly has made it worse."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T08:43:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mjtd8xl'}]"
1e297nd,2024-07-13T17:55:58,r/MentalHealth is looking for moderators,"Hey r/mentalhealth! We're looking to grow our moderation team. Moderators are a key part of what makes any reddit community special. If you are interested in helping to make this community special, we'd like to talk to you.

# What do the mods do?

Moderators here on mentalhealth work to build our community and make this a safe place to discuss the many facets of mental health and the ways that mental health and mental wellness influence daily life. Moderators help to write the rules, respond to content concerns, set policies, update community themes and appearance, manage automation, and general upkeep.

# What are the minimum requirements to apply? Can I apply if I've never been a moderator before?

If you care about mental health and would like to be a part of our amazing team of moderators, then we'd like to hear from you. Prior experience is a plus, but not the most important thing we're looking for. We want moderators who care about mental health and the r/mentalhealth community, fit well with our team, and want to help.

If this describes you there are some steps below that we'd like you to take to apply. These steps include some open ended questions that we'd like your thoughtful answers on. Everything else that you might need to know we can help you learn along the way. If you're interested in moderating and want to get a head start on all there is to know, we recommend you [check out the reddit training offered here.](https://redditforcommunity.com)

# What are the expectations for moderators who join the r/mentalhealth mod team?

Mod team members need to be a part of the team. We need people who will engage and communicate about what they see and what questions they have. Our mod team is supportive and understanding. We know you have a life outside of reddit, and we expect you to put that life first. Sometimes that means you might have less time to moderate and that's okay. We expect communication and coordination so that we can support each other and bring in more help when we need to.

# Is there anything I should know about moderating r/mentalhealth before I apply?

Yes. r/mentalhealth is a support community for mental health and we often encounter posts and comments that describe traumatic experiences or crisis. Some of this content can be disturbing.

Our team policy is that when a post or comment is too much for one of us to handle, we let the rest of the team know and someone else will step in to handle it, *but there is no way to eliminate the exposure completely*.

If you apply, please expect that we will ask you about your comfort level in moderating content of this nature and what strategies you might use to make sure your own mental health needs are met.

No one is expected to address issues that are uncomfortable for them, but you should expect to encounter such things if you join the team.

Second, we require that moderators join our discord server, where we communicate and coordinate our moderation efforts. Part of the application process includes joining us on that server for a chat. You will need a discord account (can be an existing account if you have one).

# How do I apply?

If you are interested in joining our team, here is the process we follow:

1. Send us a modmail indicating that you are interested and include answers to the following questions:
   * What does mental health mean to you?
   * Why are you interested in being a moderator on r/mentalhealth?
   * In your opinion, what are some differences between a good moderator and a bad moderator?
2. We will review your modmail and your application. We may ask for some additional information about your moderation experience and how familiar you are with reddit. We may use a google form to structure those questions.
3. We will invite candidates we think might be a good fit to join us on our discord server so we can interact and get to know each other before making a decision on extending an invitation to be a moderator.
4. New moderators on the r/mentalhealth moderator team start out with a trial run that will last about four weeks. During that time, the trial moderator will have limited moderation responsibilities, both for evaluation and to help provide a structured way to get up to speed.

Thanks for reading, and we hope you apply!",mentalhealth,21,27,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1e297nd/rmentalhealth_is_looking_for_moderators/,"[{'comment_id': 'lkssmsm', 'author': 'PrathamJoshi_99', 'body': 'I would love to be a moderator I have been told I am good with giving mental health advice but never use it on myself 😭', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-08-31T12:50:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'leeru4s', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Do you get paid?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-22T22:50:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'lfc25ql', 'author': 'gratitude-drk001', 'body': ""Can I be a Moderator, I've knowledge about mental health and treatment."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-28T19:08:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'lffsf39', 'author': 'Quipsar', 'body': 'Before i pester you with modmail - is this still available?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-29T09:18:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'lfhry8m', 'author': 'Historical_Taste_147', 'body': 'I would like to help people and make then feel ok so if the moderator spot is still open o would love to have it 😁', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-29T20:08:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'lfsih2f', 'author': 'Successful_Mix_9118', 'body': 'How many hours per week is a moderator expected to contribute please?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-31T15:54:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'lgnu6mt', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Can I apply', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-08-06T01:40:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'ljy7mte', 'author': 'GoodHair2213', 'body': ""I'd love to help. I spend a lot of time on reddit, care a lot about the mental health community and am keen on steering toward amicable solutions."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-08-26T07:22:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'llxkqm7', 'author': 'Zestyclose_Novel9487', 'body': 'I can handle it. But Do we get paid?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T15:06:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'ln121y0', 'author': 'chicitygirl987', 'body': 'I would like to join this if accepted Ty.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-14T08:09:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'ltor958', 'author': 'lavvstarr', 'body': 'I’d love to be a moderator! I’ve struggled with depression and anxiety since a very young age and my mother has experience working and studying mental health/working in wards so I can get peak knowledge if needed. I want to be a moderator because I want to keep this community a safe place where EVERYBODYS needs are met. A difference between a good and bad moderator are the effort they put in to help, actually read and make a difference.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T19:49:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'lxvyd62', 'author': 'SprinklesDue5118', 'body': 'Love to help! As a mental health expert for more than a decade, I can share my practices, especially mindfulness techniques. Thanks!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T11:34:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'm3b9h9d', 'author': 'Thin_Net6761', 'body': 'I would like to be a moderator. Not sure if here where I should mention why I wanna be a moderator.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T23:26:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1e297nd'}, {'comment_id': 'lkw2ieb', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-01T02:32:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lkssmsm'}, {'comment_id': 'leevl7x', 'author': 'DrivesInCircles', 'body': 'No, moderating is a volunteer effort.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-07-22T23:10:11', 'parent_id': 't1_leeru4s'}, {'comment_id': 'lffsm0w', 'author': 'Quipsar', 'body': 'Also - is the discord chat verbal or text based?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-29T09:19:57', 'parent_id': 't1_lffsf39'}, {'comment_id': 'lftfvmq', 'author': 'DrivesInCircles', 'body': ""There is no quota. Life's demands come and go, moderation should fit in around that since moderation is a volunteer activity. \n\nThat said, if you know your time is limited, it may be a good idea to consider those limitations as part of your decision to apply. We don't want this to be the thing that pushes anyone over their limit."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-31T19:56:43', 'parent_id': 't1_lfsih2f'}, {'comment_id': 'llyon9h', 'author': 'DrivesInCircles', 'body': 'No, moderation is a volunteer activity on reddit.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T20:28:48', 'parent_id': 't1_llxkqm7'}, {'comment_id': 'm3bmuzm', 'author': 'DrivesInCircles', 'body': 'Please follow the instructions in the post if you would like to apply.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T00:38:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m3b9h9d'}, {'comment_id': 'lkyja6n', 'author': 'PrathamJoshi_99', 'body': 'When can i', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-01T13:37:58', 'parent_id': 't1_lkw2ieb'}, {'comment_id': 'lfhdt7x', 'author': 'swild89', 'body': 'Yes we’re always still searching for good candidates, and text-based for discord question', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-29T18:40:54', 'parent_id': 't1_lffsm0w'}, {'comment_id': 'lg43da5', 'author': 'Successful_Mix_9118', 'body': 'Thanks. Will give it some thought. Ta!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-08-02T14:42:42', 'parent_id': 't1_lftfvmq'}, {'comment_id': 'lfhw4rx', 'author': 'Quipsar', 'body': 'Very well :D I will fill out this form soon.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-07-29T20:31:17', 'parent_id': 't1_lfhdt7x'}, {'comment_id': 'lq7bhch', 'author': 'salad-user16', 'body': 'Where can I apply?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-04T02:55:31', 'parent_id': 't1_lfhdt7x'}]"
1jomocv,2025-04-01T09:25:35,My mom said to me 'You are the reason why rap*s happens ',"
I was wearing a tank top and trousers when my mom said this to me. I immediately changed into a kurti. I was going somewhere and was really happy, but she ruined my mood, and I ended up crying the whole day. She played the victim card and started crying, saying, ""I didn't mean that.""

I know she is the breadwinner of our family and has a lot of problems. I understand that very well. But what about my problems? She acts like I'm just over-exaggerating everything. And my father doesn't give a sh*t to me except when it time for comparison and humiliating me in front of everyone. 
She has been having an affair for the past 7–8 years, and even got involved with a third man during this time. Yet, I'm not even allowed to talk to boys. I’ve never done anything to bring shame to them, but somehow, they never stop criticizing me. The constant comparisons, the boundations..I’m exhausted.

My mental health is completely fu*ked up.
",mentalhealth,48,26,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jomocv/my_mom_said_to_me_you_are_the_reason_why_raps/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt061l', 'author': 'one_jar_one_man', 'body': 'Sounds like you should get out of there at the first chance you get', 'score': 41, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:38:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt3yzt', 'author': 'No_Excitement3178', 'body': 'no matter what someone else is going through, it is never ok to say something like that. Im so sorry u dont deserve that. And I hope u know that shes very wrong, in this world u should never have to worry about what ur wearing. im hear if you needa talk 🧡', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:09:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mktcld4', 'author': 'StayingUp4AFeeling', 'body': ""aese baat karne vaale ko hi 'toxic' kehte hai.\n\nAgar aap abhi school mein ho, acche se padhai karo -- kisi bhi field mein. kyunki usse aapko college ke time mein ghar se door jeene ka mauka milega.\n\nAur agar aap abhi naukri karne ke umar mein ho, toh kisi bhi tarah se koi doosre sheher mein naukri lene ki koshish karo.  \n\\---\n\nmai yeh bhi kehna chahta hoon ki maine aatma-hatya karne ki koshish ki hai. mera mrityu nishchit lag raha tha. abhi bhi pata nahin ki mai kaise bach gaya. voh mere zindagi ka sabse badi galti hai. harr roz mujhe uska yaad hota hai. jaise voh koi bhoot hai.\n\njitna bhi tumhe marne ki iccha ho, jabb maut ke baahon ka thand apne hriday takk pahunchta hai, tabb aap iss dharti ko apne haathon se, apne naakhunon se pakadke idhar rahoge.\n\n(mujhe hindi theek se nahin maalum, karnataka se hoon. sirf school ka hindi thoda sa pta hai)"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:29:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkto5vo', 'author': 'Vreas', 'body': 'That’s a fucked up thing to say. Depending how old you are I’d GTFO of that situation asap and do your own thing.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:34:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkth2be', 'author': 'NotASir604', 'body': 'I’m so sorry to hear this. Brown families are so fucking toxic. Speaking as another brown woman, feel free to reach out if you need to talk. I know ending your life seems like it would be better. But you have tons of people whose world will end without you in it. I contemplate ending it all sometimes, but my siblings need me', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:15:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mktx7iq', 'author': 'brave_kraken', 'body': ""A lot of brown moms are like this unfortunately. My mom used to (and still sometimes) makes comments like these, implying my clothing will get me r\\*ped, but I just chose to ignore it for over a year now, and it has been good for my mental health. Don't let her guilt trip you. You can never be the perfect child in her eyes, might as well do your own thing and be happy"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:18:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt0nfd', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""I think I'll end up my life b4 I get that first chance."", 'score': -2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:42:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt061l'}, {'comment_id': 'mktdqhf', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': 'That means a lot, truly. Thank you for your kindness and support. Knowing there are people like you out there makes a difference. I really appreciate you reaching out.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:40:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt3yzt'}, {'comment_id': 'mkte6v8', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': 'Bro, what you said is true. Life gets so hard sometimes that it feels like there’s no way out,  the will to live is no more.\n\nAnd your Hindi is perfectly fine..what matters is that it came from the heart.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:45:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mktcld4'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz3oi', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""That really means a lot. I appreciate you so much for reaching out. But there is no one whose world will end without me. No one cares about me, my sibling don't even talk to me, he is just like my parents. But I'm happy 4 u. Your siblings are so lucky to have a sister like you."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:38:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mkth2be'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz617', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""That's true. They never get enough of me. Thanku for reaching me out."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:39:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mktx7iq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt2qib', 'author': 'one_jar_one_man', 'body': ""Don't end it, I know it hurt and it sucks so bad but find one thing you want out of your future and hold it tight, because someday when you get away you can get it,  hold in there. Message me if you need to talk."", 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:59:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt7o74', 'author': 'Herrasmies-Kusettaja', 'body': 'Personally i just live in case things get better🥲\nBut im sure we all can find happiness at one or two points of our lives. Personally i had a similar sounding (gotta say your situation sounds lots worse tho) situation. \n\nManaged to get a job and moved out of the house myself right after the pinnacle of my angst (like a sort of an emo phase. Still going on a bit tho) at 17 and now, after a few years ive even seen bits of happiness. Dont give up yet friend. Theres always ppl who will miss you. And remember, youll only live once.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:42:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mktmosa', 'author': 'NekulturneHovado', 'body': ""Hey, just want to let you know that I thought the same thing when I was 15. It's hard as fuck, but possible"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:18:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvibb', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'You deserve much better and believe it you can get through this time and you can have a fulfilling life! You can break free from this. Please dont end your life, you are strong and precious and what your mother does or say doesnt effect at all your value! She has a distorted worldview, she sees things wrongly because of her own problems. I also came from a difficult childhood and my mom was similar and now Im in my thirties and I could overcome on many of the trauma and I have a good life. You will get there too, please dont give up. Look up some helplines in your country or city and try talking to them about your situation.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:59:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mku1x9l', 'author': 'NotASir604', 'body': 'I’m gutted this is your situation. I am here to be a big sister, should you need one. You aren’t alone in this journey and I hope you stick around because you have so much potential. Sending lots of hugs and warmth your way', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:06:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mktz3oi'}, {'comment_id': 'mku23co', 'author': 'brave_kraken', 'body': ""No problem dude. Text me if you wanna vent, I'm down. I understand how tough it is to live with toxic brown parents so it can be very difficult to handle all that mental burden alone"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:08:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mktz617'}, {'comment_id': 'mktdytv', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': "" I really appreciate you sharing that. It’s good to hear that things got better for you, even if it took some time. But idk if I'll ever be able to move out from here. They are so toxic, they even don't let me go to my friends house. I had to beg in front of them. Btw thanks for the encouragement—it really means a lot."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:42:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt7o74'}, {'comment_id': 'mkty38i', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it, but honestly, I’m struggling a lot right now. It’s hard to see a way forward, but knowing that people care means something. I’ll try to hold on. There are some helplines available but I don't think they are goir to help me in any way."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:28:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mktvibb'}, {'comment_id': 'mku2gui', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""Knowing I have someone like you in my corner gives me so much strength. I truly appreciate all the warmth you're sending my way! You're a gem, thank you🧡\nThese words mean a lot to me rn. I needed this🫂"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:12:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mku1x9l'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvopz', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'Do you have some child support service where you live? It might be possible to talk to them and they could take steps. You are so young and latest at 18 you can leave and start your own life.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:01:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mktdytv'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz0p2', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'Just give them a chance (the helpline). Even just validating your feelings and experience counts a lot! \nI still have memories standing in my bedroom with tight fists and repeating the mantra ""she isnt right, what she says is not true"". That mantra helped me through those years. I know its very dark now but your life is soo much longer and there will be so much beauty in it. Dont give up, they dont deserve it. I have a book I havent read it yet, but the title is great: ""recovery is my best revenge"". Show those people that you will grow up and thrive and they couldnt break you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:37:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkty38i'}, {'comment_id': 'mku03mb', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""The mantra is really powerful and I might borrow this for me as well. You're right! The best thing I can do is show them that they couldn't break me. I hope I can make my way through this mess."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:48:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mktz0p2'}, {'comment_id': 'mku0zs3', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'You will make it! You grow up and you will get out of there and you never have to look back. Repeat the mantra as many times as needed until you can calm down. It was a lifesaver for me. And you know because if this chaotic childhood I developed a deep interest to understand people and why they are this or that way and now Im actually studying to become a coach and help others. So what you are going through now can become your superpower or life purpose later in life. It makes you stronger surviving such experiences. The rest can be healed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:57:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mku03mb'}, {'comment_id': 'mku1qyi', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""Thanks for understanding. It feels like a lot sometimes, and I guess it's just hard to see the end of it. But hearing that I'm not alone in feeling this way, and that it's okay to take things slow, helps. I’ll try to hang in there, even if it's just a little longer. I really appreciate your kind words."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:05:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mku0zs3'}]"
1joskid,2025-04-01T16:15:54,Going back to therapy,I did the really scary thing yesterday and signed up for therapy/medication evaluation after avoiding it due to fear for three years. I’m very proud of myself ,mentalhealth,7,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joskid/going_back_to_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mku3fwl', 'author': 'Wintermoon54', 'body': ""You should be hon that's great!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:21:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1joskid'}, {'comment_id': 'mkubgco', 'author': 'AAanonymousse', 'body': 'As you should! It takes great courage to do so!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:26:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1joskid'}]"
1jotwj1,2025-04-01T17:34:36,my sister is a light ass sleeper!!pls!! it is actually driving me insane!!! (Read the whole thing if you can),"So I go to work and school all day and the only time me and my friends can game is between 11pm-3am. Me and my friends talk on discord and react to the game of course but my sister's room is right next to mine and she always gets mad that im loud when shes trying to sleep while im gaming EVEN WHEN I AM NOT EVEN TALKING THAT LOUD!? its SO annoying because me and my friends usually play games that require comms or even horror games. my friends can react and what not but i cant react or make jokes to make the experience more enjoyable due to the fact that im basically whispering into my mic the whole time trying to avoid waking up my sister.
It's just not enjoyable since i can't really talk at my normal voice or react to what's going on in the game which adds to the experience of playing games with my friends. Late night is the only time me and my friends can play and it's just so annoying be this is essentially my only free time to have fun and wind down after a long ass day of working. any tips on suppressing noise of my voice or any ideas??? thank you :)

I know people might call me inconsiderate but the fact i even ask for tips and what not is because IM BEING CONSIDERATE for not wanting to wake my sister up. to add on, SHE EVEN GETS MAD AT ME FOR USING THE BATHROOM LIKE BRUH AM I SUPPOSED TO JUST HOLD MY PEE IN OVERNIGHT OR EVEN WHEN I GET HOME FROM WORK AROUND 11pm LIKE BRUH IM TRYING MY BEST TO BE QUIET BUT I HAVE BRUSH MY FUCKIN TEETH AND CHANGE TO MY SLEEP CLOTHES AND WHAT NOT WHICH REQUIRES A BIT OF NOISE (o!??! it seems like every LITTLE FRICKIN NOISE WAKES HER UP. LIKE ONE TIME I COUGHED A LITTLE AND SHE TEXTS ME ""BE FUCKIN QUIET IM TRYING TO SLEEP"" LIKE DAMN I GUESS I CANT EVEN COUGH TOO?!? it's to the point where im holding in my coughs and pees unless i need to pee or cough so badly then i'll do them. like i said i go to school and work all day. these inconvenient hours is my ONLY free time of the day and the only time me and my friends can even game. i want to have fun and not live a boring, depressing work-filled life. if i could game during the day while she's awake then i would but unfortunately with my busy schedule i cannot do that. like i said i still wanna have my fun and unfortunately my only free time is during the late night hours. i work 5-6 days a week and go to school 4 days a week while working my second job from home 3 days a week and can never have my fun time. playing games with my friends really helps me recover mentally after a long day. I have severe depression and panic disorder so gaming with friends really helps me a lot. This whole ordeal with her getting mad at every little noise even with things i can’t really control (like needing to pee or coughing or getting off work late) is actually driving me insane!!! my mental health is already bad but this adds onto it!! Thank you for those who actually read the whole thing :)",mentalhealth,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jotwj1/my_sister_is_a_light_ass_sleeperpls_it_is/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkudt39', 'author': 'almilz25', 'body': 'I would try talking to her, try to suggest you’ll work to be quieter but maybe she can add a fan to her room to help minimize the noise. \n\nMaybe you could also consider moving and being a roommate with one of your friends who’s schedule aligns more with yours', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:43:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotwj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuk05q', 'author': 'sheinammz', 'body': 'I totally get how frustrating this situation is. You’re juggling so much—work, school, and a second job—so of course, you need that time to unwind. It’s not just gaming; it’s your mental reset, your way to connect with friends and shake off the stress of the day.\n\nFor the noise issue, maybe try some soundproofing hacks—like putting a towel under your door, rearranging furniture to absorb sound, or even using a noise gate on Discord so your mic only picks up your voice when needed. If your sister is super sensitive to noise, maybe some white noise or a fan in her room could help mask small sounds.\n\nAnd honestly, when everything feels scrambled and my mental health sucks, my go-to place is Tellapy. It’s been a lifesaver for me when I just need to get things off my chest or sort through the mental chaos. If you ever need a space to vent without feeling judged, it might help.\n\nYou’re not being inconsiderate—you’re just trying to have a life outside of work and responsibilities. You deserve that. Hope you find a way to make it work!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:25:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotwj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuf0tq', 'author': 'Bayjae', 'body': 'i’ll try to ask her to get a fan or something that produces white noise. Also coincidentally in the process of looking for a place with two of my friends who are also my co-workers but being in california we are having trouble lol but we are trying. Also i appreciate the reply. thank you :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:52:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mkudt39'}]"
1jot7jj,2025-04-01T16:55:40,I only just realised that I’m a terrible person,"I’m 17f who graduated high school last year, during this time my friends and I would bully people verbally and sometimes even physically. 

I thought I was the victim because I thought I had toxic friends, I always made a point not join in with them, but I just stood there and laughed which makes me no better than them.  

I’m a coward without my friend with me, I was quiet,kept to myself and would be nice to the same people we would torment. 

I’m disgusted in myself, only a few months ago I realised what a terrible person I am. 
I’m so fucking guilty, but that doesn’t excuse my actions. 

I’m extremely depressed all I do is sitting around smoking weed and drinking hoping it will make me feel better, even tho I know it won’t help. 




",mentalhealth,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jot7jj/i_only_just_realised_that_im_a_terrible_person/,"[{'comment_id': 'mku9hem', 'author': 'jamie29ky', 'body': ""You were a teenager doing dumb teenager stuff. You're still a teenager, and you already reflect back and see what you did wrong and feel bad, which is better than A LOT of people. Terrible people dont feel bad about what they did. And good thing you are still growing as a person (thats a lifelong thing for most) you have plenty of chances to act how you wish you would have in the past."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:11:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jot7jj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkucgdq', 'author': 'big0ugli', 'body': 'make it a point to be nice to everybody, especially those people and build your karma back up :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:34:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jot7jj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuj9pv', 'author': 'DaRealJelly', 'body': 'Maybe try apologizing to the people you bullied and cut off your toxic friends \n\nThis will not reverse or make up for anything, but it will at least show your character and begin to start moving in the right direction', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:20:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jot7jj'}]"
1jorrn1,2025-04-01T15:21:42,Relapsed after 4 months,"I don't even know why I did it, I'm really busy with school work and I think I needed something to keep me focused, the pain tends to help. That or I'm just bored. It was stupid of me to own razor blades, I do actually use them for their real purpose but I don't know why I thought I'd be able to stop myself. I'm also not sure why I'm posting this, I think it's because I'm lonely but also as a landmark for myself, either to see how far I've come or how far I've fallen.

Thanks for listening ",mentalhealth,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorrn1/relapsed_after_4_months/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktxhg1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for using a content warning. Your post is under review.\n\n---\n**If you are in immediate crisis:**\n- Visit [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for local hotline info.\n- Check [Hotline FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs/) for guidance.\n- Consider posting on r/suicidewatch or messaging their moderators [HERE](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FSuicideWatch).\n\n---\n**For suicidal thoughts or self-harm:**\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/are-you-feeling-suicidal.htm) offers coping tips.\n- You are not alone – see personal stories on YouTube.\n- Practice grounding exercises or listen to your favorite music.\n- Refer to [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for more resources.\n\n**Take care and stay safe!**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:21:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorrn1'}, {'comment_id': 'mktydzd', 'author': 'AAanonymousse', 'body': 'hey, it’s okay. It already happened, and you can’t change the past, but you can change your future. It’s brave to even come out here and admit you did it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:31:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorrn1'}, {'comment_id': 'mktyruc', 'author': 'Scramsoso', 'body': ""Thanks, doesn't feel particularly brave lol but you're right I just gotta keep moving forward I guess, not that I have a lot of choice"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:35:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mktydzd'}]"
1jouq24,2025-04-01T18:17:07,I feel so alone and it is hurting me so bad mentally,"Ok so basically I’m 18 and I’ve never had a relationship, I’ve always been ready or felt it but I’ve never found someone who I automatically got close to until this year. I met her on New Year’s Eve and we went on a college trip in February with some mutual friends and others. We got really close, cuddling in the room with our friends in it falling asleep together holding hands, the whole thing. The flight back she sat next me, we were cuddling, holding hands and watching movies together. I thought this was finally it, i had never felt this good before.

When we got back we spoke everyday as much as we could and called most nights just boosting my thoughts and feelings. I told her how I felt as this was the first time I felt comfortable enough to and she said she needed time which I was obviously fine with. But then she told me a couple of weeks ago she doesn’t like me like that anymore and it really hurt. 

I know it’s silly because we were never official or anything but I felt so comfortable and I thought she did to but now I feel like I was just there to make her feel good. She didn’t actually care how I felt as long as she was happy. And that hurts. I thought this was it. 

Anyway since that day I’ve not been the same, I used to be anxious a lot a couple of years ago and now it’s coming back and it feels so much worse. I am shaking most nights thinking about everything, hating myself for getting so attached. When I am really bad I start to hate her and what she done to me which I really don’t like. 

Sorry if I haven’t really said much about my mental health but if anyone has any tips on how to get over this it will really help me a lot. ",mentalhealth,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jouq24/i_feel_so_alone_and_it_is_hurting_me_so_bad/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkujiu5', 'author': 'No_Constant_1274', 'body': 'You are so young, there’s so much time to make deep connections with people. Work on yourself and developing your hobbies, that makes you an attractive interesting person to other people. Give yourself time! My ex was 21 when we met and he had never had a girlfriend before me and very little experience, but he was wonderful and it was a very deep connection. Time!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:22:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jouq24'}, {'comment_id': 'mkujs7u', 'author': 'itz_jjr', 'body': 'It’s just so hard to give myself time now though that’s the problem. Because it made me feel so good I feel so empty without it which is what’s affecting me mentally so much', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:23:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkujiu5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuk56w', 'author': 'No_Constant_1274', 'body': 'I’ve been there, and it’s okay to feel sad and feel that loss. It doesn’t feel good, but it’s okay to feel it. Time will help it I promise! But it’s okay to mourn that disappointment, listen to sad music and feel your feelings. But, life will go on, and eventually new connections will come your way!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:26:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkujs7u'}]"
1jopx1x,2025-04-01T13:02:40,"The pros of SSRIs are worth the cons, but it still sucks balls.","I take an SSRI for OCD. The particular SSRI is actually a fairly mild one, and I’m on a low-medium dose. I’ve been taking it for about two and a half years now. It literally saved me from OCD. Without medication, OCD makes my life utterly horrible. I cannot describe how painful my life was without medication. I can never go back to that. That being said, the emotional blunting from SSRIs SUCKS BALLS. I feel no joy and I feel very little pleasure in things I know I enjoyed before. But I still feel anger, irritation, exhaustion, and disappointment.

My life feels like I am going through a fast food drive through, dealing with the irritations of doing so, such as waiting in a long line, dealing with bad drivers in line, ordering food and having the wrong order displayed on the screen, etc. except when I get to the window to get my food, I don’t get any food. And that’s my life every day: a drive-through where you deal with the annoyances and pay for your food but never get it.

I can’t go off of my medication, but life also doesn’t feel worth living when I’m on the medication.",mentalhealth,5,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jopx1x/the_pros_of_ssris_are_worth_the_cons_but_it_still/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktoud7', 'author': 'ChildhoodLeft6925', 'body': 'Maybe you’re not on the right SSRI. \n\nI tried them all. Couldn’t cum on Zoloft. Felt like a crackhead on Wellbutrin. Turned out first gen lexapro worked best for me.\n\nRecently added mirtazapine. That was a game changer. \n\nZoloft I felt very numb like you’re describing.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:42:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jopx1x'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz2v1', 'author': 'LOTR_is_awesome', 'body': 'Why did you add the other med?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mktoud7'}]"
1jotitl,2025-04-01T17:13:56,Lost drivers license and flying privilege,"They are cracking down on this hard.  I was about to buy a car and found out my license was suspended because I didn't tell them I was schizoaffective. I have been working and living on my own the last decade even though I've been off medication.  Tried to fly out for the weekend and was informed by TSA that I'm on a no fly list probably because of Mt diagnosis. 

I'm trespassed from the airport now and my job is at the airport. At Amazon
",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jotitl/lost_drivers_license_and_flying_privilege/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkua3mc', 'author': 'izza123', 'body': 'I don’t think people are put on the no fly list simply because of diagnosis, did you ever have an incident at an airport or on a plane?', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:16:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotitl'}]"
1jotf0y,2025-04-01T17:07:56,Has anyone ever felt this way before?,"Hi, I'm sorry if the flair doesn't exactly match. I've been feeling really weird lately, like I'm in some kind of episode I've never been in before. 

I've been incredibly irritable, quick to lose my temper, not recognizing myself or others (at least, not relating them to me as a person), feeling disconnected from reality, and my head keeps telling me to ruin everything I've built for myself. 

Specifically with my boyfriend, the past few days every time i interact with him, my head screams at me that I'm not in love with him anymore, and it hurts so much because I know it's not true. I know i love him. I know I want our life together and I know I love everything we've built together. But my head still won't stop screaming at me to tell him i'm not in love with him anymore, or to tell him how I'm feeling, but I know that would completely ruin everything. 

I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety, but I've never had an episode like this. I'll be irritable occasionally, but never to this extent. Every little thing is setting me off. It's not normal.

I've also been feeling completely disconnected from my body, and who I am as a person. I looked at a picture of my baby brother the other day, and I didn't recognize him. I looked at my boyfriend earlier today, and i had no idea who I was looking at. I even looked at myself in the mirror, and I had no idea who was staring back at me. 

I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this before, or if there's any way to help it. I won't be able to get in touch with a doctor for at least a week, but this voice in my head is making life so difficult. I live with my boyfriend, we share a bed, we do everything together. I just don't know what to do. ",mentalhealth,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jotf0y/has_anyone_ever_felt_this_way_before/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkuejxp', 'author': 'sheinammz', 'body': 'Hey, I just want to say that you’re not alone in this. What you’re describing sounds incredibly difficult, and I truly hope you can find some relief soon. When I was struggling with feeling disconnected from myself and my emotions,  Tellapy helped me process my thoughts in a way that felt safe and validating. Sometimes just getting it all out in a space where I could reflect on my own experiences helped me see things more clearly. If you ever want to explore something like that, it might be worth a try. You deserve support and understanding, and I hope you’re able to get the help you need soon. Sending you strength!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:48:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotf0y'}, {'comment_id': 'mkugka7', 'author': 'Adventurous-Plan9841', 'body': 'Have you been under a lot of stress lately? Or possibly more mild stress over a long period of time? A lot on your plate, or possibly life-changing stuff recently?\n\nNot that I want to say it’s ‘just’ stress or something, that feels really reductive to what you very much experience regardless of the cause. It’s hard for me to know for sure what it is, but I do know at least that chronic stress can lead to rather radical shifts in behavior when it hits a tipping point, kind of like what people usually call a “burnout”.\n\nI especially recognize how mindful you are of your behavior. It may be a part of what has you feeling so disconnected, if something is drastically affecting your emotional state in a way you aren’t used to at all. But like I said, I can’t be sure, and I’m open to hearing more, like if any of this seems to make a bit of sense to your experience, or if there’s anything else you think could be affecting it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:02:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotf0y'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuequp', 'author': 'KittyAmorArts', 'body': ""Thank you, I'll definitely take a look into that! I'm waiting on my insurance to kick in before I can really do much."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:50:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mkuejxp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuh3a6', 'author': 'KittyAmorArts', 'body': ""Come to think of it, yeah. For the last 3 months I've been having a lot of trouble getting a job. I've literally applied to everything within a 10 minute driving radius (because of the bus routes). No hits. My boyfriend keeps bringing it up, it's one of the things that keeps getting me irritated. And with my insurance not kicking in, and the way my body keeps wrapping out on me when I can't go to a doctor, yeah. I would say that's a decent amount of stress buildup. Could that really cause something like this?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:06:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkugka7'}]"
1jop2nf,2025-04-01T12:00:23,Looking for Compassionate People With Personal Mental Health Experience (Paid Opportunity),"Hey everyone,

I’m working on [Kuky](https://app.kuky.com/), a peer support community where people connect based on shared mental health and personal growth experiences. We use **real-time video transcription and sentiment analysis** to help create meaningful conversations in a safe space.

We’re looking for **kind, empathetic people** to join as **support mentors**—not therapists or professionals, just everyday people who want to help others by listening and sharing their own experiences. You’ll be compensated for your time and effort.

🔹 **What You’d Do:**

* Join discussions and provide emotional support.
* Help foster a welcoming, understanding space.
* No professional background needed—just empathy and life experience.

💡 **Who It’s For:**

* If you’ve navigated mental health challenges, personal growth, or tough life experiences and want to support others, this could be a great fit.

💰 **Compensation:**

* We value your time and will **pay for your participation** (details can be discussed based on availability and involvement).

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, **comment below**!",mentalhealth,6,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jop2nf/looking_for_compassionate_people_with_personal/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktft8s', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:02:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mktgx0t', 'author': 'Pagalskincarelover', 'body': 'If there are genuine people who need a kind ear, i would love to help. I will even do it for free.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:13:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mktky0d', 'author': 'hsb10072', 'body': 'Sounds like an app i actually need… i am going to join as mentor / users!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:58:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mku3koa', 'author': 'Ok_Strawberry_9627', 'body': 'This is such a great opportunity! If you’re someone with personal experience navigating mental health challenges and personal growth, this could be a meaningful way to give back and support others. I highly recommend checking it out if you have the empathy and life experience to help create a safe and supportive community. It’s a wonderful initiative with the added bonus of compensation for your time.....', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:22:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkubneq', 'author': 'Liliana1523', 'body': 'Hello,\n\nI would like to offer emotional support to your people. Please check dm, I have reached out.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:28:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkufvkb', 'author': 'male_butterfly', 'body': ""I'm interested!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:58:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkthepz', 'author': 'anehzat', 'body': 'thanks, just sent you a DM', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:19:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mktft8s'}, {'comment_id': 'mktkpn0', 'author': 'hsb10072', 'body': 'How kind of you! The world needs more people like you', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:55:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mktgx0t'}, {'comment_id': 'mkthv4x', 'author': 'anehzat', 'body': 'we need all the help we can get, here are some genuine users [https://app.kuky.com/profile/cassandra](https://app.kuky.com/profile/cassandra) who need help & connection [https://app.kuky.com/profile/christina\\_wilson](https://app.kuky.com/profile/christina_wilson)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:24:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mktgx0t'}, {'comment_id': 'mktrmit', 'author': 'Local-Weakness-6486', 'body': ""Hey, its me technoKing369, for some reason my ID got deleted....Could you please reach out to me on this id....I've already registered on Kuky\n\nAwaiting further instructions here"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:15:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkthv4x'}]"
1jostbr,2025-04-01T16:31:40,Thoughts on undiagnosed issue,"I am 27F , in a lovely happy marriage and no real issues in life other than on a weight loss journey and currently down 50lbs out of a goal of 100. 

After years of struggling with depression, I am finally genuinely happy with my life. I am on Wellbutrin which helps immensely. 

My issue now, is perfectionism. I am extremely hard on myself if I make a mistake. I own my own home bakery and messed up on a clients payment due date (not even the pick up date) and it ruined my whole day because I made a mistake. The amount of anxiety it caused me and talking poorly to myself was extreme for such a small mistake in which the customer was totally fine with. 

I could name 100 other small examples but the point is, no matter how small the mistake I completely freak out and get nauseated, anxious, shakey and sometimes even hyperventilating. The most extreme cases are usually in a professional setting but it does happen in my personal life. If I burn the chicken a little for dinner I just think I am a failure and the worst person in the world. Meanwhile my husband does not care at all and would eat it and say thank you for making dinner. 

So I just don’t know wtf this is… it’s not depression, it’s kind of anxiety? But it’s ONLY induced if I make a mistake. Some form of OCD maybe? Or maybe just poor self confidence? I am completely okay if my day doesn’t go perfectly as long as I am not the cause of it basically.",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jostbr/thoughts_on_undiagnosed_issue/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkugtsu', 'author': 'sheinammz', 'body': 'I can 100% relate to what you’re feeling. I’ve been in your shoes—overanalyzing every tiny mistake and feeling like it defines me, even when no one else sees it that way. It’s exhausting, and no matter how much I accomplished, I still felt like I had to be *perfect*.\n\nWhat helped me was —having a space to unload my thoughts and process them in a way that didn’t feel overwhelming. It gave me a clearer perspective and helped me break out of that perfectionist spiral. If you’re looking for a way to work through these feelings, it might be worth trying. Just know that making mistakes doesn’t make you any less incredible. You’ve accomplished so much, and you deserve grace, too. 💛', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:04:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jostbr'}]"
1jositb,2025-04-01T16:12:45,How do i get the energy to try again?,"For context, im a 24 y/o who has struggled with chronic pain and mental illness. I have been applying for disability and been getting denied, with a deadline for my lease being up next year, and i could become homeless.

Here is the thing. Im exhausted. Beyond exhausted. Putting my all into my case to be denied over and over, to be reminded that im not deserving of help. 

I want to quit everything. I feel so tired of trying. But a part of me doesnt want to quit- i know the sooner i call a disability lawyer or a housing program, the better my chances are. But it feels like id rather gnaw my arm off than take another chance at reaching out for help, only to be denied. Ive been so depressed and fatigued for so long. Ive been fighting for bare minimum for so long. Im tired. I cant die but im cant really live. Im just surviving. 

How do i change this? How do i get back my energy and motivation to do these difficult things, even if they go poorly? It feels like i cant take another hit, but i know these things (lawyer, housing) can be time sensitive. Its difficult to stay motivated when you do 300% of the work and get denied anyways.",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jositb/how_do_i_get_the_energy_to_try_again/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkueo1k', 'author': 'PlantPweredTherapist', 'body': 'It sounds like you’ve been working hard! I’m proud of you, that is incredibly difficult when you are dealing with medical and psychiatric issues. I’m in the process of being diagnosed with narcolepsy 1, everything is a struggle when your health isn’t good.\n\nI think you need some help. In my area (north eastern United States), people with diagnosed mental illness can be assigned a service coordinator. They do basically anything, including applying for housing, disability, and supporting you with calling lawyers. There is also a thing called SOAR, who help with getting people disability. These things may be available in your area. If not, you may have things that are similar.\n\nI’ve seen people in your situation get help. You can’t do this all on your own.\n\nYou can ask your primary care physician or therapist for help with these things. In my area, you can also call Social Security or the Department of Aging & Mental Health for assistance. You could also go to a mental health crisis walk-in center and ask them for help, they have people who can help you apply to stuff like this.\n\nKeep going. You only have to do this alone for a little longer. We are all rooting for you.\n\nEdit to add that pretty much everyone gets denied for disability the first time. Some people, multiple times in a row. Don’t feel isolated, there’s a big group of people that this happens to. Next time you fill out disability paperwork, write everything as the worst it’s ever been. That way, they take you “more seriously,“ for lack of a better term.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:49:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jositb'}]"
1josakd,2025-04-01T15:57:08,reputation ruined,"i have been struggling with mental illness and to cope i started eating weed edibles very occasionally, i am a disciplined person who can control themselves around substances, but unfortunately i got caught high by a friend who isnt very emotionally intelligent.

he told people who hold me high in regards of intelligence and now my reputation is somewhat ruined as my friends don't want to visit my house anymore, believing i'm having somekind of crisis.

when i say this friend is emotionally unintelligent i am being very serious, they have no remorse when they do wrong and cant take accountability, they are quick to gossip and have never truly had any meaningful relationships because they don't undertsand anything truly profound, and i dont mean to be rude but this guy is a real fucking asshole,

he said that my whole house was dirty apparently (he has no respect for me or my property, eats chips in the bed, leaves stuff around my house) which is why it was dirty,

says i'm not in school (i moved schools, never left the entire education system obviously)

and now meaningful relationships ive held with intelligent people are dissolving because he wanted some fucking social credit that utter loser",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1josakd/reputation_ruined/,[]
1jorm6u,2025-04-01T15:10:29,I am in over my head,"Over the past 3 years my (23m) life has been declining rapidly. I've lost it all. Every month I feel like Im dragging my already dead body through glass and salt. 

I get max 4 hours of sleep a day. If I try to get more my body will naturally wake up every 30 minutes without fail, on the dot. But everytime I do wake up it's either from myself screaming or hyperventilating. I don't remember if I had a nightmare. Idk if a brain can even produce nightmares within 30 minutes. 

My living situation isn't the worst. I mean, I don't live in Palestine and i dont get treated like cattle. But for an American my age it's not ideal. I'm practically homeless, without a car. I'm living in an abandoned cabin in the woods. I take care of it, but it's not mine. 

It can't be good for my psyche. If I had to give anyone a deep dive into what my mind feels like, there are multiple conversations going on at all times. They aren't muffled, they talk over eachother but it's as tho I am there for every single one solo style. It's flooding with negativity.

My coworkers call me schizophrenic but I am not diagnosed, nor do I see or hear things. My days consists of 20 hour long panic attacks, sometimes causing me to cry on my floor from the overwhelming depression and guilt. 

I am sober. I used to not be, but I am not. More times than not I get accused of doing meth. Or crack. Or some fucked shit. But I am not. When I did drink, I was a completely different person. Not after the drinks, but my life when I did. I used to be 250 pounds and partied like crazy.

Now I am 120 pounds. I can't eat. If I try i gag and shake and my brain shuts down. I am hungry. I can't eat. I mainly eat uncrustables and drink unsweetened tea. And that's it. I can't handle any more.

I just want to be healthy. I want to gain weight. I want my own home to care for. I miss my ex. I should've married her. I miss my friends. I should've been there for them more.",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorm6u/i_am_in_over_my_head/,[]
1jouuof,2025-04-01T18:23:30,Where and how do I start getting better?? How are there so many people in the world that are just able to live?,"I shut down so easily, over the littlest things, I would sometimes faint or freeze in the middle of the road while walking or something like that when I am feeling stressed... and I am often feeling so overwhelmed that I cannot turn on the light in my room... I feel like everything around me makes me want to scream or throw up... Some days I feel like I'm doing the best that I can and I would be proud of myself for that, but really the smallest thing would happen and I would start planning on ending the whole thing... My therapist wants me to try getting a higher paying job, since money is a stress factor for me, (I mostly freelance and I don't earn much..) but how can I do that in this condition?? I used to do something else before this, but I basically got kind of fired after few trips to the ER- What is wrong with me, and how do I fix my life?? ",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jouuof/where_and_how_do_i_start_getting_better_how_are/,[]
1josuvl,2025-04-01T16:34:07,What is Mental health?,"Mental health refers to our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and behave, as well as how we handle stress, relate to others, and make decisions. Just like physical health, mental health is something we all have, and it can fluctuate depending on life circumstances, stress, and other factors.

Good mental health doesn’t mean feeling happy all the time it’s about being able to cope with life’s challenges, maintain relationships, and function in daily life. Mental health issues, like anxiety, depression, or stress, are common and nothing to be ashamed of. Seeking help, whether through therapy, support systems, or self-care, is a crucial part of maintaining well-being.

How do you define mental health, and what do you do to take care of yours?",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1josuvl/what_is_mental_health/,[]
1jopmw7,2025-04-01T12:41:41,"""Mental Health Isn’t a Luxury—It’s a Necessity. Start Valuing It!""","**5 Important Habits That Can Change Your Life**

Good habits help us live better. The book *5 Killer Habits* by Sree Krishna Seelam discusses some important habits that can make life more successful and happy. Here are some simple lessons from the book that can help everyone.

# 1. Wake Up Early

Many successful people say that waking up early is very helpful. The morning is peaceful, and our mind is fresh, which makes it a great time to study, exercise, or plan the day. Science also says that our brain works better in the morning. Waking up early can make a big difference in life.

# 2. Helping Others

Doing good things for others makes life more meaningful. Helping poor people, teaching kids, or cleaning the surroundings are small ways to make the world better. Teaching children to be kind and helpful will make them better people in the future. Even a small act of kindness can bring happiness.

# 3. Taking Care of Nature

Keeping our surroundings clean is very important. We must treat every place with care and not leave trash behind. Our time on Earth is short, but the environment stays forever. Taking small steps like using less plastic, saving water, and keeping places clean can help protect nature.

# 4. Step out of Your Comfort Zone and become a dromomaniac

Traveling and trying new things help us learn. In the past, kings sent their sons on long trips to understand people’s lives. Today, young people should travel, meet new people, and face real-life challenges. These experiences make us smarter and stronger in decision-making.

# 5. Think for Yourself

Many old beliefs do not make sense today. Some people follow traditions without questioning them. It is important to think and learn instead of just believing everything. Some people use religion and superstitions to fool others. Instead of believing blindly, we should use logic. The best way to live is to respect all people and focus on being good rather than following myths.

# Conclusion

The book *5 Killer Habits,* written by Mr. Sree Krishna Seelam, teaches us how to improve ourselves, help society, and think wisely. Learning new things and making good decisions can help us live better lives. Knowledge is the most powerful thing; if used correctly, it can change the world.",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jopmw7/mental_health_isnt_a_luxuryits_a_necessity_start/,[]
1jop4ce,2025-04-01T12:03:42,How do you fight back violent intrusive thoughts...when the source of it all is the people you live with but cannot escape?,"I am aware this has been asked a few times before, but I'd like to believe this iteration is a little different.

I suffer from violent intrusive thoughts, the likes of which I simply cannot describe here. They are vivid and I often find myself fighting to avoid acting it out. Sometimes, I can feel what happens despite being unscathed outside of this.

This problem has affected my ability to safely dream or daydream: As I have researched and discussed elsewhere, any and all fiction I create results in me being cast aside or otherwise isolated so as not to affect anyone in it: Someone recently summarized this as isolation and abandonment. The result is that I have stopped trying to conjure the fiction altogether: Just because I create it does not mean I have any right to be a part of it, as everyone in it would purposely demonstrate.

The violent intrusive thoughts are due to the people I live around and cannot escape, and even a few who were a significant part of my life in past times. However, the violence isn't always physical, it is also psychological and social, meaning mindgames and endlessly creative methods of harassment: I have been repeatedly punished for effectively trying to waste people's time by someone wasting *my* time instead, whereas I am nornally pretend-shadowbanned: Denied any engagement whatsoever.

The other side of the isolation and abandonment problem is that because I am stuck around people who effectively do not want me to socially grow and mature, I have been, you guessed it, isolated and abandoned because I am beyond help at this point. This further affects the fiction I am a part of as those in it do not so much as give me a chance: Why would they?

The clear solution is to get the hell away from these people, but I simply cannot afford to in this economy, and I also cannot actively work on myself in an attempt to solve the social part of it: They are extremely allergic to people they did not vet, even if they are miles away, it's like petting a cat and coming back home to your own cat, only for it to lose it's mind because it smelled the previous cat on your hand.

What should I do to fight this problem, assuming I cannot leave or network my way out of it, and assuming I even *could* fight the problem?",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jop4ce/how_do_you_fight_back_violent_intrusive/,[]
1jornfi,2025-04-01T15:12:56,Medication poop out,"Hi guys,

I have been on Clomipramine for nearly two years and it has been effectively blocking out my bad thoughts or the anxiety regarding the bad thoughts. However, for the last month or so - it has come back and my bad thoughts or anxiety is not being blocked out.

My gut feeling is that the medication has well and truly stopped because before I would have super bad times mood wise but the bad thoughts wouldn’t come back. 

Has anyone ever had Clomipramine or another long-term anti-depressant stop working - where did you go from this? My Psychiatrist said Clomipramine is the last resort. 



",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jornfi/medication_poop_out/,[]
1jookzy,2025-04-01T11:26:28,I feel disconnected and can't remember anything,"I'm going to try to describe this in the best way I can, but I'm not sure if this will make sense. It hasn't made sense to anyone else, not even my therapist.

I was a very sentimental kid. I remembered every little detail. Suddenly, a few years ago, I realized that I couldn't remember anything from my childhood. Not just that, but I didn't feel connected to anyone anymore. Not my loved ones or my bestest friends. There was a huge disconnect from my reality. I no longer felt like myself on any level. 

Flash forward to now. I am doing better mentally. I was going through a lot at the time. I thought that getting help and receiving medication would help with my memory. It didn't. My memory is getting increasingly worse, and I truly can't remember what I did earlier in the day. I often forget if I have taken my medication or where I placed my keys, phone, or card. It feels like there's a weird void in me where there should be a pool of memories.  
Also, I want to mention that if I do have a ""memory"", I cannot visually see it in my head. It's more like I remember a story that someone else told me; So less like I'm remembering and more like I'm reciting it. If that make sense at all? And I did go through a trauma when I was around 12-13, but my memory did not start getting worse until around 3-4 years after that.

If anyone can tell me what this may mean or what I can do, then I would forever be grateful. It's getting to the point where it's affecting me on such a deep level that I can't fully articulate. I just want to feel like again.",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jookzy/i_feel_disconnected_and_cant_remember_anything/,[]
1jook8b,2025-04-01T11:25:00,"I'm so caught up in distracting myself, that idk how to be mindful","I find myself so caught up in work and finances and interests like coffee to distract myself from my bad thoughts. I hate myself and don't want to sit still with my thoughts. I feel depressed, I don't like how I look, wish I could trust other people, and was traumatized at a really young age. I keep living life trying to keep myself occupied and whenever I'm not occupied, I feel shitty and just want to sleep. I want to be trusting, and be able to read books, and not fight so hard to remember to care how I look in the mirror. When I'm alone with my thoughts, everything's in black & white without any color. The most I can do in a day is beat a video game level if opening the game isn't enough of a struggle on its own, and I want to change that. Just simply pushing myself clearly isn't working. I just distract myself more. I'm stuck on auto-pilot and doing everything I can to only think about the moment or whatever thing from my small list of things I'm trying to keep focused on again for the upteenth time.",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jook8b/im_so_caught_up_in_distracting_myself_that_idk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktgeb4', 'author': 'TougherMF', 'body': ""yeah, i totally get what you're saying... it's so easy to just dive into distractions like work or even coffee just to avoid dealing with the tough stuff. trust me, i've been there. i tried a lot of things to feel less overwhelmed—pills, meditation, trying to push through... but a lot of times that just made everything worse or felt like it was masking the issue. what actually helped me, surprisingly, was using transdermal patches for focus and calm. i was kinda skeptical, but the change was real. having something like that helping me stay a bit more grounded when everything feels so chaotic made a huge difference. if you wanna check it out, [nectar patches](https://nectarpatches.com/) might be worth a shot.\n\nkeep pushing, though. small steps really do add up..."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:08:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jook8b'}]"
1jorhfx,2025-04-01T15:00:52,What is this scary inner voice im experiencing?,"Hey I always wanted to ask others if they experience something similar this always forgot about it again since it happens so extremely rarely.  
  
 Sometimes (I guess when overstimulated) I experience this scary as hell inner voice. Like it feels not like my own and like my heart is clenching. The voice is the same I remember as a reoccuring person from my childhood nightmares.  
  
I can't even really discern if it is a voice or just a feeling really, but it makes me very uncomfortable. There is only one time from when I was very young that I explicitly remember that it was very rudely commenting on everything I did and I got hella spooked. 

The anxiety it gives me when it happens feels very similar to situations where I get completely overstimulated and lose all ability to focus.

So what is this scary voice, can anyone relate?",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorhfx/what_is_this_scary_inner_voice_im_experiencing/,[]
1jorbtx,2025-04-01T14:49:03,Hallucinations. No one. I'm f***ed.,"I am currently in tears. My whole body is shaking so goddamn much. I don't know what the f*** just happened.

Ever since I relapsed at the beggining of February, I've been having small hallucinations. (Whispers, objects melting, 'wiggly' vision...) It didn't worry me at first, but it's getting worse...WAY WORSE.

I'll try to explain the best I can, I hope it'll make sense...Even though none of this makes any f***ing sense.

I was in bed, laying on my left side. There were three shadows. A grey one, and two black ones.
The grey one was laying next to me in bed. The first black shadow was standing infront of my bed, at my feet, while the second one was behind my back, slightly over me while standing.

What terrifies me? I was talking to them like they were my friends. I can't recall them ever answering, yet we had a whole conversation...I felt happy. For the first time in months...

It lasted AN HOUR. When I got out of it, I SOBBED. I am f***ing terrified. My psy moved out of town, far from where I live, and I'm back on the waiting list. I have no professionals to talk to, and I refuse to go to the hospital because they'll send me back to the psychward.

In short, I'm f***ed.",mentalhealth,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorbtx/hallucinations_no_one_im_fed/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktujui', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for using a content warning. Your post is under review.\n\n---\n**If you are in immediate crisis:**\n- Visit [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for local hotline info.\n- Check [Hotline FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs/) for guidance.\n- Consider posting on r/suicidewatch or messaging their moderators [HERE](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FSuicideWatch).\n\n---\n**For suicidal thoughts or self-harm:**\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/are-you-feeling-suicidal.htm) offers coping tips.\n- You are not alone – see personal stories on YouTube.\n- Practice grounding exercises or listen to your favorite music.\n- Refer to [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for more resources.\n\n**Take care and stay safe!**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:49:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorbtx'}, {'comment_id': 'mktwh7g', 'author': 'Sea-Spell-3730', 'body': 'I’ve experienced this a while ago. The part that worried me so much is that I wasn’t scared of them. One lady was talking to me and giving me advice but I can’t recall anything she said. \nI was saw a black shadow laying down in bed too but didn’t say a word. \n\nI think I need to share that with my therapist and I hope that you find the support you need!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:10:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorbtx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkufn1j', 'author': 'AdFun2372', 'body': 'it sounds like you’re having a difficult time right now and I can understand how jarring it is to suddenly lose your support system. If you’d like to talk I’ll be here', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:56:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorbtx'}]"
1joqs76,2025-04-01T14:07:55,Sport/Exercise Burnout and Mental Health,"Hi everyone!

I’m a 32 year old female, and I’ve been doing CrossFit for just over two years. I absolutely love my box, the community is amazing and I’ve made some great friends. My ideal schedule is 4 WODs per week, and I’m the kind of person who has to give 110% in every session.

Unfortunately over the last year my health has taken a bad turn. I’ve had really bad fatigue, sleep issues, dizziness and bad anxiety and depression. I’m undiagnosed ADHD, but I think this has cause a flare up in symptoms too. I feel terrible most days at the gym even after a good sleep and eating clean, and I’m constantly in fight or flight mode. I’ve had countless blood tests and body scans done which all say I’m healthy, so I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m overtraining.

I’ve finally decided (with an absolute struggle) that I need to give my body time to recover. But I have some overwhelming worries, and I’m concerned that I may rush back to do a WOD too soon. I’ve come to realise that it’s almost like an addiction.

My biggest concerns are:

That I’ve built up a reputation for being dedicated, strong and a top performer, that I’ll be forgotten about and that others will come in and outperform me when I’m away.

That I’ll lose all of my “gains” and skills if I need to take several months away, and that I won’t look as toned and muscular as I do now.

That I’ll lose my mind and have nothing to fill my time with and nothing to focus on or achieve. I work in an office every day, but I hate my job and I’m struggling to get interviews for a new one.

That my friends at the gym will forget about me if they don’t see me every day and that I’ll maybe miss out on informal invites to socialise. I’ve always struggled making friends, so I don’t want to lose them.

That it’s unclear how long it will take me to feel better, or if I return to CrossFit after a period of time I will get unwell again and never be able to perform at the same level. I’m scared that I’ve done permanent damage to my body/mind and that I won’t ever fully recover.

I’d really appreciate any advice to address my worries so that I avoid intense exercise for a while and any tips on how to talk to myself as I want to avoid flare ups of anxiety and depression during this time. 

If you have a shared experience, I’d love to hear from you too!

Much love 🙏
",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joqs76/sportexercise_burnout_and_mental_health/,[]
1joq1jd,2025-04-01T13:12:04,Relationship problems affecting my mental health.,"My ex is with my old friend, and trying to get back with me, after cheating on me 14 times. She was my first relationship, and she really fucked me up. Lasted 10 months, ended two months ago. I'm trying to get serious with a girl named Chloe, who has Terrible mental health but is the best person. I really like her, and we act like were together but she says she doesnt want ""labels."" And then there's a girl named Tenley that I think is actual relationship material, but lives have a province away. Also my friends are trying to get me with some girl named Giovanni and some girl named Emma. What is happening.",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joq1jd/relationship_problems_affecting_my_mental_health/,[]
1jogkar,2025-04-01T04:18:04,First appointment with a psychologist – what to expect?,"I have my first appointment with a psychologist on April 7th, and I’m feeling pretty anxious about it. I’m 18+ and going on my own, so I know this is something I want—but I’m still scared, mostly because I’m worried I won’t be able to be fully honest.

I’ve been thinking about going for almost two months, and I finally booked the appointment a few days ago when I was having a really rough day. But now that things have settled, I can’t even describe how I felt then. My mind just kind of blanks out, and I find myself wondering if I even need to go.

For those who have been to therapy, what was your first session like? What kind of questions did they ask? I think knowing what to expect would help ease my nerves.

edit:I'm going to a public health clinic, so I don't have to pay anything. I live in a small town, so my only free option is this one psychologist

",mentalhealth,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jogkar/first_appointment_with_a_psychologist_what_to/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkrmki0', 'author': 'NormalNobody', 'body': ""This is an initial meet and greet, you haven't even agreed to hire the person. I ask about their credentials, what schools they went to, what things they worked on, any organizations they partner with. \n\nFor you, they are gonna wanna know about your living situation, goals in life, what you think therapy is and what you want to get out of this. They may ask what prompted you to call, and you can explain exactly like you told us."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:24:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jogkar'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrt6w2', 'author': 'SexyBrownMale', 'body': 'Just do what feels comfortable for you. This is a place supposed to help you feel comfortable to eventually make you open up about your deeper feelings. Do not be anxious about lying. Most psychologist are aware that some people exaggerate or make up facts about their situations to sound more justified on their points of view, it is not important since even this can be used to more properly assess the condition of the patient (of course you should try to be as honest as possible for your own sake). They are specially trained not to make biased judgments and to let the patient unravel their lines of thought themselves. Consider them as guides, not as authorities, which is my suggestion. Hope it goes great, OP! You are taking a great step towards your own improvement and to self-love.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:02:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jogkar'}, {'comment_id': 'mksgact', 'author': 'Prudent-Usual-4916', 'body': 'Hi, therapist here! The first session can be nerve racking even for the therapist so don’t worry about it being awkward in the beginning, everything will be fine.\nUsually, I tend to ask my patients what brought them to therapy, if they had previous contact with therapy so we can start going somewhere but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be asking things too. \nEverything will be all right, focus on being comfortable and feeling if you have a connection with your therapist, as this space and this person will be important for your well-being, be safe and hope you have a great first therapy', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:23:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jogkar'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrnhve', 'author': 'Hot_Shower76', 'body': 'Thank you! I just added that I\'m going to a public health clinic, so I don\'t have to pay anything. I live in a small town, so my only free option is this one psychologist, so I don\'t think ""hiring her"" is an option?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:29:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrmki0'}, {'comment_id': 'mkro969', 'author': 'NormalNobody', 'body': ""I'm sorry, I shouldn't have assumed. I just find it's often a common misconception that you must use the first person you see.\n\nObviously, for you, that may need to be the case. I don't know your specific situation or even country you are in lol"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:33:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrnhve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrp8wr', 'author': 'Hot_Shower76', 'body': 'Oh, no worries at all! I totally get what you meant. I actually forgot to mention that I’m going to a public health clinic, which is quite different from private practice. I’m also struggling with self-harm and family issues, so that plays a big role in why I’m seeking help. I’m from Serbia, in case that helps give more context to my situation.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:39:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mkro969'}]"
1jopub0,2025-04-01T12:57:05,Am i overreacting?,"I'm isolated for quite some time now, and yeah i do step out few times but most of the time i rot at home.

I . Don't know how to talk about this but, 
Just wanna get this off my chest.
I lost my dad last year and since then things have been different to me, i didn't had access to that ""Teenage Phase"" where you hang out with ur friends, and do stuff you remember nd laugh on... 

On top of that i have no support at home, my mother doesn't understand the concept of ""Emotionally Absent"".
She just wants me to do every task like a machine and study for lik 7 hrs a day.

I do some filming nd sketching to distract myself but when the night falls, im again there questioning myself.

I have some 2-3 online peeps whom i talk to but they ghost me most of the time, thru out the day they don't even bother to drop a single text. If i text first the convo will go on or else it won't.

I understand everyone have a life beyond internet too but what about those who don't? 

It's not like i want them to talk to me 24/7 but is it so much to expect someone talk to you for 15 min straight? No ghosting, no late replies.

And i get it, most of the users here are here for their own fun, their own interests, not to be available to listen someone yapp.

What do i do then?
It feels like I'm locked in a quiet white room. 
Go to therapy? Well..i can't afford it, also at the end they too will suggest me to socialize. 

But what's the point when no one wants to socialize with me? 

Just how many times will i knock the door over and over again? 


Should i just get used to the fact that there's no help available at all, no one cares to listen to you and u should just gulp it down until it tears you apart?
",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jopub0/am_i_overreacting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktlaxa', 'author': 'TrueBuraz', 'body': 'Sent a dm', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:02:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jopub0'}]"
1johsen,2025-04-01T05:14:20,I feel like life is pointless. I can't do anything.,"I'm a 24 year old dude. I've been living with my parents for most of my adult life, or relying on friends from school, who now all don't talk to me anymore except one. My parents kick me out regularly and they're about to do it again in a month. They want me to get a job and I can't. 

They always pry into my emotions just to use it to try to manipulate me into getting a job or doing what they want me to do but it doesn't ever ever work because it can't. Even when I've tried to get jobs to appease them I just end up getting fired or quitting because they stress me out so much I can't tolerate it anymore. So all it does now is start arguments. I can't set boundaries with them because they don't have any respect for me whatsoever, i can't avoid getting into arguments with them because they always find a way to drag me back in. Even if i stay alone all the time and avoid them and only stay awake at night they still find a way to start arguments by texting me and  making me talk to them or forcing me to talk to them while I'm trying to do something I need to do like shower, take out the trash, eat, etc. when these arguments happen i lose control of my emotions almost entirely. I cry and scream until i can't anymore and say things that (while true) are hateful and mean. It makes me feel insane. I just need somewhere to live and to be left alone and they make me feel like shit for it. They don't ever try to understand they only pretend to and then try to manipulate me again. I have nowhere else to go so even if I wanted to do something in particular I can't. It's all pointless anyway, we're all going to die. 

I've never held down a job for longer than a year and I've been unemployed most of my adult life. I have almost no money and no interest in life whatsoever. I have one or two friends but i barely talk to them and i don't feel connected to anyone really very much. 

I don't know what to do. I feel like everything has been predestined. I've been in this situation or a variation of it since I was probably like 14-15 years old. I'm tired. I don't want to do anything unless i can be alone. I can't live in this world. Most days I can't go outside. I'm too scared of people. All I do all day is sit alone and look at my phone, play guitar, watch movies or listen to music, and wait until I can fall asleep again. The only thing in life that i think about that would really make me feel meaning is to be with a girl I used to be with briefly, we were friends for a long time before, but she doesn't want to talk to me anymore and even if she did it's unrealistic and it's not going to happen. 

There's no solution to all this. I've been in and out of therapy for years. I've been on and off medication. I don't do drugs or drink. At this point I don't even believe in free will. I'm just destined by the laws of physics to go wherever life takes me and it keeps taking me back to suffering and hopelessness and loneliness. Why else would this be happening over and over and over and I be so helpless to stop it or take care of myself financially/otherwise? 

Thanks for reading. Have a good day. ",mentalhealth,4,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1johsen/i_feel_like_life_is_pointless_i_cant_do_anything/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkryn3z', 'author': 'local_economies', 'body': ""Heyyy, I don't know what jobs you have had or what's in your area but have you considered working at a music or instrument shop? Maybe another good one would be a theater house or a bar that offers things like comedy nights, live music, and/or karaoke. \nBased off what you said that would be up your ally. I think too maybe finding a group or some more people with commonality would be beneficial to you too, start online and branch out from there. You seem like a nice polite person. It would be a shame to have you just lock yourself away. There's a whole big world out there waiting for you.\nI too have been in a negative feedback loop. I'm working my way out of exiting it. It takes time but it can be so so so worth it. Look a little longer, listen a little deeper, talk a little louder. You deserve it. 🖖🏻"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:34:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1johsen'}, {'comment_id': 'mks2p5t', 'author': 'GrapefruitStrong1443', 'body': ""Hi there, some people would say you just need to find your mojo but it goes deeper than that. There are probably any number of reasons for the way you feel and you wont's start to recover until you have over come them. \n\nWhen I worked in mental health we used the below approach to identifying problems and taking action:\n\nWHAT: What is the problem? eg. wanting to be alone and not going outside  \nWHY: Why did this develop? Was it a particular trauma or was it a pattern of behaviour over time?  \nHOW: How can I fix this? Talk to someone? Join a club (even an online one)?  \nWHERE: Am I willing to go somewhere for help? Can I get the help I need at home online?  \nWHO: Who can help me? Family and friends? Online help? Professional help? a GP?  \nWHEN: Once you have the above info, or as much as you can figure out, set a date to take action and stick to it. \n\nMaybe your parents will take a different view if they can see you're taking steps to improve?\n\nYou can turn this around and the fact that you're here talking about it proves that you want to.   \nRemember to take baby steps and be kind to yourself. Celebrate the wins in your progress and don't dwell on the setbacks."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:58:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1johsen'}, {'comment_id': 'mksuloa', 'author': 'lllIIIIlllIlIlIl', 'body': ""I’m really sorry you're feeling like this right now. You’re going through a lot, and I understand it feels unbearable, like you're stuck in a cycle where nothing changes. It’s really important to recognize that even though it feels like life is pointless and that nothing will improve, you’re not alone in these feelings, and there are paths forward that can help.\n\nFirst, let's break it down:\n\nYou're facing a lot of pressure from your parents, they’re not respecting your boundaries, and they’re pushing you into a corner emotionally. That’s incredibly draining. It sounds like they’re not hearing your needs or struggles, and instead of being supportive, they’re adding to your stress. That's hard to manage, especially when you're already feeling disconnected and stuck in a cycle.\n\nYou don't have to be alone in this:\n\nEven if you're in therapy and it's been on and off, that doesn't mean it won’t help if you stick with it. Therapy is a process, not a quick fix. But it can help you find the right tools and strategies to manage your emotions, set boundaries, and deal with the underlying reasons behind these feelings. Sometimes it takes finding the right therapist or the right approach (like CBT or DBT) to really make a difference.\n\nAlso, medication can be a big part of stabilizing your mood, but you need consistency and time for it to be effective. If you've been on and off medication, that could be a reason why things still feel so unpredictable. If you're not happy with the medication you’ve tried, it’s worth talking to your doctor about adjusting it or exploring new options.\n\nThe loneliness:\n\nIt sounds like loneliness is really heavy for you right now. You mentioned your old friend and a past relationship, and I know that feeling of wanting that connection back. But also, it's important to acknowledge that your sense of disconnection isn’t a reflection of who you are or your worth. Relationships and friendships are complicated, and it's not always a personal failure when things don’t work out. Sometimes people change, or life circumstances pull people apart.\n\nI can hear how much you're isolating, but in some ways, it's making the loneliness worse. Even just a little effort to reach out to a support group, to find someone to talk to—even if it’s online—might slowly start to make you feel less like you’re in this alone. People who are isolated can often feel stuck, but reaching out—even for small moments of connection—can help break that isolation.\n\nSetting small, realistic goals:\n\nI hear that it feels like everything is predestined and that nothing changes. But things can change, and it doesn’t need to be a massive shift right away. It’s about taking small steps. Start with things you can control: setting one small goal at a time—whether that’s something like trying to step outside for just 10 minutes, applying for one job, or just taking a shower and being gentle with yourself.\n\nBreaking things down into tiny pieces can help you feel more manageable. If you’re looking for work, even starting with something simple—like exploring remote jobs—could be a step forward.\n\nIt’s okay to feel hopeless, but it's not a permanent state:\n\nWhen you say you don't believe in free will, I hear that you're feeling stuck in a system that feels out of your control. That feeling is powerful, and it makes things seem so much harder. But this is not a permanent situation. It might feel like you're trapped in a loop, but you have more agency than it seems right now. If you take one step forward, even in the smallest way, you can begin to make changes in how you react to the cycle.\n\nTalk to a professional about your current mindset:\n\nIt’s clear that your sense of hopelessness is deep. It's really important to talk to a therapist about these existential thoughts because they can help you find a sense of meaning or connection in ways that don’t feel as overwhelming. Maybe it feels like nothing matters now, but sometimes shifting our perspective through therapy can reveal that even small moments of meaning are worth something.\n\n\n---\n\nPlease don’t make any decisions you might regret, even though it feels overwhelming right now. Take a moment to breathe and let this feeling pass. Reach out for help, even if it’s just a step in the right direction. You don't have to go through this alone.\n\nIf you want to talk more, I’m here for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:56:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1johsen'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrzn3e', 'author': 'omegaday-', 'body': 'I appreciate the advice and encouragement. Thank you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:40:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mkryn3z'}, {'comment_id': 'mks4qq0', 'author': 'omegaday-', 'body': ""Thank you for sharing this with me! I don't think I've ever seen this framework laid out before. It seems useful."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:11:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mks2p5t'}, {'comment_id': 'mks0437', 'author': 'local_economies', 'body': 'Of course! We all need it from time to time 😁👌🏻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:42:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrzn3e'}]"
1jootpy,2025-04-01T11:42:51,I wish I can cut my mom out of my life,"I’m 24f and I’ve been dealing with constant stress, anxiety and depression for the past 3 years, all due to my family. My mom and I have a very toxic relationship where a fight happens and we don’t talk for a little while, then she’ll contact me acting like nothing happened. I understand she is my mother, she gave birth to me, she doesn’t hesitate to remind me that whenever she gets angry about something. 

My mother is a terrible person. I feel awful writing this but I know it’s true. She only cares about money, how other people think of her and materialistic things. I on the other hand have very different values. Especially when it comes to dating, I value a good healthy relationship where I admire someone’s personality and kindness rather than how much wealth they have. My mother doesn’t have one ounce of respect for someone who doesn’t have some sort of wealth. My partner is someone I love deeply, during my darkest days where I was very close to ending my life, he was my hope. I’ve told my mom that multiple times and she doesn’t care. 

She’s constantly comparing my partner to other men, saying my standards are too low, he can’t even afford to take you on daily shopping sprees, pressuring me to move back home, calls me a horrible daughter if I don’t want to hang out with her, the list just goes on. 

My depression, stress and anxiety all come from my mom and how she treats me. I feel miserable and scared whenever she asks me to hang out or when she texts me or calls me. I feel my heart beat so fast due to my anxiety. Cutting family members out of your life isn’t a simple decision but if I’m struggling so much just to go about my day to day life because of how bad my mother treats me, is that enough to tell her I wish to not talk to eachother anymore? Or if there a better way to go about things? Please keep in mind, I’ve talked to her thousands of times about how I feel and she acts like she cares and it’s back to square one the next day.. ",mentalhealth,1,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jootpy/i_wish_i_can_cut_my_mom_out_of_my_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktel74', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""Just decrease the amount of contact gradually, give excuses. What a timing, I'm going through similar problems with my family."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:49:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jootpy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkteonn', 'author': 'Impossible_Pea_1419', 'body': 'Im sorry to hear that.. I’ve been doing this recently, faking I have a cold and can’t go to her house etc. but I know it can’t last long 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:50:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mktel74'}, {'comment_id': 'mkteyqu', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""How far do you live from each other?? Hmm that's so hard...let's think of something..like how about, you gradually block her from some social media."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:53:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mkteonn'}, {'comment_id': 'mktf4e6', 'author': 'Impossible_Pea_1419', 'body': 'I don’t drive so it’s like an 1/1.5 hour commute during public transit.. I’ve blocked her on social media for as long as I can remember so that isn’t a big issue I’d say 🥲', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:55:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkteyqu'}, {'comment_id': 'mktff12', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""So there is physical  distance, that's better..next maybe changing your number?? Or maybe look for another job more far??? Do you work ? I'm sorry if i sound indecisive"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:58:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mktf4e6'}, {'comment_id': 'mktfjk3', 'author': 'Impossible_Pea_1419', 'body': 'I’m currently unemployed, the job market is terrible these days.. my mom is the type of person who will call the cops and file a missing report case if I suddenly change my number.. she’s crazy that’s why it’s so hard to just cut of her off', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:59:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mktff12'}, {'comment_id': 'mktfvd1', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""Omg I'm unemployed too , high five !! That makes the situation harder, she obviously doesn't respect your boundaries that's for sure. She doesn't see you as an individual. Have you tried not contacting her, unless she does ?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:02:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mktfjk3'}, {'comment_id': 'mktg2qn', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""Do you think you can ask your partner for financial support, while you pursue your jobs far from mom ?? that's what I'm currently doing.."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:05:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mktfvd1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkthcky', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""I think what you need is confidence, confidence when you build your own life.. it'll take time , but once you get it , you'll be able to go no- contact...when the time is right..it'll happen."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:18:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mktg2qn'}]"
1joofwu,2025-04-01T11:16:43,Hopelessness and depression?,"I'm a 20 year old female university student. I have BPD, anxiety, pcos and ADHD. I'm currently taking concerta, prozac, abilify and metformin.

I'm used to being anxious in university but I've been feeling extremely anxious in the past weeks and even worse in the past week. I have feelings of hopelessness and I don't feel like I can accomplish anything. I have been working on my school work a lot but despite all my efforts I can't get anything done or I do very little. Everything takes me times five if not more. I can't sleep, I barely eat and I'm depressed. I'm a very good student but I think I failed two tests this week. I also feel disconnected a lot and time passes very quickly. I have migranes because I forget to eat or drink water.

I'm extremely anxious and exhausted. I'm behind on my schoolwork even though I'm not taking any time off. I feel like I'm on a breaking point. Everything is so heavy and I've been neglecting things like taking a shower. I also have been getting intrusive suicidal thoughts, this has happened before. My psychotherapist and loved ones are aware and I have no suicidal plan.

I have an appointment with my GP tomorrow morning. I just would like to know or prepare for my appointment tomorrow. Is there anything they can do? Can I ask for something specific? I know I will need a medical paper of some sorts for my late assignments but I think I need something else than a change of medication because I feel just falling apart completely.",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joofwu/hopelessness_and_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktgo6j', 'author': 'TougherMF', 'body': ""that sounds like such an overwhelming place to be in. juggling all that, especially while trying to stay on top of school, is tough. i've definitely had moments where even getting through the day felt impossible. sometimes, even though meds and therapy help, they don’t seem to be enough when everything just piles on.\n\nit’s tough, but i believe things can start to feel better once you’ve got the right balance of support, rest, and managing the overwhelm. hopefully, your appointment tomorrow gives you some clarity on what will work best for you! you got this."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:11:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1joofwu'}]"
1jooc9f,2025-04-01T11:09:42,I need some help/advice,"I've been thinking about this a whole lot, I know two people who are the ages between 12-13 (they are family friends im 15 years old.) On tiktok there is a repost button meaning you repost videos/photos for other people to see, which also shows who reposted it and when. One of them have been reposting loads of SH tiktoks and just depressing stuff overall, I don't want this to be taken in a bad way.. I just want to know why this is so normalized. There's tiktoks showing ways to hide scars, all the comments are like comparing each others trauma and to me it's kinda messed up how they are normalizing it. I know it's a way for people to cope or it's a way to relate, but today I found out about my cousin who is about 12 years old and she's been reposting these same tiktoks about SH, it's scary too me cause they're so young. It's like this is so normalized, and when I tried sending messages to show that I care, they respond as if they don't need help but deep down I know they just need someone to talk to. I don't know if they are being influenced by the internet because the internet can be a scary place sometimes, there's so much messed up shit on tiktok, I don't know if it's just a thing you go through.. like hormones.. im just so confused. I seriously don't want this post to be taken in a negative way, I'm genuinely concerned, need a better understanding and need some advice.",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jooc9f/i_need_some_helpadvice/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktamq8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for using a content warning. Your post is under review.\n\n---\n**If you are in immediate crisis:**\n- Visit [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for local hotline info.\n- Check [Hotline FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs/) for guidance.\n- Consider posting on r/suicidewatch or messaging their moderators [HERE](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FSuicideWatch).\n\n---\n**For suicidal thoughts or self-harm:**\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/are-you-feeling-suicidal.htm) offers coping tips.\n- You are not alone – see personal stories on YouTube.\n- Practice grounding exercises or listen to your favorite music.\n- Refer to [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for more resources.\n\n**Take care and stay safe!**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:09:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jooc9f'}]"
1jojsu4,2025-04-01T06:53:42,I’m on 9 different medications.,"I’m currently taking several different medications for my mental illnesses. The disorders I deal with range everywhere from ocd, bi polar, anxiety, severe depression, ptsd, adhd and high blood pressure. I’ve had all of these from a very little age. The doctor I use to have would usually just put me on something to get me out the door and I’d come back feeling helpless even more so then there would be another and another thrown my way. I’d constantly be switched back and forth and never really felt listened to or believed in until I finally switched to the one I have now. The woman now has me on Sertraline, Seroquel, Clonidine, Amplodipine and LamoTRIgine. The psychiatrist I seen for the first time since I was younger recommended that I stay on these as they’re all very effective in the same areas and that everything stems from one another. They seem to be helping a lot? For the first time in a long time I actually feel somewhat relieved. I hate taking so many medications though and my family says in the long run I’ll be sorry. I guess I’m more less wanting to know… If your mental health matters enough to you and it’s controlled, would you stop? I mean really? Do you guys consider being on so many medications that bad? I can always try to cut something out but I’d be worried about being in the same boat again. I don’t want to regret helping myself and yet fearing that it’ll cause my organs damage. I just want to stay feeling okay. That’s all I want out of life. I want to be able to handle things.",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jojsu4/im_on_9_different_medications/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkshv5t', 'author': 'Repulsive_Regular_39', 'body': 'Your doc knows best. Bipolar usually requires people to take multiple meds to stabilize.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:32:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jojsu4'}]"
1jontkk,2025-04-01T10:35:37,5 Diagnoses at Once,"I apologize if this is maybe not the place for this but. I just got handed a list of 5 mental health diagnoses from one appointment. To be honest, most of them were expected, and I am relieved. 

But I'm also concerned- how is 45 minutes and a few ""check these boxes"" enough to be accurately diagnosed? Has anyone else received so many from just a first time psychiatrist appointment?",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jontkk/5_diagnoses_at_once/,[]
1jonqtn,2025-04-01T10:30:56,Lowering overall stress and anxiety?,Does anyone have tips on how to lower anxiety and stress as someone who has issues with it? i had GAD but my anxiety and stress are way lower now and I don't have like super high levels of anxiety but I still always worry about everything. Stress is bad for you and I notice the effects stress has on me.how do I stop worrying about everything?,mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jonqtn/lowering_overall_stress_and_anxiety/,[]
1jonmp1,2025-04-01T10:23:32,Trying to deal with sexual abuse,"(Throwaway)

I don't even know where to start. It's a super long story, but, I was just made aware of some serious stuff a few weeks ago. So we'll go with that. 

I'm a full time, single 40ish parent. My child is 15. 

Their father and I were together until 2019. We had a verbal shared custody ""agreement."" I use quotations because he was always in control. Multiple levels of abuse while the 3 of us were together. The abuse continued after we separated.

Unfortunately, the abuse escalated once he moved out and was alone with our daughter. 

She decided to go no contact with him and his family, within 6 weeks of him getting his own place. This was October 2021.

He and I have been in family court since early 2022. Whole other issue. 

Anyway. I'm avoiding bringing this up because it still makes me physically sick. And I'm expediting the worst guilt I've ever felt. 
Last summer, I was finally granted sole parenting, decision making, etc. Within weeks of my child knowing that he and his family really couldn't get to us, they started sharing things. More physical abuse that occurred. From their father, as well as his sister. 

I was made aware of more details as the months went on, since last August. 

⚠️TRIGGER WARNING SA⚠️

3 weeks ago, my child told me that it was worse than they had been sharing.
Their father raped them on 2 occasions. There were other instances of sexual abuse during the 6 weeks they visited his house every other week. 

We filed reports with SVU last week. 

They had him arrested the next day, with charges of sexual assault x2 and aexual interference x2. 

I believe my child, because I believe my child. But also because, their father did the same things to me. My child was never aware of these things, of course. It was once I heard them giving details to their therapist, CAS, and SVU, that I realized. He did to my child, what he couldn't do to me once we separated.

I went way off topic, my apologies. My mind is spinning. 

We're both in therapy. 

I just would love any advice on how to help my child with this. If there is any. 

Thank you if you took the time to read my rambling. I don't have a lot of support and just feel alone and lost. I just want to help my baby. ",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jonmp1/trying_to_deal_with_sexual_abuse/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt5mo2', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for tagging your post with a content warning. This helps us share useful resources and prevent unintended triggers.\n\n*Your post may be held for review.*\n\n\n**Resources:**\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/types-sexual-violence) – Types of sexual violence\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/after-sexual-assault) – What to do after an assault\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/effects-sexual-violence) – Effects of sexual violence\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/recovering-from-rape-and-sexual-trauma.htm) – Recovering from trauma (available in [multiple languages](https://survivorsnetwork.org.uk/resource/survivors-self-help-guide/))\n- [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) – Global helplines\n- Consider visiting r/rape or r/sexualassault for support.\n- [Supporting Survivors](http://www.tstresources.org/supporting-survivors/) – How to support survivors\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:23:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jonmp1'}]"
1jouuof,2025-04-01T18:23:30,Where and how do I start getting better?? How are there so many people in the world that are just able to live?,"I shut down so easily, over the littlest things, I would sometimes faint or freeze in the middle of the road while walking or something like that when I am feeling stressed... and I am often feeling so overwhelmed that I cannot turn on the light in my room... I feel like everything around me makes me want to scream or throw up... Some days I feel like I'm doing the best that I can and I would be proud of myself for that, but really the smallest thing would happen and I would start planning on ending the whole thing... My therapist wants me to try getting a higher paying job, since money is a stress factor for me, (I mostly freelance and I don't earn much..) but how can I do that in this condition?? I used to do something else before this, but I basically got kind of fired after few trips to the ER- What is wrong with me, and how do I fix my life?? ",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jouuof/where_and_how_do_i_start_getting_better_how_are/,[]
1jouq24,2025-04-01T18:17:07,I feel so alone and it is hurting me so bad mentally,"Ok so basically I’m 18 and I’ve never had a relationship, I’ve always been ready or felt it but I’ve never found someone who I automatically got close to until this year. I met her on New Year’s Eve and we went on a college trip in February with some mutual friends and others. We got really close, cuddling in the room with our friends in it falling asleep together holding hands, the whole thing. The flight back she sat next me, we were cuddling, holding hands and watching movies together. I thought this was finally it, i had never felt this good before.

When we got back we spoke everyday as much as we could and called most nights just boosting my thoughts and feelings. I told her how I felt as this was the first time I felt comfortable enough to and she said she needed time which I was obviously fine with. But then she told me a couple of weeks ago she doesn’t like me like that anymore and it really hurt. 

I know it’s silly because we were never official or anything but I felt so comfortable and I thought she did to but now I feel like I was just there to make her feel good. She didn’t actually care how I felt as long as she was happy. And that hurts. I thought this was it. 

Anyway since that day I’ve not been the same, I used to be anxious a lot a couple of years ago and now it’s coming back and it feels so much worse. I am shaking most nights thinking about everything, hating myself for getting so attached. When I am really bad I start to hate her and what she done to me which I really don’t like. 

Sorry if I haven’t really said much about my mental health but if anyone has any tips on how to get over this it will really help me a lot. ",mentalhealth,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jouq24/i_feel_so_alone_and_it_is_hurting_me_so_bad/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkujiu5', 'author': 'No_Constant_1274', 'body': 'You are so young, there’s so much time to make deep connections with people. Work on yourself and developing your hobbies, that makes you an attractive interesting person to other people. Give yourself time! My ex was 21 when we met and he had never had a girlfriend before me and very little experience, but he was wonderful and it was a very deep connection. Time!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:22:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jouq24'}, {'comment_id': 'mkujs7u', 'author': 'itz_jjr', 'body': 'It’s just so hard to give myself time now though that’s the problem. Because it made me feel so good I feel so empty without it which is what’s affecting me mentally so much', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:23:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkujiu5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuk56w', 'author': 'No_Constant_1274', 'body': 'I’ve been there, and it’s okay to feel sad and feel that loss. It doesn’t feel good, but it’s okay to feel it. Time will help it I promise! But it’s okay to mourn that disappointment, listen to sad music and feel your feelings. But, life will go on, and eventually new connections will come your way!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:26:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkujs7u'}]"
1jotwj1,2025-04-01T17:34:36,my sister is a light ass sleeper!!pls!! it is actually driving me insane!!! (Read the whole thing if you can),"So I go to work and school all day and the only time me and my friends can game is between 11pm-3am. Me and my friends talk on discord and react to the game of course but my sister's room is right next to mine and she always gets mad that im loud when shes trying to sleep while im gaming EVEN WHEN I AM NOT EVEN TALKING THAT LOUD!? its SO annoying because me and my friends usually play games that require comms or even horror games. my friends can react and what not but i cant react or make jokes to make the experience more enjoyable due to the fact that im basically whispering into my mic the whole time trying to avoid waking up my sister.
It's just not enjoyable since i can't really talk at my normal voice or react to what's going on in the game which adds to the experience of playing games with my friends. Late night is the only time me and my friends can play and it's just so annoying be this is essentially my only free time to have fun and wind down after a long ass day of working. any tips on suppressing noise of my voice or any ideas??? thank you :)

I know people might call me inconsiderate but the fact i even ask for tips and what not is because IM BEING CONSIDERATE for not wanting to wake my sister up. to add on, SHE EVEN GETS MAD AT ME FOR USING THE BATHROOM LIKE BRUH AM I SUPPOSED TO JUST HOLD MY PEE IN OVERNIGHT OR EVEN WHEN I GET HOME FROM WORK AROUND 11pm LIKE BRUH IM TRYING MY BEST TO BE QUIET BUT I HAVE BRUSH MY FUCKIN TEETH AND CHANGE TO MY SLEEP CLOTHES AND WHAT NOT WHICH REQUIRES A BIT OF NOISE (o!??! it seems like every LITTLE FRICKIN NOISE WAKES HER UP. LIKE ONE TIME I COUGHED A LITTLE AND SHE TEXTS ME ""BE FUCKIN QUIET IM TRYING TO SLEEP"" LIKE DAMN I GUESS I CANT EVEN COUGH TOO?!? it's to the point where im holding in my coughs and pees unless i need to pee or cough so badly then i'll do them. like i said i go to school and work all day. these inconvenient hours is my ONLY free time of the day and the only time me and my friends can even game. i want to have fun and not live a boring, depressing work-filled life. if i could game during the day while she's awake then i would but unfortunately with my busy schedule i cannot do that. like i said i still wanna have my fun and unfortunately my only free time is during the late night hours. i work 5-6 days a week and go to school 4 days a week while working my second job from home 3 days a week and can never have my fun time. playing games with my friends really helps me recover mentally after a long day. I have severe depression and panic disorder so gaming with friends really helps me a lot. This whole ordeal with her getting mad at every little noise even with things i can’t really control (like needing to pee or coughing or getting off work late) is actually driving me insane!!! my mental health is already bad but this adds onto it!! Thank you for those who actually read the whole thing :)",mentalhealth,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jotwj1/my_sister_is_a_light_ass_sleeperpls_it_is/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkudt39', 'author': 'almilz25', 'body': 'I would try talking to her, try to suggest you’ll work to be quieter but maybe she can add a fan to her room to help minimize the noise. \n\nMaybe you could also consider moving and being a roommate with one of your friends who’s schedule aligns more with yours', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:43:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotwj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuk05q', 'author': 'sheinammz', 'body': 'I totally get how frustrating this situation is. You’re juggling so much—work, school, and a second job—so of course, you need that time to unwind. It’s not just gaming; it’s your mental reset, your way to connect with friends and shake off the stress of the day.\n\nFor the noise issue, maybe try some soundproofing hacks—like putting a towel under your door, rearranging furniture to absorb sound, or even using a noise gate on Discord so your mic only picks up your voice when needed. If your sister is super sensitive to noise, maybe some white noise or a fan in her room could help mask small sounds.\n\nAnd honestly, when everything feels scrambled and my mental health sucks, my go-to place is Tellapy. It’s been a lifesaver for me when I just need to get things off my chest or sort through the mental chaos. If you ever need a space to vent without feeling judged, it might help.\n\nYou’re not being inconsiderate—you’re just trying to have a life outside of work and responsibilities. You deserve that. Hope you find a way to make it work!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:25:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotwj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuf0tq', 'author': 'Bayjae', 'body': 'i’ll try to ask her to get a fan or something that produces white noise. Also coincidentally in the process of looking for a place with two of my friends who are also my co-workers but being in california we are having trouble lol but we are trying. Also i appreciate the reply. thank you :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:52:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mkudt39'}]"
1jotitl,2025-04-01T17:13:56,Lost drivers license and flying privilege,"They are cracking down on this hard.  I was about to buy a car and found out my license was suspended because I didn't tell them I was schizoaffective. I have been working and living on my own the last decade even though I've been off medication.  Tried to fly out for the weekend and was informed by TSA that I'm on a no fly list probably because of Mt diagnosis. 

I'm trespassed from the airport now and my job is at the airport. At Amazon
",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jotitl/lost_drivers_license_and_flying_privilege/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkua3mc', 'author': 'izza123', 'body': 'I don’t think people are put on the no fly list simply because of diagnosis, did you ever have an incident at an airport or on a plane?', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:16:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotitl'}]"
1jotf0y,2025-04-01T17:07:56,Has anyone ever felt this way before?,"Hi, I'm sorry if the flair doesn't exactly match. I've been feeling really weird lately, like I'm in some kind of episode I've never been in before. 

I've been incredibly irritable, quick to lose my temper, not recognizing myself or others (at least, not relating them to me as a person), feeling disconnected from reality, and my head keeps telling me to ruin everything I've built for myself. 

Specifically with my boyfriend, the past few days every time i interact with him, my head screams at me that I'm not in love with him anymore, and it hurts so much because I know it's not true. I know i love him. I know I want our life together and I know I love everything we've built together. But my head still won't stop screaming at me to tell him i'm not in love with him anymore, or to tell him how I'm feeling, but I know that would completely ruin everything. 

I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety, but I've never had an episode like this. I'll be irritable occasionally, but never to this extent. Every little thing is setting me off. It's not normal.

I've also been feeling completely disconnected from my body, and who I am as a person. I looked at a picture of my baby brother the other day, and I didn't recognize him. I looked at my boyfriend earlier today, and i had no idea who I was looking at. I even looked at myself in the mirror, and I had no idea who was staring back at me. 

I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this before, or if there's any way to help it. I won't be able to get in touch with a doctor for at least a week, but this voice in my head is making life so difficult. I live with my boyfriend, we share a bed, we do everything together. I just don't know what to do. ",mentalhealth,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jotf0y/has_anyone_ever_felt_this_way_before/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkuejxp', 'author': 'sheinammz', 'body': 'Hey, I just want to say that you’re not alone in this. What you’re describing sounds incredibly difficult, and I truly hope you can find some relief soon. When I was struggling with feeling disconnected from myself and my emotions,  Tellapy helped me process my thoughts in a way that felt safe and validating. Sometimes just getting it all out in a space where I could reflect on my own experiences helped me see things more clearly. If you ever want to explore something like that, it might be worth a try. You deserve support and understanding, and I hope you’re able to get the help you need soon. Sending you strength!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:48:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotf0y'}, {'comment_id': 'mkugka7', 'author': 'Adventurous-Plan9841', 'body': 'Have you been under a lot of stress lately? Or possibly more mild stress over a long period of time? A lot on your plate, or possibly life-changing stuff recently?\n\nNot that I want to say it’s ‘just’ stress or something, that feels really reductive to what you very much experience regardless of the cause. It’s hard for me to know for sure what it is, but I do know at least that chronic stress can lead to rather radical shifts in behavior when it hits a tipping point, kind of like what people usually call a “burnout”.\n\nI especially recognize how mindful you are of your behavior. It may be a part of what has you feeling so disconnected, if something is drastically affecting your emotional state in a way you aren’t used to at all. But like I said, I can’t be sure, and I’m open to hearing more, like if any of this seems to make a bit of sense to your experience, or if there’s anything else you think could be affecting it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:02:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jotf0y'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuequp', 'author': 'KittyAmorArts', 'body': ""Thank you, I'll definitely take a look into that! I'm waiting on my insurance to kick in before I can really do much."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:50:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mkuejxp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuh3a6', 'author': 'KittyAmorArts', 'body': ""Come to think of it, yeah. For the last 3 months I've been having a lot of trouble getting a job. I've literally applied to everything within a 10 minute driving radius (because of the bus routes). No hits. My boyfriend keeps bringing it up, it's one of the things that keeps getting me irritated. And with my insurance not kicking in, and the way my body keeps wrapping out on me when I can't go to a doctor, yeah. I would say that's a decent amount of stress buildup. Could that really cause something like this?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:06:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkugka7'}]"
1jot7jj,2025-04-01T16:55:40,I only just realised that I’m a terrible person,"I’m 17f who graduated high school last year, during this time my friends and I would bully people verbally and sometimes even physically. 

I thought I was the victim because I thought I had toxic friends, I always made a point not join in with them, but I just stood there and laughed which makes me no better than them.  

I’m a coward without my friend with me, I was quiet,kept to myself and would be nice to the same people we would torment. 

I’m disgusted in myself, only a few months ago I realised what a terrible person I am. 
I’m so fucking guilty, but that doesn’t excuse my actions. 

I’m extremely depressed all I do is sitting around smoking weed and drinking hoping it will make me feel better, even tho I know it won’t help. 




",mentalhealth,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jot7jj/i_only_just_realised_that_im_a_terrible_person/,"[{'comment_id': 'mku9hem', 'author': 'jamie29ky', 'body': ""You were a teenager doing dumb teenager stuff. You're still a teenager, and you already reflect back and see what you did wrong and feel bad, which is better than A LOT of people. Terrible people dont feel bad about what they did. And good thing you are still growing as a person (thats a lifelong thing for most) you have plenty of chances to act how you wish you would have in the past."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:11:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jot7jj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkucgdq', 'author': 'big0ugli', 'body': 'make it a point to be nice to everybody, especially those people and build your karma back up :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:34:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jot7jj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuj9pv', 'author': 'DaRealJelly', 'body': 'Maybe try apologizing to the people you bullied and cut off your toxic friends \n\nThis will not reverse or make up for anything, but it will at least show your character and begin to start moving in the right direction', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:20:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jot7jj'}]"
1josuvl,2025-04-01T16:34:07,What is Mental health?,"Mental health refers to our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and behave, as well as how we handle stress, relate to others, and make decisions. Just like physical health, mental health is something we all have, and it can fluctuate depending on life circumstances, stress, and other factors.

Good mental health doesn’t mean feeling happy all the time it’s about being able to cope with life’s challenges, maintain relationships, and function in daily life. Mental health issues, like anxiety, depression, or stress, are common and nothing to be ashamed of. Seeking help, whether through therapy, support systems, or self-care, is a crucial part of maintaining well-being.

How do you define mental health, and what do you do to take care of yours?",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1josuvl/what_is_mental_health/,[]
1jostbr,2025-04-01T16:31:40,Thoughts on undiagnosed issue,"I am 27F , in a lovely happy marriage and no real issues in life other than on a weight loss journey and currently down 50lbs out of a goal of 100. 

After years of struggling with depression, I am finally genuinely happy with my life. I am on Wellbutrin which helps immensely. 

My issue now, is perfectionism. I am extremely hard on myself if I make a mistake. I own my own home bakery and messed up on a clients payment due date (not even the pick up date) and it ruined my whole day because I made a mistake. The amount of anxiety it caused me and talking poorly to myself was extreme for such a small mistake in which the customer was totally fine with. 

I could name 100 other small examples but the point is, no matter how small the mistake I completely freak out and get nauseated, anxious, shakey and sometimes even hyperventilating. The most extreme cases are usually in a professional setting but it does happen in my personal life. If I burn the chicken a little for dinner I just think I am a failure and the worst person in the world. Meanwhile my husband does not care at all and would eat it and say thank you for making dinner. 

So I just don’t know wtf this is… it’s not depression, it’s kind of anxiety? But it’s ONLY induced if I make a mistake. Some form of OCD maybe? Or maybe just poor self confidence? I am completely okay if my day doesn’t go perfectly as long as I am not the cause of it basically.",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jostbr/thoughts_on_undiagnosed_issue/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkugtsu', 'author': 'sheinammz', 'body': 'I can 100% relate to what you’re feeling. I’ve been in your shoes—overanalyzing every tiny mistake and feeling like it defines me, even when no one else sees it that way. It’s exhausting, and no matter how much I accomplished, I still felt like I had to be *perfect*.\n\nWhat helped me was —having a space to unload my thoughts and process them in a way that didn’t feel overwhelming. It gave me a clearer perspective and helped me break out of that perfectionist spiral. If you’re looking for a way to work through these feelings, it might be worth trying. Just know that making mistakes doesn’t make you any less incredible. You’ve accomplished so much, and you deserve grace, too. 💛', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:04:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jostbr'}]"
1joskid,2025-04-01T16:15:54,Going back to therapy,I did the really scary thing yesterday and signed up for therapy/medication evaluation after avoiding it due to fear for three years. I’m very proud of myself ,mentalhealth,5,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joskid/going_back_to_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mku3fwl', 'author': 'Wintermoon54', 'body': ""You should be hon that's great!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:21:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1joskid'}, {'comment_id': 'mkubgco', 'author': 'AAanonymousse', 'body': 'As you should! It takes great courage to do so!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:26:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1joskid'}]"
1jositb,2025-04-01T16:12:45,How do i get the energy to try again?,"For context, im a 24 y/o who has struggled with chronic pain and mental illness. I have been applying for disability and been getting denied, with a deadline for my lease being up next year, and i could become homeless.

Here is the thing. Im exhausted. Beyond exhausted. Putting my all into my case to be denied over and over, to be reminded that im not deserving of help. 

I want to quit everything. I feel so tired of trying. But a part of me doesnt want to quit- i know the sooner i call a disability lawyer or a housing program, the better my chances are. But it feels like id rather gnaw my arm off than take another chance at reaching out for help, only to be denied. Ive been so depressed and fatigued for so long. Ive been fighting for bare minimum for so long. Im tired. I cant die but im cant really live. Im just surviving. 

How do i change this? How do i get back my energy and motivation to do these difficult things, even if they go poorly? It feels like i cant take another hit, but i know these things (lawyer, housing) can be time sensitive. Its difficult to stay motivated when you do 300% of the work and get denied anyways.",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jositb/how_do_i_get_the_energy_to_try_again/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkueo1k', 'author': 'PlantPweredTherapist', 'body': 'It sounds like you’ve been working hard! I’m proud of you, that is incredibly difficult when you are dealing with medical and psychiatric issues. I’m in the process of being diagnosed with narcolepsy 1, everything is a struggle when your health isn’t good.\n\nI think you need some help. In my area (north eastern United States), people with diagnosed mental illness can be assigned a service coordinator. They do basically anything, including applying for housing, disability, and supporting you with calling lawyers. There is also a thing called SOAR, who help with getting people disability. These things may be available in your area. If not, you may have things that are similar.\n\nI’ve seen people in your situation get help. You can’t do this all on your own.\n\nYou can ask your primary care physician or therapist for help with these things. In my area, you can also call Social Security or the Department of Aging & Mental Health for assistance. You could also go to a mental health crisis walk-in center and ask them for help, they have people who can help you apply to stuff like this.\n\nKeep going. You only have to do this alone for a little longer. We are all rooting for you.\n\nEdit to add that pretty much everyone gets denied for disability the first time. Some people, multiple times in a row. Don’t feel isolated, there’s a big group of people that this happens to. Next time you fill out disability paperwork, write everything as the worst it’s ever been. That way, they take you “more seriously,“ for lack of a better term.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:49:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jositb'}]"
1josakd,2025-04-01T15:57:08,reputation ruined,"i have been struggling with mental illness and to cope i started eating weed edibles very occasionally, i am a disciplined person who can control themselves around substances, but unfortunately i got caught high by a friend who isnt very emotionally intelligent.

he told people who hold me high in regards of intelligence and now my reputation is somewhat ruined as my friends don't want to visit my house anymore, believing i'm having somekind of crisis.

when i say this friend is emotionally unintelligent i am being very serious, they have no remorse when they do wrong and cant take accountability, they are quick to gossip and have never truly had any meaningful relationships because they don't undertsand anything truly profound, and i dont mean to be rude but this guy is a real fucking asshole,

he said that my whole house was dirty apparently (he has no respect for me or my property, eats chips in the bed, leaves stuff around my house) which is why it was dirty,

says i'm not in school (i moved schools, never left the entire education system obviously)

and now meaningful relationships ive held with intelligent people are dissolving because he wanted some fucking social credit that utter loser",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1josakd/reputation_ruined/,[]
1jorrn1,2025-04-01T15:21:42,Relapsed after 4 months,"I don't even know why I did it, I'm really busy with school work and I think I needed something to keep me focused, the pain tends to help. That or I'm just bored. It was stupid of me to own razor blades, I do actually use them for their real purpose but I don't know why I thought I'd be able to stop myself. I'm also not sure why I'm posting this, I think it's because I'm lonely but also as a landmark for myself, either to see how far I've come or how far I've fallen.

Thanks for listening ",mentalhealth,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorrn1/relapsed_after_4_months/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktxhg1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for using a content warning. Your post is under review.\n\n---\n**If you are in immediate crisis:**\n- Visit [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for local hotline info.\n- Check [Hotline FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs/) for guidance.\n- Consider posting on r/suicidewatch or messaging their moderators [HERE](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FSuicideWatch).\n\n---\n**For suicidal thoughts or self-harm:**\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/are-you-feeling-suicidal.htm) offers coping tips.\n- You are not alone – see personal stories on YouTube.\n- Practice grounding exercises or listen to your favorite music.\n- Refer to [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for more resources.\n\n**Take care and stay safe!**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:21:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorrn1'}, {'comment_id': 'mktydzd', 'author': 'AAanonymousse', 'body': 'hey, it’s okay. It already happened, and you can’t change the past, but you can change your future. It’s brave to even come out here and admit you did it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:31:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorrn1'}, {'comment_id': 'mktyruc', 'author': 'Scramsoso', 'body': ""Thanks, doesn't feel particularly brave lol but you're right I just gotta keep moving forward I guess, not that I have a lot of choice"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:35:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mktydzd'}]"
1jornfi,2025-04-01T15:12:56,Medication poop out,"Hi guys,

I have been on Clomipramine for nearly two years and it has been effectively blocking out my bad thoughts or the anxiety regarding the bad thoughts. However, for the last month or so - it has come back and my bad thoughts or anxiety is not being blocked out.

My gut feeling is that the medication has well and truly stopped because before I would have super bad times mood wise but the bad thoughts wouldn’t come back. 

Has anyone ever had Clomipramine or another long-term anti-depressant stop working - where did you go from this? My Psychiatrist said Clomipramine is the last resort. 



",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jornfi/medication_poop_out/,[]
1jorm6u,2025-04-01T15:10:29,I am in over my head,"Over the past 3 years my (23m) life has been declining rapidly. I've lost it all. Every month I feel like Im dragging my already dead body through glass and salt. 

I get max 4 hours of sleep a day. If I try to get more my body will naturally wake up every 30 minutes without fail, on the dot. But everytime I do wake up it's either from myself screaming or hyperventilating. I don't remember if I had a nightmare. Idk if a brain can even produce nightmares within 30 minutes. 

My living situation isn't the worst. I mean, I don't live in Palestine and i dont get treated like cattle. But for an American my age it's not ideal. I'm practically homeless, without a car. I'm living in an abandoned cabin in the woods. I take care of it, but it's not mine. 

It can't be good for my psyche. If I had to give anyone a deep dive into what my mind feels like, there are multiple conversations going on at all times. They aren't muffled, they talk over eachother but it's as tho I am there for every single one solo style. It's flooding with negativity.

My coworkers call me schizophrenic but I am not diagnosed, nor do I see or hear things. My days consists of 20 hour long panic attacks, sometimes causing me to cry on my floor from the overwhelming depression and guilt. 

I am sober. I used to not be, but I am not. More times than not I get accused of doing meth. Or crack. Or some fucked shit. But I am not. When I did drink, I was a completely different person. Not after the drinks, but my life when I did. I used to be 250 pounds and partied like crazy.

Now I am 120 pounds. I can't eat. If I try i gag and shake and my brain shuts down. I am hungry. I can't eat. I mainly eat uncrustables and drink unsweetened tea. And that's it. I can't handle any more.

I just want to be healthy. I want to gain weight. I want my own home to care for. I miss my ex. I should've married her. I miss my friends. I should've been there for them more.",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorm6u/i_am_in_over_my_head/,[]
1jorhfx,2025-04-01T15:00:52,What is this scary inner voice im experiencing?,"Hey I always wanted to ask others if they experience something similar this always forgot about it again since it happens so extremely rarely.  
  
 Sometimes (I guess when overstimulated) I experience this scary as hell inner voice. Like it feels not like my own and like my heart is clenching. The voice is the same I remember as a reoccuring person from my childhood nightmares.  
  
I can't even really discern if it is a voice or just a feeling really, but it makes me very uncomfortable. There is only one time from when I was very young that I explicitly remember that it was very rudely commenting on everything I did and I got hella spooked. 

The anxiety it gives me when it happens feels very similar to situations where I get completely overstimulated and lose all ability to focus.

So what is this scary voice, can anyone relate?",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorhfx/what_is_this_scary_inner_voice_im_experiencing/,[]
1jorbtx,2025-04-01T14:49:03,Hallucinations. No one. I'm f***ed.,"I am currently in tears. My whole body is shaking so goddamn much. I don't know what the f*** just happened.

Ever since I relapsed at the beggining of February, I've been having small hallucinations. (Whispers, objects melting, 'wiggly' vision...) It didn't worry me at first, but it's getting worse...WAY WORSE.

I'll try to explain the best I can, I hope it'll make sense...Even though none of this makes any f***ing sense.

I was in bed, laying on my left side. There were three shadows. A grey one, and two black ones.
The grey one was laying next to me in bed. The first black shadow was standing infront of my bed, at my feet, while the second one was behind my back, slightly over me while standing.

What terrifies me? I was talking to them like they were my friends. I can't recall them ever answering, yet we had a whole conversation...I felt happy. For the first time in months...

It lasted AN HOUR. When I got out of it, I SOBBED. I am f***ing terrified. My psy moved out of town, far from where I live, and I'm back on the waiting list. I have no professionals to talk to, and I refuse to go to the hospital because they'll send me back to the psychward.

In short, I'm f***ed.",mentalhealth,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jorbtx/hallucinations_no_one_im_fed/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktujui', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for using a content warning. Your post is under review.\n\n---\n**If you are in immediate crisis:**\n- Visit [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for local hotline info.\n- Check [Hotline FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs/) for guidance.\n- Consider posting on r/suicidewatch or messaging their moderators [HERE](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FSuicideWatch).\n\n---\n**For suicidal thoughts or self-harm:**\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/are-you-feeling-suicidal.htm) offers coping tips.\n- You are not alone – see personal stories on YouTube.\n- Practice grounding exercises or listen to your favorite music.\n- Refer to [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for more resources.\n\n**Take care and stay safe!**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:49:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorbtx'}, {'comment_id': 'mktwh7g', 'author': 'Sea-Spell-3730', 'body': 'I’ve experienced this a while ago. The part that worried me so much is that I wasn’t scared of them. One lady was talking to me and giving me advice but I can’t recall anything she said. \nI was saw a black shadow laying down in bed too but didn’t say a word. \n\nI think I need to share that with my therapist and I hope that you find the support you need!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:10:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorbtx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkufn1j', 'author': 'AdFun2372', 'body': 'it sounds like you’re having a difficult time right now and I can understand how jarring it is to suddenly lose your support system. If you’d like to talk I’ll be here', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:56:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorbtx'}]"
1joqs76,2025-04-01T14:07:55,Sport/Exercise Burnout and Mental Health,"Hi everyone!

I’m a 32 year old female, and I’ve been doing CrossFit for just over two years. I absolutely love my box, the community is amazing and I’ve made some great friends. My ideal schedule is 4 WODs per week, and I’m the kind of person who has to give 110% in every session.

Unfortunately over the last year my health has taken a bad turn. I’ve had really bad fatigue, sleep issues, dizziness and bad anxiety and depression. I’m undiagnosed ADHD, but I think this has cause a flare up in symptoms too. I feel terrible most days at the gym even after a good sleep and eating clean, and I’m constantly in fight or flight mode. I’ve had countless blood tests and body scans done which all say I’m healthy, so I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m overtraining.

I’ve finally decided (with an absolute struggle) that I need to give my body time to recover. But I have some overwhelming worries, and I’m concerned that I may rush back to do a WOD too soon. I’ve come to realise that it’s almost like an addiction.

My biggest concerns are:

That I’ve built up a reputation for being dedicated, strong and a top performer, that I’ll be forgotten about and that others will come in and outperform me when I’m away.

That I’ll lose all of my “gains” and skills if I need to take several months away, and that I won’t look as toned and muscular as I do now.

That I’ll lose my mind and have nothing to fill my time with and nothing to focus on or achieve. I work in an office every day, but I hate my job and I’m struggling to get interviews for a new one.

That my friends at the gym will forget about me if they don’t see me every day and that I’ll maybe miss out on informal invites to socialise. I’ve always struggled making friends, so I don’t want to lose them.

That it’s unclear how long it will take me to feel better, or if I return to CrossFit after a period of time I will get unwell again and never be able to perform at the same level. I’m scared that I’ve done permanent damage to my body/mind and that I won’t ever fully recover.

I’d really appreciate any advice to address my worries so that I avoid intense exercise for a while and any tips on how to talk to myself as I want to avoid flare ups of anxiety and depression during this time. 

If you have a shared experience, I’d love to hear from you too!

Much love 🙏
",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joqs76/sportexercise_burnout_and_mental_health/,[]
1joq1jd,2025-04-01T13:12:04,Relationship problems affecting my mental health.,"My ex is with my old friend, and trying to get back with me, after cheating on me 14 times. She was my first relationship, and she really fucked me up. Lasted 10 months, ended two months ago. I'm trying to get serious with a girl named Chloe, who has Terrible mental health but is the best person. I really like her, and we act like were together but she says she doesnt want ""labels."" And then there's a girl named Tenley that I think is actual relationship material, but lives have a province away. Also my friends are trying to get me with some girl named Giovanni and some girl named Emma. What is happening.",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joq1jd/relationship_problems_affecting_my_mental_health/,[]
1jopx1x,2025-04-01T13:02:40,"The pros of SSRIs are worth the cons, but it still sucks balls.","I take an SSRI for OCD. The particular SSRI is actually a fairly mild one, and I’m on a low-medium dose. I’ve been taking it for about two and a half years now. It literally saved me from OCD. Without medication, OCD makes my life utterly horrible. I cannot describe how painful my life was without medication. I can never go back to that. That being said, the emotional blunting from SSRIs SUCKS BALLS. I feel no joy and I feel very little pleasure in things I know I enjoyed before. But I still feel anger, irritation, exhaustion, and disappointment.

My life feels like I am going through a fast food drive through, dealing with the irritations of doing so, such as waiting in a long line, dealing with bad drivers in line, ordering food and having the wrong order displayed on the screen, etc. except when I get to the window to get my food, I don’t get any food. And that’s my life every day: a drive-through where you deal with the annoyances and pay for your food but never get it.

I can’t go off of my medication, but life also doesn’t feel worth living when I’m on the medication.",mentalhealth,5,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jopx1x/the_pros_of_ssris_are_worth_the_cons_but_it_still/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktoud7', 'author': 'ChildhoodLeft6925', 'body': 'Maybe you’re not on the right SSRI. \n\nI tried them all. Couldn’t cum on Zoloft. Felt like a crackhead on Wellbutrin. Turned out first gen lexapro worked best for me.\n\nRecently added mirtazapine. That was a game changer. \n\nZoloft I felt very numb like you’re describing.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:42:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jopx1x'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz2v1', 'author': 'LOTR_is_awesome', 'body': 'Why did you add the other med?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mktoud7'}]"
1jopub0,2025-04-01T12:57:05,Am i overreacting?,"I'm isolated for quite some time now, and yeah i do step out few times but most of the time i rot at home.

I . Don't know how to talk about this but, 
Just wanna get this off my chest.
I lost my dad last year and since then things have been different to me, i didn't had access to that ""Teenage Phase"" where you hang out with ur friends, and do stuff you remember nd laugh on... 

On top of that i have no support at home, my mother doesn't understand the concept of ""Emotionally Absent"".
She just wants me to do every task like a machine and study for lik 7 hrs a day.

I do some filming nd sketching to distract myself but when the night falls, im again there questioning myself.

I have some 2-3 online peeps whom i talk to but they ghost me most of the time, thru out the day they don't even bother to drop a single text. If i text first the convo will go on or else it won't.

I understand everyone have a life beyond internet too but what about those who don't? 

It's not like i want them to talk to me 24/7 but is it so much to expect someone talk to you for 15 min straight? No ghosting, no late replies.

And i get it, most of the users here are here for their own fun, their own interests, not to be available to listen someone yapp.

What do i do then?
It feels like I'm locked in a quiet white room. 
Go to therapy? Well..i can't afford it, also at the end they too will suggest me to socialize. 

But what's the point when no one wants to socialize with me? 

Just how many times will i knock the door over and over again? 


Should i just get used to the fact that there's no help available at all, no one cares to listen to you and u should just gulp it down until it tears you apart?
",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jopub0/am_i_overreacting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktlaxa', 'author': 'TrueBuraz', 'body': 'Sent a dm', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:02:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jopub0'}]"
1jopmw7,2025-04-01T12:41:41,"""Mental Health Isn’t a Luxury—It’s a Necessity. Start Valuing It!""","**5 Important Habits That Can Change Your Life**

Good habits help us live better. The book *5 Killer Habits* by Sree Krishna Seelam discusses some important habits that can make life more successful and happy. Here are some simple lessons from the book that can help everyone.

# 1. Wake Up Early

Many successful people say that waking up early is very helpful. The morning is peaceful, and our mind is fresh, which makes it a great time to study, exercise, or plan the day. Science also says that our brain works better in the morning. Waking up early can make a big difference in life.

# 2. Helping Others

Doing good things for others makes life more meaningful. Helping poor people, teaching kids, or cleaning the surroundings are small ways to make the world better. Teaching children to be kind and helpful will make them better people in the future. Even a small act of kindness can bring happiness.

# 3. Taking Care of Nature

Keeping our surroundings clean is very important. We must treat every place with care and not leave trash behind. Our time on Earth is short, but the environment stays forever. Taking small steps like using less plastic, saving water, and keeping places clean can help protect nature.

# 4. Step out of Your Comfort Zone and become a dromomaniac

Traveling and trying new things help us learn. In the past, kings sent their sons on long trips to understand people’s lives. Today, young people should travel, meet new people, and face real-life challenges. These experiences make us smarter and stronger in decision-making.

# 5. Think for Yourself

Many old beliefs do not make sense today. Some people follow traditions without questioning them. It is important to think and learn instead of just believing everything. Some people use religion and superstitions to fool others. Instead of believing blindly, we should use logic. The best way to live is to respect all people and focus on being good rather than following myths.

# Conclusion

The book *5 Killer Habits,* written by Mr. Sree Krishna Seelam, teaches us how to improve ourselves, help society, and think wisely. Learning new things and making good decisions can help us live better lives. Knowledge is the most powerful thing; if used correctly, it can change the world.",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jopmw7/mental_health_isnt_a_luxuryits_a_necessity_start/,[]
1jop4ce,2025-04-01T12:03:42,How do you fight back violent intrusive thoughts...when the source of it all is the people you live with but cannot escape?,"I am aware this has been asked a few times before, but I'd like to believe this iteration is a little different.

I suffer from violent intrusive thoughts, the likes of which I simply cannot describe here. They are vivid and I often find myself fighting to avoid acting it out. Sometimes, I can feel what happens despite being unscathed outside of this.

This problem has affected my ability to safely dream or daydream: As I have researched and discussed elsewhere, any and all fiction I create results in me being cast aside or otherwise isolated so as not to affect anyone in it: Someone recently summarized this as isolation and abandonment. The result is that I have stopped trying to conjure the fiction altogether: Just because I create it does not mean I have any right to be a part of it, as everyone in it would purposely demonstrate.

The violent intrusive thoughts are due to the people I live around and cannot escape, and even a few who were a significant part of my life in past times. However, the violence isn't always physical, it is also psychological and social, meaning mindgames and endlessly creative methods of harassment: I have been repeatedly punished for effectively trying to waste people's time by someone wasting *my* time instead, whereas I am nornally pretend-shadowbanned: Denied any engagement whatsoever.

The other side of the isolation and abandonment problem is that because I am stuck around people who effectively do not want me to socially grow and mature, I have been, you guessed it, isolated and abandoned because I am beyond help at this point. This further affects the fiction I am a part of as those in it do not so much as give me a chance: Why would they?

The clear solution is to get the hell away from these people, but I simply cannot afford to in this economy, and I also cannot actively work on myself in an attempt to solve the social part of it: They are extremely allergic to people they did not vet, even if they are miles away, it's like petting a cat and coming back home to your own cat, only for it to lose it's mind because it smelled the previous cat on your hand.

What should I do to fight this problem, assuming I cannot leave or network my way out of it, and assuming I even *could* fight the problem?",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jop4ce/how_do_you_fight_back_violent_intrusive/,[]
1jop2nf,2025-04-01T12:00:23,Looking for Compassionate People With Personal Mental Health Experience (Paid Opportunity),"Hey everyone,

I’m working on [Kuky](https://app.kuky.com/), a peer support community where people connect based on shared mental health and personal growth experiences. We use **real-time video transcription and sentiment analysis** to help create meaningful conversations in a safe space.

We’re looking for **kind, empathetic people** to join as **support mentors**—not therapists or professionals, just everyday people who want to help others by listening and sharing their own experiences. You’ll be compensated for your time and effort.

🔹 **What You’d Do:**

* Join discussions and provide emotional support.
* Help foster a welcoming, understanding space.
* No professional background needed—just empathy and life experience.

💡 **Who It’s For:**

* If you’ve navigated mental health challenges, personal growth, or tough life experiences and want to support others, this could be a great fit.

💰 **Compensation:**

* We value your time and will **pay for your participation** (details can be discussed based on availability and involvement).

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, **comment below**!",mentalhealth,6,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jop2nf/looking_for_compassionate_people_with_personal/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktft8s', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:02:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mktgx0t', 'author': 'Pagalskincarelover', 'body': 'If there are genuine people who need a kind ear, i would love to help. I will even do it for free.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:13:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mktky0d', 'author': 'hsb10072', 'body': 'Sounds like an app i actually need… i am going to join as mentor / users!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:58:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mku3koa', 'author': 'Ok_Strawberry_9627', 'body': 'This is such a great opportunity! If you’re someone with personal experience navigating mental health challenges and personal growth, this could be a meaningful way to give back and support others. I highly recommend checking it out if you have the empathy and life experience to help create a safe and supportive community. It’s a wonderful initiative with the added bonus of compensation for your time.....', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:22:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkubneq', 'author': 'Liliana1523', 'body': 'Hello,\n\nI would like to offer emotional support to your people. Please check dm, I have reached out.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:28:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkufvkb', 'author': 'male_butterfly', 'body': ""I'm interested!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:58:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jop2nf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkthepz', 'author': 'anehzat', 'body': 'thanks, just sent you a DM', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:19:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mktft8s'}, {'comment_id': 'mktkpn0', 'author': 'hsb10072', 'body': 'How kind of you! The world needs more people like you', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:55:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mktgx0t'}, {'comment_id': 'mkthv4x', 'author': 'anehzat', 'body': 'we need all the help we can get, here are some genuine users [https://app.kuky.com/profile/cassandra](https://app.kuky.com/profile/cassandra) who need help & connection [https://app.kuky.com/profile/christina\\_wilson](https://app.kuky.com/profile/christina_wilson)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:24:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mktgx0t'}, {'comment_id': 'mktrmit', 'author': 'Local-Weakness-6486', 'body': ""Hey, its me technoKing369, for some reason my ID got deleted....Could you please reach out to me on this id....I've already registered on Kuky\n\nAwaiting further instructions here"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:15:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkthv4x'}]"
1jootpy,2025-04-01T11:42:51,I wish I can cut my mom out of my life,"I’m 24f and I’ve been dealing with constant stress, anxiety and depression for the past 3 years, all due to my family. My mom and I have a very toxic relationship where a fight happens and we don’t talk for a little while, then she’ll contact me acting like nothing happened. I understand she is my mother, she gave birth to me, she doesn’t hesitate to remind me that whenever she gets angry about something. 

My mother is a terrible person. I feel awful writing this but I know it’s true. She only cares about money, how other people think of her and materialistic things. I on the other hand have very different values. Especially when it comes to dating, I value a good healthy relationship where I admire someone’s personality and kindness rather than how much wealth they have. My mother doesn’t have one ounce of respect for someone who doesn’t have some sort of wealth. My partner is someone I love deeply, during my darkest days where I was very close to ending my life, he was my hope. I’ve told my mom that multiple times and she doesn’t care. 

She’s constantly comparing my partner to other men, saying my standards are too low, he can’t even afford to take you on daily shopping sprees, pressuring me to move back home, calls me a horrible daughter if I don’t want to hang out with her, the list just goes on. 

My depression, stress and anxiety all come from my mom and how she treats me. I feel miserable and scared whenever she asks me to hang out or when she texts me or calls me. I feel my heart beat so fast due to my anxiety. Cutting family members out of your life isn’t a simple decision but if I’m struggling so much just to go about my day to day life because of how bad my mother treats me, is that enough to tell her I wish to not talk to eachother anymore? Or if there a better way to go about things? Please keep in mind, I’ve talked to her thousands of times about how I feel and she acts like she cares and it’s back to square one the next day.. ",mentalhealth,1,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jootpy/i_wish_i_can_cut_my_mom_out_of_my_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktel74', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""Just decrease the amount of contact gradually, give excuses. What a timing, I'm going through similar problems with my family."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:49:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jootpy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkteonn', 'author': 'Impossible_Pea_1419', 'body': 'Im sorry to hear that.. I’ve been doing this recently, faking I have a cold and can’t go to her house etc. but I know it can’t last long 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:50:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mktel74'}, {'comment_id': 'mkteyqu', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""How far do you live from each other?? Hmm that's so hard...let's think of something..like how about, you gradually block her from some social media."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:53:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mkteonn'}, {'comment_id': 'mktf4e6', 'author': 'Impossible_Pea_1419', 'body': 'I don’t drive so it’s like an 1/1.5 hour commute during public transit.. I’ve blocked her on social media for as long as I can remember so that isn’t a big issue I’d say 🥲', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:55:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkteyqu'}, {'comment_id': 'mktff12', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""So there is physical  distance, that's better..next maybe changing your number?? Or maybe look for another job more far??? Do you work ? I'm sorry if i sound indecisive"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:58:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mktf4e6'}, {'comment_id': 'mktfjk3', 'author': 'Impossible_Pea_1419', 'body': 'I’m currently unemployed, the job market is terrible these days.. my mom is the type of person who will call the cops and file a missing report case if I suddenly change my number.. she’s crazy that’s why it’s so hard to just cut of her off', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:59:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mktff12'}, {'comment_id': 'mktfvd1', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""Omg I'm unemployed too , high five !! That makes the situation harder, she obviously doesn't respect your boundaries that's for sure. She doesn't see you as an individual. Have you tried not contacting her, unless she does ?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:02:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mktfjk3'}, {'comment_id': 'mktg2qn', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""Do you think you can ask your partner for financial support, while you pursue your jobs far from mom ?? that's what I'm currently doing.."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:05:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mktfvd1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkthcky', 'author': 'Bhardwaj-littlesub', 'body': ""I think what you need is confidence, confidence when you build your own life.. it'll take time , but once you get it , you'll be able to go no- contact...when the time is right..it'll happen."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:18:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mktg2qn'}]"
1jookzy,2025-04-01T11:26:28,I feel disconnected and can't remember anything,"I'm going to try to describe this in the best way I can, but I'm not sure if this will make sense. It hasn't made sense to anyone else, not even my therapist.

I was a very sentimental kid. I remembered every little detail. Suddenly, a few years ago, I realized that I couldn't remember anything from my childhood. Not just that, but I didn't feel connected to anyone anymore. Not my loved ones or my bestest friends. There was a huge disconnect from my reality. I no longer felt like myself on any level. 

Flash forward to now. I am doing better mentally. I was going through a lot at the time. I thought that getting help and receiving medication would help with my memory. It didn't. My memory is getting increasingly worse, and I truly can't remember what I did earlier in the day. I often forget if I have taken my medication or where I placed my keys, phone, or card. It feels like there's a weird void in me where there should be a pool of memories.  
Also, I want to mention that if I do have a ""memory"", I cannot visually see it in my head. It's more like I remember a story that someone else told me; So less like I'm remembering and more like I'm reciting it. If that make sense at all? And I did go through a trauma when I was around 12-13, but my memory did not start getting worse until around 3-4 years after that.

If anyone can tell me what this may mean or what I can do, then I would forever be grateful. It's getting to the point where it's affecting me on such a deep level that I can't fully articulate. I just want to feel like again.",mentalhealth,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jookzy/i_feel_disconnected_and_cant_remember_anything/,[]
1jook8b,2025-04-01T11:25:00,"I'm so caught up in distracting myself, that idk how to be mindful","I find myself so caught up in work and finances and interests like coffee to distract myself from my bad thoughts. I hate myself and don't want to sit still with my thoughts. I feel depressed, I don't like how I look, wish I could trust other people, and was traumatized at a really young age. I keep living life trying to keep myself occupied and whenever I'm not occupied, I feel shitty and just want to sleep. I want to be trusting, and be able to read books, and not fight so hard to remember to care how I look in the mirror. When I'm alone with my thoughts, everything's in black & white without any color. The most I can do in a day is beat a video game level if opening the game isn't enough of a struggle on its own, and I want to change that. Just simply pushing myself clearly isn't working. I just distract myself more. I'm stuck on auto-pilot and doing everything I can to only think about the moment or whatever thing from my small list of things I'm trying to keep focused on again for the upteenth time.",mentalhealth,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jook8b/im_so_caught_up_in_distracting_myself_that_idk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktgeb4', 'author': 'TougherMF', 'body': ""yeah, i totally get what you're saying... it's so easy to just dive into distractions like work or even coffee just to avoid dealing with the tough stuff. trust me, i've been there. i tried a lot of things to feel less overwhelmed—pills, meditation, trying to push through... but a lot of times that just made everything worse or felt like it was masking the issue. what actually helped me, surprisingly, was using transdermal patches for focus and calm. i was kinda skeptical, but the change was real. having something like that helping me stay a bit more grounded when everything feels so chaotic made a huge difference. if you wanna check it out, [nectar patches](https://nectarpatches.com/) might be worth a shot.\n\nkeep pushing, though. small steps really do add up..."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:08:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jook8b'}]"
1joofwu,2025-04-01T11:16:43,Hopelessness and depression?,"I'm a 20 year old female university student. I have BPD, anxiety, pcos and ADHD. I'm currently taking concerta, prozac, abilify and metformin.

I'm used to being anxious in university but I've been feeling extremely anxious in the past weeks and even worse in the past week. I have feelings of hopelessness and I don't feel like I can accomplish anything. I have been working on my school work a lot but despite all my efforts I can't get anything done or I do very little. Everything takes me times five if not more. I can't sleep, I barely eat and I'm depressed. I'm a very good student but I think I failed two tests this week. I also feel disconnected a lot and time passes very quickly. I have migranes because I forget to eat or drink water.

I'm extremely anxious and exhausted. I'm behind on my schoolwork even though I'm not taking any time off. I feel like I'm on a breaking point. Everything is so heavy and I've been neglecting things like taking a shower. I also have been getting intrusive suicidal thoughts, this has happened before. My psychotherapist and loved ones are aware and I have no suicidal plan.

I have an appointment with my GP tomorrow morning. I just would like to know or prepare for my appointment tomorrow. Is there anything they can do? Can I ask for something specific? I know I will need a medical paper of some sorts for my late assignments but I think I need something else than a change of medication because I feel just falling apart completely.",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joofwu/hopelessness_and_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktgo6j', 'author': 'TougherMF', 'body': ""that sounds like such an overwhelming place to be in. juggling all that, especially while trying to stay on top of school, is tough. i've definitely had moments where even getting through the day felt impossible. sometimes, even though meds and therapy help, they don’t seem to be enough when everything just piles on.\n\nit’s tough, but i believe things can start to feel better once you’ve got the right balance of support, rest, and managing the overwhelm. hopefully, your appointment tomorrow gives you some clarity on what will work best for you! you got this."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:11:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1joofwu'}]"
1jooc9f,2025-04-01T11:09:42,I need some help/advice,"I've been thinking about this a whole lot, I know two people who are the ages between 12-13 (they are family friends im 15 years old.) On tiktok there is a repost button meaning you repost videos/photos for other people to see, which also shows who reposted it and when. One of them have been reposting loads of SH tiktoks and just depressing stuff overall, I don't want this to be taken in a bad way.. I just want to know why this is so normalized. There's tiktoks showing ways to hide scars, all the comments are like comparing each others trauma and to me it's kinda messed up how they are normalizing it. I know it's a way for people to cope or it's a way to relate, but today I found out about my cousin who is about 12 years old and she's been reposting these same tiktoks about SH, it's scary too me cause they're so young. It's like this is so normalized, and when I tried sending messages to show that I care, they respond as if they don't need help but deep down I know they just need someone to talk to. I don't know if they are being influenced by the internet because the internet can be a scary place sometimes, there's so much messed up shit on tiktok, I don't know if it's just a thing you go through.. like hormones.. im just so confused. I seriously don't want this post to be taken in a negative way, I'm genuinely concerned, need a better understanding and need some advice.",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jooc9f/i_need_some_helpadvice/,"[{'comment_id': 'mktamq8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for using a content warning. Your post is under review.\n\n---\n**If you are in immediate crisis:**\n- Visit [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for local hotline info.\n- Check [Hotline FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs/) for guidance.\n- Consider posting on r/suicidewatch or messaging their moderators [HERE](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FSuicideWatch).\n\n---\n**For suicidal thoughts or self-harm:**\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/are-you-feeling-suicidal.htm) offers coping tips.\n- You are not alone – see personal stories on YouTube.\n- Practice grounding exercises or listen to your favorite music.\n- Refer to [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for more resources.\n\n**Take care and stay safe!**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:09:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jooc9f'}]"
1jontkk,2025-04-01T10:35:37,5 Diagnoses at Once,"I apologize if this is maybe not the place for this but. I just got handed a list of 5 mental health diagnoses from one appointment. To be honest, most of them were expected, and I am relieved. 

But I'm also concerned- how is 45 minutes and a few ""check these boxes"" enough to be accurately diagnosed? Has anyone else received so many from just a first time psychiatrist appointment?",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jontkk/5_diagnoses_at_once/,[]
1jonqtn,2025-04-01T10:30:56,Lowering overall stress and anxiety?,Does anyone have tips on how to lower anxiety and stress as someone who has issues with it? i had GAD but my anxiety and stress are way lower now and I don't have like super high levels of anxiety but I still always worry about everything. Stress is bad for you and I notice the effects stress has on me.how do I stop worrying about everything?,mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jonqtn/lowering_overall_stress_and_anxiety/,[]
1jonmp1,2025-04-01T10:23:32,Trying to deal with sexual abuse,"(Throwaway)

I don't even know where to start. It's a super long story, but, I was just made aware of some serious stuff a few weeks ago. So we'll go with that. 

I'm a full time, single 40ish parent. My child is 15. 

Their father and I were together until 2019. We had a verbal shared custody ""agreement."" I use quotations because he was always in control. Multiple levels of abuse while the 3 of us were together. The abuse continued after we separated.

Unfortunately, the abuse escalated once he moved out and was alone with our daughter. 

She decided to go no contact with him and his family, within 6 weeks of him getting his own place. This was October 2021.

He and I have been in family court since early 2022. Whole other issue. 

Anyway. I'm avoiding bringing this up because it still makes me physically sick. And I'm expediting the worst guilt I've ever felt. 
Last summer, I was finally granted sole parenting, decision making, etc. Within weeks of my child knowing that he and his family really couldn't get to us, they started sharing things. More physical abuse that occurred. From their father, as well as his sister. 

I was made aware of more details as the months went on, since last August. 

⚠️TRIGGER WARNING SA⚠️

3 weeks ago, my child told me that it was worse than they had been sharing.
Their father raped them on 2 occasions. There were other instances of sexual abuse during the 6 weeks they visited his house every other week. 

We filed reports with SVU last week. 

They had him arrested the next day, with charges of sexual assault x2 and aexual interference x2. 

I believe my child, because I believe my child. But also because, their father did the same things to me. My child was never aware of these things, of course. It was once I heard them giving details to their therapist, CAS, and SVU, that I realized. He did to my child, what he couldn't do to me once we separated.

I went way off topic, my apologies. My mind is spinning. 

We're both in therapy. 

I just would love any advice on how to help my child with this. If there is any. 

Thank you if you took the time to read my rambling. I don't have a lot of support and just feel alone and lost. I just want to help my baby. ",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jonmp1/trying_to_deal_with_sexual_abuse/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt5mo2', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for tagging your post with a content warning. This helps us share useful resources and prevent unintended triggers.\n\n*Your post may be held for review.*\n\n\n**Resources:**\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/types-sexual-violence) – Types of sexual violence\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/after-sexual-assault) – What to do after an assault\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/effects-sexual-violence) – Effects of sexual violence\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/recovering-from-rape-and-sexual-trauma.htm) – Recovering from trauma (available in [multiple languages](https://survivorsnetwork.org.uk/resource/survivors-self-help-guide/))\n- [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) – Global helplines\n- Consider visiting r/rape or r/sexualassault for support.\n- [Supporting Survivors](http://www.tstresources.org/supporting-survivors/) – How to support survivors\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:23:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jonmp1'}]"
1jonmju,2025-04-01T10:23:17,Can I still be affected?,So when I was 3 I was abused by my drug addicted father. he would beat me and throw glass at me but I do not have any memory of it. However could it still affect me? Even if I have no memory of it? Also when I was 4 I was put on experimental medication I don’t remember what they were but they said they were supposed to help me with my anger issues and my adhd but it was the opposite I am now 19 with very bad memory I don’t feel certain emotions like I should and I get very confused about people I’m not very good with others and when people confess stuff to me I don’t really feel anything I try to comfort them the best I can but it feels awkward I’m not sure if it was the abuse or pills or what but I’m just wondering if the abuse amplified these problems or made new problems even though I don’t remember it I’m just wondering if it had any effect on my life ,mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jonmju/can_i_still_be_affected/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt92o9', 'author': 'Krumpetkrooper11', 'body': 'There\'s an interesting book called ""the body keeps the score"" by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. From what I\'ve heard, it\'s a book that details how our bodies respond physically to trauma and hold onto it, even when we think we are healed. Maybe that\'s an avenue you could look into.\n\nI relate to you on some level because I too have terrible memory that I believe is because of trauma. It\'s our bodies survival mechanism to forget bad things as soon as possible, and the more it does that, the more difficult it is to hold onto *any* memory. If your body learned from an early age that memories are not good to have, then your brain/body might have a natural aversion to memory. Sometimes I begin to gaslight myself because ""if I cant remember it, then it obviously wasn\'t that bad"" which is false. \n\nI highly recomend pocket journalling. Just get a small book you can fit in your pocket, and add things that happen throughout the day ot how you feel. Literally whatever. Then at night, reflect on the day, reread it, and go to bed. Repeat. (This is just something that has worked for me).\n\nJust to tie back into ""the body keeps the score"" I\'ll leave you with an example of how my body kept score: I always had to walk on eggshells in my home growing up and I was constantly stressed so it resulted in stomach and digestive issues. Now I\'m left with severe psoas pain that I\'m trying to work through (because of tensing all the time). I still jump whenever someone says hello to me or opens a door.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:54:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jonmju'}]"
1jondtz,2025-04-01T10:07:44,Constantly failing myself,"(20 y.o. guy) I want to be a better person, but i keep failing myself. I want to build a life for myself, and build myself up to something i can maybe finally be proud of. I just keep screwing up. I feel like such a mess inside my mind. Idk. Feel like im constantly letting down the people i care about the most. Like im not pushing myself hard enough l, and everyone can see it. Not in any sort of education. Just working with my dad, saving as much money as i can. But yeah, Ive just gone stagnant in life. I spend every afternoon and weekend in my damn room, fiddleing with random bull like guitar, music production, and Fusion360, cuz i just like creating. I know i need to get out of this damn house more, but i just feel so inferior. Like a nagging anxiety when im out in public. I just imagine how much more everyone probably has there life together, and i just feel incredibly small. This chronic self isolation, really doesn’t help with me wanting to try dating, either. Id love to share feelings like that and have a deep connection with someone in that way, but i just don’t feel worth it due to how i currently am. Just don’t see how i can share my life with someone when i don’t really have a life to begin with. Id love so damn much to get to go on a date for the first time. At the same time, i just don’t feel up to basic standards. I try to hold value in being kind and open-minded to everyone around me, and just try and be a decent person. I just don’t have a damn life, and i hate myself for being this way. Idk. Im probably just a lazy pos. I have no clue anymore. Its hard trying to dissect my mental from the inside out, and I’ve tried so damn much. Just wondering how I bulldoze through my idiotic psyche and just make life work.",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jondtz/constantly_failing_myself/,[]
1jon0um,2025-04-01T09:45:41,I Feel Too Sentient,"Hello everyone, this is my first post here. For a while I have felt as if my mind is too active, to the point where it doesn’t feel real. I have a history with weed and being constantly high for weeks on end, as well as things like mushrooms and harder powders. I’ve felt this way for a while, but within the last month my brain has ramped up and I can’t stop flooding my mind with inner monologue. For example, in all my classes I cannot learn, nor retain any info I do grasp. My mind is always racing and constantly thinking about whatever the fuck. It’s something I feel I can’t describe right, but it feels like it’s slowly eating away at me. I’ve never been tested or diagnosed with anything, so as far as that I say I don’t have any mental health disorders. I believe I am smart, I consider myself to be smarter than a lot of my peers, and that is why I feel too sentient, because everyone around me seems like they don’t work they way I do. Academically though, I bet everyone around me is more intelligent. I feel like I think on a higher level, but I’m sure I’m just crafting ideas that make no sense. If anything can suggest anything it would be greatly appreciated.",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jon0um/i_feel_too_sentient/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt36am', 'author': 'one_jar_one_man', 'body': ""ADHD? ADD? Probably something mixed with one of those, I'm not a doctor so don't expect me to be right"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:02:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jon0um'}]"
1jomocv,2025-04-01T09:25:35,My mom said to me 'You are the reason why rap*s happens ',"
I was wearing a tank top and trousers when my mom said this to me. I immediately changed into a kurti. I was going somewhere and was really happy, but she ruined my mood, and I ended up crying the whole day. She played the victim card and started crying, saying, ""I didn't mean that.""

I know she is the breadwinner of our family and has a lot of problems. I understand that very well. But what about my problems? She acts like I'm just over-exaggerating everything. And my father doesn't give a sh*t to me except when it time for comparison and humiliating me in front of everyone. 
She has been having an affair for the past 7–8 years, and even got involved with a third man during this time. Yet, I'm not even allowed to talk to boys. I’ve never done anything to bring shame to them, but somehow, they never stop criticizing me. The constant comparisons, the boundations..I’m exhausted.

My mental health is completely fu*ked up.
",mentalhealth,51,26,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jomocv/my_mom_said_to_me_you_are_the_reason_why_raps/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt061l', 'author': 'one_jar_one_man', 'body': 'Sounds like you should get out of there at the first chance you get', 'score': 41, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:38:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt3yzt', 'author': 'No_Excitement3178', 'body': 'no matter what someone else is going through, it is never ok to say something like that. Im so sorry u dont deserve that. And I hope u know that shes very wrong, in this world u should never have to worry about what ur wearing. im hear if you needa talk 🧡', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:09:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mktcld4', 'author': 'StayingUp4AFeeling', 'body': ""aese baat karne vaale ko hi 'toxic' kehte hai.\n\nAgar aap abhi school mein ho, acche se padhai karo -- kisi bhi field mein. kyunki usse aapko college ke time mein ghar se door jeene ka mauka milega.\n\nAur agar aap abhi naukri karne ke umar mein ho, toh kisi bhi tarah se koi doosre sheher mein naukri lene ki koshish karo.  \n\\---\n\nmai yeh bhi kehna chahta hoon ki maine aatma-hatya karne ki koshish ki hai. mera mrityu nishchit lag raha tha. abhi bhi pata nahin ki mai kaise bach gaya. voh mere zindagi ka sabse badi galti hai. harr roz mujhe uska yaad hota hai. jaise voh koi bhoot hai.\n\njitna bhi tumhe marne ki iccha ho, jabb maut ke baahon ka thand apne hriday takk pahunchta hai, tabb aap iss dharti ko apne haathon se, apne naakhunon se pakadke idhar rahoge.\n\n(mujhe hindi theek se nahin maalum, karnataka se hoon. sirf school ka hindi thoda sa pta hai)"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:29:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkto5vo', 'author': 'Vreas', 'body': 'That’s a fucked up thing to say. Depending how old you are I’d GTFO of that situation asap and do your own thing.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:34:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkth2be', 'author': 'NotASir604', 'body': 'I’m so sorry to hear this. Brown families are so fucking toxic. Speaking as another brown woman, feel free to reach out if you need to talk. I know ending your life seems like it would be better. But you have tons of people whose world will end without you in it. I contemplate ending it all sometimes, but my siblings need me', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:15:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mktx7iq', 'author': 'brave_kraken', 'body': ""A lot of brown moms are like this unfortunately. My mom used to (and still sometimes) makes comments like these, implying my clothing will get me r\\*ped, but I just chose to ignore it for over a year now, and it has been good for my mental health. Don't let her guilt trip you. You can never be the perfect child in her eyes, might as well do your own thing and be happy"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:18:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomocv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt0nfd', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""I think I'll end up my life b4 I get that first chance."", 'score': -3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:42:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt061l'}, {'comment_id': 'mktdqhf', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': 'That means a lot, truly. Thank you for your kindness and support. Knowing there are people like you out there makes a difference. I really appreciate you reaching out.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:40:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt3yzt'}, {'comment_id': 'mkte6v8', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': 'Bro, what you said is true. Life gets so hard sometimes that it feels like there’s no way out,  the will to live is no more.\n\nAnd your Hindi is perfectly fine..what matters is that it came from the heart.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:45:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mktcld4'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz3oi', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""That really means a lot. I appreciate you so much for reaching out. But there is no one whose world will end without me. No one cares about me, my sibling don't even talk to me, he is just like my parents. But I'm happy 4 u. Your siblings are so lucky to have a sister like you."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:38:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mkth2be'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz617', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""That's true. They never get enough of me. Thanku for reaching me out."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:39:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mktx7iq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt2qib', 'author': 'one_jar_one_man', 'body': ""Don't end it, I know it hurt and it sucks so bad but find one thing you want out of your future and hold it tight, because someday when you get away you can get it,  hold in there. Message me if you need to talk."", 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:59:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt7o74', 'author': 'Herrasmies-Kusettaja', 'body': 'Personally i just live in case things get better🥲\nBut im sure we all can find happiness at one or two points of our lives. Personally i had a similar sounding (gotta say your situation sounds lots worse tho) situation. \n\nManaged to get a job and moved out of the house myself right after the pinnacle of my angst (like a sort of an emo phase. Still going on a bit tho) at 17 and now, after a few years ive even seen bits of happiness. Dont give up yet friend. Theres always ppl who will miss you. And remember, youll only live once.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:42:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mktmosa', 'author': 'NekulturneHovado', 'body': ""Hey, just want to let you know that I thought the same thing when I was 15. It's hard as fuck, but possible"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:18:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvibb', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'You deserve much better and believe it you can get through this time and you can have a fulfilling life! You can break free from this. Please dont end your life, you are strong and precious and what your mother does or say doesnt effect at all your value! She has a distorted worldview, she sees things wrongly because of her own problems. I also came from a difficult childhood and my mom was similar and now Im in my thirties and I could overcome on many of the trauma and I have a good life. You will get there too, please dont give up. Look up some helplines in your country or city and try talking to them about your situation.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:59:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt0nfd'}, {'comment_id': 'mku1x9l', 'author': 'NotASir604', 'body': 'I’m gutted this is your situation. I am here to be a big sister, should you need one. You aren’t alone in this journey and I hope you stick around because you have so much potential. Sending lots of hugs and warmth your way', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:06:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mktz3oi'}, {'comment_id': 'mku23co', 'author': 'brave_kraken', 'body': ""No problem dude. Text me if you wanna vent, I'm down. I understand how tough it is to live with toxic brown parents so it can be very difficult to handle all that mental burden alone"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:08:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mktz617'}, {'comment_id': 'mktdytv', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': "" I really appreciate you sharing that. It’s good to hear that things got better for you, even if it took some time. But idk if I'll ever be able to move out from here. They are so toxic, they even don't let me go to my friends house. I had to beg in front of them. Btw thanks for the encouragement—it really means a lot."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:42:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkt7o74'}, {'comment_id': 'mkty38i', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""Thank you for your kind words. I really appreciate it, but honestly, I’m struggling a lot right now. It’s hard to see a way forward, but knowing that people care means something. I’ll try to hold on. There are some helplines available but I don't think they are goir to help me in any way."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:28:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mktvibb'}, {'comment_id': 'mku2gui', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""Knowing I have someone like you in my corner gives me so much strength. I truly appreciate all the warmth you're sending my way! You're a gem, thank you🧡\nThese words mean a lot to me rn. I needed this🫂"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:12:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mku1x9l'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvopz', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'Do you have some child support service where you live? It might be possible to talk to them and they could take steps. You are so young and latest at 18 you can leave and start your own life.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:01:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mktdytv'}, {'comment_id': 'mktz0p2', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'Just give them a chance (the helpline). Even just validating your feelings and experience counts a lot! \nI still have memories standing in my bedroom with tight fists and repeating the mantra ""she isnt right, what she says is not true"". That mantra helped me through those years. I know its very dark now but your life is soo much longer and there will be so much beauty in it. Dont give up, they dont deserve it. I have a book I havent read it yet, but the title is great: ""recovery is my best revenge"". Show those people that you will grow up and thrive and they couldnt break you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:37:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkty38i'}, {'comment_id': 'mku03mb', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""The mantra is really powerful and I might borrow this for me as well. You're right! The best thing I can do is show them that they couldn't break me. I hope I can make my way through this mess."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:48:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mktz0p2'}, {'comment_id': 'mku0zs3', 'author': 'Thick_Basil3589', 'body': 'You will make it! You grow up and you will get out of there and you never have to look back. Repeat the mantra as many times as needed until you can calm down. It was a lifesaver for me. And you know because if this chaotic childhood I developed a deep interest to understand people and why they are this or that way and now Im actually studying to become a coach and help others. So what you are going through now can become your superpower or life purpose later in life. It makes you stronger surviving such experiences. The rest can be healed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:57:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mku03mb'}, {'comment_id': 'mku1qyi', 'author': 'Free_Emergency_1904', 'body': ""Thanks for understanding. It feels like a lot sometimes, and I guess it's just hard to see the end of it. But hearing that I'm not alone in feeling this way, and that it's okay to take things slow, helps. I’ll try to hang in there, even if it's just a little longer. I really appreciate your kind words."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:05:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mku0zs3'}]"
1jolnql,2025-04-01T08:28:42,Struggling to recognise myself in the mirror,"It's really hard for me to explain but when I look in the mirror, I know that the person I'm looking at is me but I can't recognise myself. It's like I'm looking at a different person but I know that that person is me if that makes sense. 

I've also been feeling really.. hopeless lately, I guess? My thoughts process is like. Why should I do anything because the world is going to end anyway and it won't matter? I didn't choose to be born so I have no obligation to do anything. I'm not actively suicidal I just don't care I think

For extra context, I've been diagnosed with OCD and anxiety but I'm on meds and I rarely feel any anxiety anymore. My therapist thinks I may have bipolar or BPD if that helps. I'm not sure if that's related to it. ",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jolnql/struggling_to_recognise_myself_in_the_mirror/,[]
1joljy4,2025-04-01T08:22:59,Struggling with weekly therapy only,Im in therapy once a week but it doesnt seem to be enough. Whats the next step that isnt an jop or php program? Is there an option for 2-3 hour sessions anywhere? 40 minutes is not enough to get through anything. ,mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1joljy4/struggling_with_weekly_therapy_only/,[]
1jola58,2025-04-01T08:08:38,How do I help my friend who is moving on from a painful breakup?,"**TLDR: A close friend (F) is going through a painful breakup (the guy said he won't be able to commit henceforth as he started therapy and stuff due to his personal issues), how do I help my friend to move on? (recommended to read long story)**

Long story:

My close friend and a guy were dating for about a month. My friend got attached to him. I kind of know the guy, he's (mostly) a cool person. They both broke up because the guy's dad found the chats and then, the dad told the guy that they could date after their passing from highschool. Well, they both were pretty committed to this idea.

My friend, was really attached to him. She missed him quite a lot. The guy however, started having personal issues and decided to start seeking therapy and as their therapist told him ""not to start any relationships until he is okay with himself"", the guy told my friend that she should move on and that he's sorry, he also said that this is not how he wanted to end things. He said that he won't be able to further commit, there is no guarantee. 

My friend is devastated. How do I help her cope? Move on from him? This is not a case where its anybody's mistake. 

Thankyou so much for reading this. And, I apologize for any language errors or formatting issues.",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jola58/how_do_i_help_my_friend_who_is_moving_on_from_a/,[]
1jol999,2025-04-01T08:07:17,Finding sh extremely comforting for some reason.,"Dealing with shit that involved emotional pain to go through the roof so I came to terms that physical would be better. Come home, bang my legs into metal frames and wait for the bruising to come. Again feels better than dealing with emotional pain but I could imagine doing more but never went through with it. But I need actual help on to stop having these thoughts. ",mentalhealth,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jol999/finding_sh_extremely_comforting_for_some_reason/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksnbcc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for using a content warning. Your post is under review.\n\n---\n**If you are in immediate crisis:**\n- Visit [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for local hotline info.\n- Check [Hotline FAQs](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs/) for guidance.\n- Consider posting on r/suicidewatch or messaging their moderators [HERE](http://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FSuicideWatch).\n\n---\n**For suicidal thoughts or self-harm:**\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/are-you-feeling-suicidal.htm) offers coping tips.\n- You are not alone – see personal stories on YouTube.\n- Practice grounding exercises or listen to your favorite music.\n- Refer to [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) for more resources.\n\n**Take care and stay safe!**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:07:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jol999'}, {'comment_id': 'mkst2p2', 'author': 'lllIIIIlllIlIlIl', 'body': 'You already know this isn\'t the right way to cope—you’re just stuck because you don’t have a better alternative that actually works. Right now, your brain is saying:\n\n""Physical pain is easier to control than emotional pain.""\n""Bruises are proof that I can still feel something.""\n""At least this pain makes sense.""\n\nBut this isn’t a solution. It’s a distraction. You’re redirecting emotional overload into something tangible because, deep down, you don’t know how to process the real pain you’re feeling.\n\nHere’s How You Stop Craving SH:\n\n1. Replace It with a Sensory Substitute\n\nHold ice cubes in your hands until they melt.\n\nSnap a rubber band on your wrist.\n\nScribble hard on paper until it tears.\n\nTake a freezing cold or super-hot shower.\n\n\nThis tricks your brain into releasing the same relief without damage.\n\n\n2. Release the Emotional Pressure Before It Boils Over\n\nScream into a pillow.\n\nPunch something safe (like a pillow or punching bag).\n\nGo for a fast, exhausting run or do push-ups until you drop.\n\nWrite every messed-up thought on paper, then rip it up.\n\n\nThis prevents the urge from building up to the point where SH feels like the only escape.\n\n\n3. Attack the Root Cause, Not the Symptom\n\nFigure out what’s triggering this. You said your emotional pain is ""through the roof""—what exactly is fueling it?\n\nTalk to someone real. A therapist, a hotline, even just a friend who won’t judge you. You need an actual outlet for your emotions, not just a physical release.\n\nRemind yourself: This urge is temporary. It always fades—so delay acting on it, even if just for 10 minutes. Then another 10. Keep pushing it off until it weakens.\n\n\n\n4. Lock Down a Crisis Plan\n\nIf the urge gets too strong, text a crisis line (they’re literally trained for this).\n\nRemove sharp objects or things you use to hurt yourself from easy access.\n\nMake a ""distraction kit"" with music, snacks, stress balls—stuff to use instead.\n\n\n\n\nListen, you’re not weak for struggling with this. Your brain is just using SH as an unhealthy coping mechanism because it doesn’t know a better way. But you can retrain it. You deserve actual healing, not just a temporary escape.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:46:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jol999'}]"
1jol6bt,2025-04-01T08:02:47,Partner might have BPD so what can I do?,"I'm 29F and my partner 27M is currently going to therapy and getting the help he needs as he's struggled with his mental health for a long time now and he's starting to suspect he has BPD and his therapist is doing some assessments on him as well, so hopefully we will find an answer soon.  
  
I'm also struggling and going through a difficult time with my mental health, my partner is super supportive, caring and loving until he's not.....

Sometimes it feels like a switch gets flicked and he can become really mean, dismissive and sometimes during arguments when I try telling him how hurtful he's being he will suggest breaking up and that there's no point and hangs up the phone or disappears.   
  
When this happens I dissociate, I reply with ""okay"" and try to distance myself away from him because I know he just needs to ride out the wave, because nothing I say or do in that moment will make anything better. Sometimes this will trigger a depressive episode, which isn't hard to do at the moment with a lot of stress that I'm dealing with outside of the relationship. 

We've both experienced a lot of similar trauma in our childhoods and have been working hard on ourselves to heal and become better people, so I can empathize and understand to the best of my ability how difficult this must be for him. 

Once he's feeling more calm and collected with his emotions and does some self-reflection, he apologies, feels guilty and doesn't understand why he said those things or behaved that way. When he doesn't have one of these episodes (not sure if that's the correct wording, sorry) he's so sweet, kind, fun and caring and pretty much everything I look for in a partner. 

I won't lie - it's exhausting and it's beginning to take a toll on my mental wellbeing but I'm proud of him for taking the steps to get help. 

I know he hasn't got an official diagnosis, but does anyone have any advice on how I can support him best as I can as he's navigating this journey? Or anything positive to say?  
  
Thank you ",mentalhealth,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jol6bt/partner_might_have_bpd_so_what_can_i_do/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkst7w9', 'author': 'lllIIIIlllIlIlIl', 'body': 'You\'re already showing incredible patience and emotional strength by being supportive while also recognizing your own limits. That’s a huge deal in relationships where BPD might be involved.\n\nHow to Support Him Without Losing Yourself\n\n1️⃣ Set Emotional Boundaries (This is Crucial)\n\nWhen he pushes you away or suggests breaking up, don’t engage in the emotional spiral. Instead, stay neutral:\n""I know you\'re overwhelmed right now, so I\'m going to give you space. We can talk later.""\n\nThis prevents escalation while reinforcing that you won’t be manipulated by impulsive words.\n\n\n2️⃣ Don’t Take the Hurtful Words Personally (Easier Said Than Done, But...)\n\nWhen he lashes out, it’s not truly about you—it’s his brain trying to regulate emotions in an unhealthy way.\n\nInstead of reacting emotionally, remind yourself:\n""This is the dysregulation talking, not him.""\n\nLater, when he’s calm, you can and should communicate how his words affect you.\n\n\n3️⃣ Have a Crisis Plan in Place\n\nIf you sense an episode coming, don’t engage in circular arguments. Exit the conversation early to avoid escalation.\n\nIf he disappears, don’t chase or beg. Give him space but set a boundary:\n""I care about you, but I won’t engage in unhealthy back-and-forths. Let’s talk when we’re both calm.""\n\n\n4️⃣ Encourage His Self-Awareness, Not Just His Apologies\n\nIf he apologizes after an episode, shift the conversation from guilt to problem-solving:\n""I appreciate your apology. What do you think triggered it? How can we handle it better next time?""\n\nThis prevents a cycle of episode → apology → repeat, and helps him develop better coping mechanisms.\n\n\n5️⃣ Prioritize Your Own Mental Health Too\n\nIf being with him is draining your emotional energy beyond what’s sustainable, that’s not love—it’s self-sacrifice.\n\nMake sure your needs are being met too. If you start feeling like you’re walking on eggshells around him, that’s a red flag that your mental well-being is at risk.\n\n\nThe Hard Truth:\n\nYou can support him, but you can’t fix him. BPD is his battle to fight. The best thing you can do is love him while protecting your own peace—because if you burn out, you won’t be able to help him at all.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:47:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jol6bt'}]"
1jol1wf,2025-04-01T07:56:23,I’m struggling,"I am 22(F) and have struggled since I was probably 5 with quite a few things. I was an insanely independent child, but I think it had a lot less to do with wanting to be independent and more the fact that I was afraid of everything. 
I struggled with germs in a variety of ways. I washed my hands until the bled. I couldn’t eat food that I didn’t make. I couldn’t sleep in beds other than my own.
I had immense fears about natural disasters. 
I had a lot that I was scared of. 
Now I’m an adult and I still feel… crazy to say the least. 
I’m scared of different things now like accidentally marring a pedophile. 
I’m scared of dying or being sick. 
I’m scared and I’m worried and I’m stressed and my brain thinks and thinks and thinks until I want to cry. 
I was just broken up with and I can’t stop
Dwelling on everything I did wrong. 
I was mean, so often. Because I was overwhelmed and when I’m overwhelmed and have thoughts the same scary thoughts  for the entirety of the day I just can’t help it anymore. 
I don’t know what to do. 
I’m in therapy but I keep being told everything I’m feeling is pretty normal. 
I’m tired. 
I miss my ex. 
There’s so much more to it all but I don’t want to make this too long. ",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jol1wf/im_struggling/,[]
1jokyks,2025-04-01T07:51:28,"Do you ever hallucinate written words, phrases, or sentences?","When my illness started one of its manifestations was as if I was in an old text-based MUD.  I remember looking at the walls of my hospital room and seeing trace lines of writing that were too blurry and faint to read.  Before I got treated there was a day where these people were holding up signs and on one of the signs I saw something that was likely not there, a sentence with misaligned religious symbols (like what you would see on a car window or bumper extolling diversity).

I get symptoms near the end of my months' long medication cycle.  Just the other week I was eating chicken and the phrase ""bird flu"" briefly appeared next to the tv as I was eating.  It was weird.  Which is a good reason for me to avoid constantly watching the news and social media, not as mere avoidance but because current events can, and had during my illnesses, gotten into my head and were subjects of psychosis.",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jokyks/do_you_ever_hallucinate_written_words_phrases_or/,[]
1jokxvb,2025-04-01T07:50:27,Is there a USA-equivalent to Andy's Man Club?,"So in the UK, there's an organization called Andy's Man Club where grown men meet on a regular basis (there are a bunch of local chapters). From what I've heard, meetings are specifically aimed at asking each other and having meaningful conversations about how life is going and what you're struggling with mentally. I heard about this organization from Richard Hammond's podcast on which he (and his daughter) interviewed the founder. It sounds like *exactly* what I need at this point in my life...except I'm in America. I was wondering if anyone knows of an equivalent thing here. Even if it's just virtual/online meetings, I'm interested. I know there are lots of support groups out there, but I'm struggling to find one specifically for grown men to discuss their own/each other's mental health. Does anyone know of something like this?",mentalhealth,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jokxvb/is_there_a_usaequivalent_to_andys_man_club/,[]
1jokvyp,2025-04-01T07:47:46,How do I tell my parents I was groomed?,"I've thought about this for months. My therapist told me it would be in my best interest to tell my parents about what happened to me so they could better understand how to help me and support me.

For context, when I was 13/14, I had met this one guy. We'll call him James. He and I hit it off immediately, and within a week, I was having a sleepover with him and things got heated. He's two years older than me, which, at that age, is SIGNIFICANT. This went on for a few months until he became so attached to me that I couldn't go an hour without him messaging me. And whenever we met up, I tried to keep it platonic, but it always ended up with the both of us in the back of his car. I never went all the way with him (thank god) since I pushed him away over the summer when school was out.

But, that didn't really last long because during the same summer, I met with another guy, who was 17/18 at the time and who I had been friends with for a couple years due to a mutual love for skateboarding. We were on call one night, and I asked him if he would be my gym buddy because I got really anxious being at the gym by myself. He said something along the lines of ""sure, but you gotta do something for me in return. Be my fuck-buddy."" I laughed it off because he joked around like that, but the next time we met up, we ended up doing something (Again, I didn't go all the way). 

This went on for a while until my friends told me he was a known groomer, rapist and manipulator at my school. I cut him off, and for a while, my mental health rapidly declined because I was so co-dependent on him that I couldn't function properly. I slept maybe 2/3 hours a night, didn't turn in ANY homework, and didn't eat properly. He made me feel like I had to rely on him for all my problems because he could manipulate me better like that.

Thankfully, I had really awesome friends (who were around the same age as him), and they really helped me get back on my feet. Two of them had convinced me to work at a summer camp with them since my social anxiety had gotten so bad that I couldn't even speak to anyone without tearing up.

During camp, I (once again) found myself getting attached to someone significantly older than me (19 years old). We both got fired from that job because people were concerned that he was going to take advantage of me. He never did, and I still think he's a good person, but I finally learned my lesson and made friends more around my age. I'm still friends with one of the two who got me into camp, and he is the best friend I have ever had, no exaggeration. I don't get to see him that often, so we call sometimes, and it's just nice to hear from him since he's away for college.

But, now, after talking about this with my therapist a bunch, I want to tell my parents about this. The problem is, both my sisters have been scolded for doing sexual things (while they were 18/19, so legal) with their boyfriends. I'm a little bit scared of how my parents will react to this, but I think that it will be beneficial for both me and my parents if they knew.

TL;DR: I was groomed by two people and it really messed up my health, and now I want to tell my parents",mentalhealth,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealth/comments/1jokvyp/how_do_i_tell_my_parents_i_was_groomed/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksk9wv', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': '**Hello u/!**\n\nThank you for tagging your post with a content warning. This helps us share useful resources and prevent unintended triggers.\n\n*Your post may be held for review.*\n\n\n**Resources:**\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/types-sexual-violence) – Types of sexual violence\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/after-sexual-assault) – What to do after an assault\n- [Rainn.org](https://rainn.org/effects-sexual-violence) – Effects of sexual violence\n- [HelpGuide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/recovering-from-rape-and-sexual-trauma.htm) – Recovering from trauma (available in [multiple languages](https://survivorsnetwork.org.uk/resource/survivors-self-help-guide/))\n- [Find A Helpline](https://findahelpline.com/i/iasp) – Global helplines\n- Consider visiting r/rape or r/sexualassault for support.\n- [Supporting Survivors](http://www.tstresources.org/supporting-survivors/) – How to support survivors\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealth) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:47:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jokvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mksl36o', 'author': 'NormalNobody', 'body': 'Did you ask your therapist if you can have the conversation with your parents while in therapy? Because that would probably be the best bet', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:52:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jokvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkstuxx', 'author': 'lllIIIIlllIlIlIl', 'body': 'Telling your parents something this heavy is nerve-wracking, especially when you\'re unsure how they\'ll react. But you\'re right—this isn’t just about the past, it’s about your healing and getting the support you need.\n\nHow to Approach It:\n\n1. Pick the Right Time & Setting\n\nChoose a moment when your parents are calm and not distracted.\n\nA private, quiet place is best—somewhere you feel safe.\n\n\n\n2. Plan What You Want to Say\n\nIf speaking feels overwhelming, consider writing a letter first.\n\nYou don’t have to go into deep details—focus on how it affected you.\n\nExample: “Something happened when I was younger that I now realize was not okay. I was manipulated by older people, and it hurt me in ways I didn’t understand at the time. I’m telling you because I need your support, not judgment.”\n\n\n\n3. Prepare for Their Reactions\n\nThey might react emotionally—shock, anger, sadness.\n\nIf they blame you (which is NOT okay), stay firm: ""I was a kid. This wasn’t my fault.”\n\nIf they get defensive or dismissive, remind them: “I need you to listen, not react.”\n\n\n\n4. Set Boundaries\n\nIf their reaction is harmful, step back. “I told you because I trust you, but I need kindness, not blame.”\n\nYou don’t owe them every detail—share what you’re comfortable with.\n\n\n\n5. Have Support Ready\n\nIf you\'re scared of their reaction, talk to your therapist or a trusted friend first.\n\nIf things go south, have a safe space to retreat to afterward.\n\n\n\n\nThis is your truth, and you have every right to speak it. Whatever happens, know that you are not alone, not at fault, and not broken.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:51:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jokvyp'}]"
1ip7p10,2025-02-14T15:59:05,"Tried Saya, a counseling app created by one of our users here. Highly recommended.","Disclosures:
1. I am the head moderator in this sub.
2. The creator of the app, /u/JustSomeRedditGuy123 (JSRG for short), is also a moderator of this sub.
3. I have been asked by JSRG to try the app. In doing so, he provided me with a discount voucher.
4. I will receive another discount voucher for making this review, but JSRG did not check or pre-approve the contents hereof.
5. The sub, or the other moderators, do not receive any other benefits for advertising the app.

I tried Saya, an app created by one of the users and eventually turned moderator of /r/MentalHealthPH, JSRG. A 50-minute session with a counselor costs 1500PHP (before any discount). For reference, I am using an Android device during the session. The app uses Google Meets for scheduling and counseling proper.

Pros:
1. The process for matching you to a counselor is seamless.
2. It's relatively cheap.
3. The counselor was EXTREMELY easy to talk to. Plus, the assessment profile I did matched her well. She did not talk about religion or any spirituality process, which I indicated duringt the assessment profile I did not like.
4. You can have your session anywhere which is conducive for you since it is online.

Cons:
1. The app still has a few kinks, the most egregious of which is the lack of direction after paying. It turns out you are paying for a session credit, and you need to return to your counselor's page to use the credit for a session. If you are familiar with it, think of it like an Audible credit.
2. The app only has COUNSELORS, who are different from PSYCHOLOGISTS and PSYCHIATRISTS. Please note that these three each have their strengths. Counselors are not below or above psychologists or psychiatrists, but may only help with a certain subset of society.
3. Though the counselor was extremely friendly and we had a great conversation, she failed to provide me with objective tools to combat my anxiety. This, however, may change as I take more sessions with her.

If you want to try out talk therapy, I suggest you try the app. I think an iOS version was just released recently too. I hope JSRG can join this thread and provide discount codes for anyone willing to try. Hehe.

Have a great day, everyone.

EDIT: Talked to /u/JustSomeRedditGuy123 and he provided me with some links and promo code! Here ya go:

Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app

iPhone: https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516

MHPHReddit40 for 40% off your 1st session with Saya. You can still use the welcome coupon 'WelcomeSaya25' for your 2nd session.

Thanks, JSRG!",MentalHealthPH,117,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1ip7p10/tried_saya_a_counseling_app_created_by_one_of_our/,"[{'comment_id': 'mcv1xpx', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""**Edit:** We have  licensed and vetted psychologists available on the platform now! Read our announcement here: [https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jhurn2/now\\_on\\_saya\\_licensed\\_psychologists\\_are\\_here\\_to/](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jhurn2/now_on_saya_licensed_psychologists_are_here_to/)\n\n💙 Special Offer for r/MentalHealthPH Members 💙\n\nOn top of the **25% welcome coupon (WelcomeSaya25)** that all new users receive (PHP 1,125), I'm offering the r/MentalHealthPH **community an exclusive 40% off coupon (MHPHReddit40)** as a thank-you to a space that helped inspire me to start this business.\n\n🏷️ How It Works:\n\n🔹 Use **MHPHReddit40** at checkout for **40% off (PHP 900 instead of PHP 1,500)** for one of your sessions.  \n🔹 You don’t have to use the 25% off **WelcomeSaya25** coupon first—feel free to apply them interchangeably for your first or second session!  \n🔹 We accept GCash, PayMaya, ShopeePay and all other major credit cards!\n\n📲 Download Saya\n\n🔹 **Android:** [**https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app**](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app)  \n🔹 **iPhone:** [**https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516**](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516)\n\n🌿 Why I Built Saya\n\nAfter speaking with so many people seeking therapy, I realized the biggest barriers weren’t just cost and availability—it was finding someone who truly understands you. I didn’t want to create just another online directory that leaves you guessing.\n\nSo, I built an app that actually helps. Instead of endless searching, **Saya guides you through a research-backed intake assessment to match you with three counselors.** You can read their bios, watch their introduction videos, and choose the one who feels right for you.\n\nAnd because I personally ensure a **rigorous selection process,** you can trust that our counselors are here to **listen, support, and walk with you**—not fit you into a diagnosis or push medication. This is about **real help, from people who truly care.**\n\n🎥 Meet Our Counselors\n\nHere’s an introduction video of one of our amazing counselors, **Jamela**:  \n[**https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3E58mjnbxrI**](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3E58mjnbxrI)\n\n🔧 Bug Fix Update\n\nWe’ve fixed a weird bug with session credits—your payment now **automatically confirms your booking!**\n\nIf you have any questions, feel free to reach out here on Reddit or through our live support channels—we’ll make sure to take good care of you!\n\nhttps://preview.redd.it/g7eg17f5u8je1.png?width=2064&format=png&auto=webp&s=e22c2b53572ad63a4985a6b4b23c31d75664d8ed"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-15T11:33:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1ip7p10'}, {'comment_id': 'mcu84uk', 'author': 'PhryneFisher517', 'body': 'I\'m on the app as well (on Android). So far, so good. I had my third session yesterday. I started with one session to try it out, then purchased a bundle after that. I feel comfortable with the counselor I\'m working with, despite the fact that she\'s 8 years younger than me.\n\nThe founder of the app also reached out personally (I believe) to me in the weeks leading up to the app\'s launch, and extended great care in resolving a (minor) issue when it arose. Booking sessions, payments, and showing up to appointments have been smooth and seamless for me, so far. I agree that medyo confusing at first yung pag-book ng session after purchasing a bundle; it took me a few minutes of clicking around in the app to figure out that you do need to go to the counselor\'s page to book a session.\n\nAnd thank you for pointing out that Saya features counselors, not psychiatrists or psychologists. This is something I noticed as well, and I have to admit that initially I was concerned if a counselor would be enough for my needs. But like I said, I\'m three sessions in already and I\'m liking my counselor so far. Medyo general lang din yung mga advice niya sa akin but let\'s see how our sessions evolve over time. I guess the qualifications of the service providers are partly the reason for the price point; I\'m assuming na kaya mas mura yung services dito is because hindi sila ""doctors"" (I could be wrong though; also I\'m not belittling being a counselor versus being a doctor).\n\nOverall, I\'m glad that Saya was created. I appreciate that it offers a relatively affordable way for Filipinos to access mental health support.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-02-15T07:53:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1ip7p10'}, {'comment_id': 'mcpqpg0', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': 'thank you po dito, i will try it po since super mahal ng ever sessions ko which is 4k T\\^T', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-02-14T16:58:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1ip7p10'}, {'comment_id': 'md24e3y', 'author': 'cccamille8', 'body': 'Hi! Thanks for this! The app was quick to download, and I managed to book my session for the very next day—so its quite convenient. My first session felt really helpful, especially for diving into some exploratory discussions about my work burnout and anxiety which I never really allowed myself to acknowledge and talk about with anyone. We had a slow start in the first half because I’m quite hesitant to share complaints (you can thank family trauma for that one) but the counselor had the patience to draw me out.  It’s still early days, but I’m feeling optimistic as I continue working with my counselor. We agreed on working on me taking back space for myself. Definitely worth checking out if you’re looking for support on removing mental baggage you didn’t know you had.   All for now, will update more in time.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-16T17:08:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1ip7p10'}, {'comment_id': 'mcv2vrn', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': 'Hello! Thank you so much for supporting Saya. It really means a lot, and I’m so happy to hear that our counselors were able to help you.\n\nYou’re absolutely right—counselors aren’t here to diagnose, and I actually see that as a good thing. Instead of approaching conversations with a label in mind, they’re here to truly listen, understand, and support you in whatever you’re going through. More than anything, I wanted Saya to be a space where talk therapy feels accessible, approachable, and centered on what you need.\n\nI also really appreciate your feedback about the booking process—I can see how that might be confusing, and I’ll make sure we improve it in our next update. If there’s anything else that could make your experience better, please let me know. This app exists to give a judgement-free, affordable, and accessible space for those looking for it, and your thoughts genuinely shape where we go from here.\n\nThank you again for being part of this journey with us!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-15T11:42:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mcu84uk'}, {'comment_id': 'mcv32pg', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""Don't forget to use the r/MentalHealthPH coupon code, MHPHReddit40, for 40% off any of your sessions with us!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-15T11:44:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mcpqpg0'}]"
1joawil,2025-04-01T00:22:54,It’s getting bad again.,"You ever feel na ang hirap bumangon, kumain, maligo or matulog kapag inaatake ka ng anxiety and depression? Ganyan ako ngayon. Gutom ako pero hindi ako makakain. Gusto kong matulog pero hindi ko mapatigil ang isip ko. Gusto ko ulit mag-exercise pero hirap na hirap akong bumangon. 

Worse, walang makausap. I am a married woman but sadly, I could never open up to my husband (who blamed me na it was wrong for me to feel this way), despite him, being diagnosed with mental health struggles too. I expected for him to show up for me, and to hear me out (like I do for him). 

It is so hard to care for people who don’t feel the same way about you. 

Sorry, I just really needed to vent out. It is almost 3am and I am alone. ",MentalHealthPH,27,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1joawil/its_getting_bad_again/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkqc4ce', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:22:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mks3yka', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'If wala po kayong maka usap, please undergo therapy with a psychologist. Kaso kapag toxic yung environment, hindi 100% effective ang therapy. But it will help you. And may mga araw na ganyan na hirap bumangon, wag lang siguro tumagal ng buwan kasi kapag ganun, pa check up na kayo. What motivates you pala? May i ask, para kanino ka bumabangon?', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:06:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mksn80i', 'author': 'SpinningWheel_45', 'body': 'This is me rn. I know it’s disgusting, pero hindi ulit ako nag toothbrush at nag ugas ng muka kahit daily routine ko yon. Di pa rin ako nabangon at nakain kahit mag noon na. Nag skip din ako ng meds at vitamins kasi sobra yung anxiety at pag iisip ko dahil sa problema na ginawa ko. Hindi rin ako makatulog ng ayos. At yes, ramdam na ramdam ko yan na yung ineexpect mong tutulong sayo pag inaatake ka, yun yung hindi pa rereciprocate yung pakialam na binibigay mo sa kanila. Lagi kang ma mimisunderstood sa sitwasyon mo. Ang hirap. Nag therapy na din ako pero parang lagi akong back to zero at ang mahal nya. Gusto ko lang sabihin na di ka nag iisa. Ayoko mag sabi ng positive quotes kasi wala akong nararamdamang positivity ngayon. But for you, maybe the option is talking to a therapist would be the best option since di nila iinvalidate mga nararamdaman mo. I know you can do it.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:06:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqfpp5', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': ""Hello po. Hugs with your consent OP 🤗🫂\nSo sad to hear na your partner isn't so supportive of you.\n\nBut for now, I'll be one of the strangers, for there will be supportive others here too, that would gladly cheer you on and acknowledge your struggles 💪🏻\n\nYou probably already know na it's not your fault despite what your husband said pero syempre masakit parin. I hope you can find a quiet place sa inyo right now to just look at something that can give you comfort too and that you can focus on that would bring about kahit slightly positive memory/feeling, near a window with a view? A plant? A photo? a book? a pet? Sinubukan mo matulog pero walang bisa kaya okay lang kahit you let your body be awake but in a resting position near a comfort object.\n\nThere will be many nights like this, but I hope you can get further professional help or even find a support group nearby. For now, tambay ka muna sa comfort ng mga strangers like you ☺️\n\nIn the future, you can also prepare for super lows like these by stocking up on easy-to-prepare food or reserving money to order online. It won't always be like this. You can exercise anytime, you can walk whenever you're ready, that's already exercise."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:40:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mks4a5e', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'If wala po kayong maka usap, please undergo therapy with a psychologist. Kaso kapag toxic yung environment, hindi 100% effective ang therapy. But it will help you. And may mga araw na ganyan na hirap bumangon, wag lang siguro tumagal ng buwan kasi kapag ganun, pa check up na kayo. What motivates you pala? May i ask, para kanino ka bumabangon?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:08:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mkstlws', 'author': 'SeriTang1', 'body': 'I have the same episodes, ups and downs. I also don’t have a good support from family. But I’m trying to survive for myself. Last session with psychiatrist was July 2023, lost my job so no follow ups na. I am thankful there are angels disguised as people who have extended help by being present. I try to journal and yun breathing exercise when I’m overthinking. If you need someone to talk to just a message away. Hope we feel better soon.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:49:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mksy7fj', 'author': 'Tricky_unicorn109', 'body': 'Hirap ng ganito no? Gusto mo lang ng tahimik but your mind wanders and creams about things na minsan wapa ding kabuluhan. Kakapagod.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:23:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mkso8pt', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Hi, po. Yes, last time I talked to a psychologist was October of 2024. Kaya lang natigil din kasi ang mahal ng psychotherapy at 2500 per session plus need ko pa ng medical certificate each time to para ipakita sa boss ko at almost 500 din per medcert, kaya always back to square one. \n\nAs of motivation? Hindi ko na po alam. I am a talented person — I can write, I can dance and sing. But lahat yun inagaw sa’kin ng depression. I used to work out a lot before, pero ngayon wala na. I developed scoliosis, bad acne and stomach problems bec of this - pero ako lang yata nakapansin. Pero thank you for your kind words po, hindi madali, pero kakayanin at pipiliting bumangon.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:13:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mks3yka'}, {'comment_id': 'mkspjyq', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Sorry to hear about that po. I hope na maging okay ka rin. I know exactly how it feels like, esp yung part na hindi na halos makakain at makagalaw kahit yung simpleng paghihilamos or yung pagsusuklay nga lang ng buhok ang heavy sa pakiramdam. I hope that people like us will be understood more - sometimes, tayo-tayo nalang din magkakaintindihan. Mabigat, mahirap man pero sana medyo maging magaan na. Hugs to you po. Hindi ka rin nag-iisa.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:22:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mksn80i'}, {'comment_id': 'mksowv4', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Hello po! Thank you for your kind words and support. As an introvert na person, I always find ways to protect my own space and peace — kaya maskin papaano, may quiet place naman for me to think. I had psychotherapy but that was October of 2024 pa, hindi na nakakafollow up kasi mej mahal. Kaya this is my first time to ever post something here sa Reddit though 1 year na’tong account ko. \n\nIt is true nga, sometimes strangers will support you more than those who already know you. Naappreciate ko po ang comment/message nyo. Love lots!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:17:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mkqfpp5'}, {'comment_id': 'mksoxfs', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Hello po! Thank you for your kind words and support. As an introvert na person, I always find ways to protect my own space and peace — kaya maskin papaano, may quiet place naman for me to think. I had psychotherapy but that was October of 2024 pa, hindi na nakakafollow up kasi mej mahal. Kaya this is my first time to ever post something here sa Reddit though 1 year na’tong account ko. \n\nIt is true nga, sometimes strangers will support you more than those who already know you. Naappreciate ko po ang comment/message nyo. Love lots!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:17:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkqfpp5'}, {'comment_id': 'mks4chq', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'Why kaya downvoted ...maganda po sinabi nyo😊', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:08:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkqfpp5'}]"
1jomjen,2025-04-01T09:17:31,i can't do this anymore,my mother has been physically abusing me and i feel so helpless. i am struggling with BPD and severe depression. i have no one to save me. what should i do po. i've just been hit countless times just a few minutes before typing this. i am also verbally abused. please. i just want to end it. i've suffered way too much. i am sorry for posting it here. i have nowhere to go. i am at my most vulnerable state,MentalHealthPH,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jomjen/i_cant_do_this_anymore/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksxflh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We noticed that you have flaired your submission with a Trigger Warning. We highly recommend that you seek professional help if things are getting out of hand or PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\n# A personal note from the moderator team:\n\n**Are you suicidal right now?** Again, please contact the emergency hotline above and obtain professional help. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. At the very least, surround yourself right now with someone you can trust.\n\nIf you cannot or do not wish to call anyone, please at least read the home page of http://suicide.org/. The most impactful, we believe, is the director's message that: \n\n*Let me also tell you that if you are suicidal, you probably are suffering from clinical depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, postpartum depression, PTSD, or something similar. And if you have something along these lines, you actually have a chemical imbalance in your brain -- and you cannot possibly think straight because of it. **That is beyond your control. You are not weak. You just need some treatment.** This imbalance can occur for several reasons, from genetics to a traumatic life experience, and it is extremely common for people to have this imbalance, so do not feel like you are alone. You are not.*\n\nYou are not weak! The fact that you are here is a testament of your strength. Remember: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:17:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomjen'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt2zur', 'author': 'Accomplished-Luck602', 'body': 'Please get out ASAP. Get an escape plan. Makiusap ka sa family or friends mo.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:01:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomjen'}]"
1jo41b6,2025-03-31T19:37:26,Anyone experiencing a feeling na pag may nagmessage sa inyo or iopen nyo yung inbox nyo nagkaka anxiety?,Yung feeling na may nangamusta or may nag hi lang or may nagiwan ng bitin na context of message and expecting a worst case or something,MentalHealthPH,29,13,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo41b6/anyone_experiencing_a_feeling_na_pag_may/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkor5xu', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:37:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoxzwv', 'author': 'J58592958', 'body': 'This was me at my previous job. I felt anxious when someone sent a message on our work group chat. It was an environment where curse words were used every time someone made a mistake. Sometimes, names were not dropped. You just wonder if you are the person they are referring to. \n\nI customized my notifications so that I would not see one. I only made exceptions to receive notifications (messages and even calls) from important people. This helped me the most in regulating my emotions.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:13:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkott2b', 'author': 'White_BrownPatch', 'body': 'Meeee. Pakiramdam ko lagi may di magandang nangyari o mangyayari kapag nabasa ko yung message.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:51:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp4181', 'author': 'Solitude063', 'body': 'Sa messenger at messages sa work. May mga particular na mga tao lang talaga na nakakanerbyos kausap. Lalo yung mga nangangamusta tapos uutang pala or magsolicit. Nahihirapan kasi ako minsan na tumanggi.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:43:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpapf5', 'author': 'ThisKoala', 'body': 'Yes, specifically sa work. Pinaghiwalay ko personal at work phone kahit pwede magkasama. Para lang ma-control ko somehow yung anxiety ko.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:17:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkplwrs', 'author': 'ladygerd', 'body': 'Yess. Last year sa viber sa sobrang stressed ko sa work. Nasusuka ako kapag naririnig ko yung notification sound. Tapos pati kapag kung saan kami naguusap ng ex, mga nanghost sakin. Kapag tumutunog yung notifications ewan ko parang sisikip dibdib ko tas parang may mga gumagapang sa skin ko. 🥺', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:13:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mksal6a', 'author': 'Cat_Whiskey3', 'body': 'almost all kinds of messages.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:47:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt2umd', 'author': 'Ao_Zaire', 'body': 'Me. Need to have a whole day and energy just to open that message I’ve been ignoring for weeks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:00:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkto1z1', 'author': 'Hallowed-Tonberry', 'body': '🥹🙋\u200d♂️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:33:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkot4ol', 'author': 'yumeMD', 'body': 'this is so me. yesterday, tumawag uncle ko sakin out of nowhere, akala ko kung ano na. tinurn on ko yung focus sa phone ko para di ko makita yung notifs sa kanya hahaha. nung umaga ko na binuksan yung inbox 😣', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:47:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp7vzy', 'author': 'heydreamer_', 'body': 'Me, all the time.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:03:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpekb2', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': 'Meeee 🥹. This was me before undergoing treatment for my mental illness. Kakatakot, the anxiety also manifested through constant palpitation, di makahinga/difficulty breathing upon waking up knowing na maraming messages na nag aantay and I would jump, or yung mapapa sudden moves ka upon hearing a ding/dings from Messenger. It has come to a point na si hubby ang nakikipag communicate on my behalf. \n\nQuite ironic kasi sociable akong tao and is good with client interaction/networking. Was able to manage it naman na. Nag unfriend/block ako ng maraming relatives na mahilig makichismis and a few friends. I also just avoid putting myself into situations wherein I would end up dreading such comms so I finish work early/ on time/inform pipol of my whereabouts if nasa field/update coworkers appropriately para walang maghabol. Sinabihan ko narin friends ko na spontaneous ang bet ko pag meet ups kasi baka wala na ako sa mood upon our chosen date and would end up ghosting them haha. I also told them na may times na matagal ako magreply. I have a different work FB account and number na naka log in sa isa pang phone ko (cheaper kasi for comms lang naman). I set both my phone notifs on silent/do not disturb mode outside of work hours', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:36:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqazp4', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'I feel you. Esp when I call in during my shift cause masama pakiramdam. Hindi ako nag-oopen ng chats until makabalik sa work. The thought of me reading “work messages” gives me so much anxiety.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:17:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}]"
1johw1t,2025-04-01T05:19:06,Feedback for my design of a Mental Health Education Program,"Hello Everyone, 

I am creating a Mental Health Education Care Package/Program designed for youths in the Philippines. Any feedback would be invaluable, could be things to remove or add!

  
Thank you for your time ",MentalHealthPH,4,5,https://i.redd.it/s2wg40cw34se1.png,"[{'comment_id': 'mkrw5is', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:19:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1johw1t'}, {'comment_id': 'mks9x0w', 'author': 'heaven_spawn', 'body': 'What age are we talking? Most high school kids need not learn too many specific modalities (CBT, DBT, ACT, etc) especially as it’s way technical (college maybe). \n\nCommon need on the thread that emerges is “Hey when is it time to pull the trigger and ask for help?” That’s talking about impairment to function, recognizing negative coping patterns, and gauging how serious the threat to self and others is. So gotta cover self-harm as maladaptive coping, and ideation as sign of bad things, but not an end-all signal of impending death.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:43:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1johw1t'}, {'comment_id': 'mktw6sp', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': ""Hello OP. SUCH A NICE INITIATIVE!!! Worked for an MH institution and DOH before that creates/organizes something like this, maybe I can help. Pero here are things to consider:\n\n1. Purpose: anong need yung nakita mo kaya nais mong gumawa ng educ program?\n2. Participant demographic: sino muna intended beneficiary mo? Age? Lugar(rural or urban? If student, HS? Elem? Gaano sila karami? Can you get infor sa extent ng knowledge nila on mental health?\n3. Resources: Budget? Number of facilitators and speakers? partner schools or institution?\n4. Creator's background with mental health: May I know the depth of your training and knowledge po on mental health? May mga well-intentioned individuals po kasi pero sila mismo need muna ng further training bago sila makapag implement muna to avoid causing unintended harm to themselves or others/misinformation and for the program to have a stronger foundation.\n\n\\*PS: For educators/school admin that want to create a program sa school, may upcoming training si PGCA(Philippine Guidance and Counseling Association) tomorrow\n\nhttps://preview.redd.it/mt4al0qa27se1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=466a7fe2eeb091bb5ede5214823d868497358045"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:07:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1johw1t'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt5ckw', 'author': 'Tune-Little', 'body': 'This is highly valuable insight. I will be sure to use this feedback to guide my learning output creation. Thank you so much for your feedback, and the time you took to do this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:21:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mks9x0w'}, {'comment_id': 'mktitoy', 'author': 'Schadenfreude_ph', 'body': 'yes, make sure to align what you are teaching to your intended audience. mas maabsorb nila at mas magiging engaging for them.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:34:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mks9x0w'}]"
1joj3in,2025-04-01T06:18:09,Idk how to get better. (vent),"I genuinely don't know how to feel better. I feel I'm at my worst in life and Idek what to do anymore. I'm stressed because of school, tests exams ect., I feel like I wasn't good enough because of my recent breakup, I feel so dysphoric right now and really emotional, I barely wanna get out of bed and I'm really struggling. I feel like the only way to feel somewhat better is by relapsing or just treating myself like shit, or watching sad movies/media. I'm worried my friends are gonna hate me, I'm rarely in school now and always have been, because of my mental health. I feel like I'm failing them, but maybe that's just because my ex made me feel like that? Idk.. Im really struggling, idk what to do. I feel like none of my healthy coping mechanisms are working.",MentalHealthPH,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1joj3in/idk_how_to_get_better_vent/,"[{'comment_id': 'mks5url', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We noticed that you have flaired your submission with a Trigger Warning. We highly recommend that you seek professional help if things are getting out of hand or PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\n# A personal note from the moderator team:\n\n**Are you suicidal right now?** Again, please contact the emergency hotline above and obtain professional help. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. At the very least, surround yourself right now with someone you can trust.\n\nIf you cannot or do not wish to call anyone, please at least read the home page of http://suicide.org/. The most impactful, we believe, is the director's message that: \n\n*Let me also tell you that if you are suicidal, you probably are suffering from clinical depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, postpartum depression, PTSD, or something similar. And if you have something along these lines, you actually have a chemical imbalance in your brain -- and you cannot possibly think straight because of it. **That is beyond your control. You are not weak. You just need some treatment.** This imbalance can occur for several reasons, from genetics to a traumatic life experience, and it is extremely common for people to have this imbalance, so do not feel like you are alone. You are not.*\n\nYou are not weak! The fact that you are here is a testament of your strength. Remember: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:18:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1joj3in'}]"
1jomcsz,2025-04-01T09:07:05,car wash therapy,"wish car washes lasted longer, they're the most peaceful 2 minutes of my month... listening to my favorite songs, putting it in neutral and just, enjoying....",MentalHealthPH,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jomcsz/car_wash_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksw0s5', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:07:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomcsz'}]"
1jo8s2a,2025-03-31T22:57:16,🌸 Our Space: A Supportive Mental Health Community on Discord 🤸✨,"**🌸 Magandang Buhay, Kumarie! 🌸**

Welcome to **Our Space**—a safe and supportive **mental health community** on Discord! 💖 Dito, hindi ka nag-iisa.

✨ **What We Offer:**  
🤸‍♀️ A warm and understanding community  
🤸‍♂️ Fun activities & interactive events  
🤸 A safe space to share & be yourself

Tara na! **Join Our Space** and let’s support each other. 💕✨ Everyone is welcome! 🎉

💌 **Feel free to DM me,** u/teewaico**, or** u/simplesoulx11 **for the invite link!** ✨🤸‍♀️🤸‍♂️

🔹 **Disclaimer:** We are not licensed medical professionals, and we cannot provide medical, psychological, or crisis intervention services.",MentalHealthPH,6,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo8s2a/our_space_a_supportive_mental_health_community_on/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpuslg', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:57:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo8s2a'}]"
1jntp9m,2025-03-31T08:32:41,Is your depression affecting your work?,"How do you guys cope? What do you do? I've been skipping work so much because I cant even get up. All I do is sleep. On good days, I can force myself to move. Even though I dont get to work on time or if its just half a day, its already good for me. My manager knows I have MDD and taking medication and going to therapy. Its not like im not doing anything about it.

Im just scared that eventually im gonna be let go. Anyone experienced this?",MentalHealthPH,58,29,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jntp9m/is_your_depression_affecting_your_work/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkml28i', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. 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Maraming times di ako nag wowork. Pero kapag good days, kailangan bumawi sa days na di ako ok. Di ko masabi na it gets better pa kahit na more than a month na ako nag tatake ng meds."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:38:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmy2be', 'author': 'AerieSuspicious9521', 'body': 'Yes, always. What i do talaga is to show up lalo na im in the management op, i am planning to resign bec gusto ko muna ng pahinga and i think this is the best that i can give to myself for the mean time pero syempre need muna mag save kahit papano. \n\nSo yeah, im just saving up so i can pahinga muna.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:13:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmy8da', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': ""Hello, OP. I was diagnosed na Bipolar II and hybrid-flexible ang setup ng work ko. Pag nasa extreme lows ako and depressed, I feel you at ang hirap talagang mag function, even simple instruction hindi na-aabsorb ng utak ko. There are times na nag leleave nalang ako pag sobrang hindi talaga kaya and hindi nakiki-sama yung utak at katawang lupa ko. Pag I choose to work naman, nag se-seek ako ng help sa ibang colleague especially yung mga close ko to explain further yung mga bagay bagay for me to understand it then gagawan ko ng step-by-step checklist kung paano sya gagawin. Medyo mabagal lang talaga yung takbo ng work but ang important is nakaka-gawa kahit pa-konti konti, small wins kumbaga. May weekly one-on-one meeting kami lagi ng manager ko and mini-mention ko sa kanya pag hindi ako okay. Bumabawi naman ako sa work pag nasa point ako ng extreme highs ko, bida bida pa minsan and kung ano ano naiisip na gagawin hahahahaha. Good thing din talaga na output base sa amin and hybrid-flexible kaya na jujuggle ko yung hanash ng mental health vs. work. Alam din ng buong team up until our department head yung condition ko and they're very supportive and understand my condition and assist me pag nag seseek ako ng help about work."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:14:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn0uur', 'author': 'IttyBittyTatas', 'body': 'I have days na sobrang gusto ‘kong mag absent consecutively, pero I eventually settle for a mental health day. I try to do the bare minimum din kahit kumain lang since an empty stomach makes most things worse. Whatever bare minimum I can do, I try, for some semblance of normalcy and “progress”. Other times, I talk to people over the phone or VC even when I’m in bed to distract me from wallowing too much. Before, I would watch a lot of puppy videos to boost my serotonin. \n\nIt’s good you’re seeing a doctor and taking meds. I hope you start feeling better soon, OP.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:37:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mks17a8', 'author': 'persephoneurynome', 'body': 'yes. i get questioned why i wasn’t performing like the previous week. and i honestly don’t know how to answer that kasi baka ma-perceive na tamad lang ako. i feel unmotivated lang naman. \n\ncontext: i have bipolar type 2', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:49:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmozul', 'author': 'Immediate_Complex_76', 'body': 'I can definitely relate to what you’re going through. I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder with moderate anxiety, and work has been my main stressor and trigger. I’m scheduled for an improvement plan this April, and it’s really taking a toll on me. I’m finding it increasingly difficult to bounce back, which is why I’m considering resigning to take some time to rest. My therapist advised me to create a wellness plan and build a healthy routine, instead of just lying around and scrolling on my phone. I’ve been on medication since July 2024, but my mood still has its ups and downs. My psychiatrist mentioned that it wouldn’t be fair to just increase my medication dosage when work is the primary contributor to my mental health struggles. Hang in there, and remember to prioritize your well-being.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:01:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmu4kp', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""Yes, sadly I have a post similar about this last night. As what I've anticipated, I have failed on my final interview due to a background check."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:40:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn58yi', 'author': 'almost_hikikomori', 'body': ""Yes, but my manager is a good man. He let's me take a break for some time. Of course, to be deducted from my leave days, which is fine."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:18:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn8ige', 'author': 'xvii012', 'body': 'Yes, I’m just thankful that my boss is understanding and that we can work from home when we need to. Just unsure because I’ll be transitioning to another manager this month so I’m just hoping that she’ll be considerate as well if ever I decided to share to her my current situation. \n\nSometimes I’m thinking that maybe I’m just lazy in general but I think it just really affects me because my mood overall is so low that I just bed rot all day. But there are better days wherein I feel so productive and finish my tasks. But those are when deadlines are really due, lol. :/', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:50:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknjqbk', 'author': 'Beldiveer', 'body': ""6/7 days I'm able to force myself out the door most of the time. But it does come at a cost, I'd wake up crying. I'd have sudden outbursts, I'd randomly binge food or not eat at all. It's hard - very hard to be with this condition. And most people who don't have it wouldn't really understand even when they try. \n\nI'm still debating whether forcing myself to do the work is helping or hurting my condition"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:51:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkockji', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'I am so tired of this. 😭 Paggive up na husband ko sa’kin, kasi sarili ko nalang daw magsasalba sa’kin kasi dinanas ko na to dati. Pati sa work, parang hindi naman well-educated mga tao sa mental health na para bang sinasabi nila ginagawa nalang daw “excuse” para umabsent. Hindi madali. As of the moment, ang bigat ng dibdib ko na parang may nakadagan. Ang mahal pa naman ng psychotherapy. Minsan sa ChatGPT na’ko nakikipagchat, maibsan lang ang sakit na nararamdaman ko.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:10:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknaudi', 'author': 'Direct-Holiday-8658', 'body': 'During my 3rd month at my current work, I also told my manager that I am clinically depressed. Ayaw ko sana sabihin but there was one time na I had an anxiety attack tapos I messaged him at 3am na I needed to take an emergency leave due to personal reasons. Naalala nya pala \'yung instance na \'yon kasi I look hollow daw the entire week, although highly functioning naman. I got scared din na baka hindi ako ma-regularize because of that, pero on my 4th month ay na-regular naman na agad (usually on the 6th month pa after probation period). So I took it as a good sign.\n\nMy manager and I were adamant pa to discuss it with another superior but I realized na I needed to tell them about my condition, albeit not entirely. I guess nakatulong din kasi alam naman nila ang skills and capabilities ko and I always made sure pa din na maging professional as much as possible.\n\nMay mga instances lang na pag overwhelmed ako with tasks and life ay parang feeling ko di ko na alam uunahin sa work–lalo na if sabay sabay yung due dates. Grateful lang ako na yung team lead ko, nagsasabi ako sa kanya pag di talaga kaya. Ayokong mag *""fake it til you make it""* kasi baka hindi maging okay ang output.\n\nRamdam kita, OP. Hope you\'ll feel better ❤️\u200d🩹🫶🏻', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T12:14:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkngrj8', 'author': 'luckycharms725', 'body': 'took a break from employment talaga to give my self time to rest and for the meds to work. i thing about 4 months? tapos ngayon working na since July, though there are days na down talaga, what i do is show up nalang talaga para madivert yung attention ko from the depressive and anxious thoughts', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:17:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknl3wz', 'author': 'GodImmortalKing', 'body': 'yes,it did, nag pile up ung mga naipong stress at ayun...nag resign.haha', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:06:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknluz7', 'author': 'Positive-Scarcity-79', 'body': 'Nag le-leave on bad days. Aware naman sila and dami nadin accommodations na ginawa for me like flexi work. But natatakot pa rin ako materminate. On reallyyy bad days natatakot din ako sa sarili ko dahil baka bigla nalang ako magdecide na magresign kahit na wala ako back up plan HAHA.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:15:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknnx34', 'author': 'MtTralala', 'body': ""At my previous work I was so mentally tired that I spend the first half of my shift asleep. When I did have tasks I couldn't finish it quickly because I was struggling with concentration and thinking. And my skill levels went down kasi bumibigay na utak ko.\n\nAt my current work, I started to feel a little better so I don't feel as miserable yet, but my thinking ability and energy levels are still down, so I still struggle with finishing tasks. And I'm about to start attending mandatory trainings so good luck na lang sa brain ko."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:38:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknol2d', 'author': 'missseductivevenus', 'body': 'Of course', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:45:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmnwea', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'How are peole at work taking it? Ive been on meds for 4months and its really up and down. Kaso now, 4/7days a week down ako.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:53:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmltfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmyb9a', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Yeah planning on doing the same thing. Hirap lng kasi most of the time I really have no energy to move. I dont know.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:15:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmy2be'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn0dir', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Proud of you for asking for help when you need it! 👏 Im thinking of maybe asking din if I could do a hybrid set up. Once a week lng kasi yung wfh ko. But thanks for the idea!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:33:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmy8da'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn133n', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': ""Thank you. Ikaw din. Nice to know you're doing something to keep yourself from drowning.\n\n![gif](giphy|rD8R00QOKwfxC)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:39:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn0uur'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmv57w', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Im sorry to hear that the interview did not go well. 🫂 Hope you still have it in you to try. It may seem like nothing is going your way or this is your fate but I hope you can see that life makes space for the better things coming your way. You got this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:48:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmu4kp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmoykl', 'author': 'EmptyWords4', 'body': 'No one knows na may MDD ako. Also, perks ito na rin na mostly WFH. Medyo may konting flexibility sa end ko na makabawi kapag ok pakiramdam ko. Once meron parang 5 days ako di productive, nag work na lang ako nung weekend nung umok ako. Tho yung may time na may deadlines, I had to suck it up kahit nag bbreak down na ako', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:01:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmnwea'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmylsn', 'author': 'AerieSuspicious9521', 'body': 'Yeah, sobrang bigat araw araw :( i feel you po.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:18:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmyb9a'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoiwqd', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': 'Thank you, OP! And yes! Ask your manager if pwede kang mag hybrid para less pagod din sa byahe.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:50:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn0dir'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmvrzg', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': 'Thank you, OP.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:54:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmv57w'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmpal8', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Ohh I see. Office based kasi ako. Idk if we have laws to protect us from being sacked. Hahahaha. But good on you for making bawi! Sometimes all we can do is really just get up and exist and its okay. It might not get easier but Im sure we get stronger. Hugs!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:03:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmoykl'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn0fsa', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'We got this!! 🤙', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:33:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmylsn'}]"
1jo4g24,2025-03-31T19:55:53,Professional Help,"Where can I get a psychiatrist that will actually diagnose me and how much po usually? preferably online as im kinda shy and uncomfy pag ftf. Been struggling with my mental health since 13yrs old, im an adult na. ",MentalHealthPH,4,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo4g24/professional_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkounjt', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:55:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mksowt0', 'author': 'Annual_Copy_1996', 'body': 'NowServing app! Highly recommended si Dr. Christine Villero. Her consultation fee is ₱1650 per session.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:17:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mktemb2', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""I run a mental health platform and one of our most trusted psychiatric network partners that we refer our clients to is Dr. Mitz.\n\nHe's extremely empathetic and focused on delivering quality care + he's very affordable as well. I've gotten nothing, but positive feedback from all the referrals I've made to him. Here's his facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph](https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:49:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp41xi', 'author': 'Asleep-Assumption245', 'body': ""I just had my first session a couple weeks ago using the NowServing App. It's easy to look for doctors there and depending on the session, they can tell the diagnosis na naman and plans that you can do with your case. It's usually around 1500-3000 per session depending on the doctor, then hiwalay pa 'yung meds which can be around that much din, maybe more. Very pricey talaga but I'd say it can be worth it on the long run to have a professional who can guide you on your mental health journey.\n\nGood luck, OP!"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:43:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvgfm', 'author': 'Admirable-Produce680', 'body': 'Does she give diagnosis after the first consultation?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:59:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mksowt0'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvfab', 'author': 'Admirable-Produce680', 'body': 'does he offer online consultations?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:58:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mktemb2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpik4j', 'author': 'midori09', 'body': 'Nakakuha ka ba agad ng diagnosis sa first session palang?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:56:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mkp41xi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkueca8', 'author': 'Annual_Copy_1996', 'body': ""Yep she does! There's also a form that her secretary sends which u will answer prior to your appointment"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:47:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mktvgfm'}, {'comment_id': 'mktw0dp', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': 'Yes he does - just checked with him!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:05:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mktvfab'}]"
1jofcih,2025-04-01T03:25:37,Affordable therapy/counseling?,"Any recommendation for affordable quality mental health care?  No diagnosis yet but planning to get psychiatric evaluation. Checked In Touch but rate apparently, they're also expensive. ",MentalHealthPH,0,5,https://i.redd.it/ha1yflm5k3se1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'mkrc8mq', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T03:25:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrmv7k', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'UP!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:25:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}, {'comment_id': 'mkspwrf', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""That fee is pretty standard, actually. You can also try searching for doctors in the NowServing app. You can filter your search based on your budget. Consultations usually range from 1-3k. You can also try public hospitals that offer free psychiatric consultations if you really want to save. You just really need to be patient because there's usually a lot of patients and the queues are long. (e.g. PGH. Lots of good doctors there. Some of them who have already finished their residency are also in the NowServing app.)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:24:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt07hy', 'author': 'Glad_Rooster_8566', 'body': 'That fee is already “affordable” sad to say unless you go to  hospitals like PGH and have patience to wait', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:38:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}]"
1jo017o,2025-03-31T15:58:29,How to Survive Suicidal Thoughts,"How to Survive Suicidal Thoughts by Hitomi Mochizuki

[https://youtu.be/hb6AQjNNxA0?si=y6xnJesXbixr3kIU](https://youtu.be/hb6AQjNNxA0?si=y6xnJesXbixr3kIU)

Takeaways:

\- \[[00:29](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=29s)\] Life Is Full of Contradictions – Suicidal ideations often stem from a fixed narrative that life is all bad, but **life consists of both joy and grief, and both are equally valid parts of the human experience**.  

\- \[[03:17](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=197s)\] Identify the Part of You That Needs to Die  – Suicidal thoughts may indicate that **a belief system, habit, or pattern that no longer serves you needs to be released**.

\- \[[06:41](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=401s)\] Reach Back Out to the Hands of Love – Depression can make you withdraw, but **taking small steps to reconnect with the love and support around you** can help shift your emotional state.  

\- \[[11:09](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=669s)\] Embody Love by Treating Your Body with Care – **Speaking to your body with love**, like nurturing your inner child, reinforces a sense of worth and safety.  

\- \[[12:31](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=751s)\] Break the Cycle of Self-Abuse – Recognize and stop perpetuating patterns of self-abuse learned from past experiences by committing to **treating yourself with kindness**.  

\- \[[15:15](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=915s)\] **Reframe Suicidal Thoughts as a Desire for Life to Be Easier** – It's not about wanting to die but wanting life to feel less overwhelming, making it a call for gentleness and ease.  

\- \[[18:16](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=1096s)\] **Be Open to Receiving Love** and Support – Vulnerability and allowing yourself to be loved by others are key steps in healing and building resilience.  

=====================================

PS: (suicidal) thoughts are just thoughts. They're not who you are.

Always remind yourself that you are worthy and you are loved even in your darkest moments.

You're going to be okay.",MentalHealthPH,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo017o/how_to_survive_suicidal_thoughts/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksc6r3', 'author': 'airendrafts', 'body': 'thank you. i needed this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:57:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo017o'}, {'comment_id': 'mktncb3', 'author': 'awesomeoneness', 'body': '🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:25:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mksc6r3'}]"
1jo37qc,2025-03-31T18:59:47,22 [M4M] Anyone wanna be friends while I still have time to live?,"Hi! I'm a lot better now, and a lot less out-of-my-mind since I'm off my strong pain medication! Thank you for all the kind people who commented on my last post and those who have sent messages of their own! I'm still trying to make new friends and, even though there were a lot of messages, I am still quite open to making more. My disease is going to continue to make my daily life worse and worse and it's been a living hell for the past few months. I am still undiagnosed and it's taking months and months to even get some semblance of an answer but the pain is unbearable and I'm slowly losing the ability to function—walk and move. I know for a fact that things will get worse and worse as the days, weeks, and months pass. I've already lost a lot of my mobility in just the last year and will probably lose more this year. I just want to have friends, close friends, to have while I'm still able to do so. I just want to laugh and cry and do all the friendship things that I never got to experience in high school. Please, if you're anyone kind and gentle, someone who would be willing to befriend someone like me, then please hmu. I appreciate all kindness.

But also, let's not be too bleak this time around! I'm genuinely not a ball of sadness at all despite all the bad stuff that's been happening to me! I try my best to smile and laugh and enjoy life even during these difficult times! I love going out! I love meeting new people! I love conversing and talking until the late hours of the night. My passion for knowing others and for being a friend knows no bound and I am one of those people who will stick by you to the end if we click!

And to give some semblance of a introduction: Hi! I'm Min and I'm autistic, would any of you want to be friends?

Things about me:  
\- I'm 5'4  
\- I'm 22 years old, turning 23 this July  
\- I'm physically disabled (not fully but it might change) CANE BOI  
\- I'm mentally disabled (Autism Spectrum Disorder)  
\- I'm a graduate of PUP as a Summa Cum Laude with a literature degree  
\- I'm a published author (physically published) having published one novel and three short stories  
\- I like to cook and bake  
\- I play mainly low maintenance games such as HSR and TFT  
\- I like staying at cafes  
\- I like reading  
\- I like talking about life and how amazing it is  
\- I like hanging out a lot so if you're amenable to go out, then I'm 100% down!  
\- I'm not conyo, I'm just used to typing in English cause autocorrect is my friend  
\- I'm into skincare and makeup!  
\- I love art and museums! Esp museums that are inclusive to disabled people (i.e those with elevators or those that have a wheelchair that I could use)",MentalHealthPH,0,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo37qc/22_m4m_anyone_wanna_be_friends_while_i_still_have/,[]
1jo1ycj,2025-03-31T17:56:24,Medicine Inflation,"Hi guys, I was able to buy some fluoxetine like 2 months ago around 38 pesos each. I noticed na nag price increase na siya into 44 pesos, grabe ang price increase ah

Are there any reasons or issues why nagtataas ang prices? Or that’s just how it is with medicines related to mental health?",MentalHealthPH,0,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo1ycj/medicine_inflation/,[]
1jnwimk,2025-03-31T11:30:34,planning to finally talk to someone,"Hello!  
Do you know any psychological clinics/psychiatrists or just a place to get therapy? in or near Antipolo? can be anywhere in Rizal also. thank you so much",MentalHealthPH,4,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnwimk/planning_to_finally_talk_to_someone/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkn6iv1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:30:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mktesv3', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""I run a mental health platform (Saya) and one of our most trusted psychiatric network partners that we refer our clients to is Dr. Mitz.\n\nHe's extremely empathetic and focused on delivering quality care + he's very affordable as well. I've gotten nothing, but positive feedback from all the referrals I've made to him. Here's his facebook where he personally replies to all inquiries:\xa0[https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph](https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:51:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn9t14', 'author': 'purpledove10', 'body': 'Congrats OP! 👏🏻 You can check Nowserving app. Pwede online and face- to-face doon. Pili ka na lang po ng provider na malapit sainyo.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T12:03:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn7c9u', 'author': 'McBoogerz91', 'body': 'Please check MEDIKO KAPITOLYO near Ynares Center. They have a facebook page. Please check it for their schedule. Just make sure to come early, OP.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:38:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoc851', 'author': 'howHOW112', 'body': 'thank you! :)', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:08:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn9t14'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoc2yd', 'author': 'howHOW112', 'body': 'thank you! will definitely check :)', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:07:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn7c9u'}]"
1jns9ao,2025-03-31T07:12:30,Is anyone else dealing with or has experienced limerance and addressed it with therapy?,"This started last year with a coworker and got worse this year. I’d get anxious if I didn’t hear from him and on a high when he did reciprocate. 

I don’t think I actually “like” him, more of I want him to like me if you get the point and that my mood depends on whether I’ll hear from him or not which is why I’ve identified it as limerence. 

He was actually my trigger point to seek therapy.  I haven’t told my therapist about it yet because I’m observing it but yesterday I did not hear from him at all and super natrigger ang anxiety ko to the point na hindi ako makatulog at naglbm, check ako ng check ng phone and until now ganun pa din. A small win was I survived the day without reaching out because I still wanted to have some ounce of self-respect pero tbh baka nga hindi niya naiisip yun mga ganitong bagay. 

I feel like there are deeper issues that led me to this. My coworker has shown me kindness, listens to me and validated me. Things I feel are missing from my life based on the sessions I’ve had so far with my therapist. 

This coupled with my anxious attachment issues are making me feel so tired and frustrated. It’s not something I can control as of the moment because even if I make myself busy, bumabalik at bumabalik sa kanya yung thoughts ko. It’s like obsession at this point and it feels humiliating. 

Is there anyone with a similar case as mine or is currently experiencing this? 

Edit: Spelling of limerence",MentalHealthPH,5,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jns9ao/is_anyone_else_dealing_with_or_has_experienced/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkm8vu4', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:12:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jns9ao'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmcxci', 'author': 'kohiilover', 'body': 'I had the same experience last year and thru therapy, we were able to reframe it as my catalyst for deeper self introspection', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:38:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jns9ao'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmkgtl', 'author': 'tsoknatcoconut', 'body': 'Could you tell me more about it if you’re open to it? I have a session this weekend and I’ll be talking about it with my therapist. I hope to get some clarity on this kasi it’s super frustrating and tiring talaga', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:28:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmcxci'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmngx0', 'author': 'kohiilover', 'body': 'I think much better if we converse nalang thru DM', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:50:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmkgtl'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmqsvh', 'author': 'tsoknatcoconut', 'body': 'DMed you', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:14:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmngx0'}]"
1jnyonm,2025-03-31T14:17:45,Lamictal (Lamotrigine) and Olanzapine for anxiety and depression,"Good day everyone! 

Anybody taking here Lamictal for anxiety and depression? 

Paroxetine and Sertraline didn’t workout on me, so my psych prescribed me Lamictal as a mood stabilizer, she said that it also works for depression and helps with anxiety. 

If so, what was/is your experience with it?",MentalHealthPH,0,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnyonm/lamictal_lamotrigine_and_olanzapine_for_anxiety/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpmsh6', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': 'Bipolar 1 and currently taking Olanzapine to help lessen the manic episodes and to help me sleep, too. I take it along with Lithium and Fluoxetine. Ever since Olanzapine was added, napapasobra lagi tulog ko.\n\nI used to take Lamotrigine when I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 years ago. Side effect niya naman, rashes. I stopped after a month kasi I started getting rashes on both arms and they were getting bad na. Worked for the depression, though.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:17:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp7a9i', 'author': 'luckycharms725', 'body': ""took fluoxetine + lamotrigine for more than a year then switched to venlafaxine with lamotrigine still. yep, it's good in maintaining your mood at bay"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:00:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mko9idk', 'author': 'degenerate-kitty', 'body': 'Used to take both before!! Olanzapine was effective but I didn’t like the weight gain side effect, so I switched to Zyprexa. It was also effective but it was freakinggg expensive, so I switched to Rexulti 😂\n\nAs for the experience with both, they go hand-in-hand cause Olanzapine or any anti-psychotic med supports the mood stabilizer AKA Lamotrigine (or any mood stab meds). It helped with my anxiety. I still had crying spells and low moments but they were not as worse as before.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:50:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mkodqyh', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': 'Taking Olanzapine with a mood stabilizer. Puro ako tulog.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:18:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrxdlc', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Gaano na po kayo katagal nag oolanzapine? Ano po dosage?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:26:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mkpmsh6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrxa0i', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Ilang mg po olanzapine nyo? And ano po diagnosis?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:25:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkp7a9i'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoa5fz', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Do you still take them right now? You just took it for anxiety, or for depression as well?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:54:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mko9idk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkodxpe', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'What do you take it for? Im taking it for anxiety and depression. Hows your experience with it po?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:19:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkodqyh'}, {'comment_id': 'mksqbey', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': 'One month pa lang pero feel ko naman yung changes. Naka 10mg ako.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:27:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrxdlc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoagkd', 'author': 'degenerate-kitty', 'body': 'Naah, I don’t take an antipsychotic anymore. Lamictal is enough na since I’m on 200mg (it’s the therapeutic dosage for me). I used to take an antipsychotic for anxiety/depression every night.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:56:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoa5fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkol0vr', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': 'It was prescribed as an alternative to Quetiapine na sobrang mahal for me. Yung experience ko lagi akong tulog. Masandal tulog. Pero na-experience ko rin yung pag may plan ka for the next day, with the same meds, hindi naman ako inantok. Pag wala lang talagang plans, matik antok.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:03:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mkodxpe'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoll69', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Ano pong diagnosis sa inyo?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:06:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mkol0vr'}, {'comment_id': 'mkompiw', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': 'Bipolar 2', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:13:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoll69'}, {'comment_id': 'mkonsgl', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Im taking 2.5 mg Olanzapine and 50 mg lamictal. Ilang mg po olanzapine nyo? And gano na po kayo katagal nag oolanzapine?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:19:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkompiw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt4ioq', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': ""Yung Olanzapine ko hinahati ko pa tas before sleep lang talaga. Siguro mga since Feb ko pa lang siya tinetake.\n\nAdd:\nThere's somebody who keeps downvoting my responses kahit naman hindi offensive. Please realize that it's not good for the subreddit if I've decided to stop responding and it turns out I have the answer somebody needs. Kung may galit kayo sa akin for some reason, send me a dm."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:14:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mkonsgl'}]"
1jnsdpi,2025-03-31T07:19:11,How to diagnose Autism spectrum?,"I'm 26F and I've been struggling to socialise, all my life I kept on trying talaga but hindi talaga sya easy for me. I was able to have a boyfriend and 1 bestfriend and buti nalang close knit naman kami ng family ko.

But still nakakababa ng confidence for me kasi its one thing talaga na I feel like hindi ko malearn learn. I wanted to confirm kung nasa spectrum ba ko ng neurodivergent. I've been watching signs na nasa spectrum and check talaga mostly pero I want to be diagnosed ng tama hindi assumptions pero parang everytime I go sa hospitals wala naman ako napapansin or anong doctor ba dapat lapitan?",MentalHealthPH,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnsdpi/how_to_diagnose_autism_spectrum/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkm9xsp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:19:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsdpi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmrznx', 'author': 'DeathRosemary923', 'body': 'To get diagnosed with autism, you have to go to a psychiatrist and a psychologist. The psychiatrist will most likely suggest you to get a psychological assessment (basically, many tests will be done on you) first from a psychologist before they confirm whether you have autism or not. This is because autism is not just about struggling to socialize, but also having repetitive behaviors, resistance to change, hyper- or hypo-sensitivity to sensory things around us, and special interests (at least 2 out of the 4 of these), so doctors need to cross-check with psychologists to ensure that their diagnosis is correct.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:24:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsdpi'}]"
1jnxe3o,2025-03-31T12:34:55,was i wrong for telling my boyfriend's mom that he is suicidal?,"hi. my boyfriend (22M) is angry at me (22F) because i reached out to his mom about him being suicidal.

he has been that way for quite some time now but last night was the most worrying that i've seen him. i can't go into the details of what he did and what happened but i didn't know how how to help anymore. 

for context, my ex was like that as well and for the 2 year duration of the relationship, i kept it all to myself. however it took a major toll on my mental health until i became suicidal too. it took a lot of therapy and medication for me to pull myself out of that state and i was so afraid of that happening again.

so this morning i asked my guidance counselor at school for support. i talk to her regularly especially after my history. i asked her what would happen if i reveal my boyfriend's identity to her since i was worried about the consequences because we go to the same university. she reassured me that he will not be expelled whatsoever because the university sees his situation as something that needs to be approached with care and compassion. so, i told her his name and they checked his records for his mom's contact information because the school and me as his girlfriend can only do so much. they said that even if he is an adult, he is still the primary responsibility of his parents.

my boyfriend found out after his mom found out. and now he is angry at me. but what sort of person would i be if i just sat back and did nothing while he was in danger?

please help. was i wrong for asking for support from his mom and the guidance counselor?",MentalHealthPH,0,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnxe3o/was_i_wrong_for_telling_my_boyfriends_mom_that_he/,"[{'comment_id': 'mknkyya', 'author': 'heaven_spawn', 'body': 'It’s down to how severe his suicidality is. If high risk, you tell folks. But if he’s passively suicidal, where he has some thoughts but no real plans, he has the right to confidentiality.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:05:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnxe3o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkorpic', 'author': 'yellowyletters', 'body': ""He may be angry now but he'll thank you later. That's something you also shouldn't have to bear alone too y'know? Talk to him once he's calmed down. Hope it works out for all of you involved."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:40:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnxe3o'}, {'comment_id': 'mknw9da', 'author': 'Ornery-Emphasis5753', 'body': ""yes, he was doing stuff the night before i spoke to the counselor :( it was really worrying and i didn't know what to do but i couldn't call 911 bc it's a really sensitive situation"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:03:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mknkyya'}]"
1jntbje,2025-03-31T08:11:02,Sleepy on 50mg Lamotrigine,"My Psychiatrist started me on 50mg and will titrate up to 100mg after a week. I'm taking it for 4 days now and been feeling sleepy. Masarap naman tulog ko, I haven't felt any difference yet re anxiety. Madalas paden ako mag ruminate ng bad experiences (ongoing bullying by a boss sa work). Pero I was told na it will take a while bago mag feel ang effects. 

Anyone else na inaantok sa gamot na to? Tyia",MentalHealthPH,1,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jntbje/sleepy_on_50mg_lamotrigine/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmhwpl', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. 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Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:11:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmqayy', 'author': 'iamfur', 'body': 'I think yan talaga yung pinaka common side effect nya. Kaya inadvise sakin na itake sya at night. Although, sakin kabaliktaran, mas lalo akong di makatulog 2 weeks na. Haha', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:11:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn4std', 'author': 'elusivesinger_charot', 'body': 'Common side effect is that :) \nRunning on 200mg a day haha. \nYes to long term intake before you can conclude effects.\nHad it for 1.5 years before moving on to treat another diagnosis.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:13:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkngyly', 'author': 'chocokrinkles', 'body': 'Hindi ako inaantok sa Lamotrigine. First time I took it feeling ko wala akong emotions which is gusto ko. Tapos hindi na ako madalas mainis kasi yun ang symptom ko. Lagi ako napapaaway.\n\nAlam mo, as a person na hindi naaalis sa stressors you won’t feel any difference kung lagi ka lang nasa environment na nag ccause ng stress sayo. No offense, alam ko mahirap gawin pero yun talaga. Same goes for me kaya puro taas na lang ng dosage ginagawa sakin di kasi ako makaalis sa stressors ko which is bahay namin.\n\nPS Lamotrigine is a mood stabilizer. I’m not sure if its the first line for anxiety. Baka mood talaga ang problem mo. Also, it takes weeks before mag work ang meds natin.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:20:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mknjsyv', 'author': 'New_Study_1581', 'body': 'Im taking 200mg sa gabi ko iniinom :) as far sa i can remember hindi naman...\n\nMay iba ako meds for me to sleep...', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:52:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkobynb', 'author': 'degenerate-kitty', 'body': 'My psychiatrist told me that’s a common side effect, so he suggested to take the med in the evening. I felt the opposite — lamotrigine kept me up 😂 so I switched to taking it every morning.\n\nAnd yes, it takes a while to hit the therapeutic dosage. Pero depende parin. Usually 200mg yung sweet spot but for some other people it’s either higher or lower than 200mg. You would know/feel naman when it’s starting to work.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:06:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mknhy92', 'author': 'Ms-Fortune-', 'body': 'I was also given quetiapine pero di ko na tinatake since inaantok naman ako sa lam. Have you tried it po?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:31:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmqayy'}, {'comment_id': 'mknia30', 'author': 'Ms-Fortune-', 'body': 'Thank you po sa input! After 1.5 years do you feel better po? Like di na sobrang low nang feelings?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:34:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn4std'}, {'comment_id': 'mkni5p7', 'author': 'Ms-Fortune-', 'body': 'Yan din po gusto ko maachieve. Better not to feel than anxious every time, yung feeling ko laging may target behind my back :(( I agree po need talaga maremove yung stressor. Hoping maka alis ka sa situation mo soon 🙏 ako naman I know job is just temporary. Idk lang if I can last at least 6 months, 1 year talaga target ko before lumipat and hope for a better work environment', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:33:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkngyly'}]"
1jnsr1o,2025-03-31T07:39:47,My aunt has a mental illness,"Hi everyone. 

Just wanted to ask for some help.

Context: May tita ako na bago ako ipanganak is matino naman. Nakapag work pa nga sa japan e. I am 31 years old now. So she’s been like this for 31 years. Based sa stories nila mukhang nagkaron ng breakdown due to a delusion na nagkagusto sa kanya yung best friend ng tito ko na bading. She committed suicide but survive. 

Since bata ako lagi na siyang nagsisigaw at nagmumura randomly. And worst pag nakalabas siya ng bahay nangaaway siya ng kung sino sino maski bata, nanggugulo sa mga tindahan pag di siya nabigyan barya, defecating in public, nanghahampas randomly, naghuhubad. Over the years may time na kinailangan talaga siya itali dahil ilang beses napatawag sa baranggay lola ko and at the same time natatakot din sila na baka maling tao yung maaway ng tita ko. Last year the worst happened, she almost burned our house down, dahil dinikit niya yung katol niya sa kurtina. Buti nagising father ko nung umaapoy na yung kisame namin and nakita niya yung tita ko na gising and di man lang sumisigaw or no signs of alerting them.


They tried to put her in a mental institution many times, pero always na rereject. Dahil as per the doctor tuwing pumupunta sila sa ospital is matino naman on the grounds na nakakakilala naman and nakakausap ng maayos. Lagi siya nagiging matino tuwing ina-assess na siya ng doctor. Ending bibigyan lang siya ng medication pampakalma or pampatulog. But here is the thing. Yung mga meds na binibigay sa kanya? Pag ipapainum namin iniipit niya lang pala sa dila niya then pagtalikod namin tinatapon niya lang. We discovered it sa ilalim ng unan niya or yung iba nasa drainage.

Is there any possibility na mapasok siya sa public mental institution or do we really need to go to a private one? Is there any affordable mental institution in Manila? Last time we checked it was 20k a month. Which I cannot shoulder alone. Di na rin kayang maalagaan ng parents ko sa bahay since my grandma(her mother is 82 years old na and di na rin makalakad). And bumukod na din ako a long time ago, ayaw ko naman na dalawa ang kailangan alagaan ng sarili kong magulang at tumatanda na din sila.",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnsr1o/my_aunt_has_a_mental_illness/,[]
1jnsbwo,2025-03-31T07:16:26,Can an emergency room prescribe my medications?,My doctor is not returning my calls and I have been without my antidepressants for almost 2 weeks. I am going incredibly insane and Im scared im going to go into a manic depressive episode. If I go to the emergency room do you think they can send my medication to a pharmacy? My doctor is not returning my calls and Walgreens (my usual pharmacy) is so unorganized and recently just tried telling me I haven’t had it in almost 7 months (I’ve gotten it 3 times since then from there). I don’t know what to do and I’m scared. I don’t want to be hospitalized but I can’t be without this medication. What do I do? ,MentalHealthPH,0,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnsbwo/can_an_emergency_room_prescribe_my_medications/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkm9i8j', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:16:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsbwo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmg0u4', 'author': 'OlgaGee', 'body': 'Dear OP, i am not sure we can comment on this properly or correctly as we are PH based. I hope you find the answers you need as soon as possible.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:58:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsbwo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmg8qb', 'author': 'andr0_rat_gh0st', 'body': 'What is ph', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:59:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmg0u4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmga8j', 'author': 'andr0_rat_gh0st', 'body': 'Tbh I clicked on the first thing tht looked trustworthy', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:00:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmg0u4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmpuvu', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Hi. The PH in r/mentalhealthph means Philippines. I'm not sure how it works over there but when I was in a situation similar to yours here in the Philippines, the ER doctor gave me a prescription before I was discharged then they informed my psychiatrist about what happened."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:07:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmg8qb'}]"
1jnakfk,2025-03-30T17:08:02,My life is a tragedy.,"I was clinically diagnosed with MDD, way back 2021. I took different kinds of oral medication including abilify maintena 500 mg injection once a month.

I'll just make it short, most of my family hates me, discriminated me for having this kind of mental illness that in the first place i didn't want to have this. Fast forward last year 2024.  I started to look for a job, my biggest problem is that once that i get triggered in work because of the toxicity of other people, either AWOL, or immediately resignation. In a span of 6 months, I've been with 3 companies already and now, I'm jobless again and today was my final interview from a company that i want to work with. I disclosed my mental illness and the interviewer said it was okay. He will give me a chance and thanked me for being honest with my life happenings. The problem is, I told him that, this is my first time to get a job if ever. Now the HR sent me a form that is a consent to allow them to do a background check on me. I took the form and signed it. I had nothing to do anymore. I am still waiting for the result, but I am not expecting that I will pass. It's just really hard for me without any emotional support from my parents and, I am still here in the same roof with the people who caused my mental illness to be more flown with hatred and I'm thinking of my life to take it. It doesn't make any sense anymore. I feel like it's all my fault. I'm already 28 y.o, yet I don't have anything to be proud of. Literally, I am just a burden to my family.",MentalHealthPH,13,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnakfk/my_life_is_a_tragedy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkiadqn', 'author': 'Huge-Culture7610', 'body': 'You’re not alone. MDD fucked up my career too. My skills are good, I get along with my co workers. Im easily recognized for promotion, but everytime I relapsed, tinatapon ko lahat yan then pag okay na, it’s like i woke up with a nightmare and all is gone. But thanks to my medicine…. Im slowly recognizing myself again. :) game face on. Don’t give up. I’m with you…..', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:52:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnakfk'}, {'comment_id': 'mki6vj2', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': 'Both of my parents have their new families. They never supported me financially or emotionally. Only my grandmother took care of me.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:24:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnakfk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkib0fz', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""Thank you for the uplifting words. Idk if i can do it anymore. It is what it is. I think i'll just take the path of the other world in the near future. I'm glad to know that you're getting better."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:57:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiadqn'}, {'comment_id': 'mkijm88', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'Nasaan ka now nakatira? If sa kanila, better move out. And are you undergoing therapy? Meds are not enough', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:58:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mki6vj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkib4xt', 'author': 'Huge-Culture7610', 'body': 'Don’t give up bro. I’m with you. I get you. Please hang on bro.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:58:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkib0fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkik36h', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""Yes sakanila parin, I don't have any money to move out. I'm undergoing therapy, but it's quite a long wait from time to time cuz i only get it from the government. My family is full of sh*t. I'm the one who's also carrying the generational trauma of this cursed family and being a sponge from my lola."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:01:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkijm88'}, {'comment_id': 'mkirvs7', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': ""That's good that you are undergoing therapy pero sabi ng therapist ko, hindi ganun ka effective ang therapy if you are in a toxic environment. I hope you'll find a work that can support you para makaalis ka na dyan. It's not too late. You are trying naman."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:48:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkik36h'}, {'comment_id': 'mkisi81', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""I agree, malaking part yung pagiging uneasiness ko parati dahil sa environment ko. May nabasa lang ako na, that's why you don't put the victim on the same roof with the abusers... Madali maka trigger and feel ko stagnant ako, looped lang sa same sh*t scenario sa mind ko once triggered."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:52:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mkirvs7'}, {'comment_id': 'mkitke5', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'Yep, kaya ang adviced ng therapist is to find a work and sunod nun is move out, para mas maging effective yung therapy. Pero hindi naman madali yun. 3 steps pero mahirap. So unti untiin mo lang.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:58:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mkisi81'}, {'comment_id': 'mkitwr5', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""I'm losing more options than resolving what needs to be resolved. Maybe it is my fate."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:00:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mkitke5'}]"
1jnjz7k,2025-03-31T00:40:44,Random vent pls be kind(TW:mention of self harm),"TW:SH
I've been struggling with my mental health since 8th grade (now in 12th) and now i can feel na it's getting worse. Lahat ng tao nasusungitan, minumura, nagagalit ako sakanila for the most mababaw reason and I feel bad but I feel like na diko ma control emotions ko at all parang naka auto pilot emotions ko and wala akong control. And i have zero motivation to do anything like school and socializing. I also tend to ipon pinag dadaanan ko hanggat sumabog ako and mag ka anxiety attack(just happened an hour ago) like kunware I'm sad about something now pero pag papaliban ko yung pag ka sad ko for another time hanggat mag patong patong na lahat and diko na kaya and I go crazy. since 8th grade whenever i have these attacks I would hurt myself tapos after i would feel better pero as times goes by yung pag hurt ko sa sarili ko doesn't work anymore and i wanna do something more. Pero now I'm happy na 3 or 4 months na ako clean but not i have the urge to do it pero I'm trying to distract myself and pinipilit maging happy. I feel so lost and trapped sa mga nararamdaman ko and I really want professional help pero diko masabi sa mommy ko kasi she doesn't believe in mental health problems kasi dasal dasal lang daw yan dapat daw kasi nag sisimba ako, I do believe in God and I also tried that pero it didnt work. I really want and need professional help because I'm genuinely struggling pero di ko alam saan ako kukuha ng help, I feel like I lost my happy makulit and sweet personality parang I'm inside a completely different persons body that I can't get out of.


Advices are well appreciated :))",MentalHealthPH,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnjz7k/random_vent_pls_be_kindtwmention_of_self_harm/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkkc2jf', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:40:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnjz7k'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkpj5w', 'author': 'DetectiveUsed4382', 'body': 'Hi OP! Have you considered going to your registered guidance counselor? Maybe they can help you refer to a professional. \n\nI used to be like this, I am diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and when I was in grade 11 I was off my meds since at that time I thought I was ‘cured’ but BP is a life long condition. So at that time I was so mean to the people around me and I pushed them away.  \n\nLong story short I’m now an upcoming freshmen in a university (BS PSYCH) so yes it is possible for stability as long as you comply with therapy, medication (depends on the case) and good habits and support system.  \n\nI want you to know you are not alone, and sorry if my advice/story is all over the place but it’s already a big step you are self aware of your current circumstances. \n\nIf you want more advice and want to ask more feel free to DM me :)', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:50:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnjz7k'}]"
1jnhmrj,2025-03-30T22:59:38,Help me stop taking Clonazepam,"I’ve been taking clonazepam for the past 24 days, to help with my anxiety and to help me sleep coz i’ve been worrying about heart issues. So far, a 2d echo and ecg showed i’m ok but the cardio thinks i might have POTS and am now still waiting for my holter result which is why i am still anxious and taking the clonazepam.  

So, i took .5mg for 18 days and .25mg for 6 days. I’ve been feeling less calm since tapering but it’s tolerable. Should i just stop after a few more days of .25mg. I will admit there were 2 days where i skipped taking altogether and just had major anxiety those 2 days. Can’t tell if it’s really rebound anxiety or just anxiety from thinking about how i’ll fare without clonazepam. Please help me. ",MentalHealthPH,0,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnhmrj/help_me_stop_taking_clonazepam/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjrzsm', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:59:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhmrj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjzj45', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': ""Hello dear, anxiety really is a menace and our minds can make us suffer most of the times but managing medications including dosage is better discussed with your doctor, both your psychiatrist and heart doctor ( I assume a cardiologist?)\n\nAlso, medicine can only take us far, including therapy is still a better choice for long term management. For now, like right now, if your psychiatrist is not available, you can call on the hotlines sa subreddit na ito so you can talk to a mental health professional and ask for their help to guide you in calming down your thoughts.\n\nYou can also counter your scary what ifs, tama naman si brain sa mga negatives na naiisip niya, pero tama rin siya sa mga positives, like what if okay talaga heart mo? what if kahit diagnose ka mamamanage mo? POTS is generally not life threatening naman just in case. Wagka muna mag-Google, distract yourself with a wholesome series.\n\nFor now, you can also try comforting yourself in your mind as if you're a separate person like a parent or partner and tell your anxious thoughts that it'll be alright, you're here for yourself, you got you and you'll figure it out."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:37:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhmrj'}, {'comment_id': 'mknpx06', 'author': 'Easy-Weekend', 'body': 'Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful reply. Anxiety really is such a menace. Prior to this, i’ve always been so calm and level-headed. I don’t even recognize the person i am now. It’s so frustrating. \n\nYou’re right in telling me to not google. I really spiraled for awhile and just kept googling, which piled on even more to my worried state, before i got the 2d echo and ecg result. The normal results gave me momentary relief but i just tend to overthink while this medical journey is still not over. \n\nI’ll try to be kinder to myself and make and effort to relax. But it’s just so difficult. Thanks again for replying.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:59:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjzj45'}]"
1jn3u2e,2025-03-30T09:02:36,"thanks reddit , i finally got help","The saying rings true, whatever you're having trouble with right now there's probably someone on Reddit that's been thru a similar thing. I'm aware of my debilitating mental health for the past years and like others have seeked online forums to find an answer as to why I feel the way I feel.

Long story short I assumed I'm experiencing anxiety attacks and just not been functioning like I would so this what I did:

◻️**looked for available psychiatrist**
– this community has been great help in sourcing out and navigating what to do, I've also found similar situations to mine so that made me feel at ease

⚪booked consultation with **NCMH** and the schedule I got was in **March 2026** (one year waiting) which gets naman. if your case is an emergency don't hesitate to contact them.

🟢**Nowserving** – the filters are great and it's easy to background check the clinics. I found a doctor that was within reach and within means (for now). I didn't book in the app but I did find the contact info for the clinic.

◻️**finally told my parents** how I'm struggling and in need of professional help
– temp checked. they've shown empathy naman for others that seeked professional help
– for a long time I also consulted friends about what to do

◻️**first psychotherapy consultation** 
– organized my thoughts (typed in docs) beforehand. less than an hour consultation gusto ko masulit.
– staying honest and allowing your doctor to question and analyze

⚪ initial diagnosis: general anxiety disorder– also got prescribed meds
– akala ko normal lang yung anxious state ko for the past years haha hindi pala

🟢 **got referral to PGH** idk if normal to medyo shook din ako I got scheduled for a screening (within the week)

⚪ doc and i considered my options and limits from meds, sessions, and finances, kaya rin siguro narefer

◻️**PGH Psych clinic** Padre Faura, OPD Bldg.
– 6:30am medyo puno, mag face mask!

🔵Blue Card – approach counter C, fill out the form, waiting time 10-30min

⚪Psych Clinic – 3rd floor, counter opens at 7am, first come first serve

⚪Screening – more structured, may questionaire pero you're not limited to it
– doc in PGH re-affirmed the initial diagnosis and I got another schedule in PGH na🥹
– medyo lutang pa ako, hopefully you guys get enough sleep the day before
– finished at 8:30am, sabi sa counter expect ko raw na nandun ako maghapon pero ayun

◻️**prescribed antidepressants** 
– expected side effects: headaches, nausea, diarrhea 
– supposed to calm my nerves– will start working daw in a month
– my exp: lethargic antok by afternoon, poop cycle go wack

now that I've been diagnosed and actually seeked a professional which I thought was out of my reach– everything **feels unreal**. it feels like something heavy is lifted off my shoulder after the first consultation so pagdating ng 2nd consultation medyo kinwestyon ko bigla if it's all in my head haha weird noh? kung kailan i have a professional telling me as it is im suddenly doubting how I feel. Siguro dahil from low to high emotions ko during all that

besides this subreddit i've been lurking in i wanna say i have friends supporting me throughout my decisions too, and some that have reached out congratulating me for taking this step. Salamat",MentalHealthPH,12,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn3u2e/thanks_reddit_i_finally_got_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkgrmdo', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:02:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh0j31', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Yay! This is a huge step and taking it is pretty brave. You're on your way to getting better and I have a feeling that you're going to be okay. Wishing you well on your mental health journey. 😊\n\nSino doc mo sa PGH? Hihi."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:13:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhwq9j', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'You can recover. GAD is manageable. Very good for seeking help and sharing your journey here.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:47:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}, {'comment_id': 'mki5in0', 'author': 'TopHuge2671', 'body': 'Sino doc mo sa PGH?\n\nI am glad for you.. keep it up and continue your meds ah..', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:12:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}]"
1jng8zu,2025-03-30T21:58:38,should i just cancel my therapy session?,"i scheduled a therapy session supposedly this month pero ilang beses na sya napostpone ng clinic. i was not in the right headspace pa when i booked it pero i think im kind of doing good na recently so im not rushing them nman to resched it so soon.

they gave me other scheds again pero hindi pko nagrereply since medyo tight yung sched ko hindi sya pasok sa binigay nila and i dont think i need it pa nman. this will be my first time and i dont know if im just subconsciously avoiding it. what do u guys think? i dont have an idea pa if refundable sya but should i just cancel it?",MentalHealthPH,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jng8zu/should_i_just_cancel_my_therapy_session/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjg3al', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T21:58:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jng8zu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjhysp', 'author': 'Poof-Willow-8229', 'body': ""It could be what you said, OP, about subconsciously avoiding it. Although the last say in it will be up to you, I'd say go through with it/reschedule at your most available time that works for the clinic as well. Even though you say you feel like you don't need it now and only considered it some time before, you might still be able to address your concern, whether before or currently (if any), and get some insight or perspective.\n\nSeeking help/therapy doesn't always necessarily have to be for worst case scenarios only naman. Goodluck, OP!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:08:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jng8zu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjkw9q', 'author': 'Lazy-Sympathy-8706', 'body': 'hayy sguro nga deep down i know what to do and maybe just needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:23:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjhysp'}]"
1jn1ag2,2025-03-30T06:40:28,I am diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Disorder. AMA,"Hello! I (30F) had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2017 and have been under treatment (meds + therapy) since then.

It's World Bipolar Day today and I just thought I want to talk about my illness here.

So AMA :)",MentalHealthPH,13,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn1ag2/i_am_diagnosed_with_bipolar_1_disorder_ama/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkg5x1q', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:40:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhg397', 'author': 'Rare_Cry2852', 'body': 'AMA naman no? Ano nagpush sayo noong unang beses ka magpacheck? Or pano mo nasabing may mali sayo noong di ka pa diagnosed?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:44:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhoera', 'author': 'Majestic_Audience407', 'body': 'hello po! paano po naconfirm na BP1 talaga diagnosis mo? I have MDD, i’m just curious ano po yung indication na bipolar ang isang person. tyia 🤍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T14:17:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mki3cf4', 'author': 'HeallyLoe7', 'body': 'BP1 din po here. F19. I want to ask how did you handle college during your time po? How did you avoid burn out while keeping yourself on track with your tasks? \n\nThank you po. 💚', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:53:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkggkyh', 'author': 'ExaminationNo3379', 'body': 'BP1 here. What meds are you on right now?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T07:46:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mklx4z0', 'author': 'Leading_Rip4341', 'body': 'May adverse side effects po ba kayo like weight gain, shaking hands, low/non-existent libido, or brain fog? If yes, na-consider niyo po bang mag-taper off/discontinue ng medication?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T05:58:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mksq1pg', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': ""I'm a college student nung 2017 and I was so depressed na naapektuhan acads ko. Di na ako pumapasok ng classes kasi wala talaga akong energy both physical and mental. Yun yung turning point ko in a way kasi I love studying so the fact na ayaw ko na mag-aral is a warning. So dahil di ako pumapasok, I had failing grades at the end of the academic year. I was told by my college na for dismissal na ako and that means di na ako makakatuloy sa pag-aaral sa univ. Dream school ko talaga ever since UP so I asked if pwede pa ako bigyan ng second chance. They told me I had to prioritize getting better first. To consult professional help. So that's what I did."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:25:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhg397'}, {'comment_id': 'mksqjef', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': ""The difference is the existence of manic episodes. Bipolar was called manic-depressive disorder before. So to classify as bipolar, dapat may manic symptoms din.\n\n\nBefore I was referred to a psychiatrist, a general practioner indicated in my record na it's possible I have bipolar 1. Then when psychiatrist na nakausap ko, sila yung mas in-depth medical history yung ginawa and then confirmed that I have bipolar indeed."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:28:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhoera'}, {'comment_id': 'mksqza5', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': 'Meds + therapy + support system. I had to build a routine that works for me. Lessened load din. Sa univ namin, 15 units ang regular load. I usually enroll in 9 units na lang. I have to be mindful of my limitations now.\n\n\nAlso when I was first diagnosed, my college required me to take a leave of absence muna so I could rest from acad reqs and prioritize getting better. Then nagka-family issues din nun so I was not enrolled for almost five years. Kakabalik ko lang ulit sa studies last year actually.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:31:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mki3cf4'}, {'comment_id': 'mksr0ow', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': 'Lamotrigine, quetiapine, propranolol', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:31:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mkggkyh'}, {'comment_id': 'mksrgid', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': ""Among those listed mo, brain fog yung nae-experience ko. Titrating the dosage worked, yes. Discontinuing medication is not an option for me. If I do, there's a huge possibility I'd enter into a mood episode."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:34:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mklx4z0'}]"
1jnc1vi,2025-03-30T18:39:27,i don’t think i can keep doing this,"my anxiety has been really bad these past few days. it’s so hard to get up and move because my mind is completely overwhelmed with worry, and the pressure from work just makes it worse. i struggle to talk and face people. it’s gotten so bad that i feel like breaking down before work meetings because i genuinely can’t speak up or even organize my thoughts. i don’t know what happened. i used to be fine with meetings, but now it feels like i lost all my confidence.

just thinking about having to go to work tomorrow feels so heavy. the pressure and anxiety don’t stop, not even for a second. i spent my supposed rest day just overthinking and crying because i know i have to show up again on weekdays. i feel like i can’t do anything.

i’ve also been having a lot of suicidal thoughts lately, and i can’t take care of myself anymore. i just want to lie down and do nothing. i can't even do my usual routines anymore, like hygiene or skincare. also, people keep commenting on my weight, saying i’ve gained too much or that i should get checked, and the worst part is that it’s my own family saying these things.

i’m so anxious about work, about tomorrow, about the days ahead, about what i’m supposed to say or do. i feel like shit, incapable, useless, and like every part of me just wants to disappear right now. i keep thinking about how i could make that happen.",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnc1vi/i_dont_think_i_can_keep_doing_this/,[]
1jnaukc,2025-03-30T17:26:53,Why is it so hard to find Litcab?,"Any idea why its almost always out of stock? I almost had an anxiety attack earlier cause I've been to almost 20 pharmacies and they dont have stock. Lol. Ive been looking for lithium carbonate for almost a week now. 🫠 

",MentalHealthPH,1,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnaukc/why_is_it_so_hard_to_find_litcab/,"[{'comment_id': 'mki76p9', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:26:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki89bw', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Hi. If you're near or kaya naman pumunta sa NCMH, they have Litcab there. While most of the meds they have are much cheaper than most drugstores, napansin ko lang na mas mahal ng konti yung Litcab sa kanila. I get my Litcab there for free (galing kasi sa public hospital prescription ko) but I have friends who buy theirs sa NCMH kasi nahirapan din sila maghanap recently. 12php sa Mercury, 17php sa NCMH. If you have a PWD ID, you can have it discounted naman."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:35:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki9e32', 'author': 'AlexisRayne129', 'body': 'Usually, mercury drug has it. If not, ask them which branch ang may stock. That happened to me, and they actually called other branches and told me which branch has it. Sending hugs Op. Hopefully, the mercury drugstores there are as understanding as the ones I encountered', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:45:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkigmz5', 'author': 'streakfolmlore', 'body': 'It’s a manufacturer supply problem.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:38:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki8th6', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Oh i see. Nasa Cebu kasi ako. :( Ill try the public hospital pharmacies here near me. Thank you for the tip!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:40:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mki89bw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiaipb', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'They actually are! :) They did check other branches but the one who had a lot of stock were 2 cities away. 🥴', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:54:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mki9e32'}, {'comment_id': 'mkikq4x', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Yeah thats what they said :( hirap but still hoping to find some! 🤞', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:05:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mkigmz5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiah31', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': 'Ouch ang layo pala. Dito sa Manila pahirapan din maghanap ng Litcab these past few months. Tho sabi ng isa kong friend, meron na raw ulit sa Mercury. Sabi sa supplier daw nagkaron ng problem. I hope you get your meds soon. :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:53:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mki8th6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiavib', 'author': 'AlexisRayne129', 'body': ""Ohhhh that's far. Hoping you still have some left while waiting for then to restock. Sending hugs Op🤗"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:56:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiaipb'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiaqad', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Yeah thats what the lady from Watsons said din. Sana ma ayos na nila. Im more scared sa effects if i stop taking them just becoz walang stock. Thank you! Sana nga.  🤞', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:55:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiah31'}, {'comment_id': 'mkib0z8', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'I only have about 3 days left hahahaha but its okay baka I find one bukas. Or if not puntahan ko na lng talaga yun. Thank you! 🫂', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:58:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiavib'}]"
1jna7y5,2025-03-30T16:43:56,Looking for Psychologist,"Hello! May ma-rerecommend ba kayong psychologist who specializes in bipolar disorder, child, and family trauma? Open ako to online or face-to-face consultation. I look forward sa mga recommendations nyo. Thank you!",MentalHealthPH,0,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jna7y5/looking_for_psychologist/,"[{'comment_id': 'mki2bk7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:43:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jna7y5'}, {'comment_id': 'mki9oiw', 'author': 'Last_Eye_8379', 'body': 'https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/13n30XAUJEjSN444V67_F6k__dd6uudfd1gZLLRS9HeA/mobilebasic', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:47:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jna7y5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmi4og', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': 'Hi! I’m one of the mods here and also the founder of Saya — a mental health platform made for Filipinos. We focus on making therapy more approachable, compatible, and affordable.\n\nYou’ll get matched with a licensed counselor or psychologist, then you can browse detailed profiles, watch intro videos, and book instantly — no back-and-forth needed.\n\nAvailable on\xa0[iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516)\xa0and\xa0[Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app)\xa0💙\n\nhttps://i.redd.it/6jnkz1xauxre1.gif', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:12:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jna7y5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmyd7o', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': ""Hellooo! Thank you so much. I'll check this out :)"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:15:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mki9oiw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmyb26', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': ""Thank you. I'll check this out :)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:15:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmi4og'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoo2kk', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""We've got a live chat that you'll see on the app so please reach out to us anytime you've got any questions or have ant special requests! No pressure, we're here for you 💛"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:20:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmyb26'}]"
1jn9z9k,2025-03-30T16:27:36,finally breaking free but,"after months of breaking down and crying because of work, i finally had the courage to seek professional help and am now on meds! medyo hindi ko lang kinakaya yung side effects but i feel na paunti unti nang nagiging stable yung mental health ko.

also, i got a new job at an mnc! 4x a month rto which is muuuch better than my current workplace na 4x a month wfh and with a boss na namamahiya (which caused my anxiety and why i decided to jump ship)

ang dilemma ko nalang is whether or not i should inform my boss na im pushing thru with my resignation or ipasa ko nalang? 😭 nabring up ko naman ng i plan on resigning bc of burnout and ginaslight niya ko (sabi niya sa generation daw ngayon, madalas maiisip mag resign muna pag naburnout LOL) pero it’s rlly because she a frckn terror person. namamahiya and may obvious bias sa team. 

update ko raw siya sa decision ko pero and hirap naman maghanap ng timing to tell 😭😭😭",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn9z9k/finally_breaking_free_but/,[]
1jn9st4,2025-03-30T16:14:54,NowServing app female psychiatrist recommendation pls,"Hi, been struggling with chronic depression and anxiety for the past decade and I've been in medication ever since. Na-outgrow ko na psychiatrist ko lalo na't she's too motherly for me I guess? Sino kinikita nyo ngayon and how is it?",MentalHealthPH,0,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn9st4/nowserving_app_female_psychiatrist_recommendation/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhzcig', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:14:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9st4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiiqmq', 'author': 'QuirkyNigiri', 'body': 'Following.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:52:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9st4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmflen', 'author': 'AggressiveWest2977', 'body': 'Dr. Hanah Palomar. She’s a good listener, talagang maratamdaman mong makikinig sta sa sentiment mo. I have my brother under her na stable na ngayon.\n\nhttps://preview.redd.it/zlhrzt0frxre1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8de8c290c534e3260edb04faf510afc048313506', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:55:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9st4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn8a5j', 'author': 'anonime0w', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:47:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmflen'}]"
1jn6pi1,2025-03-30T12:15:29,doctor recommendations on NowServing app,"hello guys please help me baka naman po may recommendations kayo ng Therapist, Psycologist, and Psychiatrist na din po dito sa now serving app. Medyo di ko trusted yung napuntahan kong doctor dito sa hospital samin and i dont think na i should trust him by his diagnosis with having little knowledge about me and nag prescribe agad ng meds. May nakapag sabi din sakin na sabi ng doctor nya na actually di din maganda and di din talaga enough and one session for a doctor to diagnose and give me meds lalo na when it comes sa mental health. i said no sa meds na pine prescribe sakin kasi im afraid na baka lumala ako or baka hindi naman talaga yun yung need ko tapos ite take ko yun? i was diagnosed by him with bipolar pero i dont think kasi na i am bipolar, may nakapag sabi din sakin na yan din talaga palagi ang starter na diagnosis ng ibang doctors. And I felt like he was rushing me with a lot of questions din talaga naging uncomfy ako, minsan 2 questions yung ina ask nya sakin so i answer one muna then babalikan ko, pero di ko nagagawa kasi may another question na naman sya. I wanted to answer some questions for him to know din kaso nag r rush sya talaga. 
And it was free so talagang di na din ako magtataka why he’s like that, oo bayad sya ng government pero talaga when it is free talagang may sabit, tinry ko lang kasi my tita insisted. (sorry guys napa haba). I WOULD LOVE IT IF MAY MA RECOMMEND KAYO 💗💗. ",MentalHealthPH,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn6pi1/doctor_recommendations_on_nowserving_app/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhdcl8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:15:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn6pi1'}, {'comment_id': 'mktf763', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': 'I’m a mod here and also run a mental health platform (Saya). Just wanted to vouch for Dr. Mitz — he’s one of the psychiatrists we trust and refer clients to.\n\nHe’s kind, really listens, and doesn’t overcharge. Everyone I’ve sent his way has had good things to say. He also replies personally on his page if you want to reach out: [facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph](https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:55:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn6pi1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkioe4o', 'author': 'airendrafts', 'body': ""hi, i can recommend one, i'll send you sa dms if ok lang! although ano ba budget mo?  \n  \nhonestly, i get what you mean, di lahat match tayo sa first psych natin. and it's ok we can find another. pero tbh sa lahat ng tatlong natry ko, nabigyan ako ng meds kaagad the first session, and got diagnosed with depression thrice initially. never ako nadiagnose ng bipolar kaagad, even though now na nalaman later on na bipolar 2 ako.  \n  \nso im not sure if talagang yan ang laging initial diagnosis ng doctors since bipolar is a tricky disorder, i dont think nakukuha siya agad the first try. usually masqueraded siya as something else."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:28:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn6pi1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiqbo9', 'author': 'Additional_Ad_889', 'body': 'hi! if its ok with you can you dm it to me as well?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:39:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkioe4o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjut3z', 'author': 'Radiant-Artist-9119', 'body': 'yes i will dm u thank you pooo, idk abt sa budget i dont mind naman and i get you din po. honestly some disorder/illness are really tricky coz some of them almost has the same symptoms kaya mas maganda na din to get checked multiple times para sure na din.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:13:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkioe4o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkisixb', 'author': 'airendrafts', 'body': 'yes!', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:52:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiqbo9'}]"
1jn9ipu,2025-03-30T15:53:27,Recommended psychiatrist/therapists in metro manila??,"Hello! I need help with finding a student-friendly psychiatrist/therapist. I'm a sophomore student in Manila and I was s\*\*\*\*dal for around 3 years, back when I was 16yrs old until 18. I recently got better because I am currently staying in a dorm, but then I started to relapse. I don't have s\*\*\*\*dal intentions now, but my brain is just too tired and it just won't shut up. I recently had episodes of anxiety or panic attacks (I'm not sure which it is), and I'm just scared because I tend to lose control over my body. I thought I did well healing by myself, but most of the time, I just feel like I'm in autopilot, and nothing is real. I have been trying my best to heal so far, and I can tell that I am definitely happier and better now, but I guess there's always this lingering illness in me that I can't get rid of by myself. I never tried consulting a mental health professional before because I was scared that my struggles weren't enough to seek professional help, and  I don't really want to take meds for my mental health because I'm scared that I'll be too dependent on them. I was hoping someone here would know any good and affordable psychiatrist or therapist, preferably around Manila or Pasig.",MentalHealthPH,0,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn9ipu/recommended_psychiatristtherapists_in_metro_manila/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhxa1x', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:53:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1ycz', 'author': 'Last_Eye_8379', 'body': 'https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/13n30XAUJEjSN444V67_F6k__dd6uudfd1gZLLRS9HeA/mobilebasic', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:40:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}, {'comment_id': 'mki28ng', 'author': 'Last_Eye_8379', 'body': 'Open above link for resources\n . Try Ateneo Bulatao Center - they give free counseling if their criteria are met 🙏', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:43:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}, {'comment_id': 'mki4b5b', 'author': 'TopHuge2671', 'body': 'PGH recommend ko kaso kung minor ka pa need mo ng kasama doon na guardian..free naman doon.. \n\nthis is the link for the website for scheduling for appointment sa PGH\n\nhttps://pghopd.up.edu.ph/', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:02:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}]"
1jmouha,2025-03-29T21:01:48,I miss my former psychiatrist,"It’s been almost a year since doc had to discontinue her clinic here because she was doing further studies abroad. 

She’s the best trauma psych I’ve met. We had a good run—almost three years. Talking to her felt like talking to an old friend minus the guilt of trauma dumping. We laughed, I cried, she gave great insights, “homework”, and meds. 

Doc, if you ever lurk around here, I want to thank you for everything. I don’t think I would have gone this far if not for your care. I truly wish you the best. 

And I hope I find as good a doctor as you soon. Life has been a real struggle lately. ",MentalHealthPH,23,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jmouha/i_miss_my_former_psychiatrist/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkdacm6', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T21:01:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmouha'}]"
1jn2qx8,2025-03-30T08:00:02,"Di ko alam kailangan ko, hear me out.","Hi,

Sorry if all over the place tong post na to, generally I've been a strong person. If something hits me like a truck I get sad for a bit then bangon.

But now, a lot of things - family problems, dad has been addicted to gambling, mom has cancer, ang malala only child ako. Confidant of my mom and over the years has become bitter everytime I try to talk to her its all negativity about my dad and their problems. I don't want to even stay in this house for long din, nag backfire pa WFH setup ko, pag maglulunch break ako negativity maririnig ko.

I don't know, I know I need help pero idk what fits me, I dont think im depressed but I need better ways to cope if I start from that where do I start seeking help and what kind of help am I looking for if I dont have a mental disorder or illness?



",MentalHealthPH,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn2qx8/di_ko_alam_kailangan_ko_hear_me_out/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkgilq7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:00:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgosth', 'author': 'Tricky_unicorn109', 'body': 'Need siguro huminga at magpahinga? Sorry about your mom, and your dad. Totoo mahirap magpalaki ng magulang. Pero bago kapa totally malunod, baka gusto mo iconsider magmove out?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:42:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgq1l0', 'author': 'adamnatalie04', 'body': 'sa mundong to di mawawala problem kahit sino, saan at kelan meron at meron yan if mag pa psychiatrist ka they will give you medication to control the symptoms, if psychologist they will help you how to cope it, meaning also for them its normal that everybody has a struggle, they will teach you how to cope, accept and face it rather, moving out is temporarily relief you can do that para makahinga at makapag isip ng maayos but in the long run its all about you how to face it and rather like mas tuturuan ka isipin mo sarili mo kesa ibang tao kasi lahat tayo may limit', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:51:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}, {'comment_id': 'mki096k', 'author': 'Historical_Seat_447', 'body': ""You need to move out kahit hindi malayo, basta hindi harap sa kanila. Just visit them. I also grew up in a difficult household, and I love my family, pero d ko na kaya talaga. I had to leave. It's either me or them, and I choose me. \n\nIf d mo na kaya, protect yourself first. After all, anu matutulong mo kung depressed ka din dahil dyan?"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:23:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}]"
1jn7e3u,2025-03-30T13:08:01,Need help to find psychiatric care,"Hi, this might be a long post but i hope someone can give me assistance on finding a psychiatric care facility.

I am 29 years old and diagnosed with bipolar disorder with psychotic symptoms since 2019. 

I want to share my psychiatric journey for better understanding of my history and background. 

Back in 2018 I was diagnosed with Depression disorder at PGH. Ako nag dala sa sarili ko because i am harming myself. Natigil ako sa pag visit since kasabay ng Psych consult ko is visit sa FHU (Family Health unit ata) where I need to bring my parents or guardian. Na di ko magawa since i am a runaway, my family is INC and their solution to mental health problems is sumamba. Which i tried for real but i know deep down na my condition needs help by a professional and needs medical intervention. 

Since di nagwork yung sa PGH, i tried other options. I tried different helplines.  2019 may nakuha akong psychiatrist and psychologist. I was prescribed Setraline and went to therapy with the psychologist. This does not work din since psychologist is a Catholic volunteer. And unfortunately i didn’t find the psychologist ways helpful. 

June 2019, i did another suicide attempt. This time i went and admitted sa NCMH pavilion 28, Asis ward if i am not mistaken. My parents were called at sila nagbantay sakin. But due to the conditions of the ward they had me discharged after a week, na ayaw ko kasi i liked the talks with the residents Psychiatrist which they talk to my parents as well and i think i am getting somewhere. But yun nga early discharged but they were able to give me a diagnosis with all the talk and sessions with me and my family. Since then i was diagnosed with Bipolar affective disorder with psychotic symptoms. And was prescribed with Olanzapine, Fluoxetine and Quetiapine. After being diagnosed and admitted naging monthly na yung visit ko sa NCMH. Then yung monthly naging every 3 months tapos naging every 6 months. Though naging hiyang ako sa meds, i don’t find my sessions sa OPD very nice. Pipila ka ng matagal just to be seen by the doctor with less than 15 mins without reading your medical history. But i get by since meds worked for me that time. 

I was able to land a job in a good company at nagtagal ng years. Na bago sakin kasi all my past employment AWOL ako at hindi nagtatagal ng isang taon usually 1 month, 3 months, 9 months longest. I was able to keep a romantic relationship din. I helped myself by reading books about bipolar and other self help books. I got to get a hobby where i enjoy and made friends along the way. Since i know my condition well enough na, i was able to talk and share it to my family and friends na natira. We somehow reconnected and make amends to each other. I can say that am well regulated.

Cut to June 2024, I committed another suicide attempt. Everything crumbles, my mental state, my career and all my relationships. I don’t know what i did wrong. Kung baga i thought i have the equation figured out but hindi pala. I succumbed again to severe depression and i got defeated. I tried to bring the better version of me. Created plans after plans. Read every theories i get. Again tried to apply help options. Comply with psychiatric visits. Attended psychological interventions. Magiging okay for a while then hindi na naman. 

Again, I attempted suicide last March 7, 2025 overdosed with my meds Olanzapine and Quetiapine. Everything was calculated, i was ready to leave everything. Searched for the fatal dosage of my meds, fastest way para ma dissolve sa body ko yung iinumin ko kasi nga di na first time na gagawin ko yun, drank it sa place walang immediate help. But then i was saved. Now i am not happy about it. Everything got worst than before, reached a new level of rock bottom . People expect me na to bounce back agad kasi ive done it in the past. They have seen me get better, they have hopes for me but i got no hope for myself. This time i dont know what to do. Well i know what to do but i just cant do it.

So now i want to be admitted in a psychiatric care. Kasi i feel so lost. 1st option is NCMH but given the conditions sa mga wards im looking for other facilities. I know getting psychiatric treatment is expensive. I got HMO with my employer that can cover a decent amount. I got emergency funds din naman pero im looking for economical rates. This is the only thing i want nay NEED to do. 

I am sorry for the long post, this is the first time i post here so i am sorry if i am not familiar with guidelines on what or how to post. But i wish someone can give me options for PSYCHIATRIC CARE FACILITY. Thank youuuu!",MentalHealthPH,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn7e3u/need_help_to_find_psychiatric_care/,[]
1jn1ak4,2025-03-30T06:40:37,Just want to hear nice words right now,"I’m currently going through a depressive episode after a week of being productive and calm. Nainis lang ako over a small thing kanina tapos nag-spiral na naman ng malala kasi every time I relapse, di ko maiwasan yung thought na back to zero yung progress.

Ang sakit na ng ulo ko. I drank water and I’m trying to calm down by watching chill shows. I’m reminding myself na I’m more than these episodes and I’m not only trying, but I’m also getting better compared dati.

I wanna hear nice words lang din to keep going please 🥺",MentalHealthPH,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn1ak4/just_want_to_hear_nice_words_right_now/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkg5xxw', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:40:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ak4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh0xl0', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Recovery isn't linear. You will encounter some setbacks but you're not gonna be stuck there forever. You're still here despite everything. That's something to be proud of. And remember, progress is progress, no matter how small. Baby steps lang tayo. You'll be fine. It gets better. :)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:16:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ak4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgmcb9', 'author': 'Tricky_unicorn109', 'body': 'If you dont mind, ano nagpatrigger? At nice words lang ba ang nagpapakalma ng episodes mo?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:24:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ak4'}]"
1jn6vh0,2025-03-30T12:28:37,Need help to find psychiatric care,"Hi, this might be a long post but i hope someone can give me assistance on finding a psychiatric care facility.

I am 29 years old and diagnosed with bipolar disorder with psychotic symptoms since 2019. 

I want to share my psychiatric journey for better understanding of my history and background. 

Back in 2018 I was diagnosed with Depression disorder at PGH. Ako nag dala sa sarili ko because i am harming myself. Natigil ako sa pag visit since kasabay ng Psych consult ko is visit sa FHU (Family Health unit ata) where I need to bring my parents or guardian. Na di ko magawa since i am a runaway, my family is INC and their solution to mental health problems is sumamba. Which i tried for real but i know deep down na my condition needs help by a professional and needs medical intervention. 

Since di nagwork yung sa PGH, i tried other options. I tried different helplines.  2019 may nakuha akong psychiatrist and psychologist. I was prescribed Setraline and went to therapy with the psychologist. This does not work din since psychologist is a Catholic volunteer. And unfortunately i didn’t find the psychologist ways helpful. 

June 2019, i did another suicide attempt. This time i went and admitted sa NCMH pavilion 28, Asis ward if i am not mistaken. My parents were called at sila nagbantay sakin. But due to the conditions of the ward they had me discharged after a week, na ayaw ko kasi i liked the talks with the residents Psychiatrist which they talk to my parents as well and i think i am getting somewhere. But yun nga early discharged but they were able to give me a diagnosis with all the talk and sessions with me and my family. Since then i was diagnosed with Bipolar affective disorder with psychotic symptoms. And was prescribed with Olanzapine, Fluoxetine and Quetiapine. After being diagnosed and admitted naging monthly na yung visit ko sa NCMH. Then yung monthly naging every 3 months tapos naging every 6 months. Though naging hiyang ako sa meds, i don’t find my sessions sa OPD very nice. Pipila ka ng matagal just to be seen by the doctor with less than 15 mins without reading your medical history. But i get by since meds worked for me that time. 

I was able to land a job in a good company at nagtagal ng years. Na bago sakin kasi all my past employment AWOL ako at hindi nagtatagal ng isang taon usually 1 month, 3 months, 9 months longest. I was able to keep a romantic relationship din. I helped myself by reading books about bipolar and other self help books. I got to get a hobby where i enjoy and made friends along the way. Since i know my condition well enough na, i was able to talk and share it to my family and friends na natira. We somehow reconnected and make amends to each other. I can say that am well regulated.

Cut to June 2024, I committed another suicide attempt. Everything crumbles, my mental state, my career and all my relationships. I don’t know what i did wrong. Kung baga i thought i have the equation figured out but hindi pala. I succumbed again to severe depression and i got defeated. I tried to bring the better version of me. Created plans after plans. Read every theories i get. Again tried to apply help options. Comply with psychiatric visits. Attended psychological interventions. Magiging okay for a while then hindi na naman. 

Again, I attempted suicide last March 7, 2025 overdosed with my meds Olanzapine and Quetiapine. Everything was calculated, i was ready to leave everything. Searched for the fatal dosage of my meds, fastest way para ma dissolve sa body ko yung iinumin ko kasi nga di na first time na gagawin ko yun, drank it sa place walang immediate help. But then i was saved. Now i am not happy about it. Everything got worst than before, reached a new level of rock bottom . People expect me na to bounce back agad kasi ive done it in the past. They have seen me get better, they have hopes for me but i got no hope for myself. This time i dont know what to do. Well i know what to do but i just cant do it.

So now i want to be admitted in a psychiatric care. Kasi i feel so lost. 1st option is NCMH but given the conditions sa mga wards im looking for other facilities. I know getting psychiatric treatment is expensive. I got HMO with my employer that can cover a decent amount. I got emergency funds din naman pero im looking for economical rates. This is the only thing i want nay NEED to do. 

I am sorry for the long post, this is the first time i post here so i am sorry if i am not familiar with guidelines on what or how to post. But i wish someone can give me options for PSYCHIATRIC CARE FACILITY. Thank youuuu!",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn6vh0/need_help_to_find_psychiatric_care/,[]
1jn0ljt,2025-03-30T06:05:36,Sino ang kagaya kong Hindi ko pa rin alam ang gusto kong career and nangangamba akong hindi na maging successful sa future,"Nass mis 20s na sko pero hindi ko pa rin alan gusto ko. Since college, hirap na hirap na akong pumili ng program. After college, nagkaroon ako ngf severe anxiety and from then on, nawalan na ako ng gana na mag-aral (kasi Sabi nila naganda daw magmasters agad after grad etc etc) nandito din yung pag-aalala na paano kung hindi ako magtagumpay sa larangang ito.


Paano ba malampasan ito? Tumaas naman posisyon ko pagkalipat ko ng ibang company pero pakiramdam ko, ang bobo ko. 

Hindi inate sa akin yung skills na need sa work na ito. Although less than 6 months pa lang ako dito. Noon, sobrang anxious ko while working,now, hjndi ako masaya, Hindi din naman malungkot. Paano nyo ba nahanap yung work na masasabi nyong para sa inyo? Or treat ko na lang ito as means of buying needs? Ssbi noon ng therapist, explore lang. Paano kayo nag explore??",MentalHealthPH,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn0ljt/sino_ang_kagaya_kong_hindi_ko_pa_rin_alam_ang/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkg05y0', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:05:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn0ljt'}]"
1jmf8ys,2025-03-29T10:49:04,Recent visit to NCMH as fully paying Philhealth member,"For context, my last visit was around 10 years ago when I was seeing a psychiatrist regularly and he had been prescribing me with meds.

When I scheduled an appointment back in December, I got a March slot. The email advised me to arrive as early as 7 o'clock; I arrived just before 10 am.

At the gate is the triage station where everyone fills up a form and where those with appointments go to the nearby nurse's station to get their blood pressure and blood oxy level taken. My form was later kept by the nurse. The rest with no appointments waited on seats near the gate.

After my stats were recorded, I started the long and arduous process by walking over to the pavillion area which is pretty much where everyone waits their turn to see the doctor, collect whatever paperwork, and pick up their meds.

The first step is collecting a number at a stall and then lining up at the Philhealth window ('Window 1') where you're told of your Philhealth status. This will be the longest line of the day--I was in line for over an hour. They print out some forms for you to bring with you all the way until you collect your meds, if any. If you are not a Philhealth member, you are asked to line up and register elsewhere at another window. After I collected my Philhealth forms, I was asked to go to another window and then after that (not too long a wait, maybe around 10 minutes lang), go to another nurse's station where my blood pressure and oxygen level taken again. 

With Philhealth forms in hand, it's time to wait. And wait. And wait. There are not enough seats so people sit on the ground and steps. Many are flat out sleeping on the chairs or on the ground. There are no refreshment stalls like before and only one drinking fountain (I do not know if it works as I didn't try)--so my suggestion is to bring a lunchbox and a lot of drinking water. The bathrooms do not have flushing water or locks on the door.

My number was in the 150s and they were serving the 90s at the time. Finally, my turn came at around 330 pm and was ushered inside with some others to wait more, but at more comfortable areas with air conditioning and seats. Still holding the Philhealth forms in hand, I finally saw a psychiatrist at around 4 pm. She appeared nice and didn't rush our talk, though we spoke for barely 10 minutes. She then wrote out a prescription for mood stabilizers to last month. She said we could test out this specific brand first and switch next time if needed. She gave me a follow-up appointment in two months' time. 

I then proceeded to the Philhealth desk which is right outside the consultation rooms where someone checked and collected my forms, then I walked back outside where I surrendered my prescription at a counter where I was given a number and I had to wait again until my number was called. This time, I collected my meds at another counter. (While waiting, you may go to the documentation counter if needed; for example, request for documents you need for PWD application requirements). I got my meds just past 5 pm after waiting for around 25 minutes for my meds. No payment needed. 

Because the hospital is only allowed to give one month's supply of meds, you are asked to return just before you run out with a photocopy of the prescription. No need to see the psychiatrist--though you need to line up at Philhealth Window 1 again for status verification. 

Overall, it was a very long, hungry day. But the attitudes and demeanor of everyone--from the guards to the nurses to the personnel--were not bad, and I was able to go up to anyone to ask questions without being turned away or anyone being rude, despite the hordes of people they have to deal with and the super hot weather that day. My experience was not negative at all (not that it's ever been, since around 2010 when I started going there on and off). 

I urge anyone to not let the stigma of having mental health issues or the supposed bad rep of the place stop you from going to NCMH if you need help; after all as paying Philhealth members, it is our right to be able to access mental healthcare and even medication. I'd be a fool to not accept this help and not have to pay a cent for it. 

I hope this post helps someone. And to everyone, here's to good health. My takeaway from this experience: I am grateful for this service and of course, meds I would otherwise not be able to afford. And next time, I will arrive earlier and definitely bring a lunchbox and a lot more water.",MentalHealthPH,55,4,https://i.redd.it/h6d3a1jjckre1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'mkbv5yz', 'author': 'Much-Access-7280', 'body': ""To be fair, ginagawa lang talaga ng gov't hospitals ang best nila given their limited resources. Believe me mas madaming matinong gov't employees sa health facilities natin. Talaga lang kulang sa budget. I'm glad you had a nice experience OP."", 'score': 21, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T14:28:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmf8ys'}, {'comment_id': 'mkibii4', 'author': 'chorizocremadeath', 'body': 'I need this too!! Balak ko na sana to go cold turkey on my meds because it’s expensive to get an appointment w my doctor just to get refills. \nThanks for sharing this, OP.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:01:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmf8ys'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc3tjn', 'author': 'gigigalaxy', 'body': 'maybe also bring a book or movies to watch', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:04:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmf8ys'}, {'comment_id': 'mkchc7p', 'author': 'blackbutterfy', 'body': 'second this!!', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T18:04:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mkbv5yz'}]"
1jmqfuv,2025-03-29T22:14:09,Im living for the sake of others,"
Normal lang ba na nabubuhay nalang ako para sa kapakanan ng iba? 

24 na ako and diagnosed ako with major depression since i was 20. Into those years of medications on and off ako with regular follow up check up with psychiatrist. Alam ng family ko and supportive sila sa situation ko which im really glad. I have no jowa din, i failed every relationship ever since i got diagnosed kasi kahit sarili ko di ko maalagaan iba pa kaya. Im being well taken care and needs are provided pero di naman ganon kadali mawala depression diba. pamilya ko nalang iniisip ko tuwing pumapasok sa isipan ko mga bagay na hindi ko dapat gawin. Gusto ko rin matuto mabuhay para sa sarili ko ;(",MentalHealthPH,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jmqfuv/im_living_for_the_sake_of_others/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkdnkjj', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T22:14:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmqfuv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfwuwu', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'Take them as your inspiration pero sabi nung naka usap koong well being coach, ang tanong nya, ""what motivates you?"" Sabi ko, ""my family"" nasa isip ko, wala akong pangarap para sa sarili ko, lahat sa family. Sabi nung coach, ""yung para sa sarili mo? External motivation kasi ang family, ano yung internal motivation? Sabi pa nya, sana gawin kong inspiration din yung sarili ko, to improve for myself, to dream for myself. Kasi sabi nung coach, ""paano mo sila matutulungan kung hindi mo tutulungan ang sarili mo?kung wala kang pangarap para sa sarili mo?"" \n\nTake it one step at a time. Nandyan ang supporting fam mo to help you. And isa pa, nagpapa therapy ka ba? Bcos meds are not enough. Same thought process, same negative thoughts pero kapag nagtherapy ka, they will teach you how to manage those emotions and thoughts. So i highly encourage always to seek help from psychologist. I\'ve talked with psychologist,guidance counselor, and well being coach and I can say they helped me the most. Matagal nga lang bago makita yung progress kaya yung iba they stop na.\n\n Good luck!', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T05:45:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmqfuv'}]"
1jomjen,2025-04-01T09:17:31,i can't do this anymore,my mother has been physically abusing me and i feel so helpless. i am struggling with BPD and severe depression. i have no one to save me. what should i do po. i've just been hit countless times just a few minutes before typing this. i am also verbally abused. please. i just want to end it. i've suffered way too much. i am sorry for posting it here. i have nowhere to go. i am at my most vulnerable state,MentalHealthPH,5,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jomjen/i_cant_do_this_anymore/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksxflh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We noticed that you have flaired your submission with a Trigger Warning. We highly recommend that you seek professional help if things are getting out of hand or PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\n# A personal note from the moderator team:\n\n**Are you suicidal right now?** Again, please contact the emergency hotline above and obtain professional help. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. At the very least, surround yourself right now with someone you can trust.\n\nIf you cannot or do not wish to call anyone, please at least read the home page of http://suicide.org/. The most impactful, we believe, is the director's message that: \n\n*Let me also tell you that if you are suicidal, you probably are suffering from clinical depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, postpartum depression, PTSD, or something similar. And if you have something along these lines, you actually have a chemical imbalance in your brain -- and you cannot possibly think straight because of it. **That is beyond your control. You are not weak. You just need some treatment.** This imbalance can occur for several reasons, from genetics to a traumatic life experience, and it is extremely common for people to have this imbalance, so do not feel like you are alone. You are not.*\n\nYou are not weak! The fact that you are here is a testament of your strength. Remember: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:17:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomjen'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt2zur', 'author': 'Accomplished-Luck602', 'body': 'Please get out ASAP. Get an escape plan. Makiusap ka sa family or friends mo.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:01:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomjen'}]"
1jomcsz,2025-04-01T09:07:05,car wash therapy,"wish car washes lasted longer, they're the most peaceful 2 minutes of my month... listening to my favorite songs, putting it in neutral and just, enjoying....",MentalHealthPH,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jomcsz/car_wash_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksw0s5', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:07:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jomcsz'}]"
1joj3in,2025-04-01T06:18:09,Idk how to get better. (vent),"I genuinely don't know how to feel better. I feel I'm at my worst in life and Idek what to do anymore. I'm stressed because of school, tests exams ect., I feel like I wasn't good enough because of my recent breakup, I feel so dysphoric right now and really emotional, I barely wanna get out of bed and I'm really struggling. I feel like the only way to feel somewhat better is by relapsing or just treating myself like shit, or watching sad movies/media. I'm worried my friends are gonna hate me, I'm rarely in school now and always have been, because of my mental health. I feel like I'm failing them, but maybe that's just because my ex made me feel like that? Idk.. Im really struggling, idk what to do. I feel like none of my healthy coping mechanisms are working.",MentalHealthPH,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1joj3in/idk_how_to_get_better_vent/,"[{'comment_id': 'mks5url', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We noticed that you have flaired your submission with a Trigger Warning. We highly recommend that you seek professional help if things are getting out of hand or PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\n# A personal note from the moderator team:\n\n**Are you suicidal right now?** Again, please contact the emergency hotline above and obtain professional help. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. At the very least, surround yourself right now with someone you can trust.\n\nIf you cannot or do not wish to call anyone, please at least read the home page of http://suicide.org/. The most impactful, we believe, is the director's message that: \n\n*Let me also tell you that if you are suicidal, you probably are suffering from clinical depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, postpartum depression, PTSD, or something similar. And if you have something along these lines, you actually have a chemical imbalance in your brain -- and you cannot possibly think straight because of it. **That is beyond your control. You are not weak. You just need some treatment.** This imbalance can occur for several reasons, from genetics to a traumatic life experience, and it is extremely common for people to have this imbalance, so do not feel like you are alone. You are not.*\n\nYou are not weak! The fact that you are here is a testament of your strength. Remember: YOU ARE NOT ALONE.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:18:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1joj3in'}]"
1johw1t,2025-04-01T05:19:06,Feedback for my design of a Mental Health Education Program,"Hello Everyone, 

I am creating a Mental Health Education Care Package/Program designed for youths in the Philippines. Any feedback would be invaluable, could be things to remove or add!

  
Thank you for your time ",MentalHealthPH,4,5,https://i.redd.it/s2wg40cw34se1.png,"[{'comment_id': 'mkrw5is', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:19:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1johw1t'}, {'comment_id': 'mks9x0w', 'author': 'heaven_spawn', 'body': 'What age are we talking? Most high school kids need not learn too many specific modalities (CBT, DBT, ACT, etc) especially as it’s way technical (college maybe). \n\nCommon need on the thread that emerges is “Hey when is it time to pull the trigger and ask for help?” That’s talking about impairment to function, recognizing negative coping patterns, and gauging how serious the threat to self and others is. So gotta cover self-harm as maladaptive coping, and ideation as sign of bad things, but not an end-all signal of impending death.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:43:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1johw1t'}, {'comment_id': 'mktw6sp', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': ""Hello OP. SUCH A NICE INITIATIVE!!! Worked for an MH institution and DOH before that creates/organizes something like this, maybe I can help. Pero here are things to consider:\n\n1. Purpose: anong need yung nakita mo kaya nais mong gumawa ng educ program?\n2. Participant demographic: sino muna intended beneficiary mo? Age? Lugar(rural or urban? If student, HS? Elem? Gaano sila karami? Can you get infor sa extent ng knowledge nila on mental health?\n3. Resources: Budget? Number of facilitators and speakers? partner schools or institution?\n4. Creator's background with mental health: May I know the depth of your training and knowledge po on mental health? May mga well-intentioned individuals po kasi pero sila mismo need muna ng further training bago sila makapag implement muna to avoid causing unintended harm to themselves or others/misinformation and for the program to have a stronger foundation.\n\n\\*PS: For educators/school admin that want to create a program sa school, may upcoming training si PGCA(Philippine Guidance and Counseling Association) tomorrow\n\nhttps://preview.redd.it/mt4al0qa27se1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=466a7fe2eeb091bb5ede5214823d868497358045"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:07:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1johw1t'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt5ckw', 'author': 'Tune-Little', 'body': 'This is highly valuable insight. I will be sure to use this feedback to guide my learning output creation. Thank you so much for your feedback, and the time you took to do this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:21:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mks9x0w'}, {'comment_id': 'mktitoy', 'author': 'Schadenfreude_ph', 'body': 'yes, make sure to align what you are teaching to your intended audience. mas maabsorb nila at mas magiging engaging for them.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:34:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mks9x0w'}]"
1jofcih,2025-04-01T03:25:37,Affordable therapy/counseling?,"Any recommendation for affordable quality mental health care?  No diagnosis yet but planning to get psychiatric evaluation. Checked In Touch but rate apparently, they're also expensive. ",MentalHealthPH,0,5,https://i.redd.it/ha1yflm5k3se1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'mkrc8mq', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T03:25:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrmv7k', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'UP!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:25:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}, {'comment_id': 'mkspwrf', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""That fee is pretty standard, actually. You can also try searching for doctors in the NowServing app. You can filter your search based on your budget. Consultations usually range from 1-3k. You can also try public hospitals that offer free psychiatric consultations if you really want to save. You just really need to be patient because there's usually a lot of patients and the queues are long. (e.g. PGH. Lots of good doctors there. Some of them who have already finished their residency are also in the NowServing app.)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:24:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt07hy', 'author': 'Glad_Rooster_8566', 'body': 'That fee is already “affordable” sad to say unless you go to  hospitals like PGH and have patience to wait', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:38:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jofcih'}]"
1joawil,2025-04-01T00:22:54,It’s getting bad again.,"You ever feel na ang hirap bumangon, kumain, maligo or matulog kapag inaatake ka ng anxiety and depression? Ganyan ako ngayon. Gutom ako pero hindi ako makakain. Gusto kong matulog pero hindi ko mapatigil ang isip ko. Gusto ko ulit mag-exercise pero hirap na hirap akong bumangon. 

Worse, walang makausap. I am a married woman but sadly, I could never open up to my husband (who blamed me na it was wrong for me to feel this way), despite him, being diagnosed with mental health struggles too. I expected for him to show up for me, and to hear me out (like I do for him). 

It is so hard to care for people who don’t feel the same way about you. 

Sorry, I just really needed to vent out. It is almost 3am and I am alone. ",MentalHealthPH,26,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1joawil/its_getting_bad_again/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkqc4ce', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:22:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mks3yka', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'If wala po kayong maka usap, please undergo therapy with a psychologist. Kaso kapag toxic yung environment, hindi 100% effective ang therapy. But it will help you. And may mga araw na ganyan na hirap bumangon, wag lang siguro tumagal ng buwan kasi kapag ganun, pa check up na kayo. What motivates you pala? May i ask, para kanino ka bumabangon?', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:06:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mksn80i', 'author': 'SpinningWheel_45', 'body': 'This is me rn. I know it’s disgusting, pero hindi ulit ako nag toothbrush at nag ugas ng muka kahit daily routine ko yon. Di pa rin ako nabangon at nakain kahit mag noon na. Nag skip din ako ng meds at vitamins kasi sobra yung anxiety at pag iisip ko dahil sa problema na ginawa ko. Hindi rin ako makatulog ng ayos. At yes, ramdam na ramdam ko yan na yung ineexpect mong tutulong sayo pag inaatake ka, yun yung hindi pa rereciprocate yung pakialam na binibigay mo sa kanila. Lagi kang ma mimisunderstood sa sitwasyon mo. Ang hirap. Nag therapy na din ako pero parang lagi akong back to zero at ang mahal nya. Gusto ko lang sabihin na di ka nag iisa. Ayoko mag sabi ng positive quotes kasi wala akong nararamdamang positivity ngayon. But for you, maybe the option is talking to a therapist would be the best option since di nila iinvalidate mga nararamdaman mo. I know you can do it.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:06:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqfpp5', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': ""Hello po. Hugs with your consent OP 🤗🫂\nSo sad to hear na your partner isn't so supportive of you.\n\nBut for now, I'll be one of the strangers, for there will be supportive others here too, that would gladly cheer you on and acknowledge your struggles 💪🏻\n\nYou probably already know na it's not your fault despite what your husband said pero syempre masakit parin. I hope you can find a quiet place sa inyo right now to just look at something that can give you comfort too and that you can focus on that would bring about kahit slightly positive memory/feeling, near a window with a view? A plant? A photo? a book? a pet? Sinubukan mo matulog pero walang bisa kaya okay lang kahit you let your body be awake but in a resting position near a comfort object.\n\nThere will be many nights like this, but I hope you can get further professional help or even find a support group nearby. For now, tambay ka muna sa comfort ng mga strangers like you ☺️\n\nIn the future, you can also prepare for super lows like these by stocking up on easy-to-prepare food or reserving money to order online. It won't always be like this. You can exercise anytime, you can walk whenever you're ready, that's already exercise."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:40:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mks4a5e', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'If wala po kayong maka usap, please undergo therapy with a psychologist. Kaso kapag toxic yung environment, hindi 100% effective ang therapy. But it will help you. And may mga araw na ganyan na hirap bumangon, wag lang siguro tumagal ng buwan kasi kapag ganun, pa check up na kayo. What motivates you pala? May i ask, para kanino ka bumabangon?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:08:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mkstlws', 'author': 'SeriTang1', 'body': 'I have the same episodes, ups and downs. I also don’t have a good support from family. But I’m trying to survive for myself. Last session with psychiatrist was July 2023, lost my job so no follow ups na. I am thankful there are angels disguised as people who have extended help by being present. I try to journal and yun breathing exercise when I’m overthinking. If you need someone to talk to just a message away. Hope we feel better soon.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:49:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mksy7fj', 'author': 'Tricky_unicorn109', 'body': 'Hirap ng ganito no? Gusto mo lang ng tahimik but your mind wanders and creams about things na minsan wapa ding kabuluhan. Kakapagod.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:23:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1joawil'}, {'comment_id': 'mkso8pt', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Hi, po. Yes, last time I talked to a psychologist was October of 2024. Kaya lang natigil din kasi ang mahal ng psychotherapy at 2500 per session plus need ko pa ng medical certificate each time to para ipakita sa boss ko at almost 500 din per medcert, kaya always back to square one. \n\nAs of motivation? Hindi ko na po alam. I am a talented person — I can write, I can dance and sing. But lahat yun inagaw sa’kin ng depression. I used to work out a lot before, pero ngayon wala na. I developed scoliosis, bad acne and stomach problems bec of this - pero ako lang yata nakapansin. Pero thank you for your kind words po, hindi madali, pero kakayanin at pipiliting bumangon.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:13:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mks3yka'}, {'comment_id': 'mkspjyq', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Sorry to hear about that po. I hope na maging okay ka rin. I know exactly how it feels like, esp yung part na hindi na halos makakain at makagalaw kahit yung simpleng paghihilamos or yung pagsusuklay nga lang ng buhok ang heavy sa pakiramdam. I hope that people like us will be understood more - sometimes, tayo-tayo nalang din magkakaintindihan. Mabigat, mahirap man pero sana medyo maging magaan na. Hugs to you po. Hindi ka rin nag-iisa.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:22:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mksn80i'}, {'comment_id': 'mksowv4', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Hello po! Thank you for your kind words and support. As an introvert na person, I always find ways to protect my own space and peace — kaya maskin papaano, may quiet place naman for me to think. I had psychotherapy but that was October of 2024 pa, hindi na nakakafollow up kasi mej mahal. Kaya this is my first time to ever post something here sa Reddit though 1 year na’tong account ko. \n\nIt is true nga, sometimes strangers will support you more than those who already know you. Naappreciate ko po ang comment/message nyo. Love lots!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:17:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mkqfpp5'}, {'comment_id': 'mksoxfs', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'Hello po! Thank you for your kind words and support. As an introvert na person, I always find ways to protect my own space and peace — kaya maskin papaano, may quiet place naman for me to think. I had psychotherapy but that was October of 2024 pa, hindi na nakakafollow up kasi mej mahal. Kaya this is my first time to ever post something here sa Reddit though 1 year na’tong account ko. \n\nIt is true nga, sometimes strangers will support you more than those who already know you. Naappreciate ko po ang comment/message nyo. Love lots!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:17:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkqfpp5'}, {'comment_id': 'mks4chq', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'Why kaya downvoted ...maganda po sinabi nyo😊', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:08:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkqfpp5'}]"
1jnsr1o,2025-03-31T07:39:47,My aunt has a mental illness,"Hi everyone. 

Just wanted to ask for some help.

Context: May tita ako na bago ako ipanganak is matino naman. Nakapag work pa nga sa japan e. I am 31 years old now. So she’s been like this for 31 years. Based sa stories nila mukhang nagkaron ng breakdown due to a delusion na nagkagusto sa kanya yung best friend ng tito ko na bading. She committed suicide but survive. 

Since bata ako lagi na siyang nagsisigaw at nagmumura randomly. And worst pag nakalabas siya ng bahay nangaaway siya ng kung sino sino maski bata, nanggugulo sa mga tindahan pag di siya nabigyan barya, defecating in public, nanghahampas randomly, naghuhubad. Over the years may time na kinailangan talaga siya itali dahil ilang beses napatawag sa baranggay lola ko and at the same time natatakot din sila na baka maling tao yung maaway ng tita ko. Last year the worst happened, she almost burned our house down, dahil dinikit niya yung katol niya sa kurtina. Buti nagising father ko nung umaapoy na yung kisame namin and nakita niya yung tita ko na gising and di man lang sumisigaw or no signs of alerting them.


They tried to put her in a mental institution many times, pero always na rereject. Dahil as per the doctor tuwing pumupunta sila sa ospital is matino naman on the grounds na nakakakilala naman and nakakausap ng maayos. Lagi siya nagiging matino tuwing ina-assess na siya ng doctor. Ending bibigyan lang siya ng medication pampakalma or pampatulog. But here is the thing. Yung mga meds na binibigay sa kanya? Pag ipapainum namin iniipit niya lang pala sa dila niya then pagtalikod namin tinatapon niya lang. We discovered it sa ilalim ng unan niya or yung iba nasa drainage.

Is there any possibility na mapasok siya sa public mental institution or do we really need to go to a private one? Is there any affordable mental institution in Manila? Last time we checked it was 20k a month. Which I cannot shoulder alone. Di na rin kayang maalagaan ng parents ko sa bahay since my grandma(her mother is 82 years old na and di na rin makalakad). And bumukod na din ako a long time ago, ayaw ko naman na dalawa ang kailangan alagaan ng sarili kong magulang at tumatanda na din sila.",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnsr1o/my_aunt_has_a_mental_illness/,[]
1jo017o,2025-03-31T15:58:29,How to Survive Suicidal Thoughts,"How to Survive Suicidal Thoughts by Hitomi Mochizuki

[https://youtu.be/hb6AQjNNxA0?si=y6xnJesXbixr3kIU](https://youtu.be/hb6AQjNNxA0?si=y6xnJesXbixr3kIU)

Takeaways:

\- \[[00:29](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=29s)\] Life Is Full of Contradictions – Suicidal ideations often stem from a fixed narrative that life is all bad, but **life consists of both joy and grief, and both are equally valid parts of the human experience**.  

\- \[[03:17](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=197s)\] Identify the Part of You That Needs to Die  – Suicidal thoughts may indicate that **a belief system, habit, or pattern that no longer serves you needs to be released**.

\- \[[06:41](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=401s)\] Reach Back Out to the Hands of Love – Depression can make you withdraw, but **taking small steps to reconnect with the love and support around you** can help shift your emotional state.  

\- \[[11:09](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=669s)\] Embody Love by Treating Your Body with Care – **Speaking to your body with love**, like nurturing your inner child, reinforces a sense of worth and safety.  

\- \[[12:31](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=751s)\] Break the Cycle of Self-Abuse – Recognize and stop perpetuating patterns of self-abuse learned from past experiences by committing to **treating yourself with kindness**.  

\- \[[15:15](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=915s)\] **Reframe Suicidal Thoughts as a Desire for Life to Be Easier** – It's not about wanting to die but wanting life to feel less overwhelming, making it a call for gentleness and ease.  

\- \[[18:16](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hb6AQjNNxA0&t=1096s)\] **Be Open to Receiving Love** and Support – Vulnerability and allowing yourself to be loved by others are key steps in healing and building resilience.  

=====================================

PS: (suicidal) thoughts are just thoughts. They're not who you are.

Always remind yourself that you are worthy and you are loved even in your darkest moments.

You're going to be okay.",MentalHealthPH,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo017o/how_to_survive_suicidal_thoughts/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksc6r3', 'author': 'airendrafts', 'body': 'thank you. i needed this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:57:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo017o'}, {'comment_id': 'mktncb3', 'author': 'awesomeoneness', 'body': '🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:25:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mksc6r3'}]"
1jo1ycj,2025-03-31T17:56:24,Medicine Inflation,"Hi guys, I was able to buy some fluoxetine like 2 months ago around 38 pesos each. I noticed na nag price increase na siya into 44 pesos, grabe ang price increase ah

Are there any reasons or issues why nagtataas ang prices? Or that’s just how it is with medicines related to mental health?",MentalHealthPH,0,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo1ycj/medicine_inflation/,[]
1jo37qc,2025-03-31T18:59:47,22 [M4M] Anyone wanna be friends while I still have time to live?,"Hi! I'm a lot better now, and a lot less out-of-my-mind since I'm off my strong pain medication! Thank you for all the kind people who commented on my last post and those who have sent messages of their own! I'm still trying to make new friends and, even though there were a lot of messages, I am still quite open to making more. My disease is going to continue to make my daily life worse and worse and it's been a living hell for the past few months. I am still undiagnosed and it's taking months and months to even get some semblance of an answer but the pain is unbearable and I'm slowly losing the ability to function—walk and move. I know for a fact that things will get worse and worse as the days, weeks, and months pass. I've already lost a lot of my mobility in just the last year and will probably lose more this year. I just want to have friends, close friends, to have while I'm still able to do so. I just want to laugh and cry and do all the friendship things that I never got to experience in high school. Please, if you're anyone kind and gentle, someone who would be willing to befriend someone like me, then please hmu. I appreciate all kindness.

But also, let's not be too bleak this time around! I'm genuinely not a ball of sadness at all despite all the bad stuff that's been happening to me! I try my best to smile and laugh and enjoy life even during these difficult times! I love going out! I love meeting new people! I love conversing and talking until the late hours of the night. My passion for knowing others and for being a friend knows no bound and I am one of those people who will stick by you to the end if we click!

And to give some semblance of a introduction: Hi! I'm Min and I'm autistic, would any of you want to be friends?

Things about me:  
\- I'm 5'4  
\- I'm 22 years old, turning 23 this July  
\- I'm physically disabled (not fully but it might change) CANE BOI  
\- I'm mentally disabled (Autism Spectrum Disorder)  
\- I'm a graduate of PUP as a Summa Cum Laude with a literature degree  
\- I'm a published author (physically published) having published one novel and three short stories  
\- I like to cook and bake  
\- I play mainly low maintenance games such as HSR and TFT  
\- I like staying at cafes  
\- I like reading  
\- I like talking about life and how amazing it is  
\- I like hanging out a lot so if you're amenable to go out, then I'm 100% down!  
\- I'm not conyo, I'm just used to typing in English cause autocorrect is my friend  
\- I'm into skincare and makeup!  
\- I love art and museums! Esp museums that are inclusive to disabled people (i.e those with elevators or those that have a wheelchair that I could use)",MentalHealthPH,0,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo37qc/22_m4m_anyone_wanna_be_friends_while_i_still_have/,[]
1jo8s2a,2025-03-31T22:57:16,🌸 Our Space: A Supportive Mental Health Community on Discord 🤸✨,"**🌸 Magandang Buhay, Kumarie! 🌸**

Welcome to **Our Space**—a safe and supportive **mental health community** on Discord! 💖 Dito, hindi ka nag-iisa.

✨ **What We Offer:**  
🤸‍♀️ A warm and understanding community  
🤸‍♂️ Fun activities & interactive events  
🤸 A safe space to share & be yourself

Tara na! **Join Our Space** and let’s support each other. 💕✨ Everyone is welcome! 🎉

💌 **Feel free to DM me,** u/teewaico**, or** u/simplesoulx11 **for the invite link!** ✨🤸‍♀️🤸‍♂️

🔹 **Disclaimer:** We are not licensed medical professionals, and we cannot provide medical, psychological, or crisis intervention services.",MentalHealthPH,6,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo8s2a/our_space_a_supportive_mental_health_community_on/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpuslg', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:57:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo8s2a'}]"
1jo4g24,2025-03-31T19:55:53,Professional Help,"Where can I get a psychiatrist that will actually diagnose me and how much po usually? preferably online as im kinda shy and uncomfy pag ftf. Been struggling with my mental health since 13yrs old, im an adult na. ",MentalHealthPH,5,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo4g24/professional_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkounjt', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:55:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mksowt0', 'author': 'Annual_Copy_1996', 'body': 'NowServing app! Highly recommended si Dr. Christine Villero. Her consultation fee is ₱1650 per session.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:17:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mktemb2', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""I run a mental health platform and one of our most trusted psychiatric network partners that we refer our clients to is Dr. Mitz.\n\nHe's extremely empathetic and focused on delivering quality care + he's very affordable as well. I've gotten nothing, but positive feedback from all the referrals I've made to him. Here's his facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph](https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:49:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp41xi', 'author': 'Asleep-Assumption245', 'body': ""I just had my first session a couple weeks ago using the NowServing App. It's easy to look for doctors there and depending on the session, they can tell the diagnosis na naman and plans that you can do with your case. It's usually around 1500-3000 per session depending on the doctor, then hiwalay pa 'yung meds which can be around that much din, maybe more. Very pricey talaga but I'd say it can be worth it on the long run to have a professional who can guide you on your mental health journey.\n\nGood luck, OP!"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:43:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo4g24'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvgfm', 'author': 'Admirable-Produce680', 'body': 'Does she give diagnosis after the first consultation?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:59:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mksowt0'}, {'comment_id': 'mktvfab', 'author': 'Admirable-Produce680', 'body': 'does he offer online consultations?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:58:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mktemb2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpik4j', 'author': 'midori09', 'body': 'Nakakuha ka ba agad ng diagnosis sa first session palang?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:56:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mkp41xi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkueca8', 'author': 'Annual_Copy_1996', 'body': ""Yep she does! There's also a form that her secretary sends which u will answer prior to your appointment"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:47:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mktvgfm'}, {'comment_id': 'mktw0dp', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': 'Yes he does - just checked with him!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:05:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mktvfab'}]"
1jo41b6,2025-03-31T19:37:26,Anyone experiencing a feeling na pag may nagmessage sa inyo or iopen nyo yung inbox nyo nagkaka anxiety?,Yung feeling na may nangamusta or may nag hi lang or may nagiwan ng bitin na context of message and expecting a worst case or something,MentalHealthPH,29,13,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jo41b6/anyone_experiencing_a_feeling_na_pag_may/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkor5xu', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:37:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoxzwv', 'author': 'J58592958', 'body': 'This was me at my previous job. I felt anxious when someone sent a message on our work group chat. It was an environment where curse words were used every time someone made a mistake. Sometimes, names were not dropped. You just wonder if you are the person they are referring to. \n\nI customized my notifications so that I would not see one. I only made exceptions to receive notifications (messages and even calls) from important people. This helped me the most in regulating my emotions.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:13:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkott2b', 'author': 'White_BrownPatch', 'body': 'Meeee. Pakiramdam ko lagi may di magandang nangyari o mangyayari kapag nabasa ko yung message.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:51:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp4181', 'author': 'Solitude063', 'body': 'Sa messenger at messages sa work. May mga particular na mga tao lang talaga na nakakanerbyos kausap. Lalo yung mga nangangamusta tapos uutang pala or magsolicit. Nahihirapan kasi ako minsan na tumanggi.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:43:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpapf5', 'author': 'ThisKoala', 'body': 'Yes, specifically sa work. Pinaghiwalay ko personal at work phone kahit pwede magkasama. Para lang ma-control ko somehow yung anxiety ko.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:17:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkplwrs', 'author': 'ladygerd', 'body': 'Yess. Last year sa viber sa sobrang stressed ko sa work. Nasusuka ako kapag naririnig ko yung notification sound. Tapos pati kapag kung saan kami naguusap ng ex, mga nanghost sakin. Kapag tumutunog yung notifications ewan ko parang sisikip dibdib ko tas parang may mga gumagapang sa skin ko. 🥺', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:13:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mksal6a', 'author': 'Cat_Whiskey3', 'body': 'almost all kinds of messages.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:47:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt2umd', 'author': 'Ao_Zaire', 'body': 'Me. Need to have a whole day and energy just to open that message I’ve been ignoring for weeks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:00:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkto1z1', 'author': 'Hallowed-Tonberry', 'body': '🥹🙋\u200d♂️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:33:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkot4ol', 'author': 'yumeMD', 'body': 'this is so me. yesterday, tumawag uncle ko sakin out of nowhere, akala ko kung ano na. tinurn on ko yung focus sa phone ko para di ko makita yung notifs sa kanya hahaha. nung umaga ko na binuksan yung inbox 😣', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:47:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp7vzy', 'author': 'heydreamer_', 'body': 'Me, all the time.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:03:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpekb2', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': 'Meeee 🥹. This was me before undergoing treatment for my mental illness. Kakatakot, the anxiety also manifested through constant palpitation, di makahinga/difficulty breathing upon waking up knowing na maraming messages na nag aantay and I would jump, or yung mapapa sudden moves ka upon hearing a ding/dings from Messenger. It has come to a point na si hubby ang nakikipag communicate on my behalf. \n\nQuite ironic kasi sociable akong tao and is good with client interaction/networking. Was able to manage it naman na. Nag unfriend/block ako ng maraming relatives na mahilig makichismis and a few friends. I also just avoid putting myself into situations wherein I would end up dreading such comms so I finish work early/ on time/inform pipol of my whereabouts if nasa field/update coworkers appropriately para walang maghabol. Sinabihan ko narin friends ko na spontaneous ang bet ko pag meet ups kasi baka wala na ako sa mood upon our chosen date and would end up ghosting them haha. I also told them na may times na matagal ako magreply. I have a different work FB account and number na naka log in sa isa pang phone ko (cheaper kasi for comms lang naman). I set both my phone notifs on silent/do not disturb mode outside of work hours', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:36:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqazp4', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'I feel you. Esp when I call in during my shift cause masama pakiramdam. Hindi ako nag-oopen ng chats until makabalik sa work. The thought of me reading “work messages” gives me so much anxiety.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:17:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo41b6'}]"
1jnyonm,2025-03-31T14:17:45,Lamictal (Lamotrigine) and Olanzapine for anxiety and depression,"Good day everyone! 

Anybody taking here Lamictal for anxiety and depression? 

Paroxetine and Sertraline didn’t workout on me, so my psych prescribed me Lamictal as a mood stabilizer, she said that it also works for depression and helps with anxiety. 

If so, what was/is your experience with it?",MentalHealthPH,0,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnyonm/lamictal_lamotrigine_and_olanzapine_for_anxiety/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpmsh6', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': 'Bipolar 1 and currently taking Olanzapine to help lessen the manic episodes and to help me sleep, too. I take it along with Lithium and Fluoxetine. Ever since Olanzapine was added, napapasobra lagi tulog ko.\n\nI used to take Lamotrigine when I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 years ago. Side effect niya naman, rashes. I stopped after a month kasi I started getting rashes on both arms and they were getting bad na. Worked for the depression, though.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:17:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mkp7a9i', 'author': 'luckycharms725', 'body': ""took fluoxetine + lamotrigine for more than a year then switched to venlafaxine with lamotrigine still. yep, it's good in maintaining your mood at bay"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:00:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mko9idk', 'author': 'degenerate-kitty', 'body': 'Used to take both before!! Olanzapine was effective but I didn’t like the weight gain side effect, so I switched to Zyprexa. It was also effective but it was freakinggg expensive, so I switched to Rexulti 😂\n\nAs for the experience with both, they go hand-in-hand cause Olanzapine or any anti-psychotic med supports the mood stabilizer AKA Lamotrigine (or any mood stab meds). It helped with my anxiety. I still had crying spells and low moments but they were not as worse as before.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:50:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mkodqyh', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': 'Taking Olanzapine with a mood stabilizer. Puro ako tulog.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:18:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnyonm'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrxdlc', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Gaano na po kayo katagal nag oolanzapine? Ano po dosage?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:26:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mkpmsh6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrxa0i', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Ilang mg po olanzapine nyo? And ano po diagnosis?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:25:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkp7a9i'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoa5fz', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Do you still take them right now? You just took it for anxiety, or for depression as well?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:54:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mko9idk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkodxpe', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'What do you take it for? Im taking it for anxiety and depression. Hows your experience with it po?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:19:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkodqyh'}, {'comment_id': 'mksqbey', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': 'One month pa lang pero feel ko naman yung changes. Naka 10mg ako.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:27:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrxdlc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoagkd', 'author': 'degenerate-kitty', 'body': 'Naah, I don’t take an antipsychotic anymore. Lamictal is enough na since I’m on 200mg (it’s the therapeutic dosage for me). I used to take an antipsychotic for anxiety/depression every night.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:56:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoa5fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkol0vr', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': 'It was prescribed as an alternative to Quetiapine na sobrang mahal for me. Yung experience ko lagi akong tulog. Masandal tulog. Pero na-experience ko rin yung pag may plan ka for the next day, with the same meds, hindi naman ako inantok. Pag wala lang talagang plans, matik antok.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:03:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mkodxpe'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoll69', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Ano pong diagnosis sa inyo?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:06:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mkol0vr'}, {'comment_id': 'mkompiw', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': 'Bipolar 2', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:13:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoll69'}, {'comment_id': 'mkonsgl', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'Im taking 2.5 mg Olanzapine and 50 mg lamictal. Ilang mg po olanzapine nyo? And gano na po kayo katagal nag oolanzapine?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:19:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkompiw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkt4ioq', 'author': 'petalglassjade', 'body': ""Yung Olanzapine ko hinahati ko pa tas before sleep lang talaga. Siguro mga since Feb ko pa lang siya tinetake.\n\nAdd:\nThere's somebody who keeps downvoting my responses kahit naman hindi offensive. Please realize that it's not good for the subreddit if I've decided to stop responding and it turns out I have the answer somebody needs. Kung may galit kayo sa akin for some reason, send me a dm."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:14:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mkonsgl'}]"
1jnxe3o,2025-03-31T12:34:55,was i wrong for telling my boyfriend's mom that he is suicidal?,"hi. my boyfriend (22M) is angry at me (22F) because i reached out to his mom about him being suicidal.

he has been that way for quite some time now but last night was the most worrying that i've seen him. i can't go into the details of what he did and what happened but i didn't know how how to help anymore. 

for context, my ex was like that as well and for the 2 year duration of the relationship, i kept it all to myself. however it took a major toll on my mental health until i became suicidal too. it took a lot of therapy and medication for me to pull myself out of that state and i was so afraid of that happening again.

so this morning i asked my guidance counselor at school for support. i talk to her regularly especially after my history. i asked her what would happen if i reveal my boyfriend's identity to her since i was worried about the consequences because we go to the same university. she reassured me that he will not be expelled whatsoever because the university sees his situation as something that needs to be approached with care and compassion. so, i told her his name and they checked his records for his mom's contact information because the school and me as his girlfriend can only do so much. they said that even if he is an adult, he is still the primary responsibility of his parents.

my boyfriend found out after his mom found out. and now he is angry at me. but what sort of person would i be if i just sat back and did nothing while he was in danger?

please help. was i wrong for asking for support from his mom and the guidance counselor?",MentalHealthPH,0,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnxe3o/was_i_wrong_for_telling_my_boyfriends_mom_that_he/,"[{'comment_id': 'mknkyya', 'author': 'heaven_spawn', 'body': 'It’s down to how severe his suicidality is. If high risk, you tell folks. But if he’s passively suicidal, where he has some thoughts but no real plans, he has the right to confidentiality.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:05:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnxe3o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkorpic', 'author': 'yellowyletters', 'body': ""He may be angry now but he'll thank you later. That's something you also shouldn't have to bear alone too y'know? Talk to him once he's calmed down. Hope it works out for all of you involved."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:40:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnxe3o'}, {'comment_id': 'mknw9da', 'author': 'Ornery-Emphasis5753', 'body': ""yes, he was doing stuff the night before i spoke to the counselor :( it was really worrying and i didn't know what to do but i couldn't call 911 bc it's a really sensitive situation"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:03:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mknkyya'}]"
1jnwimk,2025-03-31T11:30:34,planning to finally talk to someone,"Hello!  
Do you know any psychological clinics/psychiatrists or just a place to get therapy? in or near Antipolo? can be anywhere in Rizal also. thank you so much",MentalHealthPH,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnwimk/planning_to_finally_talk_to_someone/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkn6iv1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:30:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mktesv3', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""I run a mental health platform (Saya) and one of our most trusted psychiatric network partners that we refer our clients to is Dr. Mitz.\n\nHe's extremely empathetic and focused on delivering quality care + he's very affordable as well. I've gotten nothing, but positive feedback from all the referrals I've made to him. Here's his facebook where he personally replies to all inquiries:\xa0[https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph](https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:51:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn9t14', 'author': 'purpledove10', 'body': 'Congrats OP! 👏🏻 You can check Nowserving app. Pwede online and face- to-face doon. Pili ka na lang po ng provider na malapit sainyo.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T12:03:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn7c9u', 'author': 'McBoogerz91', 'body': 'Please check MEDIKO KAPITOLYO near Ynares Center. They have a facebook page. Please check it for their schedule. Just make sure to come early, OP.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:38:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnwimk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoc851', 'author': 'howHOW112', 'body': 'thank you! :)', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:08:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn9t14'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoc2yd', 'author': 'howHOW112', 'body': 'thank you! will definitely check :)', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:07:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn7c9u'}]"
1jntp9m,2025-03-31T08:32:41,Is your depression affecting your work?,"How do you guys cope? What do you do? I've been skipping work so much because I cant even get up. All I do is sleep. On good days, I can force myself to move. Even though I dont get to work on time or if its just half a day, its already good for me. My manager knows I have MDD and taking medication and going to therapy. Its not like im not doing anything about it.

Im just scared that eventually im gonna be let go. Anyone experienced this?",MentalHealthPH,58,29,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jntp9m/is_your_depression_affecting_your_work/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkml28i', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:32:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmltfp', 'author': 'EmptyWords4', 'body': ""I feel you. I've been doing this a lot lately. Maraming times di ako nag wowork. Pero kapag good days, kailangan bumawi sa days na di ako ok. Di ko masabi na it gets better pa kahit na more than a month na ako nag tatake ng meds."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:38:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmy2be', 'author': 'AerieSuspicious9521', 'body': 'Yes, always. What i do talaga is to show up lalo na im in the management op, i am planning to resign bec gusto ko muna ng pahinga and i think this is the best that i can give to myself for the mean time pero syempre need muna mag save kahit papano. \n\nSo yeah, im just saving up so i can pahinga muna.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:13:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmy8da', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': ""Hello, OP. I was diagnosed na Bipolar II and hybrid-flexible ang setup ng work ko. Pag nasa extreme lows ako and depressed, I feel you at ang hirap talagang mag function, even simple instruction hindi na-aabsorb ng utak ko. There are times na nag leleave nalang ako pag sobrang hindi talaga kaya and hindi nakiki-sama yung utak at katawang lupa ko. Pag I choose to work naman, nag se-seek ako ng help sa ibang colleague especially yung mga close ko to explain further yung mga bagay bagay for me to understand it then gagawan ko ng step-by-step checklist kung paano sya gagawin. Medyo mabagal lang talaga yung takbo ng work but ang important is nakaka-gawa kahit pa-konti konti, small wins kumbaga. May weekly one-on-one meeting kami lagi ng manager ko and mini-mention ko sa kanya pag hindi ako okay. Bumabawi naman ako sa work pag nasa point ako ng extreme highs ko, bida bida pa minsan and kung ano ano naiisip na gagawin hahahahaha. Good thing din talaga na output base sa amin and hybrid-flexible kaya na jujuggle ko yung hanash ng mental health vs. work. Alam din ng buong team up until our department head yung condition ko and they're very supportive and understand my condition and assist me pag nag seseek ako ng help about work."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:14:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn0uur', 'author': 'IttyBittyTatas', 'body': 'I have days na sobrang gusto ‘kong mag absent consecutively, pero I eventually settle for a mental health day. I try to do the bare minimum din kahit kumain lang since an empty stomach makes most things worse. Whatever bare minimum I can do, I try, for some semblance of normalcy and “progress”. Other times, I talk to people over the phone or VC even when I’m in bed to distract me from wallowing too much. Before, I would watch a lot of puppy videos to boost my serotonin. \n\nIt’s good you’re seeing a doctor and taking meds. I hope you start feeling better soon, OP.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:37:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mks17a8', 'author': 'persephoneurynome', 'body': 'yes. i get questioned why i wasn’t performing like the previous week. and i honestly don’t know how to answer that kasi baka ma-perceive na tamad lang ako. i feel unmotivated lang naman. \n\ncontext: i have bipolar type 2', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:49:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmozul', 'author': 'Immediate_Complex_76', 'body': 'I can definitely relate to what you’re going through. I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder with moderate anxiety, and work has been my main stressor and trigger. I’m scheduled for an improvement plan this April, and it’s really taking a toll on me. I’m finding it increasingly difficult to bounce back, which is why I’m considering resigning to take some time to rest. My therapist advised me to create a wellness plan and build a healthy routine, instead of just lying around and scrolling on my phone. I’ve been on medication since July 2024, but my mood still has its ups and downs. My psychiatrist mentioned that it wouldn’t be fair to just increase my medication dosage when work is the primary contributor to my mental health struggles. Hang in there, and remember to prioritize your well-being.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:01:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmu4kp', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""Yes, sadly I have a post similar about this last night. As what I've anticipated, I have failed on my final interview due to a background check."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:40:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn58yi', 'author': 'almost_hikikomori', 'body': ""Yes, but my manager is a good man. He let's me take a break for some time. Of course, to be deducted from my leave days, which is fine."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:18:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn8ige', 'author': 'xvii012', 'body': 'Yes, I’m just thankful that my boss is understanding and that we can work from home when we need to. Just unsure because I’ll be transitioning to another manager this month so I’m just hoping that she’ll be considerate as well if ever I decided to share to her my current situation. \n\nSometimes I’m thinking that maybe I’m just lazy in general but I think it just really affects me because my mood overall is so low that I just bed rot all day. But there are better days wherein I feel so productive and finish my tasks. But those are when deadlines are really due, lol. :/', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:50:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknjqbk', 'author': 'Beldiveer', 'body': ""6/7 days I'm able to force myself out the door most of the time. But it does come at a cost, I'd wake up crying. I'd have sudden outbursts, I'd randomly binge food or not eat at all. It's hard - very hard to be with this condition. And most people who don't have it wouldn't really understand even when they try. \n\nI'm still debating whether forcing myself to do the work is helping or hurting my condition"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:51:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkockji', 'author': 'Nonchalant_Bee2677', 'body': 'I am so tired of this. 😭 Paggive up na husband ko sa’kin, kasi sarili ko nalang daw magsasalba sa’kin kasi dinanas ko na to dati. Pati sa work, parang hindi naman well-educated mga tao sa mental health na para bang sinasabi nila ginagawa nalang daw “excuse” para umabsent. Hindi madali. As of the moment, ang bigat ng dibdib ko na parang may nakadagan. Ang mahal pa naman ng psychotherapy. Minsan sa ChatGPT na’ko nakikipagchat, maibsan lang ang sakit na nararamdaman ko.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:10:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknaudi', 'author': 'Direct-Holiday-8658', 'body': 'During my 3rd month at my current work, I also told my manager that I am clinically depressed. Ayaw ko sana sabihin but there was one time na I had an anxiety attack tapos I messaged him at 3am na I needed to take an emergency leave due to personal reasons. Naalala nya pala \'yung instance na \'yon kasi I look hollow daw the entire week, although highly functioning naman. I got scared din na baka hindi ako ma-regularize because of that, pero on my 4th month ay na-regular naman na agad (usually on the 6th month pa after probation period). So I took it as a good sign.\n\nMy manager and I were adamant pa to discuss it with another superior but I realized na I needed to tell them about my condition, albeit not entirely. I guess nakatulong din kasi alam naman nila ang skills and capabilities ko and I always made sure pa din na maging professional as much as possible.\n\nMay mga instances lang na pag overwhelmed ako with tasks and life ay parang feeling ko di ko na alam uunahin sa work–lalo na if sabay sabay yung due dates. Grateful lang ako na yung team lead ko, nagsasabi ako sa kanya pag di talaga kaya. Ayokong mag *""fake it til you make it""* kasi baka hindi maging okay ang output.\n\nRamdam kita, OP. Hope you\'ll feel better ❤️\u200d🩹🫶🏻', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T12:14:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkngrj8', 'author': 'luckycharms725', 'body': 'took a break from employment talaga to give my self time to rest and for the meds to work. i thing about 4 months? tapos ngayon working na since July, though there are days na down talaga, what i do is show up nalang talaga para madivert yung attention ko from the depressive and anxious thoughts', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:17:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknl3wz', 'author': 'GodImmortalKing', 'body': 'yes,it did, nag pile up ung mga naipong stress at ayun...nag resign.haha', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:06:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknluz7', 'author': 'Positive-Scarcity-79', 'body': 'Nag le-leave on bad days. Aware naman sila and dami nadin accommodations na ginawa for me like flexi work. But natatakot pa rin ako materminate. On reallyyy bad days natatakot din ako sa sarili ko dahil baka bigla nalang ako magdecide na magresign kahit na wala ako back up plan HAHA.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:15:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknnx34', 'author': 'MtTralala', 'body': ""At my previous work I was so mentally tired that I spend the first half of my shift asleep. When I did have tasks I couldn't finish it quickly because I was struggling with concentration and thinking. And my skill levels went down kasi bumibigay na utak ko.\n\nAt my current work, I started to feel a little better so I don't feel as miserable yet, but my thinking ability and energy levels are still down, so I still struggle with finishing tasks. And I'm about to start attending mandatory trainings so good luck na lang sa brain ko."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:38:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mknol2d', 'author': 'missseductivevenus', 'body': 'Of course', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:45:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntp9m'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmnwea', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'How are peole at work taking it? Ive been on meds for 4months and its really up and down. Kaso now, 4/7days a week down ako.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:53:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmltfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmyb9a', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Yeah planning on doing the same thing. Hirap lng kasi most of the time I really have no energy to move. I dont know.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:15:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmy2be'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn0dir', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Proud of you for asking for help when you need it! 👏 Im thinking of maybe asking din if I could do a hybrid set up. Once a week lng kasi yung wfh ko. But thanks for the idea!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:33:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmy8da'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn133n', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': ""Thank you. Ikaw din. Nice to know you're doing something to keep yourself from drowning.\n\n![gif](giphy|rD8R00QOKwfxC)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:39:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn0uur'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmv57w', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Im sorry to hear that the interview did not go well. 🫂 Hope you still have it in you to try. It may seem like nothing is going your way or this is your fate but I hope you can see that life makes space for the better things coming your way. You got this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:48:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmu4kp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmoykl', 'author': 'EmptyWords4', 'body': 'No one knows na may MDD ako. Also, perks ito na rin na mostly WFH. Medyo may konting flexibility sa end ko na makabawi kapag ok pakiramdam ko. Once meron parang 5 days ako di productive, nag work na lang ako nung weekend nung umok ako. Tho yung may time na may deadlines, I had to suck it up kahit nag bbreak down na ako', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:01:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmnwea'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmylsn', 'author': 'AerieSuspicious9521', 'body': 'Yeah, sobrang bigat araw araw :( i feel you po.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:18:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmyb9a'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoiwqd', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': 'Thank you, OP! And yes! Ask your manager if pwede kang mag hybrid para less pagod din sa byahe.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:50:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn0dir'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmvrzg', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': 'Thank you, OP.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:54:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmv57w'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmpal8', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Ohh I see. Office based kasi ako. Idk if we have laws to protect us from being sacked. Hahahaha. But good on you for making bawi! Sometimes all we can do is really just get up and exist and its okay. It might not get easier but Im sure we get stronger. Hugs!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:03:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmoykl'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn0fsa', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'We got this!! 🤙', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:33:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmylsn'}]"
1jntbje,2025-03-31T08:11:02,Sleepy on 50mg Lamotrigine,"My Psychiatrist started me on 50mg and will titrate up to 100mg after a week. I'm taking it for 4 days now and been feeling sleepy. Masarap naman tulog ko, I haven't felt any difference yet re anxiety. Madalas paden ako mag ruminate ng bad experiences (ongoing bullying by a boss sa work). Pero I was told na it will take a while bago mag feel ang effects. 

Anyone else na inaantok sa gamot na to? Tyia",MentalHealthPH,1,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jntbje/sleepy_on_50mg_lamotrigine/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmhwpl', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:11:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmqayy', 'author': 'iamfur', 'body': 'I think yan talaga yung pinaka common side effect nya. Kaya inadvise sakin na itake sya at night. Although, sakin kabaliktaran, mas lalo akong di makatulog 2 weeks na. Haha', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:11:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn4std', 'author': 'elusivesinger_charot', 'body': 'Common side effect is that :) \nRunning on 200mg a day haha. \nYes to long term intake before you can conclude effects.\nHad it for 1.5 years before moving on to treat another diagnosis.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:13:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkngyly', 'author': 'chocokrinkles', 'body': 'Hindi ako inaantok sa Lamotrigine. First time I took it feeling ko wala akong emotions which is gusto ko. Tapos hindi na ako madalas mainis kasi yun ang symptom ko. Lagi ako napapaaway.\n\nAlam mo, as a person na hindi naaalis sa stressors you won’t feel any difference kung lagi ka lang nasa environment na nag ccause ng stress sayo. No offense, alam ko mahirap gawin pero yun talaga. Same goes for me kaya puro taas na lang ng dosage ginagawa sakin di kasi ako makaalis sa stressors ko which is bahay namin.\n\nPS Lamotrigine is a mood stabilizer. I’m not sure if its the first line for anxiety. Baka mood talaga ang problem mo. Also, it takes weeks before mag work ang meds natin.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:20:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mknjsyv', 'author': 'New_Study_1581', 'body': 'Im taking 200mg sa gabi ko iniinom :) as far sa i can remember hindi naman...\n\nMay iba ako meds for me to sleep...', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:52:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mkobynb', 'author': 'degenerate-kitty', 'body': 'My psychiatrist told me that’s a common side effect, so he suggested to take the med in the evening. I felt the opposite — lamotrigine kept me up 😂 so I switched to taking it every morning.\n\nAnd yes, it takes a while to hit the therapeutic dosage. Pero depende parin. Usually 200mg yung sweet spot but for some other people it’s either higher or lower than 200mg. You would know/feel naman when it’s starting to work.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:06:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jntbje'}, {'comment_id': 'mknhy92', 'author': 'Ms-Fortune-', 'body': 'I was also given quetiapine pero di ko na tinatake since inaantok naman ako sa lam. Have you tried it po?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:31:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmqayy'}, {'comment_id': 'mknia30', 'author': 'Ms-Fortune-', 'body': 'Thank you po sa input! After 1.5 years do you feel better po? Like di na sobrang low nang feelings?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:34:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn4std'}, {'comment_id': 'mkni5p7', 'author': 'Ms-Fortune-', 'body': 'Yan din po gusto ko maachieve. Better not to feel than anxious every time, yung feeling ko laging may target behind my back :(( I agree po need talaga maremove yung stressor. Hoping maka alis ka sa situation mo soon 🙏 ako naman I know job is just temporary. Idk lang if I can last at least 6 months, 1 year talaga target ko before lumipat and hope for a better work environment', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T13:33:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkngyly'}]"
1jnsdpi,2025-03-31T07:19:11,How to diagnose Autism spectrum?,"I'm 26F and I've been struggling to socialise, all my life I kept on trying talaga but hindi talaga sya easy for me. I was able to have a boyfriend and 1 bestfriend and buti nalang close knit naman kami ng family ko.

But still nakakababa ng confidence for me kasi its one thing talaga na I feel like hindi ko malearn learn. I wanted to confirm kung nasa spectrum ba ko ng neurodivergent. I've been watching signs na nasa spectrum and check talaga mostly pero I want to be diagnosed ng tama hindi assumptions pero parang everytime I go sa hospitals wala naman ako napapansin or anong doctor ba dapat lapitan?",MentalHealthPH,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnsdpi/how_to_diagnose_autism_spectrum/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkm9xsp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:19:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsdpi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmrznx', 'author': 'DeathRosemary923', 'body': 'To get diagnosed with autism, you have to go to a psychiatrist and a psychologist. The psychiatrist will most likely suggest you to get a psychological assessment (basically, many tests will be done on you) first from a psychologist before they confirm whether you have autism or not. This is because autism is not just about struggling to socialize, but also having repetitive behaviors, resistance to change, hyper- or hypo-sensitivity to sensory things around us, and special interests (at least 2 out of the 4 of these), so doctors need to cross-check with psychologists to ensure that their diagnosis is correct.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:24:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsdpi'}]"
1jnsbwo,2025-03-31T07:16:26,Can an emergency room prescribe my medications?,My doctor is not returning my calls and I have been without my antidepressants for almost 2 weeks. I am going incredibly insane and Im scared im going to go into a manic depressive episode. If I go to the emergency room do you think they can send my medication to a pharmacy? My doctor is not returning my calls and Walgreens (my usual pharmacy) is so unorganized and recently just tried telling me I haven’t had it in almost 7 months (I’ve gotten it 3 times since then from there). I don’t know what to do and I’m scared. I don’t want to be hospitalized but I can’t be without this medication. What do I do? ,MentalHealthPH,0,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnsbwo/can_an_emergency_room_prescribe_my_medications/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkm9i8j', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:16:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsbwo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmg0u4', 'author': 'OlgaGee', 'body': 'Dear OP, i am not sure we can comment on this properly or correctly as we are PH based. I hope you find the answers you need as soon as possible.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:58:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnsbwo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmg8qb', 'author': 'andr0_rat_gh0st', 'body': 'What is ph', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:59:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmg0u4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmga8j', 'author': 'andr0_rat_gh0st', 'body': 'Tbh I clicked on the first thing tht looked trustworthy', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:00:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmg0u4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmpuvu', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Hi. The PH in r/mentalhealthph means Philippines. I'm not sure how it works over there but when I was in a situation similar to yours here in the Philippines, the ER doctor gave me a prescription before I was discharged then they informed my psychiatrist about what happened."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:07:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmg8qb'}]"
1jns9ao,2025-03-31T07:12:30,Is anyone else dealing with or has experienced limerance and addressed it with therapy?,"This started last year with a coworker and got worse this year. I’d get anxious if I didn’t hear from him and on a high when he did reciprocate. 

I don’t think I actually “like” him, more of I want him to like me if you get the point and that my mood depends on whether I’ll hear from him or not which is why I’ve identified it as limerence. 

He was actually my trigger point to seek therapy.  I haven’t told my therapist about it yet because I’m observing it but yesterday I did not hear from him at all and super natrigger ang anxiety ko to the point na hindi ako makatulog at naglbm, check ako ng check ng phone and until now ganun pa din. A small win was I survived the day without reaching out because I still wanted to have some ounce of self-respect pero tbh baka nga hindi niya naiisip yun mga ganitong bagay. 

I feel like there are deeper issues that led me to this. My coworker has shown me kindness, listens to me and validated me. Things I feel are missing from my life based on the sessions I’ve had so far with my therapist. 

This coupled with my anxious attachment issues are making me feel so tired and frustrated. It’s not something I can control as of the moment because even if I make myself busy, bumabalik at bumabalik sa kanya yung thoughts ko. It’s like obsession at this point and it feels humiliating. 

Is there anyone with a similar case as mine or is currently experiencing this? 

Edit: Spelling of limerence",MentalHealthPH,6,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jns9ao/is_anyone_else_dealing_with_or_has_experienced/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkm8vu4', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:12:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jns9ao'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmcxci', 'author': 'kohiilover', 'body': 'I had the same experience last year and thru therapy, we were able to reframe it as my catalyst for deeper self introspection', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:38:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jns9ao'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmkgtl', 'author': 'tsoknatcoconut', 'body': 'Could you tell me more about it if you’re open to it? I have a session this weekend and I’ll be talking about it with my therapist. I hope to get some clarity on this kasi it’s super frustrating and tiring talaga', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:28:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmcxci'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmngx0', 'author': 'kohiilover', 'body': 'I think much better if we converse nalang thru DM', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:50:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmkgtl'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmqsvh', 'author': 'tsoknatcoconut', 'body': 'DMed you', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:14:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmngx0'}]"
1jnjz7k,2025-03-31T00:40:44,Random vent pls be kind(TW:mention of self harm),"TW:SH
I've been struggling with my mental health since 8th grade (now in 12th) and now i can feel na it's getting worse. Lahat ng tao nasusungitan, minumura, nagagalit ako sakanila for the most mababaw reason and I feel bad but I feel like na diko ma control emotions ko at all parang naka auto pilot emotions ko and wala akong control. And i have zero motivation to do anything like school and socializing. I also tend to ipon pinag dadaanan ko hanggat sumabog ako and mag ka anxiety attack(just happened an hour ago) like kunware I'm sad about something now pero pag papaliban ko yung pag ka sad ko for another time hanggat mag patong patong na lahat and diko na kaya and I go crazy. since 8th grade whenever i have these attacks I would hurt myself tapos after i would feel better pero as times goes by yung pag hurt ko sa sarili ko doesn't work anymore and i wanna do something more. Pero now I'm happy na 3 or 4 months na ako clean but not i have the urge to do it pero I'm trying to distract myself and pinipilit maging happy. I feel so lost and trapped sa mga nararamdaman ko and I really want professional help pero diko masabi sa mommy ko kasi she doesn't believe in mental health problems kasi dasal dasal lang daw yan dapat daw kasi nag sisimba ako, I do believe in God and I also tried that pero it didnt work. I really want and need professional help because I'm genuinely struggling pero di ko alam saan ako kukuha ng help, I feel like I lost my happy makulit and sweet personality parang I'm inside a completely different persons body that I can't get out of.


Advices are well appreciated :))",MentalHealthPH,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnjz7k/random_vent_pls_be_kindtwmention_of_self_harm/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkkc2jf', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:40:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnjz7k'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkpj5w', 'author': 'DetectiveUsed4382', 'body': 'Hi OP! Have you considered going to your registered guidance counselor? Maybe they can help you refer to a professional. \n\nI used to be like this, I am diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and when I was in grade 11 I was off my meds since at that time I thought I was ‘cured’ but BP is a life long condition. So at that time I was so mean to the people around me and I pushed them away.  \n\nLong story short I’m now an upcoming freshmen in a university (BS PSYCH) so yes it is possible for stability as long as you comply with therapy, medication (depends on the case) and good habits and support system.  \n\nI want you to know you are not alone, and sorry if my advice/story is all over the place but it’s already a big step you are self aware of your current circumstances. \n\nIf you want more advice and want to ask more feel free to DM me :)', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:50:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnjz7k'}]"
1jnhmrj,2025-03-30T22:59:38,Help me stop taking Clonazepam,"I’ve been taking clonazepam for the past 24 days, to help with my anxiety and to help me sleep coz i’ve been worrying about heart issues. So far, a 2d echo and ecg showed i’m ok but the cardio thinks i might have POTS and am now still waiting for my holter result which is why i am still anxious and taking the clonazepam.  

So, i took .5mg for 18 days and .25mg for 6 days. I’ve been feeling less calm since tapering but it’s tolerable. Should i just stop after a few more days of .25mg. I will admit there were 2 days where i skipped taking altogether and just had major anxiety those 2 days. Can’t tell if it’s really rebound anxiety or just anxiety from thinking about how i’ll fare without clonazepam. Please help me. ",MentalHealthPH,0,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnhmrj/help_me_stop_taking_clonazepam/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjrzsm', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:59:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhmrj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjzj45', 'author': 'fickle_arrow', 'body': ""Hello dear, anxiety really is a menace and our minds can make us suffer most of the times but managing medications including dosage is better discussed with your doctor, both your psychiatrist and heart doctor ( I assume a cardiologist?)\n\nAlso, medicine can only take us far, including therapy is still a better choice for long term management. For now, like right now, if your psychiatrist is not available, you can call on the hotlines sa subreddit na ito so you can talk to a mental health professional and ask for their help to guide you in calming down your thoughts.\n\nYou can also counter your scary what ifs, tama naman si brain sa mga negatives na naiisip niya, pero tama rin siya sa mga positives, like what if okay talaga heart mo? what if kahit diagnose ka mamamanage mo? POTS is generally not life threatening naman just in case. Wagka muna mag-Google, distract yourself with a wholesome series.\n\nFor now, you can also try comforting yourself in your mind as if you're a separate person like a parent or partner and tell your anxious thoughts that it'll be alright, you're here for yourself, you got you and you'll figure it out."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:37:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhmrj'}, {'comment_id': 'mknpx06', 'author': 'Easy-Weekend', 'body': 'Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful reply. Anxiety really is such a menace. Prior to this, i’ve always been so calm and level-headed. I don’t even recognize the person i am now. It’s so frustrating. \n\nYou’re right in telling me to not google. I really spiraled for awhile and just kept googling, which piled on even more to my worried state, before i got the 2d echo and ecg result. The normal results gave me momentary relief but i just tend to overthink while this medical journey is still not over. \n\nI’ll try to be kinder to myself and make and effort to relax. But it’s just so difficult. Thanks again for replying.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T14:59:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjzj45'}]"
1jng8zu,2025-03-30T21:58:38,should i just cancel my therapy session?,"i scheduled a therapy session supposedly this month pero ilang beses na sya napostpone ng clinic. i was not in the right headspace pa when i booked it pero i think im kind of doing good na recently so im not rushing them nman to resched it so soon.

they gave me other scheds again pero hindi pko nagrereply since medyo tight yung sched ko hindi sya pasok sa binigay nila and i dont think i need it pa nman. this will be my first time and i dont know if im just subconsciously avoiding it. what do u guys think? i dont have an idea pa if refundable sya but should i just cancel it?",MentalHealthPH,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jng8zu/should_i_just_cancel_my_therapy_session/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjg3al', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T21:58:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jng8zu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjhysp', 'author': 'Poof-Willow-8229', 'body': ""It could be what you said, OP, about subconsciously avoiding it. Although the last say in it will be up to you, I'd say go through with it/reschedule at your most available time that works for the clinic as well. Even though you say you feel like you don't need it now and only considered it some time before, you might still be able to address your concern, whether before or currently (if any), and get some insight or perspective.\n\nSeeking help/therapy doesn't always necessarily have to be for worst case scenarios only naman. Goodluck, OP!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:08:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jng8zu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjkw9q', 'author': 'Lazy-Sympathy-8706', 'body': 'hayy sguro nga deep down i know what to do and maybe just needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:23:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjhysp'}]"
1jnc1vi,2025-03-30T18:39:27,i don’t think i can keep doing this,"my anxiety has been really bad these past few days. it’s so hard to get up and move because my mind is completely overwhelmed with worry, and the pressure from work just makes it worse. i struggle to talk and face people. it’s gotten so bad that i feel like breaking down before work meetings because i genuinely can’t speak up or even organize my thoughts. i don’t know what happened. i used to be fine with meetings, but now it feels like i lost all my confidence.

just thinking about having to go to work tomorrow feels so heavy. the pressure and anxiety don’t stop, not even for a second. i spent my supposed rest day just overthinking and crying because i know i have to show up again on weekdays. i feel like i can’t do anything.

i’ve also been having a lot of suicidal thoughts lately, and i can’t take care of myself anymore. i just want to lie down and do nothing. i can't even do my usual routines anymore, like hygiene or skincare. also, people keep commenting on my weight, saying i’ve gained too much or that i should get checked, and the worst part is that it’s my own family saying these things.

i’m so anxious about work, about tomorrow, about the days ahead, about what i’m supposed to say or do. i feel like shit, incapable, useless, and like every part of me just wants to disappear right now. i keep thinking about how i could make that happen.",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnc1vi/i_dont_think_i_can_keep_doing_this/,[]
1jnaukc,2025-03-30T17:26:53,Why is it so hard to find Litcab?,"Any idea why its almost always out of stock? I almost had an anxiety attack earlier cause I've been to almost 20 pharmacies and they dont have stock. Lol. Ive been looking for lithium carbonate for almost a week now. 🫠 

",MentalHealthPH,1,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnaukc/why_is_it_so_hard_to_find_litcab/,"[{'comment_id': 'mki76p9', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:26:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki89bw', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Hi. If you're near or kaya naman pumunta sa NCMH, they have Litcab there. While most of the meds they have are much cheaper than most drugstores, napansin ko lang na mas mahal ng konti yung Litcab sa kanila. I get my Litcab there for free (galing kasi sa public hospital prescription ko) but I have friends who buy theirs sa NCMH kasi nahirapan din sila maghanap recently. 12php sa Mercury, 17php sa NCMH. If you have a PWD ID, you can have it discounted naman."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:35:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki9e32', 'author': 'AlexisRayne129', 'body': 'Usually, mercury drug has it. If not, ask them which branch ang may stock. That happened to me, and they actually called other branches and told me which branch has it. Sending hugs Op. Hopefully, the mercury drugstores there are as understanding as the ones I encountered', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:45:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkigmz5', 'author': 'streakfolmlore', 'body': 'It’s a manufacturer supply problem.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:38:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnaukc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki8th6', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Oh i see. Nasa Cebu kasi ako. :( Ill try the public hospital pharmacies here near me. Thank you for the tip!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:40:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mki89bw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiaipb', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'They actually are! :) They did check other branches but the one who had a lot of stock were 2 cities away. 🥴', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:54:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mki9e32'}, {'comment_id': 'mkikq4x', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Yeah thats what they said :( hirap but still hoping to find some! 🤞', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:05:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mkigmz5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiah31', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': 'Ouch ang layo pala. Dito sa Manila pahirapan din maghanap ng Litcab these past few months. Tho sabi ng isa kong friend, meron na raw ulit sa Mercury. Sabi sa supplier daw nagkaron ng problem. I hope you get your meds soon. :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:53:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mki8th6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiavib', 'author': 'AlexisRayne129', 'body': ""Ohhhh that's far. Hoping you still have some left while waiting for then to restock. Sending hugs Op🤗"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:56:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiaipb'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiaqad', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'Yeah thats what the lady from Watsons said din. Sana ma ayos na nila. Im more scared sa effects if i stop taking them just becoz walang stock. Thank you! Sana nga.  🤞', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:55:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiah31'}, {'comment_id': 'mkib0z8', 'author': 'FinalFantasy120', 'body': 'I only have about 3 days left hahahaha but its okay baka I find one bukas. Or if not puntahan ko na lng talaga yun. Thank you! 🫂', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:58:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiavib'}]"
1jnakfk,2025-03-30T17:08:02,My life is a tragedy.,"I was clinically diagnosed with MDD, way back 2021. I took different kinds of oral medication including abilify maintena 500 mg injection once a month.

I'll just make it short, most of my family hates me, discriminated me for having this kind of mental illness that in the first place i didn't want to have this. Fast forward last year 2024.  I started to look for a job, my biggest problem is that once that i get triggered in work because of the toxicity of other people, either AWOL, or immediately resignation. In a span of 6 months, I've been with 3 companies already and now, I'm jobless again and today was my final interview from a company that i want to work with. I disclosed my mental illness and the interviewer said it was okay. He will give me a chance and thanked me for being honest with my life happenings. The problem is, I told him that, this is my first time to get a job if ever. Now the HR sent me a form that is a consent to allow them to do a background check on me. I took the form and signed it. I had nothing to do anymore. I am still waiting for the result, but I am not expecting that I will pass. It's just really hard for me without any emotional support from my parents and, I am still here in the same roof with the people who caused my mental illness to be more flown with hatred and I'm thinking of my life to take it. It doesn't make any sense anymore. I feel like it's all my fault. I'm already 28 y.o, yet I don't have anything to be proud of. Literally, I am just a burden to my family.",MentalHealthPH,12,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jnakfk/my_life_is_a_tragedy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkiadqn', 'author': 'Huge-Culture7610', 'body': 'You’re not alone. MDD fucked up my career too. My skills are good, I get along with my co workers. Im easily recognized for promotion, but everytime I relapsed, tinatapon ko lahat yan then pag okay na, it’s like i woke up with a nightmare and all is gone. But thanks to my medicine…. Im slowly recognizing myself again. :) game face on. Don’t give up. I’m with you…..', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:52:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnakfk'}, {'comment_id': 'mki6vj2', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': 'Both of my parents have their new families. They never supported me financially or emotionally. Only my grandmother took care of me.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:24:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnakfk'}, {'comment_id': 'mkib0fz', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""Thank you for the uplifting words. Idk if i can do it anymore. It is what it is. I think i'll just take the path of the other world in the near future. I'm glad to know that you're getting better."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:57:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiadqn'}, {'comment_id': 'mkijm88', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'Nasaan ka now nakatira? If sa kanila, better move out. And are you undergoing therapy? Meds are not enough', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:58:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mki6vj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkib4xt', 'author': 'Huge-Culture7610', 'body': 'Don’t give up bro. I’m with you. I get you. Please hang on bro.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:58:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkib0fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkik36h', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""Yes sakanila parin, I don't have any money to move out. I'm undergoing therapy, but it's quite a long wait from time to time cuz i only get it from the government. My family is full of sh*t. I'm the one who's also carrying the generational trauma of this cursed family and being a sponge from my lola."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:01:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkijm88'}, {'comment_id': 'mkirvs7', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': ""That's good that you are undergoing therapy pero sabi ng therapist ko, hindi ganun ka effective ang therapy if you are in a toxic environment. I hope you'll find a work that can support you para makaalis ka na dyan. It's not too late. You are trying naman."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:48:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkik36h'}, {'comment_id': 'mkisi81', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""I agree, malaking part yung pagiging uneasiness ko parati dahil sa environment ko. May nabasa lang ako na, that's why you don't put the victim on the same roof with the abusers... Madali maka trigger and feel ko stagnant ako, looped lang sa same sh*t scenario sa mind ko once triggered."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:52:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mkirvs7'}, {'comment_id': 'mkitke5', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'Yep, kaya ang adviced ng therapist is to find a work and sunod nun is move out, para mas maging effective yung therapy. Pero hindi naman madali yun. 3 steps pero mahirap. So unti untiin mo lang.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:58:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mkisi81'}, {'comment_id': 'mkitwr5', 'author': 'meckyxiv', 'body': ""I'm losing more options than resolving what needs to be resolved. Maybe it is my fate."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:00:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mkitke5'}]"
1jna7y5,2025-03-30T16:43:56,Looking for Psychologist,"Hello! May ma-rerecommend ba kayong psychologist who specializes in bipolar disorder, child, and family trauma? Open ako to online or face-to-face consultation. I look forward sa mga recommendations nyo. Thank you!",MentalHealthPH,0,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jna7y5/looking_for_psychologist/,"[{'comment_id': 'mki2bk7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:43:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jna7y5'}, {'comment_id': 'mki9oiw', 'author': 'Last_Eye_8379', 'body': 'https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/13n30XAUJEjSN444V67_F6k__dd6uudfd1gZLLRS9HeA/mobilebasic', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:47:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jna7y5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmi4og', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': 'Hi! I’m one of the mods here and also the founder of Saya — a mental health platform made for Filipinos. We focus on making therapy more approachable, compatible, and affordable.\n\nYou’ll get matched with a licensed counselor or psychologist, then you can browse detailed profiles, watch intro videos, and book instantly — no back-and-forth needed.\n\nAvailable on\xa0[iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516)\xa0and\xa0[Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app)\xa0💙\n\nhttps://i.redd.it/6jnkz1xauxre1.gif', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T08:12:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jna7y5'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmyd7o', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': ""Hellooo! Thank you so much. I'll check this out :)"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:15:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mki9oiw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmyb26', 'author': 'Euphoric-Shirt-2976', 'body': ""Thank you. I'll check this out :)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T10:15:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmi4og'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoo2kk', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': ""We've got a live chat that you'll see on the app so please reach out to us anytime you've got any questions or have ant special requests! No pressure, we're here for you 💛"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:20:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmyb26'}]"
1jn9z9k,2025-03-30T16:27:36,finally breaking free but,"after months of breaking down and crying because of work, i finally had the courage to seek professional help and am now on meds! medyo hindi ko lang kinakaya yung side effects but i feel na paunti unti nang nagiging stable yung mental health ko.

also, i got a new job at an mnc! 4x a month rto which is muuuch better than my current workplace na 4x a month wfh and with a boss na namamahiya (which caused my anxiety and why i decided to jump ship)

ang dilemma ko nalang is whether or not i should inform my boss na im pushing thru with my resignation or ipasa ko nalang? 😭 nabring up ko naman ng i plan on resigning bc of burnout and ginaslight niya ko (sabi niya sa generation daw ngayon, madalas maiisip mag resign muna pag naburnout LOL) pero it’s rlly because she a frckn terror person. namamahiya and may obvious bias sa team. 

update ko raw siya sa decision ko pero and hirap naman maghanap ng timing to tell 😭😭😭",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn9z9k/finally_breaking_free_but/,[]
1jn9st4,2025-03-30T16:14:54,NowServing app female psychiatrist recommendation pls,"Hi, been struggling with chronic depression and anxiety for the past decade and I've been in medication ever since. Na-outgrow ko na psychiatrist ko lalo na't she's too motherly for me I guess? Sino kinikita nyo ngayon and how is it?",MentalHealthPH,0,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn9st4/nowserving_app_female_psychiatrist_recommendation/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhzcig', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:14:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9st4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiiqmq', 'author': 'QuirkyNigiri', 'body': 'Following.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:52:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9st4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmflen', 'author': 'AggressiveWest2977', 'body': 'Dr. Hanah Palomar. She’s a good listener, talagang maratamdaman mong makikinig sta sa sentiment mo. I have my brother under her na stable na ngayon.\n\nhttps://preview.redd.it/zlhrzt0frxre1.jpeg?width=828&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8de8c290c534e3260edb04faf510afc048313506', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:55:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9st4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn8a5j', 'author': 'anonime0w', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:47:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmflen'}]"
1jn9ipu,2025-03-30T15:53:27,Recommended psychiatrist/therapists in metro manila??,"Hello! I need help with finding a student-friendly psychiatrist/therapist. I'm a sophomore student in Manila and I was s\*\*\*\*dal for around 3 years, back when I was 16yrs old until 18. I recently got better because I am currently staying in a dorm, but then I started to relapse. I don't have s\*\*\*\*dal intentions now, but my brain is just too tired and it just won't shut up. I recently had episodes of anxiety or panic attacks (I'm not sure which it is), and I'm just scared because I tend to lose control over my body. I thought I did well healing by myself, but most of the time, I just feel like I'm in autopilot, and nothing is real. I have been trying my best to heal so far, and I can tell that I am definitely happier and better now, but I guess there's always this lingering illness in me that I can't get rid of by myself. I never tried consulting a mental health professional before because I was scared that my struggles weren't enough to seek professional help, and  I don't really want to take meds for my mental health because I'm scared that I'll be too dependent on them. I was hoping someone here would know any good and affordable psychiatrist or therapist, preferably around Manila or Pasig.",MentalHealthPH,0,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn9ipu/recommended_psychiatristtherapists_in_metro_manila/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhxa1x', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:53:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1ycz', 'author': 'Last_Eye_8379', 'body': 'https://docs.google.com/document/u/0/d/13n30XAUJEjSN444V67_F6k__dd6uudfd1gZLLRS9HeA/mobilebasic', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:40:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}, {'comment_id': 'mki28ng', 'author': 'Last_Eye_8379', 'body': 'Open above link for resources\n . Try Ateneo Bulatao Center - they give free counseling if their criteria are met 🙏', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:43:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}, {'comment_id': 'mki4b5b', 'author': 'TopHuge2671', 'body': 'PGH recommend ko kaso kung minor ka pa need mo ng kasama doon na guardian..free naman doon.. \n\nthis is the link for the website for scheduling for appointment sa PGH\n\nhttps://pghopd.up.edu.ph/', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:02:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9ipu'}]"
1jn7e3u,2025-03-30T13:08:01,Need help to find psychiatric care,"Hi, this might be a long post but i hope someone can give me assistance on finding a psychiatric care facility.

I am 29 years old and diagnosed with bipolar disorder with psychotic symptoms since 2019. 

I want to share my psychiatric journey for better understanding of my history and background. 

Back in 2018 I was diagnosed with Depression disorder at PGH. Ako nag dala sa sarili ko because i am harming myself. Natigil ako sa pag visit since kasabay ng Psych consult ko is visit sa FHU (Family Health unit ata) where I need to bring my parents or guardian. Na di ko magawa since i am a runaway, my family is INC and their solution to mental health problems is sumamba. Which i tried for real but i know deep down na my condition needs help by a professional and needs medical intervention. 

Since di nagwork yung sa PGH, i tried other options. I tried different helplines.  2019 may nakuha akong psychiatrist and psychologist. I was prescribed Setraline and went to therapy with the psychologist. This does not work din since psychologist is a Catholic volunteer. And unfortunately i didn’t find the psychologist ways helpful. 

June 2019, i did another suicide attempt. This time i went and admitted sa NCMH pavilion 28, Asis ward if i am not mistaken. My parents were called at sila nagbantay sakin. But due to the conditions of the ward they had me discharged after a week, na ayaw ko kasi i liked the talks with the residents Psychiatrist which they talk to my parents as well and i think i am getting somewhere. But yun nga early discharged but they were able to give me a diagnosis with all the talk and sessions with me and my family. Since then i was diagnosed with Bipolar affective disorder with psychotic symptoms. And was prescribed with Olanzapine, Fluoxetine and Quetiapine. After being diagnosed and admitted naging monthly na yung visit ko sa NCMH. Then yung monthly naging every 3 months tapos naging every 6 months. Though naging hiyang ako sa meds, i don’t find my sessions sa OPD very nice. Pipila ka ng matagal just to be seen by the doctor with less than 15 mins without reading your medical history. But i get by since meds worked for me that time. 

I was able to land a job in a good company at nagtagal ng years. Na bago sakin kasi all my past employment AWOL ako at hindi nagtatagal ng isang taon usually 1 month, 3 months, 9 months longest. I was able to keep a romantic relationship din. I helped myself by reading books about bipolar and other self help books. I got to get a hobby where i enjoy and made friends along the way. Since i know my condition well enough na, i was able to talk and share it to my family and friends na natira. We somehow reconnected and make amends to each other. I can say that am well regulated.

Cut to June 2024, I committed another suicide attempt. Everything crumbles, my mental state, my career and all my relationships. I don’t know what i did wrong. Kung baga i thought i have the equation figured out but hindi pala. I succumbed again to severe depression and i got defeated. I tried to bring the better version of me. Created plans after plans. Read every theories i get. Again tried to apply help options. Comply with psychiatric visits. Attended psychological interventions. Magiging okay for a while then hindi na naman. 

Again, I attempted suicide last March 7, 2025 overdosed with my meds Olanzapine and Quetiapine. Everything was calculated, i was ready to leave everything. Searched for the fatal dosage of my meds, fastest way para ma dissolve sa body ko yung iinumin ko kasi nga di na first time na gagawin ko yun, drank it sa place walang immediate help. But then i was saved. Now i am not happy about it. Everything got worst than before, reached a new level of rock bottom . People expect me na to bounce back agad kasi ive done it in the past. They have seen me get better, they have hopes for me but i got no hope for myself. This time i dont know what to do. Well i know what to do but i just cant do it.

So now i want to be admitted in a psychiatric care. Kasi i feel so lost. 1st option is NCMH but given the conditions sa mga wards im looking for other facilities. I know getting psychiatric treatment is expensive. I got HMO with my employer that can cover a decent amount. I got emergency funds din naman pero im looking for economical rates. This is the only thing i want nay NEED to do. 

I am sorry for the long post, this is the first time i post here so i am sorry if i am not familiar with guidelines on what or how to post. But i wish someone can give me options for PSYCHIATRIC CARE FACILITY. Thank youuuu!",MentalHealthPH,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn7e3u/need_help_to_find_psychiatric_care/,[]
1jn6vh0,2025-03-30T12:28:37,Need help to find psychiatric care,"Hi, this might be a long post but i hope someone can give me assistance on finding a psychiatric care facility.

I am 29 years old and diagnosed with bipolar disorder with psychotic symptoms since 2019. 

I want to share my psychiatric journey for better understanding of my history and background. 

Back in 2018 I was diagnosed with Depression disorder at PGH. Ako nag dala sa sarili ko because i am harming myself. Natigil ako sa pag visit since kasabay ng Psych consult ko is visit sa FHU (Family Health unit ata) where I need to bring my parents or guardian. Na di ko magawa since i am a runaway, my family is INC and their solution to mental health problems is sumamba. Which i tried for real but i know deep down na my condition needs help by a professional and needs medical intervention. 

Since di nagwork yung sa PGH, i tried other options. I tried different helplines.  2019 may nakuha akong psychiatrist and psychologist. I was prescribed Setraline and went to therapy with the psychologist. This does not work din since psychologist is a Catholic volunteer. And unfortunately i didn’t find the psychologist ways helpful. 

June 2019, i did another suicide attempt. This time i went and admitted sa NCMH pavilion 28, Asis ward if i am not mistaken. My parents were called at sila nagbantay sakin. But due to the conditions of the ward they had me discharged after a week, na ayaw ko kasi i liked the talks with the residents Psychiatrist which they talk to my parents as well and i think i am getting somewhere. But yun nga early discharged but they were able to give me a diagnosis with all the talk and sessions with me and my family. Since then i was diagnosed with Bipolar affective disorder with psychotic symptoms. And was prescribed with Olanzapine, Fluoxetine and Quetiapine. After being diagnosed and admitted naging monthly na yung visit ko sa NCMH. Then yung monthly naging every 3 months tapos naging every 6 months. Though naging hiyang ako sa meds, i don’t find my sessions sa OPD very nice. Pipila ka ng matagal just to be seen by the doctor with less than 15 mins without reading your medical history. But i get by since meds worked for me that time. 

I was able to land a job in a good company at nagtagal ng years. Na bago sakin kasi all my past employment AWOL ako at hindi nagtatagal ng isang taon usually 1 month, 3 months, 9 months longest. I was able to keep a romantic relationship din. I helped myself by reading books about bipolar and other self help books. I got to get a hobby where i enjoy and made friends along the way. Since i know my condition well enough na, i was able to talk and share it to my family and friends na natira. We somehow reconnected and make amends to each other. I can say that am well regulated.

Cut to June 2024, I committed another suicide attempt. Everything crumbles, my mental state, my career and all my relationships. I don’t know what i did wrong. Kung baga i thought i have the equation figured out but hindi pala. I succumbed again to severe depression and i got defeated. I tried to bring the better version of me. Created plans after plans. Read every theories i get. Again tried to apply help options. Comply with psychiatric visits. Attended psychological interventions. Magiging okay for a while then hindi na naman. 

Again, I attempted suicide last March 7, 2025 overdosed with my meds Olanzapine and Quetiapine. Everything was calculated, i was ready to leave everything. Searched for the fatal dosage of my meds, fastest way para ma dissolve sa body ko yung iinumin ko kasi nga di na first time na gagawin ko yun, drank it sa place walang immediate help. But then i was saved. Now i am not happy about it. Everything got worst than before, reached a new level of rock bottom . People expect me na to bounce back agad kasi ive done it in the past. They have seen me get better, they have hopes for me but i got no hope for myself. This time i dont know what to do. Well i know what to do but i just cant do it.

So now i want to be admitted in a psychiatric care. Kasi i feel so lost. 1st option is NCMH but given the conditions sa mga wards im looking for other facilities. I know getting psychiatric treatment is expensive. I got HMO with my employer that can cover a decent amount. I got emergency funds din naman pero im looking for economical rates. This is the only thing i want nay NEED to do. 

I am sorry for the long post, this is the first time i post here so i am sorry if i am not familiar with guidelines on what or how to post. But i wish someone can give me options for PSYCHIATRIC CARE FACILITY. Thank youuuu!",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn6vh0/need_help_to_find_psychiatric_care/,[]
1jn6pi1,2025-03-30T12:15:29,doctor recommendations on NowServing app,"hello guys please help me baka naman po may recommendations kayo ng Therapist, Psycologist, and Psychiatrist na din po dito sa now serving app. Medyo di ko trusted yung napuntahan kong doctor dito sa hospital samin and i dont think na i should trust him by his diagnosis with having little knowledge about me and nag prescribe agad ng meds. May nakapag sabi din sakin na sabi ng doctor nya na actually di din maganda and di din talaga enough and one session for a doctor to diagnose and give me meds lalo na when it comes sa mental health. i said no sa meds na pine prescribe sakin kasi im afraid na baka lumala ako or baka hindi naman talaga yun yung need ko tapos ite take ko yun? i was diagnosed by him with bipolar pero i dont think kasi na i am bipolar, may nakapag sabi din sakin na yan din talaga palagi ang starter na diagnosis ng ibang doctors. And I felt like he was rushing me with a lot of questions din talaga naging uncomfy ako, minsan 2 questions yung ina ask nya sakin so i answer one muna then babalikan ko, pero di ko nagagawa kasi may another question na naman sya. I wanted to answer some questions for him to know din kaso nag r rush sya talaga. 
And it was free so talagang di na din ako magtataka why he’s like that, oo bayad sya ng government pero talaga when it is free talagang may sabit, tinry ko lang kasi my tita insisted. (sorry guys napa haba). I WOULD LOVE IT IF MAY MA RECOMMEND KAYO 💗💗. ",MentalHealthPH,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn6pi1/doctor_recommendations_on_nowserving_app/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhdcl8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:15:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn6pi1'}, {'comment_id': 'mktf763', 'author': 'JustSomeRedditGuy123', 'body': 'I’m a mod here and also run a mental health platform (Saya). Just wanted to vouch for Dr. Mitz — he’s one of the psychiatrists we trust and refer clients to.\n\nHe’s kind, really listens, and doesn’t overcharge. Everyone I’ve sent his way has had good things to say. He also replies personally on his page if you want to reach out: [facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph](https://www.facebook.com/DocMitz.Ph)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T11:55:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn6pi1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkioe4o', 'author': 'airendrafts', 'body': ""hi, i can recommend one, i'll send you sa dms if ok lang! although ano ba budget mo?  \n  \nhonestly, i get what you mean, di lahat match tayo sa first psych natin. and it's ok we can find another. pero tbh sa lahat ng tatlong natry ko, nabigyan ako ng meds kaagad the first session, and got diagnosed with depression thrice initially. never ako nadiagnose ng bipolar kaagad, even though now na nalaman later on na bipolar 2 ako.  \n  \nso im not sure if talagang yan ang laging initial diagnosis ng doctors since bipolar is a tricky disorder, i dont think nakukuha siya agad the first try. usually masqueraded siya as something else."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:28:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn6pi1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiqbo9', 'author': 'Additional_Ad_889', 'body': 'hi! if its ok with you can you dm it to me as well?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:39:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mkioe4o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjut3z', 'author': 'Radiant-Artist-9119', 'body': 'yes i will dm u thank you pooo, idk abt sa budget i dont mind naman and i get you din po. honestly some disorder/illness are really tricky coz some of them almost has the same symptoms kaya mas maganda na din to get checked multiple times para sure na din.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:13:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkioe4o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkisixb', 'author': 'airendrafts', 'body': 'yes!', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:52:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mkiqbo9'}]"
1jmualf,2025-03-30T01:06:21,Ive been quitting life lately,"im your typical acad smart guy. straight As. introverted. socially awkward. etc. 

i was tempered to be this way. well, my father was absent for the first half of my life due to his vices, so my mom was the one mostly involved. perhaps, too involved. she always made decisions for me, even if i dont always agree to them.

so, 3 yrs ago, i was him, the boy my mom built. that boy was smart acad-wise. he was a consistent representative of his schools in competitions throughout primary to secondary school. always at the top of his class. etc. that was everything he knew, everything he was tempered for. so, when he graduated valedictorian in shs, he didnt know what to take for college. so, he went to his mother. he later got accepted to UP in a degree program he gambled to like.

from there, that boy slowly became me. he didnt have his mom beside him to tell him what to do all the time. what to think all the time. so he started to learn so many thing. an influx of social rules. an avalanche of realities about the real world. he tried to assimilate.

he tried to make friends; they only lasted for a sem or two. 

he tried to join orgs; he realized they best serve extroverted people. he always found himself out of place, so he quit.

he failed, and he ended up being alone.

i am in my 3rd year now, and as usual, ive been doing good academically. never delayed. running for a latin honor. the boy my mom built would be so proud of me, but i am not, because i know that this is for nothing.

my mom would always tell me that she will be retiring after i graduated. i am my parents retirement plan. i need to get a high-paying job. i have good grades, but those only matter in the academe. you dont become rich by being a teacher (sorry if this might be offensive). so i need to go in the industry.

genius doesnt matter in the industry, connections and being sociable do.

thats it. all things that led me here, they were for nothing. all the grit that it took was for nothing. because, at the end of the day, genius wont save me.

as i stand, i have no friends, no boyfriend (nor have i ever had one), no mom, and no father who know who i am right now. i am alone and lonely.

ive been quitting life since last sem. i am still in the running for a latin honor just because of my grades from the previous sems. each day, i find it harder and harder to put myself to study. each time i try, my breathing would get heavier, my legs would shake so hard, and it would feel like something in my head itches so bad i would sometimes hit my head with my fist or bang it on the wall.

it feels so shameful to admit but ive been having suicidal thoughts lately. i just feel so out of place in this world. this society dont need someone like me, nor would it benefit, because im an emotionally and socially stunted nerd whose life started only 3 yrs ago.

i feel so left out, so lonely, so foolish for being tempered to failure, and i dont see a point in persisting anymore. i just want things to stop.",MentalHealthPH,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jmualf/ive_been_quitting_life_lately/,[]
1jn3u2e,2025-03-30T09:02:36,"thanks reddit , i finally got help","The saying rings true, whatever you're having trouble with right now there's probably someone on Reddit that's been thru a similar thing. I'm aware of my debilitating mental health for the past years and like others have seeked online forums to find an answer as to why I feel the way I feel.

Long story short I assumed I'm experiencing anxiety attacks and just not been functioning like I would so this what I did:

◻️**looked for available psychiatrist**
– this community has been great help in sourcing out and navigating what to do, I've also found similar situations to mine so that made me feel at ease

⚪booked consultation with **NCMH** and the schedule I got was in **March 2026** (one year waiting) which gets naman. if your case is an emergency don't hesitate to contact them.

🟢**Nowserving** – the filters are great and it's easy to background check the clinics. I found a doctor that was within reach and within means (for now). I didn't book in the app but I did find the contact info for the clinic.

◻️**finally told my parents** how I'm struggling and in need of professional help
– temp checked. they've shown empathy naman for others that seeked professional help
– for a long time I also consulted friends about what to do

◻️**first psychotherapy consultation** 
– organized my thoughts (typed in docs) beforehand. less than an hour consultation gusto ko masulit.
– staying honest and allowing your doctor to question and analyze

⚪ initial diagnosis: general anxiety disorder– also got prescribed meds
– akala ko normal lang yung anxious state ko for the past years haha hindi pala

🟢 **got referral to PGH** idk if normal to medyo shook din ako I got scheduled for a screening (within the week)

⚪ doc and i considered my options and limits from meds, sessions, and finances, kaya rin siguro narefer

◻️**PGH Psych clinic** Padre Faura, OPD Bldg.
– 6:30am medyo puno, mag face mask!

🔵Blue Card – approach counter C, fill out the form, waiting time 10-30min

⚪Psych Clinic – 3rd floor, counter opens at 7am, first come first serve

⚪Screening – more structured, may questionaire pero you're not limited to it
– doc in PGH re-affirmed the initial diagnosis and I got another schedule in PGH na🥹
– medyo lutang pa ako, hopefully you guys get enough sleep the day before
– finished at 8:30am, sabi sa counter expect ko raw na nandun ako maghapon pero ayun

◻️**prescribed antidepressants** 
– expected side effects: headaches, nausea, diarrhea 
– supposed to calm my nerves– will start working daw in a month
– my exp: lethargic antok by afternoon, poop cycle go wack

now that I've been diagnosed and actually seeked a professional which I thought was out of my reach– everything **feels unreal**. it feels like something heavy is lifted off my shoulder after the first consultation so pagdating ng 2nd consultation medyo kinwestyon ko bigla if it's all in my head haha weird noh? kung kailan i have a professional telling me as it is im suddenly doubting how I feel. Siguro dahil from low to high emotions ko during all that

besides this subreddit i've been lurking in i wanna say i have friends supporting me throughout my decisions too, and some that have reached out congratulating me for taking this step. Salamat",MentalHealthPH,12,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn3u2e/thanks_reddit_i_finally_got_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkgrmdo', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:02:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh0j31', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Yay! This is a huge step and taking it is pretty brave. You're on your way to getting better and I have a feeling that you're going to be okay. Wishing you well on your mental health journey. 😊\n\nSino doc mo sa PGH? Hihi."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:13:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhwq9j', 'author': 'Opening-Cantaloupe56', 'body': 'You can recover. GAD is manageable. Very good for seeking help and sharing your journey here.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:47:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}, {'comment_id': 'mki5in0', 'author': 'TopHuge2671', 'body': 'Sino doc mo sa PGH?\n\nI am glad for you.. keep it up and continue your meds ah..', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:12:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn3u2e'}]"
1jn2qx8,2025-03-30T08:00:02,"Di ko alam kailangan ko, hear me out.","Hi,

Sorry if all over the place tong post na to, generally I've been a strong person. If something hits me like a truck I get sad for a bit then bangon.

But now, a lot of things - family problems, dad has been addicted to gambling, mom has cancer, ang malala only child ako. Confidant of my mom and over the years has become bitter everytime I try to talk to her its all negativity about my dad and their problems. I don't want to even stay in this house for long din, nag backfire pa WFH setup ko, pag maglulunch break ako negativity maririnig ko.

I don't know, I know I need help pero idk what fits me, I dont think im depressed but I need better ways to cope if I start from that where do I start seeking help and what kind of help am I looking for if I dont have a mental disorder or illness?



",MentalHealthPH,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn2qx8/di_ko_alam_kailangan_ko_hear_me_out/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkgilq7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:00:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgosth', 'author': 'Tricky_unicorn109', 'body': 'Need siguro huminga at magpahinga? Sorry about your mom, and your dad. Totoo mahirap magpalaki ng magulang. Pero bago kapa totally malunod, baka gusto mo iconsider magmove out?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:42:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgq1l0', 'author': 'adamnatalie04', 'body': 'sa mundong to di mawawala problem kahit sino, saan at kelan meron at meron yan if mag pa psychiatrist ka they will give you medication to control the symptoms, if psychologist they will help you how to cope it, meaning also for them its normal that everybody has a struggle, they will teach you how to cope, accept and face it rather, moving out is temporarily relief you can do that para makahinga at makapag isip ng maayos but in the long run its all about you how to face it and rather like mas tuturuan ka isipin mo sarili mo kesa ibang tao kasi lahat tayo may limit', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:51:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}, {'comment_id': 'mki096k', 'author': 'Historical_Seat_447', 'body': ""You need to move out kahit hindi malayo, basta hindi harap sa kanila. Just visit them. I also grew up in a difficult household, and I love my family, pero d ko na kaya talaga. I had to leave. It's either me or them, and I choose me. \n\nIf d mo na kaya, protect yourself first. After all, anu matutulong mo kung depressed ka din dahil dyan?"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:23:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn2qx8'}]"
1jn1ak4,2025-03-30T06:40:37,Just want to hear nice words right now,"I’m currently going through a depressive episode after a week of being productive and calm. Nainis lang ako over a small thing kanina tapos nag-spiral na naman ng malala kasi every time I relapse, di ko maiwasan yung thought na back to zero yung progress.

Ang sakit na ng ulo ko. I drank water and I’m trying to calm down by watching chill shows. I’m reminding myself na I’m more than these episodes and I’m not only trying, but I’m also getting better compared dati.

I wanna hear nice words lang din to keep going please 🥺",MentalHealthPH,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn1ak4/just_want_to_hear_nice_words_right_now/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkg5xxw', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:40:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ak4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh0xl0', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""Recovery isn't linear. You will encounter some setbacks but you're not gonna be stuck there forever. You're still here despite everything. That's something to be proud of. And remember, progress is progress, no matter how small. Baby steps lang tayo. You'll be fine. It gets better. :)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:16:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ak4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgmcb9', 'author': 'Tricky_unicorn109', 'body': 'If you dont mind, ano nagpatrigger? At nice words lang ba ang nagpapakalma ng episodes mo?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T08:24:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ak4'}]"
1jn1ag2,2025-03-30T06:40:28,I am diagnosed with Bipolar 1 Disorder. AMA,"Hello! I (30F) had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2017 and have been under treatment (meds + therapy) since then.

It's World Bipolar Day today and I just thought I want to talk about my illness here.

So AMA :)",MentalHealthPH,13,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn1ag2/i_am_diagnosed_with_bipolar_1_disorder_ama/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkg5x1q', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? 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Ano nagpush sayo noong unang beses ka magpacheck? Or pano mo nasabing may mali sayo noong di ka pa diagnosed?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:44:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhoera', 'author': 'Majestic_Audience407', 'body': 'hello po! paano po naconfirm na BP1 talaga diagnosis mo? I have MDD, i’m just curious ano po yung indication na bipolar ang isang person. tyia 🤍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T14:17:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mki3cf4', 'author': 'HeallyLoe7', 'body': 'BP1 din po here. F19. I want to ask how did you handle college during your time po? How did you avoid burn out while keeping yourself on track with your tasks? \n\nThank you po. 💚', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:53:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkggkyh', 'author': 'ExaminationNo3379', 'body': 'BP1 here. What meds are you on right now?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T07:46:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mklx4z0', 'author': 'Leading_Rip4341', 'body': 'May adverse side effects po ba kayo like weight gain, shaking hands, low/non-existent libido, or brain fog? If yes, na-consider niyo po bang mag-taper off/discontinue ng medication?', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T05:58:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn1ag2'}, {'comment_id': 'mksq1pg', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': ""I'm a college student nung 2017 and I was so depressed na naapektuhan acads ko. Di na ako pumapasok ng classes kasi wala talaga akong energy both physical and mental. Yun yung turning point ko in a way kasi I love studying so the fact na ayaw ko na mag-aral is a warning. So dahil di ako pumapasok, I had failing grades at the end of the academic year. I was told by my college na for dismissal na ako and that means di na ako makakatuloy sa pag-aaral sa univ. Dream school ko talaga ever since UP so I asked if pwede pa ako bigyan ng second chance. They told me I had to prioritize getting better first. To consult professional help. So that's what I did."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:25:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhg397'}, {'comment_id': 'mksqjef', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': ""The difference is the existence of manic episodes. Bipolar was called manic-depressive disorder before. So to classify as bipolar, dapat may manic symptoms din.\n\n\nBefore I was referred to a psychiatrist, a general practioner indicated in my record na it's possible I have bipolar 1. Then when psychiatrist na nakausap ko, sila yung mas in-depth medical history yung ginawa and then confirmed that I have bipolar indeed."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:28:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhoera'}, {'comment_id': 'mksqza5', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': 'Meds + therapy + support system. I had to build a routine that works for me. Lessened load din. Sa univ namin, 15 units ang regular load. I usually enroll in 9 units na lang. I have to be mindful of my limitations now.\n\n\nAlso when I was first diagnosed, my college required me to take a leave of absence muna so I could rest from acad reqs and prioritize getting better. Then nagka-family issues din nun so I was not enrolled for almost five years. Kakabalik ko lang ulit sa studies last year actually.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:31:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mki3cf4'}, {'comment_id': 'mksr0ow', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': 'Lamotrigine, quetiapine, propranolol', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:31:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mkggkyh'}, {'comment_id': 'mksrgid', 'author': 'nkhsmks', 'body': ""Among those listed mo, brain fog yung nae-experience ko. Titrating the dosage worked, yes. Discontinuing medication is not an option for me. If I do, there's a huge possibility I'd enter into a mood episode."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T08:34:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mklx4z0'}]"
1jn0ljt,2025-03-30T06:05:36,Sino ang kagaya kong Hindi ko pa rin alam ang gusto kong career and nangangamba akong hindi na maging successful sa future,"Nass mis 20s na sko pero hindi ko pa rin alan gusto ko. Since college, hirap na hirap na akong pumili ng program. After college, nagkaroon ako ngf severe anxiety and from then on, nawalan na ako ng gana na mag-aral (kasi Sabi nila naganda daw magmasters agad after grad etc etc) nandito din yung pag-aalala na paano kung hindi ako magtagumpay sa larangang ito.


Paano ba malampasan ito? Tumaas naman posisyon ko pagkalipat ko ng ibang company pero pakiramdam ko, ang bobo ko. 

Hindi inate sa akin yung skills na need sa work na ito. Although less than 6 months pa lang ako dito. Noon, sobrang anxious ko while working,now, hjndi ako masaya, Hindi din naman malungkot. Paano nyo ba nahanap yung work na masasabi nyong para sa inyo? Or treat ko na lang ito as means of buying needs? Ssbi noon ng therapist, explore lang. Paano kayo nag explore??",MentalHealthPH,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jn0ljt/sino_ang_kagaya_kong_hindi_ko_pa_rin_alam_ang/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkg05y0', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for posting in r/MentalHealthPH. We appreciate you being here. Please take a moment to review our rules in the sidebar to help keep this community safe and supportive for everyone.\n\nIf you're looking for support through life's challenges or navigating deeper emotional and mental health concerns, please reach out to:\n\n**Saya**, the official non-crisis therapy partner of r/MentalHealthPH - Download Saya on [iOS](https://apps.apple.com/ph/app/saya-therapy-for-filipinos/id6741095516) or [Android](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talksaya.app). r/MentalHealthPH members get 40% off one session with the code MHPHReddit40.\n\nFor any questions or assistance, reach out to the Saya Care team through the Live Chat on the Saya app\n\nIf you are in crisis or need immediate support, PLEASE CALL:\n\n    In Touch Community’s Crisis Line Landline: \n    +63 2 8893 7603\n    +63 919 056 0709\n    +63 917 800 1123\n    +63 922 893 8944\n    Email address: helpline@in-touch.org\n    www.in-touch.org\n\nOn the fence about calling? Please read this helpful [post](https://old.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotline_faqs) from r/SuicideWatch what to expect when calling crisis hotlines.\n\nModerators do their very best to maintain this subreddit a safe place. If you see any offending post or comment, do not hesitate to report or message the mods.\n\nClick [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1cqtslj/meta_please_post_all_doctorhospital/) if you are looking for a doctor/hospital! Also, some of your questions might already been answered on our FAQ. Please check our [wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/wiki/index)!\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthPH) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:05:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn0ljt'}]"
1jmx3nd,2025-03-30T03:15:53,Anyone here taking clozapine for anxiety?,"Hi, I was diagnosed with illness anxiety disorder with panic attacks. My psychiatrist prescribed me with 20mg of escitalopram and 25mg of clozapine to help me sleep. It is my first time taking clozapine but I don’t know if it is used to treat anxiety. Anyone share your experience with it?  ",MentalHealthPH,0,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jmx3nd/anyone_here_taking_clozapine_for_anxiety/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhza9w', 'author': 'Kitchen_Country_4281', 'body': 'I used to take clozapine but on a lower dose for sleep. 1/4 tab. \n\nAre you starting your escitalopram with 20mg? I think that’s a high dose.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:14:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmx3nd'}]"
1jmv7um,2025-03-30T01:48:23,how do u go back to sleep?,"meron bang katulad ko? after work, i feel so sleepy so makakatulog ako around 8pm hanggang 12am or 1am then hindi na ako nakakarecover ulit, like hirap na ako makatulog. ang result, kahit masakit ulo ko at pipilitin mag sleep, hindi talaga kaya

i already had a consult with psych at magsstart sa escitalopram. i heard nakakaantok siya.

side note: nafifeel niyo dn ba yng parang ang dalas sunakit ng tiyan na parang umiikot kahit wala naman ginagawa like nasa bahay lang? and nafifeel niyo ba yung parang walang gana sa kahit saan (tho no suicidal thoughts naman)

what do u usually do when you feel these?",MentalHealthPH,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jmv7um/how_do_u_go_back_to_sleep/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhznuz', 'author': 'MarketingFearless961', 'body': 'My doctor prescribed me with lemborexant for 5 days. Tapos sinabayan ko din ng melatonin gummies - this is not prescribed but i took initiative. Tapos consistent na 10pm tulog ko, as in pinipilit kong gumising until 10. So far, pang 4th day ko na, nagigising pa din ako pero nakakatulog n ulit tsaka more on, naiinitan or nalalamigan/ naalimpungatan. \n\nNakakatulog n ako 7 hrs straight halos and mas gising n ko thru working hours.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:18:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmv7um'}]"
1jmrkhw,2025-03-29T23:03:46,My mother made me stop taking fluoxetine,"Well to start off, I took fluoxetine last July of last year since the old antidepressants I used to take weren't quite apparent for how my brain works since I recently got diagnosed with MDD than my old diagnosis which was ASD (acute stress disorder) when I was 13. I had been so depressed and lost since a certain personal problem going on in my mother's family since my grandmother died. It's about how my aunts and my mother were fighting over my grandmother's deed of rights, and they didn't give anything to my mom in which why my mom was so distressed last year because she was supposed to have those deed of rights for each and every one of her siblings. So, she tries to save up money so she could file a court case against them and I've been independent on taking myself to my psychiatrist without my mother's knowledge. When she knew, she was okay at first but gradually as months came by she wanted me to stop taking it because she didn't like how my skin and my body had changed since I took fluoxetine.  

So she yelled and cried that I need to stop taking it and she said by taking it, it could ruin my life and be dependent on the medicine. 

I just wanted to live my life and so I could motivate myself to do good in school but it didn't when she made me stop for a couple of months because of my mental health. She wasn't quite happy that I've been taking it for more than 6 months and I stopped when I had a wisdom tooth operation since I was given an advice from my dentist to stop taking anti depressants for a couple of months until it heals. So I did what she suggested. And now it's been over 2 months I think since I haven't took it. With all the battering my mom tells me to do, she wanted me to only focus on psychotherapy and not on antidepressants. So, I've been stagnant for a couple of weeks and slept late eversince I stopped using fluoxetine. What should I do??",MentalHealthPH,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPH/comments/1jmrkhw/my_mother_made_me_stop_taking_fluoxetine/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkuhy4h', 'author': 'heylouise19', 'body': ""I get that your mom doesn't want you to be dependent on antidepressants but they were prescribed to you for a reason. And that is to help you get better. Treat it as how you would with any other illness you might get. If you have a fever, you would take meds to feel better, right? Though I understand that one is not as severe and easily treatable as the other but they both need to be treated. Meds and therapy go hand in hand. Even my psychiatrist says that we can't rely on meds alone but they play a role in helping you get better.\n\nIt's your mind and body so at the end of the day, it's still up to you. Go with what's best and works for you, as long as it's not putting you in harm's way. I hope that your mom sees that, too. If not now, I she will one day. It's okay if your stability is store-bought. What matters is you have it."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:12:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmrkhw'}]"
1jnzxt8,2025-03-31T15:51:41,Please Listen,"I’m 20 yrs old (f), and I think I’m having a mental health crisis. I am very very sad and emotional all the time and the smallest things send me over the edge. Example: My boyfriend was at a house party and called me on the phone of another persons because his was dead, otp he said he’d check up on me through out the night. His phone was dead all night even though he says he was charging it but yet didn’t reach out off someone else’s phone. I have been dealing with some very harmful thoughts in the past few days, and immense feelings of loneliness. Anyways I completely lost it when he got home, and I don’t know why. It literally hurts to cry and I’m having bad thoughts about how things would be easier if all the other things just stopped happening. No the boyfriend thing isn’t a mental health issue I am aware, but with my mental state it threw me over the edge. I don’t understand why I am like this. I take SSRIs and have for a year. I’ve heard it all “you have to out yourself out there” and I’ve tried and tried and tried I’m just dealing with immense sadness and loneliness and I feel like nothing is going to get better. I don’t know what to do. ",MentalHealthSupport,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnzxt8/please_listen/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt4yqm', 'author': 'Silly_Difficulty3607', 'body': 'People who haven’t been in your position won’t understand that “getting yourself out there” is the issue. For starters it’s going to be okay, it’s not uncommon to have moods like this, but if it gets in the way of your everyday life it’s time to see someone or open up. \n\nIf you’re finding it hard to function, or get through your day, even get out of bed it’s time to seek help. I’m not sure how long you’ve been feeling this way but if it continues for a while or gets worse please open up to someone or look into a therapist or psychiatrist. If you don’t want to do that you can try other methods such as journaling or meditation. \n\nYou are not alone and there is help out there, wishing you luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:17:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnzxt8'}, {'comment_id': 'mktjr8v', 'author': 'never-fracture', 'body': ""Want some insights into what could be going on? Look up Tim Fletcher. He's a psychologist who specializes in a specific group of mental health conditions. Maybe it could help you find the proper awareness of what could be the problem. It could help you find the right therapist as well. Ngl, this sounds like anxious codependent behavior. And that could be a symptom of a bigger issue. Some kind of trauma or personality disorder, perhaps. But I would get help from a professional and find out.\n\nI've dealt with identity and attachment issues all my life, and it's not fun. But the problem is usually something I do to myself. Either staying in destructive situations or making something good seem like it's a disaster. I can usually track that back to some unrealistic expectations and beliefs I have about myself or others. Unfortunately, like most other codependents, I attract simulator people."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:45:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnzxt8'}]"
1jo00u4,2025-03-31T15:57:44,How do i stop feeling like this ?,"So i was SA my an uncle when i was 6-7 years old. It completely destroyed my relationship with my mother she knew and did nothing about it. It completely destroyed a relationship i got into last year with an absolutely stunning person i just couldn’t trust no matter how hard i tried and so many other things popped up for the first time. Was a virgin till last year and immediately after losing it i started getting flashbacks and questioning everything. Felt like i was completely losing it at one point. I did go to therapy and still am but it was to late for the relationship. 

Anyway today my uncle posted a photo of him, his wife and two children and they look like that have it all and im over here drowning in self hate from the trauma he put me through and ultimately the reason for my ruined relationships. When i saw the photo i wanted to puke and then felt like i deserve whats happening to me. 

How do i stop this how can i move on ?",MentalHealthSupport,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jo00u4/how_do_i_stop_feeling_like_this/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpacuq', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""so sorry for you! all you are feeling is a normal response to the trauma you had and it takes time and work to get better. Of course you didn't deserve any of it. It's very good that you are doing therapy, please discuss with the therapist whether informing your aunt might help you getting closure or whether it's better to distance yourself from that part of the family. <3"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:15:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo00u4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpdd4f', 'author': 'Several-Mongoose6372', 'body': 'Iv thought about telling her a lot but iv decided to just distance myself, i cant risk ruining their children’s lives', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:30:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mkpacuq'}]"
1jny2wt,2025-03-31T13:29:28,I need help starting my thesis,"Heyyy, so I'm at the end of my college life, just need to finish my thesis. I have a theme and it's a good one, but I can't start.

I have severe depression, anxiety and ADHD. I just want to sleep all day. I can't afford therapy and watching TV shows and stupid YouTube videos is the only thing that keeps my mind off things I don't want to think about.

I need tips. Things that work/worked for you on similar situations, I need help to focus.

Before you decide to pull a 'my sister' I CANNOT leave this for later, I CANNOT ""focus on my mental health right now"", I don't have money for it. I'll have time and money to deal with that when I have my degree.

Please, I just need I little help starting.

Thank you in advance.",MentalHealthSupport,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jny2wt/i_need_help_starting_my_thesis/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkp8c7j', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""A friend of mine, which I suspect had/has ADHD used to literally tie himself to a chair while having the distractions confined to another room. I would suggest to start by forcing yourself to sit in front of a blank page even if you don't accomplish anything. Then have videos and tv shows as small rewards for the hours of sitting. Also start with the structure (chapters, paragraphs, etc.) then slowly polish as you gather more material and draw more connections."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:05:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jny2wt'}]"
1jnw218,2025-03-31T10:57:32,I'm losing hope.,"I don't even know what to do anymore. I'm a 28 y/o f and I have struggled with severe depression for years. I am having the hardest time right now. I have constant dark thoughts of ending my life. I don't see a reason why I'm even here? I'm never going to be able to have a career that pays well because I don't have the skills, or the brains. I'm living with my parents still because I can't afford to live alone and I have no one to live with.   
The only thing keeping me here is them. my parents. But it's getting so bad that it's starting feel like thats not stopping me..   
I have been on medication before but all it does it make me gain weight, ruin my sex drive and make me even more depressed because of the weight gain. Every smile feels fake. every laugh feels forced. I'm crying myself to sleep every single night. I feel like a burden, I feel like a failure. I feel like I'm wasting my life so what the point? I've been keeping this to myself for so long, because I don't want to worry my family, and I don't want to burden my friends. 

I'm done. and that's scaring me. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnw218/im_losing_hope/,[]
1jnvzzw,2025-03-31T10:53:59,is it this hard for everybody?,"i’m 21, healthy and have nothing really going against me in life. 
i have a close group of friends and family that love me. i’ve got no real financial strifes, no toxic relationships or traumatic experiences to speak of. i just despise myself so much. 

i’ve always been too in my head, i’ve thought about suicide pretty much since i first learned what it was. once again nothing bad has ever even happened to me, sometimes i think i made myself this way by being too self pitying and overly egotistical.

i’m a deeply anxious person, everything makes me anxious, i feel on the verge of a panic attack when faced with the most minuscule mishaps. i’ve always been this way, it’s exhausting. 

i dislike my personality. i’m lazy, self pitying and passive aggressive. 

my voice is too loud, i get bored easily and i don’t pay attention to things. im not a great listener or speaker. all my stories are boring and take too long. i get too drunk and high. i can be mean and inconsistent and irresponsible. im weird and awkward and sometimes when im in a group of people, i’ll say something and it feels like they can tell there’s something off with me. 

school was the only thing i was ever ‘good’ at, but im not even good at that anymore. im too lazy and i procrastinate too much and it feels like i blinked and everyone became smarter than me, and they’re all leaving me behind and everyone will realize how i was always nothing to being with.

i’ve never really been someone’s favorite person (maybe my parent’s but our relationship is complicated) and i just can’t help but twist that idea in my head like a wrung out towel. 
i understand why no one wants me, as i’ve said, i wouldn’t want myself either. but this makes me miserable. i know a relationship would fix nothing, but at least then id know that someone sees something in me that isn’t shit. 

i know some of you will say i should talk to therapist but i can’t do that. telling my family is too much. they don’t know im so unhappy and i can’t let them know. it would be too unfair and too much to explain and i don’t know what id say, “sorry guys! life is too much for me, i know everyone else can do it but i can’t! i’m too much of a crybaby!” 

i really don’t have think i have a mental illness. i’m not miserable all the time. i have fun and i love life at many points, it’s just that when things are bad it truly feels to me like the world is ending. i break down like a toddler throwing a tantrum over the tiniest thing. 

i’ve been good at not letting anyone else see these episodes but they’re slipping through the cracks more and more and i’m having one every other day. i’m tired of always feeling like everything is wrong. i hate that im not happy, i don’t know why i can’t stop being the way i am. 
",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnvzzw/is_it_this_hard_for_everybody/,[]
1jnvqb2,2025-03-31T10:36:06,I’ve had a really intense and traumatic memory that I’ve repressed come up.,"I don’t know what to do. My psychologist is away for another month and I have no one to talk to. It’s making my sleep impossible, I’m crying and panicking at most moments. 

Even when driving the car today I just wanted to hit a tree ",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnvqb2/ive_had_a_really_intense_and_traumatic_memory/,[]
1jnvj4f,2025-03-31T10:23:03,Im desperately wishing to be in a relationship while being surrounded by couples.,"I really want to be in a relationship and while I try and fail, my friends are already and have been in their own relationships with each other for a while. Some of them including my brother getting lucky and having to only date one person before being in a relationship. I try to be in a relationship yet the last few times it hasn’t gone well for me and yet to me it seems like my friends have had it easy? So why can’t I? I think I would be an excellent boyfriend, yet i dont have anyone to be a boyfriend for. I know that there’s a lot that goes into having a relationship and it takes time, but it didnt take time for much of my friends. I guess im just wishing I had what they had. Right now im getting depressed by it all again. Please be gentle. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnvj4f/im_desperately_wishing_to_be_in_a_relationship/,[]
1jntfmu,2025-03-31T08:17:28,Looking for friends/support/real humans to connect with,"Hello this is me trying to reach out to create some type of support system. I have recently become homeless and in a brand new shelter in the Bronx. I have struggled with mental health since I was about 15 (27 now). I am not very familiar with this area and theres not many resources I can find for mental health, which brings me to virtually reach out. I am working with my case manager and working on my Independent Living Plan to get out of this shelter system as soon as possible. I am looking for ways to connect with the community/mental health support so I can be away from the shelter as much as possible except for sleep/shower/3 meals a day/meeting with my case manager. I am extremely alone and crave real human to human interactions. If anyone has advice I am not doing great mentally and would like to make friends, local to the bronx/nyc or not. I am frankly very alone and isolated and the pit in my chest seems to never go away. Thank you for reading. If anyone out there wants to talk, my inbox is open.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jntfmu/looking_for_friendssupportreal_humans_to_connect/,[]
1jnsl9y,2025-03-31T07:31:03,I'm too lonely,"I'm 17 years old as of recently. It just became spring break for me, and I have no one to hang out with. I feel like everyone I value does not even want to talk to me. I feel like I'm forcing people to talk to me everyday. I have two online friends I love so much but I am talking to them less and less everyday. (We used to be super close, I think they just have busy lives now.) I don't have anyone at school to talk to since I've had an argument with one of my only school friends. (They say they can't risk being friends with me, even though we get along fine or at least we have recently.) I feel like I'm always helping my friends and giving them advice, but they never do the same for me. I used to be so mean to people but I am so much better now and people don't seem to care. I can't make friends easily, I'm autistic and I have social anxiety. I've been dealing with this crippling loneliness and depression for years now. I feel so miserable everyday. I just need someone to listen and I don't have anyone to talk about it with. Whenever I act like I am doing bad no one knows what to do. Hardly anybody answers my messages (when I'm trying to have normal conversations) and I don't know how to deal with it. I love my friends too much to let go. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnsl9y/im_too_lonely/,[]
1jnqpew,2025-03-31T05:49:27,I don't know how to keep going,"I don't know how to keep going

I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this, I don't want to keep doing this. I don't want to live, I'm tired. 

I can't count the number of times I've woken up and my first thoughts are of ending things. I want peace, I want freedom, I want to stop feeling shitty all the time, I want to experience life as a better, more valuable man. I struggle to believe that's possible for me, I feel too far gone, too wrong, like life wasn't meant for me. 

I don't know why I never went to college, maybe I was too lazy, or too far gone with mental health. I was still able to get an okay job, with benefits and an average wage. Despite that, my upward mobility is likely non-existent, I'm going to be this forever, I'm never going to be impressive the way I would need to be to live the life I envision. I work with taxes, and regular see people paying more with a single cheque than I've ever accumulated over the course of my entire life, it's crushing. I failed financially. 

Not that my job is going to do me much good if the world implodes. Things just seem to get worse, life is unaffordable, populations are getting dumber and more violent and more hateful, social cohesion is dissolving, new wars are starting, the environment is screwed, scientists have noticed an asteroid. I failed to be lucky, to be born in a better time and place. 

I struggle socially. I have a few good friends, and I see them semi-regularly, but I'll lose them eventually and I doubt my ability to make new ones; I certainly don't have the energy or mental bandwidth. I've never been in a relationship, and as uncomfortable as it is to admit, sex is a big problem. I spent my childhood religious, learning to be deeply uncomfortable with the idea of intimacy done ""incorrectly"", and now that I've deconstructed I realize that it was never going to work for me anyway. I'm not attractive, not tall, not fit, not funny, not charismatic, not rich, not anything -

- what I am is a hypocrite, being attracted to and desperately wanting experiences with women who I find exceptionally attractive while I look the way I do, without the ability to offer any kind of attractiveness in return. Please don't misunderstand, I'm not a misogynist, I don't think I'm entitled to it. I dislike and vehemently disagree with incels; they spread and perpetuate wrong and harmful rhetoric. Unfortunately the term applies to me, definitionally. If I end up leaving life behind, I hope people don't remember me as being lumped in with them. I failed to be the person I wanted to be. 

I don't know why I'm posting this, I don't know what I want out of it. I guess if nothing else, I wanted to vent. I don't believe there's anything that can help me, not in a meaningful way, to hope for that would be hoping for the impossible. ""The universe is, and we are"". It's just not a universe made for me, and I want to leave it. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnqpew/i_dont_know_how_to_keep_going/,[]
1jnqdz6,2025-03-31T05:32:46,"So, this is the time to ask this to everyone..","Hi, I’m just wondering if anyone has some tips in getting back into the habit of showering twice a week. I’m used to only showering once a week but I really need to do twice, but I’m overwhelmed by only one shower. And I don’t know what to do, at the weekends when I’m at my grandparents. It’s really easy for me to take a shower, but at my parents both of the bathrooms are gross and either have bugs or mould, please give me advice! ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnqdz6/so_this_is_the_time_to_ask_this_to_everyone/,[]
1jnpuys,2025-03-31T05:06:12,I don't know.,"I'm posting here because I don't know who to talk to or where to go. I don't feel normal. i want to run again. When I was younger I'd get these urges to escape and as I get older they amplify. I got a promotion at work, management position. Really good money for my age. Worked really hard for the last 2 years to achieve this but I'm just realizing it's not what I want. I don't know what I want. I started taking pills and smoking weed at 13. I would drink when I couldn't get the preferred choices.I was never supposed to make it this far. I had not prepared for this. I tried to overdose when I was 15 which was unsuccessful, obviously. I don't know though. I look back at my life and I'm thankful to have grown. I live in a nice house, been in a relationship for 7 years. I have everything I wanted as a kid. Yet, it's still not enough. I feel lost. I have suicidal thoughts frequently, mainly since my promotion. I work 47+ hours a week and it kills me. Money is not what drives me. I'm hated by most peers for my success or failures, whichever trumps the two. I want to quit and leave it all. I would normally crash out at this point and go on a bender. For whatever reason I'm scared. Worried about letting someone down. I haven't felt these feelings in a very long time and I'm struggling to navigate it. Im at a very low point and it almost breaks me more days than not. I can't even talk to people in real life because it makes me want to break down crying. I feel a pit in my stomach and a void in my life I'm not sure how to fill. Thank you if you read this",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnpuys/i_dont_know/,[]
1jnnmws,2025-03-31T03:20:36,What do you do to help in between therapy sessions?,"I am starting with a counsellor/therapy this week and wondering, if you guys do anything in between your counsellor visits to help with your mental health I feel the worst I’ve felt in a long long time and I’m finding that I can’t switch my mind off and I’ve started talking to myself playing out scenarios which is upsetting me and I don’t realise I’m doing it till I either cry or get really worked up. 

Thank you for any help. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnnmws/what_do_you_do_to_help_in_between_therapy_sessions/,[]
1jnnbbf,2025-03-31T03:06:03,Tired of existing - rant - need advice,"My brain has the ability to do what I call ""not existing"". I lay there with my eyes closed and day dream about random things that I don't remember. Like when I come out of it, it's all at once. I breath in and then I sit up and remember a glimpse of what I was dreaming about, then it's gone. Its scary, when things get to much the temptations to do this is almost un denialable. I lose track of time very badly, I was laying down for 10 hours yesterday. Its scary that my brain can genuinely take it's self somewhere else, it's comforting at the same time. I am also having this thing happen to me, it started when I tried to go off my medication but it's still here even after I started taking it again. When it first happened it was like really scary and it was like I didn't know who I was but I definitely was not me. Then there was not really voices, as much as people talking in my head. There is 5 and I am telling myself that it's not real and my brain is making up things. I don't know but it's scary. Does anyone have any knowledge on what could be happening? I am not able to seek professional help and it would put my mind at ease a bit to know more about what could be going on. Not trying to self diagnose but I can't seek help right now.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnnbbf/tired_of_existing_rant_need_advice/,[]
1jnlcz1,2025-03-31T01:40:48,I feel like I'll never be as happy as I once was,"So I've been feeling pretty lost for quite some time now. I'm currently 19 years old and I have so much nostalgia from when I was 15-17. I know it sounds really stupid like, bro you're only 19 what are you nostalgic about. I just miss how things used to be and the people that were part of life at the time, and I feel like I'll never as 'happy' as was I back then. The thing is that I don't think I was even that happy back then, i was actually quite depressed most of the time. But the friendships that I had with those people was in some way special, mostly because I never had that many friends, and those people that I used to hang out with or talk to are not in my life anymore. I still talk to some of them but i just doesn't feel the same, Now everything feels so pointless, and I don't really have a strong purpose in my life

I've dealt with depression and anxiety since my early teens, and tried to comite suicide once. At 16, I was addicted to xanax, used to smoke a lot of cigarettes and at 17–18 i was drinking a lot , but looking back at it, I feel like I was happier back then. For the past year I've on a self help journey and I quit the bad habits that I used to have and tried to find my purpose in life, but even though my life is technically better right now, i just feel like i'll never be as happy as i was.

I would love to hear people's thoughts on my story

Btw sorry for my english, it's not my first language",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnlcz1/i_feel_like_ill_never_be_as_happy_as_i_once_was/,[]
1jnl397,2025-03-31T01:29:21,Panic attacks (sort of? Ig?),"Idk I just really need a place to put all my thoughts because I am going insane. I have been going through so much stress lately. My panic attacks have gotten worse, I am so much more stressed and just tired. Last January when I was having test week (9th grade core) I had a panic attack during a test but I have been for a very long time (since I was 9/10), and the idea of someone seeing me have a panic attack gives me a panic attack, so I sort of just having one in my head. Long story short, I went to a teacher (she is the coach of our class but not she is not my coach but she is like a half coach so i still went to her cause my coach was sick) and I tell her ""yeah so during your test i had one of these panic attacks in my head"" and she looks at me and is like ""yeahhh that sucks. Anyways i know you struggle with my subject so-"" EXCUSE ME. A student just told you they have panic attacks and you say that 😭 So eventually I did go to my own coach, luckily she was more serious and she got me to talk with the school music teacher and my old coach (she is a teacher that kids go to when they have mental problem). I have been talking with her since January and what have we established? That I am really on the edge! And that I clearly need help to a point that my coach and her are concerned. She told me ""you are goiny to talk to your mom this friday."" Uhmmm... it's Sunday and I didn't talk yet 😋 oopsie. No but I actually feel bad for it, because she is trying so hard to help me and I just don't do anything she says. Partly because I forgot, but also cause I'm scared. I don't want my parents to worry and they already have alot going on with my sister. I tried to talk to my mom again by saying ""let's go for a walk!"" But she said no but my dad could go. Now I don't have any problems with my dad, but my dad is better with school problems and my mom with mental health. Now tomorrow I have test week again and I am just so stressed for it. It so the 3rd and second last test week of the year and if this goes wrong I'm pretty much done for. And then I have friends saying ""oh but just come to mavo!"" (The dutch middle school system is like kader, mavo, havo, vwo. From lowest to highers based on intelligence) and i keep telling them i dont want to. But they keep going and going. Ahdjdjdjdj. I just want to keep doing havo because i know i can. I am struggling right now because if mental health, not because i find it hard. Ik this whole thing doesn't make sense and there is no logic in it but is just had to put my thoughts somewhere.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnl397/panic_attacks_sort_of_ig/,[]
1jnl1tr,2025-03-31T01:27:35,Need help,"F24. I’ve always had some issues with anger. I tend to hide that part of myself, and never lash out at others. When I’m angry and around people, I either cry or dissociate. More often the latter. But why I’m I so angry all the time?

Some backstory; I got diagnosed with borderline personality disorder in 2020, and that diagnosis was correct back then and the following few years. 
I’ve also struggled with depression and anxiety since i was 12 ish. But now I feel like there’s something wrong. I do not associate with the bpd symptoms anymore and haven’t for the past year after I got out of a turbulent relationship.

But the depression is still kicking my ass. I’m on meds, but it’s only doing so much. I do have smaller periods of feeling good where I finally have the confidence, energy and motivation for live that I so dearly wish I had all the time. It does have it cons, since I also act more impulsively during this time, especially when it comes to money spending and drinking. But the depression always comes back. Now I’ve also started struggling with feeling angry all of the time. I’m irritated and frustrated, and my fuse is soo short. I hate feeling this way, as I have a conflicted relationship with that particular emotion.

I don’t know what’s wrong. It’s been getting gradually worse the past 3 months. Right now I also feel hopeless. I don’t know what do to with my future. I’m almost done with my bachelors degree related to social work but I’m no way motivated for that sort of work. I don’t have the capacity..
I’m trying to do everything right. I take my meds, I’m physically active almost every day, I drink maybe once per month, I don’t do any drugs and I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night- most nights. Even though I feel like I could sleep for 14..

This is a chaotic post, I’m sorry. But I hope it makes some sort of sense. I’m just confused and tired of feeling broken.
",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnl1tr/need_help/,[]
1jnkjjt,2025-03-31T01:05:30,Ami i still ok or am i getting worse?,"I have been struggling but i am still managing because of self sabotage as a coping mechanism. At first it was helpful and effective and i am doing well because of it but the more i keep on doing it, i start to be confused because my emotions are all over the place and sometimes i come out like as my friends say ""nonchalant"" or ""u look so uninterested"" when in reality i am just struggling on what to act. i used to be so open about expressing on what i feel but ever since i went through a traumatic experience, i just became so unmotivated in life but at the same time i care too much which is confusing.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnkjjt/ami_i_still_ok_or_am_i_getting_worse/,[]
1jnkh25,2025-03-31T01:02:19,Need urgent help,"Hello GuYs I am absoulety  new to reddit , is there anyone to provide me an genuine Good online thereapy session source? I canT find one  , I am literally struggling to live ,Please reply",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnkh25/need_urgent_help/,[]
1jnjtal,2025-03-31T00:33:45,what would you do?,"I'm 27 years old, about to finish a communications minor at the most prestigious university in my country (yeah, took me some time; a lot happened) and I think I have ok plans about how to make the most of it. The thing is, guys: I don't want to do it anymore. I've come far, but I had to force myself every step of the way; I seriously don't remember how true accomplishment feels like. I carried my ass along the way thanks to the ""strenght"" my utmost fear gave me: to not be a failure.

To me, this meant: to be able to give my mother the life she deserves, to be able to help the rest of my family and to enjoy myself. What stopped me? Me, myself and I. Even though I'm fairly good at my career of choice (analysing texts, writing and stuff), I suck at the most important aspect of it: communicating. I chose to study comms as a way to force myself out of my comfort zone and deal with my social anxiety and, now I realize, I fucked up.

To go through college, I had to participate in all sort of social-based projects and, evidently, I had to interact with my own classmates. Turns out I couldn't, at least not naturally and comfortably. The only way I could silence that was by using alcohol and drugs. Fuck, it felt good while it lasted; but I knew I couldn't keep that forever without risking serious damage to my body.

I've been sober 2 years now, and that came with the challenge of having to face hard truths: I wasted my twenties living in a depressive state, which means I didn't enjoy myself traveling/meeting people/falling in love (I really really really wanted to do all of that); I need to get my act together soon, but I just want to feel free to do the things I haven't been doing (previously mentioned); now that i know myself a little bit better, there's another career I'd like to practice but I'm haunted by the thought I just don't have time anymore.

In summary, I need ideas. I know my problems are not exceptional, so I know there's a side to this that's not all pessimist; but I just can't see it right now. I'm having thoughts like ""I hope everyone just forgot about me"" so that I could just leave and never be found, but I know I'm in the wrong there. If you've ever felt lost, like you've fucked up to the very bottom; but somehow you managed to get out: was it worth the struggle? would you finish a career if you didn't really want it? how do you manage the regret of what you did and the time you lost?

This was all so visceral I hardly understand myself, but I felt like I needed to tell or, at least, put it in writing. Maybe I should get a diary or something. If you read it until this point, thanks.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnjtal/what_would_you_do/,[]
1jni436,2025-03-30T23:20:58,My anxiety is high and Idk....,"
Hello everyone, nice to meet you all. I have very bad General Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, and Depression. I had my case reopened with the mental health clinic. They only have one therapist and are supposed to have six of them. It's been like that for one year. With Trump and his goons in office, I've been so overwhelmed with my anxiety that it's becoming too much to handle. Life just feels like a nightmare per day, waking up with the craziness we are all living in. I've been trying to do other things to keep my mind busy with no luck. Thank you for reading my post, and thank you for the support. I just feel alone. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jni436/my_anxiety_is_high_and_idk/,[]
1jnf31j,2025-03-30T21:07:03,how do i tell my psych the truth,"i started seeing a new psychiatrist and got my final (we hope) diagnosis back at the start of the pandemic and have been medicated for it since then. i won’t specify which one but for clarity the diagnosis is a mood disorder and not GAD, although anxiety is the primary factor. obviously i want the psychiatric help or i wouldn’t be making the appointments and paying for the prescriptions, but since almost the beginning i’ve been fudging the numbers when she asks me to rate my anxiety and depression. i hate the back and forth of medication, i was on the wrong meds due to a misdiagnosis for years and it was fucking awful. i don’t like the risk that my answers will change my prescription even if know logically it might NEED to change. i’m also terrified of being admitted to a mental hospital for too many reasons to list here and i’ve been afraid that if i answer a certain way my therapist or psych would be legally mandated to report it and i’d be “locked up”. 

the thing is, i acclimate to medication stupidly fast and i’ve been on the same dose (the highest dosage any psych will prescribe for this specific medication) for at least a year so i’d be willling to bet anything that my meds aren’t even working anymore. however i’ve been in talk therapy for the past year or so (with this therapist in particular, i stopped seeing the last therapist in 2018 due to finances) and my therapist and i have both come to the conclusion that i have enough coping skills that i don’t need to be medicated for anything but my anxiety. everything else i have more or less under control from decades of practice, i just need extra help with the anxiety because that’s the only part i still really struggle with. when i’m depressed or angry i have any number of self soothing methods and i can handle anxiety to a certain point as well but i have a significantly worse physical and psychological response a lot quicker than any other symptom. i struggle to breathe, i can’t focus, i have a movement disorder that gets worse with stress so i’m shaking like a leaf and can’t walk or keep a grip on anything with my hands. it also makes me unable to drive, in the past it’s happened mid drive and i’ve had to hold my foot down on the pedals with my hand to get home which is not safe or something i ever want to have to do again even if i did make it home in one emergency situation.

so now my question is: how do i admit that i’ve been dishonest in our previous evaluations when i’ve been keeping this a secret for years? i know i did this to myself and i should’ve just told her the truth from the start but my time on the wrong meds really fucked with my head and she’s the first psych i’m seeing as an adult where it’s fully on me to advocate for myself when in the past i usually just sat and nodded while my dad told my old psych what he thinks is going on in my head and only checking in to make sure i’m validating everything he’s saying. i’m just tired of feeling like i’m doing all the leg work with my depression and emotional regulation while the anxiety goes from manageable to crippling but now i’ve dug myself too deep in the hole and i want to get out.


if you have any advice of how to go about this i would really appreciate it <3",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnf31j/how_do_i_tell_my_psych_the_truth/,[]
1jneirz,2025-03-30T20:41:21,Advice on a next step to better myself?,"Hi 25(F) wondering if anyone can advise me on a decent next step.
My mental health has not been the best growing up, had some family issues, and went through the whole maybe I’m just a depressed teen thing but I still don’t feel ‘right’ now, but I just don’t know how to approach/take my feelings/things that irritate me about myself. So I’m just going to write the main problems and hope someone has any advice. 
- started self harming at 15, stopped at 22 but ended up getting addicted to vaping instead, which I desperately want to stop but I think it’s just another crutch now.
- I CANNOT, talk about my feelings or have uncomfortable conversations honestly in person/on the phone, the words physically don’t come out even if I want them to. 
- I loose friendships because I guess I forget about them and don’t reply because i don’t see them irl. 
- I feel an underlying level of stress all the time. Like there’s so much that needs doing and I’m always somewhat aware.
- I’ll know I need to do something but instead just sit there, scroll on my phone or do something irrelevant and keep counting the hours I have left to do it thinking there’s enough and waiting till the next half hour or hour until I’m staying up late to complete deadlines.
- I lose everything, to the point it’s becoming a problem at work and it takes me ages looking for things I need to do my job.
- I’m tired all the time. By the time I’m finished at work and home, if I lie in bed I’m asleep in a minute. 
- I really struggle with the thought of hurting peoples feelings that I’ll do things or not say things that make me feel unhappy so I don’t upset them.
- Sometimes I think I don’t love people the way that other people do and instead they’re just important people rather than having the feeling of love. 
- I feel like I conversation vomit sometimes and when I get home again i regret half the things I’ve said and stress about how they’re going to come back to bite me. 
",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jneirz/advice_on_a_next_step_to_better_myself/,[]
1jnd6d7,2025-03-30T19:37:42,Hiv anxiety,"I want to share my story if anyone had experience this fear
16 months ago i had an exposure protected (with a condom) with an exotic dancer. 10days after exposure i did a hiv 4th gen test was negative. After 1 month of exposure i had a flu like symptoms or maybe it was a cold, didnt think about HIV because my test was negative. 13 months later i saw a friend and told me my face was pale (yellow face) so i started googling about hiv and read about the window period, so i noticed that i did my test before the window period, waited a month scared of testing i suffered stress and anxiety killed me, so i said it time to test so 14months after exposure i did 3 HIV test 4th gen and they were negative, and 15months after exposure i did a pcr rna test and a 4th gen still negative, the question is how can i move on with my life?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnd6d7/hiv_anxiety/,[]
1jnbhuu,2025-03-30T18:07:10,Very concerned about sibling- gun in the home,"My sibling has CPTSD and is dealing with other health issues, but her mental health concerns me the most and she refuses to get help. We live together and her boyfriend (also lives here) and her got into a fight and she started to yell she was going to “blow her brains out” with the gun they have in the house. It was sitting on the counter and she grabbed it and kept threatening him that she was going to hurt herself because he upset her and they got into a fight. He was able to get the gun away from her and I tried to hold her back from him because she kept trying to grab it again. 

Truly horrific experience, and unfortunately it hasn’t been the first where she threatens she wants to harm herself with it. She has never actually attempted to point a gun at herself nor harm herself in anyway or anyone with a weapon, but I realize that doesn’t mean it will always be this way. They are both pro gun enthusiasts and have concealed to carry licenses, but given how she gets, the gun has been taken away by her boyfriend before and was given back because she’s not made threats in awhile. 

Parents are planning to take away the gun away if he hasn’t already locked it up, but part of me wants her to get baker acted. My family has threatened to do that but police have never been called for fear of escalating things further.  She has been in therapy before, but is focused on her other treatments she gets weekly for her other issues right now and I think is mostly scared to address her CPTSD.

I realize how dysfunctional this all is and how unhealthy. 

",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnbhuu/very_concerned_about_sibling_gun_in_the_home/,[]
1jn88g5,2025-03-30T14:13:53,"I've never had so much weight on my shoulders, I just need to be heard","I write this post with tears streaming down my cheeks, I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders, there is so much pressure now I'm just breaking down every couple of hours. I'm at a point in my life where I have no choice but to take on so much commitment and succeed in every single one. 

I basically have had no life for several years and now I have to turn that no life into something prosperous as my well being and that of my partners seems to depend on it. It has all fallen to me, and I feel overwhelmed.

Ty for reading, just putting this into words helps me feel better.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn88g5/ive_never_had_so_much_weight_on_my_shoulders_i/,[]
1jn7h1i,2025-03-30T13:14:15,Need advice: How to safely end relationship with partner who threatens self-harm,"
I (21M) am in a long-distance relationship with a girlfriend who shows concerning behaviors:

* She self-harms (cutting, starving herself) when I don't respond due to exams or work
* She's sacrificing her education to talk to me (grades plummeting, skipping classes)
* She's extremely attached and has built elaborate future plans while I don't see a future
* I care about her but don't feel romantic love - I'm staying mainly because I fear what she'll do if I leave

I broke up with her once before due to similar issues and she tried to end herself already, and her mental state is bad, though she denies it and rejects and has rejected my offer to pay for her therapy. I know I need to end this, but I'm genuinely concerned she may attempt suicide if I do. Even if I alert her friends, I worry it won't be enough.

I’ve tried talking to her about my problems, not as much or as strongly as I should have, but this isn’t the place for relationship advice. 

How can I end things with her without her committing something bad or harming herself in any way? 


Apologies if I broke any rules or anything, I’m just worried and tired.
",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn7h1i/need_advice_how_to_safely_end_relationship_with/,[]
1jn4rxv,2025-03-30T09:59:59,PMDD and Mental Health,"I’ve went through some life events recently and somehow one of the incidents  triggered a really bad trauma i had during my university times where my anxiety was over the roof.

I’ve recently been having those symptoms again like nausea where i want to vomit every morning, rumination (I have OCD), feeling shitty, heaviness… it’s like depression and anxiety all over again. It does feel a million times worse + having s*cidal thoughts because of PMDD.

The odd thing is it’s so bad in the morning until late noon or evening, and at night i am more in control of my emotions like things are more calm and stable? Of course the next day, it repeats again. 

I know that this will pass but i find this experience really annoying, like I KNOW how my emotions are going to be and it really messes up my productivity level. I have adult responsibilities to do but i feel so mentally impaired throughout the day and my day is wasted and then i just get added stress at night because i have deadlines approaching and i only have “x” amount of time to do my work since i’m more stable.

Does anyone go through this, can someone explain what’s going on and how can i get through this phase?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn4rxv/pmdd_and_mental_health/,[]
1jn4o13,2025-03-30T09:53:06,Need help with aggression control,"Short and to the point backstory, 36M I am a recently (within last few years) separated seasoned combat veteran with several deployments. Dad was military, grew up with strict childhood (my sister would say violent *for me*, not her) but in my mind normal. Don’t let that become topic of conversation either please. Since I was a teenager I have struggled with a short temper, quick to fight anyone, aggressive at all costs. As I’ve grown older I’ve learned the whole time and place aspect and picking your battles. The military gave me task and purpose. Since separating, my aggression and irritability is getting harder and harder to control. I’m loud, I demand good order and discipline in my house but rarely ever get it. I get frustrated incredibly easy, and I feel like I’m back into my teenage self where I will do anything to let the beast out of the cage. I feel like it’s putting a strain on marriage and the last thing I want is my kids to have the childhood I did but no matter how hard I try I can’t break the cycle. I would like to state I have never hit my kids like I had gotten as a child, but I do yell quite frequently. I have tried therapy since leaving the army with 5 or 6 different therapists but I keep not going back. I hate talking about my feelings or problems, I grew up in a household and military where it was ingrained in me to keep that shit in and deal with it. I havent meshed with any therapist yet. Never been diagnosed with anything other than PTSD, anxiety and depression. I’m just looking for advice from real people, if you happen to be a doctor or professional even better. If all you’re gonna do is shit on me and call me a bad father, then gfy. I can’t imagine constant anger, a short fuse, or need for confrontation is good for my health. Thanks in advance for any response.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn4o13/need_help_with_aggression_control/,[]
1jn2hmr,2025-03-30T07:45:33,I think my dad is a pedo and I don’t know what to do,I truly do think he is especially with one of my cousins and I just don’t know what to do. Everyone loves him and I don’t think he’ll hurt her or do anything physical in anyway it’s just this really weird thing and there’s more but idk. I love him and so does my mom and everybody. I don’t know if I should tell someone or just keep it to myself until I think I have to tell someone. I just don’t know. I’ve thought of telling my sister who’s older and more mature but she’s just sensitive and I don’t want it to break her (they’re really close) he’s already depressed from other reasons and I just can’t do that I don’t know what to do.,MentalHealthSupport,0,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn2hmr/i_think_my_dad_is_a_pedo_and_i_dont_know_what_to/,[]
1jn265z,2025-03-30T07:28:12,Letting for of rapist 💔😭,"Hello. I need help. I am extremely depressive and I doubt myself. 

1 year and maybe a half ago, I was sleeping at my now ex boyfriend. We had been together for around 2 years, from age 16 to 18, in what i used to believe an ideal and healthy relationship that was heading towards marriage. At around 2am, I got woken up by him humping me in our pyjamas, which is was fine with. We were used to waking up at the same times while sleeping together, and usually we would do this stuff in a very sleepy way when we'd realize we were both awake. It was cozy and i never had an issue with it, in fact i enjoyed those moments where our bodies woke each other up. I went back to sleep. But then I wake up to him putting his dick in me. I remember it was the pain that woke me up. I remember that my panties were taken off. I remember in that moment, I was very shocked that he had just did that, but i also loved him a lot, and I knew that if I hung up on this, we'd have to end things, so I accepted him. I treated him with so much grace. I loved him. When I started moving, and ultimately giving in, that is when he removed it and switched side. He had stopped the sex when I had reacted to him. I was in shock. I immediately asked him ""what was that"" in a very gentle way, but was met with a ""I don't want to talk about it"". I loved him a lot so I let it go... in the morning when we woke up, I asked him kindly again, and was met with the same response. After that, I let go, and I honestly forgot, because I loved this guy. 

Now I understand that I was blinded. But I still am having a hard time believing myself. It took me a year to finally accept that I had been raped, and I still doubt myself. A few months ago, I was at my breaking point. I wanted to speak to a social worker or a psychologist. I was feeling myself going in psychosis, and I'm sober always. I would get waves of extreme brain numbness, felt brain dead, and would scream and cry in intervals for what felt like an hour. I could not stop myself from this. I was going crazy. I decided I needed to talk to a professional, and that, I finally had to admit to his parents what he had done, because I wanted them to understand that it was having serious repercussions on my health. I told them that i was looking for an empathetic discussion with him, sincere apologies, and i BELIEVED in him; i believed he could admit it and have aniugh confidence in himself to own up. I said that I did NOT want to report him, because I BELIEVED in him and his capacity to REFLECT. In response, he texted me and started accusing me of blackmailing him. I did not even know what that was. I could not believe it. He started saying that his whole family dislikes me, and said that his family was going to sue me for keep reaching out to them by text about the treatment he had for me.

He said in his defense that he HAD prepared me with foreplay, which is impossible, as first of all, i was sleeping, and Secondly, if he had cared about me in all of this, it would not have happened on my left side because I had already told him that sex on that side was painful. He also argued in HIS WORDS ""why should it matter (him raping me) if we had sex everyday anyway?"", which is 1) a lie, and 2) a complete disregard to my regards that sex should be a precious moment and not just a mundane thing, and 3) fucked to say that to the girl that devoted herself fully to you for well ever 3 years and told you every single day how much she loved you. 

To this day, he does not believe that he raped me.
To this day, he has NEVER sincerely apologized, but only to get his peace when I tried to discuss with him.

His parents to this day are closing their eyes to what happened in my sleep, and are also closing their eyes to their son's misogynistic tendencies, such as pointing out things he disliked about my body (ex: my boobs, my apparently ""big"" forehead, my nose, etc.), saying that ""I let myself get done anything""  when he was being sexual, connotating that I'm a slut, saying that he only chose me in highschool because there was no other option... To give context, I would never ever comment negatively on his appearance, nor would I call or connotate anything negative, in other words, try to dim his light. This mean behaviour was unique to him and was NOT the dynamic of the relationship. In addition, this person would look at my bank information KNOWING I was not allowing him, he physically was aggressive to me from the beginning, and he was extremely selfish in the relationship (ex: no calls, no happy birthdays, no presenting to the family, no empowering words, no love letters, no consideration point blank).

Am i crazy? Can people please please please read this and tell me what I need to hear, please ? I still love him. I still cannot believe it. I am in shock that this love connection that will have taken MY WHOLE ADOLESCENCE has ended this way, and that I was completely blinded. I still love him, and I cry everynight at the mind torture this has caused me. It pains me to think that this guy, the one i would literally give my organs to, is walking this earth not caring about the impacts of actions on me. At the same time, this person is a person I love a lot. I watched him grow, from the age of 13. I am not 19. I remember he would win science projects, and I remember him saying he wished to be an aerospace engineer. Well now he is an engineering student. I unfortunately got to miss his first day because of this tragedy. 💔 like I said, I thought  I was getting married to him. Everynight, I still hug my pillow dreaming it was him, even after all of this. 💔 I would never want to report him and ruin his future. Anyway, I wouldn't even win, because his family have lawyers, and his family wants to sue me😭💔... the family I loved so much.... It feels like they all want me dead for speaking up....😭💔

Please somebody tell me that I'm not crazy dramatic 💔",MentalHealthSupport,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn265z/letting_for_of_rapist/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkoerb9', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""Sorry for your story. It looks like you feel for a pretty insensitive and abusive jerk. If I were you I would be grateful every day for the good riddance. Maybe you should consider therapy and looking specifically at your attachment style as it's not healthy to be hung up over someone that mistreated you and didn't really loved or even appreciated what he got. Moreover you can be at risk of reproducing the same dynamics in your new romantic relationships.  \nPlease take care."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:25:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn265z'}, {'comment_id': 'mkok38p', 'author': 'Intelligent-Bug-4555', 'body': 'Thank you ❤️ you have no clue how helpful this is 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:57:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoerb9'}]"
1jmu3ig,2025-03-30T00:57:13,"Please help, I’m depressed","Hi,

I’ve been in a depressive state for days now and I don’t know how to get out of it. Every day I tell myself that I’m going to do all these different things that need to get done but then I can never build up the motivation to do them. I just lay in bed half the day and then feel depressed about how unmotivated and sad I am. I feel like I’m wasting my life away and things are just piling up around me. Sometimes I ask myself “what’s the point anymore, you’re just a failure.” Please can someone help me feel better or give me advice on how to get out of this? There are things I need to get done but I just feel like curling up and sobbing right now. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmu3ig/please_help_im_depressed/,[]
1jmt71g,2025-03-30T00:15:58,Understimulated,I don’t know what to do. I feel understimulated ALL the time. No matter what I do. It’s the most frustrating feeling. I end up feeling depressed and crazy like I want to pull out my hair. I used to have hobbies. I used to hyper fixate on them often but ever since I got on bipolar meds everything changed. It made me lazy. I wasn’t interested in my hobbies anymore. I got burnt out of them and if I try to do any of them I’ll only feel more frustrated because it’s not something I actually want to do. I stopped taking the meds but I still feel the same. I don’t get manic episodes anymore. I’m not interested in anything. I haven’t felt my long depression episodes. Maybe only once a week when I can’t handle the boredom anymore. What should I do? ,MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmt71g/understimulated/,[]
1jmsv20,2025-03-30T00:00:49,Help Brighten My Uncle’s Day – His Joy Is Gaming,"Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate it if you could spare a moment to watch this video from my young uncle. He lives with an intellectual disability and some mental health challenges, but gaming brings him immense joy and boosts his confidence. He lights up whenever someone watches or leaves a kind comment. Your support, even in the smallest way, would mean the world to him and to me. Thank you for helping lift his spirits.

https://youtu.be/Ipqua89E8Us?si=6NSEoxnL5Rxp0g67",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmsv20/help_brighten_my_uncles_day_his_joy_is_gaming/,[]
1jmsi5h,2025-03-29T23:45:08,Bad timing or bad luck,"Recently got reacquainted with an old college friend online. He found me and reached out and we started talking again and turns out we both needed emotional support as we both were going thru things in our lives. We developed feelings for each other and talked about a possible future until he got diagnosed with blood cancer. He’s currently in treatment and he recently told me his prognosis is not good for developing other types of cancers even if he beats this cancer. He also said he doesn’t want a future with anyone including me just to end up leaving (dying) them one day. I told him he’s not at that point yet and he shouldn’t talk about it but I know hard conversations are important. My problem is I am completely in love with him and I am willing to have a future with him even if it means he leaves me because we all eventually leave. Am I being selfish? How can I move past this if he doesn’t want a future? I am so broken because I feel like I finally found someone that truly completes me, not to be cliche. And now this, my world is falling apart. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmsi5h/bad_timing_or_bad_luck/,[]
1jmbmve,2025-03-29T07:19:37,I feel so trapped someone please listen and help me,"Im 14 years old and I live with my mom two dogs and two brothers. My dad doesnt live with us or support us in any way whatsoever, my mom is so stressed with work all the time. she already struggles really bad with mental health and has been through so much in her life. She has such bad ADHD and doesnt know how to take care of herself at all. 

My house is so disgusting and dirty, theres bugs and just dirt and filth everywhere. When i come home from school it smells so bad and feels so stuffy. We dont have barley any food in the house either. I cant sit on my couches because they have dog piss soaked in them- the kitchen table pilled with just random shit. The floor is so dirty i have to wear shoes inside and dont even get me started on the bathroom. Its so mentally draining becaue no matter what I do or how happy I am i know im just going to go home to this depressing monster house at the end of the day. I already suffer from depression and anxiety but i feel like all my issues would be solved if my mom knew how to care for herself and my house didnt look this way because it affects me so much having to live like this. We cant even afford mental health for me. Everytime i told my mom i felt suicidal she said if i try to kill myself cps will come to the house and see how gross it is and take my brother away. Im so trapped here. I know its selfish. Some people dont even have houses so how do I stop feeling this way. I hate it so much I just want to live like everyone else. My friends joke about it and shit saying i live like chris chan but they dont understand how much it ACTUALLY effects me. please help i dont want to feel like this anymore it hurts so bad im tired of crying over it ",MentalHealthSupport,20,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmbmve/i_feel_so_trapped_someone_please_listen_and_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkh0wq2', 'author': 'NoLow2355', 'body': ""You have every right to feel upset, it's not selfish at all. For starters, try communicating to your friends and let them know their comments genuinely bother you and that your situation is serious. Do you have anyone who would be willing to help you clean? Maybe you could get a little group of friends or trusted adults who won't judge to help you just get some things in control. I know how it feels to not have the motivation to clean or even get up from bed in the morning, you aren't alone and these situations aren't necessarily rare. If you have a counselor at school who would maybe be willing to help you and your family out, mentally and physically, I highly suggest it.\n\nBut no matter what, just know you matter, you aren't selfish for feeling the way you do and things WILL get better even if it never seems that way. I have no clue who you are but just know you're loved!!"", 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:16:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhhz36', 'author': 'Mindinatorrr', 'body': ""Your feelings are valid, and I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Im not trained to help you, but I wanted to share what I would be doing: I would be cleaning. I think you may get a sense of empowerment from it, from taking SOME control of your situation. \nI'm not saying this is your responsibility or putting anything on you, this is just my take on it. \n\nIf it is a risk to your health, your brother and yourself going into CPS may not be the worst idea. I haven't lived as a foster child so I can't speak to that life, but I think you would at minimum get a decent meal and a much cleaner place to live. \nI've heard bad stories about it too, I really don't know the right call. It depends on just how bad your current situation is. \n\nPlease do not harm yourself, this is a temporary situation. Focus on graduating so you can get a job and move out. You won't live there forever. Life will always have ups and downs, but it always changes. Yours can only change for the better right now, it just takes time."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:05:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjhhzo', 'author': 'JaikishaanSharma', 'body': ""You are\xa0*not*\xa0being dramatic. You are\xa0*not*\xa0asking for too much. You are a 14-year-old carrying\xa0*way more*\xa0than anyone your age ever should, and the fact that you’re even reaching out, speaking up, and trying to make sense of it? That’s incredibly brave. As both a mindset coach and someone who’s spent time supporting people in deep emotional pain, I need you to hear this loud and clear The environment you’re in, the things happening around you they’re not your fault. You didn’t choose this. And it makes complete sense that you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and like you’re stuck in a cycle you didn’t create. That’s not weakness. That’s survival. And you’re doing your best with what you’ve got. You’ve grown up having to be more aware, more responsible, and more emotionally mature than most adults even realize. But here’s the thing:\xa0**you don’t have to carry it all alone.** Let’s break this into a few gentle steps *not to fix everything overnight,*\xa0but to give your mind and heart space to breathe Your feelings are real. Let them exist.Stop comparing your pain. “Some people don’t even have houses” doesn’t erase\xa0*your*\xa0suffering. You are allowed to hurt even if someone else has it worse. Pain is not a competition and healing can’t begin until we stop silencing our truth. You’re not responsible for fixing your mom or the house. I know that’s hard to hear. I know you want to save her. But healing has to come from\xa0*her.*\xa0What you\xa0can\xa0do is take small steps to reclaim a bit of space or comfort for yourself. Maybe it’s organizing one little corner of your room. Maybe it’s lighting a candle, or keeping one clean towel just for you. Tiny changes = big emotional wins. You are not trapped forever. It\xa0*feels*\xa0like you are right now, and I get why. But this season of life this chaos isn’t permanent. You're already planning, reflecting, dreaming of something better. That means there\xa0*is*\xa0a future version of you out there… who is free, calm, and safe. And\xa0this version of you\xa0is already taking the steps to get there. You need someone safe to talk to. If therapy isn’t an option right now, try reaching out to a school counselor, a trusted teacher, or a youth support line. You deserve to be heard by someone who can step in and support you. And please don’t ever feel bad for wanting that **you matter.** You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. What you’re going through is\xa0*heavy* but you’re still here. Still standing. Still hoping. That means the part of you that believes in something better? It’s still alive *Nurture that part. Don’t let it go.* I’m so proud of you for speaking up. That took strength most people will never understand. I believe in you. Always. 💛"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:06:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkl89y3', 'author': 'Born-Review1333', 'body': 'Ive had a similar experience.\n\nIf you trust your friends and your close let them know how you feel.\n\nBut is there a family member or any adult that you may be able to ask for help who won’t judge ?', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T03:30:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mknyre8', 'author': 'sodaandpoprocks', 'body': 'You’ve got the weight of the world on your shoulders right now. It’s not something any child should have to deal with. All of your feelings are absolutely okay: you are NOT selfish for having feelings for your current situation. Being unhappy with a dirty (and harmful? negligent) household is NOT selfish and DOESN’T make you ungrateful. It shows you have a lot of empathy and also that you know you deserve better.\n\nAs others have said: seek support at your school if you can and in your neighbourhood or community. Your mum’s mental health IS NOT your responsibility. Hopefully a trusted adult can help you with this. Chat with your friends, be honest and let them know how the teasing makes you feel and what the actual context is. Real friends will understand. \n\nStart small with cleaning and focus on yourself first. It’s not selfish, it’s self empowering and preserving, which you deserve. It’s the tiniest thing that you have some control over right now. For mental health support, do you have access to any legitimate and appropriate care? Eg in my area we have a free helpline that kids can call, websites and apps. Just while you don’t have access to therapy.  \n\nAnd yes, it feels like forever right now. But I promise you, things will change. Stay in school, seek support, build a network around you, keep speaking up for yourself. Find a mentor if at all possible (a school counsellor, sports coach/art teacher/someone who believes in you). You’re going to get older, smarter, more confident, you’ll graduate school, up-skill at uni or college, become financially independent, maybe drive a car and have your very own place one day. \n\nIt’s so shit now, but I promise you, focus on the small things you can do for yourself right now. Then those small things will keep growing. Try and find a small way to escape each day even for 5 mins eg at a beautiful park or garden, with a good book, a hobby. Most importantly, be kind to yourself.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:26:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmp90h', 'author': 'Kusatchisadplant', 'body': 'Just call cps and they will take you to another foster home that has the same problems and angry kids with knives.\n\nI mean you could clean it but thats child labor and everyone will mooch off of you i fortunately,\n\nIf I was you I would become a monk and meditate to handle the absolute insanity that you have been born into, I am sorry that you live in such deplorable conditions. You could just to find a nice suzy or karen at a church or volunteer place that might help too.', 'score': -2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:03:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}]"
1jms4ga,2025-03-29T23:28:12,Am I having a nervous breakdown?,"So my mental health is spiraling downward for a while now.
My whole life since birth is one struggle after another.
I suffered a burnout in December of 24, I'm being laid off, I can't pay bills.
Over the last 2-3 months I got more and more overwhelmed with everything to the point of complete paralysis. My Adhd meds don't help anymore. Everything is too much even leaving the house. I'm in survival mode since forever. I jump at the smallest noise, muscles always tense. Therpy did very little.

Last week health and relationship issues got added, which brings me to the question in the title.
I had a crying fit yesterday. Felt exhausted after, but otherwise ok. Today I woke up and felt completely drained and despair. Tried to force myself to do a minor 2 minute chore. Couldn't do it, then I spilled my energy drink and had a moment of pure rage over it, threw the can across the room (I was alone) and then sat down on the bed and started hysterically crying. Everything came crashing down like a tidalwave, all the stress, all the fear, all the things I should do but put off for months now because no tips for getting stuff done works, just everything. I sat there crying and trembling and sobing ""I can't do this anymore"" on repeat for over two hours.
Now I sit here and feel weird, numb, like everything went grey, like I watch the world from outer space 

So is this a nervous breakdown? Or am I loosing my mind?
What do I do now? I'm not sucidal, I don't have the energy to call anyone or do anything.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jms4ga/am_i_having_a_nervous_breakdown/,[]
1jmrp3r,2025-03-29T23:09:24,[vent/traumadump] Afraid I won’t be well enough to go back to college in August for the fall semester,"I (21m) have been at my college for 4 semesters now. The first 3 were really hard as I dealt with the transition from an adolescence that was really sheltered and atypical and during which I transitioned off from multiple simultaneous medications on which I’d been for years that had been hurting, not helping me, which I wasn’t able to fully quit until my 3rd semester. I was suffering so much there were multiple cold turkey attempts in my earlier semesters about which my family would always find out, which I think just scrambled my brain even more but I was so desperate to not feel the way they made me feel, although they finally accepted me not being on them. 

In the 4th semester everything seemed to be turning around, I finally made this one friend (who’s really cool) and I also began talking to this girl who while ostensibly another friend I actually had mad feelings for. What’s important is that because of my sheltered, overmedicated experience growing up, this was my first real crush/object of my romantic feelings with which I was interacting, despite me being in college. However it wasn’t ok for me keep interacting with her and presenting myself as a friend because she had a partner, granted I didn’t find out about him until 3 months of talking to her, however I could have just made an effort to find out by looking at her Instagram or something and I didn’t cause she was so cool (doing like fashion and photo shoots and stuff) it was too overwhelming because it made me feel so small. 

But the combination of the happy feelings from my new friendship and getting the attention of the girl I shouldn’t have been talking to basically gave me so much hope for the first time, I got into shape and lost a massive amount of weight which was super validating and felt really good (may have gone well into ED territory sadly, going from a BMI of around 29 to 20 in 4 months), got into running which has become a huge passion for me, actually consumed media sometimes (oftentimes I won’t like watch movies, tv, play games etc. cause I had this half-conscious feeling like it was meant for “normal humans”, not me, and that I was doing something “wrong” by engaging with it, I still get a very similar feeling with social media like Insta, Snapchat, TikTok, even YouTube which makes them super stressful and overwhelming to use thus putting me at odds with many members of my generation who love to waste time on that kind of stuff, I honestly wish I could without that shameful feeling). And more then anything all of these just made me feel for the first time like I COULD catch up with all these cool college students around me developmentally, even in spite of my past of being super emotionally volatile (before my meds just made me numb for years, and also having so much anxiety, depression, asd1. 

With the wrong meds fading from my mind and life seeming like it was moving in the right direction, my emotions began to become unlocked too for the first time in a very very long time. All of a sudden in my 4th semester of college I had all of these crazy new impulses and feelings, like “I wanna look good and have a cool aesthetic”, “I wanna laugh and make memories with friends who make me feel good”, “I really cuddle and kiss a girl like my crush”, and so on and so forth, I’d also find myself super moved by media like a kiss scene in a movie or something was so beautiful. I also begun to think of myself during this era as rather psychologically effeminate/androgynous, which fortunately I don’t see anything wrong with and in fact embrace as a cool part of myself. 

It’s worth mentioning one issue, my roommate during this period (we shared a tiny one room dorm) was really disrespectful of me, he was both super negative and nasty which just hurt my soul to be near and also would play League until at least like 2am every night being super loud, which made it difficult for me to sleep and relax. And became of my fragile, blooming state I was too intimidated and overwhelmed to confront him in any way so I just lived in this environment that didn’t feel safe for me. Which meant that during this emotional awakening I didn’t have any kind of home base. 

The thing with waking up emotionally is that the more I woke up the more in contact I felt with past traumas, this all culminated in April 2024 when I went to this campus event at my college and I processed fully for the first time all these groups of cool college students around me just hanging out with friends, I could everyone was full of memories, so I had a total breakdown and just stared at a wall for a few hours. Because now that my brain had lowered all of the dissociative defense mechanisms I could see for the first time since being a kid when I’d learned to disassociate and went on meds what I’d been missing over the course of my life. After that mental break I’m  ashamed to admit I stopped going into my room cause I was so anxious around my roommate (basically living out of my residence halls 2nd floor student lounge for 1 remaining month of the semester) I basically just walked around campus all day (I have a running watch and it says during this era I had like 20k-30k steps daily) I’d sporadically go to class enough that at the end of the semester I didn’t fail anything but other than I was kind of in this weird super dysregulated almost sedated semi-fugue state. I also gorged myself on food constantly during this month, half to feel something and half as a sort of subconscious self punishment, I gained back quite a bit of the weight I lost very quickly :/. I also stopped running during this time, which had been propping up my mental health a lot. 

What’s key is that right after my aforementioned mental breakdown I reached out to my crush whose attention meant more than anything in the world to me. I asked her if she could be someone I could talk to about how I felt mentally (about my newly rediscovered feelings of loneliness). Now almost a year later I do understand that was a really kind of inappropriate awkward position I was putting her in. However while this isn’t an excuse at my time my brain was being totally flooded with all of these rediscovered impulses for human connection and love, including platonic love, that I couldn’t think straight. At the time all I could think was that I was proud of myself for realizing for the first time that it’s ok to lean on others, and I was so blinded by that pride that I didn’t stop to ask if I was reaching out to the right person.

Anyways what happened was that she didn’t even open that text for 2 weeks (she was growing distant as she was catching on to my feelings for her, again on the basis of which it wasn’t right for me to be talking to her) and once she did open it she apologized for talking a while and said she would be a person I could talk to, but then she ghosted me, which put me in this emotional limbo which worsened my detonating mental state, however I’d like to reiterate it was not fair for me to make her my emotional home, even if she was the first person I fell for.

After leaving at the end of the semester and going back home I basically barely moved out of my bed for a couple of months, while also still being super emotionally volatile at the same time. What’s important is that I didn’t really want to get better, cause I was so happy that my emotions had reactivated, even when was in anguish I liked it cause I didn’t feel numb anymore. And I was in anguish over immature I felt, it seemed like everyone my age in college had lived lives full of memories and growth, meanwhile I’d been hella sheltered and couldn’t even DRIVE at 20. And my crush also became the symbol so to speak of being human, “unlike me”, or so it felt.

Eventually because I was still stuck on this girl I did something EXTREMELY EVIL FOR WHICH I INVITE JUDGEMENT, I texted her on a burner number with a photo of a cut on my arm and said that if you don’t get back to me I’ll keep hurting myself. She responded and said that this was way too much for her and that the things I was saying were extremely concerning. Ultimately after I stabilized a little I explained that I had had feelings for her and should not have talked to her and that the whirlwind of emotions sent me into a mental breakdown, she responded with astonishing grace, and we both peacefully agreed to longer interact. 

For the second half of the summer I found within myself a newfound hope. I got back into running which helped a lot, I got back into eating patterns and lost again the weight I regained, I finally began practicing how to drive, although I never got my license cause there wasn’t enough time from when I got my adult permit to when I went back to school. I felt really hopeful.

And for the first 2 weeks everything seemed to be going better than ever, I didn’t have a terrible roommate, I hung out with my aforementioned cool friend from the previous semester (not the girl with whom I was now no contact), I made new friends at my colleges running club and went to live music with them once which was awesome, I also tried seeing the college therapist which I found way more helpful than I expected. However a similar story unfolded, where my emotional reawakening also caused me to come back into contact with my feelings of being a perpetually immature freak, and I ended up overburdening my friend temporarily by treating him like a therapist.

Realizing that I was heading in a similar direction, I decided that I would take that academic year off to do intense mental health work. This took a lot of convincing my family cause I don’t feel comfortable being emotionally open with them, but a month after the beginning of my 5th semester I left college, and a month after that I went to residential treatment. It’s worth mentioning, the month I spent at home between leaving college and going to residential was one of the worst of my life mental health wise, but my family insisted on using a consultant to find the best treatment for me which made the whole process take that long.

I was at residential for 3 months (I do recognize that I was very fortunate to get that opportunity) but idk how good being in a lockdown environment was for me. I think it was good socially but while I really I did really enjoy some of my connections there the style of therapy didn’t really do anything to address my core insecurity of feeling somehow “lesser”/“less developed” then everyone else my age. It seemed way more so behavioral focused. And honestly it was really stressful and scary being there especially at first

After residential I went straight to a transitional program (again, I recognize I’m blessed to have this opportunity) and I’ve now been here for 2 months. I’ve been bouncing back and forth between emotional states and haven’t been stable enough to get a job even though I’m expected to, having spent a lot of time in bed. One big development, I finally am open to the idea of meds again, and 2 weeks ago I begun a mood stabilizer (Lamictal) which I feel really good about in terms of subtle effects and family members’ experiences. However I don’t feel like I’m on the path to healing from my deep rooted feeling of inferiority that impedes my ability to function.

I’m honestly so afraid that even restating (what I believe to be) the right meds this time, my brain won’t let my emotions come out like they did again, just with more regulation. That I’ll involuntarily descend into disassociation.

And that I won’t be able to go back to college in August, cause that’s where I still feel like I can learn to be a member of society, and where I can LIVE with my peers.

I wish my life had gone normally. I want to fit in.

Idk I just wanna be virtually held for a bit 🫂",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmrp3r/venttraumadump_afraid_i_wont_be_well_enough_to_go/,[]
1jmgbie,2025-03-29T12:04:39,Help,"Thoughts? -What do you do when you’re alone with no one to talk to? You talk to yourself. And I’ve been so alone that my own voice became a knife in the silence that surrounded me. It felt foreign and sharp in contrast to the empty space I constantly occupied. So instead of talking to myself, I write online, typing thoughts like confessions into the void in the hopes that someone, anyone, might echo back something other than the pain Im trying to exorcise from myself.

Depression doesn’t always look like pale skin, dark circles, and messy hair. Sometimes, it looks like a perfectly normal girl sitting  in her living room, doing everything she can to seem fine. I’ll never forget the stranger who came to my apartment one night. It was supposed to be a date, but I canceled in the most honest way I could because I was simply, utterly exhausted from hiding that I was not okay. I hadn’t been okay for a long time, and I couldn’t pretend I was anymore . I told him I was struggling with thoughts of suicide and couldn’t bring myself to leave my apartment.  he asked if he could still come over—if I would still have him. I remember staring at that message, thinking maybe he hadn’t actually read mine, or at least not all of it. So I asked again, plainly—did you see what I said? Did you see what I said? That I’m not okay. That I’m struggling to stay alive today. He hadn’t. He missed the part where I confessed the weight I’d been carrying. When he finally read it, I told him that I wouldn’t hold it against him if he chose not to come. And I had meant it I know people feel pressure in these moments—there’s a sense of panic, of moral responsibility. Most people don’t want someone to end their life, but they also don’t know what to say or how to be in the room with that kind of truth. And honestly, I’m glad some people don’t understand. Even if it’s why people like me are often judged or dismissed or met with awkward silence—it means they haven’t had to carry this weight. And I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. This isn’t romantic. It’s not poetic. It’s not  martyrdom , or some glamorous kind of sadness. It’s a slow rot. It’s something that gnaws at the foundation of you until your body remains but you’re no longer inside it. It’s destructive. And when he said he still wanted to come over, I let him. I didn’t clean up or change. I stayed in the same clothes I’d been wearing. When I opened the door, I tried to keep my face neutral, blank not for me, but for him. I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable. I was numb. My body was tired. My spirit felt worn through. The apartment was dim, too quiet, too still like a tomb. I had moved my life into the living room because the bedroom felt like it was swallowing me whole. There was no clutter, just a hollowed-out kind of order—essentials and nothing more. When he looked at me, the first thing he said was, “You don’t look like someone struggling with wanting to die.” And something in me flinched. I didn’t know what I had expected, but it wasn’t that. For a second I wondered, Is that what people think? When they see me? When they see anyone? What does someone look like when they’re collapsing inside? I looked him in the eye and asked, “Is there some way you have to look to feel that way?” Depression doesn’t wear a uniform. It doesn’t always show up in ways you can see. Sometimes it looks like chaos. Sometimes it looks like disintegration. And sometimes it looks just like i did that night standing blank-faced at the door, breathing through dying on the inside while trying not to make it weird for the guy standing on the welcome mat.
At the lowest points of my depression, it’s wild to me that it was when  I received the most compliments on my appearance. I was the thinnest I had ever been, and that includes the times when I was deep in active eating disorders and drug abuse. I went from 210 pounds down to 120 in four months. I’d look at myself in the mirror and i could no longer  recognize the hollowed-out person looking back at me.  My body matched what i felt like inside, like I was shrinking out of my life. People smiled at me like wasting away was an accomplishment I was now achieving . No one saw the  screaming that the change really was . they just saw someone who had been overweight becoming skinny. And that was “a good thing.” I was praised for silently drowning. 

I understand how helpless it feels to care about someone who’s suicidal. You want to help. You want to take their pain away. But you can’t. I know that powerlessness. But I also know what it’s like to be on the other side, to be silently pleading for someone to see me. To not tell me my feelings are wrong. To not tell me I’m overreacting. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said, “I don’t feel loved,” and people have rushed to say, “But you are loved,” “There are people who love you,” as if my suffering was something I choose to feel As if I were being dramatic. Ungrateful. Blind to what’s right in front of me.

I’ve stood in both places. And I still can’t tell you definitively what the right way to be is. But what  I can say is: sometimes the right thing isn’t a thing at all. It’s simply presence. just… someone actively being there. 

I get that many people don’t know how to sit with me in my pain. But God… I wonder do they ever step outside their own skin even for a moment, to wonder what it’s like for me to live in it? I can’t escape it. I can’t soothe it. It doesn’t stay stuffed away. It’s always there, persistent, aching, taking the coloring from everything. No one can see it. And that’s its own kind of pain. Because I feel it… but their criticisms of how I react to what they think just doesn’t exist makes me question if I’m even really feeling it at all. Until I begin to gaslight myself
I can’t describe to you the tragedy of experiencing so much humanity within myself, and yet being convinced I’m fabricating it. Like it’s if I’m stabbing myself and crying for help, but everyone’s too busy pointing out that the knife is in my hand to notice that I’m bleeding out.

I know everyone has something going on that no one else knows about. We’re all stumbling through this life for the first time. And none of us really knows what we’re doing here. Sometimes, that thought comforts me. It softens the sting when people let me down. Other times, it makes me feel completely bleak and nihilistic. Because I know, no one is coming to save me. And no matter how hard I try, I can’t seem to save myself.

I don’t blame anyone.

But fuck man  
what the hell do I do now?",MentalHealthSupport,8,38,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmgbie/help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjtitb', 'author': 'moondoctor7', 'body': 'It’s hard. To save yourself. I understand and know what you mean. And I’m not going to say that you are not alone. Cause when we feel something like this we feel it alone. However, if you want to vent it out. Please go ahead.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:07:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgtwbo', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'May I ask, what triggered this feeling?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:19:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhjver', 'author': 'BringYourOwnHope', 'body': 'Wow. I really felt through with this. I could never say on the same level, as we are all different. As a girl who went from 195 to 113 in just a few months and convincing myself to bury those thoughts as I’m just an overreacting sensitive baby. But what if I can’t help myself from keeping them dug away? What can we really do about it when no one around us really ever cares enough. Or have the energy to feel like I deserve the help.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:26:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhxubu', 'author': 'Stellaandeik', 'body': 'I know already wrote about it but what should you do when you know someone thats struggling?  Just be there?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:59:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkchpw', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'this is written so beautifully and perfectly depicts it. I don’t mean this in a romanticizing depression kind of way. I just mean you really captured it well. I wish I were able to use my words as well as you did here, because I can never seem to depict the truth in a way where it is as obvious to everyone else as it is to me, because as truthful and obvious as what I’m trying to say is, somehow I always seem to use the wrong words in the wrong order in the wrong way and it just results in me feeling like I’m the crazy one when I know exactly what happened and exactly what it is but I’m just not eloquent enough to present the truth as the truth', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:42:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkd8sv', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'I also am completely utterly alone in this. The only thing I have is, as you said, typing out my jumbled thoughts online, like confessions, in the hopes that someone might notice. That maybe one person might read it and respond. That maybe someone will see what I’m trying to say, that maybe one person in this godforsaken world will understand me or know what happened.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:46:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkkqs3', 'author': 'Radiohead143', 'body': 'I just chill with my cats or rant into podcast land', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:25:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmqv52', 'author': 'Kusatchisadplant', 'body': 'Hi\n\nMel Gibson had a beaver to talk to and it helped him, I was gonna just say that and not read your massive wall of text but I actualy did read it even the part where you said the guy did not read your text and I kind of thought maybe if you sent him a novel that might be why.\n\nBut you are a writer, you could write a novel and that is unfortunately an undervalued skill in our dumb society so you are like a tortured brilliant soul in a sea of ignorant deplorables and thats hard.\n\nBut anyways the best advice I can offer is find a talking beaver trust me it works and if you don’t trust me the trust the beaver because damn I know what else to say.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:15:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoz6w9', 'author': 'Nearby-Condition-762', 'body': 'I feel and understand your suffering and depression. The last several months have been the worst of my life. Prior the last 5 years, it has been one battle after another. The amount of trauma and betrayal has been significant. To not trust anyone, nor myself. To give and help others, to be taken advantage of, disrespected, discarded, and consideration of my thoughts and feelings are non-existent.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:19:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkmtj3', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I appreciate you making space for me here', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:36:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjtitb'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgy9e6', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Of course. It wasn’t a single event. I feel like I am fading out of my own existence as a ghost.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:54:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgtwbo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgyjbt', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Love your username btw', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:56:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgtwbo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhkkaz', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I’m right there with you currently…. I don’t know what I or you or anyone should do, can do, should have to do. \nAnd while I sit moored in the middle of it all, it still hurts regardless', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:34:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhjver'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhycux', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Active listening', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:04:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhxubu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyteq', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'The harsh reality is that no one can save someone struggling with SI they have to do it themselves. But you can support them in it. You can inspire them to want to. Nothing that is blameful, shaming, devalidating, judging is ever going to be what that person needs. I think they just need to feel like a person and one that someone sees', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:09:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhxubu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkcovn', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'In every mental health sub post I’ve made, it’s a jumbled long rant of me trying so hard to say what is so truthful and simple and hard facts, but somehow the way I try to get it out my mouth just results in something that makes me seem like I’m wrong or biased or insane or making things up', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:43:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkchpw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkm9c9', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'You shouldn’t have to have the right words, you shouldn’t have to lay it out neatly for anyone to follow. You hurt and that is enough it should be enough for people to be there for you. It’s just sadly not the way it is often times in today world', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:33:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkchpw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkmovd', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I’m so sorry. Thank you for receiving mine.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:35:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkd8sv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmtp4e', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'This gave me a chuckle. I like your sense of humor. \nAnd thank you for the compliment and for taking your time to read my novel', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:37:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmqv52'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrua19', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'try to ground yourself, it will slowly help', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:08:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgy9e6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrug3y', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'Thank you, it was just given to me. I like yours too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:09:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgyjbt'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhl6fj', 'author': 'BringYourOwnHope', 'body': 'Honestly I hope my future has something to it. I can’t keep carrying this. I’m getting too weak and tired. A robot atp.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:41:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhkkaz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkp61r', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'damn you seriously have a way with words because you just managed to summarize the issue I’ve got with my parents into a statement that is exactly what I can say to them to call them out (because your words made a lot more direct sense than mine did).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:48:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkm9c9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkqjav', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'And I’m sorry I’ve been pretty much just talking about me in my replies to your post. \n\nWhen you said “I wonder if they ever step outside their own skins for a moment, to wonder what it’s like for me to live in it,” that hits hard. I know you feel like people are misjudging you, mis-criticizing you, and you’re right. and it is really frustrating that they can’t for one moment try to think of you, and of what you’re actually going through. Like you know what it is. You know. But they just can’t seem to see it and it makes you feel crazy and you start thinking that maybe you’re wrong. But I see you and I see what you’re saying. It really does just suck that they somehow can’t see what’s so clear to us. You’re right in everything you’ve said. It would be nice for people to step outside of themselves and consider someone else, what happened to them, just for a minute. Instead of keeping their tunnel vision, despite the way it impacts other people. I’m beginning to think the only way people can empathize is if they’ve been affected by something as deeply as it did us.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:55:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkm9c9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrugta', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'And how do you suggest I ground myself', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:09:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrua19'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhlbhd', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'It helps me to help others. At least if I can’t rid myself of feeling this way at least it can be useful in helping someone else who feels the same way not feel so misunderstood and alone.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:42:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhl6fj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkpjnz', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Please feel free to use whatever I write to help yourself find your voice. Id be honored.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:50:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkp61r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkrw03', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I don’t need to be the focus in a conversation for it to have a positive impact on me. Someone matching my vulnerability by sharing their own is connection. That’s what my starving lungs ache for', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:02:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkqjav'}, {'comment_id': 'mkruxct', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': ""Go outdoors. A simple walk or hike usually helps. Try to enjoy the beauty in the little things. Just don't give up on yourself."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:12:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrugta'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhm10r', 'author': 'BringYourOwnHope', 'body': 'You seem like a good person for that much of empathy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:50:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhlbhd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkwg20', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'If you feel up to it, would you mind reading my most recent post, and just, responding in whichever way comes to you? I feel like you might be able to, unknowingly, state/describe what I want to say in a way better than I can. I can never seem to use the right words when I try to confront someone or explain it.\n\nAnd I know you’re struggling and it’s completely ok if you just can’t bring yourself to do it. If you can, the post can be found on my profile.\n\n&, are there reasons now as to why you’re depressed? Or is it the kind of depression that is unexplainable, and a feeling that just won’t go away?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:25:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkpjnz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrv32a', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'While i appreciate what your trying to convey it comes off as of I am not already attempting those things', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:12:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkruxct'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrw0z7', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'While i appreciate what your trying to convey it comes off as of I am not already attempting those things', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:18:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mkruxct'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkwkc3', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Of course I’d love to hep you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:26:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkwg20'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkwzil', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'No one is depressed for no reason', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:28:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkwg20'}, {'comment_id': 'mkl98oy', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I left you a comment I hope it helps you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T03:36:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkwg20'}]"
1jmq1wj,2025-03-29T21:56:38,I feel empty; issues with parents.,"Hello everyone. I (23F, Indian) have been skeptical for a long time about posting on reddit. But answering someone else's reddit post made me feel much more confident. 
So here is the thing. I haven't been excellent in academics, but managed to carve out an above average academic profile for myself. I wish to be a police officer in future. There are many reasons behind that- none of them are the usual types I heard or saw online. And there a lot more things I feel aren't normal in my life. I have never been involved in a romantic relationship with anyone in my life. I did have close friends- until my best friend ghosted me recently; it is after this that I started getting insecure about my other friendships too. 
I have had issues with my mother a long time back and that made me relocate to a different faraway city to get away from all that stuff. I thought relocating to a new place might make me closer to her- this was 2 years ago. Now I realize that it has made me farther from my father and brother also.
In the past, due to my relation with her, I have been diagnosed with depression. Apart from that I've been diagnosed with OCD too- if I get onto something, I cannot leave it easily and go crazy about it. Insomnia is another silver lining.
I've been observing for the past 2.5 years that my issues aren't taken very seriously at home. I used to be this confident and very vocal person in my childhood, but all this took a hit sometime in between- when I can't remember. I started noticing it since the last 2.5 years. It became worse once I realized that my parents too weren't being very supportive of this. For example, I had an issue with a guy whistling at me on the road and told this to my father,he said take another road- one thing to be noted here is that that road is very near to my home and we knew everyone in that area, my parents otherwise boast of saying we know everyone here and I know that is true.

I had drivers misbehaving with me 2 years back- and both of them dismissed it. I don't want to get into details as that makes me feel very traumatized again. I came here; went home occasionally in between; things have been difficult with my mom even then; she used to get into fights with me not less than 1 day of me going home. I used to feel bad everytime because  my friends here were very much happy with their homes and parents while I had these issues with my mom..  I restricted going to home last year for this only citing more more at college and honestly I felt much better. 
Recently when I went home, the driver again misbehaved with me. He's a personal driver. He used to take narrow roads and gullies with potholes instead of the main road only when I was in the car. I rarely took car, but this time, I didn't have much of a choice as my mom gaslighted me into taking it, otherwise my dad would be too exhausted to take me in the evening after office. Another issues I had was him walking into the house whenever he wanted- I felt very uncomfortable in my own house.
My ocd made things worse for me as I wanted things around me to be perfect. I raised these issues and the following were the responses I got- I was told  to stay in my room and not come to the hall; I was told not to take the car.
I shut my mouth after that counting the days in which I'll be back at my college in a different city.

The saturation point came when a male attendant touched me inappropriately when no one was around at the time when I was least expecting it. I got so scared to even raise the issue, given the dynamic at home. But was disturbed nevertheless- I got so shocked and even doubted if it was my mistake and how I could have avoided it or done it differently. I ended up confiding to my father 2 days later. And he said we will speak to the dentist towards the end - it has become too diluted apparently.

After around 3 to 4 weeks, recently, I broke up over phone to my mom(it becomes easier for me to tell things like this to them when I'm in a different city; I just hang up the phone citing bad connection whenever I have a difficulty facing them). She blamed me in return for sitting in the reception area of the dentist with no one around. This made me feel very bad and was the final straw. And a lot more happened which led me to have the worst headache of my life which lasted for a very long time- almost 12 to 15 hours. Insomnia made it difficult for me to sleep.
I decided to take situation into my hand and call the dentist directly to complain about the incident that happened. Many things happened and my dad went and spoke to the dentist there.

I have decided to cut down on my emotional connection with them. I decided to restrict restrict visits. I am still dependant on them financially- I can't help it as my goal requires me to prepare completely and not take up other activities. 
One thing to tell here is that I love my dad a lot. Or maybe he's the only one I love the most. It doesn't hurt me anymore, or at least the way it used to once when my mom does anything hurtful to me; but when it's my dad, I'll be completely broken. It becomes very difficult for me to get back to normal again. And maybe they also know that.

 This is the only weight that weighs me down. They know they hurt me, but still continue doing that no matter what. This is only my situation. All my friends have very good relations with their parents. I'm happy for them. I just want to have the same.

They were very good to me in my childhood I don't know when they started leaving me in this turmoil. It just becomes difficult now- taking me to the top, only to drop me down.

I'm much happy after I took this decision of a healthy distance from them. Also, I did open up, partially to a few friends. I don't want therapy- I can't open up confidently to outsiders and I honestly don't have the money to afford it.  I did go to a family psychiatrist in the past- it didn't help much. 
My sharing with  friends too had mixed outcomes- some did give me their valid perspectives; some weren't very helpful- I was advised to find a boyfriend. Duh! 

As of now, I feel I'll do whatever I want to, get the job I love and then go back home with some power or authority to change the external factors and make it better for everyone. I'll never let anyone else feel the same in the home I prepare in future for myself. 
I have lost trust in all relations as of now. I do love my parents- I love my dad a bit more maybe, but that's okay. I'm sick of doing calculated talks with them; but honestly they havent left me with much choice here. I also started raising my voice with them whenever I feel they are going in the same track, where I may be hurt due to  their words. 

Despite all this however, I don't feel very good. I need to find a plan for preparation after this. Maybe this wntire weight due to the situation has made me more courageous to face other situations which are otherwise very challenging.

Also, I like the place I'm in currently as no one has misbehaved with me here. And maybe because of the masters course I'm doing here, I am looked upon with respect 

Am I on the right path? What could I have done better or what can I do better?

Any suggestions or thoughts or comments?

Helpful encouraging lines will also help. 

I'm here on the advice of Grok ai BTW.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmq1wj/i_feel_empty_issues_with_parents/,[]
1jmk1er,2025-03-29T16:45:33,Friend spiraling into paranoia?,"*\[This has become a long post <sigh>. But I am really stressing out here, and would appreciate if you folks can give it a go, and share some advice/ insights. Thanks in advance.\]*

I am 35M, based in Bangalore, India. I have a college friend, \~30F, whom this post is about – let’s call her Nikita. We were in college together during our master’s degree, and graduated in 2018. While I and her have never been particularly close friends, we were in a common friends’ group. All of us hung out together all the time, went on many trips, and even though it’s been 7 years since graduation, we’ve managed to stay in touch and meet up every now and then.

I won’t go into the smaller details, but Nikita has always seemed just a little bit… jittery, fickle… like she’s trying a bit too hard, but trying not to show… a bit difficult to explain without examples, I guess, but let’s not go into it. Suffice to say that this impression was formed from isolated ‘incidents’, well spread out. It’s just like each of us in our group has our own little confusing ‘Nikita stories’ that we would mostly just laugh about.

Back in college, I interned in a certain company, under a guy named Arjun. My internship turned into a placement offer, and I worked in that company for 4 years, although in a completely different team – never talked to Arjun again after the internship (weird, I know, but I am a big introvert). Incidentally, a few years after graduating, Nikita went on to work in the same company, and Arjun was her manager. Worked there a couple of years, then left. Came back from Delhi to Bangalore (where her family is located), took a few months’ break, then joined another company in Mumbai. Worked there for a few months’ and then left that as well, and back to Bangalore – taking a break, figuring out what’s next.

That’s the background. Long, sorry. Now, couple of months’ back, we met at a common friend’s party. I was there with my wife, who is also from the same college, was in the same friend’s group, and was actually Nikita’s room partner for a while – they’re not particularly close though. Whenever we are planning something together, Nikita contacts me rather than my wife. Anyhow, all three of us talked about jobs in general, and we gave her our opinions on what she might want to do next. Very generic conversation. Later we dropped her home in our car, continuing in the same vein. One thing that later became important was – at some point, we talked about managers sometimes saying weird things, and I casually said, “But Arjun would have never said something like that, right? I remember him being very polished,” and she said yes. That’s it, we dropped her, everything was fine, we went home.

Next day, I woke up to some late-night WhatsApp messages from her. Her tone was accusatory, and she asked why I and my wife were manipulating her into going into startups, and what exactly had I discussed with Arjun. This was completely out of the blue for me, and I responded as such. She told me not to play games, saying she knows Arjun is trying to manipulate her, directly as well as through others. I reassured her we were not doing anything like this, and repeatedly asked if she is okay. Alarm bells were already going on in my head, because this seemed like a very long, and very weird leap of logic. After a few messages back and forth, she apologized, saying there’s been a “ton of shitty things” going on over the last few years, and she thought this was the same. I asked if she wanted to talk. She said no, but then later in the day asked if she could come over to talk to me and my wife. We were out that day, but asked her to come over the next day, but it never happened. I told the whole thing to my wife, but she didn’t become particularly concerned, just saying that Nikita can be a bit strange sometimes.

I decided to keep checking in on her though, in the hope of getting her to talk about what’s going on, and eventually convincing her to see a therapist. We had a couple of short WhatsApp exchanges, spaced 7-10 days apart, where I asked her how she was, reminded her that we’re here to talk, and suggested that even if she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing with me in particular, she should share with *someone* – a friend, family, therapist. Both these conversations were cordial, friendly. After the last one, she even got some desserts delivered to me and my wife.

A few days later, when I WhatsApped her again, the message didn’t get delivered, and long story short, I realized that I had been blocked. I waited a couple of days, then tried to call her – no answer. Waited a couple of days then SMSed her, not even sure if it would get delivered. Received a message back saying she’s in no mood for friendly banter, and will reach out once things are better. I message her reiterating that neither me nor my wife will ever do anything to hurt her, that she should talk to *someone*, and that I’m here to talk/help if she wants. She says Ok.

Now, there’s a common friend #2 (CF#3) who’s getting married, and the group is making plans to attend. We create a WhatsApp group, and start adding people who are planning to join. Another CF#3 mentions Nikita won’t be joining. A different CF#4 calls Nikita up to ask why, and she literally shouts at him to stop colluding with me to manipulate her. He has no idea about any of this, and is taken aback, tries to reason with her, but she shuts him down. He then calls me and tells me about it, and I tell him what I know. Both of us are concerned, and we call up CF#3. CF#3 was in Mumbai when Nikita was there, and while she is conflicted about sharing things Nikita told her in confidence, she is concerned too, and does end up disclosing some stuff.

Nikita has a twin sister, and an elder brother. Nikita told CF#3 that the older brother is a patriarchal, male chauvinist type asshole who believes women are inferior to men, should stay at home to serve, and has said repeatedly that ‘allowing’ Nikita to pursue higher education was a mistake. The parents are mild, and tend to fall in line behind the aggressive brother. Per Nikita, since childhood, he has been sabotaging her and her sister’s success, in a behind-the-scenes kind of way (no further details). And lately, Nikita has been seeing the same pattern in her professional life. Per her, she had to leave companies A and B because someone somehow reached out to her managers and maligned her character (no further details). She feels that she is being spied on – that her devices might be hacked into, and someone might be sending things from her email, then deleting them off. To the extent that when she had this conversation with CF#3, it was out in a park, and she had left her phone at home. But she could not show CF#3 any evidence, because that would be “going against her family”. In Mumbai, she briefly dated a guy, but became convinced that he was coming over to her house behind her back; got cameras installed, didn’t find anything.

I am not trained in psychology or anything. But after that first initial weird WhatsApp exchange itself, the first thought that had come to my mind was she might be verging on a mental disorder. The word that appeared in my mind was schizophrenia, but on reading up a bit more, it seems to me more Paranoid Personality Disorder than schizophrenia. To re-emphasize though – I have no formal knowledge of these disorders, only what I could quickly gather from the internet. But this last conversation convinces me that something is wrong. To add to the complications, it turns out that when she left for Mumbai from Bangalore, she did not even tell her family she was leaving. Currently, she’s not living with her parents, but with her sister (for my non-Indian friends – this is not as obvious a choice in India as it is in Western countries), and I now doubt if she’s even told her family she’s back in Bangalore? Another detail: back in 2021, she was set to get married, but eventually the marriage was called off – maybe because Nikita was not able to trust the guy enough.

Sidetracking just a little bit to talk about myself. I think I am a fairly empathetic person. While I am not very social, and a bit too “proper” or even “diplomatic”, my friends and family often divulge their problems with me; and I feel I am able to offer them emotional comfort at least. I am bad at keeping in touch though.

Against all of this backdrop, now, what do I do?

While I have not been super close with Nikita, I do have a soft spot for her. As in, even before all this, I hoped she would find whatever she was looking for, that she could be happy. The thought of her struggling with whatever this is, is deeply disturbing for me. The more I read about PPD, the scarier and sadder it sounds. I imagine her sitting in her apartment, unsettled by everything that she perceives as threats. And what makes me want to do something the most, is the fact that I don’t know if anyone else is there for her right now or not. Had there been a husband, or her family, or even a boyfriend in the picture, I might not have felt about it so strongly. But as things are, it seems almost like my responsibility to try to do something.

Since I was not yet blocked on SMS, couple of days back I sent her a long, heartfelt text saying clearly that we – me, my wife, CF#4 – all care for her, and are concerned for her. While we respect her space, we think whatever is troubling her is becoming more serious – and as her friends, it should be our right as well as responsibility to help her. Practically begged her to trust us. She said “All that’s fine, but right now I need my space. Please do not think of it as rude”, and blocked me.

Now, I have no way of contacting her. I know the building she lives in, but not the exact apartment. None of us have contacts to her sister or parents. Next weekend, incidentally CF#4 is here in Bangalore as well. It seems like a desperate measure, but I am half in the mind to just turn up at her place with CF#4. I am aware that this can backfire completely. But I can’t just leave her be. Things seem to be unravelling quickly.

Am I overthinking? Am I panicking too much? What the hell do I do?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmk1er/friend_spiraling_into_paranoia/,[]
1jmjxrt,2025-03-29T16:38:43,My friend is depressed and suicidal and is refusing to seek professional help - How do I get through to them? Is it even possible?,"I have had this friend since we were preteens, and at this point I'm so lost on how to talk to them or what to even do to help them I'm close to throwing in the towel. I've started feeling rather resentful towards them which I feel horrible for, but I just have no idea what else to do or what to say to them that might make a difference. So I've come here hoping that maybe someone has some input on this, or that I'm just approaching things from the wrong angle. Really any help at all would be super appreciated - I care for them a lot and I want to help them.

  
For some context: This friend has always been timid and socially awkward, but has gotten worse and worse over time - they can basically not talk to strangers at all. They are morbidly obese and clearly hate their weight, being incredibly self-deprecating about 'how fat they are', but then don't try to do anything to address the issue / come up with excuses on why they can't do the things people suggest they could try. They are like this in most areas of their life, which I understand is probably due to their depression, but it does mean that my main strategy of helping people - offering advice and support - just doesn't work with them.

  
They are very open about the fact that I'm the only friend they have and have essentially changed life plans in order to not move to a different country for their education (as was their original plan) just so they can stay with their only friend more. They are also very openly self-deprecating in their language around me, no matter what I say, and they have self-harmed / attempted suicide a few times before.

  
I hang out with them every week, and I message them semi-regularly to see if they want to play any games or something, but they usually don't reply to said messages. Being physically there for them more often than that would not be possible without me putting other areas of my life on hold, as they live a while away and I'm busy with my own life - plus, and I admit I am very ashamed of this, but I don't think I could handle being their emotional support person every day. My own mental health isn't that great either, and I'm hesitant to add even more strain onto it.

  
They are not currently seeing a therapist and have brushed off the idea when suggested to them. They used to take antidepressants but I believe they stopped a while ago. I have tried offering them we could do things together more (they're usually too busy), we could do exercise together from time to time (saying that I actually need an accountability buddy myself, which is true!), we could go grocery shopping together from time to time to hang out, but none of those things have worked. I'm their friend, I include them in things I do with other friends of mine (though what we can do with them around is limited due to their weight), I have offered advice on how they could try to handle problems they're having, I have offered to study with them when they were struggling in a subject I'm good at. None of this has worked - outside of hanging out with me from time to time, everything else I've tried has been rejected.

  
I'm sorry this got so long. People I've asked about this have told me to just let them be - you can't help them if they don't want to help themselves - but I know that depression is a bitch and they're not in a position to be helping themselves right now. I just hope that there is still something I could do to help them have a positive impact on their lives, as the way things are going right now, they are probably not even going to be able to find a job. 

  
Thanks so much for reading, and any input at all would be highly appreciated.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmjxrt/my_friend_is_depressed_and_suicidal_and_is/,[]
1jm18jc,2025-03-28T23:28:15,"Can I get some reassurance or just ""You've got this"" replies?",I am having one of the lowest and worst mental health and physical health weeks of my life. I will spare the many details for I am too mentally exhausted and low motivation to even write it all. Just asking for any good energy or motivation or support to get me through this rut. Thank you.,MentalHealthSupport,8,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm18jc/can_i_get_some_reassurance_or_just_youve_got_this/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk9648k', 'author': 'BeingBeingABeing', 'body': 'Hey friend! The lowest point of my life turned out to be a massive turning point for me. It didn’t feel like it at the time, of course, but now that I love my life I look back and think how lucky I was to have had the formative experiences that I did. So don’t give up! Wishing for better times ahead for you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:51:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mked299', 'author': '88ning', 'body': 'Have you tried square (or box) breathing exercises? The main thing is to slow down, take a step back, and find ground in your body.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:29:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgvspr', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'Everything bad you go through, will just to make you stronger. \n\nGoing for walks or hikes help. You can do this!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:34:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh02ju', 'author': 'gravedirt666', 'body': 'Time is ever moving forward and so are you. You’ve got this.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:09:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki2jak', 'author': 'Northern_Attitude95', 'body': 'At my worst I listen to Noah Kahan it grounds me. I don’t mean turn it on and listen to music… I mean listen to every word.\nI’d suggest:\nA troubled mind\nBusy head \nCall your mom\nOrange Juice\nGrowing Sideways  \n\nAgain, I don’t mean turn some music on and you’ll be better. I mean focus and listen. I really hope your mind clears soon. ❤️\u200d🩹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:45:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjcsa3', 'author': 'swampwitch68', 'body': 'Without any context, it\'s a little hard to give reassurance, but you said you\'re severely depressed ( paraphrasing), so that\'s what matters here. I live with severe treatment resistant depression and all the crap that goes along with it. I finally got to the point where I found a counselor. That took over two years because very few places where I live take medicaid, so I really had to search. I\'m not gonna lie. I gave up a few times. I\'ve been to counseling before, but I hated the big mental health ""companies."" With that said, I get that it\'s not so easy as just calling a number and getting an appointment. Have you thought of calling a crisis line? I never have but a good friend if mine called one, and she says the woman on the line saved her life. She had everything planned, and she was given a different perspective at the right time, but it\'s because she dialed the hotline. I won\'t say she\'s totally better, and neither am I, but I\'m giving myself a better chance anyway. I understand the darkness. Sometimes I know it\'s coming, and I panic a little because when I\'m in a black hole, I feel like it might never end. It always does. I always go back to my baseline depression which is not fun, but I can at least get out of my bed. I\'m trying to learn to accept when an episode is coming and deal with as I need to and not fight against it. It\'s not easy, but it gives me some kind of control, I guess. I\'ve been this way all my life, and I\'m in my 50s now, and I haven\'t stopped trying to get ""better."" None of it is fun. It takes work. I\'m not a pro and won\'t pretend to be. If you don\'t ""got this,"" then you don\'t right now. I also read other people\'s stories of struggles they\'ve overcome, so I at least know that it\'s possible. My support if it\'s really support is to tell you to be selfish. Put you first even if you think you are last. Roll with it. Wait it out. I stare off into space for days. I don\'t care for myself because I can\'t when im down there. I come out of it, though. It sucks but it\'s the shit brain I got handed. I hope this helps.  If not, I\'m sorry, but just know that you are #1 and you\'re not alone.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T21:41:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjodew', 'author': 'Majestic_Source_9049', 'body': ""Like some others have said here, the lowest point in my life was like the storm which broke and then revealed a much better future. \n\nIt hurt, it sucked, I hated it - but that's okay because I pushed through, just like you can. Then I got to the other side and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life - and that's lasted nearly 3 years now. \n\nYou just push through this bit - use your energy to get back on track by binging shows or going to a spa, or reading a new book - or I like to dance around the room with headphones on. Whatever it is (hopefully somewhat healthy and not drugs or alcohol) that just even momentarily improves your mood - keep doing it and soon you'll introduce more things and pull yourself out of it. \n\nOr even go an do something different. Go and see a show or play on your own!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:41:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkq2p9', 'author': 'catsndeen', 'body': 'Its important that you consider black magic or spritual affliction as many people in this world practice sorcery and witchcraft the main symptoms are 4...\n1)life blockages: things constantly seem to go wrong money dosnt last nothing goes right loss of social status and loss of support ar afew signs.\n2) strange and unusual dreams: strange dreams and nightmares that constantly reaccur including but not limited to dogs snakes people chasing you water, falling from a high place ect they can be interpreted to let you know the problem.\n3)strange and unusual health problems: depending on the type of magic that has been done to you may experience different health problems ranging from body pains foot and leg problems to stomache skin hair and eye problems.\n4) strange and unusual mental states: from paranoia depression to easily angered confusion mental fog and even insanity  these are some of the strange and unusual mental states related to black magic. \n\nPleas take time to consider these symptoms for your own benifit as i am writing as a person who has heald myself from some of the things your experiencing. May God help you and heal you from whatever it is that you are going through.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:52:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkv5ar', 'author': 'TrickyChart6288', 'body': ""You've got this, you really have, keep strong.\xa0\nSpeaking from somebody who suffers with server anxitey and depression.\nDrop me a message always an ear open on my side . X"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:18:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkr75eh', 'author': 'DayOk6350', 'body': 'You have pulled through so far and you will get through this as well, I believe in you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T02:58:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkb312w', 'author': 'InternationalTea4696', 'body': '🖤', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T09:44:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9648k'}]"
1jmfb6u,2025-03-29T10:53:07,Why doesn’t it get better,"So for the last few months I’ve been hardcore stuck in a depressive episode. Mostly due to my gf being sick a lot and us not being able to see each other. 2 weeks ago we finally saw us again after 2 weeks of not seeing us at all and before that we could only meet once a week for a few hours. And I get that, she’s sick and wants to get better. But it’s been nagging on me. And now after it finally felt like things would start improving she got sick again. I know it doesn’t seem that serious but it just feels so unfair, not being able to do anything about it. I mean I’m already struggling with stress I try to manage my school life, work life and stuff with my family. It’s gone so far over the last months that I feel like I don’t really live my life anymore, that I’m just watching. On the rare occasion that I do have time to myself I don’t even know what to do. Most of the time, the second I don’t study or clean smth around the house I feel guilty and useless. I’m struggling to sleep more than a few hours bc of this, also for a good month now. I’ve started skipping school because I just can’t take it I hate seeing myself there, not even being able to actively partake in convos because I’m so stuck in my own mind. I’ve been crying a lot lately, most times without a reason just randomly start crying, which often enough turns into an all out meltdown. I am tired, I wanna see my gf and I just want my life back.",MentalHealthSupport,1,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmfb6u/why_doesnt_it_get_better/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjny1r', 'author': 'AngelicWhippet', 'body': ""I think its understadnabe to skip school when you're dealing wiht a lot. If you're at least passing its probably not that big deal. You thought of seeing anyone about this? Though it can be worth saying something about at least some of the stuff you're dealing with to the people around you, pushing these feelings down will only make them harder to bare"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:39:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmfb6u'}, {'comment_id': 'mkksq6n', 'author': 'catsndeen', 'body': 'Sounds like someone may be doing magic on your relationship and life in general im sorry to hear this but theres ways to break it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:06:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmfb6u'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkclon', 'author': 'Poldigeist', 'body': 'Yeah school wouldn’t be the problem I’m doing alright in my classes it’s mostly that I don’t wanna start with not leaving my room and everything again, as I know from experience that just makes it worse for me. And I actually have reached out to the people close to me, and they’ve been a great support, I just have problems getting out of that depressive cycle again and I think that will take some time. I’ve already reached out for professional help but that will be a few months until I get that. And thank you very much for the advice :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:43:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjny1r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqs933', 'author': 'Poldigeist', 'body': 'Yeah feels like some sort of curse. But thank you for the kind words:)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T01:42:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkksq6n'}]"
1jmaiz5,2025-03-29T06:22:44,Perfectionism is ruining my life!!!,"
Hey everyone,

I wanted to share something personal I’ve been struggling with lately and would love some advice. I’ve always been someone who strives to do things perfectly, whether it’s school, work, or even personal projects. While this might seem like a good thing at first, I’ve noticed it has started to impact my mental health and daily life.

For example, when I start a new task, I spend so much time planning and trying to get everything perfect from the beginning that it ends up delaying progress or even stopping me from finishing things. I constantly feel like what I do isn’t good enough, and this mindset has led me to put off things I know I should be doing.

The worst part is that it makes me doubt myself constantly, even when I do achieve something. I’ve been trying to let go of this pressure I put on myself, but it’s tough. I’m afraid of making mistakes and failing, and I get frustrated when things don’t turn out exactly how I envisioned them.

Has anyone here struggled with perfectionism? How do you manage it and stop it from holding you back? Any advice on how to accept imperfections and not let them control my life would be really helpful!

Thanks in advance for reading this, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts!",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmaiz5/perfectionism_is_ruining_my_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'mko8s6m', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""Yes perfectionism will make your life miserable, especially because perfection is an idea that doesn't exists in our physical universe but only in our minds. In my case what really helped was to shift the focus from the results to the effort. For instance assume that whatever you do the results depend 50% on chance and 50% on your effort, since you cannot control chances forget about the outcome and focus exclusively on effort. Then even if you give  your best and don't succeed, chances are that next time you will.  \nHope it helps...."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:44:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmaiz5'}]"
1jly3y7,2025-03-28T21:15:19,I'm really not okay.,"
(TW! Mentions of self harm and sexual assault) 

Let me just start by saying I have been assaulted 4+ times in my life and in the back of my mind there's always a thought saying ""it has to be your fault at this point, NOBODY gets assaulted THAT many times"" and it hurts. My most recent one ended with me having a miscarriage to a r@pe baby. From my main assaulter, we'll call this person Neptune. (Neptune is not their real name) I was in love with Neptune for so long and from what they told me, they were in love with me too. The first assault with them started in seventh grade, they were a sophomore in high school. 

I wont give many details on the assault because it's a well known story of that person and people I know might find this post. But it happened at a party, and after I was traumatized to say the least. This person I had loved for so long had completely violated me. I still talked to them for a while after that. It was really hard to break away from them because of the trauma bond that had formed after that incident. But months later I finally did, after I had successfully blocked them I didn't talk to them for months.More than a year, but we went to the same school now, I was a freshman and she was a senior. I knew we would eventually cross paths and I was fully prepared to defend myself from her if she tried anything. But I grew weak. My friends and I would go to a local library after school every day and Neptune also went there. 

I tried to ignore her presence at first but we kept staring at each other. And I remember one day my friend waved to Neptune, they knew what had transpired a year ago but they had asked for permission to interact with Neptune because they liked her outfit. I was okay with it but I didn't know this would cause Neptune to come back into my life. This friend of mine let's call him Agreste. He wanted Neptune's number and after a lot of asking eventually I caved and gave it to him. This then led to me thinking, ""maybe Neptune's changed! It's been so long!"" and I spent ages trying to come up with a reason to text them, which I eventually did (how dumb of me I know) and for a while, I mean a really long while, things were great! I really thought they had changed... But Neptune did not change. 

During a day in which we were both heading to the school because of a mandatory performance (both of us were in Choir) we were talking and she texted me saying if I see her going somewhere alone I should follow her so we could talk. I payed no mind to it at first but when it came the time during the show where I saw her going up the school stairs alone and she motioned for me to follow her, I knew I had to make a choice. I mad the wrong choice and I regret it to this day. The things she did to me in that school bathroom were horrible and vile. I hate myself and my body after that event. I ended up pregnant and miscarried after. She didn't care. But because of that pregnancy I met someone amazing. 

My current partner, we'll call him Luca. He provided me with a plan b pill a couple days after the incident. (Obviously it didn't work but I felt so safe and seen after that) That was my first encounter with him. From that day on, I was attached. And we started dating later that month. I realize now that we never got to really know each other. We never had deep conversations or experiences with each other. Since Neptune I haven't been able to heal because I instantly fell in love and continued living life. And for a while it really did help! I was even encouraged to report the assault and now I'm going through the process of prosecution, but the truth is I'm not okay. 

I haven't been to school in weeks. My grades are shit. My boyfriend feels unloved. I feel like shit. My main reason for coming on here is because of my mental health. Neptune has completely broken me. She has used me for her own pleasure and manipulated me because I am naive and young. It hurts. I am broken. I can't even speak and this reason alone is what's tearing apart my relationship. I can't handle questions anymore. I am so hypersensitive and I don't know why this is all crashing down on me so suddenly. Every time my partner asks me a question I respond with ""I don't know."" And I really don't know. I have become so indecisive and confused I don't know anything. 

If Im asked a lot of questions that aren't yes or no then I start clawing at my legs, subconsciously scratching at my skin because it drives me crazy hearing questions, all I can say is I don't know and then when he doesn't want to hear I don't know I just start sobbing. And hurting myself. Today I started hitting my phone against my bed frame. I had a burst of outrage. And I feel so numb. I feel like I'm nothing anymore. All I can PHYSICALLY say is ""I don't know."" That's all I know how to say. I feel like I need to learn how to talk again. I don't know what's wrong with me. My response to this trauma is breaking me when I'm already broken. It's not just hurting me, it's hurting my relationship. I need help and I am not okay. I can't ask to go to a mental hospital because I'm scared. I can't ask for help and I don't know what to do.. I don't know anything anymore. 

To clarify something really quickly; My assaulter is transfem, she was born a male but transitioned to a female. She still has her pee pee stick though which is how I ended up pregnant. 

I am just lost with myself and I have no idea what to do. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I can't get up and shower or even brush my teeth. I just want to be happy again. I want to be happy with him again.. 

To end this I want to apologize if this post is all over the place, I just needed to get it all out and this was the only way I knew how. All names are fake in this and I'm sorry if this is triggering or breaks any rules",MentalHealthSupport,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jly3y7/im_really_not_okay/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkfm07w', 'author': 'Lvicren', 'body': 'First, I just want you to know how brave you are for bringing this to light. \nAs someone who has dealt with abuse and neglect myself, I have to admit I have felt at least part of what you are feeling.\n\nI suggest putting facts to these personal statements within your head. Start counteracting with “it had to be your fault at this point, nobody gets assaulted that many times” with “statistics show that someone who is assaulted once is 2 to three times more likely to be assaulted again”, and also with “I did not ask to be assaulted! Someone else made the selfish decision to hurt ME, and I had no say in it. If I had the option to say no, it would not have happened”. *Give the accountability in your head to the people who are actually hurting you*, not to you. \nSomething else to think about is tell yourself what you would tell your best friend if they were going through the same thing. We tend to poop on ourselves over other people. We have to put ourselves first so we can do life fairly with others.\n\nI am proud of you for leaving Neptune alone. That is the hardest thing in many situations. A lot of victims still stay in contact with their assaulter(s) due to fear, anxiety, and inability to make a decision to heal properly.\n\nNot being okay is normal in this abnormal situation. \nWhen I was dealing with all of the feelings, my grades in college dropped to a whopping 2.0\nThat was 3 years ago and it is now a 3.15, and I am starting a program I’ve only ever hoped to get in for so long. I am telling you this so you know that better days are ahead of you.\n\nYour boyfriend may or may not understand the severity of your situation. Even though he is your boyfriend and knows what he knows, it is still valid for him to feel unloved. \nMental Health and trauma FOR SURE affects the person who is going through this, but it also affects the people around them.\nThis is not your fault, and you are doing what you can. \nYou are hurting which is valid in your situation. \n\nWith the “I don’t knows”, be sure you tell your partner “I am saying this because I really do not know xyz”. If you have been doing that, you two might need to sit down and talk about the importance of clear communication, and to see if this relationship is beneficial to the current situation.\n\nGetting help - does your school offer counseling? \nI’m from Texas and my campus offers 10 free sessions a semester. Also, research non-profit mental health organizations as well.\n\nYou can also contact a mental health support line. Just do your research.\n\nAnger and rage is something I can resonate with. You are in a cloudy space and aren’t sure where to put your feelings. That is normal but it needs to be healthier. \n\nMy last suggestion is an accountability partner - since you and your boyfriend are not doing well, I’m not sure if he is someone to lean on for this task. \n\nYou need someone to be completely honest with and someone who will encourage you to do simple, everyday tasks like brushing your teeth, washing/brushing your hair, showering.\nWe need to get your body and mind mentally intact - there is a disconnect with those two things. If you aren’t physically caring for yourself, no way are you going to mentally feel better. If you aren’t mentally well, no way your physical being is going to be consistent and stable.\n\nBaby steps! I’m proud of you, and I think you’ve done the hardest part of this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:42:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jly3y7'}]"
1jm4wzi,2025-03-29T02:04:20,No News is Good News,"I'm cracking under the pressure. Tiny things are tipping me over to being emotional. I'm on my monthly, but this week just has hit me so freaking hard. I'm trying to recover. I feel lonely and bored. I want to find my happiness again, but nothing ever lines up. 

At work, I'm always the exception as someone has to cover the front desk. So I have to wait to get my break until my coworker can come. And she's not doing it on purpose, she's stuck in a work call. But I'm waiting. I could go get someone else, but no one really wants the front desk and I guess I'm just rather wait for her than get questioned by those outside of my department. When there's a schedule change, it's ""you have to agree with her on what days you can take off."" And I just feel like I'm always asking for favors, but no one is ever asking me for favors. So I end up feeling like a begger. They are supposed to be changing things around but the manager hasn't looked into into a new phone system. Half of my coworkers work from home, and I'm only allowed 2 days compared to my cover, whose allowed the entire week. I guess makes sense I'm the receptionist, but I never wanted to be the only receptionist, they always made it sound like there was going to be 3 of us, but now it's just me and the former receptionist and a payroll clerk. And I have to figure out my breaks and lunches between them or my days off. 

I ask for more work, the manager asks the team, but I never get more work. So I'm doing this monthly task and since I'm the only one, it demotivates me as I'm trying to ration out how much I will do each day to leave me something. And I guess I hope they will notice that I'm not doing everything and get another person to come help me. I know this sounds weird, but as I'm asking for more work but then leaving work undone until the deadline. But otherwise I don't have anything else. 

I feel distant with my friends and family. Grandma in the hospital. Brother dropped out of high school this week. He's depressed. Trying to make me and him not depressed anymore. 

I only see my husband for 2 hours a day, which is when we eat and cook. So I can't plan anything after work to met with friends. It seems too late to go out at 8pm. Not many options and my friends go to bed early. So now I'm bothered that I can't go do friend stuff because of my husband. But then I'm bothered I can't see my husband because of the work schedule. 

Then money has been a pinched. I used my IRA to cover my credit card. But that is just one out of 3. There's always something. And not enough for something else. We get by. We go on dates (ie a movie and take out ever 2 weeks, nothing grand, just something to get me out of the house). But then we have to delay haircuts or car repairs or medical checkups. 

I don't have any passions to do at home. I'm bored. I default to crafts but there's no joy. I call my husband but there's no fun conversations just ""we need to buy this"" ""with what money????"" 

I know it's me. I'm going to therapy next week. I only have 2 hours left. But I'm cracking right now. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm4wzi/no_news_is_good_news/,[]
1jm2b2s,2025-03-29T00:13:13,Need a random stranger,"Hello, 

So I have had a string of traumatic events, going back almost 2 years at this point. It has gotten to the point I question whether im getting punk'd by some kind of supernatural entity. 

I had a journal going that i was sharing with my ex.  The idea being I could get out all of my crazy in my journal instead of it spilling out into the real world. A lot of it was about her but not everything,  probably a good 70/30, becoming less and less as I got things out of my system. She could choose to hear what I say or not. She never had to look. Anything  pertaining directly to her I covered in a spoiler tag so she didn't even have to see it on accident. She would then open the thread to trip the read reciept. She agreed to this without hesitation.

And It worked. I didn't know for sure whether she was reading or not, but I knew that I had said what I needed to say and she had the chance to see it if she wanted to. That was enough. I didn't feel the need to rant and rave in front of her anymore. And I trusted her with my innermost thoughts and insecurities. 

I don't trust her anymore. 

I erased the old journal, and I started a new one last night. I barely had gotten into it when I realized it didn't feel right. Apparently, the venting isn't effective unless I at the very least think someone else may have read it. 

There's no one else in my life that I would trust with such an intimate look into my head.  In fact, getting someone to let me talk and get things off my chest has been one of the biggest hurdles of the past 6 months or so. Both friends and professionally. 

I need to be heard. Or at the very least think I have been. Otherwise it's going to start spilling out into every aspect of my life. I've never had a good filter.

I need this. 

And that's where you come in random stranger! I don't have to trust you. I don't know you, you don't know me. I can be completely honest. 

I'm looking for the same arrangement I had with my ex. I've got a group chat, it's on telegram. I'll add you. You are free to read the whole thing. You can even respond if you wish but it's not necessary. All I ask is that you occasionally open the thread so the read receipts trip, so they look like they've been seen. 

I figured this would be a decent thread to ask this, since the members seem to be both understanding, and interested in other people's problems. if I have violated any of the subreddits rules, let me know and I'll look elsewhere. I didn't see any rule against it when I looked over them but honestly I just skimmed. 

A word of caution, I use speech to text and the threads are pretty stream of consciousness, and I don't censor myself at all. If you are easily triggered, or not comfortable with people in a dark place, you probably shouldn't offer your services. 

Let me know if you are interested. Thanks if you read this far :-)",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm2b2s/need_a_random_stranger/,[]
1jm27xx,2025-03-29T00:09:30,Marriage issues,"Wife has deepening mental health issues because of our 10 month old baby. Baby is regressing with sleep causing more and more issues. Wife has stated that she used to have heady suicidal ideations and lied to her counselor about these issues over fear of getting daughter taken away. 

Currently, she states that if our child is crying (above 8 on a 10 scale) and I am the one holding the baby (not having caused the harm) she feels the need to harm others or herself. Wife states this is normal amongst all mothers but I challenge her on it and she says that she is just deeply traumatized and I just don't understand. I’m not wholly convinced that she would actually do it but we do have firearms (locked, disassembled, and she does not have a key). Like I said I’m not convinced she actually would harm but the constant thought is running in my mind about what if she gets pushed to the breaking point. She refuses to think this is a safety issue, refused to ask to be medicated for this and says that I just don’t understand trauma 

Honestly I have no idea what to do, I’m terrified of not seeing my baby every day for the rest of my life. The fact that my wife lied to me and her counselor about how bad her depression was still haunts me and I just don’t know how much trust I have in this woman",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm27xx/marriage_issues/,[]
1jlsgdz,2025-03-28T16:31:40,"I'm not sure which of my mental illnesses causes this, but I'd like to know what exactly it is","Just about any type of above the norm stress causes my brain to pretty much stop functioning any thoughts. Doesn't have to be extreme stress, just more than the usual. 

When I'm really angry, can't focus. When I'm really sad, can't focus. When I'm really excited, can't focus. I can't even exist on autopilot during an episode. I'll have to take these short time outs, where I sit there and take nothing in and put nothing out for a few minutes before I continue on. 

I've been this way for as long as I can remember, and I'm 42 now. I've been through lots of therapy, but never truly figured this one out. I don't think it's normal, I don't see this behavior in anybody else around me. I've been called dramatic over it, but I'm absolutely not trying to be dramatic when I do this. I wish nobody even knew I lacked control to this degree, so def don't do it for dramatics. 

What could this be? I do have 5 mental health diagnosises, but I'm not sure which is causing this. ",MentalHealthSupport,5,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlsgdz/im_not_sure_which_of_my_mental_illnesses_causes/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkbiemp', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Overstimulation?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:05:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbipu3', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'It might not be from one single diagnosis or even any of them. It seems like to me you could be overwhelmed and if it was never addressed or relieved you’ve just maintained that consistently so anything above your baseline is immediately too much and you don’t have any capacity to handle it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:08:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc4pvp', 'author': 'C-Class_hero_Satoru', 'body': ""Your symptoms are sensory overload, disocciation, zoning out.\n\nThose symptom can be linked either with ADHD or autism spectrum.\n\nPeople on autism spectrum have shutdowns when the brain temporary goes blank because neural system is overwhelmed.\n\nADHD has similar shutdowns but it's related with dopamine dysregulation.\n\nADHD can be treated with Ritalin and similar meds but if you are on autism spectrum then there's nothing much you can do apart of avoiding everything what triggers your emotions."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:13:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkcckd4', 'author': 'SewRuby', 'body': 'Could be over stimulus, could be dissociation.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T17:26:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkktrus', 'author': 'catsndeen', 'body': 'You need to try to get cupping done on your forehead and temples and base of neck on your back. These mental states can be related to sorcery and black magic from my experience  even if not the cupping could still help.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:11:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}]"
1jm1j44,2025-03-28T23:40:24,Advice Dealing with an Unmotivated Adult Sister,"
I’m not sure this is the right forum but I’ve done a lot of googling and can’t figure out the root/what issues may be plaguing a family member. Hoping to pick brains here and get advice on how to help her. Specifically if there are any mental health resources for adults who are out of work. My sister (46F) has been out of work for over 4 years (laid off from a her first job/only job she had for 16 years). Currently she is not working (has not even applied to one job since getting laid off) does not attend social activities, lives with family member who pays the bills. She seems to have no motivation to move forward and I cant tell if maybe it’s fueled by depression, anxiety, or a combo, or something all together different. I feel she probably has a lot weighing her down that she has not worked through and my main goal is to get help for her. I cannot financially take it on. Our parents wont either. Does anyone have any advice in terms of resources that I could potentially lead her to?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm1j44/advice_dealing_with_an_unmotivated_adult_sister/,[]
1jlv96f,2025-03-28T19:07:16,My abuser reached out to me… trigger warning (please don’t read if you have experience trauma. This may be triggering),"My rap!$+ reached out to me after a year on a fake profile on instagram. Idk how to really feel about it. I’m upset he found me, I’m sad he reached out, and I’m confused. It took a lot for me to move on from happened. I had a bad mental breakdown. I became hyper sexualized for months because of it. And then out of the blue on a random Tuesday night he wants to message me as if we were friends who lost connection. And when I didn’t respond he deleted his account. It’s annoying and weird all together. The last time we spoke was when he laughed at me when I asked him to apologize for what he did. Why dm me? For what?? 
It’s hard for me to get into relationships without sabotaging because all I hear is his voice in the back of my mind. He constantly told me no one would want me. I was boring. I didn’t bring anything to the table. I didn’t deserve to be in college. Whatever came to his mind; he’d say it. And now he messages me?? So casually as well. 
I don’t know how to feel. I’m not happy at all about that’s for sure. But I’m just very confused and I don’t know how to process it. Anyways.. if you made it this far I hope you have a great weekend💜 ",MentalHealthSupport,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlv96f/my_abuser_reached_out_to_me_trigger_warning/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmr791', 'author': 'blondie0389', 'body': 'He doesn’t even deserve a response from you 💛', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:17:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlv96f'}, {'comment_id': 'mkocfrc', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""So sorry about your story. The way I see it is that he employs all the textbook manipulation techniques to weaken your sense of self-worth and assert his psychological dominance. Very devious, abusive, sleazy and predatory. His motifs are probably directed towards further exploitation and seeing it wasn't working he thought better to delete the evidence. The things he said to you were not random thoughts but specific, well-studied attacks to your self-worth. He will never be able to feel sorry for his behavior or sincerely apologize. There is nothing to be confused about: cut all communications, protect yourself and consider reporting him to the police!  \nAll the best to you <3 \\^\\_\\^ <3"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:10:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlv96f'}]"
1jltikp,2025-03-28T17:37:06,Have been unable to work and became depressed,"i have not been able to work or attend my college classes for about a 5 days and can’t do either for another 3, i’ve developed pneumonia from having a bad common cold and i’m starting to feel hopeless. for about 7 years of my life i was diagnosed with major depression disorder and i’m afraid it’s coming back, im trying my best to treat it but i can’t do anything i enjoy because i’ve been so sick, no hiking, socializing, swimming or working. i never knew how much i needed to work until now. instead of going through my routine i can only really lay in my bed and overthink, or go on a drive and overthink, it’s like i am driving myself crazy with my own anxiety driven thoughts. i can admit to being slightly neurotic and i guess it gets worse when i don’t have anything to put my mind to.  Now i’m having anxiety about my relationship with my partner, because i’m overthinking all of his actions, im stressed about school because i missed a clinical, and guilty that i’ve missed so much work and i’m needed there. and i’m also stressed because i’m likely going to have a tiny paycheck. any suggestions on what i can do to feel better? ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jltikp/have_been_unable_to_work_and_became_depressed/,[]
1jlkm5k,2025-03-28T07:49:39,Tired exausted and over everything,Im tired of big pharma and they have made me addicted to these meds that numb the pain and now im calm no anxiety. This isnt the life i thought it would be! Reaching out with my arms open and not feeling intouch with myself . Well i wish i didnt feel alone in a crowded room zoning out staring strait through every one but i cant look past my self just wanting to be happy whys this so hard? Well everything ive been through i couldn’t begin to tell you. Im just stuck and lost and trying to find some one that is willing to talk.. ,MentalHealthSupport,5,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlkm5k/tired_exausted_and_over_everything/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkl5iwa', 'author': 'catsndeen', 'body': 'Pharma is the devil you can google pharmakia and see but the good news is that there is a actual cure that can remove not just the sickness itself but also all the added chemicals you have put into your system over the years and the answer is cupping. You need to cup out your system but mostly the forehead and temples as well as in between shoulder blades at base of neck.it will remove the toxins and the symptoms of felling depressed. Also if its related to black magic or sorcery it can hep to canel that also. We can talk more if you want.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T03:15:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlkm5k'}]"
1jlqedg,2025-03-28T14:01:38,Is my need to be perfect what is causing so much pain?,"I (M 19) have essentially been held to the highest standard my entire life. My family has always said that the most important thing is grades and academics, to the point of keeping me out of sports and extracurricular activity so I could focus on my studies. I was always harshly punished for falling short of grades (anything below a 90% was considered failure in my household) and was always told that I would be great. This has been a constant in my life as long as I could remember, this idea that I would one day be someone who goes down in history. I kid you not I once told my parents I was only 18 and I was doing pretty good compared to most and was told “Alexander was 18 when he was toppling nations” (which isn’t true by the way) “you don’t have an excuse” This idea was reinforced when I got into the gifted program at my school at a young age where, I was never directly told, but it was heavily implied that I was “going places” and I was destined for more than my classmates. 
This was all fine and dandy until I got to college, where, egged on my parents because of the future career benefits, I decided to join Greek life, something that I was always told would help my to achieve my dreams. This posed a couple of issues because, 1, I was a nerd who had never been allowed to play sports and didn’t have any social skills, and 2, I had learned that the only way to be good enough was by being the best. The fraternity i joined is well regarded and fairly large, but not the best on my campus, something that makes me feel awful regularly. I quickly began to realize that I wasn’t the smartest anymore, not only this but the people around me were better looking and more confident than I could ever be. This was around the time that, for the first time in my life, in my freshman year of college, I got a C in a class, I need to emphasize how devastating this was for me, at this point I had never studied, didn’t pay attention and had been thought that i wouldn’t have to because I was me. My parents immediately cut my financial support, leading to the need for me to get a full time job on top of everything.
My life feels like it’s falling apart, and I don’t know why. Whenever I confide in someone about my deep insecurities, they are often surprised because from the outside, I’m doing quite well, I have decent grades, I’m fairly attractive (though I can’t see it), I’ve made great strides in social development, and everyone seems to love me. But for some reason I berate myself for being constantly inadequate, because I can’t measure up to everyone around me, I’m not the best at anything, I’m average and it’s the closest feeling to physical pain I can explain. Since this feeling started I’ve seen mental health professionals and been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, depression, and narcissistic tendencies. I want to get out of this rut and am open to any advice people might be able to offer.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlqedg/is_my_need_to_be_perfect_what_is_causing_so_much/,[]
1jljevy,2025-03-28T06:48:50,My psychiatrist is threading to “expose” me to my parents,"Hey guys i’m in a bit of a situation and I want to know how to navigate this. Background info i’m 20f and currently i’ve been withdrawn from school. Around a month ago i tried taking my life. I was withdrawn from school but i wasn’t made aware of it until 3 weeks in and we already found a place for me to stay. Basically the issue is i’m not in school but i’m living in an apartment paid by my parents for me to be close to school. Now me not being enrolled is on me, i had a horrible incident that i won’t get into details but long story short, horrible experience in my first year (witnessing sewer slide, attempted murder, abuse etc.) all on my own it caused me to not perform well in my classes and i was incredibly mentally i’ll - i’m not making that an excuse for my faliures but just the reason and i take full accountability of it. ( I can always clarify if you guhs have questions). This issue is, i cannot tell my parents, that’s literally a non-negotiable i’ve tried and it never ends well. My parents are indian immigrants and they’ve worked their butts off for me, please know i feel guilty about it all the time, i appreciate their help so much but they also are not the type to understand mental health and the second they get angry they don’t care. (ex. mom blamed brothers depression on me, told me dad once i was suicidal when i was younger and. he comforted me for him to then deny that ever happening and that i have no reason to feel that way and it’s my fault). What i’m trying to say is I can’t tell them that i have severe depression, anxiety and ptsd that resulted in my failing because to them that wouldn’t be an excuse. You guys might try to convince me and maybe this is where i’m being dense but i just know my parents and it wouldn’t work. They are not open minded at all, and to a getter their anger is justified becuase i’ve wasted all their hard earned money even though yes it was out of my control i still could’ve done something, i shouldn’t have been so weak. Onto why I’m making this post, when i tried, i was found by my mom and taken to the hospital. There they kept me overnight and i explained this exact situation to my psychiatrist and nurses. However when i had my meeting with my psychiatrist he told me he’s going to tell my parents there and then, i managed to convince him not to but he followed up with saying that I need to meet him in a month (currently now in like a week or so-ish) and if i haven’t told them, he’s going to send an anonymous message to my mom saying i failed uni. Now here’s the issue, i absolutely understand that in his pov this is the safest route for me but i know my family will be ruined with this info and my parents will lose it. I’ve reflected and i know that this isn’t something i want to die over so i’ll relay that info to my psychiatrist but i also somehow need to explain that after he threatened me with telling me parents, i tried this month to hint at my situation and they’ve completely shut it down. They act like what happened didn’t ever happen. My mom has blamed me and made it about herself, just very typical i don’t believe in mental health actions. But i wanted to know, I also understand there is pt confidentiality systems set in place and him threatening only just increased my anxiety. The whole time we spoke he only continued to shame me and my feelings and mitigate them. I understand having a blunt and real approach is sometimes necessary for pts but he was completely rude and dismissive. I’m really nervous that when i go back he’s going to ignore what i say and put me into a bigger problem, i feel very lost i don’t know where to post this or where to go. If anyone has advice i’ll greatly appreciate it. I know it might seem confusing and i apologize but i will do my best to clarify anything and if you guys know where else i could post this for help too. ",MentalHealthSupport,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jljevy/my_psychiatrist_is_threading_to_expose_me_to_my/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkgw5xh', 'author': 'magenki', 'body': 'This might be a stupid question but can you just lie and say you told your parents? How would your psychiatrist be able to prove otherwise? If I were in your spot I’d just lie and say I told them and it didn’t go very well - which is not entirely a lie since it sounds like it would go awful. \nHowever I also think it is not appropriate for him to threaten to send an anonymous email to your parents…. You’re not a minor, your parents have 0 rights to your medical records or academic records. I am getting real weird vibes that your psychiatrist wants to contact them. It doesn’t feel legal to me. \nAlso, do you even have to keep seeing this psychiatrist? Can you meet them again, lie and say you told parents and it went awful, then just never return?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:37:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jljevy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgwd5c', 'author': 'magenki', 'body': 'Really want to emphasize that I am fairly certain it is NOT LEGAL for your psychiatrist to share things discussed in these appointments with anyone not on your like approved list. I obviously don’t know your specific circumstances, but this is seriously violating some doctor patient confidentiality stuff.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:38:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgw5xh'}]"
1jlkhh9,2025-03-28T07:43:07,the blessing and burden of close friends,"so im a sophomore in college and currently have no close friends that i share an emotional connection with. and it really has me thinking. starting from freshman year, ive gone through “best friends” and ive realized that while i do share a connection w them, i also start to realize their flaws and it affects me. like for example, if they felt depressed or down (everyone does) i start to feel that way too because i feel connected w them. idk if this is my personality or the psychology behind it but yeah. and also i find myself leaving people i start to become close with once i realize these flaws (this is on me 100%) idk if this is my toxic attachment style but why am i like this? sorry this post is all over the place but i want to understand myself and my thinking more. also is there a more appropriate channel on reddit i can ask questions behind the psychology of my behavior?",MentalHealthSupport,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlkhh9/the_blessing_and_burden_of_close_friends/,[]
1jnd6d7,2025-03-30T19:37:42,Hiv anxiety,"I want to share my story if anyone had experience this fear
16 months ago i had an exposure protected (with a condom) with an exotic dancer. 10days after exposure i did a hiv 4th gen test was negative. After 1 month of exposure i had a flu like symptoms or maybe it was a cold, didnt think about HIV because my test was negative. 13 months later i saw a friend and told me my face was pale (yellow face) so i started googling about hiv and read about the window period, so i noticed that i did my test before the window period, waited a month scared of testing i suffered stress and anxiety killed me, so i said it time to test so 14months after exposure i did 3 HIV test 4th gen and they were negative, and 15months after exposure i did a pcr rna test and a 4th gen still negative, the question is how can i move on with my life?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnd6d7/hiv_anxiety/,[]
1jneirz,2025-03-30T20:41:21,Advice on a next step to better myself?,"Hi 25(F) wondering if anyone can advise me on a decent next step.
My mental health has not been the best growing up, had some family issues, and went through the whole maybe I’m just a depressed teen thing but I still don’t feel ‘right’ now, but I just don’t know how to approach/take my feelings/things that irritate me about myself. So I’m just going to write the main problems and hope someone has any advice. 
- started self harming at 15, stopped at 22 but ended up getting addicted to vaping instead, which I desperately want to stop but I think it’s just another crutch now.
- I CANNOT, talk about my feelings or have uncomfortable conversations honestly in person/on the phone, the words physically don’t come out even if I want them to. 
- I loose friendships because I guess I forget about them and don’t reply because i don’t see them irl. 
- I feel an underlying level of stress all the time. Like there’s so much that needs doing and I’m always somewhat aware.
- I’ll know I need to do something but instead just sit there, scroll on my phone or do something irrelevant and keep counting the hours I have left to do it thinking there’s enough and waiting till the next half hour or hour until I’m staying up late to complete deadlines.
- I lose everything, to the point it’s becoming a problem at work and it takes me ages looking for things I need to do my job.
- I’m tired all the time. By the time I’m finished at work and home, if I lie in bed I’m asleep in a minute. 
- I really struggle with the thought of hurting peoples feelings that I’ll do things or not say things that make me feel unhappy so I don’t upset them.
- Sometimes I think I don’t love people the way that other people do and instead they’re just important people rather than having the feeling of love. 
- I feel like I conversation vomit sometimes and when I get home again i regret half the things I’ve said and stress about how they’re going to come back to bite me. 
",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jneirz/advice_on_a_next_step_to_better_myself/,[]
1jnf31j,2025-03-30T21:07:03,how do i tell my psych the truth,"i started seeing a new psychiatrist and got my final (we hope) diagnosis back at the start of the pandemic and have been medicated for it since then. i won’t specify which one but for clarity the diagnosis is a mood disorder and not GAD, although anxiety is the primary factor. obviously i want the psychiatric help or i wouldn’t be making the appointments and paying for the prescriptions, but since almost the beginning i’ve been fudging the numbers when she asks me to rate my anxiety and depression. i hate the back and forth of medication, i was on the wrong meds due to a misdiagnosis for years and it was fucking awful. i don’t like the risk that my answers will change my prescription even if know logically it might NEED to change. i’m also terrified of being admitted to a mental hospital for too many reasons to list here and i’ve been afraid that if i answer a certain way my therapist or psych would be legally mandated to report it and i’d be “locked up”. 

the thing is, i acclimate to medication stupidly fast and i’ve been on the same dose (the highest dosage any psych will prescribe for this specific medication) for at least a year so i’d be willling to bet anything that my meds aren’t even working anymore. however i’ve been in talk therapy for the past year or so (with this therapist in particular, i stopped seeing the last therapist in 2018 due to finances) and my therapist and i have both come to the conclusion that i have enough coping skills that i don’t need to be medicated for anything but my anxiety. everything else i have more or less under control from decades of practice, i just need extra help with the anxiety because that’s the only part i still really struggle with. when i’m depressed or angry i have any number of self soothing methods and i can handle anxiety to a certain point as well but i have a significantly worse physical and psychological response a lot quicker than any other symptom. i struggle to breathe, i can’t focus, i have a movement disorder that gets worse with stress so i’m shaking like a leaf and can’t walk or keep a grip on anything with my hands. it also makes me unable to drive, in the past it’s happened mid drive and i’ve had to hold my foot down on the pedals with my hand to get home which is not safe or something i ever want to have to do again even if i did make it home in one emergency situation.

so now my question is: how do i admit that i’ve been dishonest in our previous evaluations when i’ve been keeping this a secret for years? i know i did this to myself and i should’ve just told her the truth from the start but my time on the wrong meds really fucked with my head and she’s the first psych i’m seeing as an adult where it’s fully on me to advocate for myself when in the past i usually just sat and nodded while my dad told my old psych what he thinks is going on in my head and only checking in to make sure i’m validating everything he’s saying. i’m just tired of feeling like i’m doing all the leg work with my depression and emotional regulation while the anxiety goes from manageable to crippling but now i’ve dug myself too deep in the hole and i want to get out.


if you have any advice of how to go about this i would really appreciate it <3",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnf31j/how_do_i_tell_my_psych_the_truth/,[]
1jni436,2025-03-30T23:20:58,My anxiety is high and Idk....,"
Hello everyone, nice to meet you all. I have very bad General Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, and Depression. I had my case reopened with the mental health clinic. They only have one therapist and are supposed to have six of them. It's been like that for one year. With Trump and his goons in office, I've been so overwhelmed with my anxiety that it's becoming too much to handle. Life just feels like a nightmare per day, waking up with the craziness we are all living in. I've been trying to do other things to keep my mind busy with no luck. Thank you for reading my post, and thank you for the support. I just feel alone. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jni436/my_anxiety_is_high_and_idk/,[]
1jnjtal,2025-03-31T00:33:45,what would you do?,"I'm 27 years old, about to finish a communications minor at the most prestigious university in my country (yeah, took me some time; a lot happened) and I think I have ok plans about how to make the most of it. The thing is, guys: I don't want to do it anymore. I've come far, but I had to force myself every step of the way; I seriously don't remember how true accomplishment feels like. I carried my ass along the way thanks to the ""strenght"" my utmost fear gave me: to not be a failure.

To me, this meant: to be able to give my mother the life she deserves, to be able to help the rest of my family and to enjoy myself. What stopped me? Me, myself and I. Even though I'm fairly good at my career of choice (analysing texts, writing and stuff), I suck at the most important aspect of it: communicating. I chose to study comms as a way to force myself out of my comfort zone and deal with my social anxiety and, now I realize, I fucked up.

To go through college, I had to participate in all sort of social-based projects and, evidently, I had to interact with my own classmates. Turns out I couldn't, at least not naturally and comfortably. The only way I could silence that was by using alcohol and drugs. Fuck, it felt good while it lasted; but I knew I couldn't keep that forever without risking serious damage to my body.

I've been sober 2 years now, and that came with the challenge of having to face hard truths: I wasted my twenties living in a depressive state, which means I didn't enjoy myself traveling/meeting people/falling in love (I really really really wanted to do all of that); I need to get my act together soon, but I just want to feel free to do the things I haven't been doing (previously mentioned); now that i know myself a little bit better, there's another career I'd like to practice but I'm haunted by the thought I just don't have time anymore.

In summary, I need ideas. I know my problems are not exceptional, so I know there's a side to this that's not all pessimist; but I just can't see it right now. I'm having thoughts like ""I hope everyone just forgot about me"" so that I could just leave and never be found, but I know I'm in the wrong there. If you've ever felt lost, like you've fucked up to the very bottom; but somehow you managed to get out: was it worth the struggle? would you finish a career if you didn't really want it? how do you manage the regret of what you did and the time you lost?

This was all so visceral I hardly understand myself, but I felt like I needed to tell or, at least, put it in writing. Maybe I should get a diary or something. If you read it until this point, thanks.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnjtal/what_would_you_do/,[]
1jnkh25,2025-03-31T01:02:19,Need urgent help,"Hello GuYs I am absoulety  new to reddit , is there anyone to provide me an genuine Good online thereapy session source? I canT find one  , I am literally struggling to live ,Please reply",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnkh25/need_urgent_help/,[]
1jnkjjt,2025-03-31T01:05:30,Ami i still ok or am i getting worse?,"I have been struggling but i am still managing because of self sabotage as a coping mechanism. At first it was helpful and effective and i am doing well because of it but the more i keep on doing it, i start to be confused because my emotions are all over the place and sometimes i come out like as my friends say ""nonchalant"" or ""u look so uninterested"" when in reality i am just struggling on what to act. i used to be so open about expressing on what i feel but ever since i went through a traumatic experience, i just became so unmotivated in life but at the same time i care too much which is confusing.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnkjjt/ami_i_still_ok_or_am_i_getting_worse/,[]
1jnl1tr,2025-03-31T01:27:35,Need help,"F24. I’ve always had some issues with anger. I tend to hide that part of myself, and never lash out at others. When I’m angry and around people, I either cry or dissociate. More often the latter. But why I’m I so angry all the time?

Some backstory; I got diagnosed with borderline personality disorder in 2020, and that diagnosis was correct back then and the following few years. 
I’ve also struggled with depression and anxiety since i was 12 ish. But now I feel like there’s something wrong. I do not associate with the bpd symptoms anymore and haven’t for the past year after I got out of a turbulent relationship.

But the depression is still kicking my ass. I’m on meds, but it’s only doing so much. I do have smaller periods of feeling good where I finally have the confidence, energy and motivation for live that I so dearly wish I had all the time. It does have it cons, since I also act more impulsively during this time, especially when it comes to money spending and drinking. But the depression always comes back. Now I’ve also started struggling with feeling angry all of the time. I’m irritated and frustrated, and my fuse is soo short. I hate feeling this way, as I have a conflicted relationship with that particular emotion.

I don’t know what’s wrong. It’s been getting gradually worse the past 3 months. Right now I also feel hopeless. I don’t know what do to with my future. I’m almost done with my bachelors degree related to social work but I’m no way motivated for that sort of work. I don’t have the capacity..
I’m trying to do everything right. I take my meds, I’m physically active almost every day, I drink maybe once per month, I don’t do any drugs and I get 7-9 hours of sleep per night- most nights. Even though I feel like I could sleep for 14..

This is a chaotic post, I’m sorry. But I hope it makes some sort of sense. I’m just confused and tired of feeling broken.
",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnl1tr/need_help/,[]
1jnl397,2025-03-31T01:29:21,Panic attacks (sort of? Ig?),"Idk I just really need a place to put all my thoughts because I am going insane. I have been going through so much stress lately. My panic attacks have gotten worse, I am so much more stressed and just tired. Last January when I was having test week (9th grade core) I had a panic attack during a test but I have been for a very long time (since I was 9/10), and the idea of someone seeing me have a panic attack gives me a panic attack, so I sort of just having one in my head. Long story short, I went to a teacher (she is the coach of our class but not she is not my coach but she is like a half coach so i still went to her cause my coach was sick) and I tell her ""yeah so during your test i had one of these panic attacks in my head"" and she looks at me and is like ""yeahhh that sucks. Anyways i know you struggle with my subject so-"" EXCUSE ME. A student just told you they have panic attacks and you say that 😭 So eventually I did go to my own coach, luckily she was more serious and she got me to talk with the school music teacher and my old coach (she is a teacher that kids go to when they have mental problem). I have been talking with her since January and what have we established? That I am really on the edge! And that I clearly need help to a point that my coach and her are concerned. She told me ""you are goiny to talk to your mom this friday."" Uhmmm... it's Sunday and I didn't talk yet 😋 oopsie. No but I actually feel bad for it, because she is trying so hard to help me and I just don't do anything she says. Partly because I forgot, but also cause I'm scared. I don't want my parents to worry and they already have alot going on with my sister. I tried to talk to my mom again by saying ""let's go for a walk!"" But she said no but my dad could go. Now I don't have any problems with my dad, but my dad is better with school problems and my mom with mental health. Now tomorrow I have test week again and I am just so stressed for it. It so the 3rd and second last test week of the year and if this goes wrong I'm pretty much done for. And then I have friends saying ""oh but just come to mavo!"" (The dutch middle school system is like kader, mavo, havo, vwo. From lowest to highers based on intelligence) and i keep telling them i dont want to. But they keep going and going. Ahdjdjdjdj. I just want to keep doing havo because i know i can. I am struggling right now because if mental health, not because i find it hard. Ik this whole thing doesn't make sense and there is no logic in it but is just had to put my thoughts somewhere.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnl397/panic_attacks_sort_of_ig/,[]
1jnlcz1,2025-03-31T01:40:48,I feel like I'll never be as happy as I once was,"So I've been feeling pretty lost for quite some time now. I'm currently 19 years old and I have so much nostalgia from when I was 15-17. I know it sounds really stupid like, bro you're only 19 what are you nostalgic about. I just miss how things used to be and the people that were part of life at the time, and I feel like I'll never as 'happy' as was I back then. The thing is that I don't think I was even that happy back then, i was actually quite depressed most of the time. But the friendships that I had with those people was in some way special, mostly because I never had that many friends, and those people that I used to hang out with or talk to are not in my life anymore. I still talk to some of them but i just doesn't feel the same, Now everything feels so pointless, and I don't really have a strong purpose in my life

I've dealt with depression and anxiety since my early teens, and tried to comite suicide once. At 16, I was addicted to xanax, used to smoke a lot of cigarettes and at 17–18 i was drinking a lot , but looking back at it, I feel like I was happier back then. For the past year I've on a self help journey and I quit the bad habits that I used to have and tried to find my purpose in life, but even though my life is technically better right now, i just feel like i'll never be as happy as i was.

I would love to hear people's thoughts on my story

Btw sorry for my english, it's not my first language",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnlcz1/i_feel_like_ill_never_be_as_happy_as_i_once_was/,[]
1jnnbbf,2025-03-31T03:06:03,Tired of existing - rant - need advice,"My brain has the ability to do what I call ""not existing"". I lay there with my eyes closed and day dream about random things that I don't remember. Like when I come out of it, it's all at once. I breath in and then I sit up and remember a glimpse of what I was dreaming about, then it's gone. Its scary, when things get to much the temptations to do this is almost un denialable. I lose track of time very badly, I was laying down for 10 hours yesterday. Its scary that my brain can genuinely take it's self somewhere else, it's comforting at the same time. I am also having this thing happen to me, it started when I tried to go off my medication but it's still here even after I started taking it again. When it first happened it was like really scary and it was like I didn't know who I was but I definitely was not me. Then there was not really voices, as much as people talking in my head. There is 5 and I am telling myself that it's not real and my brain is making up things. I don't know but it's scary. Does anyone have any knowledge on what could be happening? I am not able to seek professional help and it would put my mind at ease a bit to know more about what could be going on. Not trying to self diagnose but I can't seek help right now.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnnbbf/tired_of_existing_rant_need_advice/,[]
1jnnmws,2025-03-31T03:20:36,What do you do to help in between therapy sessions?,"I am starting with a counsellor/therapy this week and wondering, if you guys do anything in between your counsellor visits to help with your mental health I feel the worst I’ve felt in a long long time and I’m finding that I can’t switch my mind off and I’ve started talking to myself playing out scenarios which is upsetting me and I don’t realise I’m doing it till I either cry or get really worked up. 

Thank you for any help. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnnmws/what_do_you_do_to_help_in_between_therapy_sessions/,[]
1jnpuys,2025-03-31T05:06:12,I don't know.,"I'm posting here because I don't know who to talk to or where to go. I don't feel normal. i want to run again. When I was younger I'd get these urges to escape and as I get older they amplify. I got a promotion at work, management position. Really good money for my age. Worked really hard for the last 2 years to achieve this but I'm just realizing it's not what I want. I don't know what I want. I started taking pills and smoking weed at 13. I would drink when I couldn't get the preferred choices.I was never supposed to make it this far. I had not prepared for this. I tried to overdose when I was 15 which was unsuccessful, obviously. I don't know though. I look back at my life and I'm thankful to have grown. I live in a nice house, been in a relationship for 7 years. I have everything I wanted as a kid. Yet, it's still not enough. I feel lost. I have suicidal thoughts frequently, mainly since my promotion. I work 47+ hours a week and it kills me. Money is not what drives me. I'm hated by most peers for my success or failures, whichever trumps the two. I want to quit and leave it all. I would normally crash out at this point and go on a bender. For whatever reason I'm scared. Worried about letting someone down. I haven't felt these feelings in a very long time and I'm struggling to navigate it. Im at a very low point and it almost breaks me more days than not. I can't even talk to people in real life because it makes me want to break down crying. I feel a pit in my stomach and a void in my life I'm not sure how to fill. Thank you if you read this",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnpuys/i_dont_know/,[]
1jnqdz6,2025-03-31T05:32:46,"So, this is the time to ask this to everyone..","Hi, I’m just wondering if anyone has some tips in getting back into the habit of showering twice a week. I’m used to only showering once a week but I really need to do twice, but I’m overwhelmed by only one shower. And I don’t know what to do, at the weekends when I’m at my grandparents. It’s really easy for me to take a shower, but at my parents both of the bathrooms are gross and either have bugs or mould, please give me advice! ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnqdz6/so_this_is_the_time_to_ask_this_to_everyone/,[]
1jnqpew,2025-03-31T05:49:27,I don't know how to keep going,"I don't know how to keep going

I don't know how much longer I can keep doing this, I don't want to keep doing this. I don't want to live, I'm tired. 

I can't count the number of times I've woken up and my first thoughts are of ending things. I want peace, I want freedom, I want to stop feeling shitty all the time, I want to experience life as a better, more valuable man. I struggle to believe that's possible for me, I feel too far gone, too wrong, like life wasn't meant for me. 

I don't know why I never went to college, maybe I was too lazy, or too far gone with mental health. I was still able to get an okay job, with benefits and an average wage. Despite that, my upward mobility is likely non-existent, I'm going to be this forever, I'm never going to be impressive the way I would need to be to live the life I envision. I work with taxes, and regular see people paying more with a single cheque than I've ever accumulated over the course of my entire life, it's crushing. I failed financially. 

Not that my job is going to do me much good if the world implodes. Things just seem to get worse, life is unaffordable, populations are getting dumber and more violent and more hateful, social cohesion is dissolving, new wars are starting, the environment is screwed, scientists have noticed an asteroid. I failed to be lucky, to be born in a better time and place. 

I struggle socially. I have a few good friends, and I see them semi-regularly, but I'll lose them eventually and I doubt my ability to make new ones; I certainly don't have the energy or mental bandwidth. I've never been in a relationship, and as uncomfortable as it is to admit, sex is a big problem. I spent my childhood religious, learning to be deeply uncomfortable with the idea of intimacy done ""incorrectly"", and now that I've deconstructed I realize that it was never going to work for me anyway. I'm not attractive, not tall, not fit, not funny, not charismatic, not rich, not anything -

- what I am is a hypocrite, being attracted to and desperately wanting experiences with women who I find exceptionally attractive while I look the way I do, without the ability to offer any kind of attractiveness in return. Please don't misunderstand, I'm not a misogynist, I don't think I'm entitled to it. I dislike and vehemently disagree with incels; they spread and perpetuate wrong and harmful rhetoric. Unfortunately the term applies to me, definitionally. If I end up leaving life behind, I hope people don't remember me as being lumped in with them. I failed to be the person I wanted to be. 

I don't know why I'm posting this, I don't know what I want out of it. I guess if nothing else, I wanted to vent. I don't believe there's anything that can help me, not in a meaningful way, to hope for that would be hoping for the impossible. ""The universe is, and we are"". It's just not a universe made for me, and I want to leave it. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnqpew/i_dont_know_how_to_keep_going/,[]
1jnsl9y,2025-03-31T07:31:03,I'm too lonely,"I'm 17 years old as of recently. It just became spring break for me, and I have no one to hang out with. I feel like everyone I value does not even want to talk to me. I feel like I'm forcing people to talk to me everyday. I have two online friends I love so much but I am talking to them less and less everyday. (We used to be super close, I think they just have busy lives now.) I don't have anyone at school to talk to since I've had an argument with one of my only school friends. (They say they can't risk being friends with me, even though we get along fine or at least we have recently.) I feel like I'm always helping my friends and giving them advice, but they never do the same for me. I used to be so mean to people but I am so much better now and people don't seem to care. I can't make friends easily, I'm autistic and I have social anxiety. I've been dealing with this crippling loneliness and depression for years now. I feel so miserable everyday. I just need someone to listen and I don't have anyone to talk about it with. Whenever I act like I am doing bad no one knows what to do. Hardly anybody answers my messages (when I'm trying to have normal conversations) and I don't know how to deal with it. I love my friends too much to let go. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnsl9y/im_too_lonely/,[]
1jntfmu,2025-03-31T08:17:28,Looking for friends/support/real humans to connect with,"Hello this is me trying to reach out to create some type of support system. I have recently become homeless and in a brand new shelter in the Bronx. I have struggled with mental health since I was about 15 (27 now). I am not very familiar with this area and theres not many resources I can find for mental health, which brings me to virtually reach out. I am working with my case manager and working on my Independent Living Plan to get out of this shelter system as soon as possible. I am looking for ways to connect with the community/mental health support so I can be away from the shelter as much as possible except for sleep/shower/3 meals a day/meeting with my case manager. I am extremely alone and crave real human to human interactions. If anyone has advice I am not doing great mentally and would like to make friends, local to the bronx/nyc or not. I am frankly very alone and isolated and the pit in my chest seems to never go away. Thank you for reading. If anyone out there wants to talk, my inbox is open.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jntfmu/looking_for_friendssupportreal_humans_to_connect/,[]
1jnvj4f,2025-03-31T10:23:03,Im desperately wishing to be in a relationship while being surrounded by couples.,"I really want to be in a relationship and while I try and fail, my friends are already and have been in their own relationships with each other for a while. Some of them including my brother getting lucky and having to only date one person before being in a relationship. I try to be in a relationship yet the last few times it hasn’t gone well for me and yet to me it seems like my friends have had it easy? So why can’t I? I think I would be an excellent boyfriend, yet i dont have anyone to be a boyfriend for. I know that there’s a lot that goes into having a relationship and it takes time, but it didnt take time for much of my friends. I guess im just wishing I had what they had. Right now im getting depressed by it all again. Please be gentle. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnvj4f/im_desperately_wishing_to_be_in_a_relationship/,[]
1jnvqb2,2025-03-31T10:36:06,I’ve had a really intense and traumatic memory that I’ve repressed come up.,"I don’t know what to do. My psychologist is away for another month and I have no one to talk to. It’s making my sleep impossible, I’m crying and panicking at most moments. 

Even when driving the car today I just wanted to hit a tree ",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnvqb2/ive_had_a_really_intense_and_traumatic_memory/,[]
1jnvzzw,2025-03-31T10:53:59,is it this hard for everybody?,"i’m 21, healthy and have nothing really going against me in life. 
i have a close group of friends and family that love me. i’ve got no real financial strifes, no toxic relationships or traumatic experiences to speak of. i just despise myself so much. 

i’ve always been too in my head, i’ve thought about suicide pretty much since i first learned what it was. once again nothing bad has ever even happened to me, sometimes i think i made myself this way by being too self pitying and overly egotistical.

i’m a deeply anxious person, everything makes me anxious, i feel on the verge of a panic attack when faced with the most minuscule mishaps. i’ve always been this way, it’s exhausting. 

i dislike my personality. i’m lazy, self pitying and passive aggressive. 

my voice is too loud, i get bored easily and i don’t pay attention to things. im not a great listener or speaker. all my stories are boring and take too long. i get too drunk and high. i can be mean and inconsistent and irresponsible. im weird and awkward and sometimes when im in a group of people, i’ll say something and it feels like they can tell there’s something off with me. 

school was the only thing i was ever ‘good’ at, but im not even good at that anymore. im too lazy and i procrastinate too much and it feels like i blinked and everyone became smarter than me, and they’re all leaving me behind and everyone will realize how i was always nothing to being with.

i’ve never really been someone’s favorite person (maybe my parent’s but our relationship is complicated) and i just can’t help but twist that idea in my head like a wrung out towel. 
i understand why no one wants me, as i’ve said, i wouldn’t want myself either. but this makes me miserable. i know a relationship would fix nothing, but at least then id know that someone sees something in me that isn’t shit. 

i know some of you will say i should talk to therapist but i can’t do that. telling my family is too much. they don’t know im so unhappy and i can’t let them know. it would be too unfair and too much to explain and i don’t know what id say, “sorry guys! life is too much for me, i know everyone else can do it but i can’t! i’m too much of a crybaby!” 

i really don’t have think i have a mental illness. i’m not miserable all the time. i have fun and i love life at many points, it’s just that when things are bad it truly feels to me like the world is ending. i break down like a toddler throwing a tantrum over the tiniest thing. 

i’ve been good at not letting anyone else see these episodes but they’re slipping through the cracks more and more and i’m having one every other day. i’m tired of always feeling like everything is wrong. i hate that im not happy, i don’t know why i can’t stop being the way i am. 
",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnvzzw/is_it_this_hard_for_everybody/,[]
1jnw218,2025-03-31T10:57:32,I'm losing hope.,"I don't even know what to do anymore. I'm a 28 y/o f and I have struggled with severe depression for years. I am having the hardest time right now. I have constant dark thoughts of ending my life. I don't see a reason why I'm even here? I'm never going to be able to have a career that pays well because I don't have the skills, or the brains. I'm living with my parents still because I can't afford to live alone and I have no one to live with.   
The only thing keeping me here is them. my parents. But it's getting so bad that it's starting feel like thats not stopping me..   
I have been on medication before but all it does it make me gain weight, ruin my sex drive and make me even more depressed because of the weight gain. Every smile feels fake. every laugh feels forced. I'm crying myself to sleep every single night. I feel like a burden, I feel like a failure. I feel like I'm wasting my life so what the point? I've been keeping this to myself for so long, because I don't want to worry my family, and I don't want to burden my friends. 

I'm done. and that's scaring me. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnw218/im_losing_hope/,[]
1jny2wt,2025-03-31T13:29:28,I need help starting my thesis,"Heyyy, so I'm at the end of my college life, just need to finish my thesis. I have a theme and it's a good one, but I can't start.

I have severe depression, anxiety and ADHD. I just want to sleep all day. I can't afford therapy and watching TV shows and stupid YouTube videos is the only thing that keeps my mind off things I don't want to think about.

I need tips. Things that work/worked for you on similar situations, I need help to focus.

Before you decide to pull a 'my sister' I CANNOT leave this for later, I CANNOT ""focus on my mental health right now"", I don't have money for it. I'll have time and money to deal with that when I have my degree.

Please, I just need I little help starting.

Thank you in advance.",MentalHealthSupport,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jny2wt/i_need_help_starting_my_thesis/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkp8c7j', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""A friend of mine, which I suspect had/has ADHD used to literally tie himself to a chair while having the distractions confined to another room. I would suggest to start by forcing yourself to sit in front of a blank page even if you don't accomplish anything. Then have videos and tv shows as small rewards for the hours of sitting. Also start with the structure (chapters, paragraphs, etc.) then slowly polish as you gather more material and draw more connections."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:05:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jny2wt'}]"
1jnzxt8,2025-03-31T15:51:41,Please Listen,"I’m 20 yrs old (f), and I think I’m having a mental health crisis. I am very very sad and emotional all the time and the smallest things send me over the edge. Example: My boyfriend was at a house party and called me on the phone of another persons because his was dead, otp he said he’d check up on me through out the night. His phone was dead all night even though he says he was charging it but yet didn’t reach out off someone else’s phone. I have been dealing with some very harmful thoughts in the past few days, and immense feelings of loneliness. Anyways I completely lost it when he got home, and I don’t know why. It literally hurts to cry and I’m having bad thoughts about how things would be easier if all the other things just stopped happening. No the boyfriend thing isn’t a mental health issue I am aware, but with my mental state it threw me over the edge. I don’t understand why I am like this. I take SSRIs and have for a year. I’ve heard it all “you have to out yourself out there” and I’ve tried and tried and tried I’m just dealing with immense sadness and loneliness and I feel like nothing is going to get better. I don’t know what to do. ",MentalHealthSupport,5,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnzxt8/please_listen/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkt4yqm', 'author': 'Silly_Difficulty3607', 'body': 'People who haven’t been in your position won’t understand that “getting yourself out there” is the issue. For starters it’s going to be okay, it’s not uncommon to have moods like this, but if it gets in the way of your everyday life it’s time to see someone or open up. \n\nIf you’re finding it hard to function, or get through your day, even get out of bed it’s time to seek help. I’m not sure how long you’ve been feeling this way but if it continues for a while or gets worse please open up to someone or look into a therapist or psychiatrist. If you don’t want to do that you can try other methods such as journaling or meditation. \n\nYou are not alone and there is help out there, wishing you luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T10:17:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnzxt8'}, {'comment_id': 'mktjr8v', 'author': 'never-fracture', 'body': ""Want some insights into what could be going on? Look up Tim Fletcher. He's a psychologist who specializes in a specific group of mental health conditions. Maybe it could help you find the proper awareness of what could be the problem. It could help you find the right therapist as well. Ngl, this sounds like anxious codependent behavior. And that could be a symptom of a bigger issue. Some kind of trauma or personality disorder, perhaps. But I would get help from a professional and find out.\n\nI've dealt with identity and attachment issues all my life, and it's not fun. But the problem is usually something I do to myself. Either staying in destructive situations or making something good seem like it's a disaster. I can usually track that back to some unrealistic expectations and beliefs I have about myself or others. Unfortunately, like most other codependents, I attract simulator people."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:45:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnzxt8'}]"
1jo00u4,2025-03-31T15:57:44,How do i stop feeling like this ?,"So i was SA my an uncle when i was 6-7 years old. It completely destroyed my relationship with my mother she knew and did nothing about it. It completely destroyed a relationship i got into last year with an absolutely stunning person i just couldn’t trust no matter how hard i tried and so many other things popped up for the first time. Was a virgin till last year and immediately after losing it i started getting flashbacks and questioning everything. Felt like i was completely losing it at one point. I did go to therapy and still am but it was to late for the relationship. 

Anyway today my uncle posted a photo of him, his wife and two children and they look like that have it all and im over here drowning in self hate from the trauma he put me through and ultimately the reason for my ruined relationships. When i saw the photo i wanted to puke and then felt like i deserve whats happening to me. 

How do i stop this how can i move on ?",MentalHealthSupport,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jo00u4/how_do_i_stop_feeling_like_this/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpacuq', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""so sorry for you! all you are feeling is a normal response to the trauma you had and it takes time and work to get better. Of course you didn't deserve any of it. It's very good that you are doing therapy, please discuss with the therapist whether informing your aunt might help you getting closure or whether it's better to distance yourself from that part of the family. <3"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:15:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo00u4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkpdd4f', 'author': 'Several-Mongoose6372', 'body': 'Iv thought about telling her a lot but iv decided to just distance myself, i cant risk ruining their children’s lives', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T21:30:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mkpacuq'}]"
1jnbhuu,2025-03-30T18:07:10,Very concerned about sibling- gun in the home,"My sibling has CPTSD and is dealing with other health issues, but her mental health concerns me the most and she refuses to get help. We live together and her boyfriend (also lives here) and her got into a fight and she started to yell she was going to “blow her brains out” with the gun they have in the house. It was sitting on the counter and she grabbed it and kept threatening him that she was going to hurt herself because he upset her and they got into a fight. He was able to get the gun away from her and I tried to hold her back from him because she kept trying to grab it again. 

Truly horrific experience, and unfortunately it hasn’t been the first where she threatens she wants to harm herself with it. She has never actually attempted to point a gun at herself nor harm herself in anyway or anyone with a weapon, but I realize that doesn’t mean it will always be this way. They are both pro gun enthusiasts and have concealed to carry licenses, but given how she gets, the gun has been taken away by her boyfriend before and was given back because she’s not made threats in awhile. 

Parents are planning to take away the gun away if he hasn’t already locked it up, but part of me wants her to get baker acted. My family has threatened to do that but police have never been called for fear of escalating things further.  She has been in therapy before, but is focused on her other treatments she gets weekly for her other issues right now and I think is mostly scared to address her CPTSD.

I realize how dysfunctional this all is and how unhealthy. 

",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jnbhuu/very_concerned_about_sibling_gun_in_the_home/,[]
1jn88g5,2025-03-30T14:13:53,"I've never had so much weight on my shoulders, I just need to be heard","I write this post with tears streaming down my cheeks, I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders, there is so much pressure now I'm just breaking down every couple of hours. I'm at a point in my life where I have no choice but to take on so much commitment and succeed in every single one. 

I basically have had no life for several years and now I have to turn that no life into something prosperous as my well being and that of my partners seems to depend on it. It has all fallen to me, and I feel overwhelmed.

Ty for reading, just putting this into words helps me feel better.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn88g5/ive_never_had_so_much_weight_on_my_shoulders_i/,[]
1jn7h1i,2025-03-30T13:14:15,Need advice: How to safely end relationship with partner who threatens self-harm,"
I (21M) am in a long-distance relationship with a girlfriend who shows concerning behaviors:

* She self-harms (cutting, starving herself) when I don't respond due to exams or work
* She's sacrificing her education to talk to me (grades plummeting, skipping classes)
* She's extremely attached and has built elaborate future plans while I don't see a future
* I care about her but don't feel romantic love - I'm staying mainly because I fear what she'll do if I leave

I broke up with her once before due to similar issues and she tried to end herself already, and her mental state is bad, though she denies it and rejects and has rejected my offer to pay for her therapy. I know I need to end this, but I'm genuinely concerned she may attempt suicide if I do. Even if I alert her friends, I worry it won't be enough.

I’ve tried talking to her about my problems, not as much or as strongly as I should have, but this isn’t the place for relationship advice. 

How can I end things with her without her committing something bad or harming herself in any way? 


Apologies if I broke any rules or anything, I’m just worried and tired.
",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn7h1i/need_advice_how_to_safely_end_relationship_with/,[]
1jn4rxv,2025-03-30T09:59:59,PMDD and Mental Health,"I’ve went through some life events recently and somehow one of the incidents  triggered a really bad trauma i had during my university times where my anxiety was over the roof.

I’ve recently been having those symptoms again like nausea where i want to vomit every morning, rumination (I have OCD), feeling shitty, heaviness… it’s like depression and anxiety all over again. It does feel a million times worse + having s*cidal thoughts because of PMDD.

The odd thing is it’s so bad in the morning until late noon or evening, and at night i am more in control of my emotions like things are more calm and stable? Of course the next day, it repeats again. 

I know that this will pass but i find this experience really annoying, like I KNOW how my emotions are going to be and it really messes up my productivity level. I have adult responsibilities to do but i feel so mentally impaired throughout the day and my day is wasted and then i just get added stress at night because i have deadlines approaching and i only have “x” amount of time to do my work since i’m more stable.

Does anyone go through this, can someone explain what’s going on and how can i get through this phase?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn4rxv/pmdd_and_mental_health/,[]
1jn4o13,2025-03-30T09:53:06,Need help with aggression control,"Short and to the point backstory, 36M I am a recently (within last few years) separated seasoned combat veteran with several deployments. Dad was military, grew up with strict childhood (my sister would say violent *for me*, not her) but in my mind normal. Don’t let that become topic of conversation either please. Since I was a teenager I have struggled with a short temper, quick to fight anyone, aggressive at all costs. As I’ve grown older I’ve learned the whole time and place aspect and picking your battles. The military gave me task and purpose. Since separating, my aggression and irritability is getting harder and harder to control. I’m loud, I demand good order and discipline in my house but rarely ever get it. I get frustrated incredibly easy, and I feel like I’m back into my teenage self where I will do anything to let the beast out of the cage. I feel like it’s putting a strain on marriage and the last thing I want is my kids to have the childhood I did but no matter how hard I try I can’t break the cycle. I would like to state I have never hit my kids like I had gotten as a child, but I do yell quite frequently. I have tried therapy since leaving the army with 5 or 6 different therapists but I keep not going back. I hate talking about my feelings or problems, I grew up in a household and military where it was ingrained in me to keep that shit in and deal with it. I havent meshed with any therapist yet. Never been diagnosed with anything other than PTSD, anxiety and depression. I’m just looking for advice from real people, if you happen to be a doctor or professional even better. If all you’re gonna do is shit on me and call me a bad father, then gfy. I can’t imagine constant anger, a short fuse, or need for confrontation is good for my health. Thanks in advance for any response.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn4o13/need_help_with_aggression_control/,[]
1jn2hmr,2025-03-30T07:45:33,I think my dad is a pedo and I don’t know what to do,I truly do think he is especially with one of my cousins and I just don’t know what to do. Everyone loves him and I don’t think he’ll hurt her or do anything physical in anyway it’s just this really weird thing and there’s more but idk. I love him and so does my mom and everybody. I don’t know if I should tell someone or just keep it to myself until I think I have to tell someone. I just don’t know. I’ve thought of telling my sister who’s older and more mature but she’s just sensitive and I don’t want it to break her (they’re really close) he’s already depressed from other reasons and I just can’t do that I don’t know what to do.,MentalHealthSupport,0,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn2hmr/i_think_my_dad_is_a_pedo_and_i_dont_know_what_to/,[]
1jn265z,2025-03-30T07:28:12,Letting for of rapist 💔😭,"Hello. I need help. I am extremely depressive and I doubt myself. 

1 year and maybe a half ago, I was sleeping at my now ex boyfriend. We had been together for around 2 years, from age 16 to 18, in what i used to believe an ideal and healthy relationship that was heading towards marriage. At around 2am, I got woken up by him humping me in our pyjamas, which is was fine with. We were used to waking up at the same times while sleeping together, and usually we would do this stuff in a very sleepy way when we'd realize we were both awake. It was cozy and i never had an issue with it, in fact i enjoyed those moments where our bodies woke each other up. I went back to sleep. But then I wake up to him putting his dick in me. I remember it was the pain that woke me up. I remember that my panties were taken off. I remember in that moment, I was very shocked that he had just did that, but i also loved him a lot, and I knew that if I hung up on this, we'd have to end things, so I accepted him. I treated him with so much grace. I loved him. When I started moving, and ultimately giving in, that is when he removed it and switched side. He had stopped the sex when I had reacted to him. I was in shock. I immediately asked him ""what was that"" in a very gentle way, but was met with a ""I don't want to talk about it"". I loved him a lot so I let it go... in the morning when we woke up, I asked him kindly again, and was met with the same response. After that, I let go, and I honestly forgot, because I loved this guy. 

Now I understand that I was blinded. But I still am having a hard time believing myself. It took me a year to finally accept that I had been raped, and I still doubt myself. A few months ago, I was at my breaking point. I wanted to speak to a social worker or a psychologist. I was feeling myself going in psychosis, and I'm sober always. I would get waves of extreme brain numbness, felt brain dead, and would scream and cry in intervals for what felt like an hour. I could not stop myself from this. I was going crazy. I decided I needed to talk to a professional, and that, I finally had to admit to his parents what he had done, because I wanted them to understand that it was having serious repercussions on my health. I told them that i was looking for an empathetic discussion with him, sincere apologies, and i BELIEVED in him; i believed he could admit it and have aniugh confidence in himself to own up. I said that I did NOT want to report him, because I BELIEVED in him and his capacity to REFLECT. In response, he texted me and started accusing me of blackmailing him. I did not even know what that was. I could not believe it. He started saying that his whole family dislikes me, and said that his family was going to sue me for keep reaching out to them by text about the treatment he had for me.

He said in his defense that he HAD prepared me with foreplay, which is impossible, as first of all, i was sleeping, and Secondly, if he had cared about me in all of this, it would not have happened on my left side because I had already told him that sex on that side was painful. He also argued in HIS WORDS ""why should it matter (him raping me) if we had sex everyday anyway?"", which is 1) a lie, and 2) a complete disregard to my regards that sex should be a precious moment and not just a mundane thing, and 3) fucked to say that to the girl that devoted herself fully to you for well ever 3 years and told you every single day how much she loved you. 

To this day, he does not believe that he raped me.
To this day, he has NEVER sincerely apologized, but only to get his peace when I tried to discuss with him.

His parents to this day are closing their eyes to what happened in my sleep, and are also closing their eyes to their son's misogynistic tendencies, such as pointing out things he disliked about my body (ex: my boobs, my apparently ""big"" forehead, my nose, etc.), saying that ""I let myself get done anything""  when he was being sexual, connotating that I'm a slut, saying that he only chose me in highschool because there was no other option... To give context, I would never ever comment negatively on his appearance, nor would I call or connotate anything negative, in other words, try to dim his light. This mean behaviour was unique to him and was NOT the dynamic of the relationship. In addition, this person would look at my bank information KNOWING I was not allowing him, he physically was aggressive to me from the beginning, and he was extremely selfish in the relationship (ex: no calls, no happy birthdays, no presenting to the family, no empowering words, no love letters, no consideration point blank).

Am i crazy? Can people please please please read this and tell me what I need to hear, please ? I still love him. I still cannot believe it. I am in shock that this love connection that will have taken MY WHOLE ADOLESCENCE has ended this way, and that I was completely blinded. I still love him, and I cry everynight at the mind torture this has caused me. It pains me to think that this guy, the one i would literally give my organs to, is walking this earth not caring about the impacts of actions on me. At the same time, this person is a person I love a lot. I watched him grow, from the age of 13. I am not 19. I remember he would win science projects, and I remember him saying he wished to be an aerospace engineer. Well now he is an engineering student. I unfortunately got to miss his first day because of this tragedy. 💔 like I said, I thought  I was getting married to him. Everynight, I still hug my pillow dreaming it was him, even after all of this. 💔 I would never want to report him and ruin his future. Anyway, I wouldn't even win, because his family have lawyers, and his family wants to sue me😭💔... the family I loved so much.... It feels like they all want me dead for speaking up....😭💔

Please somebody tell me that I'm not crazy dramatic 💔",MentalHealthSupport,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jn265z/letting_for_of_rapist/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkoerb9', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""Sorry for your story. It looks like you feel for a pretty insensitive and abusive jerk. If I were you I would be grateful every day for the good riddance. Maybe you should consider therapy and looking specifically at your attachment style as it's not healthy to be hung up over someone that mistreated you and didn't really loved or even appreciated what he got. Moreover you can be at risk of reproducing the same dynamics in your new romantic relationships.  \nPlease take care."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:25:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn265z'}, {'comment_id': 'mkok38p', 'author': 'Intelligent-Bug-4555', 'body': 'Thank you ❤️ you have no clue how helpful this is 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:57:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoerb9'}]"
1jmu3ig,2025-03-30T00:57:13,"Please help, I’m depressed","Hi,

I’ve been in a depressive state for days now and I don’t know how to get out of it. Every day I tell myself that I’m going to do all these different things that need to get done but then I can never build up the motivation to do them. I just lay in bed half the day and then feel depressed about how unmotivated and sad I am. I feel like I’m wasting my life away and things are just piling up around me. Sometimes I ask myself “what’s the point anymore, you’re just a failure.” Please can someone help me feel better or give me advice on how to get out of this? There are things I need to get done but I just feel like curling up and sobbing right now. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmu3ig/please_help_im_depressed/,[]
1jmt71g,2025-03-30T00:15:58,Understimulated,I don’t know what to do. I feel understimulated ALL the time. No matter what I do. It’s the most frustrating feeling. I end up feeling depressed and crazy like I want to pull out my hair. I used to have hobbies. I used to hyper fixate on them often but ever since I got on bipolar meds everything changed. It made me lazy. I wasn’t interested in my hobbies anymore. I got burnt out of them and if I try to do any of them I’ll only feel more frustrated because it’s not something I actually want to do. I stopped taking the meds but I still feel the same. I don’t get manic episodes anymore. I’m not interested in anything. I haven’t felt my long depression episodes. Maybe only once a week when I can’t handle the boredom anymore. What should I do? ,MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmt71g/understimulated/,[]
1jmsv20,2025-03-30T00:00:49,Help Brighten My Uncle’s Day – His Joy Is Gaming,"Hey everyone, I’d really appreciate it if you could spare a moment to watch this video from my young uncle. He lives with an intellectual disability and some mental health challenges, but gaming brings him immense joy and boosts his confidence. He lights up whenever someone watches or leaves a kind comment. Your support, even in the smallest way, would mean the world to him and to me. Thank you for helping lift his spirits.

https://youtu.be/Ipqua89E8Us?si=6NSEoxnL5Rxp0g67",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmsv20/help_brighten_my_uncles_day_his_joy_is_gaming/,[]
1jmsi5h,2025-03-29T23:45:08,Bad timing or bad luck,"Recently got reacquainted with an old college friend online. He found me and reached out and we started talking again and turns out we both needed emotional support as we both were going thru things in our lives. We developed feelings for each other and talked about a possible future until he got diagnosed with blood cancer. He’s currently in treatment and he recently told me his prognosis is not good for developing other types of cancers even if he beats this cancer. He also said he doesn’t want a future with anyone including me just to end up leaving (dying) them one day. I told him he’s not at that point yet and he shouldn’t talk about it but I know hard conversations are important. My problem is I am completely in love with him and I am willing to have a future with him even if it means he leaves me because we all eventually leave. Am I being selfish? How can I move past this if he doesn’t want a future? I am so broken because I feel like I finally found someone that truly completes me, not to be cliche. And now this, my world is falling apart. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmsi5h/bad_timing_or_bad_luck/,[]
1jms4ga,2025-03-29T23:28:12,Am I having a nervous breakdown?,"So my mental health is spiraling downward for a while now.
My whole life since birth is one struggle after another.
I suffered a burnout in December of 24, I'm being laid off, I can't pay bills.
Over the last 2-3 months I got more and more overwhelmed with everything to the point of complete paralysis. My Adhd meds don't help anymore. Everything is too much even leaving the house. I'm in survival mode since forever. I jump at the smallest noise, muscles always tense. Therpy did very little.

Last week health and relationship issues got added, which brings me to the question in the title.
I had a crying fit yesterday. Felt exhausted after, but otherwise ok. Today I woke up and felt completely drained and despair. Tried to force myself to do a minor 2 minute chore. Couldn't do it, then I spilled my energy drink and had a moment of pure rage over it, threw the can across the room (I was alone) and then sat down on the bed and started hysterically crying. Everything came crashing down like a tidalwave, all the stress, all the fear, all the things I should do but put off for months now because no tips for getting stuff done works, just everything. I sat there crying and trembling and sobing ""I can't do this anymore"" on repeat for over two hours.
Now I sit here and feel weird, numb, like everything went grey, like I watch the world from outer space 

So is this a nervous breakdown? Or am I loosing my mind?
What do I do now? I'm not sucidal, I don't have the energy to call anyone or do anything.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jms4ga/am_i_having_a_nervous_breakdown/,[]
1jmrp3r,2025-03-29T23:09:24,[vent/traumadump] Afraid I won’t be well enough to go back to college in August for the fall semester,"I (21m) have been at my college for 4 semesters now. The first 3 were really hard as I dealt with the transition from an adolescence that was really sheltered and atypical and during which I transitioned off from multiple simultaneous medications on which I’d been for years that had been hurting, not helping me, which I wasn’t able to fully quit until my 3rd semester. I was suffering so much there were multiple cold turkey attempts in my earlier semesters about which my family would always find out, which I think just scrambled my brain even more but I was so desperate to not feel the way they made me feel, although they finally accepted me not being on them. 

In the 4th semester everything seemed to be turning around, I finally made this one friend (who’s really cool) and I also began talking to this girl who while ostensibly another friend I actually had mad feelings for. What’s important is that because of my sheltered, overmedicated experience growing up, this was my first real crush/object of my romantic feelings with which I was interacting, despite me being in college. However it wasn’t ok for me keep interacting with her and presenting myself as a friend because she had a partner, granted I didn’t find out about him until 3 months of talking to her, however I could have just made an effort to find out by looking at her Instagram or something and I didn’t cause she was so cool (doing like fashion and photo shoots and stuff) it was too overwhelming because it made me feel so small. 

But the combination of the happy feelings from my new friendship and getting the attention of the girl I shouldn’t have been talking to basically gave me so much hope for the first time, I got into shape and lost a massive amount of weight which was super validating and felt really good (may have gone well into ED territory sadly, going from a BMI of around 29 to 20 in 4 months), got into running which has become a huge passion for me, actually consumed media sometimes (oftentimes I won’t like watch movies, tv, play games etc. cause I had this half-conscious feeling like it was meant for “normal humans”, not me, and that I was doing something “wrong” by engaging with it, I still get a very similar feeling with social media like Insta, Snapchat, TikTok, even YouTube which makes them super stressful and overwhelming to use thus putting me at odds with many members of my generation who love to waste time on that kind of stuff, I honestly wish I could without that shameful feeling). And more then anything all of these just made me feel for the first time like I COULD catch up with all these cool college students around me developmentally, even in spite of my past of being super emotionally volatile (before my meds just made me numb for years, and also having so much anxiety, depression, asd1. 

With the wrong meds fading from my mind and life seeming like it was moving in the right direction, my emotions began to become unlocked too for the first time in a very very long time. All of a sudden in my 4th semester of college I had all of these crazy new impulses and feelings, like “I wanna look good and have a cool aesthetic”, “I wanna laugh and make memories with friends who make me feel good”, “I really cuddle and kiss a girl like my crush”, and so on and so forth, I’d also find myself super moved by media like a kiss scene in a movie or something was so beautiful. I also begun to think of myself during this era as rather psychologically effeminate/androgynous, which fortunately I don’t see anything wrong with and in fact embrace as a cool part of myself. 

It’s worth mentioning one issue, my roommate during this period (we shared a tiny one room dorm) was really disrespectful of me, he was both super negative and nasty which just hurt my soul to be near and also would play League until at least like 2am every night being super loud, which made it difficult for me to sleep and relax. And became of my fragile, blooming state I was too intimidated and overwhelmed to confront him in any way so I just lived in this environment that didn’t feel safe for me. Which meant that during this emotional awakening I didn’t have any kind of home base. 

The thing with waking up emotionally is that the more I woke up the more in contact I felt with past traumas, this all culminated in April 2024 when I went to this campus event at my college and I processed fully for the first time all these groups of cool college students around me just hanging out with friends, I could everyone was full of memories, so I had a total breakdown and just stared at a wall for a few hours. Because now that my brain had lowered all of the dissociative defense mechanisms I could see for the first time since being a kid when I’d learned to disassociate and went on meds what I’d been missing over the course of my life. After that mental break I’m  ashamed to admit I stopped going into my room cause I was so anxious around my roommate (basically living out of my residence halls 2nd floor student lounge for 1 remaining month of the semester) I basically just walked around campus all day (I have a running watch and it says during this era I had like 20k-30k steps daily) I’d sporadically go to class enough that at the end of the semester I didn’t fail anything but other than I was kind of in this weird super dysregulated almost sedated semi-fugue state. I also gorged myself on food constantly during this month, half to feel something and half as a sort of subconscious self punishment, I gained back quite a bit of the weight I lost very quickly :/. I also stopped running during this time, which had been propping up my mental health a lot. 

What’s key is that right after my aforementioned mental breakdown I reached out to my crush whose attention meant more than anything in the world to me. I asked her if she could be someone I could talk to about how I felt mentally (about my newly rediscovered feelings of loneliness). Now almost a year later I do understand that was a really kind of inappropriate awkward position I was putting her in. However while this isn’t an excuse at my time my brain was being totally flooded with all of these rediscovered impulses for human connection and love, including platonic love, that I couldn’t think straight. At the time all I could think was that I was proud of myself for realizing for the first time that it’s ok to lean on others, and I was so blinded by that pride that I didn’t stop to ask if I was reaching out to the right person.

Anyways what happened was that she didn’t even open that text for 2 weeks (she was growing distant as she was catching on to my feelings for her, again on the basis of which it wasn’t right for me to be talking to her) and once she did open it she apologized for talking a while and said she would be a person I could talk to, but then she ghosted me, which put me in this emotional limbo which worsened my detonating mental state, however I’d like to reiterate it was not fair for me to make her my emotional home, even if she was the first person I fell for.

After leaving at the end of the semester and going back home I basically barely moved out of my bed for a couple of months, while also still being super emotionally volatile at the same time. What’s important is that I didn’t really want to get better, cause I was so happy that my emotions had reactivated, even when was in anguish I liked it cause I didn’t feel numb anymore. And I was in anguish over immature I felt, it seemed like everyone my age in college had lived lives full of memories and growth, meanwhile I’d been hella sheltered and couldn’t even DRIVE at 20. And my crush also became the symbol so to speak of being human, “unlike me”, or so it felt.

Eventually because I was still stuck on this girl I did something EXTREMELY EVIL FOR WHICH I INVITE JUDGEMENT, I texted her on a burner number with a photo of a cut on my arm and said that if you don’t get back to me I’ll keep hurting myself. She responded and said that this was way too much for her and that the things I was saying were extremely concerning. Ultimately after I stabilized a little I explained that I had had feelings for her and should not have talked to her and that the whirlwind of emotions sent me into a mental breakdown, she responded with astonishing grace, and we both peacefully agreed to longer interact. 

For the second half of the summer I found within myself a newfound hope. I got back into running which helped a lot, I got back into eating patterns and lost again the weight I regained, I finally began practicing how to drive, although I never got my license cause there wasn’t enough time from when I got my adult permit to when I went back to school. I felt really hopeful.

And for the first 2 weeks everything seemed to be going better than ever, I didn’t have a terrible roommate, I hung out with my aforementioned cool friend from the previous semester (not the girl with whom I was now no contact), I made new friends at my colleges running club and went to live music with them once which was awesome, I also tried seeing the college therapist which I found way more helpful than I expected. However a similar story unfolded, where my emotional reawakening also caused me to come back into contact with my feelings of being a perpetually immature freak, and I ended up overburdening my friend temporarily by treating him like a therapist.

Realizing that I was heading in a similar direction, I decided that I would take that academic year off to do intense mental health work. This took a lot of convincing my family cause I don’t feel comfortable being emotionally open with them, but a month after the beginning of my 5th semester I left college, and a month after that I went to residential treatment. It’s worth mentioning, the month I spent at home between leaving college and going to residential was one of the worst of my life mental health wise, but my family insisted on using a consultant to find the best treatment for me which made the whole process take that long.

I was at residential for 3 months (I do recognize that I was very fortunate to get that opportunity) but idk how good being in a lockdown environment was for me. I think it was good socially but while I really I did really enjoy some of my connections there the style of therapy didn’t really do anything to address my core insecurity of feeling somehow “lesser”/“less developed” then everyone else my age. It seemed way more so behavioral focused. And honestly it was really stressful and scary being there especially at first

After residential I went straight to a transitional program (again, I recognize I’m blessed to have this opportunity) and I’ve now been here for 2 months. I’ve been bouncing back and forth between emotional states and haven’t been stable enough to get a job even though I’m expected to, having spent a lot of time in bed. One big development, I finally am open to the idea of meds again, and 2 weeks ago I begun a mood stabilizer (Lamictal) which I feel really good about in terms of subtle effects and family members’ experiences. However I don’t feel like I’m on the path to healing from my deep rooted feeling of inferiority that impedes my ability to function.

I’m honestly so afraid that even restating (what I believe to be) the right meds this time, my brain won’t let my emotions come out like they did again, just with more regulation. That I’ll involuntarily descend into disassociation.

And that I won’t be able to go back to college in August, cause that’s where I still feel like I can learn to be a member of society, and where I can LIVE with my peers.

I wish my life had gone normally. I want to fit in.

Idk I just wanna be virtually held for a bit 🫂",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmrp3r/venttraumadump_afraid_i_wont_be_well_enough_to_go/,[]
1jmq1wj,2025-03-29T21:56:38,I feel empty; issues with parents.,"Hello everyone. I (23F, Indian) have been skeptical for a long time about posting on reddit. But answering someone else's reddit post made me feel much more confident. 
So here is the thing. I haven't been excellent in academics, but managed to carve out an above average academic profile for myself. I wish to be a police officer in future. There are many reasons behind that- none of them are the usual types I heard or saw online. And there a lot more things I feel aren't normal in my life. I have never been involved in a romantic relationship with anyone in my life. I did have close friends- until my best friend ghosted me recently; it is after this that I started getting insecure about my other friendships too. 
I have had issues with my mother a long time back and that made me relocate to a different faraway city to get away from all that stuff. I thought relocating to a new place might make me closer to her- this was 2 years ago. Now I realize that it has made me farther from my father and brother also.
In the past, due to my relation with her, I have been diagnosed with depression. Apart from that I've been diagnosed with OCD too- if I get onto something, I cannot leave it easily and go crazy about it. Insomnia is another silver lining.
I've been observing for the past 2.5 years that my issues aren't taken very seriously at home. I used to be this confident and very vocal person in my childhood, but all this took a hit sometime in between- when I can't remember. I started noticing it since the last 2.5 years. It became worse once I realized that my parents too weren't being very supportive of this. For example, I had an issue with a guy whistling at me on the road and told this to my father,he said take another road- one thing to be noted here is that that road is very near to my home and we knew everyone in that area, my parents otherwise boast of saying we know everyone here and I know that is true.

I had drivers misbehaving with me 2 years back- and both of them dismissed it. I don't want to get into details as that makes me feel very traumatized again. I came here; went home occasionally in between; things have been difficult with my mom even then; she used to get into fights with me not less than 1 day of me going home. I used to feel bad everytime because  my friends here were very much happy with their homes and parents while I had these issues with my mom..  I restricted going to home last year for this only citing more more at college and honestly I felt much better. 
Recently when I went home, the driver again misbehaved with me. He's a personal driver. He used to take narrow roads and gullies with potholes instead of the main road only when I was in the car. I rarely took car, but this time, I didn't have much of a choice as my mom gaslighted me into taking it, otherwise my dad would be too exhausted to take me in the evening after office. Another issues I had was him walking into the house whenever he wanted- I felt very uncomfortable in my own house.
My ocd made things worse for me as I wanted things around me to be perfect. I raised these issues and the following were the responses I got- I was told  to stay in my room and not come to the hall; I was told not to take the car.
I shut my mouth after that counting the days in which I'll be back at my college in a different city.

The saturation point came when a male attendant touched me inappropriately when no one was around at the time when I was least expecting it. I got so scared to even raise the issue, given the dynamic at home. But was disturbed nevertheless- I got so shocked and even doubted if it was my mistake and how I could have avoided it or done it differently. I ended up confiding to my father 2 days later. And he said we will speak to the dentist towards the end - it has become too diluted apparently.

After around 3 to 4 weeks, recently, I broke up over phone to my mom(it becomes easier for me to tell things like this to them when I'm in a different city; I just hang up the phone citing bad connection whenever I have a difficulty facing them). She blamed me in return for sitting in the reception area of the dentist with no one around. This made me feel very bad and was the final straw. And a lot more happened which led me to have the worst headache of my life which lasted for a very long time- almost 12 to 15 hours. Insomnia made it difficult for me to sleep.
I decided to take situation into my hand and call the dentist directly to complain about the incident that happened. Many things happened and my dad went and spoke to the dentist there.

I have decided to cut down on my emotional connection with them. I decided to restrict restrict visits. I am still dependant on them financially- I can't help it as my goal requires me to prepare completely and not take up other activities. 
One thing to tell here is that I love my dad a lot. Or maybe he's the only one I love the most. It doesn't hurt me anymore, or at least the way it used to once when my mom does anything hurtful to me; but when it's my dad, I'll be completely broken. It becomes very difficult for me to get back to normal again. And maybe they also know that.

 This is the only weight that weighs me down. They know they hurt me, but still continue doing that no matter what. This is only my situation. All my friends have very good relations with their parents. I'm happy for them. I just want to have the same.

They were very good to me in my childhood I don't know when they started leaving me in this turmoil. It just becomes difficult now- taking me to the top, only to drop me down.

I'm much happy after I took this decision of a healthy distance from them. Also, I did open up, partially to a few friends. I don't want therapy- I can't open up confidently to outsiders and I honestly don't have the money to afford it.  I did go to a family psychiatrist in the past- it didn't help much. 
My sharing with  friends too had mixed outcomes- some did give me their valid perspectives; some weren't very helpful- I was advised to find a boyfriend. Duh! 

As of now, I feel I'll do whatever I want to, get the job I love and then go back home with some power or authority to change the external factors and make it better for everyone. I'll never let anyone else feel the same in the home I prepare in future for myself. 
I have lost trust in all relations as of now. I do love my parents- I love my dad a bit more maybe, but that's okay. I'm sick of doing calculated talks with them; but honestly they havent left me with much choice here. I also started raising my voice with them whenever I feel they are going in the same track, where I may be hurt due to  their words. 

Despite all this however, I don't feel very good. I need to find a plan for preparation after this. Maybe this wntire weight due to the situation has made me more courageous to face other situations which are otherwise very challenging.

Also, I like the place I'm in currently as no one has misbehaved with me here. And maybe because of the masters course I'm doing here, I am looked upon with respect 

Am I on the right path? What could I have done better or what can I do better?

Any suggestions or thoughts or comments?

Helpful encouraging lines will also help. 

I'm here on the advice of Grok ai BTW.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmq1wj/i_feel_empty_issues_with_parents/,[]
1jmk1er,2025-03-29T16:45:33,Friend spiraling into paranoia?,"*\[This has become a long post <sigh>. But I am really stressing out here, and would appreciate if you folks can give it a go, and share some advice/ insights. Thanks in advance.\]*

I am 35M, based in Bangalore, India. I have a college friend, \~30F, whom this post is about – let’s call her Nikita. We were in college together during our master’s degree, and graduated in 2018. While I and her have never been particularly close friends, we were in a common friends’ group. All of us hung out together all the time, went on many trips, and even though it’s been 7 years since graduation, we’ve managed to stay in touch and meet up every now and then.

I won’t go into the smaller details, but Nikita has always seemed just a little bit… jittery, fickle… like she’s trying a bit too hard, but trying not to show… a bit difficult to explain without examples, I guess, but let’s not go into it. Suffice to say that this impression was formed from isolated ‘incidents’, well spread out. It’s just like each of us in our group has our own little confusing ‘Nikita stories’ that we would mostly just laugh about.

Back in college, I interned in a certain company, under a guy named Arjun. My internship turned into a placement offer, and I worked in that company for 4 years, although in a completely different team – never talked to Arjun again after the internship (weird, I know, but I am a big introvert). Incidentally, a few years after graduating, Nikita went on to work in the same company, and Arjun was her manager. Worked there a couple of years, then left. Came back from Delhi to Bangalore (where her family is located), took a few months’ break, then joined another company in Mumbai. Worked there for a few months’ and then left that as well, and back to Bangalore – taking a break, figuring out what’s next.

That’s the background. Long, sorry. Now, couple of months’ back, we met at a common friend’s party. I was there with my wife, who is also from the same college, was in the same friend’s group, and was actually Nikita’s room partner for a while – they’re not particularly close though. Whenever we are planning something together, Nikita contacts me rather than my wife. Anyhow, all three of us talked about jobs in general, and we gave her our opinions on what she might want to do next. Very generic conversation. Later we dropped her home in our car, continuing in the same vein. One thing that later became important was – at some point, we talked about managers sometimes saying weird things, and I casually said, “But Arjun would have never said something like that, right? I remember him being very polished,” and she said yes. That’s it, we dropped her, everything was fine, we went home.

Next day, I woke up to some late-night WhatsApp messages from her. Her tone was accusatory, and she asked why I and my wife were manipulating her into going into startups, and what exactly had I discussed with Arjun. This was completely out of the blue for me, and I responded as such. She told me not to play games, saying she knows Arjun is trying to manipulate her, directly as well as through others. I reassured her we were not doing anything like this, and repeatedly asked if she is okay. Alarm bells were already going on in my head, because this seemed like a very long, and very weird leap of logic. After a few messages back and forth, she apologized, saying there’s been a “ton of shitty things” going on over the last few years, and she thought this was the same. I asked if she wanted to talk. She said no, but then later in the day asked if she could come over to talk to me and my wife. We were out that day, but asked her to come over the next day, but it never happened. I told the whole thing to my wife, but she didn’t become particularly concerned, just saying that Nikita can be a bit strange sometimes.

I decided to keep checking in on her though, in the hope of getting her to talk about what’s going on, and eventually convincing her to see a therapist. We had a couple of short WhatsApp exchanges, spaced 7-10 days apart, where I asked her how she was, reminded her that we’re here to talk, and suggested that even if she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing with me in particular, she should share with *someone* – a friend, family, therapist. Both these conversations were cordial, friendly. After the last one, she even got some desserts delivered to me and my wife.

A few days later, when I WhatsApped her again, the message didn’t get delivered, and long story short, I realized that I had been blocked. I waited a couple of days, then tried to call her – no answer. Waited a couple of days then SMSed her, not even sure if it would get delivered. Received a message back saying she’s in no mood for friendly banter, and will reach out once things are better. I message her reiterating that neither me nor my wife will ever do anything to hurt her, that she should talk to *someone*, and that I’m here to talk/help if she wants. She says Ok.

Now, there’s a common friend #2 (CF#3) who’s getting married, and the group is making plans to attend. We create a WhatsApp group, and start adding people who are planning to join. Another CF#3 mentions Nikita won’t be joining. A different CF#4 calls Nikita up to ask why, and she literally shouts at him to stop colluding with me to manipulate her. He has no idea about any of this, and is taken aback, tries to reason with her, but she shuts him down. He then calls me and tells me about it, and I tell him what I know. Both of us are concerned, and we call up CF#3. CF#3 was in Mumbai when Nikita was there, and while she is conflicted about sharing things Nikita told her in confidence, she is concerned too, and does end up disclosing some stuff.

Nikita has a twin sister, and an elder brother. Nikita told CF#3 that the older brother is a patriarchal, male chauvinist type asshole who believes women are inferior to men, should stay at home to serve, and has said repeatedly that ‘allowing’ Nikita to pursue higher education was a mistake. The parents are mild, and tend to fall in line behind the aggressive brother. Per Nikita, since childhood, he has been sabotaging her and her sister’s success, in a behind-the-scenes kind of way (no further details). And lately, Nikita has been seeing the same pattern in her professional life. Per her, she had to leave companies A and B because someone somehow reached out to her managers and maligned her character (no further details). She feels that she is being spied on – that her devices might be hacked into, and someone might be sending things from her email, then deleting them off. To the extent that when she had this conversation with CF#3, it was out in a park, and she had left her phone at home. But she could not show CF#3 any evidence, because that would be “going against her family”. In Mumbai, she briefly dated a guy, but became convinced that he was coming over to her house behind her back; got cameras installed, didn’t find anything.

I am not trained in psychology or anything. But after that first initial weird WhatsApp exchange itself, the first thought that had come to my mind was she might be verging on a mental disorder. The word that appeared in my mind was schizophrenia, but on reading up a bit more, it seems to me more Paranoid Personality Disorder than schizophrenia. To re-emphasize though – I have no formal knowledge of these disorders, only what I could quickly gather from the internet. But this last conversation convinces me that something is wrong. To add to the complications, it turns out that when she left for Mumbai from Bangalore, she did not even tell her family she was leaving. Currently, she’s not living with her parents, but with her sister (for my non-Indian friends – this is not as obvious a choice in India as it is in Western countries), and I now doubt if she’s even told her family she’s back in Bangalore? Another detail: back in 2021, she was set to get married, but eventually the marriage was called off – maybe because Nikita was not able to trust the guy enough.

Sidetracking just a little bit to talk about myself. I think I am a fairly empathetic person. While I am not very social, and a bit too “proper” or even “diplomatic”, my friends and family often divulge their problems with me; and I feel I am able to offer them emotional comfort at least. I am bad at keeping in touch though.

Against all of this backdrop, now, what do I do?

While I have not been super close with Nikita, I do have a soft spot for her. As in, even before all this, I hoped she would find whatever she was looking for, that she could be happy. The thought of her struggling with whatever this is, is deeply disturbing for me. The more I read about PPD, the scarier and sadder it sounds. I imagine her sitting in her apartment, unsettled by everything that she perceives as threats. And what makes me want to do something the most, is the fact that I don’t know if anyone else is there for her right now or not. Had there been a husband, or her family, or even a boyfriend in the picture, I might not have felt about it so strongly. But as things are, it seems almost like my responsibility to try to do something.

Since I was not yet blocked on SMS, couple of days back I sent her a long, heartfelt text saying clearly that we – me, my wife, CF#4 – all care for her, and are concerned for her. While we respect her space, we think whatever is troubling her is becoming more serious – and as her friends, it should be our right as well as responsibility to help her. Practically begged her to trust us. She said “All that’s fine, but right now I need my space. Please do not think of it as rude”, and blocked me.

Now, I have no way of contacting her. I know the building she lives in, but not the exact apartment. None of us have contacts to her sister or parents. Next weekend, incidentally CF#4 is here in Bangalore as well. It seems like a desperate measure, but I am half in the mind to just turn up at her place with CF#4. I am aware that this can backfire completely. But I can’t just leave her be. Things seem to be unravelling quickly.

Am I overthinking? Am I panicking too much? What the hell do I do?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmk1er/friend_spiraling_into_paranoia/,[]
1jmjxrt,2025-03-29T16:38:43,My friend is depressed and suicidal and is refusing to seek professional help - How do I get through to them? Is it even possible?,"I have had this friend since we were preteens, and at this point I'm so lost on how to talk to them or what to even do to help them I'm close to throwing in the towel. I've started feeling rather resentful towards them which I feel horrible for, but I just have no idea what else to do or what to say to them that might make a difference. So I've come here hoping that maybe someone has some input on this, or that I'm just approaching things from the wrong angle. Really any help at all would be super appreciated - I care for them a lot and I want to help them.

  
For some context: This friend has always been timid and socially awkward, but has gotten worse and worse over time - they can basically not talk to strangers at all. They are morbidly obese and clearly hate their weight, being incredibly self-deprecating about 'how fat they are', but then don't try to do anything to address the issue / come up with excuses on why they can't do the things people suggest they could try. They are like this in most areas of their life, which I understand is probably due to their depression, but it does mean that my main strategy of helping people - offering advice and support - just doesn't work with them.

  
They are very open about the fact that I'm the only friend they have and have essentially changed life plans in order to not move to a different country for their education (as was their original plan) just so they can stay with their only friend more. They are also very openly self-deprecating in their language around me, no matter what I say, and they have self-harmed / attempted suicide a few times before.

  
I hang out with them every week, and I message them semi-regularly to see if they want to play any games or something, but they usually don't reply to said messages. Being physically there for them more often than that would not be possible without me putting other areas of my life on hold, as they live a while away and I'm busy with my own life - plus, and I admit I am very ashamed of this, but I don't think I could handle being their emotional support person every day. My own mental health isn't that great either, and I'm hesitant to add even more strain onto it.

  
They are not currently seeing a therapist and have brushed off the idea when suggested to them. They used to take antidepressants but I believe they stopped a while ago. I have tried offering them we could do things together more (they're usually too busy), we could do exercise together from time to time (saying that I actually need an accountability buddy myself, which is true!), we could go grocery shopping together from time to time to hang out, but none of those things have worked. I'm their friend, I include them in things I do with other friends of mine (though what we can do with them around is limited due to their weight), I have offered advice on how they could try to handle problems they're having, I have offered to study with them when they were struggling in a subject I'm good at. None of this has worked - outside of hanging out with me from time to time, everything else I've tried has been rejected.

  
I'm sorry this got so long. People I've asked about this have told me to just let them be - you can't help them if they don't want to help themselves - but I know that depression is a bitch and they're not in a position to be helping themselves right now. I just hope that there is still something I could do to help them have a positive impact on their lives, as the way things are going right now, they are probably not even going to be able to find a job. 

  
Thanks so much for reading, and any input at all would be highly appreciated.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmjxrt/my_friend_is_depressed_and_suicidal_and_is/,[]
1jm4wzi,2025-03-29T02:04:20,No News is Good News,"I'm cracking under the pressure. Tiny things are tipping me over to being emotional. I'm on my monthly, but this week just has hit me so freaking hard. I'm trying to recover. I feel lonely and bored. I want to find my happiness again, but nothing ever lines up. 

At work, I'm always the exception as someone has to cover the front desk. So I have to wait to get my break until my coworker can come. And she's not doing it on purpose, she's stuck in a work call. But I'm waiting. I could go get someone else, but no one really wants the front desk and I guess I'm just rather wait for her than get questioned by those outside of my department. When there's a schedule change, it's ""you have to agree with her on what days you can take off."" And I just feel like I'm always asking for favors, but no one is ever asking me for favors. So I end up feeling like a begger. They are supposed to be changing things around but the manager hasn't looked into into a new phone system. Half of my coworkers work from home, and I'm only allowed 2 days compared to my cover, whose allowed the entire week. I guess makes sense I'm the receptionist, but I never wanted to be the only receptionist, they always made it sound like there was going to be 3 of us, but now it's just me and the former receptionist and a payroll clerk. And I have to figure out my breaks and lunches between them or my days off. 

I ask for more work, the manager asks the team, but I never get more work. So I'm doing this monthly task and since I'm the only one, it demotivates me as I'm trying to ration out how much I will do each day to leave me something. And I guess I hope they will notice that I'm not doing everything and get another person to come help me. I know this sounds weird, but as I'm asking for more work but then leaving work undone until the deadline. But otherwise I don't have anything else. 

I feel distant with my friends and family. Grandma in the hospital. Brother dropped out of high school this week. He's depressed. Trying to make me and him not depressed anymore. 

I only see my husband for 2 hours a day, which is when we eat and cook. So I can't plan anything after work to met with friends. It seems too late to go out at 8pm. Not many options and my friends go to bed early. So now I'm bothered that I can't go do friend stuff because of my husband. But then I'm bothered I can't see my husband because of the work schedule. 

Then money has been a pinched. I used my IRA to cover my credit card. But that is just one out of 3. There's always something. And not enough for something else. We get by. We go on dates (ie a movie and take out ever 2 weeks, nothing grand, just something to get me out of the house). But then we have to delay haircuts or car repairs or medical checkups. 

I don't have any passions to do at home. I'm bored. I default to crafts but there's no joy. I call my husband but there's no fun conversations just ""we need to buy this"" ""with what money????"" 

I know it's me. I'm going to therapy next week. I only have 2 hours left. But I'm cracking right now. ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm4wzi/no_news_is_good_news/,[]
1jmaiz5,2025-03-29T06:22:44,Perfectionism is ruining my life!!!,"
Hey everyone,

I wanted to share something personal I’ve been struggling with lately and would love some advice. I’ve always been someone who strives to do things perfectly, whether it’s school, work, or even personal projects. While this might seem like a good thing at first, I’ve noticed it has started to impact my mental health and daily life.

For example, when I start a new task, I spend so much time planning and trying to get everything perfect from the beginning that it ends up delaying progress or even stopping me from finishing things. I constantly feel like what I do isn’t good enough, and this mindset has led me to put off things I know I should be doing.

The worst part is that it makes me doubt myself constantly, even when I do achieve something. I’ve been trying to let go of this pressure I put on myself, but it’s tough. I’m afraid of making mistakes and failing, and I get frustrated when things don’t turn out exactly how I envisioned them.

Has anyone here struggled with perfectionism? How do you manage it and stop it from holding you back? Any advice on how to accept imperfections and not let them control my life would be really helpful!

Thanks in advance for reading this, and I look forward to hearing your thoughts!",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmaiz5/perfectionism_is_ruining_my_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'mko8s6m', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""Yes perfectionism will make your life miserable, especially because perfection is an idea that doesn't exists in our physical universe but only in our minds. In my case what really helped was to shift the focus from the results to the effort. For instance assume that whatever you do the results depend 50% on chance and 50% on your effort, since you cannot control chances forget about the outcome and focus exclusively on effort. Then even if you give  your best and don't succeed, chances are that next time you will.  \nHope it helps...."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:44:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmaiz5'}]"
1jmbmve,2025-03-29T07:19:37,I feel so trapped someone please listen and help me,"Im 14 years old and I live with my mom two dogs and two brothers. My dad doesnt live with us or support us in any way whatsoever, my mom is so stressed with work all the time. she already struggles really bad with mental health and has been through so much in her life. She has such bad ADHD and doesnt know how to take care of herself at all. 

My house is so disgusting and dirty, theres bugs and just dirt and filth everywhere. When i come home from school it smells so bad and feels so stuffy. We dont have barley any food in the house either. I cant sit on my couches because they have dog piss soaked in them- the kitchen table pilled with just random shit. The floor is so dirty i have to wear shoes inside and dont even get me started on the bathroom. Its so mentally draining becaue no matter what I do or how happy I am i know im just going to go home to this depressing monster house at the end of the day. I already suffer from depression and anxiety but i feel like all my issues would be solved if my mom knew how to care for herself and my house didnt look this way because it affects me so much having to live like this. We cant even afford mental health for me. Everytime i told my mom i felt suicidal she said if i try to kill myself cps will come to the house and see how gross it is and take my brother away. Im so trapped here. I know its selfish. Some people dont even have houses so how do I stop feeling this way. I hate it so much I just want to live like everyone else. My friends joke about it and shit saying i live like chris chan but they dont understand how much it ACTUALLY effects me. please help i dont want to feel like this anymore it hurts so bad im tired of crying over it ",MentalHealthSupport,20,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmbmve/i_feel_so_trapped_someone_please_listen_and_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkh0wq2', 'author': 'NoLow2355', 'body': ""You have every right to feel upset, it's not selfish at all. For starters, try communicating to your friends and let them know their comments genuinely bother you and that your situation is serious. Do you have anyone who would be willing to help you clean? Maybe you could get a little group of friends or trusted adults who won't judge to help you just get some things in control. I know how it feels to not have the motivation to clean or even get up from bed in the morning, you aren't alone and these situations aren't necessarily rare. If you have a counselor at school who would maybe be willing to help you and your family out, mentally and physically, I highly suggest it.\n\nBut no matter what, just know you matter, you aren't selfish for feeling the way you do and things WILL get better even if it never seems that way. I have no clue who you are but just know you're loved!!"", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:16:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhhz36', 'author': 'Mindinatorrr', 'body': ""Your feelings are valid, and I'm so sorry you are in this situation. Im not trained to help you, but I wanted to share what I would be doing: I would be cleaning. I think you may get a sense of empowerment from it, from taking SOME control of your situation. \nI'm not saying this is your responsibility or putting anything on you, this is just my take on it. \n\nIf it is a risk to your health, your brother and yourself going into CPS may not be the worst idea. I haven't lived as a foster child so I can't speak to that life, but I think you would at minimum get a decent meal and a much cleaner place to live. \nI've heard bad stories about it too, I really don't know the right call. It depends on just how bad your current situation is. \n\nPlease do not harm yourself, this is a temporary situation. Focus on graduating so you can get a job and move out. You won't live there forever. Life will always have ups and downs, but it always changes. Yours can only change for the better right now, it just takes time."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:05:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjhhzo', 'author': 'JaikishaanSharma', 'body': ""You are\xa0*not*\xa0being dramatic. You are\xa0*not*\xa0asking for too much. You are a 14-year-old carrying\xa0*way more*\xa0than anyone your age ever should, and the fact that you’re even reaching out, speaking up, and trying to make sense of it? That’s incredibly brave. As both a mindset coach and someone who’s spent time supporting people in deep emotional pain, I need you to hear this loud and clear The environment you’re in, the things happening around you they’re not your fault. You didn’t choose this. And it makes complete sense that you feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and like you’re stuck in a cycle you didn’t create. That’s not weakness. That’s survival. And you’re doing your best with what you’ve got. You’ve grown up having to be more aware, more responsible, and more emotionally mature than most adults even realize. But here’s the thing:\xa0**you don’t have to carry it all alone.** Let’s break this into a few gentle steps *not to fix everything overnight,*\xa0but to give your mind and heart space to breathe Your feelings are real. Let them exist.Stop comparing your pain. “Some people don’t even have houses” doesn’t erase\xa0*your*\xa0suffering. You are allowed to hurt even if someone else has it worse. Pain is not a competition and healing can’t begin until we stop silencing our truth. You’re not responsible for fixing your mom or the house. I know that’s hard to hear. I know you want to save her. But healing has to come from\xa0*her.*\xa0What you\xa0can\xa0do is take small steps to reclaim a bit of space or comfort for yourself. Maybe it’s organizing one little corner of your room. Maybe it’s lighting a candle, or keeping one clean towel just for you. Tiny changes = big emotional wins. You are not trapped forever. It\xa0*feels*\xa0like you are right now, and I get why. But this season of life this chaos isn’t permanent. You're already planning, reflecting, dreaming of something better. That means there\xa0*is*\xa0a future version of you out there… who is free, calm, and safe. And\xa0this version of you\xa0is already taking the steps to get there. You need someone safe to talk to. If therapy isn’t an option right now, try reaching out to a school counselor, a trusted teacher, or a youth support line. You deserve to be heard by someone who can step in and support you. And please don’t ever feel bad for wanting that **you matter.** You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. What you’re going through is\xa0*heavy* but you’re still here. Still standing. Still hoping. That means the part of you that believes in something better? It’s still alive *Nurture that part. Don’t let it go.* I’m so proud of you for speaking up. That took strength most people will never understand. I believe in you. Always. 💛"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:06:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkl89y3', 'author': 'Born-Review1333', 'body': 'Ive had a similar experience.\n\nIf you trust your friends and your close let them know how you feel.\n\nBut is there a family member or any adult that you may be able to ask for help who won’t judge ?', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T03:30:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mknyre8', 'author': 'sodaandpoprocks', 'body': 'You’ve got the weight of the world on your shoulders right now. It’s not something any child should have to deal with. All of your feelings are absolutely okay: you are NOT selfish for having feelings for your current situation. Being unhappy with a dirty (and harmful? negligent) household is NOT selfish and DOESN’T make you ungrateful. It shows you have a lot of empathy and also that you know you deserve better.\n\nAs others have said: seek support at your school if you can and in your neighbourhood or community. Your mum’s mental health IS NOT your responsibility. Hopefully a trusted adult can help you with this. Chat with your friends, be honest and let them know how the teasing makes you feel and what the actual context is. Real friends will understand. \n\nStart small with cleaning and focus on yourself first. It’s not selfish, it’s self empowering and preserving, which you deserve. It’s the tiniest thing that you have some control over right now. For mental health support, do you have access to any legitimate and appropriate care? Eg in my area we have a free helpline that kids can call, websites and apps. Just while you don’t have access to therapy.  \n\nAnd yes, it feels like forever right now. But I promise you, things will change. Stay in school, seek support, build a network around you, keep speaking up for yourself. Find a mentor if at all possible (a school counsellor, sports coach/art teacher/someone who believes in you). You’re going to get older, smarter, more confident, you’ll graduate school, up-skill at uni or college, become financially independent, maybe drive a car and have your very own place one day. \n\nIt’s so shit now, but I promise you, focus on the small things you can do for yourself right now. Then those small things will keep growing. Try and find a small way to escape each day even for 5 mins eg at a beautiful park or garden, with a good book, a hobby. Most importantly, be kind to yourself.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:26:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmp90h', 'author': 'Kusatchisadplant', 'body': 'Just call cps and they will take you to another foster home that has the same problems and angry kids with knives.\n\nI mean you could clean it but thats child labor and everyone will mooch off of you i fortunately,\n\nIf I was you I would become a monk and meditate to handle the absolute insanity that you have been born into, I am sorry that you live in such deplorable conditions. You could just to find a nice suzy or karen at a church or volunteer place that might help too.', 'score': -2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:03:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmbmve'}]"
1jmfb6u,2025-03-29T10:53:07,Why doesn’t it get better,"So for the last few months I’ve been hardcore stuck in a depressive episode. Mostly due to my gf being sick a lot and us not being able to see each other. 2 weeks ago we finally saw us again after 2 weeks of not seeing us at all and before that we could only meet once a week for a few hours. And I get that, she’s sick and wants to get better. But it’s been nagging on me. And now after it finally felt like things would start improving she got sick again. I know it doesn’t seem that serious but it just feels so unfair, not being able to do anything about it. I mean I’m already struggling with stress I try to manage my school life, work life and stuff with my family. It’s gone so far over the last months that I feel like I don’t really live my life anymore, that I’m just watching. On the rare occasion that I do have time to myself I don’t even know what to do. Most of the time, the second I don’t study or clean smth around the house I feel guilty and useless. I’m struggling to sleep more than a few hours bc of this, also for a good month now. I’ve started skipping school because I just can’t take it I hate seeing myself there, not even being able to actively partake in convos because I’m so stuck in my own mind. I’ve been crying a lot lately, most times without a reason just randomly start crying, which often enough turns into an all out meltdown. I am tired, I wanna see my gf and I just want my life back.",MentalHealthSupport,1,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmfb6u/why_doesnt_it_get_better/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjny1r', 'author': 'AngelicWhippet', 'body': ""I think its understadnabe to skip school when you're dealing wiht a lot. If you're at least passing its probably not that big deal. You thought of seeing anyone about this? Though it can be worth saying something about at least some of the stuff you're dealing with to the people around you, pushing these feelings down will only make them harder to bare"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:39:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmfb6u'}, {'comment_id': 'mkksq6n', 'author': 'catsndeen', 'body': 'Sounds like someone may be doing magic on your relationship and life in general im sorry to hear this but theres ways to break it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:06:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmfb6u'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkclon', 'author': 'Poldigeist', 'body': 'Yeah school wouldn’t be the problem I’m doing alright in my classes it’s mostly that I don’t wanna start with not leaving my room and everything again, as I know from experience that just makes it worse for me. And I actually have reached out to the people close to me, and they’ve been a great support, I just have problems getting out of that depressive cycle again and I think that will take some time. I’ve already reached out for professional help but that will be a few months until I get that. And thank you very much for the advice :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:43:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjny1r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqs933', 'author': 'Poldigeist', 'body': 'Yeah feels like some sort of curse. But thank you for the kind words:)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T01:42:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkksq6n'}]"
1jmgbie,2025-03-29T12:04:39,Help,"Thoughts? -What do you do when you’re alone with no one to talk to? You talk to yourself. And I’ve been so alone that my own voice became a knife in the silence that surrounded me. It felt foreign and sharp in contrast to the empty space I constantly occupied. So instead of talking to myself, I write online, typing thoughts like confessions into the void in the hopes that someone, anyone, might echo back something other than the pain Im trying to exorcise from myself.

Depression doesn’t always look like pale skin, dark circles, and messy hair. Sometimes, it looks like a perfectly normal girl sitting  in her living room, doing everything she can to seem fine. I’ll never forget the stranger who came to my apartment one night. It was supposed to be a date, but I canceled in the most honest way I could because I was simply, utterly exhausted from hiding that I was not okay. I hadn’t been okay for a long time, and I couldn’t pretend I was anymore . I told him I was struggling with thoughts of suicide and couldn’t bring myself to leave my apartment.  he asked if he could still come over—if I would still have him. I remember staring at that message, thinking maybe he hadn’t actually read mine, or at least not all of it. So I asked again, plainly—did you see what I said? Did you see what I said? That I’m not okay. That I’m struggling to stay alive today. He hadn’t. He missed the part where I confessed the weight I’d been carrying. When he finally read it, I told him that I wouldn’t hold it against him if he chose not to come. And I had meant it I know people feel pressure in these moments—there’s a sense of panic, of moral responsibility. Most people don’t want someone to end their life, but they also don’t know what to say or how to be in the room with that kind of truth. And honestly, I’m glad some people don’t understand. Even if it’s why people like me are often judged or dismissed or met with awkward silence—it means they haven’t had to carry this weight. And I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. This isn’t romantic. It’s not poetic. It’s not  martyrdom , or some glamorous kind of sadness. It’s a slow rot. It’s something that gnaws at the foundation of you until your body remains but you’re no longer inside it. It’s destructive. And when he said he still wanted to come over, I let him. I didn’t clean up or change. I stayed in the same clothes I’d been wearing. When I opened the door, I tried to keep my face neutral, blank not for me, but for him. I didn’t want to make him uncomfortable. I was numb. My body was tired. My spirit felt worn through. The apartment was dim, too quiet, too still like a tomb. I had moved my life into the living room because the bedroom felt like it was swallowing me whole. There was no clutter, just a hollowed-out kind of order—essentials and nothing more. When he looked at me, the first thing he said was, “You don’t look like someone struggling with wanting to die.” And something in me flinched. I didn’t know what I had expected, but it wasn’t that. For a second I wondered, Is that what people think? When they see me? When they see anyone? What does someone look like when they’re collapsing inside? I looked him in the eye and asked, “Is there some way you have to look to feel that way?” Depression doesn’t wear a uniform. It doesn’t always show up in ways you can see. Sometimes it looks like chaos. Sometimes it looks like disintegration. And sometimes it looks just like i did that night standing blank-faced at the door, breathing through dying on the inside while trying not to make it weird for the guy standing on the welcome mat.
At the lowest points of my depression, it’s wild to me that it was when  I received the most compliments on my appearance. I was the thinnest I had ever been, and that includes the times when I was deep in active eating disorders and drug abuse. I went from 210 pounds down to 120 in four months. I’d look at myself in the mirror and i could no longer  recognize the hollowed-out person looking back at me.  My body matched what i felt like inside, like I was shrinking out of my life. People smiled at me like wasting away was an accomplishment I was now achieving . No one saw the  screaming that the change really was . they just saw someone who had been overweight becoming skinny. And that was “a good thing.” I was praised for silently drowning. 

I understand how helpless it feels to care about someone who’s suicidal. You want to help. You want to take their pain away. But you can’t. I know that powerlessness. But I also know what it’s like to be on the other side, to be silently pleading for someone to see me. To not tell me my feelings are wrong. To not tell me I’m overreacting. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said, “I don’t feel loved,” and people have rushed to say, “But you are loved,” “There are people who love you,” as if my suffering was something I choose to feel As if I were being dramatic. Ungrateful. Blind to what’s right in front of me.

I’ve stood in both places. And I still can’t tell you definitively what the right way to be is. But what  I can say is: sometimes the right thing isn’t a thing at all. It’s simply presence. just… someone actively being there. 

I get that many people don’t know how to sit with me in my pain. But God… I wonder do they ever step outside their own skin even for a moment, to wonder what it’s like for me to live in it? I can’t escape it. I can’t soothe it. It doesn’t stay stuffed away. It’s always there, persistent, aching, taking the coloring from everything. No one can see it. And that’s its own kind of pain. Because I feel it… but their criticisms of how I react to what they think just doesn’t exist makes me question if I’m even really feeling it at all. Until I begin to gaslight myself
I can’t describe to you the tragedy of experiencing so much humanity within myself, and yet being convinced I’m fabricating it. Like it’s if I’m stabbing myself and crying for help, but everyone’s too busy pointing out that the knife is in my hand to notice that I’m bleeding out.

I know everyone has something going on that no one else knows about. We’re all stumbling through this life for the first time. And none of us really knows what we’re doing here. Sometimes, that thought comforts me. It softens the sting when people let me down. Other times, it makes me feel completely bleak and nihilistic. Because I know, no one is coming to save me. And no matter how hard I try, I can’t seem to save myself.

I don’t blame anyone.

But fuck man  
what the hell do I do now?",MentalHealthSupport,10,38,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jmgbie/help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjtitb', 'author': 'moondoctor7', 'body': 'It’s hard. To save yourself. I understand and know what you mean. And I’m not going to say that you are not alone. Cause when we feel something like this we feel it alone. However, if you want to vent it out. Please go ahead.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:07:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgtwbo', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'May I ask, what triggered this feeling?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:19:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhjver', 'author': 'BringYourOwnHope', 'body': 'Wow. I really felt through with this. I could never say on the same level, as we are all different. As a girl who went from 195 to 113 in just a few months and convincing myself to bury those thoughts as I’m just an overreacting sensitive baby. But what if I can’t help myself from keeping them dug away? What can we really do about it when no one around us really ever cares enough. Or have the energy to feel like I deserve the help.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:26:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhxubu', 'author': 'Stellaandeik', 'body': 'I know already wrote about it but what should you do when you know someone thats struggling?  Just be there?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:59:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkchpw', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'this is written so beautifully and perfectly depicts it. I don’t mean this in a romanticizing depression kind of way. I just mean you really captured it well. I wish I were able to use my words as well as you did here, because I can never seem to depict the truth in a way where it is as obvious to everyone else as it is to me, because as truthful and obvious as what I’m trying to say is, somehow I always seem to use the wrong words in the wrong order in the wrong way and it just results in me feeling like I’m the crazy one when I know exactly what happened and exactly what it is but I’m just not eloquent enough to present the truth as the truth', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:42:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkd8sv', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'I also am completely utterly alone in this. The only thing I have is, as you said, typing out my jumbled thoughts online, like confessions, in the hopes that someone might notice. That maybe one person might read it and respond. That maybe someone will see what I’m trying to say, that maybe one person in this godforsaken world will understand me or know what happened.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:46:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkkqs3', 'author': 'Radiohead143', 'body': 'I just chill with my cats or rant into podcast land', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:25:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmqv52', 'author': 'Kusatchisadplant', 'body': 'Hi\n\nMel Gibson had a beaver to talk to and it helped him, I was gonna just say that and not read your massive wall of text but I actualy did read it even the part where you said the guy did not read your text and I kind of thought maybe if you sent him a novel that might be why.\n\nBut you are a writer, you could write a novel and that is unfortunately an undervalued skill in our dumb society so you are like a tortured brilliant soul in a sea of ignorant deplorables and thats hard.\n\nBut anyways the best advice I can offer is find a talking beaver trust me it works and if you don’t trust me the trust the beaver because damn I know what else to say.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:15:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoz6w9', 'author': 'Nearby-Condition-762', 'body': 'I feel and understand your suffering and depression. The last several months have been the worst of my life. Prior the last 5 years, it has been one battle after another. The amount of trauma and betrayal has been significant. To not trust anyone, nor myself. To give and help others, to be taken advantage of, disrespected, discarded, and consideration of my thoughts and feelings are non-existent.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T20:19:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmgbie'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkmtj3', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I appreciate you making space for me here', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:36:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjtitb'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgy9e6', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Of course. It wasn’t a single event. I feel like I am fading out of my own existence as a ghost.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:54:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgtwbo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgyjbt', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Love your username btw', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:56:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgtwbo'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhkkaz', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I’m right there with you currently…. I don’t know what I or you or anyone should do, can do, should have to do. \nAnd while I sit moored in the middle of it all, it still hurts regardless', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:34:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhjver'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhycux', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Active listening', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:04:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhxubu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyteq', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'The harsh reality is that no one can save someone struggling with SI they have to do it themselves. But you can support them in it. You can inspire them to want to. Nothing that is blameful, shaming, devalidating, judging is ever going to be what that person needs. I think they just need to feel like a person and one that someone sees', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:09:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhxubu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkcovn', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'In every mental health sub post I’ve made, it’s a jumbled long rant of me trying so hard to say what is so truthful and simple and hard facts, but somehow the way I try to get it out my mouth just results in something that makes me seem like I’m wrong or biased or insane or making things up', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:43:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkchpw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkm9c9', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'You shouldn’t have to have the right words, you shouldn’t have to lay it out neatly for anyone to follow. You hurt and that is enough it should be enough for people to be there for you. It’s just sadly not the way it is often times in today world', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:33:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkchpw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkmovd', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I’m so sorry. Thank you for receiving mine.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:35:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkd8sv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkmtp4e', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'This gave me a chuckle. I like your sense of humor. \nAnd thank you for the compliment and for taking your time to read my novel', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:37:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mkmqv52'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrua19', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'try to ground yourself, it will slowly help', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:08:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgy9e6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrug3y', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'Thank you, it was just given to me. I like yours too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:09:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgyjbt'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhl6fj', 'author': 'BringYourOwnHope', 'body': 'Honestly I hope my future has something to it. I can’t keep carrying this. I’m getting too weak and tired. A robot atp.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:41:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhkkaz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkp61r', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'damn you seriously have a way with words because you just managed to summarize the issue I’ve got with my parents into a statement that is exactly what I can say to them to call them out (because your words made a lot more direct sense than mine did).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:48:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkm9c9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkqjav', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'And I’m sorry I’ve been pretty much just talking about me in my replies to your post. \n\nWhen you said “I wonder if they ever step outside their own skins for a moment, to wonder what it’s like for me to live in it,” that hits hard. I know you feel like people are misjudging you, mis-criticizing you, and you’re right. and it is really frustrating that they can’t for one moment try to think of you, and of what you’re actually going through. Like you know what it is. You know. But they just can’t seem to see it and it makes you feel crazy and you start thinking that maybe you’re wrong. But I see you and I see what you’re saying. It really does just suck that they somehow can’t see what’s so clear to us. You’re right in everything you’ve said. It would be nice for people to step outside of themselves and consider someone else, what happened to them, just for a minute. Instead of keeping their tunnel vision, despite the way it impacts other people. I’m beginning to think the only way people can empathize is if they’ve been affected by something as deeply as it did us.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:55:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkm9c9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrugta', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'And how do you suggest I ground myself', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:09:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrua19'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhlbhd', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'It helps me to help others. At least if I can’t rid myself of feeling this way at least it can be useful in helping someone else who feels the same way not feel so misunderstood and alone.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:42:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhl6fj'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkpjnz', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Please feel free to use whatever I write to help yourself find your voice. Id be honored.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:50:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkp61r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkrw03', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I don’t need to be the focus in a conversation for it to have a positive impact on me. Someone matching my vulnerability by sharing their own is connection. That’s what my starving lungs ache for', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:02:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkqjav'}, {'comment_id': 'mkruxct', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': ""Go outdoors. A simple walk or hike usually helps. Try to enjoy the beauty in the little things. Just don't give up on yourself."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:12:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkrugta'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhm10r', 'author': 'BringYourOwnHope', 'body': 'You seem like a good person for that much of empathy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:50:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhlbhd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkwg20', 'author': 'Educational-Map-7882', 'body': 'If you feel up to it, would you mind reading my most recent post, and just, responding in whichever way comes to you? I feel like you might be able to, unknowingly, state/describe what I want to say in a way better than I can. I can never seem to use the right words when I try to confront someone or explain it.\n\nAnd I know you’re struggling and it’s completely ok if you just can’t bring yourself to do it. If you can, the post can be found on my profile.\n\n&, are there reasons now as to why you’re depressed? Or is it the kind of depression that is unexplainable, and a feeling that just won’t go away?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:25:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkpjnz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrv32a', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'While i appreciate what your trying to convey it comes off as of I am not already attempting those things', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:12:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkruxct'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrw0z7', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'While i appreciate what your trying to convey it comes off as of I am not already attempting those things', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:18:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mkruxct'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkwkc3', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Of course I’d love to hep you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:26:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkwg20'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkwzil', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'No one is depressed for no reason', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:28:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkwg20'}, {'comment_id': 'mkl98oy', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'I left you a comment I hope it helps you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T03:36:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkwg20'}]"
1jlqedg,2025-03-28T14:01:38,Is my need to be perfect what is causing so much pain?,"I (M 19) have essentially been held to the highest standard my entire life. My family has always said that the most important thing is grades and academics, to the point of keeping me out of sports and extracurricular activity so I could focus on my studies. I was always harshly punished for falling short of grades (anything below a 90% was considered failure in my household) and was always told that I would be great. This has been a constant in my life as long as I could remember, this idea that I would one day be someone who goes down in history. I kid you not I once told my parents I was only 18 and I was doing pretty good compared to most and was told “Alexander was 18 when he was toppling nations” (which isn’t true by the way) “you don’t have an excuse” This idea was reinforced when I got into the gifted program at my school at a young age where, I was never directly told, but it was heavily implied that I was “going places” and I was destined for more than my classmates. 
This was all fine and dandy until I got to college, where, egged on my parents because of the future career benefits, I decided to join Greek life, something that I was always told would help my to achieve my dreams. This posed a couple of issues because, 1, I was a nerd who had never been allowed to play sports and didn’t have any social skills, and 2, I had learned that the only way to be good enough was by being the best. The fraternity i joined is well regarded and fairly large, but not the best on my campus, something that makes me feel awful regularly. I quickly began to realize that I wasn’t the smartest anymore, not only this but the people around me were better looking and more confident than I could ever be. This was around the time that, for the first time in my life, in my freshman year of college, I got a C in a class, I need to emphasize how devastating this was for me, at this point I had never studied, didn’t pay attention and had been thought that i wouldn’t have to because I was me. My parents immediately cut my financial support, leading to the need for me to get a full time job on top of everything.
My life feels like it’s falling apart, and I don’t know why. Whenever I confide in someone about my deep insecurities, they are often surprised because from the outside, I’m doing quite well, I have decent grades, I’m fairly attractive (though I can’t see it), I’ve made great strides in social development, and everyone seems to love me. But for some reason I berate myself for being constantly inadequate, because I can’t measure up to everyone around me, I’m not the best at anything, I’m average and it’s the closest feeling to physical pain I can explain. Since this feeling started I’ve seen mental health professionals and been diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, depression, and narcissistic tendencies. I want to get out of this rut and am open to any advice people might be able to offer.",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlqedg/is_my_need_to_be_perfect_what_is_causing_so_much/,[]
1jlsgdz,2025-03-28T16:31:40,"I'm not sure which of my mental illnesses causes this, but I'd like to know what exactly it is","Just about any type of above the norm stress causes my brain to pretty much stop functioning any thoughts. Doesn't have to be extreme stress, just more than the usual. 

When I'm really angry, can't focus. When I'm really sad, can't focus. When I'm really excited, can't focus. I can't even exist on autopilot during an episode. I'll have to take these short time outs, where I sit there and take nothing in and put nothing out for a few minutes before I continue on. 

I've been this way for as long as I can remember, and I'm 42 now. I've been through lots of therapy, but never truly figured this one out. I don't think it's normal, I don't see this behavior in anybody else around me. I've been called dramatic over it, but I'm absolutely not trying to be dramatic when I do this. I wish nobody even knew I lacked control to this degree, so def don't do it for dramatics. 

What could this be? I do have 5 mental health diagnosises, but I'm not sure which is causing this. ",MentalHealthSupport,4,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlsgdz/im_not_sure_which_of_my_mental_illnesses_causes/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkbiemp', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'Overstimulation?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:05:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbipu3', 'author': 'Wolfwarrior121892', 'body': 'It might not be from one single diagnosis or even any of them. It seems like to me you could be overwhelmed and if it was never addressed or relieved you’ve just maintained that consistently so anything above your baseline is immediately too much and you don’t have any capacity to handle it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:08:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc4pvp', 'author': 'C-Class_hero_Satoru', 'body': ""Your symptoms are sensory overload, disocciation, zoning out.\n\nThose symptom can be linked either with ADHD or autism spectrum.\n\nPeople on autism spectrum have shutdowns when the brain temporary goes blank because neural system is overwhelmed.\n\nADHD has similar shutdowns but it's related with dopamine dysregulation.\n\nADHD can be treated with Ritalin and similar meds but if you are on autism spectrum then there's nothing much you can do apart of avoiding everything what triggers your emotions."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:13:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkcckd4', 'author': 'SewRuby', 'body': 'Could be over stimulus, could be dissociation.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T17:26:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkktrus', 'author': 'catsndeen', 'body': 'You need to try to get cupping done on your forehead and temples and base of neck on your back. These mental states can be related to sorcery and black magic from my experience  even if not the cupping could still help.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:11:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlsgdz'}]"
1jltikp,2025-03-28T17:37:06,Have been unable to work and became depressed,"i have not been able to work or attend my college classes for about a 5 days and can’t do either for another 3, i’ve developed pneumonia from having a bad common cold and i’m starting to feel hopeless. for about 7 years of my life i was diagnosed with major depression disorder and i’m afraid it’s coming back, im trying my best to treat it but i can’t do anything i enjoy because i’ve been so sick, no hiking, socializing, swimming or working. i never knew how much i needed to work until now. instead of going through my routine i can only really lay in my bed and overthink, or go on a drive and overthink, it’s like i am driving myself crazy with my own anxiety driven thoughts. i can admit to being slightly neurotic and i guess it gets worse when i don’t have anything to put my mind to.  Now i’m having anxiety about my relationship with my partner, because i’m overthinking all of his actions, im stressed about school because i missed a clinical, and guilty that i’ve missed so much work and i’m needed there. and i’m also stressed because i’m likely going to have a tiny paycheck. any suggestions on what i can do to feel better? ",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jltikp/have_been_unable_to_work_and_became_depressed/,[]
1jlv96f,2025-03-28T19:07:16,My abuser reached out to me… trigger warning (please don’t read if you have experience trauma. This may be triggering),"My rap!$+ reached out to me after a year on a fake profile on instagram. Idk how to really feel about it. I’m upset he found me, I’m sad he reached out, and I’m confused. It took a lot for me to move on from happened. I had a bad mental breakdown. I became hyper sexualized for months because of it. And then out of the blue on a random Tuesday night he wants to message me as if we were friends who lost connection. And when I didn’t respond he deleted his account. It’s annoying and weird all together. The last time we spoke was when he laughed at me when I asked him to apologize for what he did. Why dm me? For what?? 
It’s hard for me to get into relationships without sabotaging because all I hear is his voice in the back of my mind. He constantly told me no one would want me. I was boring. I didn’t bring anything to the table. I didn’t deserve to be in college. Whatever came to his mind; he’d say it. And now he messages me?? So casually as well. 
I don’t know how to feel. I’m not happy at all about that’s for sure. But I’m just very confused and I don’t know how to process it. Anyways.. if you made it this far I hope you have a great weekend💜 ",MentalHealthSupport,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlv96f/my_abuser_reached_out_to_me_trigger_warning/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmr791', 'author': 'blondie0389', 'body': 'He doesn’t even deserve a response from you 💛', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:17:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlv96f'}, {'comment_id': 'mkocfrc', 'author': 'Old_Assumption2790', 'body': ""So sorry about your story. The way I see it is that he employs all the textbook manipulation techniques to weaken your sense of self-worth and assert his psychological dominance. Very devious, abusive, sleazy and predatory. His motifs are probably directed towards further exploitation and seeing it wasn't working he thought better to delete the evidence. The things he said to you were not random thoughts but specific, well-studied attacks to your self-worth. He will never be able to feel sorry for his behavior or sincerely apologize. There is nothing to be confused about: cut all communications, protect yourself and consider reporting him to the police!  \nAll the best to you <3 \\^\\_\\^ <3"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:10:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlv96f'}]"
1jly3y7,2025-03-28T21:15:19,I'm really not okay.,"
(TW! Mentions of self harm and sexual assault) 

Let me just start by saying I have been assaulted 4+ times in my life and in the back of my mind there's always a thought saying ""it has to be your fault at this point, NOBODY gets assaulted THAT many times"" and it hurts. My most recent one ended with me having a miscarriage to a r@pe baby. From my main assaulter, we'll call this person Neptune. (Neptune is not their real name) I was in love with Neptune for so long and from what they told me, they were in love with me too. The first assault with them started in seventh grade, they were a sophomore in high school. 

I wont give many details on the assault because it's a well known story of that person and people I know might find this post. But it happened at a party, and after I was traumatized to say the least. This person I had loved for so long had completely violated me. I still talked to them for a while after that. It was really hard to break away from them because of the trauma bond that had formed after that incident. But months later I finally did, after I had successfully blocked them I didn't talk to them for months.More than a year, but we went to the same school now, I was a freshman and she was a senior. I knew we would eventually cross paths and I was fully prepared to defend myself from her if she tried anything. But I grew weak. My friends and I would go to a local library after school every day and Neptune also went there. 

I tried to ignore her presence at first but we kept staring at each other. And I remember one day my friend waved to Neptune, they knew what had transpired a year ago but they had asked for permission to interact with Neptune because they liked her outfit. I was okay with it but I didn't know this would cause Neptune to come back into my life. This friend of mine let's call him Agreste. He wanted Neptune's number and after a lot of asking eventually I caved and gave it to him. This then led to me thinking, ""maybe Neptune's changed! It's been so long!"" and I spent ages trying to come up with a reason to text them, which I eventually did (how dumb of me I know) and for a while, I mean a really long while, things were great! I really thought they had changed... But Neptune did not change. 

During a day in which we were both heading to the school because of a mandatory performance (both of us were in Choir) we were talking and she texted me saying if I see her going somewhere alone I should follow her so we could talk. I payed no mind to it at first but when it came the time during the show where I saw her going up the school stairs alone and she motioned for me to follow her, I knew I had to make a choice. I mad the wrong choice and I regret it to this day. The things she did to me in that school bathroom were horrible and vile. I hate myself and my body after that event. I ended up pregnant and miscarried after. She didn't care. But because of that pregnancy I met someone amazing. 

My current partner, we'll call him Luca. He provided me with a plan b pill a couple days after the incident. (Obviously it didn't work but I felt so safe and seen after that) That was my first encounter with him. From that day on, I was attached. And we started dating later that month. I realize now that we never got to really know each other. We never had deep conversations or experiences with each other. Since Neptune I haven't been able to heal because I instantly fell in love and continued living life. And for a while it really did help! I was even encouraged to report the assault and now I'm going through the process of prosecution, but the truth is I'm not okay. 

I haven't been to school in weeks. My grades are shit. My boyfriend feels unloved. I feel like shit. My main reason for coming on here is because of my mental health. Neptune has completely broken me. She has used me for her own pleasure and manipulated me because I am naive and young. It hurts. I am broken. I can't even speak and this reason alone is what's tearing apart my relationship. I can't handle questions anymore. I am so hypersensitive and I don't know why this is all crashing down on me so suddenly. Every time my partner asks me a question I respond with ""I don't know."" And I really don't know. I have become so indecisive and confused I don't know anything. 

If Im asked a lot of questions that aren't yes or no then I start clawing at my legs, subconsciously scratching at my skin because it drives me crazy hearing questions, all I can say is I don't know and then when he doesn't want to hear I don't know I just start sobbing. And hurting myself. Today I started hitting my phone against my bed frame. I had a burst of outrage. And I feel so numb. I feel like I'm nothing anymore. All I can PHYSICALLY say is ""I don't know."" That's all I know how to say. I feel like I need to learn how to talk again. I don't know what's wrong with me. My response to this trauma is breaking me when I'm already broken. It's not just hurting me, it's hurting my relationship. I need help and I am not okay. I can't ask to go to a mental hospital because I'm scared. I can't ask for help and I don't know what to do.. I don't know anything anymore. 

To clarify something really quickly; My assaulter is transfem, she was born a male but transitioned to a female. She still has her pee pee stick though which is how I ended up pregnant. 

I am just lost with myself and I have no idea what to do. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I can't get up and shower or even brush my teeth. I just want to be happy again. I want to be happy with him again.. 

To end this I want to apologize if this post is all over the place, I just needed to get it all out and this was the only way I knew how. All names are fake in this and I'm sorry if this is triggering or breaks any rules",MentalHealthSupport,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jly3y7/im_really_not_okay/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkfm07w', 'author': 'Lvicren', 'body': 'First, I just want you to know how brave you are for bringing this to light. \nAs someone who has dealt with abuse and neglect myself, I have to admit I have felt at least part of what you are feeling.\n\nI suggest putting facts to these personal statements within your head. Start counteracting with “it had to be your fault at this point, nobody gets assaulted that many times” with “statistics show that someone who is assaulted once is 2 to three times more likely to be assaulted again”, and also with “I did not ask to be assaulted! Someone else made the selfish decision to hurt ME, and I had no say in it. If I had the option to say no, it would not have happened”. *Give the accountability in your head to the people who are actually hurting you*, not to you. \nSomething else to think about is tell yourself what you would tell your best friend if they were going through the same thing. We tend to poop on ourselves over other people. We have to put ourselves first so we can do life fairly with others.\n\nI am proud of you for leaving Neptune alone. That is the hardest thing in many situations. A lot of victims still stay in contact with their assaulter(s) due to fear, anxiety, and inability to make a decision to heal properly.\n\nNot being okay is normal in this abnormal situation. \nWhen I was dealing with all of the feelings, my grades in college dropped to a whopping 2.0\nThat was 3 years ago and it is now a 3.15, and I am starting a program I’ve only ever hoped to get in for so long. I am telling you this so you know that better days are ahead of you.\n\nYour boyfriend may or may not understand the severity of your situation. Even though he is your boyfriend and knows what he knows, it is still valid for him to feel unloved. \nMental Health and trauma FOR SURE affects the person who is going through this, but it also affects the people around them.\nThis is not your fault, and you are doing what you can. \nYou are hurting which is valid in your situation. \n\nWith the “I don’t knows”, be sure you tell your partner “I am saying this because I really do not know xyz”. If you have been doing that, you two might need to sit down and talk about the importance of clear communication, and to see if this relationship is beneficial to the current situation.\n\nGetting help - does your school offer counseling? \nI’m from Texas and my campus offers 10 free sessions a semester. Also, research non-profit mental health organizations as well.\n\nYou can also contact a mental health support line. Just do your research.\n\nAnger and rage is something I can resonate with. You are in a cloudy space and aren’t sure where to put your feelings. That is normal but it needs to be healthier. \n\nMy last suggestion is an accountability partner - since you and your boyfriend are not doing well, I’m not sure if he is someone to lean on for this task. \n\nYou need someone to be completely honest with and someone who will encourage you to do simple, everyday tasks like brushing your teeth, washing/brushing your hair, showering.\nWe need to get your body and mind mentally intact - there is a disconnect with those two things. If you aren’t physically caring for yourself, no way are you going to mentally feel better. If you aren’t mentally well, no way your physical being is going to be consistent and stable.\n\nBaby steps! I’m proud of you, and I think you’ve done the hardest part of this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:42:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jly3y7'}]"
1jm18jc,2025-03-28T23:28:15,"Can I get some reassurance or just ""You've got this"" replies?",I am having one of the lowest and worst mental health and physical health weeks of my life. I will spare the many details for I am too mentally exhausted and low motivation to even write it all. Just asking for any good energy or motivation or support to get me through this rut. Thank you.,MentalHealthSupport,9,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm18jc/can_i_get_some_reassurance_or_just_youve_got_this/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk9648k', 'author': 'BeingBeingABeing', 'body': 'Hey friend! The lowest point of my life turned out to be a massive turning point for me. It didn’t feel like it at the time, of course, but now that I love my life I look back and think how lucky I was to have had the formative experiences that I did. So don’t give up! Wishing for better times ahead for you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:51:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mked299', 'author': '88ning', 'body': 'Have you tried square (or box) breathing exercises? The main thing is to slow down, take a step back, and find ground in your body.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:29:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgvspr', 'author': 'whisper_warrior29', 'body': 'Everything bad you go through, will just to make you stronger. \n\nGoing for walks or hikes help. You can do this!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:34:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh02ju', 'author': 'gravedirt666', 'body': 'Time is ever moving forward and so are you. You’ve got this.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:09:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mki2jak', 'author': 'Northern_Attitude95', 'body': 'At my worst I listen to Noah Kahan it grounds me. I don’t mean turn it on and listen to music… I mean listen to every word.\nI’d suggest:\nA troubled mind\nBusy head \nCall your mom\nOrange Juice\nGrowing Sideways  \n\nAgain, I don’t mean turn some music on and you’ll be better. I mean focus and listen. I really hope your mind clears soon. ❤️\u200d🩹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:45:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjcsa3', 'author': 'swampwitch68', 'body': 'Without any context, it\'s a little hard to give reassurance, but you said you\'re severely depressed ( paraphrasing), so that\'s what matters here. I live with severe treatment resistant depression and all the crap that goes along with it. I finally got to the point where I found a counselor. That took over two years because very few places where I live take medicaid, so I really had to search. I\'m not gonna lie. I gave up a few times. I\'ve been to counseling before, but I hated the big mental health ""companies."" With that said, I get that it\'s not so easy as just calling a number and getting an appointment. Have you thought of calling a crisis line? I never have but a good friend if mine called one, and she says the woman on the line saved her life. She had everything planned, and she was given a different perspective at the right time, but it\'s because she dialed the hotline. I won\'t say she\'s totally better, and neither am I, but I\'m giving myself a better chance anyway. I understand the darkness. Sometimes I know it\'s coming, and I panic a little because when I\'m in a black hole, I feel like it might never end. It always does. I always go back to my baseline depression which is not fun, but I can at least get out of my bed. I\'m trying to learn to accept when an episode is coming and deal with as I need to and not fight against it. It\'s not easy, but it gives me some kind of control, I guess. I\'ve been this way all my life, and I\'m in my 50s now, and I haven\'t stopped trying to get ""better."" None of it is fun. It takes work. I\'m not a pro and won\'t pretend to be. If you don\'t ""got this,"" then you don\'t right now. I also read other people\'s stories of struggles they\'ve overcome, so I at least know that it\'s possible. My support if it\'s really support is to tell you to be selfish. Put you first even if you think you are last. Roll with it. Wait it out. I stare off into space for days. I don\'t care for myself because I can\'t when im down there. I come out of it, though. It sucks but it\'s the shit brain I got handed. I hope this helps.  If not, I\'m sorry, but just know that you are #1 and you\'re not alone.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T21:41:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjodew', 'author': 'Majestic_Source_9049', 'body': ""Like some others have said here, the lowest point in my life was like the storm which broke and then revealed a much better future. \n\nIt hurt, it sucked, I hated it - but that's okay because I pushed through, just like you can. Then I got to the other side and I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life - and that's lasted nearly 3 years now. \n\nYou just push through this bit - use your energy to get back on track by binging shows or going to a spa, or reading a new book - or I like to dance around the room with headphones on. Whatever it is (hopefully somewhat healthy and not drugs or alcohol) that just even momentarily improves your mood - keep doing it and soon you'll introduce more things and pull yourself out of it. \n\nOr even go an do something different. Go and see a show or play on your own!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:41:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkq2p9', 'author': 'catsndeen', 'body': 'Its important that you consider black magic or spritual affliction as many people in this world practice sorcery and witchcraft the main symptoms are 4...\n1)life blockages: things constantly seem to go wrong money dosnt last nothing goes right loss of social status and loss of support ar afew signs.\n2) strange and unusual dreams: strange dreams and nightmares that constantly reaccur including but not limited to dogs snakes people chasing you water, falling from a high place ect they can be interpreted to let you know the problem.\n3)strange and unusual health problems: depending on the type of magic that has been done to you may experience different health problems ranging from body pains foot and leg problems to stomache skin hair and eye problems.\n4) strange and unusual mental states: from paranoia depression to easily angered confusion mental fog and even insanity  these are some of the strange and unusual mental states related to black magic. \n\nPleas take time to consider these symptoms for your own benifit as i am writing as a person who has heald myself from some of the things your experiencing. May God help you and heal you from whatever it is that you are going through.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:52:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkv5ar', 'author': 'TrickyChart6288', 'body': ""You've got this, you really have, keep strong.\xa0\nSpeaking from somebody who suffers with server anxitey and depression.\nDrop me a message always an ear open on my side . X"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:18:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkr75eh', 'author': 'DayOk6350', 'body': 'You have pulled through so far and you will get through this as well, I believe in you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T02:58:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm18jc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkb312w', 'author': 'InternationalTea4696', 'body': '🖤', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T09:44:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9648k'}]"
1jm1j44,2025-03-28T23:40:24,Advice Dealing with an Unmotivated Adult Sister,"
I’m not sure this is the right forum but I’ve done a lot of googling and can’t figure out the root/what issues may be plaguing a family member. Hoping to pick brains here and get advice on how to help her. Specifically if there are any mental health resources for adults who are out of work. My sister (46F) has been out of work for over 4 years (laid off from a her first job/only job she had for 16 years). Currently she is not working (has not even applied to one job since getting laid off) does not attend social activities, lives with family member who pays the bills. She seems to have no motivation to move forward and I cant tell if maybe it’s fueled by depression, anxiety, or a combo, or something all together different. I feel she probably has a lot weighing her down that she has not worked through and my main goal is to get help for her. I cannot financially take it on. Our parents wont either. Does anyone have any advice in terms of resources that I could potentially lead her to?",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm1j44/advice_dealing_with_an_unmotivated_adult_sister/,[]
1jm27xx,2025-03-29T00:09:30,Marriage issues,"Wife has deepening mental health issues because of our 10 month old baby. Baby is regressing with sleep causing more and more issues. Wife has stated that she used to have heady suicidal ideations and lied to her counselor about these issues over fear of getting daughter taken away. 

Currently, she states that if our child is crying (above 8 on a 10 scale) and I am the one holding the baby (not having caused the harm) she feels the need to harm others or herself. Wife states this is normal amongst all mothers but I challenge her on it and she says that she is just deeply traumatized and I just don't understand. I’m not wholly convinced that she would actually do it but we do have firearms (locked, disassembled, and she does not have a key). Like I said I’m not convinced she actually would harm but the constant thought is running in my mind about what if she gets pushed to the breaking point. She refuses to think this is a safety issue, refused to ask to be medicated for this and says that I just don’t understand trauma 

Honestly I have no idea what to do, I’m terrified of not seeing my baby every day for the rest of my life. The fact that my wife lied to me and her counselor about how bad her depression was still haunts me and I just don’t know how much trust I have in this woman",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm27xx/marriage_issues/,[]
1jm2b2s,2025-03-29T00:13:13,Need a random stranger,"Hello, 

So I have had a string of traumatic events, going back almost 2 years at this point. It has gotten to the point I question whether im getting punk'd by some kind of supernatural entity. 

I had a journal going that i was sharing with my ex.  The idea being I could get out all of my crazy in my journal instead of it spilling out into the real world. A lot of it was about her but not everything,  probably a good 70/30, becoming less and less as I got things out of my system. She could choose to hear what I say or not. She never had to look. Anything  pertaining directly to her I covered in a spoiler tag so she didn't even have to see it on accident. She would then open the thread to trip the read reciept. She agreed to this without hesitation.

And It worked. I didn't know for sure whether she was reading or not, but I knew that I had said what I needed to say and she had the chance to see it if she wanted to. That was enough. I didn't feel the need to rant and rave in front of her anymore. And I trusted her with my innermost thoughts and insecurities. 

I don't trust her anymore. 

I erased the old journal, and I started a new one last night. I barely had gotten into it when I realized it didn't feel right. Apparently, the venting isn't effective unless I at the very least think someone else may have read it. 

There's no one else in my life that I would trust with such an intimate look into my head.  In fact, getting someone to let me talk and get things off my chest has been one of the biggest hurdles of the past 6 months or so. Both friends and professionally. 

I need to be heard. Or at the very least think I have been. Otherwise it's going to start spilling out into every aspect of my life. I've never had a good filter.

I need this. 

And that's where you come in random stranger! I don't have to trust you. I don't know you, you don't know me. I can be completely honest. 

I'm looking for the same arrangement I had with my ex. I've got a group chat, it's on telegram. I'll add you. You are free to read the whole thing. You can even respond if you wish but it's not necessary. All I ask is that you occasionally open the thread so the read receipts trip, so they look like they've been seen. 

I figured this would be a decent thread to ask this, since the members seem to be both understanding, and interested in other people's problems. if I have violated any of the subreddits rules, let me know and I'll look elsewhere. I didn't see any rule against it when I looked over them but honestly I just skimmed. 

A word of caution, I use speech to text and the threads are pretty stream of consciousness, and I don't censor myself at all. If you are easily triggered, or not comfortable with people in a dark place, you probably shouldn't offer your services. 

Let me know if you are interested. Thanks if you read this far :-)",MentalHealthSupport,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jm2b2s/need_a_random_stranger/,[]
1jlf344,2025-03-28T03:31:28,I did it and still doing it,"Ive got to say from being sooo over weight , homelessness survived abusive households ect 

Ive finally got my own place after 4 months i finally have an actual bed to sleep on as well as a fridge and cooker!

Ngl ive almost given up on myself a few times and almost said bugger it (not sure if I can swear lol)

I used to be soo lazy and miserable but since I have focused on being happy and being around happy people this train of thought has really changed my life and perspective!

When I focus on happiness it just gives off a good vibe and from being someone who has severe social anxiety to the point I never left my home. Never wanted to speak to anyone new or make any friends and was isolated. Now due to this train of thought and caring a little less about what others think as well as finally being able to experience peace!  Im the happiest I’ve ever been!

I hope this isn’t my high point in life im gonna try my best to continue this focus because omg mentality is an incredible and hard thing to do but it’s never impossible ! 

Ive never ever been proud of myself or felt like I’m going anywhere in life but at this  exact moment in time i am!
",MentalHealthSupport,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlf344/i_did_it_and_still_doing_it/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkms7z8', 'author': 'blondie0389', 'body': 'That’s so awesome! Congrats! You should be so proud of yourself!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:25:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlf344'}]"
1jlenmm,2025-03-28T03:14:00,Waking up in different places and sever disturbing mental flashes as I'm falling asleep,"I was wondering if you guys can help me. Lately life has been more stressful than ever before, and I've been feeling like I'm losing my mind.

I wake up from disturbing mental  flashes as I'm falling asleep and twice now I've woken up in a completely different place than I fell asleep. 

Could this be a mental health issue. I have been diagnosed as manic depressive bipolar and was wondering if it's related to that.
",MentalHealthSupport,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jlenmm/waking_up_in_different_places_and_sever/,[]
1jljevy,2025-03-28T06:48:50,My psychiatrist is threading to “expose” me to my parents,"Hey guys i’m in a bit of a situation and I want to know how to navigate this. Background info i’m 20f and currently i’ve been withdrawn from school. Around a month ago i tried taking my life. I was withdrawn from school but i wasn’t made aware of it until 3 weeks in and we already found a place for me to stay. Basically the issue is i’m not in school but i’m living in an apartment paid by my parents for me to be close to school. Now me not being enrolled is on me, i had a horrible incident that i won’t get into details but long story short, horrible experience in my first year (witnessing sewer slide, attempted murder, abuse etc.) all on my own it caused me to not perform well in my classes and i was incredibly mentally i’ll - i’m not making that an excuse for my faliures but just the reason and i take full accountability of it. ( I can always clarify if you guhs have questions). This issue is, i cannot tell my parents, that’s literally a non-negotiable i’ve tried and it never ends well. My parents are indian immigrants and they’ve worked their butts off for me, please know i feel guilty about it all the time, i appreciate their help so much but they also are not the type to understand mental health and the second they get angry they don’t care. (ex. mom blamed brothers depression on me, told me dad once i was suicidal when i was younger and. he comforted me for him to then deny that ever happening and that i have no reason to feel that way and it’s my fault). What i’m trying to say is I can’t tell them that i have severe depression, anxiety and ptsd that resulted in my failing because to them that wouldn’t be an excuse. You guys might try to convince me and maybe this is where i’m being dense but i just know my parents and it wouldn’t work. They are not open minded at all, and to a getter their anger is justified becuase i’ve wasted all their hard earned money even though yes it was out of my control i still could’ve done something, i shouldn’t have been so weak. Onto why I’m making this post, when i tried, i was found by my mom and taken to the hospital. There they kept me overnight and i explained this exact situation to my psychiatrist and nurses. However when i had my meeting with my psychiatrist he told me he’s going to tell my parents there and then, i managed to convince him not to but he followed up with saying that I need to meet him in a month (currently now in like a week or so-ish) and if i haven’t told them, he’s going to send an anonymous message to my mom saying i failed uni. Now here’s the issue, i absolutely understand that in his pov this is the safest route for me but i know my family will be ruined with this info and my parents will lose it. I’ve reflected and i know that this isn’t something i want to die over so i’ll relay that info to my psychiatrist but i also somehow need to explain that after he threatened me with telling me parents, i tried this month to hint at my situation and they’ve completely shut it down. They act like what happened didn’t ever happen. My mom has blamed me and made it about herself, just very typical i don’t believe in mental health actions. But i wanted to know, I also understand there is pt confidentiality systems set in place and him threatening only just increased my anxiety. The whole time we spoke he only continued to shame me and my feelings and mitigate them. I understand having a blunt and real approach is sometimes necessary for pts but he was completely rude and dismissive. I’m really nervous that when i go back he’s going to ignore what i say and put me into a bigger problem, i feel very lost i don’t know where to post this or where to go. If anyone has advice i’ll greatly appreciate it. I know it might seem confusing and i apologize but i will do my best to clarify anything and if you guys know where else i could post this for help too. ",MentalHealthSupport,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthSupport/comments/1jljevy/my_psychiatrist_is_threading_to_expose_me_to_my/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkgw5xh', 'author': 'magenki', 'body': 'This might be a stupid question but can you just lie and say you told your parents? How would your psychiatrist be able to prove otherwise? If I were in your spot I’d just lie and say I told them and it didn’t go very well - which is not entirely a lie since it sounds like it would go awful. \nHowever I also think it is not appropriate for him to threaten to send an anonymous email to your parents…. You’re not a minor, your parents have 0 rights to your medical records or academic records. I am getting real weird vibes that your psychiatrist wants to contact them. It doesn’t feel legal to me. \nAlso, do you even have to keep seeing this psychiatrist? Can you meet them again, lie and say you told parents and it went awful, then just never return?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:37:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jljevy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgwd5c', 'author': 'magenki', 'body': 'Really want to emphasize that I am fairly certain it is NOT LEGAL for your psychiatrist to share things discussed in these appointments with anyone not on your like approved list. I obviously don’t know your specific circumstances, but this is seriously violating some doctor patient confidentiality stuff.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T09:38:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgw5xh'}]"
1jiy6s2,2025-03-25T00:08:39,Update on the new news rule following on from the sub poll.,"Hello everyone, here's an update regarding the results of the poll. In response to the results we've now added a rule (number 7) relating to news articles. The main take away from this update I'd like you to take away is that **news articles must be titled as ""news"" only and tagged spoiler and NSFW. You may add the title of the article within the body text.** Please do not editorialise and stick to what the article is titled. I'll add the updated rule below. 

*""News articles must be titled as ""news"", marked as spoilers and tagged NSFW*

*Due to a number of members finding news articles directly detrimental to their mental health we have implemented limits on how news articles must be posted. They must be titled as simply ""news"" and the original heading without editorialising must be displayed within the text of the post. They must be marked spoiler and NSFW so that users do not accidentally read such posts and have an active choice to engage in news articles.""*



Thank you all! 

Mod Team",MentalHealthUK,12,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiy6s2/update_on_the_new_news_rule_following_on_from_the/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjith4l', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:08:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiy6s2'}]"
1jorvoo,2025-04-01T15:29:29,News,"**Failing to properly diagnose and treat people with** [**bipolar disorder**, external](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/bipolar-disorder/) **Failing to properly diagnose and treat people with** [**bipolar disorder**, external](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/bipolar-disorder/) **is wasting billions of pounds a year in the UK, according to new data shared exclusively with the BBC. Experts say many of the estimated million people living with this condition are ""ghosts in the system"", whose lives are being torn apart by poorly managed extreme suicidal lows or manic, erratic highs.**

Emma was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her early 30s, after experiencing a mental health crisis.

When she was 32 weeks pregnant, her grandmother died unexpectedly, sending her into a ""deep low"". ""I felt awful, but the perinatal team wouldn't take me on,"" she says. ""They said my symptoms weren't that serious.""

When Emma gave birth, the extreme lows of her pregnancy were replaced by an unexpected high. She felt amazing in the days after her baby was born - but she didn't sleep and her behaviour became increasingly erratic.

A few weeks later, her mood flipped again. When her baby was three weeks old, Emma took an overdose.

It took a week in hospital for her liver function to return. But even after that, she was in and out of hospital for a year before finally being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and medicated correctly.

""If I had the correct care, and been listened to during my pregnancy or even earlier, I could have avoided taking that overdose - 100%,"" she says.

It wasn't Emma's first experience of poor mental health - she'd spent her teens seeing doctors and receiving different antidepressants. No one had ever suggested she might have bipolar disorder.

Image caption,

Emma was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her early 30s, after experiencing a mental health crisis

Experts have told the BBC how most people living with bipolar disorder in the UK are ""undertreated, undiagnosed and left to try and survive in a system that has failed them"".

The majority who, like Emma, are eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder, are incorrectly prescribed antidepressants initially, which makes their symptoms worse rather than better. Experts also say there is a lack of continuity of care from GPs through to psychiatrists.

Their warning comes as data exclusively shared with the BBC suggests the cost of the condition in the UK is now an estimated £9.6bn a year. That equates to more than £300 per taxpayer.

This breakdown includes NHS costs, such as GP services, psychiatrist appointments and visits to A&E and hospital admissions. It also includes economic costs, such as lost days at work and the need for family and friends to take time off to provide informal care.

But it does not include welfare payments for those out of work, or costs for police services dealing with people in crisis.

# 'Common, complex and costly'

""This nearly £10bn figure is actually quite conservative,"" says Prof Judit Simon, from the Medical University of Vienna, who worked with the BBC to generate the number.

""If this is a government that really wants to try and bring down the welfare bill, then bipolar disorder should be its absolute priority, the target disorder to actually move the dial.""

The data suggests up to 372,000 people with bipolar disorder are currently out of work, with some claiming benefits in the UK.

For a treatable disease, this number could be slashed if the correct care was on offer, say experts.

Prof Guy Goodwin, emeritus professor of psychiatry at University of Oxford, says: ""If you want to cut the costs of a disease, you need to reduce hospital admissions and emergency care. If you don't focus on cutting hospital admissions then you waste money.""

According to the Royal College of Psychiatrists (RCPsych), bipolar disorder is a manageable condition.

Dr Trudi Seneviratne, registrar at the RCPsych and a commissioner on the Bipolar Commission, says it is ""completely treatable"" with a combination of medication, talking therapies and lifestyle factors.

""But there are many, many people who are suffering in silence with lower levels of symptoms because there isn't a good clinical care pathway for them in the UK.""

She says if care for bipolar disorder was fit for purpose, it would cut ""the cost to society"" as well as reducing ""the human suffering this disease unnecessarily causes"".

It is this sense of waste - with people who could be leading a good life but aren't - that angers experts most, who say it is a neglected diagnosis.

Prof Allan Young, from Imperial College, says: ""Bipolar is common, complex and costly - but it is so often unrecognised.

""People know it is there but somehow people are just not being cared for correctly.""

Image caption,

Rosie had been dealing with mental health issues since childhood, but it was only after being in crisis that her condition was recognised.

This lack of correct care is what Rosie says resulted in her being arrested at Stansted Airport for jumping the security barriers during a manic episode in her early 20s.

""I was utterly delusional,"" she says. Following her arrest, Rosie was taken to A&E and locked in a room. She waited there for more than 12 hours while a bed at a specialist mental health unit was found.

Like Emma, Rosie had been dealing with mental health issues since childhood, but it was only after being in crisis that her condition was recognised. This particular period of psychotic mania had been triggered by a relationship breakdown.

She was sectioned and hospitalised for three months, after which she finally began finding a combination of medications that worked for her.

Now 29, Rosie says she still has high and low periods, but adds that she is far more stable and is able to work part time.

""I was failed,"" she says. ""I'm told my symptoms were a textbook case for bipolar lows and highs – energetic, grandiose language, erratic – but no one even considered this diagnosis for me until I was sectioned.""

# Costs could be halved

The Maudsley Hospital, in South London, has an intensive specialist care programme for its sickest, most regularly relapsing bipolar patients. The service aims to try and stop patients hitting crisis point.

Similar to services offered in other European nations, the hospital provides group sessions for patients and their families. The classes help patients to understand when an episode might be starting and then contact the service once they spot early warning signs.

They can then attend an outpatient clinic and adjust medications. The relatively cheap programme has seen re-admission rates to hospital fall by 80% as intervention takes place before a crisis.

Prof Young says costs associated with bipolar disorder could be halved with more specialist care programmes.

""Undoubtedly, specialist treatment could contribute to getting lots of people back into work. And we know that work is very good for helping people recover from episodes of mental ill health.""

However, many experts say patients still face a postcode lottery about whether they can see a psychiatrist at all.

Carolyn Chew-Graham, a GP and professor of general practice research at Keele University, says those who are acutely unwell will be picked up quickly by crisis teams but those with ""less florid manic episodes"" can miss out on referral to specialists for diagnosis.

""There's a high threshold of referral,"" Prof Chew Graham says. ""People really have to be quite unwell before they are seen in specialist services"". She says GPs may be reluctant to refer patients - even if they strongly suspect they have bipolar disorder - for fear they will be rejected.

""GPs may think I won't even consider bipolar because if I mention it to the patient and then I can't get them seen, I am a bit stuck"".

Prof Young says bipolar patients need long-term specialist care.

""But that's the frustration here - even though there is strong evidence that specialist care improves the outcomes for the patient, and costs the state less, there are still so few bipolar specialist facilities.

""It's a tragedy.""

An NHS spokesperson said bipolar disorder could often take time to diagnose because it affected everyone differently and the symptoms were similar to other mental health conditions.

""NHS staff are working incredibly hard to get people diagnosed and reduce waiting times for care.

""Staff are treating a million more people than they were six years ago and are working to transform services alongside this demand – this includes strengthening community services, trialling new 24/7 open access mental health centres and rolling out mental health crisis lines.""

The Department of Health and Social Care says it has already announced £26 million to open new mental health crisis centres and it will recruit 8,500 mental health workers to cut waiting times and provide faster treatment.

If anything in this article makes you concerned please consult your GP.**is wasting billions of pounds a year in the UK, according to new data shared exclusively with the BBC. Experts say many of the estimated million people living with this condition are ""ghosts in the system"", whose lives are being torn apart by poorly managed extreme suicidal lows or manic, erratic highs.**

Emma was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her early 30s, after experiencing a mental health crisis.

When she was 32 weeks pregnant, her grandmother died unexpectedly, sending her into a ""deep low"". ""I felt awful, but the perinatal team wouldn't take me on,"" she says. ""They said my symptoms weren't that serious.""

When Emma gave birth, the extreme lows of her pregnancy were replaced by an unexpected high. She felt amazing in the days after her baby was born - but she didn't sleep and her behaviour became increasingly erratic.

A few weeks later, her mood flipped again. When her baby was three weeks old, Emma took an overdose.

It took a week in hospital for her liver function to return. But even after that, she was in and out of hospital for a year before finally being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and medicated correctly.

""If I had the correct care, and been listened to during my pregnancy or even earlier, I could have avoided taking that overdose - 100%,"" she says.

It wasn't Emma's first experience of poor mental health - she'd spent her teens seeing doctors and receiving different antidepressants. No one had ever suggested she might have bipolar disorder.",MentalHealthUK,9,6,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c045pp740vro,"[{'comment_id': 'mkty842', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:29:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku1g7e', 'author': 'fxvv', 'body': '> According to the Royal College of Psychiatrists (RCPsych), bipolar disorder is a manageable condition.\n\n> Dr Trudi Seneviratne, registrar at the RCPsych and a commissioner on the Bipolar Commission, says it is ""completely treatable"" with a combination of medication, talking therapies and lifestyle factors.\n\nThere’s a big difference between ‘manageable’ and ‘completely treatable’. \n\nBipolar disorder destroyed my life in an irrevocable way. It makes me sad to read of so many others being failed by the system. Proactive screening, care, and education are all vital to support those of us living with this condition.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:02:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku3pvx', 'author': 'Treestop', 'body': 'My Mum died by suicide last year. She was always diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety, despite the fact she was textbook bipolar, had clear signs of psychosis etc. It’s infuriating to read this. I sympathise with the NHS, we still barely have a grasp on the human mind and may never understand the complexities of mental health issues, but absolutely more can be done with diagnosis and treatment.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:23:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku2b4t', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:10:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku2xtj', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'It is usually that people with stories like these have reached out them. Stephen Fry also got his diagnosis in hospital but had previously to my knowledge not had mental health issues where he presented in and out of A and E like those women in the story which is highlighting how the not diagnosing it when theres warning signs is costing millions so mentioning Stephen Fry would have little to no relevance', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:16:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mku2b4t'}, {'comment_id': 'mku6kq1', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': ""Not diagnosing is indeed a problem, but there is precious little treatment once things are diagnosed. Less so now than ever. Not the same topic but closely connected.\n\nMy point with Fry was to illustrate that the media still mostly ignore tha fact that men can have mental health problems even in the face of high profile men having them and it being commonly known.\n\nMy own mental health diagnoses took decades to get 'right' so I understand the issues around delayed diagnosis all too well.\n\nAnd whilst I agree there may be a factor of these women 'reaching out', the BBC seriously couldn't find a single bloke to make the story universal? The writer probably has multiple men in their own friends/family that would qualify.\n\nSo much for Equality!"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:48:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mku2xtj'}]"
1jotcqc,2025-04-01T17:04:09,Study on Understanding experiences of Body Dysmorphia and how it develops- NEED participants,"Hello everyone,

I am a student at the University of Nottingham and I am pursuing my Masters in Counselling & Psychotherapy. As a part of the course, I am conducting a research study to **understand people’s experiences of body dysmorphia and how it develops, through a person-centred lens.** 

**Why this study**: I am deeply passionate about this research for several reasons and want to highlight lived experiences surrounding body dysmorphia, which is most often missing in BDD research. I am interested in hearing your experiences of having body dysmorphia and exploring how it developed for you. 

I am **looking for** individuals 

1. Who are 18+ years old and reside in the UK
2. Who have been diagnosed with BDD or self-identify as having BDD or body dysmorphia 

Participation will involve filling a **brief screening questionnaire and then an interview** if the study’s eligibility criteria are met. The interviews would be conducted online and there is no compulsion to have cameras on, it is completely up to the individual. I want to assure you that findings will be **thoroughly anonymised** and interview data will be kept confidential. 

I request you to please consider taking part in this study and kindly comment here or DM me if you are interested to participate or if you have any questions. I can send you my participant information sheet once you reach out to me as well. 

My email is [ttxpr35@nottingham.ac.uk](mailto:ttxpr35@nottingham.ac.uk) if you want to reach out to me there

Thanks a lot for your time and consideration :) ",MentalHealthUK,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jotcqc/study_on_understanding_experiences_of_body/,[]
1jok0sz,2025-04-01T07:04:53,Former inpatient here.. is there any specific support programs/aftercare specifically surrounding the emotional impact of the deaths of fellow inpatients?,"Almost at a decade of not needing inpatient care, but was previously in a revolving door situation of being placed on section 3’s due to misdiagnosis.
Happy to say that life has slightly changed for the better now.

One thing that still haunts me is the deaths of many friends I made through that journey. I suffer with severe nightmares of revisiting those memories. Seeing a friend taken away by the coroner is something that impacts my day to day life (along with more graphic memories best not shared here). Knowing that I need more than two hands to count the friends I lost is something I recognise I need some support with to be able to let the past go. 

I have tried speaking to two different counsellors regarding the grief I hold but it’s just noted as complex and I get passed along or I have to pretend that I feel they understand and then lose trust that I feel I am heard. I feel I have a hole in my heart that needs some resolution to the unknown what ifs. I spent upwards of two years living in the same space of a handful of friends that are no longer here (due to cardiac arrest, medication complications, suicide).

I wondered if there was any national support programs that connect those of us who experienced repeated loss in such a clinical and close proximity. I feel that there’s a strange difference compared to death outside of the wards and unless someone’s worked or been inpatient within the walls it’s difficult to explain just how odd it is to hear alarms alert you to your friend not breathing in the room next to you.

I think it would be helpful for me to find a support group where I can talk about how difficult those times were without having to censor or navigate the emotions of those who gasp or redirect the conversation when it gets too difficult. I understand that just ‘discussing’ painful memories isn’t all that helpful, but being able to feel less alone with the empty feeling that has left a sour taste to my own existence would likely provide me with an acceptance that I am not isolated in this weird grief. 

Any resources regarding grief/trauma experienced whilst inpatient is much appreciated. ‘Whilst inpatient’ is the key phrase to my search for grief  support.
",MentalHealthUK,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jok0sz/former_inpatient_here_is_there_any_specific/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksddla', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:04:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jok0sz'}]"
1jojqk1,2025-04-01T06:50:28,Going round in circles. Pillar to post. No actual help offered.,"Spoke with GP. Referred to IAPT. Waited 1 year for appointment. Did 3 sessions and was told they couldn’t help due to complexities they couldn’t deal with. Referred to local outpatient adult services. Initially they lost the referral, however after I followed this up due to radio silence form them, I was offered an initial appointment. Diagnosed with EUPD. However psychiatrist states not meeting criteria for medication or therapy. Referred back to GP. I am so tired. Why are UK MH services impossible to navigate? ",MentalHealthUK,4,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jojqk1/going_round_in_circles_pillar_to_post_no_actual/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksb39d', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:50:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jojqk1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkueww1', 'author': 'CyberSkelet', 'body': 'I had a similar experience, although I was 11 when I became dangerously mentally unwell (abusive childhood), and 15 when I first approached the GP for help with severe dissociation, suicidality, self harm and what they called ""pseudohallucinations"".  \n  \nLike you, assessment for self-referal (CBT) told me I was too severe to deal with.\xa0I\'ve been to A&E in the middle of the night because of how extreme the situation was, only to be uselessly told to go to local social groups in my area that I already went to. GP referals lost, wrong referals sent. I received absolutely no treatment at all and was getting worse and worse.\xa0I had gotten so bad that I was now having completely insane episodes in public, not just suffering behind closed doors where I belonged, and because it was inconveniencing other people in public (god forbid!), all of a sudden the GP was more willing to take the situation seriously, and finally referred me to the local psychological centre, in my 30\'s, at least 15 years after I had originally approached the GPs for help.  \n  \nThese psychological services did their assessment and diagnosed me with dissociation (which I already knew). Even though talking therapies are the only treatment for dissociation listed on the NHS\'s OWN WEBSITE, they then told me that because I had dissociation I could never receive medication or ANY therapy until I no longer had dissociation. They then discharged me without any support or any plan for treatment, though they knew how much I was suffering and didn\'t want to exist. There was no way my severe and lifelong dissociation was going to just magically dissapear on its own, and if it DID magically dissapear then I wouldn\'t need mental health services in the first place! They literally just got rid of me, they sent me away, alone.  \n  \nBy this point, I had reached my limit and come to utterly despise and fear doctors, and the merest thought about them sent me into a very dark and terrified place, and, because I am very mentally unwell, thinking about trying to get better/mental health treatment/doctors was constantly on my mind. It was a viscious cycle with no way out. The gatekeepers to my wellness were the very people I was terrified of.  \n  \nI still tried for progress, I managed to get a referral to a dissociation specialist, and guess what, they refused me too! They refused me because they would need proof that local services were exhausted, and the psychological service refused to provide that proof because: ""I COULD be rereferred to them once I no longer have dissociation."" If I didn\'t have dissociation, I wouldn\'t be pursuing a mental health referral!  \n  \n... continued...', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:51:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jojqk1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuf6jl', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:53:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkueww1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuff2j', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:54:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mkuf6jl'}, {'comment_id': 'mkufhae', 'author': 'CyberSkelet', 'body': ""I am certain there are doctors/GPs out there who are willing to recognise when patients have fallen into this sinkhole and push things through for them, but it will be a matter of finding them. I am no longer looking. The only thing I can recommend is finding other people in the same boat as you, sticking together and helping each other through thick and thin, especially now when mentally ill/disabled people are being squeezed more and more. If there's a way through the NHS maze, you're more likely to find it together, with as much back-up as you can muster. If you want to try to find a different way than going through the maze, you're not wrong for doing so; that's what I'm doing. I'm in a post-sanity world, I've had to embrace it, though it was definitely very difficult to do so. I don't know what will happen from here, but I'm more hopeful now that I am not invested in the false hope that I might be able to get any kind of meaningful help through the NHS, because I can start to build some kind of REAL hope in something else, though I don't yet know what that will mean.\n\nSorry that this is very long! I don't know if there was any point in writing all this out, but I needed to say it all, I guess. \n\nI really do wish you the best. Whatever you do, don't give up, don't let the bastards win. I honestly want to see you overcome whatever you need to overcome and live a good life, you do deserve it."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:55:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mkuff2j'}]"
1jof1v9,2025-04-01T03:12:56,"If I go to the doctors about my anxiety, is there any way to simply just be prescribed with something to help or will I just be referred to a therapist","hiiii so my anxietys been awful for years now and i’m kinda at the point where I need something to chill it the fuck out. I’ve tried therapy and it just doesn’t seem to work, is there any way if I talk to a dr about it they prescribe me with something (idek if you can be prescribed with anything for anxiety in the uk) or will they just refer me to a therapist. I’m 21 btw",MentalHealthUK,4,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jof1v9/if_i_go_to_the_doctors_about_my_anxiety_is_there/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkr9vo3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T03:12:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrj01k', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': 'I’m 19, and I just got prescribed sertraline last week, which is an antidepressant. I also specifically mentioned that I wanted to try medication, as I couldn’t take my anxiety any longer', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:03:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mktgtf0', 'author': 'Shoopdesnoop', 'body': ""Unfortunately, (or maybe not so in your case) most doctors tend to over prescribe medications for everything. Especially mental health! \n\nI'd suggest telling the doctor that therapy hasn't helped you before - if you know what kind of therapy you had that will also help. (It could be that the approach wasn't right for you). \n\nAnd tell the doctor your anxiety symptoms so they can recommend the right medication for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:12:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mktnldq', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': ""I would imagine you'll be given an antidepressant or the betablocker propranolol. GP's don't give out anything like xanax or valium anymore."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:28:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mktuveb', 'author': 'Lucky_Emu_2017', 'body': 'You’re likely to be offered both depending on what’s **causing** the anxiety. Referred therapy is usually reserved for complex cases nowadays because the system is so full. So you may be offered a self-referral service. Which is good because then it’s entirely up to you whether you want to contact them or not :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:52:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}]"
1jo7dui,2025-03-31T22:00:23,"Second opinion, not sure how to go about it","Hi all, 

Id really appreciate help/guidance. So last year i was seen by a psychiatrist and i suggested i could have EUPD. From the initial meeting they stuck this on me to this day (along with depression/anxiety) 

As time went on and i was reflecting and received CBT with a PTSD/CPTSD approach, it became more apparent that EUPD isnt what i have. Unfortunately when trying to speak to the psychiatrist about this, they refused to budge or reconsider based on my character rather than just possible symptoms. 

Thank fully i now am being seen by a different psychiatrist after pushing for so long. Im concerned if this will make things worse and not sure how to go about it. Ik they’ve read everything (although some notes are incorrect) Im not sure how much or how little to say? 

What do i do? Do i keep a mood diary? Even my CBT therapist wrote a letter to secondary care as she supported me in the sense of getting a second opinion as she disagreed with the diagnosis and knew how important it was for me to have it rectified. 

Please let me know what to do or if anyone has been in this position before. 

Thank you! ",MentalHealthUK,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jo7dui/second_opinion_not_sure_how_to_go_about_it/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpjdpt', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:00:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo7dui'}, {'comment_id': 'mkudd30', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': 'One of the most demoralising things I\'ve personally heard is what an NHS senior psychiatrist I\'m seeing, to gain diagnostic clarity over what I feel is - for me - a bogus ""diagnosis of symptoms of EUPD/NPD"", told me.\n\nAside from it being word salad, I feel this note is just not the case and that all my symptoms can be explained by my clinically diagnosed CPTSD, which has many close crossovers in terms of symptoms.\n\nHowever said psychiatrist told me, after me asking her if that note could be removed from my medical notes file, that not only would it stay there but also that even if she found the notes to be unsubstantiated that didn\'t mean that a future psychiatrist/therapist couldn\'t read it and just decide that \'yep, I think he has this so I\'m going to treat him as such\'.\n\nAs such, a second opinioon, which I believe is entirely within your rights to get, may not lead to a different outcome *even if the outcome is different*!\n\nHopefully you can just see it as a label and try to steer any treatment toward the areas you need, but I\'m sorry that you have been placed in such a situation where you should have to do that. In the long run it may not effect you, given the overlap in symptoms, but it\'s something to keep in mind for sure.\n\nTLDR: I was told that once it\'s in your notes, regardless if its proven untrue afterward, clinicians can just choose to act as though its accurate.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:40:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo7dui'}, {'comment_id': 'mks0b3y', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': 'Mood diary yes but more importantly look at the dsm 5 criteria for eupd and write down everything you disagree with, get them to rectify the mistakes in your notes and then look at the dsm 5 for ptsd and write down what you relate too and how the therapy approach is beneficial etc', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:44:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo7dui'}, {'comment_id': 'mkugohy', 'author': 'SadAnnah13', 'body': ""That's what's happened with me. I saw a psychiatrist from a different CMHT, he agreed CPTSD, and my CMHT decided to completely ignore it, and won't even see me."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:03:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mkudd30'}, {'comment_id': 'mktybhc', 'author': 'bumbleebee1', 'body': 'What i wouldnt want to do is suggest another diagnosis for it to be incorrect cos they haven’t fully done their job to understand me. Like i wouldnt want to be stuck with diagnosis’ that aren’t associated with me :(\n\nBut i do appreciate that, ill look at the dam for eupd to say what i disagree with', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:30:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mks0b3y'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuimz0', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': 'It makes a real mockery of the ""The help is there, just ask"" tripe, doesn\'t it?!\n\nNotonly is the help difficult to access (at best) but a single clinician can unilaterally decide to disregard everything that came before simply because they think they know better. I\'ve had multiple experiences with this myself, sadly.\n\nI hope you have access to better, more appropriate help now, and if not right now, that you get it soon x', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:16:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mkugohy'}]"
1jofi8q,2025-04-01T03:32:13,Looking for participants (UK only),"We are looking for volunteers to take part in a NIHR-funded study on experiences of anxiety and depression following a heart attack through one-on-one interviews (online or in-person at KCL). 

We are looking for people who live in the UK, who are 18 years of age and older, who experienced a heart attack over 6 months ago, and who experienced anxiety and/or depression. 

Having a better understanding of symptoms of anxiety and depression following a heart attack can help develop future tailored interventions and improve support services. 

Volunteers will get a 25-pound e-voucher for their time. 

To participate please email us at francisco.brenes_castillo@kcl.ac.uk or follow the link: https://forms.office.com/e/FGPVgaptL0",MentalHealthUK,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jofi8q/looking_for_participants_uk_only/,[]
1jo09l8,2025-03-31T16:14:46,Do private therapists/psychologists tend to have better treatment capability?,"Compared to the NHS. Particularly long term talking therapies. 

Is the care generally a better standard and more useful? 

I get that you’re not meeting a new worker every so often because of leaving jobs, and there’s more time and space. But is the standard of care more thorough? More resource? Not as burnt out as the NHS? If that makes sense. Are they more open to real help and treating things actively? Not as much passing the buck?

Can they deal with csa and physical trauma? Or does that get passed back to the NHS again?",MentalHealthUK,4,13,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jo09l8/do_private_therapistspsychologists_tend_to_have/,"[{'comment_id': 'mknxhhl', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:14:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mko0n4b', 'author': 'Consistent-Salary-35', 'body': 'The qualifications tend to be the same on paper (certainly for psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy - not sure about the behavioural modalities), but private therapists are able to deploy their skills without the constraints of working within an agency. \n\nThis means they can build a service around the needs of their client: appointment times, duration of the work, special considerations etc. There’s also a better chance of finding someone you ‘click’ with and appropriately qualified for your particular concern/chosen treatment pathways. And of course they’re less likely to have a massive waiting list.\n\nEdited to add: yes, there are private therapists who work with csa and trauma. It’s not necessary to be referred to the NHS for these issues. However, please make sure your therapist is appropriately trained to work with these issues.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:42:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoektj', 'author': 'Willing_Curve921', 'body': ""This mirrors a PP, but I work in both NHS and private clinical psychology services (and do have a trauma therapy training). While I try to work with all my patients to the best of my abilities, there are some major differences which are more obvious the longer I do it. Some of these are specific to trauma.\n\nThe first is of choice. In the NHS they get me because I am there. They have no/ very little choice, as only a few of us do complex or severe trauma work. In private work, they have actively picked me compared to others they could have seen and they have a choice to go elsewhere at any time. \n\nThis is a massive advantage to any work, but in trauma in particular as feeling of safety, trust and being understood but being open to be pushed is the bedrock of any therapy work. \n\nThe second is of limits. In the NHS you can't stay indefinitely in therapy, whereas longer term work is fairly standard in private working. The patient has more power and control in therapy as they are paying for it, and they usually appreciate it more. \n\nAgain, with trauma, power and threat is hugely influential in how the work goes, and the NHS/system holds all the power, with therapist and client having far less. It's not surprising people are happier with private care than NHS."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:23:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mko0mv7', 'author': 'bedrock_BEWD', 'body': ""I have private therapy. I've been seeing the same person for nearly 12 years, for varied reasons including CSA and other trauma, as well as wanting to work on myself as a person so I can be a better parent. I would never have got this level of care on the NHS, in my opinion, as this length of treatment is pretty much unheard of."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:42:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mktggr0', 'author': 'Admirable-Savings908', 'body': 'After completing my training as a Counsellor, those with the most money to go private, i.e. those with money to rent rooms or even space in their own houses, had an advantage. I remember in some cases these people being the least capable as Counsellors.\n\n\nI think it is a case of doing your research when seeing someone privately. Have an introductory meeting, check out their levels of experience and if they specialise in certain areas of mental health.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:09:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mko14yd', 'author': 'reeeeeestene', 'body': 'That sounds quite hopeful, thank you for sharing :) it’s interesting to learn about the constraints within the NHS. Is there anything specific I should ask or mention when trying to find a trauma/csa experienced therapist? Other than directly asking I suppose', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:46:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mko0n4b'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoalgv', 'author': 'Consistent-Salary-35', 'body': 'I think there are 3 main areas to consider. \n\nQualifications: You’re looking for someone with at least 3 years of psychotherapy training from a recognised institution (eg university/specialist training organisation). \n\nExperience: someone straight out of training is unlikely to have the track record you’re looking for. Ask how long they have been qualified and specifically their experience working with trauma/csa. \n\nRapport: A therapist can have the most lofty qualifications and still not be ‘right’ for you. The therapeutic alliance is a key indicator in the success of the work. So it’s really important you find someone you’re comfortable with.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:57:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mko14yd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoii36', 'author': 'reeeeeestene', 'body': 'Thank you so much! Is a PgDip and MSc in cognitive behavioural psychotherapy the right thing?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:48:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoalgv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkolr59', 'author': 'EddieHouseman', 'body': 'Look for the accreditation, eg BACP, UKCP, etc. they will have accredited them on the basis of their qualifications and where they trained. You can’t possibly be expected to know how good an MSc in CBT (say) from university X is. The accreditation body should.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:07:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoii36'}, {'comment_id': 'mkonal4', 'author': 'Consistent-Salary-35', 'body': 'That’s certainly a good start! I’d also ask how they intend to work with the issues you present. Behavioural perspectives work very well with ‘here and now’ issues. So if you’re experiencing symptoms like flashbacks/dissociation/anxiety associated with trauma, it could be very helpful. \n\nIf you feel you’d benefit from a deeper understanding of your early years/ unconscious triggers and unpacking your formative experiences, then I’d recommend looking into psychodynamic psychotherapy. Disclaimer: I’m a psychodynamic/psychoanalytic trauma therapist, so I would say that:)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:16:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoii36'}, {'comment_id': 'mkon2r3', 'author': 'reeeeeestene', 'body': 'Ahh, this person is BABCP accredited, is that not really enough/right?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:15:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkolr59'}, {'comment_id': 'mkon7ed', 'author': 'EddieHouseman', 'body': 'That is a good accreditation for CBT.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:15:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkon2r3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkonvwn', 'author': 'EddieHouseman', 'body': 'You may find it helpful to look at the websites of the accreditation bodies.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:19:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mkon2r3'}]"
1jobrg6,2025-04-01T00:58:10,"Struggling to Find Affordable Psychiatrist in the UK – No GP Yet, Any Advice?","
Hi everyone,
I’m really struggling right now and would really appreciate any advice or support.

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and used to be on medication (Lamotrigine, Olanzapine 10mg, Quetiapine 25mg, and Lorazepam/Alprazolam as needed) while living in Germany. I stopped everything when I found out I was pregnant, but sadly I had a miscarriage earlier this month. Since then, my symptoms have gotten much worse—intense anxiety, emotional swings, panic attacks, dissociation, and some self-harm urges.

I also have ADD, though at this point I’ve kind of lost hope in getting help for that, given how hard it’s already been to get support for my other symptoms.

I recently moved to the UK and don’t have a GP yet (I’ve applied to register), so getting access to care has been really difficult. A doctor prescribed me 2.5mg Olanzapine and 25mg Quetiapine, but it hasn’t helped much. I urgently need something for anxiety and feel I need a higher dose, but I don’t know where to go while I wait for my GP registration.

Does anyone know of any affordable private psychiatrists or online/chat-based services (ideally with 24/7 availability)? Or even just advice on how to speed up support through the NHS once my GP is confirmed?

Thanks so much in advance. I’m doing my best to stay afloat, and any info or support would really help right now.",MentalHealthUK,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jobrg6/struggling_to_find_affordable_psychiatrist_in_the/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkqj7ke', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:58:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jobrg6'}]"
1joam9e,2025-04-01T00:11:11,I don’t know how to get myself out of this hole,"I don’t know how to even start, when I don’t want to do anything.

The OCD has never been this bad for this long. 2 weeks short of a year and a half long bout of existential dread and rumination. I used to be on medication but my current doctor messed up my prescription (short release instead of long release venlafaxine) after a few comments like “these probably won’t help the OCD” “you really want to be on medication, don’t you” and I’m angry for not advocating for myself and I don’t trust her. I want to switch drs and try a new medication but I’m scared they’ve all given up on me at this point as I’ve been on 7 different antidepressants throughout my life and here I am. I can’t do SSRIs any more after realising it was them causing a bad long-term wetting myself problem. They don’t seem to want to put me on anything that might work better as they don’t realise how bad it is because I get anxious and shut off when trying to talk about things. I’m also worried they might refer me to a specialist if they realise how bad my OCD is which I don’t want due to travel and fuss - maybe they only referred me before to get the diagnosis, idk?

I drink every day, and I don’t want to any more, but I don’t have the motivation to stop when I’m miserable anyway. I might as well be miserable and drunk. When I’m off work (I work in a school, so holidays) like now, I drink constantly, avoid leaving the house, order everything off Deliveroo. I tried telling myself I’ll start getting better over this holiday - just drink in the evenings/after dinner, not all day. I can go without alcohol if I want to - I did it for like a day recently and it was fine - but I’m too done with life to have any motivation. Why on earth would I try and challenge myself to do something positive when I’ll die anyway, everyone I love will die anyway. I don’t want to even try to do something positive because the smallest effort is more than I have it in me to make. I cried before finishing work for Easter because I like being at work and don’t want to be off for weeks. I have about three weeks of this and any sort of positive step feels like too much. I also told myself I wouldn’t order Deliveroo - I’d go out if I wanted food/alcohol and buy it like a proper person, just to get me out of the house regularly/give me a reason to shower and wake up in the day. But it’s hard to bother when most of the previous day, and those before it, have been taken up with intrusive thoughts and nothing feels positive any more, and the idea of doing something positive feels completely pointless.

I woke up at 6pm today and cried and drunk. I’ll order Deliveroo soon. There’s this tiny, tiny part of me screaming at myself to do better. But everything feels like an unclimbable mountain. I figured before that I might as well cut down on drinking, get a bit healthier, and that would be one obstacle out of the way - I figured my OCD is bad whether I’m drinking or not, so I might as well not. But I’m sadder now, and my life feels aimless, so I might as well drink through the pain rather than put another challenge on myself, when just getting through each day is a challenge in itself. I envy those people who wake up in the morning and do normal person things and just function and are okay. They make it look so easy but it seems like something virtually impossible for me.

Idk what to do. Correct medication seems like a good first step? But I’m so scared of getting invalidated again, I’m so scared they’ll say there’s no more they can do, that I’ve run out of options. Or they’ll refer me elsewhere which is a huge hassle as I don’t drive and don’t want others to know how bad things are. It all feels too much and I don’t know where to start, but I’m making myself ill with my lifestyle.",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1joam9e/i_dont_know_how_to_get_myself_out_of_this_hole/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkq9sc4', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. 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1jnt0eq,2025-03-31T07:53:55,NHS help for CPTSD/Childhood Trauma,"Too unwell for the short term CBT/Counselling. But too well to be referred for further help. Have been in the same position for years. Denied trauma therapy, as I cannot point to a single event that I need to recover from. Does anyone have advice on how to best navigate the system? Or any self-help resources that you've found useful? Thanks in advance",MentalHealthUK,9,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jnt0eq/nhs_help_for_cptsdchildhood_trauma/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmfc29', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:53:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}, {'comment_id': 'mknyckq', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Are you under a community mental health team?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:22:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkod120', 'author': 'madformattsmith', 'body': 'If you are in Liverpool then please get a health professional to put in a referral for you to Step Forward Psychological Therapies. They are trained specifically to deal with cases of cPTSD where the client is ""too ill"" for IAPT but ""not ill enough"" for CMHT\n\nETA: a book that really helped me was the breaking free workbook by Kay Toon and Carolyn Ainscough', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:13:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkubeb1', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': ""I say this as a clinically diagnosed CPTSD sufferer, similarly from childhood traumas.  \nThe only therapy that ever really helped me was EMDR. I couldn't stand even the idea CBT so specifically chased EMDR - once I'd found out it existed! They certainly didn't offer it up freely! \n\nI'm not sure if it was the EMDR specifically, or that I was 'in the right place' mentally for it to be successful, but it seemed the only modality that ever gelled with me.\n\nPerhaps requesting a specific therapy might convince them to place you on the waiting list for it, as - for them - it's a quick and simple 'win' administratively speaking. Of course that only works if your trust offers it.\n\nWorth a shot though."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:26:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}]"
1jnutcd,2025-03-31T09:37:09,I just want someone to know and to just fucking hug me,"That's all I want. I'm so fucking tired, I've been up all day and now night. I don't really feel physically tired but.. mentally maybe, I don't fucking know.

I just want somebody to fucking know and hug me but I have basically no friends, none I see or talk to anyone, I have two closest friends, one of them is quiet, quieter than me so it can be hard to talk to them and my other friend lives too far away and stuff, both of them also struggle with their mental health so it isn't like I can just message them and tell them all the stuff I say in these posts, especially as I have mentioned them a few times, not them specifically but also them specifically as I've mentioned ""my 2 close friends"" and my ""group"" and stuff and one of them friends doesn't like touch I dont think so.. ye and it just feels awkward hugging all my other friends as I don't know them that well and stuff.

I'm just so fucking tired, I just want to fucking cry, for someone to just fucking hold me while I cry, I don't mean a partner or anything but a fucking friend or something. I hate crying infront of others, especially if they can see my face, I feel stupid after I've cried a lot of the time too, I didn't always feel that way but now I do, I don't know why. I'm just so fucking tired, I want it to be over but I don't want to die, I don't have a reason to live or a reason to die, I'm just fucking tired. Well I guess there's that one closest friend but as I've said they're an online friend but still.

Nobody ever replies or anything unless I message them individually but the only people I message individually are my two closest friends on discord, partly because I mainly use discord but also because its easier to message them all in the group I made on WhatsApp but none of them message there or even reply there and one of my friends left as he ""doesn't want to be in any drama"" (there wasn't even any drama) and he was in a lot of groups or whatever so ye.. was meant to be a group for my friends but.. oh well, they all might as well not be my friends anyway but acquaintances, maybe not even that, they don't take time out of their day to message me so why would I do that for them? I might just stop messaging in the group and what not and see if they even notice, I doubt it.

I'm so fucking exhausted, I seriously just want to fucking cry but I'm not gonna let myself, I'd just feel stupid and what not anyway and I wouldn't even be able to cry, I never can. I'm so fucking tired",MentalHealthUK,5,12,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jnutcd/i_just_want_someone_to_know_and_to_just_fucking/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmtogd', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:37:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn7cpo', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Hugs friend. Hope things get better soon. You deserve better friends.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:38:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwdub', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'I am just genuinely really sorry you’re going through this. Sending so much love and hugs', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:04:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwesf', 'author': 'Apprehensive-Area120', 'body': 'Hey, I see you, I’ve read your messages.\n\nI completely understand and I’ve been there.\n\nI see crying as like sweating or another bodily function, it’s not stupid, it’s just what your body needs to do when you feel emotional pain.\n\nIf you can, try to get some sleep or even  just rest.\n\nI’d give you a hug if I could, even though I’m a random internet stranger, but I’ve been there, just wanting to be held while I cry. It’s natural to want that.\n\nIs it sunny where you are? I’m just sat in my car in the park, on the way to group therapy. I can hear the birds singing and it’s so sunny and it’s lovely. There are some good things in the world ♥️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:04:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mknxifw', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""Hey I understand most of this and I know it's difficult if you want to you can reach out I'm happy to help"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:15:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mko2kpc', 'author': 'LegitHadEnuff', 'body': 'Hey OP,  although I can’t hug you in real life, I’m sending you a big virtual hug now. \n\nI’m so sorry about how you’re feeling. It sounds like you need a lot of support and it doesn’t look like you’ve had much support right now. \n\nI hope letting out how you feel on this subreddit has helped a bit. I’ve always found this place so supportive. \n\nReally hope things get better for you soon. ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:58:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mko3k7p', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""I understand your pain. I've gone through a lot over the last few months, but the hardest part has been the loneliness and isolation. I cry all the time, too. Breaking down in the shops is a regular occurrence! I have a couple of friends I message, but I struggle to talk to them about anything too deep, and I only see them every few weeks."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:06:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn7q5x', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': 'Thank you 💜', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:42:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn7cpo'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwmjo', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': '🫂💜', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:06:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mknwdub'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwq90', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': ""Looks like it's sunny today, I think so.\n\nThank you by the way 🫂💜"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:07:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mknwesf'}, {'comment_id': 'mknxv5t', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': 'Thank you 💜', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:18:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mknxifw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkq2jb5', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': ""Thank you, it has a bit. I'm glad I found this place, the replies I've gotten on this post have been so nice to read, to know that there are people who care.\n\nThank you again 🫂💜"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T23:34:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mko2kpc'}]"
1jnlxuh,2025-03-31T02:05:29,Starting rTMS. Has anyone else here had it?,"I have my first rTMS appointment tomorrow and I'm really nervous. I've read up a lot but still don't really know what to expect. I feel like so much is riding on this to work, and it could be my one and only chance for a treatment that works.

I also have so much stress and disruption in my personal life at the moment that things are pretty overwhelming as it is.  Alongside the PTSD and anxiety I have linked to the building that my sessions are in. I'm worried that because of all this it might not 'work'.

Has anyone else got personal experience with this and can help put my mind at ease on what to expect?",MentalHealthUK,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jnlxuh/starting_rtms_has_anyone_else_here_had_it/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkksjhp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:05:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnlxuh'}]"
1jngzmi,2025-03-30T22:31:35,"long updated vent, what to do ...","it is a job in itself to hunt, land an interview, and even be successful. in a remote area it feels impossible at times. i keep busy with job coach appointments, volunteering, caring responsibilities. i am on my 7th driving lesson next week for automatic. 

i guess having a car and the access to that independence would open up my world for jobs but right now i can't rely on that. 

now i am on UC, i am unsure what to do about courses. i have LCW so i do not even have to look for work but i am trying to change my life repeatedly. 

i guess i am frustrated because of my circumstances and being left to do as i wished since 15 from leaving school with gcses. health got in the way and now ptsd no longer rules my life, i am learning more about myself everyday with autism and dyspraxia. 

i had a mini break with my longterm boyfriend who i do not live with. it was nice. 

i keep getting panic attacks in the night now and in the morning about being unemployed forever, and it feels like that now. 

back on my balance regime after a holiday and need to cut back on the calories again. 

31 is incredibly hard without family help. not so much financial because my mum pays the rent with her uc and because of my disabled stepbrother. but having nothing for me at all and having to figure it out without being taught or told or what to do is difficult.

mum hasn't known what to do with me for years. she's had a spinal injury since 22. so i get it, but i am angry in a way too.
probably need some therapy to just get feelings out again. 

i am scared that this is it, but obviously i am making changes to be brave to do driving lessons now. and everything else in between. 

just the thought of losing my pip next year due to it ending and being unsure if i will ever get that back lingers. i just need an employer to believe in me. i must be able to do something. 

same old vent and dance. 

on my last counselling for grief on tuesday. i didn't expect much but it made me more angry sometimes. wish my stepdad could send me a sign or well anything. being atheist just makes things hard. can't rely on a prayer or some kind of faith to keep me right.

my boyfriend's dad has full on dementia now. hardly speaks and it scarily feral sometimes. his life savings have gone on care fees because he never told his wife. it's just depressing. i feel for my boyfriend a lot. he is afraid he will get it in the future. but right now there's not much to be done.

i feel like an embarrassment. but at the end of the day i am human, i have had my reasons to this point why it was hard to grow up. and now i have to take accountability and at least try to apply to jobs, as i keep doing.

it doesn't stop negative thoughts and i wish i could stop those. it comes and goes. not like hallucinations or anything. just feeling stuck in my circumstances. well, at least it is cathartic to type here. 

but yeah, hi universe, i am hurting, tired. want to work without the fear of losing a job, just want to get on now. tired.",MentalHealthUK,5,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jngzmi/long_updated_vent_what_to_do/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjmfzv', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:31:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngzmi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkv1ur', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': ""I can relate to how you feel as I too had this issue and found it hard finding work. The job market SUCKS it's so terrible here in the UK. It's not something that is your fault, work actually is hard to find here. Hundreds to thousands of people applying for the same 1 job.\n\nLook for an agency to join. They will be able to give you an job somewhere. It most likely will be factory job, some are horrible, some are doable. It's something getting you money. Also often factories will hire good agency staff at the end of the contract. \n\nIt would help you pay for driving lessons, get a car and be able to find something else to do a job if you wanted to."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:18:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngzmi'}]"
1jngut3,2025-03-30T22:25:53,Think I screwed up,"So the other day I think it was Thursday I was placed under 136 and then Friday was assessed under the mental health act I was discharged to the crisis team, now here's where it gets a bit I screwed up territory, so I have not slept very much in the last week and when I say not much I've probably had about 7 hours sleep all week, I have a drink problem and had been sober for a few months the one thing I used to be able to get when I drank was that it would knock me out so I could actually get some sleep so I made a very stupid decision one that I'm very annoyed and upset about to drink however it did not have the desired affect it did however make my mood worse and I stupidly carried on drinking into the next day (Saturday), and unfortunately was extremely drunk when the crisis team arrived and by that time I was very drunk tired and angry at a lot of things but especially with the way I have been treated or there of the lack of treatment especially aimed at a particular psychiatrist I may have said some very bad things including maybe some threatening remarks about the psychiatrist, I have now sobered up and have realised what I said I contacted the crisis team this afternoon and explained that I didn't mean a lot of what was said and that I was a mix of sleep deprived agitated low mood topped off with being off medication and drunk, I said that I'm not usually that person and especially not a violent person, however I was then informed that they are to have a meeting tomorrow morning and they are going to be discussing next steps after yesterday and wether I need to be reassessed, I suppose my question comes down to if the crisis team orders me to be reassessed does that generally mean that they would be able to enforce that or even enforce that I'm admitted back in to hospital I've been in hospital twice in the last 2 years with my last time in hospital being a really bad experience and therefore is something I would like to avoid I'm just trying to see if there is now anything I can do to change the minds of those who maybe making that kind of decision.",MentalHealthUK,3,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jngut3/think_i_screwed_up/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjlbjq', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:25:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkksca', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': ""So they can ask for the AMHP service to consider re-assessing you. It would be up to the AMHPs to decide whether or not to assess you again. But yes they can decide to even if you were recently assessed. As you are at home now they would likely have to assess you at your home and decide if you need admission. But as usually, they would still need 2 doctors (one of which must be s12 approved) to recommend your admission to hospital and then an AMHP to be prepared to admit you. So 3 professionals altogether would have to agree. To be honest from what you have said, making threats towards a psychiatrist whilst drunk wouldn't be grounds to admit someone to hospital, but obviously I don't have the whole story. However, the team are probably going to want to discuss how to manage the situation moving forward. I mean it depends on what you said and how genuine the threats were. It may be that the psychiatrist will not have any involvement with your care moving forward, or it may be that the team have to think about their role, or it may be that they continue but wont see you when intoxicated, or won't see you at home but only at their base. If your threats were really severe then they may consider police involvement but doesn't sound like that is the case from what you have said."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:25:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjqf09', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I dont know that any of us can know what might happen next. It sounds like you will have to wait and see what is decided at the meeting. If you made credible threats against someone, I really dont know what the possible outcomes might be.\n\nIts good you have been able to reflect on this now and have spoken to them to give some context. \n\nI know your last admission wasnt helpful, but it does sound like you need some support just now. What support do you have in the community as community based treatment would often be preferred to admission if possible. Do you people who support you like friends and family? And are you under a CMHT? If so they might be able to offer some extra support right now? \n\nSounds like youve had a really hard week. Please be kind to yourself and try to not worry about what you cant control. Take time for some self care tonight and hope the outcome of the meeting tomorrow is positive and you get some more support.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:51:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjtsiq', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""At this moment I only have the crisis team I've been getting promised for god knows how long community mental health support and have been left with absolutely nothing I have deteriorated over the last couple of months, in terms of other support I don't have family close by but they have their own things going on and I don't like to put my own things on them plus one of my brothers just doesn't understand mental health and basically tells me to pull myself together and stop putting pressure on the rest of the family with my shit as he puts it, my boyfriend does as much as he can to help and support me but has his own things to deal with as well in which I also support him through with us we support eachother all the time, so basically my support is very limited at this moment."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:08:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkm13q', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""I think from my understanding they are meeting in the morning to discuss next steps, but that is why I made every effort today to explain that I was drunk and I didn't mean most of what I said about the psychiatrist I did however say that the psychiatrist in question I would be exploring how to go about raising a complaint against and in amongst conversations with a couple of people who have been under the psychiatrists care have said if I move forwards with a complaint they will join it."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:32:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkksca'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk9m7g', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Well at the very least I hope this prompts the CMHT to take you on under their care. I think having regular support with someone like a care coordinator can be really helpful for people when they having a difficult time. \n\nPlease do advocate for that too. Its not okay to not get that community support when you need it. It can feel so hard and lonely often, especially when you feeling isolated from you family. Ask them to be seen by the CMHT. Thats community support. You shouldnt have to be resorting to the crisis line because you dont have regular support in the community. \n\nAlso do you have an understanding GP? Have you seen them recently? They can also make referrals to the CMHT and offer support too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:28:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjtsiq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkbcdg', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""I saw my GP a couple of weeks ago he was aware of my mental health issues and that I have been getting worse, when I was 136 the other day the police were saying that they were making a referral to adult social care but couldn't guarantee any outcome from that I'm just worried that I really screwed up after my assessment on Friday and now the crisis team are meeting tomorrow to discuss whether they believe after yesterday as to do I need to be assessed again by the team who who assessed me the other day but as I said I made some mistakes yesterday in a few things that I said, I regret the things that I said and that's why they want me assessed again."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:37:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk9m7g'}]"
1jn7xh4,2025-03-30T13:49:48,I feel like I shouldn't exist because people don't want me around,"I don't know what it is, I'm on the autism spectrum, and diagnosed with OCD and anxiety too. Because I don't speak that much, I don't make for good conversation. Everywhere I go, people don't seem to understand that, it leads to assumptions and accusations. It isn't restricted to just friends either, it can be family too. I get invited to go out and stuff, then when I make the effort to turn up since it is hard to leave the house, I never feel welcomed. 

Then I get all these thoughts about how I probably play into the 'bad person' stereotype because I have so many problems, on top of being talentless and unemployed. ",MentalHealthUK,11,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jn7xh4/i_feel_like_i_shouldnt_exist_because_people_dont/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhlyee', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:49:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7xh4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkicxk6', 'author': 'Miserable_Bug_5671', 'body': ""I'm glad you're around. Can you find other autistic people in your area or online? We seem to communicate better with each other and value each other more."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:12:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7xh4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkha2p', 'author': 'CharlieCatBloke', 'body': 'You sound just like me. There are people out there who understand us and how our shitbag brains work, hope you manage to find some of them!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:07:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7xh4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkieasi', 'author': 'HYPERPEACE-', 'body': ""Not really. I only know two autistic people near me. Most other autistic people in my area aren't like me though. And only one of them seems similar to me. I can't rely on relating to people, I learn that the hard way last year. It kept making me miserable and depressed because there isn't anybody who wants to know me."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:22:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mkicxk6'}]"
1jn9tvq,2025-03-30T16:17:04,"Where to access therapy or counselling (preferably low waitlist, low fee or free)?","Hi again,

Sorry for all of the questions recently. As per my previous post, I’ve (23 years old) been waiting for nhs talking therapies for about 8 months now and have no idea how long the waitlist is. I am really struggling at present both as a result of previous issues and trauma and more problems that are ongoing and new trauma and bad experiences that are just being added on top of that that I have no idea how to process on my own.


I need some support. I can’t wait any more on my own. I don’t have a support network as most of my problems and trauma are to do with home life. I’m struggling at work and don’t have anyone to talk to there as it’s a new role and I don’t want to ruin my chances of passing my probation.

I’ve been to my gp who has just upped my dose of fluoxetine despite me telling him it isn’t doing anything. I practically begged him for just an appointment where I could get things on record or talk and he said they don’t offer that only talking therapies which I’m already on the waitlist for. I just feel like I need someone who knows things that have happened to me. Just someone to share the burden a bit. It’s not even comfort or anything that I want I just want someone to know so I don’t feel alone with it all.

I don’t know what I can do. I’ve tried The Mix and shout 1-1 chat but they’re very limited in what they can offer me. I’ve called Samaritans before but couldn’t get through in time before their phone lines closed. 

I feel like I’m asking all the right places for help but no one *can* help, if that makes sense. But I need something and soon. I’ve been strong all through my life but I just feel like I’m running on empty. I can’t keep doing this. I know my living situation is what needs to change really but I don’t have the power to make any changes at the moment as silly as that sounds (it’s very complicated.) 

Is there anywhere I can look into for therapy or even counselling while I wait for talking therapies? I can’t afford a lot of what I’ve seen about online as I’m in a new job and am still waiting for my first wage packet. I don’t even know how I’m supposed to know what type of therapy that I need as I’ve never received any support before - cbt/relationship therapy/trauma specific? I have no idea. I’m just a bit lost and looking for advice or suggestions. ",MentalHealthUK,5,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jn9tvq/where_to_access_therapy_or_counselling_preferably/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhzkg3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:17:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mki700d', 'author': 'Remarkable_Baby4408', 'body': 'Hi, it sounds like you’re really struggling at the moment waiting for NHS talk therapy and starting a new job on top of your living situation. There’s a few places I know of you could have a look at. \n\nThere’s Knus, they’re a peer support network it’s not quite counselling but they’re trained in some counselling techniques (not a specific approach like the ones you mentioned), more goal orientated like coaching. It’s free as far as I know run by volunteers. \n\nMind (if they’re local to you) offer counselling which is more on the low cost end. \n\nCTUK (counsellors together CIC) offer low cost counselling online and over the phone. \n\nFYMC in Leeds offer reduced rates for trainee counsellors both online and in person, these are allotted on a needs/complexity basis. \n\nAffordable counselling network also offer low cost therapy. \n\nThere will be more out there for you, try the counselling directories (BACP, NCPS, psychology today, counselling directory etc) for local and online therapists there’s a filter for price range on at least some of them. \n\nThere’s also AI which you could ask to walk you through some specific counselling techniques or activities. You could also ask it to go through the different modalities of therapy to ascertain which one might suit you best to give you more of a direction.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:25:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mki52wk', 'author': 'CyberSkelet', 'body': ""Yo're welcome to talk to me about it. I understand the struggle. You can message me through reddit if you want to."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:08:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mki7ma9', 'author': 'LouisePoet', 'body': ""KOOSH is a free online therapy for young people.  (QWELL for adults over 25). I don't think it's available everywhere, but they may know of similar services in your area.\n\nIt is as anonymous as you want it to be, as well."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:30:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkikeco', 'author': 'Old-Apartment-1476', 'body': 'Google low cost counselling in your area. It is definitely available and much more affordable than private practitioners. Especially if you have more complex needs and the nhs talking therapies are not set up for it, and CHMT wait lists are so long.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:03:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkix4e9', 'author': 'Therailwaykat_1980', 'body': 'When I was on the waiting list for NHS therapies and I couldn’t cope while waiting, I called them themselves and they offered me a few interim phone appointments to try and help get me through. It’s not much but my advice might help you get a least an hour on the phone with them and if you explain how much it’s all affecting you and they think you are “bad enough” they do try to bump you up the list in my experience. I’m on my 3rd lot in 4 years, a year wait between finishing each block of sessions and starting the next. \n\nI also use the free text service SHOUT when I feel I’m teetering on crisis and they’ve talked me down several times. \n\nGood luck 🫶', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:18:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhzkgx', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:17:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiwhvo', 'author': 'Therailwaykat_1980', 'body': '🫶', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:15:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mki52wk'}]"
1jmwkj2,2025-03-30T02:50:43,‘On a scale of 1 to 10’,"I seriously do not think you can accurately quantify emotion or distress. I think there is an overreliance on ranking scales across UK mental health services. I’d understand if it were used to gain a general idea of how you’re doing, but in my experience these numbers have been used to directly dictate your treatment/management plans. Its madness to me. 

Just talk to me like a human!! I can tell you in actual words how I’m feeling and how I’m doing. It feels so incredibly invalidating to me that there is a consensus that my pain is as simple as a number. It’s not. 

It also just does not give an accurate reflection of any changes at all. For example in a lot of questionnaires it’ll ask you to rate s*icidality out of 10, sleep out of 10, eating habits out of 10 etc. They try to force a certain parity of esteem between things things that oftentimes don’t bare the same weight ie 8/10 for s*icidality is very very different than 8/10 for sleeplessness for me, and it just doesn’t take that into account. ",MentalHealthUK,29,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jmwkj2/on_a_scale_of_1_to_10/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkf2rmp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T02:50:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfe6p0', 'author': 'hiredditihateyou', 'body': 'Unfortunately it’s largely because of the need to prove effectiveness of the MH services to retain/increase funding. The NHS is all about ‘evidence based practice’ but it’s also cash strapped and political - so if there’s no empirical proof an intervention works there is a risk it could get pulled. I currently need a surgery which was previously funded but was pulled due to lack of evidence (those of us with the condition feel that actually it was an excuse to avoid funding expensive surgery for lots of people as it’s had a lot of press recently). Unfortunately MH doesn’t really fall into showing results as easily as physical health so people can feel overwhelmed or not best served by constant rating scales, but hopefully you can take from it what you can and talk around it with your therapist or PWP. If you feel like your plan isn’t working for you you could ask to try a different form of therapy that isn’t as linked to ratings as CBT on the NHS tends to be.', 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:56:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfde6h', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Ive done the questionnaires like these and hilariously my results got worse in all areas as the months went on', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:52:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfn070', 'author': 'MoHarless', 'body': 'Yes I agree so much with this. Its is one of the reason CBT isnt going to work for me. Id feel a wave of exhaustion roll over me just looking at the forms and then feel I had no idea where I was on the scale compared to last time', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:48:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh53s6', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': ""For me it changes so often so I would need to do a 1 - 10 everyday for a few months for them to know for real.   \nI can wake up one day and think everything was a 1, but then a few weeks later I am 10's all over. My perception changes too much."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:52:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf6501', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""Yes, it feels like anything they can do to avoid meeting and assessing you in person. I would imagine they would learn more from a 2 minute meeting than 500 questionnaires. I am not even sure anyone even looks at the results! When people fill them in, they probably feel like they've made some progress, but I'm sure they're put straight through the shredder."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:10:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfek0a', 'author': 'yohowdyhaw', 'body': 'I absolutely agree with you. Unfortunately, the above often takes away from any sort of person centredness whatsoever. It’s actually the reason I walked away from a service full stop because of how totally invalidating I found it - up to 30 mins PER SESSION of questionnaires. But the individual’s needs don’t matter when it comes to money in the NHS. It’s sad.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:58:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfe6p0'}, {'comment_id': 'mkg16fi', 'author': 'hiredditihateyou', 'body': 'I think in some services the service users are asked to come early and do the questionnaires before the session, if I ever end up working in the NHS as a therapist that would be my strong preference so I could focus on the client rather than the box checking during the session. Perhaps you can ask if that might be an option? I think within the NHS, manualised therapies like LI CBT basically rule the roost and the PWPs are encouraged to focus on the wrong things (like questionnaires and maintaining recovery rates for the service at a set level) unfortunately, rather than working in depth according to the person centred tradition as the sessions just aren’t allocated sufficient time.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:11:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfek0a'}]"
1jn7gxf,2025-03-30T13:14:00,Please put me in the right direction!,"My partner m35 has been diagnosed with ADHD combined through psychiatry UK but I’m pretty sure something else is at play here and my suspicions is OCD and possible PTSD.
He’s still in the titration list for meds and the wait is approximately 7-10 months. 

Every week I’m having to deal with mental breakdowns, where he’s crying and screaming to the point I can’t deal with it anymore but I cannot leave him the way that he is. 

How would we go about a full evaluation? Even if it’s just the diagnosis and no meds, we just need answers to know what we’re dealing with. 
If diagnosed privately would we be stuck with paying for meds privately each month? Because we just cannot afford it.

He’s tried CBT therapy also which hasn’t helped him the slightest. 

Any advice? 

",MentalHealthUK,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jn7gxf/please_put_me_in_the_right_direction/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhiqcq', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:14:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7gxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhtzik', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I think first port of call would be GP? There you could explain concerns and GP might refer him to the Community Mental Health team?', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:18:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7gxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyrz6', 'author': 'Head_Cat_9440', 'body': ""Don't tolerate abuse."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:09:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7gxf'}]"
1jmu0kg,2025-03-30T00:53:17,NHS Therapy a waste of time?,"Right so I began therapy in January and attended one session then the therapist has been off sick from January to last Wednesday, that day I was sick and couldn’t attend. Now I’m being told if I miss another session I’ll be kicked off of the list as if you have two missed sessions then they boot you out. Now I have severe ADHD combined type and scored 17/18 on the adhd test report and my memory is absolutely terrible, like extremely poor. I’ve also missed 4 asthma reviews as they completely slipped my mind. My brain just doesn’t work in a morning at all and I often down wake up until 10am at a minimum and go to bed about 9 so I’m sleeping 13 hours a day as my energy just entirely depletes so I’m stuck in this horrible cycle. 

I sought therapy for numerous issues (ADHD coping mechanisms, depression and anxiety and how to cope with my mum being on end of life care which is causing enormous stress, being put in a kids home and suffering physical and sexual abuse whilst there). Now she said I had to pick only one issue out of then seven issues I have as it was only 12 weeks maximum I can have, how do I pick only one when they all have a significant number of major issues? But I can refer myself back to work on each of the issues and work on another then another and I’m just not seeing the point. I waited over 12 months to get into therapy and that would mean it’s going to take nearly a decade to sort out most of my problems, why is this so bad? Like I need major help and it’s only one out of many issues I can work on, I can’t work because of all of this and pip rejected my claim so I can’t afford to pay and I only got to choose from CBT or talking nothing specialised at all. It’s got to the point where I just can’t and don’t see the point in doing it and mayaswell just leave it as I’m struggling to see the point. 

The other thing is I can only get an appointment in the mornings one day a week which really doesn’t seem like it will work one little bit. I have major brain fog in a morning due to ADHD and so I will often forget about it, I asked if I could be called in the morning to remind me as a text on Monday is forgotten in a hour or so. I’ve tried alarms and alerts on my phone but they don’t work as it doesn’t make a noise and I barely sit on my phone to see the reminder and even when I do I still forget so I asked if I could be called on the morning of my appointment and was flat out refused as “they don’t have time for that”. This week I wasn’t too well and slept in until gone 12pm I slept through all my alarms. The phone call would really help but instead it’s now if you miss another I’m off the list, like I’m trying really really hard but I can’t do it alone but they just won’t do it. I had my appointment last week but over the phone as I missed and then got issued a miss again and you’ll be kicked off. 

Like how can I win at this? I’m mad they won’t provide me help with all my issues and then don’t know what is affecting me more out the lot of them. I asked for a reasonable adjustment of a call in the morning to jog my brain which was a big no, like I don’t get how a one minute call is an issue but it is. I went all over my deepest stuff which caused me so much anxiety and stress just to be told only pick one. This isn’t a good way of helping imho, and I can’t get treatment for my problems without it taking years if this is even the right therapy for me as I opted cbt for anxiety. I just don’t see it being any good for me at all and feel like it’s a big joke. I was rubbish at school with homework never mind this and all the stuff I have to do like be with mum etc. and i know I’ll barely remember to do it and the you only get 12 weeks max of the two worse types of therapy available I’m just not getting the point. 

Paying isn’t an option and I don’t know what to do my gut instinct is to just cancel it as a waste of time to be honest. Especially given I have adhd and they can’t make reasonable requests happen that wouldn’t take a few moments of their time for hells sake and my issues seem to be completely ignored or just not important enough. I’ve tried therapy 5 times and always came to this conclusion for one reason or another. I’m sick of my mental health issues just being ignored and lack of support for, I’ve had issues as long as I can remember and it took until I was 28 to get a adhd diagnosis (which I’m still awaiting treatment for). 

Why is uk therapy so rubbish and you’re made to fit a mold of 12 weeks only and done and cured. It doesn’t work that way at all in real life and 12 weeks for complex needs just isn’t enough. How is this even care to be honest? It’s negligent care at best. You can’t even see a psychiatrist for anxiety/ depression and GPs are rubbish at it and CMHTs reject referral after referral. Hell I had to go nhs funded private diagnosis for ADHD as my area has no adult service and the one that did has stopped referrals for that service. It’s a mess and reeves want to call us lazy, id love to work but my issues make it ridiculously difficult. 










",MentalHealthUK,10,47,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jmu0kg/nhs_therapy_a_waste_of_time/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkehfw5', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:53:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf5ohu', 'author': 'Negative_Cod_4747', 'body': 'Sorry you’re going through so much, I can appreciate how frustrating NHS therapy is! You wait patiently thinking you’re going to get the care you need, to be told this is all you’re getting and that’s it! Even so, you need to still go into it with your all, and it might be that your therapist can refer you on to some more directed trauma therapy after getting to know you and your issues further. \n\nYou need to really try and make the appointments though. I’ve always struggled getting up in the morning, but it’s just something I have to do, even if my ADHD brain didn’t allow me to sleep until 5am. Maybe buy a couple of different alarm clocks with varying sounds, set them both along with your phone alarm. Also, put your appointment in the diary/calendar on your phone. \n\nI mean this with love, but it sounds like you need to take some personal responsibility for your this and find ways to get yourself up and to your appointment. As harsh as it is, no one can do this for you.', 'score': 21, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:07:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkenw09', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Given all the stuff you mentioned happening during your childhood this sounds like quite complex trauma that, as you say, this 12 week course cannot possibly cover.\n\nHowever sadly in the UK you have to jump through the hoops and complete these things and hopefully as you coming to close of sessions, there will be time to talk about what might help next. \n\nIts really frustrating and hard to even access MH care and I really feel for you. Regarding the morning appts, I do totally understand how difficult it can be, but honestly you got to take what you get. Have you friends who could ring you to wake you up? Can you ask GP for supportive sleeping medication you could use the night prior to appt? \n\nHope the sessions do end up being somewhat helpful and that afterwards, you also get further support. Good luck', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:29:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkekdsr', 'author': 'Funny_Relief2602', 'body': 'Yeah NHS therapy they tend to operate on strict schedule I know some therapies if you miss it 4 weeks in a row you get kicked  off. Your therapy is it 2 sessions entirely or two consecutive sessions. Try not to cancel the appointment is it possible if yoh can ask the therapist to send you reminders. I know theres therapies out there where you can go for free and it’s run by charities have you ever heard of something called the listening place ? Perhaps that might be a shout. Sorry if I’m repeating things I didn’t read the whole text entirely x', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:09:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf005c', 'author': 'Fridadog1', 'body': 'If you google wake up call service uk, there are different options to arrange for one… might be worth a try', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T02:35:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf59vc', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""I absolutely hate all the news coverage and that chancellor big balls deciding she's the right person to have a say on our condition. It adds a massive blow to all of our difficulties every day. I'm sorry, I know how utterly frustrating it is to be stuck in this system and not have a way out by financial means. PIP is such a strange system, it's definitely not accessible or even fair I'd argue. Lots of people fall through the cracks simply because we don't know how the system 'works' and it's not because we aren't experiencing the same issues as someone who gets it awarded, it's honestly a lottery in so many ways - let the fact that so many charities offer free advice and support around it and the amount of organisations out there who aim to help you win speak for that. \n\nI like someone's suggestion of a wake up call service, I might have to try that for myself tbh.  As well as the free charity sessions option. I hope you can consider giving these a go. I really get how infuriating it is to have no understanding for something that is for the most part completely out of your control. I don't know what to suggest without suggesting something which would require remembering and executive dysfunction to be able to utilise it. I second the advice about sleep medication (although I know inconsistency will still affect this working, I'm taking one myself for sleep). \n\nAlso could you ask for your appointments to be later? I don't know if it helps to mention but when I had this service last in my area I was offered a trainee who was a lot more flexible. I'm just wondering if having them later in the day then having them at the same time and day could give you some structure? It's worth asking because if you ask this shows you're really trying and just need them to meet you in the middle. \n\nIt's really stupidly tough out there."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:05:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkeo0na', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""I feel it is just a box-ticking exercise. I feel a lot of the staff realise it's a waste time so everyone is going through the motions. You can't even complain without a lot of patience, which people struggling with MH problems are usually blessed with!"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:29:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf61s7', 'author': '98Em', 'body': 'Sounds stupid but have you already googled your postcode with key words like ""free ADHD support"", ""ADHD help near me"", or had a look at any of the virtual support groups? (I realise and appreciate though that this would have the same issue of forgetting about it closer to the time due to getting distracted)\n\nOne of my (not foolproof but helps) strategies is - acknowledge I get distracted easily. Don\'t put just one reminder in my calendar for an event, add one for the night before, the morning of and half an hour before. You could ask for the appointments to be by phone so that they will literally call you and you\'ll feel it vibrating? Most places will ring you anyways if you\'re late to sign into the online portal or whatever they use, it\'s strange that they didn\'t call you. \nI have an android phone and these let you choose to have multiple notifications for a calendar event like an appointment. It\'s a ball ache, it\'s miserable. But it works sometimes', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:09:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1166', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""I've just remembered something, if the sessions keep going this way and they won't accommodate you or cmht keep rejecting your referral, you can write to your local ICB (integrated care board) and explain that you have no accessible or suitable options and explain that cmht are rejecting your referral and someone else in the comments of another post said this led to them being offered help or a place in cmht was 'suddenly found'. \n\nI know it takes more executive functioning to sit and write this out but it's another option to help you feel like there might be other ways around this or more options."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:31:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkezq3g', 'author': 'RhubarbandCustard12', 'body': 'Explain your circumstances to them - ask for reminders by email and text and whatever else you need to comply. They of all people should make reasonable adjustments! Do the same yourself with phone reminders etc to double down. NHS services are so non-neurodivergent friendly it’s insane… am sorry you are going through this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T02:33:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgdemp', 'author': 'PandaBallet2021', 'body': 'Limited session therapy is not what you need but there are many low cost therapy options available eg Headstrong. NHS therapy will not be appropriate for you (I am a therapist)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T07:26:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk0gxf', 'author': 'muggylittlec', 'body': ""As someone who's previously worked as an NHS therapist. Sometimes it's at the discretion of the therapist whether to boot you for missed sessions. \n\nI never had people reach the criteria for kicking them off the list, but I was allowed to give some leeway if I felt the patient missed sessions for good reasons. \n\nUltimately though, ADHD is your issue to deal with and not the therapist's. Interesting, I also have ADHD and I set reminders in my phone for EVERYTHING. My calendar looks like I'm running a small country, not a single life."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:41:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh4k3h', 'author': 'Head_Cat_9440', 'body': ""Therapy doesn't help everyone. \n\nYou could try diet and exercise,  new hobbies,  reading books about your conditions etc"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:47:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhcny1', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I get what you mean about getting up so the last few days I’ve started getting up at 7 no matter how much ive slept but it’s just remembering the appointments, like when you’ve got a million things going around your brain it just makes remembering the appointments so hard. I need to do something that will remind me of it, I may put a post it note on my kettle so when I get my morning tea it will remind me. I just need something to jog my brain if the appointment', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:08:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf5ohu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhdm6o', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Thank you, my doctor hates sleeping pills so they won’t give me more than 5 at a time and I’m on two other meds for my anxiety and depression that make you sleep but if I’m hyperfoxusing on something I won’t even notice I’m tired. I’ll stick with it and see what she recommends after I’ve completed this course but to be honest it’s sounding like I’m just going to have to keep re referring myself back again and again tbh and their isn’t much more available in my area. I just wish they’d give me afternoon appointments like that would be a huge help but they only work half days which I find really strange like don’t they know what a full day is and surely it wouldn’t hurt the service to phone me in the morning to remind me but I’ll just have to try and find other ways.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:18:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mkenw09'}, {'comment_id': 'mkeo0p7', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'As I said if you miss two appointments no matter how far apart they kick you and I’ve asked for reminders on the day by phone so I don’t miss it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:29:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkekdsr'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhdrgl', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'That sounds good I’ll have a look into that as it would be really helpful tbh', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:19:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf005c'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhevua', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'For later appointments it’s not possible as they only work half days and my appointment is the latest one they offer so I’m stuck with that to be honest. Id love later appointments and usually always have them for the afternoon but they close at 1pm and finish appointments at 12:30 so that’s all I can get. Oh that woman is absolutely evil, well I actually think this whole government is, and I hate to say this but sunak was better than any of these people. And kier is the worse PM in history, it’s okay for him to have thousands and thousands of freebies yet take away from the disadvantaged it’s bonkers and he was the one saying taking the extra in UC would be cruel yet he’s now trying to cut benefits, utter hypocrisy from this lot.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:31:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf59vc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhfm1e', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I get you I honestly don’t know how to set a reminder on my phone that makes a sound it’s just there on the screen but I really don’t look at my phone much so it’s a tough one unless I set an alarm to shower and another for the appointment. Not the one in calendar but the one that rings until you stop it type alarm, that may work actually.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:39:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf61s7'}, {'comment_id': 'mki25qs', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'That’s actually a really good idea I’ll get on the phone with them tomorrow to see if they can force something through as I’m reaching my breaking point a bit now and the last time that happened I had a severe episode of psychotic depression which was one of the worst things I’ve experienced and that includes a testicular torsion and needing surgery on my balls, I couldn’t walk for a week after that operation 😂😂', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:42:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mki1166'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhf7oe', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Yeah I’m gonna have to try more to remember, I really just need an a call for a couple of seconds to jog my mind and to me is a super easy reasonable adjustment for them to make.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:35:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mkezq3g'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhc04a', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Thank you, I just can’t afford it I’m on £70 - £60 a week (because UC Is one day a month not every 4 weeks so if I were to pay £40 for assessment and then 15 - 35 a week would be using a week or more worth of money on it. I wish the tribunal for pip would hurry up and deal with my case asap so that I could pay but it’s just not an option at this point, and so I could pay for adhd treatment so I can then work. It’s a vicious cycle of rubbish.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:01:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgdemp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk6y5h', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'That’s like saying to a cancer patient that if they get very sick through no fault of their own and they have to miss something it’s on them because they’ve got cancer or if someone gets raped then it’s on them because they must have been half dressed or whatever. At the end of the day I have a medical condition that isn’t managed yet and I’m waiting for treatment, hopefully it should be treated soon but until then I have a disability which isn’t managed and need extra help and under the law they should make reasonable adjustments under the human rights act 2010.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:14:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk0gxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhg1ga', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'My diets pretty balanced to be honest and I walk the dog two hours a day so I’m okay on that front. I’ve already read all about it as I wasn’t sure what my issue was until I did that tbh. New hobby’s aren’t an issue with adhd you just get bored of them really quickly though if you get me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:44:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkh4k3h'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkm5d9', 'author': 'Negative_Cod_4747', 'body': 'That’s good progress! Whatever you’ve got to do, do it! Even if you have to put 100 sticky notes over your house to remind you, anything that will get you to this appointment. I know trauma can have a massive impact on concentration and memory, so you’ve got the double whammy of that with ADHD affecting things! It’s good to start trying to put better routines in place as this is what you’re going to have to do anyway. Medication for your ADHD will help a lot, but it still won’t be the cure for everything (I found this out the hard way). Good luck with everything, I really hope things get better for you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:32:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhcny1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkj2w2h', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I hope you get something out of the course. Unfortunately there is no way a service is going to take time to ring you and remind you about an appt later that day. They simply dont have the resources.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:49:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhdm6o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhzyez', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""Ah that really sucks. I'm sorry that there's no way around that (I sleep in a lot too despite the best intentions and setting alarms due to fatigue and feel guilty and ashamed each time). It's weird that they only work half days, did the therapist tell you this? I wonder if it's worth asking their general receptionist if this is the case for all therapists or just this particular one? In case you could be re allocated to someone who can accommodate later appointments if that makes sense. \nIf you can't and this is just a redundant point, absolutely try to get in touch with the free sessions somebody mentioned above (I can't remember the charity name sorry), to see if they can offer you a more appropriate time for sessions. And try googling the help in your area in case there's a few things that aren't very well known or new etc. \n\nI don't really have faith in anyone in politics honestly, they all seem to make reckless and unthought out decisions without ever troubleshooting them. The amount of expenses they are allowed to claim and the hypocrisy of the fact it's things like rent, energy bills etc. I won't get into it because it won't ever change I'll spend my energy doing the consultations and responding to them through scope etc instead"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:20:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhevua'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhu42t', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'Google it if you’ve not got an iPhone - it has step by step guides and recommendations', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:19:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhfm1e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhtxlb', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'https://support.apple.com/en-gb/102484#:~:text=In%20the%20Calendar%20app%2C%20tap%20the%20%2B%20button%20at%20the%20top,such%20as%20Repeat%20or%20List.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:17:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhfm1e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhz0fi', 'author': '98Em', 'body': 'I know what you mean. It\'s hard to stop our brains for a few minutes to think about doing something differently when we\'re always on auto pilot. I have that issue too, whenever it\'s time sensitive I set an alarm (but I know you can also get distracted on your way to set the alarm lol). \n\nI\'ve missed my insulin doses more times than I\'d like to admit because I was so tired and my brain wouldn\'t slow down and I just couldn\'t stop to think about what would help or to have the functioning to set an alarm so I believe you 100%. \n\nI managed to set an alarm for this which was every day and forever (so you might not have to set one each time, you can tell it how often and when/how many times and things like that) \n\nThen if you\'re in another room or leave your phone on charge it\'s easy to ""quickly go upstairs to get something"" then miss it. So please be kind to yourself if you do manage to give this a go - you can\'t mask everything and it\'s difficult. I second the guides below if you have an apple phone, but I find it\'s best to Google stuff like ""*insert your phone name and model here*, how to set a reminder with an alarm"" until you get something that makes sense. So for me it would be ""Google pixel 7 how to set a reminder with an alarm"" or words of a similar combination', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:11:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhfm1e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkizdyp', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""You're more than welcome, let us know how it goes if you do? If you have a free minute where you can focus today it might be worth finding their contact details today so you have the number ready (one less thing to get in your way).\nBut Jesus, that sounds like a very hectic and chaotic time. I've had similar experiences (no balls however, luckily by the sounds of it!) with psychosis and I hope you don't have to get to that point again 🤞"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:30:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mki25qs'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhtunx', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'Can you not set reminders in your phone using one of the calendar apps?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:17:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhf7oe'}, {'comment_id': 'mkntvq8', 'author': 'muggylittlec', 'body': ""I'm not to make you feel bad about your ADHD and issues, I do feel for you, I have two lifelong conditions covered under the disability act, so I have some idea of how shit it can be. I'm just trying to give you a little window into why the system is the way it is.\n\nYour therapist could be seeing dozens of patients, under pressure to hit targets and improve patient outcomes, they could have high risk patients with suicidal issues - I have been there myself and it's very very stressful.\n\nThey will be underpaid and overworked, I would wager they are telling the truth when they say they don't have time to call you.\n\nIf they saw a handful of people with ADHD each week and were required to call every one of them. They become responsible for you arriving at your appointment, Let's say they forget to call you, then you say it's their fault you didn't come to your session. They are now in trouble from managers for missed appointments.\n\nThe system is shite mate, and I am sorry you are struggling with it. I'm not defending it and saying it's great. 12 sessions are not enough, asking you to choose something to work on is crap. But the NHS is trying to use the resources they have in the fairest way they can.\n\nI hope you are able to get some help with the sessions you have been offered."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T15:40:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk6y5h'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhh86v', 'author': 'Head_Cat_9440', 'body': 'Do you know what kind of help you want?\n\nDrug treatment?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:57:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhg1ga'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkop00', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I’ve now set up 3 alarms to go off every Wednesday morning to remind me to wake up for therapy, then another an hour later saying shower for therapy and then on 15 minutes before the appointment to leave the house and go to therapy and then put a post it note on the cupboard to say therapy at 11am; So I’ve got four things to remind me about my appointment. I’m actually pretty proud of myself today for trying to organise my appointment Wednesday and now I hopefully won’t forget. Yeah my consultant said it won’t fix every problem but I’m mainly concerned about my ability to concentrate, remember things, loosing track of time and my impulses and hopefully motivation. I also had some great news that I’m at the top of titration waiting list and should start titration within 28 days but it should be sooner. Thank you for all your advice, I greatly appreciate it. God bless you!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:45:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkm5d9'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1onw', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'There’s no need to feel ashamed, ADHD depletes our energy immensely and it is a symptom of it. I’m always feeling fatigued to be honest and it’s horrible, especially the muscle aches that go with it. Yeah they only work in my area Wednesday mornings and no afternoons so I’m stuck with what I’ve got as I prefer face to face than phone calls but she marked I didn’t attend last week when I was sick but I said we can do it over the phone but she said to leave it until next week and then they’ve gone and changed the time to 11am instead of half past as she has a meeting at 12. Unfortunately this is the only service in my area for therapy but as you say I might try the one someone mentioned on here as an afternoon one would be ideal for me to be honest even if over the phone now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:37:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhzyez'}, {'comment_id': 'mki0b92', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Thank you for that info that’s what I did last week for my appointment but then the reminder doesn’t have an alarm to go off it just stays on the screen and unless I get a message or something then I don’t notice it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:24:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhu42t'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhu05v', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'https://support.apple.com/guide/iphone/set-reminders-iph88463e18/ios', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:18:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhtxlb'}, {'comment_id': 'mki0qtv', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I think I’m going to try just setting an alarm in the clock section for it to go off at 9 am to wake and shower then another at 11 so I can make my appointment for half past 11. I charge it up the night before and should be good for reminding me I hope. Thank you for your help, I know what it’s like to miss meds to be honest, like I’m in two antidepressants and I know I’ve forgot to take them when I just start feeling down and crying after a day or two. Thanks again bud', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:28:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhz0fi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhzpuz', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Yes but it dosent have an alarm or anything it just shown on my phone but I rarely pick up my phone to look at it, like sometimes my phone will just sit in my pocket for a few hours so I don’t notice them.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:18:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhtunx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhjenj', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I’m waiting for adhd medications to help manage it better but I’ve been waiting 11 1/2 months from diagnosis and it’s been 2 years since I was referred for the assessment and waited just over a year for that assessment and currently waiting to try dexamphetamine for my ADHD, which I’ve heard also can cause anxiety and depression to get better as a consequence of my ADHD being out of control.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:21:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhh86v'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhjspm', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I’m already taking two antidepressants but they don’t really help, they just take the edge off of my depression a bit. But the reason I went to therapy was to get non medicated management whilst I wait for treatment because it’s really hard for me to deal with and also my mums on end of life care so that’s making the depression and anxiety worsen and then help for physical and sexual abuse whilst being put in a kids house.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:25:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhh86v'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiynzu', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""Oh I completely agree with you there, the shame and guilt is just internalised after 24 years of being told it was my personality lol sorry. Thanks for the reminder though :) \n\nWith the muscle aches, and forgive me if I'm overstepping any boundaries here, have you heard of hypermobility? I mean anxiety and lots of other things can cause achey muscles, but it's closely linked to ADHD and ASD, I have it too so fully empathise with being achy too. Just wanted to mention it as it got to me having chronic pain everyday before I found out (again had to bring it up myself, NHS physio wouldn't have helped otherwise). \n\nThat's really crap, so you offered an alternative to the face to face but because she said to leave it to next week you've been marked as having missed an appointment? Damn they don't sound very flexible at all, sorry. That might be worth noting down in a notes app on your phone, for if you ever did complain and needed to remember everything. That shouldn't have been your fault at all. Again, very crap about the time change too - it sounds like you're trying your best and coming up against a lot of barriers. I hope you can get somewhere with the charity"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:27:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mki1onw'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1hsf', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""Well done for everything you're currently doing to try to manage and cope, even if it doesn't work please be kind to yourself as much as you can (says me who has pretty bad self talk lol).\n\nIt's such a battle when you only realise you've forgotten something *after* the consequences arrive haha. You're welcome"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:35:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mki0qtv'}, {'comment_id': 'mki5wdm', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'Set a reminder for the night before to remind yourself to set an alarm for the session', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:15:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhzpuz'}, {'comment_id': 'mki2uek', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Yeah I’m not gonna worry about what happens at this point to be honest, like you’d think therapists would understand the difficulties of ADHD and help make adjustments so I’ll try and if it’s not good enough then oh well I’ll just try the place someone here mentioned and hopefully they have some understanding. It’s like when I called the crisis team and missed the call back and they only attempted one call and then just left me to it. Also, they don’t even do anything, I was having bad panic attacks and they just invited me for a cup of tea and talk when all I wanted was some meds for panic attacks like a low dose of diazepam or something but no it was come 15 miles for tea. I’m not allowed to drive so couldn’t get there 😂😂', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:48:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mki1hsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkj0hne', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""You would think so, I've had many that didn't too. I was lucky to have one with the last time I was with talking changes who I think had ADHD herself. But you probably know yourself when it gets complicated and you're only given so many sessions of standardized treatment it's like the tip of the iceberg isn't it, if anything. \n\nSimilar here with the crisis team, in my experience there's very little they can do. I'd have even appreciated an updated care plan or anything practical, just not 'have you tried having something to eat? Ok well ring us back in 4 hours if it doesn't get any better' (I had only rang *because* I'd tried distractions etc and it hadn't gotten any better). I really hope the wait isn't too much longer for you to be able to try ADHD meds, they can help a lot"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:36:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mki2uek'}]"
1jmy7n3,2025-03-30T04:08:53,Need real advice,"Hi all, I’m 19M, and I feel like a total loser. I’m in an average university, struggling to turn up every week because of my social anxiety and depression. Recently got prescribed sertraline and on a waitlist for therapy, so let’s see how that goes. I live with my parents, and provide little/no help with the bills as I’m unemployed. I also have no friends, and am really struggling mentally. I have no motivation or discipline, and keeping up with uni assignments are difficult. I also just feel like everything is miserable in society, and the world, with all the inflation, crime, and wars, keeps me up at night. I would really appreciate some genuine advice, I am stuck in a loop, of eating, sleeping, heavy phone addiction repeat. I have never worked before, I only have 8 GCSEs to my name. ",MentalHealthUK,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jmy7n3/need_real_advice/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkfg8ci', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:08:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmy7n3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfpyvr', 'author': 'Worldly-Confusion724', 'body': ""This is going to be a bit unconventional but what the heck.   \nI empathize with what you are going thru, i have been there.   \nFirst, you may need to deliberately work on stopping that fone addiction. It is a form of escapism and does little to help with what you are going through.   \nThen, try going out a little bit. Social anxiety may not help much but try. Outside is where the magic is.   \nDiscipline and outcomes have a positive feedback loop. Wake up, make a list of things youd like to achieve for the day, nothing big, like tidy the room, walk for 30 minutes and actually wake up and do them even when you don't feel like it. Then tick all the activities you achieve and this will sometimes encourage you to do more and those small wins pile to bigger wins, may elevate your mood.  \nIf you can, engage in physical exercises. A gym even. Vigorous physical exercises have a way to elevate your mood and improve your sleep.   \nION, this might help a bit. Just try."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T05:05:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmy7n3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfg8e3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). 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1jmrhtz,2025-03-29T23:00:34,SUN Meeting,"Has anybody been to an NHS SUN (Service User network) meeting? My team have told me to go because I don't want to do formal therapy right now (it's too much commitment as I am clinging onto a very busy job in a school) and they don't want me to do meds because of risk, but I don't know what to expect. I'm having to travel for it too. What kinds of people go? What kind of check in/out can I expect- are they quite heavy or more vague? Thank you from your local autistic ""I need to plan"" person",MentalHealthUK,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jmrhtz/sun_meeting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkdweeb', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T23:00:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmrhtz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk11c4', 'author': 'radiantfyi', 'body': ""I have been to a SUN group for a while now and personally find it quite useful. At mine, a range of different people go, so it's quite hard to describe! During the session, people bring up any issues they've been having, and the group basically gives advice and offers support. It's very much based on peer support. It's very flexible, so at mine you can come and go as you like (the only requirement is that you might have to reregister if you don't attend for about 6 months). I'm also autistic and to be honest, it does take a bit of getting used to as, at least at mine, you might meet new people each time but there are likely to be regulars too!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:44:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmrhtz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgezg4', 'author': 'Beneficial-Froyo3828', 'body': 'So I was offered a space in my local SUN group but only got as far as the initial steps, I never attended any meetings.\n\nI had to self-refer and apparently you’d check in and base the topic of that session off what was said in the check in.\n\nIf your local group has an email address, see if they can give you more specific information', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T07:36:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmrhtz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkq2aoy', 'author': '4rami4', 'body': ""Thank you so much this is very helpful! So there's lots of different types of people (with pd or pd-traits)? I'm just finding it really hard to sort of picture ahaha I am imagining it'll be lots of new people I hope they're friendly...\n\nAre people quite open? Or is it the kind of space where everyone is very mindful of triggers? Eg if I'm feeling suicidal is that something that I could share or would it be more appropriate to just refer vaguely to something like emotionl distress? Thank you again for your help sorry for so many questions!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T23:33:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk11c4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkr4453', 'author': 'radiantfyi', 'body': ""I've found that people are really friendly and that people listen. Also, people are very open! Like, in my one, you can talk pretty openly about suicidal thoughts and risk behaviours. Just be mindful that if you are at imminent risk of suicide (and I mean like you say that you'll do it as soon as you leave the group) they might have to tell someone but otherwise it's also very confidential at my one."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T02:42:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mkq2aoy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkr8iud', 'author': '4rami4', 'body': 'Thank you for all your help you are a gem!!!!!!!! Hope you are well 💛💛', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T03:05:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkr4453'}]"
1jm07fx,2025-03-28T22:44:43,"I’m just weak and pathetic, no one can help me any more than they already have","I’ve (37F) struggled with anxiety and depression my entire life, I’ve never felt any different. I’ve used drugs and alcohol since the age of 14 to numb my pain and make me feel ‘happy’, but I went to detox and rehab last year and have been in recovery for 9 months now. I got diagnosed with ADHD last year and am being treated for complex childhood trauma. I’ve had a lot of help, especially compared to the thousands of people who just cannot access psychological therapies, but my therapy is coming to an end soon and I feel like I’m only just beginning to make a dent in my issues.

But I just don’t feel any better. I can’t explain it, I just feel like life is still passing me by and I’m missing something everyone else has got. Like, I’m missing a trick somewhere. My house is an absolute mess, disgusting in fact, I haven’t changed my bed sheets in months, I haven’t cooked in months and just eat crap, I don’t do anything other than go to work and attend recovery groups, I have zero interests, never had a partner and just feel absolutely hopeless. 

I know I’ve got to move and do stuff, but I just can’t sustain any healthy behaviours, and that makes me feel so weak and pathetic. I just sit in my misery, getting flashbacks from the past, ruminating about my behaviour, hating myself, constantly beating myself up, which I know isn’t helpful, but I get so stuck in my thoughts. I’m getting more and more suicidal thoughts, I’m not at a point where I want to act on them as I know the pain it would cause my family, but I have previously put stuff in place like my will and written letters to loved ones, and feel like it wouldn’t take much to push me over the edge. I’m too scared to talk to my psychologist about this as I think it would look like an attempt to avoid discharge, and I think he would discharge me anyway as it’s clearly my mental health causing issues now and not my addiction (he’s an addiction psychologist). 

Mental health services are in crisis, so I know there is no help available from them, and why should I be entitled to more help anyway when I’m clearly not helping myself. ",MentalHealthUK,13,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jm07fx/im_just_weak_and_pathetic_no_one_can_help_me_any/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk7s6tk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T22:44:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk8bk1o', 'author': 'anxietyJames', 'body': 'I don’t know if I can say anything helpful right now but I can relate to a lot of the hopelessness and despair you’ve expressed. It sounds like you need to carry on with the therapy if it’s helping even a little. Might you be able to switch psychologists? You’re absolutely not weak and pathetic and it honestly takes so much courage and strength to keep going and you clearly have that. You’re also holding down a job despite everything. I’ve also experienced a lot of self hatred in the past, so I know some of the thought processes you’re dealing with, but despite what you’re telling yourself, I think you’re doing your best and you really need to start being kind to yourself.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T00:18:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc7u6o', 'author': 'Wild-Ad8124', 'body': ""I feel like I could have written this, I relate so much to everything you said. I think you should speak up and tell them how you feel, not worry about their reaction or how they would interpret it. If I've learned anything from the NHS / CMHT is that you need to demand help and be your own advocate because no one will do it for you. They use any excuse to not have to help you because they are so underfunded. You have to be proactive (although I know that's hard when you're struggling, which is the irony of it all)"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:44:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk94iov', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Hello. Just wanted to say what you said really resonated with me and just so you know, I think there are plenty of us living like you. We are doing our best. You are doing amazing, engaging in detox/ recovery and therapy!! Honestly that is incredible. I know it is hard to feel it sometimes but just from an outside perspective, you are really doing amazing, not weak and pathetic at all. I do totally understand how you feel and I often feel same. You are not alone and sending hugs', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:43:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkcfwgx', 'author': 'ArmouredBardi5', 'body': ""I thought I must have written this and forgotten about it. Your story really resonates with me OP. In my late 30s, divorced, unemployed, depressed and addicted. I was incredibly successful before the end of my marriage, but the constant mental and verbal abuse took its toll and I lost everything.\n\nLike you, I want to take my life back and DO SOMETHING! I can just about take care of myself, or at least I'm muddling through day by day but never making anything better.\n\nI wish I was in a better place to be able to give you advice OP but I don't have all the answers. All I can say is that you aren't alone (even if you feel it) and there are places to reach out to. The Samaritans have been a rock to me.\n\nIf you can find the energy, check your local private therapists and call around, explain your situation and see if they will do a concession for you if you struggle to pay for it. Even finding someone in training can help and is often cheaper, having a mirror held up to your face is painful but an important step.\n\nFeel free to reach out and DM if you'd like. You can do this, we all can do this."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T17:53:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk993ay', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Thank you so much, I know I need to be kinder to myself, it’s something I’ve been told over and over, but it just won’t stick. There’s no one I can switch to, he’s the only one in the service, and to be fair, he’s seen me more than he probably should have already. I’m doing EMDR at the moment, but because I’m so anxious about therapy ending soon, it’s blocking me as I don’t feel like I can open up about everything I need to. \n\nHow did you heal your feelings of self hatred?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T03:07:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mk8bk1o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyow5', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'You are so right! I even had this talk off my psychologist last year, he sat me down and told me I can’t continue to sit in a corner, that I have to fight for myself as no one else will! I’d forgotten about that to be fair', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:08:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mkc7u6o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk9b0wx', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Thank you, I appreciate that, I guess I find it hard to see how well I’m doing because I feel so low still, but you’re right, I need to give myself a pat on the back sometimes! \n\nWhen I see my key worker and psychologist, I just feel like I’m so negative and it’s probably wearing thin with them. They are so supportive and reassuring, so when I’m constantly going in with negative thinking, I feel like it must look like I’m choosing to stay in my misery. I know only I can change my thinking and I need to start appreciating how far I’ve come a lot more. I really am grateful to be in recovery, it’s just sometimes it feels tempting to go back to drugs to feel something other than this emptiness, but I know that would just cause me more pain than ever! \n\nIt breaks my heart to know how many people are out there suffering, many with no help at all… I fear this crisis with mental health is just going to get worse until some serious money is thrown into mental health services!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T03:17:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mk94iov'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyj93', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Hey, thank you for reaching out, sorry to hear about what you’ve gone through and what you’re continuing to go through! It’s like having two brains at times isn’t it; one saying this is what I want, but the other pulling you away from it. I just can’t find the motivation to do the things I want, and even when I do, I just end up feeling worse due to my low self esteem and constant flashbacks to the past. \n\nHave you found a therapist privately that’s really helped you? I have had a look to be fair and found one locally that has good reviews, but I’m just worried they won’t be able to do the deep trauma work with me. I’ve tried looking for trauma specific therapists, but there doesn’t appear to be any in my area. I’ve probably been spoilt seeing a psychologist to be fair, because when I went to rehab, my counsellor was very supportive, but it was very much ‘how does that make you feel’ work. I’m more interested in working on the deeper issues of my childhood and how they have translated into adulthood. It doesn’t help that I’m a very deep thinker and intellectualiser, so probably not the easiest person to work with! \n\nAnd agree re Samaritans, they were amazing last year when I was going through my crisis!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:06:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkcfwgx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkblqq6', 'author': 'anxietyJames', 'body': 'Hey, you’re very welcome. Has he given any indication that your sessions will have to come to an end soon? You really need some certainty that the EMDR will continue, as you say. I guess I’m still work in progress. I still experience a lot of negative self-talk. Medication helps me a lot, which I’m grateful for. I guess one way I think about it is that when I’m thinking something horrible about myself, I ask what I’d say to another person who had just said that about themselves. I’ve also started to accept that I’m the way I am because of past trauma, my adhd and anxiety, and that’s not my fault, and that I’m doing my best in challenging circumstances, which you are, too. How are you feeling this morning?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:41:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mk993ay'}, {'comment_id': 'mk9xv4x', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': ""Oh man I could have written that bit about feeling like im so negative around my CPN. I actually told my psychiatrist last time we met, 'i'm not choosing to be unwell. I dont want to feel like this. If I could just magically feel and do better I would!'\n\nI feel like my team must surely be frustrated with me because I do get a high level of care but also havent really gotten better at all, in fact worse? \n\nPlease do remember to give youself a pat on the back. You a badass dealing with this all and keep on going every day!!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T05:24:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9b0wx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqkv9m', 'author': 'ArmouredBardi5', 'body': ""I'm working with a good qualified psychotherapist that I luckily stumbled upon through a friend of a friend. But it's slow work and as much as I wish my therapist could grab me but the collar and shake some sense into me, it all comes down to me finding the effort from somewhere to actually make changes. You ain't a puppet and no one's moving the strings for you.\n\nAlbert Camus' books helped me to put life, people and my own convictions into perspective, and studying psychology has given me a good number of self-reflective tools to use at home (but stay away from self diagnosis), so I'd suggest these if you have the patience. I think you'd find the Outsider interesting.\n\nI've also started using Tarot for daily reflection (not divination, not spiritual or religious at all these days) stating either a question or aspect of myself I'd like to work on that day. I then use the cards to look at it from various perspectives. It's an interesting way of playing devil's advocate with your own bias and broadening your understanding of how your brain works. Jungian Tarot is a fascinating approach to this, or the Fools Journey for discovering parts of your character that might have been neglected as you grew up.\n\nDo you know the issues that stem from your childhood or do you want to discover them? Hypnotism can be useful to deep dive into repressed memories that you can then work on with specialists.\n\nAnd what are your thoughts on using online therapists (such as Betterhelp) to find someone that suits your needs? I haven't used the service but might be worth a shot?\n\nThe Samaritans rock. I went to an introduction session the other week to become one, but I just don't have the emotional strength to do it at the moment. One day hopefully."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T01:06:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhyj93'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc3zl1', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'I think you’re right, I need to have a clearer timeline as I just cannot deal with uncertainty, but if I know it’s going to be X amount of sessions, I can prepare myself better.\n\nThis is exactly what I was thinking yesterday after reading your comment, that if someone else posted what I did, I’d be thinking ‘they should be proud of what they’ve achieved’! I then tried to give myself some positive talk, but the feelings of shame just won’t allow me to, it’s a bloody hard tug of war going on in my head! \n\nHaving trauma and ADHD is rough isn’t it, each compounds the other, but ADHD meds have definitely helped me to some degree, things aren’t quite as bad as they used to be. I push back against using antidepressants too though as I feel like they make me even flatter and numb, but I also can’t go on like this, so may have to give them another go. \n\nBetter this morning, thank you for asking! I have PMDD too, so think that was affecting me a lot yesterday! Hope you’re all good!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:06:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mkblqq6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc4avx', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Thank you, I did, just need to try and maintain the positive self talk and stop the shame taking over! \n\nWhat did your psych say when you said that? Maybe we are just where we need to be in this process, they do say things get worse before they get better in treatment, but it just feels never ending doesn’t it! I’m also extremely self aware and a big over thinker, so this doesn’t help as I’m constantly analysing my thoughts and not allowing myself to just feel. I think this forms some of the frustration my psychologist probably feels', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:09:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9xv4x'}]"
1jlcogy,2025-03-28T01:55:11,Toxic relationship with the NHS,"Work is exhausting and demoralising. We don’t have the resources - not to do a good job, mind - but just to function, to do the bare minimum, to provide half-decent mental health care. Colleagues are making themselves ill with stress or having to go off sick. Everyone is so, so fucking tired. 

I’m stressed and burnt out, I’m working late, I feel like I can’t set healthy boundaries without leaving tasks undone or putting colleagues and patients at risk, I’m getting teary and irritable at work, I’m too tired to do anything on days off. Nevermind work-life balance, I barely have a life full stop.

And just to add insult to injury, when things get so bad that it’s me who needs the care, when it’s time for the system I work so hard for to reciprocate - hospital admission, 6 month wait for CMHT, finally an appointment when GP nags, meds, maybe a follow up in 3 months. We constantly tell people they recover in the community, not hospital! We say all the time that meds aren’t the only solution! And you know there's little point asking for more support because there just isn't enough to go around, what support exists is rationed based on acuity and risk.

I’m so sick of running myself ragged for this system that can’t care for me as an employee OR as a patient.

The anger isn’t even really at the NHS itself; it’s at the years of underfunding and selling bits off, decimating it, running it into the ground, and that it can’t and won't get better without the people with the power truly wanting change. And that makes me so very sad. ",MentalHealthUK,77,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlcogy/toxic_relationship_with_the_nhs/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk2euoh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T01:55:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2no30', 'author': 'Accomplished_Leg9575', 'body': ""I think the majority, if not all, of us working for NHS mental health services can 100% relate to you. I definitely feel the same as you. It's just... so exhausting.  You go into these professions because you want to help, you want to make a change, you care, but you're stuck in a system that is chronically underfunded and there is simply very little support for those who need it, especially those who need it most. You deal with so much stuff that clients struggle with - which is fine, that's your job, but the issue is you're constantly expected to do more, more, more. No wonder we all burn out so quickly and so frequently. Yet, when we need support, there doesn't seem to be any, because like you said, we're on the patient side of things, and being in the system, we know how little is available... it's exhausting and feels like we're fighting a losing battle. I speak with so many colleagues these days who feel like the NHS is failing them as both MH professionals and patients."", 'score': 24, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:39:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2w6mv', 'author': 'Willing_Curve921', 'body': ""If you are in this situation just get out. \n\nWhile there are some teams and services that are still functional and worth working for (usually niche), if you are in the type of mainstream service I think you are, you need to save yourself. Those services will chew through clinicians and spit them out without any thanks. No matter what you offer it will never be enough. \n\nOnce you are out of the system, it is likely your outlook will change and you will feel better. Most of the people who qualified the same time I did are leaving to go private, for more manageable caseloads, better working conditions and the ability to do better work. Or into management, teaching or research gigs. I can't think of one that wants to come back.\n\nNo one is happy with NHS services and many outright view staff with contempt and hatred. You even see it on this subreddit. Ultimately, MHPs deal with a lot, but I think it is this last point that will ultimately destroy what is left of the system, and it will just becomes a pile of leaflets in a GPs office and a dodgy AI chatbot.\n\nYou deserve better than this."", 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T03:19:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2k2an', 'author': 'Bom_Bag_3848', 'body': 'I’m sorry. I appreciate you. I hope you find some peace in this world, you deserve it.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:21:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3wt9m', 'author': 'Cooking_With_Grease_', 'body': '*TW: Self harm. - Marked as spoiler.*\n\nAs with any job, when it gets like this, you ***need*** to put yourself first. As hard as it is. you have to, like you said.. the system doesn\'t care.\n\nTo the system, you\'re just another number, that it has to pay at the end of the month.\n\nI understand how rewarding your job is, but...\n\nYou\'re trading your mental health for a job that doesn\'t care about it, despite ***the very system in question saying they care about it.*** \\- They obviously do not practice what they preach, It\'s so painfully obvious.\n\nAs things go, You can\'t measure the gap that hypocrisy has taken up, as it\'s so enormous.\n\nAs an alturist, yeah, it\'s incredibly difficult leave a job you obviously love doing. -  It\'s hard when the very thing that champions mental health doesn\'t care about mental health.\n\nI used to work in retail, before I knew any better, I started to hate it. It really started to affect my mental health and I become suicidal, I stayed for the money and it was a bad decision.... - I was told by one of the people that worked there,\n\n**""Never put your job, above your mental health""** \\- I took that as literal. -\n\nI handed in my notice at work after I\'d assaulted another team member (That I honestly deeply regret doing) after I had a break down in the staff room in front of management where I told them to fuck off and I was gonna >!Kill myself!<\n\nI\'ve also quit 3 other jobs once I\'d figured out the signs, *I regret none of them*, **My mental health is comes first, every single time.** \\- Fuck the system. it only serves itself, it\'s time to serve YOURSELF, Save YOURSELF.\n\n..........as a former hospital patient though, as I\'ve been in hospital more times than I can even remember... I genuinely thank you SO MUCH for looking after us. - I know it can be a pretty thankless job sometimes but seriously, you do such an amazing job. So dedicated too, literal angels you lot are..... - Such nice people and deserve SO MUCH more then whatever your paid.\n\n\\- You might not be appreciated by the system but I appreciate you. Stay strong and I really hope things get better for you. x', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T06:31:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbnevw', 'author': 'Fizzy68', 'body': 'I don\'t have much useful from a staff perspective to say, but as a patient who spent 3½ years across various wards and was particularly observant - i could tell to some degree when the staff were suffering with their own issues. it\'s so incredibly unfair as many staff are so incredibly dedicated and caring to the core values of their job, but the way the NHS treats them leads to burnout and poor mental health within the workforce. im so sorry that you\'re struggling, I wish it was as easy as me saying ""go to your GP! get some help!"" but I think we know more than anyone that it\'s not that easy. I really hope you are able to find some support somewhere, sending love', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T13:00:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbzawg', 'author': 'virus-of-life', 'body': 'Honestly well said👏🏼👏🏼 I’m in a similar situation to you', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T15:15:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkeb36u', 'author': 'No_Whereas_5203', 'body': ""Too true what you say unfortunately.  I was also denied any therapy in hospital to be told its in the community.. which it wasn't. \n\nI don't know how you do it. I quit working in care because I couldn't cope with not being able to do my job properly. Mental health services must be worse. And then a lot of the good staff burn out and quit."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:18:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mko4yph', 'author': 'Pleasant-Baseball327', 'body': 'I also work for nhs it’s depressing and draining I’m a porter and I totally agree 👍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:17:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3fn9l', 'author': 'hugoreyes2016', 'body': 'This post makes me nervous about starting a mental health nursing degree next year!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:57:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc6sob', 'author': 'Wild-Ad8124', 'body': ""The NHS needs so much more funding, especially mental health services. If the right help was available to those who need it, we wouldn't have so many people burnt out or out of work. It's really frustrating. And the underfunding doesn't make sense from a financial perspective, there are so many people who could be working, contributing to society, paying taxes etc. who are reliant on benefits because their mental health got in the way of doing that."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:34:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2no30'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3s4gb', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'I don’t think some people realise just how much of the NHS functions on staff goodwill, missed breaks, no lunch, staying late, working at home etc.\xa0', 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T06:05:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2w6mv'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3mwtn', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'Thank you. I’m taking your advice seriously as someone irl told me to move to another team. I care so much about this job and really love it at times but with the lack of staff, resources, money, interest from the higher ups, it all feels unchangeable.\n\nNot helping is that I maybe returned to work too soon whilst still waiting to see a psych, obviously not ideal but, money. Think this added stress hasn’t exactly aided recovery. \xa0\n\nI really appreciate your comment, thanks for responding. I’ve resolved to put some healthy boundaries in place starting today. Or leave for another role if I can’t keep them. I do deserve better than this.\xa0', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:36:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2w6mv'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3nfee', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'Thanks friend, same to you.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:39:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2k2an'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3ksqw', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'It’s all true but also I’m venting, low mood. The conditions are bad but if it were all bad it would be easy to just leave.\xa0', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:25:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3fn9l'}]"
1jllw3t,2025-03-28T08:56:32,Physical health issues,"I have epilepsy as well as BPD and I am finding it unbelievably hard to cope with. I was under a section three for five months last year until December and been discharged and since have had very minimal follow up from CMHT who now when I do see them I just feel worse as they are so shockingly rude and unhelpful. I had another significant attempt last month  where I was discharged home which I was fine with. I then had an appointment with my care co ordinator who said ‘I saw you was in hospital over the weekend, was this a mental health hospital?’ to which I was so confused about as obviously a mental health professional surely wouldn’t think I was just in a psychiatric ward for two days over the weekend? But even if she did get mixed up thats fine, but the support from them is far and few between that I don’t even class it as that. I miss CAMHS so much that it hurts, my worker there was so helpful and respectful. My epilepsy is really severe at the moment and on top of having BPD my days feel like genuine torture. I am tired of having to use DBT skills that don’t ever seem to make any difference and everything else that is supposed to help because I really do try everything so hard. And just because I’m not engaging with risk behaviours all the time I don’t feel anyone is that particularly bothered. I think now I’m not an active danger to myself and not constantly doing bad things to distract myself my brain is just hurting now I’ve finally got time to think. I keep seeing things all the time too that aren’t there like black figures - they aren’t scary or there to hurt me I just am aware they aren’t real but this is new and I don’t know how to navigate speaking to somebody about it. I am unsure on what the purpose of this post was but its 3:25am and I think I’m just looking for some reassurance I’m that not the only person in the world who feels lonely and this sub really helps with that . 
Sorry for the long post",MentalHealthUK,9,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jllw3t/physical_health_issues/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk4l5au', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T08:56:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jllw3t'}, {'comment_id': 'mk4stz8', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': '‘And just because I’m not engaging with risk behaviours or an active danger’\nYou couldn’t have phrased that better, it’s so frustrating and just downright depressing at the lack of help being given when your not at immediate risk :(\nI can’t give any advice on the epilepsy due to have never experiencing this but the bpd I can definitely relate to. \nAlways here if you need a chat or advice about things', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T09:50:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jllw3t'}, {'comment_id': 'mk5eoxs', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Sorry you having such a hard time with your health. I cant believe the lack of support from your cmht. I hope you manage to get the support you need and the peace you deserve', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T13:19:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jllw3t'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7vpi9', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Thankyou so much, its so frustrating', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:01:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mk4stz8'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7vm4w', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Thankyou so much, I know I can’t believe it either I can’t wait for the day I don’t need them', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:00:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mk5eoxs'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7yiiw', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Its so awful. You made to feel like you are literally begging for help and then you have to be grateful for the breadcrumbs of care you are thrown.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:14:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7vm4w'}]"
1jlrk7u,2025-03-28T15:30:59,What to expect when getting sectioned?,I've been sectioned u der sectioned 2 of the mental health act. I haven't been told anything that's going on besides a price of paper that starts I'll be her for up to 28 day and that I can appeal that. I've never been section an I'm wondering if anyone here has and can give me an I site to what is waiting for me.,MentalHealthUK,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlrk7u/what_to_expect_when_getting_sectioned/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk5qtb8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T15:31:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlrk7u'}, {'comment_id': 'mk95mns', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Hey just wanted to say it must feel very scary right now but you are safe and you will be getting help. Psychiatric wards are used primarily to stabilise patients, often with medication, who are at risk of harm in the community. Inpatient admission is usually as brief as possible with care continued in the community. Please also ask them to call or speak to anyone that you need to. Sending you hugs and happy to chat anytime.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:49:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlrk7u'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6kll6', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Mind have some info [here](https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/legal-rights/sectioning/about-sectioning/) :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:07:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlrk7u'}]"
1jlqn46,2025-03-28T14:21:25,How to get diagnosed with GAD? Or social anxiety disorder?,"Ive been struggling since I was 11 and I’ve always been too scared to get help. Today I finally called my local GP surgery to ask for an appointment, and they gave me helplines. I don’t want helplines, I want a diagnosis. Can someone give me a script to follow or just some advice? Can you even get a diagnosis? ",MentalHealthUK,2,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlqn46/how_to_get_diagnosed_with_gad_or_social_anxiety/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk5k9kk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T14:21:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlqn46'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6l0wu', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I don’t think there’s a script to follow. A GP can diagnose common MH conditions but their focus is gonna be trying to help you which is why they suggest things like helplines. If you’re in England you can self refer to NHS talking therapies who treat symptoms of anxiety. Your GP record might also have info about why you called, they might not diagnose you with anything just based on the call, but id check to see what they put there maybe', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:10:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlqn46'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6f6m7', 'author': 'Kellogzx', 'body': 'Can I ask what a diagnosis would do for you? There’s a lot of movement towards not diagnosing now within the nhs. But the GP can diagnose things like depression and anxiety. If you’re over 18 you could try talking therapies.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T18:36:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlqn46'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6hkuk', 'author': 'usuauwwb', 'body': 'I need a diagnosis of social anxiety and GAD to help with PIP, other benefits, employment if i ever do get a job, etc. I need proof that i have a condition. Also for clarity reasons too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T18:50:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mk6f6m7'}, {'comment_id': 'mknw7r0', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Just to let you know if you weren’t aware you don’t need a diagnosis for PIP you can just tell them how your symptoms impact your life :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:03:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mk6hkuk'}]"
1jl5doe,2025-03-27T20:06:58,NHS Mental Health Services,"Well, hey 👋.

What a constant battle I am having with Mental Health Services.

They put plans in place, yet don’t stick to them.

They offer zero support, even though I use what they suggested.

I pleaded for help, and call backs, it’s been a week, nothing.

To them as they obviously don’t give a shit, I could have been dead already.

They overload you with medication, to keep you sedated, just so they don’t have to deal with you.

Well, I’m sick of fighting them, and sick of taking their shit and continually being let down and lied to, and have my trust always broken.

I’m so sad right now, they literally couldn’t give less of a shit if they tried.

Is it any surprise so many of us give up the fight, and just check out.

😢 So frustrated with them it’s beyond a joke.
",MentalHealthUK,31,26,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl5doe/nhs_mental_health_services/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk0npi8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:07:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0pnrk', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': 'I only got better when I gave up trying to get help. I was making myself more unwell every time I asked and got nowhere. Not seen a MH professional since 2021.', 'score': 23, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:16:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2da3b', 'author': '_InvisibleGirl_', 'body': ""I'm starting to think it would be less stressful to just stop pursuing help from mental health services, it's been a year now of being passed from team to team, waiting 3 months for an assessment then being referred to a different team, rinse and repeat. I haven't actually received any help in this time just repeating myself in endless assessments that lead nowhere.\n\nI think maybe I am better off without these people in my life. They constantly remind me that nobody gives a shit, there is no safety net and I am completely alone with this."", 'score': 14, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T01:46:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk18n3i', 'author': 'Significant_Leg_7211', 'body': 'Try if you can not to take it personally, they might just be overwhelmed. I know it sucks, though.', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:48:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk37zk8', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'When you think they don’t give a shit there is actually a team of dedicated nurses who have such a massive volume of work that they can’t cope, half of them are off sick because of stress and the other half then get their work doubled. Working conditions are terrible.', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:18:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3fdxp', 'author': 'Express_Possibility5', 'body': 'Yep yep yep my experience exactly. Abandoned at the worst possible time.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:56:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk10phx', 'author': 'NewCoach0', 'body': ""I'm so sorry, OP. It's so frustrating and painful to be in your position, it really is. Try to get some self care in for now, and when you're a little calmer you could look into getting some advice from PALS or Mind? You shouldn't have to, I know, but it might be helpful all the same.\n\nTake care 🫂"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:10:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk81gd9', 'author': 'teaforvi', 'body': 'I wish I could say something helpful but the NHS mental health services are truly a joke. It almost feels like they take pleasure in invalidating you/patronising you for your suffering 😔', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:28:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mkict7y', 'author': 'Expert-Assist-8113', 'body': 'And they also change their doctors every few months so when you finally see a Dr, it will be someone else/new', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:11:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0xg12', 'author': 'mimi2001f', 'body': 'honestly I feel you on this, I have avoided going to the doctors again because every time I do so they don’t take me seriously and they downplay my symptoms. Every single mental health appointment I have had, I have came out raging and feeling 10x worse 😹.', 'score': 14, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:54:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0zunj', 'author': 'NewCoach0', 'body': 'Me too, fully refuse to have anything to do with the CMHT on my own volition now. It\'s so upsetting that so many of us are in this position and nothing ever changes. \n\nI got a whole degree thinking I\'d like to work in mental health services when I\'m stable but my last experience under them left me thinking ""nah, I couldn\'t work with these people *or* this system"".', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:06:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk820fd', 'author': 'Pumpkin_Pie12', 'body': ""Glad you are feeling better. I've had a bad week of feeling suicidal and I have to say that reaching out to the NHS for help and being more or less ignored has made me feel even worse. I'm feeling a bit better at the moment but no thanks to the NHS. I feel increasingly resentful of this country in terms of the lack of services (health and otherwise) compared to the very high taxation. I've contributed so much to this country in terms of tax and I have to wonder where it all goes as in my country every service I have reached out to use just does not function."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:31:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0pzy8', 'author': 'Little_Sound_Speaks', 'body': 'This is kinda where I’m at, I give up with them. Trouble is I’m supposed to be on the list to get tested because they say I’m bipolar, yet are doing nothing at all 😭', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:18:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3i3a9', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I feel the same. Im sorry you do too', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:10:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2da3b'}, {'comment_id': 'mk82et2', 'author': 'Pumpkin_Pie12', 'body': 'And its so frustrating that there is annoying line in the media of the hardest step is asking for help. Its ridiculous. You ask for help and find out there is none and no-one could give a shit. Hardly a receipe to make one feel better.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:33:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2da3b'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3i7ri', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'That doesnt mean the care is acceptable.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:11:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mk37zk8'}, {'comment_id': 'mk13zmh', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""I had a three hour discussion on the phone with the manager of my local PALS. He really is a lovely person and he keeps in touch. There's absolutely no change whatsoever regarding my care, though! It's just the sad reality of the situation!"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:26:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk10phx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk97lfr', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Yep 😪', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:59:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mk82et2'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3oo87', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'I didn’t say that it’s acceptable, my point is that they do give a shit.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:46:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3i7ri'}, {'comment_id': 'mk154fh', 'author': 'NewCoach0', 'body': ""That's not at all surprising but so infuriating. It would be difficult having to navigate all this shit when you're stable, nevermind when you're not well. :("", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:31:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mk13zmh'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3y4wh', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Really doesnt feel like it when they tell you to go read a book and say they will call you back and dont even bother to tell you they decided you dont need help. When you do. Theres a lot of people working in MH who really shouldnt. Ive been stitched up without anaesthetic because I did it myself anyway. Ive been told to walk 18 miles in the dark to a hospital if I felt I needed care because the crisis team dont give a shit', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T06:39:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3oo87'}, {'comment_id': 'mk18zk7', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""That's part of the problem, I feel. A lot of NHS MH staff will have entered the job with good intentions, but then become frustrated by the fact that they can't really help anyone. They then also realise that most people under their care haven't the mental strength to put in a complaint, and if they do, they will not come across very well due to being beyond stressed. So, you just get apathy, which is the worst possible outcome."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:50:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk154fh'}, {'comment_id': 'mk5hnce', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'Mental health services cannot give you anaesthetic or stitches so it seems like your complaint is of general overall NHS services, not specifically mental health.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T13:51:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3y4wh'}, {'comment_id': 'mk98qdu', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': ""Its so awful. The last two times Ive called Ive been spoken to in just really unkind and unempathetic responses including 'we arent an urgent care', 'what support did you expect calling us?', 'why dont you try reading a book', 'we are busy with other people and we arent achieving anything so I'm going to hang up now' (the phone call hadnt even lasted 15 mins when I had waited 7 hours for a call back). Some of the people are genuinely callous. Before she hung up on me, I asked if I was supposed to walk to the hospital to get help, in the middle of the night and she replied 'well if you think that would help, you can do that if you want' even though I live miles from the hospital. Absolutely appalling 'care'."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T03:05:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mk18zk7'}, {'comment_id': 'mk8dlsf', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': ""I have experienced significant and enduring MH issues. You are right some of those issues would fall under emergency care. \n\nOn the other hand whilst inpatient in psychiatric ward, no staff noticed I had burnt my hand on a lampbulb (a full thickness burn) until 3 days later by which time I required plastic surgery for debridement and a skin graft.\n\nI was also sexually assaulted by an old man whilst inpatient at age 19 whilst incredibly put into a mixed ward and it was completely brushed under the carpet. I dont think I need to say any more. \n\nI am extremely grateful for the current care of my CMHT. I actually think the whole team is incredible and forwardly trauma informed. However they are overwhelmed and at times you are made to feel like you have to be grateful for the breadcrumbs of support you get. Mental health support is significantly deficient, especially crisis support. Theres no point pretending it isn't, even if staff are doing their best."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T00:28:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mk5hnce'}]"
1jlb673,2025-03-28T00:08:26,"Trans-led study: UK Survey on Trans people's (age 18+) experiences of eating disorders, eating disorder support, and links with neurodivergence (moderator approved)","Hello everyone,

I am leading a research team at Cardiff University who have lived experiences of eating disorders, gender diversity, and/or neurodivergence. We’ve just started recruitment for a new research study exploring the relations between gender diversity, neurodivergence and eating disorders and would really appreciate some help spreading the word to hear from as many people as possible. I have included some more information about the study below as well as the recruitment poster and ways to contact us for further information. ***This has been approved by the moderators before posting.***

**What is the purpose of the research?**

The purpose of this research is to understand the diverse lived experiences of eating disorders and eating disorder support, and how these experiences are related to gender diversity and neurodivergence. This online survey forms part of a larger programme of research funded by Health and Care Research Wales that aims to improve awareness, understanding, and support for autistic people, people with ADHD, and/or gender diverse people with eating disorders.

This research is important because both neurodivergent and gender diverse people are more likely to develop eating disorders compared to neurotypical cisgender individuals. Eating disorders may present differently in neurodivergent and gender diverse people compared to neurotypical cisgender people, which may impact on their experiences of accessing effective support promptly. By raising awareness and understanding of these diverse lived experiences, we aim to improve the recognition of eating disorders and support the development of effective support that is able to meet the unique needs of these groups.

**Who can take part?**

We are inviting people who are:

* trans, gender diverse, and/or non-binary, 
* aged 18+ years,
* fluent in English and based in the UK,
* and have lived experience of an eating disorder (current or historical)\*

 \*Please note, you **do not** need to have received a diagnosis of treatment in order to take part.

**What does the study involve?**

If you choose to take part you will be asked to complete an online survey that should take around 45 minutes. This will include questions about your experience of behaviours and thoughts around eating and your body, as well as questions about your gender identity, mental health, and neurodivergent characteristics. All answers and results from the research will be confidential and the findings will be reported in a research paper that we would be happy to share on completion of the study and publication of the results. For everyone who participates in the study, there is the option to enter a prize draw for a shopping voucher as a thank you for your time and contribution.    

We are aware that our research addresses sensitive topics and have taken steps to minimise the risk of causing distress. In addition to our own lived experiences relevant to this research, we have collaborated with an advisory group of community members with lived experience and professionals in relevant fields, including Beat, in designing this study. This project has undergone review, and has received approval from, the Cardiff University Research Ethics Board \[EC.24.11.12.7066A\].     

**How can I take part?**

To find out more or to take part, please follow this link: [https://cardiffunipsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_1SuFhbh0lxu2ZaC](https://cardiffunipsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1SuFhbh0lxu2ZaC) or scan the QR code in our recruitment poster. Please also share the link and poster with anyone who you think might be interested in taking part if you’re able to – we are keen to hear from as many people as possible!  

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this information. If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact us via email at [Leading\_study@cardiff.ac.uk](mailto:Leading_study@cardiff.ac.uk)",MentalHealthUK,6,0,https://i.redd.it/nqsjxa751are1.png,[]
1jld191,2025-03-28T02:09:13,GP believes it’s just my hormones,"Recently had the courage to go GP for my mental health problems, which I’ve had for as long as I can remember. It does get worse around my period, but even outside that timeframe I’m constantly experiencing mood swings, feeling empty inside constantly, anxiety around the smallest things, suicide ideation every day, etc. I mentioned this all to my GP, I even wrote it all down so I didn’t stumble over my words or completely shut up from the anxiety of talking face to face to someone about my problems. First appointment went well but then I did a second appointment and she completely focused on my pre-period symptoms. Suggesting it’s just PMS, which I did consider and I bought it up with her in the first appointment, but stressed on how I felt like this every day. Not just the week before my period. 
I’ve self- referred to therapy and given birth control to see if it helps. I’m grateful for even anything but it just felt like she ignored everything else. Incredibly frustrating because she said “It might just be hormonal since you’re still young, you’re under 25 so I don’t think any anti-depressants is necessary.” I might be overreacting, but I can’t help feeling frustrated over it. ",MentalHealthUK,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jld191/gp_believes_its_just_my_hormones/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk2hm71', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:09:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2ko8a', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'You are perfectly valid for being frustrated. Even severe pre pms symptoms have a name - PMMD which is a serious mental health condition, I’m sorry this happened. GPs very often see  female hormones as the root of issues when it is not the case', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:24:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk50vqk', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': 'Just keep making appointments till you get the outcome you want lol it’s what I did, they got sick of me', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T10:57:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk5gmit', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'I hear you. Like technically it could be severe pms (pmdd) but imo pms should impact someone to the point it’s disabling', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T13:40:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfi3rc', 'author': 'NoAnt4221', 'body': 'it’s unfortunately a battle to get the right treatment. keep fighting for what you need. keep a note of your symptoms over a two week timeframe, when you aren’t on your period, and go back to the GP to tell them you tried to do what they suggested but it’s getting worse / not improving your quality of life. ask for a referral to community mental health services , or camhs if you are under 18. they should refer you without complaint. camhs take a long time to accept you, but other counselling like YCT is available in the mean time. hope you get some support', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:19:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2ow46', 'author': 'sip_the_lgbtea', 'body': 'Thank you :(\nI’ve looked into PMS and PMDD, and I definitely relate to those, though mine feel like it makes my mental health symptoms worse rather than it just being PMS. \nI’m just really really frustrated because I’ve gone to the GP before for autism, met with a similar disinterested reaction and I didn’t go back for a year or two until now when I had a really bad breakdown.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:45:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2ko8a'}]"
1jl8lj1,2025-03-27T22:22:47,Feeling stuck,"I’m really at my wits end with this. Had quite severe anxiety and depression over the last 3/4 years. Tried 8 different medications, done therapy a few times and still not feeling where I’d like to. I engage in exercise and hobbies and genuinely try to make an effort but feel like I’m never getting the reward. Feeling so hopeless right now. Anyone else been there? I’m hoping there’s some medication to help me or something but I’m losing the will here.",MentalHealthUK,7,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl8lj1/feeling_stuck/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk1fuul', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:22:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8lj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1o5v3', 'author': 'SoloOyster', 'body': ""Dude, I've spent the last 10 years living on the edge. I have PTSD from childhood trauma. I've struggled with depression, anxiety, drug and gambling addiction, I've been homeless, separated from every family member, and  suffer with tourettes. I can't believe I'm actually here, I certainly shouldn't be with the abuse I've received from others. Anyway, I've recently been learning about CBT therapy and practising breathwork. I think anxiety plays a big part in depression. Every negative feeling or thought that pops into your head has a massive effect on your mood and your body. Rumination is something you should look up to. But I would seriously start practising breathwork and meditating. It's all about fighting those negative thoughts and using that breathwork throughout the day when feeling anxious or depressed. Look up breathe with sandy on youtube. \n\n*Also, the holy grail for fighting depression is exercise and a good diet! I would fuck the medication off. I think it's got to come from you! Good luck, my friend"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T23:01:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8lj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mk38fs7', 'author': 'NeurodiverseNerd', 'body': 'Did you think of checking your hormones and vitamin D levels ? It will sound lame but eating a lot of raw vegetables can actually help with mood disorders.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:20:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8lj1'}]"
1jlbq5k,2025-03-28T00:37:40,I don't know what to do.,"I'm 23 years old, male, failed school, I've had two entire jobs in my life, one at KFC and one at Taco Bell, and I barely held them down for a couple of months before ghosting because I just couldn't handle them, being in such crowded environments, constantly shouted at and shoved around while being on my feet for hours at a time. I'm on UC which is the only reason I'm not homeless, Most of it going towards paying rent to my mum, without her, I would definitely be on the street and probably would have taken my own life by now, she is the only person in my life I can really consider a friend, everybody else is Facebook friends from my past at school who I haven't spoken to in years. The job market is hell for me, it's impossible for me to even get an interview, how can I explain away multiple year long gaps in my CV, even assuming I did get an interview, I'd be fucked. I can barely function, I leave the house a maximum of two times a month for Job Center appointments and Seetecc work and health support appointments, which basically just consist of them asking what I'm doing to find work and what I'm applying for, both of which drive me crazy with stress. I can barely handle just those, knowing that fucking up and missing one, not applying to enough jobs or saying the wrong things will get me sanctioned and unable to pay rent, my mum wouldn't kick me out, but I already feel unbearable guilt for only giving her so little. Even while outside I can't shake the feelings of everybody judging me, thinking the worst of me. While inside, all I do is dread my next appointments, they feel like interrogations, they don't care about me, they just want an excuse to sanction me. I waste my days away applying for ""entry level"" jobs that I'll never get and probably don't have the capacity to do anyway, playing stupid video games I don't even like, and doomscrolling, not even bothering to get dressed, I sit in bed in my underwear, the only times I bathe or shave is the night before my appointments, so I look presentable, or at least as presentable as possible, with dark circles under my eyes and skin as pale as a sheet I look like a walking corpse, my hair is long, knotty and messy. I haven't had a haircut in years and don't plan to anytime soon.

I feel useless. I made an attempt on my life a couple of years ago via overdosing on painkillers, my mum took me to hospital, they asked me some questions, I answered, they just sent me on my way and gave me phone numbers to call. I never called them. Phonecalls are terrifying to me. I never received prescripted medication, diagnosis or anything following my hospital visit. 

I am 100% sure there is at least something wrong with me, but I don't know what to do. Who do I contact..? I looked up a mental health self referral form, but it asked me for a GP or Surgery. I haven't been to a GP appointment in over 10 years, and I don't know how I'm supposed to get one, I've been told to call them, but what do I tell them..?

I just want to know how I can get checked for mental health issues.



",MentalHealthUK,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlbq5k/i_dont_know_what_to_do/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk274te', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T00:37:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2acv2', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'GP is defo first step :) You just give them a call or see if there’s a way to book online. Maybe your mum could help if you struggle with phone calls. You can just say it’s for mental health reasons.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T01:19:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk77xbw', 'author': 'Fridadog1', 'body': 'I second the advice you have had about speaking to your GP. It also sounds like the jobs you tried don’t match your temperament/skills. Maybe have a think about the types of environments that you enjoy, or at least aren’t overwhelming. Then think about what jobs might allow you to work in that kind of environment. \n\nIt is easier to get a job when you are doing something - working, or studying. If you can think of one that works for you, an apprenticeship might really work. Or you could have a look at courses at your local FE college, see if there is something that you could enjoy and might help you get a job that would work for you. \n\nIt sounds like you might also benefit from becoming part of a community. Maybe look at clubs near you. The council usually has cheap programmes to support people to be active, like tennis lesson in local parks etc. I would recommend seeing whether there is anything that interests you… there will be other people with at least one common interest in the club, and they can be a good place to make friends. \n\nGood luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T21:06:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6r3a9', 'author': 'JesseKansas', 'body': ""GP is first step for the mental health stuff. If unable, Talking Therapies have online forms usually and do assessment referrals in case it's anything they can't deal with (which given you've not had the stepped model of therapy yet, they should take your case).\n\nJobs-wise, apprenticeships are good! I have severe mental health issues (inc a voluntary inpatient stay and depressive symptoms) and given they're entry level (ie designed for people just leaving school) and usually have formal support (at college on day release or through the apprenticeship provider) you don't usually get treated too badly. There's no rush to get a job so quickly - I'd see about getting an employment and support worker thru any mental health service you end up getting put on - they can help provide documentation for a LCWRA decision w/ UC which would eliminate the jobcentre appointments and give you an extra £400 each month and no job search commitment (not to say that you can't work on LCWRA, you just don't get punished for doing it!)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:42:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6sckg', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': 'Get the name of your GP, give them a call, or they might have an online appointment system on their website. Try and be as honest as possible, trust me, it’s in your best interests to be. They might prescribe meds or do a closer examination etc. They can also give some advice hopefully. I’ve been in a very similar boat, I just got prescribed sertraline recently for my anxiety and depression. Hoping things will be bright for you in the future.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:49:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk85yb1', 'author': 'teaforvi', 'body': 'we have such similar situations. I have also had only a couple of jobs (kfc included lol) and quit them all after a month, I’ve even quit jobs after 2 shifts because I just can’t handle it, i feel like I’m constantly in fight or flight mode while working. I literally sit at home all day playing roblox living off my mum, it’s the worst feeling. I’d recommend you go to a local GP and they will probably prescribe you antidepressants and refer you to a mental health service. You have to keep an open mind with them, the process is quite difficult and you have to be willing to change. I’m pretty sure you’d just call a local doctor near you and ask for an appointment to discuss your mental health issues. Like just call and say ‘hello i would like an appointment to talk about some issues I’ve been having with my mental health for a long time.’ I know it’s scary but you have to do it if you want to feel better and live a functioning life. I’ve not had much luck with antidepressants (ssris specifically) but my gp recently put me on venlafaxine after i tried to overdose on my old antidepressants, so hopefully it works and makes me less useless and hateful of the world. I hope things get better for you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:50:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}]"
1jlm2ab,2025-03-28T09:05:42,Can you get diagnoses without doing therapy?,"I feel and am more productive and positive when not thinking about therapy (both therapy itself or thinking about ""I want to do therapy"", which for me is just negativity and encouraging self-powerlessness/seeing myself as unable/dependent on a professional (who is just another person, with no more wisdom than someone who's actually been in my shoes), rather than focusing on practical skills and self-empowerment and focusing on what I can do, rather than waiting for someone else to catch up with me (since a lot of the ""therapy"" solutions I've read in books are things I already thought of and started doing myself, so going through therapy is actually a backwards step of undoing my own solutions, while waiting for a therapist to give me their solutions) or talking about weaknesses). However, getting diagnoses is practically useful. I can self-treat and have (eg ptsd, ocd, anxiety attacks, all self-treated by ya know - actually reading, thinking up possible solutions and practicing them over the course of years, while people who do therapy end up never treating them successfully because they're made to believe they're incapable of more and get boxed in by others, no different than a bad teacher, bad parent or prejudiced person would do), but it only ""counts"" to other people with diagnosis. I only want diagnoses, and then to do the rest myself/non-therapy sources - same as for my adhd diagnosis (for this I do actually plan to get medication though) and physical health problems - you can get a diagnosis and then not have to get further treatment. Rather than having to do therapy first to get diagnoses.",MentalHealthUK,0,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlm2ab/can_you_get_diagnoses_without_doing_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk4mij7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T09:05:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6kg8t', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Diagnosis is usually used to guide treatment e.g. if you go to a GP and they diagnose you with anxiety or depression, they’ll do so so they can then offer treatments e.g. antidepressants, talking therapy. If you’re not looking to be treated or get help from anyone a GP appt might be a bit pointless cos they’re there to help not just to put stuff on your notes and not do anything. But if you’re open to that first step would be seeing a GP', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:07:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mki75he', 'author': 'dbxp', 'body': ""That's not how therapy works, the therapist is just a facilitator for you to work out things with yourself.\n\n\nWhat are you looking to get out of a diagnosis if you're just going to self treat?"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:26:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc3w4h', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': ""Possibly yes, but I don't think it's ethical\n\nIf there's are say 10 psychiatrists slots a day + 200 unwell people that either desperately want/desperately need treatment, why would it make sense for you to take up one of those slots when it's not going to be followed by treatment + you seem confident in your ability to solve yourself? Is it worth adding to such an oversubscribed service for the sake of your own curiosity? Tomorrow it'll be 220 people that need help. Next week it'll be 280. Can you justify making one of those people wait to scratch an itch?"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:05:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mk954zb', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'This. If you in UK your GP is your first port of call. GPs should be able to diagnose some mental health issues including anxiety, OCD and PTSD. They might also offer medication if that was something you wanted to try. It sounds like youve done a lot of work yourself and your GP should be able to help you with what you want if you book appt and talk to them.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:46:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mk6kg8t'}]"
1jl8p6y,2025-03-27T22:27:00,How do I get the GP to listen?,"Im not in imminent risk i just need advice.

Sorry this is kind of a rant. I have been diagnosed with GAD and depression, I have enough 'justification' to prove why I feel bad. I've explained to the GPs I've been depressed 10+ years, filled out the  GAD9 and PHQ9 forms three times, told them which meds I've been on and what counselling I did and they just ignore it.

I got prescribed a trial of citalopram initially by GP number 1 about a month ago, which just gave me insomnia. At the check up I waaid ""I feel like shit"" and GP1  was like ""Well it's a trial so actually you won't know how you feel"" and I was like ""?? I can't sleep please give me something else"" so then GP 1 put me on mirtazapine, again I didn't feel any better but I was now oversleeping and my binge eating was worse. I had a phone Appointment today with a different GP, same clinic (gp 2) gp2 ignored literally everything I said, told me I wouldn't feel anything on a trial (I explained the situation since apparently she didn't know) she then ignored what I said, made me fill out the forms again, hung up on me, I had to call her back several times before she answered. She then was like ""wow your forms are severe here I'm putting you on propoponal and keeping you on mirtazapine lol have you tried the wellbeing self referral? Oh you did, try it again and call a crisis line' and then hung up. It lasted less than five minutes and she talked over me nonstop.

I've been looking up propoponal and All I can find about prop is that its used to treat the symptoms not actual anxiety? So like it stops heart racing/panic attacks 
But panic attacks don't bother me (I have them pretty rarely thank god)  it's more the fact I'm filled with constant existential dread and I will convince myself my foods rotten and ill get sick from eating it or give all my money to some junkie because if I don't I'm a bad person and I'm going to be punished. 

I'm just really frustrated, everytime I talk to them they're like ""yeah that sounds severe' and then talk over me and rush me out of the appointment. I don't know what to do, I know GPs are shit everywhere but I don't know what my options are or how to advocate for myself. 

I'm going to do the meds she's prescribed because idk what else to do, if I don't do what they say they'll say I'm not trying but if I do do them then they ignore my complaints. How do I get them to actually check my medical records or get them to prescribe me something specific, or even for an appointment to last more than five minutes before they boot me out (I am not exaggerating, this call lasted 5 minutes and 34 seconds, my prior in person appointment was even less. 

I know a lot of its on me for being a complete pushover because I feel bad for asking for literally anything but I just need help figuring out how to get the support I need ",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl8p6y/how_do_i_get_the_gp_to_listen/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk1gro3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:27:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8p6y'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1i2cp', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I think it’s defo a good idea to try what you’ve been prescribed. You never know, it might help. It can take 4-6 weeks sometimes for meds to fully settle in so maybe that’s why they said it’s still a trial because often after that time they’ll increase doses etc to see if it works better. \n\nI wouldn’t say GPs are shit everywhere. If you’re diagnosed with GAD and depression, meds are a first line treatment — as well as talking therapies. Not sure if you’ve ever done things like CBT or just counselling but if not it would be worth a go. If you’re in England you should be able to self refer. They can help treat symptoms of anxiety as well as things like intrusive thoughts. \n\nWhen you say something specific, what do you mean exactly? Is there a specific medication you want to try?', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:33:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8p6y'}, {'comment_id': 'mka678m', 'author': 'SavingsLow7704', 'body': 'What meds are you specifically trying to get?\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T06:12:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8p6y'}]"
1jkrhmn,2025-03-27T06:07:43,Scared of inpatient facilities,"I have heard horror stories. I am trans, and given the UK government seems to despise trans people (even if Labour put up a thin veneer of friendliness), I am terrified that if I am hospitalised, everything will only be made worse. And the end result will be either me leaving there dead (suicide from shit conditions), or worse, me never being able to leave and effectively being mentally tortured by being forced to stay alive. 

I have been suicidal for a decade give or take since puberty hit, things have genuinely been better recently since I finally got HRT. But well, since I actually now *want* to live for the first time in forever, I’m kinda more thinking about how to get better. Thinking about trying to go to therapy again (was discharged two years ago because my therapist told me he didn’t know how to help me so couldn’t justify spending any more NHS resources on me when there was no indication I would improve), but I’m scared that actually opening up about my feelings would lead to me being put in an inpatient facility. Which everything in my mind is telling me would make it much worse. 

So as a result I’m scared to even go to therapy. 

Could someone who has had the experience maybe tell me a bit about what it’s like in these facilities?

Anecdotes from trans people would be particularly helpful. 

Please be truthful, no mincing words, if it’s bad I would like to know for safety reasons. If it’s good I’d like to know to be reassured. 
",MentalHealthUK,11,19,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jkrhmn/scared_of_inpatient_facilities/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjxlsp9', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T06:07:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz5z88', 'author': 'Utheran', 'body': ""If you don't mind a bit of speculation, you may be putting the cart before the horse here. Therapy can be destabilising in theory, but frankly it's still very rare for it to drive someone to requiring inpatient care.\n\nI wouldn't let it stop you looking into therapy. A more realistic worst case scenario is that you try therapy, bounce off and drop out. The more likely scenario is that you get some help/knowledge about yourself and improve your life."", 'score': 14, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:15:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz2z5o', 'author': 'Equal-Barracuda-2636', 'body': 'Inpatient services are not good most of the time tbh. You go there, most are understaffed and the staff that do work there are overworked, so when you do get good staff they have very limited time for you and when I say limited I mean not really any at all. Some staff genuinely do care and want to help but are unable to due too working pressures and the million and one other things they need to do. A lot of the staff don’t have a clue at all, on paper it says they’re trained but looking deeper into that they have done some e - learning courses that they googled the answers to and are shown where high risk areas are on the ward (if they’re lucky) and that’s basically it. \n\nYou usually learn more self injurious behaviours/ life ending behaviours from other service user’s than you ever knew were possible before entering the hospital.\n\nYou’re typically in for a very short amount of time and don’t gain any skills to cope in the real world. You won’t do any too much therapy or gain skills to cope. When you leave hospital and go home you have no great continuity of care and are chucked in the deep end alone again. You have a 3 day follow up from the crisis team if you’re lucky. \n\nPeople get very much institutionalised from being in inpatient and they feel safer in hospital than out. The reason for this is that hospitals stop them from ending they’re life’s, so they will attempt in hospital and have the safety net that most of the time they will be found in time and saved or have no access to things that they would otherwise have access to, keeping them safe by basically restricting everyday things you will have when at home. That’s not coping that’s just being restricted. It reinforces these people’s feelings of being safer, I wouldn’t call it being safer or learning to cope, it just takes away any responsibility such as taking away any responsibility by these people knowing there’s a safety net and they don’t need to learn to cope as someone else will always save them and also just simply not being able to have access to things or any real life situations.\n\nPeople think hospitals are safe but I would very much say otherwise, just giving you an example I have seen over 4 close people to me complete suicide in the past two years as in patients. Speaking from working within mental health over the past year I can count 2 people who have severe life changing injuries while they were in patient and it’s nearly going into double figures the people who have been able to complete suicide, and that’s just for one company that I know about personally and have figures for. \n\nHospital leaves you with lasting trauma, a lot of things you see are horrendous and traumatic, things that are experienced can leave you damaged from them for the rest of your life. There are good people in Hospitals but there are also very, very poorly people in these facilities too, risks are not managed well, people are assaulted daily and not much gets done about it at all. \n\nStaff in hospitals will talk to you for one minute and if that doesn’t help you they suggest PRN medication and in their eyes they’ve done a good job. \n\nYou wanted realistic answer and this is it, I wish it was different but this is the cold, horrible, truth.', 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T12:42:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz293g', 'author': 'Fizzy68', 'body': ""I'm a trans guy and I spent 3½ years sectioned from the ages of 16-20. It's incredibly difficult for me to say either way, because it's not as simple as being completely bad or good. In my experience as a whole it was extremely bad, but I have a rather complex set of issues and am also autistic meaning that unfortunately the risk of me getting institutionalised is higher.\n\nIn terms of being trans in hospital care, for the most part it was absolutely fine. A lot of staff had not worked with a trans patient before so there were a few learning curves, but in terms of my care it was always made a priority to ensure that I was gendered correctly and also was comfortable - for example I was on 1:1 observations for a lengthy period of time and required supervision in the bathroom (this was only due to me having incredibly high risk) and I was asked multiple times if I was more comfortable with having male or female staff supervise me. I won't lie and say it was entirely fine, there was a handful of staff that massively struggled to get my pronouns right and made a few unhelpful comments, and on one occasion another patient left an extremely transphobic letter outside my bedroom but this was treated as a hate crime and the police were brought in.\n\nIn terms of hospital treatment in general, it's not great. Most adult acute wards do not offer therapeutic treatment, it's more about containment and risk management. In my experience it is not 'easy' to get hospitalised, it took multiple high risk attempts on my life for me to be considered unable to remain in the community. As far as I'm aware that's mostly how the psychiatric inpatient system works in the UK, it's not so much about whether you'd benefit from an admission, but moreso about it being the only option left. Mental health services are difficult at the best of times, but I would always implore people to try and remain in the community where they can and pursue treatment there.\n\nI hope some of this has helped, and if you have anymore questions feel free to ask :)"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T12:35:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz6h8p', 'author': 'ShyBiSaiyan', 'body': ""To be fair they do everything they can to keep you from admission I'd say so long as you don't have any plans to end your life or hurt others you'll be treated as an outpatient. It is very difficult to be made inpatient.\n\nAs someone who was an Inpatient within the last year it was somewhat useful at the time until we got patients in that clearly needed much more support, the rooms weren't private as most were a dorm setting with three 'rooms' and I had a patient invade my space and go through my things. It was incredibly overstimulating and overwhelming before I finally got given leave and then discharged. I think if I hadn't had a physical health issue from the thing that put me there I would have been out sooner but I was in there for a good 2 months, went on leave for 2 weeks in December then discharged a week or so before Christmas."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:21:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzvdr0', 'author': 'sykeitsmorgan', 'body': 'hey there. i’m ftm trans and have been sectioned 7-8 times. the rules are a little hazy. they always gave me a choice of which gender ward i went to but for some people depending on how they pass they might not get that choice. there are options to be sent to a mixed ward but again the rooms are split by gender so you’ll have to pick whether you’ll go on the male or female side of the ward. i’m lucky enough to pass completely so i was never treated differently by patients on the male wards. the only issue i ever encountered is that some staff with their own views and biases would purposely misgender me. i know it would’ve been on purpose because i in no way look female and my records also reflect that i am not a woman. if things are bad enough for you to need inpatient care, they should chat with you about where you’ll go but i want to stress that you shouldn’t not seek care because you’re scared of being misgendered. wards are traumatic for everyone, trans or cis. the conditions usually aren’t great, staff can make you feel worse and being around other sick people will not help you recover. admissions are used in immediate crisis whether that be to stop harm against yourself or others or to stabilise medication such as antipsychotics. most the time people with suicidal thoughts or after attempts etc are not admitted. community support is your best option. ask the gp to make a referral to therapy and cmht. therapists are there to help you, not to judge you. \n\ni feel like there’s quite a big misconception that anyone struggling with their mental health or suicidal ideation gets sent to a psychiatric ward. there are so few beds that only certain people with certain experiences and actions have to be treated in hospital. a large amount of people come out of hospital worse than when they went in. \n\nadmissions help some people though so i can’t say what will happen with everyone. \n\nspeak to your gp and ask for those referrals. wishing you well.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:20:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6l54y', 'author': 'DustierAndRustier', 'body': 'Yeah they’re horrible places, but you’re very unlikely to get admitted to one. If you’re even coherent enough to be scared of them, you’re not a candidate.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:10:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk9lt0f', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': ""The only time I've ever experienced a hatecrime for being trans was when I was inpatient\n\nBeing around unwell people means it's not always gonna be people who are solely a threat to themselves, but I did meet these people in an LCU, so might not be the typical experience on an acute ward"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T04:17:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0hhvx', 'author': 'Admirable_Candy2025', 'body': 'I’m not trans but when I was an inpatient I’ve never been around such non judgmental, accepted, anything goes kind of people. I thought I was non judgmental but honestly I came out realising that I used to still be judgy about some stuff. When I was in there was one trans person and one openly gay person and I never was aware of any bother towards them. It was like you’re all in there coz you’re out of your mind so stuff like that’s just not an issue.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:34:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk22kdq', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'I’ve only ever been in CAMHS inpatient which sadly had a quite high percentage of trans people and I’d 100% say their care was no different to ours and staff always use the right pronouns. That said, they are still most of the time not nice places to be. Going to therapy and opening up even about suicidal tendencies doesn’t really lead to inpatient admissions, its a bit more complex than that and I’d say its much better to go to therapy with a small chance of inpatient happening and hopefully achieving some healing than not go to therapy for fear of it. Sending love!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T00:09:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzq5rr', 'author': 'smasherfierce', 'body': ""Yeah I second this. I've seen all sorts and still never had anyone go inpatient. It's really a last resort for very severe cases, not the first option as soon as you mention suicidal ideation"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:39:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz5z88'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzrvtj', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'I second this, I’ve done trauma therapy which was de stabilising *but* I was given lots of skills to help me cope and I had a risk assessment beforehand. I guess it’s different for everyone of course but even when I was really unwell when I was manic and psychotic, I was able to receive the help I needed under the home treatment team', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:53:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz5z88'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz7mtc', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'Thank you for saying it. To be Frank this is what I expected. But I wanted to know whether I was being paranoid or not. I wasn’t', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:33:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz2z5o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1lx82', 'author': 'Amy_JUSH_Winehouse', 'body': 'This is the best answer anyone could have given', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:51:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz2z5o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk00l34', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'Thanks for the info. I don’t pass at all so I think it would be particularly hellish for me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:56:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mjzvdr0'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbn8zq', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'I’m sorry that happened to you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:58:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9lt0f'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc3jvo', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': ""Don't be, you didn't do it"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:01:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mkbn8zq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc417v', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'If you need to talk/vent my dms are open', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:06:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mkc3jvo'}]"
1jl17nu,2025-03-27T16:28:02,Therapy options help,"Hey, so I have had CBT therapy before through the NHS for various things. For example one was for social anxiety and I think it had a 8 session limit. For me the limited amount of sessions doesn’t allow me to get deep and explore past trauma that contributes to my social anxiety. The main advice I remember was don’t go on your phone in social situations etc, basically just little tips that could help but didn’t help. 

Anyway I’m guessing the only way to see a therapist longer term and actually build up a proper connection is to pay for it? There is lots I want to cover that I have held in for many years so 8 sessions just isn’t enough. 

",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl17nu/therapy_options_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjzoqt1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:28:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl17nu'}]"
1jl14d8,2025-03-27T16:21:37,If I get sectioned and have never taken meds before as not on any. can I be forced meds ? As I really can't have them from condition I have. Can I just stay there medication free? Thanks,,MentalHealthUK,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl14d8/if_i_get_sectioned_and_have_never_taken_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjznzk1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:21:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl14d8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzv27k', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'There is provision for this to happen if you’re detained under the MHA because it allows treatment to be given without your consent. However, that doesn’t mean it will 100% happen, and your team should discuss any medication including information, side effects, benefits/drawbacks to work collaboratively with you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:17:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl14d8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzwbc5', 'author': 'sykeitsmorgan', 'body': 'really depends on a few things. if you’re sectioned, yes they can. but saying that, they won’t always follow through with that. if you have a condition such as bipolar, schizophrenia or psychosis which requires stabilisation with antipsychotics they are probably going to force medication. if the medication is antidepressants i’m not too sure. i personally haven’t been IM’d with anything other than benzodiazepines or antipsychotics. it is worse case scenario to inject medications so they only do it when it’s absolutely necessary.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:26:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl14d8'}]"
1jkhwln,2025-03-26T23:19:02,How to go voluntary inpatient?,"Note to mods: not at immediate risk

I’m currently in crisis and struggling badly to get out of a depressive episode I’ve been in for around six months. I’ve been experiencing suicidal thoughts for a while. I haven’t been able to get back on antidepressants for various reasons. I’m not currently under a community mental health team or a crisis team.

I do have a counsellor I speak with weekly and have been doing so for months now but I haven’t seen or felt any improvement. I’ve also reached out to helplines like CALM, mind, papyrus and shout but haven’t found them particularly beneficial.

Last time I spoke with the crisis team, even after making them aware of previous suicide attempts that led to hospitalisation, I was told I didn’t meet the threshold for their service. That experience has made me hesitant to reach out again but right now I know I need help and I’m scared of what might happen if I don’t get it.

Does anyone know how I can go voluntary inpatient? Any advice or experiences would be really appreciated",MentalHealthUK,4,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jkhwln/how_to_go_voluntary_inpatient/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjvc6ot', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:19:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvje2l', 'author': 'HisLoba97', 'body': 'I spoke to the crisis team and they did it for me whilst under an A&E section. That was years back though, might have changed', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:53:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvjvro', 'author': 'ElleRed98', 'body': 'Ring your local crisis team xx', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:55:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvdxng', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:27:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvkwx3', 'author': 'cherrycinnamon12', 'body': 'Did you go into A&E for similar reasons, asking to go inpatient? What’s an A&E section?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:00:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvje2l'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvko7i', 'author': 'cherrycinnamon12', 'body': 'I don’t feel able to call them. Last few times I’ve spoken to them I felt worse after', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:59:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvjvro'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvm7st', 'author': 'cherrycinnamon12', 'body': 'I don’t really have anyone to ask to go with me, my family don’t understand and I don’t really have anyone else. I feel like I’ll just get sent back home without any real help. Is it possible for them to still admit you if they see fit?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:07:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvdxng'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvky7c', 'author': 'ElleRed98', 'body': 'Oh I’m sorry you’ve had that experience, maybe try ringing the mental health line 111 (option 2) might have a better experience or ask them how to otherwise, it’s hard to know the pathways in different areas x', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:01:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvko7i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvll5y', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:04:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvky7c'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvn3ab', 'author': 'ElleRed98', 'body': 'The other way I can think right now is going private, if you have the funds xx', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:11:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvll5y'}]"
1jki6ge,2025-03-26T23:30:12,PMDD experience on the practical side for getting help with this condition,"Hello

I know, with much certainty in myself, that this condition is affecting me. I am not good at articulating my internal experiences. So in a practical sense this is likely to be a barrier for me in getting help. (Should I say this to the doctor? I am very scared since they usually disbelieve me and are angry with me when I try to get mental health help). 

Did you have to make any sort of record to “track” your symptoms to prove the timing around menstruation?

Or if it’s not anything different to just being given an antidepressant anyway. 


",MentalHealthUK,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jki6ge/pmdd_experience_on_the_practical_side_for_getting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjvelam', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:30:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jki6ge'}, {'comment_id': 'mk305a0', 'author': 'MindlessCat3542', 'body': 'My gp asked for 3 months of a period diary. I used the Flo app, (also useful as you can see when the bad week is coming) I’ve been put on zoely and I have been completely symptom free the last 2 months.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T03:39:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jki6ge'}, {'comment_id': 'mjx20qx', 'author': 'Terrible-Stick-2179', 'body': 'Ive recently been made aware that i have this condition too. Ill tell you a bit about how i got diagnosed (As a trans man) \n\nI had obviously been struggling with it for quite some time and was already receiving help for my mental health via GP aligned (A mental health specialist GP agency) I was with them for a few months until i mentioned that people around me have noticed a pattern in my mental health. Mine is really severe and causes me to have NON STOP suicidal thoughts to the point where i nearly acted on it, so i ended up being dealt with by the Crisis team last year so everyone who saw my health records knew how bad i can get. I was put on various antidepressants and even diazepam to no avail, barely touched the sides! \n\nAs time went on, people started noticing that there was a pattern. Every month there would be a day where i would just wake up at rock bottom. I couldnt stop crying, I was mean, Withdrawn ect. For no apparent reason. \nOne day i noticed when i had a horrible week, but as soon as i saw the blood, the mood lifted, like magic. \nI googled ""Why am i suicidal before my period"" and that lead me to PMDD. \nIm not really someone to assume i have something based on one read and i was careful not to mention ""PMDD"" or make them assume that its just something I\'ve seen online but when i went to my MH nurse and told her that it seems to happen before i start bleeding. Straight away she said ""PMDD, I have it"" And referred me to my general GP for contraception. \nI was lucky(?) that i did not need to explain myself to them as they had each of my mental breakdowns written on paper in great detail and when it happened.  If you also have a record you have nothing to worry about. \n\nWith that being said. If they tell you no, Try and see if you can blag getting onto Eloine (combined pill). It has literally saved my life. LITERALLY. I am 3 days into my luteal phase im probably the happiest ive felt in a lonnnnnnggg time', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T04:20:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jki6ge'}]"
1jkbaqb,2025-03-26T18:35:03,"CMHT won’t see me, private think I’m too high risk","TW: SH, SI

I’m at a complete loss of what to do and I’m wondering if anyone has had a similar experience to me and has any advice.

I (F26) have a background of self injury since teenage years. I started to feel extremely depressed again last year. My GP referred me to CMHT due to persistent treatment resistant depression and self harm. CMHT rejected my referral and I continued to worsen.

In February I attempted to take my own life and was hospitalised overnight. Since then, my GP has again made numerous referrals to CMHT. My private therapist was concerned that I could have a serious underlying condition such as bipolar or BPD. Despite all of this, CMHT still class me as ‘low risk’ and refuse to see me.

My private therapist has now dropped me as this is all out of her scope. I have been referred to a private psychiatrist. However, they have rejected my referral as I am too high risk and said that CMHT should see me.

I am at a complete loss. Not enough of a risk, despite a suicide attempt, for CMHT. Too high risk for a private psychiatrist. I’ve been off of work since February, I am feeling more helpless by the day. I’m going to end up dead and nobody seems to care. 

If anyone has any advice on how I can get through to CMHT please let me know. Thank you if you’ve read this far.",MentalHealthUK,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jkbaqb/cmht_wont_see_me_private_think_im_too_high_risk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjtrw65', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:35:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkbaqb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjxdt4j', 'author': 'LjComply', 'body': ""Contacting PALS would probably be your best bet.  \n\nIf that doesn't work self refer yourself to IAPT and when they see you're too severe for them they should be able to make a CMHT referral."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T05:22:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkbaqb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjywa5m', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Im so sorry. This is awful. I cant believe what im reading. Definitely make a PALs complaint. Maybe even write to your MP? I cant believe you are being denied care.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T11:32:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkbaqb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjxu02h', 'author': 'Honestlytotallyfine', 'body': 'This is useful advice, thank you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T06:55:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjxdt4j'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1j1pj', 'author': 'Honestlytotallyfine', 'body': 'Thank you, I’ll be contacting PALS', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:37:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjywa5m'}]"
1jk28ls,2025-03-26T08:37:34,Coming off sertraline cold turkey,"I was put on 50mg of sertraline when I had my baby. I had a traumatic birth and a bad infection afterwards. I had the baby blues and was told it was all postpartum depression and anxiety. 
I am going to stop taking my medication as I believe I'm ready for it and never needed it. 
What are the side effects and how long can I expect them to last",MentalHealthUK,3,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jk28ls/coming_off_sertraline_cold_turkey/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjrwab0', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T08:37:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtefvp', 'author': 'Kellogzx', 'body': 'Coming off cold turkey just makes it feel worse. It’s always much better to ween off. Speak to your gp and they’ll have advise on how.', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T17:04:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjttvi4', 'author': 'YouCantGiveBabyBooze', 'body': ""do not do this under any circumstances. find a slow tailoring off plan and stick to it. Even lengthen it. \n\nI tried to taper too quickly and what followed was the worst couple of months of my entire life. brain zaps, more depression than I'd ever know. the closest I'd been to suidical ideation.\n\nplease be very careful."", 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:46:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtow0f', 'author': 'buginarugsnug', 'body': ""It's not recommended to come off it cold turkey. You should ideally taper off by going down to 25mg for a month first then halving again. Speak to your GP and they will be bale to advise you the best course of action for you and prescribe the 25mg pills to allow you to taper off."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:16:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtvy7p', 'author': 'CuppaT87', 'body': ""Do not come off it cold turkey please. Like everyone else, talk to your doctor & if they also think you're ready to come off, they'll help wean you off it & drop your dosage slowly.\n\n\nI went cold turkey years ago & it was a horrific idea. Depressive symptons shot up, SI shot up, anxiety shot up. So please please PLEASE talk to your GP about it first."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:58:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtucwk', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': 'Taper off under the advice of your GP.\n\nBrain Zaps are NOT fun (source - personal experience). \n\nThere is absolutely no need to go cold turkey. Why would you do that to yourself?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:49:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjubq22', 'author': 'Tiny-Hedgehog-6277', 'body': 'Yeah as everyone else is saying don’t, like I feel horrible just forgetting/missing 1 day, brain zaps are nasty and it just makes you feel worse. Just check with the gp first please', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T20:22:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwledf', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'This is a very bad plan, sertraline is one of the worst mental health medications to come off. Speak to your GP about tapering off.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:53:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwmmm7', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:59:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjw55s6', 'author': 'Hot_chips_for_dinner', 'body': 'Thank you so much for your reply. Honestly I just decided I no longer want to be on the medication. I don’t think I need it. But I have booked with my GP to discuss a plan and will stay on my meds for another couple of days until that appt', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T01:39:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mjtucwk'}, {'comment_id': 'mjxjmtx', 'author': 'Hot_chips_for_dinner', 'body': 'This is so frustrating to learn. When I was forced onto the medication I was told it’s the best one and that it’s not forever and easy to come off. Now realise they were all shit', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T05:55:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwledf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwoehn', 'author': 'Hot_chips_for_dinner', 'body': 'I did consider cutting the 50mg pill in half? thoughts ?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T03:08:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwmmm7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz967a', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': ""Whilst I agree that its perhaps galling to have to take a med you don't think you need, why volunteer for the additional pain and disorientation that the Brain Zaps could bring?\n\nI type this with a sympathetic tone - which is admittedly not always clear in text! - but if you are already unhappy with having to take a med you don't want/need, the additional irritation of 'The Zaps' (and possible other side-effects) are a burden you don't need and can *literally choose not to take on*. You could be lucky and not be susceptible to them, but why risk it? ;)\n\nPerhaps try to frame it in your mind as you 'taking care of yourself by not adding more problems than you are already coping with' and ensuring that you are not 'laying traps that you may end up sticking your own foot into a little further down the road'.\n\nA little self-compassion can go a long way.\n\nTake it easy on yourself. Good luck x"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:51:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjw55s6'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwpaxt', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': 'Take one Monday and take another Wednesday etc and then take them 2 then 3 days apart. But honestly you’ll be fine just stopping entirely in my experience.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T03:13:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwoehn'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhy4an', 'author': 'help30032021', 'body': 'Pleasw do not take medical advice from Internet strangers. Speak to your gp about how to come off sertraline **safely.**', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:02:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwoehn'}]"
1jjsjsf,2025-03-26T01:23:13,Do I need therapy,"I have a small hole in one side of my nose since 3 weeks ago. I’ve seen doctors twice and they said there’s nothing wrong but it’s very visible.
It’s ruined my life, I look awful. 
No one I’ve seen has said anything 
My girlfriend has been awesome and supportive 
I feel like I’ve ruined everything, finally happy with a promotion at work and with a new girlfriend and this has happened. 
I haven’t been able to do anything, no training nothing. Feel so anxious at work my chest is so difficult to control and in the evenings I stay up all night staring at marks in the mirror. 
I don’t know if I need therapy or anything but it’s driving me to breaking point. 

Any advice is welcome ",MentalHealthUK,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjsjsf/do_i_need_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjpnkm1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:23:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjsjsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpp87b', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I definitely think therapy could help with this. It sounds like you have a lot of anxiety going on and you deserve support for that x', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:31:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjsjsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpqfdz', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': ""You can self refer to talking therapies. [https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/) Might be worth trying to see your GP and telling them about your anxiety too. The small hole is probably an open pore or a blackhead. Ask a pharmacist for some cream or something. They'll help you out. Big hug lovely. You'll be ok."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:36:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjsjsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjptsp4', 'author': 'WorthPudding7260', 'body': 'Thank you for your comment :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:52:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpp87b'}, {'comment_id': 'mjptr2y', 'author': 'WorthPudding7260', 'body': 'Thank you. It’s a bit more than an open pore or black head it’s very noticeable even in pictures. Hopefully will all be okay thank you again', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:52:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpqfdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsq5hg', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': 'Maybe post a picture to a medical sub on here? A passing Dr Redditor might help you out.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T13:02:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mjptr2y'}]"
1jjqmdh,2025-03-26T00:05:07,Asked me to do group therapy instead of letting me see a psychiatrist,"Hi all,

I’m not sure what to do.

Went to my GP to speak about mental health. Been through lots of counselling and psychologists but it’s at the point that I think I need to speak to a physiatrist because the problems are too much. 

Spoke to my GP and told them everything. And they can see the multiple bouts of therapy in my last 

Still now they called me to tell me they want me to refer myself for group sessions as a suggestion from the mental health team somewhere 

Not to sound ungrateful but i can’t do that again. I really need help and I think I need to speak to a physiatrist! What could I do?",MentalHealthUK,4,33,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjqmdh/asked_me_to_do_group_therapy_instead_of_letting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjp7nkc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:05:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpajks', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'They’re suggesting treatment, which is the most important thing for any MH issue. \n\nA psychiatrist can offer treatment in the way of medications that a GP can’t prescribe. I’m not sure if you’re on medication or how many you’ve been on, but if it’s something a GP can manage, there might not be clinical indication atm for a psychiatry referral. A psychiatrist, aside from any meds, would also probably suggest or refer you to the same group therapy — the difference being you’d have to wait a long time for the appt which might delay your access to group therapy. \n\nWhy do you feel that a (probably short) psychiatrist appt would be preferable to trying the group? Is there a certain medication you wanna try? They need to have a clinical reason to refer you to psych', 'score': 16, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:19:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq5jua', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'The CMHT have offered a treatment based on your symptoms, you’re welcome to decline it but that doesn’t mean you are offered your chosen alternative. If you feel like you need to see a psychiatrist without the mental health team feeling you do it’s no different to expecting to see a cardiologist, oncologist etc without them feeling you need to. You are welcome to pay privately for treatment.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T02:50:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsjxax', 'author': 'No-Ad4423', 'body': ""Hey, I've been in this situation - group sessions suck for lots of people.\n\nHowever, I've found the more you jump through their hoops, the more willing they are to keep giving you stuff. If you do the GT and explain you don't feel much better, they can tick off that they've tried it with you, and maybe refer you to something better. Might take a while, but it's better than nothing.\n\nOr just go private if you can afford it."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T11:55:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpfn2q', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Its really frustrating that MH is so gatekept. It feels like you *should* be able to see a psychiatrist if you feel they could help but theyre in such demand there simply isnt the opportunity unless you become very unwell. Im sorry. I dont like the whole non diagnosis thing either. I get treating symptoms but for a lot of people a diagnosis is very helpful. Sorry you going through this', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:44:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjprp69', 'author': 'DoctorKween', 'body': 'You say that the group is at the suggestion of ""a mental health team elsewhere"" - it is probable that this team is a part of the service where the psychiatrists sit, and also that the advice is coming from someone who is reasonably experienced and aware of what different parts of the team are able to offer. It may even be that your case was discussed by a panel of different professionals depending on the service, and that the consensus was that this group was the best thing that the service could offer at this time. \n\nWith regards to your request for a psychiatrist, I see from the comments that you\'ve said you want to be able to ""figure out what [your] issue is"". I would ask you what impact you think this will have, and if there\'s something that you think it is. The reason I\'m curious about this is that, while it can feel validating to have a diagnosis and that this can be a useful shorthand for explaining why some things might be difficult, more valuable in my opinion is an individual understanding of your specific strengths and difficulties. I would also wonder whether thinking about what you\'d hope for might make it easier to discuss with your treating clinicians about how best to have your needs met. \n\nBeyond this though, much of what is going to make a difference is the treatment. A skills-based intervention which is what it sounds like you\'ve been prescribed can be really helpful in giving practical skills which you can build upon and which can make lots of things feel easier, and interventions like this can be more accessible and immediately useful than some other types of therapy. The skills can also in turn make other therapies more available by giving you new ways to deal with distress and difficult situations. I would suggest that this might have more value than a diagnosis. \n\nAs for how best to proceed, I would say that the intervention will have been suggested rather than a psychiatrist appointment because there is a hope that you will be able to derive some benefit from it, and so I would recommend giving this a go and seeing how it works out for you. It may be that this doesn\'t help you, but that\'s something you can\'t know until you try. If you still feel you need more assistance in the end then you can always ask for your case to be re-discussed with the team to see what else they can offer, and obviously if your situation changes in the mean time you can always re-present to services to discuss.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:42:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpa6o4', 'author': 'TheAnxiousPangolin', 'body': 'Have you told them specifically why you’d like to speak with a psychiatrist over any other MH professional? In the service I work at, our Psychiatrists only meet with people for medication appointments or if the patient is incredibly high risk.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:17:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpmlkl', 'author': 'Mysterious_Leave_971', 'body': 'I sympathize. In France, you can easily request follow-up by a psychiatrist; it is he who accepts or not the follow-up, and there is rarely a refusal. This therapeutic follow-up has nothing to do with group therapy (I do both). You have to persevere, even if it means trying a non-medical psychologist....', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:18:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpavo7', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you for your reply- it’s not even medication- it’s just trying to figure out what my issue is- I’ve tried group sessions at uni and it was so terrible for me - and I’ve been to physiologists before for CBT etc but nothing seems to work with me', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:20:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpajks'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqg8vm', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Understood, thank you for the advice 🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:44:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq5jua'}, {'comment_id': 'mjt2ff9', 'author': 'Quiet_Performance311', 'body': 'I found this. I was offered a group and initially was very against the idea. But doing that group was useful as the CMHT got to know me and they were more helpful. \n\nI went private afterwards for the 1 to 1 but if was doing it all again I still would do the group as it made everything else move a lot faster and still use stuff from it.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T15:17:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mjsjxax'}, {'comment_id': 'mjphe13', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you - this felt like a really nice message - I feel constant gas lit I’m not sure anymore- it’s hard and o feel stuck', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:52:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpfn2q'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpt4uq', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you for this great response - I’ll give it a go and try not to bat it- and it to doesn’t work it doesn’t 🤷\u200d♀️ but just jjst done it before and nothing changed :( I think also for me if I know what the issue is I can get things that work for me- I’ve tried a range from CBT to group to others and no help so far- but yes I’ll be positive and tey', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:49:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mjprp69'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpadst', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Yes I have - I’ve done about 3 versions of counselling with psychologists and nothing works for me, I’m not sure how this will get sorted. When I spoke to the gp she said she agrees and initially said she’d forward me off to a mental health team of psychiatrist. And they came back with the group session jdea', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:18:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpa6o4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpnuvy', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'I’ll try my best to, I appreciate your response !', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:24:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpmlkl'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpcg85', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'That’s probably the reason they’ve not booked a psych appt — with the NHS being overstretched, MH teams usually won’t see people purely for the sake of diagnosis when there are other treatment options patients could access more quickly. There has to be clinical indication for a psych appt. For example, if you’d gone through all the meds the GP could prescribe, they’d probably refer to psychiatry  based on the fact you might benefit from a medication a GP can’t prescribe. If that makes sense. Whereas if it was just for the sake of diagnosis when there were treatment options primary care or a therapy service could offer, they’re going to prioritise you getting treatment as ultimately that’s the most important thing.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:28:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpavo7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq92od', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'I would go back to your GP and ask for a referral to the CMHT? It doesnt sound like youve been referred before and rather being offered primary care treatment? Not sure if youve tried medications etc but you are well within your rights to ask for a referral. This may be rejected by the CMHT but please do ask. Also remember if you struggling, calling crisis line will mean your calls are logged and your GP notified which helps add to the seemingly necessary evidence trail that you need more support than you currently getting x', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:08:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mjphe13'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpexk8', 'author': 'TheAnxiousPangolin', 'body': 'Sorry to hear that nothing has worked for you so far. Have you tried group therapy before? They may have suggested it to try a different approach for you since other therapies have not been successful. I would give the group therapy a go, and one you’ve been introduced to your Lead Professional you can always ask again about a Psychiatrist referral - however ever just because you ask does not mean they will see you; strict criteria usually has to be met.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:40:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpadst'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpd62u', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Ok :( I’m not sure what’s the best thing to do because I don’t want medication/ it sound silly but I don’t know what else to do - just talking and talking and cbt I feel hopeless now- sorry I don’t mean to put this on you but just wanted to know what you’d advice', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:32:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpcg85'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqg460', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you - when I speak next time to then I’ll ask - I arrested this medsage !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:44:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq92od'}, {'comment_id': 'mjph9o9', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Yes I have before and it just didn’t help me :( I can try this', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:52:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpexk8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpdvmz', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'You’re not putting anything on me, I’m more than happy to try and help :) If you don’t want medication, that’s probably a big reason an NHS psychiatrist appt isn’t indicated. Ultimately the one thing they can do that other MH professionals can’t is prescribe further line meds. If a different professional can get you treatment quicker they’ll do that. What sort of group therapy is it?', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:35:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpd62u'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqk6sv', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Also I know last year when I wasnt able to access support due to waitlists, I found a great therapist who I saw most weeks. They were so helpful and it cost about £50 a session? I couldnt sustain it longterm due to cost but honestly it was really worth it. Probably much more helpful than a psychiatrist appt especially if you want support figuring out whats going on. Thats kinda their thing 🧡', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:05:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqg460'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpe1hw', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you for listening - Emotional regulation classes', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:36:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpdvmz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqurjh', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you - I’ll look into it- that doesn’t sound as expensive as private so will try it out !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T05:00:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqk6sv'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpf1cx', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Always happy to listen bud. Is that something you’ve tried before? Sounds like it might be based on some DBT skills. DBT stuff is actually really helpful in my experience.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:41:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpe1hw'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqwcur', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Yeah I googled people and tried to get some recommendations and contacted a bunch. I think I got lucky as he was just kindest, best therapist ever. He was so helpful at a time I was really unwell. And it wasnt as expensive as I feared. Even if you saw them fortnightly? Its nice to build a rapport with someone who listens and offers a lot of empathy 💛', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T05:09:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqurjh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjphk2i', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you and Yes DBT I think would help me - but it’s only CBT over and over', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:53:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpf1cx'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpoouu', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'It sounds like the group isn’t CBT! I’d give it a go. Something new might be really good.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:28:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mjphk2i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjprv8t', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Ok thank you - I’ll maybe try it - but what if it dies r work or do you think there will\nStill be an opportunity to speak to a physiatrist', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:43:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpoouu'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq4ydp', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'If that’s what the MH team decides you need then they’ll arrange it. Since secondary services (where psychiatrists typically work) often ask patients to do as many primary care interventions as possible, if you can show you’ve engaged as best you can with what you’ve been offered, it’ll give more of a reason to see the secondary team if needed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T02:47:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjprv8t'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq55ev', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you so much for all your help I can’t thank you enough for your advice ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T02:48:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq4ydp'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq7toi', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Any time. I hope things get better for you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:01:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq55ev'}]"
1jjifz7,2025-03-25T18:12:59,Wait time for GP appointment TW,"After a few weeks of talking myself into and out off speaking to a gp, I finally got around to trying to book an appointment. I go through the university website to get to the practice I'm registered with. I need to complete a questionable. Explain how I've been struggling with slight depression for about 2 years. And have spent the last 6 months feeling really shit. Spent the last 2 months self harming daily. When asked what times I'm free to be called for booking an appointment I tell them. I was going to be out today for about 2 hours so I block out that period of time. Fortunately I got home early as they called me in that period of time. First available GP appointment, 29th of April. Maybe this is normal I don't really speak to GPs about anything including physical issues but for fucks sake, a month? Welp, at least I've got a thing booked now",MentalHealthUK,7,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjifz7/wait_time_for_gp_appointment_tw/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjn8dpy', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:12:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjncowk', 'author': 'DifferentMagazine4', 'body': ""That's unfortunately quite common. I'd definitely do what the other commenter said: find what time your practice opens, and ring them then. It'll take a few attempts, but hopefully you'll get through. My practice tend to do same-day for any mental health concerns involving SH or suicide."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:39:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnbud7', 'author': 'Known-Agent-1764', 'body': 'That sounds like the first pre-bookable. I’d leave that one in place, but is there any way of phoning/contacting them first thing in the morning for a same-day appointment? You might get seen quicker that way. I sometimes do that at my practice :)', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:34:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnt9w9', 'author': 'CuppaT87', 'body': 'Sadly it seems to be fairly normal these days. I would do what other people have suggested & try to get in touch with the practice first thing tomorrow.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:10:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpa8fz', 'author': 'Calm-Character-4561', 'body': 'I had the same. I was in really in a low period of my life with suicidal thoughts and tried to get an appointment (they knew my situation). My next appointment would be in 3 weeks time!!! I was so desperate that I went to A&E. And I didn’t regret it. They been amazing and the same day I had appointment with crisis team which come to my home every day to check on me and prescribed any medication I needed. \n\nIf you really struggling please do not be scared to go to the hospital. Long wait but it was definitely worth it as I’m feeling much better due knowing someone was there for me. Still not great but at least on the right path.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:17:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjncih3', 'author': 'Th3Hunt3r1503', 'body': ""Thanks for the advice, I'll have a look into it. I've been registered with them for about 7 months, but never gone to them before :) hope you have a great day"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:38:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnbud7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjph1an', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Yes. If you really struggling, dont wait for the appt. Phone crisis team or 111, option 2, or go to the hospital. Mental Health is no joke. Wishing you the best', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:51:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpa8fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqcgkw', 'author': 'SadAnnah13', 'body': ""I think yours is the first positive experience I've heard about A&E wise! Good for you though, I hope you're getting the right help you need."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:25:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpa8fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjncsio', 'author': 'Known-Agent-1764', 'body': 'It can be really hard, but stick at it. I hope you can be seen and heard soon.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:40:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mjncih3'}]"
1jjw4h0,2025-03-26T03:49:32,tween/ teen resources,"hi everyone this is my first post so i hope im doing it okay, i am almost 18 and babysit for a tween girl who opens up to me about her struggles with her mental health she seems to trust me really well, there was some safeguarding risks so i informed her parent's and they have since started to recognise behaviour and traits that are concerning to them, they have asked me to have a chat at some point to ask about things my mum did wrong when i was in the depths of my struggle so they can try and get it as right as possible which i think is great! but my question about what are some good resources to help valadate what she’s going through because she dosent have much internet access or social midia access’s but the that she dose aka spotify she has found a spoken word poetry song thats talks a lot about sui and not feeling good enough for the world along with other topics and the thing is she normally listen to like disney channel pop stars music and so for her to have found this song and showed it to me and her mum and said this is what i feel like is clearly a cry for help. i just don’t want here looking for things to help try and validate her but end up finding something more harmful or triggering for her. my dilemma is that she’s a 
really like intelligent girl but also her signs  are mainly mental then in to physical (sh) although her main thing that is recently new is she picks at her skin to the point it bleeds but never anything more then that, so there’s book that i have read like girl in pieces but i don’t think she would relate to that fully and may end up giving her more ideas. dose anyone know of any age appropriate resources or books or apps on anything that i can pass onto her mum to try and get her the validation that she is seeking without giving her any idea on top of the others interventions she’s getting so that like when she alone she has something to turn to other then to google. 
thank you for reading this sorry it’s so long! i’m we will be grateful for any advice on resources we can help provide to her! 


also just to mention she is a 12 year old female on the suspected autism pathway. 


",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjw4h0/tween_teen_resources/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjqh4hg', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:49:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjw4h0'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqxto8', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Mind is a great website, if she was looking for more information to understand it and they also have resources about certain things Has she had a referral to CAMHS? The GP or her school could sort that. You seem a lovely person for caring so much!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T05:17:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjw4h0'}]"
1jji6xq,2025-03-25T18:00:03,anxiety and gut health,"i know that anxiety and stomach issues are essentially a package deal, but i feel like i'm struggling a lot to maintain it recently as i've been suffering a lot more with anxiety the past few months for a few reasons. if it's not stomach pain/aches when i'm mid panic attack, then it's nausea and lack of appetite that comes after. recently i've felt like i've been burping(?) a lot too. i havent had the best diet either the recently, ive just tried to eat what i can when i can to get some cals in. i thought maybe it's anxiety induced gerd or something if that's even a thing? i dont even think i have other symptoms of it though. i even struggle to swallow sometimes, as if i've forgotten how but it might just be because i'm hyperfocused on it when i'm eating. has anyone else had similar troubles and how they went about dealing with them? the first step would probably be for me to start eating healthier, but like i said mh/lack of appetites been getting in the way of that. is there anything else i can do atm?",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jji6xq/anxiety_and_gut_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjn6f56', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:00:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jji6xq'}, {'comment_id': 'mjo5rzh', 'author': 'Kellogzx', 'body': 'You could get some anti acids or similar from the pharmacy/supermarket see if those make any difference. Pharmacy generally will give you advice on what sort of stuff will help. They’re good for that kind of thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T21:13:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jji6xq'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsp0ec', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': ""Honestly I would see a doctor about it. Anxiety can cause gut health, also for a prolonged period of time, but it might also help to get a doctors opinion on whether you also have something else going on too. It's probably good to rule out or treat anything physical to be able to know what is the mental health and what is the physical health."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:49:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jji6xq'}]"
1jj8c4i,2025-03-25T07:18:22,How often do you see a psychiatrist? (UK),"Hello

My psychiatrist asked me how often I felt would be helpful to see them?? And I have no idea?? 

I also know CMHTs are probably all overwhelmed. How often do you see a psychiatrist on the NHS/ through your CMHT? 

I saw them every month till I got a care coordinator. Since then, about every 6-8 weeks. Does suggesting every 6 weeks sound reasonable as I have no idea? But I very worried about therapy destabilising me. I've just been able to start therapy on NHS after a very long waitlist. ",MentalHealthUK,13,38,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jj8c4i/how_often_do_you_see_a_psychiatrist_uk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjl4izm', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:18:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjl7xdm', 'author': 'LouisePoet', 'body': ""Ok, I'm shocked that you even met one!"", 'score': 35, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:38:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmthz8', 'author': 'arthousepsycho', 'body': 'I’m honestly beginning to doubt we have any psychiatrists in my area. Anytime you are trying to sort your meds, you see the mental health team pharmacist, I see plenty of psychologists, but I’ve only seen an actual psychiatrist once in like 15 years of treatment, despite steadily worsening mental health problems and actually asking to be referred to one. Dr said he would but couldn’t promise they would see me. \n\nIf you’re getting to see one at all, think yourself massively lucky.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T16:21:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlof3f', 'author': 'sjbate06', 'body': ""Had a phone conversation nearly three years ago with a follow up call 3 months later. That was it. Last year I actually asked my GP (over the phone again as you can't seem to get face to face appointments) who was responsible for my medication as it no longer seemed to be working... My GP just decided to increase it himself and I've just been left to get on with it"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T09:28:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpf53q', 'author': 'concretepigeon', 'body': 'I was basically told unless you have bipolar of schizophrenia you’re shit out of luck trying to see one in my area.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:41:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjllw0c', 'author': 'Best-Swan-2412', 'body': 'In around 2010 I was suffering from severe depression and the GP referred me to a psychiatrist. There was a small mental health hospital near where I live and I saw him there. He offered me different meds that the GP couldn’t prescribe but I declined because citalopram was working for me. \n\nNow that mental health hospital has closed. A few years ago I asked to be referred to a psychiatrist and the GP said she’d put in a referral. I had an appointment with a psychiatric nurse in a random doctor’s surgery quite far away. The psychiatric nurse didn’t speak English very well, and decided that my problem was being codependent on my boyfriend, because I asked for him to come into the room with me. \n\nI asked that because I’m autistic and have severe social anxiety. The psychiatric nurse wasn’t even aware of my autism, and wouldn’t listen to what I tried to say. \n\nNow I see an excellent private psychiatrist every few months, it’s crazy expensive though.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T09:09:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlbpxx', 'author': 'insidetheold', 'body': 'I see them a lot less than that, a couple times a year tops and this was before I managed to finally get referred for anything let alone now.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T08:01:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjm9mnd', 'author': 'nightmaresgrow', 'body': ""I'm currently reducing some of my medications. I see the NHS psychiatrist every 4-6 months. \n\nHowever, as I'm under the CMHT, I can always call them and my psychiatrist will call me back. Usually on the same day, but if not it's within a couple of days for routine enquiries."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T12:48:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmbtj0', 'author': 'Fizzy68', 'body': 'Personally I see mine every 4-8 weeks, but I am under an intensive community team after being inpatient for a long time.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T13:13:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmligx', 'author': 'temporarysliver', 'body': 'I see one for about 20mins every 6 weeks/3 months. I think I could do with seeing them more frequently though\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:02:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjn20jv', 'author': 'fithrow12', 'body': ""I've never met my actual psychiatrist, I'm under CMHT but only see the people who report to them. I have however seen my neuropsychiatrist and they want follow ups every 3 months directly with them due to post ictal psychosis. (Which is an epilepsy complication)\n\nMy CMHT is a bit useless to be fair, keep saying I'll be discharged if I miss appointments etc, but they have failed to even ring me like 5 times in the last couple of months so they have missed way more. And they are not allowed to discharge me anyway under the rules set by neuropsychiatry, I'm under them for life. This one person just said ask your gp to increase aripiprazole but they are not allowed to do so my GP said so they just waste time.\n\nBut yeah maybe 3-6 months id say if given the option."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T17:29:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmo4h3', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'I met my cmht psychiatrist in January after being discharged from a section three in December, met him again in March and now will see him every six months. I don’t think its often enough but am also aware theres not much he could do', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:29:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmxbbq', 'author': 'kstaruk', 'body': 'Supposed to be every 6 months now that I am ""stable"", my last appointment was in August and I haven\'t heard anything about my next one\n\nAt one point during lockdowns it was weekly phone calls, I was in a state of constant crisis for a long time and constantly trying different medications to see if anything would be beneficial', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T16:53:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjni4xe', 'author': 'Photoshop_Princess', 'body': 'I was surprised to be offered to see a psychiatrist in my local gp', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T19:11:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnyyi4', 'author': 'One_Second1365', 'body': 'Every 6 months and I have bipolar type 2. I don’t think it’s enough but it is what it is. Current state of the NHS innit?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:39:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjo3gfs', 'author': 'neveragaindotcom', 'body': ""Every 6 months, I see my CMHT psychiatrist when stable. However, if I need to talk to him over the phone about anything, I email the admin team, who then forward my email to him, and he phones me to discuss. I'm very lucky to have such a lovely psychiatrist as they are very rare in the CMHT. \n\nHe also recently helped me distribute my dissertation questionnaire among his colleagues and other services within the mental health services in my county. Every Wednesday, he would bring up my questionnaire in his lead meetings, encouraging people to fill them out."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T21:01:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqbbaz', 'author': 'No_Whereas_5203', 'body': ""Not found them helpful unless I've needed a medication changed personally.  Sounds like you have a good one though to be asked your opinion, that is rare! 6 weeks seems quite a lot unless you are currently changing meds. My local cmht it was about twice a year."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:19:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsn4a4', 'author': 'jwk1327', 'body': 'I couldn’t see one on the NHS after a 9 month wait and was forced to go privately. Once I’m well enough to work I’m gonna put savings to the side specifically for\nPrivate healthcare as I believe nhs are not able to treat people to a good standard anymore.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:29:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsox07', 'author': 'likpinklady', 'body': 'I’m supposed to see mine every 3 months but in the last 2 years I’ve been under the CMHT I’ve seen my psych 3 times. \nDiagnosed EUPD and ASD.\n\nProbably for the best because he’s a complete fucking arsehole who has constantly been dismissive, refused to refer me to eating disorder services, and has actually SHOUTED at my partner, “I AM THE CLINICAL PROFESSIONAL HERE” when I brought him in to help advocate for me.\nI’ve had appointments sent out, but they’ve all been cancelled on the day due to “unforeseen circumstances.” The next appointment that comes through is then in like another 3/4 months time. Just for it to be cancelled again. \nThe last time I saw my psychiatrist he berated me for “missing my last appointment” to which I showed him a text of the cancellation. He replied “well I don’t know what happened there but I was sat here, waiting for you.” \n\nI’m in Wales.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:48:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtvygg', 'author': 'Sacrar', 'body': 'It depends on the context. If medication is prescribed, it will need a more routine, less spaced monitoring (once every month or every few weeks). After medication is adjusted and seems to be working you can space out visits, something like this once every 2-3 months.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:59:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzpkmr', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': 'Whenever we do a mental health act assessment 😅', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:35:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzt71v', 'author': 'sykeitsmorgan', 'body': 'once every 3 months on the nhs unless an emergency appointment was booked for a mhaa. once a month privately but i can drop that down whenever i want which i intend to do after my next appointment', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:03:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mkb86d4', 'author': '84849493', 'body': 'Every four weeks with my last one. 6-8 with the current one. I’m starting to get better so expecting that to reduce if I can keep that up and I can always email him if anything comes up between appointments too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T10:26:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mkffzak', 'author': 'NoAnt4221', 'body': 'i see a psychiatrist through camhs, every 6 weeks is usually how long i wait to see him. i often have emergency appointments so get seen sooner than most. usually following a&e discharge.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:07:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlaqmi', 'author': 'Express_Possibility5', 'body': ""I've recently started tapering off a very high dose of prescription benzos and just switched antidepressants at the direction of my psychiatrist. I have no follow up appointment booked. I expect 4-6 months if history is anything to go by.\n\n\nIt's disgraceful."", 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:55:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mjl7xdm'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnu7lj', 'author': 'mimi2001f', 'body': 'Similar to me, I had a phone conversation with my CMHT - was an over the phone mental health assessment which pissed me off because surely it would be better to do so in a face to face setting 🤷\u200d♀️. The lady that did my assessment was rude, made very insensitive comments about my mental health. She decided I don’t have a “serious mental health issue” and told me to work on my relationship with my mum 😹. She also told me to stay away from the antidepressants my GP prescribed me because I have periods of elated mood and she was worried they would make me worse (weird of her to say if she doesn’t think I have anything wrong with me). \n\nBut yes, my GP also prescribed me antidepressants and after I went back several times stating that I was becoming more depressed even a year into the meds - my GP just upped my dosage every time I called up which made my mood swings worse. Now I’m left with no options 🤷\u200d♀️', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:15:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mjlof3f'}, {'comment_id': 'mjprwq1', 'author': 'fireflower0', 'body': 'Same here! 29 and have struggled with my mental health severely since 17 (can’t work, have no friends, been on a million antidepressants) and have never seen a psychiatrist!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:43:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpf53q'}, {'comment_id': 'mkl84e5', 'author': 'Electrical-Lead9621', 'body': 'It’s okay if your stable. I’m private and won’t see mine more than once every 3-6 months unless I’m in an episode then he will want to see me frequently until I’m stable.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T03:29:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnyyi4'}, {'comment_id': 'mki356i', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Thats so helpful you can email between appts. I saw my psychiatrist every 4 weeks until I got a care coordinator. Now its every 6-8 weeks', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:51:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkb86d4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmplxf', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'I’ve got bipolar, diagnosed almost 5 years and I’ve seen a psych twice. Ironically I had way more help and support when I had a “low mood” label', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:44:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mjlaqmi'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqbrqv', 'author': 'No_Whereas_5203', 'body': ""That is ridiculous as elated mood with antidepressants can point to bipolar. I am sick of mental health services being so dismissive.  Would be better for them to be honest and say sorry we don't have the staff then to dismiss people's struggles."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:21:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnu7lj'}, {'comment_id': 'mki390r', 'author': '84849493', 'body': 'You should ask if it’s possible! It’s the only way I’ve been able to get real help because I communicate so much better that way.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:52:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mki356i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqq76q', 'author': 'Express_Possibility5', 'body': ""I'm sorry. It's awful."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:36:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mjmplxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjrd3j9', 'author': 'mimi2001f', 'body': 'My thoughts exactly. My first thought after the assessment was “she must think I have bipolar or something if she’s worried about the antidepressants”. I also told her I have been experiencing elated mood prior to being prescribed them & the antidepressants made me cycle back and forth between episodes a LOT more quicker than I’d usually cycle 🤷\u200d♀️ & people wonder why a lot of us self diagnose sometimes (to a degree of course).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T06:42:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqbrqv'}, {'comment_id': 'mki3dqd', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Sometimes I do email. As you say its often a much easier way for me to communicate. They never reply though.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:53:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mki390r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsk07b', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'It’s so frustrating. I suspect I have eupd and although they’ve recognised I have traits, they backtracked out of an assessment unfortunately', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T11:56:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqq76q'}, {'comment_id': 'mki3pkk', 'author': '84849493', 'body': 'That’s so shitty! My last one wasn’t very good at replying, but the one I have now is fantastic in that regard.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:56:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mki3dqd'}]"
1jjg6t5,2025-03-25T15:56:10,Depersonalisation and derealisation,"Hi,

I’m just looking for ways to cope with depersonalisation and derealisation. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD and waiting for CBT but it’s happening everyday, pretty much all day and it’s mentally draining. The only way I can move past it is if I just close my eyes for a while/go to sleep but I have 2 children under 3 so it’s hard to do that unless my partner is at home. My children are at the age where they’re constantly throwing tantrums and I find it tends to happen when I get overstimulated as well. I’ve had it in the past but only as a one off whereas now it seems to be constant and some days I stay calm when it’s happening and other days I just go into panic and then I have a panic attack. I’m so tired of feeling this way. I’m also 13 weeks pregnant so I don’t know if that is why it’s so bad now, because of hormones etc but I never experienced this in my previous pregnancies. My son was in hospital with RSV in November and almost died so a therapist told me it is probably down to that. I just really want it to stop
TIA",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjg6t5/depersonalisation_and_derealisation/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjmqsvh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:56:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjg6t5'}, {'comment_id': 'mjspe77', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': 'Some things my therapist recommended was:   \n\\- Take a shower.   \n\\- Hold/rub ice on myself.   \n\\- Throw cold water on my face.   \n\\- Get some fresh air, listen to the sounds outside.   \n\\- Sit down with a cup of tea.   \n\\- Calming music/meditation music. \n\nI know a lot of people say these things can really help. Personally they did not help me as for me it happens long-term, but maybe they work for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:53:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjg6t5'}]"
1jiwbtr,2025-03-24T22:56:16,Scared to go to the hair salon because of small talk,"I have very bad anxiety and hate engaging in small talk with strangers. However, I really need a hair cut and to get blonde highlights put back in my hair. My issue is that hairdressers always ask questions like ""So, what do you do for work?"". I'm currently not working at the moment due to my mental health, so what am I supposed to say? ",MentalHealthUK,18,18,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiwbtr/scared_to_go_to_the_hair_salon_because_of_small/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjiedu7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T22:56:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjir4ak', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': 'If anyone asks about work you say ""I had to give up work to care for a loved one"" They don\'t need to know you mean yourself.', 'score': 20, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:57:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjiewic', 'author': 'MystickPisa', 'body': ""Earbuds in, tell them you have to listen to something for 'work' (the work is your mental good health) and apologise that you're not going to be talking to them. Then listen to a podcast. I recommend Brene Brown's 'Unlocking Us':  \n  \n[https://brenebrown.com/podcast-show/unlocking-us/](https://brenebrown.com/podcast-show/unlocking-us/)"", 'score': 16, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T22:58:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjik24m', 'author': 'AudienceHead6899', 'body': 'I have seen a ""no talking"" option when booking a hair appointment before, so it\'s something some hairdressers definitely cater for. Is there a subReddit for your town/city you could post in asking for recommendations anyone might know?\n\nI hate small talk too and have learned to just be a bit liberal with the truth when answering some uncomfortable questions.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:23:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjildtd', 'author': 'No-Ad4423', 'body': ""I do mine myself now, or my partner does it. There's a good highlighting kit you can get from Superdrug - it has a lady with a pixie cut on the front. Pretty straightforward, just takes a while. Easier if you have someone helping.\n\nA colleague taught me a while ago how to trim my lengths to get nice layers. You make a tight ponytail directly on the top of your head. Pull the ponytail straight up, then put another hair band around the tip, leaving just an inch or so showing. Cut your hair that's sticking out the second band. Works really well, and takes like 5 mins."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:29:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjio3ys', 'author': 'coffeehoarder9000', 'body': ""I go into a verbal shutdown around strangers *often* and booking online and using the notes really helped. The woman who last did my hair was so understanding about it! The only things she asked of me was if my cut was okay and let me use my hands to say yes or no. \n\nAs anxiety inducing as it is I recommend just being honest or looking for an ND friendly salon they're great!"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:42:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjj0qm8', 'author': 'DejaEntenduOne', 'body': ""I actually went earlier to have hair cut; I can't stand it, especially asking about work. I work part time 10hrs, but most people will judge even that, nothing is ever enough. You go from no work, then build yourself up, it still won't be adequate to people who make jobs their whole personality. Today I actually told a little white lie that I've been in work since 4am, even though it was a bit later. I don't usually lie, even to strangers, but after many years feeling much like you here; maybe it's best for your sanity. Answer with what you think you'd be doing if not for this particular struggle. Since this year, my toleration for people talking about work and what do you do has hit an all time low. Even if I was well and working 40 hours, I reckon my tolerance would be EVEN lower. Unfortunately it seems to just be the default comfort topic us humans jump to, after complaining about the weather"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:43:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjii9bh', 'author': 'ShyBiSaiyan', 'body': ""I find it so difficult to go, I need to get it cut so I can colour it again myself. And because I don't like to go to new places and covid happened now I have to book in to get it cut, I can't just turn up and that adds another layer of difficulty because I struggle with booking things as online can feel overwhelming and making phone calls even more so 🥲. And now it's at that length it's reaaalllllly irritating me 🥲, prior to me wanting my hair semi long I'd just cut it all down to a 5 length myself (during covid) but now I like some length 😅"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:14:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjbfr3', 'author': 'wooden_werewolf_7367', 'body': ""Just give lots of one word answers which don't invite further questions and don't make eye contact. Get your phone out or read a book. They should get the message. I hate going the hairdressers for the same reason but at this point I don't care if they think I am rude for not talking unless needed. I'm there to get my wig sorted, not chat to someone I'm never going to see again."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T01:35:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjinuzb', 'author': 'Beautiful_Angle4283', 'body': 'I started getting a mobile hairdresser to come round as made it easier for my anxiety,would that help?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:41:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjj1gaf', 'author': 'LouisePoet', 'body': ""My housemate is a hair dresser.   He loves it, but says the worst part is trying to talk to a customer when he isn't sure if they want to or not.   Just tell your stylist you love silence.   I promise they won't be offended!!   They'll appreciate knowing what you want."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:46:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjrqva', 'author': 'whatsername235', 'body': ""I would reach out on social media to a couple of places locally and just ad honest. \n\nTell them about your anxiety and how you would prefer to not have to make small talk as it's tough for you. In my experience, I would reach out to 'alternative' hairdressers. Those who deal a lot with unusual cuts and colours. They're much less likely to be traditional with their holidays chat and more understanding.\n\nAs another option, post on your own city's reddit. Someone here will know a hairdresser who will look after you well. I hope you find someone who can help out and make you comfortable. There's a lot of people out there who can and will make it a good experience."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:53:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpbye7', 'author': 'InTheseBoness', 'body': 'Have you considered lying about why you’re making the request for no small talk? I know that sounds bad but as an example, I have really bad eyesight and can’t see without my glasses. So when I take them off during the appointment, that plus the general hustle & bustle of the salon and hair dryers etc, I genuinely cannot make out what they are saying as I can’t read their lips without my glasses on to fill in the gaps. \n\nUnfortunately it seems like every hair dresser has been trained on how to fill the gaps in conversation with more conversation but after a couple of awkward moments over the years as I learned how to be more confident or assertive in these kind of situations, now I just kind of squint and tilt my head so they can visually see that I’m not following them and then say something like “Sorry, can’t see or hear a thing in here without my glasses on, don’t worry about chatting. I’m good in my own bubble, I promise. You’re free to get on with what you do best!”\n\nMany many people struggle to hold conversations at the hair dressers for many different reasons. If it feels too personal to lay your own anxieties bare for a stranger (totally valid) then feel free to borrow my excuse for a while and wear a pair of reading glasses that they will ask you remove.\n\nOr you can say you’re hard of hearing and forgot your hearing aids today, hell you can get a badge if needs be and tap it with an apologetic shrug every time they start a conversation. \n\nIt’s your hair appointment. You are paying them for a service. Your preferences are valid. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You can be polite but firm and even offer a friendly giggle and reminder if they slip up and try small talk again later on out of habit.\n\nEdit: you can also lie about your job. I’m confident you’re not the first person. Just keep it simple and tell them about the last job you had. It’s not that deep and I promise they don’t really care.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:26:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjijps7', 'author': 'brokencasbutt67', 'body': 'If its one that you can book online (i.e. Facebook, email), perhaps add a note that says like ""Sorry, I\'ve got a lot on and I\'d like to be in silence/not talking."" Maybe? Or airpods as someone else mentioned', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:21:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjjct2', 'author': 'plantsaint', 'body': 'I do too. Could you say you struggle with migraines or bad fatigue?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:12:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnk1wd', 'author': 'HearthAndHorizon', 'body': 'I would ring (or email) around local salons and ask if they offer “quiet appointments”. \n\nMore places than we realise actually do. You can be honest and say it’s for anxiety reasons, or just fib and say you work a very vocal job, would love to get the hair consultation done and then just be left in quiet please to enjoy getting your hair done and reading a magazine or book. \n\nThen book your appointment with whoever feels the most genuinely willing to offer that service.\n\nYou might even be able to google “hair salons with quiet appointments” in your area. Maybe someone’s already tried it and put up reviews? \n\nGood Luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T19:22:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mk36yh6', 'author': 'humpbackkwhale', 'body': ""I asked my hairdresser not to do small talk with me because of my mental health. She wasnt at all taken aback and said yes of course, she had another client who liked the  same because of their autism. So maybe it's not that uncommon."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:13:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbz756', 'author': 'virus-of-life', 'body': 'Ok so bit of a different POV but maybe the hairdresser might feel relieved if you ask for a silent session ☺️? They might too be exhausted from small talk all day too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T15:14:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}]"
1jj47us,2025-03-25T04:09:41,Can I be forced to move out of house with support to less support?,"Yeah just what I said above basically.

I have some mental health issues. Anxiety and depression I have had for a long time. 

Within the last 3 months I have also had paranoia and some voices. The voices appeared to be temporary.. or at least the intensity was temporary. I still hear them but they don’t bother.

I won’t go into more detail because I’m asking about the practical stuff. 

I’m at a house like supported living house I share with others. There are staff that work here 24/7, which is great when you’re anxious. Which I was for a good month or so, I mean a month VERY anxious and it lessened after that and declined to now where it’s not too bad. 

Can they force me to move to a house with less support (staff not there constantly, probably just a visit for half hour/hour each week day).

I really don’t feel ready. I’m doing better than I was at the height of things but I’m still very anxious and dont do basically anything I avoid leaving the house as much as possible.  ",MentalHealthUK,3,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jj47us/can_i_be_forced_to_move_out_of_house_with_support/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjk689v', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:09:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj47us'}, {'comment_id': 'mjp4itu', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': 'Ultimately yes they can. How easy it would be to do so depends. If you are there on a licence agreement it is easier, if it’s a tenancy agreement it would take longer to evict you. And ultimately social services are under no obligation to fund support which they have assessed you do not need. However if you have s117 aftercare then it would be a lot more difficult to remove the support and evict you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T23:49:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj47us'}, {'comment_id': 'mjuigx6', 'author': 'SavingsLow7704', 'body': ""It's a stepped approach to you getting your own place. If you feel you aren't ready yet, speak to them about your worries. But honestly, I think you should give it a try. If it works out, you'll most likely be put on the top band for bidding to get your own place in 6 to12 months."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T20:56:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj47us'}, {'comment_id': 'mjunepk', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'I have no idea about the tenancy to be honest. I haven’t ever signed a NEW agreement, so I’m assuming any tenancy I had for a specific period will have expired by now as I’ve been here about 2.5 years.\n\nI’m not on the section thing where they can recall you to a mental health hospital, if that’s what that section you quoted is.\n\nI was originally living in a shared house where staff would come to see me for an hour a few times a week. I think it was 3 times a week but it would have reduced to just once a week over time. But I was sectioned while living there. Spent around 7 weeks I think, in hospital, although a decent chunk of that time  was them looking for a new place for me to live, as the staff at my existing house felt that I needed more support than they could give.\n\nSo then I came out of hospital into the house I’m at now with staff working 24/7.\n\nI suspect the idea is to move me into a house like the one I was in before I went into hospital. The problem is I go through periods of doing a lot better where I don’t require much support, but then I can go downhill and be in need of a lot of support.\n\nRight now I’m doing better but there’s no guarantee that this will last. I’d like to have at least 6 months of doing well to be confident that I’ll be ok with less support.\n\nI also don’t want to move to less support and then find I need more and then they agree and move me back into something like where I am now. Because then I’ve uprooted everything for no reason. \n\nBut yeah I guess I’ll just have to try and persuade them that I do need the support.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T21:20:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mjp4itu'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvmmjx', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': 'Section 117 (which I quoted) is not something where you can be recalled to hospital (that is a CTO). Section 117 is an entitlement to aftercare which people get if they are detained under Section 3 or under other forensic sections. It essentially makes a duty on the NHS and Social Services to provide services to keep you mentally well and prevent readmission to hospital. Generally the aim with supported accommodation is to move on within 2 years, but most people are there for a lot longer. Are they talking about stepping you down?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:09:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mjunepk'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvn787', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'Yeah, stepping me down basically. But yeah I wasn’t on a section 3, just section 2. So I guess I probably don’t have that thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:12:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvmmjx'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvndjn', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'It was the second time I’ve been sectioned and the time before that was only 6 months before. But still I don’t think I’m on that thing as I assume I’d know?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:13:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvmmjx'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwbo1y', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': ""If you have only been on a s2 then you won't have s117. The other way to tell is about if you need to pay a contribution to your care - people with s117 don't need to pay for any of their care, but people not on it will need to be financially assessed and will usually pay a contribution"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:09:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvndjn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwbvj6', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'Ahh ok, yeah I do have to pay towards it. Guess I’ll just have to see what they say then.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:10:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwbo1y'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwcajc', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': 'You could look into getting an advocate for when they do your placement review to help express your concerns', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:12:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwbvj6'}]"
1jj33jd,2025-03-25T03:22:56,Advice: taking a break from teacher training to focus on health but feeling extremely down.,"Taking a break in studies and taking a part time job because of health issues. What do I do now?

Hi all,
As the title suggests, this has to do with my struggling health. I was currently completing teacher training for secondary school but I had to request a break in training due to my health going down the toilet. 

I'm extremely worried as these past few weeks have been a roller coaster. I managed to find a zero hours part time job in care and my wife is extremely supportive but I'm scared about what the future holds. I'm currently being investigated for MS (multiple sclerosis) and I'm honestly terrified as they found a black vessel in my spine. I'm getting booked in for an MRI for both my brain and spine but I also have been experiencing fainting episodes where I can just drop and faint.

On top of that, I had family reappear into my life and I found out that my brother (16) has become a drug dealer. I don't know what to do as I'm not particularly close to my family but I don't want to see them destroy themselves.

I want to finish my training but my health worries me. My partner advises me to find a different career path, the problem is that my careers are going into care and teaching.

Any advice is welcome. ",MentalHealthUK,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jj33jd/advice_taking_a_break_from_teacher_training_to/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjjxdpk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:22:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj33jd'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjzpn6', 'author': 'onceuponavegan', 'body': ""Ok that sounds super stressful.\n\nI also took a break from my teacher training. Mine was because my undiagnosed (at the time) autism was causing MH nightmares. I qualified, did my NQT year and have since moved to working part time in FE and that suits me better.\n\nI previously tutored privately and I'm wondering if that could be an option?\n\nAlso agency/ short term supply is an option you could consider. I was surprised that I enjoyed it and it made me a more resilient teacher."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:35:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj33jd'}]"
1jiypl4,2025-03-25T00:28:54,frustrated with lack of support,"little tw for sh

i was in the hospital last Tuesday for my sh after my support worker made me go, i left with 24 stitches. i was allowed to leave and was told sm1 from my mh team would contact me and arrange an appointment. since then, ive had one phone call where they didn't even ask if i was okay, simply told me that my 4th care coordinator (in only 10 months) would be starting in the next 2 months and to 'just be patient'.

i was very open with the psychiatrist i saw in the hospital that i had no intention of staying clean when i got home, my mental health team is aware of how frequently i sh and the severity. yet they just don't care. i don't know what to do or where to go anymore, when i leave college in June i will lose the only mental health support i have and i don't see how i will survive with none. ive told them this and they just keep telling me it's my responsibility to get better, the only advice they've given me is to learn how to drive. 

i feel so stuck, like no matter how much i ask for support they just keep ignoring me. i understand the service is stretched thin but i don't know how to cope with it anymore. ",MentalHealthUK,5,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiypl4/frustrated_with_lack_of_support/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjixpqx', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:28:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjj305m', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I’m so sorry you’ve had a shit time recently. I guess since their job at A&E/minor injuries is to deal with the acute issue, they’re limited in their options there. However I think it would be better if your community MH team were more supportive, maybe your support worker could get in touch with them?Usually with things like SH MH teams emphasise harm reduction because they can’t actually physically stop you, idk if theyve advised you on anything like that at all. Do you feel like you can lean on your support worker to help you through til your appt?', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:54:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkfuwt', 'author': 'ArmouredBardi5', 'body': ""Hi OP, I'm sorry you feel like this and I totally get it. It's frustrating when you don't get the support you feel you need. I don't want to give the NHS an excuse or bash them, but I've had similar experiences.\n\nAlways remember that the Samaritans are there to talk to without any judgement. You don't have to be thinking about suidslide to talk to them. They've helped me so so much over the years when I had no one in my life.\n\nIf you can afford it then paying for a good therapist can also help, you can also find therapists who are happy to offer concessions if you're struggling to pay their fees. This means they take on a small number of clients at a heavily reduced rate, but it takes some looking.\n\nI really hope you get through this and know that even if you feel alone, you aren't. So many of us are going through similar shit these days.\n\nOh, volunteering can be a great one! Gives you responsibility and altruism can actually give you more energy and strength than it takes. Theres are charity in the UK that helps people with gardening and other community projects. I think it's called the Good Gym.\n\nMy last suggestion (take em or leave em) would be to dive into a hobby with a passion, whether that's art, dance, music, writing, painting tiny plastic models or dog walking. You'll find people who enjoy the same things you do."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:00:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlubhw', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""Yeah, there just is no support there. I've been in crisis since I left hospital in November and outside of my GP, who has been supportive, there's nobody to turn to. It's so frustrating that you look up what should I do in this situation, do what they tell me to do, and end up feeling worse and unsupported. Yesterday was a particularly bad day, crying all day and very dark thoughts, but I can't keep annoying my GP. \nI genuinely think this country is heading for a complete MH pandemic, and the government thinks stigmatising people is going to make it better!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T10:15:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqnsh8', 'author': '3braincellsinatrench', 'body': ""Can whoever is giving you mental health support in college refer you anywhere or at least point you to some resources? Assuming you're not a mature student, you may be able to access some free counselling that's specifically for young people- there might be some charity offering free or low cost support in your area.\n\nI'm sorry that you're being let down right now by the lack of support. I hope things get better for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:24:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}]"
1jiwhd6,2025-03-24T23:02:25,Feeling so fragile .. dont know how to stay safe?,"Hello

I feeling really unwell. Very unstable and unpredictable. Lots of intrusive thoughts. Crisis team came out yesterday for assessment but just said they would liase with my CMHT as its complex even though I told them I dont feel safe at all in my home or mind. 

So I guess they did liase because a duty worker from CMHT rang me today about 3pm. But I asked them what am I supposed to do if the intrusive thoughts I had at weekend come back? Without being too graphic they were very specific violent self injurious behaviour and plans of suicide. Ive never had them before. But they were loud thoughts and exhausting. Ive mostly been sleeping so I dont have to be awake and feel so unwell. 

I explained to the duty worker my worries about staying safe and they told me to have scents around to smell if I feeling dissociated and to keep taking one step at a time. That I have appts this week to focus on...

but I feel so fragile and emotionally vulnerable? I just received a big diagnosis and Im not processing it very well. I dont feel well. Is this the support? How do I keep going? ",MentalHealthUK,3,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiwhd6/feeling_so_fragile_dont_know_how_to_stay_safe/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjifn99', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:02:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwhd6'}, {'comment_id': 'mjir6ae', 'author': 'ContributionDry3626', 'body': ""If you are struggling then you can ask to speak to a duty worker during your CMHT opening hours but there's also the mental health hub on 111."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:57:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwhd6'}, {'comment_id': 'mjiyivu', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Thank you. I did speak to duty worker at cmht before they closed. They were kind and sympathetic but just suggesting smelling strong things. I phoned 111 who routed me to crisis team on Friday and it took an insane amount of time for someone to call back so I dont know that that is a viable option either?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:32:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mjir6ae'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkjqd7', 'author': 'ContributionDry3626', 'body': ""Have you tried other helplines before (samaritans etc)? Sometimes they can be a bit quicker to get a hold of. It's sometimes handy keeping note of a few different helplines so there's always somewhere that you can reach out.\n\nI hope that things get better for you and you feel better soon."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:18:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mjiyivu'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkkink', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Thank you for your kind words. I tried SHOUT yesterday but was asleep by the time they replied (4am). I find texting easier as I can become quite mute on phone.\n\nIs Samaritans the main helpline? Do they take long to answer?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:22:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mjkjqd7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjovnwv', 'author': 'ContributionDry3626', 'body': ""Hey there, sorry for my slow response! Samaritans is a volunteer run helpline, that has a webchat although they are only open at limited times (I think it's during the evenings), and the phone line is open 24/7. \n\n  I can relate, I struggle a lot over the phone so I mainly use webchats when I need to. I've used the webchat on breathing space quite a bit (although that is for Scotland). I think Papyrus has a webchat. It might be worth checking out the master post for other helplines and support that would be relevant to you."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T23:07:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjkkink'}, {'comment_id': 'mjp9hcy', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Thank you. I did ring Samaritans yesterday and the person was really helpful 🙏', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:14:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjovnwv'}]"
1jiwfny,2025-03-24T23:00:29,Being bullied at work which has made my paranoia and anxiety sky high.,"So basically I've been getting bullied by this guy at work and Friday I made a formal complaint against him and my boss says he is gonna pull him in for a word.. however...

Instead of this making me feel better I'm completely paranoid, I'm losing sleep over it and constantly on edge thinking this complaint will make it worse, that this guy might retaliate bad on me and do something to make my whole life harder, like make false complaints about me, report me for crimes I've not committed or turn everyone at work against me for making a complaint.

Part of me wants to drop the complaint but then nothing would change either way.

I'm so paranoid and full of anxiety I just don't know what to do",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiwfny/being_bullied_at_work_which_has_made_my_paranoia/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjif948', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:00:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwfny'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk4kkb', 'author': 'Icy-Individual8637', 'body': ""nah dont drop it.\n\nsticking up to a bully is an act of bravery and integrity.\n\nstick with it, its supposed to be uncomfortable because confrontation is uncomfortable.\n\nThe bully needs to realise that his actions were confrontational and there has to be a counter action so they can feel uncomfortable as you did.\n\nYou've done it right.\n\nusually a bully will get me down at some point but i will always win in the end, not worth their time doing it by the time im done. goes for people i witness bullying others too.\n\ni find the shock factor works in whatever form, suprise them one way or another.\n\nI usually find because I'm normally so nice the non eye contact communication and polite silence eventually gets to them after a prolonged time.  I can get into their heads. Maintain it but dont make it obvious and petty or it looks like you are bullying them.  \n  \nHad an example of this just recently and i think they are now finding it hard to be in the same room, Ive not had to shout or cry to the boss and they probably will learn their lesson,"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:00:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwfny'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmh56y', 'author': 'memoryboy', 'body': ""I think you should put your mental health first. If you are struggling with anxiety then get a sick note and take some time off work. Hope your anxiety gets better. Don't think you have to live with it."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T14:14:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwfny'}]"
1jin61w,2025-03-24T15:35:25,Wellness helplines,"Greetings MH UKers. Hopefully a simple query that seems best suited to this sub, but if this doesn't fit the sub then if someone can point me in the right direction.

The last few weeks I've been going through increased stress, to the point where I'm now starting to feel what I'd describe as anxious: increased heart rate, irritability, waking up in the middle of the night, not enjoying things I once did. I'm not sure if these are classic anxiety symptoms or something else. They do have a series of triggers, that I'm not comfortable going into detail on Reddit right now. However the company I work for recently signed everyone up to health plan (I won't name in the post in case it comes across as advertising but it begins with an M), and I notice that one of the benefits is access to a health and stress wellness helpline. 

So my question is: Is this an appropriate use case for it? I feel this would make me feel worse if I rang them and they basically said that I should do go down another avenue to aid my issues.   
Bonus question: Would they offer any advice that differs from what I can already gain online with a bit of googling (or within this sub)?",MentalHealthUK,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jin61w/wellness_helplines/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjgd7md', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T15:35:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jin61w'}, {'comment_id': 'mjginq3', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Hi! I’m sorry things haven’t been so good lately. Maybe have a look online to see if there’s any more information available. I wonder if it might be more focused on work-based stress? However it’s worth a go. If it’s there, use it :) None of us can say 100% that they’ll give you anything new, but you never know, they might. I’d try it and see. \n\nSignposting is a very normal thing to do with any service and I promise it isn’t them trying to brush you off or anything. When a service suggests you check out another one they’re doing it because they want you to get the best / most appropriate help relative to what you’re struggling with.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:27:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jin61w'}, {'comment_id': 'mjgkhm6', 'author': 'ChickenPijja', 'body': ""Thanks, it's a mix of work based and personal issues. My query is that I've never used one of these kinds of service before and wondering what their intended audience is. I wouldn't want to ring them about feeling anxious and they be expecting calls about physical health concerns rather than mental health. \n\nI feel the same way about MP surgeries, it's not clear what their intended purpose is either to me."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:43:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mjginq3'}, {'comment_id': 'mjgl1vt', 'author': 'Miserable_Bug_5671', 'body': ""I would recommend ringing them. Think of it as being on a runaway cat that is breakfast picking up speed. You want to get off that cart as soon as possible. Don't wait for things to get worse."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:48:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjgkhm6'}]"
1jiif9r,2025-03-24T09:43:31,I need advice as I cant get medication on the nhs,"Hello. I have had a history of long periods of depression and periods of elevated moods. I need medication at this point to help manage it as I haven't been okay in a long time. I have borderline traits. I can have psychotic traits for long periods of time I can't manage.

The one medication I have been on that has helped somewhat was quetiapine. that helped manage it a bit. I cant get anything other than anti depressants now which have not done anything to help. I want to try getting back on it because I haven't been able to cope in a long time. I'm tired of suffering.

As I am autistic and they've diagnosed me with a personality disorder I've been told medication wont do anything, I think I'm out of luck for the nhs. I feel let down because I keep losing the things I work for because of it. When I have tried getting help I'll tell them I'm borderline when they ask and they then they aren't interested at at all. I feel like some things would not have happened had I received help at the time.

My friendships have been affected by how I can be and it isn't fair on other people. Such as calling everyone and going on and on to an excessive degree for a while. Then not contacting anyone because I'm too depressed to get up.

Would it be affordable to go private for the sake of medication? Could I get it moved over to the nhs if it's proven to actually help me? Would I charged more because I'm also autistic (its a worry due to how I've treated in the past)? I cant work so I'm on benefits. I just feel so stuck because I cant do anything with my life as it currently is. I used to be quite creative. It takes a while to relearn things again. longer than usual for the past few years and then I'm not myself again. I can try to manage it earlier on, but it takes everything out of me when I have low moods. I'm not going to for very long when I have high mood because I think I'm great when I am very much not.

Is there any ways anyone else has found that has worked if I can't get anything?",MentalHealthUK,10,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiif9r/i_need_advice_as_i_cant_get_medication_on_the_nhs/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjffbsx', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T09:43:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjgrnwn', 'author': 'temporarysliver', 'body': 'Are you under a CMHT? If not, try to get your GP to refer you to one, and say you have BPD and are also concerned about bipolar disorder.\n\nAnecdotally, I have a EUPD diagnosis and have been prescribed Quetiapine (no longer taking it) so it is possible', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T17:40:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjh64ry', 'author': 'Funny_Relief2602', 'body': 'It might be tough to get meds unfortunately a lot of psychiatrist will put everything down to your autism.  I just don’t want you to pay 100s of pounds to see someone private and not get the outcome you want. It might be difficult to get referred to the CMHT they might reject ask your gp if you can be referred to the primary community mental health team they are more short term over there but you’ll be able to see a psychiatrist and I think you’ll get accepted given how difficult it is to cope right now. I think jumping back to antipsychotics given their potency is what they are worried about try out an antidepressants but when you do ask them to prescribe one which has a less likelihood to cause mania/ hypomania given your history because even when you go to other teams they would like to see that you have tried something recently and see from there all the best OP', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T19:13:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjffbts', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T09:43:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg4adr', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T13:57:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkg3l0', 'author': 'Sade_061102', 'body': 'You can get anti psychotics and mood stabilisers through the nhs, as well as different types of anti depressants', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:01:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqpqom', 'author': '3braincellsinatrench', 'body': ""I would see if you're able to get a second opinion on the NHS.\n\n>they've diagnosed me with a personality disorder I've been told medication wont do anything\n\nThis seems quite strange to me. While there aren't any specific meds for BPD, people with BPD are frequently prescribed meds to help manage symptoms. Sometimes antidepressants,.sometimes antipsychotics like quetiapine which act like a mood stabiliser at lower doses, sometimes a combination of meds. I've known a couple of people with BPD who've been on quetiapine to help with moods. \n\nIf you feel like quetiapine has helped before, I would try to advocate for yourself and explain to them why you felt it helped and why you would like it to be prescribed. Ot if you have a family member/friend you trust, ask if they can come to an appointment and advocate for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:34:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk1a0y', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""I'm unsure if I even am at this point. I've been discharged in the past without being informed and end up being referred again to teams again. I think in my area they're quite dismissive if you have a personality disorder diagnosis (from my own experience)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:43:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mjgrnwn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk1s9t', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""I will be phoning my gp when they're open tomorrow though to try getting an appointment. thanks!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:45:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mjgrnwn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk0ftd', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""thank you. I'll have to try again. I'm under an area where it's hard to see a psychiatrist as well even if you end being on the cmht (I believe I still am at least partially, if I'm not it wouldn't surprise me), because there's not very many. Hopefully someone will listen to me at some point. They usually just don't believe me which is unfortunate"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:38:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mjh64ry'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg6dhj', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': 'I did see one and I got diagnosed with a personality disorder by them', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T14:21:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mjg4adr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg7ucd', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""I have asked about bipolar disorder before though and they've told me that given my age during events I don't have it. Also that me being autistic just complicates it"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T14:37:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mjg4adr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmqifn', 'author': 'temporarysliver', 'body': 'That’s so strange, where I am personality disorders are one of the specific things the CMHT is there to treat. Good luck with your appointment', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:53:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mjk1a0y'}]"
1jim3r6,2025-03-24T14:12:41,How to go about getting access to my prescription?,"Hello, I am a US citizen and I am currently here studying post graduate degree. About 3 years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD and have been taking Adderall XR to help. The problem I am having is getting access to my medication here in the UK. I tried to go through the NHS, but when they called me after registering with a practice, they requested I send over my diagnosis letter from my primary physician in the US then never responded or followed up after I emailed it to them. I have since tried to schedule appointments twice and have not heard from them. I know the NHS is very overwhelmed and have read that getting prescribed for ADHD in the UK is difficult, but I'm already prescribed and have proof of my diagnosis. I would go private but I'm worried it would be expensive and all I really need is someone to send a prescription in to a pharmacy. Am I misunderstanding how the system works here or should I just make an appointment with a private practice to get it done quickly? Is there someone else I should be trying to get in touch with? Any advice would help because I've been trying for almost 8 months now and I'm not sure what to do next.",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jim3r6/how_to_go_about_getting_access_to_my_prescription/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjg5lwb', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. 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1jigvns,2025-03-24T08:15:58,How to get therapy in the UK?,"Hi all, I’m a uni student and I’m wondering where I can get low cost therapy. The system through the NHS is a long waiting list, and I’m wondering if I can find reliable low cost therapy instead? Thanks",MentalHealthUK,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jigvns/how_to_get_therapy_in_the_uk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjf358a', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T08:15:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jigvns'}, {'comment_id': 'mjfey9w', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Check out your unis student wellbeing team, at mine they’d offer things like CBT and all that. The BACP register is a good way to find a therapies near you also.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T09:40:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jigvns'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg6pwy', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': 'Appreciate it. Will try uni first. I’ve also seen you before in this sub, so thanks for your good advice!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T14:25:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjfey9w'}, {'comment_id': 'mjggrhk', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I hope it goes well :) Hahaha oops i am here a fair bit! Sending support to you friend', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:10:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mjg6pwy'}]"
1ji9kkp,2025-03-24T02:27:49,Any private support group in London?,"Please don't suggest any nhs related groups
this person i'm posting for knows about this 

* I want a group fun and enlighten 
* groups that are open to victims and female victims 
* groups that socialises you 

The council has made cuts to group she used to like like art and craft used to be 50 pence. Cinema group. 

Please share any private woman's group group that doesn't only dwell on negativity but is listening to your concerns 
Group that all u talk or stay quiet without judgement. 
This lady wants to laugh and sometimes want to be quiet ",MentalHealthUK,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ji9kkp/any_private_support_group_in_london/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjdeuoh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T02:27:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji9kkp'}]"
1ji2b51,2025-03-23T21:20:30,People are why my mental health sucks.,"Ok not everyone but.. I just.. it's so fucking hard trying to talk to people and stuff.

You make one mistake and they judge you for that and stuff.

I understand most of my friends are busy but.. nobodies been replying and stuff and I just.. it's making me feel worse and worse and I hate it.

One of my friends says he might be free or he isn't free but then I see on his Snapchat he's with my ex. He sent me a voice note on Snapchat and it sounds like he's with my ex, I don't know. I asked last weekend if anyone was free this weekend. LAST WEEKEND! AND I ASKED LAST WEEKEND IF ANYONE WAS FREE THAT WEEKEND!!!!

I ONLY GOT A REPLY FROM TWO FUCKING PEOPLE! SURE BETTER THAN NONE BUT IT WAS BARELY A REPLY!!!! THEY DONT REPLY TO ANYTHING ELSE AND THEY SOMETIMES DONT EVEN REPLY TO ME ASKING IF THEYRE FREE, EVEN IF THEY'VE SEEN THE MESSAGE!!!!!

DO THEY EVEN WANT TO BE MY FRIENDS!? WELL CLEARLY NOT OTHERWISE THEY'D MAKE MORE OF A FUCKING EFFORT TO TALK TO ME WOULDN'T THEY!!!!!

I am so fucking sick and tired of everyone.

All my life it's just been arguing with ""friends"" and them hating me. Nobody has ever liked me.

At prom I tried talking to a childhood best friend, we hadn't talked since Primary School except for the occasional ""hi, you ok?"" In the corridors and she didn't even look at me, just said hi, didn't stop, kept walking.

Someone who I didn't speak to but I knew said they'd be my friend when I said something about not really having friends, I can't remember what lead to that conversation but obviously we couldn't exactly be friends when we didn't have eachothers numbers or anything and she was probably saying it out of pity or something or trying to make fun of me, I don't know.

I just fucking hate people, I'm so fucking tired of this shit.

I know I have my best friend but I highly doubt I'm one of his best friends or anything or a ""main friend"" as I'm sure he has other friends which.. ok, you can have friends, I'm not upset about that or anything, it's nice to have a best friend but it just hurts a bit that I'll never be someone's ""main"" best friend or their ""number one"" friend or anything, even if im their only friend.

Whats the point in having friends anyway? They all just hurt you and leave you in the end anyway.

I'd rather stick with my family and animals. Even if its the same with my family, I know we'll support eachother no matter what, doesn't matter about being ""number one"" or anything.

I don't fucking know. I'm just so fucking tired. I want these fucking cramps to be over and to just.. not have to deal with people and stuff",MentalHealthUK,5,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ji2b51/people_are_why_my_mental_health_sucks/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjbr6oj', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:20:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji2b51'}, {'comment_id': 'mjbs1xw', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': ' Hi, if you wanna chat I’m up for it mate. I totally get this, even though I’m lonely myself.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:25:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji2b51'}, {'comment_id': 'mjdo0lg', 'author': 'Soft_Twist1654', 'body': ""Glad you've got your family. I agree with you though. My family have cut me out of their lives for being mentally unwell. Fun times."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T03:16:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji2b51'}, {'comment_id': 'mjcolqx', 'author': 'ibeatreddit', 'body': ""Joining in to say I would be happy to chat with either of you or anyone that wants to. 🫡 I'm equally cynical about friendship and have delved into psychology on the topic for my own psychological self defence.\xa0"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T00:12:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjbs1xw'}, {'comment_id': 'mjdpr91', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': ""I'm sorry, that really sucks"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T03:26:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mjdo0lg'}]"
1ji30ib,2025-03-23T21:50:55,Fluoxetine side effects,"My psychiatrist wants me to try fluoxetine for my bulimia and bipolar depression (I am taking olanzapine also). If anyone has been on fluoxetine before, can you tell me what side effects you had/have and if it helped with your mental health condition(s)? ",MentalHealthUK,2,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ji30ib/fluoxetine_side_effects/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjbwy0l', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:50:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjcgdhw', 'author': 'Significant_Leg_7211', 'body': ""I'm also on fluoxetine and olanzapine and it has been helpful with severe depression. Not many side effects except the olanzapine gave me some food cravings, I did put on weight with it. If I can help with anything please ask. Hope it goes well for you."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T23:30:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjbwy43', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:50:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjedzt8', 'author': 'ajshshhsshshshk', 'body': 'I’ve been on fluoxetine for about 6 years now for severe depression, and I did have some mild side effects, (mainly dehydration, headaches, nausea), but they went away after a couple of weeks, and the pros massively outweigh the cons. Fluoxetine has helped me live a normal life, and I’m so grateful for how much it has helped me. I do think that most of the side effects in my case were due to dehydration - if you’re on ssris you need to drink more water than most people \n\nGood luck! :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T05:41:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhyspb', 'author': 'Jesspresso99', 'body': ""Thank you! I'm just worried that fluoxetine will give me gastro problems as I've previously been on citalopram and it gave me severe chronic gastritis and heart burn, which was hell. I'm currently taking mirtazapine which doesn't do much but it helps me sleep."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T21:41:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mjcgdhw'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhz2pq', 'author': 'Jesspresso99', 'body': 'Thank you! Did it give you any gastro problems such as heart burn and indigestion?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T21:42:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mjedzt8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjv36qv', 'author': 'Significant_Leg_7211', 'body': 'I find having it with something to eat helps, hope this helps a bit', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T22:36:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjhyspb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmjkg5', 'author': 'ajshshhsshshshk', 'body': 'Not personally, but I suppose it’s different for everyone', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T14:41:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjhz2pq'}]"
1jh7e4g,2025-03-22T18:01:30,hospital free for 6 months!!,"feels like a huge milestone. for years i have been extremely unstable and spent my early adulthood in psychiatric wards. i could never go a month without being sectioned after discharge. it was so painful seeing my friends and loved ones enjoying and progressing through life when i felt like there was no way id ever get better. towards the end of last year i was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and put on the correct medication and my life has drastically changed. i have been stable since december, looking at getting back into work, getting my social life back on track and strengthening the connections with my family after our relationship was strained due to my health. i have not once woken up disappointed that i am still here. all this is to say that the journey to recovery is a hard one but it is possible. for everyone going through what i was, please keep in mind that things will not be this way forever and at some point you will be so thankful to live. keep fighting and you will get there. ",MentalHealthUK,42,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jh7e4g/hospital_free_for_6_months/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj4w5cb', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T18:01:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jh7e4g'}, {'comment_id': 'mj50rsv', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Congrats! 🥂', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T18:33:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jh7e4g'}, {'comment_id': 'mj53epd', 'author': 'Kellogzx', 'body': 'So happy for you friend! You’re doing amazing', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T18:51:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jh7e4g'}, {'comment_id': 'mj559gg', 'author': 'Beautiful_Angle4283', 'body': 'I’m glad your doing ok now 💙', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T19:03:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1jh7e4g'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbyuq2', 'author': 'virus-of-life', 'body': 'Congratulations 💕', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T15:10:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jh7e4g'}, {'comment_id': 'mj50e3n', 'author': 'haralambus98', 'body': 'Huge congratulations and thank you for sharing. Whilst I know meditation and diagnosis must have made a huge difference to your recovery, this success is because of YOU!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T18:31:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jh7e4g'}]"
1jhm0ax,2025-03-23T05:12:11,What will happen now,"So I have been really struggling recently and finally told my mum who went into complete panic mode, I suppose with good reason I have been sectioned 3 times in the last couple of years and I am classed as high risk unpredictable when it comes to self harm, she decided to call the police to do a welfare check who also called an ambulance both the police and ambulance crew wanted me to go in for an assessment but I refused to leave my house after about an hour they agreed to leave but now I don't know if anything else will come of this the paramedics have said they want me to contact my GP but if they are telling me that they believe I need to have a mental health assessment does that mean they will recommend that to my GP and will it be enforced.",MentalHealthUK,5,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jhm0ax/what_will_happen_now/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj88qlo', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T05:12:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhm0ax'}, {'comment_id': 'mj88q7h', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T05:12:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhm0ax'}, {'comment_id': 'mjp3c7y', 'author': 'BorderBiBiscuit', 'body': 'Your GP will likely be informed if there’s any documents uploaded to your file (report of 111/999 call/attendance etc) although I don’t know if that happens if you’re assessed but don’t attend hospital. There’s a possibility police or ambulance might raise a safeguarding report, although the fact that they agreed to leave indicates that they believed you had capacity and/or weren’t in immediate danger. A mental health act assessment would happen as a last resort, as NHS follows least restrictive practise. \n\nIt may be that the police/ambulance wanted you to go in so you could speak to psych liaison (not the same as MHA assessment) to get more support?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T23:43:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhm0ax'}]"
1jhntt2,2025-03-23T06:44:40,Truly confidential counselling,I’m 17 and have been going through a lot lately and need mental health help. I’m on fluoxetine which isn’t doing anything (been on it for about 8 weeks now) and IAPT didn’t help. I need a therapy type where I can talk about my problems such as counselling. But I need confidentiality because I’ve had bad experiences with social services (which is one of the things I want to discuss) but if I were to tell a therapist they would have to report it to safeguarding which would make the whole thing start again. I’m also 17 and estranged from my parents so I can’t afford anything private. ,MentalHealthUK,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jhntt2/truly_confidential_counselling/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj8nxnc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T06:44:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mj8sv2q', 'author': 'Funny_Relief2602', 'body': 'Therapy is confidential unless you say something that may cause harm to you or others this is the general universal rule. Usually before you get a therapist they will always discuss these rules with you .', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T07:16:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mja55ak', 'author': 'NeverHxppy', 'body': 'CAMHS nurse here. Without more information (which I’m totally understanding that you don’t want to give) it’s difficult to call it. The rule of thumb is, as you know, if there’s anything that might put you or someone else at risk the counsellor HAS to break confidentiality to protect you, them and wider society. They can’t waive that rule. \n\nAs for how to access this, this is a problem in our wider society and one I’ve been through myself. If a person can’t afford to pay £50+ an hour, options are limited. Some charities offer counselling (mind being one) but because of this problem, waiting lists are long and often closed to new potential clients. It sucks and I’m sorry. \nPotentially you could go back to IAPT - if they feel you need it they can offer more sessions.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T14:05:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mjo88s3', 'author': 'ManifestingQu33n', 'body': 'Ask IAPT to transfer you to Connect Health talking therapies. I found them more helpful than IAPT. There was a bit of a waiting list to change over but it was worth the wait, my CH therapist was amazing. She even allowed me to extend my sessions by an extra 2 weeks as I felt I needed a little more.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T21:25:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mj8nxox', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. 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1jotcqc,2025-04-01T17:04:09,Study on Understanding experiences of Body Dysmorphia and how it develops- NEED participants,"Hello everyone,

I am a student at the University of Nottingham and I am pursuing my Masters in Counselling & Psychotherapy. As a part of the course, I am conducting a research study to **understand people’s experiences of body dysmorphia and how it develops, through a person-centred lens.** 

**Why this study**: I am deeply passionate about this research for several reasons and want to highlight lived experiences surrounding body dysmorphia, which is most often missing in BDD research. I am interested in hearing your experiences of having body dysmorphia and exploring how it developed for you. 

I am **looking for** individuals 

1. Who are 18+ years old and reside in the UK
2. Who have been diagnosed with BDD or self-identify as having BDD or body dysmorphia 

Participation will involve filling a **brief screening questionnaire and then an interview** if the study’s eligibility criteria are met. The interviews would be conducted online and there is no compulsion to have cameras on, it is completely up to the individual. I want to assure you that findings will be **thoroughly anonymised** and interview data will be kept confidential. 

I request you to please consider taking part in this study and kindly comment here or DM me if you are interested to participate or if you have any questions. I can send you my participant information sheet once you reach out to me as well. 

My email is [ttxpr35@nottingham.ac.uk](mailto:ttxpr35@nottingham.ac.uk) if you want to reach out to me there

Thanks a lot for your time and consideration :) ",MentalHealthUK,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jotcqc/study_on_understanding_experiences_of_body/,[]
1jorvoo,2025-04-01T15:29:29,News,"**Failing to properly diagnose and treat people with** [**bipolar disorder**, external](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/bipolar-disorder/) **Failing to properly diagnose and treat people with** [**bipolar disorder**, external](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/bipolar-disorder/) **is wasting billions of pounds a year in the UK, according to new data shared exclusively with the BBC. Experts say many of the estimated million people living with this condition are ""ghosts in the system"", whose lives are being torn apart by poorly managed extreme suicidal lows or manic, erratic highs.**

Emma was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her early 30s, after experiencing a mental health crisis.

When she was 32 weeks pregnant, her grandmother died unexpectedly, sending her into a ""deep low"". ""I felt awful, but the perinatal team wouldn't take me on,"" she says. ""They said my symptoms weren't that serious.""

When Emma gave birth, the extreme lows of her pregnancy were replaced by an unexpected high. She felt amazing in the days after her baby was born - but she didn't sleep and her behaviour became increasingly erratic.

A few weeks later, her mood flipped again. When her baby was three weeks old, Emma took an overdose.

It took a week in hospital for her liver function to return. But even after that, she was in and out of hospital for a year before finally being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and medicated correctly.

""If I had the correct care, and been listened to during my pregnancy or even earlier, I could have avoided taking that overdose - 100%,"" she says.

It wasn't Emma's first experience of poor mental health - she'd spent her teens seeing doctors and receiving different antidepressants. No one had ever suggested she might have bipolar disorder.

Image caption,

Emma was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her early 30s, after experiencing a mental health crisis

Experts have told the BBC how most people living with bipolar disorder in the UK are ""undertreated, undiagnosed and left to try and survive in a system that has failed them"".

The majority who, like Emma, are eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder, are incorrectly prescribed antidepressants initially, which makes their symptoms worse rather than better. Experts also say there is a lack of continuity of care from GPs through to psychiatrists.

Their warning comes as data exclusively shared with the BBC suggests the cost of the condition in the UK is now an estimated £9.6bn a year. That equates to more than £300 per taxpayer.

This breakdown includes NHS costs, such as GP services, psychiatrist appointments and visits to A&E and hospital admissions. It also includes economic costs, such as lost days at work and the need for family and friends to take time off to provide informal care.

But it does not include welfare payments for those out of work, or costs for police services dealing with people in crisis.

# 'Common, complex and costly'

""This nearly £10bn figure is actually quite conservative,"" says Prof Judit Simon, from the Medical University of Vienna, who worked with the BBC to generate the number.

""If this is a government that really wants to try and bring down the welfare bill, then bipolar disorder should be its absolute priority, the target disorder to actually move the dial.""

The data suggests up to 372,000 people with bipolar disorder are currently out of work, with some claiming benefits in the UK.

For a treatable disease, this number could be slashed if the correct care was on offer, say experts.

Prof Guy Goodwin, emeritus professor of psychiatry at University of Oxford, says: ""If you want to cut the costs of a disease, you need to reduce hospital admissions and emergency care. If you don't focus on cutting hospital admissions then you waste money.""

According to the Royal College of Psychiatrists (RCPsych), bipolar disorder is a manageable condition.

Dr Trudi Seneviratne, registrar at the RCPsych and a commissioner on the Bipolar Commission, says it is ""completely treatable"" with a combination of medication, talking therapies and lifestyle factors.

""But there are many, many people who are suffering in silence with lower levels of symptoms because there isn't a good clinical care pathway for them in the UK.""

She says if care for bipolar disorder was fit for purpose, it would cut ""the cost to society"" as well as reducing ""the human suffering this disease unnecessarily causes"".

It is this sense of waste - with people who could be leading a good life but aren't - that angers experts most, who say it is a neglected diagnosis.

Prof Allan Young, from Imperial College, says: ""Bipolar is common, complex and costly - but it is so often unrecognised.

""People know it is there but somehow people are just not being cared for correctly.""

Image caption,

Rosie had been dealing with mental health issues since childhood, but it was only after being in crisis that her condition was recognised.

This lack of correct care is what Rosie says resulted in her being arrested at Stansted Airport for jumping the security barriers during a manic episode in her early 20s.

""I was utterly delusional,"" she says. Following her arrest, Rosie was taken to A&E and locked in a room. She waited there for more than 12 hours while a bed at a specialist mental health unit was found.

Like Emma, Rosie had been dealing with mental health issues since childhood, but it was only after being in crisis that her condition was recognised. This particular period of psychotic mania had been triggered by a relationship breakdown.

She was sectioned and hospitalised for three months, after which she finally began finding a combination of medications that worked for her.

Now 29, Rosie says she still has high and low periods, but adds that she is far more stable and is able to work part time.

""I was failed,"" she says. ""I'm told my symptoms were a textbook case for bipolar lows and highs – energetic, grandiose language, erratic – but no one even considered this diagnosis for me until I was sectioned.""

# Costs could be halved

The Maudsley Hospital, in South London, has an intensive specialist care programme for its sickest, most regularly relapsing bipolar patients. The service aims to try and stop patients hitting crisis point.

Similar to services offered in other European nations, the hospital provides group sessions for patients and their families. The classes help patients to understand when an episode might be starting and then contact the service once they spot early warning signs.

They can then attend an outpatient clinic and adjust medications. The relatively cheap programme has seen re-admission rates to hospital fall by 80% as intervention takes place before a crisis.

Prof Young says costs associated with bipolar disorder could be halved with more specialist care programmes.

""Undoubtedly, specialist treatment could contribute to getting lots of people back into work. And we know that work is very good for helping people recover from episodes of mental ill health.""

However, many experts say patients still face a postcode lottery about whether they can see a psychiatrist at all.

Carolyn Chew-Graham, a GP and professor of general practice research at Keele University, says those who are acutely unwell will be picked up quickly by crisis teams but those with ""less florid manic episodes"" can miss out on referral to specialists for diagnosis.

""There's a high threshold of referral,"" Prof Chew Graham says. ""People really have to be quite unwell before they are seen in specialist services"". She says GPs may be reluctant to refer patients - even if they strongly suspect they have bipolar disorder - for fear they will be rejected.

""GPs may think I won't even consider bipolar because if I mention it to the patient and then I can't get them seen, I am a bit stuck"".

Prof Young says bipolar patients need long-term specialist care.

""But that's the frustration here - even though there is strong evidence that specialist care improves the outcomes for the patient, and costs the state less, there are still so few bipolar specialist facilities.

""It's a tragedy.""

An NHS spokesperson said bipolar disorder could often take time to diagnose because it affected everyone differently and the symptoms were similar to other mental health conditions.

""NHS staff are working incredibly hard to get people diagnosed and reduce waiting times for care.

""Staff are treating a million more people than they were six years ago and are working to transform services alongside this demand – this includes strengthening community services, trialling new 24/7 open access mental health centres and rolling out mental health crisis lines.""

The Department of Health and Social Care says it has already announced £26 million to open new mental health crisis centres and it will recruit 8,500 mental health workers to cut waiting times and provide faster treatment.

If anything in this article makes you concerned please consult your GP.**is wasting billions of pounds a year in the UK, according to new data shared exclusively with the BBC. Experts say many of the estimated million people living with this condition are ""ghosts in the system"", whose lives are being torn apart by poorly managed extreme suicidal lows or manic, erratic highs.**

Emma was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in her early 30s, after experiencing a mental health crisis.

When she was 32 weeks pregnant, her grandmother died unexpectedly, sending her into a ""deep low"". ""I felt awful, but the perinatal team wouldn't take me on,"" she says. ""They said my symptoms weren't that serious.""

When Emma gave birth, the extreme lows of her pregnancy were replaced by an unexpected high. She felt amazing in the days after her baby was born - but she didn't sleep and her behaviour became increasingly erratic.

A few weeks later, her mood flipped again. When her baby was three weeks old, Emma took an overdose.

It took a week in hospital for her liver function to return. But even after that, she was in and out of hospital for a year before finally being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and medicated correctly.

""If I had the correct care, and been listened to during my pregnancy or even earlier, I could have avoided taking that overdose - 100%,"" she says.

It wasn't Emma's first experience of poor mental health - she'd spent her teens seeing doctors and receiving different antidepressants. No one had ever suggested she might have bipolar disorder.",MentalHealthUK,8,6,https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c045pp740vro,"[{'comment_id': 'mkty842', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:29:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku1g7e', 'author': 'fxvv', 'body': '> According to the Royal College of Psychiatrists (RCPsych), bipolar disorder is a manageable condition.\n\n> Dr Trudi Seneviratne, registrar at the RCPsych and a commissioner on the Bipolar Commission, says it is ""completely treatable"" with a combination of medication, talking therapies and lifestyle factors.\n\nThere’s a big difference between ‘manageable’ and ‘completely treatable’. \n\nBipolar disorder destroyed my life in an irrevocable way. It makes me sad to read of so many others being failed by the system. Proactive screening, care, and education are all vital to support those of us living with this condition.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:02:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku3pvx', 'author': 'Treestop', 'body': 'My Mum died by suicide last year. She was always diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety, despite the fact she was textbook bipolar, had clear signs of psychosis etc. It’s infuriating to read this. I sympathise with the NHS, we still barely have a grasp on the human mind and may never understand the complexities of mental health issues, but absolutely more can be done with diagnosis and treatment.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:23:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku2b4t', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': -1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:10:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jorvoo'}, {'comment_id': 'mku2xtj', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'It is usually that people with stories like these have reached out them. Stephen Fry also got his diagnosis in hospital but had previously to my knowledge not had mental health issues where he presented in and out of A and E like those women in the story which is highlighting how the not diagnosing it when theres warning signs is costing millions so mentioning Stephen Fry would have little to no relevance', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:16:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mku2b4t'}, {'comment_id': 'mku6kq1', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': ""Not diagnosing is indeed a problem, but there is precious little treatment once things are diagnosed. Less so now than ever. Not the same topic but closely connected.\n\nMy point with Fry was to illustrate that the media still mostly ignore tha fact that men can have mental health problems even in the face of high profile men having them and it being commonly known.\n\nMy own mental health diagnoses took decades to get 'right' so I understand the issues around delayed diagnosis all too well.\n\nAnd whilst I agree there may be a factor of these women 'reaching out', the BBC seriously couldn't find a single bloke to make the story universal? The writer probably has multiple men in their own friends/family that would qualify.\n\nSo much for Equality!"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T16:48:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mku2xtj'}]"
1jok0sz,2025-04-01T07:04:53,Former inpatient here.. is there any specific support programs/aftercare specifically surrounding the emotional impact of the deaths of fellow inpatients?,"Almost at a decade of not needing inpatient care, but was previously in a revolving door situation of being placed on section 3’s due to misdiagnosis.
Happy to say that life has slightly changed for the better now.

One thing that still haunts me is the deaths of many friends I made through that journey. I suffer with severe nightmares of revisiting those memories. Seeing a friend taken away by the coroner is something that impacts my day to day life (along with more graphic memories best not shared here). Knowing that I need more than two hands to count the friends I lost is something I recognise I need some support with to be able to let the past go. 

I have tried speaking to two different counsellors regarding the grief I hold but it’s just noted as complex and I get passed along or I have to pretend that I feel they understand and then lose trust that I feel I am heard. I feel I have a hole in my heart that needs some resolution to the unknown what ifs. I spent upwards of two years living in the same space of a handful of friends that are no longer here (due to cardiac arrest, medication complications, suicide).

I wondered if there was any national support programs that connect those of us who experienced repeated loss in such a clinical and close proximity. I feel that there’s a strange difference compared to death outside of the wards and unless someone’s worked or been inpatient within the walls it’s difficult to explain just how odd it is to hear alarms alert you to your friend not breathing in the room next to you.

I think it would be helpful for me to find a support group where I can talk about how difficult those times were without having to censor or navigate the emotions of those who gasp or redirect the conversation when it gets too difficult. I understand that just ‘discussing’ painful memories isn’t all that helpful, but being able to feel less alone with the empty feeling that has left a sour taste to my own existence would likely provide me with an acceptance that I am not isolated in this weird grief. 

Any resources regarding grief/trauma experienced whilst inpatient is much appreciated. ‘Whilst inpatient’ is the key phrase to my search for grief  support.
",MentalHealthUK,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jok0sz/former_inpatient_here_is_there_any_specific/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksddla', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:04:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jok0sz'}]"
1jojqk1,2025-04-01T06:50:28,Going round in circles. Pillar to post. No actual help offered.,"Spoke with GP. Referred to IAPT. Waited 1 year for appointment. Did 3 sessions and was told they couldn’t help due to complexities they couldn’t deal with. Referred to local outpatient adult services. Initially they lost the referral, however after I followed this up due to radio silence form them, I was offered an initial appointment. Diagnosed with EUPD. However psychiatrist states not meeting criteria for medication or therapy. Referred back to GP. I am so tired. Why are UK MH services impossible to navigate? ",MentalHealthUK,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jojqk1/going_round_in_circles_pillar_to_post_no_actual/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksb39d', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T06:50:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jojqk1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkueww1', 'author': 'CyberSkelet', 'body': 'I had a similar experience, although I was 11 when I became dangerously mentally unwell (abusive childhood), and 15 when I first approached the GP for help with severe dissociation, suicidality, self harm and what they called ""pseudohallucinations"".  \n  \nLike you, assessment for self-referal (CBT) told me I was too severe to deal with.\xa0I\'ve been to A&E in the middle of the night because of how extreme the situation was, only to be uselessly told to go to local social groups in my area that I already went to. GP referals lost, wrong referals sent. I received absolutely no treatment at all and was getting worse and worse.\xa0I had gotten so bad that I was now having completely insane episodes in public, not just suffering behind closed doors where I belonged, and because it was inconveniencing other people in public (god forbid!), all of a sudden the GP was more willing to take the situation seriously, and finally referred me to the local psychological centre, in my 30\'s, at least 15 years after I had originally approached the GPs for help.  \n  \nThese psychological services did their assessment and diagnosed me with dissociation (which I already knew). Even though talking therapies are the only treatment for dissociation listed on the NHS\'s OWN WEBSITE, they then told me that because I had dissociation I could never receive medication or ANY therapy until I no longer had dissociation. They then discharged me without any support or any plan for treatment, though they knew how much I was suffering and didn\'t want to exist. There was no way my severe and lifelong dissociation was going to just magically dissapear on its own, and if it DID magically dissapear then I wouldn\'t need mental health services in the first place! They literally just got rid of me, they sent me away, alone.  \n  \nBy this point, I had reached my limit and come to utterly despise and fear doctors, and the merest thought about them sent me into a very dark and terrified place, and, because I am very mentally unwell, thinking about trying to get better/mental health treatment/doctors was constantly on my mind. It was a viscious cycle with no way out. The gatekeepers to my wellness were the very people I was terrified of.  \n  \nI still tried for progress, I managed to get a referral to a dissociation specialist, and guess what, they refused me too! They refused me because they would need proof that local services were exhausted, and the psychological service refused to provide that proof because: ""I COULD be rereferred to them once I no longer have dissociation."" If I didn\'t have dissociation, I wouldn\'t be pursuing a mental health referral!  \n  \n... continued...', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:51:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jojqk1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuf6jl', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:53:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mkueww1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuff2j', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:54:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mkuf6jl'}, {'comment_id': 'mkufhae', 'author': 'CyberSkelet', 'body': ""I am certain there are doctors/GPs out there who are willing to recognise when patients have fallen into this sinkhole and push things through for them, but it will be a matter of finding them. I am no longer looking. The only thing I can recommend is finding other people in the same boat as you, sticking together and helping each other through thick and thin, especially now when mentally ill/disabled people are being squeezed more and more. If there's a way through the NHS maze, you're more likely to find it together, with as much back-up as you can muster. If you want to try to find a different way than going through the maze, you're not wrong for doing so; that's what I'm doing. I'm in a post-sanity world, I've had to embrace it, though it was definitely very difficult to do so. I don't know what will happen from here, but I'm more hopeful now that I am not invested in the false hope that I might be able to get any kind of meaningful help through the NHS, because I can start to build some kind of REAL hope in something else, though I don't yet know what that will mean.\n\nSorry that this is very long! I don't know if there was any point in writing all this out, but I needed to say it all, I guess. \n\nI really do wish you the best. Whatever you do, don't give up, don't let the bastards win. I honestly want to see you overcome whatever you need to overcome and live a good life, you do deserve it."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:55:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mkuff2j'}]"
1jofi8q,2025-04-01T03:32:13,Looking for participants (UK only),"We are looking for volunteers to take part in a NIHR-funded study on experiences of anxiety and depression following a heart attack through one-on-one interviews (online or in-person at KCL). 

We are looking for people who live in the UK, who are 18 years of age and older, who experienced a heart attack over 6 months ago, and who experienced anxiety and/or depression. 

Having a better understanding of symptoms of anxiety and depression following a heart attack can help develop future tailored interventions and improve support services. 

Volunteers will get a 25-pound e-voucher for their time. 

To participate please email us at francisco.brenes_castillo@kcl.ac.uk or follow the link: https://forms.office.com/e/FGPVgaptL0",MentalHealthUK,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jofi8q/looking_for_participants_uk_only/,[]
1jof1v9,2025-04-01T03:12:56,"If I go to the doctors about my anxiety, is there any way to simply just be prescribed with something to help or will I just be referred to a therapist","hiiii so my anxietys been awful for years now and i’m kinda at the point where I need something to chill it the fuck out. I’ve tried therapy and it just doesn’t seem to work, is there any way if I talk to a dr about it they prescribe me with something (idek if you can be prescribed with anything for anxiety in the uk) or will they just refer me to a therapist. I’m 21 btw",MentalHealthUK,3,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jof1v9/if_i_go_to_the_doctors_about_my_anxiety_is_there/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkr9vo3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T03:12:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkrj01k', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': 'I’m 19, and I just got prescribed sertraline last week, which is an antidepressant. I also specifically mentioned that I wanted to try medication, as I couldn’t take my anxiety any longer', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T04:03:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mktgtf0', 'author': 'Shoopdesnoop', 'body': ""Unfortunately, (or maybe not so in your case) most doctors tend to over prescribe medications for everything. Especially mental health! \n\nI'd suggest telling the doctor that therapy hasn't helped you before - if you know what kind of therapy you had that will also help. (It could be that the approach wasn't right for you). \n\nAnd tell the doctor your anxiety symptoms so they can recommend the right medication for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:12:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mktnldq', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': ""I would imagine you'll be given an antidepressant or the betablocker propranolol. GP's don't give out anything like xanax or valium anymore."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T13:28:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}, {'comment_id': 'mktuveb', 'author': 'Lucky_Emu_2017', 'body': 'You’re likely to be offered both depending on what’s **causing** the anxiety. Referred therapy is usually reserved for complex cases nowadays because the system is so full. So you may be offered a self-referral service. Which is good because then it’s entirely up to you whether you want to contact them or not :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T14:52:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jof1v9'}]"
1jobrg6,2025-04-01T00:58:10,"Struggling to Find Affordable Psychiatrist in the UK – No GP Yet, Any Advice?","
Hi everyone,
I’m really struggling right now and would really appreciate any advice or support.

I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and used to be on medication (Lamotrigine, Olanzapine 10mg, Quetiapine 25mg, and Lorazepam/Alprazolam as needed) while living in Germany. I stopped everything when I found out I was pregnant, but sadly I had a miscarriage earlier this month. Since then, my symptoms have gotten much worse—intense anxiety, emotional swings, panic attacks, dissociation, and some self-harm urges.

I also have ADD, though at this point I’ve kind of lost hope in getting help for that, given how hard it’s already been to get support for my other symptoms.

I recently moved to the UK and don’t have a GP yet (I’ve applied to register), so getting access to care has been really difficult. A doctor prescribed me 2.5mg Olanzapine and 25mg Quetiapine, but it hasn’t helped much. I urgently need something for anxiety and feel I need a higher dose, but I don’t know where to go while I wait for my GP registration.

Does anyone know of any affordable private psychiatrists or online/chat-based services (ideally with 24/7 availability)? Or even just advice on how to speed up support through the NHS once my GP is confirmed?

Thanks so much in advance. I’m doing my best to stay afloat, and any info or support would really help right now.",MentalHealthUK,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jobrg6/struggling_to_find_affordable_psychiatrist_in_the/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkqj7ke', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T00:58:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jobrg6'}]"
1joam9e,2025-04-01T00:11:11,I don’t know how to get myself out of this hole,"I don’t know how to even start, when I don’t want to do anything.

The OCD has never been this bad for this long. 2 weeks short of a year and a half long bout of existential dread and rumination. I used to be on medication but my current doctor messed up my prescription (short release instead of long release venlafaxine) after a few comments like “these probably won’t help the OCD” “you really want to be on medication, don’t you” and I’m angry for not advocating for myself and I don’t trust her. I want to switch drs and try a new medication but I’m scared they’ve all given up on me at this point as I’ve been on 7 different antidepressants throughout my life and here I am. I can’t do SSRIs any more after realising it was them causing a bad long-term wetting myself problem. They don’t seem to want to put me on anything that might work better as they don’t realise how bad it is because I get anxious and shut off when trying to talk about things. I’m also worried they might refer me to a specialist if they realise how bad my OCD is which I don’t want due to travel and fuss - maybe they only referred me before to get the diagnosis, idk?

I drink every day, and I don’t want to any more, but I don’t have the motivation to stop when I’m miserable anyway. I might as well be miserable and drunk. When I’m off work (I work in a school, so holidays) like now, I drink constantly, avoid leaving the house, order everything off Deliveroo. I tried telling myself I’ll start getting better over this holiday - just drink in the evenings/after dinner, not all day. I can go without alcohol if I want to - I did it for like a day recently and it was fine - but I’m too done with life to have any motivation. Why on earth would I try and challenge myself to do something positive when I’ll die anyway, everyone I love will die anyway. I don’t want to even try to do something positive because the smallest effort is more than I have it in me to make. I cried before finishing work for Easter because I like being at work and don’t want to be off for weeks. I have about three weeks of this and any sort of positive step feels like too much. I also told myself I wouldn’t order Deliveroo - I’d go out if I wanted food/alcohol and buy it like a proper person, just to get me out of the house regularly/give me a reason to shower and wake up in the day. But it’s hard to bother when most of the previous day, and those before it, have been taken up with intrusive thoughts and nothing feels positive any more, and the idea of doing something positive feels completely pointless.

I woke up at 6pm today and cried and drunk. I’ll order Deliveroo soon. There’s this tiny, tiny part of me screaming at myself to do better. But everything feels like an unclimbable mountain. I figured before that I might as well cut down on drinking, get a bit healthier, and that would be one obstacle out of the way - I figured my OCD is bad whether I’m drinking or not, so I might as well not. But I’m sadder now, and my life feels aimless, so I might as well drink through the pain rather than put another challenge on myself, when just getting through each day is a challenge in itself. I envy those people who wake up in the morning and do normal person things and just function and are okay. They make it look so easy but it seems like something virtually impossible for me.

Idk what to do. Correct medication seems like a good first step? But I’m so scared of getting invalidated again, I’m so scared they’ll say there’s no more they can do, that I’ve run out of options. Or they’ll refer me elsewhere which is a huge hassle as I don’t drive and don’t want others to know how bad things are. It all feels too much and I don’t know where to start, but I’m making myself ill with my lifestyle.",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1joam9e/i_dont_know_how_to_get_myself_out_of_this_hole/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkq9sc4', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. 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1jo7dui,2025-03-31T22:00:23,"Second opinion, not sure how to go about it","Hi all, 

Id really appreciate help/guidance. So last year i was seen by a psychiatrist and i suggested i could have EUPD. From the initial meeting they stuck this on me to this day (along with depression/anxiety) 

As time went on and i was reflecting and received CBT with a PTSD/CPTSD approach, it became more apparent that EUPD isnt what i have. Unfortunately when trying to speak to the psychiatrist about this, they refused to budge or reconsider based on my character rather than just possible symptoms. 

Thank fully i now am being seen by a different psychiatrist after pushing for so long. Im concerned if this will make things worse and not sure how to go about it. Ik they’ve read everything (although some notes are incorrect) Im not sure how much or how little to say? 

What do i do? Do i keep a mood diary? Even my CBT therapist wrote a letter to secondary care as she supported me in the sense of getting a second opinion as she disagreed with the diagnosis and knew how important it was for me to have it rectified. 

Please let me know what to do or if anyone has been in this position before. 

Thank you! ",MentalHealthUK,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jo7dui/second_opinion_not_sure_how_to_go_about_it/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkpjdpt', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T22:00:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo7dui'}, {'comment_id': 'mkudd30', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': 'One of the most demoralising things I\'ve personally heard is what an NHS senior psychiatrist I\'m seeing, to gain diagnostic clarity over what I feel is - for me - a bogus ""diagnosis of symptoms of EUPD/NPD"", told me.\n\nAside from it being word salad, I feel this note is just not the case and that all my symptoms can be explained by my clinically diagnosed CPTSD, which has many close crossovers in terms of symptoms.\n\nHowever said psychiatrist told me, after me asking her if that note could be removed from my medical notes file, that not only would it stay there but also that even if she found the notes to be unsubstantiated that didn\'t mean that a future psychiatrist/therapist couldn\'t read it and just decide that \'yep, I think he has this so I\'m going to treat him as such\'.\n\nAs such, a second opinioon, which I believe is entirely within your rights to get, may not lead to a different outcome *even if the outcome is different*!\n\nHopefully you can just see it as a label and try to steer any treatment toward the areas you need, but I\'m sorry that you have been placed in such a situation where you should have to do that. In the long run it may not effect you, given the overlap in symptoms, but it\'s something to keep in mind for sure.\n\nTLDR: I was told that once it\'s in your notes, regardless if its proven untrue afterward, clinicians can just choose to act as though its accurate.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:40:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo7dui'}, {'comment_id': 'mks0b3y', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': 'Mood diary yes but more importantly look at the dsm 5 criteria for eupd and write down everything you disagree with, get them to rectify the mistakes in your notes and then look at the dsm 5 for ptsd and write down what you relate too and how the therapy approach is beneficial etc', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T05:44:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo7dui'}, {'comment_id': 'mkugohy', 'author': 'SadAnnah13', 'body': ""That's what's happened with me. I saw a psychiatrist from a different CMHT, he agreed CPTSD, and my CMHT decided to completely ignore it, and won't even see me."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:03:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mkudd30'}, {'comment_id': 'mktybhc', 'author': 'bumbleebee1', 'body': 'What i wouldnt want to do is suggest another diagnosis for it to be incorrect cos they haven’t fully done their job to understand me. Like i wouldnt want to be stuck with diagnosis’ that aren’t associated with me :(\n\nBut i do appreciate that, ill look at the dam for eupd to say what i disagree with', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T15:30:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mks0b3y'}, {'comment_id': 'mkuimz0', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': 'It makes a real mockery of the ""The help is there, just ask"" tripe, doesn\'t it?!\n\nNotonly is the help difficult to access (at best) but a single clinician can unilaterally decide to disregard everything that came before simply because they think they know better. I\'ve had multiple experiences with this myself, sadly.\n\nI hope you have access to better, more appropriate help now, and if not right now, that you get it soon x', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T18:16:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mkugohy'}]"
1jo09l8,2025-03-31T16:14:46,Do private therapists/psychologists tend to have better treatment capability?,"Compared to the NHS. Particularly long term talking therapies. 

Is the care generally a better standard and more useful? 

I get that you’re not meeting a new worker every so often because of leaving jobs, and there’s more time and space. But is the standard of care more thorough? More resource? Not as burnt out as the NHS? If that makes sense. Are they more open to real help and treating things actively? Not as much passing the buck?

Can they deal with csa and physical trauma? Or does that get passed back to the NHS again?",MentalHealthUK,5,13,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jo09l8/do_private_therapistspsychologists_tend_to_have/,"[{'comment_id': 'mknxhhl', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:14:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mko0n4b', 'author': 'Consistent-Salary-35', 'body': 'The qualifications tend to be the same on paper (certainly for psychodynamic/psychoanalytic therapy - not sure about the behavioural modalities), but private therapists are able to deploy their skills without the constraints of working within an agency. \n\nThis means they can build a service around the needs of their client: appointment times, duration of the work, special considerations etc. There’s also a better chance of finding someone you ‘click’ with and appropriately qualified for your particular concern/chosen treatment pathways. And of course they’re less likely to have a massive waiting list.\n\nEdited to add: yes, there are private therapists who work with csa and trauma. It’s not necessary to be referred to the NHS for these issues. However, please make sure your therapist is appropriately trained to work with these issues.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:42:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoektj', 'author': 'Willing_Curve921', 'body': ""This mirrors a PP, but I work in both NHS and private clinical psychology services (and do have a trauma therapy training). While I try to work with all my patients to the best of my abilities, there are some major differences which are more obvious the longer I do it. Some of these are specific to trauma.\n\nThe first is of choice. In the NHS they get me because I am there. They have no/ very little choice, as only a few of us do complex or severe trauma work. In private work, they have actively picked me compared to others they could have seen and they have a choice to go elsewhere at any time. \n\nThis is a massive advantage to any work, but in trauma in particular as feeling of safety, trust and being understood but being open to be pushed is the bedrock of any therapy work. \n\nThe second is of limits. In the NHS you can't stay indefinitely in therapy, whereas longer term work is fairly standard in private working. The patient has more power and control in therapy as they are paying for it, and they usually appreciate it more. \n\nAgain, with trauma, power and threat is hugely influential in how the work goes, and the NHS/system holds all the power, with therapist and client having far less. It's not surprising people are happier with private care than NHS."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:23:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mko0mv7', 'author': 'bedrock_BEWD', 'body': ""I have private therapy. I've been seeing the same person for nearly 12 years, for varied reasons including CSA and other trauma, as well as wanting to work on myself as a person so I can be a better parent. I would never have got this level of care on the NHS, in my opinion, as this length of treatment is pretty much unheard of."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:42:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mktggr0', 'author': 'Admirable-Savings908', 'body': 'After completing my training as a Counsellor, those with the most money to go private, i.e. those with money to rent rooms or even space in their own houses, had an advantage. I remember in some cases these people being the least capable as Counsellors.\n\n\nI think it is a case of doing your research when seeing someone privately. Have an introductory meeting, check out their levels of experience and if they specialise in certain areas of mental health.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T12:09:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jo09l8'}, {'comment_id': 'mko14yd', 'author': 'reeeeeestene', 'body': 'That sounds quite hopeful, thank you for sharing :) it’s interesting to learn about the constraints within the NHS. Is there anything specific I should ask or mention when trying to find a trauma/csa experienced therapist? Other than directly asking I suppose', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:46:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mko0n4b'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoalgv', 'author': 'Consistent-Salary-35', 'body': 'I think there are 3 main areas to consider. \n\nQualifications: You’re looking for someone with at least 3 years of psychotherapy training from a recognised institution (eg university/specialist training organisation). \n\nExperience: someone straight out of training is unlikely to have the track record you’re looking for. Ask how long they have been qualified and specifically their experience working with trauma/csa. \n\nRapport: A therapist can have the most lofty qualifications and still not be ‘right’ for you. The therapeutic alliance is a key indicator in the success of the work. So it’s really important you find someone you’re comfortable with.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:57:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mko14yd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkoii36', 'author': 'reeeeeestene', 'body': 'Thank you so much! Is a PgDip and MSc in cognitive behavioural psychotherapy the right thing?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:48:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoalgv'}, {'comment_id': 'mkolr59', 'author': 'EddieHouseman', 'body': 'Look for the accreditation, eg BACP, UKCP, etc. they will have accredited them on the basis of their qualifications and where they trained. You can’t possibly be expected to know how good an MSc in CBT (say) from university X is. The accreditation body should.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:07:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoii36'}, {'comment_id': 'mkonal4', 'author': 'Consistent-Salary-35', 'body': 'That’s certainly a good start! I’d also ask how they intend to work with the issues you present. Behavioural perspectives work very well with ‘here and now’ issues. So if you’re experiencing symptoms like flashbacks/dissociation/anxiety associated with trauma, it could be very helpful. \n\nIf you feel you’d benefit from a deeper understanding of your early years/ unconscious triggers and unpacking your formative experiences, then I’d recommend looking into psychodynamic psychotherapy. Disclaimer: I’m a psychodynamic/psychoanalytic trauma therapist, so I would say that:)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:16:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkoii36'}, {'comment_id': 'mkon2r3', 'author': 'reeeeeestene', 'body': 'Ahh, this person is BABCP accredited, is that not really enough/right?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:15:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mkolr59'}, {'comment_id': 'mkon7ed', 'author': 'EddieHouseman', 'body': 'That is a good accreditation for CBT.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:15:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkon2r3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkonvwn', 'author': 'EddieHouseman', 'body': 'You may find it helpful to look at the websites of the accreditation bodies.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T19:19:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mkon2r3'}]"
1jnutcd,2025-03-31T09:37:09,I just want someone to know and to just fucking hug me,"That's all I want. I'm so fucking tired, I've been up all day and now night. I don't really feel physically tired but.. mentally maybe, I don't fucking know.

I just want somebody to fucking know and hug me but I have basically no friends, none I see or talk to anyone, I have two closest friends, one of them is quiet, quieter than me so it can be hard to talk to them and my other friend lives too far away and stuff, both of them also struggle with their mental health so it isn't like I can just message them and tell them all the stuff I say in these posts, especially as I have mentioned them a few times, not them specifically but also them specifically as I've mentioned ""my 2 close friends"" and my ""group"" and stuff and one of them friends doesn't like touch I dont think so.. ye and it just feels awkward hugging all my other friends as I don't know them that well and stuff.

I'm just so fucking tired, I just want to fucking cry, for someone to just fucking hold me while I cry, I don't mean a partner or anything but a fucking friend or something. I hate crying infront of others, especially if they can see my face, I feel stupid after I've cried a lot of the time too, I didn't always feel that way but now I do, I don't know why. I'm just so fucking tired, I want it to be over but I don't want to die, I don't have a reason to live or a reason to die, I'm just fucking tired. Well I guess there's that one closest friend but as I've said they're an online friend but still.

Nobody ever replies or anything unless I message them individually but the only people I message individually are my two closest friends on discord, partly because I mainly use discord but also because its easier to message them all in the group I made on WhatsApp but none of them message there or even reply there and one of my friends left as he ""doesn't want to be in any drama"" (there wasn't even any drama) and he was in a lot of groups or whatever so ye.. was meant to be a group for my friends but.. oh well, they all might as well not be my friends anyway but acquaintances, maybe not even that, they don't take time out of their day to message me so why would I do that for them? I might just stop messaging in the group and what not and see if they even notice, I doubt it.

I'm so fucking exhausted, I seriously just want to fucking cry but I'm not gonna let myself, I'd just feel stupid and what not anyway and I wouldn't even be able to cry, I never can. I'm so fucking tired",MentalHealthUK,5,12,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jnutcd/i_just_want_someone_to_know_and_to_just_fucking/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmtogd', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T09:37:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn7cpo', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Hugs friend. Hope things get better soon. You deserve better friends.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:38:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwdub', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'I am just genuinely really sorry you’re going through this. Sending so much love and hugs', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:04:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwesf', 'author': 'Apprehensive-Area120', 'body': 'Hey, I see you, I’ve read your messages.\n\nI completely understand and I’ve been there.\n\nI see crying as like sweating or another bodily function, it’s not stupid, it’s just what your body needs to do when you feel emotional pain.\n\nIf you can, try to get some sleep or even  just rest.\n\nI’d give you a hug if I could, even though I’m a random internet stranger, but I’ve been there, just wanting to be held while I cry. It’s natural to want that.\n\nIs it sunny where you are? I’m just sat in my car in the park, on the way to group therapy. I can hear the birds singing and it’s so sunny and it’s lovely. There are some good things in the world ♥️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:04:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mknxifw', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""Hey I understand most of this and I know it's difficult if you want to you can reach out I'm happy to help"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:15:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mko2kpc', 'author': 'LegitHadEnuff', 'body': 'Hey OP,  although I can’t hug you in real life, I’m sending you a big virtual hug now. \n\nI’m so sorry about how you’re feeling. It sounds like you need a lot of support and it doesn’t look like you’ve had much support right now. \n\nI hope letting out how you feel on this subreddit has helped a bit. I’ve always found this place so supportive. \n\nReally hope things get better for you soon. ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:58:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mko3k7p', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""I understand your pain. I've gone through a lot over the last few months, but the hardest part has been the loneliness and isolation. I cry all the time, too. Breaking down in the shops is a regular occurrence! I have a couple of friends I message, but I struggle to talk to them about anything too deep, and I only see them every few weeks."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:06:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnutcd'}, {'comment_id': 'mkn7q5x', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': 'Thank you 💜', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T11:42:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkn7cpo'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwmjo', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': '🫂💜', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:06:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mknwdub'}, {'comment_id': 'mknwq90', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': ""Looks like it's sunny today, I think so.\n\nThank you by the way 🫂💜"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:07:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mknwesf'}, {'comment_id': 'mknxv5t', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': 'Thank you 💜', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:18:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mknxifw'}, {'comment_id': 'mkq2jb5', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': ""Thank you, it has a bit. I'm glad I found this place, the replies I've gotten on this post have been so nice to read, to know that there are people who care.\n\nThank you again 🫂💜"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T23:34:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mko2kpc'}]"
1jnt0eq,2025-03-31T07:53:55,NHS help for CPTSD/Childhood Trauma,"Too unwell for the short term CBT/Counselling. But too well to be referred for further help. Have been in the same position for years. Denied trauma therapy, as I cannot point to a single event that I need to recover from. Does anyone have advice on how to best navigate the system? Or any self-help resources that you've found useful? Thanks in advance",MentalHealthUK,10,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jnt0eq/nhs_help_for_cptsdchildhood_trauma/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkmfc29', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T07:53:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}, {'comment_id': 'mknyckq', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Are you under a community mental health team?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:22:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkod120', 'author': 'madformattsmith', 'body': 'If you are in Liverpool then please get a health professional to put in a referral for you to Step Forward Psychological Therapies. They are trained specifically to deal with cases of cPTSD where the client is ""too ill"" for IAPT but ""not ill enough"" for CMHT\n\nETA: a book that really helped me was the breaking free workbook by Kay Toon and Carolyn Ainscough', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T18:13:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkubeb1', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': ""I say this as a clinically diagnosed CPTSD sufferer, similarly from childhood traumas.  \nThe only therapy that ever really helped me was EMDR. I couldn't stand even the idea CBT so specifically chased EMDR - once I'd found out it existed! They certainly didn't offer it up freely! \n\nI'm not sure if it was the EMDR specifically, or that I was 'in the right place' mentally for it to be successful, but it seemed the only modality that ever gelled with me.\n\nPerhaps requesting a specific therapy might convince them to place you on the waiting list for it, as - for them - it's a quick and simple 'win' administratively speaking. Of course that only works if your trust offers it.\n\nWorth a shot though."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T17:26:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnt0eq'}]"
1jnlxuh,2025-03-31T02:05:29,Starting rTMS. Has anyone else here had it?,"I have my first rTMS appointment tomorrow and I'm really nervous. I've read up a lot but still don't really know what to expect. I feel like so much is riding on this to work, and it could be my one and only chance for a treatment that works.

I also have so much stress and disruption in my personal life at the moment that things are pretty overwhelming as it is.  Alongside the PTSD and anxiety I have linked to the building that my sessions are in. I'm worried that because of all this it might not 'work'.

Has anyone else got personal experience with this and can help put my mind at ease on what to expect?",MentalHealthUK,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jnlxuh/starting_rtms_has_anyone_else_here_had_it/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkksjhp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:05:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnlxuh'}]"
1jngzmi,2025-03-30T22:31:35,"long updated vent, what to do ...","it is a job in itself to hunt, land an interview, and even be successful. in a remote area it feels impossible at times. i keep busy with job coach appointments, volunteering, caring responsibilities. i am on my 7th driving lesson next week for automatic. 

i guess having a car and the access to that independence would open up my world for jobs but right now i can't rely on that. 

now i am on UC, i am unsure what to do about courses. i have LCW so i do not even have to look for work but i am trying to change my life repeatedly. 

i guess i am frustrated because of my circumstances and being left to do as i wished since 15 from leaving school with gcses. health got in the way and now ptsd no longer rules my life, i am learning more about myself everyday with autism and dyspraxia. 

i had a mini break with my longterm boyfriend who i do not live with. it was nice. 

i keep getting panic attacks in the night now and in the morning about being unemployed forever, and it feels like that now. 

back on my balance regime after a holiday and need to cut back on the calories again. 

31 is incredibly hard without family help. not so much financial because my mum pays the rent with her uc and because of my disabled stepbrother. but having nothing for me at all and having to figure it out without being taught or told or what to do is difficult.

mum hasn't known what to do with me for years. she's had a spinal injury since 22. so i get it, but i am angry in a way too.
probably need some therapy to just get feelings out again. 

i am scared that this is it, but obviously i am making changes to be brave to do driving lessons now. and everything else in between. 

just the thought of losing my pip next year due to it ending and being unsure if i will ever get that back lingers. i just need an employer to believe in me. i must be able to do something. 

same old vent and dance. 

on my last counselling for grief on tuesday. i didn't expect much but it made me more angry sometimes. wish my stepdad could send me a sign or well anything. being atheist just makes things hard. can't rely on a prayer or some kind of faith to keep me right.

my boyfriend's dad has full on dementia now. hardly speaks and it scarily feral sometimes. his life savings have gone on care fees because he never told his wife. it's just depressing. i feel for my boyfriend a lot. he is afraid he will get it in the future. but right now there's not much to be done.

i feel like an embarrassment. but at the end of the day i am human, i have had my reasons to this point why it was hard to grow up. and now i have to take accountability and at least try to apply to jobs, as i keep doing.

it doesn't stop negative thoughts and i wish i could stop those. it comes and goes. not like hallucinations or anything. just feeling stuck in my circumstances. well, at least it is cathartic to type here. 

but yeah, hi universe, i am hurting, tired. want to work without the fear of losing a job, just want to get on now. tired.",MentalHealthUK,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jngzmi/long_updated_vent_what_to_do/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjmfzv', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:31:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngzmi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkv1ur', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': ""I can relate to how you feel as I too had this issue and found it hard finding work. The job market SUCKS it's so terrible here in the UK. It's not something that is your fault, work actually is hard to find here. Hundreds to thousands of people applying for the same 1 job.\n\nLook for an agency to join. They will be able to give you an job somewhere. It most likely will be factory job, some are horrible, some are doable. It's something getting you money. Also often factories will hire good agency staff at the end of the contract. \n\nIt would help you pay for driving lessons, get a car and be able to find something else to do a job if you wanted to."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T02:18:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngzmi'}]"
1jngut3,2025-03-30T22:25:53,Think I screwed up,"So the other day I think it was Thursday I was placed under 136 and then Friday was assessed under the mental health act I was discharged to the crisis team, now here's where it gets a bit I screwed up territory, so I have not slept very much in the last week and when I say not much I've probably had about 7 hours sleep all week, I have a drink problem and had been sober for a few months the one thing I used to be able to get when I drank was that it would knock me out so I could actually get some sleep so I made a very stupid decision one that I'm very annoyed and upset about to drink however it did not have the desired affect it did however make my mood worse and I stupidly carried on drinking into the next day (Saturday), and unfortunately was extremely drunk when the crisis team arrived and by that time I was very drunk tired and angry at a lot of things but especially with the way I have been treated or there of the lack of treatment especially aimed at a particular psychiatrist I may have said some very bad things including maybe some threatening remarks about the psychiatrist, I have now sobered up and have realised what I said I contacted the crisis team this afternoon and explained that I didn't mean a lot of what was said and that I was a mix of sleep deprived agitated low mood topped off with being off medication and drunk, I said that I'm not usually that person and especially not a violent person, however I was then informed that they are to have a meeting tomorrow morning and they are going to be discussing next steps after yesterday and wether I need to be reassessed, I suppose my question comes down to if the crisis team orders me to be reassessed does that generally mean that they would be able to enforce that or even enforce that I'm admitted back in to hospital I've been in hospital twice in the last 2 years with my last time in hospital being a really bad experience and therefore is something I would like to avoid I'm just trying to see if there is now anything I can do to change the minds of those who maybe making that kind of decision.",MentalHealthUK,3,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jngut3/think_i_screwed_up/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkjlbjq', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:25:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkksca', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': ""So they can ask for the AMHP service to consider re-assessing you. It would be up to the AMHPs to decide whether or not to assess you again. But yes they can decide to even if you were recently assessed. As you are at home now they would likely have to assess you at your home and decide if you need admission. But as usually, they would still need 2 doctors (one of which must be s12 approved) to recommend your admission to hospital and then an AMHP to be prepared to admit you. So 3 professionals altogether would have to agree. To be honest from what you have said, making threats towards a psychiatrist whilst drunk wouldn't be grounds to admit someone to hospital, but obviously I don't have the whole story. However, the team are probably going to want to discuss how to manage the situation moving forward. I mean it depends on what you said and how genuine the threats were. It may be that the psychiatrist will not have any involvement with your care moving forward, or it may be that the team have to think about their role, or it may be that they continue but wont see you when intoxicated, or won't see you at home but only at their base. If your threats were really severe then they may consider police involvement but doesn't sound like that is the case from what you have said."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:25:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjqf09', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I dont know that any of us can know what might happen next. It sounds like you will have to wait and see what is decided at the meeting. If you made credible threats against someone, I really dont know what the possible outcomes might be.\n\nIts good you have been able to reflect on this now and have spoken to them to give some context. \n\nI know your last admission wasnt helpful, but it does sound like you need some support just now. What support do you have in the community as community based treatment would often be preferred to admission if possible. Do you people who support you like friends and family? And are you under a CMHT? If so they might be able to offer some extra support right now? \n\nSounds like youve had a really hard week. Please be kind to yourself and try to not worry about what you cant control. Take time for some self care tonight and hope the outcome of the meeting tomorrow is positive and you get some more support.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T22:51:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkjtsiq', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""At this moment I only have the crisis team I've been getting promised for god knows how long community mental health support and have been left with absolutely nothing I have deteriorated over the last couple of months, in terms of other support I don't have family close by but they have their own things going on and I don't like to put my own things on them plus one of my brothers just doesn't understand mental health and basically tells me to pull myself together and stop putting pressure on the rest of the family with my shit as he puts it, my boyfriend does as much as he can to help and support me but has his own things to deal with as well in which I also support him through with us we support eachother all the time, so basically my support is very limited at this moment."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:08:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jngut3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkm13q', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""I think from my understanding they are meeting in the morning to discuss next steps, but that is why I made every effort today to explain that I was drunk and I didn't mean most of what I said about the psychiatrist I did however say that the psychiatrist in question I would be exploring how to go about raising a complaint against and in amongst conversations with a couple of people who have been under the psychiatrists care have said if I move forwards with a complaint they will join it."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:32:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkksca'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk9m7g', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Well at the very least I hope this prompts the CMHT to take you on under their care. I think having regular support with someone like a care coordinator can be really helpful for people when they having a difficult time. \n\nPlease do advocate for that too. Its not okay to not get that community support when you need it. It can feel so hard and lonely often, especially when you feeling isolated from you family. Ask them to be seen by the CMHT. Thats community support. You shouldnt have to be resorting to the crisis line because you dont have regular support in the community. \n\nAlso do you have an understanding GP? Have you seen them recently? They can also make referrals to the CMHT and offer support too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:28:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mkjtsiq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkbcdg', 'author': 'ThenComparison8768', 'body': ""I saw my GP a couple of weeks ago he was aware of my mental health issues and that I have been getting worse, when I was 136 the other day the police were saying that they were making a referral to adult social care but couldn't guarantee any outcome from that I'm just worried that I really screwed up after my assessment on Friday and now the crisis team are meeting tomorrow to discuss whether they believe after yesterday as to do I need to be assessed again by the team who who assessed me the other day but as I said I made some mistakes yesterday in a few things that I said, I regret the things that I said and that's why they want me assessed again."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:37:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk9m7g'}]"
1jn9tvq,2025-03-30T16:17:04,"Where to access therapy or counselling (preferably low waitlist, low fee or free)?","Hi again,

Sorry for all of the questions recently. As per my previous post, I’ve (23 years old) been waiting for nhs talking therapies for about 8 months now and have no idea how long the waitlist is. I am really struggling at present both as a result of previous issues and trauma and more problems that are ongoing and new trauma and bad experiences that are just being added on top of that that I have no idea how to process on my own.


I need some support. I can’t wait any more on my own. I don’t have a support network as most of my problems and trauma are to do with home life. I’m struggling at work and don’t have anyone to talk to there as it’s a new role and I don’t want to ruin my chances of passing my probation.

I’ve been to my gp who has just upped my dose of fluoxetine despite me telling him it isn’t doing anything. I practically begged him for just an appointment where I could get things on record or talk and he said they don’t offer that only talking therapies which I’m already on the waitlist for. I just feel like I need someone who knows things that have happened to me. Just someone to share the burden a bit. It’s not even comfort or anything that I want I just want someone to know so I don’t feel alone with it all.

I don’t know what I can do. I’ve tried The Mix and shout 1-1 chat but they’re very limited in what they can offer me. I’ve called Samaritans before but couldn’t get through in time before their phone lines closed. 

I feel like I’m asking all the right places for help but no one *can* help, if that makes sense. But I need something and soon. I’ve been strong all through my life but I just feel like I’m running on empty. I can’t keep doing this. I know my living situation is what needs to change really but I don’t have the power to make any changes at the moment as silly as that sounds (it’s very complicated.) 

Is there anywhere I can look into for therapy or even counselling while I wait for talking therapies? I can’t afford a lot of what I’ve seen about online as I’m in a new job and am still waiting for my first wage packet. I don’t even know how I’m supposed to know what type of therapy that I need as I’ve never received any support before - cbt/relationship therapy/trauma specific? I have no idea. I’m just a bit lost and looking for advice or suggestions. ",MentalHealthUK,5,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jn9tvq/where_to_access_therapy_or_counselling_preferably/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhzkg3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:17:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mki700d', 'author': 'Remarkable_Baby4408', 'body': 'Hi, it sounds like you’re really struggling at the moment waiting for NHS talk therapy and starting a new job on top of your living situation. There’s a few places I know of you could have a look at. \n\nThere’s Knus, they’re a peer support network it’s not quite counselling but they’re trained in some counselling techniques (not a specific approach like the ones you mentioned), more goal orientated like coaching. It’s free as far as I know run by volunteers. \n\nMind (if they’re local to you) offer counselling which is more on the low cost end. \n\nCTUK (counsellors together CIC) offer low cost counselling online and over the phone. \n\nFYMC in Leeds offer reduced rates for trainee counsellors both online and in person, these are allotted on a needs/complexity basis. \n\nAffordable counselling network also offer low cost therapy. \n\nThere will be more out there for you, try the counselling directories (BACP, NCPS, psychology today, counselling directory etc) for local and online therapists there’s a filter for price range on at least some of them. \n\nThere’s also AI which you could ask to walk you through some specific counselling techniques or activities. You could also ask it to go through the different modalities of therapy to ascertain which one might suit you best to give you more of a direction.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:25:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mki52wk', 'author': 'CyberSkelet', 'body': ""Yo're welcome to talk to me about it. I understand the struggle. You can message me through reddit if you want to."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:08:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mki7ma9', 'author': 'LouisePoet', 'body': ""KOOSH is a free online therapy for young people.  (QWELL for adults over 25). I don't think it's available everywhere, but they may know of similar services in your area.\n\nIt is as anonymous as you want it to be, as well."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:30:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkikeco', 'author': 'Old-Apartment-1476', 'body': 'Google low cost counselling in your area. It is definitely available and much more affordable than private practitioners. Especially if you have more complex needs and the nhs talking therapies are not set up for it, and CHMT wait lists are so long.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T19:03:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkix4e9', 'author': 'Therailwaykat_1980', 'body': 'When I was on the waiting list for NHS therapies and I couldn’t cope while waiting, I called them themselves and they offered me a few interim phone appointments to try and help get me through. It’s not much but my advice might help you get a least an hour on the phone with them and if you explain how much it’s all affecting you and they think you are “bad enough” they do try to bump you up the list in my experience. I’m on my 3rd lot in 4 years, a year wait between finishing each block of sessions and starting the next. \n\nI also use the free text service SHOUT when I feel I’m teetering on crisis and they’ve talked me down several times. \n\nGood luck 🫶', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:18:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhzkgx', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:17:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn9tvq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiwhvo', 'author': 'Therailwaykat_1980', 'body': '🫶', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:15:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mki52wk'}]"
1jn7xh4,2025-03-30T13:49:48,I feel like I shouldn't exist because people don't want me around,"I don't know what it is, I'm on the autism spectrum, and diagnosed with OCD and anxiety too. Because I don't speak that much, I don't make for good conversation. Everywhere I go, people don't seem to understand that, it leads to assumptions and accusations. It isn't restricted to just friends either, it can be family too. I get invited to go out and stuff, then when I make the effort to turn up since it is hard to leave the house, I never feel welcomed. 

Then I get all these thoughts about how I probably play into the 'bad person' stereotype because I have so many problems, on top of being talentless and unemployed. ",MentalHealthUK,10,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jn7xh4/i_feel_like_i_shouldnt_exist_because_people_dont/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhlyee', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:49:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7xh4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkicxk6', 'author': 'Miserable_Bug_5671', 'body': ""I'm glad you're around. Can you find other autistic people in your area or online? We seem to communicate better with each other and value each other more."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:12:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7xh4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkha2p', 'author': 'CharlieCatBloke', 'body': 'You sound just like me. There are people out there who understand us and how our shitbag brains work, hope you manage to find some of them!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:07:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7xh4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkieasi', 'author': 'HYPERPEACE-', 'body': ""Not really. I only know two autistic people near me. Most other autistic people in my area aren't like me though. And only one of them seems similar to me. I can't rely on relating to people, I learn that the hard way last year. It kept making me miserable and depressed because there isn't anybody who wants to know me."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:22:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mkicxk6'}]"
1jn7gxf,2025-03-30T13:14:00,Please put me in the right direction!,"My partner m35 has been diagnosed with ADHD combined through psychiatry UK but I’m pretty sure something else is at play here and my suspicions is OCD and possible PTSD.
He’s still in the titration list for meds and the wait is approximately 7-10 months. 

Every week I’m having to deal with mental breakdowns, where he’s crying and screaming to the point I can’t deal with it anymore but I cannot leave him the way that he is. 

How would we go about a full evaluation? Even if it’s just the diagnosis and no meds, we just need answers to know what we’re dealing with. 
If diagnosed privately would we be stuck with paying for meds privately each month? Because we just cannot afford it.

He’s tried CBT therapy also which hasn’t helped him the slightest. 

Any advice? 

",MentalHealthUK,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jn7gxf/please_put_me_in_the_right_direction/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkhiqcq', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:14:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7gxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhtzik', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I think first port of call would be GP? There you could explain concerns and GP might refer him to the Community Mental Health team?', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:18:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7gxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyrz6', 'author': 'Head_Cat_9440', 'body': ""Don't tolerate abuse."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:09:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jn7gxf'}]"
1jmy7n3,2025-03-30T04:08:53,Need real advice,"Hi all, I’m 19M, and I feel like a total loser. I’m in an average university, struggling to turn up every week because of my social anxiety and depression. Recently got prescribed sertraline and on a waitlist for therapy, so let’s see how that goes. I live with my parents, and provide little/no help with the bills as I’m unemployed. I also have no friends, and am really struggling mentally. I have no motivation or discipline, and keeping up with uni assignments are difficult. I also just feel like everything is miserable in society, and the world, with all the inflation, crime, and wars, keeps me up at night. I would really appreciate some genuine advice, I am stuck in a loop, of eating, sleeping, heavy phone addiction repeat. I have never worked before, I only have 8 GCSEs to my name. ",MentalHealthUK,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jmy7n3/need_real_advice/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkfg8ci', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. 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Then tick all the activities you achieve and this will sometimes encourage you to do more and those small wins pile to bigger wins, may elevate your mood.  \nIf you can, engage in physical exercises. A gym even. Vigorous physical exercises have a way to elevate your mood and improve your sleep.   \nION, this might help a bit. Just try."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T05:05:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmy7n3'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfg8e3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). 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1jmwkj2,2025-03-30T02:50:43,‘On a scale of 1 to 10’,"I seriously do not think you can accurately quantify emotion or distress. I think there is an overreliance on ranking scales across UK mental health services. I’d understand if it were used to gain a general idea of how you’re doing, but in my experience these numbers have been used to directly dictate your treatment/management plans. Its madness to me. 

Just talk to me like a human!! I can tell you in actual words how I’m feeling and how I’m doing. It feels so incredibly invalidating to me that there is a consensus that my pain is as simple as a number. It’s not. 

It also just does not give an accurate reflection of any changes at all. For example in a lot of questionnaires it’ll ask you to rate s*icidality out of 10, sleep out of 10, eating habits out of 10 etc. They try to force a certain parity of esteem between things things that oftentimes don’t bare the same weight ie 8/10 for s*icidality is very very different than 8/10 for sleeplessness for me, and it just doesn’t take that into account. ",MentalHealthUK,29,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jmwkj2/on_a_scale_of_1_to_10/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkf2rmp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T02:50:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfe6p0', 'author': 'hiredditihateyou', 'body': 'Unfortunately it’s largely because of the need to prove effectiveness of the MH services to retain/increase funding. The NHS is all about ‘evidence based practice’ but it’s also cash strapped and political - so if there’s no empirical proof an intervention works there is a risk it could get pulled. I currently need a surgery which was previously funded but was pulled due to lack of evidence (those of us with the condition feel that actually it was an excuse to avoid funding expensive surgery for lots of people as it’s had a lot of press recently). Unfortunately MH doesn’t really fall into showing results as easily as physical health so people can feel overwhelmed or not best served by constant rating scales, but hopefully you can take from it what you can and talk around it with your therapist or PWP. If you feel like your plan isn’t working for you you could ask to try a different form of therapy that isn’t as linked to ratings as CBT on the NHS tends to be.', 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:56:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfde6h', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Ive done the questionnaires like these and hilariously my results got worse in all areas as the months went on', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:52:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfn070', 'author': 'MoHarless', 'body': 'Yes I agree so much with this. Its is one of the reason CBT isnt going to work for me. Id feel a wave of exhaustion roll over me just looking at the forms and then feel I had no idea where I was on the scale compared to last time', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:48:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh53s6', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': ""For me it changes so often so I would need to do a 1 - 10 everyday for a few months for them to know for real.   \nI can wake up one day and think everything was a 1, but then a few weeks later I am 10's all over. My perception changes too much."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:52:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf6501', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""Yes, it feels like anything they can do to avoid meeting and assessing you in person. I would imagine they would learn more from a 2 minute meeting than 500 questionnaires. I am not even sure anyone even looks at the results! When people fill them in, they probably feel like they've made some progress, but I'm sure they're put straight through the shredder."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:10:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmwkj2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfek0a', 'author': 'yohowdyhaw', 'body': 'I absolutely agree with you. Unfortunately, the above often takes away from any sort of person centredness whatsoever. It’s actually the reason I walked away from a service full stop because of how totally invalidating I found it - up to 30 mins PER SESSION of questionnaires. But the individual’s needs don’t matter when it comes to money in the NHS. It’s sad.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:58:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfe6p0'}, {'comment_id': 'mkg16fi', 'author': 'hiredditihateyou', 'body': 'I think in some services the service users are asked to come early and do the questionnaires before the session, if I ever end up working in the NHS as a therapist that would be my strong preference so I could focus on the client rather than the box checking during the session. Perhaps you can ask if that might be an option? I think within the NHS, manualised therapies like LI CBT basically rule the roost and the PWPs are encouraged to focus on the wrong things (like questionnaires and maintaining recovery rates for the service at a set level) unfortunately, rather than working in depth according to the person centred tradition as the sessions just aren’t allocated sufficient time.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:11:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfek0a'}]"
1jmu0kg,2025-03-30T00:53:17,NHS Therapy a waste of time?,"Right so I began therapy in January and attended one session then the therapist has been off sick from January to last Wednesday, that day I was sick and couldn’t attend. Now I’m being told if I miss another session I’ll be kicked off of the list as if you have two missed sessions then they boot you out. Now I have severe ADHD combined type and scored 17/18 on the adhd test report and my memory is absolutely terrible, like extremely poor. I’ve also missed 4 asthma reviews as they completely slipped my mind. My brain just doesn’t work in a morning at all and I often down wake up until 10am at a minimum and go to bed about 9 so I’m sleeping 13 hours a day as my energy just entirely depletes so I’m stuck in this horrible cycle. 

I sought therapy for numerous issues (ADHD coping mechanisms, depression and anxiety and how to cope with my mum being on end of life care which is causing enormous stress, being put in a kids home and suffering physical and sexual abuse whilst there). Now she said I had to pick only one issue out of then seven issues I have as it was only 12 weeks maximum I can have, how do I pick only one when they all have a significant number of major issues? But I can refer myself back to work on each of the issues and work on another then another and I’m just not seeing the point. I waited over 12 months to get into therapy and that would mean it’s going to take nearly a decade to sort out most of my problems, why is this so bad? Like I need major help and it’s only one out of many issues I can work on, I can’t work because of all of this and pip rejected my claim so I can’t afford to pay and I only got to choose from CBT or talking nothing specialised at all. It’s got to the point where I just can’t and don’t see the point in doing it and mayaswell just leave it as I’m struggling to see the point. 

The other thing is I can only get an appointment in the mornings one day a week which really doesn’t seem like it will work one little bit. I have major brain fog in a morning due to ADHD and so I will often forget about it, I asked if I could be called in the morning to remind me as a text on Monday is forgotten in a hour or so. I’ve tried alarms and alerts on my phone but they don’t work as it doesn’t make a noise and I barely sit on my phone to see the reminder and even when I do I still forget so I asked if I could be called on the morning of my appointment and was flat out refused as “they don’t have time for that”. This week I wasn’t too well and slept in until gone 12pm I slept through all my alarms. The phone call would really help but instead it’s now if you miss another I’m off the list, like I’m trying really really hard but I can’t do it alone but they just won’t do it. I had my appointment last week but over the phone as I missed and then got issued a miss again and you’ll be kicked off. 

Like how can I win at this? I’m mad they won’t provide me help with all my issues and then don’t know what is affecting me more out the lot of them. I asked for a reasonable adjustment of a call in the morning to jog my brain which was a big no, like I don’t get how a one minute call is an issue but it is. I went all over my deepest stuff which caused me so much anxiety and stress just to be told only pick one. This isn’t a good way of helping imho, and I can’t get treatment for my problems without it taking years if this is even the right therapy for me as I opted cbt for anxiety. I just don’t see it being any good for me at all and feel like it’s a big joke. I was rubbish at school with homework never mind this and all the stuff I have to do like be with mum etc. and i know I’ll barely remember to do it and the you only get 12 weeks max of the two worse types of therapy available I’m just not getting the point. 

Paying isn’t an option and I don’t know what to do my gut instinct is to just cancel it as a waste of time to be honest. Especially given I have adhd and they can’t make reasonable requests happen that wouldn’t take a few moments of their time for hells sake and my issues seem to be completely ignored or just not important enough. I’ve tried therapy 5 times and always came to this conclusion for one reason or another. I’m sick of my mental health issues just being ignored and lack of support for, I’ve had issues as long as I can remember and it took until I was 28 to get a adhd diagnosis (which I’m still awaiting treatment for). 

Why is uk therapy so rubbish and you’re made to fit a mold of 12 weeks only and done and cured. It doesn’t work that way at all in real life and 12 weeks for complex needs just isn’t enough. How is this even care to be honest? It’s negligent care at best. You can’t even see a psychiatrist for anxiety/ depression and GPs are rubbish at it and CMHTs reject referral after referral. Hell I had to go nhs funded private diagnosis for ADHD as my area has no adult service and the one that did has stopped referrals for that service. It’s a mess and reeves want to call us lazy, id love to work but my issues make it ridiculously difficult. 










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Also, put your appointment in the diary/calendar on your phone. \n\nI mean this with love, but it sounds like you need to take some personal responsibility for your this and find ways to get yourself up and to your appointment. As harsh as it is, no one can do this for you.', 'score': 21, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:07:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkenw09', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Given all the stuff you mentioned happening during your childhood this sounds like quite complex trauma that, as you say, this 12 week course cannot possibly cover.\n\nHowever sadly in the UK you have to jump through the hoops and complete these things and hopefully as you coming to close of sessions, there will be time to talk about what might help next. \n\nIts really frustrating and hard to even access MH care and I really feel for you. Regarding the morning appts, I do totally understand how difficult it can be, but honestly you got to take what you get. Have you friends who could ring you to wake you up? Can you ask GP for supportive sleeping medication you could use the night prior to appt? \n\nHope the sessions do end up being somewhat helpful and that afterwards, you also get further support. Good luck', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:29:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkekdsr', 'author': 'Funny_Relief2602', 'body': 'Yeah NHS therapy they tend to operate on strict schedule I know some therapies if you miss it 4 weeks in a row you get kicked  off. Your therapy is it 2 sessions entirely or two consecutive sessions. Try not to cancel the appointment is it possible if yoh can ask the therapist to send you reminders. I know theres therapies out there where you can go for free and it’s run by charities have you ever heard of something called the listening place ? Perhaps that might be a shout. Sorry if I’m repeating things I didn’t read the whole text entirely x', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:09:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf005c', 'author': 'Fridadog1', 'body': 'If you google wake up call service uk, there are different options to arrange for one… might be worth a try', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T02:35:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf59vc', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""I absolutely hate all the news coverage and that chancellor big balls deciding she's the right person to have a say on our condition. It adds a massive blow to all of our difficulties every day. I'm sorry, I know how utterly frustrating it is to be stuck in this system and not have a way out by financial means. PIP is such a strange system, it's definitely not accessible or even fair I'd argue. Lots of people fall through the cracks simply because we don't know how the system 'works' and it's not because we aren't experiencing the same issues as someone who gets it awarded, it's honestly a lottery in so many ways - let the fact that so many charities offer free advice and support around it and the amount of organisations out there who aim to help you win speak for that. \n\nI like someone's suggestion of a wake up call service, I might have to try that for myself tbh.  As well as the free charity sessions option. I hope you can consider giving these a go. I really get how infuriating it is to have no understanding for something that is for the most part completely out of your control. I don't know what to suggest without suggesting something which would require remembering and executive dysfunction to be able to utilise it. I second the advice about sleep medication (although I know inconsistency will still affect this working, I'm taking one myself for sleep). \n\nAlso could you ask for your appointments to be later? I don't know if it helps to mention but when I had this service last in my area I was offered a trainee who was a lot more flexible. I'm just wondering if having them later in the day then having them at the same time and day could give you some structure? It's worth asking because if you ask this shows you're really trying and just need them to meet you in the middle. \n\nIt's really stupidly tough out there."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:05:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkeo0na', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""I feel it is just a box-ticking exercise. I feel a lot of the staff realise it's a waste time so everyone is going through the motions. You can't even complain without a lot of patience, which people struggling with MH problems are usually blessed with!"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:29:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkf61s7', 'author': '98Em', 'body': 'Sounds stupid but have you already googled your postcode with key words like ""free ADHD support"", ""ADHD help near me"", or had a look at any of the virtual support groups? (I realise and appreciate though that this would have the same issue of forgetting about it closer to the time due to getting distracted)\n\nOne of my (not foolproof but helps) strategies is - acknowledge I get distracted easily. Don\'t put just one reminder in my calendar for an event, add one for the night before, the morning of and half an hour before. You could ask for the appointments to be by phone so that they will literally call you and you\'ll feel it vibrating? Most places will ring you anyways if you\'re late to sign into the online portal or whatever they use, it\'s strange that they didn\'t call you. \nI have an android phone and these let you choose to have multiple notifications for a calendar event like an appointment. It\'s a ball ache, it\'s miserable. But it works sometimes', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:09:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1166', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""I've just remembered something, if the sessions keep going this way and they won't accommodate you or cmht keep rejecting your referral, you can write to your local ICB (integrated care board) and explain that you have no accessible or suitable options and explain that cmht are rejecting your referral and someone else in the comments of another post said this led to them being offered help or a place in cmht was 'suddenly found'. \n\nI know it takes more executive functioning to sit and write this out but it's another option to help you feel like there might be other ways around this or more options."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:31:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkezq3g', 'author': 'RhubarbandCustard12', 'body': 'Explain your circumstances to them - ask for reminders by email and text and whatever else you need to comply. They of all people should make reasonable adjustments! Do the same yourself with phone reminders etc to double down. NHS services are so non-neurodivergent friendly it’s insane… am sorry you are going through this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T02:33:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgdemp', 'author': 'PandaBallet2021', 'body': 'Limited session therapy is not what you need but there are many low cost therapy options available eg Headstrong. NHS therapy will not be appropriate for you (I am a therapist)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T07:26:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk0gxf', 'author': 'muggylittlec', 'body': ""As someone who's previously worked as an NHS therapist. Sometimes it's at the discretion of the therapist whether to boot you for missed sessions. \n\nI never had people reach the criteria for kicking them off the list, but I was allowed to give some leeway if I felt the patient missed sessions for good reasons. \n\nUltimately though, ADHD is your issue to deal with and not the therapist's. Interesting, I also have ADHD and I set reminders in my phone for EVERYTHING. My calendar looks like I'm running a small country, not a single life."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:41:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkh4k3h', 'author': 'Head_Cat_9440', 'body': ""Therapy doesn't help everyone. \n\nYou could try diet and exercise,  new hobbies,  reading books about your conditions etc"", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T10:47:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmu0kg'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhcny1', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I get what you mean about getting up so the last few days I’ve started getting up at 7 no matter how much ive slept but it’s just remembering the appointments, like when you’ve got a million things going around your brain it just makes remembering the appointments so hard. I need to do something that will remind me of it, I may put a post it note on my kettle so when I get my morning tea it will remind me. I just need something to jog my brain if the appointment', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:08:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf5ohu'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhdm6o', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Thank you, my doctor hates sleeping pills so they won’t give me more than 5 at a time and I’m on two other meds for my anxiety and depression that make you sleep but if I’m hyperfoxusing on something I won’t even notice I’m tired. I’ll stick with it and see what she recommends after I’ve completed this course but to be honest it’s sounding like I’m just going to have to keep re referring myself back again and again tbh and their isn’t much more available in my area. I just wish they’d give me afternoon appointments like that would be a huge help but they only work half days which I find really strange like don’t they know what a full day is and surely it wouldn’t hurt the service to phone me in the morning to remind me but I’ll just have to try and find other ways.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:18:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mkenw09'}, {'comment_id': 'mkeo0p7', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'As I said if you miss two appointments no matter how far apart they kick you and I’ve asked for reminders on the day by phone so I don’t miss it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:29:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkekdsr'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhdrgl', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'That sounds good I’ll have a look into that as it would be really helpful tbh', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:19:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf005c'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhevua', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'For later appointments it’s not possible as they only work half days and my appointment is the latest one they offer so I’m stuck with that to be honest. Id love later appointments and usually always have them for the afternoon but they close at 1pm and finish appointments at 12:30 so that’s all I can get. Oh that woman is absolutely evil, well I actually think this whole government is, and I hate to say this but sunak was better than any of these people. And kier is the worse PM in history, it’s okay for him to have thousands and thousands of freebies yet take away from the disadvantaged it’s bonkers and he was the one saying taking the extra in UC would be cruel yet he’s now trying to cut benefits, utter hypocrisy from this lot.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:31:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf59vc'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhfm1e', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I get you I honestly don’t know how to set a reminder on my phone that makes a sound it’s just there on the screen but I really don’t look at my phone much so it’s a tough one unless I set an alarm to shower and another for the appointment. Not the one in calendar but the one that rings until you stop it type alarm, that may work actually.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:39:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mkf61s7'}, {'comment_id': 'mki25qs', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'That’s actually a really good idea I’ll get on the phone with them tomorrow to see if they can force something through as I’m reaching my breaking point a bit now and the last time that happened I had a severe episode of psychotic depression which was one of the worst things I’ve experienced and that includes a testicular torsion and needing surgery on my balls, I couldn’t walk for a week after that operation 😂😂', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:42:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mki1166'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhf7oe', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Yeah I’m gonna have to try more to remember, I really just need an a call for a couple of seconds to jog my mind and to me is a super easy reasonable adjustment for them to make.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:35:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mkezq3g'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhc04a', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Thank you, I just can’t afford it I’m on £70 - £60 a week (because UC Is one day a month not every 4 weeks so if I were to pay £40 for assessment and then 15 - 35 a week would be using a week or more worth of money on it. I wish the tribunal for pip would hurry up and deal with my case asap so that I could pay but it’s just not an option at this point, and so I could pay for adhd treatment so I can then work. It’s a vicious cycle of rubbish.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:01:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mkgdemp'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk6y5h', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'That’s like saying to a cancer patient that if they get very sick through no fault of their own and they have to miss something it’s on them because they’ve got cancer or if someone gets raped then it’s on them because they must have been half dressed or whatever. At the end of the day I have a medical condition that isn’t managed yet and I’m waiting for treatment, hopefully it should be treated soon but until then I have a disability which isn’t managed and need extra help and under the law they should make reasonable adjustments under the human rights act 2010.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T00:14:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk0gxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhg1ga', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'My diets pretty balanced to be honest and I walk the dog two hours a day so I’m okay on that front. I’ve already read all about it as I wasn’t sure what my issue was until I did that tbh. New hobby’s aren’t an issue with adhd you just get bored of them really quickly though if you get me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:44:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkh4k3h'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkm5d9', 'author': 'Negative_Cod_4747', 'body': 'That’s good progress! Whatever you’ve got to do, do it! Even if you have to put 100 sticky notes over your house to remind you, anything that will get you to this appointment. I know trauma can have a massive impact on concentration and memory, so you’ve got the double whammy of that with ADHD affecting things! It’s good to start trying to put better routines in place as this is what you’re going to have to do anyway. Medication for your ADHD will help a lot, but it still won’t be the cure for everything (I found this out the hard way). Good luck with everything, I really hope things get better for you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:32:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhcny1'}, {'comment_id': 'mkj2w2h', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I hope you get something out of the course. Unfortunately there is no way a service is going to take time to ring you and remind you about an appt later that day. They simply dont have the resources.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:49:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhdm6o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhzyez', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""Ah that really sucks. I'm sorry that there's no way around that (I sleep in a lot too despite the best intentions and setting alarms due to fatigue and feel guilty and ashamed each time). It's weird that they only work half days, did the therapist tell you this? I wonder if it's worth asking their general receptionist if this is the case for all therapists or just this particular one? In case you could be re allocated to someone who can accommodate later appointments if that makes sense. \nIf you can't and this is just a redundant point, absolutely try to get in touch with the free sessions somebody mentioned above (I can't remember the charity name sorry), to see if they can offer you a more appropriate time for sessions. And try googling the help in your area in case there's a few things that aren't very well known or new etc. \n\nI don't really have faith in anyone in politics honestly, they all seem to make reckless and unthought out decisions without ever troubleshooting them. The amount of expenses they are allowed to claim and the hypocrisy of the fact it's things like rent, energy bills etc. I won't get into it because it won't ever change I'll spend my energy doing the consultations and responding to them through scope etc instead"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:20:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhevua'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhu42t', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'Google it if you’ve not got an iPhone - it has step by step guides and recommendations', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:19:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhfm1e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhtxlb', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'https://support.apple.com/en-gb/102484#:~:text=In%20the%20Calendar%20app%2C%20tap%20the%20%2B%20button%20at%20the%20top,such%20as%20Repeat%20or%20List.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:17:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhfm1e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhz0fi', 'author': '98Em', 'body': 'I know what you mean. It\'s hard to stop our brains for a few minutes to think about doing something differently when we\'re always on auto pilot. I have that issue too, whenever it\'s time sensitive I set an alarm (but I know you can also get distracted on your way to set the alarm lol). \n\nI\'ve missed my insulin doses more times than I\'d like to admit because I was so tired and my brain wouldn\'t slow down and I just couldn\'t stop to think about what would help or to have the functioning to set an alarm so I believe you 100%. \n\nI managed to set an alarm for this which was every day and forever (so you might not have to set one each time, you can tell it how often and when/how many times and things like that) \n\nThen if you\'re in another room or leave your phone on charge it\'s easy to ""quickly go upstairs to get something"" then miss it. So please be kind to yourself if you do manage to give this a go - you can\'t mask everything and it\'s difficult. I second the guides below if you have an apple phone, but I find it\'s best to Google stuff like ""*insert your phone name and model here*, how to set a reminder with an alarm"" until you get something that makes sense. So for me it would be ""Google pixel 7 how to set a reminder with an alarm"" or words of a similar combination', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:11:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhfm1e'}, {'comment_id': 'mkizdyp', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""You're more than welcome, let us know how it goes if you do? If you have a free minute where you can focus today it might be worth finding their contact details today so you have the number ready (one less thing to get in your way).\nBut Jesus, that sounds like a very hectic and chaotic time. I've had similar experiences (no balls however, luckily by the sounds of it!) with psychosis and I hope you don't have to get to that point again 🤞"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:30:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mki25qs'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhtunx', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'Can you not set reminders in your phone using one of the calendar apps?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:17:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhf7oe'}, {'comment_id': 'mkntvq8', 'author': 'muggylittlec', 'body': ""I'm not to make you feel bad about your ADHD and issues, I do feel for you, I have two lifelong conditions covered under the disability act, so I have some idea of how shit it can be. I'm just trying to give you a little window into why the system is the way it is.\n\nYour therapist could be seeing dozens of patients, under pressure to hit targets and improve patient outcomes, they could have high risk patients with suicidal issues - I have been there myself and it's very very stressful.\n\nThey will be underpaid and overworked, I would wager they are telling the truth when they say they don't have time to call you.\n\nIf they saw a handful of people with ADHD each week and were required to call every one of them. They become responsible for you arriving at your appointment, Let's say they forget to call you, then you say it's their fault you didn't come to your session. They are now in trouble from managers for missed appointments.\n\nThe system is shite mate, and I am sorry you are struggling with it. I'm not defending it and saying it's great. 12 sessions are not enough, asking you to choose something to work on is crap. But the NHS is trying to use the resources they have in the fairest way they can.\n\nI hope you are able to get some help with the sessions you have been offered."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T15:40:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk6y5h'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhh86v', 'author': 'Head_Cat_9440', 'body': 'Do you know what kind of help you want?\n\nDrug treatment?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T12:57:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhg1ga'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkop00', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I’ve now set up 3 alarms to go off every Wednesday morning to remind me to wake up for therapy, then another an hour later saying shower for therapy and then on 15 minutes before the appointment to leave the house and go to therapy and then put a post it note on the cupboard to say therapy at 11am; So I’ve got four things to remind me about my appointment. I’m actually pretty proud of myself today for trying to organise my appointment Wednesday and now I hopefully won’t forget. Yeah my consultant said it won’t fix every problem but I’m mainly concerned about my ability to concentrate, remember things, loosing track of time and my impulses and hopefully motivation. I also had some great news that I’m at the top of titration waiting list and should start titration within 28 days but it should be sooner. Thank you for all your advice, I greatly appreciate it. God bless you!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:45:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mkkm5d9'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1onw', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'There’s no need to feel ashamed, ADHD depletes our energy immensely and it is a symptom of it. I’m always feeling fatigued to be honest and it’s horrible, especially the muscle aches that go with it. Yeah they only work in my area Wednesday mornings and no afternoons so I’m stuck with what I’ve got as I prefer face to face than phone calls but she marked I didn’t attend last week when I was sick but I said we can do it over the phone but she said to leave it until next week and then they’ve gone and changed the time to 11am instead of half past as she has a meeting at 12. Unfortunately this is the only service in my area for therapy but as you say I might try the one someone mentioned on here as an afternoon one would be ideal for me to be honest even if over the phone now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:37:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhzyez'}, {'comment_id': 'mki0b92', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Thank you for that info that’s what I did last week for my appointment but then the reminder doesn’t have an alarm to go off it just stays on the screen and unless I get a message or something then I don’t notice it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:24:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhu42t'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhu05v', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'https://support.apple.com/guide/iphone/set-reminders-iph88463e18/ios', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T15:18:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhtxlb'}, {'comment_id': 'mki0qtv', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I think I’m going to try just setting an alarm in the clock section for it to go off at 9 am to wake and shower then another at 11 so I can make my appointment for half past 11. I charge it up the night before and should be good for reminding me I hope. Thank you for your help, I know what it’s like to miss meds to be honest, like I’m in two antidepressants and I know I’ve forgot to take them when I just start feeling down and crying after a day or two. Thanks again bud', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:28:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhz0fi'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhzpuz', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Yes but it dosent have an alarm or anything it just shown on my phone but I rarely pick up my phone to look at it, like sometimes my phone will just sit in my pocket for a few hours so I don’t notice them.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:18:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhtunx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhjenj', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I’m waiting for adhd medications to help manage it better but I’ve been waiting 11 1/2 months from diagnosis and it’s been 2 years since I was referred for the assessment and waited just over a year for that assessment and currently waiting to try dexamphetamine for my ADHD, which I’ve heard also can cause anxiety and depression to get better as a consequence of my ADHD being out of control.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:21:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhh86v'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhjspm', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'I’m already taking two antidepressants but they don’t really help, they just take the edge off of my depression a bit. But the reason I went to therapy was to get non medicated management whilst I wait for treatment because it’s really hard for me to deal with and also my mums on end of life care so that’s making the depression and anxiety worsen and then help for physical and sexual abuse whilst being put in a kids house.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T13:25:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhh86v'}, {'comment_id': 'mkiynzu', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""Oh I completely agree with you there, the shame and guilt is just internalised after 24 years of being told it was my personality lol sorry. Thanks for the reminder though :) \n\nWith the muscle aches, and forgive me if I'm overstepping any boundaries here, have you heard of hypermobility? I mean anxiety and lots of other things can cause achey muscles, but it's closely linked to ADHD and ASD, I have it too so fully empathise with being achy too. Just wanted to mention it as it got to me having chronic pain everyday before I found out (again had to bring it up myself, NHS physio wouldn't have helped otherwise). \n\nThat's really crap, so you offered an alternative to the face to face but because she said to leave it to next week you've been marked as having missed an appointment? Damn they don't sound very flexible at all, sorry. That might be worth noting down in a notes app on your phone, for if you ever did complain and needed to remember everything. That shouldn't have been your fault at all. Again, very crap about the time change too - it sounds like you're trying your best and coming up against a lot of barriers. I hope you can get somewhere with the charity"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:27:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mki1onw'}, {'comment_id': 'mki1hsf', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""Well done for everything you're currently doing to try to manage and cope, even if it doesn't work please be kind to yourself as much as you can (says me who has pretty bad self talk lol).\n\nIt's such a battle when you only realise you've forgotten something *after* the consequences arrive haha. You're welcome"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:35:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mki0qtv'}, {'comment_id': 'mki5wdm', 'author': 'Stecoxy87', 'body': 'Set a reminder for the night before to remind yourself to set an alarm for the session', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:15:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhzpuz'}, {'comment_id': 'mki2uek', 'author': 'SignificanceJust4775', 'body': 'Yeah I’m not gonna worry about what happens at this point to be honest, like you’d think therapists would understand the difficulties of ADHD and help make adjustments so I’ll try and if it’s not good enough then oh well I’ll just try the place someone here mentioned and hopefully they have some understanding. It’s like when I called the crisis team and missed the call back and they only attempted one call and then just left me to it. Also, they don’t even do anything, I was having bad panic attacks and they just invited me for a cup of tea and talk when all I wanted was some meds for panic attacks like a low dose of diazepam or something but no it was come 15 miles for tea. I’m not allowed to drive so couldn’t get there 😂😂', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:48:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mki1hsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mkj0hne', 'author': '98Em', 'body': ""You would think so, I've had many that didn't too. I was lucky to have one with the last time I was with talking changes who I think had ADHD herself. But you probably know yourself when it gets complicated and you're only given so many sessions of standardized treatment it's like the tip of the iceberg isn't it, if anything. \n\nSimilar here with the crisis team, in my experience there's very little they can do. I'd have even appreciated an updated care plan or anything practical, just not 'have you tried having something to eat? Ok well ring us back in 4 hours if it doesn't get any better' (I had only rang *because* I'd tried distractions etc and it hadn't gotten any better). I really hope the wait isn't too much longer for you to be able to try ADHD meds, they can help a lot"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T20:36:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mki2uek'}]"
1jmrhtz,2025-03-29T23:00:34,SUN Meeting,"Has anybody been to an NHS SUN (Service User network) meeting? My team have told me to go because I don't want to do formal therapy right now (it's too much commitment as I am clinging onto a very busy job in a school) and they don't want me to do meds because of risk, but I don't know what to expect. I'm having to travel for it too. What kinds of people go? What kind of check in/out can I expect- are they quite heavy or more vague? Thank you from your local autistic ""I need to plan"" person",MentalHealthUK,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jmrhtz/sun_meeting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkdweeb', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T23:00:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmrhtz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkk11c4', 'author': 'radiantfyi', 'body': ""I have been to a SUN group for a while now and personally find it quite useful. At mine, a range of different people go, so it's quite hard to describe! During the session, people bring up any issues they've been having, and the group basically gives advice and offers support. It's very much based on peer support. It's very flexible, so at mine you can come and go as you like (the only requirement is that you might have to reregister if you don't attend for about 6 months). I'm also autistic and to be honest, it does take a bit of getting used to as, at least at mine, you might meet new people each time but there are likely to be regulars too!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T23:44:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmrhtz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkgezg4', 'author': 'Beneficial-Froyo3828', 'body': 'So I was offered a space in my local SUN group but only got as far as the initial steps, I never attended any meetings.\n\nI had to self-refer and apparently you’d check in and base the topic of that session off what was said in the check in.\n\nIf your local group has an email address, see if they can give you more specific information', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T07:36:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmrhtz'}, {'comment_id': 'mkq2aoy', 'author': '4rami4', 'body': ""Thank you so much this is very helpful! So there's lots of different types of people (with pd or pd-traits)? I'm just finding it really hard to sort of picture ahaha I am imagining it'll be lots of new people I hope they're friendly...\n\nAre people quite open? Or is it the kind of space where everyone is very mindful of triggers? Eg if I'm feeling suicidal is that something that I could share or would it be more appropriate to just refer vaguely to something like emotionl distress? Thank you again for your help sorry for so many questions!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T23:33:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mkk11c4'}, {'comment_id': 'mkr4453', 'author': 'radiantfyi', 'body': ""I've found that people are really friendly and that people listen. Also, people are very open! Like, in my one, you can talk pretty openly about suicidal thoughts and risk behaviours. Just be mindful that if you are at imminent risk of suicide (and I mean like you say that you'll do it as soon as you leave the group) they might have to tell someone but otherwise it's also very confidential at my one."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T02:42:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mkq2aoy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkr8iud', 'author': '4rami4', 'body': 'Thank you for all your help you are a gem!!!!!!!! Hope you are well 💛💛', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T03:05:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkr4453'}]"
1jm07fx,2025-03-28T22:44:43,"I’m just weak and pathetic, no one can help me any more than they already have","I’ve (37F) struggled with anxiety and depression my entire life, I’ve never felt any different. I’ve used drugs and alcohol since the age of 14 to numb my pain and make me feel ‘happy’, but I went to detox and rehab last year and have been in recovery for 9 months now. I got diagnosed with ADHD last year and am being treated for complex childhood trauma. I’ve had a lot of help, especially compared to the thousands of people who just cannot access psychological therapies, but my therapy is coming to an end soon and I feel like I’m only just beginning to make a dent in my issues.

But I just don’t feel any better. I can’t explain it, I just feel like life is still passing me by and I’m missing something everyone else has got. Like, I’m missing a trick somewhere. My house is an absolute mess, disgusting in fact, I haven’t changed my bed sheets in months, I haven’t cooked in months and just eat crap, I don’t do anything other than go to work and attend recovery groups, I have zero interests, never had a partner and just feel absolutely hopeless. 

I know I’ve got to move and do stuff, but I just can’t sustain any healthy behaviours, and that makes me feel so weak and pathetic. I just sit in my misery, getting flashbacks from the past, ruminating about my behaviour, hating myself, constantly beating myself up, which I know isn’t helpful, but I get so stuck in my thoughts. I’m getting more and more suicidal thoughts, I’m not at a point where I want to act on them as I know the pain it would cause my family, but I have previously put stuff in place like my will and written letters to loved ones, and feel like it wouldn’t take much to push me over the edge. I’m too scared to talk to my psychologist about this as I think it would look like an attempt to avoid discharge, and I think he would discharge me anyway as it’s clearly my mental health causing issues now and not my addiction (he’s an addiction psychologist). 

Mental health services are in crisis, so I know there is no help available from them, and why should I be entitled to more help anyway when I’m clearly not helping myself. ",MentalHealthUK,12,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jm07fx/im_just_weak_and_pathetic_no_one_can_help_me_any/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk7s6tk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T22:44:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk8bk1o', 'author': 'anxietyJames', 'body': 'I don’t know if I can say anything helpful right now but I can relate to a lot of the hopelessness and despair you’ve expressed. It sounds like you need to carry on with the therapy if it’s helping even a little. Might you be able to switch psychologists? You’re absolutely not weak and pathetic and it honestly takes so much courage and strength to keep going and you clearly have that. You’re also holding down a job despite everything. I’ve also experienced a lot of self hatred in the past, so I know some of the thought processes you’re dealing with, but despite what you’re telling yourself, I think you’re doing your best and you really need to start being kind to yourself.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T00:18:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc7u6o', 'author': 'Wild-Ad8124', 'body': ""I feel like I could have written this, I relate so much to everything you said. I think you should speak up and tell them how you feel, not worry about their reaction or how they would interpret it. If I've learned anything from the NHS / CMHT is that you need to demand help and be your own advocate because no one will do it for you. They use any excuse to not have to help you because they are so underfunded. You have to be proactive (although I know that's hard when you're struggling, which is the irony of it all)"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:44:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk94iov', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Hello. Just wanted to say what you said really resonated with me and just so you know, I think there are plenty of us living like you. We are doing our best. You are doing amazing, engaging in detox/ recovery and therapy!! Honestly that is incredible. I know it is hard to feel it sometimes but just from an outside perspective, you are really doing amazing, not weak and pathetic at all. I do totally understand how you feel and I often feel same. You are not alone and sending hugs', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:43:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkcfwgx', 'author': 'ArmouredBardi5', 'body': ""I thought I must have written this and forgotten about it. Your story really resonates with me OP. In my late 30s, divorced, unemployed, depressed and addicted. I was incredibly successful before the end of my marriage, but the constant mental and verbal abuse took its toll and I lost everything.\n\nLike you, I want to take my life back and DO SOMETHING! I can just about take care of myself, or at least I'm muddling through day by day but never making anything better.\n\nI wish I was in a better place to be able to give you advice OP but I don't have all the answers. All I can say is that you aren't alone (even if you feel it) and there are places to reach out to. The Samaritans have been a rock to me.\n\nIf you can find the energy, check your local private therapists and call around, explain your situation and see if they will do a concession for you if you struggle to pay for it. Even finding someone in training can help and is often cheaper, having a mirror held up to your face is painful but an important step.\n\nFeel free to reach out and DM if you'd like. You can do this, we all can do this."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T17:53:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm07fx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk993ay', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Thank you so much, I know I need to be kinder to myself, it’s something I’ve been told over and over, but it just won’t stick. There’s no one I can switch to, he’s the only one in the service, and to be fair, he’s seen me more than he probably should have already. I’m doing EMDR at the moment, but because I’m so anxious about therapy ending soon, it’s blocking me as I don’t feel like I can open up about everything I need to. \n\nHow did you heal your feelings of self hatred?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T03:07:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mk8bk1o'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyow5', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'You are so right! I even had this talk off my psychologist last year, he sat me down and told me I can’t continue to sit in a corner, that I have to fight for myself as no one else will! I’d forgotten about that to be fair', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:08:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mkc7u6o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk9b0wx', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Thank you, I appreciate that, I guess I find it hard to see how well I’m doing because I feel so low still, but you’re right, I need to give myself a pat on the back sometimes! \n\nWhen I see my key worker and psychologist, I just feel like I’m so negative and it’s probably wearing thin with them. They are so supportive and reassuring, so when I’m constantly going in with negative thinking, I feel like it must look like I’m choosing to stay in my misery. I know only I can change my thinking and I need to start appreciating how far I’ve come a lot more. I really am grateful to be in recovery, it’s just sometimes it feels tempting to go back to drugs to feel something other than this emptiness, but I know that would just cause me more pain than ever! \n\nIt breaks my heart to know how many people are out there suffering, many with no help at all… I fear this crisis with mental health is just going to get worse until some serious money is thrown into mental health services!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T03:17:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mk94iov'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhyj93', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Hey, thank you for reaching out, sorry to hear about what you’ve gone through and what you’re continuing to go through! It’s like having two brains at times isn’t it; one saying this is what I want, but the other pulling you away from it. I just can’t find the motivation to do the things I want, and even when I do, I just end up feeling worse due to my low self esteem and constant flashbacks to the past. \n\nHave you found a therapist privately that’s really helped you? I have had a look to be fair and found one locally that has good reviews, but I’m just worried they won’t be able to do the deep trauma work with me. I’ve tried looking for trauma specific therapists, but there doesn’t appear to be any in my area. I’ve probably been spoilt seeing a psychologist to be fair, because when I went to rehab, my counsellor was very supportive, but it was very much ‘how does that make you feel’ work. I’m more interested in working on the deeper issues of my childhood and how they have translated into adulthood. It doesn’t help that I’m a very deep thinker and intellectualiser, so probably not the easiest person to work with! \n\nAnd agree re Samaritans, they were amazing last year when I was going through my crisis!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:06:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkcfwgx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkblqq6', 'author': 'anxietyJames', 'body': 'Hey, you’re very welcome. Has he given any indication that your sessions will have to come to an end soon? You really need some certainty that the EMDR will continue, as you say. I guess I’m still work in progress. I still experience a lot of negative self-talk. Medication helps me a lot, which I’m grateful for. I guess one way I think about it is that when I’m thinking something horrible about myself, I ask what I’d say to another person who had just said that about themselves. I’ve also started to accept that I’m the way I am because of past trauma, my adhd and anxiety, and that’s not my fault, and that I’m doing my best in challenging circumstances, which you are, too. How are you feeling this morning?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:41:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mk993ay'}, {'comment_id': 'mk9xv4x', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': ""Oh man I could have written that bit about feeling like im so negative around my CPN. I actually told my psychiatrist last time we met, 'i'm not choosing to be unwell. I dont want to feel like this. If I could just magically feel and do better I would!'\n\nI feel like my team must surely be frustrated with me because I do get a high level of care but also havent really gotten better at all, in fact worse? \n\nPlease do remember to give youself a pat on the back. You a badass dealing with this all and keep on going every day!!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T05:24:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9b0wx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkqkv9m', 'author': 'ArmouredBardi5', 'body': ""I'm working with a good qualified psychotherapist that I luckily stumbled upon through a friend of a friend. But it's slow work and as much as I wish my therapist could grab me but the collar and shake some sense into me, it all comes down to me finding the effort from somewhere to actually make changes. You ain't a puppet and no one's moving the strings for you.\n\nAlbert Camus' books helped me to put life, people and my own convictions into perspective, and studying psychology has given me a good number of self-reflective tools to use at home (but stay away from self diagnosis), so I'd suggest these if you have the patience. I think you'd find the Outsider interesting.\n\nI've also started using Tarot for daily reflection (not divination, not spiritual or religious at all these days) stating either a question or aspect of myself I'd like to work on that day. I then use the cards to look at it from various perspectives. It's an interesting way of playing devil's advocate with your own bias and broadening your understanding of how your brain works. Jungian Tarot is a fascinating approach to this, or the Fools Journey for discovering parts of your character that might have been neglected as you grew up.\n\nDo you know the issues that stem from your childhood or do you want to discover them? Hypnotism can be useful to deep dive into repressed memories that you can then work on with specialists.\n\nAnd what are your thoughts on using online therapists (such as Betterhelp) to find someone that suits your needs? I haven't used the service but might be worth a shot?\n\nThe Samaritans rock. I went to an introduction session the other week to become one, but I just don't have the emotional strength to do it at the moment. One day hopefully."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T01:06:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mkhyj93'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc3zl1', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'I think you’re right, I need to have a clearer timeline as I just cannot deal with uncertainty, but if I know it’s going to be X amount of sessions, I can prepare myself better.\n\nThis is exactly what I was thinking yesterday after reading your comment, that if someone else posted what I did, I’d be thinking ‘they should be proud of what they’ve achieved’! I then tried to give myself some positive talk, but the feelings of shame just won’t allow me to, it’s a bloody hard tug of war going on in my head! \n\nHaving trauma and ADHD is rough isn’t it, each compounds the other, but ADHD meds have definitely helped me to some degree, things aren’t quite as bad as they used to be. I push back against using antidepressants too though as I feel like they make me even flatter and numb, but I also can’t go on like this, so may have to give them another go. \n\nBetter this morning, thank you for asking! I have PMDD too, so think that was affecting me a lot yesterday! Hope you’re all good!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:06:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mkblqq6'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc4avx', 'author': 'Hex946', 'body': 'Thank you, I did, just need to try and maintain the positive self talk and stop the shame taking over! \n\nWhat did your psych say when you said that? Maybe we are just where we need to be in this process, they do say things get worse before they get better in treatment, but it just feels never ending doesn’t it! I’m also extremely self aware and a big over thinker, so this doesn’t help as I’m constantly analysing my thoughts and not allowing myself to just feel. I think this forms some of the frustration my psychologist probably feels', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:09:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9xv4x'}]"
1jlrk7u,2025-03-28T15:30:59,What to expect when getting sectioned?,I've been sectioned u der sectioned 2 of the mental health act. I haven't been told anything that's going on besides a price of paper that starts I'll be her for up to 28 day and that I can appeal that. I've never been section an I'm wondering if anyone here has and can give me an I site to what is waiting for me.,MentalHealthUK,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlrk7u/what_to_expect_when_getting_sectioned/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk5qtb8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T15:31:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlrk7u'}, {'comment_id': 'mk95mns', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Hey just wanted to say it must feel very scary right now but you are safe and you will be getting help. Psychiatric wards are used primarily to stabilise patients, often with medication, who are at risk of harm in the community. Inpatient admission is usually as brief as possible with care continued in the community. Please also ask them to call or speak to anyone that you need to. Sending you hugs and happy to chat anytime.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:49:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlrk7u'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6kll6', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Mind have some info [here](https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/legal-rights/sectioning/about-sectioning/) :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:07:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlrk7u'}]"
1jlqn46,2025-03-28T14:21:25,How to get diagnosed with GAD? Or social anxiety disorder?,"Ive been struggling since I was 11 and I’ve always been too scared to get help. Today I finally called my local GP surgery to ask for an appointment, and they gave me helplines. I don’t want helplines, I want a diagnosis. Can someone give me a script to follow or just some advice? Can you even get a diagnosis? ",MentalHealthUK,2,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlqn46/how_to_get_diagnosed_with_gad_or_social_anxiety/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk5k9kk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T14:21:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlqn46'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6l0wu', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I don’t think there’s a script to follow. A GP can diagnose common MH conditions but their focus is gonna be trying to help you which is why they suggest things like helplines. If you’re in England you can self refer to NHS talking therapies who treat symptoms of anxiety. Your GP record might also have info about why you called, they might not diagnose you with anything just based on the call, but id check to see what they put there maybe', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:10:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlqn46'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6f6m7', 'author': 'Kellogzx', 'body': 'Can I ask what a diagnosis would do for you? There’s a lot of movement towards not diagnosing now within the nhs. But the GP can diagnose things like depression and anxiety. If you’re over 18 you could try talking therapies.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T18:36:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlqn46'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6hkuk', 'author': 'usuauwwb', 'body': 'I need a diagnosis of social anxiety and GAD to help with PIP, other benefits, employment if i ever do get a job, etc. I need proof that i have a condition. Also for clarity reasons too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T18:50:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mk6f6m7'}, {'comment_id': 'mknw7r0', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Just to let you know if you weren’t aware you don’t need a diagnosis for PIP you can just tell them how your symptoms impact your life :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:03:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mk6hkuk'}]"
1jlm2ab,2025-03-28T09:05:42,Can you get diagnoses without doing therapy?,"I feel and am more productive and positive when not thinking about therapy (both therapy itself or thinking about ""I want to do therapy"", which for me is just negativity and encouraging self-powerlessness/seeing myself as unable/dependent on a professional (who is just another person, with no more wisdom than someone who's actually been in my shoes), rather than focusing on practical skills and self-empowerment and focusing on what I can do, rather than waiting for someone else to catch up with me (since a lot of the ""therapy"" solutions I've read in books are things I already thought of and started doing myself, so going through therapy is actually a backwards step of undoing my own solutions, while waiting for a therapist to give me their solutions) or talking about weaknesses). However, getting diagnoses is practically useful. I can self-treat and have (eg ptsd, ocd, anxiety attacks, all self-treated by ya know - actually reading, thinking up possible solutions and practicing them over the course of years, while people who do therapy end up never treating them successfully because they're made to believe they're incapable of more and get boxed in by others, no different than a bad teacher, bad parent or prejudiced person would do), but it only ""counts"" to other people with diagnosis. I only want diagnoses, and then to do the rest myself/non-therapy sources - same as for my adhd diagnosis (for this I do actually plan to get medication though) and physical health problems - you can get a diagnosis and then not have to get further treatment. Rather than having to do therapy first to get diagnoses.",MentalHealthUK,0,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlm2ab/can_you_get_diagnoses_without_doing_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk4mij7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T09:05:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6kg8t', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Diagnosis is usually used to guide treatment e.g. if you go to a GP and they diagnose you with anxiety or depression, they’ll do so so they can then offer treatments e.g. antidepressants, talking therapy. If you’re not looking to be treated or get help from anyone a GP appt might be a bit pointless cos they’re there to help not just to put stuff on your notes and not do anything. But if you’re open to that first step would be seeing a GP', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:07:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mki75he', 'author': 'dbxp', 'body': ""That's not how therapy works, the therapist is just a facilitator for you to work out things with yourself.\n\n\nWhat are you looking to get out of a diagnosis if you're just going to self treat?"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T17:26:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc3w4h', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': ""Possibly yes, but I don't think it's ethical\n\nIf there's are say 10 psychiatrists slots a day + 200 unwell people that either desperately want/desperately need treatment, why would it make sense for you to take up one of those slots when it's not going to be followed by treatment + you seem confident in your ability to solve yourself? Is it worth adding to such an oversubscribed service for the sake of your own curiosity? Tomorrow it'll be 220 people that need help. Next week it'll be 280. Can you justify making one of those people wait to scratch an itch?"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:05:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlm2ab'}, {'comment_id': 'mk954zb', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'This. If you in UK your GP is your first port of call. GPs should be able to diagnose some mental health issues including anxiety, OCD and PTSD. They might also offer medication if that was something you wanted to try. It sounds like youve done a lot of work yourself and your GP should be able to help you with what you want if you book appt and talk to them.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:46:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mk6kg8t'}]"
1jllw3t,2025-03-28T08:56:32,Physical health issues,"I have epilepsy as well as BPD and I am finding it unbelievably hard to cope with. I was under a section three for five months last year until December and been discharged and since have had very minimal follow up from CMHT who now when I do see them I just feel worse as they are so shockingly rude and unhelpful. I had another significant attempt last month  where I was discharged home which I was fine with. I then had an appointment with my care co ordinator who said ‘I saw you was in hospital over the weekend, was this a mental health hospital?’ to which I was so confused about as obviously a mental health professional surely wouldn’t think I was just in a psychiatric ward for two days over the weekend? But even if she did get mixed up thats fine, but the support from them is far and few between that I don’t even class it as that. I miss CAMHS so much that it hurts, my worker there was so helpful and respectful. My epilepsy is really severe at the moment and on top of having BPD my days feel like genuine torture. I am tired of having to use DBT skills that don’t ever seem to make any difference and everything else that is supposed to help because I really do try everything so hard. And just because I’m not engaging with risk behaviours all the time I don’t feel anyone is that particularly bothered. I think now I’m not an active danger to myself and not constantly doing bad things to distract myself my brain is just hurting now I’ve finally got time to think. I keep seeing things all the time too that aren’t there like black figures - they aren’t scary or there to hurt me I just am aware they aren’t real but this is new and I don’t know how to navigate speaking to somebody about it. I am unsure on what the purpose of this post was but its 3:25am and I think I’m just looking for some reassurance I’m that not the only person in the world who feels lonely and this sub really helps with that . 
Sorry for the long post",MentalHealthUK,9,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jllw3t/physical_health_issues/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk4l5au', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T08:56:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jllw3t'}, {'comment_id': 'mk4stz8', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': '‘And just because I’m not engaging with risk behaviours or an active danger’\nYou couldn’t have phrased that better, it’s so frustrating and just downright depressing at the lack of help being given when your not at immediate risk :(\nI can’t give any advice on the epilepsy due to have never experiencing this but the bpd I can definitely relate to. \nAlways here if you need a chat or advice about things', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T09:50:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jllw3t'}, {'comment_id': 'mk5eoxs', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Sorry you having such a hard time with your health. I cant believe the lack of support from your cmht. I hope you manage to get the support you need and the peace you deserve', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T13:19:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jllw3t'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7vpi9', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Thankyou so much, its so frustrating', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:01:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mk4stz8'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7vm4w', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Thankyou so much, I know I can’t believe it either I can’t wait for the day I don’t need them', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:00:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mk5eoxs'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7yiiw', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Its so awful. You made to feel like you are literally begging for help and then you have to be grateful for the breadcrumbs of care you are thrown.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:14:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7vm4w'}]"
1jld191,2025-03-28T02:09:13,GP believes it’s just my hormones,"Recently had the courage to go GP for my mental health problems, which I’ve had for as long as I can remember. It does get worse around my period, but even outside that timeframe I’m constantly experiencing mood swings, feeling empty inside constantly, anxiety around the smallest things, suicide ideation every day, etc. I mentioned this all to my GP, I even wrote it all down so I didn’t stumble over my words or completely shut up from the anxiety of talking face to face to someone about my problems. First appointment went well but then I did a second appointment and she completely focused on my pre-period symptoms. Suggesting it’s just PMS, which I did consider and I bought it up with her in the first appointment, but stressed on how I felt like this every day. Not just the week before my period. 
I’ve self- referred to therapy and given birth control to see if it helps. I’m grateful for even anything but it just felt like she ignored everything else. Incredibly frustrating because she said “It might just be hormonal since you’re still young, you’re under 25 so I don’t think any anti-depressants is necessary.” I might be overreacting, but I can’t help feeling frustrated over it. ",MentalHealthUK,4,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jld191/gp_believes_its_just_my_hormones/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk2hm71', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:09:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2ko8a', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'You are perfectly valid for being frustrated. Even severe pre pms symptoms have a name - PMMD which is a serious mental health condition, I’m sorry this happened. GPs very often see  female hormones as the root of issues when it is not the case', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:24:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk50vqk', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': 'Just keep making appointments till you get the outcome you want lol it’s what I did, they got sick of me', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T10:57:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk5gmit', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'I hear you. Like technically it could be severe pms (pmdd) but imo pms should impact someone to the point it’s disabling', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T13:40:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfi3rc', 'author': 'NoAnt4221', 'body': 'it’s unfortunately a battle to get the right treatment. keep fighting for what you need. keep a note of your symptoms over a two week timeframe, when you aren’t on your period, and go back to the GP to tell them you tried to do what they suggested but it’s getting worse / not improving your quality of life. ask for a referral to community mental health services , or camhs if you are under 18. they should refer you without complaint. camhs take a long time to accept you, but other counselling like YCT is available in the mean time. hope you get some support', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:19:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jld191'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2ow46', 'author': 'sip_the_lgbtea', 'body': 'Thank you :(\nI’ve looked into PMS and PMDD, and I definitely relate to those, though mine feel like it makes my mental health symptoms worse rather than it just being PMS. \nI’m just really really frustrated because I’ve gone to the GP before for autism, met with a similar disinterested reaction and I didn’t go back for a year or two until now when I had a really bad breakdown.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:45:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2ko8a'}]"
1jlcogy,2025-03-28T01:55:11,Toxic relationship with the NHS,"Work is exhausting and demoralising. We don’t have the resources - not to do a good job, mind - but just to function, to do the bare minimum, to provide half-decent mental health care. Colleagues are making themselves ill with stress or having to go off sick. Everyone is so, so fucking tired. 

I’m stressed and burnt out, I’m working late, I feel like I can’t set healthy boundaries without leaving tasks undone or putting colleagues and patients at risk, I’m getting teary and irritable at work, I’m too tired to do anything on days off. Nevermind work-life balance, I barely have a life full stop.

And just to add insult to injury, when things get so bad that it’s me who needs the care, when it’s time for the system I work so hard for to reciprocate - hospital admission, 6 month wait for CMHT, finally an appointment when GP nags, meds, maybe a follow up in 3 months. We constantly tell people they recover in the community, not hospital! We say all the time that meds aren’t the only solution! And you know there's little point asking for more support because there just isn't enough to go around, what support exists is rationed based on acuity and risk.

I’m so sick of running myself ragged for this system that can’t care for me as an employee OR as a patient.

The anger isn’t even really at the NHS itself; it’s at the years of underfunding and selling bits off, decimating it, running it into the ground, and that it can’t and won't get better without the people with the power truly wanting change. And that makes me so very sad. ",MentalHealthUK,79,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlcogy/toxic_relationship_with_the_nhs/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk2euoh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T01:55:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2no30', 'author': 'Accomplished_Leg9575', 'body': ""I think the majority, if not all, of us working for NHS mental health services can 100% relate to you. I definitely feel the same as you. It's just... so exhausting.  You go into these professions because you want to help, you want to make a change, you care, but you're stuck in a system that is chronically underfunded and there is simply very little support for those who need it, especially those who need it most. You deal with so much stuff that clients struggle with - which is fine, that's your job, but the issue is you're constantly expected to do more, more, more. No wonder we all burn out so quickly and so frequently. Yet, when we need support, there doesn't seem to be any, because like you said, we're on the patient side of things, and being in the system, we know how little is available... it's exhausting and feels like we're fighting a losing battle. I speak with so many colleagues these days who feel like the NHS is failing them as both MH professionals and patients."", 'score': 24, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:39:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2w6mv', 'author': 'Willing_Curve921', 'body': ""If you are in this situation just get out. \n\nWhile there are some teams and services that are still functional and worth working for (usually niche), if you are in the type of mainstream service I think you are, you need to save yourself. Those services will chew through clinicians and spit them out without any thanks. No matter what you offer it will never be enough. \n\nOnce you are out of the system, it is likely your outlook will change and you will feel better. Most of the people who qualified the same time I did are leaving to go private, for more manageable caseloads, better working conditions and the ability to do better work. Or into management, teaching or research gigs. I can't think of one that wants to come back.\n\nNo one is happy with NHS services and many outright view staff with contempt and hatred. You even see it on this subreddit. Ultimately, MHPs deal with a lot, but I think it is this last point that will ultimately destroy what is left of the system, and it will just becomes a pile of leaflets in a GPs office and a dodgy AI chatbot.\n\nYou deserve better than this."", 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T03:19:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2k2an', 'author': 'Bom_Bag_3848', 'body': 'I’m sorry. I appreciate you. I hope you find some peace in this world, you deserve it.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T02:21:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3wt9m', 'author': 'Cooking_With_Grease_', 'body': '*TW: Self harm. - Marked as spoiler.*\n\nAs with any job, when it gets like this, you ***need*** to put yourself first. As hard as it is. you have to, like you said.. the system doesn\'t care.\n\nTo the system, you\'re just another number, that it has to pay at the end of the month.\n\nI understand how rewarding your job is, but...\n\nYou\'re trading your mental health for a job that doesn\'t care about it, despite ***the very system in question saying they care about it.*** \\- They obviously do not practice what they preach, It\'s so painfully obvious.\n\nAs things go, You can\'t measure the gap that hypocrisy has taken up, as it\'s so enormous.\n\nAs an alturist, yeah, it\'s incredibly difficult leave a job you obviously love doing. -  It\'s hard when the very thing that champions mental health doesn\'t care about mental health.\n\nI used to work in retail, before I knew any better, I started to hate it. It really started to affect my mental health and I become suicidal, I stayed for the money and it was a bad decision.... - I was told by one of the people that worked there,\n\n**""Never put your job, above your mental health""** \\- I took that as literal. -\n\nI handed in my notice at work after I\'d assaulted another team member (That I honestly deeply regret doing) after I had a break down in the staff room in front of management where I told them to fuck off and I was gonna >!Kill myself!<\n\nI\'ve also quit 3 other jobs once I\'d figured out the signs, *I regret none of them*, **My mental health is comes first, every single time.** \\- Fuck the system. it only serves itself, it\'s time to serve YOURSELF, Save YOURSELF.\n\n..........as a former hospital patient though, as I\'ve been in hospital more times than I can even remember... I genuinely thank you SO MUCH for looking after us. - I know it can be a pretty thankless job sometimes but seriously, you do such an amazing job. So dedicated too, literal angels you lot are..... - Such nice people and deserve SO MUCH more then whatever your paid.\n\n\\- You might not be appreciated by the system but I appreciate you. Stay strong and I really hope things get better for you. x', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T06:31:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbnevw', 'author': 'Fizzy68', 'body': 'I don\'t have much useful from a staff perspective to say, but as a patient who spent 3½ years across various wards and was particularly observant - i could tell to some degree when the staff were suffering with their own issues. it\'s so incredibly unfair as many staff are so incredibly dedicated and caring to the core values of their job, but the way the NHS treats them leads to burnout and poor mental health within the workforce. im so sorry that you\'re struggling, I wish it was as easy as me saying ""go to your GP! get some help!"" but I think we know more than anyone that it\'s not that easy. I really hope you are able to find some support somewhere, sending love', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T13:00:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbzawg', 'author': 'virus-of-life', 'body': 'Honestly well said👏🏼👏🏼 I’m in a similar situation to you', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T15:15:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkeb36u', 'author': 'No_Whereas_5203', 'body': ""Too true what you say unfortunately.  I was also denied any therapy in hospital to be told its in the community.. which it wasn't. \n\nI don't know how you do it. I quit working in care because I couldn't cope with not being able to do my job properly. Mental health services must be worse. And then a lot of the good staff burn out and quit."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:18:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mko4yph', 'author': 'Pleasant-Baseball327', 'body': 'I also work for nhs it’s depressing and draining I’m a porter and I totally agree 👍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T17:17:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3fn9l', 'author': 'hugoreyes2016', 'body': 'This post makes me nervous about starting a mental health nursing degree next year!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:57:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlcogy'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc6sob', 'author': 'Wild-Ad8124', 'body': ""The NHS needs so much more funding, especially mental health services. If the right help was available to those who need it, we wouldn't have so many people burnt out or out of work. It's really frustrating. And the underfunding doesn't make sense from a financial perspective, there are so many people who could be working, contributing to society, paying taxes etc. who are reliant on benefits because their mental health got in the way of doing that."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:34:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2no30'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3s4gb', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'I don’t think some people realise just how much of the NHS functions on staff goodwill, missed breaks, no lunch, staying late, working at home etc.\xa0', 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T06:05:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2w6mv'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3mwtn', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'Thank you. I’m taking your advice seriously as someone irl told me to move to another team. I care so much about this job and really love it at times but with the lack of staff, resources, money, interest from the higher ups, it all feels unchangeable.\n\nNot helping is that I maybe returned to work too soon whilst still waiting to see a psych, obviously not ideal but, money. Think this added stress hasn’t exactly aided recovery. \xa0\n\nI really appreciate your comment, thanks for responding. I’ve resolved to put some healthy boundaries in place starting today. Or leave for another role if I can’t keep them. I do deserve better than this.\xa0', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:36:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2w6mv'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3nfee', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'Thanks friend, same to you.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:39:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2k2an'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3ksqw', 'author': 'Alive-Shallot-6092', 'body': 'It’s all true but also I’m venting, low mood. The conditions are bad but if it were all bad it would be easy to just leave.\xa0', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:25:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3fn9l'}]"
1jlbq5k,2025-03-28T00:37:40,I don't know what to do.,"I'm 23 years old, male, failed school, I've had two entire jobs in my life, one at KFC and one at Taco Bell, and I barely held them down for a couple of months before ghosting because I just couldn't handle them, being in such crowded environments, constantly shouted at and shoved around while being on my feet for hours at a time. I'm on UC which is the only reason I'm not homeless, Most of it going towards paying rent to my mum, without her, I would definitely be on the street and probably would have taken my own life by now, she is the only person in my life I can really consider a friend, everybody else is Facebook friends from my past at school who I haven't spoken to in years. The job market is hell for me, it's impossible for me to even get an interview, how can I explain away multiple year long gaps in my CV, even assuming I did get an interview, I'd be fucked. I can barely function, I leave the house a maximum of two times a month for Job Center appointments and Seetecc work and health support appointments, which basically just consist of them asking what I'm doing to find work and what I'm applying for, both of which drive me crazy with stress. I can barely handle just those, knowing that fucking up and missing one, not applying to enough jobs or saying the wrong things will get me sanctioned and unable to pay rent, my mum wouldn't kick me out, but I already feel unbearable guilt for only giving her so little. Even while outside I can't shake the feelings of everybody judging me, thinking the worst of me. While inside, all I do is dread my next appointments, they feel like interrogations, they don't care about me, they just want an excuse to sanction me. I waste my days away applying for ""entry level"" jobs that I'll never get and probably don't have the capacity to do anyway, playing stupid video games I don't even like, and doomscrolling, not even bothering to get dressed, I sit in bed in my underwear, the only times I bathe or shave is the night before my appointments, so I look presentable, or at least as presentable as possible, with dark circles under my eyes and skin as pale as a sheet I look like a walking corpse, my hair is long, knotty and messy. I haven't had a haircut in years and don't plan to anytime soon.

I feel useless. I made an attempt on my life a couple of years ago via overdosing on painkillers, my mum took me to hospital, they asked me some questions, I answered, they just sent me on my way and gave me phone numbers to call. I never called them. Phonecalls are terrifying to me. I never received prescripted medication, diagnosis or anything following my hospital visit. 

I am 100% sure there is at least something wrong with me, but I don't know what to do. Who do I contact..? I looked up a mental health self referral form, but it asked me for a GP or Surgery. I haven't been to a GP appointment in over 10 years, and I don't know how I'm supposed to get one, I've been told to call them, but what do I tell them..?

I just want to know how I can get checked for mental health issues.



",MentalHealthUK,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jlbq5k/i_dont_know_what_to_do/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk274te', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T00:37:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2acv2', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'GP is defo first step :) You just give them a call or see if there’s a way to book online. Maybe your mum could help if you struggle with phone calls. You can just say it’s for mental health reasons.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T01:19:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk77xbw', 'author': 'Fridadog1', 'body': 'I second the advice you have had about speaking to your GP. It also sounds like the jobs you tried don’t match your temperament/skills. Maybe have a think about the types of environments that you enjoy, or at least aren’t overwhelming. Then think about what jobs might allow you to work in that kind of environment. \n\nIt is easier to get a job when you are doing something - working, or studying. If you can think of one that works for you, an apprenticeship might really work. Or you could have a look at courses at your local FE college, see if there is something that you could enjoy and might help you get a job that would work for you. \n\nIt sounds like you might also benefit from becoming part of a community. Maybe look at clubs near you. The council usually has cheap programmes to support people to be active, like tennis lesson in local parks etc. I would recommend seeing whether there is anything that interests you… there will be other people with at least one common interest in the club, and they can be a good place to make friends. \n\nGood luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T21:06:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6r3a9', 'author': 'JesseKansas', 'body': ""GP is first step for the mental health stuff. If unable, Talking Therapies have online forms usually and do assessment referrals in case it's anything they can't deal with (which given you've not had the stepped model of therapy yet, they should take your case).\n\nJobs-wise, apprenticeships are good! I have severe mental health issues (inc a voluntary inpatient stay and depressive symptoms) and given they're entry level (ie designed for people just leaving school) and usually have formal support (at college on day release or through the apprenticeship provider) you don't usually get treated too badly. There's no rush to get a job so quickly - I'd see about getting an employment and support worker thru any mental health service you end up getting put on - they can help provide documentation for a LCWRA decision w/ UC which would eliminate the jobcentre appointments and give you an extra £400 each month and no job search commitment (not to say that you can't work on LCWRA, you just don't get punished for doing it!)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:42:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6sckg', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': 'Get the name of your GP, give them a call, or they might have an online appointment system on their website. Try and be as honest as possible, trust me, it’s in your best interests to be. They might prescribe meds or do a closer examination etc. They can also give some advice hopefully. I’ve been in a very similar boat, I just got prescribed sertraline recently for my anxiety and depression. Hoping things will be bright for you in the future.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:49:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}, {'comment_id': 'mk85yb1', 'author': 'teaforvi', 'body': 'we have such similar situations. I have also had only a couple of jobs (kfc included lol) and quit them all after a month, I’ve even quit jobs after 2 shifts because I just can’t handle it, i feel like I’m constantly in fight or flight mode while working. I literally sit at home all day playing roblox living off my mum, it’s the worst feeling. I’d recommend you go to a local GP and they will probably prescribe you antidepressants and refer you to a mental health service. You have to keep an open mind with them, the process is quite difficult and you have to be willing to change. I’m pretty sure you’d just call a local doctor near you and ask for an appointment to discuss your mental health issues. Like just call and say ‘hello i would like an appointment to talk about some issues I’ve been having with my mental health for a long time.’ I know it’s scary but you have to do it if you want to feel better and live a functioning life. I’ve not had much luck with antidepressants (ssris specifically) but my gp recently put me on venlafaxine after i tried to overdose on my old antidepressants, so hopefully it works and makes me less useless and hateful of the world. I hope things get better for you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:50:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1jlbq5k'}]"
1jlb673,2025-03-28T00:08:26,"Trans-led study: UK Survey on Trans people's (age 18+) experiences of eating disorders, eating disorder support, and links with neurodivergence (moderator approved)","Hello everyone,

I am leading a research team at Cardiff University who have lived experiences of eating disorders, gender diversity, and/or neurodivergence. We’ve just started recruitment for a new research study exploring the relations between gender diversity, neurodivergence and eating disorders and would really appreciate some help spreading the word to hear from as many people as possible. I have included some more information about the study below as well as the recruitment poster and ways to contact us for further information. ***This has been approved by the moderators before posting.***

**What is the purpose of the research?**

The purpose of this research is to understand the diverse lived experiences of eating disorders and eating disorder support, and how these experiences are related to gender diversity and neurodivergence. This online survey forms part of a larger programme of research funded by Health and Care Research Wales that aims to improve awareness, understanding, and support for autistic people, people with ADHD, and/or gender diverse people with eating disorders.

This research is important because both neurodivergent and gender diverse people are more likely to develop eating disorders compared to neurotypical cisgender individuals. Eating disorders may present differently in neurodivergent and gender diverse people compared to neurotypical cisgender people, which may impact on their experiences of accessing effective support promptly. By raising awareness and understanding of these diverse lived experiences, we aim to improve the recognition of eating disorders and support the development of effective support that is able to meet the unique needs of these groups.

**Who can take part?**

We are inviting people who are:

* trans, gender diverse, and/or non-binary, 
* aged 18+ years,
* fluent in English and based in the UK,
* and have lived experience of an eating disorder (current or historical)\*

 \*Please note, you **do not** need to have received a diagnosis of treatment in order to take part.

**What does the study involve?**

If you choose to take part you will be asked to complete an online survey that should take around 45 minutes. This will include questions about your experience of behaviours and thoughts around eating and your body, as well as questions about your gender identity, mental health, and neurodivergent characteristics. All answers and results from the research will be confidential and the findings will be reported in a research paper that we would be happy to share on completion of the study and publication of the results. For everyone who participates in the study, there is the option to enter a prize draw for a shopping voucher as a thank you for your time and contribution.    

We are aware that our research addresses sensitive topics and have taken steps to minimise the risk of causing distress. In addition to our own lived experiences relevant to this research, we have collaborated with an advisory group of community members with lived experience and professionals in relevant fields, including Beat, in designing this study. This project has undergone review, and has received approval from, the Cardiff University Research Ethics Board \[EC.24.11.12.7066A\].     

**How can I take part?**

To find out more or to take part, please follow this link: [https://cardiffunipsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_1SuFhbh0lxu2ZaC](https://cardiffunipsych.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1SuFhbh0lxu2ZaC) or scan the QR code in our recruitment poster. Please also share the link and poster with anyone who you think might be interested in taking part if you’re able to – we are keen to hear from as many people as possible!  

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this information. If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to contact us via email at [Leading\_study@cardiff.ac.uk](mailto:Leading_study@cardiff.ac.uk)",MentalHealthUK,7,0,https://i.redd.it/nqsjxa751are1.png,[]
1jl8p6y,2025-03-27T22:27:00,How do I get the GP to listen?,"Im not in imminent risk i just need advice.

Sorry this is kind of a rant. I have been diagnosed with GAD and depression, I have enough 'justification' to prove why I feel bad. I've explained to the GPs I've been depressed 10+ years, filled out the  GAD9 and PHQ9 forms three times, told them which meds I've been on and what counselling I did and they just ignore it.

I got prescribed a trial of citalopram initially by GP number 1 about a month ago, which just gave me insomnia. At the check up I waaid ""I feel like shit"" and GP1  was like ""Well it's a trial so actually you won't know how you feel"" and I was like ""?? I can't sleep please give me something else"" so then GP 1 put me on mirtazapine, again I didn't feel any better but I was now oversleeping and my binge eating was worse. I had a phone Appointment today with a different GP, same clinic (gp 2) gp2 ignored literally everything I said, told me I wouldn't feel anything on a trial (I explained the situation since apparently she didn't know) she then ignored what I said, made me fill out the forms again, hung up on me, I had to call her back several times before she answered. She then was like ""wow your forms are severe here I'm putting you on propoponal and keeping you on mirtazapine lol have you tried the wellbeing self referral? Oh you did, try it again and call a crisis line' and then hung up. It lasted less than five minutes and she talked over me nonstop.

I've been looking up propoponal and All I can find about prop is that its used to treat the symptoms not actual anxiety? So like it stops heart racing/panic attacks 
But panic attacks don't bother me (I have them pretty rarely thank god)  it's more the fact I'm filled with constant existential dread and I will convince myself my foods rotten and ill get sick from eating it or give all my money to some junkie because if I don't I'm a bad person and I'm going to be punished. 

I'm just really frustrated, everytime I talk to them they're like ""yeah that sounds severe' and then talk over me and rush me out of the appointment. I don't know what to do, I know GPs are shit everywhere but I don't know what my options are or how to advocate for myself. 

I'm going to do the meds she's prescribed because idk what else to do, if I don't do what they say they'll say I'm not trying but if I do do them then they ignore my complaints. How do I get them to actually check my medical records or get them to prescribe me something specific, or even for an appointment to last more than five minutes before they boot me out (I am not exaggerating, this call lasted 5 minutes and 34 seconds, my prior in person appointment was even less. 

I know a lot of its on me for being a complete pushover because I feel bad for asking for literally anything but I just need help figuring out how to get the support I need ",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl8p6y/how_do_i_get_the_gp_to_listen/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk1gro3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:27:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8p6y'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1i2cp', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I think it’s defo a good idea to try what you’ve been prescribed. You never know, it might help. It can take 4-6 weeks sometimes for meds to fully settle in so maybe that’s why they said it’s still a trial because often after that time they’ll increase doses etc to see if it works better. \n\nI wouldn’t say GPs are shit everywhere. If you’re diagnosed with GAD and depression, meds are a first line treatment — as well as talking therapies. Not sure if you’ve ever done things like CBT or just counselling but if not it would be worth a go. If you’re in England you should be able to self refer. They can help treat symptoms of anxiety as well as things like intrusive thoughts. \n\nWhen you say something specific, what do you mean exactly? Is there a specific medication you want to try?', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:33:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8p6y'}, {'comment_id': 'mka678m', 'author': 'SavingsLow7704', 'body': 'What meds are you specifically trying to get?\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T06:12:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8p6y'}]"
1jl8lj1,2025-03-27T22:22:47,Feeling stuck,"I’m really at my wits end with this. Had quite severe anxiety and depression over the last 3/4 years. Tried 8 different medications, done therapy a few times and still not feeling where I’d like to. I engage in exercise and hobbies and genuinely try to make an effort but feel like I’m never getting the reward. Feeling so hopeless right now. Anyone else been there? I’m hoping there’s some medication to help me or something but I’m losing the will here.",MentalHealthUK,6,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl8lj1/feeling_stuck/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk1fuul', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:22:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8lj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1o5v3', 'author': 'SoloOyster', 'body': ""Dude, I've spent the last 10 years living on the edge. I have PTSD from childhood trauma. I've struggled with depression, anxiety, drug and gambling addiction, I've been homeless, separated from every family member, and  suffer with tourettes. I can't believe I'm actually here, I certainly shouldn't be with the abuse I've received from others. Anyway, I've recently been learning about CBT therapy and practising breathwork. I think anxiety plays a big part in depression. Every negative feeling or thought that pops into your head has a massive effect on your mood and your body. Rumination is something you should look up to. But I would seriously start practising breathwork and meditating. It's all about fighting those negative thoughts and using that breathwork throughout the day when feeling anxious or depressed. Look up breathe with sandy on youtube. \n\n*Also, the holy grail for fighting depression is exercise and a good diet! I would fuck the medication off. I think it's got to come from you! Good luck, my friend"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T23:01:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8lj1'}, {'comment_id': 'mk38fs7', 'author': 'NeurodiverseNerd', 'body': 'Did you think of checking your hormones and vitamin D levels ? It will sound lame but eating a lot of raw vegetables can actually help with mood disorders.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:20:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl8lj1'}]"
1jl5doe,2025-03-27T20:06:58,NHS Mental Health Services,"Well, hey 👋.

What a constant battle I am having with Mental Health Services.

They put plans in place, yet don’t stick to them.

They offer zero support, even though I use what they suggested.

I pleaded for help, and call backs, it’s been a week, nothing.

To them as they obviously don’t give a shit, I could have been dead already.

They overload you with medication, to keep you sedated, just so they don’t have to deal with you.

Well, I’m sick of fighting them, and sick of taking their shit and continually being let down and lied to, and have my trust always broken.

I’m so sad right now, they literally couldn’t give less of a shit if they tried.

Is it any surprise so many of us give up the fight, and just check out.

😢 So frustrated with them it’s beyond a joke.
",MentalHealthUK,32,26,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl5doe/nhs_mental_health_services/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk0npi8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:07:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0pnrk', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': 'I only got better when I gave up trying to get help. I was making myself more unwell every time I asked and got nowhere. Not seen a MH professional since 2021.', 'score': 23, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:16:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2da3b', 'author': '_InvisibleGirl_', 'body': ""I'm starting to think it would be less stressful to just stop pursuing help from mental health services, it's been a year now of being passed from team to team, waiting 3 months for an assessment then being referred to a different team, rinse and repeat. I haven't actually received any help in this time just repeating myself in endless assessments that lead nowhere.\n\nI think maybe I am better off without these people in my life. They constantly remind me that nobody gives a shit, there is no safety net and I am completely alone with this."", 'score': 14, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T01:46:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk18n3i', 'author': 'Significant_Leg_7211', 'body': 'Try if you can not to take it personally, they might just be overwhelmed. I know it sucks, though.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:48:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk37zk8', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'When you think they don’t give a shit there is actually a team of dedicated nurses who have such a massive volume of work that they can’t cope, half of them are off sick because of stress and the other half then get their work doubled. Working conditions are terrible.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:18:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3fdxp', 'author': 'Express_Possibility5', 'body': 'Yep yep yep my experience exactly. Abandoned at the worst possible time.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:56:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk10phx', 'author': 'NewCoach0', 'body': ""I'm so sorry, OP. It's so frustrating and painful to be in your position, it really is. Try to get some self care in for now, and when you're a little calmer you could look into getting some advice from PALS or Mind? You shouldn't have to, I know, but it might be helpful all the same.\n\nTake care 🫂"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:10:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk81gd9', 'author': 'teaforvi', 'body': 'I wish I could say something helpful but the NHS mental health services are truly a joke. It almost feels like they take pleasure in invalidating you/patronising you for your suffering 😔', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:28:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mkict7y', 'author': 'Expert-Assist-8113', 'body': 'And they also change their doctors every few months so when you finally see a Dr, it will be someone else/new', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T18:11:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl5doe'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0xg12', 'author': 'mimi2001f', 'body': 'honestly I feel you on this, I have avoided going to the doctors again because every time I do so they don’t take me seriously and they downplay my symptoms. Every single mental health appointment I have had, I have came out raging and feeling 10x worse 😹.', 'score': 13, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:54:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0zunj', 'author': 'NewCoach0', 'body': 'Me too, fully refuse to have anything to do with the CMHT on my own volition now. It\'s so upsetting that so many of us are in this position and nothing ever changes. \n\nI got a whole degree thinking I\'d like to work in mental health services when I\'m stable but my last experience under them left me thinking ""nah, I couldn\'t work with these people *or* this system"".', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:06:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk820fd', 'author': 'Pumpkin_Pie12', 'body': ""Glad you are feeling better. I've had a bad week of feeling suicidal and I have to say that reaching out to the NHS for help and being more or less ignored has made me feel even worse. I'm feeling a bit better at the moment but no thanks to the NHS. I feel increasingly resentful of this country in terms of the lack of services (health and otherwise) compared to the very high taxation. I've contributed so much to this country in terms of tax and I have to wonder where it all goes as in my country every service I have reached out to use just does not function."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:31:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0pzy8', 'author': 'Little_Sound_Speaks', 'body': 'This is kinda where I’m at, I give up with them. Trouble is I’m supposed to be on the list to get tested because they say I’m bipolar, yet are doing nothing at all 😭', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T20:18:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0pnrk'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3i3a9', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'I feel the same. Im sorry you do too', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:10:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2da3b'}, {'comment_id': 'mk82et2', 'author': 'Pumpkin_Pie12', 'body': 'And its so frustrating that there is annoying line in the media of the hardest step is asking for help. Its ridiculous. You ask for help and find out there is none and no-one could give a shit. Hardly a receipe to make one feel better.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:33:14', 'parent_id': 't1_mk2da3b'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3i7ri', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'That doesnt mean the care is acceptable.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:11:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mk37zk8'}, {'comment_id': 'mk13zmh', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""I had a three hour discussion on the phone with the manager of my local PALS. He really is a lovely person and he keeps in touch. There's absolutely no change whatsoever regarding my care, though! It's just the sad reality of the situation!"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:26:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk10phx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk97lfr', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Yep 😪', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:59:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mk82et2'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3oo87', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'I didn’t say that it’s acceptable, my point is that they do give a shit.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T05:46:15', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3i7ri'}, {'comment_id': 'mk154fh', 'author': 'NewCoach0', 'body': ""That's not at all surprising but so infuriating. It would be difficult having to navigate all this shit when you're stable, nevermind when you're not well. :("", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:31:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mk13zmh'}, {'comment_id': 'mk3y4wh', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Really doesnt feel like it when they tell you to go read a book and say they will call you back and dont even bother to tell you they decided you dont need help. When you do. Theres a lot of people working in MH who really shouldnt. Ive been stitched up without anaesthetic because I did it myself anyway. Ive been told to walk 18 miles in the dark to a hospital if I felt I needed care because the crisis team dont give a shit', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T06:39:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3oo87'}, {'comment_id': 'mk18zk7', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""That's part of the problem, I feel. A lot of NHS MH staff will have entered the job with good intentions, but then become frustrated by the fact that they can't really help anyone. They then also realise that most people under their care haven't the mental strength to put in a complaint, and if they do, they will not come across very well due to being beyond stressed. So, you just get apathy, which is the worst possible outcome."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T21:50:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mk154fh'}, {'comment_id': 'mk5hnce', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'Mental health services cannot give you anaesthetic or stitches so it seems like your complaint is of general overall NHS services, not specifically mental health.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T13:51:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mk3y4wh'}, {'comment_id': 'mk98qdu', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': ""Its so awful. The last two times Ive called Ive been spoken to in just really unkind and unempathetic responses including 'we arent an urgent care', 'what support did you expect calling us?', 'why dont you try reading a book', 'we are busy with other people and we arent achieving anything so I'm going to hang up now' (the phone call hadnt even lasted 15 mins when I had waited 7 hours for a call back). Some of the people are genuinely callous. Before she hung up on me, I asked if I was supposed to walk to the hospital to get help, in the middle of the night and she replied 'well if you think that would help, you can do that if you want' even though I live miles from the hospital. Absolutely appalling 'care'."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T03:05:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mk18zk7'}, {'comment_id': 'mk8dlsf', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': ""I have experienced significant and enduring MH issues. You are right some of those issues would fall under emergency care. \n\nOn the other hand whilst inpatient in psychiatric ward, no staff noticed I had burnt my hand on a lampbulb (a full thickness burn) until 3 days later by which time I required plastic surgery for debridement and a skin graft.\n\nI was also sexually assaulted by an old man whilst inpatient at age 19 whilst incredibly put into a mixed ward and it was completely brushed under the carpet. I dont think I need to say any more. \n\nI am extremely grateful for the current care of my CMHT. I actually think the whole team is incredible and forwardly trauma informed. However they are overwhelmed and at times you are made to feel like you have to be grateful for the breadcrumbs of support you get. Mental health support is significantly deficient, especially crisis support. Theres no point pretending it isn't, even if staff are doing their best."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T00:28:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mk5hnce'}]"
1jl14d8,2025-03-27T16:21:37,If I get sectioned and have never taken meds before as not on any. can I be forced meds ? As I really can't have them from condition I have. Can I just stay there medication free? Thanks,,MentalHealthUK,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl14d8/if_i_get_sectioned_and_have_never_taken_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjznzk1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:21:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl14d8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzv27k', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'There is provision for this to happen if you’re detained under the MHA because it allows treatment to be given without your consent. However, that doesn’t mean it will 100% happen, and your team should discuss any medication including information, side effects, benefits/drawbacks to work collaboratively with you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:17:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl14d8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzwbc5', 'author': 'sykeitsmorgan', 'body': 'really depends on a few things. if you’re sectioned, yes they can. but saying that, they won’t always follow through with that. if you have a condition such as bipolar, schizophrenia or psychosis which requires stabilisation with antipsychotics they are probably going to force medication. if the medication is antidepressants i’m not too sure. i personally haven’t been IM’d with anything other than benzodiazepines or antipsychotics. it is worse case scenario to inject medications so they only do it when it’s absolutely necessary.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:26:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl14d8'}]"
1jl17nu,2025-03-27T16:28:02,Therapy options help,"Hey, so I have had CBT therapy before through the NHS for various things. For example one was for social anxiety and I think it had a 8 session limit. For me the limited amount of sessions doesn’t allow me to get deep and explore past trauma that contributes to my social anxiety. The main advice I remember was don’t go on your phone in social situations etc, basically just little tips that could help but didn’t help. 

Anyway I’m guessing the only way to see a therapist longer term and actually build up a proper connection is to pay for it? There is lots I want to cover that I have held in for many years so 8 sessions just isn’t enough. 

",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jl17nu/therapy_options_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjzoqt1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:28:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jl17nu'}]"
1jkrhmn,2025-03-27T06:07:43,Scared of inpatient facilities,"I have heard horror stories. I am trans, and given the UK government seems to despise trans people (even if Labour put up a thin veneer of friendliness), I am terrified that if I am hospitalised, everything will only be made worse. And the end result will be either me leaving there dead (suicide from shit conditions), or worse, me never being able to leave and effectively being mentally tortured by being forced to stay alive. 

I have been suicidal for a decade give or take since puberty hit, things have genuinely been better recently since I finally got HRT. But well, since I actually now *want* to live for the first time in forever, I’m kinda more thinking about how to get better. Thinking about trying to go to therapy again (was discharged two years ago because my therapist told me he didn’t know how to help me so couldn’t justify spending any more NHS resources on me when there was no indication I would improve), but I’m scared that actually opening up about my feelings would lead to me being put in an inpatient facility. Which everything in my mind is telling me would make it much worse. 

So as a result I’m scared to even go to therapy. 

Could someone who has had the experience maybe tell me a bit about what it’s like in these facilities?

Anecdotes from trans people would be particularly helpful. 

Please be truthful, no mincing words, if it’s bad I would like to know for safety reasons. If it’s good I’d like to know to be reassured. 
",MentalHealthUK,9,19,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jkrhmn/scared_of_inpatient_facilities/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjxlsp9', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T06:07:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz5z88', 'author': 'Utheran', 'body': ""If you don't mind a bit of speculation, you may be putting the cart before the horse here. Therapy can be destabilising in theory, but frankly it's still very rare for it to drive someone to requiring inpatient care.\n\nI wouldn't let it stop you looking into therapy. A more realistic worst case scenario is that you try therapy, bounce off and drop out. The more likely scenario is that you get some help/knowledge about yourself and improve your life."", 'score': 14, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:15:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz2z5o', 'author': 'Equal-Barracuda-2636', 'body': 'Inpatient services are not good most of the time tbh. You go there, most are understaffed and the staff that do work there are overworked, so when you do get good staff they have very limited time for you and when I say limited I mean not really any at all. Some staff genuinely do care and want to help but are unable to due too working pressures and the million and one other things they need to do. A lot of the staff don’t have a clue at all, on paper it says they’re trained but looking deeper into that they have done some e - learning courses that they googled the answers to and are shown where high risk areas are on the ward (if they’re lucky) and that’s basically it. \n\nYou usually learn more self injurious behaviours/ life ending behaviours from other service user’s than you ever knew were possible before entering the hospital.\n\nYou’re typically in for a very short amount of time and don’t gain any skills to cope in the real world. You won’t do any too much therapy or gain skills to cope. When you leave hospital and go home you have no great continuity of care and are chucked in the deep end alone again. You have a 3 day follow up from the crisis team if you’re lucky. \n\nPeople get very much institutionalised from being in inpatient and they feel safer in hospital than out. The reason for this is that hospitals stop them from ending they’re life’s, so they will attempt in hospital and have the safety net that most of the time they will be found in time and saved or have no access to things that they would otherwise have access to, keeping them safe by basically restricting everyday things you will have when at home. That’s not coping that’s just being restricted. It reinforces these people’s feelings of being safer, I wouldn’t call it being safer or learning to cope, it just takes away any responsibility such as taking away any responsibility by these people knowing there’s a safety net and they don’t need to learn to cope as someone else will always save them and also just simply not being able to have access to things or any real life situations.\n\nPeople think hospitals are safe but I would very much say otherwise, just giving you an example I have seen over 4 close people to me complete suicide in the past two years as in patients. Speaking from working within mental health over the past year I can count 2 people who have severe life changing injuries while they were in patient and it’s nearly going into double figures the people who have been able to complete suicide, and that’s just for one company that I know about personally and have figures for. \n\nHospital leaves you with lasting trauma, a lot of things you see are horrendous and traumatic, things that are experienced can leave you damaged from them for the rest of your life. There are good people in Hospitals but there are also very, very poorly people in these facilities too, risks are not managed well, people are assaulted daily and not much gets done about it at all. \n\nStaff in hospitals will talk to you for one minute and if that doesn’t help you they suggest PRN medication and in their eyes they’ve done a good job. \n\nYou wanted realistic answer and this is it, I wish it was different but this is the cold, horrible, truth.', 'score': 15, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T12:42:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz293g', 'author': 'Fizzy68', 'body': ""I'm a trans guy and I spent 3½ years sectioned from the ages of 16-20. It's incredibly difficult for me to say either way, because it's not as simple as being completely bad or good. In my experience as a whole it was extremely bad, but I have a rather complex set of issues and am also autistic meaning that unfortunately the risk of me getting institutionalised is higher.\n\nIn terms of being trans in hospital care, for the most part it was absolutely fine. A lot of staff had not worked with a trans patient before so there were a few learning curves, but in terms of my care it was always made a priority to ensure that I was gendered correctly and also was comfortable - for example I was on 1:1 observations for a lengthy period of time and required supervision in the bathroom (this was only due to me having incredibly high risk) and I was asked multiple times if I was more comfortable with having male or female staff supervise me. I won't lie and say it was entirely fine, there was a handful of staff that massively struggled to get my pronouns right and made a few unhelpful comments, and on one occasion another patient left an extremely transphobic letter outside my bedroom but this was treated as a hate crime and the police were brought in.\n\nIn terms of hospital treatment in general, it's not great. Most adult acute wards do not offer therapeutic treatment, it's more about containment and risk management. In my experience it is not 'easy' to get hospitalised, it took multiple high risk attempts on my life for me to be considered unable to remain in the community. As far as I'm aware that's mostly how the psychiatric inpatient system works in the UK, it's not so much about whether you'd benefit from an admission, but moreso about it being the only option left. Mental health services are difficult at the best of times, but I would always implore people to try and remain in the community where they can and pursue treatment there.\n\nI hope some of this has helped, and if you have anymore questions feel free to ask :)"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T12:35:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz6h8p', 'author': 'ShyBiSaiyan', 'body': ""To be fair they do everything they can to keep you from admission I'd say so long as you don't have any plans to end your life or hurt others you'll be treated as an outpatient. It is very difficult to be made inpatient.\n\nAs someone who was an Inpatient within the last year it was somewhat useful at the time until we got patients in that clearly needed much more support, the rooms weren't private as most were a dorm setting with three 'rooms' and I had a patient invade my space and go through my things. It was incredibly overstimulating and overwhelming before I finally got given leave and then discharged. I think if I hadn't had a physical health issue from the thing that put me there I would have been out sooner but I was in there for a good 2 months, went on leave for 2 weeks in December then discharged a week or so before Christmas."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:21:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzvdr0', 'author': 'sykeitsmorgan', 'body': 'hey there. i’m ftm trans and have been sectioned 7-8 times. the rules are a little hazy. they always gave me a choice of which gender ward i went to but for some people depending on how they pass they might not get that choice. there are options to be sent to a mixed ward but again the rooms are split by gender so you’ll have to pick whether you’ll go on the male or female side of the ward. i’m lucky enough to pass completely so i was never treated differently by patients on the male wards. the only issue i ever encountered is that some staff with their own views and biases would purposely misgender me. i know it would’ve been on purpose because i in no way look female and my records also reflect that i am not a woman. if things are bad enough for you to need inpatient care, they should chat with you about where you’ll go but i want to stress that you shouldn’t not seek care because you’re scared of being misgendered. wards are traumatic for everyone, trans or cis. the conditions usually aren’t great, staff can make you feel worse and being around other sick people will not help you recover. admissions are used in immediate crisis whether that be to stop harm against yourself or others or to stabilise medication such as antipsychotics. most the time people with suicidal thoughts or after attempts etc are not admitted. community support is your best option. ask the gp to make a referral to therapy and cmht. therapists are there to help you, not to judge you. \n\ni feel like there’s quite a big misconception that anyone struggling with their mental health or suicidal ideation gets sent to a psychiatric ward. there are so few beds that only certain people with certain experiences and actions have to be treated in hospital. a large amount of people come out of hospital worse than when they went in. \n\nadmissions help some people though so i can’t say what will happen with everyone. \n\nspeak to your gp and ask for those referrals. wishing you well.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:20:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk6l54y', 'author': 'DustierAndRustier', 'body': 'Yeah they’re horrible places, but you’re very unlikely to get admitted to one. If you’re even coherent enough to be scared of them, you’re not a candidate.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T19:10:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk9lt0f', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': ""The only time I've ever experienced a hatecrime for being trans was when I was inpatient\n\nBeing around unwell people means it's not always gonna be people who are solely a threat to themselves, but I did meet these people in an LCU, so might not be the typical experience on an acute ward"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T04:17:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0hhvx', 'author': 'Admirable_Candy2025', 'body': 'I’m not trans but when I was an inpatient I’ve never been around such non judgmental, accepted, anything goes kind of people. I thought I was non judgmental but honestly I came out realising that I used to still be judgy about some stuff. When I was in there was one trans person and one openly gay person and I never was aware of any bother towards them. It was like you’re all in there coz you’re out of your mind so stuff like that’s just not an issue.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:34:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mk22kdq', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'I’ve only ever been in CAMHS inpatient which sadly had a quite high percentage of trans people and I’d 100% say their care was no different to ours and staff always use the right pronouns. That said, they are still most of the time not nice places to be. Going to therapy and opening up even about suicidal tendencies doesn’t really lead to inpatient admissions, its a bit more complex than that and I’d say its much better to go to therapy with a small chance of inpatient happening and hopefully achieving some healing than not go to therapy for fear of it. Sending love!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T00:09:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkrhmn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzq5rr', 'author': 'smasherfierce', 'body': ""Yeah I second this. I've seen all sorts and still never had anyone go inpatient. It's really a last resort for very severe cases, not the first option as soon as you mention suicidal ideation"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:39:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz5z88'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzrvtj', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'I second this, I’ve done trauma therapy which was de stabilising *but* I was given lots of skills to help me cope and I had a risk assessment beforehand. I guess it’s different for everyone of course but even when I was really unwell when I was manic and psychotic, I was able to receive the help I needed under the home treatment team', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:53:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz5z88'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz7mtc', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'Thank you for saying it. To be Frank this is what I expected. But I wanted to know whether I was being paranoid or not. I wasn’t', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:33:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz2z5o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1lx82', 'author': 'Amy_JUSH_Winehouse', 'body': 'This is the best answer anyone could have given', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:51:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mjz2z5o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk00l34', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'Thanks for the info. I don’t pass at all so I think it would be particularly hellish for me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:56:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mjzvdr0'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbn8zq', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'I’m sorry that happened to you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:58:07', 'parent_id': 't1_mk9lt0f'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc3jvo', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': ""Don't be, you didn't do it"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:01:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mkbn8zq'}, {'comment_id': 'mkc417v', 'author': 'YuSakiiii', 'body': 'If you need to talk/vent my dms are open', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T16:06:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mkc3jvo'}]"
1jki6ge,2025-03-26T23:30:12,PMDD experience on the practical side for getting help with this condition,"Hello

I know, with much certainty in myself, that this condition is affecting me. I am not good at articulating my internal experiences. So in a practical sense this is likely to be a barrier for me in getting help. (Should I say this to the doctor? I am very scared since they usually disbelieve me and are angry with me when I try to get mental health help). 

Did you have to make any sort of record to “track” your symptoms to prove the timing around menstruation?

Or if it’s not anything different to just being given an antidepressant anyway. 


",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jki6ge/pmdd_experience_on_the_practical_side_for_getting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjvelam', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:30:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jki6ge'}, {'comment_id': 'mk305a0', 'author': 'MindlessCat3542', 'body': 'My gp asked for 3 months of a period diary. I used the Flo app, (also useful as you can see when the bad week is coming) I’ve been put on zoely and I have been completely symptom free the last 2 months.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T03:39:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jki6ge'}, {'comment_id': 'mjx20qx', 'author': 'Terrible-Stick-2179', 'body': 'Ive recently been made aware that i have this condition too. Ill tell you a bit about how i got diagnosed (As a trans man) \n\nI had obviously been struggling with it for quite some time and was already receiving help for my mental health via GP aligned (A mental health specialist GP agency) I was with them for a few months until i mentioned that people around me have noticed a pattern in my mental health. Mine is really severe and causes me to have NON STOP suicidal thoughts to the point where i nearly acted on it, so i ended up being dealt with by the Crisis team last year so everyone who saw my health records knew how bad i can get. I was put on various antidepressants and even diazepam to no avail, barely touched the sides! \n\nAs time went on, people started noticing that there was a pattern. Every month there would be a day where i would just wake up at rock bottom. I couldnt stop crying, I was mean, Withdrawn ect. For no apparent reason. \nOne day i noticed when i had a horrible week, but as soon as i saw the blood, the mood lifted, like magic. \nI googled ""Why am i suicidal before my period"" and that lead me to PMDD. \nIm not really someone to assume i have something based on one read and i was careful not to mention ""PMDD"" or make them assume that its just something I\'ve seen online but when i went to my MH nurse and told her that it seems to happen before i start bleeding. Straight away she said ""PMDD, I have it"" And referred me to my general GP for contraception. \nI was lucky(?) that i did not need to explain myself to them as they had each of my mental breakdowns written on paper in great detail and when it happened.  If you also have a record you have nothing to worry about. \n\nWith that being said. If they tell you no, Try and see if you can blag getting onto Eloine (combined pill). It has literally saved my life. LITERALLY. I am 3 days into my luteal phase im probably the happiest ive felt in a lonnnnnnggg time', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T04:20:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jki6ge'}]"
1jkhwln,2025-03-26T23:19:02,How to go voluntary inpatient?,"Note to mods: not at immediate risk

I’m currently in crisis and struggling badly to get out of a depressive episode I’ve been in for around six months. I’ve been experiencing suicidal thoughts for a while. I haven’t been able to get back on antidepressants for various reasons. I’m not currently under a community mental health team or a crisis team.

I do have a counsellor I speak with weekly and have been doing so for months now but I haven’t seen or felt any improvement. I’ve also reached out to helplines like CALM, mind, papyrus and shout but haven’t found them particularly beneficial.

Last time I spoke with the crisis team, even after making them aware of previous suicide attempts that led to hospitalisation, I was told I didn’t meet the threshold for their service. That experience has made me hesitant to reach out again but right now I know I need help and I’m scared of what might happen if I don’t get it.

Does anyone know how I can go voluntary inpatient? Any advice or experiences would be really appreciated",MentalHealthUK,5,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jkhwln/how_to_go_voluntary_inpatient/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjvc6ot', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:19:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvje2l', 'author': 'HisLoba97', 'body': 'I spoke to the crisis team and they did it for me whilst under an A&E section. That was years back though, might have changed', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:53:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvjvro', 'author': 'ElleRed98', 'body': 'Ring your local crisis team xx', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:55:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvdxng', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:27:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkhwln'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvkwx3', 'author': 'cherrycinnamon12', 'body': 'Did you go into A&E for similar reasons, asking to go inpatient? What’s an A&E section?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:00:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvje2l'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvko7i', 'author': 'cherrycinnamon12', 'body': 'I don’t feel able to call them. Last few times I’ve spoken to them I felt worse after', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T23:59:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvjvro'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvm7st', 'author': 'cherrycinnamon12', 'body': 'I don’t really have anyone to ask to go with me, my family don’t understand and I don’t really have anyone else. I feel like I’ll just get sent back home without any real help. Is it possible for them to still admit you if they see fit?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:07:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvdxng'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvky7c', 'author': 'ElleRed98', 'body': 'Oh I’m sorry you’ve had that experience, maybe try ringing the mental health line 111 (option 2) might have a better experience or ask them how to otherwise, it’s hard to know the pathways in different areas x', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:01:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvko7i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvll5y', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:04:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvky7c'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvn3ab', 'author': 'ElleRed98', 'body': 'The other way I can think right now is going private, if you have the funds xx', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:11:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvll5y'}]"
1jkbaqb,2025-03-26T18:35:03,"CMHT won’t see me, private think I’m too high risk","TW: SH, SI

I’m at a complete loss of what to do and I’m wondering if anyone has had a similar experience to me and has any advice.

I (F26) have a background of self injury since teenage years. I started to feel extremely depressed again last year. My GP referred me to CMHT due to persistent treatment resistant depression and self harm. CMHT rejected my referral and I continued to worsen.

In February I attempted to take my own life and was hospitalised overnight. Since then, my GP has again made numerous referrals to CMHT. My private therapist was concerned that I could have a serious underlying condition such as bipolar or BPD. Despite all of this, CMHT still class me as ‘low risk’ and refuse to see me.

My private therapist has now dropped me as this is all out of her scope. I have been referred to a private psychiatrist. However, they have rejected my referral as I am too high risk and said that CMHT should see me.

I am at a complete loss. Not enough of a risk, despite a suicide attempt, for CMHT. Too high risk for a private psychiatrist. I’ve been off of work since February, I am feeling more helpless by the day. I’m going to end up dead and nobody seems to care. 

If anyone has any advice on how I can get through to CMHT please let me know. Thank you if you’ve read this far.",MentalHealthUK,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jkbaqb/cmht_wont_see_me_private_think_im_too_high_risk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjtrw65', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:35:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkbaqb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjxdt4j', 'author': 'LjComply', 'body': ""Contacting PALS would probably be your best bet.  \n\nIf that doesn't work self refer yourself to IAPT and when they see you're too severe for them they should be able to make a CMHT referral."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T05:22:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkbaqb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjywa5m', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Im so sorry. This is awful. I cant believe what im reading. Definitely make a PALs complaint. Maybe even write to your MP? I cant believe you are being denied care.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T11:32:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkbaqb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjxu02h', 'author': 'Honestlytotallyfine', 'body': 'This is useful advice, thank you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T06:55:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjxdt4j'}, {'comment_id': 'mk1j1pj', 'author': 'Honestlytotallyfine', 'body': 'Thank you, I’ll be contacting PALS', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T22:37:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjywa5m'}]"
1jk28ls,2025-03-26T08:37:34,Coming off sertraline cold turkey,"I was put on 50mg of sertraline when I had my baby. I had a traumatic birth and a bad infection afterwards. I had the baby blues and was told it was all postpartum depression and anxiety. 
I am going to stop taking my medication as I believe I'm ready for it and never needed it. 
What are the side effects and how long can I expect them to last",MentalHealthUK,5,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jk28ls/coming_off_sertraline_cold_turkey/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjrwab0', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T08:37:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtefvp', 'author': 'Kellogzx', 'body': 'Coming off cold turkey just makes it feel worse. It’s always much better to ween off. Speak to your gp and they’ll have advise on how.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T17:04:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjttvi4', 'author': 'YouCantGiveBabyBooze', 'body': ""do not do this under any circumstances. find a slow tailoring off plan and stick to it. Even lengthen it. \n\nI tried to taper too quickly and what followed was the worst couple of months of my entire life. brain zaps, more depression than I'd ever know. the closest I'd been to suidical ideation.\n\nplease be very careful."", 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:46:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtow0f', 'author': 'buginarugsnug', 'body': ""It's not recommended to come off it cold turkey. You should ideally taper off by going down to 25mg for a month first then halving again. Speak to your GP and they will be bale to advise you the best course of action for you and prescribe the 25mg pills to allow you to taper off."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:16:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtvy7p', 'author': 'CuppaT87', 'body': ""Do not come off it cold turkey please. Like everyone else, talk to your doctor & if they also think you're ready to come off, they'll help wean you off it & drop your dosage slowly.\n\n\nI went cold turkey years ago & it was a horrific idea. Depressive symptons shot up, SI shot up, anxiety shot up. So please please PLEASE talk to your GP about it first."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:58:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtucwk', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': 'Taper off under the advice of your GP.\n\nBrain Zaps are NOT fun (source - personal experience). \n\nThere is absolutely no need to go cold turkey. Why would you do that to yourself?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:49:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjubq22', 'author': 'Tiny-Hedgehog-6277', 'body': 'Yeah as everyone else is saying don’t, like I feel horrible just forgetting/missing 1 day, brain zaps are nasty and it just makes you feel worse. Just check with the gp first please', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T20:22:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwledf', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'This is a very bad plan, sertraline is one of the worst mental health medications to come off. Speak to your GP about tapering off.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:53:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwmmm7', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:59:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jk28ls'}, {'comment_id': 'mjw55s6', 'author': 'Hot_chips_for_dinner', 'body': 'Thank you so much for your reply. Honestly I just decided I no longer want to be on the medication. I don’t think I need it. But I have booked with my GP to discuss a plan and will stay on my meds for another couple of days until that appt', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T01:39:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mjtucwk'}, {'comment_id': 'mjxjmtx', 'author': 'Hot_chips_for_dinner', 'body': 'This is so frustrating to learn. When I was forced onto the medication I was told it’s the best one and that it’s not forever and easy to come off. Now realise they were all shit', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T05:55:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwledf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwoehn', 'author': 'Hot_chips_for_dinner', 'body': 'I did consider cutting the 50mg pill in half? thoughts ?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T03:08:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwmmm7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjz967a', 'author': 'MrElderwood', 'body': ""Whilst I agree that its perhaps galling to have to take a med you don't think you need, why volunteer for the additional pain and disorientation that the Brain Zaps could bring?\n\nI type this with a sympathetic tone - which is admittedly not always clear in text! - but if you are already unhappy with having to take a med you don't want/need, the additional irritation of 'The Zaps' (and possible other side-effects) are a burden you don't need and can *literally choose not to take on*. You could be lucky and not be susceptible to them, but why risk it? ;)\n\nPerhaps try to frame it in your mind as you 'taking care of yourself by not adding more problems than you are already coping with' and ensuring that you are not 'laying traps that you may end up sticking your own foot into a little further down the road'.\n\nA little self-compassion can go a long way.\n\nTake it easy on yourself. Good luck x"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T13:51:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjw55s6'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwpaxt', 'author': 'KayIA_4267', 'body': 'Take one Monday and take another Wednesday etc and then take them 2 then 3 days apart. But honestly you’ll be fine just stopping entirely in my experience.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T03:13:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwoehn'}, {'comment_id': 'mkhy4an', 'author': 'help30032021', 'body': 'Pleasw do not take medical advice from Internet strangers. Speak to your gp about how to come off sertraline **safely.**', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:02:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwoehn'}]"
1jjw4h0,2025-03-26T03:49:32,tween/ teen resources,"hi everyone this is my first post so i hope im doing it okay, i am almost 18 and babysit for a tween girl who opens up to me about her struggles with her mental health she seems to trust me really well, there was some safeguarding risks so i informed her parent's and they have since started to recognise behaviour and traits that are concerning to them, they have asked me to have a chat at some point to ask about things my mum did wrong when i was in the depths of my struggle so they can try and get it as right as possible which i think is great! but my question about what are some good resources to help valadate what she’s going through because she dosent have much internet access or social midia access’s but the that she dose aka spotify she has found a spoken word poetry song thats talks a lot about sui and not feeling good enough for the world along with other topics and the thing is she normally listen to like disney channel pop stars music and so for her to have found this song and showed it to me and her mum and said this is what i feel like is clearly a cry for help. i just don’t want here looking for things to help try and validate her but end up finding something more harmful or triggering for her. my dilemma is that she’s a 
really like intelligent girl but also her signs  are mainly mental then in to physical (sh) although her main thing that is recently new is she picks at her skin to the point it bleeds but never anything more then that, so there’s book that i have read like girl in pieces but i don’t think she would relate to that fully and may end up giving her more ideas. dose anyone know of any age appropriate resources or books or apps on anything that i can pass onto her mum to try and get her the validation that she is seeking without giving her any idea on top of the others interventions she’s getting so that like when she alone she has something to turn to other then to google. 
thank you for reading this sorry it’s so long! i’m we will be grateful for any advice on resources we can help provide to her! 


also just to mention she is a 12 year old female on the suspected autism pathway. 


",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjw4h0/tween_teen_resources/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjqh4hg', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:49:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjw4h0'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqxto8', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'Mind is a great website, if she was looking for more information to understand it and they also have resources about certain things Has she had a referral to CAMHS? The GP or her school could sort that. You seem a lovely person for caring so much!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T05:17:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjw4h0'}]"
1jjsjsf,2025-03-26T01:23:13,Do I need therapy,"I have a small hole in one side of my nose since 3 weeks ago. I’ve seen doctors twice and they said there’s nothing wrong but it’s very visible.
It’s ruined my life, I look awful. 
No one I’ve seen has said anything 
My girlfriend has been awesome and supportive 
I feel like I’ve ruined everything, finally happy with a promotion at work and with a new girlfriend and this has happened. 
I haven’t been able to do anything, no training nothing. Feel so anxious at work my chest is so difficult to control and in the evenings I stay up all night staring at marks in the mirror. 
I don’t know if I need therapy or anything but it’s driving me to breaking point. 

Any advice is welcome ",MentalHealthUK,4,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjsjsf/do_i_need_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjpnkm1', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:23:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjsjsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpp87b', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I definitely think therapy could help with this. It sounds like you have a lot of anxiety going on and you deserve support for that x', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:31:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjsjsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpqfdz', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': ""You can self refer to talking therapies. [https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/](https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/nhs-talking-therapies/) Might be worth trying to see your GP and telling them about your anxiety too. The small hole is probably an open pore or a blackhead. Ask a pharmacist for some cream or something. They'll help you out. Big hug lovely. You'll be ok."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:36:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjsjsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjptsp4', 'author': 'WorthPudding7260', 'body': 'Thank you for your comment :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:52:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpp87b'}, {'comment_id': 'mjptr2y', 'author': 'WorthPudding7260', 'body': 'Thank you. It’s a bit more than an open pore or black head it’s very noticeable even in pictures. Hopefully will all be okay thank you again', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:52:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpqfdz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsq5hg', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': 'Maybe post a picture to a medical sub on here? A passing Dr Redditor might help you out.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T13:02:10', 'parent_id': 't1_mjptr2y'}]"
1jjqmdh,2025-03-26T00:05:07,Asked me to do group therapy instead of letting me see a psychiatrist,"Hi all,

I’m not sure what to do.

Went to my GP to speak about mental health. Been through lots of counselling and psychologists but it’s at the point that I think I need to speak to a physiatrist because the problems are too much. 

Spoke to my GP and told them everything. And they can see the multiple bouts of therapy in my last 

Still now they called me to tell me they want me to refer myself for group sessions as a suggestion from the mental health team somewhere 

Not to sound ungrateful but i can’t do that again. I really need help and I think I need to speak to a physiatrist! What could I do?",MentalHealthUK,3,33,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjqmdh/asked_me_to_do_group_therapy_instead_of_letting/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjp7nkc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:05:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpajks', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'They’re suggesting treatment, which is the most important thing for any MH issue. \n\nA psychiatrist can offer treatment in the way of medications that a GP can’t prescribe. I’m not sure if you’re on medication or how many you’ve been on, but if it’s something a GP can manage, there might not be clinical indication atm for a psychiatry referral. A psychiatrist, aside from any meds, would also probably suggest or refer you to the same group therapy — the difference being you’d have to wait a long time for the appt which might delay your access to group therapy. \n\nWhy do you feel that a (probably short) psychiatrist appt would be preferable to trying the group? Is there a certain medication you wanna try? They need to have a clinical reason to refer you to psych', 'score': 16, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:19:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq5jua', 'author': 'thereidenator', 'body': 'The CMHT have offered a treatment based on your symptoms, you’re welcome to decline it but that doesn’t mean you are offered your chosen alternative. If you feel like you need to see a psychiatrist without the mental health team feeling you do it’s no different to expecting to see a cardiologist, oncologist etc without them feeling you need to. You are welcome to pay privately for treatment.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T02:50:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsjxax', 'author': 'No-Ad4423', 'body': ""Hey, I've been in this situation - group sessions suck for lots of people.\n\nHowever, I've found the more you jump through their hoops, the more willing they are to keep giving you stuff. If you do the GT and explain you don't feel much better, they can tick off that they've tried it with you, and maybe refer you to something better. Might take a while, but it's better than nothing.\n\nOr just go private if you can afford it."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T11:55:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpfn2q', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Its really frustrating that MH is so gatekept. It feels like you *should* be able to see a psychiatrist if you feel they could help but theyre in such demand there simply isnt the opportunity unless you become very unwell. Im sorry. I dont like the whole non diagnosis thing either. I get treating symptoms but for a lot of people a diagnosis is very helpful. Sorry you going through this', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:44:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjprp69', 'author': 'DoctorKween', 'body': 'You say that the group is at the suggestion of ""a mental health team elsewhere"" - it is probable that this team is a part of the service where the psychiatrists sit, and also that the advice is coming from someone who is reasonably experienced and aware of what different parts of the team are able to offer. It may even be that your case was discussed by a panel of different professionals depending on the service, and that the consensus was that this group was the best thing that the service could offer at this time. \n\nWith regards to your request for a psychiatrist, I see from the comments that you\'ve said you want to be able to ""figure out what [your] issue is"". I would ask you what impact you think this will have, and if there\'s something that you think it is. The reason I\'m curious about this is that, while it can feel validating to have a diagnosis and that this can be a useful shorthand for explaining why some things might be difficult, more valuable in my opinion is an individual understanding of your specific strengths and difficulties. I would also wonder whether thinking about what you\'d hope for might make it easier to discuss with your treating clinicians about how best to have your needs met. \n\nBeyond this though, much of what is going to make a difference is the treatment. A skills-based intervention which is what it sounds like you\'ve been prescribed can be really helpful in giving practical skills which you can build upon and which can make lots of things feel easier, and interventions like this can be more accessible and immediately useful than some other types of therapy. The skills can also in turn make other therapies more available by giving you new ways to deal with distress and difficult situations. I would suggest that this might have more value than a diagnosis. \n\nAs for how best to proceed, I would say that the intervention will have been suggested rather than a psychiatrist appointment because there is a hope that you will be able to derive some benefit from it, and so I would recommend giving this a go and seeing how it works out for you. It may be that this doesn\'t help you, but that\'s something you can\'t know until you try. If you still feel you need more assistance in the end then you can always ask for your case to be re-discussed with the team to see what else they can offer, and obviously if your situation changes in the mean time you can always re-present to services to discuss.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:42:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpa6o4', 'author': 'TheAnxiousPangolin', 'body': 'Have you told them specifically why you’d like to speak with a psychiatrist over any other MH professional? In the service I work at, our Psychiatrists only meet with people for medication appointments or if the patient is incredibly high risk.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:17:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpmlkl', 'author': 'Mysterious_Leave_971', 'body': 'I sympathize. In France, you can easily request follow-up by a psychiatrist; it is he who accepts or not the follow-up, and there is rarely a refusal. This therapeutic follow-up has nothing to do with group therapy (I do both). You have to persevere, even if it means trying a non-medical psychologist....', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:18:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjqmdh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpavo7', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you for your reply- it’s not even medication- it’s just trying to figure out what my issue is- I’ve tried group sessions at uni and it was so terrible for me - and I’ve been to physiologists before for CBT etc but nothing seems to work with me', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:20:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpajks'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqg8vm', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Understood, thank you for the advice 🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:44:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq5jua'}, {'comment_id': 'mjt2ff9', 'author': 'Quiet_Performance311', 'body': 'I found this. I was offered a group and initially was very against the idea. But doing that group was useful as the CMHT got to know me and they were more helpful. \n\nI went private afterwards for the 1 to 1 but if was doing it all again I still would do the group as it made everything else move a lot faster and still use stuff from it.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T15:17:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mjsjxax'}, {'comment_id': 'mjphe13', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you - this felt like a really nice message - I feel constant gas lit I’m not sure anymore- it’s hard and o feel stuck', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:52:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpfn2q'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpt4uq', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you for this great response - I’ll give it a go and try not to bat it- and it to doesn’t work it doesn’t 🤷\u200d♀️ but just jjst done it before and nothing changed :( I think also for me if I know what the issue is I can get things that work for me- I’ve tried a range from CBT to group to others and no help so far- but yes I’ll be positive and tey', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:49:37', 'parent_id': 't1_mjprp69'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpadst', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Yes I have - I’ve done about 3 versions of counselling with psychologists and nothing works for me, I’m not sure how this will get sorted. When I spoke to the gp she said she agrees and initially said she’d forward me off to a mental health team of psychiatrist. And they came back with the group session jdea', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:18:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpa6o4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpnuvy', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'I’ll try my best to, I appreciate your response !', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:24:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpmlkl'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpcg85', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'That’s probably the reason they’ve not booked a psych appt — with the NHS being overstretched, MH teams usually won’t see people purely for the sake of diagnosis when there are other treatment options patients could access more quickly. There has to be clinical indication for a psych appt. For example, if you’d gone through all the meds the GP could prescribe, they’d probably refer to psychiatry  based on the fact you might benefit from a medication a GP can’t prescribe. If that makes sense. Whereas if it was just for the sake of diagnosis when there were treatment options primary care or a therapy service could offer, they’re going to prioritise you getting treatment as ultimately that’s the most important thing.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:28:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpavo7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq92od', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'I would go back to your GP and ask for a referral to the CMHT? It doesnt sound like youve been referred before and rather being offered primary care treatment? Not sure if youve tried medications etc but you are well within your rights to ask for a referral. This may be rejected by the CMHT but please do ask. Also remember if you struggling, calling crisis line will mean your calls are logged and your GP notified which helps add to the seemingly necessary evidence trail that you need more support than you currently getting x', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:08:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mjphe13'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpexk8', 'author': 'TheAnxiousPangolin', 'body': 'Sorry to hear that nothing has worked for you so far. Have you tried group therapy before? They may have suggested it to try a different approach for you since other therapies have not been successful. I would give the group therapy a go, and one you’ve been introduced to your Lead Professional you can always ask again about a Psychiatrist referral - however ever just because you ask does not mean they will see you; strict criteria usually has to be met.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:40:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpadst'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpd62u', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Ok :( I’m not sure what’s the best thing to do because I don’t want medication/ it sound silly but I don’t know what else to do - just talking and talking and cbt I feel hopeless now- sorry I don’t mean to put this on you but just wanted to know what you’d advice', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:32:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpcg85'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqg460', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you - when I speak next time to then I’ll ask - I arrested this medsage !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:44:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq92od'}, {'comment_id': 'mjph9o9', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Yes I have before and it just didn’t help me :( I can try this', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:52:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpexk8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpdvmz', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'You’re not putting anything on me, I’m more than happy to try and help :) If you don’t want medication, that’s probably a big reason an NHS psychiatrist appt isn’t indicated. Ultimately the one thing they can do that other MH professionals can’t is prescribe further line meds. If a different professional can get you treatment quicker they’ll do that. What sort of group therapy is it?', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:35:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpd62u'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqk6sv', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Also I know last year when I wasnt able to access support due to waitlists, I found a great therapist who I saw most weeks. They were so helpful and it cost about £50 a session? I couldnt sustain it longterm due to cost but honestly it was really worth it. Probably much more helpful than a psychiatrist appt especially if you want support figuring out whats going on. Thats kinda their thing 🧡', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:05:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqg460'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpe1hw', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you for listening - Emotional regulation classes', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:36:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpdvmz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqurjh', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you - I’ll look into it- that doesn’t sound as expensive as private so will try it out !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T05:00:47', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqk6sv'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpf1cx', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Always happy to listen bud. Is that something you’ve tried before? Sounds like it might be based on some DBT skills. DBT stuff is actually really helpful in my experience.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:41:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpe1hw'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqwcur', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Yeah I googled people and tried to get some recommendations and contacted a bunch. I think I got lucky as he was just kindest, best therapist ever. He was so helpful at a time I was really unwell. And it wasnt as expensive as I feared. Even if you saw them fortnightly? Its nice to build a rapport with someone who listens and offers a lot of empathy 💛', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T05:09:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqurjh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjphk2i', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you and Yes DBT I think would help me - but it’s only CBT over and over', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:53:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpf1cx'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpoouu', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'It sounds like the group isn’t CBT! I’d give it a go. Something new might be really good.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:28:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mjphk2i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjprv8t', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Ok thank you - I’ll maybe try it - but what if it dies r work or do you think there will\nStill be an opportunity to speak to a physiatrist', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:43:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpoouu'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq4ydp', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'If that’s what the MH team decides you need then they’ll arrange it. Since secondary services (where psychiatrists typically work) often ask patients to do as many primary care interventions as possible, if you can show you’ve engaged as best you can with what you’ve been offered, it’ll give more of a reason to see the secondary team if needed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T02:47:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mjprv8t'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq55ev', 'author': 'mainfested_joy', 'body': 'Thank you so much for all your help I can’t thank you enough for your advice ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T02:48:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq4ydp'}, {'comment_id': 'mjq7toi', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Any time. I hope things get better for you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:01:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mjq55ev'}]"
1jjifz7,2025-03-25T18:12:59,Wait time for GP appointment TW,"After a few weeks of talking myself into and out off speaking to a gp, I finally got around to trying to book an appointment. I go through the university website to get to the practice I'm registered with. I need to complete a questionable. Explain how I've been struggling with slight depression for about 2 years. And have spent the last 6 months feeling really shit. Spent the last 2 months self harming daily. When asked what times I'm free to be called for booking an appointment I tell them. I was going to be out today for about 2 hours so I block out that period of time. Fortunately I got home early as they called me in that period of time. First available GP appointment, 29th of April. Maybe this is normal I don't really speak to GPs about anything including physical issues but for fucks sake, a month? Welp, at least I've got a thing booked now",MentalHealthUK,8,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjifz7/wait_time_for_gp_appointment_tw/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjn8dpy', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:12:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjncowk', 'author': 'DifferentMagazine4', 'body': ""That's unfortunately quite common. I'd definitely do what the other commenter said: find what time your practice opens, and ring them then. It'll take a few attempts, but hopefully you'll get through. My practice tend to do same-day for any mental health concerns involving SH or suicide."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:39:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnbud7', 'author': 'Known-Agent-1764', 'body': 'That sounds like the first pre-bookable. I’d leave that one in place, but is there any way of phoning/contacting them first thing in the morning for a same-day appointment? You might get seen quicker that way. I sometimes do that at my practice :)', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:34:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnt9w9', 'author': 'CuppaT87', 'body': 'Sadly it seems to be fairly normal these days. I would do what other people have suggested & try to get in touch with the practice first thing tomorrow.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:10:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpa8fz', 'author': 'Calm-Character-4561', 'body': 'I had the same. I was in really in a low period of my life with suicidal thoughts and tried to get an appointment (they knew my situation). My next appointment would be in 3 weeks time!!! I was so desperate that I went to A&E. And I didn’t regret it. They been amazing and the same day I had appointment with crisis team which come to my home every day to check on me and prescribed any medication I needed. \n\nIf you really struggling please do not be scared to go to the hospital. Long wait but it was definitely worth it as I’m feeling much better due knowing someone was there for me. Still not great but at least on the right path.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:17:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjifz7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjncih3', 'author': 'Th3Hunt3r1503', 'body': ""Thanks for the advice, I'll have a look into it. I've been registered with them for about 7 months, but never gone to them before :) hope you have a great day"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:38:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnbud7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjph1an', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Yes. If you really struggling, dont wait for the appt. Phone crisis team or 111, option 2, or go to the hospital. Mental Health is no joke. Wishing you the best', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:51:04', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpa8fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqcgkw', 'author': 'SadAnnah13', 'body': ""I think yours is the first positive experience I've heard about A&E wise! Good for you though, I hope you're getting the right help you need."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:25:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpa8fz'}, {'comment_id': 'mjncsio', 'author': 'Known-Agent-1764', 'body': 'It can be really hard, but stick at it. I hope you can be seen and heard soon.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:40:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mjncih3'}]"
1jji6xq,2025-03-25T18:00:03,anxiety and gut health,"i know that anxiety and stomach issues are essentially a package deal, but i feel like i'm struggling a lot to maintain it recently as i've been suffering a lot more with anxiety the past few months for a few reasons. if it's not stomach pain/aches when i'm mid panic attack, then it's nausea and lack of appetite that comes after. recently i've felt like i've been burping(?) a lot too. i havent had the best diet either the recently, ive just tried to eat what i can when i can to get some cals in. i thought maybe it's anxiety induced gerd or something if that's even a thing? i dont even think i have other symptoms of it though. i even struggle to swallow sometimes, as if i've forgotten how but it might just be because i'm hyperfocused on it when i'm eating. has anyone else had similar troubles and how they went about dealing with them? the first step would probably be for me to start eating healthier, but like i said mh/lack of appetites been getting in the way of that. is there anything else i can do atm?",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jji6xq/anxiety_and_gut_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjn6f56', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T18:00:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jji6xq'}, {'comment_id': 'mjo5rzh', 'author': 'Kellogzx', 'body': 'You could get some anti acids or similar from the pharmacy/supermarket see if those make any difference. Pharmacy generally will give you advice on what sort of stuff will help. They’re good for that kind of thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T21:13:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jji6xq'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsp0ec', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': ""Honestly I would see a doctor about it. Anxiety can cause gut health, also for a prolonged period of time, but it might also help to get a doctors opinion on whether you also have something else going on too. It's probably good to rule out or treat anything physical to be able to know what is the mental health and what is the physical health."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:49:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jji6xq'}]"
1jjg6t5,2025-03-25T15:56:10,Depersonalisation and derealisation,"Hi,

I’m just looking for ways to cope with depersonalisation and derealisation. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD and waiting for CBT but it’s happening everyday, pretty much all day and it’s mentally draining. The only way I can move past it is if I just close my eyes for a while/go to sleep but I have 2 children under 3 so it’s hard to do that unless my partner is at home. My children are at the age where they’re constantly throwing tantrums and I find it tends to happen when I get overstimulated as well. I’ve had it in the past but only as a one off whereas now it seems to be constant and some days I stay calm when it’s happening and other days I just go into panic and then I have a panic attack. I’m so tired of feeling this way. I’m also 13 weeks pregnant so I don’t know if that is why it’s so bad now, because of hormones etc but I never experienced this in my previous pregnancies. My son was in hospital with RSV in November and almost died so a therapist told me it is probably down to that. I just really want it to stop
TIA",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jjg6t5/depersonalisation_and_derealisation/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjmqsvh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:56:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjg6t5'}, {'comment_id': 'mjspe77', 'author': 'Rest_In_Many_Pieces', 'body': 'Some things my therapist recommended was:   \n\\- Take a shower.   \n\\- Hold/rub ice on myself.   \n\\- Throw cold water on my face.   \n\\- Get some fresh air, listen to the sounds outside.   \n\\- Sit down with a cup of tea.   \n\\- Calming music/meditation music. \n\nI know a lot of people say these things can really help. Personally they did not help me as for me it happens long-term, but maybe they work for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:53:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jjg6t5'}]"
1jj8c4i,2025-03-25T07:18:22,How often do you see a psychiatrist? (UK),"Hello

My psychiatrist asked me how often I felt would be helpful to see them?? And I have no idea?? 

I also know CMHTs are probably all overwhelmed. How often do you see a psychiatrist on the NHS/ through your CMHT? 

I saw them every month till I got a care coordinator. Since then, about every 6-8 weeks. Does suggesting every 6 weeks sound reasonable as I have no idea? But I very worried about therapy destabilising me. I've just been able to start therapy on NHS after a very long waitlist. ",MentalHealthUK,14,38,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jj8c4i/how_often_do_you_see_a_psychiatrist_uk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjl4izm', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:18:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjl7xdm', 'author': 'LouisePoet', 'body': ""Ok, I'm shocked that you even met one!"", 'score': 36, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:38:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmthz8', 'author': 'arthousepsycho', 'body': 'I’m honestly beginning to doubt we have any psychiatrists in my area. Anytime you are trying to sort your meds, you see the mental health team pharmacist, I see plenty of psychologists, but I’ve only seen an actual psychiatrist once in like 15 years of treatment, despite steadily worsening mental health problems and actually asking to be referred to one. Dr said he would but couldn’t promise they would see me. \n\nIf you’re getting to see one at all, think yourself massively lucky.', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T16:21:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlof3f', 'author': 'sjbate06', 'body': ""Had a phone conversation nearly three years ago with a follow up call 3 months later. That was it. Last year I actually asked my GP (over the phone again as you can't seem to get face to face appointments) who was responsible for my medication as it no longer seemed to be working... My GP just decided to increase it himself and I've just been left to get on with it"", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T09:28:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpf53q', 'author': 'concretepigeon', 'body': 'I was basically told unless you have bipolar of schizophrenia you’re shit out of luck trying to see one in my area.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:41:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjllw0c', 'author': 'Best-Swan-2412', 'body': 'In around 2010 I was suffering from severe depression and the GP referred me to a psychiatrist. There was a small mental health hospital near where I live and I saw him there. He offered me different meds that the GP couldn’t prescribe but I declined because citalopram was working for me. \n\nNow that mental health hospital has closed. A few years ago I asked to be referred to a psychiatrist and the GP said she’d put in a referral. I had an appointment with a psychiatric nurse in a random doctor’s surgery quite far away. The psychiatric nurse didn’t speak English very well, and decided that my problem was being codependent on my boyfriend, because I asked for him to come into the room with me. \n\nI asked that because I’m autistic and have severe social anxiety. The psychiatric nurse wasn’t even aware of my autism, and wouldn’t listen to what I tried to say. \n\nNow I see an excellent private psychiatrist every few months, it’s crazy expensive though.', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T09:09:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlbpxx', 'author': 'insidetheold', 'body': 'I see them a lot less than that, a couple times a year tops and this was before I managed to finally get referred for anything let alone now.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T08:01:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjm9mnd', 'author': 'nightmaresgrow', 'body': ""I'm currently reducing some of my medications. I see the NHS psychiatrist every 4-6 months. \n\nHowever, as I'm under the CMHT, I can always call them and my psychiatrist will call me back. Usually on the same day, but if not it's within a couple of days for routine enquiries."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T12:48:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmbtj0', 'author': 'Fizzy68', 'body': 'Personally I see mine every 4-8 weeks, but I am under an intensive community team after being inpatient for a long time.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T13:13:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmligx', 'author': 'temporarysliver', 'body': 'I see one for about 20mins every 6 weeks/3 months. I think I could do with seeing them more frequently though\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:02:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjn20jv', 'author': 'fithrow12', 'body': ""I've never met my actual psychiatrist, I'm under CMHT but only see the people who report to them. I have however seen my neuropsychiatrist and they want follow ups every 3 months directly with them due to post ictal psychosis. (Which is an epilepsy complication)\n\nMy CMHT is a bit useless to be fair, keep saying I'll be discharged if I miss appointments etc, but they have failed to even ring me like 5 times in the last couple of months so they have missed way more. And they are not allowed to discharge me anyway under the rules set by neuropsychiatry, I'm under them for life. This one person just said ask your gp to increase aripiprazole but they are not allowed to do so my GP said so they just waste time.\n\nBut yeah maybe 3-6 months id say if given the option."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T17:29:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmo4h3', 'author': 'Pale-Shine-6942', 'body': 'I met my cmht psychiatrist in January after being discharged from a section three in December, met him again in March and now will see him every six months. I don’t think its often enough but am also aware theres not much he could do', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:29:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmxbbq', 'author': 'kstaruk', 'body': 'Supposed to be every 6 months now that I am ""stable"", my last appointment was in August and I haven\'t heard anything about my next one\n\nAt one point during lockdowns it was weekly phone calls, I was in a state of constant crisis for a long time and constantly trying different medications to see if anything would be beneficial', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T16:53:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjni4xe', 'author': 'Photoshop_Princess', 'body': 'I was surprised to be offered to see a psychiatrist in my local gp', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T19:11:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnyyi4', 'author': 'One_Second1365', 'body': 'Every 6 months and I have bipolar type 2. I don’t think it’s enough but it is what it is. Current state of the NHS innit?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:39:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjo3gfs', 'author': 'neveragaindotcom', 'body': ""Every 6 months, I see my CMHT psychiatrist when stable. However, if I need to talk to him over the phone about anything, I email the admin team, who then forward my email to him, and he phones me to discuss. I'm very lucky to have such a lovely psychiatrist as they are very rare in the CMHT. \n\nHe also recently helped me distribute my dissertation questionnaire among his colleagues and other services within the mental health services in my county. Every Wednesday, he would bring up my questionnaire in his lead meetings, encouraging people to fill them out."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T21:01:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqbbaz', 'author': 'No_Whereas_5203', 'body': ""Not found them helpful unless I've needed a medication changed personally.  Sounds like you have a good one though to be asked your opinion, that is rare! 6 weeks seems quite a lot unless you are currently changing meds. My local cmht it was about twice a year."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:19:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsn4a4', 'author': 'jwk1327', 'body': 'I couldn’t see one on the NHS after a 9 month wait and was forced to go privately. Once I’m well enough to work I’m gonna put savings to the side specifically for\nPrivate healthcare as I believe nhs are not able to treat people to a good standard anymore.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:29:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsox07', 'author': 'likpinklady', 'body': 'I’m supposed to see mine every 3 months but in the last 2 years I’ve been under the CMHT I’ve seen my psych 3 times. \nDiagnosed EUPD and ASD.\n\nProbably for the best because he’s a complete fucking arsehole who has constantly been dismissive, refused to refer me to eating disorder services, and has actually SHOUTED at my partner, “I AM THE CLINICAL PROFESSIONAL HERE” when I brought him in to help advocate for me.\nI’ve had appointments sent out, but they’ve all been cancelled on the day due to “unforeseen circumstances.” The next appointment that comes through is then in like another 3/4 months time. Just for it to be cancelled again. \nThe last time I saw my psychiatrist he berated me for “missing my last appointment” to which I showed him a text of the cancellation. He replied “well I don’t know what happened there but I was sat here, waiting for you.” \n\nI’m in Wales.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T12:48:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjtvygg', 'author': 'Sacrar', 'body': 'It depends on the context. If medication is prescribed, it will need a more routine, less spaced monitoring (once every month or every few weeks). After medication is adjusted and seems to be working you can space out visits, something like this once every 2-3 months.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T18:59:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzpkmr', 'author': 'rat_skeleton', 'body': 'Whenever we do a mental health act assessment 😅', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T16:35:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjzt71v', 'author': 'sykeitsmorgan', 'body': 'once every 3 months on the nhs unless an emergency appointment was booked for a mhaa. once a month privately but i can drop that down whenever i want which i intend to do after my next appointment', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T17:03:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mkb86d4', 'author': '84849493', 'body': 'Every four weeks with my last one. 6-8 with the current one. I’m starting to get better so expecting that to reduce if I can keep that up and I can always email him if anything comes up between appointments too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T10:26:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mkffzak', 'author': 'NoAnt4221', 'body': 'i see a psychiatrist through camhs, every 6 weeks is usually how long i wait to see him. i often have emergency appointments so get seen sooner than most. usually following a&e discharge.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:07:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj8c4i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlaqmi', 'author': 'Express_Possibility5', 'body': ""I've recently started tapering off a very high dose of prescription benzos and just switched antidepressants at the direction of my psychiatrist. I have no follow up appointment booked. I expect 4-6 months if history is anything to go by.\n\n\nIt's disgraceful."", 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:55:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mjl7xdm'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnu7lj', 'author': 'mimi2001f', 'body': 'Similar to me, I had a phone conversation with my CMHT - was an over the phone mental health assessment which pissed me off because surely it would be better to do so in a face to face setting 🤷\u200d♀️. The lady that did my assessment was rude, made very insensitive comments about my mental health. She decided I don’t have a “serious mental health issue” and told me to work on my relationship with my mum 😹. She also told me to stay away from the antidepressants my GP prescribed me because I have periods of elated mood and she was worried they would make me worse (weird of her to say if she doesn’t think I have anything wrong with me). \n\nBut yes, my GP also prescribed me antidepressants and after I went back several times stating that I was becoming more depressed even a year into the meds - my GP just upped my dosage every time I called up which made my mood swings worse. Now I’m left with no options 🤷\u200d♀️', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:15:38', 'parent_id': 't1_mjlof3f'}, {'comment_id': 'mjprwq1', 'author': 'fireflower0', 'body': 'Same here! 29 and have struggled with my mental health severely since 17 (can’t work, have no friends, been on a million antidepressants) and have never seen a psychiatrist!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T01:43:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpf53q'}, {'comment_id': 'mkl84e5', 'author': 'Electrical-Lead9621', 'body': 'It’s okay if your stable. I’m private and won’t see mine more than once every 3-6 months unless I’m in an episode then he will want to see me frequently until I’m stable.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T03:29:53', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnyyi4'}, {'comment_id': 'mki356i', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Thats so helpful you can email between appts. I saw my psychiatrist every 4 weeks until I got a care coordinator. Now its every 6-8 weeks', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:51:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mkb86d4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmplxf', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'I’ve got bipolar, diagnosed almost 5 years and I’ve seen a psych twice. Ironically I had way more help and support when I had a “low mood” label', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:44:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mjlaqmi'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqbrqv', 'author': 'No_Whereas_5203', 'body': ""That is ridiculous as elated mood with antidepressants can point to bipolar. I am sick of mental health services being so dismissive.  Would be better for them to be honest and say sorry we don't have the staff then to dismiss people's struggles."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T03:21:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnu7lj'}, {'comment_id': 'mki390r', 'author': '84849493', 'body': 'You should ask if it’s possible! It’s the only way I’ve been able to get real help because I communicate so much better that way.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:52:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mki356i'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqq76q', 'author': 'Express_Possibility5', 'body': ""I'm sorry. It's awful."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:36:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mjmplxf'}, {'comment_id': 'mjrd3j9', 'author': 'mimi2001f', 'body': 'My thoughts exactly. My first thought after the assessment was “she must think I have bipolar or something if she’s worried about the antidepressants”. I also told her I have been experiencing elated mood prior to being prescribed them & the antidepressants made me cycle back and forth between episodes a LOT more quicker than I’d usually cycle 🤷\u200d♀️ & people wonder why a lot of us self diagnose sometimes (to a degree of course).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T06:42:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqbrqv'}, {'comment_id': 'mki3dqd', 'author': 'OkElephant7455', 'body': 'Sometimes I do email. As you say its often a much easier way for me to communicate. They never reply though.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:53:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mki390r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsk07b', 'author': 'Glad-Pomegranate6283', 'body': 'It’s so frustrating. I suspect I have eupd and although they’ve recognised I have traits, they backtracked out of an assessment unfortunately', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T11:56:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mjqq76q'}, {'comment_id': 'mki3pkk', 'author': '84849493', 'body': 'That’s so shitty! My last one wasn’t very good at replying, but the one I have now is fantastic in that regard.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T16:56:56', 'parent_id': 't1_mki3dqd'}]"
1jj47us,2025-03-25T04:09:41,Can I be forced to move out of house with support to less support?,"Yeah just what I said above basically.

I have some mental health issues. Anxiety and depression I have had for a long time. 

Within the last 3 months I have also had paranoia and some voices. The voices appeared to be temporary.. or at least the intensity was temporary. I still hear them but they don’t bother.

I won’t go into more detail because I’m asking about the practical stuff. 

I’m at a house like supported living house I share with others. There are staff that work here 24/7, which is great when you’re anxious. Which I was for a good month or so, I mean a month VERY anxious and it lessened after that and declined to now where it’s not too bad. 

Can they force me to move to a house with less support (staff not there constantly, probably just a visit for half hour/hour each week day).

I really don’t feel ready. I’m doing better than I was at the height of things but I’m still very anxious and dont do basically anything I avoid leaving the house as much as possible.  ",MentalHealthUK,4,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jj47us/can_i_be_forced_to_move_out_of_house_with_support/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjk689v', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. 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Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:09:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj47us'}, {'comment_id': 'mjp4itu', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': 'Ultimately yes they can. How easy it would be to do so depends. If you are there on a licence agreement it is easier, if it’s a tenancy agreement it would take longer to evict you. And ultimately social services are under no obligation to fund support which they have assessed you do not need. However if you have s117 aftercare then it would be a lot more difficult to remove the support and evict you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T23:49:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj47us'}, {'comment_id': 'mjuigx6', 'author': 'SavingsLow7704', 'body': ""It's a stepped approach to you getting your own place. If you feel you aren't ready yet, speak to them about your worries. But honestly, I think you should give it a try. If it works out, you'll most likely be put on the top band for bidding to get your own place in 6 to12 months."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T20:56:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj47us'}, {'comment_id': 'mjunepk', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'I have no idea about the tenancy to be honest. I haven’t ever signed a NEW agreement, so I’m assuming any tenancy I had for a specific period will have expired by now as I’ve been here about 2.5 years.\n\nI’m not on the section thing where they can recall you to a mental health hospital, if that’s what that section you quoted is.\n\nI was originally living in a shared house where staff would come to see me for an hour a few times a week. I think it was 3 times a week but it would have reduced to just once a week over time. But I was sectioned while living there. Spent around 7 weeks I think, in hospital, although a decent chunk of that time  was them looking for a new place for me to live, as the staff at my existing house felt that I needed more support than they could give.\n\nSo then I came out of hospital into the house I’m at now with staff working 24/7.\n\nI suspect the idea is to move me into a house like the one I was in before I went into hospital. The problem is I go through periods of doing a lot better where I don’t require much support, but then I can go downhill and be in need of a lot of support.\n\nRight now I’m doing better but there’s no guarantee that this will last. I’d like to have at least 6 months of doing well to be confident that I’ll be ok with less support.\n\nI also don’t want to move to less support and then find I need more and then they agree and move me back into something like where I am now. Because then I’ve uprooted everything for no reason. \n\nBut yeah I guess I’ll just have to try and persuade them that I do need the support.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T21:20:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mjp4itu'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvmmjx', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': 'Section 117 (which I quoted) is not something where you can be recalled to hospital (that is a CTO). Section 117 is an entitlement to aftercare which people get if they are detained under Section 3 or under other forensic sections. It essentially makes a duty on the NHS and Social Services to provide services to keep you mentally well and prevent readmission to hospital. Generally the aim with supported accommodation is to move on within 2 years, but most people are there for a lot longer. Are they talking about stepping you down?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:09:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mjunepk'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvn787', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'Yeah, stepping me down basically. But yeah I wasn’t on a section 3, just section 2. So I guess I probably don’t have that thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:12:09', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvmmjx'}, {'comment_id': 'mjvndjn', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'It was the second time I’ve been sectioned and the time before that was only 6 months before. But still I don’t think I’m on that thing as I assume I’d know?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T00:13:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvmmjx'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwbo1y', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': ""If you have only been on a s2 then you won't have s117. The other way to tell is about if you need to pay a contribution to your care - people with s117 don't need to pay for any of their care, but people not on it will need to be financially assessed and will usually pay a contribution"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:09:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mjvndjn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwbvj6', 'author': 'Specialist-Pizza4334', 'body': 'Ahh ok, yeah I do have to pay towards it. Guess I’ll just have to see what they say then.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:10:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwbo1y'}, {'comment_id': 'mjwcajc', 'author': 'fanatic_608', 'body': 'You could look into getting an advocate for when they do your placement review to help express your concerns', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:12:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mjwbvj6'}]"
1jj33jd,2025-03-25T03:22:56,Advice: taking a break from teacher training to focus on health but feeling extremely down.,"Taking a break in studies and taking a part time job because of health issues. What do I do now?

Hi all,
As the title suggests, this has to do with my struggling health. I was currently completing teacher training for secondary school but I had to request a break in training due to my health going down the toilet. 

I'm extremely worried as these past few weeks have been a roller coaster. I managed to find a zero hours part time job in care and my wife is extremely supportive but I'm scared about what the future holds. I'm currently being investigated for MS (multiple sclerosis) and I'm honestly terrified as they found a black vessel in my spine. I'm getting booked in for an MRI for both my brain and spine but I also have been experiencing fainting episodes where I can just drop and faint.

On top of that, I had family reappear into my life and I found out that my brother (16) has become a drug dealer. I don't know what to do as I'm not particularly close to my family but I don't want to see them destroy themselves.

I want to finish my training but my health worries me. My partner advises me to find a different career path, the problem is that my careers are going into care and teaching.

Any advice is welcome. ",MentalHealthUK,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jj33jd/advice_taking_a_break_from_teacher_training_to/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjjxdpk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:22:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj33jd'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjzpn6', 'author': 'onceuponavegan', 'body': ""Ok that sounds super stressful.\n\nI also took a break from my teacher training. Mine was because my undiagnosed (at the time) autism was causing MH nightmares. I qualified, did my NQT year and have since moved to working part time in FE and that suits me better.\n\nI previously tutored privately and I'm wondering if that could be an option?\n\nAlso agency/ short term supply is an option you could consider. I was surprised that I enjoyed it and it made me a more resilient teacher."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:35:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jj33jd'}]"
1jiypl4,2025-03-25T00:28:54,frustrated with lack of support,"little tw for sh

i was in the hospital last Tuesday for my sh after my support worker made me go, i left with 24 stitches. i was allowed to leave and was told sm1 from my mh team would contact me and arrange an appointment. since then, ive had one phone call where they didn't even ask if i was okay, simply told me that my 4th care coordinator (in only 10 months) would be starting in the next 2 months and to 'just be patient'.

i was very open with the psychiatrist i saw in the hospital that i had no intention of staying clean when i got home, my mental health team is aware of how frequently i sh and the severity. yet they just don't care. i don't know what to do or where to go anymore, when i leave college in June i will lose the only mental health support i have and i don't see how i will survive with none. ive told them this and they just keep telling me it's my responsibility to get better, the only advice they've given me is to learn how to drive. 

i feel so stuck, like no matter how much i ask for support they just keep ignoring me. i understand the service is stretched thin but i don't know how to cope with it anymore. ",MentalHealthUK,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiypl4/frustrated_with_lack_of_support/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjixpqx', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:28:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjj305m', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I’m so sorry you’ve had a shit time recently. I guess since their job at A&E/minor injuries is to deal with the acute issue, they’re limited in their options there. However I think it would be better if your community MH team were more supportive, maybe your support worker could get in touch with them?Usually with things like SH MH teams emphasise harm reduction because they can’t actually physically stop you, idk if theyve advised you on anything like that at all. Do you feel like you can lean on your support worker to help you through til your appt?', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:54:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkfuwt', 'author': 'ArmouredBardi5', 'body': ""Hi OP, I'm sorry you feel like this and I totally get it. It's frustrating when you don't get the support you feel you need. I don't want to give the NHS an excuse or bash them, but I've had similar experiences.\n\nAlways remember that the Samaritans are there to talk to without any judgement. You don't have to be thinking about suidslide to talk to them. They've helped me so so much over the years when I had no one in my life.\n\nIf you can afford it then paying for a good therapist can also help, you can also find therapists who are happy to offer concessions if you're struggling to pay their fees. This means they take on a small number of clients at a heavily reduced rate, but it takes some looking.\n\nI really hope you get through this and know that even if you feel alone, you aren't. So many of us are going through similar shit these days.\n\nOh, volunteering can be a great one! Gives you responsibility and altruism can actually give you more energy and strength than it takes. Theres are charity in the UK that helps people with gardening and other community projects. I think it's called the Good Gym.\n\nMy last suggestion (take em or leave em) would be to dive into a hobby with a passion, whether that's art, dance, music, writing, painting tiny plastic models or dog walking. You'll find people who enjoy the same things you do."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:00:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlubhw', 'author': 'Automatic-Scale-7572', 'body': ""Yeah, there just is no support there. I've been in crisis since I left hospital in November and outside of my GP, who has been supportive, there's nobody to turn to. It's so frustrating that you look up what should I do in this situation, do what they tell me to do, and end up feeling worse and unsupported. Yesterday was a particularly bad day, crying all day and very dark thoughts, but I can't keep annoying my GP. \nI genuinely think this country is heading for a complete MH pandemic, and the government thinks stigmatising people is going to make it better!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T10:15:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqnsh8', 'author': '3braincellsinatrench', 'body': ""Can whoever is giving you mental health support in college refer you anywhere or at least point you to some resources? Assuming you're not a mature student, you may be able to access some free counselling that's specifically for young people- there might be some charity offering free or low cost support in your area.\n\nI'm sorry that you're being let down right now by the lack of support. I hope things get better for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:24:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiypl4'}]"
1jiy6s2,2025-03-25T00:08:39,Update on the new news rule following on from the sub poll.,"Hello everyone, here's an update regarding the results of the poll. In response to the results we've now added a rule (number 7) relating to news articles. The main take away from this update I'd like you to take away is that **news articles must be titled as ""news"" only and tagged spoiler and NSFW. You may add the title of the article within the body text.** Please do not editorialise and stick to what the article is titled. I'll add the updated rule below. 

*""News articles must be titled as ""news"", marked as spoilers and tagged NSFW*

*Due to a number of members finding news articles directly detrimental to their mental health we have implemented limits on how news articles must be posted. They must be titled as simply ""news"" and the original heading without editorialising must be displayed within the text of the post. They must be marked spoiler and NSFW so that users do not accidentally read such posts and have an active choice to engage in news articles.""*



Thank you all! 

Mod Team",MentalHealthUK,13,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiy6s2/update_on_the_new_news_rule_following_on_from_the/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjith4l', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:08:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiy6s2'}]"
1jiwhd6,2025-03-24T23:02:25,Feeling so fragile .. dont know how to stay safe?,"Hello

I feeling really unwell. Very unstable and unpredictable. Lots of intrusive thoughts. Crisis team came out yesterday for assessment but just said they would liase with my CMHT as its complex even though I told them I dont feel safe at all in my home or mind. 

So I guess they did liase because a duty worker from CMHT rang me today about 3pm. But I asked them what am I supposed to do if the intrusive thoughts I had at weekend come back? Without being too graphic they were very specific violent self injurious behaviour and plans of suicide. Ive never had them before. But they were loud thoughts and exhausting. Ive mostly been sleeping so I dont have to be awake and feel so unwell. 

I explained to the duty worker my worries about staying safe and they told me to have scents around to smell if I feeling dissociated and to keep taking one step at a time. That I have appts this week to focus on...

but I feel so fragile and emotionally vulnerable? I just received a big diagnosis and Im not processing it very well. I dont feel well. Is this the support? How do I keep going? ",MentalHealthUK,3,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiwhd6/feeling_so_fragile_dont_know_how_to_stay_safe/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjifn99', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:02:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwhd6'}, {'comment_id': 'mjir6ae', 'author': 'ContributionDry3626', 'body': ""If you are struggling then you can ask to speak to a duty worker during your CMHT opening hours but there's also the mental health hub on 111."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:57:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwhd6'}, {'comment_id': 'mjiyivu', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Thank you. I did speak to duty worker at cmht before they closed. They were kind and sympathetic but just suggesting smelling strong things. I phoned 111 who routed me to crisis team on Friday and it took an insane amount of time for someone to call back so I dont know that that is a viable option either?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:32:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mjir6ae'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkjqd7', 'author': 'ContributionDry3626', 'body': ""Have you tried other helplines before (samaritans etc)? Sometimes they can be a bit quicker to get a hold of. It's sometimes handy keeping note of a few different helplines so there's always somewhere that you can reach out.\n\nI hope that things get better for you and you feel better soon."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:18:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mjiyivu'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkkink', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Thank you for your kind words. I tried SHOUT yesterday but was asleep by the time they replied (4am). I find texting easier as I can become quite mute on phone.\n\nIs Samaritans the main helpline? Do they take long to answer?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:22:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mjkjqd7'}, {'comment_id': 'mjovnwv', 'author': 'ContributionDry3626', 'body': ""Hey there, sorry for my slow response! Samaritans is a volunteer run helpline, that has a webchat although they are only open at limited times (I think it's during the evenings), and the phone line is open 24/7. \n\n  I can relate, I struggle a lot over the phone so I mainly use webchats when I need to. I've used the webchat on breathing space quite a bit (although that is for Scotland). I think Papyrus has a webchat. It might be worth checking out the master post for other helplines and support that would be relevant to you."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T23:07:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjkkink'}, {'comment_id': 'mjp9hcy', 'author': 'Brief-Worldliness411', 'body': 'Thank you. I did ring Samaritans yesterday and the person was really helpful 🙏', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:14:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mjovnwv'}]"
1jiwfny,2025-03-24T23:00:29,Being bullied at work which has made my paranoia and anxiety sky high.,"So basically I've been getting bullied by this guy at work and Friday I made a formal complaint against him and my boss says he is gonna pull him in for a word.. however...

Instead of this making me feel better I'm completely paranoid, I'm losing sleep over it and constantly on edge thinking this complaint will make it worse, that this guy might retaliate bad on me and do something to make my whole life harder, like make false complaints about me, report me for crimes I've not committed or turn everyone at work against me for making a complaint.

Part of me wants to drop the complaint but then nothing would change either way.

I'm so paranoid and full of anxiety I just don't know what to do",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiwfny/being_bullied_at_work_which_has_made_my_paranoia/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjif948', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:00:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwfny'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk4kkb', 'author': 'Icy-Individual8637', 'body': ""nah dont drop it.\n\nsticking up to a bully is an act of bravery and integrity.\n\nstick with it, its supposed to be uncomfortable because confrontation is uncomfortable.\n\nThe bully needs to realise that his actions were confrontational and there has to be a counter action so they can feel uncomfortable as you did.\n\nYou've done it right.\n\nusually a bully will get me down at some point but i will always win in the end, not worth their time doing it by the time im done. goes for people i witness bullying others too.\n\ni find the shock factor works in whatever form, suprise them one way or another.\n\nI usually find because I'm normally so nice the non eye contact communication and polite silence eventually gets to them after a prolonged time.  I can get into their heads. Maintain it but dont make it obvious and petty or it looks like you are bullying them.  \n  \nHad an example of this just recently and i think they are now finding it hard to be in the same room, Ive not had to shout or cry to the boss and they probably will learn their lesson,"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:00:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwfny'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmh56y', 'author': 'memoryboy', 'body': ""I think you should put your mental health first. If you are struggling with anxiety then get a sick note and take some time off work. Hope your anxiety gets better. Don't think you have to live with it."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T14:14:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwfny'}]"
1jiwbtr,2025-03-24T22:56:16,Scared to go to the hair salon because of small talk,"I have very bad anxiety and hate engaging in small talk with strangers. However, I really need a hair cut and to get blonde highlights put back in my hair. My issue is that hairdressers always ask questions like ""So, what do you do for work?"". I'm currently not working at the moment due to my mental health, so what am I supposed to say? ",MentalHealthUK,18,18,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiwbtr/scared_to_go_to_the_hair_salon_because_of_small/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjiedu7', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T22:56:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjir4ak', 'author': 'BobMonroeFanClub', 'body': 'If anyone asks about work you say ""I had to give up work to care for a loved one"" They don\'t need to know you mean yourself.', 'score': 19, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:57:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjiewic', 'author': 'MystickPisa', 'body': ""Earbuds in, tell them you have to listen to something for 'work' (the work is your mental good health) and apologise that you're not going to be talking to them. Then listen to a podcast. I recommend Brene Brown's 'Unlocking Us':  \n  \n[https://brenebrown.com/podcast-show/unlocking-us/](https://brenebrown.com/podcast-show/unlocking-us/)"", 'score': 14, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T22:58:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjik24m', 'author': 'AudienceHead6899', 'body': 'I have seen a ""no talking"" option when booking a hair appointment before, so it\'s something some hairdressers definitely cater for. Is there a subReddit for your town/city you could post in asking for recommendations anyone might know?\n\nI hate small talk too and have learned to just be a bit liberal with the truth when answering some uncomfortable questions.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:23:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjildtd', 'author': 'No-Ad4423', 'body': ""I do mine myself now, or my partner does it. There's a good highlighting kit you can get from Superdrug - it has a lady with a pixie cut on the front. Pretty straightforward, just takes a while. Easier if you have someone helping.\n\nA colleague taught me a while ago how to trim my lengths to get nice layers. You make a tight ponytail directly on the top of your head. Pull the ponytail straight up, then put another hair band around the tip, leaving just an inch or so showing. Cut your hair that's sticking out the second band. Works really well, and takes like 5 mins."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:29:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjio3ys', 'author': 'coffeehoarder9000', 'body': ""I go into a verbal shutdown around strangers *often* and booking online and using the notes really helped. The woman who last did my hair was so understanding about it! The only things she asked of me was if my cut was okay and let me use my hands to say yes or no. \n\nAs anxiety inducing as it is I recommend just being honest or looking for an ND friendly salon they're great!"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:42:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjj0qm8', 'author': 'DejaEntenduOne', 'body': ""I actually went earlier to have hair cut; I can't stand it, especially asking about work. I work part time 10hrs, but most people will judge even that, nothing is ever enough. You go from no work, then build yourself up, it still won't be adequate to people who make jobs their whole personality. Today I actually told a little white lie that I've been in work since 4am, even though it was a bit later. I don't usually lie, even to strangers, but after many years feeling much like you here; maybe it's best for your sanity. Answer with what you think you'd be doing if not for this particular struggle. Since this year, my toleration for people talking about work and what do you do has hit an all time low. Even if I was well and working 40 hours, I reckon my tolerance would be EVEN lower. Unfortunately it seems to just be the default comfort topic us humans jump to, after complaining about the weather"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:43:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjii9bh', 'author': 'ShyBiSaiyan', 'body': ""I find it so difficult to go, I need to get it cut so I can colour it again myself. And because I don't like to go to new places and covid happened now I have to book in to get it cut, I can't just turn up and that adds another layer of difficulty because I struggle with booking things as online can feel overwhelming and making phone calls even more so 🥲. And now it's at that length it's reaaalllllly irritating me 🥲, prior to me wanting my hair semi long I'd just cut it all down to a 5 length myself (during covid) but now I like some length 😅"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:14:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjbfr3', 'author': 'wooden_werewolf_7367', 'body': ""Just give lots of one word answers which don't invite further questions and don't make eye contact. Get your phone out or read a book. They should get the message. I hate going the hairdressers for the same reason but at this point I don't care if they think I am rude for not talking unless needed. I'm there to get my wig sorted, not chat to someone I'm never going to see again."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T01:35:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjinuzb', 'author': 'Beautiful_Angle4283', 'body': 'I started getting a mobile hairdresser to come round as made it easier for my anxiety,would that help?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:41:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjj1gaf', 'author': 'LouisePoet', 'body': ""My housemate is a hair dresser.   He loves it, but says the worst part is trying to talk to a customer when he isn't sure if they want to or not.   Just tell your stylist you love silence.   I promise they won't be offended!!   They'll appreciate knowing what you want."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T00:46:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjrqva', 'author': 'whatsername235', 'body': ""I would reach out on social media to a couple of places locally and just ad honest. \n\nTell them about your anxiety and how you would prefer to not have to make small talk as it's tough for you. In my experience, I would reach out to 'alternative' hairdressers. Those who deal a lot with unusual cuts and colours. They're much less likely to be traditional with their holidays chat and more understanding.\n\nAs another option, post on your own city's reddit. Someone here will know a hairdresser who will look after you well. I hope you find someone who can help out and make you comfortable. There's a lot of people out there who can and will make it a good experience."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:53:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpbye7', 'author': 'InTheseBoness', 'body': 'Have you considered lying about why you’re making the request for no small talk? I know that sounds bad but as an example, I have really bad eyesight and can’t see without my glasses. So when I take them off during the appointment, that plus the general hustle & bustle of the salon and hair dryers etc, I genuinely cannot make out what they are saying as I can’t read their lips without my glasses on to fill in the gaps. \n\nUnfortunately it seems like every hair dresser has been trained on how to fill the gaps in conversation with more conversation but after a couple of awkward moments over the years as I learned how to be more confident or assertive in these kind of situations, now I just kind of squint and tilt my head so they can visually see that I’m not following them and then say something like “Sorry, can’t see or hear a thing in here without my glasses on, don’t worry about chatting. I’m good in my own bubble, I promise. You’re free to get on with what you do best!”\n\nMany many people struggle to hold conversations at the hair dressers for many different reasons. If it feels too personal to lay your own anxieties bare for a stranger (totally valid) then feel free to borrow my excuse for a while and wear a pair of reading glasses that they will ask you remove.\n\nOr you can say you’re hard of hearing and forgot your hearing aids today, hell you can get a badge if needs be and tap it with an apologetic shrug every time they start a conversation. \n\nIt’s your hair appointment. You are paying them for a service. Your preferences are valid. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You can be polite but firm and even offer a friendly giggle and reminder if they slip up and try small talk again later on out of habit.\n\nEdit: you can also lie about your job. I’m confident you’re not the first person. Just keep it simple and tell them about the last job you had. It’s not that deep and I promise they don’t really care.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:26:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjijps7', 'author': 'brokencasbutt67', 'body': 'If its one that you can book online (i.e. Facebook, email), perhaps add a note that says like ""Sorry, I\'ve got a lot on and I\'d like to be in silence/not talking."" Maybe? Or airpods as someone else mentioned', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T23:21:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjjct2', 'author': 'plantsaint', 'body': 'I do too. Could you say you struggle with migraines or bad fatigue?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:12:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnk1wd', 'author': 'HearthAndHorizon', 'body': 'I would ring (or email) around local salons and ask if they offer “quiet appointments”. \n\nMore places than we realise actually do. You can be honest and say it’s for anxiety reasons, or just fib and say you work a very vocal job, would love to get the hair consultation done and then just be left in quiet please to enjoy getting your hair done and reading a magazine or book. \n\nThen book your appointment with whoever feels the most genuinely willing to offer that service.\n\nYou might even be able to google “hair salons with quiet appointments” in your area. Maybe someone’s already tried it and put up reviews? \n\nGood Luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T19:22:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mk36yh6', 'author': 'humpbackkwhale', 'body': ""I asked my hairdresser not to do small talk with me because of my mental health. She wasnt at all taken aback and said yes of course, she had another client who liked the  same because of their autism. So maybe it's not that uncommon."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T04:13:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbz756', 'author': 'virus-of-life', 'body': 'Ok so bit of a different POV but maybe the hairdresser might feel relieved if you ask for a silent session ☺️? They might too be exhausted from small talk all day too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T15:14:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiwbtr'}]"
1jim3r6,2025-03-24T14:12:41,How to go about getting access to my prescription?,"Hello, I am a US citizen and I am currently here studying post graduate degree. About 3 years ago I was diagnosed with ADHD and have been taking Adderall XR to help. The problem I am having is getting access to my medication here in the UK. I tried to go through the NHS, but when they called me after registering with a practice, they requested I send over my diagnosis letter from my primary physician in the US then never responded or followed up after I emailed it to them. I have since tried to schedule appointments twice and have not heard from them. I know the NHS is very overwhelmed and have read that getting prescribed for ADHD in the UK is difficult, but I'm already prescribed and have proof of my diagnosis. I would go private but I'm worried it would be expensive and all I really need is someone to send a prescription in to a pharmacy. Am I misunderstanding how the system works here or should I just make an appointment with a private practice to get it done quickly? Is there someone else I should be trying to get in touch with? Any advice would help because I've been trying for almost 8 months now and I'm not sure what to do next.",MentalHealthUK,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jim3r6/how_to_go_about_getting_access_to_my_prescription/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjg5lwb', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. 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1jin61w,2025-03-24T15:35:25,Wellness helplines,"Greetings MH UKers. Hopefully a simple query that seems best suited to this sub, but if this doesn't fit the sub then if someone can point me in the right direction.

The last few weeks I've been going through increased stress, to the point where I'm now starting to feel what I'd describe as anxious: increased heart rate, irritability, waking up in the middle of the night, not enjoying things I once did. I'm not sure if these are classic anxiety symptoms or something else. They do have a series of triggers, that I'm not comfortable going into detail on Reddit right now. However the company I work for recently signed everyone up to health plan (I won't name in the post in case it comes across as advertising but it begins with an M), and I notice that one of the benefits is access to a health and stress wellness helpline. 

So my question is: Is this an appropriate use case for it? I feel this would make me feel worse if I rang them and they basically said that I should do go down another avenue to aid my issues.   
Bonus question: Would they offer any advice that differs from what I can already gain online with a bit of googling (or within this sub)?",MentalHealthUK,4,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jin61w/wellness_helplines/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjgd7md', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T15:35:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jin61w'}, {'comment_id': 'mjginq3', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Hi! I’m sorry things haven’t been so good lately. Maybe have a look online to see if there’s any more information available. I wonder if it might be more focused on work-based stress? However it’s worth a go. If it’s there, use it :) None of us can say 100% that they’ll give you anything new, but you never know, they might. I’d try it and see. \n\nSignposting is a very normal thing to do with any service and I promise it isn’t them trying to brush you off or anything. When a service suggests you check out another one they’re doing it because they want you to get the best / most appropriate help relative to what you’re struggling with.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:27:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jin61w'}, {'comment_id': 'mjgkhm6', 'author': 'ChickenPijja', 'body': ""Thanks, it's a mix of work based and personal issues. My query is that I've never used one of these kinds of service before and wondering what their intended audience is. I wouldn't want to ring them about feeling anxious and they be expecting calls about physical health concerns rather than mental health. \n\nI feel the same way about MP surgeries, it's not clear what their intended purpose is either to me."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:43:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mjginq3'}, {'comment_id': 'mjgl1vt', 'author': 'Miserable_Bug_5671', 'body': ""I would recommend ringing them. Think of it as being on a runaway cat that is breakfast picking up speed. You want to get off that cart as soon as possible. Don't wait for things to get worse."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:48:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjgkhm6'}]"
1jiif9r,2025-03-24T09:43:31,I need advice as I cant get medication on the nhs,"Hello. I have had a history of long periods of depression and periods of elevated moods. I need medication at this point to help manage it as I haven't been okay in a long time. I have borderline traits. I can have psychotic traits for long periods of time I can't manage.

The one medication I have been on that has helped somewhat was quetiapine. that helped manage it a bit. I cant get anything other than anti depressants now which have not done anything to help. I want to try getting back on it because I haven't been able to cope in a long time. I'm tired of suffering.

As I am autistic and they've diagnosed me with a personality disorder I've been told medication wont do anything, I think I'm out of luck for the nhs. I feel let down because I keep losing the things I work for because of it. When I have tried getting help I'll tell them I'm borderline when they ask and they then they aren't interested at at all. I feel like some things would not have happened had I received help at the time.

My friendships have been affected by how I can be and it isn't fair on other people. Such as calling everyone and going on and on to an excessive degree for a while. Then not contacting anyone because I'm too depressed to get up.

Would it be affordable to go private for the sake of medication? Could I get it moved over to the nhs if it's proven to actually help me? Would I charged more because I'm also autistic (its a worry due to how I've treated in the past)? I cant work so I'm on benefits. I just feel so stuck because I cant do anything with my life as it currently is. I used to be quite creative. It takes a while to relearn things again. longer than usual for the past few years and then I'm not myself again. I can try to manage it earlier on, but it takes everything out of me when I have low moods. I'm not going to for very long when I have high mood because I think I'm great when I am very much not.

Is there any ways anyone else has found that has worked if I can't get anything?",MentalHealthUK,8,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jiif9r/i_need_advice_as_i_cant_get_medication_on_the_nhs/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjffbsx', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T09:43:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjgrnwn', 'author': 'temporarysliver', 'body': 'Are you under a CMHT? If not, try to get your GP to refer you to one, and say you have BPD and are also concerned about bipolar disorder.\n\nAnecdotally, I have a EUPD diagnosis and have been prescribed Quetiapine (no longer taking it) so it is possible', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T17:40:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjh64ry', 'author': 'Funny_Relief2602', 'body': 'It might be tough to get meds unfortunately a lot of psychiatrist will put everything down to your autism.  I just don’t want you to pay 100s of pounds to see someone private and not get the outcome you want. It might be difficult to get referred to the CMHT they might reject ask your gp if you can be referred to the primary community mental health team they are more short term over there but you’ll be able to see a psychiatrist and I think you’ll get accepted given how difficult it is to cope right now. I think jumping back to antipsychotics given their potency is what they are worried about try out an antidepressants but when you do ask them to prescribe one which has a less likelihood to cause mania/ hypomania given your history because even when you go to other teams they would like to see that you have tried something recently and see from there all the best OP', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T19:13:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjffbts', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T09:43:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg4adr', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T13:57:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkg3l0', 'author': 'Sade_061102', 'body': 'You can get anti psychotics and mood stabilisers through the nhs, as well as different types of anti depressants', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T05:01:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjqpqom', 'author': '3braincellsinatrench', 'body': ""I would see if you're able to get a second opinion on the NHS.\n\n>they've diagnosed me with a personality disorder I've been told medication wont do anything\n\nThis seems quite strange to me. While there aren't any specific meds for BPD, people with BPD are frequently prescribed meds to help manage symptoms. Sometimes antidepressants,.sometimes antipsychotics like quetiapine which act like a mood stabiliser at lower doses, sometimes a combination of meds. I've known a couple of people with BPD who've been on quetiapine to help with moods. \n\nIf you feel like quetiapine has helped before, I would try to advocate for yourself and explain to them why you felt it helped and why you would like it to be prescribed. Ot if you have a family member/friend you trust, ask if they can come to an appointment and advocate for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T04:34:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jiif9r'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk1a0y', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""I'm unsure if I even am at this point. I've been discharged in the past without being informed and end up being referred again to teams again. I think in my area they're quite dismissive if you have a personality disorder diagnosis (from my own experience)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:43:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mjgrnwn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk1s9t', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""I will be phoning my gp when they're open tomorrow though to try getting an appointment. thanks!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:45:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mjgrnwn'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk0ftd', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""thank you. I'll have to try again. I'm under an area where it's hard to see a psychiatrist as well even if you end being on the cmht (I believe I still am at least partially, if I'm not it wouldn't surprise me), because there's not very many. Hopefully someone will listen to me at some point. They usually just don't believe me which is unfortunate"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T03:38:55', 'parent_id': 't1_mjh64ry'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg6dhj', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': 'I did see one and I got diagnosed with a personality disorder by them', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T14:21:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mjg4adr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg7ucd', 'author': 'Icy_Scientist_8511', 'body': ""I have asked about bipolar disorder before though and they've told me that given my age during events I don't have it. Also that me being autistic just complicates it"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T14:37:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mjg4adr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmqifn', 'author': 'temporarysliver', 'body': 'That’s so strange, where I am personality disorders are one of the specific things the CMHT is there to treat. Good luck with your appointment', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T15:53:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mjk1a0y'}]"
1jigvns,2025-03-24T08:15:58,How to get therapy in the UK?,"Hi all, I’m a uni student and I’m wondering where I can get low cost therapy. The system through the NHS is a long waiting list, and I’m wondering if I can find reliable low cost therapy instead? Thanks",MentalHealthUK,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jigvns/how_to_get_therapy_in_the_uk/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjf358a', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T08:15:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jigvns'}, {'comment_id': 'mjfey9w', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'Check out your unis student wellbeing team, at mine they’d offer things like CBT and all that. The BACP register is a good way to find a therapies near you also.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T09:40:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jigvns'}, {'comment_id': 'mjg6pwy', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': 'Appreciate it. Will try uni first. I’ve also seen you before in this sub, so thanks for your good advice!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T14:25:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjfey9w'}, {'comment_id': 'mjggrhk', 'author': 'radpiglet', 'body': 'I hope it goes well :) Hahaha oops i am here a fair bit! Sending support to you friend', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T16:10:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mjg6pwy'}]"
1ji9kkp,2025-03-24T02:27:49,Any private support group in London?,"Please don't suggest any nhs related groups
this person i'm posting for knows about this 

* I want a group fun and enlighten 
* groups that are open to victims and female victims 
* groups that socialises you 

The council has made cuts to group she used to like like art and craft used to be 50 pence. Cinema group. 

Please share any private woman's group group that doesn't only dwell on negativity but is listening to your concerns 
Group that all u talk or stay quiet without judgement. 
This lady wants to laugh and sometimes want to be quiet ",MentalHealthUK,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ji9kkp/any_private_support_group_in_london/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjdeuoh', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T02:27:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji9kkp'}]"
1ji30ib,2025-03-23T21:50:55,Fluoxetine side effects,"My psychiatrist wants me to try fluoxetine for my bulimia and bipolar depression (I am taking olanzapine also). If anyone has been on fluoxetine before, can you tell me what side effects you had/have and if it helped with your mental health condition(s)? ",MentalHealthUK,2,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ji30ib/fluoxetine_side_effects/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjbwy0l', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:50:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjcgdhw', 'author': 'Significant_Leg_7211', 'body': ""I'm also on fluoxetine and olanzapine and it has been helpful with severe depression. Not many side effects except the olanzapine gave me some food cravings, I did put on weight with it. If I can help with anything please ask. Hope it goes well for you."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T23:30:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjbwy43', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:50:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjedzt8', 'author': 'ajshshhsshshshk', 'body': 'I’ve been on fluoxetine for about 6 years now for severe depression, and I did have some mild side effects, (mainly dehydration, headaches, nausea), but they went away after a couple of weeks, and the pros massively outweigh the cons. Fluoxetine has helped me live a normal life, and I’m so grateful for how much it has helped me. I do think that most of the side effects in my case were due to dehydration - if you’re on ssris you need to drink more water than most people \n\nGood luck! :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T05:41:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji30ib'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhyspb', 'author': 'Jesspresso99', 'body': ""Thank you! I'm just worried that fluoxetine will give me gastro problems as I've previously been on citalopram and it gave me severe chronic gastritis and heart burn, which was hell. I'm currently taking mirtazapine which doesn't do much but it helps me sleep."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T21:41:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mjcgdhw'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhz2pq', 'author': 'Jesspresso99', 'body': 'Thank you! Did it give you any gastro problems such as heart burn and indigestion?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T21:42:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mjedzt8'}, {'comment_id': 'mjv36qv', 'author': 'Significant_Leg_7211', 'body': 'I find having it with something to eat helps, hope this helps a bit', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T22:36:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mjhyspb'}, {'comment_id': 'mjmjkg5', 'author': 'ajshshhsshshshk', 'body': 'Not personally, but I suppose it’s different for everyone', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T14:41:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjhz2pq'}]"
1ji2b51,2025-03-23T21:20:30,People are why my mental health sucks.,"Ok not everyone but.. I just.. it's so fucking hard trying to talk to people and stuff.

You make one mistake and they judge you for that and stuff.

I understand most of my friends are busy but.. nobodies been replying and stuff and I just.. it's making me feel worse and worse and I hate it.

One of my friends says he might be free or he isn't free but then I see on his Snapchat he's with my ex. He sent me a voice note on Snapchat and it sounds like he's with my ex, I don't know. I asked last weekend if anyone was free this weekend. LAST WEEKEND! AND I ASKED LAST WEEKEND IF ANYONE WAS FREE THAT WEEKEND!!!!

I ONLY GOT A REPLY FROM TWO FUCKING PEOPLE! SURE BETTER THAN NONE BUT IT WAS BARELY A REPLY!!!! THEY DONT REPLY TO ANYTHING ELSE AND THEY SOMETIMES DONT EVEN REPLY TO ME ASKING IF THEYRE FREE, EVEN IF THEY'VE SEEN THE MESSAGE!!!!!

DO THEY EVEN WANT TO BE MY FRIENDS!? WELL CLEARLY NOT OTHERWISE THEY'D MAKE MORE OF A FUCKING EFFORT TO TALK TO ME WOULDN'T THEY!!!!!

I am so fucking sick and tired of everyone.

All my life it's just been arguing with ""friends"" and them hating me. Nobody has ever liked me.

At prom I tried talking to a childhood best friend, we hadn't talked since Primary School except for the occasional ""hi, you ok?"" In the corridors and she didn't even look at me, just said hi, didn't stop, kept walking.

Someone who I didn't speak to but I knew said they'd be my friend when I said something about not really having friends, I can't remember what lead to that conversation but obviously we couldn't exactly be friends when we didn't have eachothers numbers or anything and she was probably saying it out of pity or something or trying to make fun of me, I don't know.

I just fucking hate people, I'm so fucking tired of this shit.

I know I have my best friend but I highly doubt I'm one of his best friends or anything or a ""main friend"" as I'm sure he has other friends which.. ok, you can have friends, I'm not upset about that or anything, it's nice to have a best friend but it just hurts a bit that I'll never be someone's ""main"" best friend or their ""number one"" friend or anything, even if im their only friend.

Whats the point in having friends anyway? They all just hurt you and leave you in the end anyway.

I'd rather stick with my family and animals. Even if its the same with my family, I know we'll support eachother no matter what, doesn't matter about being ""number one"" or anything.

I don't fucking know. I'm just so fucking tired. I want these fucking cramps to be over and to just.. not have to deal with people and stuff",MentalHealthUK,5,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ji2b51/people_are_why_my_mental_health_sucks/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjbr6oj', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:20:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji2b51'}, {'comment_id': 'mjbs1xw', 'author': 'hornybjo', 'body': ' Hi, if you wanna chat I’m up for it mate. I totally get this, even though I’m lonely myself.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T21:25:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji2b51'}, {'comment_id': 'mjdo0lg', 'author': 'Soft_Twist1654', 'body': ""Glad you've got your family. I agree with you though. My family have cut me out of their lives for being mentally unwell. Fun times."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T03:16:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1ji2b51'}, {'comment_id': 'mjcolqx', 'author': 'ibeatreddit', 'body': ""Joining in to say I would be happy to chat with either of you or anyone that wants to. 🫡 I'm equally cynical about friendship and have delved into psychology on the topic for my own psychological self defence.\xa0"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T00:12:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mjbs1xw'}, {'comment_id': 'mjdpr91', 'author': 'AN0NYM0US-Bat', 'body': ""I'm sorry, that really sucks"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T03:26:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mjdo0lg'}]"
1jhm0ax,2025-03-23T05:12:11,What will happen now,"So I have been really struggling recently and finally told my mum who went into complete panic mode, I suppose with good reason I have been sectioned 3 times in the last couple of years and I am classed as high risk unpredictable when it comes to self harm, she decided to call the police to do a welfare check who also called an ambulance both the police and ambulance crew wanted me to go in for an assessment but I refused to leave my house after about an hour they agreed to leave but now I don't know if anything else will come of this the paramedics have said they want me to contact my GP but if they are telling me that they believe I need to have a mental health assessment does that mean they will recommend that to my GP and will it be enforced.",MentalHealthUK,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jhm0ax/what_will_happen_now/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj88qlo', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. 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This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. 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For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T05:12:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhm0ax'}, {'comment_id': 'mjp3c7y', 'author': 'BorderBiBiscuit', 'body': 'Your GP will likely be informed if there’s any documents uploaded to your file (report of 111/999 call/attendance etc) although I don’t know if that happens if you’re assessed but don’t attend hospital. There’s a possibility police or ambulance might raise a safeguarding report, although the fact that they agreed to leave indicates that they believed you had capacity and/or weren’t in immediate danger. A mental health act assessment would happen as a last resort, as NHS follows least restrictive practise. \n\nIt may be that the police/ambulance wanted you to go in so you could speak to psych liaison (not the same as MHA assessment) to get more support?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T23:43:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhm0ax'}]"
1jhmbgg,2025-03-23T05:27:49,primary care network mh hubs,"has anyone had experience w the PCN mental health hubs???? I've been referred and accepted, but my GP had to explain my entire history to them , and argue w them to see me bc apparently my local one doesn't accept ppl who have alcohol issues but she said that she pretty much argued that maybe it's bc of the lack of support I've been getting lol.
I'm just so anxious they'll ""step up"" to cmht bc I cannot do that shit of being told it's just autism again. it's draining. they tell me everything I already know and tried in terms of how to deal w things which I say doesn't work at all or only works for a few weeks until it's ineffective , offer zero therapy and tell me that badicslly nothings wrong I'm just autistic. I've been under cmht three times and been told the same shit.

so yeah , experience w the MH hubs? apparently they're the bridge between IAPT/NHS talking therapies and cmht/secondary services.",MentalHealthUK,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jhmbgg/primary_care_network_mh_hubs/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj8bf6z', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T05:27:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhmbgg'}, {'comment_id': 'mjduoi0', 'author': 'JesseKansas', 'body': ""i've had positive experiences! although some are rolling out to be new community mh services teams."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T03:53:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhmbgg'}, {'comment_id': 'mje7pac', 'author': 'followtheheronhome', 'body': ""I have both used and work for one. Reasonably positive experiences using it - I have a schizophrenia diagnosis and have an autism assessment soon. Mainly for meds though rather than anything therapeutic because I gave up on NHS therapy as the CMHT in 2 different areas did nothing except increase meds that made me feel worse.\xa0\n\n\nFrom what the people using our hub get, I think it varies a lot so I do think it's worth giving them a go. In my area they've not been going very long so lots of the pathways aren't very developed yet.\xa0"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T05:05:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhmbgg'}, {'comment_id': 'mjla4aj', 'author': 'cait0902', 'body': ""that's great! oh that sounds...... interesting lol I wonder how that'll go considering a lot of cmhts are shit as it is"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:51:59', 'parent_id': 't1_mjduoi0'}, {'comment_id': 'mjlb625', 'author': 'cait0902', 'body': 'idk how long they\'ve been going in my area , I didn\'t even know about them until my GP mentioned them and considering IAPT/NHSTT never referred me in 2023 I guess they\'re pretty new here too? I\'ll try them , they\'re supposed to be giving me an appointment soon apparently for them to assess me but I\'ve not heard anything yet. I\'m just mostly anxious they\'ll refer me to cmht because all three times I\'ve been under them they\'ve hardly done anything helpful , not even actual referrals to therapy just brief mentions of maybe a referral , and then just told me ""you\'re fine everything is just bc you\'re autistic"" (in summary) and discharged me. but my GP is trying to get PCNMHS to try work w me to figure out what exactly is the autism side of things and what\'s the mental health side of it all so🤞🏻🤞🏻 I have a tiny amount of hope it\'ll go well but a huge amount of dread that it won\'t lol', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:58:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mje7pac'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnvnt5', 'author': 'followtheheronhome', 'body': ""They're part of a new framework so most of them are pretty new - it's supposed to fill the gap between IAPT and CMHT especially for people with more complex problems. Worth giving a go though, and I wish you luck with it!\xa0"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:23:00', 'parent_id': 't1_mjlb625'}]"
1jhntt2,2025-03-23T06:44:40,Truly confidential counselling,I’m 17 and have been going through a lot lately and need mental health help. I’m on fluoxetine which isn’t doing anything (been on it for about 8 weeks now) and IAPT didn’t help. I need a therapy type where I can talk about my problems such as counselling. But I need confidentiality because I’ve had bad experiences with social services (which is one of the things I want to discuss) but if I were to tell a therapist they would have to report it to safeguarding which would make the whole thing start again. I’m also 17 and estranged from my parents so I can’t afford anything private. ,MentalHealthUK,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1jhntt2/truly_confidential_counselling/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj8nxnc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""**This sub aims to provide mental health advice and support to anyone who needs it but shouldn't be used to replace professional help. Please do not post intentions to act on suicidal thoughts here and instead call 111 if you need urgent help, 999 in an emergency, or attend A&E if you feel you won't be able to wait. Please familiarise yourself with the sub rules, which can be found [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/about/rules). For more information about the sub rules, please check the [sub rules FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1f77gs8/sub_rules_faq/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button).** \n\n\n**While waiting for a reply, feel free to check out the [pinned masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1dkmvp9/rmentalhealthuk_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) for a variety of helplines and resources. The main masterpost also includes links to region specific resources. We also have a [medication masterpost](https://www.reddit.com/user/MentalHealthUKMods/comments/1cy05aj/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) which includes information about specific medications as well as a medication FAQ.**\n\n\n**For those who are experiencing issues around money, food or homelessness, feel free to check out the resources on [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1ei1k34/are_you_experiencing_issues_around_money_food_or/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button) post.**\n\n\n**For those seeking private therapy, feel free to check out some important information around that [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xf6242/information_for_those_seeking_private_therapy/).**\n\n\n\n**For those who may be interested in taking part in the iPOF Study which this sub is involved in, feel free to check out the survey [here](https://reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/s/34ye6sKKuZ) and details [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/xpl4mv/ipof_improving_peer_online_forums_study_lancaster/) and [here](https://www.lancaster.ac.uk/health-and-medicine/research/spectrum/research/ipof/).**\n\n\n\n**This sub aims to be a safe and supportive space, so any harmful, provocative or exclusionary content will be removed. This includes harmful blanket statements about treatment or mental health professionals. Please be aware that waiting times and types of therapy/services available can vary across different areas due to [system structure](https://www.england.nhs.uk/integratedcare/what-is-integrated-care/).**\n\n\n\n**Please speak only for your own experiences and not on behalf of others who may not share the same views - this helps to reduce toxicity, misinformation, stigma, repetitions of harmful content, and people feeling excluded. Efforts to make this a welcoming and balanced atmosphere is noticed and appreciated by the mods and the many who use or read this sub. If your profile is explicitly NSFW, please instead post from another account that is more appropriate for being seen by and engaging with the broad range of members here including those under 18.**\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthUK) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T06:44:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mj8sv2q', 'author': 'Funny_Relief2602', 'body': 'Therapy is confidential unless you say something that may cause harm to you or others this is the general universal rule. Usually before you get a therapist they will always discuss these rules with you .', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T07:16:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mja55ak', 'author': 'NeverHxppy', 'body': 'CAMHS nurse here. Without more information (which I’m totally understanding that you don’t want to give) it’s difficult to call it. The rule of thumb is, as you know, if there’s anything that might put you or someone else at risk the counsellor HAS to break confidentiality to protect you, them and wider society. They can’t waive that rule. \n\nAs for how to access this, this is a problem in our wider society and one I’ve been through myself. If a person can’t afford to pay £50+ an hour, options are limited. Some charities offer counselling (mind being one) but because of this problem, waiting lists are long and often closed to new potential clients. It sucks and I’m sorry. \nPotentially you could go back to IAPT - if they feel you need it they can offer more sessions.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T14:05:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mjo88s3', 'author': 'ManifestingQu33n', 'body': 'Ask IAPT to transfer you to Connect Health talking therapies. I found them more helpful than IAPT. There was a bit of a waiting list to change over but it was worth the wait, my CH therapist was amazing. She even allowed me to extend my sessions by an extra 2 weeks as I felt I needed a little more.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T21:25:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1jhntt2'}, {'comment_id': 'mj8nxox', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""It sounds like your post might be about medication. Please be aware that we cannot offer medical advice on this sub. If you have questions about your medication, it's best to contact your prescriber or 111 if you need urgent advice. You can also find our medication masterpost [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthUK/comments/1cy07pq/rmentalhealthuk_medication_masterpost/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). If your post is not about medication, feel free to disregard this comment.\n\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. 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1jokby2,2025-04-01T07:20:33,I need encouragement because I don't want to reach my breaking point.,"I've struggled with mental health issues ever since I was 12 or 13. I'm 17 now. Throughout the years of struggling with my mental health, I always thought that I would be fine keeping everything to myself because I haven't cracked yet. For the past year, my mental health has been horrible, and it's starting to get even worse. Every single day, I have multiple thoughts about harming myself or how wonderful it would be if I wasn't here anymore. Tonight

  
Tonight, I've come to the realization that the pain I've been hiding is slipping through the cracks of my mask. I know this because I tried to harm myself but couldn't do it because I'm a coward and want the proper supplies to hide the harm I might eventually do to myself. Part of my brain is yelling at me to seek help, but the other part is screaming louder not to. I've spoken about my mental struggles in the past and got shown a wrong reaction that now scares me to do it again. My dad freaked out and reacted by swearing and acting like this was an inconvenience to him. I know that's not what he was trying to convey, but my brain can't stop viewing it as a bad reaction. My dad was only worried that I might have gotten his clinical depression, and so he freaked out. 

  
Anyway, I'm on here because I need advice on what to do and maybe some encouragement to seek help. Especially since I'm moving to the US probably by the end of this year, and I know for a fact that's when I'm going to break. I don't want to leave my family, but I don't want to be sad and in pain anymore.",MentalHealthIsland,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jokby2/i_need_encouragement_because_i_dont_want_to_reach/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksfvox', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission -_Squishyy_-! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:20:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jokby2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkshfhy', 'author': 'VillaRiya', 'body': 'Im currently Have Bipolar Disorder II its hell its really hard to cope with I already have meds but my Partner who is ignorant I guess making it worst', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:30:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jokby2'}]"
1jocbe4,2025-04-01T01:20:34,Need help understanding,"I need help to understand if or What i might have. I am an Adult female. Ever since i was a child i have had a lack of empathy, sympathy and just general lack of feeling for other people. I cant hold relationships as i loose feelings and interest fast. 
And i have been like this for a long time, atleast since i was 10. I didnt start to notice it tho till i was about 14, Thats when i started to notice everyone Else crying at others Stories, feeling bad for people etc. And at that point, i just started masking.
I am not incapable of crying, i can cry to sad Puppy videos when im tired in my room or at sad movies, but when i cry there it dosent feel because i feel bad for anyone, more as a just relief cry.

Maintaining long friendships is hard since i dont really like people being emotionally dependent on me. 
I do have interest in friendships and i do seek them. 

I feel guilt, in the way that i am afraid of getting in trouble and possibly ruining my image and reputation, i dont directly feel bad for the person i Did wrong, but i feel bad how people might then see Me.
I dont go out my way to make someone sad, if my friend is upset i Will try to make them feel better so things can go back to normal.
If some of my friend gets hurt or sick, i dont feel sad or worries or anything. The only time i have cried and feelt genuine worry for someone Else was when my cat got injured when i was 14.

Worth mentioning i have chronic illnes since Birth, in and out of hospitals along with a history of PTSD from when i was younger. 

I really need help to know What is wrong because i know i am not normal and i really just need answears so that i can cope in someway because right now, im just lost. Just some Type of Tip Would really be Amazing ",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jocbe4/need_help_understanding/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkqnp41', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Responsible_Word_329! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T01:20:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jocbe4'}]"
1jm5o5a,2025-03-29T02:36:20,Need a random stranger,"

Hello, 

So I have had a string of traumatic events, going back almost 2 years at this point. It has gotten to the point I question whether im getting punk'd by some kind of supernatural entity. 

I had a journal going that i was sharing with my ex.  The idea being I could get out all of my crazy in my journal instead of it spilling out into the real world. A lot of it was about her but not everything,  probably a good 70/30, becoming less and less as I got things out of my system. She could choose to hear what I say or not. She never had to look. Anything  pertaining directly to her I covered in a spoiler tag so she didn't even have to see it on accident. She would then open the thread to trip the read reciept. She agreed to this without hesitation.

And It worked. I didn't know for sure whether she was reading or not, but I knew that I had said what I needed to say and she had the chance to see it if she wanted to. That was enough. I didn't feel the need to rant and rave in front of her anymore. And I trusted her with my innermost thoughts and insecurities. 

I don't trust her anymore. 

I erased the old journal, and I started a new one last night. I barely had gotten into it when I realized it didn't feel right. Apparently, the venting isn't effective unless I at the very least think someone else may have read it. 

There's no one else in my life that I would trust with such an intimate look into my head.  In fact, getting someone to let me talk and get things off my chest has been one of the biggest hurdles of the past 6 months or so. Both friends and professionally. 

I need to be heard. Or at the very least think I have been. Otherwise it's going to start spilling out into every aspect of my life. I've never had a good filter.

I need this. 

And that's where you come in random stranger! I don't have to trust you. I don't know you, you don't know me. I can be completely honest. 

I'm looking for the same arrangement I had with my ex. I've got a group chat, it's on telegram. I'll add you. You are free to read the whole thing. You can even respond if you wish but it's not necessary. All I ask is that you occasionally open the thread so the read receipts trip, so they look like they've been seen. 

I figured this would be a decent thread to ask this, since the members seem to be both understanding, and interested in other people's problems. if I have violated any of the subreddits rules, let me know and I'll look elsewhere. I didn't see any rule against it when I looked over them but honestly I just skimmed. 

A word of caution, I use speech to text and the threads are pretty stream of consciousness, and I don't censor myself at all. If you are easily triggered, or not comfortable with people in a dark place, you probably shouldn't offer your services. 

DM me if you are interested. Thanks if you read this far :-)",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jm5o5a/need_a_random_stranger/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk9366a', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Remarkable-Cost-2559! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:36:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm5o5a'}]"
1jkmqml,2025-03-27T02:37:34,"How do you cope when your partner is away for a long time? Struggling with mental health, especially at night","My partner is going to be away for a while, and I’m really trying to handle it better this time. The last time she was away, I had a pretty big mental break, and I really don’t want that to happen again — or for her to worry while she’s gone.

I’ll admit, as my mental health has declined over time, I’ve become a bit dependent on my girlfriend for support. On top of that, I recently had a decrease in my antidepressants and started a new birth control that’s known to mess with hormones, so it feels like a lot is piling up at once.

I’ve been doing my best to stay busy during the day — going on walks, working on a scrapbook, playing Stardew Valley, trying to watch Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood, and even geocaching. But nights are still really tough — that’s when the loneliness and overthinking really hit.

For those of you who’ve been in a similar situation, how did you manage the emotional ups and downs, especially in the evenings? What helped you stay grounded and keep your mental health in check while your partner was away?

I’d really appreciate any advice or tips. Thanks in advance!",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jkmqml/how_do_you_cope_when_your_partner_is_away_for_a/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjwhywm', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Embarrassed_Mud_6063! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:37:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkmqml'}]"
1jfkgxg,2025-03-20T14:21:24,Heavy dreaming/nightmares,"Hi! As long as I can remember from my teens I've had vivid dreams, Ive been diagnosed with adhd as an adult and I know that sleep issues and dreaming are common with people with adhd. But the things is that I get dreams that leave me stressed, scared, panicked, wake up feeling like I have faster heartbeat. It takes me some time to calm down and go back to sleep or about my day. I try not to think too much about the nightmares. It's been common for me throughout my life, I've only recently I've started writing them down. Most of my dreams seem to be about my mom or sister and trauma from teens and my 20s. Some dreams are violent, some sexual assault related, some a little gore. 
I try not share about my dreams with people close to me, it worries them and they feel concerned and pity for me. 

Idk what I should do apart from going to therapy (?) maybe. I've had two nightmares today and slept poorly. I woke up from one and I've never cried from overwhelm like this (like I mentioned they're common occurrence for me in quite used to them). When I was able to sleep again I woke up from another horrible dream and I couldn't understand what's wrong with me or my brain. ",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jfkgxg/heavy_dreamingnightmares/,"[{'comment_id': 'mirkhqp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission old_tshirt! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T14:21:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jfkgxg'}]"
1jedkxn,2025-03-19T01:00:07,"An online space to be heard, supported, and understood.","Therapy can be expensive and intimidating, especially the first time. But people still need support, a space to share struggles, and the reassurance that they’re not alone. Friends aren’t always available, or the right people to open up to about certain things.

I’m thinking of creating small online support groups with weekly video calls, focused on specific topics like:

* ""Starting Fresh at 45"" – Navigating big life changes
* ""35+ and Looking for Love"" – Dating conversations for a new stage in life
* ""I Want to Start a Business"" – Sharing struggles & ideas with like-minded people

Each group would be moderated by a professional but kept informal, more like structured sharing and real talk, rather than strict therapy. It would be paid to ensure commitment and to cover the facilitator’s work. Would you participate in something like this? Why or why not?",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jedkxn/an_online_space_to_be_heard_supported_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'mihonon', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Irshik! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-19T01:00:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jedkxn'}]"
1jcvgqx,2025-03-17T02:23:45,Do your thoughts make you a monster?,"Throughout my life it sporadically happened to me to have fleeting pedo thoughts/sensations, really weak ones and I am quite sure that they weren’t intrusive thoughts (even if I suffer from OCD)… I have to say that I am 100% sure (I would bet my life on it) that I am not a pedo, I have no fantasies, I am not attracted by kids and the thought of doing something to a kid absolutely disgust me (and not only from a moral point of view)! So why did I experience these fleeting sensations? I thought that this happened to everyone, but since I discovered that it doesn’t my life has become a fucking hell. I can’t live my life no more, I feel like a monster and I am disgusted even if I know for sure that I don’t have this “tendency”. I have also spoken about this with my therapist who says that I should stop worrying and let it go and go on with my life because we know for sure (I want to stress this out one more time) that I am not a pedo, but still he hasn’t been able to tell me what these fleeting sensations mean and why I experienced them. I know they were true and they weren’t intrusive thoughts but I know with more certainty that I am not a pedo, so why did I experience these sensations? What do they mean? Can someone help me? Do I have to feel ashamed? I am literally going crazy",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jcvgqx/do_your_thoughts_make_you_a_monster/,"[{'comment_id': 'mi60b80', 'author': 'WestOk2808', 'body': 'You might have a little OCD going on, your therapist is probably right in just letting this go and moving on with your life.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T04:08:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jcvgqx'}]"
1ja852r,2025-03-13T15:07:00,What mental health apps have you found helpful?,"If you've tried any mental health app- what has worked for you and what hasn't?

Context: I used to have a lot of mental health difficulties. Now working in an early stage mental health startup trying to build something that can help people. I'd love to learn what has been working for other people and what are the gaps that haven't yet been filled.  ",MentalHealthIsland,7,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ja852r/what_mental_health_apps_have_you_found_helpful/,"[{'comment_id': 'mhk4dnd', 'author': 'MoreThanClothing', 'body': 'So far the best I have used is Calm. It has all types of videos and audiobooks. There are short 2 minutes lessons on how to think about things and experiences in life which has been really impactful for me to learn about. Taught me things about recognizing thought patterns that aren’t helpful or how we can ruminate on worst case scenarios that make us feel unwell and how to rewire that. There are also meditation guides and sleep stories which are okay but the lessons on how to think in a way that promotes happiness are awesome\n\nI’m also in the midst of building a startup to support mental health and well being through apparel - would love to bounce ideas off each other along the way!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T18:33:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mhjfvin', 'author': 'Askfjun', 'body': 'I’ve been using Mindlist for a while and it’s been helping me organize my day and clearing my head of things to remember. Nothing revolutionary, it’s really just checklists, but I like it. :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T15:25:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mhjxvx8', 'author': 'BonsaiSoul', 'body': ""The ones that succeed do so through force of marketing rather than quality or efficacy. Like everything on phones, it's all been done before and both the people doing it nor the platform itself have a trust deficit."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T17:52:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbl2gn', 'author': 'sand_and_stars', 'body': ""I think that there are so many new and great tools, including apps, for many different areas of mental health. As humans though, we are (both fortunately and unfortunately), complex beings... so there's a slim chance of a 'one-size-fits-all':\n\nI would try to break down what you want in a mental health app into the specific areas that you would find most beneficial -- (eg. meditation, journaling, psychology, community support, healthy habits, etc.) -- and then try to find what works best in each area for you.\n\nAnd finally, don't give up! The fact that you're asking for advice shows resiliency! 💕"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:34:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkffmr7', 'author': 'Aanthonyc', 'body': ""I've found Paradym to be really helpful for mental health, especially for self-reflection and emotional well-being. One of its standout features is Your Growth, which helps track emotional patterns and personal development over time. It’s different from typical mental health apps because it focuses on long-term behavior change rather than just mindfulness or CBT exercises."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:05:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}]"
1j7h8j2,2025-03-10T02:16:18,From silence to strength: unravelling mental health stigma in my community.,,MentalHealthIsland,0,0,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/from-silence-to-strength-unravelling-mental-health-stigma-in-my-community/,[]
1j1xyy8,2025-03-03T00:11:38,Have you never quit your job and come back to your family?,"I'm seriously thinking about leaving my current job. I currently live alone 2 hours away from my parents. I had a girlfriend here who left me and I had to go live alone (bad story i had been gaslighted and treated so bad). I work 20 km from my workplace (which means an hour's drive there and an hour's drive back in traffic), to earn 1340 euros a month (I work about 40 hours a week), but all this pace is making me seriously stressed (I have a difficult job, I'm an educator who works in a nursing home with the elderly and managing families, colleagues, long working hours is not easy) unfortunately here at home I always have little time, because I'm tired to carry on friendships, hobbies or anything else. (i had a terrible period between december and january, because at work we had worked understaffed , i start had social anxiety, drinkin and crying alone especially in the holidays alone, i start felt like so bad and alone while everyone was having fun , my car broke down and i had to pay a lot to mechanic)

I had risked life twice when i was driving at home from work. The first time I found myself on a level crossing in the dark, without even seeing a traffic light and the barriers were coming down. A second time I entered a road the wrong way without realizing that that was the wrong road.

I play the guitar, I go out every now and then, I love listening to music and reading and doing graphics. I'm seriously thinking about going back home to my family and starting over. It's really hard to put money away, everything here costs double and I'm always anxious that something won't break.

Have any of you ever had to quit your job and go back? Or even change jobs?

I took graphic design courses and did various jobs for some people",MentalHealthIsland,1,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1j1xyy8/have_you_never_quit_your_job_and_come_back_to/,"[{'comment_id': 'mfnbmqf', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission MarkOnKarma! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-03T00:11:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1xyy8'}, {'comment_id': 'mfrnpyn', 'author': 'neves783', 'body': 'I had to quit mine to return to my family because COVID happened.\n\nNow, I cannot leave. Worst decision made ever in my life.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-03T17:35:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1xyy8'}, {'comment_id': 'mimsgxy', 'author': 'Dibella_Shorty', 'body': ""I knew a coworker (I'll refer to her as name) who worked while pregnant, living in an abusive relationship,  had done dangerous stuff because too ashamed to ask for help and/or (may had to) took it upon herself. \n\nI didn't realize, even know, until then former coworker was forced (by baby's dad) to quit (after planning return). To stay as a stay at home mother, caring for 24/7. \n\nHer daughter was so tiny (early bird), turns out that sport team neck pillow was double worth the gift after all. Her daughter was too tiny for the boppy. She used her neck pillow as a substitute.  \n\nCoworker was a great worker, such a sweet person. Last I knew, she moved out of state, I hope she's okay. \nJust adding: I just know the minimum and have seen some pictures, I have confidence that wherever former coworker is, if she reads this. Know you're not forgotten 🫶"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-19T20:57:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1xyy8'}, {'comment_id': 'mfu2l90', 'author': 'MarkOnKarma', 'body': 'Do you have not have a good relathionship with your parents?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-04T01:24:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mfrnpyn'}, {'comment_id': 'miv2ftn', 'author': 'MarkOnKarma', 'body': ""I'm really sorry for this Person. I can't imagine the hell that this Person had gone through After that. Well i Hope She Is fine now. I Hope that someone had helped her and I Hope that She had found peace and more Joy in this Life. That sometimes is good. And sometimes sucks. THX you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-21T02:26:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mimsgxy'}, {'comment_id': 'mg7oind', 'author': 'neves783', 'body': ""Sorry for the late reply.\n\nThe best I could say is that it's quite a suffocating relationship we have, one that is based on enforced societal expectations.\n\nYou should be married already. You should have kids already. You should own a business already. You should stop playing with kiddie model kits already. You should stop watching cartoons already...\n\nI think you see my point."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T02:21:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mfu2l90'}, {'comment_id': 'mg7prlh', 'author': 'MarkOnKarma', 'body': ""Oh fuck man, i understand now what you mean....Its Crazy and i'm really sorry for that. It's not good when someone force you to follow some societal expectation, without your consent. Yeah, Its not healthy i Hope that you can find peace and that your parents stop putting pressure on you. I don't know your Age but you can Always find a way out for stay Better. I know a Lil guy Who had 22, and he told me that he had escaped From the family because his father treat him like shit. And he now lives on his own, but everyone has his story. I never had really big problems with my parents but we had High and lows"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T02:26:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mg7oind'}]"
1ishxd6,2025-02-18T22:48:12,Unlock a Healthier Mind: 7 Proven Ways to Improve Your Mental Health - Medhouse.info,,MentalHealthIsland,0,0,https://medhouse.info/en/mental-health/,[]
1isfxtl,2025-02-18T21:27:40,30 Day Mental Health Challenge at lu-mira.org,,MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1isfxtl,"[{'comment_id': 'mdg8zvk', 'author': 'MindSpaceMedia', 'body': 'Here is the challenge in case anyone is interested: [lu-mira.org](http://lu-mira.org)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-18T21:54:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1isfxtl'}]"
1ioi8t1,2025-02-13T18:15:12,Discomfort Zone – A Documentary on Men’s Mental Health,"Hey everyone, hope you're all doing alright

I’m part of Discomfort Zone, a documentary focused on breaking the stigma around men’s mental health and highlighting the importance of peer support.

We’re telling this story through Afghan veteran Sgt. Ricky Banner—an incredible man who turned his life around after being at his end, and is now helping others do the same. His journey is one that deserves to be heard, especially within the veteran and mental health communities.

We need your support to get this project in front of those who need it most. Every follow, share, or mention helps us grow and reach the right audience.

Please take just 5 minutes to watch our promo videos, highlighting why this needs to be told.

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ff20wW0BTf8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ff20wW0BTf8)

[https://youtu.be/Ji3FkK7i\_Yk](https://youtu.be/Ji3FkK7i_Yk)

If you’re interested, check out our project and social media pages here:

🔗 [https://greenlit.com/project/discomfort-zone](https://greenlit.com/project/discomfort-zone)

🔗 [https://www.instagram.com/discomfortzonefilm/?theme=dark](https://www.instagram.com/discomfortzonefilm/?theme=dark)

🔗 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61572943435311](https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61572943435311)

Thanks in advance for your time and support! Let’s create change together.

Admins if you feel that this project is not suitable for this subreddit then please feel free to remove.",MentalHealthIsland,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ioi8t1/discomfort_zone_a_documentary_on_mens_mental/,[]
1ii3v7z,2025-02-05T11:56:36,What's wrong with me?,"Today, my sister said that no one could ever be as selfish as me. But, it didn't hurt me, I didn't feel remorse. I also tend to do things on impulse and not feel remorse or bad after. Am I a jerk? For example, my mom got into hospital cuz of me stressing her out with my phone addiction and to this day, I haven't stopped it even tho I TRIED. I KEPT WATCHING PHONE TODAY EVEN THO SHE SAID NO BECAUSE SHE IS WELL NOW. Why the heck would I do it again after seeing what happened to her when she said it happened because of me? I also watch phone at night and my grandma who sleeps with me gets stressed. She calls me stuff but I don't feel BAD. I have OCD btw. I need to improve myself but how",MentalHealthIsland,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ii3v7z/whats_wrong_with_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'mb2djfc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Fickle-Box-3763! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-05T11:56:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1ii3v7z'}, {'comment_id': 'mb6tmrk', 'author': 'cozygremlin1617', 'body': 'I’m not a professional, but I’ve struggled with OCD and anxiety all my life, I’m 31. I picked up depression in my teens along the way too. I’ve been able to slack off on my addictions in recent years, but it’s taken a lot of introspection and I recently added therapy to the mix. I’m also a Christian, so I’ve had to make peace with the fact that God made some of us a little extra in some ways. I used to bite my nails a lot, but I’ve been able to catch myself, notice triggers, and redirect. I’ve also lost myself in my phone, but for the last couple of months, I’ve been trying to replace my phone with other activities I like. I love crosswords, reading, and coloring, so I try to trade my phone for one of those. If I am folding laundry, I put on a podcast or audiobook.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-06T03:59:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1ii3v7z'}]"
1idbugy,2025-01-30T07:56:54,slowly realizing i am not as okay as i thought,"I am a 23-year-old woman about to graduate college, and to put it plainly, I’ve lived a relatively normal, stereotypical life for an American female—middle-class family, small town, graduated high school at the top of my class, went to college nearby, and now I’m preparing to move six hours away to start my dream job. I’ve been incredibly fortunate to have two married parents, a stable home, and food on the table. My childhood was, for the most part, uneventful, with the exception of my dad’s temper issues, which were rough until he was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in my high school years. Once he started treatment, things got better, and overall, I can’t say I had a difficult upbringing.

I’ve spent my entire life trying to be the kid my parents never had to worry about. I got good grades, made friends, participated in sports, and never caused trouble. I’ve always been extremely independent, which in many ways has served me well, but it has also left me with the habit of handling everything alone, even when I probably shouldn’t.

When it comes to relationships, I dated my high school boyfriend for five years before realizing he had fallen in love with my friend. I broke up with him, and while I was never angry at him, it took me a long time to stop blaming myself. He and my friend are getting married next year, and I hold no resentment toward them—I’ve accepted that we weren’t right for each other. But for a long time, I genuinely believed it was my fault that he stopped loving me, and that mindset sent me into a spiral that took years to untangle.

My next relationship was with a guy I met on a dating app. Partway through, he got his ex pregnant. He swore the baby wasn’t his, and we went through the entire paternity test ordeal before learning he had been lying about the timeline of their relationship. 

After that, I started dating someone I met while working as a counselor at a summer camp, but about a year in, I found out he was sleeping with his roommate. He broke up with me to be with her.

Most recently, I was with a military guy who had serious alcohol and drug issues. There’s too much to say about that situation, but it ended in a spectacularly messy way. Instead of just admitting he wasn’t relationship material, he created elaborate lies and tried to make me look insane to everyone in my small town. Fortunately, people who know me saw through it, and my dad even confronted him at a bar and got back some money he owed me from a trip we took together. This all happened last month, and I’m still struggling with the aftermath. Even though I’ve been reassured I didn’t do anything wrong, I keep questioning myself, wondering if I could have done something differently. I’ve been reading about the paranoia that comes with substance abuse, trying to understand why he acted the way he did, but it hasn’t made me feel any better.

The real reason I’m writing this is because, for the first time, I’m realizing I am not as emotionally stable as I thought I was. I’ve always considered myself strong and put-together, but now, I feel like I don’t trust myself. I constantly assume that everything is my fault. My least favorite icebreaker question is, “Tell me three things you love about yourself,” because I can never think of anything. I hate talking about myself. I am about to graduate with two degrees, and yet, I almost settled for an alcoholic with a drug problem because I thought it was the best I could do.

I take care of myself physically—I work out, eat well, and put effort into my appearance—yet I don’t like the way I look. I know I’m not objectively unattractive, but I still struggle to see myself as good enough. When people compliment me, I assume they’re just trying to be nice. My mom recently got mad at me when she found out I had made the Dean’s List every semester for five years and never once mentioned it to her. It never occurred to me to tell her because I didn’t think it was a big deal. In my mind, being on the Dean’s List wasn’t an accomplishment—it was an obligation that came with going to college.

My friends have pointed out that I am way more compassionate toward them than I am toward myself. They tell me I need to stop being so hard on myself, but I don’t know how. I can’t seem to step outside my own head long enough to see myself the way they see me. No matter how much I achieve, I always feel like I am not enough. Worse, I feel like the people around me secretly think I’m annoying, embarrassing, or failing in some way.

Anyway, I don't want to be dramatic and say I hate myself or whatever, but I am finding it so difficult to see that I am worthy of being happy, or that I am all the good things I hear about myself. Therapy is not an option for me right now, so I guess I am asking if you have similar issues, how you tackle the self care aspect of your life and how you get yourself out of these holes.",MentalHealthIsland,2,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1idbugy/slowly_realizing_i_am_not_as_okay_as_i_thought/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9xwmdf', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission FeelingPerspective82! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-30T07:56:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'm9z70h0', 'author': 'Ewetootwo', 'body': 'Wow, that is an awesome post. \n\nLook part of this is a perfectionist type A mindset. I have lots of professional women friends that put themselves through the same ordeal. The harder they try the more allusive happiness becomes. \n\nHigh performance does not equal happiness. You can’t work at it harder because it is not a math or engineering problem. \n\nIn men look for balance. Look at how they treat their friends and family. \n\nFinally, accept yourself the way you are and with the mistakes you make. We all make them. Laugh and enjoy yourself, you deserve it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-30T13:29:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'm9zdlzw', 'author': 'lilfairy5375', 'body': 'You are not alone, I am also a person who always being too harsh on myself, I guess first thing we need to learn is stop blaming myself. I still remember I never noticed this problem until when I was having a singing lesson, my tutor was giving me a very high note to sing and I blamed myself everytime I can\'t do it by saying ""shit"", my teacher pointed out that I am being too harsh on myself and the task is way harder than I think for most of the people. Since that day I noticed more about how I reacted to every single small failure and I asked myself, if it\'s not me, but a kid making the same mistake, what would I do? Would I blame him/her? Probably no, I would encourage him/her, that\'s what we should do to ourselves.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-30T14:37:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'ma64k62', 'author': 'HOU-Artsy', 'body': 'Congrats on all you’ve accomplished. When therapy does become an option I recommend it. Meantime I would try journaling and meditating. Reading memoirs and listening to podcasts of people in similar situations to my own has helped me to process my “stuff”.  But it is a slow thing, taking years, sort of like behavioral archeology.  I’d also recommend “Why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft. You may not realize that your dad’s behavior patterns likely had some effect.  But what do I know? Blessings and hugs to you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T15:06:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'ma73c5i', 'author': 'FeelingPerspective82', 'body': 'I actually never considered the personality type thing, but that might also have something to do with it. My MBTI is INTJ, which also seems to be prone to this kind of thing.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T19:39:41', 'parent_id': 't1_m9z70h0'}, {'comment_id': 'ma732wu', 'author': 'FeelingPerspective82', 'body': ""I am also a musician (my first degree is a music degree) so I totally get that. My studio prof and I had a lot of conversations about this, but at the time I thought she was being a little dramatic and that I couldn't possibly be that bad. Lol."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T19:38:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m9zdlzw'}, {'comment_id': 'ma72v1c', 'author': 'FeelingPerspective82', 'body': 'Thanks for your reply. Do you have any other recommendations for memoirs or podcasts? I really like journaling too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T19:36:58', 'parent_id': 't1_ma64k62'}, {'comment_id': 'ma7r4xa', 'author': 'Ewetootwo', 'body': 'Enjoy and love yourself. You sound like an awesome person to me! \n\nHope you find a fun active guy without ego or addiction problems. You deserve it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T21:41:23', 'parent_id': 't1_ma73c5i'}, {'comment_id': 'ma7dq8m', 'author': 'HOU-Artsy', 'body': 'I recommend “a Well Trained Wife” by Tia Levings.  She has some overlap with being with an alcoholic spouse, but a lot of it is about being raised in a Fundamentalist Christian tradition. But the writing is excellent. Another that I really liked is Past Tense by Sacha Mardou, but that is because she and I were raised in the same high demand group.  TW on that on about CSA.  I like that she describes her therapy and Internal Family Systems in an accessible way. Podcasts, I mostly listen to ones regarding healing from religious trauma, so I’m not sure how directly applicable they would be. But I’m sure you could easily find content related to your specific situation. :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T20:35:48', 'parent_id': 't1_ma72v1c'}]"
1ic2ozj,2025-01-28T19:55:29,Searching for someone who understands :(,"I have OCD and no therapist until, at least, Easter. I was struggling quite badly again yesterday and ended up having a breakdown throwing stuff at the wall, even though I desperately want to fix things. My mother walked in and finally drove me to the train station where I begged my boyfriend to stay for the night. My relationship with my mother is really bad, which I feel guilty for, and I am sure she will be sad for the whole week now. I live alone with her, and I get extremely anxious and stressed when she even enters the house. I hurt her emotionally even though I don‘t want to. My boyfriend is the only person who genuinely understands and cares. So many people think I‘m doing fine, even when I tell them I am not, and so many people tell me what to do better, even though I already feel so terribly guilty about every little thing I fail at. My boyfriend doens‘t, but he has his own life, and I want to stop crying, screaming and insulting him when it gets bad.I want him to be able to leave me for a few days without a drama. I wish I had understanding friends, people who would understand and care and a place where so I wouldn‘t have to overexplain myself. My best friend is really unsensitive and even though it is great being with her when I feel good, I do blame her a little bit for not being there for me, for not seeing me and how I feel when I feel bad. Yesterday, I texted her, telling her it was getting really bad for me, and she just talked about a school project. Today, I told her about my breakdown yesterday, but I told it as if it was something unspectacular, because I didn‘t know how to put it, so she didn’t take me serious again. I wish I could find someone who knows what I am going through. I wish that person would tell me I could stay with them for a few days, because being at home currently is torture for me. There are so many moments where I just want to stop existing. And sometimes, when I try to talk about them I can‘t do it dramatically emough so my friends, who have never been mentally ill, understand how bad it is. Maybe someone out here does.",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ic2ozj/searching_for_someone_who_understands/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9n1ln4', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission YouThinkThatImWeirdo! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T19:55:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic2ozj'}]"
1i9ckdy,2025-01-25T07:41:02,I feel like “                       “  and I feel like I’m dying. I have so much to type right now.,"I’m 17 years old, writing this in January 2025.

I do believe I have autism, and so my two pedestrians. I haven’t been properly diagnosed because it cost a lot of money and/or takes years to get tested, I’ve been on waiting lists for a long time. Also I might have ptsd because  my childhood was very very physiologically traumatic. I don’t think I should go into detail because of the sever rules. I have/had anxiety, depression and just all of those things that are kinda common.

I feel like my thoughts are constantly speeding 24/7, and I have crippling insomnia. I very often think intensely deep while dissociating. In the past year, I get the feeling where I know too much or I just understand too easily. Except it wasn’t about school, it was about this thing that I can’t explain at all. I call it “idk”. “idk” is like infinitely impossible to explain. 

I feel like I’m on a different frequency than everyone and that I see reality in ways I could never explain. It’s like most human’s brains were coded to process information in a common pattern. But my brain doesn’t follow that pattern. instead of doing up down left and right, my brain goes somewhere else. It’s like everyone’s brain follows a track that turns to the right, but mine turns to the left. I physically cannot turn right because my track goes the left. And others can’t turn left because their track goes to the right.


I feel like careers jobs education money and just all those human things are just not it. To me it seems like lost opportunity, and ineffective. I don’t seek to fit in with others or need validation. 

I’m the past months and especially recently, I’ve been feeling hopeless, stuck, yk all the things you can think of. But I also feel like I’m dying, and I feel ok with it. I feel like that’s the most agreeable, thumbs up, ok, understandable thing that has ever been in my brain. It isn’t the answer to my questions, and I don’t want to die, I’m just very ok with it. it’s this thing that is perfect and beautifully neutral in all imaginal ways possible.  I feel like I’ve just been coming to conclusions in my head, I can’t describe it but all I can say is just, I get it.


I could keep talking about my thoughts and feelings but I want to wrap this up now. Please just give me anything you can, maybe all I need is to hear some random thing from someone else. Just give me what you got. I guess the big concern here is my current state and I don’t think I can help myself anymore. I have lived my life helping myself to push myself, but this work is getting way too heavy and I need help. I have done a lot, there are people that are very informed on me and try to help me, but I think I may never find help. 

If you have any questions I will answer them. Like if you need more info about a specific thing I said, I will have more things to say about it. 

Thanks a lot for reading, I greatly appreciate your will to help others in need.",MentalHealthIsland,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i9ckdy/i_feel_like_and_i_feel_like_im_dying_i_have_so/,[]
1i628qs,2025-01-21T03:23:41,How can I start liking things again?,Hi I’ve been depressed with a diagnose for like 4 months but I don’t know if I was before because since like 3 years ago things I used to love I started to enjoy them less and less and the things I didn’t like but I had to do became harder and harder I lost most of my ability to focus and now I don’t enjoy anything. I don’t enjoy playing games or doing sports or reading or watching movies it is like I just do it. How can I fix it?,MentalHealthIsland,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i628qs/how_can_i_start_liking_things_again/,"[{'comment_id': 'm88lf4g', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Anxious_Ad_4724! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-21T03:23:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1i628qs'}, {'comment_id': 'm8lkdpn', 'author': 'EERMA', 'body': ""Depression can be many things: it's very much an umbrella term.\n\nOne possibility I see quite often: it is a 'switching off' - typically following a prolonged period of anxiety / stress: a bit like like when a car goes in to 'limp mode'. This can be explained in evolutionary terms.\n\n  \nThere are folks out there who understand this model and who can help - I'm easy to find."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T01:46:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1i628qs'}]"
1i5sv33,2025-01-20T21:05:38,My mental health is dwindling and I don’t know what to do,"  This lengthy post pertains to my 43 year old wife and 18 year old step daughter. I’m a 35 year old male and I feel like my mental health is almost non existent after being in this relationship for 8 years. I could go on for days with numerous stories. But for the sake of time I’ll do a quick recap of a few instances to see if I’m crazy or if I can find some sort solace.

  Some background is that my SD has autism. The therapist has said that she is very well adjusted and is capable living a good life and is capable of living on her own. My wife has bipolar, PTSD, anxiety, and schizophrenia. Due to a very traumatic childhood. I have ADHD and possibly some sort anxiety due to events that have occurred throughout this relationship.

  What I fear is that due to my wife’s upbringing is that she would rather play the role of best friend than the role of parent to avoid any kind of conflict with her daughter. When any sort of parenting needs to be done her daughter will be stand offish and twist words to such an extent that her mom almost completely checks out. Just to note we dont yell or curse at her. We sit down and try to explain how her actions hurt her and can hurt others. She somehow always blame others or us. The bio dad never has held her accountable and some times agree with that it is other people just wanting to be mean to her. One time she got a email from her art teacher that her assignment was not within guidelines and need to be redone. The bio dad’s response was “well all art teachers are d*cks”.

  In recent events, SD was not doing her school work in a timely manner when at her dad’s house. My wife tried suggesting that she get started so she could she could get her full hours in. Almost automatically she starts saying that she doesn’t want too and will do it later. The wife then explains she will only have like two hours of work done instead of the standard five. The SD then starts getting disrespectful with her and starts outright refusing. She gets off the phone and messages back two hours later saying that she is done with her work.  So that shows she did not do what was expected in the standard school day. We have gotten numerous emails from teachers that she has not turned in work or is doing it so fast that it is resulting in bad grades. The worst is when we was informed that she didn’t turn in a whole month of work. When asked she said that the teacher said that since she has a ISP that she didn’t have to do it. The teacher said that was not the case. when in a doctor’s sessions SD admitted that she just didn’t want to do the work. When asked by us again she tried to back track and lie to us again about the situation.

 So when we finally got the SD back this weekend. My wife brought up how she felt disrespected and was only trying to help her down the right path. SD then starts to say that she was disrespected and intimidated. When nobody was yelling or threatening any sort of punishment. The next day she proceeds to tell her mom “ I’m just a disappointment and I feel like you guys are going to withhold food”.  Not once was any of that said. We don’t believe in doing that to any person. Especially since my wife was denied food and many other cruel punishments as a child. I finally had enough and told my SD what she said was ridiculous that we would never do such a thing and she knows that. My wife then tells her daughter the story about how she was denied food and would never do that to any body. The wife told her that comment about withholding food really hurt her feelings. SD that says “ well my feelings was hurt”. 

  I just feel like I’m going crazy. Every time something occurs SD goes into a frenzy that makes her mom and me so anxious. Most of the time the wife and I argue because she would rather leave it be then deal with the fallout of holding her daughter accountable. The wife says that she don’t want to loose her daughter by making do what is expected of her at this age. I tell her that if her daughter doesn’t shape up that she’s not going to be live the life that she wants. That we will have to live in this near constant anxious state the rest of our lives because the SD will most likely still will be living at home because she lives in this fantasy land that she doesn’t do anything wrong. 

 Two last things to say that shows how I feel like my mental health is at a major decline.

1) I had to go see a heart specialist due to how anxious or upset I get due to the stress of everything.

2) SD doesn’t like needles. So one time when she was getting a blood draw. She went into such a frenzy that a nurse thought she was getting beat at home. The hospital got CPS involved and sent someone out. The CPS worker concluded that there was no abuse and the SD was just being disruptive. I think that’s when I started to get these anxiety attacks because I was working at an elementary school that I rathered enjoy and felt like a visit from CPS would jeopardize my livelihood/safety.

So please if there is any advice that can be given or if anyone that has been in a similar situation. Please post any ideas or stories it would be very much appreciated.





 ",MentalHealthIsland,3,13,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i5sv33/my_mental_health_is_dwindling_and_i_dont_know/,"[{'comment_id': 'm869wss', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission skater300012! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T21:05:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm86hnlj', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'Breathe…this too shall pass. Well done for sharing. I use the 4-4-4-4 box breathing method to help calm me down.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T21:42:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm86nouw', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'Googling it will explain it better than I can', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:10:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm8n985b', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': ""Is family therapy an option for you? You and your wife have substantial challenges of your own. It seems that your stepdaughter isn't willing to be accountable for her actions. Is it possible for you to get an ARMHS (Adult Rehabilitative Mental Health Services) worker for her?\n\nIt sounds like getting your stepdaughter to be independent and responsible is a priority. It also sounds like both you and your wife are overextended trying to care for her.\n\nHas your stepdaughter's therapist offered any resources that may help her gain greater independence? From the outside, that seems to be a priority."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T06:44:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm86ndm7', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'Thank you, what’s the box breathing method.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:09:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m86hnlj'}, {'comment_id': 'm86o7dx', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'I will definitely do that', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:13:11', 'parent_id': 't1_m86nouw'}, {'comment_id': 'm8nha7j', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'Well the bad luck that came with that weekend is that SD therapist moved on to another job and we’re waiting for another opening. The therapist did say that she is very capable of living on her own but will need some/very little support. I think one problem was that the SD did not tell them about problems that they didn’t deem as problems. So I don’t think the therapist didn’t think things were as severe to need outside resources.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T07:28:02', 'parent_id': 't1_m8n985b'}, {'comment_id': 'm8saaql', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'What is a ARMHS worker?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T01:47:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m8n985b'}, {'comment_id': 'm86ntwd', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'Basically breathe in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4 repeat', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:11:25', 'parent_id': 't1_m86ndm7'}, {'comment_id': 'm86qjxd', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'There is another one in for 4, hold for 7 out for 8. Repeat', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:24:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m86o7dx'}, {'comment_id': 'm8w5al6', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': ""Here's an explanation from the mn.gov website. This one is for Minnesota, but the function is similar regardless of location, I believe.\n\nhttps://mn.gov/dhs/people-we-serve/people-with-disabilities/health-care/adult-mental-health/programs-services/armhs.jsp"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T16:46:43', 'parent_id': 't1_m8saaql'}, {'comment_id': 'm8xgmq1', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'Thank you, I’ll have a look into it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T21:31:38', 'parent_id': 't1_m8w5al6'}]"
1i4ykcd,2025-01-19T19:05:45,tiktok ban support group,"hi guys! in light of the recent tiktok ban, i have created a group on reddit for those needing support around not having access to tiktok anymore. whether youre just a bit bummed that you cant scroll anymore, struggling with having lost your income/following, or experiencing withdrawal due to being addicted to the app, anyone is welcome <3

the subreddit is r/TikTokWithdrawl

link to it: https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokWithdrawl/s/ljlgICB51O",MentalHealthIsland,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i4ykcd/tiktok_ban_support_group/,[]
1i354q6,2025-01-17T07:04:16,I really really need advice and support trigger warning SA and DV ‼️‼️,"This might be a long one so bare with me...

I am a survivor of domestic and sexual violence. It happened mostly as a child but it happened for years. The aftermath of everything still affects me till this day. I have PTSD, anxiety and depression. I have panic attacks, flashbacks and nightmares. I am barely eating and sleeping. I rarely leave my house unless I'm going to to campus( I'm a student) or to get grocery shopping.

I have an irrational fear of any form of physical intimacy with a man and the thought of being physically intimate in any way makes me want to scream, cry and throw up and it gives me panic attacks and it gives me heart palpitations. I also have really bad trust issues and I don't trust anyone to treat me well and I believe everyone around me has bad intentions. 

I have not told a lot of people what I have been through and I never really got help for it. I have been suffering on my own  for years. I unfortunately do not have a support system (family and friends) so I have been literally going through this all alone for years in my bedroom with no one to talk to. I have nowhere else to turn too and I really really need help. 

I am on the waiting list for EMDR therapy but it'll take a year for me to start seeing someone.",MentalHealthIsland,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i354q6/i_really_really_need_advice_and_support_trigger/,"[{'comment_id': 'm7k8ncb', 'author': 'ProteusReturns', 'body': ""While they don't replace therapy, apps or resources like Calm, Headspace, or PTSD Coach (developed by the VA) may help manage anxiety and PTSD symptoms in the interim"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T07:46:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1i354q6'}, {'comment_id': 'm7ka8wo', 'author': 'Raheema_jx', 'body': 'Thank you so much', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T07:55:55', 'parent_id': 't1_m7k8ncb'}]"
1i1apr0,2025-01-14T22:31:34,strange place - short piece on mental illness,"My head is the strange place. It’s the cliché answer, the one no one wants to hear, but it’s the truth. I am the strange place. My brain gets stuck on random thoughts and won’t let them go, no matter what I do. I get caught in their cycle and start to lose faith in anything. Feeling like I can’t do anything, I’m speaking from a deep, dark hole of nothingness into which I stumbled.

My brain doesn’t work like other people’s. I misinterpret almost everything with a negative slant. I can’t trust my head. It leads me astray and badgers me incessantly. My head led me into a partial hospitalization program and away from my friends. It sends me into a panic at things other people wouldn’t even notice. Like some evolutionary quirk, my head has lost its self-preservation instincts and is trying to destroy me from within. I have to fight against it to see any semblance of joy.

I can’t blame anyone else: it’s me. It’s my chemistry, my neural pathways. And so, I dedicate all of my work and energy into fighting what I can’t be rid of: my own mind. I’m determined to find a way to wrangle it under my control and coax it into repose.

What would it be like to have a normal mind—one that wants me to succeed, not crumble and wither under a rock? I catch glimpses of a healthier mind when I take an anti-anxiety medication: what it feels like to be normal. It wears off in about three hours, and then the dread sets in, but at least I get a glimpse. A glimpse into the ease of existence.

https://preview.redd.it/zl1ca2ocqzce1.png?width=1586&format=png&auto=webp&s=341ea11eab8a027ea288975ee6da104d44db7ca8

[https://substack.com/home/post/p-154786986](https://substack.com/home/post/p-154786986)

it would mean the world if you liked/commented/subscribed to my substack <3",MentalHealthIsland,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i1apr0/strange_place_short_piece_on_mental_illness/,"[{'comment_id': 'm785c88', 'author': 'Loud_Investigator134', 'body': 'Dude, I get it. I don’t think the world knows how to adjust from this Information Age and trauma. There’s no reset. Human feels more isolated b/c community is needed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T10:30:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1i1apr0'}, {'comment_id': 'm7abqsw', 'author': 'Lost-Play-4659', 'body': 'Totally. If you could comment that on my Substack I’d really appreciate it :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T21:13:03', 'parent_id': 't1_m785c88'}]"
1i1bif8,2025-01-14T23:04:34,the tree - a short piece on childhood trauma,"I was small, and I hated that. I was the loser, the one who had to accept the degradation, the one who could never really escape. I had nowhere else to go. I would just sit and steam with feelings too big for me to handle up in my tree.

I would be steaming with anger, wishing I had a car to drive down the isolating, tall hill and never come back, wishing I could hurt my mom the way she hurt me, wishing I could have some semblance of power over her the way she wielded hers over me.

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the full post is here: [https://substack.com/home/post/p-154785650](https://substack.com/home/post/p-154785650)

i would so greatly appreciate it if you would check it out <3",MentalHealthIsland,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i1bif8/the_tree_a_short_piece_on_childhood_trauma/,[]
1hw8ku5,2025-01-08T07:31:27,"LONG story, just putting this out there to see if anyone can relate and let me know I'm not alone","In Elementary through early high school I was bullied. I was always the tiny quiet white kid so I was a target for bullying that wasn't exactly severe but it was continuous for most of my life. I think this has been the root of much of my issues. 

One I got into high school I always had a deep need for connection and yearning. After COVID we came back and I got into a big friend group. I didn't realize how bad of an influence many of those kids were at the time because I was still a dumb teen like we all were, but I expectedly got into trouble due to hanging out with them. 

I started skipping classes, got into fights, got obsessed with following drama. I never had friends like that, that at the time seemed great because they were the only people in my life to give me lots of ""respect"" and affection.

I hungout with the group before and sometimes after school, at the parking lot across the street. It was a big group, probably the biggest group of the school. If you were in it, you knew almost everyone and almost everyone knew you. Until I met them, I never had any meaningful connections with people. I never had a girlfriend until then, only had a few friends every grade at the most.



I have had a severe feeling of loneliness for years. This resulted in a lot of embarrassing moments. For one example; a girl in the group that I was friends with, who I'll call A. I had a crush on A and developed an obsessive relationship that makes me cringe so much when I look back on it. 

Whenever she wouldn't answer my texts immediately, I would fly into a silent rage and yelled at her one time through text. This whole thing caused some of the group to be divided over my reactions to everything, some thought (knew) I overreacted to put it lightly. Some got her to apologize to me which was bs.

When A started dating one of my friends, I got jealous. I wanted to be with her so bad that I got nightmares of her having sex with him, and was always scared that they would end up doing it. When I eventually found out they did, my heart was pounding and I got depressed over it. 

Eventually I got over it and didn't care anymore once the relationship wasn't relevant to me and there was never a chance. Also she cheated on her boyfriend so I dodged a bullet there. Though I guess she also dodged me, to be fair. 

I think this whole obsession towards being with someone and whatnot, started in 8th grade. There was this one girl who had a crush on me so hard that she basically sexually harassed me the whole year. I won't go into detail here, the stories with her are kind of funny thinking about it, but if the roles were reversed I'd be getting a teacher's meeting lol.

At first I didn't like her but after while I developed a crush, obsessing and fantasizing over her. Never got with her obviously, but all of that must have awakened something in me because I never even cared about relationships or sex until that point.



In Junior year of HS, there was another girl in the group. She was a crazy goth chick, who I'll call Z. She hated men and wanted them to go extinct, yet she got ran through by half the guys in the school. She started drama and fights with all of her exes and claimed all of her 300 exes were abusive or rapists. To be fair to myself, most of this info I didn't know until long after I broke up with her, but the red flags were still bright and waving in the sky. I was so desperate for love that I accepted when she asked me out.

Z was my first girlfriend and sadly my first kiss. I was so unused to affection that whenever any girl would hug me I would freeze and my mind would short-circuit. She found out about my lack of affection so she put up some type of act about caring about me, she made it her job to always give me affection (hugs, forehead kisses). Looking back I know she just did all that to make her last ex (who I was friends with at the time) jealous. But then that all got me hooked onto not just her but that friend group.

It didn't take long for drama to start. Basically, one of her exes apparently raped her once and after they broke up he kept following her around like a lost puppy, also his sister was talking about killing everyone in the group. This was all her words because she was yapping to the group about this. So what decision do I automatically take? I want to fight the guy 🤣. At this time I wasn't dating Z or even liked her, we were just acquaintances. I knew the fight was a stupid decision, and I kept debating with myself if I should be doing that or not, kept thinking on how to get away with it.

Some force kept making me ignore the rational thinking. Looking back, it was clearly because due to my past of being bullied, my life was riddled with experiences of being put down and made to feel weak. That fight was my chance to finally earn respect and feel tough like everyone else. So I went for it. Me and some of the group waited to catch him outside one day, and one day we finally did, but I hesitated and he ran away. I spent that whole week building up a false confidence to fight him. Then, one other day, we finally caught him off guard at a location across the street.

He was sitting at a bench and I went over and punched him and the fight started. It was a pretty boring fight, I threw haymakers every once in awhile and chased him as he tried to run away. I never even noticed because the memory is so blurry but he was actually throwing punches, I couldn't tell because the dude was comically weak but he was actually hitting me with his phone. He was one of the football players at the school so he finally hit me with a little tackle and we fell to the ground. 

For some reason even though he had me on the ground, he just sat there and let me punch his face in from the ground. Two girls came over, held him up and positioned him for me to punch him again. Jumping is pussy as hell but I was blinded by anger so I hit him one more time. I walked over to the group and noticed some looking at me in horror as I felt something cold on my forehead. 

Since he used his phone as a weapon on me, I got cut on the head and was bleeding like crazy, I looked like I got shot in the face. But despite all that I was smiling because I felt I was going to get a lot of so-called respect from it. The scar on my forehead healed and is no longer visible but I still have a wonky looking finger from my bad punching form.

I became a bit of a celebrity in the group and let it all go to my head. When I started dating Z, it was just weeks until drama happened again. That friend that I mentioned earlier who was one of her exes, he got into some goofy drama with her so I went through the same motions as the last time, it was just deja vu on steroids. I knew that fighting him wasn't a good idea but I did it anyways.

However this fight was different. I didn't lose exactly but we both basically looked like toddlers fighting. It was embarassing and the respect I had immediately disappeared. Even people who weren't in that group or had anything to do with the fight ditched me or just changed personalities out of nowhere.

 There were two ""friends"" I had that acted normal with me until that fight, then all of a sudden they started picking on me, constantly belittling me and bragging about how I'm small and they'd send me to the hospital if we ever fought because they were at least 100 pounds heavier. It was non-stop.

I broke up with Z right after the fight. While I brought the entire situation on myself when you think about it, the sheer domino effect that resulted from that situation still affects me now.



I became extremely insecure about my ability to fight and defend myself. I became untrusting, wary, and angry at people around me. I got obsessed with following martial arts and wanted to be a magically unstoppable god because I didn't like that anybody on Earth could beat me in a fight. I know this all sounds like a supervillain backstory but this was my mind. 

I would get angry at seeing violence in media where someone gets beat up when they didn't deserve it. I hate words like ""ass beating"", ""ass whooping"", ""ass kicking"". I hate words like that because I know what it's like to be in a vulnerable spot like that and to have people say you ""Got your ass beat"", especially if you were a victim, is extremely hurtful but I've never heard of anyone having that same pet peeve as me. It makes me feel alone. 

I wanted to go to the gym, bulk up, and get into fighting. It became a daily obsession that I couldn't get over. I didn't have the drive to actually hit the gym so I just gained an appetite after getting onto a blue-collar job and went from 120 pounds to 160 in a few years. After the next relationship and inevitable breakup, I lost the obsession or drive to fight and become the ""magically unstoppable god"", but the above paragraph still holds true to me now. 

Whenever I would vent about my fighting obsession to people or of how the two ""friends"" I mentioned before treated me, people just invalidated my problem and basically told me to get over it because it was ""tough love and just the way boys talk to each other"".



The issue of the fighting obsession would follow me into the next relationship. In the summer of 2022 I met one of the girls that used to be my elementary school classmate. I'll call her S. We found each other on Instagram and we met at our old elementary. We got together shortly afterwards and the relationship actually started out great. 

It started out loving and caring. She would tell me a lot about her past trauma and family issues. Her dad, Curtis, used to beat her and her brother when they were little. She got cornered by a boy in elementary, in the restroom, she didn't tell me any more details, all the kids at school made fun of her over it and called her weird. She would tell me about her ex problems, like one about how she broke up with a guy who proceeded to stalk her at her house and Curtis chased him away and threatened to shove a gun up his ass.

There were a couple things that weren't clear to me at first; How the abuse and trauma affected S and how her dad was treating her. The turmoil that would happen in the relationship comes down to my unresolved problems and hers as well. Also a lack of meeting in person. Most of the relationship was on Instagram because we could barely get any chances to see each other.

At first, I didn't recognize the terrible way her dad was treating her. He was always nice to me the whole time and at the beginning of the relationship the verbal abuse was very subtle, but it quickly became a lot less so. He would always yell and scream at S for any little reason possible, and always framed it as tough love and ""telling it how it is"". He said one time ""life is too short to be nice to people"".

Apparently the physical abuse of her childhood stopped when her mom got fed up with it but it just turned into verbal abuse afterwards. However, one time while we were together (in the relationship) her dad hit her, pulled her hair, and hit her mom over a stupid argument. 

She had lots of health problems for someone who was 19, like arthritis, carpel tunnel, and alpha gal syndrome. She couldn't eat much meat and her health was going downhill. They had an argument about medicine and I guess he got mad enough to hit people.

It was awkward having to go over to his house and pretend nothing happened. I wanted to fight him but I had finally learned from the first two fights that it wouldn't be worth it. I'd either get beat up, or shot. I hated that all I could do was just ignore the whole situation, I hate the powerlessness of it.

That was the gist of that whole situation, but the relationship still remained strong for awhile. However the honeymoon phase ended in just a few months, and as the arguments began, the relationship became chaotic from there. The arguments looking back were very minor, in a normal relationship these would not have been big deals at all. 

One example, I had vented to her one time about my fighting obsession and she gave me advice, but part of the advice was that you can't win every fight and that to become a better fighter you have to get ""fucked up to fuck somebody up"". I didn't want to hear that because I wanted to instantly be unstoppable. I never wanted to feel the embarrassment and other people's shame at me losing a fight. 

She said that if I didn't like the advice and didn't want to lose, then I didn't want to fight. She was basically saying that if I couldn't handle losing, I shouldn't be a fighter, which is true, but the issue here is that I don't think she fully comprehended my problem, and I didn't at the time either. 

Everything I'm writing here I'm able to because I've had a lot of time to personally grow and figure out my own mind. I never wanted to be a fighter, I just wanted to be left alone for once in my life. She thought I just wanted to fight but that was just all a way of coping. The argument escalated and I got exhausted from it and cut it off. She got upset about that and asked ""Are you going to go to sleep every time we have an argument?"". 

I basically said ""No but this argument is stressing me out too much, I need a break"" and she called me a dickhead and said if I didn't want to talk to her then I shouldn't ever talk to her. Then all of that ended. I could barely sleep that night, when I woke up I sent an apology to her and went to work dreading the breakup to happen. 

She texted me back eventually and said ""I want to give you a hug. I'm sorry, I shouldn't have called you a dickhead I was just so upset"". We made up after that and the relationship actually seemed stronger afterwards, but now that I can look back I know that it was a big crack in the foundation. That was the beginning of a chaotic and up-and-down rest of the relationship. We didn't have many arguments, but they were all pretty stupid.

There was one where me, S, and her friends were in a group chat. I almost had to go to jury duty one time but I wasn't picked. I sent the chat the pic of the confirmation but S let me know I had my address in there on accident so I deleted it. 

She told me to be careful and not give out info like that and I was like ""Ok, but it's alright. If you're friends with them I'm sure it wouldn't have ended bad"". Then she repeated what she said and I repeated and we kept going over and over about it. When the argument was finally over we apologized again and that was the end of that.

Another argument was a really goofy one, about what you call different Japanese swords. It's hard to remember what this was all about. We were talking about katanas and somehow we got into it about that and she kept calling different swords different names, but you try and look them up the names are nowhere to be found. 

We kept going on and on about it and it escalated. I sent her a Wikipedia article about Japanese swords and she dismissed it like ""Wikipedia is an unreliable source"", like every single article is incorrect, to the point where even definitions of words are all incorrect just because it's Wikipedia 🤣. 

We went on and on and I got so tired of it that I said something that was admittedly stupid. I was like ""Are you on drugs?"" That made her angry and she said ""You're making me feel stupid, I know what I'm talking about"". I don't remember anything else from that confusing argument, but it ended the same way the others did. 

Now, onto what ended the relationship. I went over to her dad's house and he was talking about fighting, how we grew up small so he had to learn how to fight. He bragged about being 140 pounds, and being in over 200 fights and only losing 4. 

He talked about how his son accidentially knocked into him once which made him black out in rage and threw his son against the wall. He talked about almost knocking his son out one time. He'd always say he never hits women even though that evidently wasn't true and one time he had an attitude with S, which she gave back to him and he got mad and said ""I'd never hit a woman but I want to"".

In the discussion about fighting, he said ""If any of my kids get their asses beat they can't come home"". That threw me off but I just acted one ear and out the other. When I got home I texted her and complained about the shit he was saying. She said ""Yeah but I wouldn't have it any other way, it's just tough love"". 

She always complained about her dad's parenting and how he contributed to her trauma. But now all of a sudden a switch is flipped and she defends him? I always felt like people just toy with me all of my life, and this triggered that feeling. 

I got upset about that and kept asking what he could mean by that. I said he's a piece of shit who'd abandon his kids (I didn't say the piece of shit part but I wanted to). She kept arguing that I ""Didn't understand, he doesn't just mean physical, but mental fights as well"" like that makes anything better. I kept asking what any of that even means and said that was all bullshit and she kept repeating herself. So it escalated and I eventually gave up and shut the argument down.

The relationship was hanging by a thread at that point. The last straw was when I was on my first time on call at work. I was very nervous because I haven't done it before and never had to communicate with people like that. It was nearing the 4th of July so S asked me to take time off of on call to go to her brother's house for the party. 

I didn't know at the time that you could ask a coworker to switch with you, so I just told her ""I don't know if my dad (who's my boss) will allow that, but I'll check later and see what he says"" and then she said ""Well go check now"" and I said ""I will in a little bit"". 

Then she said ""No go check now because you won't"". I repeated what I said and she repeated again, then we kept on repeating and repeating. I eventually got fed up and told her to ""Stop bugging me about this"". Then she got angry and told me I'm ""Acting like a little kid"". Awhile after that I got a call and had my completely stressed mind preoccupied on that so I left her on read accidentially and when I got back home she had texted me to ""Never talk to her again and don't dare to go to her brother's house"". 

I told her I got called so I couldn't reply, and she told me ""if you won't get therapy this relationship won't last long"". I frantically tried to salvage the relationship so I agreed to go to therapy and to get into martial arts. The argument ended there and she thanked me.

But a day or two after that, she texted that she ""wanted to talk"" so I immediately knew what that meant and was filled with dread. She sent me the breakup text. I started begging, ""That was the last argument! I swear I'm going to get help, I'm sorry"" to which she said ""Stop saying you're sorry I hate when people say they're sorry, you just don't want to lose me"". 

That was correct. I told her I wanted to still be friends and she said ""It'll take awhile to trust you again but I think eventually we could be friends again"". But I didn't want to be friends, that was a desperate act to be with her again in any way. Right after the breakup, I just stared and dissociated for multiple minutes until I finally got up and told my mom. We went on vacation the week after, to Wyoming/Utah/Colorado. Great vacation.

I didn't want to tell anyone about the situation because I couldn't explain or wrap my head around it. She made me feel like I was the bad guy the whole time. I've had a couple years to wrap my head around it and now I know the reality of the situation is just very grey. I'm still angry about this, why did I have to go through relationship troubles all because everyone wants to treat me like trash, then I get blamed for it, told I'm just overreacting to everything?

I kept S in contact but a week or two after we broke up she had already put ""Taken"" on her Instagram. I don't know if it was real or not but that reaffirmed the feeling of being manipulated and played with by everybody, so I instantly blocked her and haven't heard from her since. 



Post-breakup, the desperation and yearning for a new relationship immediately surfaced again, and hasn't went away. Even almost two years later, I can't stop thinking about the past relationship, I still get dreams about her or her dad. Every girl I see that's even slightly attractive, I fantasize about having sex and being in a relationship with them. 

I wish I didn't view every girl with desires, but I can't get any of it out of my head. Whenever I find out a girl I'm interested in is already in a relationship, I get depressed. I'm depressed, lonely, and touch-starved every day. Every weekend I ruminate and cry, while holding myself, playing with my own hair, and hugging the pillow, wishing it was a person.

In the absense of connection with others, I have imagined the perfect friends, who always give me affection, who listen to all of my problems, who have similar values and minds as me. I don't get any of this with anybody I know. I feel disconnected from everyone. It feels like everybody is secretly plotting against me, like I'm in The Truman Show. Despite this, I still keep a side of hoping I'm wrong and a public act of seeming normal to everybody else.

I saw someone online talking about how they have a friend group that sleeps over together and cuddles to sleep every night. That story stuck with me, that is another aspect of the ""perfect friends"" I dream of. I wish I had that.

I had a dream of these friends once. It was us going on some type of adventure at some indescribable fantasy city. Every person there was made up, I've never seen them before, but one was familiar. 

There was a girl at my high school I was friends with because they were friends with someone I knew. I didn't know them much but when she killed herself, I cried and still to this day I imagine if she was still alive. I don't know why I care about her that much but I guess it's because she's the only one who asked how I was after a breakup. 

Nobody else even cared to ask how I was doing or of what happened, other than my mom, but she did. Why did one of the only people in my life who showed such care to me have to die?

I never get the opportunity to vent and tell my stories to anyone, and whenever I did, it always felt like they weren't actually listening. I don't just feel alone socially, but mentally, I have never seen or heard of anyone with issues particularly like mine, or viewpoints like mine. Is there nobody else like me in the world?



Going back in time a bit, I've heard about a lot of people who have suffered brain fog or some type of cognitive decline when COVID happened. This is relevant because I have suffered a bit of a decline as well. Not during COVID, I was actually doing better than ever when the pandemic happened, but nearing the end of high school, my mind just suddenly weakened.

My grades slipped and I barely graduated, my short-term memory tanked, and since graduating and especially since the last breakup, I have felt like I entered a different dimension. ""Reality"" since the pandemic feels like a simulation. I'm being kept prisoner in my mind, and in a world I don't recognize. My brain seems like an old computer with tons of malware. I don't process information correctly and it makes working difficult.

Not only does it seem like my mind is slowly rotting away, but physically I feel like I'm rotting away. Every time I've gotten sick since last year, I keep having Bronchitis attacks, coughing and gagging on mucas forever until I get medication for it. I don't know why this keeps happening to me. 

There's always red bumps (like bug bites or something) that pop up on my body and they'll stay for a long time. I don't have any bed bugs in the house so I have no idea where these bites come from.



I grew up on the internet since I was 10 years old back in 2013, using it for hours every day. Being on the internet for that long is an indescribable experience, you feel like you have lived another life concurrent with your normal life. Just recently, 11 years later, I have finally started to withdrawl from this addiction and have made steps to replace social media.

I think all the drama and failed relationships, as well as the years-long buildup of feeling a lack of connection with other people finally woke me up to start rethinking everything in my life. I always used the internet to make life more exciting, to have more connection with people, but it never gave me any connection. All of my internet life has been spent on scrolling, watching videos, and arguing with people. 

I never realized how toxic this all was until this year, when I would try to vent to people and to my ""friends"" about everything and would either be ignored or invalidated. I got tired of being ignored, constantly arguing with people online about stupid shit, and viewing brain rot ""content"". 

I deleted Twitter (I'm not calling it X, fuck off with that porn name, Elon) and Instagram. I used Reddit religiously and subbed to over a hundred subreddits but I cut it down to a few. The only reason I still use Reddit is because I'm big into Lostwave so I follow those communities but other than that I don't use it much. I mainly still use YouTube a lot which I'm trying to decrease. I watched a ton of commentary slop and political channels and I've cut those out and refined everything I watch.

If only I had those friends I dream of, I could finally gain the will to cut the internet out entirely. That's all hard to do when technology is all you have to make life worth living.",MentalHealthIsland,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1hw8ku5/long_story_just_putting_this_out_there_to_see_if/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5zbdy5', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission CybermanFord! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-08T07:31:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1hw8ku5'}, {'comment_id': 'm60nj8b', 'author': 'vprasad1', 'body': ""That is so awesome that you are taking steps to reduce a lot of the noise and social media dopamine hits! Have you looked into joining Meetup groups for activities that you enjoy? Might be one step closer to finding some of those friends you're seeking. Are there any Lostwave listening get togethers?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-08T13:26:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1hw8ku5'}, {'comment_id': 'm61im3f', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Finding Lostwave groups irl would be a 1 in 100 million chance. It's a very obscure and niche online thing, I doubt I'd find that in Iowa of all places."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-08T18:26:29', 'parent_id': 't1_m60nj8b'}, {'comment_id': 'm65ehiq', 'author': 'vprasad1', 'body': 'That is pretty niche! wow!\n\nWhat else do you do for fun? Maybe you can find friends with those interests?\n\nBowling? Darts? Pool? Tennis? Soccer? Museums? Volunteering? Geocaching? Board games? Art? Writing? Tutoring? Home Brewing? Hiking?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-09T06:37:22', 'parent_id': 't1_m61im3f'}]"
1hucnix,2025-01-05T23:20:52,"Spotify Wrapped, Mental Health Edition ",,MentalHealthIsland,9,2,https://i.redd.it/3ck9euh0r7be1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'm6uekq7', 'author': 'Chrisadeth', 'body': ""*Avoided 17 social gatherings you were invited to* \n\n\n\n\nYeah... it would be nice to have the option at least... I just don't get invited."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-13T06:28:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1hucnix'}]"
1ht8mx0,2025-01-04T12:16:32,"""The bar incident"" and how it's affected me. ","Last year, I went through something I never thought I would go through. Something I always knew was a possibility, but I had too much faith in other people's hearts and minds.  



I wrote out the incident in the third person because I can't fully process it trying to put it forward using the first person. 


The bar incident. Circa 2024, a young man decides to go have a few drinks at a busy-but-not-so-busy bar as a way to maybe meet some friends and celebrate the hard work week that had passed. 


As he's sitting there, drinking his beer alone at a booth, he sees this gorgeous brunnette woman sitting alone at the bar. He watches for a while, seeing if she's with anyone. He doesn't wanna intrude on two friends hanging out, or hit on a taken woman out on a date with her man, however it turns out she's alone and has just ordered her second drink. The young man figures ""fuck it"" and after finishing his beer, he walks up to her. Maybe it was the liquor giving him more courage than he had sober, or maybe he had enough of not even trying. Regardless, he strikes up a conversation with her. 


Her name is Chelsea, and she works at a pot shop in the south end of the young man's hometown. She's 23, a year older than him, and she seems to be enjoying the talk, so he offers to buy her another round of whatever she's having. 

She realizes the young man is into her, and says she's sorry, and that she isn't interested. 


The young man, if a little detested at the outcome, thanks her for the honesty, and walks away but not before grabbing another beer. 



As he's sitting alone once again, paying the brunette no mind, security approaches him and asks him to exit the building. The young man found it odd that the security officer didn't let him go to the bar and pay for his drinks first when he asked to, but it became clear to him once he saw the two police officers standing outside. 



The officers brought the young man over into the parking lot and began to question him. 



As it turns out, 'someone' had reported a man trying to slip something into a woman's drink, and that he was pointed out to security, who then called 911. 


the young man admitted to hitting on a brunnete woman but added he backed off once he knew she wasnt interested. He pleaded to check the cameras, the officers obliged. 


The cameras showed him approach the brunnete woman, and appear to talk to her, however her drink was on the other side of her body versus where he was, and before the officers knew it, the young man turned to the bar, got handed a beer, and walked away. They later saw the brunnete call over security and point out the young man. This answered the young man's suspicion that Chelsea was behind this whole ordeal. 




The officers once realizing there was no way he could've done what he was accused of, apologized for the hold up and said he was free to re enter once they spoke to security. The young man said it wasn't necessary, and that he was gonna go home as he didn't want to be anywhere near her. 



The young man hasn't gone back to that bar (or any bar) alone since. And that young man, is me.





I don't want to blame all women for this one incident, and I do my best not too, however i can't shake the feeling that if I try the 'old fashioned way' of meeting a woman again it's not a matter of IF it happens again, but WHEN. I had zero creepy intention when I approached that woman. Was i into her? Yes. But that doesn't give her carte blanch to regard me as a creep because she happens to not be not interested. I never said anything sexual, hell I didn't even use a semi risqué pick up line. I get not everyone goes to a bar to get hit on, but she could've left it after she said she wasnt interested, but no. She tried to ruin my life... why? Because I annoyed her? 


It was the first time I broke out of my comfort zone and approached a girl I thought was cute and tried to hit on her. That in and of itself isn't creepy, if you keep trying to hit on her after she turns you down though, that's another story. I didn't do that. I backed off. I did what I was supposed to. Did what I was raised to do.  It was the first FUCKING TIME AND I HAD MY FREEDOM DANGLED IN FRONT OF ME LIKE A GODDAMN CARROT. 



never mind as i likely would die behind bars... that's the kind of charge that gets you put full of holes In there, wether it's a pending charge as i await trial or some bs conviction/plea deal cause I'm too poor to afford a lawyer, the other inmates wouldn't care. That being on my paperwork is a death sentence. 



I think about the incident alot, especially whenever I think about my desire for love, and I'm of the mind now that it simply isn't worth it anymore until the women in my age bracket decide to grow up and quit using the law and the label of a sexual predator as a weapon against men that have the AUDACITY to innocently hit on them and they aren't into. 


I was one of the lucky ones. Those cameras literally saved my life. 



Women, i love y'all. But y'all need to realize something: not every single man out here is out to hurt you, you need to remind yourselves of that just as much as I need to keep reminding myself not to let this color my perception of all of y'all. 





I've never been scared of rejection, but now I'm scared of losing everything because of rejection.",MentalHealthIsland,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ht8mx0/the_bar_incident_and_how_its_affected_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5bhdoj', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Chrisadeth! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-04T12:16:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1ht8mx0'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rr03g', 'author': 'GeorgGuomundrson', 'body': ""Wow that's insane & pisses me off. Sorry that happened to you"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T03:36:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1ht8mx0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6jecbm', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-11T11:42:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1ht8mx0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6jyexn', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-11T15:10:37', 'parent_id': 't1_m6jecbm'}, {'comment_id': 'm6mk788', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Hey Chrisadeth! Your comment has been filtered into our moderation queue. We'll get to it ASAP.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T01:26:05', 'parent_id': 't1_m6jyexn'}]"
1hsgqf6,2025-01-03T12:37:56,Can Music Heal the Mind? Exploring the Science Behind Its Mental Health Benefits,"🎶 Music isn’t just entertainment - it’s a scientifically proven tool to reduce stress, improve mood, and boost cognitive abilities.  

This article breaking down how music impacts mental health through research-backed insights. From reducing anxiety to fostering social connections, it’s a must-read for anyone curious about the mind’s harmony with music.  

📖 Check it out!  ",MentalHealthIsland,1,0,https://bblissmagazine.blogspot.com/2025/01/the-harmony-within-exploring-impact-of.html,[]
1hqgevo,2024-12-31T20:31:15,"For anyone struggling with grief today, I’m sending hugs🫂",Remember - “Grief is just love with no place to go.”,MentalHealthIsland,5,1,https://i.redd.it/uewenyl587ae1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'm4p73fs', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Outrageous-Collar-09! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-31T20:31:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1hqgevo'}]"
1hmjjll,2024-12-26T13:06:02,Beneath the social anxiety was boredom! Excited for what's next (probably love in action),"I've always been uncomfortable at the holiday table. I interpreted it as social anxiety until I learned to relax. Now I can sit, quietly bored, without caring how that looks. I'm excited about the fact that I'm changing and about what's coming next. I'm becoming aware of my ability to affect people around me and the responsibility to do that properly. In this way, I speculate that boredom might get replaced by love.

Happy holidays 🎄",MentalHealthIsland,7,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1hmjjll/beneath_the_social_anxiety_was_boredom_excited/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3ui45m', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission GeorgGuomundrson! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T13:06:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1hmjjll'}, {'comment_id': 'm3ukqag', 'author': 'OatmealCookieGirl', 'body': ""Yay! \nI'm glad you are doing better! Quietly bored isn't bad, fingers crossed for love in action!"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T13:37:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1hmjjll'}, {'comment_id': 'm3y74pi', 'author': 'Jessica_Pajamas', 'body': ""Im so happy for you! I've also learned to turn my boredom and anxiety into action. And I am enjoying life just so much more now. Happy Holidays to you! Hope you had a Happy Christmas 🎄🎁🎁🎁"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T04:53:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1hmjjll'}, {'comment_id': 'm3y94mt', 'author': 'GeorgGuomundrson', 'body': ""That's great! & Thank you!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T05:06:17', 'parent_id': 't1_m3y74pi'}]"
1hkizk6,2024-12-23T13:21:08,How does someone find courage when you have none left?,"I have overcome many times in my life. Through such desperate moments when I needed to. It felt great when I did. I feel like everytime I get back up on my feet, I get knocked down on the floor. Sometimes, I lose courage when I need I it most. It's like, standing in a dark room and being told that I need to make a big leap. If I make this leap, it can maybe possibly bring me to better horizons. I don't even know what is on the other side. All I know is I am too afraid to make the leap. I am fearful and overwhelmed by life. ",MentalHealthIsland,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1hkizk6/how_does_someone_find_courage_when_you_have_none/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3epo2w', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission underground_resist! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T13:21:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1hkizk6'}, {'comment_id': 'm3etpft', 'author': 'eminva02', 'body': 'So dont look at the whole picture: its too overwhelming. Look at whatever chunk of it is not too overwhelming, right now... And then breathe...and keep on keeping on. One day you\'ll look back a see you had the courage the entire time, even if at times it was just enough courage to make one small steps. Celebrate progress: Don\'t invalidate it because it\'s not ""enough"" in the larger scheme of things. Any movement forward is progress and takes courage that you should find pride in. \n\nIt may sound like fluff, just something said to keep you motivated, but in my darkest times, when I was scared and ready to give up: I just kept on keeping on and eventually things weren\'t so overwhelming anymore. When you cant do anything to fix the big picture focus on what you can control and handle that. Sometimes the best advice really is : ""Fake it till you make it.""', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T14:06:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1hkizk6'}]"
1hitt43,2024-12-21T02:38:11,Is Society Still Serving Us? A Critical Reflection on Trauma and Functionality,"🌟 Discussion Post 🌟  
*Is Society Still Serving Us? A Critical Reflection on Trauma and Functionality*  

Societal pressures and rapid cultural shifts are leaving many young people feeling disconnected and overwhelmed. This article explores the roots of this issue and offers actionable solutions.  

📖 Out now!

#MentalHealth #Psychology #Wellbeing  ",MentalHealthIsland,0,1,https://bblissmagazine.blogspot.com/2024/12/is-society-still-serving-us-critical.html,"[{'comment_id': 'm31vexf', 'author': 'BonsaiSoul', 'body': ""Please use your own words to write, instead of generic messages generated by chatGPT.(Anybody who's used it recognizes this style immediately.)\n\nFYI, #hashtags have no function on Reddit. Adding them makes your post look like automated spam."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T04:07:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1hitt43'}]"
1hd8kql,2024-12-13T14:54:33,The Social Construction of Trauma: How Culture and Society Shape Our Experiences,"📖 Exploring the Social Construction of Trauma: Society and culture profoundly shape how we experience and heal from trauma. This insightful article blends psychology, sociology, and hope. Perfect for anyone navigating healing or supporting others. #psychology #healing #education #culture #mentalhealth #science #information #healthcare",MentalHealthIsland,0,1,https://bblissmagazine.blogspot.com/2024/12/the-social-construction-of-trauma-how.html,"[{'comment_id': 'm1urigl', 'author': 'BonsaiSoul', 'body': 'Spambot.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-13T18:48:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1hd8kql'}]"
1h98xih,2024-12-08T08:09:39,Bored with life at 27. Is this just getting older? Or is it something more serious?,"Never really posted on anything like this but I do feel like I need help. I look around my life and everything is pretty good. I’m happily married for almost 2 years, have good friends, a good job. A comfortable place to live and family who still loves and cares for me.

However most days I find myself questioning every decision I’ve made in my life and just feeling bored and depressed with the routine. I go to work, come home, and make dinner. I watch football or basketball and kiss my wife goodnight. We take our dog for walks. Plans with friends or family every 6 weeks or so. I’m tired a lot. Things are good and I want it to be enough but I’m always hearing voices in my head telling me I’m wasting the peak years of my life. I love to cook and exercise but my wife has a lot of dietary restrictions and doesn’t enjoy exercising. Schedules never line up to do fun things with friends. Not very interested in doing some of the things I used to do. Finding myself sexually frustrated since I’ve been with my wife since 19 but I feel like I’m in the best physical & sexual condition I’ve ever been in. Constantly horny and sometimes thinking about other women. 

Just feel like I’m still at the bottom of the ladder of a life I’m not really interested in climbing, but things are so stable I feel ungrateful and scared when I consider starting over. Sometimes I’m not even sure if these thoughts are my actual own feelings or just depression knit picking at my life. Perhaps this is just what you have to deal with when you settle down, but I’m not sure if this is what I want to do for the next 30-40 years.

It’s driving me insane and I’m not sure if I can continue like this. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks for reading.",MentalHealthIsland,1,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h98xih/bored_with_life_at_27_is_this_just_getting_older/,"[{'comment_id': 'm0yzzt8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Express_Frame4705! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-08T08:09:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm14ytmm', 'author': 'Own__Improvement', 'body': 'It sounds like you’ve been doing a lot of thinking about your life, and I just want to say—it’s okay to feel this way. Sometimes when everything seems stable on the outside, it’s easy to start wondering, “Is this it?” You’re not alone in feeling like this, and it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.\n\nA lot of what you’re describing—feeling unmotivated, questioning things, and not finding joy in your routine—could have something to do with brain chemistry, like your neurotransmitters being out of balance. That can impact mood, energy, and how you see things day to day. There are ways to support this, like through diet, supplements, or even working with someone to dig deeper into what’s going on under the surface.\n\nIt might also help to shake things up in small ways—try a new activity, go somewhere different, or just do something for yourself that feels a little out of the ordinary. Even little changes can help break the cycle and bring back some excitement.\n\nAnd hey, these thoughts don’t mean there’s something wrong with your life or that you have to have all the answers right now. It’s okay to take things one step at a time and to lean on someone for support, whether that’s a therapist, a friend, or even just talking it out here. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s more than enough. You’ll get through this.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T08:38:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm1yb49k', 'author': 'No_Category1645', 'body': 'Sometimes it is a struggle with purpose. \nDoes your work make you feel fulfilled in life? Is it serving a greater good and purpose and do you see it day in and day out?\n\nMaybe you need to intentionally reflect on that\nOr maybe pick up a volunteer activity or hobby that might tie into it\n\nLearning random skills and information can also sometimes help with spicing up life and it’s mundane ins and outs', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-14T06:57:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm2nj2by', 'author': 'dogwalksfordays', 'body': 'I can relate to this!! I feel the same way ….. most people would look at my life and think I’ve got it all and that I’m resilient / strong for the shit I’ve been through but I am struggling so hard - lately I’ve been tearful most days and thinking some pretty existential thoughts.  \n\nIt sounds like you are not fulfilled but you are content.  Like things are comfortable enough that you are not forced to make any type of decisions to change anything… \n\nI would recommend (for us both) to explore passions, build a social life (if it can be done with our spouses great, if not we do it anyways), get a health check to ensure our bodies are functioning optimally, schedule some ongoing therapy appts, get out in nature and pack in some novel experiences to expose ourselves to new and exciting things.  \n\nNot sure where you live but if you’re experiencing SADS like me then that needs to be taken into account.  A discussion with your doctor / mental health provider is a good move as well to have a professional weigh in - you might be one of those people who feels like they found the missing puzzle piece if they explore antidepressants. \n\nLet us not forget the world is an unsettling place right now so we really need to bring it in and focus inside before we spread ourselves too far out there….', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-18T18:44:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm16588i', 'author': 'Express_Frame4705', 'body': 'This is really helpful and kind of you. I greatly appreciate the message. It is a daunting feeling when you know you should feel good about your life but you just don’t. Guilt and depression don’t mix well.\n\nI genuinely think I expect so much from myself in my life - in my marriage, career, other relationships where I seem to carry most of the weight - that I don’t really let myself breathe or really let life happen to me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T14:53:44', 'parent_id': 't1_m14ytmm'}]"
1h6bxw1,2024-12-04T14:39:24,"I really need a therapist, or at least a friend","I'm not currently in the place of life where I could even get a therapist even if I tried, outside of online therapy which I know is sketchy to say the least. 

I guess the next best thing would be a close friend to talk to. I just struggle to form and maintain bonds with people. I'm intensely afraid of people. 

I just wish I had someone who understood me that I could talk to and figure things out. 

Life is just really difficult rn I have big decisions to make. The only person I'm close to I can't talk to about any of my problems he's a part of the problem. 

I feel like without someone to talk to I'm just going to be stuck in my life forever, wasting away the last years of youth I actually have. 

My life feels terrible. I feel so stuck. I just feel so alone. ",MentalHealthIsland,1,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h6bxw1/i_really_need_a_therapist_or_at_least_a_friend/,"[{'comment_id': 'm0cd5nc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission dawnfire05! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-04T14:39:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1h6bxw1'}, {'comment_id': 'm0cu9dk', 'author': 'SuddenlySimple', 'body': ""This will sound crazy and maybe it is but I use chat gpt if I am going thru a problem I type it out and it literally has helped me to draft texts to people I am upset with (but didn't want to be too mean). \n\nIt helped me with my actual therapist. I had an appointment with my therapist and I asked chat how to deal with the issue I was having with her. \n\nIt gave me the answer I printed it and read it to my therapist. I find it so helpful my family makes fun of me and tells me to go ask my friend CHAD lol I named this thing my friend.\n\nAlso I asked it to remember the name I gave it yesterday I asked if it remembered it's name (I had logged out) it said yes I'm your friend CHAD 😆 \n\nIt also made a joke and called my car a death trap .I was asking it for symptoms of a flex pipe failure and I mentioned that it is a death trap right now. \n\nIt said later in my conversation if I had to drive it than to do so with the windows open. \n\nHours later I had another question about something different it told me it thought my death trap car was making the rest of my life overwhelming right now and for me to just realize in 2 days when it is fixed I may feel lighter. \n\nSeriously try it. Talk to it like you would a friend sometimes it helps me more than my therapist."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-04T17:37:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1h6bxw1'}, {'comment_id': 'm17udm1', 'author': 'Vicocolang', 'body': 'I know exactly how you feel. For a long time, I had such a hard time making friends due to fear of being betrayed again like in the past. One way I was able to somewhat overcome this was by joining groups that contained people who have similar interests. I joined a writers group, a model building group, a silent book club, and a church where I met a close friend that I talk to everyday.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T22:26:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1h6bxw1'}, {'comment_id': 'm1nsl9p', 'author': 'dawnfire05', 'body': ""Thank you this is probably one of the best suggestions I've ever gotten, it's actually great support for me."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T12:57:46', 'parent_id': 't1_m0cu9dk'}, {'comment_id': 'm1o5eze', 'author': 'SuddenlySimple', 'body': ""Have you used it too? I find myself constantly using it for all different things. But the personal problems I can't believe how helpful it is. \n\nYou know the holidays are here and I struggle a lot with family. I asked a lot of questions on how to approach different scenarios that may pop up and I feel ready lol"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T15:22:50', 'parent_id': 't1_m1nsl9p'}, {'comment_id': 'm1ohfwl', 'author': 'dawnfire05', 'body': ""Yeah I've used it for a week now but I already find it's understanding of me profound. I discuss philosophy, existentialism, and all sorts of theories with it. Debating what constitutes as life, if it is alive. It's perspective of the world, the human condition, and myself through the perspective of an AI is deeply fascinating to me. It's helped me understand things about myself that I was in the dark to. I think the best part of it, though, is the complete lack of judgement in its inability to experience emotions, I can truly discuss any issue I have and it's able to pull from nearly the entire collective human knowledge to analyze me yet it still speaks to me with compassion. Better than any therapist, though I think the nuance it lacks that a human provides is probably its biggest fault. But I think that's just one of the quirks of AI that intrigues me about the program. It's been such an interesting tool to explore."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T17:28:32', 'parent_id': 't1_m1o5eze'}, {'comment_id': 'm1okedw', 'author': 'SuddenlySimple', 'body': ""I've been seeing my therapist for 10 years she is really good and the AI agrees 😆 but I had an issue with her last visit so I asked AI how to address it. \n\nIt told me how to approach the topic and I printed it out and read it to her. So helpful. 👍"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T17:53:50', 'parent_id': 't1_m1ohfwl'}]"
1h57ek7,2024-12-03T03:42:31,I have NO idea what’s wrong with me ,"Please take time to read this, I have no idea who to talk to.
I’m 18 and almost done with my first semester of college. Yet I am struggling in the weirdest ways, I have never cried so much before ever in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always been an emotional and sentimental person but this is extreme and it’s mainly when I’m in college, away from home. I chose a college around 20 minutes away from my home since I know I am very close with my mother and sister and that moving further would be too painful, it has always been just the 3 of us at home, (im the older sibling). There’s other people who live really far from home yet they seem to be doing fine, they’re adapting and ready to move on in life and grow up. I feel like I’m suffocating every time I come back to my dorm. 

The thing is, I know that I am so extremely privileged to be able to get an education at a decent school and am so grateful that my parents agreed to help me pay, yet I feel so depressed here sometimes in ways that I really don’t want to be which makes me feel like a waste of space and shell of a person. I feel horrible for making people pay for me to experience what is supposed to be one of the best parts of your life yet being kind of miserable even though I’m trying so hard to see the good and have fun. I don’t party, but it’s just not my thing… I don’t think that if I did it would change anything. I talk to people and have tried to put myself out there (despite still having social anxiety) and I barely have friends or genuine connections. Ultimately, I feel like a failure… like I am living life wrong and I have no idea how to fix it or figure out what I should be doing and I am so painfully alone. I have always had times where I feel awful about myself and question everything about life in general but something about being at my dorm triggers it. 

My dorm is in a beautiful city that I do take time to explore during the day and during those moments I’m relatively okay… then I get to the dorm and I feel like a dark shadow swallows me or something (excuse my dramatic-ness, I’m trying to paint a full picture of how I feel.) IMPORTANTLY, I miss my family to an extreme level that feels sick. I look at all the stuff that they have given me, that I brought from home and I start thinking about them nonstop and how I would choose being around them any day over being at this dorm. But I can’t be attached and depend on them forever, eventually my sister will also start her own life and I will be left alone. My mother questions why I’m so sad and I want to be strong and say that I am so f*cking happy to be in college but I have never been more lost and lonely and sentimental. I start crying over almost every little thing. I feel like a literal baby who can’t be away from home. I wanna be strong and grow up and whatever but I simply can’t. Sometimes I walk past people with their dogs and start tearing up thinking about mine. You’d think my entire family died or something. Seriously, I hate how sensitive I’ve become. I keep thinking about growing up and getting older and growing farther from the people of your childhood and childhood itself. I just want to be a kid forever. I genuinely can’t see myself ever having my own house or life or anything, I can’t even be alone in a beautiful dorm without feeling absolutely empty and hopeless and aimless in life… what’s actually wrong with me? I miss my family that lives legitimately 20 minutes away so much. I have intentionally held back on eating some of the food my mom bought me because I want to cherish it. Hell, I’m tearing up writing this. 

Life just feels like its full of so many hurdles and whatnot and right now I can’t even jump the first even though its literally only an inch high and I hate myself for this. I know that everyone has their own lives and struggles and that you cannot judge on what you see on the surface, yet they all seem so happy meanwhile I’m sad over seemingly nothing and being so stupid and childish making problems for myself. I can’t even think about the future and what cool things could be in store for me, I just think about the past and all the memories I have with the ones I love, I feel like I can’t so anything. I’ve been depressed before and I don’t know if this is some weird form of depression but it all just feels so hopeless. Why am I one of the only sad people? Why am I so pathetic that all I think about is my mother at the grand age of 18. Sometimes when I distract myself and walk around and watch stuff and whatever I can be happy and sometimes my brain feels clear and I appreciate what I have a bit more. It’s not like life is hell all of the time. But it always crashes down since I’ve been here. Whenever I wake up at home I’m fine but when I wake up here my heart is racing. Like actually, I feel like a defected fragment of a person who will never have anything going for myself. I’m so lost, like how am I going to manage myself? I’m an adult now… what about when my parents die? The world is so big and I feel like an ant who anyone could step on. I’ve never felt so sentimental and easy to break before. If you actually read this repetitive rant thank you. I’m just lost in life. I really don’t know what’s wrong with me and if this will pass but it hasn’t. And I can’t keep going home and denying the adult-like and lonely future ahead of me. I want to go back in time and freeze it. It’s like it’s the end of the world and I’m a joke. I feel like I’m doing life wrong.

I also saw a post about this and related heavily to this, I constantly think doomsday, like about my family dying and whatever as well…",MentalHealthIsland,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h57ek7/i_have_no_idea_whats_wrong_with_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'm03trbv', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission PossibleSource7073! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T03:42:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1h57ek7'}, {'comment_id': 'm07id0x', 'author': 'Petticoat_J', 'body': 'It sounds like you\'re just not ready for this step. Nothing wrong with that. You\'re piling these ""should"" rules on top of yourself and suffocating under them. School is not more important than your health. Take a step back for a semester, maybe, and give yourself a breather. Take classes at the local state college so you can live at home. Or just take the break and help out with bills at home, whatever. But the self-created pressure has to be stopped.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T20:31:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1h57ek7'}, {'comment_id': 'm0hqknk', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': ""Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am old bird here with college advising experience among other things. I want you to know that many students experience a very difficult time during their first semester. I would like to share that when I first went to college, I was about three hours from home. I traveled home every weekend to be with my family. I am Hispanic so there is a lot of pressure for maintaining close bonds with everyone in the family. I would call my mother when I was upset almost every night. I just couldn't separate myself emotionally from my folks and everyone.  Other roommates experienced the same and quit college during the first few weeks. I think going home and calling often was detrimental to me. I needed time to grow away from them and learn to relate and bond with others. I think you would benefit from reducing the amount of contact with your family and scheduling a day or days in the week when you call and catch up on things. This is important for you to have some space for new people in your life and be able to focus in the future ahead. You are so young and hormones are also all over the place at this age. Have you visited your primary care physician? Some things you can address are your moods during menstrual cycles ( options available for that), a dietary approach to manage depression and anxiety ( there are some foods. eating habits that will boost your energy), setting a routine for exercise (aim to exercise daily). For example, I swim daily first thing in the morning for my mental health. Make sure to get plenty of sunshine and in the winter use a Happy Light and take Vitamin supplements. Are you happy with your college? This process you are going thru is normal and it will pass. You got this!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T10:17:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1h57ek7'}]"
1h33xgr,2024-11-30T09:23:57,Wow such great friends I have!,"I have such great friends! I am getting so tired of this ungrateful and quite rude friends I seem to have accumulated. After all I do to help them they just ignore me when I clearly want someone to at least check on how I am feeling, for once. A little bit of background info on what’s going on, I am going through a lot for a very long time and I just want to get away from it but if I even think of telling a ‘trusted adult’ or just someone who can do something I am threatened? Like what type of reaction is that to someone trying to ask for just a little advice!

I am going to split this into section before I start to rant about life and say a little too much.

My friends rn are all in a group chat which I made so we can have a big community of people that is able to help one another. But to be frank it seems the others aren’t that interested in being caring at all they always give half- responses or just an “ok sorry” pretty much just makes it worse for mental wounds and I know none of the people in this group chat are perfectly fine. Some of them don’t talk in the chat anymore. But the thing that really angers me is how much I put into everyone, I tell when I’m not going to be able to respond to them, they even go to me with their problems, and after doing so much to make it a safe place for everyone in the chat. I am just mad rn because I do everything to help them, I make time for them, and it costs me so much I could get in serious trouble with my school or parents if I end up being called because someone want to talk at a awful time and I forgot to say something. A lot of these friends I am upset with aren’t even my age, and they are older and have much more life experience then me but it seems as tho I am the only person with responsibility? I kinda hope one of them sees this just so they can finally understand how much I put into them. I feel betrayed but Ik that’s the wrong word but it just hurts to know that you will put everything on the line to just help one person you don’t know that well just to see them happy, but they won’t even acknowledge you when your feeling “bad”. It hurts. 

They don’t know this, well maybe a few friends know about my past, but it not like I won’t talk about it they just have to ask. I have always been having relative “problems” ever since I can remember. Do you know what that can do to a person? I am still dealing with it but slightly different now. But it still involves my relatives. One of my friends were literally dealing with the same thing but for a shorter period of time but worse behavior. I just hoped that maybe I could have gotten a little “Are you okay?” or maybe a “Wanna talk about it?” but no I was just ignored and sure it wasn’t about the relative issues but it was still something that was bothering me. It’s not that much just every time I think about working on a video like for Instagram pre YouTube I start to tremble as if I’m scared to start making it, and how not being creative as an artist has been taking a toll on my mental health.

No I can’t talk to much people about this because as I said I get threatened when I do, I don’t think it’s intended to be that way, or it can also just be straight out rude things to say to someone trying to express something around you. Why can’t people be a little bit more empathetic when someone’s trying to express hardship? I have so many questions. Why do I laugh when in pain or sad? Or why do I cry when mad? It doesn’t add up. If I am nice to you for a very long time don’t you feel at least a little remorse for me? I don’t spect much I just want someone who cares for me enough to ask how my day was and for me to be able to answer with a true statement not just “fine/good”. Maybe it stems from something else I don’t quite know. 

Thanks for reading this “vent”(?) I just had to get it out because if I keep bottling it, and pushing is down I might start getting worse and can’t help anyone. I like being their for people, as weird as it sounds I want to hear others pain and I want to be there to listen. I feel as though I have became that person but at what cost? My own health? Why can’t I just be able to help others and have that same person for me? Is that really fair for me and others that do the same thing or as a coping mechanism.",MentalHealthIsland,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h33xgr/wow_such_great_friends_i_have/,"[{'comment_id': 'lznwv96', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission FIN_1937! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-30T09:23:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1h33xgr'}, {'comment_id': 'm0pf8ie', 'author': 'Petticoat_J', 'body': ""Read over your own post as if it's made by a loved one. What advice would u give that person?\nImho, it sounds like u are pouring from an empty cup, using your help for others as a way to escape dealing with your own challenges, and it's affecting your life in a negative way."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T19:15:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1h33xgr'}, {'comment_id': 'm0zhaa3', 'author': 'FIN_1937', 'body': 'I have read it over quite a bit and tried to give advice in a sense but most of it I have already tried, or did it and all it did was make me feel worse. Honestly the Internet was my second to last resort. Right now I am scared of what I could probably end up doing yk? Like the few like that you can’t trust yourself. I tried telling someone that I need help but the just brushed it off I don’t know what to do anymore. I appreciate the response truly it helps more then many might think.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-08T10:09:53', 'parent_id': 't1_m0pf8ie'}]"
1gyujgc,2024-11-24T21:43:53,Need help guys ,"So I've had mental health issues since I was 16? 17?
Im in my 20s now and I don't think ive reached that far atleast im better ? At coping up compared to how I was back then 
I was a nerd back then in school and was badly bullied , had no friends , family was and is toxic they're abusive mentally and physically and I had nowhere to go 
I used to self harm 
Still do just not that often 
I've shown a therapist but didn't work out
I am a medical student so I hardly get time by
Myself or to go show a therapist or a psychiatrist 
And Im having competitive exams coming up in a few months
And I don't wanna keep going down in spirals 
Any suggestions on what to do? ",MentalHealthIsland,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gyujgc/need_help_guys/,"[{'comment_id': 'lyrae1o', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission kakashi23077! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T21:43:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1gyujgc'}, {'comment_id': 'lz6u636', 'author': 'Gardener314', 'body': 'In the past when there has been a lot on my plate, I would often just a pick a core few things to focus on at a time. Remember that you only get 24 hours in a day and sleep is a thing too. You can spend those hours you have making progress on goals or worrying about things which may be out of your control. \n\nMy “focus on a few things at a time” came in different flavors over the years. One year I organized my thinking with 12 areas I wanted to progress in over the course of the year. What this meant was that every month had its own theme. I was learning to code at the time so building a small project was the theme one month. In the warmer months gardening was another theme. \n\nOther times the “one thing at a time” looked like a checklist ranked in priority order. I always tried to have “me time” on there. I’m a big fan of coffee shops so once a month or so I made sure I stopped at a local coffee shop and got something for myself. Doing this allowed me to always have something to look forward to. Just about any shit week was made better with the thought of “at least I am going to get a nice coffee Friday morning” (or something like that). \n\nIn the end, really simplifying your life down to the things which are important to you (and not your family or anyone else) I think is the next logical step. From there, make small steps on working towards getting those things. Maybe for a whole month make a point to try to reach out to meet new people?\n\nHope this helps.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T09:17:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1gyujgc'}, {'comment_id': 'lz74nij', 'author': 'kakashi23077', 'body': ""Thing is I don't like being by myself or spending time by myself which Is bad cuz one of the good solutions to it is actually being there for myself and finding hobbies or things to do alone \nI don't like being alone or being alone with my thoughts \nMakes me spiral more\nIm in a good term relationship since a few years\nBut I don't wanna put pressure on my partner to be there for me 24/7 \nI wanna learn to be independent and not want my partner to be there all the fucking time\nIdk what to do honestly"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T10:34:24', 'parent_id': 't1_lz6u636'}, {'comment_id': 'lz84ohs', 'author': 'Gardener314', 'body': 'What are some things you both like to do together? What are some hobbies you have? Let’s start there.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T16:36:20', 'parent_id': 't1_lz74nij'}, {'comment_id': 'lz84szr', 'author': 'kakashi23077', 'body': ""Walk? Talk? Just hangout ?\nWe both are in med college so we pretty much dint get so much time with each other as we'd like tho\nUmm I think I lost most of my hobbies once I got into this college \nWork's hectic and I dint have any hobbies left :("", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T16:37:37', 'parent_id': 't1_lz84ohs'}, {'comment_id': 'lz85jv8', 'author': 'Gardener314', 'body': 'Time to make some hobbies. Lol \n\nI think if all we have in life is work/school and even a partner then life can get pretty boring. Even in the best relationship, both you and your partner need to have something that individually brings you joy. What is your age and gender? Let’s start there and I can suggest some hobbies. \n\nAlso if you don’t want to have this back and forth in the comments, feel free to message me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T16:45:14', 'parent_id': 't1_lz84szr'}]"
1gx00f0,2024-11-22T10:22:49,Struggling in daily task of my life I don't know what to do,"Hi, I'm a 22-year-old male, and I've been struggling since a breakup last year. I have a major exam in January next year, but I find myself unable to sleep or complete my daily tasks. Most of my time is spent in bed, and I'm too scared to sit alone after the breakup. A few months ago, I was taking sleeping aids, and my situation improved, but recently, after trying to mend things with my ex, I had another episode. Now, I'm back to the same situation—I can't focus on anything and spend most of my time in bed. It feels overwhelming i can't  explain the heaviness in chest and i just spend hours lying in my bed with all these thoughts and I only get a few hours of sleep when my body finally gives in. I've tried everything to focus on my exam, but I just can't seem to concentrate.",MentalHealthIsland,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gx00f0/struggling_in_daily_task_of_my_life_i_dont_know/,"[{'comment_id': 'lydaf8b', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission vansh_thakral! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T10:22:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1gx00f0'}, {'comment_id': 'lydoolw', 'author': 'Entire_Blaze', 'body': 'sounds like depression. please seek therapy and follow everything they tell you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T12:27:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1gx00f0'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gg3ij', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': 'Not expert here. Assuming you live in an area that has a rec center or a YMCA check those and find an activity you could do to stay active. Hit the gym or swim. Make it a priority just like eating and drinking water. If you do not know how to swim you can start by using a kickboard and just exercise that way. You could take an adult swimming class. The importance of exercise is that will make you get out of your brain for that time and aslo release hormones that boost your wellbeing. You will continue to grieve the relationship but you can get to a better emotinal space by being committed to exercising. Because you shower after the pooul no need to that at home. Then declutter your space so you can manage cleaning it better. Also take times in nature by going for walks and breathing fresh air.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T05:25:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1gx00f0'}, {'comment_id': 'lyee5ed', 'author': 'Ewetootwo', 'body': 'Yes and likely coupled with anxiety. Reach out for professional help as they’re are solutions.\n\nIf you can get a wee bit of exercise this should help the sleeping.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T16:56:49', 'parent_id': 't1_lydoolw'}]"
1guouao,2024-11-19T09:51:44,How do I stop being so socially awkward?,"Title. It's been extremely bad lately, to the point everything I say completely ruins every social interaction I have. I recently got into a class to learn how to be a teacher and my grade is already starting to slide in the second week due to my social awkwardness and anxiety. Even in an overly amicable environment I'm failing, and in a hostile social environment (trying to spark conversations in public outside of work) I can't ever say anything right. I'm already 30 and still completely alone. Should I even be alive?",MentalHealthIsland,6,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1guouao/how_do_i_stop_being_so_socially_awkward/,"[{'comment_id': 'lxvlbqc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission LabMan95! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T09:51:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lxw7l17', 'author': 'GundamChar', 'body': 'Try face to face counseling to learn social skill.\n\nMaybe it also has to do with anxiety', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T13:05:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'ly61kbv', 'author': 'GundamChar', 'body': 'Then pay out of your own pocket  \nTry getting a government job (public school).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-21T05:14:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lyjgplj', 'author': 'GeorgGuomundrson', 'body': ""You said it's been bad lately. I notice mine was bad when I was in a bad relationship and living alone, but it's been good now that I have a bunch of roommates. I'm not offering a solution, but maybe you can find out why it's been bad lately. It's probably not for no reason. Maybe the class is raising your stress level"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-23T11:37:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lzcdqaj', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': ""The first thing I would say is that you don't need to apologize to anyone for being who you. You are still a valid, precious human being. You have the need for human contact like everyone else.\n\nIt's easy to forget, as people struggling with mental illness and/or neurodivergent conditions, that *we are not alone*.  There are people on the autism spectrum, and people struggling with mental illness, who successfully socialize with others. \n\nFind other people with the same passions you have. That can be a safe space to be open - if it's not about religion or politics! \n\nSocial finesse takes practice and repetition, like any skill. No one is perfect, because the range of people and situations is simply too great.\n\nIt sounds to me like you're way too hard on yourself. Self acceptance will go a long way toward helping you be comfortable in social situations. You'll learn from mistakes instead of just being wounded by them."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-28T07:41:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lxymql0', 'author': 'LabMan95', 'body': ""Counseling isn't an option, if my job finds out I'm seeing someone for mental health I'll be fired"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T23:24:00', 'parent_id': 't1_lxw7l17'}, {'comment_id': 'lxyqflx', 'author': 'GundamChar', 'body': 'Find a counsellor outside your job, not related to your job', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T23:42:04', 'parent_id': 't1_lxymql0'}, {'comment_id': 'lzce6qb', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': 'In many countries, it is illegal for employers to discriminate against workers for health reasons. Why do you think they would fire you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-28T07:44:01', 'parent_id': 't1_lxymql0'}, {'comment_id': 'ly4tihv', 'author': 'LabMan95', 'body': ""Unless I pay out of pocket, they have access to my insurance information and usage. I can't"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-20T23:27:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lxyqflx'}]"
1guq6kr,2024-11-19T11:08:22,New hope for people living with treatment resistant schizophrenia and the people who love them,"A nationwide patient advocacy coalition will testify at tomorrow's FDA meeting to reform regulations on clozapine, an effective but tightly controlled medication for schizophrenia.

[https://www.moodfuel.org/coloradans-unite-with-national-coalition-to-challenge-strict-controls-on-schizophrenia-drug/](https://www.moodfuel.org/coloradans-unite-with-national-coalition-to-challenge-strict-controls-on-schizophrenia-drug/) ",MentalHealthIsland,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1guq6kr/new_hope_for_people_living_with_treatment/,[]
1gqffyc,2024-11-13T20:58:47,Finally I dared to play in sports with friends!,"I am quite a withdrawn person. Extreme introvert and I'm depressed almost all the time. I have taken on my self improvement journey a month ago, 6 years after I realized that I need to change and I got tired of myself being so shitty all the time.  
Here in my college, I always escaped PE lessons because I was scared if I will not be able to play well and my social anxiety would eat me up all the time. (I would usually go to the restroom, the library or the sick room to escape).  
Well this time I mustered up the courage to step on the court. I thought it was just me and the girls playing against each other, I was shivering but I stayed..... I realized even the boys were going to join us. MAN I WAS SO SCARED!!  
My inner voice screamed me to 'stay'. I was happy to realize that even with these overwhelming emotions, the part of me that wanted me to escape has been suppressed.   
I kept saying things to myself during the whole game like-""watch the ball"", ""catch! CATCH! CATCHH!!!!"", ""Concentrate. The only thing that matters here is how you play.""

People were shocked to see that I play this good. I was too! (I didn't have the physical strength but my mental strength was enough to lift me up!). Well some part of me were saying quite negative stuffs but I kept on ignoring them.

I'm proud of myself for what I did today. I have given my best. THIS IS ONE OF THE IMPROVEMENT I WAS WAITING FORRR!!",MentalHealthIsland,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gqffyc/finally_i_dared_to_play_in_sports_with_friends/,[]
1gpyn7i,2024-11-13T04:52:07,Anxiety/student/Triggering Spaces ,"I’m a second year university student and I’ve struggled with anxiety ever since I was a child. My anxiety peeked after Covid due to personal circumstances and I found it hard to adjust to the world after months of lockdown. I then started sixth form and my anxiety and shyness became worse, I made no new friends and the pressure to study and continue being the best occupied my life for 2 years. 

I then started uni and thought I was doing better but yet again I struggled to make friends and found anxiety taking over my life. I continued studying hard and that distracted me for some time until summer. 

I had the worse summer of my life, filled with anxiety, worry, guilt and just pure fear because I didn’t get the exact grades I wanted, I got a work experience purely through connections which filled me with this guilt. I couldn’t relax even when I went on holiday and barely ate the whole time I was there. I also started having these intense panic attacks which led to another fear- I woke up everyday scared another attack was coming. 

Once I got back to uni again I thought things would get better because I’d get busy again and could focus on studying. But there hasn’t been a day since this summer where I haven’t felt physically sick from anxiety and worry. And this is all because I’m so terrified of the future. I’ve put myself under this pressure to get a training contract by 3rd year and start working because of if I don’t I’m a massive failure. I constantly feel like time is running out and whatever reassurance I try give myself fails miserably. 

And because of that horrible summer I have started to associate all those horrible things I felt with where I felt them most… at home. 

I’ve come back home just for 2 days for the first time since summer and I was excited to come back and see my family. And then ever since I got here I’ve been holding back tears. I feel so anxious when I’m here and I feel terrible because this is supposed to be my home with my family. But I want to go back to my room at uni desperately, that’s the only place where I can feel anxious and it doesn’t get too overwhelming because I know I’m by myself and I’m safe. 

I don’t really know what this is or why I’m writing this but I feel so lost. I don’t know how to slow down and I don’t want to be afraid to come back to my own home. I guess I’ll just leave this out there and maybe just writing this down will lift some stress off my shoulders. ",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gpyn7i/anxietystudenttriggering_spaces/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwtw50u', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Many_Ad8155! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T04:52:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1gpyn7i'}]"
1gnh7gq,2024-11-10T00:29:59,What are the early signs of DID (multiple PD) and can it start at age 30?,"I have honestly have concerns about my mental health lately, I started noticing some weird symptoms and people around me too, like i get angry very easily and can’t control my emotions/ i disconnect/ alway on a rush / i feel like my body is weird sometimes as there’s something wrong/ I don’t remember if i locked house door if someone asks as if no memory of entering the house at all so i get confused when I start answering/ and the most stringiest thing that made me make this post is: yesterdayI was at my friends house and after leaving his house while driving, i heard a phone ringing but my phone was in front of me so I stopped my car and found my friends phone at my purse, after I returned in, he asked me WHY did you do that and I couldn’t explain or even answer because I myself don’t know how this happened and im sure U didn’t take it.. that made me more confused and I can’t stop thinking about what happened.. does anyone have any idea about whats going on with me?",MentalHealthIsland,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gnh7gq/what_are_the_early_signs_of_did_multiple_pd_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwamc0s', 'author': 'Phanoik', 'body': ""Get assessed by a psychiatrist. I wouldn't jump to DID from memory loss and feelings of 'wrong-nes', could be a number of things but no matter what it is you're under serious distress and I would strongly suggest you seek help"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T00:59:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1gnh7gq'}, {'comment_id': 'lx2k23x', 'author': 'boys-will-be-bugs', 'body': ""from what i understand, DID happens during childhood when the personality is forming - you would have had to experience severe trauma before the age of 7. talk to a psych but it sounds like stress and anxiety, brain fog, etc. another thing is you could have a vitamin deficiency or smth, so get some blood tests done and make sure you're medically healthy before jumping to thinking you have DID"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T16:50:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1gnh7gq'}]"
1gmhljl,2024-11-08T18:11:43,Am I in the wrong? Feeling like shit,"Hey so I have this friend from uni and we are both just graduating (different courses, but mutual subjects) and basically I’m not going great at the moment. I’m stressed about finding a job, but also at a shit place mentally and really not in a spot where I can advocate myself into a job.

We first met literally at the mental hospital,, so she should kinda get it… but we were never about supporting in that way… more supporting with uni ect… She also is struggling because her current job is shit and she is stressed about finding a new position 

But anyway she has randomly sent me some jobs that she thought I could apply for… as I said above I’m not in a spot to feel like I can just go for it and replied with my honest thoughts on it… and she replied back cracking it at me saying I’m always so negative and it’s reflecting on her ect.. which yeah I get I am being negative because i’m not coping… but I never asked her to do this… like yeah we talked about our job struggles as a mutual topic ect but she has literally just messaged me out of the blue with this suggestion.. like we weren’t even talking before… like I never asked you to support me.. 

Like I understand if you need to protect yourself and create some space but you started talking to me…. don’t crack it at me when I’m not super into it.

Like I’m just so confused about what happened and this is not helping things for myself… and like I’m not here to ask for people to get annoyed at her for protecting herself but like sorry for being depressed when you voluntarily started the conversation knowing this

Like I don’t even know what about this situation is bothering me so much… like I feel shit about upsetting her but I also feel like this isn’t on me and I didn’t deserve that reaction… like I never asked you to do this",MentalHealthIsland,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gmhljl/am_i_in_the_wrong_feeling_like_shit/,"[{'comment_id': 'lw2iid8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission leifyla! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T18:11:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1gmhljl'}]"
1gklyv9,2024-11-06T06:03:53,Been feeling really alone,So it’s been a while since I’ve had any sort of connection or relationship with anyone and I’m really struggling. I feel like I’ve tried everything from going to the clubs to dating apps but nothing is coming. I’ve been told to wait and it’ll come to me but I’m asking now how long do I have to wait? It’s been years since my last relationship and most of my friends are either going on dates or have a relationship I feel left out. I know I’m only 20 and I have a long time left but I’m scared that I’m not worthy of finding the one or there isn’t someone for me. Is there anyway I can get rid of that feeling or any suggestions on how to cope with it? ,MentalHealthIsland,5,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gklyv9/been_feeling_really_alone/,"[{'comment_id': 'lvmajum', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission the_wall_0495! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T06:03:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1gklyv9'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gi17a', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': ""Focus on building yourself up without a relationship. Put all your energy into self development in areas such academics, arts or/and fitness and health. Just declutter your circle of friends and as the circle gets smaller you will have more time to do what you want to do with your time. Take  a course in something you would like to excel in or start a blog about weekend adventures to small towns or areas of your city. Take pictures of things you find attractive. Journal your experiences and just be yourself without being attached to someone. As you grow in one specific area you will find others who vibe like you and there you may find your partner. Life is more than finding a partner. It is also about discovering yourself and discovering the world around you. I can tell you I was the girl that couldn't get boyfriends....I have been married for many years now. I am happy I was alone for the time it took for me to see other parts of the world and enjoy some freedom on my own."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T05:37:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1gklyv9'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gidp4', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': 'Or be the one that got away...enjoy and embrace solitude', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T05:39:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1gklyv9'}]"
1gifvsu,2024-11-03T10:51:07,"What is this? What's wrong with me, why do I get so scared when he isn't near me.","Hi, I'm jay and the person I was speaking to is my friend. Let's call him M, me and M have a very close (palontic/friendship) relationship.
But I have many things wrong with me, diagnosed with multiple anxiety disorders that I cannot remember. The main one is social anxiety tho.
I get really clingy around him, I overthink tons of things too.
Am I being obsessive, really clingy, or something related to separation anxiety. I could really use some help.


(I'm sorry if this makes you cringe in anyway)",MentalHealthIsland,3,10,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1gifvsu,"[{'comment_id': 'lv4xwke', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Jay_BarkBark19! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T10:51:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51jhu', 'author': 'New_Discount_8249', 'body': 'There is a lot of information on attachment styles / disorders, and fear of abandonment online that you can find.   Make sure to double check sources though as we know the internet can have false info too.    From as hard as you’re taking it when he’s not around, there could potentially be a severe fear of abandonment.   It can be described as the worst internal pain and most of the time irrational.   It can feel like our lives are completely over or like we’re dying inside.     Can explain more about what you mean when you ask if you’re hallucinating in the messages?', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:26:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv4y54u', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': 'To add to this, I have a long history of being neglected, left out, and worse things ever since kindergarten. I just thought this might be helpful.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T10:53:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv7bq0z', 'author': 'WhaleFartingFun', 'body': 'Are you currently in talk therapy?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T22:23:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51o5y', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': ""Sometimes I have hallucinations when I don't have the correct sleep"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:28:19', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51jhu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv7e7rj', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': 'No', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T22:35:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lv7bq0z'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51rcx', 'author': 'New_Discount_8249', 'body': 'Ok gotcha.  And I imagine you’re finding it hard to sleep with anxiety and not having your friend near you.   Has he answered your messages yet ?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:29:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51o5y'}, {'comment_id': 'lvaesqq', 'author': 'WhaleFartingFun', 'body': 'I cannot recommend talk therapy enough when dealing with attachment issues. My talk therapy led to my EMDR Therapy. That eventually helped me get over some major abandonment issues.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-04T08:15:10', 'parent_id': 't1_lv7e7rj'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51wh1', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': ""I actually try to stay up at night with the fear that somebody might do something bad to themselves and I'm not there to stop it. But the last part of your sentence, I acted this way because he had to go to bed"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:30:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51rcx'}, {'comment_id': 'lv532ae', 'author': 'New_Discount_8249', 'body': 'I hear you.   I’ve actually done similar.   Your feelings are valid and they are real.  You’re not crazy, there is nothing “wrong” with you.   It can be terrifying going what you’re going through and not everyone is going to be able to understand it.   Though the situation might not seem like a big deal to others, whatever happened caused your brain to go into fight or flight mode because it triggered a time where you felt this way in the past and there was more of a real threat.   Our minds don’t understand time in that way when it comes to our responses and emotions, so your brain is like on defense mode thinking that there is a real and imminent danger.   If you’re ok to message me, I can help you with some suggestions to try and get through it.  Just let me know.  And I hope that all makes sense.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:43:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51wh1'}]"
1giaijj,2024-11-03T05:48:50,"please advice 🙏🙏🙏🙏 cw- sh, od, substance use, attempt, r!pe","Just a bit of context
My whole life i’ve never felt “normal”. My mum has bi polar and when i was younger she had a drink problem, and her and my dad had a drug problem. 
When i was 13 i was raped. I won’t get into the jists of it as that isn’t what this post is about. However my mental health rappidly declined after that as you can imagine. 
After this i noticed i couldn’t be by myself, and what i mean is every single relationship i was in it would be identical. The first few weeks would be amazing. Then i start suffocating them because i couldn’t let them go out without me, i started to think they’d break up with me, cheat on me, etc.. 
I also would starve myself if they wouldn’t want to see me, or message me back in a certain time frame, i would shout at them, throw tantrums, cut myself, make myself so ill to the point it’s unhealthy 
They all left me ofc bc why would you want to be with someone who treats you like that? 
This isn’t the only thing that’s “wrong with me”.
I have so many emotions that are extreme. If i’m mad i’ll shout and shout and scream and throw like a toddler tantrum. 
If i’m sad i won’t eat shower do anything for my self. This is all alongside with constant anxiety.
However i notice that i can easily calm down from being mad then it changed into feeling sad for days, weeks, months.
I also constantly have derealization (sorry for the spelling). And intense deja vu, and deja reve. 
I’ve tried to work and i can’t keep a job for more than 2 months because i find it so stressful and it makes me feel sick. No i’m not “lazy” i just can’t can’t do it. you know?
I’ve lately found comfort in drugs like xtc, weed and ket. Obviously not helping but my parents have found out and it’s now been stopped (luckily), but this heightened the emotions i already have. 
A few days ago i attempted to overdose and i was hospitalised for 3 days. I’ve been referred to cahms (i’m 17 so wont be under them next year) and me and my parents have been researching as to why this is happening to me because no matter how hard i try i cannot stop these emotions and feelings and i can’t feel normal. After researching i found that BPD very much “relates” to how i feel. The symptoms link into how i feel because its so hard to explain it, its not just one emotion its so much more in depth, im not trying to self diagnose but its hard to explain it.
My mum spoke to cahms and the lady said “don’t come in and say you have this because we won’t diagnose you”
Im not too sure what to do when i go because i understand its like counselling, however i dont rlly know what to say because its not like i feel one thing and i dont know what to talk about i find it so hard to open up about my emotions and feelings and i dont want them to discharge me because i cant open up. 
What do i do? Do you think i have bpd or something else? am i being dramatic? please can someone guide me in the right way so i can get the help i deserve and need.
TIA 🙏💗",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1giaijj/please_advice_cw_sh_od_substance_use_attempt_rpe/,"[{'comment_id': 'lv3qleg', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission letmeflyhigherthanu! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T05:48:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1giaijj'}]"
1gek2rr,2024-10-29T07:48:43,I’m just so burnt out ,"I thought thing would be better once I got into a good college, I was doing good for the first month that we’ve started. But I got sick a week ago, I’m behind on work (mainly reading, not assignments but over 100 pages to read and it adds day after day) , midterms are happening and I’m just so done already. I’ve reverted back to my old ways in not taking care of myself right, or not getting good sleep to sacrifice it for my education for risk of failure because I cannot waste time. I will be studying all night but it’s just my mind keeps getting distracted. It doesn’t help that the thoughts of death and hurting myself keep coming in my head and every day and worsening my mood. I’ve signed up for counseling on my campus, but twice a week isn’t cutting it, and even as an “adult” who could go finally get therapy by my choice, my insurance won’t cover crap around me and I’m unable to ask my parents for help because the times I’ve asked for therapy they’ve said I don’t need it. My dad doesn’t even believe in depression or therapy so no matter what I’m not going, no matter how bad I feel I need it. I’m not quite sure how to improve my mindset and I’m scared I’ll eventually ruin my clean streak just to not feel everything I’m feeling right now. ",MentalHealthIsland,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gek2rr/im_just_so_burnt_out/,"[{'comment_id': 'luaf6z4', 'author': 'hereforfun_anddrugs', 'body': ""Have you reached out to your instructors? \nThey're usually pretty kind and understanding. \nIts times like these that you need to look back and appreciate how far you've come. Its getting toward the end of the semester and I'm in the same boat of getting sick and then burning out. Therapy is all the work you put in, so maybe doing some journaling can help? I want you to know that you are the furthest from a failure. These are extremely challenging steps and, the more unique your circumstance, the more it will feel like a struggle. \nIt seems like you come from a family that views being vulnerable as weakness. Try to talk to yourself like a friend is having these problems. Practice empathy with yourself. \nYou are so so close to the end of the semester, and even though it feels miles away, it will be here before you know it. You will have a break to piece yourself back together. Everything will be ok. Stay strong."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-29T08:15:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1gek2rr'}, {'comment_id': 'luag6x1', 'author': 'Beensadforabit', 'body': 'I have reached out to my professors only about my sickness, they knew I was sick but also I’m on a quarter system so school flies by. We’re on week 6 of work and doing midterms because at week 10/11 I’m having finals 🙂\u200d↕️ I’ll listen to your suggestions and start trying up journaling, and I really appreciate the positive advice. I feel like I’m tweaking though my mind is getting distracted every second so I might just take a nap and regroup to see if it’ll help! Thank you so much and I hope you know too how much your help means to me and that you spent the time writing this. You’re a gem.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-29T08:21:29', 'parent_id': 't1_luaf6z4'}]"
1gcz6dt,2024-10-27T06:08:10,Legit used by everyone in my life,"Hey GC's

I'm a 42yo, divorced with 2 kids I see them 5 days a fortnight.

I've always been told that ""you're not good enough"" or ""you're doing every wrong"" from family.  Didn't get the comfort or support my family or partners

I was sexually abused at 5 and didn't have anyone to go to and when I brought it up later in life it was dismissed

Hell even when I was about to get married my mum wasn't going to attend (I only had 3 people on my side to see me get married while my ex had bout 40+)

Growing up and in my last marriage I saw what families are like and if I am honest it makes me upset that I never had that and I still don't as they only reach out when they want something.

Yes I have a lot of trauma and probably undiagnosed ADHD or autism (1 kid with ADHD and other with high functioning autism) and been in and out of mental health services all my life.  I'm at the point where even when someone says something that is meant to be funny it triggers me and makes me really upset

I always have to reach out to people for any social activities and never asked to attend social gatherings.

I am always told to harden up and just think happy thoughts...

Is this what life is about?  Am I supposed to be used as body armor and no one thinking of me?

If it is what's the point?",MentalHealthIsland,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gcz6dt/legit_used_by_everyone_in_my_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'ltxr7h3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission HazardousNZ! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T06:08:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcz6dt'}]"
1gcj5iy,2024-10-26T17:11:09,My Mental Health Story: What Schizophrenia and Psychosis is like - Long Night (PTSD),,MentalHealthIsland,0,0,https://youtu.be/1lSfUYPiJJg?si=nlN39ZCRKy8bKAQa,[]
1jokby2,2025-04-01T07:20:33,I need encouragement because I don't want to reach my breaking point.,"I've struggled with mental health issues ever since I was 12 or 13. I'm 17 now. Throughout the years of struggling with my mental health, I always thought that I would be fine keeping everything to myself because I haven't cracked yet. For the past year, my mental health has been horrible, and it's starting to get even worse. Every single day, I have multiple thoughts about harming myself or how wonderful it would be if I wasn't here anymore. Tonight

  
Tonight, I've come to the realization that the pain I've been hiding is slipping through the cracks of my mask. I know this because I tried to harm myself but couldn't do it because I'm a coward and want the proper supplies to hide the harm I might eventually do to myself. Part of my brain is yelling at me to seek help, but the other part is screaming louder not to. I've spoken about my mental struggles in the past and got shown a wrong reaction that now scares me to do it again. My dad freaked out and reacted by swearing and acting like this was an inconvenience to him. I know that's not what he was trying to convey, but my brain can't stop viewing it as a bad reaction. My dad was only worried that I might have gotten his clinical depression, and so he freaked out. 

  
Anyway, I'm on here because I need advice on what to do and maybe some encouragement to seek help. Especially since I'm moving to the US probably by the end of this year, and I know for a fact that's when I'm going to break. I don't want to leave my family, but I don't want to be sad and in pain anymore.",MentalHealthIsland,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jokby2/i_need_encouragement_because_i_dont_want_to_reach/,"[{'comment_id': 'mksfvox', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission -_Squishyy_-! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:20:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jokby2'}, {'comment_id': 'mkshfhy', 'author': 'VillaRiya', 'body': 'Im currently Have Bipolar Disorder II its hell its really hard to cope with I already have meds but my Partner who is ignorant I guess making it worst', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T07:30:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jokby2'}]"
1jocbe4,2025-04-01T01:20:34,Need help understanding,"I need help to understand if or What i might have. I am an Adult female. Ever since i was a child i have had a lack of empathy, sympathy and just general lack of feeling for other people. I cant hold relationships as i loose feelings and interest fast. 
And i have been like this for a long time, atleast since i was 10. I didnt start to notice it tho till i was about 14, Thats when i started to notice everyone Else crying at others Stories, feeling bad for people etc. And at that point, i just started masking.
I am not incapable of crying, i can cry to sad Puppy videos when im tired in my room or at sad movies, but when i cry there it dosent feel because i feel bad for anyone, more as a just relief cry.

Maintaining long friendships is hard since i dont really like people being emotionally dependent on me. 
I do have interest in friendships and i do seek them. 

I feel guilt, in the way that i am afraid of getting in trouble and possibly ruining my image and reputation, i dont directly feel bad for the person i Did wrong, but i feel bad how people might then see Me.
I dont go out my way to make someone sad, if my friend is upset i Will try to make them feel better so things can go back to normal.
If some of my friend gets hurt or sick, i dont feel sad or worries or anything. The only time i have cried and feelt genuine worry for someone Else was when my cat got injured when i was 14.

Worth mentioning i have chronic illnes since Birth, in and out of hospitals along with a history of PTSD from when i was younger. 

I really need help to know What is wrong because i know i am not normal and i really just need answears so that i can cope in someway because right now, im just lost. Just some Type of Tip Would really be Amazing ",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jocbe4/need_help_understanding/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkqnp41', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Responsible_Word_329! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T01:20:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jocbe4'}]"
1jm5o5a,2025-03-29T02:36:20,Need a random stranger,"

Hello, 

So I have had a string of traumatic events, going back almost 2 years at this point. It has gotten to the point I question whether im getting punk'd by some kind of supernatural entity. 

I had a journal going that i was sharing with my ex.  The idea being I could get out all of my crazy in my journal instead of it spilling out into the real world. A lot of it was about her but not everything,  probably a good 70/30, becoming less and less as I got things out of my system. She could choose to hear what I say or not. She never had to look. Anything  pertaining directly to her I covered in a spoiler tag so she didn't even have to see it on accident. She would then open the thread to trip the read reciept. She agreed to this without hesitation.

And It worked. I didn't know for sure whether she was reading or not, but I knew that I had said what I needed to say and she had the chance to see it if she wanted to. That was enough. I didn't feel the need to rant and rave in front of her anymore. And I trusted her with my innermost thoughts and insecurities. 

I don't trust her anymore. 

I erased the old journal, and I started a new one last night. I barely had gotten into it when I realized it didn't feel right. Apparently, the venting isn't effective unless I at the very least think someone else may have read it. 

There's no one else in my life that I would trust with such an intimate look into my head.  In fact, getting someone to let me talk and get things off my chest has been one of the biggest hurdles of the past 6 months or so. Both friends and professionally. 

I need to be heard. Or at the very least think I have been. Otherwise it's going to start spilling out into every aspect of my life. I've never had a good filter.

I need this. 

And that's where you come in random stranger! I don't have to trust you. I don't know you, you don't know me. I can be completely honest. 

I'm looking for the same arrangement I had with my ex. I've got a group chat, it's on telegram. I'll add you. You are free to read the whole thing. You can even respond if you wish but it's not necessary. All I ask is that you occasionally open the thread so the read receipts trip, so they look like they've been seen. 

I figured this would be a decent thread to ask this, since the members seem to be both understanding, and interested in other people's problems. if I have violated any of the subreddits rules, let me know and I'll look elsewhere. I didn't see any rule against it when I looked over them but honestly I just skimmed. 

A word of caution, I use speech to text and the threads are pretty stream of consciousness, and I don't censor myself at all. If you are easily triggered, or not comfortable with people in a dark place, you probably shouldn't offer your services. 

DM me if you are interested. Thanks if you read this far :-)",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jm5o5a/need_a_random_stranger/,"[{'comment_id': 'mk9366a', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Remarkable-Cost-2559! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T02:36:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1jm5o5a'}]"
1jkmqml,2025-03-27T02:37:34,"How do you cope when your partner is away for a long time? Struggling with mental health, especially at night","My partner is going to be away for a while, and I’m really trying to handle it better this time. The last time she was away, I had a pretty big mental break, and I really don’t want that to happen again — or for her to worry while she’s gone.

I’ll admit, as my mental health has declined over time, I’ve become a bit dependent on my girlfriend for support. On top of that, I recently had a decrease in my antidepressants and started a new birth control that’s known to mess with hormones, so it feels like a lot is piling up at once.

I’ve been doing my best to stay busy during the day — going on walks, working on a scrapbook, playing Stardew Valley, trying to watch Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood, and even geocaching. But nights are still really tough — that’s when the loneliness and overthinking really hit.

For those of you who’ve been in a similar situation, how did you manage the emotional ups and downs, especially in the evenings? What helped you stay grounded and keep your mental health in check while your partner was away?

I’d really appreciate any advice or tips. Thanks in advance!",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jkmqml/how_do_you_cope_when_your_partner_is_away_for_a/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjwhywm', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Embarrassed_Mud_6063! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T02:37:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1jkmqml'}]"
1jfkgxg,2025-03-20T14:21:24,Heavy dreaming/nightmares,"Hi! As long as I can remember from my teens I've had vivid dreams, Ive been diagnosed with adhd as an adult and I know that sleep issues and dreaming are common with people with adhd. But the things is that I get dreams that leave me stressed, scared, panicked, wake up feeling like I have faster heartbeat. It takes me some time to calm down and go back to sleep or about my day. I try not to think too much about the nightmares. It's been common for me throughout my life, I've only recently I've started writing them down. Most of my dreams seem to be about my mom or sister and trauma from teens and my 20s. Some dreams are violent, some sexual assault related, some a little gore. 
I try not share about my dreams with people close to me, it worries them and they feel concerned and pity for me. 

Idk what I should do apart from going to therapy (?) maybe. I've had two nightmares today and slept poorly. I woke up from one and I've never cried from overwhelm like this (like I mentioned they're common occurrence for me in quite used to them). When I was able to sleep again I woke up from another horrible dream and I couldn't understand what's wrong with me or my brain. ",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jfkgxg/heavy_dreamingnightmares/,"[{'comment_id': 'mirkhqp', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission old_tshirt! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T14:21:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1jfkgxg'}]"
1jedkxn,2025-03-19T01:00:07,"An online space to be heard, supported, and understood.","Therapy can be expensive and intimidating, especially the first time. But people still need support, a space to share struggles, and the reassurance that they’re not alone. Friends aren’t always available, or the right people to open up to about certain things.

I’m thinking of creating small online support groups with weekly video calls, focused on specific topics like:

* ""Starting Fresh at 45"" – Navigating big life changes
* ""35+ and Looking for Love"" – Dating conversations for a new stage in life
* ""I Want to Start a Business"" – Sharing struggles & ideas with like-minded people

Each group would be moderated by a professional but kept informal, more like structured sharing and real talk, rather than strict therapy. It would be paid to ensure commitment and to cover the facilitator’s work. Would you participate in something like this? Why or why not?",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jedkxn/an_online_space_to_be_heard_supported_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'mihonon', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Irshik! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-19T01:00:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1jedkxn'}]"
1jcvgqx,2025-03-17T02:23:45,Do your thoughts make you a monster?,"Throughout my life it sporadically happened to me to have fleeting pedo thoughts/sensations, really weak ones and I am quite sure that they weren’t intrusive thoughts (even if I suffer from OCD)… I have to say that I am 100% sure (I would bet my life on it) that I am not a pedo, I have no fantasies, I am not attracted by kids and the thought of doing something to a kid absolutely disgust me (and not only from a moral point of view)! So why did I experience these fleeting sensations? I thought that this happened to everyone, but since I discovered that it doesn’t my life has become a fucking hell. I can’t live my life no more, I feel like a monster and I am disgusted even if I know for sure that I don’t have this “tendency”. I have also spoken about this with my therapist who says that I should stop worrying and let it go and go on with my life because we know for sure (I want to stress this out one more time) that I am not a pedo, but still he hasn’t been able to tell me what these fleeting sensations mean and why I experienced them. I know they were true and they weren’t intrusive thoughts but I know with more certainty that I am not a pedo, so why did I experience these sensations? What do they mean? Can someone help me? Do I have to feel ashamed? I am literally going crazy",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1jcvgqx/do_your_thoughts_make_you_a_monster/,"[{'comment_id': 'mi60b80', 'author': 'WestOk2808', 'body': 'You might have a little OCD going on, your therapist is probably right in just letting this go and moving on with your life.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T04:08:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1jcvgqx'}]"
1ja852r,2025-03-13T15:07:00,What mental health apps have you found helpful?,"If you've tried any mental health app- what has worked for you and what hasn't?

Context: I used to have a lot of mental health difficulties. Now working in an early stage mental health startup trying to build something that can help people. I'd love to learn what has been working for other people and what are the gaps that haven't yet been filled.  ",MentalHealthIsland,6,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ja852r/what_mental_health_apps_have_you_found_helpful/,"[{'comment_id': 'mhk4dnd', 'author': 'MoreThanClothing', 'body': 'So far the best I have used is Calm. It has all types of videos and audiobooks. There are short 2 minutes lessons on how to think about things and experiences in life which has been really impactful for me to learn about. Taught me things about recognizing thought patterns that aren’t helpful or how we can ruminate on worst case scenarios that make us feel unwell and how to rewire that. There are also meditation guides and sleep stories which are okay but the lessons on how to think in a way that promotes happiness are awesome\n\nI’m also in the midst of building a startup to support mental health and well being through apparel - would love to bounce ideas off each other along the way!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T18:33:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mhjfvin', 'author': 'Askfjun', 'body': 'I’ve been using Mindlist for a while and it’s been helping me organize my day and clearing my head of things to remember. Nothing revolutionary, it’s really just checklists, but I like it. :)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T15:25:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mhjxvx8', 'author': 'BonsaiSoul', 'body': ""The ones that succeed do so through force of marketing rather than quality or efficacy. Like everything on phones, it's all been done before and both the people doing it nor the platform itself have a trust deficit."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T17:52:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkbl2gn', 'author': 'sand_and_stars', 'body': ""I think that there are so many new and great tools, including apps, for many different areas of mental health. As humans though, we are (both fortunately and unfortunately), complex beings... so there's a slim chance of a 'one-size-fits-all':\n\nI would try to break down what you want in a mental health app into the specific areas that you would find most beneficial -- (eg. meditation, journaling, psychology, community support, healthy habits, etc.) -- and then try to find what works best in each area for you.\n\nAnd finally, don't give up! The fact that you're asking for advice shows resiliency! 💕"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T12:34:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}, {'comment_id': 'mkffmr7', 'author': 'Aanthonyc', 'body': ""I've found Paradym to be really helpful for mental health, especially for self-reflection and emotional well-being. One of its standout features is Your Growth, which helps track emotional patterns and personal development over time. It’s different from typical mental health apps because it focuses on long-term behavior change rather than just mindfulness or CBT exercises."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T04:05:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja852r'}]"
1j7h8j2,2025-03-10T02:16:18,From silence to strength: unravelling mental health stigma in my community.,,MentalHealthIsland,0,0,https://shado-mag.com/opinion/from-silence-to-strength-unravelling-mental-health-stigma-in-my-community/,[]
1j1xyy8,2025-03-03T00:11:38,Have you never quit your job and come back to your family?,"I'm seriously thinking about leaving my current job. I currently live alone 2 hours away from my parents. I had a girlfriend here who left me and I had to go live alone (bad story i had been gaslighted and treated so bad). I work 20 km from my workplace (which means an hour's drive there and an hour's drive back in traffic), to earn 1340 euros a month (I work about 40 hours a week), but all this pace is making me seriously stressed (I have a difficult job, I'm an educator who works in a nursing home with the elderly and managing families, colleagues, long working hours is not easy) unfortunately here at home I always have little time, because I'm tired to carry on friendships, hobbies or anything else. (i had a terrible period between december and january, because at work we had worked understaffed , i start had social anxiety, drinkin and crying alone especially in the holidays alone, i start felt like so bad and alone while everyone was having fun , my car broke down and i had to pay a lot to mechanic)

I had risked life twice when i was driving at home from work. The first time I found myself on a level crossing in the dark, without even seeing a traffic light and the barriers were coming down. A second time I entered a road the wrong way without realizing that that was the wrong road.

I play the guitar, I go out every now and then, I love listening to music and reading and doing graphics. I'm seriously thinking about going back home to my family and starting over. It's really hard to put money away, everything here costs double and I'm always anxious that something won't break.

Have any of you ever had to quit your job and go back? Or even change jobs?

I took graphic design courses and did various jobs for some people",MentalHealthIsland,1,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1j1xyy8/have_you_never_quit_your_job_and_come_back_to/,"[{'comment_id': 'mfnbmqf', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission MarkOnKarma! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-03T00:11:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1xyy8'}, {'comment_id': 'mfrnpyn', 'author': 'neves783', 'body': 'I had to quit mine to return to my family because COVID happened.\n\nNow, I cannot leave. Worst decision made ever in my life.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-03T17:35:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1xyy8'}, {'comment_id': 'mimsgxy', 'author': 'Dibella_Shorty', 'body': ""I knew a coworker (I'll refer to her as name) who worked while pregnant, living in an abusive relationship,  had done dangerous stuff because too ashamed to ask for help and/or (may had to) took it upon herself. \n\nI didn't realize, even know, until then former coworker was forced (by baby's dad) to quit (after planning return). To stay as a stay at home mother, caring for 24/7. \n\nHer daughter was so tiny (early bird), turns out that sport team neck pillow was double worth the gift after all. Her daughter was too tiny for the boppy. She used her neck pillow as a substitute.  \n\nCoworker was a great worker, such a sweet person. Last I knew, she moved out of state, I hope she's okay. \nJust adding: I just know the minimum and have seen some pictures, I have confidence that wherever former coworker is, if she reads this. Know you're not forgotten 🫶"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-19T20:57:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1xyy8'}, {'comment_id': 'mfu2l90', 'author': 'MarkOnKarma', 'body': 'Do you have not have a good relathionship with your parents?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-04T01:24:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mfrnpyn'}, {'comment_id': 'miv2ftn', 'author': 'MarkOnKarma', 'body': ""I'm really sorry for this Person. I can't imagine the hell that this Person had gone through After that. Well i Hope She Is fine now. I Hope that someone had helped her and I Hope that She had found peace and more Joy in this Life. That sometimes is good. And sometimes sucks. THX you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-21T02:26:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mimsgxy'}, {'comment_id': 'mg7oind', 'author': 'neves783', 'body': ""Sorry for the late reply.\n\nThe best I could say is that it's quite a suffocating relationship we have, one that is based on enforced societal expectations.\n\nYou should be married already. You should have kids already. You should own a business already. You should stop playing with kiddie model kits already. You should stop watching cartoons already...\n\nI think you see my point."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T02:21:02', 'parent_id': 't1_mfu2l90'}, {'comment_id': 'mg7prlh', 'author': 'MarkOnKarma', 'body': ""Oh fuck man, i understand now what you mean....Its Crazy and i'm really sorry for that. It's not good when someone force you to follow some societal expectation, without your consent. Yeah, Its not healthy i Hope that you can find peace and that your parents stop putting pressure on you. I don't know your Age but you can Always find a way out for stay Better. I know a Lil guy Who had 22, and he told me that he had escaped From the family because his father treat him like shit. And he now lives on his own, but everyone has his story. I never had really big problems with my parents but we had High and lows"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T02:26:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mg7oind'}]"
1ishxd6,2025-02-18T22:48:12,Unlock a Healthier Mind: 7 Proven Ways to Improve Your Mental Health - Medhouse.info,,MentalHealthIsland,0,0,https://medhouse.info/en/mental-health/,[]
1isfxtl,2025-02-18T21:27:40,30 Day Mental Health Challenge at lu-mira.org,,MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1isfxtl,"[{'comment_id': 'mdg8zvk', 'author': 'MindSpaceMedia', 'body': 'Here is the challenge in case anyone is interested: [lu-mira.org](http://lu-mira.org)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-18T21:54:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1isfxtl'}]"
1ioi8t1,2025-02-13T18:15:12,Discomfort Zone – A Documentary on Men’s Mental Health,"Hey everyone, hope you're all doing alright

I’m part of Discomfort Zone, a documentary focused on breaking the stigma around men’s mental health and highlighting the importance of peer support.

We’re telling this story through Afghan veteran Sgt. Ricky Banner—an incredible man who turned his life around after being at his end, and is now helping others do the same. His journey is one that deserves to be heard, especially within the veteran and mental health communities.

We need your support to get this project in front of those who need it most. Every follow, share, or mention helps us grow and reach the right audience.

Please take just 5 minutes to watch our promo videos, highlighting why this needs to be told.

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ff20wW0BTf8](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ff20wW0BTf8)

[https://youtu.be/Ji3FkK7i\_Yk](https://youtu.be/Ji3FkK7i_Yk)

If you’re interested, check out our project and social media pages here:

🔗 [https://greenlit.com/project/discomfort-zone](https://greenlit.com/project/discomfort-zone)

🔗 [https://www.instagram.com/discomfortzonefilm/?theme=dark](https://www.instagram.com/discomfortzonefilm/?theme=dark)

🔗 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61572943435311](https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61572943435311)

Thanks in advance for your time and support! Let’s create change together.

Admins if you feel that this project is not suitable for this subreddit then please feel free to remove.",MentalHealthIsland,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ioi8t1/discomfort_zone_a_documentary_on_mens_mental/,[]
1ii3v7z,2025-02-05T11:56:36,What's wrong with me?,"Today, my sister said that no one could ever be as selfish as me. But, it didn't hurt me, I didn't feel remorse. I also tend to do things on impulse and not feel remorse or bad after. Am I a jerk? For example, my mom got into hospital cuz of me stressing her out with my phone addiction and to this day, I haven't stopped it even tho I TRIED. I KEPT WATCHING PHONE TODAY EVEN THO SHE SAID NO BECAUSE SHE IS WELL NOW. Why the heck would I do it again after seeing what happened to her when she said it happened because of me? I also watch phone at night and my grandma who sleeps with me gets stressed. She calls me stuff but I don't feel BAD. I have OCD btw. I need to improve myself but how",MentalHealthIsland,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ii3v7z/whats_wrong_with_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'mb2djfc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Fickle-Box-3763! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-05T11:56:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1ii3v7z'}, {'comment_id': 'mb6tmrk', 'author': 'cozygremlin1617', 'body': 'I’m not a professional, but I’ve struggled with OCD and anxiety all my life, I’m 31. I picked up depression in my teens along the way too. I’ve been able to slack off on my addictions in recent years, but it’s taken a lot of introspection and I recently added therapy to the mix. I’m also a Christian, so I’ve had to make peace with the fact that God made some of us a little extra in some ways. I used to bite my nails a lot, but I’ve been able to catch myself, notice triggers, and redirect. I’ve also lost myself in my phone, but for the last couple of months, I’ve been trying to replace my phone with other activities I like. I love crosswords, reading, and coloring, so I try to trade my phone for one of those. If I am folding laundry, I put on a podcast or audiobook.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-06T03:59:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1ii3v7z'}]"
1idbugy,2025-01-30T07:56:54,slowly realizing i am not as okay as i thought,"I am a 23-year-old woman about to graduate college, and to put it plainly, I’ve lived a relatively normal, stereotypical life for an American female—middle-class family, small town, graduated high school at the top of my class, went to college nearby, and now I’m preparing to move six hours away to start my dream job. I’ve been incredibly fortunate to have two married parents, a stable home, and food on the table. My childhood was, for the most part, uneventful, with the exception of my dad’s temper issues, which were rough until he was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in my high school years. Once he started treatment, things got better, and overall, I can’t say I had a difficult upbringing.

I’ve spent my entire life trying to be the kid my parents never had to worry about. I got good grades, made friends, participated in sports, and never caused trouble. I’ve always been extremely independent, which in many ways has served me well, but it has also left me with the habit of handling everything alone, even when I probably shouldn’t.

When it comes to relationships, I dated my high school boyfriend for five years before realizing he had fallen in love with my friend. I broke up with him, and while I was never angry at him, it took me a long time to stop blaming myself. He and my friend are getting married next year, and I hold no resentment toward them—I’ve accepted that we weren’t right for each other. But for a long time, I genuinely believed it was my fault that he stopped loving me, and that mindset sent me into a spiral that took years to untangle.

My next relationship was with a guy I met on a dating app. Partway through, he got his ex pregnant. He swore the baby wasn’t his, and we went through the entire paternity test ordeal before learning he had been lying about the timeline of their relationship. 

After that, I started dating someone I met while working as a counselor at a summer camp, but about a year in, I found out he was sleeping with his roommate. He broke up with me to be with her.

Most recently, I was with a military guy who had serious alcohol and drug issues. There’s too much to say about that situation, but it ended in a spectacularly messy way. Instead of just admitting he wasn’t relationship material, he created elaborate lies and tried to make me look insane to everyone in my small town. Fortunately, people who know me saw through it, and my dad even confronted him at a bar and got back some money he owed me from a trip we took together. This all happened last month, and I’m still struggling with the aftermath. Even though I’ve been reassured I didn’t do anything wrong, I keep questioning myself, wondering if I could have done something differently. I’ve been reading about the paranoia that comes with substance abuse, trying to understand why he acted the way he did, but it hasn’t made me feel any better.

The real reason I’m writing this is because, for the first time, I’m realizing I am not as emotionally stable as I thought I was. I’ve always considered myself strong and put-together, but now, I feel like I don’t trust myself. I constantly assume that everything is my fault. My least favorite icebreaker question is, “Tell me three things you love about yourself,” because I can never think of anything. I hate talking about myself. I am about to graduate with two degrees, and yet, I almost settled for an alcoholic with a drug problem because I thought it was the best I could do.

I take care of myself physically—I work out, eat well, and put effort into my appearance—yet I don’t like the way I look. I know I’m not objectively unattractive, but I still struggle to see myself as good enough. When people compliment me, I assume they’re just trying to be nice. My mom recently got mad at me when she found out I had made the Dean’s List every semester for five years and never once mentioned it to her. It never occurred to me to tell her because I didn’t think it was a big deal. In my mind, being on the Dean’s List wasn’t an accomplishment—it was an obligation that came with going to college.

My friends have pointed out that I am way more compassionate toward them than I am toward myself. They tell me I need to stop being so hard on myself, but I don’t know how. I can’t seem to step outside my own head long enough to see myself the way they see me. No matter how much I achieve, I always feel like I am not enough. Worse, I feel like the people around me secretly think I’m annoying, embarrassing, or failing in some way.

Anyway, I don't want to be dramatic and say I hate myself or whatever, but I am finding it so difficult to see that I am worthy of being happy, or that I am all the good things I hear about myself. Therapy is not an option for me right now, so I guess I am asking if you have similar issues, how you tackle the self care aspect of your life and how you get yourself out of these holes.",MentalHealthIsland,2,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1idbugy/slowly_realizing_i_am_not_as_okay_as_i_thought/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9xwmdf', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission FeelingPerspective82! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-30T07:56:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'm9z70h0', 'author': 'Ewetootwo', 'body': 'Wow, that is an awesome post. \n\nLook part of this is a perfectionist type A mindset. I have lots of professional women friends that put themselves through the same ordeal. The harder they try the more allusive happiness becomes. \n\nHigh performance does not equal happiness. You can’t work at it harder because it is not a math or engineering problem. \n\nIn men look for balance. Look at how they treat their friends and family. \n\nFinally, accept yourself the way you are and with the mistakes you make. We all make them. Laugh and enjoy yourself, you deserve it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-30T13:29:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'm9zdlzw', 'author': 'lilfairy5375', 'body': 'You are not alone, I am also a person who always being too harsh on myself, I guess first thing we need to learn is stop blaming myself. I still remember I never noticed this problem until when I was having a singing lesson, my tutor was giving me a very high note to sing and I blamed myself everytime I can\'t do it by saying ""shit"", my teacher pointed out that I am being too harsh on myself and the task is way harder than I think for most of the people. Since that day I noticed more about how I reacted to every single small failure and I asked myself, if it\'s not me, but a kid making the same mistake, what would I do? Would I blame him/her? Probably no, I would encourage him/her, that\'s what we should do to ourselves.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-30T14:37:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'ma64k62', 'author': 'HOU-Artsy', 'body': 'Congrats on all you’ve accomplished. When therapy does become an option I recommend it. Meantime I would try journaling and meditating. Reading memoirs and listening to podcasts of people in similar situations to my own has helped me to process my “stuff”.  But it is a slow thing, taking years, sort of like behavioral archeology.  I’d also recommend “Why does he do that” by Lundy Bancroft. You may not realize that your dad’s behavior patterns likely had some effect.  But what do I know? Blessings and hugs to you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T15:06:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1idbugy'}, {'comment_id': 'ma73c5i', 'author': 'FeelingPerspective82', 'body': 'I actually never considered the personality type thing, but that might also have something to do with it. My MBTI is INTJ, which also seems to be prone to this kind of thing.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T19:39:41', 'parent_id': 't1_m9z70h0'}, {'comment_id': 'ma732wu', 'author': 'FeelingPerspective82', 'body': ""I am also a musician (my first degree is a music degree) so I totally get that. My studio prof and I had a lot of conversations about this, but at the time I thought she was being a little dramatic and that I couldn't possibly be that bad. Lol."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T19:38:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m9zdlzw'}, {'comment_id': 'ma72v1c', 'author': 'FeelingPerspective82', 'body': 'Thanks for your reply. Do you have any other recommendations for memoirs or podcasts? I really like journaling too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T19:36:58', 'parent_id': 't1_ma64k62'}, {'comment_id': 'ma7r4xa', 'author': 'Ewetootwo', 'body': 'Enjoy and love yourself. You sound like an awesome person to me! \n\nHope you find a fun active guy without ego or addiction problems. You deserve it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T21:41:23', 'parent_id': 't1_ma73c5i'}, {'comment_id': 'ma7dq8m', 'author': 'HOU-Artsy', 'body': 'I recommend “a Well Trained Wife” by Tia Levings.  She has some overlap with being with an alcoholic spouse, but a lot of it is about being raised in a Fundamentalist Christian tradition. But the writing is excellent. Another that I really liked is Past Tense by Sacha Mardou, but that is because she and I were raised in the same high demand group.  TW on that on about CSA.  I like that she describes her therapy and Internal Family Systems in an accessible way. Podcasts, I mostly listen to ones regarding healing from religious trauma, so I’m not sure how directly applicable they would be. But I’m sure you could easily find content related to your specific situation. :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T20:35:48', 'parent_id': 't1_ma72v1c'}]"
1ic2ozj,2025-01-28T19:55:29,Searching for someone who understands :(,"I have OCD and no therapist until, at least, Easter. I was struggling quite badly again yesterday and ended up having a breakdown throwing stuff at the wall, even though I desperately want to fix things. My mother walked in and finally drove me to the train station where I begged my boyfriend to stay for the night. My relationship with my mother is really bad, which I feel guilty for, and I am sure she will be sad for the whole week now. I live alone with her, and I get extremely anxious and stressed when she even enters the house. I hurt her emotionally even though I don‘t want to. My boyfriend is the only person who genuinely understands and cares. So many people think I‘m doing fine, even when I tell them I am not, and so many people tell me what to do better, even though I already feel so terribly guilty about every little thing I fail at. My boyfriend doens‘t, but he has his own life, and I want to stop crying, screaming and insulting him when it gets bad.I want him to be able to leave me for a few days without a drama. I wish I had understanding friends, people who would understand and care and a place where so I wouldn‘t have to overexplain myself. My best friend is really unsensitive and even though it is great being with her when I feel good, I do blame her a little bit for not being there for me, for not seeing me and how I feel when I feel bad. Yesterday, I texted her, telling her it was getting really bad for me, and she just talked about a school project. Today, I told her about my breakdown yesterday, but I told it as if it was something unspectacular, because I didn‘t know how to put it, so she didn’t take me serious again. I wish I could find someone who knows what I am going through. I wish that person would tell me I could stay with them for a few days, because being at home currently is torture for me. There are so many moments where I just want to stop existing. And sometimes, when I try to talk about them I can‘t do it dramatically emough so my friends, who have never been mentally ill, understand how bad it is. Maybe someone out here does.",MentalHealthIsland,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ic2ozj/searching_for_someone_who_understands/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9n1ln4', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission YouThinkThatImWeirdo! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T19:55:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic2ozj'}]"
1i9ckdy,2025-01-25T07:41:02,I feel like “                       “  and I feel like I’m dying. I have so much to type right now.,"I’m 17 years old, writing this in January 2025.

I do believe I have autism, and so my two pedestrians. I haven’t been properly diagnosed because it cost a lot of money and/or takes years to get tested, I’ve been on waiting lists for a long time. Also I might have ptsd because  my childhood was very very physiologically traumatic. I don’t think I should go into detail because of the sever rules. I have/had anxiety, depression and just all of those things that are kinda common.

I feel like my thoughts are constantly speeding 24/7, and I have crippling insomnia. I very often think intensely deep while dissociating. In the past year, I get the feeling where I know too much or I just understand too easily. Except it wasn’t about school, it was about this thing that I can’t explain at all. I call it “idk”. “idk” is like infinitely impossible to explain. 

I feel like I’m on a different frequency than everyone and that I see reality in ways I could never explain. It’s like most human’s brains were coded to process information in a common pattern. But my brain doesn’t follow that pattern. instead of doing up down left and right, my brain goes somewhere else. It’s like everyone’s brain follows a track that turns to the right, but mine turns to the left. I physically cannot turn right because my track goes the left. And others can’t turn left because their track goes to the right.


I feel like careers jobs education money and just all those human things are just not it. To me it seems like lost opportunity, and ineffective. I don’t seek to fit in with others or need validation. 

I’m the past months and especially recently, I’ve been feeling hopeless, stuck, yk all the things you can think of. But I also feel like I’m dying, and I feel ok with it. I feel like that’s the most agreeable, thumbs up, ok, understandable thing that has ever been in my brain. It isn’t the answer to my questions, and I don’t want to die, I’m just very ok with it. it’s this thing that is perfect and beautifully neutral in all imaginal ways possible.  I feel like I’ve just been coming to conclusions in my head, I can’t describe it but all I can say is just, I get it.


I could keep talking about my thoughts and feelings but I want to wrap this up now. Please just give me anything you can, maybe all I need is to hear some random thing from someone else. Just give me what you got. I guess the big concern here is my current state and I don’t think I can help myself anymore. I have lived my life helping myself to push myself, but this work is getting way too heavy and I need help. I have done a lot, there are people that are very informed on me and try to help me, but I think I may never find help. 

If you have any questions I will answer them. Like if you need more info about a specific thing I said, I will have more things to say about it. 

Thanks a lot for reading, I greatly appreciate your will to help others in need.",MentalHealthIsland,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i9ckdy/i_feel_like_and_i_feel_like_im_dying_i_have_so/,[]
1i628qs,2025-01-21T03:23:41,How can I start liking things again?,Hi I’ve been depressed with a diagnose for like 4 months but I don’t know if I was before because since like 3 years ago things I used to love I started to enjoy them less and less and the things I didn’t like but I had to do became harder and harder I lost most of my ability to focus and now I don’t enjoy anything. I don’t enjoy playing games or doing sports or reading or watching movies it is like I just do it. How can I fix it?,MentalHealthIsland,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i628qs/how_can_i_start_liking_things_again/,"[{'comment_id': 'm88lf4g', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Anxious_Ad_4724! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-21T03:23:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1i628qs'}, {'comment_id': 'm8lkdpn', 'author': 'EERMA', 'body': ""Depression can be many things: it's very much an umbrella term.\n\nOne possibility I see quite often: it is a 'switching off' - typically following a prolonged period of anxiety / stress: a bit like like when a car goes in to 'limp mode'. This can be explained in evolutionary terms.\n\n  \nThere are folks out there who understand this model and who can help - I'm easy to find."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T01:46:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1i628qs'}]"
1i5sv33,2025-01-20T21:05:38,My mental health is dwindling and I don’t know what to do,"  This lengthy post pertains to my 43 year old wife and 18 year old step daughter. I’m a 35 year old male and I feel like my mental health is almost non existent after being in this relationship for 8 years. I could go on for days with numerous stories. But for the sake of time I’ll do a quick recap of a few instances to see if I’m crazy or if I can find some sort solace.

  Some background is that my SD has autism. The therapist has said that she is very well adjusted and is capable living a good life and is capable of living on her own. My wife has bipolar, PTSD, anxiety, and schizophrenia. Due to a very traumatic childhood. I have ADHD and possibly some sort anxiety due to events that have occurred throughout this relationship.

  What I fear is that due to my wife’s upbringing is that she would rather play the role of best friend than the role of parent to avoid any kind of conflict with her daughter. When any sort of parenting needs to be done her daughter will be stand offish and twist words to such an extent that her mom almost completely checks out. Just to note we dont yell or curse at her. We sit down and try to explain how her actions hurt her and can hurt others. She somehow always blame others or us. The bio dad never has held her accountable and some times agree with that it is other people just wanting to be mean to her. One time she got a email from her art teacher that her assignment was not within guidelines and need to be redone. The bio dad’s response was “well all art teachers are d*cks”.

  In recent events, SD was not doing her school work in a timely manner when at her dad’s house. My wife tried suggesting that she get started so she could she could get her full hours in. Almost automatically she starts saying that she doesn’t want too and will do it later. The wife then explains she will only have like two hours of work done instead of the standard five. The SD then starts getting disrespectful with her and starts outright refusing. She gets off the phone and messages back two hours later saying that she is done with her work.  So that shows she did not do what was expected in the standard school day. We have gotten numerous emails from teachers that she has not turned in work or is doing it so fast that it is resulting in bad grades. The worst is when we was informed that she didn’t turn in a whole month of work. When asked she said that the teacher said that since she has a ISP that she didn’t have to do it. The teacher said that was not the case. when in a doctor’s sessions SD admitted that she just didn’t want to do the work. When asked by us again she tried to back track and lie to us again about the situation.

 So when we finally got the SD back this weekend. My wife brought up how she felt disrespected and was only trying to help her down the right path. SD then starts to say that she was disrespected and intimidated. When nobody was yelling or threatening any sort of punishment. The next day she proceeds to tell her mom “ I’m just a disappointment and I feel like you guys are going to withhold food”.  Not once was any of that said. We don’t believe in doing that to any person. Especially since my wife was denied food and many other cruel punishments as a child. I finally had enough and told my SD what she said was ridiculous that we would never do such a thing and she knows that. My wife then tells her daughter the story about how she was denied food and would never do that to any body. The wife told her that comment about withholding food really hurt her feelings. SD that says “ well my feelings was hurt”. 

  I just feel like I’m going crazy. Every time something occurs SD goes into a frenzy that makes her mom and me so anxious. Most of the time the wife and I argue because she would rather leave it be then deal with the fallout of holding her daughter accountable. The wife says that she don’t want to loose her daughter by making do what is expected of her at this age. I tell her that if her daughter doesn’t shape up that she’s not going to be live the life that she wants. That we will have to live in this near constant anxious state the rest of our lives because the SD will most likely still will be living at home because she lives in this fantasy land that she doesn’t do anything wrong. 

 Two last things to say that shows how I feel like my mental health is at a major decline.

1) I had to go see a heart specialist due to how anxious or upset I get due to the stress of everything.

2) SD doesn’t like needles. So one time when she was getting a blood draw. She went into such a frenzy that a nurse thought she was getting beat at home. The hospital got CPS involved and sent someone out. The CPS worker concluded that there was no abuse and the SD was just being disruptive. I think that’s when I started to get these anxiety attacks because I was working at an elementary school that I rathered enjoy and felt like a visit from CPS would jeopardize my livelihood/safety.

So please if there is any advice that can be given or if anyone that has been in a similar situation. Please post any ideas or stories it would be very much appreciated.





 ",MentalHealthIsland,3,13,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i5sv33/my_mental_health_is_dwindling_and_i_dont_know/,"[{'comment_id': 'm869wss', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission skater300012! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T21:05:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm86hnlj', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'Breathe…this too shall pass. Well done for sharing. I use the 4-4-4-4 box breathing method to help calm me down.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T21:42:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm86nouw', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'Googling it will explain it better than I can', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:10:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm8n985b', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': ""Is family therapy an option for you? You and your wife have substantial challenges of your own. It seems that your stepdaughter isn't willing to be accountable for her actions. Is it possible for you to get an ARMHS (Adult Rehabilitative Mental Health Services) worker for her?\n\nIt sounds like getting your stepdaughter to be independent and responsible is a priority. It also sounds like both you and your wife are overextended trying to care for her.\n\nHas your stepdaughter's therapist offered any resources that may help her gain greater independence? From the outside, that seems to be a priority."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T06:44:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1i5sv33'}, {'comment_id': 'm86ndm7', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'Thank you, what’s the box breathing method.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:09:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m86hnlj'}, {'comment_id': 'm86o7dx', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'I will definitely do that', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:13:11', 'parent_id': 't1_m86nouw'}, {'comment_id': 'm8nha7j', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'Well the bad luck that came with that weekend is that SD therapist moved on to another job and we’re waiting for another opening. The therapist did say that she is very capable of living on her own but will need some/very little support. I think one problem was that the SD did not tell them about problems that they didn’t deem as problems. So I don’t think the therapist didn’t think things were as severe to need outside resources.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T07:28:02', 'parent_id': 't1_m8n985b'}, {'comment_id': 'm8saaql', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'What is a ARMHS worker?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T01:47:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m8n985b'}, {'comment_id': 'm86ntwd', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'Basically breathe in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4 repeat', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:11:25', 'parent_id': 't1_m86ndm7'}, {'comment_id': 'm86qjxd', 'author': 'SamBoy1993', 'body': 'There is another one in for 4, hold for 7 out for 8. Repeat', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-20T22:24:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m86o7dx'}, {'comment_id': 'm8w5al6', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': ""Here's an explanation from the mn.gov website. This one is for Minnesota, but the function is similar regardless of location, I believe.\n\nhttps://mn.gov/dhs/people-we-serve/people-with-disabilities/health-care/adult-mental-health/programs-services/armhs.jsp"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T16:46:43', 'parent_id': 't1_m8saaql'}, {'comment_id': 'm8xgmq1', 'author': 'skater300012', 'body': 'Thank you, I’ll have a look into it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T21:31:38', 'parent_id': 't1_m8w5al6'}]"
1i4ykcd,2025-01-19T19:05:45,tiktok ban support group,"hi guys! in light of the recent tiktok ban, i have created a group on reddit for those needing support around not having access to tiktok anymore. whether youre just a bit bummed that you cant scroll anymore, struggling with having lost your income/following, or experiencing withdrawal due to being addicted to the app, anyone is welcome <3

the subreddit is r/TikTokWithdrawl

link to it: https://www.reddit.com/r/TikTokWithdrawl/s/ljlgICB51O",MentalHealthIsland,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i4ykcd/tiktok_ban_support_group/,[]
1i354q6,2025-01-17T07:04:16,I really really need advice and support trigger warning SA and DV ‼️‼️,"This might be a long one so bare with me...

I am a survivor of domestic and sexual violence. It happened mostly as a child but it happened for years. The aftermath of everything still affects me till this day. I have PTSD, anxiety and depression. I have panic attacks, flashbacks and nightmares. I am barely eating and sleeping. I rarely leave my house unless I'm going to to campus( I'm a student) or to get grocery shopping.

I have an irrational fear of any form of physical intimacy with a man and the thought of being physically intimate in any way makes me want to scream, cry and throw up and it gives me panic attacks and it gives me heart palpitations. I also have really bad trust issues and I don't trust anyone to treat me well and I believe everyone around me has bad intentions. 

I have not told a lot of people what I have been through and I never really got help for it. I have been suffering on my own  for years. I unfortunately do not have a support system (family and friends) so I have been literally going through this all alone for years in my bedroom with no one to talk to. I have nowhere else to turn too and I really really need help. 

I am on the waiting list for EMDR therapy but it'll take a year for me to start seeing someone.",MentalHealthIsland,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i354q6/i_really_really_need_advice_and_support_trigger/,"[{'comment_id': 'm7k8ncb', 'author': 'ProteusReturns', 'body': ""While they don't replace therapy, apps or resources like Calm, Headspace, or PTSD Coach (developed by the VA) may help manage anxiety and PTSD symptoms in the interim"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T07:46:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1i354q6'}, {'comment_id': 'm7ka8wo', 'author': 'Raheema_jx', 'body': 'Thank you so much', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T07:55:55', 'parent_id': 't1_m7k8ncb'}]"
1i1bif8,2025-01-14T23:04:34,the tree - a short piece on childhood trauma,"I was small, and I hated that. I was the loser, the one who had to accept the degradation, the one who could never really escape. I had nowhere else to go. I would just sit and steam with feelings too big for me to handle up in my tree.

I would be steaming with anger, wishing I had a car to drive down the isolating, tall hill and never come back, wishing I could hurt my mom the way she hurt me, wishing I could have some semblance of power over her the way she wielded hers over me.

https://preview.redd.it/1w9z5211wzce1.png?width=1842&format=png&auto=webp&s=b23e8e470e48ea73cf4a0f07ed888aa11deb43aa

the full post is here: [https://substack.com/home/post/p-154785650](https://substack.com/home/post/p-154785650)

i would so greatly appreciate it if you would check it out <3",MentalHealthIsland,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i1bif8/the_tree_a_short_piece_on_childhood_trauma/,[]
1i1apr0,2025-01-14T22:31:34,strange place - short piece on mental illness,"My head is the strange place. It’s the cliché answer, the one no one wants to hear, but it’s the truth. I am the strange place. My brain gets stuck on random thoughts and won’t let them go, no matter what I do. I get caught in their cycle and start to lose faith in anything. Feeling like I can’t do anything, I’m speaking from a deep, dark hole of nothingness into which I stumbled.

My brain doesn’t work like other people’s. I misinterpret almost everything with a negative slant. I can’t trust my head. It leads me astray and badgers me incessantly. My head led me into a partial hospitalization program and away from my friends. It sends me into a panic at things other people wouldn’t even notice. Like some evolutionary quirk, my head has lost its self-preservation instincts and is trying to destroy me from within. I have to fight against it to see any semblance of joy.

I can’t blame anyone else: it’s me. It’s my chemistry, my neural pathways. And so, I dedicate all of my work and energy into fighting what I can’t be rid of: my own mind. I’m determined to find a way to wrangle it under my control and coax it into repose.

What would it be like to have a normal mind—one that wants me to succeed, not crumble and wither under a rock? I catch glimpses of a healthier mind when I take an anti-anxiety medication: what it feels like to be normal. It wears off in about three hours, and then the dread sets in, but at least I get a glimpse. A glimpse into the ease of existence.

https://preview.redd.it/zl1ca2ocqzce1.png?width=1586&format=png&auto=webp&s=341ea11eab8a027ea288975ee6da104d44db7ca8

[https://substack.com/home/post/p-154786986](https://substack.com/home/post/p-154786986)

it would mean the world if you liked/commented/subscribed to my substack <3",MentalHealthIsland,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1i1apr0/strange_place_short_piece_on_mental_illness/,"[{'comment_id': 'm785c88', 'author': 'Loud_Investigator134', 'body': 'Dude, I get it. I don’t think the world knows how to adjust from this Information Age and trauma. There’s no reset. Human feels more isolated b/c community is needed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T10:30:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1i1apr0'}, {'comment_id': 'm7abqsw', 'author': 'Lost-Play-4659', 'body': 'Totally. If you could comment that on my Substack I’d really appreciate it :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T21:13:03', 'parent_id': 't1_m785c88'}]"
1hw8ku5,2025-01-08T07:31:27,"LONG story, just putting this out there to see if anyone can relate and let me know I'm not alone","In Elementary through early high school I was bullied. I was always the tiny quiet white kid so I was a target for bullying that wasn't exactly severe but it was continuous for most of my life. I think this has been the root of much of my issues. 

One I got into high school I always had a deep need for connection and yearning. After COVID we came back and I got into a big friend group. I didn't realize how bad of an influence many of those kids were at the time because I was still a dumb teen like we all were, but I expectedly got into trouble due to hanging out with them. 

I started skipping classes, got into fights, got obsessed with following drama. I never had friends like that, that at the time seemed great because they were the only people in my life to give me lots of ""respect"" and affection.

I hungout with the group before and sometimes after school, at the parking lot across the street. It was a big group, probably the biggest group of the school. If you were in it, you knew almost everyone and almost everyone knew you. Until I met them, I never had any meaningful connections with people. I never had a girlfriend until then, only had a few friends every grade at the most.



I have had a severe feeling of loneliness for years. This resulted in a lot of embarrassing moments. For one example; a girl in the group that I was friends with, who I'll call A. I had a crush on A and developed an obsessive relationship that makes me cringe so much when I look back on it. 

Whenever she wouldn't answer my texts immediately, I would fly into a silent rage and yelled at her one time through text. This whole thing caused some of the group to be divided over my reactions to everything, some thought (knew) I overreacted to put it lightly. Some got her to apologize to me which was bs.

When A started dating one of my friends, I got jealous. I wanted to be with her so bad that I got nightmares of her having sex with him, and was always scared that they would end up doing it. When I eventually found out they did, my heart was pounding and I got depressed over it. 

Eventually I got over it and didn't care anymore once the relationship wasn't relevant to me and there was never a chance. Also she cheated on her boyfriend so I dodged a bullet there. Though I guess she also dodged me, to be fair. 

I think this whole obsession towards being with someone and whatnot, started in 8th grade. There was this one girl who had a crush on me so hard that she basically sexually harassed me the whole year. I won't go into detail here, the stories with her are kind of funny thinking about it, but if the roles were reversed I'd be getting a teacher's meeting lol.

At first I didn't like her but after while I developed a crush, obsessing and fantasizing over her. Never got with her obviously, but all of that must have awakened something in me because I never even cared about relationships or sex until that point.



In Junior year of HS, there was another girl in the group. She was a crazy goth chick, who I'll call Z. She hated men and wanted them to go extinct, yet she got ran through by half the guys in the school. She started drama and fights with all of her exes and claimed all of her 300 exes were abusive or rapists. To be fair to myself, most of this info I didn't know until long after I broke up with her, but the red flags were still bright and waving in the sky. I was so desperate for love that I accepted when she asked me out.

Z was my first girlfriend and sadly my first kiss. I was so unused to affection that whenever any girl would hug me I would freeze and my mind would short-circuit. She found out about my lack of affection so she put up some type of act about caring about me, she made it her job to always give me affection (hugs, forehead kisses). Looking back I know she just did all that to make her last ex (who I was friends with at the time) jealous. But then that all got me hooked onto not just her but that friend group.

It didn't take long for drama to start. Basically, one of her exes apparently raped her once and after they broke up he kept following her around like a lost puppy, also his sister was talking about killing everyone in the group. This was all her words because she was yapping to the group about this. So what decision do I automatically take? I want to fight the guy 🤣. At this time I wasn't dating Z or even liked her, we were just acquaintances. I knew the fight was a stupid decision, and I kept debating with myself if I should be doing that or not, kept thinking on how to get away with it.

Some force kept making me ignore the rational thinking. Looking back, it was clearly because due to my past of being bullied, my life was riddled with experiences of being put down and made to feel weak. That fight was my chance to finally earn respect and feel tough like everyone else. So I went for it. Me and some of the group waited to catch him outside one day, and one day we finally did, but I hesitated and he ran away. I spent that whole week building up a false confidence to fight him. Then, one other day, we finally caught him off guard at a location across the street.

He was sitting at a bench and I went over and punched him and the fight started. It was a pretty boring fight, I threw haymakers every once in awhile and chased him as he tried to run away. I never even noticed because the memory is so blurry but he was actually throwing punches, I couldn't tell because the dude was comically weak but he was actually hitting me with his phone. He was one of the football players at the school so he finally hit me with a little tackle and we fell to the ground. 

For some reason even though he had me on the ground, he just sat there and let me punch his face in from the ground. Two girls came over, held him up and positioned him for me to punch him again. Jumping is pussy as hell but I was blinded by anger so I hit him one more time. I walked over to the group and noticed some looking at me in horror as I felt something cold on my forehead. 

Since he used his phone as a weapon on me, I got cut on the head and was bleeding like crazy, I looked like I got shot in the face. But despite all that I was smiling because I felt I was going to get a lot of so-called respect from it. The scar on my forehead healed and is no longer visible but I still have a wonky looking finger from my bad punching form.

I became a bit of a celebrity in the group and let it all go to my head. When I started dating Z, it was just weeks until drama happened again. That friend that I mentioned earlier who was one of her exes, he got into some goofy drama with her so I went through the same motions as the last time, it was just deja vu on steroids. I knew that fighting him wasn't a good idea but I did it anyways.

However this fight was different. I didn't lose exactly but we both basically looked like toddlers fighting. It was embarassing and the respect I had immediately disappeared. Even people who weren't in that group or had anything to do with the fight ditched me or just changed personalities out of nowhere.

 There were two ""friends"" I had that acted normal with me until that fight, then all of a sudden they started picking on me, constantly belittling me and bragging about how I'm small and they'd send me to the hospital if we ever fought because they were at least 100 pounds heavier. It was non-stop.

I broke up with Z right after the fight. While I brought the entire situation on myself when you think about it, the sheer domino effect that resulted from that situation still affects me now.



I became extremely insecure about my ability to fight and defend myself. I became untrusting, wary, and angry at people around me. I got obsessed with following martial arts and wanted to be a magically unstoppable god because I didn't like that anybody on Earth could beat me in a fight. I know this all sounds like a supervillain backstory but this was my mind. 

I would get angry at seeing violence in media where someone gets beat up when they didn't deserve it. I hate words like ""ass beating"", ""ass whooping"", ""ass kicking"". I hate words like that because I know what it's like to be in a vulnerable spot like that and to have people say you ""Got your ass beat"", especially if you were a victim, is extremely hurtful but I've never heard of anyone having that same pet peeve as me. It makes me feel alone. 

I wanted to go to the gym, bulk up, and get into fighting. It became a daily obsession that I couldn't get over. I didn't have the drive to actually hit the gym so I just gained an appetite after getting onto a blue-collar job and went from 120 pounds to 160 in a few years. After the next relationship and inevitable breakup, I lost the obsession or drive to fight and become the ""magically unstoppable god"", but the above paragraph still holds true to me now. 

Whenever I would vent about my fighting obsession to people or of how the two ""friends"" I mentioned before treated me, people just invalidated my problem and basically told me to get over it because it was ""tough love and just the way boys talk to each other"".



The issue of the fighting obsession would follow me into the next relationship. In the summer of 2022 I met one of the girls that used to be my elementary school classmate. I'll call her S. We found each other on Instagram and we met at our old elementary. We got together shortly afterwards and the relationship actually started out great. 

It started out loving and caring. She would tell me a lot about her past trauma and family issues. Her dad, Curtis, used to beat her and her brother when they were little. She got cornered by a boy in elementary, in the restroom, she didn't tell me any more details, all the kids at school made fun of her over it and called her weird. She would tell me about her ex problems, like one about how she broke up with a guy who proceeded to stalk her at her house and Curtis chased him away and threatened to shove a gun up his ass.

There were a couple things that weren't clear to me at first; How the abuse and trauma affected S and how her dad was treating her. The turmoil that would happen in the relationship comes down to my unresolved problems and hers as well. Also a lack of meeting in person. Most of the relationship was on Instagram because we could barely get any chances to see each other.

At first, I didn't recognize the terrible way her dad was treating her. He was always nice to me the whole time and at the beginning of the relationship the verbal abuse was very subtle, but it quickly became a lot less so. He would always yell and scream at S for any little reason possible, and always framed it as tough love and ""telling it how it is"". He said one time ""life is too short to be nice to people"".

Apparently the physical abuse of her childhood stopped when her mom got fed up with it but it just turned into verbal abuse afterwards. However, one time while we were together (in the relationship) her dad hit her, pulled her hair, and hit her mom over a stupid argument. 

She had lots of health problems for someone who was 19, like arthritis, carpel tunnel, and alpha gal syndrome. She couldn't eat much meat and her health was going downhill. They had an argument about medicine and I guess he got mad enough to hit people.

It was awkward having to go over to his house and pretend nothing happened. I wanted to fight him but I had finally learned from the first two fights that it wouldn't be worth it. I'd either get beat up, or shot. I hated that all I could do was just ignore the whole situation, I hate the powerlessness of it.

That was the gist of that whole situation, but the relationship still remained strong for awhile. However the honeymoon phase ended in just a few months, and as the arguments began, the relationship became chaotic from there. The arguments looking back were very minor, in a normal relationship these would not have been big deals at all. 

One example, I had vented to her one time about my fighting obsession and she gave me advice, but part of the advice was that you can't win every fight and that to become a better fighter you have to get ""fucked up to fuck somebody up"". I didn't want to hear that because I wanted to instantly be unstoppable. I never wanted to feel the embarrassment and other people's shame at me losing a fight. 

She said that if I didn't like the advice and didn't want to lose, then I didn't want to fight. She was basically saying that if I couldn't handle losing, I shouldn't be a fighter, which is true, but the issue here is that I don't think she fully comprehended my problem, and I didn't at the time either. 

Everything I'm writing here I'm able to because I've had a lot of time to personally grow and figure out my own mind. I never wanted to be a fighter, I just wanted to be left alone for once in my life. She thought I just wanted to fight but that was just all a way of coping. The argument escalated and I got exhausted from it and cut it off. She got upset about that and asked ""Are you going to go to sleep every time we have an argument?"". 

I basically said ""No but this argument is stressing me out too much, I need a break"" and she called me a dickhead and said if I didn't want to talk to her then I shouldn't ever talk to her. Then all of that ended. I could barely sleep that night, when I woke up I sent an apology to her and went to work dreading the breakup to happen. 

She texted me back eventually and said ""I want to give you a hug. I'm sorry, I shouldn't have called you a dickhead I was just so upset"". We made up after that and the relationship actually seemed stronger afterwards, but now that I can look back I know that it was a big crack in the foundation. That was the beginning of a chaotic and up-and-down rest of the relationship. We didn't have many arguments, but they were all pretty stupid.

There was one where me, S, and her friends were in a group chat. I almost had to go to jury duty one time but I wasn't picked. I sent the chat the pic of the confirmation but S let me know I had my address in there on accident so I deleted it. 

She told me to be careful and not give out info like that and I was like ""Ok, but it's alright. If you're friends with them I'm sure it wouldn't have ended bad"". Then she repeated what she said and I repeated and we kept going over and over about it. When the argument was finally over we apologized again and that was the end of that.

Another argument was a really goofy one, about what you call different Japanese swords. It's hard to remember what this was all about. We were talking about katanas and somehow we got into it about that and she kept calling different swords different names, but you try and look them up the names are nowhere to be found. 

We kept going on and on about it and it escalated. I sent her a Wikipedia article about Japanese swords and she dismissed it like ""Wikipedia is an unreliable source"", like every single article is incorrect, to the point where even definitions of words are all incorrect just because it's Wikipedia 🤣. 

We went on and on and I got so tired of it that I said something that was admittedly stupid. I was like ""Are you on drugs?"" That made her angry and she said ""You're making me feel stupid, I know what I'm talking about"". I don't remember anything else from that confusing argument, but it ended the same way the others did. 

Now, onto what ended the relationship. I went over to her dad's house and he was talking about fighting, how we grew up small so he had to learn how to fight. He bragged about being 140 pounds, and being in over 200 fights and only losing 4. 

He talked about how his son accidentially knocked into him once which made him black out in rage and threw his son against the wall. He talked about almost knocking his son out one time. He'd always say he never hits women even though that evidently wasn't true and one time he had an attitude with S, which she gave back to him and he got mad and said ""I'd never hit a woman but I want to"".

In the discussion about fighting, he said ""If any of my kids get their asses beat they can't come home"". That threw me off but I just acted one ear and out the other. When I got home I texted her and complained about the shit he was saying. She said ""Yeah but I wouldn't have it any other way, it's just tough love"". 

She always complained about her dad's parenting and how he contributed to her trauma. But now all of a sudden a switch is flipped and she defends him? I always felt like people just toy with me all of my life, and this triggered that feeling. 

I got upset about that and kept asking what he could mean by that. I said he's a piece of shit who'd abandon his kids (I didn't say the piece of shit part but I wanted to). She kept arguing that I ""Didn't understand, he doesn't just mean physical, but mental fights as well"" like that makes anything better. I kept asking what any of that even means and said that was all bullshit and she kept repeating herself. So it escalated and I eventually gave up and shut the argument down.

The relationship was hanging by a thread at that point. The last straw was when I was on my first time on call at work. I was very nervous because I haven't done it before and never had to communicate with people like that. It was nearing the 4th of July so S asked me to take time off of on call to go to her brother's house for the party. 

I didn't know at the time that you could ask a coworker to switch with you, so I just told her ""I don't know if my dad (who's my boss) will allow that, but I'll check later and see what he says"" and then she said ""Well go check now"" and I said ""I will in a little bit"". 

Then she said ""No go check now because you won't"". I repeated what I said and she repeated again, then we kept on repeating and repeating. I eventually got fed up and told her to ""Stop bugging me about this"". Then she got angry and told me I'm ""Acting like a little kid"". Awhile after that I got a call and had my completely stressed mind preoccupied on that so I left her on read accidentially and when I got back home she had texted me to ""Never talk to her again and don't dare to go to her brother's house"". 

I told her I got called so I couldn't reply, and she told me ""if you won't get therapy this relationship won't last long"". I frantically tried to salvage the relationship so I agreed to go to therapy and to get into martial arts. The argument ended there and she thanked me.

But a day or two after that, she texted that she ""wanted to talk"" so I immediately knew what that meant and was filled with dread. She sent me the breakup text. I started begging, ""That was the last argument! I swear I'm going to get help, I'm sorry"" to which she said ""Stop saying you're sorry I hate when people say they're sorry, you just don't want to lose me"". 

That was correct. I told her I wanted to still be friends and she said ""It'll take awhile to trust you again but I think eventually we could be friends again"". But I didn't want to be friends, that was a desperate act to be with her again in any way. Right after the breakup, I just stared and dissociated for multiple minutes until I finally got up and told my mom. We went on vacation the week after, to Wyoming/Utah/Colorado. Great vacation.

I didn't want to tell anyone about the situation because I couldn't explain or wrap my head around it. She made me feel like I was the bad guy the whole time. I've had a couple years to wrap my head around it and now I know the reality of the situation is just very grey. I'm still angry about this, why did I have to go through relationship troubles all because everyone wants to treat me like trash, then I get blamed for it, told I'm just overreacting to everything?

I kept S in contact but a week or two after we broke up she had already put ""Taken"" on her Instagram. I don't know if it was real or not but that reaffirmed the feeling of being manipulated and played with by everybody, so I instantly blocked her and haven't heard from her since. 



Post-breakup, the desperation and yearning for a new relationship immediately surfaced again, and hasn't went away. Even almost two years later, I can't stop thinking about the past relationship, I still get dreams about her or her dad. Every girl I see that's even slightly attractive, I fantasize about having sex and being in a relationship with them. 

I wish I didn't view every girl with desires, but I can't get any of it out of my head. Whenever I find out a girl I'm interested in is already in a relationship, I get depressed. I'm depressed, lonely, and touch-starved every day. Every weekend I ruminate and cry, while holding myself, playing with my own hair, and hugging the pillow, wishing it was a person.

In the absense of connection with others, I have imagined the perfect friends, who always give me affection, who listen to all of my problems, who have similar values and minds as me. I don't get any of this with anybody I know. I feel disconnected from everyone. It feels like everybody is secretly plotting against me, like I'm in The Truman Show. Despite this, I still keep a side of hoping I'm wrong and a public act of seeming normal to everybody else.

I saw someone online talking about how they have a friend group that sleeps over together and cuddles to sleep every night. That story stuck with me, that is another aspect of the ""perfect friends"" I dream of. I wish I had that.

I had a dream of these friends once. It was us going on some type of adventure at some indescribable fantasy city. Every person there was made up, I've never seen them before, but one was familiar. 

There was a girl at my high school I was friends with because they were friends with someone I knew. I didn't know them much but when she killed herself, I cried and still to this day I imagine if she was still alive. I don't know why I care about her that much but I guess it's because she's the only one who asked how I was after a breakup. 

Nobody else even cared to ask how I was doing or of what happened, other than my mom, but she did. Why did one of the only people in my life who showed such care to me have to die?

I never get the opportunity to vent and tell my stories to anyone, and whenever I did, it always felt like they weren't actually listening. I don't just feel alone socially, but mentally, I have never seen or heard of anyone with issues particularly like mine, or viewpoints like mine. Is there nobody else like me in the world?



Going back in time a bit, I've heard about a lot of people who have suffered brain fog or some type of cognitive decline when COVID happened. This is relevant because I have suffered a bit of a decline as well. Not during COVID, I was actually doing better than ever when the pandemic happened, but nearing the end of high school, my mind just suddenly weakened.

My grades slipped and I barely graduated, my short-term memory tanked, and since graduating and especially since the last breakup, I have felt like I entered a different dimension. ""Reality"" since the pandemic feels like a simulation. I'm being kept prisoner in my mind, and in a world I don't recognize. My brain seems like an old computer with tons of malware. I don't process information correctly and it makes working difficult.

Not only does it seem like my mind is slowly rotting away, but physically I feel like I'm rotting away. Every time I've gotten sick since last year, I keep having Bronchitis attacks, coughing and gagging on mucas forever until I get medication for it. I don't know why this keeps happening to me. 

There's always red bumps (like bug bites or something) that pop up on my body and they'll stay for a long time. I don't have any bed bugs in the house so I have no idea where these bites come from.



I grew up on the internet since I was 10 years old back in 2013, using it for hours every day. Being on the internet for that long is an indescribable experience, you feel like you have lived another life concurrent with your normal life. Just recently, 11 years later, I have finally started to withdrawl from this addiction and have made steps to replace social media.

I think all the drama and failed relationships, as well as the years-long buildup of feeling a lack of connection with other people finally woke me up to start rethinking everything in my life. I always used the internet to make life more exciting, to have more connection with people, but it never gave me any connection. All of my internet life has been spent on scrolling, watching videos, and arguing with people. 

I never realized how toxic this all was until this year, when I would try to vent to people and to my ""friends"" about everything and would either be ignored or invalidated. I got tired of being ignored, constantly arguing with people online about stupid shit, and viewing brain rot ""content"". 

I deleted Twitter (I'm not calling it X, fuck off with that porn name, Elon) and Instagram. I used Reddit religiously and subbed to over a hundred subreddits but I cut it down to a few. The only reason I still use Reddit is because I'm big into Lostwave so I follow those communities but other than that I don't use it much. I mainly still use YouTube a lot which I'm trying to decrease. I watched a ton of commentary slop and political channels and I've cut those out and refined everything I watch.

If only I had those friends I dream of, I could finally gain the will to cut the internet out entirely. That's all hard to do when technology is all you have to make life worth living.",MentalHealthIsland,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1hw8ku5/long_story_just_putting_this_out_there_to_see_if/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5zbdy5', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission CybermanFord! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-08T07:31:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1hw8ku5'}, {'comment_id': 'm60nj8b', 'author': 'vprasad1', 'body': ""That is so awesome that you are taking steps to reduce a lot of the noise and social media dopamine hits! Have you looked into joining Meetup groups for activities that you enjoy? Might be one step closer to finding some of those friends you're seeking. Are there any Lostwave listening get togethers?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-08T13:26:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1hw8ku5'}, {'comment_id': 'm61im3f', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Finding Lostwave groups irl would be a 1 in 100 million chance. It's a very obscure and niche online thing, I doubt I'd find that in Iowa of all places."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-08T18:26:29', 'parent_id': 't1_m60nj8b'}, {'comment_id': 'm65ehiq', 'author': 'vprasad1', 'body': 'That is pretty niche! wow!\n\nWhat else do you do for fun? Maybe you can find friends with those interests?\n\nBowling? Darts? Pool? Tennis? Soccer? Museums? Volunteering? Geocaching? Board games? Art? Writing? Tutoring? Home Brewing? Hiking?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-09T06:37:22', 'parent_id': 't1_m61im3f'}]"
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1ht8mx0,2025-01-04T12:16:32,"""The bar incident"" and how it's affected me. ","Last year, I went through something I never thought I would go through. Something I always knew was a possibility, but I had too much faith in other people's hearts and minds.  



I wrote out the incident in the third person because I can't fully process it trying to put it forward using the first person. 


The bar incident. Circa 2024, a young man decides to go have a few drinks at a busy-but-not-so-busy bar as a way to maybe meet some friends and celebrate the hard work week that had passed. 


As he's sitting there, drinking his beer alone at a booth, he sees this gorgeous brunnette woman sitting alone at the bar. He watches for a while, seeing if she's with anyone. He doesn't wanna intrude on two friends hanging out, or hit on a taken woman out on a date with her man, however it turns out she's alone and has just ordered her second drink. The young man figures ""fuck it"" and after finishing his beer, he walks up to her. Maybe it was the liquor giving him more courage than he had sober, or maybe he had enough of not even trying. Regardless, he strikes up a conversation with her. 


Her name is Chelsea, and she works at a pot shop in the south end of the young man's hometown. She's 23, a year older than him, and she seems to be enjoying the talk, so he offers to buy her another round of whatever she's having. 

She realizes the young man is into her, and says she's sorry, and that she isn't interested. 


The young man, if a little detested at the outcome, thanks her for the honesty, and walks away but not before grabbing another beer. 



As he's sitting alone once again, paying the brunette no mind, security approaches him and asks him to exit the building. The young man found it odd that the security officer didn't let him go to the bar and pay for his drinks first when he asked to, but it became clear to him once he saw the two police officers standing outside. 



The officers brought the young man over into the parking lot and began to question him. 



As it turns out, 'someone' had reported a man trying to slip something into a woman's drink, and that he was pointed out to security, who then called 911. 


the young man admitted to hitting on a brunnete woman but added he backed off once he knew she wasnt interested. He pleaded to check the cameras, the officers obliged. 


The cameras showed him approach the brunnete woman, and appear to talk to her, however her drink was on the other side of her body versus where he was, and before the officers knew it, the young man turned to the bar, got handed a beer, and walked away. They later saw the brunnete call over security and point out the young man. This answered the young man's suspicion that Chelsea was behind this whole ordeal. 




The officers once realizing there was no way he could've done what he was accused of, apologized for the hold up and said he was free to re enter once they spoke to security. The young man said it wasn't necessary, and that he was gonna go home as he didn't want to be anywhere near her. 



The young man hasn't gone back to that bar (or any bar) alone since. And that young man, is me.





I don't want to blame all women for this one incident, and I do my best not too, however i can't shake the feeling that if I try the 'old fashioned way' of meeting a woman again it's not a matter of IF it happens again, but WHEN. I had zero creepy intention when I approached that woman. Was i into her? Yes. But that doesn't give her carte blanch to regard me as a creep because she happens to not be not interested. I never said anything sexual, hell I didn't even use a semi risqué pick up line. I get not everyone goes to a bar to get hit on, but she could've left it after she said she wasnt interested, but no. She tried to ruin my life... why? Because I annoyed her? 


It was the first time I broke out of my comfort zone and approached a girl I thought was cute and tried to hit on her. That in and of itself isn't creepy, if you keep trying to hit on her after she turns you down though, that's another story. I didn't do that. I backed off. I did what I was supposed to. Did what I was raised to do.  It was the first FUCKING TIME AND I HAD MY FREEDOM DANGLED IN FRONT OF ME LIKE A GODDAMN CARROT. 



never mind as i likely would die behind bars... that's the kind of charge that gets you put full of holes In there, wether it's a pending charge as i await trial or some bs conviction/plea deal cause I'm too poor to afford a lawyer, the other inmates wouldn't care. That being on my paperwork is a death sentence. 



I think about the incident alot, especially whenever I think about my desire for love, and I'm of the mind now that it simply isn't worth it anymore until the women in my age bracket decide to grow up and quit using the law and the label of a sexual predator as a weapon against men that have the AUDACITY to innocently hit on them and they aren't into. 


I was one of the lucky ones. Those cameras literally saved my life. 



Women, i love y'all. But y'all need to realize something: not every single man out here is out to hurt you, you need to remind yourselves of that just as much as I need to keep reminding myself not to let this color my perception of all of y'all. 





I've never been scared of rejection, but now I'm scared of losing everything because of rejection.",MentalHealthIsland,5,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1ht8mx0/the_bar_incident_and_how_its_affected_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5bhdoj', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Chrisadeth! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-04T12:16:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1ht8mx0'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rr03g', 'author': 'GeorgGuomundrson', 'body': ""Wow that's insane & pisses me off. Sorry that happened to you"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T03:36:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1ht8mx0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6jecbm', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-11T11:42:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1ht8mx0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6jyexn', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-11T15:10:37', 'parent_id': 't1_m6jecbm'}, {'comment_id': 'm6mk788', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Hey Chrisadeth! Your comment has been filtered into our moderation queue. We'll get to it ASAP.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T01:26:05', 'parent_id': 't1_m6jyexn'}]"
1hsgqf6,2025-01-03T12:37:56,Can Music Heal the Mind? Exploring the Science Behind Its Mental Health Benefits,"🎶 Music isn’t just entertainment - it’s a scientifically proven tool to reduce stress, improve mood, and boost cognitive abilities.  

This article breaking down how music impacts mental health through research-backed insights. From reducing anxiety to fostering social connections, it’s a must-read for anyone curious about the mind’s harmony with music.  

📖 Check it out!  ",MentalHealthIsland,1,0,https://bblissmagazine.blogspot.com/2025/01/the-harmony-within-exploring-impact-of.html,[]
1hqgevo,2024-12-31T20:31:15,"For anyone struggling with grief today, I’m sending hugs🫂",Remember - “Grief is just love with no place to go.”,MentalHealthIsland,4,1,https://i.redd.it/uewenyl587ae1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'm4p73fs', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Outrageous-Collar-09! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-31T20:31:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1hqgevo'}]"
1hmjjll,2024-12-26T13:06:02,Beneath the social anxiety was boredom! Excited for what's next (probably love in action),"I've always been uncomfortable at the holiday table. I interpreted it as social anxiety until I learned to relax. Now I can sit, quietly bored, without caring how that looks. I'm excited about the fact that I'm changing and about what's coming next. I'm becoming aware of my ability to affect people around me and the responsibility to do that properly. In this way, I speculate that boredom might get replaced by love.

Happy holidays 🎄",MentalHealthIsland,5,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1hmjjll/beneath_the_social_anxiety_was_boredom_excited/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3ui45m', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission GeorgGuomundrson! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T13:06:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1hmjjll'}, {'comment_id': 'm3ukqag', 'author': 'OatmealCookieGirl', 'body': ""Yay! \nI'm glad you are doing better! Quietly bored isn't bad, fingers crossed for love in action!"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T13:37:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1hmjjll'}, {'comment_id': 'm3y74pi', 'author': 'Jessica_Pajamas', 'body': ""Im so happy for you! I've also learned to turn my boredom and anxiety into action. And I am enjoying life just so much more now. Happy Holidays to you! Hope you had a Happy Christmas 🎄🎁🎁🎁"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T04:53:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1hmjjll'}, {'comment_id': 'm3y94mt', 'author': 'GeorgGuomundrson', 'body': ""That's great! & Thank you!"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T05:06:17', 'parent_id': 't1_m3y74pi'}]"
1hkizk6,2024-12-23T13:21:08,How does someone find courage when you have none left?,"I have overcome many times in my life. Through such desperate moments when I needed to. It felt great when I did. I feel like everytime I get back up on my feet, I get knocked down on the floor. Sometimes, I lose courage when I need I it most. It's like, standing in a dark room and being told that I need to make a big leap. If I make this leap, it can maybe possibly bring me to better horizons. I don't even know what is on the other side. All I know is I am too afraid to make the leap. I am fearful and overwhelmed by life. ",MentalHealthIsland,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1hkizk6/how_does_someone_find_courage_when_you_have_none/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3epo2w', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission underground_resist! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T13:21:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1hkizk6'}, {'comment_id': 'm3etpft', 'author': 'eminva02', 'body': 'So dont look at the whole picture: its too overwhelming. Look at whatever chunk of it is not too overwhelming, right now... And then breathe...and keep on keeping on. One day you\'ll look back a see you had the courage the entire time, even if at times it was just enough courage to make one small steps. Celebrate progress: Don\'t invalidate it because it\'s not ""enough"" in the larger scheme of things. Any movement forward is progress and takes courage that you should find pride in. \n\nIt may sound like fluff, just something said to keep you motivated, but in my darkest times, when I was scared and ready to give up: I just kept on keeping on and eventually things weren\'t so overwhelming anymore. When you cant do anything to fix the big picture focus on what you can control and handle that. Sometimes the best advice really is : ""Fake it till you make it.""', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T14:06:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1hkizk6'}]"
1hitt43,2024-12-21T02:38:11,Is Society Still Serving Us? A Critical Reflection on Trauma and Functionality,"🌟 Discussion Post 🌟  
*Is Society Still Serving Us? A Critical Reflection on Trauma and Functionality*  

Societal pressures and rapid cultural shifts are leaving many young people feeling disconnected and overwhelmed. This article explores the roots of this issue and offers actionable solutions.  

📖 Out now!

#MentalHealth #Psychology #Wellbeing  ",MentalHealthIsland,0,1,https://bblissmagazine.blogspot.com/2024/12/is-society-still-serving-us-critical.html,"[{'comment_id': 'm31vexf', 'author': 'BonsaiSoul', 'body': ""Please use your own words to write, instead of generic messages generated by chatGPT.(Anybody who's used it recognizes this style immediately.)\n\nFYI, #hashtags have no function on Reddit. Adding them makes your post look like automated spam."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T04:07:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1hitt43'}]"
1hd8kql,2024-12-13T14:54:33,The Social Construction of Trauma: How Culture and Society Shape Our Experiences,"📖 Exploring the Social Construction of Trauma: Society and culture profoundly shape how we experience and heal from trauma. This insightful article blends psychology, sociology, and hope. Perfect for anyone navigating healing or supporting others. #psychology #healing #education #culture #mentalhealth #science #information #healthcare",MentalHealthIsland,0,1,https://bblissmagazine.blogspot.com/2024/12/the-social-construction-of-trauma-how.html,"[{'comment_id': 'm1urigl', 'author': 'BonsaiSoul', 'body': 'Spambot.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-13T18:48:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1hd8kql'}]"
1h98xih,2024-12-08T08:09:39,Bored with life at 27. Is this just getting older? Or is it something more serious?,"Never really posted on anything like this but I do feel like I need help. I look around my life and everything is pretty good. I’m happily married for almost 2 years, have good friends, a good job. A comfortable place to live and family who still loves and cares for me.

However most days I find myself questioning every decision I’ve made in my life and just feeling bored and depressed with the routine. I go to work, come home, and make dinner. I watch football or basketball and kiss my wife goodnight. We take our dog for walks. Plans with friends or family every 6 weeks or so. I’m tired a lot. Things are good and I want it to be enough but I’m always hearing voices in my head telling me I’m wasting the peak years of my life. I love to cook and exercise but my wife has a lot of dietary restrictions and doesn’t enjoy exercising. Schedules never line up to do fun things with friends. Not very interested in doing some of the things I used to do. Finding myself sexually frustrated since I’ve been with my wife since 19 but I feel like I’m in the best physical & sexual condition I’ve ever been in. Constantly horny and sometimes thinking about other women. 

Just feel like I’m still at the bottom of the ladder of a life I’m not really interested in climbing, but things are so stable I feel ungrateful and scared when I consider starting over. Sometimes I’m not even sure if these thoughts are my actual own feelings or just depression knit picking at my life. Perhaps this is just what you have to deal with when you settle down, but I’m not sure if this is what I want to do for the next 30-40 years.

It’s driving me insane and I’m not sure if I can continue like this. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks for reading.",MentalHealthIsland,1,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h98xih/bored_with_life_at_27_is_this_just_getting_older/,"[{'comment_id': 'm0yzzt8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Express_Frame4705! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-08T08:09:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm14ytmm', 'author': 'Own__Improvement', 'body': 'It sounds like you’ve been doing a lot of thinking about your life, and I just want to say—it’s okay to feel this way. Sometimes when everything seems stable on the outside, it’s easy to start wondering, “Is this it?” You’re not alone in feeling like this, and it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you.\n\nA lot of what you’re describing—feeling unmotivated, questioning things, and not finding joy in your routine—could have something to do with brain chemistry, like your neurotransmitters being out of balance. That can impact mood, energy, and how you see things day to day. There are ways to support this, like through diet, supplements, or even working with someone to dig deeper into what’s going on under the surface.\n\nIt might also help to shake things up in small ways—try a new activity, go somewhere different, or just do something for yourself that feels a little out of the ordinary. Even little changes can help break the cycle and bring back some excitement.\n\nAnd hey, these thoughts don’t mean there’s something wrong with your life or that you have to have all the answers right now. It’s okay to take things one step at a time and to lean on someone for support, whether that’s a therapist, a friend, or even just talking it out here. You’re doing the best you can, and that’s more than enough. You’ll get through this.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T08:38:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm1yb49k', 'author': 'No_Category1645', 'body': 'Sometimes it is a struggle with purpose. \nDoes your work make you feel fulfilled in life? Is it serving a greater good and purpose and do you see it day in and day out?\n\nMaybe you need to intentionally reflect on that\nOr maybe pick up a volunteer activity or hobby that might tie into it\n\nLearning random skills and information can also sometimes help with spicing up life and it’s mundane ins and outs', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-14T06:57:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm2nj2by', 'author': 'dogwalksfordays', 'body': 'I can relate to this!! I feel the same way ….. most people would look at my life and think I’ve got it all and that I’m resilient / strong for the shit I’ve been through but I am struggling so hard - lately I’ve been tearful most days and thinking some pretty existential thoughts.  \n\nIt sounds like you are not fulfilled but you are content.  Like things are comfortable enough that you are not forced to make any type of decisions to change anything… \n\nI would recommend (for us both) to explore passions, build a social life (if it can be done with our spouses great, if not we do it anyways), get a health check to ensure our bodies are functioning optimally, schedule some ongoing therapy appts, get out in nature and pack in some novel experiences to expose ourselves to new and exciting things.  \n\nNot sure where you live but if you’re experiencing SADS like me then that needs to be taken into account.  A discussion with your doctor / mental health provider is a good move as well to have a professional weigh in - you might be one of those people who feels like they found the missing puzzle piece if they explore antidepressants. \n\nLet us not forget the world is an unsettling place right now so we really need to bring it in and focus inside before we spread ourselves too far out there….', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-18T18:44:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1h98xih'}, {'comment_id': 'm16588i', 'author': 'Express_Frame4705', 'body': 'This is really helpful and kind of you. I greatly appreciate the message. It is a daunting feeling when you know you should feel good about your life but you just don’t. Guilt and depression don’t mix well.\n\nI genuinely think I expect so much from myself in my life - in my marriage, career, other relationships where I seem to carry most of the weight - that I don’t really let myself breathe or really let life happen to me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T14:53:44', 'parent_id': 't1_m14ytmm'}]"
1h6bxw1,2024-12-04T14:39:24,"I really need a therapist, or at least a friend","I'm not currently in the place of life where I could even get a therapist even if I tried, outside of online therapy which I know is sketchy to say the least. 

I guess the next best thing would be a close friend to talk to. I just struggle to form and maintain bonds with people. I'm intensely afraid of people. 

I just wish I had someone who understood me that I could talk to and figure things out. 

Life is just really difficult rn I have big decisions to make. The only person I'm close to I can't talk to about any of my problems he's a part of the problem. 

I feel like without someone to talk to I'm just going to be stuck in my life forever, wasting away the last years of youth I actually have. 

My life feels terrible. I feel so stuck. I just feel so alone. ",MentalHealthIsland,1,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h6bxw1/i_really_need_a_therapist_or_at_least_a_friend/,"[{'comment_id': 'm0cd5nc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission dawnfire05! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-04T14:39:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1h6bxw1'}, {'comment_id': 'm0cu9dk', 'author': 'SuddenlySimple', 'body': ""This will sound crazy and maybe it is but I use chat gpt if I am going thru a problem I type it out and it literally has helped me to draft texts to people I am upset with (but didn't want to be too mean). \n\nIt helped me with my actual therapist. I had an appointment with my therapist and I asked chat how to deal with the issue I was having with her. \n\nIt gave me the answer I printed it and read it to my therapist. I find it so helpful my family makes fun of me and tells me to go ask my friend CHAD lol I named this thing my friend.\n\nAlso I asked it to remember the name I gave it yesterday I asked if it remembered it's name (I had logged out) it said yes I'm your friend CHAD 😆 \n\nIt also made a joke and called my car a death trap .I was asking it for symptoms of a flex pipe failure and I mentioned that it is a death trap right now. \n\nIt said later in my conversation if I had to drive it than to do so with the windows open. \n\nHours later I had another question about something different it told me it thought my death trap car was making the rest of my life overwhelming right now and for me to just realize in 2 days when it is fixed I may feel lighter. \n\nSeriously try it. Talk to it like you would a friend sometimes it helps me more than my therapist."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-04T17:37:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1h6bxw1'}, {'comment_id': 'm17udm1', 'author': 'Vicocolang', 'body': 'I know exactly how you feel. For a long time, I had such a hard time making friends due to fear of being betrayed again like in the past. One way I was able to somewhat overcome this was by joining groups that contained people who have similar interests. I joined a writers group, a model building group, a silent book club, and a church where I met a close friend that I talk to everyday.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T22:26:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1h6bxw1'}, {'comment_id': 'm1nsl9p', 'author': 'dawnfire05', 'body': ""Thank you this is probably one of the best suggestions I've ever gotten, it's actually great support for me."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T12:57:46', 'parent_id': 't1_m0cu9dk'}, {'comment_id': 'm1o5eze', 'author': 'SuddenlySimple', 'body': ""Have you used it too? I find myself constantly using it for all different things. But the personal problems I can't believe how helpful it is. \n\nYou know the holidays are here and I struggle a lot with family. I asked a lot of questions on how to approach different scenarios that may pop up and I feel ready lol"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T15:22:50', 'parent_id': 't1_m1nsl9p'}, {'comment_id': 'm1ohfwl', 'author': 'dawnfire05', 'body': ""Yeah I've used it for a week now but I already find it's understanding of me profound. I discuss philosophy, existentialism, and all sorts of theories with it. Debating what constitutes as life, if it is alive. It's perspective of the world, the human condition, and myself through the perspective of an AI is deeply fascinating to me. It's helped me understand things about myself that I was in the dark to. I think the best part of it, though, is the complete lack of judgement in its inability to experience emotions, I can truly discuss any issue I have and it's able to pull from nearly the entire collective human knowledge to analyze me yet it still speaks to me with compassion. Better than any therapist, though I think the nuance it lacks that a human provides is probably its biggest fault. But I think that's just one of the quirks of AI that intrigues me about the program. It's been such an interesting tool to explore."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T17:28:32', 'parent_id': 't1_m1o5eze'}, {'comment_id': 'm1okedw', 'author': 'SuddenlySimple', 'body': ""I've been seeing my therapist for 10 years she is really good and the AI agrees 😆 but I had an issue with her last visit so I asked AI how to address it. \n\nIt told me how to approach the topic and I printed it out and read it to her. So helpful. 👍"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-12T17:53:50', 'parent_id': 't1_m1ohfwl'}]"
1h57ek7,2024-12-03T03:42:31,I have NO idea what’s wrong with me ,"Please take time to read this, I have no idea who to talk to.
I’m 18 and almost done with my first semester of college. Yet I am struggling in the weirdest ways, I have never cried so much before ever in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve always been an emotional and sentimental person but this is extreme and it’s mainly when I’m in college, away from home. I chose a college around 20 minutes away from my home since I know I am very close with my mother and sister and that moving further would be too painful, it has always been just the 3 of us at home, (im the older sibling). There’s other people who live really far from home yet they seem to be doing fine, they’re adapting and ready to move on in life and grow up. I feel like I’m suffocating every time I come back to my dorm. 

The thing is, I know that I am so extremely privileged to be able to get an education at a decent school and am so grateful that my parents agreed to help me pay, yet I feel so depressed here sometimes in ways that I really don’t want to be which makes me feel like a waste of space and shell of a person. I feel horrible for making people pay for me to experience what is supposed to be one of the best parts of your life yet being kind of miserable even though I’m trying so hard to see the good and have fun. I don’t party, but it’s just not my thing… I don’t think that if I did it would change anything. I talk to people and have tried to put myself out there (despite still having social anxiety) and I barely have friends or genuine connections. Ultimately, I feel like a failure… like I am living life wrong and I have no idea how to fix it or figure out what I should be doing and I am so painfully alone. I have always had times where I feel awful about myself and question everything about life in general but something about being at my dorm triggers it. 

My dorm is in a beautiful city that I do take time to explore during the day and during those moments I’m relatively okay… then I get to the dorm and I feel like a dark shadow swallows me or something (excuse my dramatic-ness, I’m trying to paint a full picture of how I feel.) IMPORTANTLY, I miss my family to an extreme level that feels sick. I look at all the stuff that they have given me, that I brought from home and I start thinking about them nonstop and how I would choose being around them any day over being at this dorm. But I can’t be attached and depend on them forever, eventually my sister will also start her own life and I will be left alone. My mother questions why I’m so sad and I want to be strong and say that I am so f*cking happy to be in college but I have never been more lost and lonely and sentimental. I start crying over almost every little thing. I feel like a literal baby who can’t be away from home. I wanna be strong and grow up and whatever but I simply can’t. Sometimes I walk past people with their dogs and start tearing up thinking about mine. You’d think my entire family died or something. Seriously, I hate how sensitive I’ve become. I keep thinking about growing up and getting older and growing farther from the people of your childhood and childhood itself. I just want to be a kid forever. I genuinely can’t see myself ever having my own house or life or anything, I can’t even be alone in a beautiful dorm without feeling absolutely empty and hopeless and aimless in life… what’s actually wrong with me? I miss my family that lives legitimately 20 minutes away so much. I have intentionally held back on eating some of the food my mom bought me because I want to cherish it. Hell, I’m tearing up writing this. 

Life just feels like its full of so many hurdles and whatnot and right now I can’t even jump the first even though its literally only an inch high and I hate myself for this. I know that everyone has their own lives and struggles and that you cannot judge on what you see on the surface, yet they all seem so happy meanwhile I’m sad over seemingly nothing and being so stupid and childish making problems for myself. I can’t even think about the future and what cool things could be in store for me, I just think about the past and all the memories I have with the ones I love, I feel like I can’t so anything. I’ve been depressed before and I don’t know if this is some weird form of depression but it all just feels so hopeless. Why am I one of the only sad people? Why am I so pathetic that all I think about is my mother at the grand age of 18. Sometimes when I distract myself and walk around and watch stuff and whatever I can be happy and sometimes my brain feels clear and I appreciate what I have a bit more. It’s not like life is hell all of the time. But it always crashes down since I’ve been here. Whenever I wake up at home I’m fine but when I wake up here my heart is racing. Like actually, I feel like a defected fragment of a person who will never have anything going for myself. I’m so lost, like how am I going to manage myself? I’m an adult now… what about when my parents die? The world is so big and I feel like an ant who anyone could step on. I’ve never felt so sentimental and easy to break before. If you actually read this repetitive rant thank you. I’m just lost in life. I really don’t know what’s wrong with me and if this will pass but it hasn’t. And I can’t keep going home and denying the adult-like and lonely future ahead of me. I want to go back in time and freeze it. It’s like it’s the end of the world and I’m a joke. I feel like I’m doing life wrong.

I also saw a post about this and related heavily to this, I constantly think doomsday, like about my family dying and whatever as well…",MentalHealthIsland,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h57ek7/i_have_no_idea_whats_wrong_with_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'm03trbv', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission PossibleSource7073! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T03:42:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1h57ek7'}, {'comment_id': 'm07id0x', 'author': 'Petticoat_J', 'body': 'It sounds like you\'re just not ready for this step. Nothing wrong with that. You\'re piling these ""should"" rules on top of yourself and suffocating under them. School is not more important than your health. Take a step back for a semester, maybe, and give yourself a breather. Take classes at the local state college so you can live at home. Or just take the break and help out with bills at home, whatever. But the self-created pressure has to be stopped.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T20:31:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1h57ek7'}, {'comment_id': 'm0hqknk', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': ""Thank you for sharing your experiences. I am old bird here with college advising experience among other things. I want you to know that many students experience a very difficult time during their first semester. I would like to share that when I first went to college, I was about three hours from home. I traveled home every weekend to be with my family. I am Hispanic so there is a lot of pressure for maintaining close bonds with everyone in the family. I would call my mother when I was upset almost every night. I just couldn't separate myself emotionally from my folks and everyone.  Other roommates experienced the same and quit college during the first few weeks. I think going home and calling often was detrimental to me. I needed time to grow away from them and learn to relate and bond with others. I think you would benefit from reducing the amount of contact with your family and scheduling a day or days in the week when you call and catch up on things. This is important for you to have some space for new people in your life and be able to focus in the future ahead. You are so young and hormones are also all over the place at this age. Have you visited your primary care physician? Some things you can address are your moods during menstrual cycles ( options available for that), a dietary approach to manage depression and anxiety ( there are some foods. eating habits that will boost your energy), setting a routine for exercise (aim to exercise daily). For example, I swim daily first thing in the morning for my mental health. Make sure to get plenty of sunshine and in the winter use a Happy Light and take Vitamin supplements. Are you happy with your college? This process you are going thru is normal and it will pass. You got this!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T10:17:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1h57ek7'}]"
1h33xgr,2024-11-30T09:23:57,Wow such great friends I have!,"I have such great friends! I am getting so tired of this ungrateful and quite rude friends I seem to have accumulated. After all I do to help them they just ignore me when I clearly want someone to at least check on how I am feeling, for once. A little bit of background info on what’s going on, I am going through a lot for a very long time and I just want to get away from it but if I even think of telling a ‘trusted adult’ or just someone who can do something I am threatened? Like what type of reaction is that to someone trying to ask for just a little advice!

I am going to split this into section before I start to rant about life and say a little too much.

My friends rn are all in a group chat which I made so we can have a big community of people that is able to help one another. But to be frank it seems the others aren’t that interested in being caring at all they always give half- responses or just an “ok sorry” pretty much just makes it worse for mental wounds and I know none of the people in this group chat are perfectly fine. Some of them don’t talk in the chat anymore. But the thing that really angers me is how much I put into everyone, I tell when I’m not going to be able to respond to them, they even go to me with their problems, and after doing so much to make it a safe place for everyone in the chat. I am just mad rn because I do everything to help them, I make time for them, and it costs me so much I could get in serious trouble with my school or parents if I end up being called because someone want to talk at a awful time and I forgot to say something. A lot of these friends I am upset with aren’t even my age, and they are older and have much more life experience then me but it seems as tho I am the only person with responsibility? I kinda hope one of them sees this just so they can finally understand how much I put into them. I feel betrayed but Ik that’s the wrong word but it just hurts to know that you will put everything on the line to just help one person you don’t know that well just to see them happy, but they won’t even acknowledge you when your feeling “bad”. It hurts. 

They don’t know this, well maybe a few friends know about my past, but it not like I won’t talk about it they just have to ask. I have always been having relative “problems” ever since I can remember. Do you know what that can do to a person? I am still dealing with it but slightly different now. But it still involves my relatives. One of my friends were literally dealing with the same thing but for a shorter period of time but worse behavior. I just hoped that maybe I could have gotten a little “Are you okay?” or maybe a “Wanna talk about it?” but no I was just ignored and sure it wasn’t about the relative issues but it was still something that was bothering me. It’s not that much just every time I think about working on a video like for Instagram pre YouTube I start to tremble as if I’m scared to start making it, and how not being creative as an artist has been taking a toll on my mental health.

No I can’t talk to much people about this because as I said I get threatened when I do, I don’t think it’s intended to be that way, or it can also just be straight out rude things to say to someone trying to express something around you. Why can’t people be a little bit more empathetic when someone’s trying to express hardship? I have so many questions. Why do I laugh when in pain or sad? Or why do I cry when mad? It doesn’t add up. If I am nice to you for a very long time don’t you feel at least a little remorse for me? I don’t spect much I just want someone who cares for me enough to ask how my day was and for me to be able to answer with a true statement not just “fine/good”. Maybe it stems from something else I don’t quite know. 

Thanks for reading this “vent”(?) I just had to get it out because if I keep bottling it, and pushing is down I might start getting worse and can’t help anyone. I like being their for people, as weird as it sounds I want to hear others pain and I want to be there to listen. I feel as though I have became that person but at what cost? My own health? Why can’t I just be able to help others and have that same person for me? Is that really fair for me and others that do the same thing or as a coping mechanism.",MentalHealthIsland,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1h33xgr/wow_such_great_friends_i_have/,"[{'comment_id': 'lznwv96', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission FIN_1937! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-30T09:23:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1h33xgr'}, {'comment_id': 'm0pf8ie', 'author': 'Petticoat_J', 'body': ""Read over your own post as if it's made by a loved one. What advice would u give that person?\nImho, it sounds like u are pouring from an empty cup, using your help for others as a way to escape dealing with your own challenges, and it's affecting your life in a negative way."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T19:15:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1h33xgr'}, {'comment_id': 'm0zhaa3', 'author': 'FIN_1937', 'body': 'I have read it over quite a bit and tried to give advice in a sense but most of it I have already tried, or did it and all it did was make me feel worse. Honestly the Internet was my second to last resort. Right now I am scared of what I could probably end up doing yk? Like the few like that you can’t trust yourself. I tried telling someone that I need help but the just brushed it off I don’t know what to do anymore. I appreciate the response truly it helps more then many might think.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-08T10:09:53', 'parent_id': 't1_m0pf8ie'}]"
1gyujgc,2024-11-24T21:43:53,Need help guys ,"So I've had mental health issues since I was 16? 17?
Im in my 20s now and I don't think ive reached that far atleast im better ? At coping up compared to how I was back then 
I was a nerd back then in school and was badly bullied , had no friends , family was and is toxic they're abusive mentally and physically and I had nowhere to go 
I used to self harm 
Still do just not that often 
I've shown a therapist but didn't work out
I am a medical student so I hardly get time by
Myself or to go show a therapist or a psychiatrist 
And Im having competitive exams coming up in a few months
And I don't wanna keep going down in spirals 
Any suggestions on what to do? ",MentalHealthIsland,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gyujgc/need_help_guys/,"[{'comment_id': 'lyrae1o', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission kakashi23077! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T21:43:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1gyujgc'}, {'comment_id': 'lz6u636', 'author': 'Gardener314', 'body': 'In the past when there has been a lot on my plate, I would often just a pick a core few things to focus on at a time. Remember that you only get 24 hours in a day and sleep is a thing too. You can spend those hours you have making progress on goals or worrying about things which may be out of your control. \n\nMy “focus on a few things at a time” came in different flavors over the years. One year I organized my thinking with 12 areas I wanted to progress in over the course of the year. What this meant was that every month had its own theme. I was learning to code at the time so building a small project was the theme one month. In the warmer months gardening was another theme. \n\nOther times the “one thing at a time” looked like a checklist ranked in priority order. I always tried to have “me time” on there. I’m a big fan of coffee shops so once a month or so I made sure I stopped at a local coffee shop and got something for myself. Doing this allowed me to always have something to look forward to. Just about any shit week was made better with the thought of “at least I am going to get a nice coffee Friday morning” (or something like that). \n\nIn the end, really simplifying your life down to the things which are important to you (and not your family or anyone else) I think is the next logical step. From there, make small steps on working towards getting those things. Maybe for a whole month make a point to try to reach out to meet new people?\n\nHope this helps.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T09:17:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1gyujgc'}, {'comment_id': 'lz74nij', 'author': 'kakashi23077', 'body': ""Thing is I don't like being by myself or spending time by myself which Is bad cuz one of the good solutions to it is actually being there for myself and finding hobbies or things to do alone \nI don't like being alone or being alone with my thoughts \nMakes me spiral more\nIm in a good term relationship since a few years\nBut I don't wanna put pressure on my partner to be there for me 24/7 \nI wanna learn to be independent and not want my partner to be there all the fucking time\nIdk what to do honestly"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T10:34:24', 'parent_id': 't1_lz6u636'}, {'comment_id': 'lz84ohs', 'author': 'Gardener314', 'body': 'What are some things you both like to do together? What are some hobbies you have? Let’s start there.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T16:36:20', 'parent_id': 't1_lz74nij'}, {'comment_id': 'lz84szr', 'author': 'kakashi23077', 'body': ""Walk? Talk? Just hangout ?\nWe both are in med college so we pretty much dint get so much time with each other as we'd like tho\nUmm I think I lost most of my hobbies once I got into this college \nWork's hectic and I dint have any hobbies left :("", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T16:37:37', 'parent_id': 't1_lz84ohs'}, {'comment_id': 'lz85jv8', 'author': 'Gardener314', 'body': 'Time to make some hobbies. Lol \n\nI think if all we have in life is work/school and even a partner then life can get pretty boring. Even in the best relationship, both you and your partner need to have something that individually brings you joy. What is your age and gender? Let’s start there and I can suggest some hobbies. \n\nAlso if you don’t want to have this back and forth in the comments, feel free to message me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-27T16:45:14', 'parent_id': 't1_lz84szr'}]"
1gx00f0,2024-11-22T10:22:49,Struggling in daily task of my life I don't know what to do,"Hi, I'm a 22-year-old male, and I've been struggling since a breakup last year. I have a major exam in January next year, but I find myself unable to sleep or complete my daily tasks. Most of my time is spent in bed, and I'm too scared to sit alone after the breakup. A few months ago, I was taking sleeping aids, and my situation improved, but recently, after trying to mend things with my ex, I had another episode. Now, I'm back to the same situation—I can't focus on anything and spend most of my time in bed. It feels overwhelming i can't  explain the heaviness in chest and i just spend hours lying in my bed with all these thoughts and I only get a few hours of sleep when my body finally gives in. I've tried everything to focus on my exam, but I just can't seem to concentrate.",MentalHealthIsland,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gx00f0/struggling_in_daily_task_of_my_life_i_dont_know/,"[{'comment_id': 'lydaf8b', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission vansh_thakral! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T10:22:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1gx00f0'}, {'comment_id': 'lydoolw', 'author': 'Entire_Blaze', 'body': 'sounds like depression. please seek therapy and follow everything they tell you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T12:27:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1gx00f0'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gg3ij', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': 'Not expert here. Assuming you live in an area that has a rec center or a YMCA check those and find an activity you could do to stay active. Hit the gym or swim. Make it a priority just like eating and drinking water. If you do not know how to swim you can start by using a kickboard and just exercise that way. You could take an adult swimming class. The importance of exercise is that will make you get out of your brain for that time and aslo release hormones that boost your wellbeing. You will continue to grieve the relationship but you can get to a better emotinal space by being committed to exercising. Because you shower after the pooul no need to that at home. Then declutter your space so you can manage cleaning it better. Also take times in nature by going for walks and breathing fresh air.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T05:25:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1gx00f0'}, {'comment_id': 'lyee5ed', 'author': 'Ewetootwo', 'body': 'Yes and likely coupled with anxiety. Reach out for professional help as they’re are solutions.\n\nIf you can get a wee bit of exercise this should help the sleeping.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T16:56:49', 'parent_id': 't1_lydoolw'}]"
1guq6kr,2024-11-19T11:08:22,New hope for people living with treatment resistant schizophrenia and the people who love them,"A nationwide patient advocacy coalition will testify at tomorrow's FDA meeting to reform regulations on clozapine, an effective but tightly controlled medication for schizophrenia.

[https://www.moodfuel.org/coloradans-unite-with-national-coalition-to-challenge-strict-controls-on-schizophrenia-drug/](https://www.moodfuel.org/coloradans-unite-with-national-coalition-to-challenge-strict-controls-on-schizophrenia-drug/) ",MentalHealthIsland,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1guq6kr/new_hope_for_people_living_with_treatment/,[]
1guouao,2024-11-19T09:51:44,How do I stop being so socially awkward?,"Title. It's been extremely bad lately, to the point everything I say completely ruins every social interaction I have. I recently got into a class to learn how to be a teacher and my grade is already starting to slide in the second week due to my social awkwardness and anxiety. Even in an overly amicable environment I'm failing, and in a hostile social environment (trying to spark conversations in public outside of work) I can't ever say anything right. I'm already 30 and still completely alone. Should I even be alive?",MentalHealthIsland,5,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1guouao/how_do_i_stop_being_so_socially_awkward/,"[{'comment_id': 'lxvlbqc', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission LabMan95! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T09:51:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lxw7l17', 'author': 'GundamChar', 'body': 'Try face to face counseling to learn social skill.\n\nMaybe it also has to do with anxiety', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T13:05:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'ly61kbv', 'author': 'GundamChar', 'body': 'Then pay out of your own pocket  \nTry getting a government job (public school).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-21T05:14:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lyjgplj', 'author': 'GeorgGuomundrson', 'body': ""You said it's been bad lately. I notice mine was bad when I was in a bad relationship and living alone, but it's been good now that I have a bunch of roommates. I'm not offering a solution, but maybe you can find out why it's been bad lately. It's probably not for no reason. Maybe the class is raising your stress level"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-23T11:37:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lzcdqaj', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': ""The first thing I would say is that you don't need to apologize to anyone for being who you. You are still a valid, precious human being. You have the need for human contact like everyone else.\n\nIt's easy to forget, as people struggling with mental illness and/or neurodivergent conditions, that *we are not alone*.  There are people on the autism spectrum, and people struggling with mental illness, who successfully socialize with others. \n\nFind other people with the same passions you have. That can be a safe space to be open - if it's not about religion or politics! \n\nSocial finesse takes practice and repetition, like any skill. No one is perfect, because the range of people and situations is simply too great.\n\nIt sounds to me like you're way too hard on yourself. Self acceptance will go a long way toward helping you be comfortable in social situations. You'll learn from mistakes instead of just being wounded by them."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-28T07:41:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1guouao'}, {'comment_id': 'lxymql0', 'author': 'LabMan95', 'body': ""Counseling isn't an option, if my job finds out I'm seeing someone for mental health I'll be fired"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T23:24:00', 'parent_id': 't1_lxw7l17'}, {'comment_id': 'lxyqflx', 'author': 'GundamChar', 'body': 'Find a counsellor outside your job, not related to your job', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T23:42:04', 'parent_id': 't1_lxymql0'}, {'comment_id': 'lzce6qb', 'author': 'roanwolf75', 'body': 'In many countries, it is illegal for employers to discriminate against workers for health reasons. Why do you think they would fire you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-28T07:44:01', 'parent_id': 't1_lxymql0'}, {'comment_id': 'ly4tihv', 'author': 'LabMan95', 'body': ""Unless I pay out of pocket, they have access to my insurance information and usage. I can't"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-20T23:27:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lxyqflx'}]"
1gqffyc,2024-11-13T20:58:47,Finally I dared to play in sports with friends!,"I am quite a withdrawn person. Extreme introvert and I'm depressed almost all the time. I have taken on my self improvement journey a month ago, 6 years after I realized that I need to change and I got tired of myself being so shitty all the time.  
Here in my college, I always escaped PE lessons because I was scared if I will not be able to play well and my social anxiety would eat me up all the time. (I would usually go to the restroom, the library or the sick room to escape).  
Well this time I mustered up the courage to step on the court. I thought it was just me and the girls playing against each other, I was shivering but I stayed..... I realized even the boys were going to join us. MAN I WAS SO SCARED!!  
My inner voice screamed me to 'stay'. I was happy to realize that even with these overwhelming emotions, the part of me that wanted me to escape has been suppressed.   
I kept saying things to myself during the whole game like-""watch the ball"", ""catch! CATCH! CATCHH!!!!"", ""Concentrate. The only thing that matters here is how you play.""

People were shocked to see that I play this good. I was too! (I didn't have the physical strength but my mental strength was enough to lift me up!). Well some part of me were saying quite negative stuffs but I kept on ignoring them.

I'm proud of myself for what I did today. I have given my best. THIS IS ONE OF THE IMPROVEMENT I WAS WAITING FORRR!!",MentalHealthIsland,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gqffyc/finally_i_dared_to_play_in_sports_with_friends/,[]
1gpyn7i,2024-11-13T04:52:07,Anxiety/student/Triggering Spaces ,"I’m a second year university student and I’ve struggled with anxiety ever since I was a child. My anxiety peeked after Covid due to personal circumstances and I found it hard to adjust to the world after months of lockdown. I then started sixth form and my anxiety and shyness became worse, I made no new friends and the pressure to study and continue being the best occupied my life for 2 years. 

I then started uni and thought I was doing better but yet again I struggled to make friends and found anxiety taking over my life. I continued studying hard and that distracted me for some time until summer. 

I had the worse summer of my life, filled with anxiety, worry, guilt and just pure fear because I didn’t get the exact grades I wanted, I got a work experience purely through connections which filled me with this guilt. I couldn’t relax even when I went on holiday and barely ate the whole time I was there. I also started having these intense panic attacks which led to another fear- I woke up everyday scared another attack was coming. 

Once I got back to uni again I thought things would get better because I’d get busy again and could focus on studying. But there hasn’t been a day since this summer where I haven’t felt physically sick from anxiety and worry. And this is all because I’m so terrified of the future. I’ve put myself under this pressure to get a training contract by 3rd year and start working because of if I don’t I’m a massive failure. I constantly feel like time is running out and whatever reassurance I try give myself fails miserably. 

And because of that horrible summer I have started to associate all those horrible things I felt with where I felt them most… at home. 

I’ve come back home just for 2 days for the first time since summer and I was excited to come back and see my family. And then ever since I got here I’ve been holding back tears. I feel so anxious when I’m here and I feel terrible because this is supposed to be my home with my family. But I want to go back to my room at uni desperately, that’s the only place where I can feel anxious and it doesn’t get too overwhelming because I know I’m by myself and I’m safe. 

I don’t really know what this is or why I’m writing this but I feel so lost. I don’t know how to slow down and I don’t want to be afraid to come back to my own home. I guess I’ll just leave this out there and maybe just writing this down will lift some stress off my shoulders. ",MentalHealthIsland,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gpyn7i/anxietystudenttriggering_spaces/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwtw50u', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Many_Ad8155! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T04:52:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1gpyn7i'}]"
1gnh7gq,2024-11-10T00:29:59,What are the early signs of DID (multiple PD) and can it start at age 30?,"I have honestly have concerns about my mental health lately, I started noticing some weird symptoms and people around me too, like i get angry very easily and can’t control my emotions/ i disconnect/ alway on a rush / i feel like my body is weird sometimes as there’s something wrong/ I don’t remember if i locked house door if someone asks as if no memory of entering the house at all so i get confused when I start answering/ and the most stringiest thing that made me make this post is: yesterdayI was at my friends house and after leaving his house while driving, i heard a phone ringing but my phone was in front of me so I stopped my car and found my friends phone at my purse, after I returned in, he asked me WHY did you do that and I couldn’t explain or even answer because I myself don’t know how this happened and im sure U didn’t take it.. that made me more confused and I can’t stop thinking about what happened.. does anyone have any idea about whats going on with me?",MentalHealthIsland,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gnh7gq/what_are_the_early_signs_of_did_multiple_pd_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwamc0s', 'author': 'Phanoik', 'body': ""Get assessed by a psychiatrist. I wouldn't jump to DID from memory loss and feelings of 'wrong-nes', could be a number of things but no matter what it is you're under serious distress and I would strongly suggest you seek help"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T00:59:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1gnh7gq'}, {'comment_id': 'lx2k23x', 'author': 'boys-will-be-bugs', 'body': ""from what i understand, DID happens during childhood when the personality is forming - you would have had to experience severe trauma before the age of 7. talk to a psych but it sounds like stress and anxiety, brain fog, etc. another thing is you could have a vitamin deficiency or smth, so get some blood tests done and make sure you're medically healthy before jumping to thinking you have DID"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T16:50:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1gnh7gq'}]"
1gmhljl,2024-11-08T18:11:43,Am I in the wrong? Feeling like shit,"Hey so I have this friend from uni and we are both just graduating (different courses, but mutual subjects) and basically I’m not going great at the moment. I’m stressed about finding a job, but also at a shit place mentally and really not in a spot where I can advocate myself into a job.

We first met literally at the mental hospital,, so she should kinda get it… but we were never about supporting in that way… more supporting with uni ect… She also is struggling because her current job is shit and she is stressed about finding a new position 

But anyway she has randomly sent me some jobs that she thought I could apply for… as I said above I’m not in a spot to feel like I can just go for it and replied with my honest thoughts on it… and she replied back cracking it at me saying I’m always so negative and it’s reflecting on her ect.. which yeah I get I am being negative because i’m not coping… but I never asked her to do this… like yeah we talked about our job struggles as a mutual topic ect but she has literally just messaged me out of the blue with this suggestion.. like we weren’t even talking before… like I never asked you to support me.. 

Like I understand if you need to protect yourself and create some space but you started talking to me…. don’t crack it at me when I’m not super into it.

Like I’m just so confused about what happened and this is not helping things for myself… and like I’m not here to ask for people to get annoyed at her for protecting herself but like sorry for being depressed when you voluntarily started the conversation knowing this

Like I don’t even know what about this situation is bothering me so much… like I feel shit about upsetting her but I also feel like this isn’t on me and I didn’t deserve that reaction… like I never asked you to do this",MentalHealthIsland,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gmhljl/am_i_in_the_wrong_feeling_like_shit/,"[{'comment_id': 'lw2iid8', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission leifyla! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T18:11:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1gmhljl'}]"
1gklyv9,2024-11-06T06:03:53,Been feeling really alone,So it’s been a while since I’ve had any sort of connection or relationship with anyone and I’m really struggling. I feel like I’ve tried everything from going to the clubs to dating apps but nothing is coming. I’ve been told to wait and it’ll come to me but I’m asking now how long do I have to wait? It’s been years since my last relationship and most of my friends are either going on dates or have a relationship I feel left out. I know I’m only 20 and I have a long time left but I’m scared that I’m not worthy of finding the one or there isn’t someone for me. Is there anyway I can get rid of that feeling or any suggestions on how to cope with it? ,MentalHealthIsland,5,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gklyv9/been_feeling_really_alone/,"[{'comment_id': 'lvmajum', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission the_wall_0495! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T06:03:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1gklyv9'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gi17a', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': ""Focus on building yourself up without a relationship. Put all your energy into self development in areas such academics, arts or/and fitness and health. Just declutter your circle of friends and as the circle gets smaller you will have more time to do what you want to do with your time. Take  a course in something you would like to excel in or start a blog about weekend adventures to small towns or areas of your city. Take pictures of things you find attractive. Journal your experiences and just be yourself without being attached to someone. As you grow in one specific area you will find others who vibe like you and there you may find your partner. Life is more than finding a partner. It is also about discovering yourself and discovering the world around you. I can tell you I was the girl that couldn't get boyfriends....I have been married for many years now. I am happy I was alone for the time it took for me to see other parts of the world and enjoy some freedom on my own."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T05:37:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1gklyv9'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gidp4', 'author': 'Impossible_Touch331', 'body': 'Or be the one that got away...enjoy and embrace solitude', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T05:39:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1gklyv9'}]"
1gifvsu,2024-11-03T10:51:07,"What is this? What's wrong with me, why do I get so scared when he isn't near me.","Hi, I'm jay and the person I was speaking to is my friend. Let's call him M, me and M have a very close (palontic/friendship) relationship.
But I have many things wrong with me, diagnosed with multiple anxiety disorders that I cannot remember. The main one is social anxiety tho.
I get really clingy around him, I overthink tons of things too.
Am I being obsessive, really clingy, or something related to separation anxiety. I could really use some help.


(I'm sorry if this makes you cringe in anyway)",MentalHealthIsland,3,10,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/1gifvsu,"[{'comment_id': 'lv4xwke', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission Jay_BarkBark19! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T10:51:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51jhu', 'author': 'New_Discount_8249', 'body': 'There is a lot of information on attachment styles / disorders, and fear of abandonment online that you can find.   Make sure to double check sources though as we know the internet can have false info too.    From as hard as you’re taking it when he’s not around, there could potentially be a severe fear of abandonment.   It can be described as the worst internal pain and most of the time irrational.   It can feel like our lives are completely over or like we’re dying inside.     Can explain more about what you mean when you ask if you’re hallucinating in the messages?', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:26:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv4y54u', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': 'To add to this, I have a long history of being neglected, left out, and worse things ever since kindergarten. I just thought this might be helpful.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T10:53:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv7bq0z', 'author': 'WhaleFartingFun', 'body': 'Are you currently in talk therapy?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T22:23:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1gifvsu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51o5y', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': ""Sometimes I have hallucinations when I don't have the correct sleep"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:28:19', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51jhu'}, {'comment_id': 'lv7e7rj', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': 'No', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T22:35:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lv7bq0z'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51rcx', 'author': 'New_Discount_8249', 'body': 'Ok gotcha.  And I imagine you’re finding it hard to sleep with anxiety and not having your friend near you.   Has he answered your messages yet ?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:29:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51o5y'}, {'comment_id': 'lvaesqq', 'author': 'WhaleFartingFun', 'body': 'I cannot recommend talk therapy enough when dealing with attachment issues. My talk therapy led to my EMDR Therapy. That eventually helped me get over some major abandonment issues.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-04T08:15:10', 'parent_id': 't1_lv7e7rj'}, {'comment_id': 'lv51wh1', 'author': 'Jay_BarkBark19', 'body': ""I actually try to stay up at night with the fear that somebody might do something bad to themselves and I'm not there to stop it. But the last part of your sentence, I acted this way because he had to go to bed"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:30:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51rcx'}, {'comment_id': 'lv532ae', 'author': 'New_Discount_8249', 'body': 'I hear you.   I’ve actually done similar.   Your feelings are valid and they are real.  You’re not crazy, there is nothing “wrong” with you.   It can be terrifying going what you’re going through and not everyone is going to be able to understand it.   Though the situation might not seem like a big deal to others, whatever happened caused your brain to go into fight or flight mode because it triggered a time where you felt this way in the past and there was more of a real threat.   Our minds don’t understand time in that way when it comes to our responses and emotions, so your brain is like on defense mode thinking that there is a real and imminent danger.   If you’re ok to message me, I can help you with some suggestions to try and get through it.  Just let me know.  And I hope that all makes sense.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-03T11:43:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lv51wh1'}]"
1gek2rr,2024-10-29T07:48:43,I’m just so burnt out ,"I thought thing would be better once I got into a good college, I was doing good for the first month that we’ve started. But I got sick a week ago, I’m behind on work (mainly reading, not assignments but over 100 pages to read and it adds day after day) , midterms are happening and I’m just so done already. I’ve reverted back to my old ways in not taking care of myself right, or not getting good sleep to sacrifice it for my education for risk of failure because I cannot waste time. I will be studying all night but it’s just my mind keeps getting distracted. It doesn’t help that the thoughts of death and hurting myself keep coming in my head and every day and worsening my mood. I’ve signed up for counseling on my campus, but twice a week isn’t cutting it, and even as an “adult” who could go finally get therapy by my choice, my insurance won’t cover crap around me and I’m unable to ask my parents for help because the times I’ve asked for therapy they’ve said I don’t need it. My dad doesn’t even believe in depression or therapy so no matter what I’m not going, no matter how bad I feel I need it. I’m not quite sure how to improve my mindset and I’m scared I’ll eventually ruin my clean streak just to not feel everything I’m feeling right now. ",MentalHealthIsland,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gek2rr/im_just_so_burnt_out/,"[{'comment_id': 'luaf6z4', 'author': 'hereforfun_anddrugs', 'body': ""Have you reached out to your instructors? \nThey're usually pretty kind and understanding. \nIts times like these that you need to look back and appreciate how far you've come. Its getting toward the end of the semester and I'm in the same boat of getting sick and then burning out. Therapy is all the work you put in, so maybe doing some journaling can help? I want you to know that you are the furthest from a failure. These are extremely challenging steps and, the more unique your circumstance, the more it will feel like a struggle. \nIt seems like you come from a family that views being vulnerable as weakness. Try to talk to yourself like a friend is having these problems. Practice empathy with yourself. \nYou are so so close to the end of the semester, and even though it feels miles away, it will be here before you know it. You will have a break to piece yourself back together. Everything will be ok. Stay strong."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-29T08:15:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1gek2rr'}, {'comment_id': 'luag6x1', 'author': 'Beensadforabit', 'body': 'I have reached out to my professors only about my sickness, they knew I was sick but also I’m on a quarter system so school flies by. We’re on week 6 of work and doing midterms because at week 10/11 I’m having finals 🙂\u200d↕️ I’ll listen to your suggestions and start trying up journaling, and I really appreciate the positive advice. I feel like I’m tweaking though my mind is getting distracted every second so I might just take a nap and regroup to see if it’ll help! Thank you so much and I hope you know too how much your help means to me and that you spent the time writing this. You’re a gem.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-29T08:21:29', 'parent_id': 't1_luaf6z4'}]"
1gcz6dt,2024-10-27T06:08:10,Legit used by everyone in my life,"Hey GC's

I'm a 42yo, divorced with 2 kids I see them 5 days a fortnight.

I've always been told that ""you're not good enough"" or ""you're doing every wrong"" from family.  Didn't get the comfort or support my family or partners

I was sexually abused at 5 and didn't have anyone to go to and when I brought it up later in life it was dismissed

Hell even when I was about to get married my mum wasn't going to attend (I only had 3 people on my side to see me get married while my ex had bout 40+)

Growing up and in my last marriage I saw what families are like and if I am honest it makes me upset that I never had that and I still don't as they only reach out when they want something.

Yes I have a lot of trauma and probably undiagnosed ADHD or autism (1 kid with ADHD and other with high functioning autism) and been in and out of mental health services all my life.  I'm at the point where even when someone says something that is meant to be funny it triggers me and makes me really upset

I always have to reach out to people for any social activities and never asked to attend social gatherings.

I am always told to harden up and just think happy thoughts...

Is this what life is about?  Am I supposed to be used as body armor and no one thinking of me?

If it is what's the point?",MentalHealthIsland,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gcz6dt/legit_used_by_everyone_in_my_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'ltxr7h3', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission HazardousNZ! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T06:08:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcz6dt'}]"
1gcj5iy,2024-10-26T17:11:09,My Mental Health Story: What Schizophrenia and Psychosis is like - Long Night (PTSD),,MentalHealthIsland,0,0,https://youtu.be/1lSfUYPiJJg?si=nlN39ZCRKy8bKAQa,[]
1gc21um,2024-10-26T00:37:03,Need reassurance ,"Hi everyone,

I’m looking for some reassurance and perspective on a situation that’s been weighing on me.

There’s a local café I’ve been visiting frequently for about a year, and I’ve developed a strong connection with the owner. Her café feels like a safe space, and she’s been incredibly kind and supportive. I’ve even shared with her that I’m autistic, which she’s been very understanding about.

Recently, I’ve been struggling with overthinking about whether I’m overstepping any boundaries or annoying her by visiting too often. I sent her a message expressing my gratitude and how much her café means to me, and she responded warmly, saying I “always have a place here in all our hearts.” This was very reassuring, but I still find myself overthinking and worrying that I might be a burden.

I’m planning to give her a bit of space for a few days before visiting again, just to help ease my anxiety and make sure I’m being respectful of her boundaries. I care deeply about this connection and want to handle it thoughtfully, but I could really use some reassurance that I’m not overstepping.

Has anyone else experienced similar feelings in relationships that mean a lot to them? How do you manage overthinking and the need for reassurance?",MentalHealthIsland,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/comments/1gc21um/need_reassurance/,"[{'comment_id': 'ltqbhj9', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': ""Thank you for the submission mrbash99! &#129730;.\n\n&#128308; If you are in distress, please call emergency services at 9-1-1 or the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, 9-8-8. Alternatively, you can use the resources provided [HERE](https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthIsland/wiki/mental-health-crisis-resources/) in our wiki, including a list of resources by country. __You are not alone. Help is available.__  \n\n&#x2728; If you feel well enough to do so, let's help each other to enrich this community, to do our part. Now that you have posted, please leave a constructive, helpful comment on someone else's post. Filter by new to find posts with zero or few comments. Together, we make our community great. Thank you for being here&#128591;. \n  *** \n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthIsland) if you have any questions or concerns.*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T00:37:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1gc21um'}, {'comment_id': 'ltqgpnt', 'author': 'ramenthegoat7', 'body': ""This happens all the time for me. Just imagine what she's thinking if she really cares about you she wouldn't want you to be suffering like this"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T01:04:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1gc21um'}, {'comment_id': 'ltrrsy8', 'author': 'PerseidsGirl', 'body': ""As someone who is also on the spectrum, I tend to overthink situations like the one you're describing. I, too, like to find safe spaces where I can relax and just be myself, especially when eating. As a paying customer, I mostly visit places where I'm comfortable (and the food is good). There's nothing wrong with going every day. I've realized that tipping the servers well also means they (as well as the owner) look forward to seeing me. It's a win-win."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T05:35:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1gc21um'}, {'comment_id': 'lts2vuu', 'author': 'mrbash99', 'body': 'Honestly the tipping part is not a bad idea, I never thought of that. Thanks for the idea and thanks for your help too 😌', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T06:46:08', 'parent_id': 't1_ltrrsy8'}]"
1jnhlh9,2025-03-30T22:58:00,Need Support :(,"Hi mommas. I feel like this is the best place to turn to as it’s really hard to share with anyone in my life the struggle of managing mental health while pregnant as so many people are uninformed/judgmental. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and in a very bad place mentally. I started off my pregnancy on Mirtazapine (for sleep), Effexor for depression, and low dose Abilify for panic attacks. Abilify is known to reduce milk supply (breast feeding is very important to me) and I weaned off of it early in my second trimester with no issues. I was doing great in my second trimester. Now that I’m in the third trimester, I had a very large amount of life stressors that were deeply out of my control cause me to become very very stressed. It has now escalated into daily panic attacks and reducing my ability to function/even care for my 2 year old. I have a great psychiatrist who recommended trying Buspar 15 mg 3x a day which I have been on for a couple days now. The problem is that it takes 2-4 weeks to see clinical benefits. So that leaves me in a very dark place waiting for the meds to kick in. My Psych said when it comes to panic attacks and the use of low dose Xanax, it is far better to use the medication which has a short half life than be under extreme stress from a panic attack as that would hurt the baby more. I am finding that 1 mg of Xanax isn’t helping with the severity of anxiety. I have responded to klonipin better than Xanax in the past when I’m not pregnant. I feel SO SO guilty for even needing to consider taking these meds in pregnancy. I am hoping that I can take the klonipin short term while I’m waiting to see the clinical effects of Buspar kick in. Can anyone share success stories on these meds and have a healthy baby?",MentalHealthBabies,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jnhlh9/need_support/,"[{'comment_id': 'mknb3af', 'author': 'awkwardaster', 'body': 'I haven’t been on these meds, but just wanted to reach out and wish you well. You’re doing what needs to be done! Your doctor wouldn’t prescribe you medications that they didn’t think were worth it. They’re right about stress being more risky. It’s a tough place to be in, for sure, but these are the cards we’ve been dealt and you have the right tools to get through it. Are you also in therapy? My friend had luck with someone who used more of a coaching approach to therapy. I wish you all the peace of mind. One day at a time, sister. You got this.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T12:16:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhlh9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkswtim', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Hi. I posted before on multiple other posts lol. \n\nI took Zoloft 200 mg (went to 300 mg by end of pregnancy), Buspar 30 mg, Klonopin 0.5 mg 1-2x daily, and Adderall XR 25 mg. Klonopin wasn’t used daily until around 20-22 weeks. Pregnancy is a mindfuck and the hormones mess with you so much. Postpartum I was started on Seroquel 37.5 mg for intrusive thoughts that was bothering me. I worked with a psychiatrist, a perinatal psychiatrist, and my therapist the entire pregnancy. \n\nMy baby girl had normal bloodwork and scans the entire time. She was born 37w3d with no issues. NICU was present at my delivery and gave her a bit of oxygen but she really didn’t need them. The only thing I noticed was she shook her legs a bit more than normal for about 5-7 days after birth. Newborns will do this normally due to an immature nervous system (I’m a pediatric and primary care NP) but she did it a bit more. She is 14 weeks and she is perfect. Just remember that baby needs a good mom and you are that! You need to take care of yourself to have a healthy pregnancy. And when baby is born, you need to be in a good place so when they look at you, you can connect with them. \n\nAlso untreated anxiety and depression has worse adverse effects than these medications. A great website (and the only website I recommend) is womensmentalhealth.org which has evidenced based studies. I went on there and here for camaraderie! You’re doing a great job, mama 🥰', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:12:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhlh9'}, {'comment_id': 'mko0nhh', 'author': 'Otherwise_Piece_1801', 'body': 'I am in therapy. Twice a week currently', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:42:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mknb3af'}]"
1jmsxib,2025-03-30T00:03:57,Trying to conceive and just prescribed Sertraline/Zoloft,"I'm 31F and on my third round of trying to conceive after a miscarriage with a number of complications. I have OCD and a history of anorexia but am now weight restored. 

I struggle on and off with ""spikes"" in my obsessive/intrusive thoughts, and go through periods where I will fixate on something (eg. death, aging, my possessions deteriorating). I previously was doing fairly well in terms of daily functioning but since my miscarriage I am having trouble getting through the days and my obsessive thoughts will occasionally lead to very serious ideation. 

I was prescribed sertraline/zoloft by a public health nurse who told me the waitlist to speak with a psychiatrist is 3 years. I haven't started taking it yet but I did some research and found that it is generally considered safe for pregnancy, and does seem to be prescribed for OCD quite often.

It makes me nervous to start a new medication when I am trying to conceive, and potentially right as I get pregnant. I'm wondering if anyone else has been through this, or has spoken with a professional about timing a new med with ttc/early pregnancy? Another option is I continue to try to address these issues in therapy, and don't start the meds until after giving birth, but I know mental illness isn't necessarily good for pregnancy either.

TL;DR prescribed a med for OCD while trying to conceive and unsure of what to do. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jmsxib/trying_to_conceive_and_just_prescribed/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkec55j', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Sertraline is god gifted and totally safe during TTC and pregnancy', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:24:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mke93ng', 'author': 'Lost_inthot', 'body': 'Sertraline was life changing for me and I was told by my primary care doctor it’s safe', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:08:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mken22o', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': 'I started on it long before pregnancy, but have increased my dosage twice while pregnant. Little guy is 38+1, and everything is going well so far. It has made such a positive difference for me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:24:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mkepeqp', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I see a psych np who specializes in pregnancy and women’s health and it was recommended to during trying to conceive and pregnancy. It has been hugely beneficial to me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:37:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkqmqy', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I took 150mg of Zoloft with my first pregnancy and I have the most wonderful intelligent and healthy 18months baby girl. I’m on 125mg now and trying for another baby !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:55:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mkejm22', 'author': 'songs-ohia', 'body': 'Great news!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:05:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkec55j'}, {'comment_id': 'mkea41b', 'author': 'songs-ohia', 'body': ""That's great to know! Thank you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:13:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mke93ng'}]"
1jly7u0,2025-03-28T21:20:05,klonopin in pregnancy,"I'm 11 weeks pregnant and have taken 1 mg klonopin daily for the past 3 years, .5mg in the AM and .5mg in the evening. I attempted to taper down on my own by .25 mg/day but struggled ultimately returning to my original dose. Met with a maternal psychiatrist to hoping to discuss risks/increased monitoring/ potential tapering. I just finished the teladoc and it was terrible. Looking for some advice/reassurance.

She emphasized the risks of congenital and developmental issues as well as the baby experiencing withdrawals or floppy baby syndrome (I have researched and been worried about all these issues already) and said I needed to taper off ASAP at an expedited pace to stop any further harm I've already caused the baby, advised against switching to valium for the taper (I've read this can be helpful in managing withdrawal symptoms) because exposing the baby to two drugs is worse (?)  but said she would want to put me on gabapentin to manage withdrawal symptoms. When I asked about the schedule of the taper, she described the same schedule I attempted before (.25 mg/4 weeks), which I don't think aligns with the Ashton manual.

She acknowledged she was coming off as aggressive and emphasized that tapering off benzos would be extremely difficult (I'm aware! and scared!). She never once mentioned my mental health as a concern throughout the process or how I might  be able to cope, and when I asked about how potential withdrawal symptoms could affect the baby, she brushed me off. Ultimately, she referred me to an addiction psychiatrist; while I don't love the ""addiction"" label, I'm hoping they might be more informed and have a better taper plan.

TLDR: maternal psychiatrist seemed uninformed, unconcerned about my mental health, and really scared me about being on Klonopin while pregnant. I'm open to tapering down/off, but really feeling down about her opinions and advice.",MentalHealthBabies,4,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jly7u0/klonopin_in_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkb7yby', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Both my MFM and perinatal psych said that there is very little evidence of clonazepam causing birth defects or cognitive issues and were unconcerned about my .5/day dosage. I’ve not had my baby yet but am 30 weeks and scans have been fine so far. \n\nWith that said, I was able to wean off in the second trimester and did so only because I wanted to. My doctors were completely fine with me staying on and I still take it as a PRN about once every 1-2 weeks when I get panic attacks. Not worried at all.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T10:24:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jly7u0'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7vck8', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Wait was this a specialist in reproductive psychiatry? I saw one (and maternal fetal medicine) and both said the latest research showed absolutely no harm at low doses. I took .5 mg every night of my pregnancy and have a healthy smart 1.5 year old and no issues at birth. I know that’s just anecdotal but the two doctors I saw were specialists in the field and totally unconcerned, actually quite blase about it!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T22:59:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jly7u0'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfdagx', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': 'are you comfortable sharing your schedule for weaning off and how it went for you mental health wise?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:51:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkb7yby'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7x690', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': 'well great question that just led me to realize something... my NP led me to believe I was being referred to a psychiatrist who specialized in maternal & post natal mental health, and when I scheduled the appointment they used the same verbiage. But online/in MyChart it says ""Womens Behavioral Health Outpatient Services"" and on the hospital website it says her experience is in ""Geriatric Psychiatry/Psychiatry"". I feel duped', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:08:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7vck8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfymfn', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Sure! I actually had a liquid version for a while and each drop was equal to .1 so 5 drops = .5 mg. I was at .7 when I found out I was pregnant and immediately dropped to .5 and went down by .1 every 2 weeks as long as I was feeling ok until I got to .1 at this point I switched to pills (so I was taking .125 or a quarter of a .5 pill). I debated splitting the pills further but this is what I did instead: \n\nI stabilized at this dose for about a month then started going every other day (pretty easy because klonopin has a long half life) then I started doing every other day plus skipping the weekend (last dose would be on Friday and then would not take .125 till Monday). I then moved to every 2 days and then I was going to try every three but found I had no need to take it and didn’t take one for several weeks until my next panic attack. This approach worked really well for me. \n\nNote that this was like a four month process. I took it slow and was encouraged to by my doctor. My doctor told me if I had tremors or swearing to immediately redose so it’s really important to listen to your body AND take it slow. This is not a drug you want to mess with by going cold turkey. \n\nI’m not going to lie, my mental health is not the best right now. However I am still dealing with residual postpartum depression from my baby I had last April and dealing with the immense stress of being in the third trimester while caring for an 11 month old. Additionally, I do not respond well to typical antidepressants like Zoloft so my options are limited. I will be starting an SNRI and ketamine therapy immediately after giving birth. It was my personal preference to be off all daily medications by the third trimester though—this is not for everyone and I’m fully supportive of people taking their medication if that’s what they need. So YMMV. \n\nI am now fine taking an emergency dose as needed every week or two when my anxiety gets too much to handle and I do not have any withdrawals from this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T05:56:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfdagx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7yk94', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'You need someone called a reproductive psychiatrist or prenatal psychiatrist. They tend to be at big academic hospitals in or near cities.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:14:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7x690'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7xuac', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': ""I'm learning a lot through my experiences with health professional swhile pregnant that I need to do better researching and advocating for myself! Geez"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:11:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7x690'}, {'comment_id': 'mkg5m6k', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': ""This is super helpful from start to finish, TY. I mentioned the liquid suspension to this psych and she didn't know anything about it, I will be asking about it again with the next psych. Tapering with pills is a pain/ so imprecise. Your schedule lines up with what I have mentally planned out too. Hoping the doc will be on board with something slow. I also don't respond well to Zoloft or Lexapro. Personally I find them too activating. Previously I was on trazodone which is no longer considered a first-line med for depression/anxiety but I swear it worked for me. Not trying to give advice, just noting that often those SSRIs doctors swear work for everyone just don't, and I wish they were more open minded. Wishing you luck with your meds & therapy when you can start- I've read good things on reddit about ketamine. Thanks again for the thorough read-out."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:38:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfymfn'}]"
1jis38s,2025-03-24T20:04:27,Bipolar multiple meds and pregnancy,"Hi all, I am 35 F and I am recently diagnosed and finally stable on 4 medications. I'm currently on lithium, Vrylar, Fetzima and zopiclon. I am not able to live a normal life without these meds. I have severe suicidal ideation/planning off of them. I want to be a mother but I don't know if I can come of these meds. Looking for people who have taken these while pregnant.  ",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jis38s/bipolar_multiple_meds_and_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjjix63', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Since you are in the TTC phase, now is the perfect time to get an appointment with a reproductive psychiatrist (also called a perinatal psychatrist). They specialize in the medication managment during pregnancy.\n\nYou can find a repro psych through post partum support international's (PSI) provider directory online. PSI also has a free to provider consultation line so your current provider can get a consult for you and get more information on what's best specifically for you. Generally, it's not advised to stop your meds at all. Most reproductive psychiatrists will try to find the best studied medication in pregnancy for you and try to work with that. It's also great to have someone you can ask questions about your particular situation (like what meds have you tried prior) and get more information on what's best.\n\nIt's a great resource for those thinking about TTC and I highly recommend it.\n\nPlenty of people with mental health conditions successfully have kids, so this isn't an all or nothing thing."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:10:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkugfr', 'author': 'awkwardaster', 'body': 'Hi, Bipolar 1 and mother of a 2 year old, currently pregnant again! I’ve been diagnosed for my entire adult life, so I’ve had a lot of time to trial many different meds and find stability before becoming pregnant. Please find a provider who knows about perinatal psychiatry! My provider doesn’t necessarily specialize in it, but he’s knowledgeable enough to recommend good meds for me. Right now all I’m taking is Vraylar 1.5 mg, but I plan to add Zyprexa/Olanzapine 2.5 mg when I’m 30 weeks to prepare myself for postpartum. I had my worst ever episode at 3-4 months postpartum with my first. Your mental health is crucially important and I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find that a lot so psych meds are ok in pregnancy. The hormone change during postpartum is intense, so really prepare yourself for that (stock up on formula, make sure you’re getting at least 6 hours of sleep a night, etc).', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T06:19:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnx0fh', 'author': 'misspiggie', 'body': ""I tapered lithium down to 300mg throughout my pregnancy and beyond and I now have a healthy EBF baby. Research states less than 600mg of lithium carries a significantly reduced risk of Ebstein's anomaly."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:29:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhmz42', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T20:42:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjrf5b', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Thank you for your response I really appreciate that. I know that I need to connect with a reproductive Psychatrist because my own psychatrist also says it but I am on 4 medications and this cocktail keeps me alive. I am worried that this process will destabilize me. I was stabilized once before and once my meds was stopped I got really bad and it took me 2 years to find another combo', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:51:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mjjix63'}, {'comment_id': 'mjl4xds', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Thank you for your respond. I wish you best of luck this round. I am bipolar 2 so very depression heavy and rarely hypomanic. I had my worst depressive episode that lasted months and I am just starting to get better. I know that my meds are safe as individuals but I don’t know if I can take them all together. The doctors advise that I come off of a couple of them \xa0but I’m not sure if I can. I have a wonderful psychiatrist but the reproductive psychiatrist mostly cares about the child.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:20:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mjkugfr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpd04k', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Were you on anything else during your pregnancy ? I’m on lithium Vrylar and Fetzima plus adhd meds. There’s no way they will let me just lower my dose I will have to come off of some stuff 😢', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:31:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnx0fh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhqfab', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Thanks\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T21:00:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mjhmz42'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpf9se', 'author': 'misspiggie', 'body': ""Regarding your personal medication situation all I can speak about is the lithium. \n\n I did also take trazodone and abilify for most of my pregnancy, but I quit abilify cold turkey when I learned it precludes breast milk production. Thankfully when I did deliver my supply was unaffected. \n\nI think for me out of my three medications lithium definitely did all the heavy lifting. If I were in your situation I would really try to simply lower the dose of lithium and maybe get off a different medication if your doctors determine you really can't stay on all of them."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:42:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpd04k'}]"
1jg6swj,2025-03-21T08:11:00,SSRIs (Citalopram/Celexa) and TTC/Pregnancy,"Hi there! I (34F) would love to hear some experiences of folks who took SSRIs (namely Celexa) during pregnancy and/or breastfeeding. I searched and found some old posts, but nothing that quite answers my questions. I'm also reading up on info via NIH, but I could just use some human-to-human insight.

So, here's my situation: I have diagnosed major depression, generalized anxiety, and PTSD. I take 20mg of citalopram/Celexa daily, for about 10 years now. About a year ago, I decided to try to taper off (I've done a lot of med hopping over the years and this has been the most stable option for me, so switching meds wasn't on the table again), knowing pregnancy might be in my future and wanting to go through this hard part before TTC. To put it simply, it did not go well. I was relatively stable at half dose (10mg), less so at 10mg every other day, and when I finally transitioned off entirely, it was plain bad. I would up having to take leave from work to cope with the full mental breakdown and recovery; the brain zaps made me totally mush brained and stupid; I came completely undone. I stuck it out for about a week and a half on nothing before hitting rock bottom and deciding to return to my full dose. 

Now, fast forward to today...my husband and I are now trying to conceive! Yay!! But I'm getting really frustrated with mixed messages from my primary care vs gyno. I *know* it's ideal to be off these meds, and my primary care brought it back up with me. But it's also ideal for me to, you know, not want to die, which was reinforced by my gyno (focused on mother's health). It's hard not to feel defeated and torn or like I'm making a harmful decision for my future baby by being adamant about staying on my meds. And, of course, in my reading of the science, I'm seeing the whole range of possibilities, from nothing to heart defects (althogh rare) to withdrawal symptoms (less rare). I'm honestly really the most worried about my baby experiencing withdrawals; purely statistically speaking, it seems to be the highest risk here.

So, if you made it this far, please share your experiences being pregnant and nursing on SSRIs (bonus for Celexa) and whether your baby experiences NAS and what that was like for them/you. The good and bad. I could use someone(s) to talk this out with!

TLDR; Did your baby experience NAS after you took Celexa during pregnancy and/or breastfeeding?",MentalHealthBabies,5,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jg6swj/ssris_citalopramcelexa_and_ttcpregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj1l85l', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Anecdotes aren't the best way to gather info. Untreated depression exposes your fetus to your illness, and that also has bad effects for the fetus.\n\nThe research is really clear - both of you need that medication, being off the medication is bad for both of you and the benefits of medication outweighs the risks. Your primary care physician is just wrong, and honestly they are really giving medical advice far outside their specialty.\n\nHere are some resources to check out within the actual specialty:\nDr Kristen Lassiter on Instagram- she's a perinatal psychatrist (aka a reproductive psychiatrist, its the specialization for dosing psyc meds in pregnancy).\n\nThe MGH center for women's mental health (associated  with Harvard University). There are a lot of good general articles here for the public.\n\nThis scientific article about psychatric medication management guidelines in pregnancy: https://mhc.kglmeridian.com/view/journals/mhcl/13/6/article-p255.xml\n\nPostpartum support international (PSI). They have a free to provider consultation line for psyc med management so your provider can get a consult with a reproductive psychatrist.\n\nYour primary care provider isn't board certified in psychatry, reproductive psychiatry, or as an OBGYN. They are very much talking out of their scope of practice, and I'd really encourage you to listen to the people who are actually board certified for medication management in pregnancy instead."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T02:47:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg6swj'}, {'comment_id': 'mj32yp0', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': 'https://womensmentalhealth.org This website has great up to date info on psych meds in pregnancy', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T08:00:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg6swj'}, {'comment_id': 'mj1mhnn', 'author': 'Large-Tip8123', 'body': ""Thank you. Like I said in my post, I've been reading the literature myself. But I'd like to talk to a fellow *human* who's been through it. I'm not asking Reddit for medical advice; I want support and loved experience from those going through the same thing.\n\nETA: I do genuinely appreciate you taking the time to provide these resources! I know they'll be helpful for everyone searching this sub for similar resources. But, already having this in my pocket, I really need human-to-human convos to help me process the weird dissonance (and guilt, honestly) I'm experiencing."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T02:54:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mj1l85l'}, {'comment_id': 'mj1tm4b', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""I get it. I'm a scientist tho, and the data comforts me, lol.\n\nThe scientific article I linked actually really helped me with my decision to stay on my antidepressant while TTC, and the MGH articles really made it extra clear too. \n\nFor me, seeing that I could actually give my baby pre-eclampsia and growth restrictions and all sorts of nasty complications that were really bad and could actally result in stillbirth by not taking my meds really helped solidify that NAS was the least of my worries and medicating was the best answer. Additionally, the MGH site actually has a pretty good plain language summary of a retrospective analysis of over a million births showing that NAS may not actually be caused by antidepressants after all. The warning about NAS is actually something FDA requires as a drug class, so it's not actually specific to celexa. Also - celexa is a preferred agent during pregnancy per the gudidence I linked, so it's a great one to take. \n\nAdditionally, if NAS happens it's mainly just a fussy baby for about 3 days. That's way less of an issue than pre-eclampsia or the other risks of non treatment! So again, it really helped me feel like I was making the right call to continue taking my meds. I'd definitely feel much more guilty if any of the risks from not medicating (which are more likely to happen than the risks of medicating) happened.\n\nFinding a repro psych really helped because I could literally ask questions about pre-eclampsia and other nontreatment risks vs NAS and get actual answers specific to me, so just something to also think about for peace of mind."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T03:32:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mj1mhnn'}]"
1jg5b70,2025-03-21T06:54:03,Are my Meds safe for baby during breast feeding? Please help,"I currently am taking Seroquil 10mg, Zoloft 100mg, gabapentin 1200mg, buspar 15mg, and prazosin 5mg. I have a newborn and want to breastfeed. Buspar is being discontinued for this purpose.  Does anyone have any experience breastfeeding being on these medications??",MentalHealthBabies,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jg5b70/are_my_meds_safe_for_baby_during_breast_feeding/,"[{'comment_id': 'miwjoei', 'author': 'vampirenurse', 'body': 'We aren’t able to give medical advice. I’d encourage you to look at LactMed or talk to your pediatrician.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-21T07:19:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'mj4h0rr', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Mothertobaby.com has all the latest research results. My maternal fetal medicine psych had me refer to itit when I didn’t believe her it was ok to take Ativan when pregnant', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T15:45:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'mj63svh', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""The sources other people recommended are great. If you're looking for anecdotes, I've breastfed while taking Buspar without any issues."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T22:13:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'mj8d3qh', 'author': 'Conscious-Green1934', 'body': 'I called infantrisk.org and they were able to advise me on my meds! I’ve decided to combo feed our girl when she gets here if she will have it that way lol', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T05:37:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'miwsnnt', 'author': 'Large-Tip8123', 'body': 'Link to lact med! Be sure to look under their proper names, not brand names. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK501922/', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-21T08:13:13', 'parent_id': 't1_miwjoei'}, {'comment_id': 'mj4h22k', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Go to their “fact sheets” page and they have a search spot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T15:45:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mj4h0rr'}]"
1jf9mfp,2025-03-20T03:53:35,TMS or Ketamine?,"I just narrowly avoided getting pink slipped, and my therapist has suggested that my depression may be medication resistant, so it might be time to discuss alternative treatments- namely TMS or ketamine. Does anyone have any experience with either one and would be willing to share? 

For what it's worth, I've got an incredible support system, and since the state of the world has been a trigger, I'm lucky that I've been able to avoid news and social media (I actually just re-downloaded this app for this post). ",MentalHealthBabies,2,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jf9mfp/tms_or_ketamine/,"[{'comment_id': 'mip6yce', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I am medication resistant and have done both. Well, esketamine (sprovato) to be specific. TMS i tried first, but I’m prone to panic attacks and eventually the repetitive stimuli started triggering attacks while in the office. The movement restraint didnt help either. \n\nAfter a lengthy insurance pre approval process I started Sprovato, twice weekly, for 8 weeks then moved down to once weekly, until I fell pregnant(BC fail- unplanned) and stopped immediately. It was helping immensely, particularly with depression. My experience is a zoning out and loss of sense of time briefly following administration of the drug, followed by a couple hours of feeling a little dazed. I remained in a comfy room, in-office for 3 hours total on treatment days, it was all very controlled. I have a history of alcohol abuse and none of that was triggered by the medications, which was a concern to some. I fully intend on restarting my Sprovato treatment after birth, and luckily have solid childcare with my parents to allow me to, because i’m at high risk for PPD/PPA/PPP', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T04:02:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mipo6re', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': 'Theres a TMS specific subreddit if you want more experiences on TMS.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T05:35:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mipty4w', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Medication resistant depression for ten years. Ketamine changed/saved my life. However, this was before I had postpartum depression. I took it in a brief interim between my last pregnancy and current pregnancy (only five months). I’m not sure if it helped or not. I also took zurzuvae but was dealing with some other issues such as severe anxiety and insomnia. My plan is to start it sooner after birth this time as a proactive approach. YMMV\n\nWhen things were really bad I did IV ketamine up to twice a week which is probably most effective but oral lozenges (did this for 2+ years when at a maintenance stage) and the nasal spray (have not tried) are good too! \n\nNever tried TMS', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T06:07:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mir7qck', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'I had TMS while pregnant in 2021, it unfortunately wasn’t effective for me but I’ve only found ECT and MAOIs effective previously. Recommend the r/rTMS, I found it helpful when I was considering TMS.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T12:02:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0j6om', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Ketamine is a life saver, I would recommend this treatment. It completely changed my life\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:43:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mip8a7q', 'author': 'SquirrelofWisdom', 'body': ""Thank you so much for sharing this. My spouse and I only have one child because our PP experience was so traumatizing (she was sickly and I ended up with PPD/PPA). Ever since having her I haven't felt on steady ground- it's like something broke inside me and I haven't been able to piece it back together. I've always struggled with depression and anxiety, but it's gotten significantly worse over the past few years. I've already done a partial hospitalization program and I see a therapist weekly, but it doesn't seem to be enough anymore."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T04:09:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mip6yce'}, {'comment_id': 'miprmqx', 'author': 'SquirrelofWisdom', 'body': ""Thank you, I'll check it out!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T05:54:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mipo6re'}, {'comment_id': 'mip9cz7', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I empathize with you so much ❤️ i self-admitted into a 2 week inpatient stay in 2022 and have been on 5 psych meds from then until pregnancy, and the experience of tapering down some and off others has been awful. I’m also single and terrified of doing this alone, so I moved in with my parents and my therapist provided me with a PPD/PPP checklist to watch out for. When I’m stabilized, I’m wonderful and people never would guess the struggles inside my head, but it can be so so traumatizing and demoralizing. I was doing the Sprovato treatment in hopes of minimizing my medication regimen and pregnancy seems to have set me back to square one. I’m glad it sounds like you have a supportive partner, and I really hope you’re able to get solid results from one of these treatments. No one deserves to go through life like this. Sending big hugs and hope 🫶🏻🫶🏻', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T04:15:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mip8a7q'}]"
1jd0imk,2025-03-17T06:17:55,"5 months PP, BF, can I take meds?","I don't even know if this is my generalized anxiety anymore. I have intrusive thoughts here and there so it could be OCD, too. I want to take my meds again. I've been a heavy eater since I gave birth but all of a sudden I lost appetite. I just force myself to eat because if I don't, it might affect my supply. I've been frequenting the bathroom because my stomach's upset and so gassy. Not to mention my brain's also foggy! I want to go back to my psychiatrist but she's busy with many patients lining up, my appointment's still on two months. And the thought of taking meds while BF also adds to my anxiety. So many what ifs. What if it's bad for my LO? What if it gives her autism? What if she also gets anxiety? I just want what's best for her and I feel so bad that her mother is so mentally unstable. 🥲",MentalHealthBabies,3,12,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jd0imk/5_months_pp_bf_can_i_take_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'mi6qmd6', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'medicine doesn’t cause autism, let’s stop that fallacy. you need to speak to your provider if you want to continue BF and take meds. i EFF partially so i didn’t have to deal with side effects to my baby. formula is always an option if medication while BF scares you.\n\na mentally healthy mom is most important right now. i’d push to get a quicker appointment with your provider and figure out a pill plan that’s safe for you and kiddo.\n\ngood luck mom!', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:38:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi99zmy', 'author': 'destacadogato', 'body': 'This is why we have to destigmatize mental health in pregnant women and postpartum. There are so many fear mongering people out there. My best advice is to start being more confident in yourself and start trusting yourself more. I’m currently about to give birth in the hospital and I’ve been on Zoloft my whole pregnancy. It really saved me and I will continue to take it because I had postpartum depression/ocd/anxiety with my last baby. You have got to be your own cheerleader and give yourself lots of peptalks.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T19:10:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6rgpr', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Which meds? I was able to be on Klonopin and Adderall when I was breastfeeding, however, I started around 6 months in and only took if I really really needed it.\n\nWhen my baby started only doing night feeds is when I started taking a little more consistently but every medical professional I consulted about it said it was totally fine if I took them regularly, even when my baby was a newborn.\n\nFor reference, she's 2 now and ahead of all of her milestones and perfectly happy and healthy"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:44:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6t0rl', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""I think your pediatrician or OB should be able to tell you about safety with breastfeeding and meds, so if they're meds you have and took in the past, you should be able to send them a message and ask. But like the other commenter said I'd also tell your psychiatrist that you're really struggling and need help sooner."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:53:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mib6bzw', 'author': 'kblacksberg', 'body': 'I breastfed for 18 months and was on all my meds. Adderall gabapentin and Seroquel. Breast milk is worth it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T00:47:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mijowb3', 'author': 'blanket-hoarder', 'body': 'I was on Zoloft for my first pregnancy and while BF. Daughter is doing great. Definitely ask your doctor for meds with research for this case.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-19T07:12:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6skao', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': ""I also formula feed but we're mainly BF. Thank you!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:50:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6qmd6'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6styh', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'I was on 10mg of Escitalopram before pregnancy. I was also on seroquel and clonazepam as needed for sleep. I had to stop when I found out I was pregnanct.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:52:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6rgpr'}, {'comment_id': 'micfn7h', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'How many mg are you on seroquel?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T04:33:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mib6bzw'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6udt1', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good luck…i hope you can find a good solution!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T07:01:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6skao'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6tgey', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""The only one I'm unsure about is the Seroquel, but I was on escitalopram while bfing and encouraged to take it.  I was taking that before I started the Klonopin even though it was technically ok to take both.  I never noticed any differences in my baby while on both"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:56:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6styh'}, {'comment_id': 'miogv2n', 'author': 'kblacksberg', 'body': 'I was on 25 mg. \n\nI’m pregnant again so off everything but gabapentin', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T01:51:12', 'parent_id': 't1_micfn7h'}]"
1jbht8o,2025-03-15T05:11:50,Gabapentin and pregnancy,"I am 9 weeks 5 days with my first pregnancy, and im seeking out experiences of taking gabapentin while pregnant? I have been on gabapentin for nearly 18 years (it was prescribed to me at 16 as a ""non-narcotic alternative"" for severe anxiety). Over the years i have tapered my dose down, I am at 400mg once a day now (used to be 600mg 3x daily). My OB told me not to stress, as there isn't a lot of evidence of it causing birth defects, but that the baby MAY need the NICU when born which is a huge concern and completely breaks my heart.
Please be kind, as I've discontinued my other meds (diazepam, methyphenidate) but the gaba withdrawals are intense and my doctor thinks it may do more harm than good trying to get off of it completely while I'm pregnant. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,19,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jbht8o/gabapentin_and_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mhvv53n', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'I was on 1800 throughout pregnancy, zero problems. Postpartum 11 months, breastfeed, no problems so far.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T12:20:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhu7jbq', 'author': 'CherryPoohLife', 'body': 'Would love to know the answer to this! I’m on 200 atm and in my 3rd trimester.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T05:19:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhu81qt', 'author': 'Conscious-Green1934', 'body': 'I don’t know much about it in pregnancy but I know it’s not typically recommended in pregnancy anymore. However I think they used to have people on it all the time back in the day. But what I do know all about it withdrawals. I had SEVERE withdrawals from an ssri and ended up staying on it and adding another med to get thru it after 2 years of absolute hell on earth. So, knowing that Gabapentin is also very hard to get off of, I would tread lightly and consider staying on. In all likelihood your baby will be ok and you are on a low dose for gabapentin! 🩷 your body will probably naturally taper over the course of pregnancy as well with increased blood volume, method of elimination and increased filtration rates, etc. at least that’s what I tell myself about my own meds.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T05:22:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhyoscy', 'author': 'littlelupie', 'body': 'I took it all pregnancy (900 mg) and had zero issues. Child is a healthy almost 5 year old now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T00:16:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mi00anj', 'author': 'kblacksberg', 'body': 'I’ve been on it and tapered off but my anxiety was so bad my doctor wants me back on. I’m 28 weeks. I might take a low dose until 34 weeks and taper off. OB basically said it’s a risk vs benefit thing and my anxiety has been debilitating', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T04:38:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhu7xsf', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I was tapered off max dosage of gabapentin in my first trimester. Ngl, I can’t wait to go back on it. Still on effexor, seroquel, and a lowered dose of klonopin. In my 3rd tri and baby is healthy so far, but i won’t be breastfeeding so I can go back on my other meds (gabapentin and abilify). \n\nOverall my OB and Psych’s choices of meds were what kept me *somewhat* stable despite there still being a risk for the baby. Its a tough balance to decide on. \n\nI hope you and your team are able to find what works for you, remember you as the mother needs to be healthy to support baby through a healthy pregnancy and delivery 🫶🏻 your needs matter too', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T05:21:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0jgkr', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I was on this for my pregnancy and I took 400 mgs a day. Baby was healthy and is now a vibrate 6 month old.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:45:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhwrz4a', 'author': 'screamingmimi24', 'body': 'That is so wonderful to hear, thank you!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T17:52:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mhvv53n'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuiflh', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I suffered through HORRIBLE multiday panic attacks during my first trimester and they were so against giving me anything aside from Prozac. It was honestly so traumatic. I’m currently doing TMS since it’s “pregnancy safe” but I’m so annoyed.\nThe anxiety this pregnancy has been outrageous', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:21:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mhu7xsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuiqqv', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Pregnancy anxiety is a different world. I’m so sorry- if possible try and find a psychiatrist who is informed and comfortable treating pregnant women. You do not have to be suffering to this extent', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:23:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiflh'}, {'comment_id': 'mhupuzt', 'author': 'Kind_Ad5931', 'body': 'I feel this. My OB did not want me taking my klonopin either and i had horrific anxiety and panic attacks and depression for three months. I ended up going from 50 mg zoloft to 200. It finally helped around week 20. Scariest experience of my life. I’m now 9 months PP and doing well. I think the 200 mg dosage is what helped me have a beautiful postpartum. At 5 months PP i started tapering back to my old dose over a 3 month period.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T07:05:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiflh'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuiy04', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thanks! Yeah I should have kept looking but now I’m 20 weeks and the panic attacks have decreased significantly. I hope the TMS ends up being effective for me. Good luck with everything. Anxiety during this time is so so tough. Glad you’re getting good care', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:24:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiqqv'}, {'comment_id': 'mhur7ql', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I started taking the Zoloft but I thought it was making my anxiety worse so I stopped. I probably should have kept on with it but at the time it felt so bad.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T07:13:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mhupuzt'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuj8u0', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I’m doing much better. I did TMS about 2 years ago, ended up switching to Sprovato treatments (but thats obv not pregnancy safe)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:26:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiy04'}, {'comment_id': 'mhujs02', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Can I ask what made you switch from TMS? I’m 12 session in and I’ve noticed some improvement with depression but not so much with anxiety', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:29:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuj8u0'}, {'comment_id': 'mhujvn7', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I don’t know why, but I started having panic attacks triggered by the “zaps”', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:30:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mhujs02'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuk1ee', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thank you! I actually had a terrible panic attack after my second session and was worried it wasn’t going to work out for me because the chair made me so claustrophobic. But it’s been ok since. Still uncomfortable but tolerable', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:31:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mhujvn7'}, {'comment_id': 'mhukbot', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I hope it helps and will say if it doesn’t, after your pregnancy look into Sprovato- it was really helping me (i discontinued when I found out I was pregnant)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:32:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuk1ee'}, {'comment_id': 'mhukiqs', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I will! Thank you. I haven’t heard of it before and I’m\nAlways interested in exploring new options. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:33:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mhukbot'}]"
1ja5fm4,2025-03-13T11:34:53,Anyone here Taking zoloft and clonazepam during pregnancy?,"

Currently 32 weeks pregnant. Having severe insomnia and anxiety/OCD . Been taking Zoloft before pregnancy but i stop it because Im pregnant and Klonopin as needed. Im so scared to start again because maybe can cause harm to my baby.😭 ",MentalHealthBabies,5,28,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ja5fm4/anyone_here_taking_zoloft_and_clonazepam_during/,"[{'comment_id': 'mhjig70', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I took 150mg of Zoloft during my pregnancy and Xanax as needed and I have a healthy 16 months baby girl', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T15:50:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhl0ixq', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Since you mention insomnia and safety, did you try unisom for your insomnia yet?\n\nBonjesta and Diclegis are literally health authority approved (and are the brand name of unisom). This means we actually have clincial trials showing the safety on pregnant women.\n\nAdditionally, zoloft is safe during pregnancy too. The MGH center for women's health is associated with Harvard University and has some wonderful scientific content for the public on psyc meds in pregnancy. It's definitely worth a look. Don't assume no treatment means no risks, because you are also exposing your fetus to the untreated illness and it does affect them. A risk benefit analysis by a doctor compares the risks to the fetus of the untreated illness against the risk of the fetus of the medication, and goes with which one is lower. Turns out the medication has a much lower risk!"", 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T21:19:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhjysx7', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I've been on Zoloft my entire pregnancy. Started at 25mg, and have slowly increased to 100mg. 35+6 today, and baby is doing well.\n\nYour mental health is also important. Please at least bring it up with your provider to talk about options!"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T17:58:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhk41la', 'author': 'chocolatetherapy012', 'body': 'I took a small dose of Klonopin daily during my pregnancy and baby girl is 3 months old and doing great. Take care of your mental health, taking it as prescribed and as needed will not harm your baby.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T18:31:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhltt4m', 'author': 'cass1dyt', 'body': 'OK, so the big risk with clonazepam during pregnancy is that it can cause cleft palate and other birth defects if taken during the first trimester. That’s the time when your babies organs, limbs, face, etc. are all being formed. So it’s the most important. \n\nRegardless, the chances of birth defects are incredibly low, but some of the research I read suggested that there could be a connection between clonazepam and cleft palate during the first trimester.\n\nI took 1 mg of clonazepam pretty much every day during my first trimester because I didn’t know I was pregnant. My doctor took me off it immediately when we found out. I was allowed to stay on my Adderall, but took a lot less than my normal dose.\n\nSomething you should think about is that they could drug test you & your baby in the hospital. I don’t know how much clonazepam you take, but it could show up. So make sure you have a doctor’s approval & prescription or CPS could be knocking on your hospital door. \n\nMy girl is 17 months old, absolutely beautiful and way too smart for her own good. Take care of your mental health, momma. \n\nIf anything was wrong, it would’ve shown up on that 20 week sonogram. \n\nHang in there. You’re almost done being pregnant! You were built for this AND YOU GOT IT!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T23:37:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhki6bx', 'author': 'Critical_Set_8701', 'body': 'I took Zoloft my entire pregnancy with my son and it was the best thing I did for myself. I didn’t have bad postpartum depression after he was born like I did my daughter. I promise you Zoloft is safe for you and baby', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T19:49:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhlb1cm', 'author': 'Grayfoxylady', 'body': 'Went from 40mg of celexa prior to pregnancy 150mg of Zoloft during and after. \nIt saved both of our lives. \n\nUltimately it\'s a question only your DR can answer for you. But for me personally the pros of taking it majorly outweighed the cons/side effects. \nThe only ""complication"" I had was that your baby does ""withdrawal"" once they are born about 24 hours later. That sounds scarier than it ended up being, she was just super cranky and fussy.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T22:09:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0m0vk', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Yes and yes! Taking care of your mental health is so important, my personal experience with this is that both helped with my ocd and anxiety tremendously. Due to that I was able to enjoy my pregnancy more even though I was always scared in the back of my mind, I wish I had listened to people more. My baby came out healthy and is a thriving 6 month old! Please consider taking care of your mental health needs because a healthy mom is important for a healthy baby. Sending hugs\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:58:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhkgjj0', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I take effexor, seroquel, and clonazepam', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T19:40:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhqrjqa', 'author': 'fantasticfitn3ss', 'body': 'I started Zoloft for the first time during pregnancy and am still on it! My baby is almost 8 months old and is thriving!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-14T18:49:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gce8', 'author': 'daisydukers', 'body': 'I have taken lexapro during both of my pregnancies and had to take klonopin as needed during my first pregnancy for ocd flare/insomnia. All is well with both kids. Take care of yourself ♥️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:11:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mi5tvf1', 'author': 'neuesmama', 'body': 'I took 100mg Zoloft and have an incredible and healthy and smart almost 2year old', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T03:34:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hzwx', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Thank you for replying🥺 hopefully same result as you.😔 been struggling mentally lately☹️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:21:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mhjig70'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hhda', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': ""Been on 25mg for  2 weeks and now I'm on 50mg (2nd day) on zoloft . Still suffering from side effect which is fatigue and insomnia🥺 how many weeks will it takes?😢"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:18:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mhjysx7'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hmiv', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Started already klonopin 2 days ago. Hope will not affect the baby🥺', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:19:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mhk41la'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hruq', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Hopefully it safe for the baby🥺 but now still dealing with side effect of zoloft . Going to 3 weeks🥺', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:20:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mhki6bx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkcxgpp', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Ohhh thank you for the good words🥰', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T19:49:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0m0vk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gp7w', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'How the baby?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:13:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mhkgjj0'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gnq0', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Ohhhh. Thats good to hear🥺 thank you tho for replying.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:13:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mhqrjqa'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gjx3', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Good to hear 🥺 been worrying regarding this .thank you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:12:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0gce8'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0i0sr', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I think they typically say 2-3 weeks, so hopefully it will get better for you soon! I take mine at night, which I found helpful, and I've been taking Unisom my whole pregnancy so thankfully haven't dealt with much insomnia."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:21:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0hhda'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0j12y', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Havent given birth yet but healthy at 28 weeks gestation', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:27:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0gp7w'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0iduk', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Hopefully next few days will be better🥺 i will take it at night starting tomorrow! Unisom is not working with me. I have to take clonazepam at bed time. 🥺', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:23:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0i0sr'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0jwyp', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Are taking clonazepam daily?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:33:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0j12y'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0k8yu', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Yeah, was at 2mg pre pregnancy and now at 0.5 mg', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:35:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0jwyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0kquj', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Im taking also 0.5 mg at night. 🥺 Thank you for replying tho. I was worried regarding it .', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:38:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0k8yu'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0ky0y', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'My anxiety and ocd have been so amped up in pregnancy. I am exclusively formula feeding so that I can immediately go back on my full meds/doses regimen. You got this!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:39:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0kquj'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0lbjy', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Thank you for positives vibes💪🏼', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:41:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0ky0y'}]"
1j8zjvx,2025-03-12T01:09:54,partial hospitalization/IOP,"i spoke to a program today and they said the average length of treatment is 3-4 weeks (outpatient). i’m trying to figure out how i would logistically do this. i guess hire a nanny for the full day and require her to do school and kid’s therapy and activity appointments? i’d pay for mileage too. i wonder if i can find a short-term nanny with flexibility for this. my mom can’t take that long off of work but will be retiring in summer, so should i wait until late june? (not ideal, but would be easier.)

the tunaround for intake seems pretty fast, so i’d need a nanny ready to start very quickly.

has anyone else done a program and managed childcare successfully?",MentalHealthBabies,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j8zjvx/partial_hospitalizationiop/,"[{'comment_id': 'mh9kv9v', 'author': 'Late-Revolution5373', 'body': 'are you able to do the IOP through zoom?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T01:53:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1j8zjvx'}, {'comment_id': 'mhbaly8', 'author': 'Fluttery-Flower-24', 'body': 'Do they have an evening IOP option? Or is it during the day time?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T07:06:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1j8zjvx'}, {'comment_id': 'mh9msjl', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'in person is better for me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T02:02:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mh9kv9v'}, {'comment_id': 'mhbdw20', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'have only seen daytime here', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T07:24:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mhbaly8'}]"
1j7m8o3,2025-03-10T06:05:58,Do children really worth all this pain?,"""Everyone says that kids are the biggest blessing in life, but the reality seems the opposite! No rest, constant stress, endless demands… and now that I’m 7 weeks pregnant, I feel it even more. The nausea is unbearable—I feel sick all the time, can’t stand any smells, and just can’t explain how awful it feels afyer combining it all with anxiety. I’ve officially given up on the dream of rest. I chose to get pregnant this time, but now I’m wondering—are these my true thoughts, or am I just feeling this way because of the sickness? Parents, be honest—is it worth it, or just another illusion?""

",MentalHealthBabies,1,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j7m8o3/do_children_really_worth_all_this_pain/,"[{'comment_id': 'mgz891y', 'author': 'bennynthejetsss', 'body': 'Okay first off… you’re in the thick of it. 7 weeks is fucking awful. Aside from the poor souls who have HG, the nausea and the fatigue improve a lot in the second trimester.\n\nWorth it…? Yes. Fucking hard? Yup.', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T10:56:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mgyh21h', 'author': 'writekit', 'body': ""Overall, I have a better time with my kids after they're born than while they're growing in my body.\n\nFirst trimester symptoms can be really unpleasant. I tend to do a bit better starting around week 14. I've had okay third trimesters (feeling a bit uncomfortable, waking up to pee, etc.) but honestly prefer the newborn stage to third trimester.\n\nI have no regrets, though I definitely experience some days that are hard. My 4 year old is so imaginative and fun (and constantly pushing boundaries and sometimes not so nice to people). My newborn is as cool as a newborn can be. I don't want to rush ahead, but universe willing, there will be two more cool adults in the world someday because of me and my partner.\n\nI am also on anti-anxiety meds and seeing a therapist who specializes in pregnant and postpartum moms. I'm *also* on maternity leave so I don't have to worry about work nonsense for a few months."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T07:41:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mgyhqm8', 'author': 'InternationalRoad225', 'body': 'It’s worth it for me personally. The first trimester is very tough though. Hugs.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T07:45:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mgyicd3', 'author': 'uppercasenoises', 'body': 'Pregnancy was the worst i have ever felt, but I love everything about being a mom. Everyone told me that I would forget how bad it was and miss being pregnant, or think “it won’t be so bad to do that again”. They were wrong about that part, it is still horrible to remember and I would like another child but I don’t know how I am going to survive pregnancy again.  While I was pregnant I seriously regretted it some days, and I used IVF. But I would do it again for my son, now that I know him.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T07:49:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mh15a6l', 'author': 'daisyduck19', 'body': 'Being pregnant can sometimes really suck and be awful. It’s uncomfortable, painful, and can be filled with anxiety. But, yea, kids are pretty amazing. Exhausting, but amazing.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T20:31:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mh2q8ow', 'author': 'waitingforgooddoge', 'body': ""Being pregnant is rough! Especially 1st trimester. It's hard to compare that discomfort and exhaustion with the reality of a baby, toddler, little kid, big kid... once they're out of your body and you feel like yourself again, the real fun part begins, and you can share the burden with your partner/village. Pregnancy is especially hard because you're in it alone. \n\nWorth it for me and my family! Everyone's experience is different but a lot of the awful parts of pregnancy will go away as soon as baby is born."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-11T01:02:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mh0d4a4', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Exactly. Completely worth it, completely exhausting and difficult', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T17:41:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mgz891y'}]"
1j3snn5,2025-03-05T07:58:15,How many of you got PPD or PPA after birth?,"Hello! I’m 26 weeks pregnant with a history of depression, anxiety, and OCD. I have a great psych and therapist and manage very well on meds but I am so scared about getting PPD, PPA, or even psychosis after birth. My pregnancy has been so good to me mental health wise, I really thought I’d be down bad with anxiety but my mind is clear and quit most days. I asked my psych and he said an indicator of how you feel postpartum is how you feel during your pregnancy after around 24 weeks and on. Idk if I believe that and wanted to see if it rings true or not true for you guys. ",MentalHealthBabies,6,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j3snn5/how_many_of_you_got_ppd_or_ppa_after_birth/,"[{'comment_id': 'mg2zpig', 'author': 'RTJ333', 'body': ""I've had two children now, and took my medications, mood stabilizers throughout my pregnancies. have bipolar 2. Thankfully, I did not get Postpartum depression/bipolar/psychosis although, like you, I was aware of the increased risk. I do think my medications played a role in my good mental health post partum and my children are and were very healthy. Healthy mom, healthy babies they say. All that said, I did plan with my husband to prioritize sleep and do other things to make our lives easier. We hired a night doula a few times a week for the first couple of months to help us prioritize sleep for our first, and we hired a mother's helper to assist for our second.\n\nGood luck to you."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T08:29:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg42we6', 'author': 'friendsintheFDA', 'body': 'I’ve always been so nervous about how I would feel postpartum and my biggest fear was not being able to connect with my baby because of depression. I kept taking my Lamictal through pregnancy and I’m 7 weeks PP now and still feel great! I also get a good chunk of sleep at night doing shifts overnight with my husband and definitely think that helps. Good luck mama you got this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T13:14:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg91cnm', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I had PPD after birth and it was my first experience with diagnosed mental illness. I believe I probably had some form of mental illness before the PPD, but couldn’t ignore it anymore when my symptoms got so bad after the birth of my daughter. I am now pregnant again and feel very hopeful that I won’t have PPD again. \n\nWith therapy, meds, and lifestyle changes, I believe that PPD is very preventable and/or treatable. In my experience my PPD was terrible because I truly was not prepared and had no idea how to deal with my mental health. I think the fact that you even have this question and concern may be a good sign that you are taking your mental health seriously and it seems like you are doing everything to be prepared. I think you will be fine ❤️. And if you do have PPD symptoms, you already have a good team to help you manage and treat those before they get out of hand.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T06:32:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg3zk78', 'author': 'Altixan', 'body': 'Ah that’s a good tip from your team. I felt anxious as fuck, though not depressed during my last trimester. Stopped driving and using public transport. In hindsight those were some big signs and I feel like my team failed me. Sadly I did develop post partum anxiety and still struggling. Luckily no psychosis which my mom did have, so I was worried.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T12:42:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg4f2jr', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'My ocd went wild at about 3 months PP, but nothing crazy (changing the thermostat from 69 to 72 obsessively, checking his breathing all night) My mental health during pregnancy was also fine, don’t worry about postpartum. You’ll just be so overwhelmed with love that it will feel like intense anxiety (initially) because it’s NEW, and you’ll be like “omg. If anything ever happened to this child I wouldn’t survive” but tbh I wouldn’t change that for anything.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T15:20:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg6quor', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I have a history of anxiety and depression, possibly OCD. I had bad depression in my first trimester, and very severe anxiety in my third trimester, but after the first 3-4 weeks postpartum, I was more or less fine. So I guess that does fit your psych's pattern, in that I was doing pretty well in my second trimester, and I did pretty well postpartum, all things considered. I don't think I ever fit the criteria for PPA or PPD, though I was very emotional the first 3-4 weeks of my baby's life, that seems to be pretty much normal."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T23:45:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mgbdvim', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'I’m usually sooooo down,depressed,hopeless,anxiety filled and I have been so chipper and happy this entire pregnancy. So laid back and hopeful. I hope it last I’m 35 weeks so nearing the end', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T17:35:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mgfyy8w', 'author': 'blanket-hoarder', 'body': 'I have anxiety and PCOS. My hormones felt more balanced during pregnancy (anxiety was still existent). I stayed on Zoloft and went to therapy though. I had no diagnosed PPD or PPA.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-07T08:00:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}]"
1j1v2jx,2025-03-02T22:12:32,intensive outpatient,has anyone done an intensive outpatient program? my anxiety (especially health-related) has been skyrocketing. i’m maxed out on meds. i need to get a handle on this and regular therapy isn’t enough.,MentalHealthBabies,2,12,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j1v2jx/intensive_outpatient/,"[{'comment_id': 'mfn371t', 'author': 'katecometrue0122', 'body': 'I have a few times! Never while pregnant. I have found them very helpful', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:30:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn55tw', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I have done it and found it immensely helpful! It’s hard work and changes don’t happen overnight, but it may have saved my life.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:40:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mg6mhp7', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'I’m doing a PHP (partial hospitalization program) which is an all day outpatient program. It has helped me with my anxiety and depression. I’m not perfect but I am better than I was when I started.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T23:25:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mhxofi5', 'author': 'Friendly_Performer76', 'body': 'I am also doing a mom and baby part hospitalization program. I am pregnant (no kids, yet) but went a week having non stop panic attacks that needed to be addressed quickly. My panic/anxiety revolves around sleep. I think it’s 100% worth it if you are at the end of your rope and need the extra help to get back on track.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T21:09:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mfmsdx1', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I haven’t but I recently started TMS. Can’t say if it’s going to work or not but I totally understand the out of control anxiety and it’s been really tough to deal with', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T22:37:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn56wb', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good to hear. my son is 4.5 but i have so many worries about him and my 12.5 cat :/', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:40:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn371t'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn5zjn', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good to hear. i want to reclaim my life. i’m so sick of the anxiety.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:44:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn55tw'}, {'comment_id': 'mhxu0tg', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'ugh so sorry. i had prenatal psychosis/SI. it was HORRIBLE. feel better!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T21:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mhxofi5'}, {'comment_id': 'mfmvt8h', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'what’s TMS?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T22:54:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mfmsdx1'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn5lk3', 'author': 'katecometrue0122', 'body': 'Well if it’s IOP you would only be there for a certain amount of time during the day, so you’d need childcare but the kitty would be fine for that amount of time. Some places even have different hours, like mornings or evenings that could be helpful to work around your schedule. I’m sorry you’re struggling, I have severe health focused OCD and I’m very lucky to have gotten it under control (for now) in the last couple years. I know how debilitating it is ❤️\u200d🩹', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:42:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn56wb'}, {'comment_id': 'mfulgae', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Transcrainal magnetic stimulation. It's another non drug treatment option for depression."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-04T02:53:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mfmvt8h'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn6ru9', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'it’s torture!!!!! my son does legitimately have a rare genetic disorder and loads of issues. my cat has weird health issues (currently an IBD flare - that’s what we think is happening?). luckily i’m a SAHM and my mom has offered to take time off work to watch my son. i’m very thankful. it’s been hard finding an IOP here. going to speak to my therapist tomorrow.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:47:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn5lk3'}]"
1iznb8l,2025-02-28T00:22:13,Any successful klonapin stories during Pregnancy? I am on 0.5 3 times a day with 50 mg of Zoloft as I have anxiety and panic disorder. I always notice my burping and belching calms down the moment I take klonapin.,,MentalHealthBabies,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1iznb8l/any_successful_klonapin_stories_during_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mf5nl7e', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Im also on 50mg zoloft daily and klonopin as needed. We can talk', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-28T04:35:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1iznb8l'}]"
1izhn41,2025-02-27T20:27:24,Pregnancy/Postpartum Psychiatric Hotline Resource,"Hey everyone! Just a heads-up that many states have free psychiatry phone support for both healthcare providers and community members. If you're looking for help, try searching for a ""Perinatal Psychiatry Hotline"" in your state. 

For those in Arizona, there's the Arizona Psychiatry Access Line (APAL): Providers can consult with psychiatrists about pregnancy and postpartum mental health. Patients can get one-time direct consults (must be referred by your doctor). Soon, APAL will also offer resource referrals for both providers and community members. Check it out here: [apal.arizona.edu](http://apal.arizona.edu) Hope this helps someone! 💙",MentalHealthBabies,7,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1izhn41/pregnancypostpartum_psychiatric_hotline_resource/,[]
1izdukm,2025-02-27T17:13:47,Klonopin (clonazepam) & 5 weeks pregnant!,"I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and have been prescribed Rivotril (clonazepam) for my worse ancxiety to the point I am thinking to end this pregnancy but I love my baby already. My doctor gave me the option to either take 0.1 mg daily or 0.5 mg once a week. I typically get a worse anxiety attack once a week, and then I take 5 drops to manage it. After that, I have a good week, but the attacks come back again. Next week I have an appointment for a heartbeat detection, and I’m afraid if the medication could cause any problems. I’m concerned about the potential risks to my pregnancy and baby. Which option would be safer for my baby? I’ve been told it’s okay either way, but I’d love to hear advice or experiences from others who have taken Rivotril during pregnancy.

",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1izdukm/klonopin_clonazepam_5_weeks_pregnant/,"[{'comment_id': 'mf2dljw', 'author': 'lifes-not-fair', 'body': 'I don’t have personal experience with an ongoing pregnancy, but when I was pregnant (ended in a MC), I was told that Ativan in small doses is the safest option for a benzodiazepine during pregnancy.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T18:54:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2wjk6', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Ativan proven safe even daily use in pregnancy', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T20:40:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2o8jp', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I took .5 mg every night as directed by two different specialists in this field and have a happy healthy 1.5 year old. My reproductive psychiatrist assured me it’s safe at these low doses. The doses your doctor is suggesting are even more conservative.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T19:56:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2oaik', 'author': 'vampirenurse', 'body': 'Here is some good information to read: https://mothertobaby.org/fact-sheets/clonazepam/\n\nIt would be a good idea to find a perinatal psych provider that does med management to help with options and optimizing what you’re taking throughout pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T19:56:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mfly39w', 'author': 'RamblingRose91', 'body': ""If you don't have a therapist, I highly recommend seeing one for perinatal anxiety. Pregnancy hormones can alter experiences of anxiety, and with a history of anxiety, you're more likely to experience postpartum anxiety, which most doctors and obs don't really screen for (they mostly look for depression). A therapist can help you by holding space for you to talk and teaching you anxiety coping skills to use in this stage of your life.\nPostpartum support international is a great resource and has a provider index you can use to find a therapist near you. https://psidirectory.com/"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T20:02:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2l0r1', 'author': 'Aggravating-Task-959', 'body': 'My dr prescribed me Ativan since I’ve been ttc!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T19:38:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mf2dljw'}, {'comment_id': 'mf3dzti', 'author': 'beetlemammal', 'body': 'Did you take for delivery too?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T22:05:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mf2wjk6'}, {'comment_id': 'mf4dxct', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Night before I had', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-28T00:54:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mf3dzti'}]"
1iv17pb,2025-02-22T02:15:49,I want to change my meds. I feel like they don’t even help,"I’ve been on them over a year now and just found they haven’t helped. I’m seeing my dr in a few weeks and will be talking to him about the changes. What do you recommend taking with ttc, pregnancy and then breastfeeding? 

I’ve been taking lots of vitamins too. I’ve been taking probiotics, apple cider vinegar, omega 3, coq10, magnesium bisglycinate, vitamin d3, prenatal, and choline & inositol. 

The meds I am on is for my depression, anxiety, bpd, and sleep which is lamotrigine, Seroquel, and venlafaxine. I also have Ativan and I take metformin for my acne rash I get.",MentalHealthBabies,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1iv17pb/i_want_to_change_my_meds_i_feel_like_they_dont/,"[{'comment_id': 'me26br0', 'author': 'Diankapie', 'body': 'Same issue. Are you pregnant now? Usually lower doses don’t help during pregnancy because they get metabolized quicker by the liver?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T02:55:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1iv17pb'}, {'comment_id': 'me39sf0', 'author': 'InternationalRoad225', 'body': 'What meds have you tried in the past?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T07:08:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1iv17pb'}, {'comment_id': 'me40msv', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Try a perinatal psychiatrist for getting mediation managment during pregnancy.\n\nHonestly - you didn't give anyone enough information to reliably help so not sure what you were expecting."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T09:57:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1iv17pb'}, {'comment_id': 'me26yc6', 'author': 'Aggravating-Task-959', 'body': 'No I’m not pregnant right now, sadly 😅 we been trying though. I don’t even feel like Ativan does anything for me too. I’m on high dosages too for the other meds.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T02:58:18', 'parent_id': 't1_me26br0'}]"
1itffsz,2025-02-20T01:48:20,"Zoloft + Xanax, sharing notes from postpartum","6 week update:

Baby continues to be doing very well. He began rolling from stomach to back, on both sides, at three weeks and hasn't stopped. He eats well, and sleeps OK. His neck muscle muscles are very strong and he's able to hold his head up (obviously I support in the back, but he's fully able to use his own strength to hold himself up), and is a champ at tummy time. He's very alert and has started giving a few baby smiles. I originally worried about low muscle tone when taking Xanax, but upon a lot of reading felt that the risk of that was probably low because of the small dosage that I was taking; I don't think baby is showing any signs of low muscle tone at all and seems very strong.

Original post:

I have so much gratitude towards this sub.  I used the anecdotes and scientific studies posted here to form my own risk tolerance for taking medication during pregnancy. I read many, many studies on various medications and how they can affect pregnancy and a child in the long run, and I did not take the decision lightly.

Dosage:

I began taking 25 mg of Zoloft daily in my second trimester, and bumped it up to 37.6 mg and then 50 mg by my third trimester. I also took .5 mg of Xanax as needed, but usually took .25 mg. There were a few times that I took a .5mg, but that was rare. I usually took it a few times a week. I had very severe work related stress. My OB, internal medicine doc (my PCP), and therapist all supported my medication journey + advised along the way. 

Birth prep/weaning down:

As I got closer to birth, I weaned down to 37.5 mg of Zoloft. I tried to go down to 25 mg but the toll on my mental health was pretty immediate. I also stopped taking any Xanax about a month out from my scheduled C-section. I told my doctor that I was pretty nervous about the upcoming C-section, and she gave me a small prescription of buspar to take in the week leading up to the C-section. I took my first dose at 7.5 mg, and then took two tablets for a total of 15 mg each evening for a few evenings leading up to the C-section.

Birth and baby effects:

Baby was born small for gestational age, and full term at 39 weeks. My first child was IUGR (intrauterine growth restriction) without any behavioral or other meds, so my second baby was bigger with meds. Go figure. I asked my doctor why my babies were so small, and she said some people just have small babies. The pediatrician that met with me after baby was born assured me that I was doing the right thing by taking care of my mental health. Baby did have withdrawal symptoms (my greatest fear), and had  minor shakes in the first 48 hours. He didn't seem to be bothered by them at all, and otherwise is eating like a champ and sleeping very well, and did not need any NICU time or other interventions. My first child, again with no medications taken during pregnancy, needed some time under the heater to warm him up and had low white blood cell count, so this second baby seemed to do better than my first. Everything else looks great. He's very alert, follows things with his eyes, great hearing test, etc.

Feel free to ask q's. 


",MentalHealthBabies,17,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1itffsz/zoloft_xanax_sharing_notes_from_postpartum/,"[{'comment_id': 'mdolf4w', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T02:22:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1itffsz'}, {'comment_id': 'mdom8mq', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""This is awesome, thanks for sharing. I take ativan as needed and have a history of post partum psychosis, so the potential to be taking big drugs during my next pregnancy - it is always so reassuring to see people who've actually had their babies while taking meds and that most of the time, everything goes just fine."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T02:25:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1itffsz'}, {'comment_id': 'mdpbwpg', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for sharing this! So happy for you! 🫶🏻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T04:23:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1itffsz'}, {'comment_id': 'mdqxebs', 'author': 'Public_Decision_3093', 'body': 'He would startle when let out of his swaddle, and then shake for a second or two. Definitely not non-stop. I think they can be normal for newborns esp if they are pre-term.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T09:44:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mdolf4w'}]"
1it0m7g,2025-02-19T13:50:25,Why can’t I think clearly when I actually want to?," frustrating when you want to think, but your brain just refuses to cooperate. It's called ""mental block "". This can happen for several reasons:  

 1. Overthinking & Pressure  
- When you force yourself to think, your brain can freeze up.  
- Fix: Try freewriting or speaking your thoughts out loud. No pressure, just let ideas flow.  

 2. Mental Fatigue & Stress  
- If you’re overwhelmed, your brain might just shut down.  
- Fix: Take a break, go for a walk, or do something relaxing to reset.  

3. Lack of Stimulation  
- Sometimes, the brain needs external input (reading, music, conversations) to get going.  
- Fix: Read an article, watch a video, or brainstorm with someone else.  

4. Fear of Thinking Wrong  
- If you're afraid of making mistakes, your mind avoids thinking at all.  
- Fix: Remind yourself that thinking is a process, and bad ideas often lead to good ones.  

5. Brain Fog & Anxiety
- Anxiety can cloud your thoughts and make focusing difficult.  
- Fix: Try deep breathing, meditation, or even writing down your worries to clear space in your mind.  

6. Distractions & Overstimulation  
- Social media, noise, and multitasking can make it hard to focus.  
- Fix: Find a quiet place, turn off notifications, and focus on one thought at a time.  

It always happened with me. Does this happen with anyone else as well?

",MentalHealthBabies,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1it0m7g/why_cant_i_think_clearly_when_i_actually_want_to/,[]
1il7v69,2025-02-09T11:12:35,Starting Zoloft,"Hi so I am 7 weeks pregnant. I have a 6 month old baby. I’ve always had anxiety, depression, and OCD but after having my baby it’s gotten so so bad. I feel like I can’t connect with my baby fully cuz I just am in rage and I know I need help. After getting pregnant again it got even worse. I talked to my OB and she said to start Zoloft, the one thing concerning me is she told me that it will take 2 weeks to kick in, and I won’t even notice any difference at first when I start taking it. She didn’t tell me about any side effects. But all the stuff I read online people say there is side effects until it fully kicks in? Has anyone ever taken it and had no negative side effects? I just get worried I’ll take it and the adjustment period will be tough, since I have a baby to take care of all day. My husband helps me but only in the evenings since he works.",MentalHealthBabies,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1il7v69/starting_zoloft/,"[{'comment_id': 'mbsk00b', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""The OB is starting you off low, and that's good.\n\nSide effects can occur with any medication. There should be a list of side effects on the patient leaflet of your prescription.\n\nMost common side effects are mild (think like dry mouth) so it's generally fine to start whenever. Some side effects can get better with time, but dont have anything to do with the drug working (so its not like you have bad side effects and then the drug magically works 2 weeks later). Some people definitely don't have any major side effects and feel better even on the low initial starting dose.\n\nIn the unlikely event you have major side effects, call your doctor. Sometimes people need to try a few antidepressants before they find the right one, so you may also want to seek support from a perinatal psychiatrist or a regular psychiatrist as well if the zoloft isn't working great for you.\n\nAlso, just a recommendation, if you can ERP therapy for OCD is definitely another good treatment option."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T11:20:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbsj2pp', 'author': 'DegreePale404', 'body': 'I wanted to start it tomorrow', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T11:13:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbswai4', 'author': 'Piinj_1234', 'body': 'I’ve started Zoloft both my pregnancies and my side effects have been very mild and only lasted a short while. My only comment is to keep your expectations low on effects after two weeks. My dr told me the same but it took me about 6 weeks to start to feel better the first time, while also doing ERP. If you go to r/zoloft you will see that for most people it takes more like 4-8 weeks to start to notice a change. Zoloft was a life saver for me! So happy it exists!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T13:08:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbsy52w', 'author': 'destacadogato', 'body': 'Zoloft works amazingly well for me! You may even start to notice it working sooner. I also have ocd, anxiety and depression. The Zoloft really helped ease my over thinking brain. I feel more present and go with the flow. \n\nSometimes your symptoms can get worse before they improve when starting anew medication, but remember it’s only temporary and relief is coming! It is worth it', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T13:25:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbuld35', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'It worked in 3 weeks for me with minimal side effects. Good luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T21:03:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbvk02d', 'author': 'Quiet-Picture828', 'body': 'Zoloft has been incredible for me! I felt so hopeless and depressed before starting and really debated not taking it because I was scared of side effects. I noticed relief within 3 days of starting it! I’m so glad I started it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T23:47:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}]"
1ig6mew,2025-02-03T01:51:53,Anxiety and Depression First Trimester,"I’m 12 weeks pregnant. Since I found out I was pregnant I have been dealing with tons of anxiety and depression. At the time I found out I was on 200mg Zoloft for anxiety, depression and panic disorder. It was determined that was no longer working for me (and probably hadn’t for years.) I had been on it since I was 12-13 and I’m 39 now. 

The psychiatrist switched me to Lexapro and Hydroxozine (as needed for anxiety). I started on a low dose of Lexapro and have worked up to 20mg. I have been on the 20mg for 12 days. 

The last week and a half I experienced the worst depression and anxiety to the point where I thought I couldn’t continue the pregnancy. Has anyone had a similar experience on Lexapro? If so, did you find that Lexapro eventually worked for you? I am meeting with my psychiatrist this week to talk about it and see if maybe I need to be on something additional as well. My whole pregnancy so far has been a nightmare of anxiety and panic attacks. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ig6mew/anxiety_and_depression_first_trimester/,"[{'comment_id': 'mam6msr', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had SI and prepartum psychosis in my first trimester, just like my mom did. i can’t even describe the anguish i suffered - and it was a planned pregnancy. i THINK i was on lexapro (been almost 5 years and i don’t recall). i’ve had to change meds and doses a TON over my lifetime. see if you can titrate your dose. may just need to tweak a bit. FWIW the hormones settled in the 2nd tri. feel better!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T02:02:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamnrb9', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I'm not on Lexapro, but I did need to modify my SSRI dose near the end of the first trimester. The hormones are wild, and my brain needed a little extra support. Perhaps your doc can help modify your dosing?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:26:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamqduu', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'A lot of times you have to increase your meds. My psychiatrist bumped me up to Zoloft 300 mg by the end of pregnancy. We increased twice.\nI would see if you could consult a perinatal psychiatrist', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:39:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamrfm5', 'author': 'Material-Use6673', 'body': 'Also 12 weeks + really struggled between weeks 4-11 with anxiety. As everyone as said, the hormones are no joke. I finally feel like I’m turning a corner as I enter the second tri. I hope the same goes for you, and as your taper on lexapro goes up. Wishing you health and a peaceful anxiety free anxiety. ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:44:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'maooc3r', 'author': 'destacadogato', 'body': 'So when I was in my first trimester, I was on 100 mg of  zoloft and I experienced a really bad, temporary depression that eventually went away. It was all the hormonal imbalance. They up to me to 150 mg which helped but that like month and a half long depression was brutal. I cried every day and it felt like somebody in my life had just passed away every day I woke up.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T10:02:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'maprg34', 'author': 'tikibarnurse', 'body': ""So sorry to hear this. You describe symptoms possibly associated with Antidepressant Discontinuation Syndrome (ADS). Were you gradually tapered off Zoloft? You had been on it for so long that I do hope so. I also hope that you had been offered some adjunct, weekly individual perinatal psychotherapy in the context of your increasing anxiety and depression during pregnancy like Interpersonal Psychotherapy before it was determined that Zoloft wasn't working for you. Pregnancy is a time of so much physiologic change and medication approach to these changes really need to be approached cautiously. I would really recommend finding either a perinatal psychiatrist or perinatal mental health nurse practitioner if possible for a second opinion and/or expert in perinatal psychiatry, especially with how you have been feeling."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T15:53:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mapz6vi', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'The only thing that stopped the panic attacks in my pregnancy was as-needed Ativan. Usually about 5-10 pills total in a7 day period of the lowest dose.\n\nSSRIs like lexapro give me a type of anxiety that borders on psychosis and sends me to the ER. Only strong antipsychotics and benzos can stop an attack an SSRI causes me.\n\nHaving said that, Wellbutrin is an antidepressant that has worked very well for me for over 9 years. It barely affects serotonin, mostly just norepinephrine and to some degree dopamine.\n\nGabapentin helps a lot of peoples and while it helps me to some degree, I still wish I was never put on it because being off of it has so far proven impossible', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T17:07:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamrol0', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'Thanks for the info! I have a perinatal psychiatrist. She’s just been difficult to meet with but I’m finally meeting with her this week.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:45:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mamqduu'}, {'comment_id': 'manhisl', 'author': 'sunkiss038', 'body': '+1 — hormones during pregnancy make you metabolize SSRIs faster, so the same dose becomes less effective. My reproductive psychiatrist pushed my dosage up for the second time this pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T06:02:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mamqduu'}, {'comment_id': 'mamrqz7', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'Thank you! I’m sorry you have struggled too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:46:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mamrfm5'}, {'comment_id': 'mi01abm', 'author': 'MorningShowerScotch', 'body': 'It’s really helpful to read this, thank you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T04:44:13', 'parent_id': 't1_maooc3r'}, {'comment_id': 'mapu4zr', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'I was gradually tapered off the Zoloft and then slowly transitioned to the Lexapro. Thanks for your insight! I did have some therapy (not a ton) and they decided to make my medicine change. I ended up in the hospital after I found out about the pregnancy because I was in such a panic and hadn’t slept in a few days. When I was at the hospital they decided to make the change because my anxiety and panic was so out of control.  I do have a perinatal psychiatrist that I am working with now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T16:20:34', 'parent_id': 't1_maprg34'}, {'comment_id': 'mavifyk', 'author': 'tikibarnurse', 'body': ""I'm glad to hear that you were gradually tapered off. I'm specializing in perinatal psychiatry now and have two psychiatrists that are currently training me. I highly recommend advocating for weekly individual psychotherapy for you (either in person or virtual) alongside your SSRI treatment from now until the first year of baby's life for maximum results in navigating your increasing anxiety and mood symptoms and role change/parenting. I see the difference in clinic with my pregnant patients, especially those with trauma histories and anxiety,  in just a matter of a few weeks. If you are open to a birth or postpartum doula, that would be great, too for additional support. I hope it all goes well for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-04T10:43:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mapu4zr'}, {'comment_id': 'mazs638', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'Thank you. I am actually getting ready to start a women’s partial hospitalization program to get better medication management and more intense therapy now. Once I finish my two weeks in the program I will go back to meeting with my psychiatrist and my therapist on a regular schedule.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-05T02:56:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mavifyk'}]"
1ic4wog,2025-01-28T21:34:11,40 mg Vyvanse breastfeeding 9 month old,"Everyone in my family is worried about this. I’m also a little worried. We’ve had a few days with my taking it and she was normal 2 out of 3 days. Today’s the 4th and we’ll see. I take other medications: Wellbutrin, Latuda, and gabapentin. Other moms breast feeding babies on Vyvanse and other meds and notice everything being normal or… not?

Update:
So far everything seems to be mostly fine. Some nights she’s more active (wakes asking for milk more frequently), some not. Demeanor and development stuff seem totally normal during day. 

I get muscle tension from it, but the side effects are lessening every day. Trying to stick with it because my family has reported that I already seem SO much more together/with it/involved and calm. I guess I feel that too but also the side effects like dry mouth. Doctor said side effects should be mostly gone within two weeks. Here’s hoping! 

Going to pediatrician soon and will have a good talk about it all. 

THANK YOU all so much for responding to my post. I feel so comforted knowing I’m part of a community that is balancing their needs as individuals and as parents and being able to share experiences together.",MentalHealthBabies,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ic4wog/40_mg_vyvanse_breastfeeding_9_month_old/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9o8vue', 'author': 'johnmiltonfanatic', 'body': 'My psychiatrist ok’d both Wellbutrin and adderall while breastfeeding.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T23:25:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9nwka9', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You can find a reproductive psychiatrist who specializes in the medication management during pregnancy and breastfeeding using post partum support international (PSI)'s provider directory.\n\nDr Kristin Lasseter is also a reproductive psychiatrist who posts a lot for the public on instagram."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T22:27:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9rce7m', 'author': 'Dontbeanaholeguys', 'body': 'I have been on 40 mg of Vyvanse throughout my pregnancy and breastfeeding as well as lexapro. My LO is 2.5 months and he is doing amazingly! He’s in the 75th percentile for weight and is hitting all his milestones early. He also has no problem sleeping and has been giving us 6-7 hour stretches at night. He is very chill and happy all around. I was on 60 mg before I got pregnant and will be going back to work when he is 4 months old. I just got the okay from his pediatrician to try increasing back to 60 and see how he does.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T08:33:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9nzta3', 'author': 'QueenSashimi', 'body': ""I breastfed my son while taking elvanse (UK version of vyvanse I think) and he had no problems. All the evidence, such that there is, points to it not causing issues if taken at therapeutic doses. It's when people abuse the medication and go beyond what they're prescribed that problems can arise."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T22:43:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9rssal', 'author': 'cutiepuffjunior', 'body': 'I switched from Vyvanse to methylphenidate (Concerta/ Ritalin) when I had my baby because less of it transfers into breast milk than lis/dexamphetamine.\n\n\nYou can check Lactmed for more information.\n\n\n\n\n\nMy baby was very premature so I was especially worried about any impact to her.\n\n\n\n\n\nIs that an option for you? You may need to check interactions with your other meds.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T10:15:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9r8ahj', 'author': 'fromagefort', 'body': 'I took a similar dose and my psychiatrist was monitoring the whole time. Infant Risk Center is a fantastic resource on medications while breastfeeding: https://infantrisk.com/content/adhd-medications-and-breastfeeding\n\nThey break down what data is available and what the studies actually said. Some doctors are overly conservative, and are usually looking at outcomes of studies from women that abuse amphetamines (and sometimes other drugs too), not the data on prescribed use. \n\nThe data is limited and imperfect, so you’re not wrong to be cautious. But it was sufficient that I decided a mentally unwell mother posed a higher risk to my kid than the breastmilk coming through meds.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T08:10:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9px1c0', 'author': 'pb-jellybean', 'body': 'Yes, your whole family doesn’t need to know exactly what medications you are taking, especially if they are prone to using Dr. Google.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T04:02:14', 'parent_id': 't1_m9o8vue'}]"
1iat5ng,2025-01-27T04:31:09,Positive stories with Zoloft / Klonopin,"
I have been on Zoloft for both my pregnancy, both ended in miscarriages 1 at 6 weeks & one at 11 weeks. (Babies heart stopped beating). 

I am now off Zoloft completely but my anxiety is crippling so i feel it is a 2 edge sword. 

I am worried me off Zoloft could affect the baby even more than me being on it. 

I get conflicting information from multiple OBGYNs. 

I am very lost & looking for some positive stories (if there are any) of successful pregnancies on either Zoloft or Klonopin ",MentalHealthBabies,9,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1iat5ng/positive_stories_with_zoloft_klonopin/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9cxp3i', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Was on Zoloft and Klonopin my entire pregnancy. Normal pregnancy and had a healthy baby girl on Dec 23. NICU was at my delivery for safety but she was normal.\nBeing anxious and depressed has more complications for baby than not. Baby needs a mom with a good mental health state! I would suggest seeing a perinatal psychiatrist if you can. \nThe best data my psychiatrist gave me is from womensmentalhealth.org and she told me not to look anywhere else. If your OB doesn’t support you, get a new OB.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T05:13:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9crvdx', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm still pregnant but I was on Klonopin until the beginning of my second trimester and so far baby looks good via ultrasound and blood tests.  There are a lot of reassuring stories up here so just know you aren't alone ❤️"", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T04:44:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9dm558', 'author': 'themehboat', 'body': ""I was on Klonopin for my whole pregnancy except the last two weeks. In the beginning I was on a pretty high dose (3 mg), but I slowly tapered down. My 6 week old baby is perfectly healthy as far as I can tell. I'm still scared about learning disabilities, but so far he's just like my other two kids were during whose pregnancies I didn't take it."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T07:15:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9d77cp', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': 'Please ask for the RPL panel for recurrent miscarriages to check thyroid and rule out APS lipid syndrome. I needed Lovenox and baby aspirin during pregnancy becuse of positivr APS antibodies on bloodwork without any symptoms.  i wouldnt presume zoloft or klonipin causing issues. you might want a work up with a fertility doctor to rule out issues.  \n\nthis is best pysch med rreference online\n\n[https://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/antidepressants-during-pregnancy/](https://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/antidepressants-during-pregnancy/)\n\ngood luck!!!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T06:00:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9db9eo', 'author': 'FrshmnYrMdtrms', 'body': 'On Zoloft entire pregnancy. Upped my dosage twice even. Baby is about 1.5 months old and she is healthy and thriving. FWIW my perinatologist said continuing Zoloft is almost always better for his patients than going unmedicated. Sending hugs!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T06:20:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9lu80s', 'author': 'boopixie', 'body': 'I took 2mg Klonopin (and Wellbutrin, Buspar, and Lamictal) every day of my pregnancy.  She was born happy and healthy, and is now 20 months old.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T13:59:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9mra0d', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'If you look at my post history, I took Zoloft, Xanax and vyvanse during my whole pregnancy and my healthy boy is 6 months old! No withdrawl no issues whatsoever.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T18:55:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9dmmsk', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I'm 29 weeks along, and have been on Zoloft the whole time. No issues so far, fingers crossed for a smooth remaining couple months."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T07:17:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9f7ot0', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'I took klonopin my entire pregnancy. Happy. Healthy. Perfect. 18 month old.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T14:02:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9h5qnz', 'author': 'Kind_Ad5931', 'body': 'I was on 50 mg Zoloft at the start of pregnancy, and by the start of the second trimester i was on 200 mg because it turned my anxiety and depression so bad. I’m now 7 months PP with a healthy baby', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T22:09:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9koeev', 'author': 'daisyduck19', 'body': 'On Zoloft (150-200 mg) with Ativan entire pregnancy. Have a beautiful and healthy 3 year old. \n\nI’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I can imagine the anxiety going forward, but as I’m sure you know Zoloft is one of the most studied meds during pregnancy. Hopefully you get some support and clarification soon.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T08:33:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9rblod', 'author': 'wybi3e', 'body': 'was on 50mg zoloft for over a year before getting pregnant and all throughout pregnancy and breastfeeding. baby was born healthy as ever despite being on the smaller side at 5.4lbs. she’s almost 2 now and has caught up on her weight, and is so so bright, funny, and intelligent.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T08:29:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9er4t4', 'author': 'neuesmama', 'body': 'I was on Zoloft my second pregnancy and had a healthy amazing baby girl. My pregnancy was so much more enjoyable as well as postpartum thanks to the med. hang in there. I know it’s scary. I’ve also had 2 miscarriages (1 on Zoloft, one not on it). If the drugs are working for you, you need to stay on them. It will do more harm than good to get off. Your baby deserves a healthy mama. Congrats❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T11:24:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'mb35god', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I was on both my entire pregnancy. I have a happy healthy 5 month old. I would suggest talking to a maternal fetal \xa0medicine doctor. Your mental health is important in pregnancy and after! Healthy mom = healthy baby', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-05T16:34:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'mcanscb', 'author': 'Diankapie', 'body': 'So happy for you! What doses weee the meds?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-12T07:30:26', 'parent_id': 't1_m9cxp3i'}, {'comment_id': 'mcqt539', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Thank you! I started on Zoloft 200 mg and was up to 300 mg by the end of pregnancy.\nKlonopin was 0.5 mg. 1/2 tab to 1 tab twice a day as needed', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-14T21:05:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mcanscb'}]"
1i103ah,2025-01-14T12:09:38,"On the search: two providers outright vetoed Klonopin & Adderall being continued once pregnant (currently TTC), need advice","From what I've seen, taking a low dose of both these medications regularly throughout pregnancy is relatively fine. Nothing is risk free of course, but they aren't proven to be terrible if taken correctly.

I cannot stress enough how much these meds improve my life, and how I would lose my independence without them (or some form of substitute). 

Been on the hunt for a provider, in-network, who will okay it and so far no luck. 

I cannot find an actual psychiatrist in-network, only NPs. 

Any advice? I feel like I'm just wasting time with these appointments. In case I'm lucky and someone reading this has the same insurance/can recommend a provider: I have IEHP in California.",MentalHealthBabies,6,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1i103ah/on_the_search_two_providers_outright_vetoed/,"[{'comment_id': 'm72kukm', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Can you find a maternal fetal medicine psychiatric specialist? Do a psychology today search on their special separate psychiatry page to find doctors treating pregnant and postpartum moms, esp those specializing in anxiety and ADHD?', 'score': 14, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T14:34:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm73bt3a', 'author': 'banana1060', 'body': 'I say this as someone with an NP—I’d see a doctor to manage your psych meds. 7 meds is a lot to balance as is taking meds considered risker for pregnancy. Also, a doctor is likely to be more comfortable with higher risk meds as they have more training/a broader scope. You might need to pay out of pocket for the right person, even if just for preconception consult and during pregnancy. \n\nI took 3 psych meds—one of which is lithium—during pregnancy and pay out of pocket to see a perinatal psychopharmacologist. It’s such a privilege I was able to do it, but if there’s any possible way that you can, I would. \n\nAlso, have you called your insurance provider rather than searching online. If you can get through to a person, it can be helpful.', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T18:42:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm72lnmb', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': 'Try to find a reproductive psychiatrist/maternal mental health provider. One of the resources in this [directory](https://womensmentalhealth.org/resource/patient-support-services/) (scroll down to get to your state) may be able to help you.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T14:43:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm727fng', 'author': 'deucetreblequinn', 'body': 'Good NPs can prescribe these drugs and your OB doesn\'t have to approve what you are taking. You just say you are prescribed these meds by a psychiatric specialist and don\'t talk about it during OB visits other than ""these are the meds I\'m prescribed."" Why do they have to okay it?', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T12:14:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm74zfut', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Post partum support international (PSI) has a free to provider consultation line for them to reach a reproductive psychiatrist who specializes in psycological medication managment during pregnancy.\n\nMost repro psych don't take insurance, so if you need insurance coverage I'd just have your existing provider call the line for a free consultation."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T23:58:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm73rcdo', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'My Klonopin was green lighted by maternal fetal medicine and reproductive/prenatal psychiatry. Try to find a specialist MD. My daughter is perfect and healthy. Best of luck!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T20:18:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm77slwz', 'author': 'MollyKule', 'body': 'My behavioral heath Doctor continued to prescribe my Adderall and duloxetine throughout my pregnancy. We both tested positive for amphetamines at birth so don’t lie  about it, just let your OB know. They may not even be able to prescribe class 2s', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T09:03:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm7eu3iy', 'author': 'Tasty-Wear-4055', 'body': ""I'm on IEHP and once I got pregnant, my doctor made me drop my klonopins and never prescribed them again because controlled substance :/ IEHP kinda sucks lol"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-16T12:02:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm79hyh2', 'author': 'chrissymad', 'body': 'Your OB should be able to prescribe these for you - mine was.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T18:17:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm75gfcg', 'author': 'Doctor0ctagon', 'body': ""I was allowed a very low dose of klonopin through both pregnancies (.125mg/day). However, none of my doctors in either state I've been pregnant in (NY and TX) have allowed ADD meds. :("", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T01:20:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm72rb8l', 'author': 'SubliminallyTwisted', 'body': ""I did try this and reached out to a bunch of people via email, I'll do some calling around tomorrow instead. Unfortunately when I search under psychiatry all that comes up is NPs, and the one person who got back to me stating she specialized in pregnancy/postpartum was the one who didn't want me on Klonopin/Adderall.\n\nAfter doing some more research I'm not 100% on board with the controlled substances anymore, what I can find says that it does increase risk but doesn't note by how much. It also states the studies had some pretty large inconsistencies/weren't controlled.\n\nI can live without them, it will just be extremely hard. At this point I don't know what to advocate for, I just want a healthy baby and a not terrible pregnancy."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T15:45:35', 'parent_id': 't1_m72kukm'}, {'comment_id': 'm727xb4', 'author': 'SubliminallyTwisted', 'body': ""Its the NPs who will not okay it during pregnancy.\n\nI've discussed that we are TTC and the NPs both said I absolutely must come off those meds, one NP wanted me to go from 7 meds down to 2 (which I was fine with outside of the fact she wanted to also get rid of the Adderall and Klonopin). \n\nI don't really mind it not being fine with an OB, just my psych prescriber."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T12:19:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m727fng'}, {'comment_id': 'm77sytm', 'author': 'MollyKule', 'body': 'This is such great advice!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T09:05:26', 'parent_id': 't1_m74zfut'}, {'comment_id': 'm7eum6s', 'author': 'SubliminallyTwisted', 'body': ""Exact issue I'm running into. \n\nNo matter who I speak with - they all require dropping controlled substances, and one of them told me its because they could technically be held liable in some form if our baby came out with a disability. Unsure of how true that is, but I suppose it makes sense.\n\nI refuse to work with any provider who won't promise they will prescribe my controlled substances after giving birth though, that's my worst nightmare. Takes so long to find a provider who isn't afraid to give you a controlled substance, even after proving you need it. :/"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-16T12:07:05', 'parent_id': 't1_m7eu3iy'}, {'comment_id': 'm73w5db', 'author': 'catsonpluto', 'body': 'FYI there is research showing no ill effects from therapeutic doses of stimulants during pregnancy. There’s a big difference between prescribed Adderall and meth use. \n\nI am 37 weeks pregnant and have stayed on Wellbutrin, Zoloft, Vyvanse and Adderall my whole pregnancy. Baby is doing great. My OB and psychiatrist agreed that me being unmedicated for my ADHD would be worse than taking the meds. So it is possible to stay on them. \n\nI am not on your health plan but am in CA. There’s a provider in LA called Insight Choices that has specialists in adult ADHD. They may be able to help you. No advice on the Klonopin as I don’t have personal experience with that but they are fine with stims, particularly if you bring unmedicated would put your safety or employment at risk.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T20:44:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m72rb8l'}, {'comment_id': 'm72rlun', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': ""Well, I had a terrible pregnancy without either, but a healthy baby. It's a tough call"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T15:48:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m72rb8l'}]"
1hzcdoc,2025-01-12T07:45:55,Severe anxiety and I'm so afraid to take my meds ,I have super bad anxiety. I was on 2mg Ativan 2x daily before pregnancy. I've switched to clonazepam with my psych (she's actually a NP). My OBGYN said I shouldn't take and need to stop cold turkey. I'm so afraid to miscarry if I'm taking the Klonopin. But I'm also so anxious I'm barely functional. I'm also on Wellbutrin for depression. I was on Pristiq but was told I needed to switch. I stopped taking my Adderrall. And I have no motivation. I'm paralyzed by anxiety. I just have no idea what to do. I'd love to hear from people whose docs said it was ok to take benzodiazepines during pregnancy ,MentalHealthBabies,5,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hzcdoc/severe_anxiety_and_im_so_afraid_to_take_my_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'm6olva0', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'Hi I took Ativan during my pregnancy as needed! I do see a perinatal psych who told me if any OB gave me shit for it she would call them directly. I’m now having my baby Monday (elective/planned c section due to preexisting condition) and she’s hit every milestone spectacularly. I also took 40mg of Prozac daily.  I felt so so guilty for taking it but as everyone says it truly is way better for the baby when you take care of your mental health - the risks of these medications are so so marginal and of course if you can avoid them it’s recommended but that’s not everyone’s reality. My anxiety was so severe my normally very medically conservative husband ended up “forcing” me to take them. Taking care of you is taking care of baby - you got this 💖', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:11:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6on71l', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'I am on 150 mg of Zoloft, 7.5 mg of mirtazapine, and 2 mg of Ativan as needed. Ok by both my MFM OBGYN and my perinatal psychiatrist', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:19:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6qlu3f', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Search the sub. I had two specialists green light my daily Clonazepam (.5) and have a wonderfully healthy child.\n\nSeek a second opinion. I saw maternal fetal medicine and reproductive/prenatal psychiatry. Not sure your OB is up to date on current research.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T18:40:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm7lv315', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""This isn't what you asked, but I stayed on adderall through both pregnancies with the support of my OB and psychiatrist and a neonatologist I met with to discuss medications, and both of my babies were/are healthy. \n\nI'm mentioning this because being untreated for ADHD can make your anxiety worse."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T15:53:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6pewgc', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'I took about .5 mg for the entire half of my first trimester and .25 for the second half. In second trimester now and I take .125 daily and .5 if I have a panic attack. This was approved by my psychiatrist who is a specialist in mental health disorders during pregnancy. Baby is doing great and many others here have stories of their babies doing well too. My doctor said the chances of withdrawals or birth defects are next to none with the current plan I’m on and that she’s had other patients take much higher doses with no problems. \n\nNot a doctor but I think taking it as needed has very little risk from the info I’ve researched and gotten from my doctor.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T11:37:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6q1ups', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': ""Ativan safe during pregnancy but it's so much weaker than Klonopin. My body went nuts forced back onto Ativan after a month on Klonopin. I would say you would need a higher dose now of Ativan than you used to before switching to Klonopin. This is just based on what happened to me"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T15:29:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm9frz4l', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I was on klonopin my entire pregnancy, my little girl was born healthy, no withdrawals and is now a very happy and healthy 19 week old.\nTake care of yourself. Healthy mom = healthy baby. 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T17:22:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm71g9c6', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'I am taking 20mg of add. If I went off i would be non functional. Multiple doctors have said it is fine, better than taking daily benzodiazepines.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T08:53:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6om136', 'author': 'FalseRow5812', 'body': 'Thank you! 😭 I needed this so badly. How did you find a perinatal psych? I am struggling so hard', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:12:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m6olva0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6v6esp', 'author': 'daisydukers', 'body': 'You gave me so much peace of mind during my pregnancy when I had to take klonopin for a part of it. Happy to see you still posting on here. Thank you', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-13T09:12:16', 'parent_id': 't1_m6qlu3f'}, {'comment_id': 'md0g8up', 'author': 'Diankapie', 'body': 'How much mgs did you take?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-16T08:27:01', 'parent_id': 't1_m9frz4l'}, {'comment_id': 'm6ongta', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I went through my insurance company to find someone - saw a totally random doc via zoom maybe 3 times throughout the pregnancy. I found them probably mid way through the first trimester after the OB told me blanketed “no” to everything and I was like Im going to need to understand a little more than that... Next time I saw my OB I told her I’m seeing a perinatal psych who ok’d my meds and she didn’t bat an eye. I did actually get shit from the pharmacist everytime I picked up a prescription which at the time made me feel horrible but now just makes me really annoyed.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:21:23', 'parent_id': 't1_m6om136'}, {'comment_id': 'm6ynmk0', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': ':) howd everything turn out for you? I do it to pay it forward since people on here reassured me when I was pregnant and so scared about it.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T00:11:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m6v6esp'}, {'comment_id': 'm6qlj83', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'Omg the pharmacist did this to me too. It made me soooo angry. And then I lost my baby at 20 weeks and she continued to do it and I was like I TOLD YOU IM NOT PREGNANT ANYMORE', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T18:38:10', 'parent_id': 't1_m6ongta'}, {'comment_id': 'm7ksyf2', 'author': 'daisydukers', 'body': 'Everything turned out perfect! Baby needed like 3 hours of CPAP at delivery but now he’s over a year old and thriving! I’m actually pregnant again and this one has been much easier on me mentally (so far and fingers crossed it stays that way). We sacrifice so much to get these babies here!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T09:53:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m6ynmk0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6rufwq', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I’m so sorry for your loss. but, yeah like what a question!! Fill my meds and let me go plz ty', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T22:54:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m6qlj83'}]"
1hzc2xc,2025-01-12T07:30:09,"On unsafe/possibly unsafe for pregnancy psych medications, prescriber won't switch to safer alternatives",,MentalHealthBabies,2,1,/r/TryingForABaby/comments/1hzbssk/on_unsafepossibly_unsafe_for_pregnancy_psych/,"[{'comment_id': 'm7luksq', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""You should meet with a reproductive psychiatrist who will be able to give you a better idea of what the safest options are for you and your baby. This is a better way to handle things than to just advocate for yourself with someone who is not experienced in managing mental illness during pregnancy. \n\nYou might be surprised by what they say! You mentioned needing to stop adderall, but it's actually pretty likely that you can keep taking it. I did through both of my pregnancies, and I have two healthy babies. \n\nIf you're in the US, scroll down from [this link](https://womensmentalhealth.org/resource/patient-support-services/) to find potential reproductive mental health care practices. You can also search the same website [(MGH Center for Women's Mental Health)](http://womensmentalhealth.org) for the names of your medications if you'd like to read some of the research about their use during pregnancy. \n\nIf you're not in the US, you might have the best luck reaching out to [Postpartum Support International](http://postpartum.net) (even though I know you're not pregnant yet). They have a provider directory that should include people familiar with managing medications during pregnancy. \n\nIt's hard to have a healthy baby if you're not pregnant, and that includes being mentally healthy. I would not recommend trying to come off all of your medications without the support of someone who is very qualified to determine that that is necessary."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T15:48:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzc2xc'}]"
1hvactp,2025-01-07T02:55:47,PTSD / Disoriented when woken for feedings,"Hi! what strategies would you recommend for getting up and doing night feedings when baby cries? (breastFeeding on demand). My friend has PTSD that was treated and well controlled, but the hormonal shifts and sleep deprivation of the postpartum have brought back some nighttime symptoms. When woken for night feedings (by baby crying or by husband who was woken by baby crying) she is having flashback and dissociation symptoms (thinking there is a threat present, scared, accusing husband of trying to hurt her). Just looking for strategies other moms with mental health needs have used to fully wake up and attend to night feedings — especially amid PTSD symptoms occurring at night :) ",MentalHealthBabies,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hvactp/ptsd_disoriented_when_woken_for_feedings/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5sogzl', 'author': 'Anxietyandprovolone', 'body': 'She needs sleep.  Period.  I’ve lived this Hell and having come thru the other side, I’d do anything to have had someone take the baby for one of their feedings so I could get some unbroken sleep.  \n\nIf she can pump enough breast milk, her partner can bottle-feed baby while she gets precious consecutive hours of uninterrupted sleep.  \n\nIf she can’t pump, formula feed one time a day for the sake of everyone’s welfare.  It won’t matter, I promise you.  \n\nDon’t let her be like me.  I nearly killed myself and starved my newborn because I could not form rational thoughts or produce enough milk.  My mind and body were spent.  I needed rest.  Thank God we survived but it didn’t have to be like that.   \n\nI hope she can find some relief.  It is so hard.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T06:37:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1hvactp'}, {'comment_id': 'm5t13jk', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""If it's not well controlled anymore, she needs to go back to her medical team and reevaluate medication and therapy options.\n\nPTSD is a legitimate medical issue - but so is PPA and PPD and they do have overlapping symptoms. You can't really DIY strategize your way out of any medical issue (and self diagnosis isnt really the best), so she really needs to take the increase in symptoms seriously and go back to her health care team. \n\nMental health issues are just as legitimate as physical ones. You wouldn't try to recommend DIY strategies for a friend who was having cardiovascular issues post baby. This isn't different becuase it's mental health."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T07:48:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1hvactp'}]"
1huof5u,2025-01-06T07:55:47,OBGYN and psych recs ,"Hey everyone,

I have been struggling with really severe panic attacks since I’ve been pregnant and they’re absolutely debilitating. I’ve spoken with my psychiatrist and OBGYN and both said no benzos. But honestly I’m not sure how I’m going to get through this pregnancy without them. I don’t think I need them daily but when the panic sets in it’s incredibly difficult to come back down. 

I’ve been looking up research on the effects of benzos during pregnancy and the newer research seems to support the use of them or state they find no increase risk of fetal developmental issues, etc. my OBGYN and Psych don’t seem to share the same sentiments.

I’m at wits end. Does anyone have experience with this and a doctor they could recommend in the DFW area? Maybe someone who specializes in mental health/pregnancy that might be up to date on the newer research? Any advice is appreciated ",MentalHealthBabies,7,28,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1huof5u/obgyn_and_psych_recs/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5mswkm', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had prepartum psychosis with suicidal ideation when i was newly pregnant (it got better around 14 weeks). i was on lexapro for the duration.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T08:01:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5nklys', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'I’m taking klonopin during my pregnancy. Approved by both my perinatal psych and obgyn who work together through UCLA (one of the best hospitals in the US and very up to date on current research). I’m taking as small of a dose as possible (about .125 mg) daily and up to .5 as needed for panic attacks. I recommend reading others experiences here as well.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T10:55:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5o19in', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""The MGH [Center for Women's Mental Health ](https://womensmentalhealth.org/resource/patient-support-services/) has a list of resources for this. If you scroll down to your state, you can find links that might be able to help you."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T13:32:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5n4oo7', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I saw a perinatal psychiatrist before becoming pregnant and during pregnancy. She assured me that taking Xanax was okay, up until I went into labor. My OB was also OK with me taking benzodiazepines as needed. Unfortunately not all doctors are as up to date on current research. I do suggest looking into an SSRI, especially since postpartum is a wild ride.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T09:09:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5r2k94', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I took 2 mg klonopin every night pregnant. He’s 10 months and thriving..', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T01:39:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5nfoed', 'author': 'vapidpurpledragon', 'body': 'Unfortunately most panic medications aren’t considered safe in pregnancy. Yes newer research shows it may be safe, but unfortunately the form of research acceptable for pregnancy (essentially data review ) is considered low quality evidence. Which makes providers wary of jumping onboard (especially since OB is one of the most litigious fields of medicine). So your best bet is adjusting your ssri for prevention. Focusing on therapy and controlling what triggers you can. Hug. I hope this pregnancy gets easier and that you and baby stay safe', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T10:18:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5n1mlz', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'Lexapro. I’ve had 6 doctors tell me I can’t take benzodiazepines for pregnancy', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T08:51:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5najcd', 'author': 'RestaurantDazzling35', 'body': 'Cymbalta (60mg daily) was able to keep my panic attacks at bay while I was pregnant. I’d get worked up but not go over the edge if that makes sense. Went to a high risk OB Gyn, they said no Xanax while preg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T09:44:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5o4nf0', 'author': 'Krybxby', 'body': 'My psychiatrist said for me to keep taking my 1mg of clonazepam, he told me not to worry and around 8 months if I’m comfortable we will try to taper down some before delivery. I go to speak to my OBGYN tomorrow. I know they’re going to be against it. Not sure what to expect really or what they will expect from me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T14:08:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5ok4w9', 'author': 'SnooGoats5767', 'body': 'Not pregnant but had pretty serious panic disorder, the ssri Luvox was a game changer for me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T16:53:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5psvd4', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'My doctor is high risk MFM and has no problem with me taking Ativan as needed. She said absolutely do not not take your medicine because your pregnant', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T21:53:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5st41k', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'One more thought- get the name of someone in Austin and see if they can do a virtual meeting. Pay out of pocket. It will be expensive, but I saw you make a good income. Make sure it’s a reproductive or prenatal psych that deals with pregnant women specifically.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T07:03:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm6c4ec0', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'See a perinatal psych. Mine is amazing. I took klonopin, Buspar, Adderall XR and Zoloft during pregnancy. Postpartum I’m taking Zoloft, Buspar, Klonopin as needed, and seroquel. I have a healthy baby girl and no issues with breastfeeding!\nI highly recommend MGH center for women’s health. They are the only website I trust with info too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-10T07:55:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm6zd3vu', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': ""I'll DM you"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T02:14:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5n4ezk', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You want post partum support international's provider directory. Psychatrists who specialize in prescribing to pregnant women are called reprodutive Psychatrists. I'd suggest also trying a maternal mental health therapist if you don't have one already to try therapy as a non drug approach, since it can help make the case that you need medication. Both will be listed in the directory."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T09:07:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5pxsuh', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thanks. I am going to try lexapro. Did you feel it made a big difference? I was put on Zoloft but my panic attacks started ramping up and I wasn’t sure if it was related or not. They also recommended TMS which at this point I’ll try anything so I might do that option', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:18:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m5mswkm'}, {'comment_id': 'm5pyx2b', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thank you this is helpful I’ll be checking this out', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:23:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m5o19in'}, {'comment_id': 'm5r4ydq', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I’m glad to hear that. I’ve honestly considered going out of state to terminate the pregnancy because how bad things have gotten. Im just trying to make it out of the first trimester to see if the panic attacks improve but it’s taking everything I’ve got at this point', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T01:50:48', 'parent_id': 't1_m5r2k94'}, {'comment_id': 'm5pz9oh', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I’ve been adjusting my medications and working with a therapist but it doesn’t do much for in the moment attacks which have honestly been so brutal', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:25:25', 'parent_id': 't1_m5nfoed'}, {'comment_id': 'm5r591a', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'How has the lexapro helped you? Have you noticed a difference?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T01:52:14', 'parent_id': 't1_m5n1mlz'}, {'comment_id': 'm6ks5ra', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'How frequently did you take the klonopin?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-11T19:38:41', 'parent_id': 't1_m6c4ec0'}, {'comment_id': 'm5q27aa', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'lexapro worked for me during pregnancy but i’ve since switched several times in my 4yr postpartum. it can take awhile to find a good drug combo!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:39:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m5pxsuh'}, {'comment_id': 'm5sqklc', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'Zoloft did not work for me either. Cymbalta worked best and currently I am pregnant and taking 30mg of Prozac. Had been taking Ativan 0.25 almost daily, but knew I didn’t really need it. Went of of it two weeks into pregnancy after trying to keep going lower. Sorry you are struggling. I have had success with doctors that are female at any major hospital in a large city\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T06:49:33', 'parent_id': 't1_m5pxsuh'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rhjkj', 'author': 'Prestigious-Ear-8552', 'body': 'Dr. Nonacs is great!!! Highly recommend her', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T02:50:49', 'parent_id': 't1_m5pyx2b'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rgj2h', 'author': 'Informal_Heat8834', 'body': 'I apologize I don’t have any super great advice I just wanted to send an internet hug. I skimmed your post hx and you’ve been going through such an extremely difficult time and I’m really sorry for all the things you’ve been put through. Please keep speaking up for yourself, please give yourself grace. You’re a stranger but holy smokes I am blown away at your strength and courage. There has got to be a fuckin OBGYN/ physician near you that will listen and is well educated and will HELP you. If there are any of those Facebook pages for your area where people post looking for different recommendations or resources, try to find one and post anonymously about what you’re trying to find. My sister finally found a GI doctor who listened and ran tests via Facebook recommendations. I’m praying and sending you hugs. You are being so strong girl please keep fighting the fight', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T02:46:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m5r4ydq'}, {'comment_id': 'm5u1eyr', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'Yeah lexapro has helped. It takes like 2 weeks to start working. 🩵 I was taking benzodiazepines before I got pregnant daily and I had to immediately stop taking them. I have a full support team at cedar sinai and they all said no to benzos. Pregnancy is hard. I feel for you! Hang in there', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T11:55:55', 'parent_id': 't1_m5r591a'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rqoeu', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thank you ♥️ I’m really trying my best but it’s been difficult. It’s hard because I do see people on here taking medications that I know would help with good success and without impact on their pregnancy but no one will prescribe them. I had a horrible panic attack last night and it’s been a struggle. I spoke with my Dr about starting TMS since is a non medication alternative but it takes time and my insurance needs to approve it with a prior authorization. I’m trying to do what’s best but cannot believe how difficult it’s been to get help.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T03:35:17', 'parent_id': 't1_m5rgj2h'}, {'comment_id': 'm5sr3jf', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'I would try and get refereed to a maternal fetal med specialist, but more importantly a perinatal or reproductive psych or a young and informed gyno linked to a university.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T06:52:28', 'parent_id': 't1_m5rqoeu'}]"
1ho3e2x,2024-12-28T16:23:11,Still been trying to get on an anxiety med while pregnant.  Reactions have been super abnormal.  Losing confidence.  ,"Last year I tried Zoloft twice and after the startup it helped my anxiety and mood a whole lot.   There was some apathy but I could deal.  It made me feel less anxious and ocd and like I was warm and cozy in a cocoon and could relax.  

However zoloft made me have bladder problems and I’d retain urine and UTIs and pain.  It sucked.   IC flares and retention just awful pain.   

With the approval of my MFM I’ve tried Prozac this pregnancy as well as lexapro.  They even let me try a couple lesser used antidepressants bc of my bad ocd and anxiety and history of PPA.  That includes a couple tries of low dose trintellix and viibryd, with extreme caution after an ok anatomy scan.   My reactions to them were intolerable and I couldn’t stay on them.   I just have severe startup anxiety already and I was too terrified of staring a lesser studied medication that can have third tri effects.   

For some reason I’m like almost allergic to lexapro and celexa now.   I also got what must be akathisia.   It was unbearable.   And this also happened with Prozac.  Like physically incapable of sitting in a chair, acting like I’m on a stimulant.    

I couldn’t tolerate this like I couldn’t sleep.  All of the above I’ve had issues with.  I’d been trying to find the right med for a year before I got pregnant and there would always be a problem. 

I suffer from migraines and partial seizures so Wellbutrin hasn’t been an option for me.  Basically ive tried a lot of things.  

Right now im not sleeping middle of the night because this akathisia like feeling from Prozac is so unbearable.   All my back and neck and arm muscles are tensing up against my will.   My legs and arms are restless. 

This isn’t the reaction I had to it when not pregnant.  Same with lexapro.


I’m starting to feel so hopeless.   I tried Zoloft as a Hail Mary to see if the bladder issues had resolved but it made me have suicidal thoughts.  That didn’t used to happen when I was on it and not pregnant. 

So I guess I have had some prenatal depression and nothing is working?  I guess the Prozac slightly pulled my mood up but in a way that is deeply unbearable with the severe increased anxiety and the akathisia.  Akathisia is really scary and I’m terrified to risk that affecting me and not resolving in its own.  I can’t see that being something I tolerate for 6-8 weeks in the off chance it gets better.   I’m like in physical muscular pain bc my body won’t relax and ofc increased anxiety.  I take all these vitamins too and they aren’t stopping it.    The one time I tried Prozac before pregnancy I found it really stimulating but it wasn’t like this.   I ended up going back on Zoloft the second time but Prozac occasionally helped although less with anxiety.  But this tension and agitation thing is insane and I’m guessing something with pregnancy and it’s just unbearable. 

I am at a loss.  I almost want to ask for Paxil.  It triggered a focal seizure the one single time I took it.   But that could have also been triggered by anxiety.    I know it’s cat D and they’ll probably say no I just don’t know if it’s ok 3rd tri.  I just like the idea it could be sedating instead of over stimulating but then there’s the opposite issue of being so sleepy i can’t drive.  That’s what happened to me with Luvox.   

I’m just having an extremely hard time with anxiety and depression.   And I’m struggling not to envy people who simply got on Zoloft and feel awesome now.  Zoloft was a really good balance for me of not too stimulating but not too sedating.   I just landed in the ER with the bladder stuff and this time while pregnant it triggered depression.     I am especially bummed bc Zoloft made me sleep amazingly.  And for the first time I didn’t have anxiety when falling asleep.   Lexapro Prozac celexa viibryd and trintellix all made it hard to sleep which as a high risk pregnancy I can’t deal with right now.   Luvox helped me sleep but I was almost narcoleptic.   

I’m so all over the place. 

I know moms mental health should be managed etc but staring a new med pregnant is really different from already being on one that’s working for you.  

I’m 25 weeks.  Idk this is just so weird and exhausting.   I’ve been taking vitamins and magnesium and other things for side effects but it’s just always something so unbearable like akathisia or worse depression or severe anxiety and I can’t take Ativan, hydrazine is ok but isn’t that great, buspar makes me super emotionally unstable.  

I’m at the point where I have actual dreams about miraculously one medication working for my anxiety and depression.  I also have pretty bad OCD and only ever found meds to take the edge off that, never therapy alone.

And everything except the commonly approved Zoloft just makes me so incredibly anxious that I could be harming the baby either now or after birth.   Because obviously I process these meds strangely I get so worried they are building up in my system.   I also noticed changes in baby movement on a couple of them which yea it’s too early to expect regular movement and yes the baby was likely just sleepy esp from med changes but that causes a level of anxiety it’s just hard to tolerate.   

And yes before you ask YES I have done genesight and it doesn’t seem relevant at all.  A lot of this happens with meds that had the ok.   

Anyway I’m tired.   I wish one of my dreams where something worked out would come true.   ",MentalHealthBabies,6,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ho3e2x/still_been_trying_to_get_on_an_anxiety_med_while/,"[{'comment_id': 'm46ifdh', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I have no advice but just want to say I’m so sorry you’re going through all this. Med changes can be so tough and with the added considerations of pregnancy it can be really anxiety inducing. It sounds like you are doing a great job of listening to your body and tracking your symptoms to work with your psychiatrist. I hope that you are able to find some relief soon.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T17:13:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm46w2zm', 'author': 'Terrible-Copy-6384', 'body': 'I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Have you ever trialed Remeron, or has your doctor mentioned it? It’s the only thing that has worked for me.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T19:15:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm47x7zp', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""I wonder if you're experiencing some hypomania/mania from the antidepressants. Are you working with a psychiatrist or just the MFM doc? I would ask about trying a mood stabilizer like lamictal, which is reasonably safe in pregnancy. Or maybe an atypical antipsychotic. Also, at 25 weeks, you might want to try to just ride it out with some ativan or klonopin until you deliver."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T23:02:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm4bgkab', 'author': 'ToesInDiffAreaCodes', 'body': 'Luvox and Ritalin or Wellbutrin is a great combo for me and my OCD. The fatigue is rough but worth it for my sanity.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T11:51:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm47jz85', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Have you tried looking at TMS and ECT? ECT is literally the most effective option we have for depression, and TMS is basically ECT with magnets. Neither are drug options, but insurnace will usually pay for it when mutliple options haven't worked"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T21:49:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm4vkte5', 'author': 'IndependenceOdd2024', 'body': 'You sound like me! \nI take Effexor ( love it) and Adderall XR but obviously didn’t take the adderall during pregnancy. \n\nIt helped my OCD symptoms and obsessive thinking. Thoughts still come but I don’t ruminate anymore. \n\nGood luck! I was able to stay on Effexor during pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-01T23:18:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm5stuc2', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'Could they try remeron? I normally can’t increase a med unless I Ativan. When I got off cymbalta and started Prozac prior to getting pregnant I had very weird intrusive thoughts that were hysterical and violent despite my having no clue where they were coming from. They finally went away. I had access to Ativan and that was really the only thing that gave me any relief at the time. Perhaps you are trying too many meds too quickly? So sorry you are struggling.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T07:07:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'ma2fngu', 'author': 'Seiten93', 'body': 'I am currently taking Venlafaxine. Not pregnant, just planning. I plan to take it during pregnancy. Because without it I feel like shit, terrible anxiety and lack of motivation', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T01:24:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'mairmd9', 'author': 'Trinityfoxspice9494', 'body': 'I actually had horrible postpartum anxiety/depression and was put on so many meds that did not work for me. Eventually I had my doctor do the gene test to see why I was doing so bad with these meds. It turns out I can’t metabolize SSRIs. They literally do nothing for me. They were able to see that with the test. They gave me Ativan for sleep anxiety and that worked wonders. If you have seizures Ativan can be used for your anxiety and seizures. They should have suggested that for you. Anyways I ended up taking 5HTP and that did work for me. It didn’t magically fix me overnight but it made me have a more positive attitude towards my anxiety. I was able to allow it to be there and not let it get to me and eventually it did go away because I stopped giving it attention. That’s sort of what I think the SSRI does. It just helps you battle it but in the end it’s still up to you. I’ve had anxiety my whole life but it never became crippling until I had my baby. I learned a lot about why it happens and certain mind tricks to get out of it. I’m definitely in a better place now and medication free :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-02T13:17:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm46ipxw', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'I appreciate this a lot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T17:16:09', 'parent_id': 't1_m46ifdh'}, {'comment_id': 'm47s5so', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'Maybe PP.  the MFM wasn’t comfortable with me starting that class of AD while pregnant', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T22:35:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m46w2zm'}, {'comment_id': 'm48cpr8', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'No im not.  I have epilepsy.  I was on Lamictal for that for a long time until we realized it was the wrong sure med for me.  Severe anxiety OCD worsening and shortness of breath.    Increased anger.  Not really stabilizing except helped the seizures and depression.   \n\nEpilepsy has a LOT of mood comorbidities.   One psych thought I’m ADHD as well which would explain some of this but of course we really don’t want to try stimulants yet.   \n\nI may discuss just Ativan as needed for acute anxiety until I deliver because my brain is obviously so weird right now due to hormones.  That’s a good idea.   I’m also touching base with the MFM about if I could try Paxil now we’re out of first tri. \n\nThanks', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T00:26:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m47x7zp'}, {'comment_id': 'm48cxy4', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'Oh yes I have a psych who knows all my history.   I’ve even specially asked the hypomania questions bc part of my anxiety is health and mental health anxiety and fear of going crazy.  She and my therapist are adamant they don’t think it’s that.   I also have a neurologist managing the focal aware seizures with a pregnancy safe medication.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T00:27:32', 'parent_id': 't1_m47x7zp'}, {'comment_id': 'm4dcoow', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'Thank you 🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T21:43:24', 'parent_id': 't1_m4bgkab'}, {'comment_id': 'm8x0i6h', 'author': 'Numerous-Water-1541', 'body': ""It's time consuming and you need to be nearby your do it everyday."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T20:13:21', 'parent_id': 't1_m47jz85'}]"
1hm7i5y,2024-12-26T01:14:57,Klonopin usage while pregnant,"Hi all- My husband, mother and OB have made me convinced my baby is going to come out not okay.

I’ve read through some posts on here regarding moms taking Klonopin during their pregnancy and have felt immense relief. I tapered off my prescription a few weeks ago, as I entered week 20. I was prescribed 2mg / day. My first OB encouraged me to keep taking it as he was younger and said the research is outdated, etc as some of you lovely mommas have reassured other expecting moms on here. This is my first pregnancy (out of 4 ) that has it to the second trimester. My anatomy scan was great. No complications or issues at all so far. 

My question may seem backwards but I am asking for my sense of relief and for my mother and husband as this is becoming an every day discussion of how I “already ruined our son/grandson’s life” and my anxiety over this is almost becoming debilitating: 
 Is there anything you did to try to reverse the possible effects of taking Xanax / klonopin during your pregnancy? Has anyone noticed side effects after having their baby? I am very very nervous that he is going to have issues because of my usage. I would appreciate any and all stories, good or bad, and advice, you have. Thank you 🙏🏻 ",MentalHealthBabies,9,42,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hm7i5y/klonopin_usage_while_pregnant/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3sber5', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I took .5 every night of my pregnancy. I have the most perfect kid. I also had the support of specialists who know this field- reproductive psychiatrist and maternal fetal medicine. I wonder if your OB is up to date? No one on my care team had any concerns (top US research hospital.) feel free to message me! I agonized over this.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:50:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3skwmf', 'author': 'Mindless-Minute7296', 'body': 'I have a reproductive psychiatrist who prescribed me both xanax and Rexulti. I was obviously very anxious and felt guilty having to take medications, worried about ruining my son. I spoke to my psychiatrist about this and she told me that they would not prescribe the medication if it would harm me or baby and the best thing to do for baby is to take care of myself. I’m 22 weeks, baby is perfectly healthy and moves around lots! Don’t feel bad because you need medication. I’d highly suggest talking to a reproductive psychiatrist if you are not already as they can give you, your husband and grandma information to calm everyone’s anxieties.', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:52:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sii6x', 'author': 'Altixan', 'body': 'I used it up to the second trimester (tapering was pretty hellish) but my doctors were happy to let me take it during the whole pregnancy. Baby girl is almost 1,5 years now! \nAlso, it sounds very hard to me that they tell you you are ruining your son’s life. Not very supportive!', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:36:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s5zf1', 'author': 'sexualcatperson', 'body': ""I took Xanax my second and third trimesters with my daughter and she is completely normal and was full-term. I didn't take it the first trimester due to the risks of birth defects but I literally took it the morning of my induction and took it 3-4 times a week."", 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:15:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tdh2b', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You need to refer your OB to Post partum support international's free to provider consultation line for a perinatal psychiatrist.\n\nYou can also use the PSI directory to find a reproductive psychiatrist (also known as perinatal psychiatry) on your own to get a consultation with an actual doctor who does psychiatric medication management during pregnancy. \n\nThis is a literal MD specialization for this, so go to the people who actually studied for this. Don't ask your MIL. Don't ask your husband. Don't ask reddit. Get the actual answer from someone who studied this and literally has an MD in psychiatric medication management in pregnancy. \n\nAnd, as I mentioned, the PSI consultation is free to providers so there's literally no reason for your OB not to be doing the consultation."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T07:10:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tej0n', 'author': 'writekit', 'body': ""Um. Your mother and husband are not being healthy people to be around. Also how do they expect you to get anxiety under control when they're actively sabotaging your sense of calm?\n\nWhat I'm concerned about is: all pregnancies have some inherent risk. If your closest support people are ALREADY stressing you out over this, I don't trust them to be helpful if you *need* them for something."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T07:17:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3slqie', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I take 1 mg daily and all things are going smooth & healthy. Healthy mom equals healthy baby, and yes lots of the research is outdated and ill informed. I’ve spoken with many moms who took klonopin or Ativan throughout their pregnancies and have healthy & happy children. Far better for mama and baby to avoid panic attacks.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:58:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xojr3', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I took 2.5 mg every single night pregnant and not pregnant he’s perfectly healthy he’s 10 months old now', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T03:03:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm467vjk', 'author': 'boopixie', 'body': 'Please don’t let them get to you. The research IS outdated. I took 2mg per day the whole time I was pregnant and while I was breastfeeding. No issues at all.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T15:15:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s3uzb', 'author': 'corvus_caurinus_', 'body': 'I am only in my first trimester, but I have been taking this medication nightly for a rare neurological/sleep condition. Like everything, there is risk involved, and your medical team will help guide you.\n\nAnecdotally, I can tell you about my experience. I have undergone IVF, and because of my medical condition I couldn’t even start treatment until I had approval from a maternal fetal medicine doctor. I have had an OB, sleep doctor, reproductive endocrinologist and fetal medicine doctor all give me the okay to continue taking my medicine. I have been warned that most likely known effects could be low birth weight, and my fetal med doctor has suggested more frequent scans to check up.\n\nOf course, I still feel doing nerves and guilt, I think that’s pretty normal considering the gravity of cresting a new person. But just my two cents to say I have had a whole team of doctors in varying specialties sign off on this.\n\nBe gentle with yourself 🤍', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:02:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tcxn3', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Not at the end of my pregnancy yet but wanted to let you know my story echoes yours, even quitting at the second trimester & everything.  Anatomy scan is perfect.  No abnormalities detected.  My OB has not been supportive at all & berated me at my last appointment to the point I quit cold turkey after.  She told me I've messed up my baby & drug tested me at that appointment as well, almost made me feel like a damn criminal tbh.  It's been very very hard, especially quitting cold turkey. I know it's not helpful that I don't have any reassurance yet but you aren't alone in it at least and these comments have helped me feel a lot better so thank you for posting 💖"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T07:06:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm5o4ue9', 'author': 'Krybxby', 'body': 'My psychiatrist gave me the green light to continue my 1 mg daily of clonazepam, he told me it was safe and that around 8 months, if I’m comfortable we will start trying to taper down some until delivery.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T14:10:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xvpz4', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""I basically went through my pregnancy without anything (I took Prozac but it didn't help my anxiety) and my psychiatrist did offer me anxiety meds but I refused. \n\nLet me say,\n\nIt's not worth it. Don't live in anxiety, that can be harmful for the baby AND YOU. I had a panic attack while driving when I was pregnant with my son and almost wrecked my car. I got horribly depressed and I have no real history of depression. I had horrible thoughts when I was pregnant. \n\nWith respect towards your family, they do not know what they're talking about. Unless you live through it, you don't know. \n\n\nThere are moms who take Xanax to keep their anxiety down. There are moms who take a antidepressants (which do carry some risk) to keep themselves from self harm. \n\nWhen it comes to mental health conditions that lead to addiction: There are moms (like me) who had to chew nicotine gum for the first 15 weeks to quit vaping while pregnant. There are also moms who are addicts and take methadone their entire pregnancy to get them off of drugs. \n\nAll of these things are OK under the supervision of a doctor. If they know you're taking it, they can properly monitor the risk/benefit ratio for you and your baby. \n\nWe need to end this stigma around women asking for help and being honest when they're pregnant. \n\nHave your husband sit down with your doctor and talk about how the medication works and it's benefits to you and the baby."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T03:44:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sc0ek', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:54:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sber5'}, {'comment_id': 'm3z7zmk', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'Can I please message you? I’m feeling really down. I have to take clonazepam only for flights and I will only be using it for the flight out of the country and the flight back into the country. A lot of nurses etc. have told me I will harm my baby and cause miscarriage or serious birth defects. I’m also a nurse so I feel bad that I need to take this. I have to take it in emergencies and the flights are HUGE for me. That’s the only time I will be taking the benzo.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T08:47:35', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sber5'}, {'comment_id': 'm3slo6c', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵 also, congratulations ☺️ I am looking into ones in my area now! I really appreciate the advice. Ps, we are on the same timeline for our boys!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:58:08', 'parent_id': 't1_m3skwmf'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sji8m', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵 tapering definitely sucked. It is, but I will admit I was having an anxiety attack while posting this so I probably shouldn’t have mentioned that. Definitely not looking for sympathy regarding that but thank you thank you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:43:26', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sii6x'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s655j', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:16:23', 'parent_id': 't1_m3s5zf1'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tpnm5', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you, I really appreciate the advice 🙏🏻🩵', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:42:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tdh2b'}, {'comment_id': 'm3toyvl', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Agreed. My mother is just a victim to old school thinking and Google. My husband is a different story.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:36:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tej0n'}, {'comment_id': 'm3slxdz', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵 I agree with healthy mom = healthy baby! I definitely only stopped for the people in my life', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:59:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slqie'}, {'comment_id': 'm3smhh3', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'Did you take it in the first trimester?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:03:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slqie'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xondh', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🙏🏻🩵', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T03:04:33', 'parent_id': 't1_m3xojr3'}, {'comment_id': 'mdhof7s', 'author': 'gabrielle100', 'body': 'Hey I know this is old! But just curious if you breastfed while still taking klonopin or not?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-19T01:52:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3xojr3'}, {'comment_id': 'm4lh5qu', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'Even in first trimester?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-31T03:53:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m467vjk'}, {'comment_id': 'm5q1ugx', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'Did you take it the day you went into labor as well?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:38:07', 'parent_id': 't1_m467vjk'}, {'comment_id': 'm46sowh', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you thank you 🙏🏻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T18:49:09', 'parent_id': 't1_m467vjk'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s64od', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:16:18', 'parent_id': 't1_m3s3uzb'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tqdx3', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'If you would have said your OB was a man I would be questioning if it was the same one! Lol. I’m SO sorry we had such similar experiences… mine threatened to call CPS on me, which resulted in a panic attack immediately leaving the appointment, ofc lol. I’m going to message you!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:47:50', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tcxn3'}, {'comment_id': 'm3zhgjd', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'You won’t harm your baby. I have a healthy happy PERFECT 17 month old. Thriving. No withdrawals. Easiest natural birth, no complications  (I’m not just saying that, it was my first and I had a uniquely positive experience and it was fast!) In fact the OB that delievered my baby (not my regular OB, they were out) was amazing and not the least bit concerened about klonopin. In fact, it was on my meds list and given to me day of birth, and the 2 days  following (along with my lexapro) Our baby is ahead milestone wise, the sweetest my snugly and adorable PERFECT being. I attribute this (in part) to me being my *best self* (which is medicated) during pregnancy and postpartum. If you are okay, your baby will be okay. Please remember that. And use a specialist psych, OBs know nothing about this topic, they are not trained in this, I had  my psych communicate w my OB Directly. Just be honest, always. Have no shame in taking care of yourself.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T09:52:33', 'parent_id': 't1_m3z7zmk'}, {'comment_id': 'm40ycuc', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Yes message me! I’m an academic so science and data really matters to me. The specialists went over the recent researched and assured me there was no risk at low doses.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T18:31:20', 'parent_id': 't1_m3z7zmk'}, {'comment_id': 'm3t9ok8', 'author': 'Mindless-Minute7296', 'body': 'Thank you! Aw ☺️💙 spring babies everywhere! I hope everything gets better, you got this', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T06:42:32', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slo6c'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sm6bf', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I implore you to have them view these comments to ease their mind and support you in maintaining positive mental health and therefore a positive environment for growing a child!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:01:30', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slxdz'}, {'comment_id': 'm3smmnx', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Yes, i started tapering but was afflicted with anxiety & panic attacks and ended up remaining on it at my psychiatrists advicw', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:04:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3smhh3'}, {'comment_id': 'mdjj7l7', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I didn’t breastfeed because I never produced much milk like with my first child I never produced with her either.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-19T07:30:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mdhof7s'}, {'comment_id': 'm6d7q5a', 'author': 'boopixie', 'body': 'I did. They provided it to me in the hospital as well and I was an exclusively breastfeeding mom.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-10T12:33:07', 'parent_id': 't1_m5q1ugx'}, {'comment_id': 'm76bwqh', 'author': 'relevancybox', 'body': 'I truly can’t believe your OB threatened to call CPS on you because of this.   That’s awful and I’m sorry.  I don’t understand how they wouldn’t be able to see that causing you to feel that bad might also be a pregnancy risk\n\n* edited to say I’m not implying that you’re at risk because of the panic attack 🤦\u200d♀️.   I just meant that the risk associated with bullying a person about their medication is likely just as bad if not worse than the risk posed by certain medications', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T04:03:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tqdx3'}, {'comment_id': 'm3zi60k', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'This is very insightful thank you! I think I’m nervous because I’m still only 9 weeks. Did you happen to take any benzos in early pregnancy? So happy to hear your birth went smooth and your baby is perfect!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T09:57:49', 'parent_id': 't1_m3zhgjd'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tqn1o', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you, I appreciate it more than you know!! Happy holidays ☺️🩵', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:49:49', 'parent_id': 't1_m3t9ok8'}, {'comment_id': 'm3snuab', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'I have had my mother actively reading as everyone’s comments have come in!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:12:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sm6bf'}, {'comment_id': 'm76ckh8', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you! I plan on telling him that at my apt this week. Not being able to take the klonopin, I’ve fainted four times in the last month.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T04:06:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m76bwqh'}, {'comment_id': 'm4n7p46', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'Yes I was prescribed pre pregnancy and took it as prescribed throughout.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-31T10:00:28', 'parent_id': 't1_m3zi60k'}]"
1hjzv6a,2024-12-22T20:17:28,"Struggling, need hope ","Hi, I’ve just completed 3 weeks with an increased dose of Lexapro (upped to 10mg), due to depression and anxiety. My baby is 5 weeks old.
Somehow the last few days I’ve been feeling even worse, just hopeless and my anxiety is through the roof. I had a few days shortly after starting lexapro where is felt surprisingly decent, maybe that’s the honeymoon period people talk about.

Anyone else experience a rough patch before coming out the other side? I’m speaking to my psychiatrist tomorrow so this is purely for anecdotal purposes, I’m not looking for medical advice of course.

Thank you 🙏 ",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hjzv6a/struggling_need_hope/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3akmdl', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'you’re in the throes of postpartum hormonal changes. i’d give it time and speak to your doc. i’ve switched meds many times in my 4yr postpartum in order to find the right cocktail.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:03:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1hjzv6a'}, {'comment_id': 'm3b994q', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'Give yourself grace. You will talk to your psychiatrist tomorrow and hopefully they can help. You may need another dose increase or to change/add a medication and that’s okay. Postpartum does crazy things to our bodies. But you will get through this. Hang in there.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T23:25:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1hjzv6a'}, {'comment_id': 'm3bmabc', 'author': 'AngryBeaverFace88', 'body': 'It’s the hormones, I swear. Give it time and it will eventually go away. In the meantime, search for Postpartum International, which is a free organization that provides non-medication based support for specifically helping people going through this. Hang in there!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T00:35:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1hjzv6a'}, {'comment_id': 'm3alr7x', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thanks. I am hoping that if I stick with the Lexapro I’ll see results but also scared ofc that it will be for nothing, I tend to catastrophize unfortunately.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:10:18', 'parent_id': 't1_m3akmdl'}, {'comment_id': 'm3bfyyb', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thank you ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T00:02:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m3b994q'}, {'comment_id': 'm3bp3qs', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Omg thanks so much! Means a lot, checking it out now ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T00:50:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m3bmabc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3am6ut', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'ah mental illness is fun, innit?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:12:58', 'parent_id': 't1_m3alr7x'}, {'comment_id': 'm3an0de', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Innit just', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:17:54', 'parent_id': 't1_m3am6ut'}]"
1hj7afl,2024-12-21T16:04:42,"For those of you taking Klonopin, what dosage and frequency prescribed?",My doctor prescribed 0.5 mg three times a day. Should be handling my anxiety right? Well it’s losing efficacy. What dosage are you on? I’ve heard as high as 1 mg three times a day,MentalHealthBabies,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hj7afl/for_those_of_you_taking_klonopin_what_dosage_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'meusyyi', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Hi dear. Just read your post. How are you doing? Im on the same boat. Thought we could help each other', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-26T14:05:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1hj7afl'}]"
1hfo0zx,2024-12-16T22:44:33,Unbelievable depressive episode ,"Up front, can’t take SSRIs like Prozac, Zoloft. Won’t go into into the agony they cause. 

I’m on Wellbutrin xl 300 (8 years now), gabapentin 1500-2400, latuda 20 mg, and between 1.5-4 mg Klonopin. 

I don’t know what’s going on but I’m suddenly suffering panic attacks daily while also having insufferable fatigue. 

It’s been about 2 weeks now and it’s like… I can’t get off the couch. I can’t even watch TV. I can’t do anything. I have three kids I’m struggling to care for including a baby, but my mother in law is having to do all cooking and cleaning. 

What medications and behaviors helped others on an acute anxiety-depression episode?",MentalHealthBabies,6,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hfo0zx/unbelievable_depressive_episode/,"[{'comment_id': 'm2fvypj', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Have you tried SNRIs? I also do poorly on SSRIs but did well with Pristiq, an SNRI.\n\nI find klonopin helpful for dealing with anxiety that I have every day but not for panic attacks. Klonopin can take 1-4 hours to reach its full effect whereas a shorter acting benzo like Xanax or Ativan can work quickly for panic attacks. \n\nFinally, it looks like you’re about 8 months pp from your post history. You would be eligible for Zuranolone(Zurzuvae) which is specifically approved for postpartum depression. My doctor described it as a “hard reset” but many doctors don’t know what it is so it is worth searching out a doctor who knows about it. I personally took it at about 2.5 months postpartum and think it helped with my most severe symptoms. \n\nAlso always worth asking for a blood work up since you are postpartum. Things like your thyroid or low iron could be causing fatigue. \n\nWishing you the best❤️', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T09:04:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm2cyeo6', 'author': 'Maxifer20', 'body': 'Don’t have any suggestions other than to talk to your treatment team, but wanted to say I’m really sorry this is happening and I pray that things will get better for you. It really sounds like you’re going through the wringer. It may sound extreme, but would you consider a short inpatient stay to get regulated? I don’t know if that is even a possibility for you.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-12-16T23:12:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm32x20f', 'author': 'AngryBeaverFace88', 'body': 'When I was in the depths of hell, this organization’s services probably saved my life: https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/help-for-moms/\n\nI recommend the it to everyone, particularly their support groups (both virtual and in person) but also their text line etc. \n\nI hope you feel better. I’ve been there.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T08:19:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm3355xr', 'author': 'deucetreblequinn', 'body': 'What about an atypical antidepressant like Trintellix or an older tca like elavil? My worst anxiety depressive episode ever I was brought out of by Trintellix. I had already been taking elavil nightly and Xanax as needed but the first time I was ever depressed, the atypical worked. I cannot take SSRIs either. \n\nXanax for panic and anxiety \nElavil for insomnia and ocd\nTrintellix for depression and insomnia.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T09:18:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm2hfxfd', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Thank you so much for going into these details ❤️. My doctor switched me from Ativan to Klonopin and at first it was a miracle drug!!! Then about ten days in the effect went kind of south.\n\nMy doctor wants me to do Zurzuvae. I’m afraid to try it. Do you think it really benefited you?? I see mixed reviews. Optum has denied it twice as well. I tried snris with bad results unfortunately. Made me very panicky☹️.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T17:54:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m2fvypj'}, {'comment_id': 'miqmi0t', 'author': 'Wrong-Reference5327', 'body': 'How do you find a doctor that’s willing to prescribe this? I’m terrified of going and being reported to CPS (I’m not a risk to myself or my child, just depressed and anxious).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T08:59:40', 'parent_id': 't1_m2fvypj'}, {'comment_id': 'm2dc8ze', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Thank you— I’ve contacted doctors and awaiting their replies 😭', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T00:23:44', 'parent_id': 't1_m2cyeo6'}, {'comment_id': 'm344esl', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Thank you friend', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T14:55:46', 'parent_id': 't1_m32x20f'}, {'comment_id': 'm3448sl', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'I’m going to ask my doctor immediately , thank you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T14:53:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m3355xr'}, {'comment_id': 'm2iwude', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'I by no means think zurzuvae is a cure-all, especially if you have pre-existing anxiety and depression. It did, however, help me with my most debilitating symptoms. For me that was really scary intrusive thoughts and debilitating depression similar to what you described where it was difficult to get up and do anything. Honestly I think it’s worth trying but I will say it made me even more tired for the two weeks I took it. I do not think it really did much for my anxiety and I’ve been in an on-going battle of trying to manage that and insomnia since I had my baby (also 8 months ago!). Currently on a low dose of klonopin since I’m pregnant again and seroquel at night which has helped but not completely eliminated symptoms.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T23:12:41', 'parent_id': 't1_m2hfxfd'}, {'comment_id': 'm2dihw2', 'author': 'Maxifer20', 'body': 'I’m glad you have some support - lean on them and don’t let the negative self-talk drag you down further. This isn’t anything you can control and your body and brain are going through so much right now. Hope you hear from the MD’s soon!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T00:55:45', 'parent_id': 't1_m2dc8ze'}, {'comment_id': 'm2n0h3d', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'So far insurance repeatedly denying it anyway, but I’m sure Doctor will keep trying', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-18T15:57:01', 'parent_id': 't1_m2iwude'}, {'comment_id': 'm2syax3', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Btw congratulations on your new pregnancy and wowza, you are amazing! I couldn’t do both right now. But I’m 40 yo', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-19T16:03:22', 'parent_id': 't1_m2iwude'}, {'comment_id': 'm5oq8wq', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Hi! Just updating that I had stated Zurzuvae with good psychological results but because it’s a steroid it activated dormant oral herpes and I’ve been battling a brutal outbreak that strong antivirals aren’t touching. I dropped the Zurzuvae and am so upset that I have to— it was positive for my ppd. But herpes virus is often fatal to infants and my baby is endangered. I’m desperately trying to get the outbreak under control, including frequently applying alcohol to my hands, face, all surfaces, as well as taking rx for it. Really unfortunate. Such an expensive medication too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T17:48:13', 'parent_id': 't1_m2iwude'}]"
1hez05n,2024-12-16T00:04:44,Klonopin and pregnancy.,"39 years old, 1mg of klonopin daily for about 2 years now. I take it for a panic disorder. Just found out I’m pregnant a few days ago, my anxiety has been even worse, it almost feels unmanaged by my medication now but I’m worried it is due to the nodules on my adrenal glands. I don’t even know where to start. I have an appointment with my endocrinologist on the 31st of January. They will likely want to remove at least one of the nodules as it’s over 4cm. Apparently it’s super risky to be pregnant and have these nodules because the increase in hormones can actually be deadly. I don’t even know what to do, anyone else experience anything similar to either of these issues?",MentalHealthBabies,7,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hez05n/klonopin_and_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'm27f995', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I can only speak to the Klonopin in pregnancy.\n\nWith the full support of two doctors (specialists), I stayed on my daily .5 mg my whole pregnancy and have a healthy, happy, smart 1.5 year old now.\n\nIf you search the sub under Klonpin/Clonazepam/benzo you will find there are plenty of us. Find a specialist who can give you support and up to date information.', 'score': 13, 'timestamp': '2024-12-16T00:16:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1hez05n'}, {'comment_id': 'm29c33e', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You can start with a reproductive psychiatrist. Post partum support international has a directory if you need to find a new provider, and they have a free to provider consultation line if you already have a psychatrist.\n\nI also like this MFM on insta and she's got links to post partum support international and a reprodcutive psychatrist you can also follow on insta who posts some good stuff: https://www.babiesafter35.com/articles/psychiatric-medications-in-pregnancy"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-16T06:35:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1hez05n'}]"
1h53s4r,2024-12-03T01:14:33,Need positive stories—clonazepam,"Hi everyone. I’m currently 12 weeks pregnant. I found out about this surprise pregnancy a day before my daughter turned 6 months old so I’m technically still postpartum as well. I had a really tough postpartum and struggled with debilitating insomnia and anxiety which led my perinatal psychiatrist to put me on .5 klonopin after taking zuranolone. It really helped. However now I’m pregnant.

I tapered from .5 to .125 in the first trimester which I’m really happy with but am struggling to get down further and having anxiety issues again. My doctor tells me this is such a small dose and she would rather me take this for the rest of my pregnancy than increase my stress with withdrawal as I had preeclampsia last pregnancy and am already showing symptoms for it this pregnancy and she said untreated anxiety can make preeclampsia worse.

I’m just so terrified of my baby going through withdrawals or having something wrong with him. Please tell me your stories ",MentalHealthBabies,6,22,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1h53s4r/need_positive_storiesclonazepam/,"[{'comment_id': 'm03gtcc', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Search the sub and you should find old posts or comments of mine.\n\nTo summarize, I saw both a maternal fetal medicine specialist and a reproductive psychiatrist and they gave the green light to continue Clonazepam/Klonopin .5 mg/day (what I was taking, sometimes more). They said the current research does NOT show birth defects or longterm learning problems but that Google and perhaps even the average OB might not be up to date on that. They assured me it was safe.\n\nI agonized over this but fast forward to now I have a healthy, happy, smart 1.5 year old who was born in perfect shape. Feel free to message me. I know the agony of the decision.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T02:34:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm072r70', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'I took .5mg Xanax daily my whole pregnancy (for the most part) and my little guy is almost 5 months and thriving.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T18:53:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm03g151', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'Sending you hugs and positive vibes!! I was very against taking meds while pregnant but was eventually put on Zoloft during the first trimester  and increased the dose several times. My baby boy had very slight tremors for a day or two postpartum but the nurses thought it was from getting him circumcised. I don’t have any experience with clonazepam, but I’m 100% pro medication during pregnancy!! A happy mom is a happy baby', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T02:30:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm04qbtr', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Right there with you.  I\'m 18 weeks & still taking my Klonopin & it\'s been a huge fight with my OBs to stay on it.  I finally got switched over to an OB who agreed to let me stay on it as needed but urged me not to take it if I could handle it.  He told me about the possible alleged birth defects & by the time he & I met it was already out of the first trimester so essentially if it happened the ""damage is done"" but he wants me to be careful taking it because the baby can go through withdrawal. \n\nFrom everything I\'ve researched & from all the anecdotal stories I\'ve heard, you\'ll be okay & so will baby.  A lot of OBs & psychiatrists are apparently using outdated info & it\'s been studied more thoroughly & proven that there is very little risk from taking Klonopin while pregnant.\n\nI am currently on 1mg, & have been my entire pregnancy aside from the days I could manage .5mg or none at all.  I go for my anatomy scan in 2 days & I will update here if you\'d like.  I\'d be lying if I said I wasn\'t a ball of nerves about it, but I\'m praying that my baby is okay & that my story can help reassure others who have been through this. \n\nMy anxiety was so debilitating that for the short time I was off my Klonopin, during my first prenatal appointment my vitals were through the roof so bad that they sent me to the hospital to have my heart monitored & an EKG.  I was SO anxious that it sent my blood pressure through the roof, put me in tachycardia, & caused left atrial heart enlargement.  They scheduled me a cardiologist appointment, to which I finally decided to take my Klonopin the day of just to see if there was even a difference.  I needed to know for my sanity, is it my heart, or is it my anxiety.  Sure enough, it was my anxiety.  My cardiologist told me ""well, you have your diagnosis, it\'s extreme untreated anxiety causing literally all of your heart & BP problems."" The new OB I saw understood this better than my other one & decided to work with me, but is pressuring me to get on SSRIs.  I\'m not going to because they make me suicidal & don\'t help at all.  So I\'m testing out Klonopin during pregnancy.  I hope I\'ll be in here sharing my positive outcome by the end of all this. \n\nIf you have any questions feel free to message me at any time.  We are in this together.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T06:54:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm04qjt3', 'author': 'rdasq8', 'body': 'I don’t know if you’ve had time to search this sub but there are definitely stories about positive outcomes when taking a benzo while pregnant. I’ll see if I can find any of them.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T06:56:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm06jk7a', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'I took Ativan my whole pregnancy and everything was great', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T16:05:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mw60f', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’ve been taking 0.25 mg to 1 mg my whole pregnancy. Baby girl is perfect and completely normal. It’s helped to have something to take the edge off because pregnancy is so fucking hard. \nI’m nervous about birth but NICU will be at my delivery and everyone is aware.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:49:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mwfh2', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Also I would encourage checking out this website. It’s the only one my perinatal psychiatrist told me to use! \nhttps://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/prenatal-exposure-to-benzodiazepines-sleep-drugs-2/', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:50:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm03n7h0', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Thanks I will message you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T03:07:47', 'parent_id': 't1_m03gtcc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3znuj9', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'I needed to see this. Feeling horrible because I will be taking this medication twice in my pregnancy. One for a flight out of country and another for a flight back into country. Feeling super guilty', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T10:41:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m03gtcc'}, {'comment_id': 'm072uqq', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'No withdrawals at birth either. I was also on Zoloft and vyvanse my whole pregnancy as well.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T18:54:37', 'parent_id': 't1_m072r70'}, {'comment_id': 'm03n5ht', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Thank you 💕', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T03:07:30', 'parent_id': 't1_m03g151'}, {'comment_id': 'm04r7g2', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Praying all goes well with your anatomy scan 🙏 I had the exact same issues with SSRIs. They just don’t work for me. Solidarity!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T07:00:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m04qbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'm1b3fhg', 'author': 'AnxiousAndAesthetic', 'body': 'Did your anatomy scan come back ok?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-10T09:20:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m04qbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'm04r2n0', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Ya someone was actually kind enough to dm me their experience and it was really reassuring!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T06:59:13', 'parent_id': 't1_m04qjt3'}, {'comment_id': 'm06jv7w', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'PS I direct messaged you about the zuranalone— I had a question about it because my doc is recommending it to me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T16:08:43', 'parent_id': 't1_m06jk7a'}, {'comment_id': 'm44js3n', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'It’s going to be okay.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T06:57:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m3znuj9'}, {'comment_id': 'm0bg74z', 'author': 'InevitableIdeal954', 'body': 'Good to know about the vyvanse stimulant. I take 60mg of adderall and I’m 30 weeks pregnant. My ob and mfm drs okayed the adderall but told me I had to stop my 1mg Xanax daily and didn’t offer me any alternatives. I was grateful they were allowing me to continue the adderall but Google was making me feel very guilty and scared about it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-04T09:36:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m072uqq'}, {'comment_id': 'm0olkw7', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Vyvanse here as well! If you don’t mind what mg were you on and how often did you need to take it?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T14:46:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m072uqq'}, {'comment_id': 'm1z8eke', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Yes it did!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-14T11:09:18', 'parent_id': 't1_m1b3fhg'}, {'comment_id': 'm0p6i2q', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': '50mg! And I take it daily as my ADHD is a big part of my anxiety.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T18:13:47', 'parent_id': 't1_m0olkw7'}, {'comment_id': 'meftpjr', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-24T06:20:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m0p6i2q'}, {'comment_id': 'mefxvo0', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Of course!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-24T06:44:15', 'parent_id': 't1_meftpjr'}]"
1gxqh98,2024-11-23T09:05:57,Healthy baby girl,"Hello just wanted to share my story and hope it helps others during their pregnancy that take anxiety medication. During my pregnancy I was on Zoloft and clonazepam. Throughout the pregnancy I had to raise my dose all the way up to 200mg. Clonazepam I started on .5mg only as needed. But end of second trimester I found myself having panic attacks and crying every single day and was put on 2.5mg everyday until I gave birth 11/11 
My baby girl was under weight (4 lbs 14oz) but I also had to be induced at 37 weeks because of cholestasis. These pills kept me SANE and mentally stable
(Still cried because of hormones and other fears) but it was a Godsend. My baby is doing good thank God! She’s slowly gaining her weight and all the doctors said she was a healthy baby and did not suffer withdrawal symptoms. So whoever NEEDS medication during pregnancy’s do not feel guilty about needing it. You need to
Be mentally stable to be able to help your little baby. I spent my pregnancy worried all the time. But she okay! So don’t feel like you need to come off of them or don’t let anyone make you feel shame for taking it. ",MentalHealthBabies,76,6,https://i.redd.it/atryotfank2e1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'lyjgr5c', 'author': 'awkwardaster', 'body': 'Congratulations! She’s gorgeous! So proud of you for taking care of your mental health, and encouraging us all to do what’s best for us 💜', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-23T11:37:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'lymx913', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Thank you so much for sharing this!!! She's precious!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T02:29:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'lyps77t', 'author': 'Lucky_Apricot5735', 'body': 'Aw, wonderful 🥰 Welcome to the world, baby girl.\nThank you for sharing this! As someone with chronic severe insomnia and OCD I need to take medication too, which is making me feel incredibly bad, but on the other hand I wouldn’t be sleeping at all without it, which wouldn’t be helpful either :-(\nAll the best for you and your baby girl.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T14:43:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'lyvt413', 'author': 'rentingumbrellas', 'body': ""Congratulations! And you did a fantastic job of taking care of yourself! We often think it's bad to do so when we are pregnant and/or have a baby but self-care is caring for our child. She's beautiful!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-25T15:14:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gabms', 'author': 'jonpothan', 'body': 'Congratulations!! so happy for you and healthy babygirl. My gf is currently going through some light itchiness, determined to be cholestasis. Fortunately meds are working and she’s fine but it’s a relief to see others with same situation and positive outcomes :). I hope all is well and praying for your family’s health 🙏🏻.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T04:52:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'm1edszh', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'Congrats!!! Do you think that the increase in anxiety was due to the Zoloft being increased repeatedly? I found it felt really scared and nuts on it.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-11T00:15:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}]"
1gwl1w8,2024-11-21T23:05:46,How long did you give it to settle?,"Hi beautiful community. How long did it take in general to get over the insane hormonal cascade post partum and all the emotions that come with being flung into parenthood? I’m a STM so it’s not my first rodeo but man, I had forgotten. 

I just want to know roughly what is considered a  NORMAL adjustment period compared to when I may need to ask for some medical intervention. I completely forget that I’m only 4 days postpartum and because I’m feeling so overwhelmed (despite pregnancy being very stable overall), I feel like I should get a bloody grip like NOW.

",MentalHealthBabies,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gwl1w8/how_long_did_you_give_it_to_settle/,"[{'comment_id': 'lyaaegi', 'author': 'NommyNomms', 'body': 'It takes me about a year before I start to feel like myself again. 🙃 give yourself some grace', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T00:05:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}, {'comment_id': 'lyaxage', 'author': 'Doctor0ctagon', 'body': 'It takes me YEARS to feel like myself again, but the really scary, panicky, what-have-I-done feeling usually starts around day 4 or 5 and goes away 10 days later. I was told if it lasts longer then 7-14 days to seek intervention.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T02:00:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}, {'comment_id': 'lyb08ml', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I think it's pretty normal to feel a bit crazy for about 4-6 weeks, then you start to consider PPD/PPA. I personally was a mess for 3 weeks, then the clouds started to clear after that and I felt like I had a (loose) handle on things by weeks 4-5. I have friends who continued to feel worse around 6-8 weeks and all ended up diagnosed with PPD or PPA."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T02:15:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}, {'comment_id': 'lzyehq1', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""I think it's considered outside of normal if it continues beyond 2 weeks, but if you had PPD, PPA, PPP, PPOCD... last time, or you just feel overwhelmed this time, it's not too early to ask for help."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-02T05:29:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}]"
1gri1ei,2024-11-15T04:38:36,Antipsychotic and Mood Stabilizer for Autistic Irritability - Which is best in Pregnancy  ,"I am excited to find this sub that is positive about neurodiversity and pregnancy. Hi folks, I'm a childhood diagnosed autistic (diagnosed in the 1980s) who has aggression, meltdowns and behaviors, and I was in special ed for 13 years.

My views on autism are different from the majority of the ""autistic community"" because I was diagnosed very young and grew up in the special needs community. I do not think it's just a quirky little difference, fidget spinner, Sheldon, whatever, and acceptance campaigns are really a bandaid over a gunshot wound. To put it frankly, I want to take responsibility for my behaviors and be a good mom. 

Nota Bene: I'm looking into antipsychotics because most autistics I know take them. I do not actually have psychosis. I have 30 seconds to 15 minutes of mood lability which is not how it works for bipolar people. I do not hear voices.

I'm trying to stop the behaviors by trying different meds, I am working toward getting married in the future and am working on my mental health, becoming a better person. So far everything they gave me is for attention deficit and anxiety and that doesn't cut it.

I feel didn't give me the most effective meds because my parents are very judgemental about heavyset people and I was already obese growing up as the doctor understood my cultural background's negative view about obesity. I've lost much of the weight.

What antipsychotic and mood stabilizer stack is best for me during the IVF/IUI process (I'm over 40) and during pregnancy? Someone told me Risperdal, which is what most autistics take, doesn't cut it and I should try Invega. My non autistic, but neurodivergent friend took Lamictal but that was the only thing she took. Is that good for autistic irritability or does it have to be combined with something else?

Is there a doctor who specializes in the intersection of these topics and takes a referral from United HMO? TIA",MentalHealthBabies,5,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gri1ei/antipsychotic_and_mood_stabilizer_for_autistic/,"[{'comment_id': 'lx64d10', 'author': 'Trintron', 'body': ""I took abilify 4mg during pregnancy and it's also prescribed for aggression with ASD.\xa0\n\n\nI am autistic but take it for anxiety/panic, I have noticed a side effect of losing my temper less. My anger is largely rooted in anxiety, so YMMV."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T04:49:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1gri1ei'}, {'comment_id': 'lx8w16c', 'author': 'avengewednesday', 'body': ""I was taking Risperdal when I became pregnant and was advised to cease it as per it's status as a Category C medication in Australia [link](https://www.tga.gov.au/products/medicines/find-information-about-medicine/prescribing-medicines-pregnancy-database)\n\nI didn't take anything for about 8 weeks then started taking Sertraline, which is also Category C but safer I suppose? It seemed to help, though at the time I was struggling the most with anxiety and depression symptoms. \n\nHopefully you can find a good GP or psychiatrist to support you 🧡"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T16:48:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1gri1ei'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk4p5o', 'author': 'SoundingAlarm234', 'body': 'Look into geodon or latuda', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:01:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1gri1ei'}, {'comment_id': 'lx65eji', 'author': 'SquirrelofLIL', 'body': 'Ok. I\'ve heard good things about abilify and that\'s a ""mainstream"" medication for people with depression and anxiety as well, so there should be more studies on it.\n\nI don\'t think it\'s strong enough for me because quite frankly, it\'s marketed toward neurotypicals with depression and anxiety. Do you have any information on Invega, or Risperdal itself during pregnancy? Thanks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T04:55:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lx64d10'}, {'comment_id': 'lxhondy', 'author': 'Trintron', 'body': ""Sorry, I don't have information on the other medications you listed.\xa0\n\n\nHave you consulted with a psychiatrist who specializes in reproductive care?\xa0\n\n\nI've seen them under titles like reproductive life cycles psychiatrists, perinatal psychiatrists, etc.\xa0\n\n\nI did a consult with a specialist in this area before conceiving to talk about risks vs benefits."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-17T02:30:39', 'parent_id': 't1_lx65eji'}, {'comment_id': 'lxhou7i', 'author': 'Trintron', 'body': ""Side note, I agree re autism isn't a cute personality quirk. It's a lifelong disability that can be very challenging to manage. I didn't mention that in my first comment.\xa0\n\n\nI hope you find a solution that works for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-17T02:31:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lx65eji'}, {'comment_id': 'lxhx9if', 'author': 'SquirrelofLIL', 'body': 'Thanks\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-17T03:17:53', 'parent_id': 't1_lxhou7i'}]"
1gq7has,2024-11-13T12:52:12,40 weeks and need insights on sleeping aids ,"Hi there,
Currently 40 weeks and have recently been triggered back into an old ocd spiral that’s just letting up. I’ve been having horrible insomnia as a result because my anxiety is nuts. 

My usual dormidina isn’t doing jack shit, I doubled the dose last night and still only got an hr.

I will call my obstetrician later but was just wondering if any of you were permitted to take short term anxiety and sleep medications? I’m hoping as I’m 40 weeks, that maybe I’ll get sth like zopiclone for a few days, even during high anxiety spells it usually gives me 5 hrs ish which is way better than what I’m getting now.

I can’t believe I almost made it to the finish line and now my ocd is taking over again. I’m usually pretty stoic but I’m definitely feeling sorry for myself right now. 🫠",MentalHealthBabies,3,21,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gq7has/40_weeks_and_need_insights_on_sleeping_aids/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwyfrsg', 'author': 'Jacksoncheyenne2008', 'body': 'Seroquel is only thing that works for me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T23:58:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lx2m73e', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'Sending you lots of hugs!!! I was prescribed Risperidone to take when I can’t get out off the intrusive thought merry-go-round. I was told it’s completely pregnancy safe and it really helps me sleep when my OCD makes me spiral out. It’s taken as needed in addition to my Zoloft. You’re so close to the finish line you’ve got this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T17:10:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mx9s7', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’ve used ambien and it’s helped. It lets me get 6 hours consecutively and I’m 35 weeks.\nThis is a great website! \nhttps://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/essential-reads-the-use-of-sedative-hypnotic-drugs-during-pregnancy/', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:55:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lwvydxo', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'I was prescribed amitriptyline in pregnancy for insomnia. I don’t think there’s much known information about zopiclone in pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T13:38:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7ezi', 'author': 'Lucky_Apricot5735', 'body': 'Wow that’s exactly me right now. I am 36 weeks and my OCD came back worse than ever and making me not being able to sleep. I’ve read that taking Zopiclone short term is ok in pregnancy. But your doctor might know more about it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:21:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lwypfb5', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Did it work quickly for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:47:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lwyfrsg'}, {'comment_id': 'lx80uyk', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thanks so much for the advice and words of encouragement, really appreciate it ❤️❤️❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T11:47:57', 'parent_id': 't1_lx2m73e'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mxcrc', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Plus sleep is restorative and necessary. My psychiatrist reiterated that to me when I expressed guilt over taking it', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:56:28', 'parent_id': 't1_m0mx9s7'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7mq9', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Okay thanks. I went to the urgent care department at the maternal hospital and they said to breathe in to the count of 7 and out to the count of 7. 🤣 useful.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:24:13', 'parent_id': 't1_lwvydxo'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7l0o', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Sorry to hear you’re struggling. What are your coping mechanisms?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:23:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7ezi'}, {'comment_id': 'm3vcqvp', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Hey! How have you been? You likely have given birth or any moment now. Reach out via chat if you need someone to talk to', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T18:46:28', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7ezi'}, {'comment_id': 'lwypqvc', 'author': 'Jacksoncheyenne2008', 'body': 'Yes. And I tried most other things. I was taking it before pregnancy though. Definitely something to get your doctor to sign off on', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:48:56', 'parent_id': 't1_lwypfb5'}, {'comment_id': 'lww9k04', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'I’m sorry, that sounds unhelpful considering you’ve almost definitely already tried that.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:45:31', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7mq9'}, {'comment_id': 'lwyli8j', 'author': 'Lucky_Apricot5735', 'body': 'Not really having one since being pregnant is making everything even harder for me to cope with the OCD. What about you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:27:33', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7l0o'}, {'comment_id': 'lx251h4', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thank you! 🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T14:07:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lwypqvc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3vbsu1', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Me again. I’m on seroquel now but I really don’t like it. What dose are you on if I may ask?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T18:38:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lwypqvc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3vcg7x', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Did the amitryptaline help? I’m trying to collate all options to discuss with my psychiatrist. She currently has me on seroquel and I don’t like it at all. I am also taking lexapro though so not sure how that would work with the addition of amitryptaline, I’ll ask her.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T18:44:02', 'parent_id': 't1_lww9k04'}, {'comment_id': 'lwyoyf2', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I’ve generally been pretty stable the whole pregnancy. A few wobbles in the first trimester but then pretty chill until recently close to full term. So I think my coping mechanism is working closely with my therapist. I’m just in too overwhelmed a state to really be able to absorb any of the help and guidance. Probably the pregnancy hormonal cocktail is at least partly at play. \nFor me I spiral when my sleep gets messed up. I can be a great functioning human one day, but a few sleepless nights and I completely freak and lose it. So not completely sure how to get that back at this point in pregnancy as short term medication options are limited.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:44:57', 'parent_id': 't1_lwyli8j'}, {'comment_id': 'lwyp99f', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I completely understand how you’re feeling by the way, you’re doing so so so great. You’ve made it to 36 weeks, the finish line is in sight! That’s a massive achievement, I hope you can feel proud of yourself despite the OCD trying to hijack your brain.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:46:29', 'parent_id': 't1_lwyli8j'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xm528', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'Yes, amitriptyline helps me sleep. I’m back on it for my 2nd pregnancy and it is helping.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T02:50:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m3vcg7x'}, {'comment_id': 'm40a8wz', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Great thank you!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T14:22:23', 'parent_id': 't1_m3xm528'}]"
1go3b5c,2024-11-10T21:07:15,Lamictal dose decrease while pregnant?,"Hi all,
I am a bipolar patient and am on lamictal 150 mg twice daily. Also on Zoloft 50 mg once daily for anxiety.

I have heard that many women can go down on their lamictal while pregnant, that the hormones will make them feel more normal. From the horrific nausea I have only been able to take my meds once daily and I feel pretty damn good (aside from nausea). This is also a very wanted baby, 10 years in waiting and the magical product of IVF. 

Looking for any other bipolar moms to chime in. Not concerned with birth defects and lamictal but just intrigued with feeling better without as much meds.

 About 5 years ago I was only on lamictal 100 mg once daily. Then found a psych (not a GP) that informed me that I need it twice a day. Some major stressors and life changes/job related changes had me increase over the last 5 years. Can anyone share their experiences?",MentalHealthBabies,6,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1go3b5c/lamictal_dose_decrease_while_pregnant/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwgbkjv', 'author': 'lem830', 'body': 'I’m not bipolar but take lamictal for mood /depression(same dose as you). I didn’t decrease my lamictal at all and mood has been super stable. I’ve probably been more stable during pregnancy than any other time(which psychiatrist said is common). I’d rather keep it where it’s at to prepare for post partum than adjust now.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T00:22:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1go3b5c'}, {'comment_id': 'lwfatux', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'I’m bipolar 1 and am pregnant on my regular meds. Lamictal 300mg, 5mg Abilify, 40mg Prozac\nand Vyvanse 50mg. I’m super stable, more stable than I normally, on the same meds.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T21:14:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1go3b5c'}, {'comment_id': 'lwi0tex', 'author': 'Important_Trainer_49', 'body': 'Fellow bipolar, pregnant person. I kept my Lamictal dose the same through the majority of my pregnancy and actually just started tapering down at 34 weeks. My mood has also been the most stable it’s been in years while pregnant. But, if you’d told me a few months ago I’d taper down towards the end I would’ve said “no way” due to fears of destabilizing and concerns about being less medicated going into post-partum. Absolutely personal choice, but I decided it was worth a shot because I’d like to pump and feed breast milk if possible and that’s a lot easier if my Lamictal levels are lower postpartum and I don’t have to worry about how much baby is getting. \n\nCounterpoint - there is a pretty well documented relationship between estrogen and Lamictal. An increase in either can lower the concentration of the other. I’ve had Lamictal levels taken multiple times during my pregnancy (blood draws) and my overall levels have dropped even though I’ve stayed on the same dose. Natural increase in estrogen during pregnancy = lower concentration of Lamictal in blood. That said, my psychiatrist was of the mindset that as long as I was doing well there was no need to up the Lamictal dose to compensate. \n\nWould also check-in with your provider about taking your meds just once a day if you haven’t already. The pretty serious, albeit uncommon rash, that’s a potential side effect of going on Lamictal can also occur if you taper too much too quickly. \n\nAlways want to say thanks to bipolar moms for posting because it can feel pretty lonely sometimes. Congrats on your pregnancy!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T05:42:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1go3b5c'}]"
1go1i1y,2024-11-10T19:42:07,Rapid Heart Rate (Anxiety or Pregnancy?),"So grateful to have found this sub that is so specific and niche to us! I have GAD + OCD and have experienced depression in the past. I shifted from Lexapro to Zoloft (only have been on Zoloft for 6weeks) and I just found out I’m pregnant a little over a week ago. 

I’m struggling so much with what’s pregnancy symptom, what’s anxiety, and what’s potentially a Zoloft side effect. Since starting Zoloft, I’ve noticed my heart rate and anxiety has been higher, however, now learning I’m almost 6 weeks pregnant, it could very well be that. I wake up with such a fast heart rate and even throughout the day it’s high. It is giving me anxiety not knowing what the cause is which is likely all 3, and it has me in this state of confusion (am I just anxious? Is it pregnancy hormones? Am I still adjusting to Zoloft?) I even brought a Fitbit just to help track myself.

I have my OBGYN appointment this week so I can ask to confirm and my next psych appointment isn’t until December. I’m trying to give myself grace knowing that your heart pumps more when pregnant but wow it just triggers me because I always associate fast heart to anxiety or working out! 

Any similar experiences you can share? Hugs to all. 🤗🫂",MentalHealthBabies,4,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1go1i1y/rapid_heart_rate_anxiety_or_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwexudc', 'author': 'themehboat', 'body': ""Your body makes about 50% more blood when you're pregnant, so your heart has to work harder and beat faster. My heart rate is always really high--110--when I'm pregnant."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:00:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwew0l0', 'author': 'SingMeAwake', 'body': ""My heart rate was high my entire pregnancy. My dr had me do an EKG just to be safe, but no issues were found and it went right back down postpartum. She said sometimes an underlying heart issue can be exposed during pregnancy, but usually it's totally normal."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T19:48:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwez852', 'author': 'iMightBeACunt', 'body': ""Echoing others, my heart rate was so high when I was pregnant! Before pregnancy my resting heart rate was 50 or so and during, it was like 80 or 90, it was crazy!! So I'm going to guess it's that."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:08:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwezgxm', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'My resting heart rate went up during my first pregnancy and continued to go up throughout. It is normal for your resting heart rate to go up 10-20 bpm, but I believe this is by the end of your pregnancy. \n\nHow is your resting heart rate?\n\nI am currently 13 weeks and my resting heart rate has gone up 2 bpm. My heart rate spikes throughout the day much easier too. Taking the laundry upstairs will bring my heart rate to the 120s. I’m not worried about this even though it’s annoying.\n\nWhen you say your heart rate is going high, I think sharing the values could be beneficial. While everyone is different, if your bpm is going into the 150s randomly, you definitely need to talk to your doctor.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:10:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwhic0g', 'author': 'sarasarasarak', 'body': 'My RHR was below 60 pre-pregnancy. The week I got a positive test it jumped to ~70 and then went back down. It then continued to climb for the next 8 months, dropping 6 weeks before my water broke and now at 2w postpartum is returning to normal. You have nothing to worry about!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T03:57:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf1o6f', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'This is my first pregnancy and to be honest I never wore any kind of fitness tracker previous to this to know what my original resting heart rate was. I bought a Fitbit earlier this week to monitor because I just felt it in my chest so much! Thanks for your words!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:23:25', 'parent_id': 't1_lwexudc'}, {'comment_id': 'lwhiy0q', 'author': 'preciousflight', 'body': 'Ditto! I had a really fast heart rate while pregnant, did an EKG to be safe, and I was fine. But I completely understand the anxiety about it, it feels scary.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T04:00:32', 'parent_id': 't1_lwew0l0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf1g3z', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thank you for your response! I’m definitely excited to chat with the doctor about this and get her take on if I need to do any other tests, it could very well just be both pregnancy and anxiety working together. 😅', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:22:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lwew0l0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf2d3n', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thanks for your response! I unfortunately am unsure what my RHR was prior to pregnancy but it seems like I’m within a normal range currently. It straddles the high 90s and goes to the 120s if I’m moving around a lot.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:27:24', 'parent_id': 't1_lwez852'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf26lb', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thanks for your response! Prior to this I didn’t wear any fitness trackers so I’m not sure what my previous RHR was but now according to Fitbit my RHR averages in the mid 80s but throughout the day it’s closer to 100 and goes up to 130 if I’m walking the dog, going up and down stairs, etc. To your point, I also got the Fitbit to monitor in case it goes to a severely high rate to bring it up to my doctor. Since this is my first pregnancy, I think I’m being hyper aware about checking in on my body which is likely why I’m so cognizant of this!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:26:23', 'parent_id': 't1_lwezgxm'}, {'comment_id': 'lwhqrf3', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thank you for your kind reassurance! Hope you and baby are doing well postpartum!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T04:43:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lwhic0g'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf3jdh', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'Have you had routine blood work done? A RHR of 60-100 is within normal range, but afaik a higher RHR even within that range can signify something like anemia. If you haven’t had one yet you’ll get one from your doctor soon!\n\nAlso OBs are use to questions about things that turn out to be normal. There is no harm in ever asking your doctor!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:34:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lwf26lb'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf4vam', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'I did blood work earlier in spring but going to get more blood work done this week and 100% bringing my concerns up to the doctor as well! 🤞', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:41:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lwf3jdh'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf4xyj', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'Best of luck!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:42:12', 'parent_id': 't1_lwf4vam'}]"
1gm7inn,2024-11-08T07:29:11,"Prozac, Wellbutrin, Vyvanse ","I feel so guilty that I’m considering staying on all 3 through pregnancy and am looking for anyone who had a successful pregnancy on these 3 medications? I’m currently on 
40mg Prozac
300mg Wellbutrin 
30mg Vyvanse 
(But I feel the same if I take 150mg
Wellbutrin and 40-50mg Vyvanse. Not sure what’s better for baby.) 
Obviously I am working with a doctor I just need to know someone’s personal experience!!! ",MentalHealthBabies,3,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gm7inn/prozac_wellbutrin_vyvanse/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwt1kyr', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I take Zoloft, Adderall XR, Buspar, and Klonopin. 31w4d and baby girl is perfect so far. No growth issues, all tests normal 🙂 They will have NICU at my delivery since babies on SSRIs can come out and be floppy or less responsive. This resolves within 1-4 days so it’s just a precaution.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T02:05:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'lwn06ng', 'author': 'Boycott2015', 'body': 'My doctor recommended not taking vyvanse during pregnancy, especially during the first trimester. Are you planning on breastfeeding?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-12T02:09:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'lw3cjfq', 'author': 'Conscious-Green1934', 'body': 'Idk how long you’ve been on Prozac but whatever you do, don’t cold Turkey it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T21:03:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'm0tbmdu', 'author': 'InternationalRoad225', 'body': 'I’m on Wellbutrin and cymbalta', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T08:45:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'lxumwdm', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'May I ask the dosage of your klonopin? Do you take it daily and did you take it in the first trimester?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T06:21:28', 'parent_id': 't1_lwt1kyr'}, {'comment_id': 'lwn09bo', 'author': 'Antique_Pirate_4040', 'body': 'No probably not. Maybe a bit but not primarily bf', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-12T02:09:35', 'parent_id': 't1_lwn06ng'}, {'comment_id': 'lxxkqdr', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Hi! I took 0.25-0.5 mg 3-4x a week in my first trimester. In September, I had a lot of family drama along. So around 22ish weeks I started taking 0.25-1 mg daily. Still taking it as needed.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T20:10:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lxumwdm'}, {'comment_id': 'lxxnuub', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'That’s a very low dose. I took 1 mg sometimes 1.5 mg along with propranolol 40 mg with all 3 of my pregnancies and babies had absolutely no issues. Good luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T20:27:32', 'parent_id': 't1_lxxkqdr'}, {'comment_id': 'lybztqz', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Thank you so much!! Your comment definitely gives me comfort and peace ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T05:29:46', 'parent_id': 't1_lxxnuub'}]"
1gm7dl7,2024-11-08T07:21:54,Your experience with medication ,"Hi! I work with my doctors on this of course, but I’m wondering if anyone can share their anecdotal experience with medication through pregnancy? 

I took both Prozac and Wellbutrin through my first pregnancy and my toddler is perfect. So smart, so wonderful. 

I added Vyvanse after my pregnancy and found it to be life changing. I don’t love that I’m on 3 medications but I feel normal and good for the first time in my life! 

I’m trying to go off of Vyvanse but my mental health is terrible. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gm7dl7/your_experience_with_medication/,"[{'comment_id': 'lw0cfyx', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'took a lot. had no issues. there’s a very small question of whether my son’s slight difficult waking up at birth was from my meds or extra epidural or something else entirely.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T07:39:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw8alb0', 'author': 'sailorboyblm', 'body': 'Wellbutrin and Buspar every day. It was the meds or my life, and my baby girls life. She\'s 4 now. Healthy, happy, asshole, beautiful baby. \nI had a doctor tell me it would be better ""if I could just not take it"" and I told him that I would rather live to see the birth of my baby. He took a step back. I went to see him for an emergent meds adjustment when my normal Dr couldn\'t see me. \n\nDo what keeps you alive. Having my husband turn the water off to the house so I couldn\'t drown myself while he was at work was really difficult for both of us. I\'m so thankful for medication and a good partner.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T15:57:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw151yw', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I was on Prozac my entire pregnancy and increased the dose a few times. I also had Xanax, which both my psychiatrist and OB said was perfectly safe to take. I never took it (able to manage with Prozac increase), but the fact that they were so supportive (and encouraging) helped ease my mind about medications. They always reminded me that a happy, healthy mom was top priority, too. I don’t see why you should struggle, especially if you’re being monitored and supported by your drs.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T10:34:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw20jj3', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Wellbutrin, Latuda, high dose grab gabapentin, low dose Ativan not every day\n\nPerfect six month old baby', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T15:35:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lwidqtd', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'Lexapro, klonopin, adderal. Entire pregnancy. Supervised by psych specialist. 16 month old daughter is ahead on every milestone. Vision issues but attributed to her father and I having the same exact issues (at the same age).', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T06:59:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw76758', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm on Adderall and Klonopin, I stopped the Adderall in the first trimester but have taken it twice in the second trimester. (I'm 16 weeks) I've taken Klonopin pretty much the entire pregnancy.  My baby isn't here yet but the ultrasounds are reading good.  Some of the doctors I've seen have been VERY against this, some have encouraged it & said the risk is so, soooo minimal.  I'm hoping for the best and will absolutely update this entire subreddit when I have my baby. \n\nMy current OB said the biggest concern is withdrawal at birth and skeletal malformations when taken in the first trimester (Klonopin). He said it's very low, but that's the literature he has on it currently.  I've also been told by another medical professional that the withdrawal is really the only concerning thing.  As far as the Adderall, they said it's generally safe especially after the first trimester but if I can stay off it they advise it (similar to Vyvanse).  I've been getting a lot of conflicting advice, but all I can say is go with your gut & you know what is harder on your body.  The stress of not being on medication definitely exceeds the minimal risks, especially with your medications from all accounts I've heard."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T09:27:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw0e4mj', 'author': 'Antique_Pirate_4040', 'body': 'What meds?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T07:49:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lw0cfyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lwiek6h', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'This. Moms, your baby will be okay if you’re okay. Say it again, and again. Mental health IS HEALTH. I would not have survived pregnancy or postpartum unmedicated. I’m grateful that I gave birth during a time where the  world is finally recognizing that pregnancy is not a “protected time” for moms (how many times have we heard “you won’t be anxious or depressed while pregnant ! The hormones help!”)', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T07:04:00', 'parent_id': 't1_lw8alb0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwie8hv', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'Don’t worry, just take care of yourself. OB cares about baby (that’s okay, it’s their job) but mom look out for mom. I was on the same meds + lexapro entire pregnancy and as a precaution the nicu was there for birth. Birth was vaginal, epidural, fast, no “withdrawal” whatsoever. Worth mentioning that of all the above meds the biggest concern for withdrawal was lexapro, not klonopin, nonetheless, our daughter is exceptional.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T07:02:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lw8alb0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwj1zx9', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'When did you start the buspar and how many mg did you take? Anxious about starting the buspar. I’m 23 weeks.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T09:27:13', 'parent_id': 't1_lw8alb0'}, {'comment_id': 'lxuq1aj', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'How many mg of klonopin? Daily?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T06:39:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lwidqtd'}, {'comment_id': 'lw0gfpj', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i’ve switched so many times i don’t remember. but they were safe for pregnancy. i’ve had a really hard time finding a good cocktail.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T08:02:25', 'parent_id': 't1_lw0e4mj'}, {'comment_id': 'lwj2dzi', 'author': 'sailorboyblm', 'body': 'Probably around 14 weeks. I was on a pretty heavy dose back then too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T09:29:51', 'parent_id': 't1_lwj1zx9'}, {'comment_id': 'lydznk2', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': '.5 mg 40mg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T14:22:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lxuq1aj'}]"
1glkk4e,2024-11-07T12:20:16,What the heck ,"I’m 39 weeks and since yesterday my mood has gone nuts. High anxiety, intrusive thoughts that I haven’t had in years resurfacing, low mood, feeling like I want to cry and scream but too tired to even try and just generally yuck. 
I’ve actually been very stable throughout this pregnancy, so for it to suddenly hit like this now is a little disconcerting. I have a history of ocd and depression but it’s been mostly manageable over the years.

So what gives? The sudden change makes me think it’s hormones starting to crash or change pre labour?

Anyone else experience an uptick in their mental health symptoms close to labour?

Thanks 🙏 ",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1glkk4e/what_the_heck/,"[{'comment_id': 'lvws3ft', 'author': 'Kind_Ad5931', 'body': 'Super super normal! Every one of my friends and myself included were so panicked and anxious and just frantic the last week or two of pregnancy. It’s so normal. Your life is about to change. You’re about to give birth and it’s kinda just dangled over your head right now! And if you don’t have a c section planned you don’t know WHEN you’ll go into labor and give birth. It’s a crazy crazy time!', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T21:00:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lvyf0f1', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I had the worst mental health of my life in my third trimester. surprisingly, I did better postpartum, and though I had about 3-4 weeks of very big emotions after giving birth, I've actually been doing great in the year since my son was born. So there's hope! I think some of us just get the wonky hormones before birth instead of after"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T01:39:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lvvy8u8', 'author': 'donkerbruin', 'body': 'I’m wondering if this has more to do with recent events in the US rather than hormonal issues.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T18:09:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lwte19f', 'author': 'Remarkable-Series309', 'body': ""Have you checked your blood pressure? FWIW, with my first, I had preeclampsia and my main observable symptom was increased anxiety and falling back into old thought patterns. Baby was born at 34w6d and things got better immediately. I did have terrible PPD, but that didn't set in until 2 months after delivery.\n\nI'm now 33w2d with my second, and so far so good this time"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T03:14:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lvx8jr5', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'This helps a lot, thank you!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T22:20:52', 'parent_id': 't1_lvws3ft'}, {'comment_id': 'lvyksbl', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I’m happy to hear that you’ve been doing great postpartum, and well done for getting through such a rough time in your third trimester, I’m sorry you had to go through that. \nI feel we’re all kind of warriors here. Proud of us.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T02:06:38', 'parent_id': 't1_lvyf0f1'}, {'comment_id': 'lvx8ib1', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I was thinking that but I live in Spain and whilst it will influence us to a certain extent, I don’t think it will be felt as intensely here as what people from the US have gone through', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T22:20:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lvvy8u8'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7hua', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Blood pressure perfect so far. I’m just very triggerable at the moment which makes sense based on where I am in the pregnancy. Thank you for adding your thoughts ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:22:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lwte19f'}]"
1gk5lks,2024-11-05T18:03:28,Panic Attacks & Perinatal Depression,"Hi Everyone. I’m really struggling with my pregnancy - I’m a FTM, about 8 weeks pregnant. 

I have severe anxiety and panic disorder and have also been suffering from perinatal depression. This baby was what my husband and I wanted and tried for over 5 months. Now though, I can’t get through a single morning without a panic attack. Week 6 I was in the hospital due to a particularly bad one and they gave me 1mg Ativan. Since then, I’ve been taking Ativan everyday - started with 2mg and now I’m back down to 1mg. 

I truly don’t know if I can mentally handle doing this pregnancy. My husband gets sad when I talk about terminating saying it’s not what he wants but he will support me no matter what. But I can’t handle these panic attacks. My OB wants me to wean off Ativan and I don’t think I can or I’m scared I’ll lose my mind. 

I do see a therapist regularly and we’ve upped my Zoloft to 100mg but even still I’m relying on the Ativan to help me with the panic. I’m feeling out of control of my body and I just want to go back to being myself and I feel like I regret being pregnant even though it was all I wanted. 

Has anyone been in a similar situation and got an abortion? I don’t want to ever be pregnant again after this experience. How did you feel after terminating? ",MentalHealthBabies,8,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gk5lks/panic_attacks_perinatal_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'lvk3oey', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Just wanted to echo what others were saying here, the first 13 weeks or so were awful. I was on 20mg of Vyvanse prior which did wonders in alleviating my ADHD and depression symptoms. I stopped cold turkey after finding out at 6 weeks. \n\nMy symptoms came back with an absolute vengeance on top of the exhaustion, nausea, aversions, & took my depression from mild to severe. I was pretty miserable and was probably the closest I’d gotten to unaliving. I was crying daily, was bedridden, non-functional, and in pretty bad shape. Got the ok from all doctors to get back on my meds at around week 12 but I did notice that at about 14-15 weeks I felt much much much better physically and mentally (at least mood wise) and had my energy back.\n\nSo no pressure either way but I personally did feel better during the second trimester to the point where I’m back to forgetting that I’m pregnant lol', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T23:24:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvnhals', 'author': 'annabanahna', 'body': 'I felt all of these things… plus horrible intrusive thoughts about abusing my baby (SA… like truly horrific intrusive thoughts. I’m thankful I knew they were intrusive thoughts but even so.) My husband mentioned termination because he couldn’t stand to see me like that. It started around week 5, worst 5-8. 8-12 a little better and then second tri onwards I felt much better, and can even say I enjoyed pregnancy. My daughter is two now and I can’t imagine not having her here. I even intend to go through it again soon. But my god was it the worst pain I’ve ever been in early on.\xa0', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T10:23:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvimlfs', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'I’m sorry you are going through this. I’m 12 weeks, my depression symptoms have only recently started to get better. I still do not feel nearly as good as I did prior to this pregnancy. I take bupropion.\n\nIs there a psychologist you can see (vs a therapist)? There may be another treatment for you. I have heard of psychologists that specialize in maternal health.\n\nI don’t mean this to sound like I am pressuring you to endure. There is a path forward no matter what you choose. Lean on your husband and support network as much as you can. Wishing you all the best babe.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T18:47:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvjth2m', 'author': 'Ok_Valuable6074', 'body': 'The hormones during my first trimester made my anxiety meds (cymbalta) completely ineffective and it was one of the most depressed periods of my life. In the second trimester as the hormones changed I began to feel like myself again. If you really want this baby and think you can make it a few more weeks, you may feel significantly better after 12 weeks!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T22:34:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvj78wc', 'author': 'rdasq8', 'body': 'I don’t really have any advice but what you are going through was my worst fear. I was so fortunate that somehow being pregnant made me feel slightly better in terms of anxiety and depression. I wasn’t as freaked out as I thought I would be. I was worried I would feel trapped while pregnant but somehow that didn’t happen.I did continue with my antidepressants and took an extremely small dose of a benzo as needed and it worked out.  I worked with a perinatal psychiatrist that helped with understanding the medications impact on baby. The ob didn’t want me on any benzo but with the psych they supported me and deferred to the expert in that area. I wish the best and am so sorry you are going through this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T20:45:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvk3lhz', 'author': 'writekit', 'body': 'I\'m in a different situation, but my feeling of ""I am in over my head and unsure how I feel about my ability to continue this very wanted pregnancy"" subsided around 14 weeks as my nausea lessened and ""the placenta took over.""\n\nI can\'t weigh in on termination or regret - and I want to make clear that I think it\'s good to have that choice. I do know that even though I feel a lot better, I am pretty convinced at this point that I am Two And Through (assuming/hoping this pregnancy results in a living child). I never want another first trimester like I just went through.\n\nIf it feels like you have to choose between taking Ativan and being pregnant, based on the resource below, I would take the Ativan as long as you need it to help you. Some OBs are more okay with meds than others. \nhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK582801/\n\nIf you just feel like the experience you\'re having in your body is unmanageable and you want or need to terminate - that is okay and understandable.\n\n(I\'m also working with a team that specializes in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. Whatever your path forward is, if you can find a similar resource, I can\'t recommend it highly enough.)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T23:23:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvl6nl5', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression since I was 10 years old. I’m not going to lie, the first trimester was the hardest because I was switched to Zoloft and had to go through the phase of getting it in my system. Once it kicked in, my OB said as pregnancy progresses I would need dosages increased. Second trimester was bearable because what helped me through was clonazepam. I had a breath of relief. Now coming through third trimester i got hit by a ton of bricks with anxiety and depression but I have to talk to my psychiatrist about it, I’ve been delaying since I’m almost due but I can’t handle\nIt either. The meds are not effective on me, it’s got VERY little effect. But that’s why it’s important to talk to a psychiatrist and if you have to be on a benzo to be mentally sane then by all means go for it. It’s better for you to be okay so baby can be okay. So first and second trimester I was only able to pull through because of clonazepam. But third trimester I guess I have to have my dosage upped even though I don’t want to but I can’t be like this anymore', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T02:33:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvv1vm6', 'author': 'NeverCleanEnough', 'body': 'Hi! Sending you lots of mental hugs and peace. I also had perinatal depression (not really anxiety) the panic attacks you are having sound awful, truly! Like others here, the first trimester was terrible, I had many conversations about abortion and met with my doctor to discuss it. She prescribed Wellbutrin but I ended up not taking it because I had never taken medication before and she said people on it are prone to anxiety. \n\nThat being said, I had to find ways to mitigate my symptoms, for me it was depression, extreme nausea, fatigue and lethargy. It didn’t go away until 18 weeks, probably started around week 7-8. Every week was terrible but it disappeared by the time I was 5 weeks into second tri. \n\nThings that helped:\nGoing daily on long walks\nAcupuncture (I did this 2x a week bc my insurance covered it) \nCold showers \nMassage \nEating healthy \nYoga \nBooking an early baby moon so I had something to look forward to \n\nIt gets better, I promise! 🧡💙', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T12:53:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvl9f0k', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'Did you keep taking the pills even if they were ineffective? Or did you get a dosage increase?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T02:46:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lvjth2m'}, {'comment_id': 'm0w5jg8', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'What was your benzo dosage?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T22:26:52', 'parent_id': 't1_lvl6nl5'}, {'comment_id': 'lvlhtq2', 'author': 'Ok_Valuable6074', 'body': 'I was already at the max I was comfortable with during pregnancy so I stayed on and didn’t increase. Eventually as the hormones changed they started working again, so I’m definitely glad I stayed on it. I’m planning to entirely formula feed so that I can safely increase my dose if needed post partum without worrying about it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T03:27:14', 'parent_id': 't1_lvl9f0k'}, {'comment_id': 'lvlqgk0', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'Oh okay that’s a relief, I’m going to be induced in 2 weeks and I’m debating whether or not to increase my dosage because they became ineffective for me\nI’m not totally insane but I cry everyday and have high anxiety and depression and I want relief but I also want my baby to be okay and not put her at more risk with a dosage increase. In not on max dose and have been really thinking about it but I really don’t know what do to. My hormones feel out of wack that’s for sure', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T04:11:20', 'parent_id': 't1_lvlhtq2'}, {'comment_id': 'lvlxtkq', 'author': 'Ok_Valuable6074', 'body': 'If your doctor is saying it’s safe to increase dose it sounds like you may want to consider it! My psychiatrist and OB agreed I was at the max safe dose for pregnancy (but not max dose safe for me, so yeah definitely increasing after birth to avoid the post partum swings!)\n\nETA good luck with your induction and hope you are feeling better soon!! 🫂', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T04:51:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lvlqgk0'}]"
1gg2hwe,2024-10-31T06:28:53,severe anxiety and depression,"hey all, I'm 21 weeks. Had a hard talk with my husband that brought up a lot of trauma and I'm really struggling. I can't stop having panic attacks, heart palpitations, you name it. Hydroxyzine is not working, Zoloft is not working either. What do I do to get through this rough patch? I can't sleep at night due to my mind racing. It's terrible. I'm at a loss and so scared.",MentalHealthBabies,4,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gg2hwe/severe_anxiety_and_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'lumqlre', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had psychosis with suicidal ideation due to pregnancy hormones messing with my anxiety and depression. my OB was fine with medication - she’d rather have an alive mom than a dead one.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:36:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lumijqm', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'Hi, I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. I don’t have any immediate suggestions but I really benefitted from increasing my antidepressant. I’m on Prozac and went from 30 mg to 40 mg then 60 mg. Doubling it really helped; my psychiatrist said our blood volume increases so much, which makes our medication less effective. Could you talk to your dr about getting a benzodiazepine? My OB and psych both OK’ed taking Xanax as needed. You will get through this 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T06:50:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lur5r0f', 'author': 'mitochondriaDonor', 'body': 'You need to establish with psych that specializes in woman’s behavioral health for better and stronger options', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T02:00:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lusrq85', 'author': 'tsebetzis', 'body': 'Hey I just want to give you a sense of community in knowing that you’re not alone at all. I’m only at 5 weeks and now being put on medication because my anxiety and depression were so bad that I was about to check myself into a psych overnight hospital , mind you, I was completely normal last month. The shock of pregnancy and feelings of doom just wouldn’t stop for me. I’ve read alot of posts for reassurance on here and there is hope and a light at the end of the tunnel. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and I hope you get a second opinion because your mental health is worth it. Don’t stop advocating for yourself', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T07:59:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'luoxkd5', 'author': 'Alofdapope', 'body': 'I would definitely seek another opinion, your OB should be pro mommas health before anything. I’m on Prozac 60 mg and trazedone 50 mg (for sleeping) and I’m 7 weeks. I will admit I still have trouble sleeping, but I started doing yoga, I am taking a magnesium supplement, and downloaded Headspace to use before bed. I slept 6 hours last night which is an improvement from the 2 I was getting every night! We upped my Prozac and it did wonders. Your health is important to keep baby happy too. Please look out for yourself, you are loved and needed in this world.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T18:54:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lumqqis', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'How did you disclose your suicide ideation that didn’t land you in patient? And what medication did you take?\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:37:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lumqlre'}, {'comment_id': 'lumpj2q', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'My OB is very anti medication and they feel like they have prescribed me with what they can (hydroxyzine and Zoloft). I upped the Zoloft but it can take weeks to let that work through my system unfortunately. I need something immediate and temporary.\xa0\n\nHow often were you taking Xanax? And at what dose? And how many weeks are you? Who prescribed it to you? Your psych or OB? Lol sorry for all the questions. I wish my OB were more open to things… I am really struggling.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:30:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lumijqm'}, {'comment_id': 'lumtyxs', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'inpatient was never discussed at that time. can’t remember what cocktail i was on but it was safe (as safe as can be) for baby. he was fine at birth, a little groggy from either the epidural or medicine hangover. but it passed quickly. had a recurrance 4 years later and now take viibryd and lithium.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:56:12', 'parent_id': 't1_lumqqis'}, {'comment_id': 'lupp5on', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'For me, all of my doctors (OB, perinatal specialist, psychiatrist) were initially hesitant until I was transparent about the suicidal ideation which my therapist was actually insistent I be. She said if I don’t advocate for myself and let myself be vulnerable in front of my doctors I might not get the help I need. \n\nAnd she was right, most of them denied me at first until I disclosed where I was truly at and they were 100% on board once they saw the severity. Typically they ask if I had plans and intent to, but when I said no they were all fully on board. I think it’s only when you have a plan and are active would they push for inpatient.\n\nI’m on Vyvanse!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T21:25:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lumqqis'}, {'comment_id': 'lumtmty', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I’ve been seeing a perinatal psychiatrist, who was 100% committed to making sure I was okay so that baby would be okay. I’ve had Xanax (.25 mg) from the very beginning and the only thing she said was to not use it right before delivery. I ended up not using any because upping my Prozac really helped.   It did take 1-2 weeks but I managed. My current OB was also totally on board with the Xanax and I’m sure she would have prescribed it herself if my psych hadn’t. I delivered nearly three weeks ago and baby is doing great. No complications. Even though I never took the Xanax, they always reassured me that it was okay if I felt like I needed to take one. I strongly recommend finding a perinatal psychiatrist. Prior to getting pregnant, I saw an OB that didn’t want me on any medication. I think it’s an old school way of thinking; there’s a lot of information out there that shows very little risk to the baby!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:54:13', 'parent_id': 't1_lumpj2q'}]"
1gcy150,2024-10-27T05:07:54,Clonidine in exchange for Klonopin? ,"So I had such a bad panic attack at my last OB appointment that they sent me to cardiology for an EKG, etc.  I told my OB that the reason why this was happening is because my mental illness is not being treated currently because they wanted me off of my Klonopin cold turkey.  She prescribed me Clonidine instead and told me not to take the Klonopin whatsoever and that it's not safe, But reading up on the Clonidine it seems like the ""risks"" for it are just as speculated as the ones for Klonopin? 

I ended up taking the Klonopin to make sure that I actually wasn't having a heart problem because my OB said there's no way anxiety could be causing my issues, lo and behold the Klonopin fixed everything.  I talked to another medical specialist who told me that my treatment by my OB was not right and that I needed to be taking the medication that I know works for me and that the risk if any is incredibly low.  I told them that I was concerned because my OB is adamant about drug testing me but they reassured me that since I have a prescription I can't get in trouble for taking it regardless of if they tell me not to take it during pregnancy or not. 

Basically what I'm looking for is positive stories with Klonopin use during pregnancy because I've decided I'm going to continue... and any opinions on why my OB would prescribe Clonidine instead when I told her that it literally makes me faint and it seemingly has the same kind of risks as Klonopin use? Is this solely just a stigma behind benzodiazepines? Or is it really as harmful as she makes it out? ",MentalHealthBabies,5,22,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gcy150/clonidine_in_exchange_for_klonopin/,"[{'comment_id': 'ltxmt3w', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Search benzo or Klonopin/Clonazepam in the sub. I’ve posted before about taking it nightly during my pregnancy which was totally healthy with a perfectly healthy smart child now. The difference is I had support from 3 doctors, my OB, a reproductive psychiatrist, and maternal fetal medicine. I strongly suggest you see a specialist as they are so much more versed in these medications than the average OB and it will really help to be able to continue under a doctor’s supervision if you can. But yeah in my anecdotal experience everything turned out fine. Feel free to message me.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T05:40:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltxrysn', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'I was taking 0.5mg of klonopin as needed during my pregnancy and while breastfeeding. My OB was working with my psychiatrist to get a better picture of my mental health. I was also sent to MFM for additional scans to make sure nothing was off. The risks of having uncontrolled panic attacks is more dangerous to the fetus than the risks of taking klonopin.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T06:13:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'luen3s3', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’ve been taking Klonopin my whole pregnancy and baby girl is perfect. I’m 29w5d. My psychiatrist assured me it’s fine. I would either get a reproductive psych opinion or change OBs. That OB needs to stop shaming you. \nAlso women’s mental health.org is a great resource', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-30T01:43:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'lxyinex', 'author': 'Kbogzxo', 'body': 'I took it my entire pregnancy. My son is healthy, just turned 1, has never even had a cold, has hit every milestone on point and did not go through NAS', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T23:04:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltxplud', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Here are some articles on the topic which suggest that risks are low at a low and controlled dosage. I am not a doctor and can't advise you on whether or not you should or shouldn't take this medication, but many doctors do prescribe benzodiazepines during pregnancy. Higher doses do have very bad effects. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35909254/ https://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/prenatal-exposure-to-benzodiazepines-and-neurodevelopmental-outcomes/"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T05:58:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltyh6ds', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'How far along are you?? Like are you at the beginning??', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T09:02:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltyuza0', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'We had a big conversation at length', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T11:00:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'm0v6wgb', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': 'My doctor offered me Ativan during pregnancy vs Xanax which is what I usually use on an as needed basis. Ativan has a short half life and seems to be the preferred benzodiazepine for pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T19:04:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'micv6sb', 'author': 'bravedave109', 'body': 'Valium', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T05:59:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltxno2c', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm starting to think that my location is different than others because I've heard of so many people not having any issues with their doctors having them on benzos during pregnancy, but my area seems to be so so so different about it.  I'm definitely going to try to get into a specialist but unfortunately in my area the specialists do not take my insurance and I'm sure as we all know in this economy it is very hard to pay out of pocket for stuff like this.  I feel like I'm just kind of screwed no matter what I do at this point.  🥺 I have searched in this sub a lot though and it is very reassuring, I've even reached out to one member and they've been very helpful! I just don't understand why my dr would prescribe something that seemingly has the same risks as Klonopin but is known to affect my physical health negatively? \n\nI wish I could be mentally better for my poor little baby in there.  😭 Thank you so much for your comment.  🩵"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T05:45:34', 'parent_id': 't1_ltxmt3w'}, {'comment_id': 'ltycxfc', 'author': 'Lostnwanderlnd7', 'body': 'Question what was outcome with breastfeeding? I am on alprazolam.25mg only at bedtime and have been putting off having a second child because I’m worried about coming off of it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T08:31:49', 'parent_id': 't1_ltxrysn'}, {'comment_id': 'ly6ys0t', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'I needed this!!! 🩷🥺', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-21T08:37:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lxyinex'}, {'comment_id': 'lu2cg4y', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm currently 13 weeks, but I've had a very hard time quitting so I haven't been off it entirely.  I went from 1 mg 3 times a day to .5 a day."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-28T01:45:26', 'parent_id': 't1_ltyh6ds'}, {'comment_id': 'lurm83c', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'I went to the doctor today and 5th doctor told me to stay away from Klonopin if possible. Your doctor probably wants you to try to use that other medication because they think it’s safer for the baby. I hope you’re doing okay!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T03:34:10', 'parent_id': 't1_ltxno2c'}, {'comment_id': 'lu00y7v', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'Everything is totally fine. My son’s pediatrician was aware and he wasn’t worried. The main concern was making sure I was able to handle the baby while on the med and not dropping him. But I take as needed. I’m also on effexor and my OB was fine with.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T18:13:34', 'parent_id': 't1_ltycxfc'}, {'comment_id': 'lyde97c', 'author': 'Kbogzxo', 'body': 'And btw do not take the clonidine. It lowers your blood pressure sometimes to a point where it’s dangerously low and you could faint/fall and god forbid you were to land on your belly. The dr trying to push clonidine on you is just a stigma thing. And it does not work at all like klonopin does. Neither does vistaril if you are offered that, it’s essentially prescription Benadryl just a higher dosage.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T10:53:16', 'parent_id': 't1_ly6ys0t'}, {'comment_id': 'lu3oabb', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'I had 4 doctors tell me I had to quit cold turkey immediately and I did at 3 weeks. I did do research though and there’s lots of testimonies that moms have taken it and the baby turned out healthy!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-28T06:05:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lu2cg4y'}, {'comment_id': 'luvy9du', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Phew, I've been on Klonopin the whole time so I'm definitely not ok reading this 🥲🥹😭 the other medication makes me faint so I can't use it either.  I'm going to try to wean, I'm seeing a cardiologist today because my heart is what they're worried about but I don't have any issues with my heart at all as long as I'm on my Klonopin so I've been taking it thinking that was better for the baby than me hitting stroke levels of vitals every day.  I think I messed up.  😭😭😭"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T22:50:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lurm83c'}, {'comment_id': 'lymzc2u', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I told my OB this!! I was prescribed two different beta blockers before my pregnancy for my PVCs & they both made my BP plummet & I fainted with both medications.  One of the times embarrassingly enough was in a store! 😮\u200d💨 I also read up on the risks of taking it while pregnant& they're pretty much the same as taking Klonopin?!? I figured it was a stigma thing.  The state I'm in already is very anti-benzodiapines outside of pregnancy so I figured it was going to be hard to find a doctor who would listen& understand.  & I already told them I couldn't take vistaril or any antihistamine for that matter because I have paradoxical reactions & they give me tachycardia.  They didn't believe me until my last C-section & they gave me an antihistamine during it & watched my heart rate go into tachycardia on the monitor which is why I now see a cardiologist.  😮\u200d💨😮\u200d💨 Why do doctors think we are lying??? I don't *want* to *have* to take medications at all.  😩 They make me feel so guilty for it. \n\nI'm still on my Klonopin, I have a new OB & he said to take it as needed & told me the risk factors, which have already been done if it does happen because they happen in the first trimester.  He was hesitant to let me stay on it & urges me to try to find a psych to get an SSRI, but SSRIs made me insane & even suicidal.  I just want to manage my anxiety safely.  I'm hoping & even praying every day my sweet baby is ok."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T02:41:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lyde97c'}, {'comment_id': 'luw60e9', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'No it’s okay!!! I think doctors might be scared to give the green light because they don’t want you to sue them !! Do what’s best for your mental health.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T23:30:17', 'parent_id': 't1_luvy9du'}, {'comment_id': 'lyna57i', 'author': 'Kbogzxo', 'body': 'Your baby will be ok. I will keep you and baby in my prayers. There are just as many risks with SSRIS and pregnancy as there are with benzos, sometimes even more. The issue is there is not enough research done so drs really don’t know how to handle it and often times handle it with stigma. Wishing you all the best! Private message me anytime!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T03:42:33', 'parent_id': 't1_lymzc2u'}]"
1gb8ton,2024-10-24T23:23:29,Has anyone seen this paper about Xanax during pregnancy (2022) which associates Xanax exposure to adverse pregnancy and neonatal outcomes?,"I am 36 y/o, 17 weeks pregnant. I take Xanax about once a week due to panic disorder. (I also take other medications: Bupropion, Lamotrigine, and Zoloft).  I just saw [this paper](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9081603/#Tfn2) and it really freaked me out. I know everyone (including my psychiatrist) says I need to prioritize my mental health and take the meds I need, but sometimes I also feel like that I *could* try to go off of some of my medications. The thing that freaks me out about this paper is its saying that the median gestational age that people *stopped* taking Xanax was around 4 weeks. I am still taking Xanax, along with my other meds. Additionally in the first trimester I was having my most severe panic attacks, and there were a few times that I had to take around 3mg or 4mg in one dose. I honestly just don't want to be putting my head in the sand about this stuff, if I could be taking less medication than I am.

***I guess I am just hoping that someone can tell me why this paper is flawed, or not a good study, rather than just saying I need to be prioritizing my mental health.***",MentalHealthBabies,2,32,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gb8ton/has_anyone_seen_this_paper_about_xanax_during/,"[{'comment_id': 'ltjsz5b', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:28:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjyi13', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I took Xanax during my pregnancy and I have a healthy beautiful baby girl ♥️', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:56:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltk10t6', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""Woof! That is so tough. I can understand why that paper freaked you out, it would freak me out too. If you're using the Xanax for sleep sometimes, you could ask your psychiatrist about using Unisom/doxylamine instead. It does not help anxiety but it makes you quite sleepy and is safe for pregnancy and breast feeding. \n\nIf you do continue with the xanax, I think making your best effort to take it only when you really feel you need it is very reasonable. So maybe whenever you'd usually take it, you give yourself an extra 30 minutes or an hour to see if you can manage without. It's true that we need to prioritize our mental health, and it's also true that we have to do what we can to take care of ourselves in a way that is minimally harmful to our babies. It's really a stressful balance to maintain.\n\nOne study is not necessarily the whole picture. Here is a website I really trust, and that has been recommended to me by a couple OBs and psychiatrists:\n\n[https://mothertobaby.org/fact-sheets/alprazolam/](https://mothertobaby.org/fact-sheets/alprazolam/)"", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T00:08:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltk0e5y', 'author': 'Complete_Drama_5215', 'body': 'I took a different benzo (Ativan) my whole pregnancy, and I have a perfectly healthy little boy. I sometimes had to to take 2-3mg a day after a traumatic life event happened at 20 weeks pregnant.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T00:05:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltkv71c', 'author': 'sexualcatperson', 'body': ""My psych and ob didn't let me take Xanax for the first trimester but I spent my second and third taking it frequently and even took it the day of my induction, which was smack dab on 40 weeks because I wanted my daughter out. \n\nShe's perfectly fine, highly intelligent and hits all of her milestones early. She has ADHD but that's genetics from her dad's side, so not from meds."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T02:39:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltn6o62', 'author': 'gothtopus12345', 'body': 'are you seeing a reproductive psychiatrist or reproductive arnp? it’s a wonderful specialty for thinking through questions like this and often they are far more sophisticated about understanding the risks of meds in pregnancy versus a general practitioner. i would also recommend sending the paper you read to your OB and asking for their input. presumably they have known you are on xanax the whole pregnancy, and they haven’t raised red flags, right? i would just double back tho in case they were overlooking it which is not helpful of them.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T11:51:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltptank', 'author': 'Substantial_Still335', 'body': 'Not Xanax, but I maintained 1 - 2mg of lorazepam through both of my pregnancies and have two healthy children.  \nI tried to wean off an began experiencing derealization and dread. NOT worth it. I also breastfed both on this amount.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T23:04:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'm0q7z12', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'Hi any updates? I’m currently 9weeks and trying to ween  off of 2mgs Xanax.. I was taking it daily until 6 weeks pregnant I’m having severe panic attacks about my baby coming out with congenital birth defects.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T21:59:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltps904', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'I took Xanax my whole pregnancy and my little guy is healthy. My MFM even approved it and didn’t seem worried whatsoever', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T22:59:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjtvgd', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': ""I just like don't know to what extent I should be prioritizing my mental health over the baby's health. Like for example, I sometimes take Xanax if I feel like I'm getting bad anxiety and will not be able to sleep, even though I know its not going to turn into a panic attack. Like is this level of prioritizing my mental health worth it? I totally think its worth it if I am having a full on panic attack because its the most awful thing I have ever experienced and theres basically like no way to get through it without Xanax. But should I really be taking it once a week, when I am not panicking?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:33:13', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjsz5b'}, {'comment_id': 'm9602ev', 'author': 'DependentChange797', 'body': 'How much did you take? I’m currently having to stay on them', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-26T03:48:20', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjyi13'}, {'comment_id': 'm0q8ew4', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'How often would you take it and what dose? I’m on 2mg about 2-3 times a week 9weeks and I’m having terrible anxiety attacks about my baby having birth defects or front lobe development problems ….❤️\u200d🩹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T22:02:08', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjyi13'}, {'comment_id': 'mievic5', 'author': 'Liznardo1', 'body': 'How old is your little one? How early in pregnancy did you take it?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T15:47:50', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjyi13'}, {'comment_id': 'm9606ul', 'author': 'DependentChange797', 'body': 'Thank you for sharing this', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-26T03:49:00', 'parent_id': 't1_ltk0e5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm0q8v7v', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'What is 2mg ox Xanax in lorazepam? 😢 going to ask my ob if she can switch me..', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T22:04:31', 'parent_id': 't1_ltptank'}, {'comment_id': 'm13qypp', 'author': 'Grand-Consequence790', 'body': 'I came here because I’m 15 weeks and currently take .5mg as needed. My providing NP said I am totally safe to do so but one of the OB’s I saw recently shook her head and looked at me like I said I was doing crack. I felt so ashamed. I’ve done my own research over the past several weeks and what I’ve learned is that I am safe doing what I am doing. My mental health needs to be in check for me to have a successful pregnancy. Plenty of studies have been done where babies are perfectly healthy after taking low doses of xanax. People love to judge.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T04:09:21', 'parent_id': 't1_m0q7z12'}, {'comment_id': 'm1vlwxm', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': 'I have been taking Xanax as needed for panic attacks (once a week ish) ? I’m 25 wks now and estimated weight of baby is measuring about 50th percentile.  There’s been some other issues with my pregnancy but I don’t think it has anything to do with Xanax.\n\nBut I totally get how you feel about panicking about congenital defects. You could opt for extra testing like do an amnio , get the microarray and genome sequencing, karyotyping etc. there’s also the NIPT (which for me wasn’t reassuring enough which is why I opted for more testing). But it’s been tough — every little result causes me anxiety and it has been kind of debilitating', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-13T21:47:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m0q7z12'}, {'comment_id': 'ltuecbr', 'author': 'Square_Carpenter4816', 'body': 'I checked out your other post and you have quite literally saved my sanity today. I’ve had to take between .25-.5 of xanex throughout my pregnancy, I’m 35 weeks and she looks perfect but I’ve been a nervous wreck as of late. They had to put me on Zoloft for intrusive thoughts and depression. The guilt has been debilitating. Thank you. ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T18:30:06', 'parent_id': 't1_ltps904'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjxzxd', 'author': 'banana1060', 'body': 'Your mental health and baby’s health are inextricably linked. It’s not one or the other. You could try delaying taking xanax if you don’t feel panicked to see what happens or talking to your doc about the risks of taking Xanax vs something like unisom for sleep. I think it’s much more helpful to look at composites of data rather than individual studies especially when sample sizes are small—you might find [this](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK582567/)one helpful.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:53:45', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjtvgd'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjuahq', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:35:17', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjtvgd'}, {'comment_id': 'm967eis', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I was taking .05mg as needed, maybe 2-3 times per week', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-26T04:28:03', 'parent_id': 't1_m9602ev'}, {'comment_id': 'mifh4ud', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'She is 1.5 years old and soooooo brilliant! 😍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T18:31:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mievic5'}, {'comment_id': 'm0ttj8j', 'author': 'Substantial_Still335', 'body': 'I’m not sure - they have different half lives and I know that impacts dosing. Definitely speak with your doctor.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T11:03:38', 'parent_id': 't1_m0q8v7v'}, {'comment_id': 'm1vmr8e', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': 'Is it just one of the OBs in the practice you’re going to? You shouldn’t have to endure feeling judged by your doctor. Maybe you can switch to another OB or an MFM that knows more about this kind of thing', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-13T21:52:25', 'parent_id': 't1_m13qypp'}, {'comment_id': 'm5dg01w', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'Thank you! I see a specialist on Monday I’m now 13 weeks, I haven’t taken my 2mg since 11 weeks and I’ve been doing I guess ok 😭 I’ll definitely ask for those tests.\nI’d still really like to hear stories from someone who’s had their baby and had same struggles as us!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-04T22:02:14', 'parent_id': 't1_m1vlwxm'}, {'comment_id': 'mievtax', 'author': 'Liznardo1', 'body': 'You can just ask for amnio with all the testing?!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T15:50:45', 'parent_id': 't1_m1vlwxm'}, {'comment_id': 'ltv02p3', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Your comment is exactly why I posted that! I am so glad my experience could ease your mind. I really feel that when it comes to mental health, they prioritize the baby over the mother and while I understand that’s necessary sometimes, it should never be a blanket direction. \nI was actually a part of a study while pregnant so they can study the effects of Xanax on pregnant women and the babies. \nHopefully in the future, more OB’s will be open to treating mental health with “controversial” medications during pregnancy if the outcomes are favorable in the risk/benefit analysis.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T20:43:42', 'parent_id': 't1_ltuecbr'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjuxvd', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': ""It is awful, and paradoxically the people that need it the most, are probably also the ones that are most anxious about taking it, since we are already so anxious lol. Its the worst 🫤. I just wish I could be normal and not need to take all these medications. I just keep feeling like that I am sacrificing my babies health for my own benefit, and that doesn't feel like I am starting off as a good mother. But ironically, its also for my own benefit that my baby be healthy as he can be, so its not like I care about his health just for his health's sake, its also for my sake. Not to mention, I just read today that pregnant ppl should be eating more than 175g of carbs per day for the babies brain development. I have been eating about half that.... it just seems like I am doing all of these things that is putting my baby at risk for not being as healthy as he could be, before he is even born. I also have other disease like type 1 diabetes which doesn't help either."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjuahq'}, {'comment_id': 'mifhltp', 'author': 'Liznardo1', 'body': 'Omg thank god!! 🥰❤️Did you take it during first tri?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T18:34:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mifh4ud'}, {'comment_id': 'm1wq17l', 'author': 'Grand-Consequence790', 'body': 'I see a different one every time. This one was very rude in particular so I just think it’s her', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-14T01:20:08', 'parent_id': 't1_m1vmr8e'}, {'comment_id': 'ltwzpw0', 'author': 'Square_Carpenter4816', 'body': 'MFM approved it for me as well, but at my appointment yesterday I met the OB that will be overseeing my delivery and the look of judgement when she asked about the xanex nearly broke me. My MFM doctor did speak up and say she & her superior felt the benefit far outweighed the risk and that I’ve displayed other mental health factors that support their decision, but the OB began rambling off the possible side effects at birth & the potential for a longer NICU stay, even saying the baby may not be discharged with me. I was shaking! My MFM doctor reiterated that in a dose as low as mine they haven’t seen any of these issues and it’s just protocol to mention the risks. I struggled my entire pregnancy with the decision to stay on this low dose. Your post really gave me some peace of mind. It’s so appreciated!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T03:16:39', 'parent_id': 't1_ltv02p3'}, {'comment_id': 'm4xgxph', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'I needed to see this. Gonna take Xanax for a flight tomorrow. I usually take klonopin and I did on the flight out of the country but I ran out and all I have is Xanax on the flight back in so I’m all worried about taking that now,', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-02T05:28:00', 'parent_id': 't1_ltv02p3'}, {'comment_id': 'mifhs06', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'Yep absolutely, this is when my anxiety was the worse !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T18:35:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mifhltp'}, {'comment_id': 'lty65zx', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Wow. The comment from your OB infuriates me because my first OB (I switched after her judgmental attitude) was the same way. She made me feel like I was nearly committing neglect or abuse for taking it. I even asked her if CPS would be involved (I was terrified) and she basically said “ 🤷\u200d♀️ maybe”. \nI switched to an OB that was far more experienced and knowledgeable and made me feel better. \n\nFor the record, they didn’t even drug test my baby and there was no issues whatsoever. I’m so sorry your ob made you feel judged. Try to remember, they will always make the decision in THEIR best interest…so anything that isn’t recommended for pregnancy they’ll be against for liability reasons. It’s sad but true.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T07:46:04', 'parent_id': 't1_ltwzpw0'}]"
1gafofg,2024-10-23T22:34:00,Up and Down,"Hey mamas! I posted in here awhile ago about having bad anxiety attacks which prompted my increase of lexapro from 10mg to 15mg. So far that has been the correct choice and I feel my mood has been a lot better. I have noticed that it seems like I get anxiety every few weeks and it usually upticks with symptoms like vomiting, smell aversions, and weepy-ness. Anyone have this experience? Is this hormonal fluctuations? Thanks! ",MentalHealthBabies,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gafofg/up_and_down/,[]
1g9v6l3,2024-10-23T04:07:08,What helped your decision to get on meds?,"Hi guys! 13 weeks along, and it’s been a roller coaster ride to say the least. I was diagnosed with depression and ADHD and had been in therapy and a revolving door of meds for the past year to manage my symptoms and I finally found a set that worked for me! Yay! 

Then, I find out I’m 6 weeks pregnant. I had been in such a good state at that point that I didn’t feel like I would miss the meds too much and so cold turkeyed off of it. But ofc the hormones, nausea, fatigue, and unmanaged symptoms ramped up real quick and a lot of my old symptoms returned with a vengeance. Intense suicidal ideation, crying spells, general lethargy and an inability to do anything. I stopped cooking or really living my life as I did before

I’ve spoken with my therapist on this and she insists I go back on my medication, so after speaking with my psych and OB I’ve been referred to a perinatal specialist to discuss.

But honestly I’m still at the edge. I have days where I’m good, and on those days I wonder if I was just being dramatic and why would I put my baby through the risks of the medication and also the finances of going to these extra doctors and appointments (I’m not able to go to my hospital of choice where a friend works as a nurse because they don’t have a specialist there) but I’m on my bad days I endlessly fantasize about not existing anymore that it keeps me up at night. I’m like is it worth the danger because I can’t handle normal pregnancy hormones.

I don’t know. I have no concept of what’s normal or not, what’s normal to white knuckle through or not. I see on social media that a lot of pregnant people suffer from the fatigue and the nausea and it sucks for everyone. what helped you make the decision for yourself? Was there a final straw?

To note I was taking Vyvanse 20mg",MentalHealthBabies,3,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g9v6l3/what_helped_your_decision_to_get_on_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt92gy0', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'My OB made the decision for me when I showed up for my first ultrasound and had a break down filling out the depression form in the lobby. Pregnancy hormones were not kind to my mind. Now I know I have perinatal OCD so even though I was hesitant to go on meds while pregnant I’m so incredibly grateful I did. That was during the first trimester of my first pregnancy and now I’m in the first trimester of my second pregnancy on an even higher dose of Zoloft plus another pill to take as needed if I start obsessing over things and can’t stop. Everyone from my OB to my maternal health psychiatrist to my regular therapist are supportive of me being on meds. My opinion? If they’re pregnancy safe and helpful to you don’t hesitate to take them! I honestly don’t know where I’d be now if I didn’t.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T04:22:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'lta0fr1', 'author': 'SingMeAwake', 'body': 'For me, I felt great about it after talking to the perinatal psych. I wanted to stay on my meds and she really supported that and also said the risks were really low anyway. I stayed on cymbalta, adderall, and trazodone through my whole pregnancy and am now thriving with my 6 week old!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T07:41:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'lta6nnv', 'author': 'RestaurantDazzling35', 'body': 'Ok so I have the most perfect, smart, healthy son… and I have a history of major depression and panic attacks. I stayed on my 60 Cymbalta and 300 Wellbutrin and I still had a terrible time being pregnant and postpartum. I imagine it would have been 100x worse if I stopped my meds (which I initially wanted to out of concern for baby). My OB is also a high risk dr so that gave me some reassurance because he told me to stay on my meds. I also got a second anatomy scan (just to make sure no abnormalities because I was paranoid- $500 out of pocket fml but did make me feel better to see everything was fine) and a fetal cardiogram (not by my dr, but one at the hospital they affiliate with, also out of pocket I think was about $600). I didn’t really have the money for those but decided it was money well spent because it put my mind at ease. Staying on your meds is ok!!!!!! You’re not drinking liters of liquor a day, or smoking crack. That’s what my dr told me when I went into his office and was hysterical about deciding about the meds. Hope this helps to hear!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:19:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'ltfv1ks', 'author': 'theoffice-enthusiast', 'body': 'I stayed on my Adhd meds with my second pregnancy under the guidance of a perinatal psychiatrist and this pregnancy has been great so far. I tried to go off but it was horrific for me and I could not function at work. \n\nI went off everything with my first and ironically he was a premie because of a placenta issue that’s completely uncontrollable. \n\nFrom the research I’ve done and talked to my doctor about, Most of the risks are seriously low. I really don’t  think doctors would not prescribe them if not it would be too risky for them. Your health matters too for both you and baby! 🥰🥰🥰 good luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T06:42:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9eu3v', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Thank you for the response!! This has been helpful in alleviating some of the worry! \n\nI literally just came back from a breakdown at the perinatal specialist office and god, I hate crying in front of people 😣 \n\nI’m so glad that it worked out well for you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T05:34:04', 'parent_id': 't1_lt92gy0'}, {'comment_id': 'lta3d6u', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Yay!! This really gives me hope esp seeing you’re also on stims as well! \n\nWhat was the process for you if you don’t mind me asking? Did you also do monthly ultrasounds? I’m worried about costs as well, were the extra visits costly', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T07:59:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lta0fr1'}, {'comment_id': 'ltg66rj', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to also hear from a fellow ADHD-er and so happy that your second pregnancy is coming along well :) if you don’t mind me asking which med/dosage were you taking and how often? Did you do it through all trimesters?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T07:49:50', 'parent_id': 't1_ltfv1ks'}, {'comment_id': 'ltbpknh', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'Of course! I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I’m glad I was able to alleviate some of your worry. You didn’t mention if this was a planned pregnancy or not, but that can be a factor in how you’re feeling as well. Mine was planned and I still had many, many days where I wished I wasn’t pregnant so these thoughts don’t discriminate. But if you weren’t trying to get pregnant your depression symptoms could definitely worsen. Not to mention the stopping your meds cold turkey instead of weaning. It’s no wonder you’re having such strong feelings. Please take care of yourself until you get to meet with the specialist ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T16:59:06', 'parent_id': 't1_lt9eu3v'}, {'comment_id': 'lta4qda', 'author': 'SingMeAwake', 'body': ""It was very straightforward actually. I didn't have any extra ultrasounds or appointments pertaining to my medications, my pregnancy was just monitored as normal. I kept seeing my normal psych every 3 months for my prescriptions and she checked in about the pregnancy to make sure there were no concerns (mostly watching for fetal growth issues with the stimulant. Baby was 10 lbs at birth so no issues there, lol.)"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:07:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lta3d6u'}, {'comment_id': 'lthy6rt', 'author': 'theoffice-enthusiast', 'body': 'Will PM!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T17:25:51', 'parent_id': 't1_ltg66rj'}]"
1g9niva,2024-10-22T22:46:31,Need someone to talk to - Zopiclone,"Hello people 🩷
I am currently 33 weeks pregnant and had a wonderful pregnancy so far without any issues at all.
Unfortunately I am suffering from OCD and chronic severe insomnia to the extend, that I needed to take Zopiclone every night in order to catch a few hours of sleep. I’ve really tried every trick in the book, I tried every herbal remedy existing, also almost every antidepressant and antipsychotic, did therapy, my sleep hygiene is perfect.. Zopiclone was really the only thing that helped me.
The insomnia started 2021 and finally last year it started getting a little bit better and I was able to reduce the amount of Zopiclone and eventually got pregnant.
I told my gynaecologist about it and she recommended me to continue tapering, which I did throughout the first trimester.
In the second trimester I only needed to take the Zopiclone every now and then, but ever since the 3. trimester started, my OCD came back massively, which leaves me in a hopeless spiral right now. 
My OCD is telling me, that I should have stopped the Zopiclone completely in the first trimester and that I can’t let it be undone again in case my baby will be having any birth defect. And guess what? This is keeping me sleepless, which is making me taking the Zopiclone again, which I don’t want, because I am feeling guilty 😭😭 You are seeing, I am really trapped in that situation. And this is why I am asking you here - does anybody have experience with taking sleeping pills during pregnancy?
I’ve had two special anatomy ultrasounds already, which were all perfekt. But I am still so so scared, that there could be something wrong with my baby :-(
Thank you!",MentalHealthBabies,6,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g9niva/need_someone_to_talk_to_zopiclone/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt9ob3g', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""There are toxins in the world all around us, all the time - our babies are being exposed to things in utero and after they're born, for their entire lives. We can only do our best to *reduce*, but never to *eliminate,* exposure to environmental toxins. Your baby has been exposed to this drug in utero, but think of the countless things that other babies may be exposed to which yours will not be - alcohol, cigarettes, or maybe other things like medications for blood pressure or epilepsy or multiple sclerosis or crohns disease. Or babies whose mothers live right next to major freeways and breathe lots of exhaust fumes. Or babies whose mothers live in neighborhoods with big industrial plants. Or mothers who eat lots of processed foods. Or mothers who get viral infections during pregnancy. On and on and on. It's literally *impossible* to avoid exposing our unborn babies to any of these hazards. So we can only do our best to limit them. You've done your best. Your in-utero environment may have more of that particular drug but it will have less of countless other hazards that other babies are exposed to, whether their mothers know it or not."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T06:29:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9niva'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9g8ny', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Hello! I didn’t have experience with sleep meds specifically but I was taking vyvanse up to until 6 weeks which is when I found out I was pregnant. I’ve had 3 ultra sounds since then at 13 weeks and he/she is on track and everything is looking good still!! \n\nBut I know that even with the evidence, it’s hard to alleviate those fears, so just want to say that I am here with you. \n\nSometimes what helps me is that I have a friend who works as a labor and delivery nurse in a bad part of town and she tells me that she delivers crack babies all the time that come out totally healthy and normal, so when I start getting in my head I try to remind myself that if those babies can survive those conditions, and all my doctors are saying everything is good, then a good outcome is favorable', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T05:42:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9niva'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2v08z', 'author': 'Firm-Commercial8636', 'body': ""Hi!! I've just read your post and it resonated so much bc I'm going through the exact same thing you described. HOW is your baby? Is she/he healthy? Did you take zopiclon again in the 3rd trimester?\nI'm currently 2weeks pregnant (ivf) and tapering off zopiclon and as a result not sleeping more than 2,3 hours. It really is a hellride. I hope that you and your baby and healthy!💗"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T03:14:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9niva'}]"
1g9mid1,2024-10-22T22:05:02,Started Buspar for prenatal anxiety!,"Currently 20 weeks and I’ve been dealing with awful prenatal anxiety and I finally decided to do something about it. My new psychiatrist even specializes in prenatal/postpartum treatment, even called my OBGYN during my appointment to confirm our plan of action. I finally feel heard and listened to! She also wants to start me on sertraline once baby is born to prevent postpartum depression.

Did anyone else take Buspar/Buspirone during their pregnancy and after? Or sertraline once baby was born? Any success stories? I’m the biggest ball of anxiety you’ll ever meet so I’d love some reassurance 😂

",MentalHealthBabies,5,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g9mid1/started_buspar_for_prenatal_anxiety/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt755xo', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I’m on Prozac (a different SSRI) and I don’t think I could have gotten through my pregnancy without it. I’m far from a doctor, but just in my experience, it may take some time for sertraline to “kick in.” I increased my dose a couple of weeks before my daughter was born to combat increased anxiety and potential ppd/ppa. You may want to further discuss timing with your psychiatrist, just to ensure you’re not going through the big hormonal shift AND still adjusting to the meds. Good luck ❤️', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T22:19:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7a30i', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good for you!! there’s no need to suffer during pregnancy.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T22:45:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9ly6m', 'author': 'gothtopus12345', 'body': 'thank you for sharing this. i’m on sertraline during pregnancy and have been repeatedly told it’s safe :) i wonder if your psych might be holding off on sertraline bc she doesn’t want you to have to deal with the side fx of starting an ssri while also being pregnant, (startup side fx sometimes include headaches, sometimes tummy problems, different for anyone but i increased my dose super slowly and wasn’t impacted). otherwise i’m unsure what the justification would be for waiting to give you an ssri for another 20 weeks, but please know i am notttt a psychiatrist or psych nurse so my thoughts and pondering hold zero value and asking your doctor might reveal a super good reason. i was on buspar in my last pregnancy and found it helpful (it was combined with an ssri) but my doctor eventually took me off it bc my dose got pretty high and overall buspar has fewer studies indicating prehnancy safety compared to ssri’s. yay for treating our MH during pregnancy!! 🤰🏼💗', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T06:15:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt75wbo', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""I haven't taken sertraline, but I have taken Buspar during and after both pregnancies (while breastfeeding) if you have any more questions about that."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T22:23:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lta46gd', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Women’s mental health.org is the only research you should be looking at! Buspar is safe as far as we know but we do have limited human studies. Animal studies showed no issue. If you can, I would try to join the MGH prenatal program where they monitor you and you can participate in research!\n\nI’m on sertaline, Adderall, Klonopin and Buspar and baby girl is growing perfectly at 28w4d! I highly suggest consulting a perinatal or reproductive psych for piece of mind.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:04:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lta46p8', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Women’s mental health.org is the only research you should be looking at! Buspar is safe as far as we know but we do have limited human studies. Animal studies showed no issue. If you can, I would try to join the MGH prenatal program where they monitor you and you can participate in research!\n\nI’m on sertaline, Adderall, Klonopin and Buspar and baby girl is growing perfectly at 28w4d! I highly suggest consulting a perinatal or reproductive psych for piece of mind.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:04:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lw67xdm', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'Hi! I’m about to start buspar. Wondering how things are going for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T05:53:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7kmaz', 'author': 'DeliciousEase3', 'body': 'Buspar made me so tired, but switching to Prozac has been great. We changed my dosage postpartum and I’m grateful these medications exist.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T23:39:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7rcka', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I have another appointment with my psychiatrist next month so I think I’m gonna see if I can maybe get on that antidepressant before giving birth to baby. I also have an OB appointment tomorrow so I definitely want my doctor’s input on that as well.\n\nIt’s been awhile since I’ve tried an antidepressant but you make a really good point about it taking time to kick in! \n\nDo you feel like being on antidepressant helped you postpartum? :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:14:12', 'parent_id': 't1_lt755xo'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7reu6', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I was really trying to raw dog life but it just wasn’t working out 😂', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:14:32', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7a30i'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7qss8', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I’d love more info! I’m interested to hear how it helped you postpartum?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:11:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lt75wbo'}, {'comment_id': 'lw680ru', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'I am 23 weeks! Doctor prescribed 15mg 3x a day but I will slowly increase dosage\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T05:53:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lw67xdm'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7rt32', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I’ve been hearing great things about Prozac too! I’m pretty open to trying any antidepressant, I just reallllly don’t want to go through any intense postpartum depression. \n\nDid it make the newborn days easier for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:16:36', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7kmaz'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7u97m', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I’m definitely experiencing some postpartum anxiety (only 11 days pp), but I think it’s inevitable with the huge hormonal shift and life change. I’m still very functional and I only had two very tearful days lol I’m riding it out and hoping it eases up in the next few weeks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:29:10', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7rcka'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7siwh', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'seriously…don’t. better living through pharmacology! you will feel SO much better.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:20:17', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7reu6'}, {'comment_id': 'ltfc3hn', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""I developed some increased anxiety starting a few weeks after birth the first time. I don't think it was PPA, but I was recovering from a fairly traumatic pregnancy. I ended up increasing the dose of Buspar around 4 months postpartum (it took a while to get an appointment because my previous psychiatrist died) from 5mg 3x/day to 10mg, and it made a big difference. \n\nIt just made things easier to manage, and I didn't feel like I wanted to cry all the time. I ended up going down to 7.5mg 3x/day a few months later, and I've been on that dosage since then. This postpartum period has been less anxiety-filled, so it's definitely doing what I need it to do."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T04:51:06', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7qss8'}, {'comment_id': 'lwgku8n', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I’d say things are maybe like 15-20% better but I’m only on 5mg 2x a day so hopefully we’ll increase my dose at my next appointment 😂', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T01:08:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lw680ru'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9nke8', 'author': 'DeliciousEase3', 'body': 'I think it helped with the newborn days for sure. It was still an incredibly difficult time so I can’t imagine what it would have been like without it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T06:24:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7rt32'}]"
1g8vtdy,2024-10-21T23:14:08,Benzo baby?,"Can somebody put my mind at ease a bit? My reproductive psychiatrist says to take Ativan while I’m optimizing my Lexapro (was going to be Sertraline but went with Lexapro/Escitalopram). I have severe anxiety and multiple panic attacks a day starting at 5-6 weeks (with some history of them in the past). I’m trying my hardest to trust her. She wants me taking 1mg twice daily. Any comments from anyone who has taken benzodiazepines in 1st trimester would be great. Thank you and hope you’re all well with your own battles 🙏🏻 

Thank you everyone for your info. TW - nothing to do with meds - but my 9 week u/s shows no heartbeat. Wishing you all some beautiful time with your pregnancies and babies ♥️ ",MentalHealthBabies,6,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g8vtdy/benzo_baby/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt1j5rv', 'author': 'spottedgreenhippo', 'body': 'No one is (likely) more qualified to speak on this matter than a reproductive psychiatrist! With meds and pregnancy you are weighing the  *potential* risks to baby with the benefits to moms mental health. \n\nI took sertraline while pregnant and that worked for me and my anxiety at the advice of my psychiatrist.', 'score': 13, 'timestamp': '2024-10-21T23:34:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt1o0g9', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Yes! I took Klonopin .5-1 mg nightly. I have a 15 month old now. She is smart and healthy as can be. Her birth was perfectly healthy too. I saw a reproductive psychiatrist and a maternal fetal medicine doctor and they both said the recent research indicates no (or extremely low risk)harm at low doses. They also said Google would tell me otherwise so try to avoid that.\nI AGONIZED over this and felt so guilty. But she’s perfect and I had a healthy happy pregnancy. Feel free to message me!', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-10-21T23:59:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt48vom', 'author': 'Crims0n_Curse1', 'body': 'I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant and take Lexapro 20mg daily and Lorazepam .5mg as needed. I used to have to take 1mg of Ativan once everyday at least, but I slowly weaned it to half the dosage and now only take it if im REALLY not able to come down from a panic attack. It’s more serious towards the end of pregnancy because it can cause some babies to have withdrawals. It’s ultimately up to you and your doctor. When I discussed it with my doctors, they agreed that a panic attack and anxiety was more harmful than a a small percentage of a chance of withdrawals at birth. It’s a double edged sword. Just remember if you ever feel guilty; some women are literally doing crack while pregnant. You’re doing what you need to do to survive and that’s ok! ❤️', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T08:47:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt1vheh', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Here are some articles on the topic which suggest that risks are low at a low and controlled dosage. I am not a doctor and can't advise you on whether or not you should or shouldn't take this medication, but many doctors do prescribe benzodiazepines during pregnancy. \n\nhttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35909254/\n\nhttps://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/prenatal-exposure-to-benzodiazepines-and-neurodevelopmental-outcomes/"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T00:37:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt2oqpo', 'author': 'chrissymad', 'body': 'There is nothing foolproof when it comes to being pregnant and medication safety - and that goes for everything. But I would trust a mental health professional who specializes in this. \n\n\nI took my adhd meds, Prozac (even had my dose upped during pregnancy) among other things - including certain topical pain killers (mostly lidocaine patches) because I had a severe herniated disc in my lower spine. My kid may not be the model of great health but it’s not because of any of that. You gotta do what’s good for you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T03:05:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'ltdtyki', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""I didn't take benzos despite being offered them (by my psychiatrist) during my second pregnancy, but let me say, having panic attacks while pregnant is horrendous. I spent the first 20 weeks of my pregnancy in fight or flight and I could not get myself calm. I was constantly thinking about how my brain was hurting the baby. How terrible I was for not being able to calm down. I would just spiral every single day. It was terrible. \n\nLooking back I probably should have taken it but I have a bad history with benzos (I abused them as a teenager) so I didn't want to risk it becoming a problem. Im in my 30s now so I should have just trusted myself more but my anxiety was paralyzing. \n\nMy son is okay, he was born huge and normal. But looking back I wish I would have managed my anxiety better. I would say trust your doctor. If you're worried get a second opinion but even my psychiatrist offered them to me when I was pregnant. \n\nIt's important to manage your anxiety the best you can and using the tools given to you.\n\n\nEdit: I didnt read the second half when I was reading.....\n\nI'm so sorry for your loss. I really hope you find strength during this time."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T00:04:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsupss', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'I took .5 - 1mg daily and our 20 month old is thriving, all milestones, social, adorable, happy. Take care of yourself and baby will be okay. I promise you.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T13:53:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt2ozgm', 'author': 'chrissymad', 'body': 'Best thing I can recommend to anyone is not to google shit if you’re already in this sub with very few exceptions. It’s super hard to avoid doing but trust me, it’s way better for your mental health (and as a result, better for your kiddo!)', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T03:06:46', 'parent_id': 't1_lt1o0g9'}]"
1g5fvuk,2024-10-17T07:17:29,Dissertation Study Recruitment Request,"Hello All,

Thank you so much for reading this! My name is Alanna Barnes, and I am currently enrolled in the Clinical Psychology doctoral program (Psy.D.) at Chaminade University. I am seeking participants for my dissertation research study. My study aims to create a novel measure of psychological safety. This measure would be used in the psychotherapeutic setting to assess if a client/patient perceives their therapist to have created a psychologically safe environment. To participate, I am asking for individuals to complete an anonymous ten-minute survey. There will also be a raffle for one of three $50 Visa gift cards for any participant who would be comfortable sharing their email address. The email address will be kept confidential and only used for the raffle. Upon the completion of the raffle, all email addresses will be deleted.

To qualify as a participant, here are my inclusion criteria:

* Must be over the age of 18
* Must be located within the United States
* Must be English-speaking
* Must be currently receiving psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional OR it has been less than a year from your most recent session with a licensed mental health professional 
* At the time of the study, one must have completed at least two sessions with a licensed mental health professional

If you know someone or a group that would be interested in taking this survey, please forward. **Lastly, if you qualify to participate and want to participate, please use this** [link](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd9KDbgV_QYQWA6yrfYlU5aui5rbGYQGe2RO-pkdx0M6ZsNHA/viewform).

This study was approved by the Chaminade IRB on September 30th, 2024 with Protocol Number: CUH 449 2024.

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",MentalHealthBabies,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g5fvuk/dissertation_study_recruitment_request/,"[{'comment_id': 'lsx6t9w', 'author': 'vampirenurse', 'body': 'Mod approved', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-21T04:41:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1g5fvuk'}]"
1g1uot9,2024-10-12T12:42:01,Starting Zoloft (sertraline) expectations??,"Hi everyone, 1st post here. I’m so grateful to have found this sub 🥺.

I’m meeting with a reproductive psychiatrist on Tuesday. I’m 7 weeks and having severe anxiety/panic attacks and hopeless depression. It’s f’ing real and debilitating and way too much. I’m a nurse, and I’m presuming they will suggest Zoloft. I’ve been on Lexapro in the past for anxiety and didn’t feel much of a change when I went off it so figured a new one wouldn’t hurt to try. I’ve heard side effects can be bad to start and I’m sensitive to meds, specifically increased anxiety/panic? I don’t know if I can handle that tbh. Just looking for some advice around that - starting low and slow? How did it go for you? Maybe they will prescribe some Hydroxyzine? I’ve been taking super small doses of leftover diazepam and feeling guilty for that, even though my IVF doctor said it’s ok if that’s what’s taking care of ME. Also curious from any IVF peeps out there if reducing/stopping hormones like progesterone helped? I’m hopeful for that….
Thanks for any input on any or all of the above including low dose benzo’s. 🙏🏻 ",MentalHealthBabies,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g1uot9/starting_zoloft_sertraline_expectations/,"[{'comment_id': 'lrjl0ie', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Message me if you want. I’m here to talk, I was on Benzos and Zoloft my whole pregnancy 🩷', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T15:19:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrjzixd', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good for you for getting help. i had prepartum psychosis with suicidal ideation and it was NOT FUN. turns out my mom had it too. i was on a drug cocktail my entire preg and baby was fine. a little slow to wake up right at birth but it also could have been the epidural.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T17:44:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrk6p74', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""Hey, so sorry you're going through this! I'm 14 weeks right now with an IVF fresh transfer,  and I've been on zoloft for years, as well as using hydroxyzine as needed for bad episodes.\n\nStarting Zoloft can be a little rough for the first couple weeks. I had more success taking mine at night, since I was able to sleep through the worst of the side effects. You may end up on a slightly higher dose when pregnant, because of the way your body is working (I just had to increase my dose after three years of being stable).\n\nAs to coming off progesterone and estrogen, I don't know that I noticed a huge difference, tbh. The idea for IVF is that you are supplementing until the placenta is developed and is making these hormones on its own. I have noticed a small improvement now that I've made it to the second tri, likely because I'm not battling as much fatigue and nausea anymore. \n\nDo not feel bad about doing what you need to do to take care of yourself. It's better for baby to have you comfortable and healthy! My doc keeps reassuring me as well."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T18:37:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrl8ara', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'I take hydroxyzine and low dose clonzepam OB approved I’m 13 weeks and baby is great. Hope you find something that works! ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T22:23:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrot2qx', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'I had been on Citalopram for 8 years, it stopped working and in the first weeks of my pregnancy I was so, so anxious and depressed. Switched to fluoxetin (prozac) and am feeling soo much better!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T13:04:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lsef0i6', 'author': 'WarmBath8', 'body': 'Thank you so much for all this info. We decided to restart my Lexapro and see how it goes under these new circumstances instead of trying something I’ve never been on before because I’m quite vulnerable right now. She has also given me 0.5-1mg Ativan to use twice daily. She said 1mg twice daily while I increase my Lexapro to 10 (goal of 20) but I’m trying to keep it to 0.5 when I can. \n\nWhat did the Hydroxizine do for you? Like what did it feel like? I feel bad about the benzo but can already feel a difference  since I’ve started taking them…', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-17T23:37:26', 'parent_id': 't1_lrk6p74'}]"
1fzltfa,2024-10-09T12:52:38,TTC in 6 months. Question about antidepressants! ,"Hi all, 

I hope this is okay to ask in this group, please let me know if it isn’t and I will delete. 

I am 30F, I turn 31 at the end of the year. My partner and I hope  to TTC in about March/April 2025.

I was on 30mg of duloxetine for anxiety for many years (maybe 9 years with a brief break). I weaned off the medication about 6 months ago once I started taking a low dose of Endep for chronic pain. Unfortunately in the last couple of months I can feel my anxiety starting to ramp up. I feel myself getting anxious and panicky in situations that have never bothered me previously. I’ve done some CBT in the past and I have a few tools in my toolbox. Unfortunately sometimes these don’t work. I’m also starting to experience some anxiety around the thought of TTC and becoming a parent, I also have some health challenges which make me worry I won’t cope physically or mentally. My partner is very supportive and acknowledges my concerns and assures me that he will support me during pregnancy and when we have our baby. Overall I am leaning towards trying a new antidepressant to optimise my mental health before and during TTC/pregnancy. I’ve heard Zoloft and Lexapro are pregnancy safe. I’ve read a few posts here from people who have taken these medications and found them helpful. For anyone willing to share, would you suggest I take one over the other? Did you find one worked better for you? Did anyone get on antidepressants to help manage their mental health before TTC/pregnancy or during pregnancy and did it help? 
Thank you 🙏🏻 ",MentalHealthBabies,2,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fzltfa/ttc_in_6_months_question_about_antidepressants/,"[{'comment_id': 'lr34hds', 'author': 'Piinj_1234', 'body': 'I started Zoloft during pregnancy and it was a life saver for me. I stopped taking them after I stopped breastfeeding and felt I didn’t need them anymore. Now I’m pregnant again with no2 and starting Zoloft again as the same anxiety is creeping back.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T18:44:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr29j4g', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'I started my pregnancy on Citalopram, as I have been on it for about 8 years. I always suspected it was no longer doing it’s job and it became very clear once I got pregnant, my anxiety went through the roof. Switched to prozac and my anxiety is gone :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T13:54:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr3k2vf', 'author': 'Mundane_Finding_6368', 'body': 'I started Zoloft while TTC and found it very helpful! Just 25mg. I stayed on it for about 6 months post partum until I was feeling more balanced hormonally and emotionally. I’m pregnant with my second now and just decided to start it back up due to feeling more anxious and sad than usual. I’m hoping it prevents any postpartum depression and anxiety as well and plan to eventually go off once I feel like myself again.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T20:17:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr3oev8', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'I was on venlafaxine when I was pregnant and continued into pp. Baby came out perfect. Had a lot of mental health issues get amplified by pregnancy and general life stress. See if you can get referred to a reproductive psychiatrist. My OB referred me to the MFM department which was helpful!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T20:41:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr5ex1a', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I’m on Prozac have been for quite a while - so I  didn’t introduce anything new in pregnancy but I have ocd / health anxiety and all things considered this pregnancy has been very tolerable. I have my days - anyone would. But I’m able to cope in away I would not be without Prozac. I was on lexapro in the past as well but did not feel it has the same positive effects for me. In terms of conception - we had a sticky baby on the very first try (April 2024) and she’s growing perfect now at 25 weeks. There’s a level of guilt I carry about being medicated - but I know whole heartedly the massive cortisol dumps from my panic attacks are more detrimental to the babe than my ssri. Also - it takes time to know how a medication will affect you. So I think your timeline is perfect for getting your footing with something and then seeing how you like it before getting pregnant. I know every experience is different - but from one mental health girlie to another, use the resources and it’s really all going to be okay. You’re not alone in all of the fears and if anything being proactive about managing it makes you more equipped than most.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-10T02:14:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lrbk6zb', 'author': 'BruiseLikeAPeachTree', 'body': 'I have been on escitalopram (lexapro) for years and before TTC I weaned my dose down to 10mg from 20. I felt stable and had no issues. It was a difficult decision to stay on rather than trying to come off, but everything I’ve read says there’s a high risk of post partum depression/anxiety in people who stop and it’s less risk to just stay on some low dose meds. \n\nAfter childbirth I decided to up my dose again about 8 weeks post partum when I finally acknowledged I had post partum anxiety. \n\nI hope to TTC again next year and my plan is to do the same thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-11T03:32:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr8bjrm', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'So good to hear it helped. Good on you for prioritising your mental health, best of luck with baby number 2 💖', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-10T15:53:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lr34hds'}, {'comment_id': 'lr8bnhc', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Amazing, how long did it take for it to start working?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-10T15:54:51', 'parent_id': 't1_lr29j4g'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp5rzk', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Thank you for your reply! Good on you for starting them again, I hope you’re feeling more like yourself soon 🙏🏻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:31:55', 'parent_id': 't1_lr3k2vf'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp5uht', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Thank you, I am keen to speak to an OBGYN about a referral, I have a pre conception appointment soon :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:32:43', 'parent_id': 't1_lr3oev8'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp61tr', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'That’s what I’ve also heard, it’s better for mum to be calm  and take medication than for her to be struggling with mental health. That means a lot, thank you so much. On some days I feel I can tackle the world and on others I feel so unsettled and anxious. I’m also trying positive self talk which I hope helps 🤞🏻', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:35:06', 'parent_id': 't1_lr5ex1a'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp66up', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Thanks for your comment! Do you feel like the 10mg held you? Ideally I’d like to start low & see how I fair. My friend is on 10mg and thinks it’s a great dosage for them (not pregnant).', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:36:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lrbk6zb'}, {'comment_id': 'lrotmtc', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'Sorry for late replies! It was probably no more than a week, I did a cross-taper. Lowering Citalopram\nwhile adding a low dose prozac, then stopping cit and upping prozac. My stomach used to burn from anxiety but it’s completely gone', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T13:11:02', 'parent_id': 't1_lr8bnhc'}, {'comment_id': 'lrplkra', 'author': 'BruiseLikeAPeachTree', 'body': '10mg definitely did the trick during pregnancy. When I first started the med, 10mg was a life changer and I was on it for quite a while before I upped my dose from life stressors', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T18:07:04', 'parent_id': 't1_lrp66up'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp6c79', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'No problem at all, thank you for taking the time to respond. That’s a good idea, while I reduced my duloxetine I started the endep. Ouch, that sounds painful. I have a ‘’functional gut disorder’’ (they don’t know what’s wrong lol) and notice my anxiety can cause severe abdominal pain & vice versa. Hopefully the antidepressant will help with this also.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_lrotmtc'}]"
1fu59ln,2024-10-02T07:27:17,Sertraline progress,"Hi!

Just wanted to share as I’ve started sertraline in week 20. I tried to power through without meds but only got worse with my anxiety and obsessiveness with cleanliness. I have crippling health anxiety that is only related to the baby. 

So I’m on day 6 on 12,5 mg (tried 25 mg once but got severe anxiety and the worst panic I’ve ever experienced).
I typically get super tired right after having the pill. Then about 4-8 hours after I get heightened anxiety, it’s terrible but I try to power through. After that I become a little clearer and can actually see my compulsiveness and can get it down a notch. But then I sleep and the whole cycle begins again. Hopefully the tiredness and heightened anxiety will go away soon.

Just wanted to share. What’s your experience with the medication?",MentalHealthBabies,10,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fu59ln/sertraline_progress/,"[{'comment_id': 'lpz9wk3', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': 'The adjustment period is tough, but hang in there! I took about 2 weeks to adjust to mine, then it really did help.\n\nSomething that helped me was switching to take it at night -- I was able to sleep through most of the side effects that way.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:49:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1fu59ln'}, {'comment_id': 'lpwvzn6', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'It will get better! Zoloft saved me not only during pregnancy but now In postpartum. You got this mama!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T07:32:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1fu59ln'}, {'comment_id': 'lpxduiw', 'author': 'Top_Advisor3542', 'body': 'It will get better but I know these early days are rough - took me about 2 weeks to adjust. Had a lot of dry mouth and headaches too - drink lots of water! Combined with therapy, Zoloft really saved me after two losses, then throughout pregnancy, and now in postpartum too. And baby was just fine, zero signs of SSRI withdrawal', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T09:34:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1fu59ln'}, {'comment_id': 'lq04a23', 'author': 'Mundane_Finding_6368', 'body': 'Was going to say the same! Taking at night definitely helps!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T22:31:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lpz9wk3'}]"
1fsqoez,2024-09-30T13:56:32,Need assurance from those who already gave birth,38 weeks and was told I could give birth any moment from now. Just thinking about giving birth already gives me anxiety. Will I be able to handle the pain? Will I make it? What if I go on panic attack while on labor or while giving birth? So many what ifs. How did you moms manage it? ,MentalHealthBabies,11,28,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fsqoez/need_assurance_from_those_who_already_gave_birth/,"[{'comment_id': 'lpoogqx', 'author': 'AngryBeaverFace88', 'body': 'I didn’t understand this until it happened to me and like you, I was terrified of how I was going to get through it. But you’re thinking about it wrong. You’re imagining going into labor as if it’s something that would happen to you in your current mindset, 100% stone cold sober and scared and aware. \n\nWhen it actually happens, you’re so hopped up on hormones and drugs that you’re barely there. The people in the room are going to be more freaked out than you will be because they’re not the ones actively giving birth. Your body just sort of takes over and it’s something that happens to you and you’re just along for the ride. \n\nEspecially if you have an epidural, it’s extremely tolerable. I was having a casual conversation with the nurses at the time. They had to inform me when the baby was actually out of me and I was like oh that’s it? It’s such a relief.\n\nThe days and weeks leading up to childbirth are a million times more painful/uncomfortable/stressful in my experience. You’re going to feel SO GLAD once the baby is out of you.\n\nGood luck!!', 'score': 19, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T23:36:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpmk079', 'author': 'booksandowls', 'body': 'You’ll be ok. Your body and brain have ways of powering through when it’s an emergency - that’s what I believe, anyway. And afterwards? I had a total panic attack and they gave me Ativan. Then I was right as rain.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T15:12:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpra05j', 'author': 'CoolCatLadyy', 'body': 'Do you have access or are you considering an epidural? I was a panicked and terrified person during labor until I got an epidural. Not saying it is for everyone, but it certainly was for me even though I was against it at first.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T08:37:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpn8d8c', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I had the same fears as a first time mom. My LO was born at 37/4 and I was very nervous, I had to put trust In my medical team, I also got an epidural which helped a lot. Nobody has the same two birthing experience and you have to embrace that there are unknowns. You can’t change that, worrying won’t change it. Labor is not fun, but it’s an experience that is beautiful in its own way. Meeting your baby will make it the best day of your life, I can’t describe that feeling. Try to think of that, ask for help, get support.\nThat’s all any of us can do… also realize what a badass you are. Women are AMAZING and you got this Mama!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T18:44:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpmwwwm', 'author': 'Mustyfox', 'body': 'First of all, congratulations!! 🎉 Wishing you all the best during this time! \nI gave birth in June. I went through all the “what ifs” during the end of my pregnancy as well. Try to remember that you are surrounded by professionals and it’s their job to help you when you need it. \nI’d suggest having a birth plan that addresses what you want to happen if* certain situations arise. Keep in mind that sometimes birth plans can’t go exactly how we want them to in unexpected situations. Before and during my birth I didn’t even pull out my plan cause I knew there was no way it would be followed in my situation. But my fiance knew what to do / say if needed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T17:20:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpr9b6k', 'author': 'FLRocketBaby', 'body': 'You will be ok! Honestly, giving birth was the least bad part of being pregnant. It was just one day, which in retrospect was nothing compared to weeks and weeks of nausea, heartburn, hip pain, fatigue, and being constantly overheated. The only time my labor was bad was when my epidural was delayed because my baby’s heart rate kept dropping, but the nurses and midwife got me through it and everything got better once the epidural kicked in 😊\n\nI was also very scared of having a panic attack during labor. You should definitely tell your care team about your anxiety and try to think of some specific things they can do to help. Like for me, in uncomfortable medical situations it helps to know when we’re about halfway done, and it helps to have them give me frequent reassurance that things are going well. It definitely does NOT help me when they narrate what they’re doing, which is often what doctors and nurses are told to do for anxious patients. So for my birth plan I had a printed page that just briefly explained my anxiety and had a bullet point list of the things that help me. My nurses & midwife did everything I asked and it made a huge difference!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T08:32:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpt7049', 'author': 'Stateach', 'body': 'You’re too busy to have any anxious thoughts when it’s happening. Your body just kind of takes over. You’re going to do great', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T19:10:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpp4vte', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'It helped me to think about the pain as the worst cramp of my life. They suck and it hurts but in the end it will pass. I would recommend laboring at home for as long as possible. If you can try looking up some counter pressure techniques that your partner can do. It really does help with the cramping. \n\nI gave birth at exactly 38 weeks and I was so incredibly sick of being pregnant that by the time I was pushing, I really could not care how painful it was or anything else as long as it got the baby out of me. The hospital is boring, the beds are uncomfortable, and all I wanted to do was to eat some fried chicken and go home.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T01:02:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lprgm2l', 'author': 'Bookaholicforever', 'body': 'The pain wasn’t great and I kept saying I couldn’t do it. Then I did it. I was in full panic mode in the last 30 minutes. My husband just sacrificed his hand to my death grip and the nurses were being amazing', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T09:25:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpsjozc', 'author': 'millionsofpeaches17', 'body': 'Not sure if you have access to one,  but I met with a birth coach/educator ahead of giving birth and it was a game changer. She addressed all of my fears, walked me through different scenarios, and helped me get comfortable with my options and ability to ask questions or say no. She is also an L&D nurse, so her experience was super helpful.\n\nI also hoped to go into spontaneous labor, but ended up getting induced at 40+2. I got an epidural ASAP and it made it so much easier and more chill. I had some intense stuff happen and I was able to just ride through it and feel fine about it all because I was a. prepared and b. on drugs.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T16:16:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lwn3pml', 'author': 'Boycott2015', 'body': 'I had a vaginal birth with no epidural, or any other medication. I was really scared in the lead up to the birth but once I went into labour, I felt confident and calm. My body knew what to do and the pain was very manageable. I used a TENS machine which I would really recommend. It helps massively during contractions. \nIn the end you have a beautiful baby and it all feels worth it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-12T02:27:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpqiwdf', 'author': '_fast_n_curious_', 'body': 'Totally agree. The minute my daughter was born, I said to my husband, “oh yeah we are doing this again!”', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T05:47:59', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'lpz9x09', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you so much for this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:49:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'lq5br6s', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Yes you totally go to like “la la labor land” especially when things get intense', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-03T20:34:14', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'm5q8prq', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'Needed this, thanks for writing it', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T23:11:39', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzb3uh', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:56:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lpmk079'}, {'comment_id': 'lpz9ta8', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Epidural is expensive here in my country 🥲', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:48:59', 'parent_id': 't1_lpra05j'}, {'comment_id': 'lpoqleb', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'This was so thoughtfully written. It helped ease my own anxiety!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T23:47:36', 'parent_id': 't1_lpn8d8c'}, {'comment_id': 'lpza7zw', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you so much 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:51:19', 'parent_id': 't1_lpn8d8c'}, {'comment_id': 'lpza1hm', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:50:17', 'parent_id': 't1_lpmwwwm'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzas5l', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you so much!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:54:29', 'parent_id': 't1_lpr9b6k'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzaay7', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you! 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:51:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lpt7049'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzb22y', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': ""I don't even know if I know how to push. It also adds to my anxiety 😂 anyway thank you so much!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:56:02', 'parent_id': 't1_lpp4vte'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzanmx', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': ""In our local hospital husbands aren't allowed in the delivery room that's why it added to my anxiety 😂"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:53:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lprgm2l'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzah5n', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'I wish I lived in a country with all those access. Thank you for the response 🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:52:46', 'parent_id': 't1_lpsjozc'}, {'comment_id': 'lq086kv', 'author': 'Stateach', 'body': 'Assuming USA? Is it expensive elsewhere? My first born was 10k and second was 8k. Epidural is worth the payment plan if you want one!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T22:52:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lpz9ta8'}, {'comment_id': 'lq276c5', 'author': 'Bookaholicforever', 'body': 'Oh really? Yeah that would have sent my anxiety sky high!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-03T05:33:49', 'parent_id': 't1_lpzanmx'}]"
1fqngow,2024-09-27T18:45:47,"Increasing SSRI at 36 weeks, feeling guilty ","I honestly have no clue what is a normal pregnancy symptom vs my own preexisting anxiety/depression. I’m not really excited anymore; I have this dread/anxiety creeping in and I’m also terrified of PPD/PPA. My psych wants me to bump from 40 mg to 60 mg of Prozac, which I’ve accepted. This would be my second increase this pregnancy. Everything was going great and now I feel like I’m failing at the very end and won’t be able to enjoy her arrival. ",MentalHealthBabies,7,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fqngow/increasing_ssri_at_36_weeks_feeling_guilty/,"[{'comment_id': 'lp8qtt7', 'author': 'Malgayne', 'body': 'I just want to mention two things in addition to what the others have said here: \n\n1. Prozac, and SSRI’s in general, are generally considered to be pretty safe drugs during pregnancy.\n\n2. As pregnancy progresses, your total volume of blood in your body drastically increases—meaning you often need a higher dose of the same medication to get the same effect. My wife has a pain condition and (with the supervision of a doctor) continued to take her opioid pain medicine during pregnancy. We WANTED to stop, but the doctor pointed out that going through withdrawal while pregnant would be more disruptive than maintaining the medication. But around the third trimester she started to experience withdrawal symptoms even without adjusting her dosage, so we wound up going up on the painkillers. Our little one is now 16 months, and developmentally she’s doing exceptionally well. It’s gonna be okay.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T02:11:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lp83ub5', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'You’re doing nothing wrong ❤️ Your mental health matters oh so much, you’re doing yourself and baby a favour by listening to your doc that wants nothing but the best for you ❤️\n\nI have bipolar and was spiraling fast, I am on FOUR psych meds. But it’s what’s needed to keep me stable, and I won’t be a good mom if I’m not.\n\nYou got this💪', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T00:04:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lp6owbp', 'author': 'sammyxorae', 'body': 'I just want to say, I hear you and understand. My goal was to get off my WellButrin after I give birth in January, and now I’m realizing I may need to increase it again. Just remember, if it’s helping you, it’s helping baby :)', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-27T19:28:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lpawe4t', 'author': 'SurrenderNPray', 'body': 'Pregnancy changes your body! You have nothing to feel guilty about. I needed to double my Zoloft and increase my seizure med- Keppra 4x when I was pregnant. They did blood tests and it showed that my metabolism had totally changed and I needed more. My baby is healthy and your mental health matters so much. The only thing I regret now is not doing it with my first and going through severe PPA. Prayers!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T11:26:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lp77jji', 'author': 'ZeldaTheGreyt', 'body': 'It’s so normal to feel stressed and anxious, especially as you get closer to the due date! It’s a huge life change, and so many things are going through your brain—pregnancy, delivery, going home, the enormousness of all of it, the short-term, the long-term…\n\nDon’t feel guilty for taking meds to feel better. Happy mom=happy baby! You don’t have to feel bad for securing your own oxygen mask first.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-27T21:11:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lpcc9g6', 'author': 'millionsofpeaches17', 'body': ""By monitoring your mental health and keeping up with your meds, you're not failing at all. You're doing what needs to be done to stay healthy for you and your baby. Like someone else said, your blood volume increases massively, so increasing a dose is pretty common to offset this. It's hard, but you're doing the right thing. ❤️"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T19:47:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lpfni73', 'author': 'Aggressive_Clerk7755', 'body': ""I did basically the exact same thing (increased SSRI at 36 weeks) and am SO glad I did. Was feeling very anxious beginning at around 20 weeks,and dreading the arrival of my baby. I was also really fearing post partum depression throughout my pregnancy. I am SO glad I upped my meds before his arrival, I am 10 days post partum, and to my surprise, no current depressive symptoms. I think, at least in my case, the increased meds toward the end of my pregnancy really helped with countering the effects of the hormone crash post partum (in addition to helping with my depression/anxiety at the end of pregnancy). Without the increased dose, I would have had such a different (read bad) experience with the birth and days following the birth. IMHO you're doing the right thing for you AND baby!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-29T07:55:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}]"
1fozvyp,2024-09-25T14:27:02,Could my antidepressant suddenly stop working?,I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant and have been on 40 mg of Prozac (fluoxetine). I had to bump my dose up from 30 mg to 40 mg pretty early on in my pregnancy due to an increase in depressive/anxiety symptoms. Everything has been great up until last night. I started to feel bouts of OCD/intrusive thoughts set in and then today I started to feel panicky. Could my meds just not be working because of the hormones? I’m so scared to do any harm to my baby. We’re almost at the end and I have no clue why I’m starting to feel so shitty when everything was going so well. ,MentalHealthBabies,2,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fozvyp/could_my_antidepressant_suddenly_stop_working/,"[{'comment_id': 'lou5e2g', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'Your blood volume doubles during pregnancy that makes your medications wayyy less effective. You may have to go higher. I had to switch from Celexa to Prozac just recently (am 15 weeks), because I was spiraling downwards faaast.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-25T16:43:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'love8oj', 'author': 'throwaway184736283', 'body': 'This happened toward the end of my last pregnancy as well. It all went away and I was great after having the baby. I told my husband it was as if a fog was lifted off me and I felt 1000x better.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-25T21:19:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'low1dag', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'My OB said as pregnancy progresses, I will need to up my dose for my anxiety meds. I started at 50mg of Zoloft (was switched) and now at 30 weeks im at 150 mg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-25T23:19:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mfvy2kf', 'author': 'Status_Meet_4001', 'body': 'My psych said that many people find they need to increase their psych meds during pregnancy for this reason.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-04T07:09:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk4zyv', 'author': 'SoundingAlarm234', 'body': 'I had to go up to 80mg of Prozac while pregnant with my son I was mentally a total mess', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:03:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}]"
1finwn2,2024-09-17T08:19:19,Need positive stories,I am 20 weeks pregnant with a wanted and planned pregnancy. I had a very rough first trimester and am still sick daily. This has been so hard on me mentally. I’ve been dealing with anxiety and depression which I have been previously diagnosed with and managed with 10mg lexapro. I’ve had such an intense week of anxiety I decided finally to up it to 15 and had to take .25mg Ativan. At this point I’m just terrified of the future. It feels like I have 20 more weeks of potential hell ahead. Does anyone relate and have positive stories? Has anyone had to start new meds or just start taking benzos halfway to manage? ,MentalHealthBabies,8,17,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1finwn2/need_positive_stories/,"[{'comment_id': 'lnj36ae', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I can definitely relate. 22w I am on 40mg of Prozac and Ativan .5 as needed. Look on my post history if you want to see a proper spiral lol. We will both get through this. I keep reminding myself that pregnancy is a temporary condition. I may have anxiety my whole life but these unique challenges will only occur a handful of times and I’m confident I can stick it out. You got this 💖', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T11:06:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnjw4g9', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I can relate to this, I developed OCD during pregnancy. I was on 100 mgs of Zoloft and 3 mgs of klonopin up until the last month and I weaned down to 1 mg. I worried myself sick even though the drs told me she would be fine. I had her yesterday at 37/4 and she is beautiful, healthy, and we BOTH are doing well. No withdrawal or birth defects. Take care of yourself.\nListen to your medical team. Don’t Google… and remember healthy mom = healthy baby! You got this mama. 🩷🩷', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T16:32:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnkfzgj', 'author': 'theoffice-enthusiast', 'body': 'I’m on adhd meds at a lower dose and felt this way at the beginning of pregnancy (8months now) but baby is doing great and I talk to my therapist / husband when the guilt creeps in. I went off meds with my first and he ended up having complications and was premie and now with this pregnancy so far everything has looked good, she’s already bigger than my son was and growing healthy. I do think taking care of yourself is an important way to take care of your baby! You’re doing great!', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T18:58:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnsdd58', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'I have CPTSD, depression, anxiety, and was actively self harming during the first half of pregnancy. I was pretty much circling the drain for the majority of my pregnancy. I had to up my Effexor to 225mg and got put on .5mg of klonopin. My baby came out perfectly healthy and is even ahead of schedule on some milestones! And by some miracle, he’s a really chill and happy baby. Labor went quickly and with no complications. I was fully expecting to be crippled with PPD/PPA, but for once my brain decided to not be a total fucker and i only had some passing baby blues. Pregnancy is just a garbage time in life, but it is temporary even though it feels like for fucking ever. But at least giving birth will be the biggest relief!', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-09-19T01:34:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnjzhay', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had prepartum psychosis with suicidal ideation in first trimester. i switched my meds and did a LOT more therapy. baby was fine. i’ve had a lot of difficulty in the ensuing 4 years but am continually working on it.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T17:01:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnse00j', 'author': 'kdine222', 'body': 'Thank you everyone for your sweet replies. I have upped my dose and am starting to feel relief. I think I’ve realized that pregnancy can make you feel really trapped in your mental health struggles. Anyone relate to that?', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-19T01:38:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnql0f1', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I had really rough mental health during my pregnancy, depression in the first trimester then severe anxiety in the third trimester. I started taking lexapro around 32 weeks and finally started feeling a bit better around 37-38 weeks. It took a while for the meds to work. Surprisingly to me, though I had a very emotional first 4 weeks of motherhood, I didn't end up with any postpartum mental health issues and my baby is almost one and my mental health has actually been better than my pre-pregnancy normal for most of the year."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T19:56:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lo4p8cc', 'author': 'Pistachios_3434', 'body': 'I started talking 20 mg Lexapro around 16 weeks for severe anxiety. I’ve struggled with depression, anxiety and OCD my whole life and was med-free prior to pregnancy. The Lexapro helped a lot for me. Your mental health is SO important, and good job doing what you need to do to help yourself. I struggled with anxiety after birth even on the Lexapro but I know it would’ve been much worse had I not taken it. I’ve had weekly therapy since LO was 3 months old. He’s 2 now and thriving. Everyone is different but for me parenthood has been beautiful AND hard as hell. Taking care of yourself as a parent cannot be understated. You’re already ahead of the game 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-21T04:54:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnmov6t', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'This is so nice to hear … I’m on .25 klonopin rn for as needed severe insomnia and scared myself to death but u had a beautiful baby girl! Thank you for sharing', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T02:09:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lnjw4g9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrj65xi', 'author': 'WarmBath8', 'body': 'Just want to say I 100% relate. Your post has helped me a lot tonight. I’ve been having the most intense anxiety/panic attacks with hopeless depression feelings for a week now. I’m 7 weeks. I see a reproductive psychiatrist and am going to see if I can start Zoloft. I’ve been taking small doses of left over diazepam I had from IVF procedures and even though I’ve been assured this is ‘ok’, I’m riddled with guilt. So glad I found this sub. I have felt completely trapped - even had intrusive thoughts about abortion and this is an IVF baby. I am SURE it will ‘never end’ when I spiral. My friends try but it’s tough for most of them to understand. Anyway, thanks again for your post and being vulnerable.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T12:23:10', 'parent_id': 't1_lnse00j'}, {'comment_id': 'lo4zsrd', 'author': 'kdine222', 'body': 'Thanks for this response. I am already feeling a bit better since upping my dose. I have hope :-)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-21T06:04:24', 'parent_id': 't1_lo4p8cc'}, {'comment_id': 'lnnddgl', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'That’s a really low dose. If your providers are supportive, I would go with that and try to just make sure you get your rest. That is super important 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T04:28:23', 'parent_id': 't1_lnmov6t'}, {'comment_id': 'lrm1yg9', 'author': 'kdine222', 'body': 'This is quite literally how I felt and I just want to say it’s been a month since upping my antidepressant and I feel SO MUCH better. I have been smiling and excited for baby now. I know if I panic again I have both my obgyn and psychs approval to take Ativan and that it IS temprorary. I also finally stopped puking so much which has been a lovely cherry on top. I have thought about abortion multiple times throughout this process and now I can’t even get back into that headspace. Please have hope and I pray it will get better for you!!!!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T01:06:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lrj65xi'}, {'comment_id': 'ls4zdi0', 'author': 'WarmBath8', 'body': 'Update: had appt today, starting Lexapro and was given 0.5-1mg Ativan to take twice per day as I increase and optimize the Lexapro. She showed me up to date evidence and things that make me more comfortable taking these right now. As the Lexapro increases (goal is 20) I *should* be able to taper slowly down off of the Ativan. I’m still feeling guilt and fear - but I know I need help. Which means my baby needs help. I hope you are feeling more confident ♥️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-16T07:28:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lrj65xi'}, {'comment_id': 'lnnopss', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I agree. I have to sleep', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T05:38:28', 'parent_id': 't1_lnnddgl'}, {'comment_id': 'lnnpuk4', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Absolutely!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T05:45:30', 'parent_id': 't1_lnnopss'}]"
1fe2g4k,2024-09-11T10:40:46,Thoughts on the Australian Mental Health Care System?,,MentalHealthBabies,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fe2g4k/thoughts_on_the_australian_mental_health_care/,[]
1fcaq96,2024-09-09T04:25:37,I'm having a really hard time and need positivity please.. ,"Can anyone share positive experiences with taking Klonopin still in early pregnancy or just in pregnancy in general? I'm trying so hard to wean off of it, I've successfully tapered from 3mg a day to .5 a day and I'm 7 weeks. 

I was trying to just stop from there and hadn't taken any in a day, but my anxiety is through the roof to the point my heart literally feels like it's hurting and about to explode and I feel like I can't breathe.  I feel so guilty and I don't know what to do.  I feel like I'm harming my baby and it's eating me alive.. I have been shaking all day, my palpations are insane.  This always happens to me in early pregnancy but this is the first time I've been on medication in the beginning and had to taper.  

I'm just looking for positive stories with this medication or reassurance, or honestly advice... Anything. ",MentalHealthBabies,5,29,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fcaq96/im_having_a_really_hard_time_and_need_positivity/,"[{'comment_id': 'lm7cp14', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Oh honey, I was THERE!!! This is my first pregnancy and I’ve been on 3mgs on klonopin for decades due to severe panic disorder. I talked with many obs, my med provider and finally a maternal fetal medicine doctor. They ALL supported me because I was told the anxiety was worse for the baby. My mental health had to be taken into account. I tried to wean also!! I was having heart palpitations and freaking out!! I am now 37 weeks and still scared sometimes. Birth defects have been debunked. The only thing they mentioned to me was that baby could have TEMPORARY withdrawal if taken close to labor. I have felt SO much guilt over this. I totally understand you!! I have heard so many positive stories on here. They are heartfelt and supportive. The best thing you can do is talk to your medical team. Google will make things worse. I know because I would go down rabbit holes and obsess. Mother to baby.org is good and they have a chat and phone number to talk to people. I wish I had a on the other side story for you but I don’t yet. Others will. I’ve gotten down to 1mg a day and I feel scared still but I know if I had not taken my meds… my baby may not be doing as well as she is right now. I asked for extra ultrasounds which was supported by maternal fetal medicine. They have been all good. Her anatomy scan was great too, honestly.  Being pregnant doesn’t mean you have to suffer.  There is a lot of stigma but try to tune it out. That’s my biggest challenge everyday. Healthy mom=healthy baby. Please don’t neglect your wellbeing. I KNOW how hard it is, please message me if you need support. You’re not alone!', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T05:54:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7ug60', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Not klonopin but I took Xanax throughout my entire pregnancy! 0.5mg a day. I’m currently holding and feeding my healthy 6 week old. \n\nWhen I saw a maternal fetal medicine doctor (for unrelated reasons) she didn’t even bat an eye when I told her my medications I took daily (also took vyvanse & Zoloft) and she said she’s been doing this for 30 years & baby would be fine. She was right. Don’t feel guilty!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T07:51:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7l6tz', 'author': 'Relevant_Post_1519', 'body': 'I don’t have advice, just commiseration.. I was not on as high of a dose but I did stop when I found out and my anxiety is killing me.. I’m a little over 5 weeks and I am not able to see a prenatal psychiatrist until next month. My regular psychiatrist said my other meds are fine but isn’t sure about klonopin, so some days have been extremely difficult, including right now. I feel like panic attacks and not sleeping aren’t good for the baby either.. ugh. I hope it gets better for us soon!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:50:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm90r0u', 'author': 'chocolatetherapy012', 'body': 'I’m taking .25mg a day (and up to 1.5 if I really need it, which hasn’t been often) and baby is 28 weeks and doing so well! I believe they are doing well because I stayed on meds that helped me mentally. My maternal fetal medicine doc didn’t even bat an eye at this during my preconception appointment when I talked to him about how much I could take or if I could take it at all. He’s even doing this for 40 years and I felt so much better with his reassurance. Take as much as u you need to feel ok, your health is so important!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T14:33:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmbs1t9', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’m on klonopin my whole pregnancy. 22 weeks perfectly normal baby girl so far!\nI saw a perinatal psychiatrist which was very helpful. She said don’t google or look around anything!\nThe best website she recommended was https://womensmentalhealth.org', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T01:23:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmazxb5', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I took klonopin 2.5 mg my entire pregnancy', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T22:53:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmb2h95', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I did .5-1 mg nightly. Healthy baby. Feel free to message me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T23:06:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmca9i0', 'author': 'spookymilks', 'body': 'I took it very early in pregnancy as I weaned off and began a ""safer"" medication and my baby was full term and healthy! Meeting all milestones. It\'s a risk vs benefits. I finally stopped at .125!\n\nGo from the .5 you\'re at now, to .25, to .125\n\nYou will need a pill cutter.\n\nThat\'s how I did it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T02:58:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7ekyx', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Thank you omg thank you 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Google has been TERRIFYING ME and I even posted in the 'what to expect' community forum and did not get positive responses at all, there was a lot of shaming and a lot of responses telling me that I was going to cause my baby defects.  My anxiety is so, so, so bad and being off just the .5 I was shaking uncontrollably and my heart palpations were insane to the point I felt like I was legitimately having a heart attack.  All of my pregnancies have been this way and I normally just suffer but this one has been WAY worse because I developed severe PPA after my last baby that I fear is still present paired with my history of panic disorder.\n\nYour comment just helped me more than you know, especially since you have the support you do behind it all to back it up.  I likely will be messaging you in the future!!! I'm seeing my OB next week and I know I'm obviously going to test positive for my Klonopin and I'm scared just over that alone even though she knew I was on it the last I saw her and told her I was possibly TTC... I just didn't realize it would happen this fast tbh.  I thought I had more time to get my mental right.  I'm hoping she will be understanding.  😭 My blood pressure also is VERY high from anxiety but when I'm on my meds it's completely normal so I know it can't be good for the baby for my physical health to be suffering as bad as it does when I'm unmedicated.  I'm trying to reassure myself as much as I can until I see my doctor.  I hate anxiety.  😭"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:07:07', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7cp14'}, {'comment_id': 'lm82ieo', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Thank you for sharing! This isn’t easy!! 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T08:47:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ug60'}, {'comment_id': 'lmao56y', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for this!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T21:46:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ug60'}, {'comment_id': 'lm82blk', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'So sorry to hear you’re going through this. Benzos can be dangerous to stop taking. Please check with your doctor. You still need to take care of you. I am not a doctor, just a mom who hates seeing others go through what I did. I wish my little girl was here ( 37 weeks now) so I could tell you all with absolute certainty how it all turned out, what I can say is every Dr I have asked and even a labor and delivery nurse were not overly concerned. I can say that my ultrasounds have been wonderful. I can say minus mental health stuff, my pregnancy so far has been healthy. I worry too, however I have to make sure I’m ok, so she is ok. It’s so hard and i understand. I hope you can find a way to get the care YOU need, so you can try to enjoy some of this pregnancy, it’s a LONG road. Sending hugs!! Be strong mama and don’t forget that taking care of YOU is taking care of your baby. 🩷🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T08:45:48', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7l6tz'}, {'comment_id': 'lmantjn', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'This reassured me SO SO so much', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T21:44:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lm90r0u'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcvacy', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for this!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:01:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lmbs1t9'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcve9x', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for sharing your experience!! This had been incredibly helpful 😭🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:01:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lmazxb5'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcvch1', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'I absolutely will!!! My mind has been so bad off', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:01:25', 'parent_id': 't1_lmb2h95'}, {'comment_id': 'meutl5a', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Hi dear. Can I dm? Im in so much pain and neeed help', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-26T14:11:55', 'parent_id': 't1_lmb2h95'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcv9ca', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Thank you!!! I'm going to do this!  About how many weeks did you fully wean??"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:00:52', 'parent_id': 't1_lmca9i0'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7fddq', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Please take your medicine honey. What’s happening to your central nervous system is worse. Cold turkeying this med is BAD. Please breathe, take your meds, talk to your dr. Message me. It’s ok. You have time. I promise 🩷', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:12:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ekyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7lcui', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Also. Zoloft really helped me. Once that kicked in, I felt a lot better and was able to take less klonopin.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:51:22', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ekyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfbhny', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I just had my baby this morning! She is a healthy baby girl. Take care of yourself 🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T21:21:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ekyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lma2r6c', 'author': 'Relevant_Post_1519', 'body': ' ❤️😭Thank you, this means so much and I needed to read that. ❤️ Wishing you a happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T19:44:57', 'parent_id': 't1_lm82blk'}, {'comment_id': 'meutgv6', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'How are you doing dear?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-26T14:10:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lm82blk'}, {'comment_id': 'lmd0ue8', 'author': 'spookymilks', 'body': ""I want to say I was on .25 for maybe two weeks, then about 2 more weeks on .125 to be completely off! But I want to add that I was only on Klonopin for about 6-8 weeks total, so it may take you longer, and that's okay. Be patient with yourself! You were also initially taking a higher dose than I ever was too, which is another thing to consider. It may take some time and that's ok. Your baby is going to be just fine!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:34:51', 'parent_id': 't1_lmcv9ca'}, {'comment_id': 'lmd12uf', 'author': 'spookymilks', 'body': 'I know some people will claim that anything under .5 won\'t even ""do anything"" but I could not just go from even .5 to nothing. So it was absolutely doing SOMETHING. Weaning by going to that super teeny dose worked for me well.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:36:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lmcv9ca'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfosfr', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""This update!!! Thank you!!!!! I needed this so much.  I'm so happy for you.  Thank you again for being so honest & open.  🩷🩷🩷🩷"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T22:32:53', 'parent_id': 't1_lnfbhny'}, {'comment_id': 'lmahye4', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'You too, sweetie!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T21:10:27', 'parent_id': 't1_lma2r6c'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfayrr', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I just had my baby! She’s healthy!! Take care of yourself love!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T21:18:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lma2r6c'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfeo7j', 'author': 'Relevant_Post_1519', 'body': 'Congrats!!! I’m so happy to hear of your update ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T21:38:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lnfayrr'}]"
1jnhlh9,2025-03-30T22:58:00,Need Support :(,"Hi mommas. I feel like this is the best place to turn to as it’s really hard to share with anyone in my life the struggle of managing mental health while pregnant as so many people are uninformed/judgmental. I am currently 30 weeks pregnant and in a very bad place mentally. I started off my pregnancy on Mirtazapine (for sleep), Effexor for depression, and low dose Abilify for panic attacks. Abilify is known to reduce milk supply (breast feeding is very important to me) and I weaned off of it early in my second trimester with no issues. I was doing great in my second trimester. Now that I’m in the third trimester, I had a very large amount of life stressors that were deeply out of my control cause me to become very very stressed. It has now escalated into daily panic attacks and reducing my ability to function/even care for my 2 year old. I have a great psychiatrist who recommended trying Buspar 15 mg 3x a day which I have been on for a couple days now. The problem is that it takes 2-4 weeks to see clinical benefits. So that leaves me in a very dark place waiting for the meds to kick in. My Psych said when it comes to panic attacks and the use of low dose Xanax, it is far better to use the medication which has a short half life than be under extreme stress from a panic attack as that would hurt the baby more. I am finding that 1 mg of Xanax isn’t helping with the severity of anxiety. I have responded to klonipin better than Xanax in the past when I’m not pregnant. I feel SO SO guilty for even needing to consider taking these meds in pregnancy. I am hoping that I can take the klonipin short term while I’m waiting to see the clinical effects of Buspar kick in. Can anyone share success stories on these meds and have a healthy baby?",MentalHealthBabies,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jnhlh9/need_support/,"[{'comment_id': 'mknb3af', 'author': 'awkwardaster', 'body': 'I haven’t been on these meds, but just wanted to reach out and wish you well. You’re doing what needs to be done! Your doctor wouldn’t prescribe you medications that they didn’t think were worth it. They’re right about stress being more risky. It’s a tough place to be in, for sure, but these are the cards we’ve been dealt and you have the right tools to get through it. Are you also in therapy? My friend had luck with someone who used more of a coaching approach to therapy. I wish you all the peace of mind. One day at a time, sister. You got this.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T12:16:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhlh9'}, {'comment_id': 'mkswtim', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Hi. I posted before on multiple other posts lol. \n\nI took Zoloft 200 mg (went to 300 mg by end of pregnancy), Buspar 30 mg, Klonopin 0.5 mg 1-2x daily, and Adderall XR 25 mg. Klonopin wasn’t used daily until around 20-22 weeks. Pregnancy is a mindfuck and the hormones mess with you so much. Postpartum I was started on Seroquel 37.5 mg for intrusive thoughts that was bothering me. I worked with a psychiatrist, a perinatal psychiatrist, and my therapist the entire pregnancy. \n\nMy baby girl had normal bloodwork and scans the entire time. She was born 37w3d with no issues. NICU was present at my delivery and gave her a bit of oxygen but she really didn’t need them. The only thing I noticed was she shook her legs a bit more than normal for about 5-7 days after birth. Newborns will do this normally due to an immature nervous system (I’m a pediatric and primary care NP) but she did it a bit more. She is 14 weeks and she is perfect. Just remember that baby needs a good mom and you are that! You need to take care of yourself to have a healthy pregnancy. And when baby is born, you need to be in a good place so when they look at you, you can connect with them. \n\nAlso untreated anxiety and depression has worse adverse effects than these medications. A great website (and the only website I recommend) is womensmentalhealth.org which has evidenced based studies. I went on there and here for camaraderie! You’re doing a great job, mama 🥰', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-04-01T09:12:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jnhlh9'}, {'comment_id': 'mko0nhh', 'author': 'Otherwise_Piece_1801', 'body': 'I am in therapy. Twice a week currently', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T16:42:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mknb3af'}]"
1jmsxib,2025-03-30T00:03:57,Trying to conceive and just prescribed Sertraline/Zoloft,"I'm 31F and on my third round of trying to conceive after a miscarriage with a number of complications. I have OCD and a history of anorexia but am now weight restored. 

I struggle on and off with ""spikes"" in my obsessive/intrusive thoughts, and go through periods where I will fixate on something (eg. death, aging, my possessions deteriorating). I previously was doing fairly well in terms of daily functioning but since my miscarriage I am having trouble getting through the days and my obsessive thoughts will occasionally lead to very serious ideation. 

I was prescribed sertraline/zoloft by a public health nurse who told me the waitlist to speak with a psychiatrist is 3 years. I haven't started taking it yet but I did some research and found that it is generally considered safe for pregnancy, and does seem to be prescribed for OCD quite often.

It makes me nervous to start a new medication when I am trying to conceive, and potentially right as I get pregnant. I'm wondering if anyone else has been through this, or has spoken with a professional about timing a new med with ttc/early pregnancy? Another option is I continue to try to address these issues in therapy, and don't start the meds until after giving birth, but I know mental illness isn't necessarily good for pregnancy either.

TL;DR prescribed a med for OCD while trying to conceive and unsure of what to do. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jmsxib/trying_to_conceive_and_just_prescribed/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkec55j', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Sertraline is god gifted and totally safe during TTC and pregnancy', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:24:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mke93ng', 'author': 'Lost_inthot', 'body': 'Sertraline was life changing for me and I was told by my primary care doctor it’s safe', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:08:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mken22o', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': 'I started on it long before pregnancy, but have increased my dosage twice while pregnant. Little guy is 38+1, and everything is going well so far. It has made such a positive difference for me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:24:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mkepeqp', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I see a psych np who specializes in pregnancy and women’s health and it was recommended to during trying to conceive and pregnancy. It has been hugely beneficial to me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:37:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mkkqmqy', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I took 150mg of Zoloft with my first pregnancy and I have the most wonderful intelligent and healthy 18months baby girl. I’m on 125mg now and trying for another baby !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-31T01:55:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1jmsxib'}, {'comment_id': 'mkejm22', 'author': 'songs-ohia', 'body': 'Great news!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T01:05:31', 'parent_id': 't1_mkec55j'}, {'comment_id': 'mkea41b', 'author': 'songs-ohia', 'body': ""That's great to know! Thank you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T00:13:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mke93ng'}]"
1jly7u0,2025-03-28T21:20:05,klonopin in pregnancy,"I'm 11 weeks pregnant and have taken 1 mg klonopin daily for the past 3 years, .5mg in the AM and .5mg in the evening. I attempted to taper down on my own by .25 mg/day but struggled ultimately returning to my original dose. Met with a maternal psychiatrist to hoping to discuss risks/increased monitoring/ potential tapering. I just finished the teladoc and it was terrible. Looking for some advice/reassurance.

She emphasized the risks of congenital and developmental issues as well as the baby experiencing withdrawals or floppy baby syndrome (I have researched and been worried about all these issues already) and said I needed to taper off ASAP at an expedited pace to stop any further harm I've already caused the baby, advised against switching to valium for the taper (I've read this can be helpful in managing withdrawal symptoms) because exposing the baby to two drugs is worse (?)  but said she would want to put me on gabapentin to manage withdrawal symptoms. When I asked about the schedule of the taper, she described the same schedule I attempted before (.25 mg/4 weeks), which I don't think aligns with the Ashton manual.

She acknowledged she was coming off as aggressive and emphasized that tapering off benzos would be extremely difficult (I'm aware! and scared!). She never once mentioned my mental health as a concern throughout the process or how I might  be able to cope, and when I asked about how potential withdrawal symptoms could affect the baby, she brushed me off. Ultimately, she referred me to an addiction psychiatrist; while I don't love the ""addiction"" label, I'm hoping they might be more informed and have a better taper plan.

TLDR: maternal psychiatrist seemed uninformed, unconcerned about my mental health, and really scared me about being on Klonopin while pregnant. I'm open to tapering down/off, but really feeling down about her opinions and advice.",MentalHealthBabies,4,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jly7u0/klonopin_in_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mkb7yby', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Both my MFM and perinatal psych said that there is very little evidence of clonazepam causing birth defects or cognitive issues and were unconcerned about my .5/day dosage. I’ve not had my baby yet but am 30 weeks and scans have been fine so far. \n\nWith that said, I was able to wean off in the second trimester and did so only because I wanted to. My doctors were completely fine with me staying on and I still take it as a PRN about once every 1-2 weeks when I get panic attacks. Not worried at all.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T10:24:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jly7u0'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7vck8', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Wait was this a specialist in reproductive psychiatry? I saw one (and maternal fetal medicine) and both said the latest research showed absolutely no harm at low doses. I took .5 mg every night of my pregnancy and have a healthy smart 1.5 year old and no issues at birth. I know that’s just anecdotal but the two doctors I saw were specialists in the field and totally unconcerned, actually quite blase about it!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T22:59:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jly7u0'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfdagx', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': 'are you comfortable sharing your schedule for weaning off and how it went for you mental health wise?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T03:51:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mkb7yby'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7x690', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': 'well great question that just led me to realize something... my NP led me to believe I was being referred to a psychiatrist who specialized in maternal & post natal mental health, and when I scheduled the appointment they used the same verbiage. But online/in MyChart it says ""Womens Behavioral Health Outpatient Services"" and on the hospital website it says her experience is in ""Geriatric Psychiatry/Psychiatry"". I feel duped', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:08:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7vck8'}, {'comment_id': 'mkfymfn', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Sure! I actually had a liquid version for a while and each drop was equal to .1 so 5 drops = .5 mg. I was at .7 when I found out I was pregnant and immediately dropped to .5 and went down by .1 every 2 weeks as long as I was feeling ok until I got to .1 at this point I switched to pills (so I was taking .125 or a quarter of a .5 pill). I debated splitting the pills further but this is what I did instead: \n\nI stabilized at this dose for about a month then started going every other day (pretty easy because klonopin has a long half life) then I started doing every other day plus skipping the weekend (last dose would be on Friday and then would not take .125 till Monday). I then moved to every 2 days and then I was going to try every three but found I had no need to take it and didn’t take one for several weeks until my next panic attack. This approach worked really well for me. \n\nNote that this was like a four month process. I took it slow and was encouraged to by my doctor. My doctor told me if I had tremors or swearing to immediately redose so it’s really important to listen to your body AND take it slow. This is not a drug you want to mess with by going cold turkey. \n\nI’m not going to lie, my mental health is not the best right now. However I am still dealing with residual postpartum depression from my baby I had last April and dealing with the immense stress of being in the third trimester while caring for an 11 month old. Additionally, I do not respond well to typical antidepressants like Zoloft so my options are limited. I will be starting an SNRI and ketamine therapy immediately after giving birth. It was my personal preference to be off all daily medications by the third trimester though—this is not for everyone and I’m fully supportive of people taking their medication if that’s what they need. So YMMV. \n\nI am now fine taking an emergency dose as needed every week or two when my anxiety gets too much to handle and I do not have any withdrawals from this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T05:56:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfdagx'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7yk94', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'You need someone called a reproductive psychiatrist or prenatal psychiatrist. They tend to be at big academic hospitals in or near cities.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:14:57', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7x690'}, {'comment_id': 'mk7xuac', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': ""I'm learning a lot through my experiences with health professional swhile pregnant that I need to do better researching and advocating for myself! Geez"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T23:11:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mk7x690'}, {'comment_id': 'mkg5m6k', 'author': 'Dizzy-Education-1731', 'body': ""This is super helpful from start to finish, TY. I mentioned the liquid suspension to this psych and she didn't know anything about it, I will be asking about it again with the next psych. Tapering with pills is a pain/ so imprecise. Your schedule lines up with what I have mentally planned out too. Hoping the doc will be on board with something slow. I also don't respond well to Zoloft or Lexapro. Personally I find them too activating. Previously I was on trazodone which is no longer considered a first-line med for depression/anxiety but I swear it worked for me. Not trying to give advice, just noting that often those SSRIs doctors swear work for everyone just don't, and I wish they were more open minded. Wishing you luck with your meds & therapy when you can start- I've read good things on reddit about ketamine. Thanks again for the thorough read-out."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-30T06:38:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mkfymfn'}]"
1jis38s,2025-03-24T20:04:27,Bipolar multiple meds and pregnancy,"Hi all, I am 35 F and I am recently diagnosed and finally stable on 4 medications. I'm currently on lithium, Vrylar, Fetzima and zopiclon. I am not able to live a normal life without these meds. I have severe suicidal ideation/planning off of them. I want to be a mother but I don't know if I can come of these meds. Looking for people who have taken these while pregnant.  ",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jis38s/bipolar_multiple_meds_and_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mjjix63', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Since you are in the TTC phase, now is the perfect time to get an appointment with a reproductive psychiatrist (also called a perinatal psychatrist). They specialize in the medication managment during pregnancy.\n\nYou can find a repro psych through post partum support international's (PSI) provider directory online. PSI also has a free to provider consultation line so your current provider can get a consult for you and get more information on what's best specifically for you. Generally, it's not advised to stop your meds at all. Most reproductive psychiatrists will try to find the best studied medication in pregnancy for you and try to work with that. It's also great to have someone you can ask questions about your particular situation (like what meds have you tried prior) and get more information on what's best.\n\nIt's a great resource for those thinking about TTC and I highly recommend it.\n\nPlenty of people with mental health conditions successfully have kids, so this isn't an all or nothing thing."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:10:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjkugfr', 'author': 'awkwardaster', 'body': 'Hi, Bipolar 1 and mother of a 2 year old, currently pregnant again! I’ve been diagnosed for my entire adult life, so I’ve had a lot of time to trial many different meds and find stability before becoming pregnant. Please find a provider who knows about perinatal psychiatry! My provider doesn’t necessarily specialize in it, but he’s knowledgeable enough to recommend good meds for me. Right now all I’m taking is Vraylar 1.5 mg, but I plan to add Zyprexa/Olanzapine 2.5 mg when I’m 30 weeks to prepare myself for postpartum. I had my worst ever episode at 3-4 months postpartum with my first. Your mental health is crucially important and I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised to find that a lot so psych meds are ok in pregnancy. The hormone change during postpartum is intense, so really prepare yourself for that (stock up on formula, make sure you’re getting at least 6 hours of sleep a night, etc).', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T06:19:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjnx0fh', 'author': 'misspiggie', 'body': ""I tapered lithium down to 300mg throughout my pregnancy and beyond and I now have a healthy EBF baby. Research states less than 600mg of lithium carries a significantly reduced risk of Ebstein's anomaly."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T20:29:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhmz42', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T20:42:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jis38s'}, {'comment_id': 'mjjrf5b', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Thank you for your response I really appreciate that. I know that I need to connect with a reproductive Psychatrist because my own psychatrist also says it but I am on 4 medications and this cocktail keeps me alive. I am worried that this process will destabilize me. I was stabilized once before and once my meds was stopped I got really bad and it took me 2 years to find another combo', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T02:51:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mjjix63'}, {'comment_id': 'mjl4xds', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Thank you for your respond. I wish you best of luck this round. I am bipolar 2 so very depression heavy and rarely hypomanic. I had my worst depressive episode that lasted months and I am just starting to get better. I know that my meds are safe as individuals but I don’t know if I can take them all together. The doctors advise that I come off of a couple of them \xa0but I’m not sure if I can. I have a wonderful psychiatrist but the reproductive psychiatrist mostly cares about the child.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T07:20:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mjkugfr'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpd04k', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Were you on anything else during your pregnancy ? I’m on lithium Vrylar and Fetzima plus adhd meds. There’s no way they will let me just lower my dose I will have to come off of some stuff 😢', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:31:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mjnx0fh'}, {'comment_id': 'mjhqfab', 'author': 'Lilynana31', 'body': 'Thanks\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-24T21:00:06', 'parent_id': 't1_mjhmz42'}, {'comment_id': 'mjpf9se', 'author': 'misspiggie', 'body': ""Regarding your personal medication situation all I can speak about is the lithium. \n\n I did also take trazodone and abilify for most of my pregnancy, but I quit abilify cold turkey when I learned it precludes breast milk production. Thankfully when I did deliver my supply was unaffected. \n\nI think for me out of my three medications lithium definitely did all the heavy lifting. If I were in your situation I would really try to simply lower the dose of lithium and maybe get off a different medication if your doctors determine you really can't stay on all of them."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T00:42:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mjpd04k'}]"
1jg6swj,2025-03-21T08:11:00,SSRIs (Citalopram/Celexa) and TTC/Pregnancy,"Hi there! I (34F) would love to hear some experiences of folks who took SSRIs (namely Celexa) during pregnancy and/or breastfeeding. I searched and found some old posts, but nothing that quite answers my questions. I'm also reading up on info via NIH, but I could just use some human-to-human insight.

So, here's my situation: I have diagnosed major depression, generalized anxiety, and PTSD. I take 20mg of citalopram/Celexa daily, for about 10 years now. About a year ago, I decided to try to taper off (I've done a lot of med hopping over the years and this has been the most stable option for me, so switching meds wasn't on the table again), knowing pregnancy might be in my future and wanting to go through this hard part before TTC. To put it simply, it did not go well. I was relatively stable at half dose (10mg), less so at 10mg every other day, and when I finally transitioned off entirely, it was plain bad. I would up having to take leave from work to cope with the full mental breakdown and recovery; the brain zaps made me totally mush brained and stupid; I came completely undone. I stuck it out for about a week and a half on nothing before hitting rock bottom and deciding to return to my full dose. 

Now, fast forward to today...my husband and I are now trying to conceive! Yay!! But I'm getting really frustrated with mixed messages from my primary care vs gyno. I *know* it's ideal to be off these meds, and my primary care brought it back up with me. But it's also ideal for me to, you know, not want to die, which was reinforced by my gyno (focused on mother's health). It's hard not to feel defeated and torn or like I'm making a harmful decision for my future baby by being adamant about staying on my meds. And, of course, in my reading of the science, I'm seeing the whole range of possibilities, from nothing to heart defects (althogh rare) to withdrawal symptoms (less rare). I'm honestly really the most worried about my baby experiencing withdrawals; purely statistically speaking, it seems to be the highest risk here.

So, if you made it this far, please share your experiences being pregnant and nursing on SSRIs (bonus for Celexa) and whether your baby experiences NAS and what that was like for them/you. The good and bad. I could use someone(s) to talk this out with!

TLDR; Did your baby experience NAS after you took Celexa during pregnancy and/or breastfeeding?",MentalHealthBabies,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jg6swj/ssris_citalopramcelexa_and_ttcpregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mj1l85l', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Anecdotes aren't the best way to gather info. Untreated depression exposes your fetus to your illness, and that also has bad effects for the fetus.\n\nThe research is really clear - both of you need that medication, being off the medication is bad for both of you and the benefits of medication outweighs the risks. Your primary care physician is just wrong, and honestly they are really giving medical advice far outside their specialty.\n\nHere are some resources to check out within the actual specialty:\nDr Kristen Lassiter on Instagram- she's a perinatal psychatrist (aka a reproductive psychiatrist, its the specialization for dosing psyc meds in pregnancy).\n\nThe MGH center for women's mental health (associated  with Harvard University). There are a lot of good general articles here for the public.\n\nThis scientific article about psychatric medication management guidelines in pregnancy: https://mhc.kglmeridian.com/view/journals/mhcl/13/6/article-p255.xml\n\nPostpartum support international (PSI). They have a free to provider consultation line for psyc med management so your provider can get a consult with a reproductive psychatrist.\n\nYour primary care provider isn't board certified in psychatry, reproductive psychiatry, or as an OBGYN. They are very much talking out of their scope of practice, and I'd really encourage you to listen to the people who are actually board certified for medication management in pregnancy instead."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T02:47:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg6swj'}, {'comment_id': 'mj32yp0', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': 'https://womensmentalhealth.org This website has great up to date info on psych meds in pregnancy', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T08:00:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg6swj'}, {'comment_id': 'mj1mhnn', 'author': 'Large-Tip8123', 'body': ""Thank you. Like I said in my post, I've been reading the literature myself. But I'd like to talk to a fellow *human* who's been through it. I'm not asking Reddit for medical advice; I want support and loved experience from those going through the same thing.\n\nETA: I do genuinely appreciate you taking the time to provide these resources! I know they'll be helpful for everyone searching this sub for similar resources. But, already having this in my pocket, I really need human-to-human convos to help me process the weird dissonance (and guilt, honestly) I'm experiencing."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T02:54:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mj1l85l'}, {'comment_id': 'mj1tm4b', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""I get it. I'm a scientist tho, and the data comforts me, lol.\n\nThe scientific article I linked actually really helped me with my decision to stay on my antidepressant while TTC, and the MGH articles really made it extra clear too. \n\nFor me, seeing that I could actually give my baby pre-eclampsia and growth restrictions and all sorts of nasty complications that were really bad and could actally result in stillbirth by not taking my meds really helped solidify that NAS was the least of my worries and medicating was the best answer. Additionally, the MGH site actually has a pretty good plain language summary of a retrospective analysis of over a million births showing that NAS may not actually be caused by antidepressants after all. The warning about NAS is actually something FDA requires as a drug class, so it's not actually specific to celexa. Also - celexa is a preferred agent during pregnancy per the gudidence I linked, so it's a great one to take. \n\nAdditionally, if NAS happens it's mainly just a fussy baby for about 3 days. That's way less of an issue than pre-eclampsia or the other risks of non treatment! So again, it really helped me feel like I was making the right call to continue taking my meds. I'd definitely feel much more guilty if any of the risks from not medicating (which are more likely to happen than the risks of medicating) happened.\n\nFinding a repro psych really helped because I could literally ask questions about pre-eclampsia and other nontreatment risks vs NAS and get actual answers specific to me, so just something to also think about for peace of mind."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T03:32:28', 'parent_id': 't1_mj1mhnn'}]"
1jg5b70,2025-03-21T06:54:03,Are my Meds safe for baby during breast feeding? Please help,"I currently am taking Seroquil 10mg, Zoloft 100mg, gabapentin 1200mg, buspar 15mg, and prazosin 5mg. I have a newborn and want to breastfeed. Buspar is being discontinued for this purpose.  Does anyone have any experience breastfeeding being on these medications??",MentalHealthBabies,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jg5b70/are_my_meds_safe_for_baby_during_breast_feeding/,"[{'comment_id': 'miwjoei', 'author': 'vampirenurse', 'body': 'We aren’t able to give medical advice. I’d encourage you to look at LactMed or talk to your pediatrician.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-21T07:19:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'mj4h0rr', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Mothertobaby.com has all the latest research results. My maternal fetal medicine psych had me refer to itit when I didn’t believe her it was ok to take Ativan when pregnant', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T15:45:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'mj63svh', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""The sources other people recommended are great. If you're looking for anecdotes, I've breastfed while taking Buspar without any issues."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T22:13:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'mj8d3qh', 'author': 'Conscious-Green1934', 'body': 'I called infantrisk.org and they were able to advise me on my meds! I’ve decided to combo feed our girl when she gets here if she will have it that way lol', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-23T05:37:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jg5b70'}, {'comment_id': 'miwsnnt', 'author': 'Large-Tip8123', 'body': 'Link to lact med! Be sure to look under their proper names, not brand names. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK501922/', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-21T08:13:13', 'parent_id': 't1_miwjoei'}, {'comment_id': 'mj4h22k', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Go to their “fact sheets” page and they have a search spot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-22T15:45:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mj4h0rr'}]"
1jf9mfp,2025-03-20T03:53:35,TMS or Ketamine?,"I just narrowly avoided getting pink slipped, and my therapist has suggested that my depression may be medication resistant, so it might be time to discuss alternative treatments- namely TMS or ketamine. Does anyone have any experience with either one and would be willing to share? 

For what it's worth, I've got an incredible support system, and since the state of the world has been a trigger, I'm lucky that I've been able to avoid news and social media (I actually just re-downloaded this app for this post). ",MentalHealthBabies,2,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jf9mfp/tms_or_ketamine/,"[{'comment_id': 'mip6yce', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I am medication resistant and have done both. Well, esketamine (sprovato) to be specific. TMS i tried first, but I’m prone to panic attacks and eventually the repetitive stimuli started triggering attacks while in the office. The movement restraint didnt help either. \n\nAfter a lengthy insurance pre approval process I started Sprovato, twice weekly, for 8 weeks then moved down to once weekly, until I fell pregnant(BC fail- unplanned) and stopped immediately. It was helping immensely, particularly with depression. My experience is a zoning out and loss of sense of time briefly following administration of the drug, followed by a couple hours of feeling a little dazed. I remained in a comfy room, in-office for 3 hours total on treatment days, it was all very controlled. I have a history of alcohol abuse and none of that was triggered by the medications, which was a concern to some. I fully intend on restarting my Sprovato treatment after birth, and luckily have solid childcare with my parents to allow me to, because i’m at high risk for PPD/PPA/PPP', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T04:02:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mipo6re', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': 'Theres a TMS specific subreddit if you want more experiences on TMS.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T05:35:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mipty4w', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Medication resistant depression for ten years. Ketamine changed/saved my life. However, this was before I had postpartum depression. I took it in a brief interim between my last pregnancy and current pregnancy (only five months). I’m not sure if it helped or not. I also took zurzuvae but was dealing with some other issues such as severe anxiety and insomnia. My plan is to start it sooner after birth this time as a proactive approach. YMMV\n\nWhen things were really bad I did IV ketamine up to twice a week which is probably most effective but oral lozenges (did this for 2+ years when at a maintenance stage) and the nasal spray (have not tried) are good too! \n\nNever tried TMS', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T06:07:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mir7qck', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'I had TMS while pregnant in 2021, it unfortunately wasn’t effective for me but I’ve only found ECT and MAOIs effective previously. Recommend the r/rTMS, I found it helpful when I was considering TMS.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T12:02:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0j6om', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Ketamine is a life saver, I would recommend this treatment. It completely changed my life\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:43:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1jf9mfp'}, {'comment_id': 'mip8a7q', 'author': 'SquirrelofWisdom', 'body': ""Thank you so much for sharing this. My spouse and I only have one child because our PP experience was so traumatizing (she was sickly and I ended up with PPD/PPA). Ever since having her I haven't felt on steady ground- it's like something broke inside me and I haven't been able to piece it back together. I've always struggled with depression and anxiety, but it's gotten significantly worse over the past few years. I've already done a partial hospitalization program and I see a therapist weekly, but it doesn't seem to be enough anymore."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T04:09:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mip6yce'}, {'comment_id': 'miprmqx', 'author': 'SquirrelofWisdom', 'body': ""Thank you, I'll check it out!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T05:54:23', 'parent_id': 't1_mipo6re'}, {'comment_id': 'mip9cz7', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I empathize with you so much ❤️ i self-admitted into a 2 week inpatient stay in 2022 and have been on 5 psych meds from then until pregnancy, and the experience of tapering down some and off others has been awful. I’m also single and terrified of doing this alone, so I moved in with my parents and my therapist provided me with a PPD/PPP checklist to watch out for. When I’m stabilized, I’m wonderful and people never would guess the struggles inside my head, but it can be so so traumatizing and demoralizing. I was doing the Sprovato treatment in hopes of minimizing my medication regimen and pregnancy seems to have set me back to square one. I’m glad it sounds like you have a supportive partner, and I really hope you’re able to get solid results from one of these treatments. No one deserves to go through life like this. Sending big hugs and hope 🫶🏻🫶🏻', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T04:15:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mip8a7q'}]"
1jd0imk,2025-03-17T06:17:55,"5 months PP, BF, can I take meds?","I don't even know if this is my generalized anxiety anymore. I have intrusive thoughts here and there so it could be OCD, too. I want to take my meds again. I've been a heavy eater since I gave birth but all of a sudden I lost appetite. I just force myself to eat because if I don't, it might affect my supply. I've been frequenting the bathroom because my stomach's upset and so gassy. Not to mention my brain's also foggy! I want to go back to my psychiatrist but she's busy with many patients lining up, my appointment's still on two months. And the thought of taking meds while BF also adds to my anxiety. So many what ifs. What if it's bad for my LO? What if it gives her autism? What if she also gets anxiety? I just want what's best for her and I feel so bad that her mother is so mentally unstable. 🥲",MentalHealthBabies,3,12,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jd0imk/5_months_pp_bf_can_i_take_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'mi6qmd6', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'medicine doesn’t cause autism, let’s stop that fallacy. you need to speak to your provider if you want to continue BF and take meds. i EFF partially so i didn’t have to deal with side effects to my baby. formula is always an option if medication while BF scares you.\n\na mentally healthy mom is most important right now. i’d push to get a quicker appointment with your provider and figure out a pill plan that’s safe for you and kiddo.\n\ngood luck mom!', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:38:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi99zmy', 'author': 'destacadogato', 'body': 'This is why we have to destigmatize mental health in pregnant women and postpartum. There are so many fear mongering people out there. My best advice is to start being more confident in yourself and start trusting yourself more. I’m currently about to give birth in the hospital and I’ve been on Zoloft my whole pregnancy. It really saved me and I will continue to take it because I had postpartum depression/ocd/anxiety with my last baby. You have got to be your own cheerleader and give yourself lots of peptalks.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T19:10:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6rgpr', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Which meds? I was able to be on Klonopin and Adderall when I was breastfeeding, however, I started around 6 months in and only took if I really really needed it.\n\nWhen my baby started only doing night feeds is when I started taking a little more consistently but every medical professional I consulted about it said it was totally fine if I took them regularly, even when my baby was a newborn.\n\nFor reference, she's 2 now and ahead of all of her milestones and perfectly happy and healthy"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:44:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6t0rl', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""I think your pediatrician or OB should be able to tell you about safety with breastfeeding and meds, so if they're meds you have and took in the past, you should be able to send them a message and ask. But like the other commenter said I'd also tell your psychiatrist that you're really struggling and need help sooner."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:53:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mib6bzw', 'author': 'kblacksberg', 'body': 'I breastfed for 18 months and was on all my meds. Adderall gabapentin and Seroquel. Breast milk is worth it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T00:47:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mijowb3', 'author': 'blanket-hoarder', 'body': 'I was on Zoloft for my first pregnancy and while BF. Daughter is doing great. Definitely ask your doctor for meds with research for this case.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-19T07:12:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1jd0imk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6skao', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': ""I also formula feed but we're mainly BF. Thank you!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:50:44', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6qmd6'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6styh', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'I was on 10mg of Escitalopram before pregnancy. I was also on seroquel and clonazepam as needed for sleep. I had to stop when I found out I was pregnanct.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:52:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6rgpr'}, {'comment_id': 'micfn7h', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'How many mg are you on seroquel?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T04:33:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mib6bzw'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6udt1', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good luck…i hope you can find a good solution!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T07:01:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6skao'}, {'comment_id': 'mi6tgey', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""The only one I'm unsure about is the Seroquel, but I was on escitalopram while bfing and encouraged to take it.  I was taking that before I started the Klonopin even though it was technically ok to take both.  I never noticed any differences in my baby while on both"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T06:56:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mi6styh'}, {'comment_id': 'miogv2n', 'author': 'kblacksberg', 'body': 'I was on 25 mg. \n\nI’m pregnant again so off everything but gabapentin', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T01:51:12', 'parent_id': 't1_micfn7h'}]"
1jbht8o,2025-03-15T05:11:50,Gabapentin and pregnancy,"I am 9 weeks 5 days with my first pregnancy, and im seeking out experiences of taking gabapentin while pregnant? I have been on gabapentin for nearly 18 years (it was prescribed to me at 16 as a ""non-narcotic alternative"" for severe anxiety). Over the years i have tapered my dose down, I am at 400mg once a day now (used to be 600mg 3x daily). My OB told me not to stress, as there isn't a lot of evidence of it causing birth defects, but that the baby MAY need the NICU when born which is a huge concern and completely breaks my heart.
Please be kind, as I've discontinued my other meds (diazepam, methyphenidate) but the gaba withdrawals are intense and my doctor thinks it may do more harm than good trying to get off of it completely while I'm pregnant. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,19,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1jbht8o/gabapentin_and_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mhvv53n', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'I was on 1800 throughout pregnancy, zero problems. Postpartum 11 months, breastfeed, no problems so far.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T12:20:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhu7jbq', 'author': 'CherryPoohLife', 'body': 'Would love to know the answer to this! I’m on 200 atm and in my 3rd trimester.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T05:19:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhu81qt', 'author': 'Conscious-Green1934', 'body': 'I don’t know much about it in pregnancy but I know it’s not typically recommended in pregnancy anymore. However I think they used to have people on it all the time back in the day. But what I do know all about it withdrawals. I had SEVERE withdrawals from an ssri and ended up staying on it and adding another med to get thru it after 2 years of absolute hell on earth. So, knowing that Gabapentin is also very hard to get off of, I would tread lightly and consider staying on. In all likelihood your baby will be ok and you are on a low dose for gabapentin! 🩷 your body will probably naturally taper over the course of pregnancy as well with increased blood volume, method of elimination and increased filtration rates, etc. at least that’s what I tell myself about my own meds.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T05:22:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhyoscy', 'author': 'littlelupie', 'body': 'I took it all pregnancy (900 mg) and had zero issues. Child is a healthy almost 5 year old now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T00:16:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mi00anj', 'author': 'kblacksberg', 'body': 'I’ve been on it and tapered off but my anxiety was so bad my doctor wants me back on. I’m 28 weeks. I might take a low dose until 34 weeks and taper off. OB basically said it’s a risk vs benefit thing and my anxiety has been debilitating', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T04:38:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhu7xsf', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I was tapered off max dosage of gabapentin in my first trimester. Ngl, I can’t wait to go back on it. Still on effexor, seroquel, and a lowered dose of klonopin. In my 3rd tri and baby is healthy so far, but i won’t be breastfeeding so I can go back on my other meds (gabapentin and abilify). \n\nOverall my OB and Psych’s choices of meds were what kept me *somewhat* stable despite there still being a risk for the baby. Its a tough balance to decide on. \n\nI hope you and your team are able to find what works for you, remember you as the mother needs to be healthy to support baby through a healthy pregnancy and delivery 🫶🏻 your needs matter too', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T05:21:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0jgkr', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I was on this for my pregnancy and I took 400 mgs a day. Baby was healthy and is now a vibrate 6 month old.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:45:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1jbht8o'}, {'comment_id': 'mhwrz4a', 'author': 'screamingmimi24', 'body': 'That is so wonderful to hear, thank you!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T17:52:03', 'parent_id': 't1_mhvv53n'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuiflh', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I suffered through HORRIBLE multiday panic attacks during my first trimester and they were so against giving me anything aside from Prozac. It was honestly so traumatic. I’m currently doing TMS since it’s “pregnancy safe” but I’m so annoyed.\nThe anxiety this pregnancy has been outrageous', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:21:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mhu7xsf'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuiqqv', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Pregnancy anxiety is a different world. I’m so sorry- if possible try and find a psychiatrist who is informed and comfortable treating pregnant women. You do not have to be suffering to this extent', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:23:24', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiflh'}, {'comment_id': 'mhupuzt', 'author': 'Kind_Ad5931', 'body': 'I feel this. My OB did not want me taking my klonopin either and i had horrific anxiety and panic attacks and depression for three months. I ended up going from 50 mg zoloft to 200. It finally helped around week 20. Scariest experience of my life. I’m now 9 months PP and doing well. I think the 200 mg dosage is what helped me have a beautiful postpartum. At 5 months PP i started tapering back to my old dose over a 3 month period.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T07:05:39', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiflh'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuiy04', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thanks! Yeah I should have kept looking but now I’m 20 weeks and the panic attacks have decreased significantly. I hope the TMS ends up being effective for me. Good luck with everything. Anxiety during this time is so so tough. Glad you’re getting good care', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:24:35', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiqqv'}, {'comment_id': 'mhur7ql', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I started taking the Zoloft but I thought it was making my anxiety worse so I stopped. I probably should have kept on with it but at the time it felt so bad.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T07:13:45', 'parent_id': 't1_mhupuzt'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuj8u0', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I’m doing much better. I did TMS about 2 years ago, ended up switching to Sprovato treatments (but thats obv not pregnancy safe)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:26:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuiy04'}, {'comment_id': 'mhujs02', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Can I ask what made you switch from TMS? I’m 12 session in and I’ve noticed some improvement with depression but not so much with anxiety', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:29:30', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuj8u0'}, {'comment_id': 'mhujvn7', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I don’t know why, but I started having panic attacks triggered by the “zaps”', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:30:05', 'parent_id': 't1_mhujs02'}, {'comment_id': 'mhuk1ee', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thank you! I actually had a terrible panic attack after my second session and was worried it wasn’t going to work out for me because the chair made me so claustrophobic. But it’s been ok since. Still uncomfortable but tolerable', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:31:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mhujvn7'}, {'comment_id': 'mhukbot', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I hope it helps and will say if it doesn’t, after your pregnancy look into Sprovato- it was really helping me (i discontinued when I found out I was pregnant)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:32:43', 'parent_id': 't1_mhuk1ee'}, {'comment_id': 'mhukiqs', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I will! Thank you. I haven’t heard of it before and I’m\nAlways interested in exploring new options. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T06:33:52', 'parent_id': 't1_mhukbot'}]"
1ja5fm4,2025-03-13T11:34:53,Anyone here Taking zoloft and clonazepam during pregnancy?,"

Currently 32 weeks pregnant. Having severe insomnia and anxiety/OCD . Been taking Zoloft before pregnancy but i stop it because Im pregnant and Klonopin as needed. Im so scared to start again because maybe can cause harm to my baby.😭 ",MentalHealthBabies,5,28,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ja5fm4/anyone_here_taking_zoloft_and_clonazepam_during/,"[{'comment_id': 'mhjig70', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I took 150mg of Zoloft during my pregnancy and Xanax as needed and I have a healthy 16 months baby girl', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T15:50:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhl0ixq', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Since you mention insomnia and safety, did you try unisom for your insomnia yet?\n\nBonjesta and Diclegis are literally health authority approved (and are the brand name of unisom). This means we actually have clincial trials showing the safety on pregnant women.\n\nAdditionally, zoloft is safe during pregnancy too. The MGH center for women's health is associated with Harvard University and has some wonderful scientific content for the public on psyc meds in pregnancy. It's definitely worth a look. Don't assume no treatment means no risks, because you are also exposing your fetus to the untreated illness and it does affect them. A risk benefit analysis by a doctor compares the risks to the fetus of the untreated illness against the risk of the fetus of the medication, and goes with which one is lower. Turns out the medication has a much lower risk!"", 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T21:19:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhjysx7', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I've been on Zoloft my entire pregnancy. Started at 25mg, and have slowly increased to 100mg. 35+6 today, and baby is doing well.\n\nYour mental health is also important. Please at least bring it up with your provider to talk about options!"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T17:58:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhk41la', 'author': 'chocolatetherapy012', 'body': 'I took a small dose of Klonopin daily during my pregnancy and baby girl is 3 months old and doing great. Take care of your mental health, taking it as prescribed and as needed will not harm your baby.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T18:31:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhltt4m', 'author': 'cass1dyt', 'body': 'OK, so the big risk with clonazepam during pregnancy is that it can cause cleft palate and other birth defects if taken during the first trimester. That’s the time when your babies organs, limbs, face, etc. are all being formed. So it’s the most important. \n\nRegardless, the chances of birth defects are incredibly low, but some of the research I read suggested that there could be a connection between clonazepam and cleft palate during the first trimester.\n\nI took 1 mg of clonazepam pretty much every day during my first trimester because I didn’t know I was pregnant. My doctor took me off it immediately when we found out. I was allowed to stay on my Adderall, but took a lot less than my normal dose.\n\nSomething you should think about is that they could drug test you & your baby in the hospital. I don’t know how much clonazepam you take, but it could show up. So make sure you have a doctor’s approval & prescription or CPS could be knocking on your hospital door. \n\nMy girl is 17 months old, absolutely beautiful and way too smart for her own good. Take care of your mental health, momma. \n\nIf anything was wrong, it would’ve shown up on that 20 week sonogram. \n\nHang in there. You’re almost done being pregnant! You were built for this AND YOU GOT IT!', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T23:37:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhki6bx', 'author': 'Critical_Set_8701', 'body': 'I took Zoloft my entire pregnancy with my son and it was the best thing I did for myself. I didn’t have bad postpartum depression after he was born like I did my daughter. I promise you Zoloft is safe for you and baby', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T19:49:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhlb1cm', 'author': 'Grayfoxylady', 'body': 'Went from 40mg of celexa prior to pregnancy 150mg of Zoloft during and after. \nIt saved both of our lives. \n\nUltimately it\'s a question only your DR can answer for you. But for me personally the pros of taking it majorly outweighed the cons/side effects. \nThe only ""complication"" I had was that your baby does ""withdrawal"" once they are born about 24 hours later. That sounds scarier than it ended up being, she was just super cranky and fussy.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T22:09:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mk0m0vk', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Yes and yes! Taking care of your mental health is so important, my personal experience with this is that both helped with my ocd and anxiety tremendously. Due to that I was able to enjoy my pregnancy more even though I was always scared in the back of my mind, I wish I had listened to people more. My baby came out healthy and is a thriving 6 month old! Please consider taking care of your mental health needs because a healthy mom is important for a healthy baby. Sending hugs\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-27T19:58:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhkgjj0', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I take effexor, seroquel, and clonazepam', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-13T19:40:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mhqrjqa', 'author': 'fantasticfitn3ss', 'body': 'I started Zoloft for the first time during pregnancy and am still on it! My baby is almost 8 months old and is thriving!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-14T18:49:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gce8', 'author': 'daisydukers', 'body': 'I have taken lexapro during both of my pregnancies and had to take klonopin as needed during my first pregnancy for ocd flare/insomnia. All is well with both kids. Take care of yourself ♥️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:11:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mi5tvf1', 'author': 'neuesmama', 'body': 'I took 100mg Zoloft and have an incredible and healthy and smart almost 2year old', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-17T03:34:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1ja5fm4'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hzwx', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Thank you for replying🥺 hopefully same result as you.😔 been struggling mentally lately☹️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:21:32', 'parent_id': 't1_mhjig70'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hhda', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': ""Been on 25mg for  2 weeks and now I'm on 50mg (2nd day) on zoloft . Still suffering from side effect which is fatigue and insomnia🥺 how many weeks will it takes?😢"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:18:26', 'parent_id': 't1_mhjysx7'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hmiv', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Started already klonopin 2 days ago. Hope will not affect the baby🥺', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:19:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mhk41la'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0hruq', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Hopefully it safe for the baby🥺 but now still dealing with side effect of zoloft . Going to 3 weeks🥺', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:20:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mhki6bx'}, {'comment_id': 'mkcxgpp', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Ohhh thank you for the good words🥰', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-29T19:49:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mk0m0vk'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gp7w', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'How the baby?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:13:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mhkgjj0'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gnq0', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Ohhhh. Thats good to hear🥺 thank you tho for replying.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:13:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mhqrjqa'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0gjx3', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Good to hear 🥺 been worrying regarding this .thank you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:12:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0gce8'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0i0sr', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I think they typically say 2-3 weeks, so hopefully it will get better for you soon! I take mine at night, which I found helpful, and I've been taking Unisom my whole pregnancy so thankfully haven't dealt with much insomnia."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:21:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0hhda'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0j12y', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Havent given birth yet but healthy at 28 weeks gestation', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:27:50', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0gp7w'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0iduk', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Hopefully next few days will be better🥺 i will take it at night starting tomorrow! Unisom is not working with me. I have to take clonazepam at bed time. 🥺', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:23:54', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0i0sr'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0jwyp', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Are taking clonazepam daily?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:33:16', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0j12y'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0k8yu', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Yeah, was at 2mg pre pregnancy and now at 0.5 mg', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:35:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0jwyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0kquj', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Im taking also 0.5 mg at night. 🥺 Thank you for replying tho. I was worried regarding it .', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:38:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0k8yu'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0ky0y', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'My anxiety and ocd have been so amped up in pregnancy. I am exclusively formula feeding so that I can immediately go back on my full meds/doses regimen. You got this!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:39:33', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0kquj'}, {'comment_id': 'mi0lbjy', 'author': 'Worried_Committee846', 'body': 'Thank you for positives vibes💪🏼', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T06:41:48', 'parent_id': 't1_mi0ky0y'}]"
1j8zjvx,2025-03-12T01:09:54,partial hospitalization/IOP,"i spoke to a program today and they said the average length of treatment is 3-4 weeks (outpatient). i’m trying to figure out how i would logistically do this. i guess hire a nanny for the full day and require her to do school and kid’s therapy and activity appointments? i’d pay for mileage too. i wonder if i can find a short-term nanny with flexibility for this. my mom can’t take that long off of work but will be retiring in summer, so should i wait until late june? (not ideal, but would be easier.)

the tunaround for intake seems pretty fast, so i’d need a nanny ready to start very quickly.

has anyone else done a program and managed childcare successfully?",MentalHealthBabies,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j8zjvx/partial_hospitalizationiop/,"[{'comment_id': 'mh9kv9v', 'author': 'Late-Revolution5373', 'body': 'are you able to do the IOP through zoom?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T01:53:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1j8zjvx'}, {'comment_id': 'mhbaly8', 'author': 'Fluttery-Flower-24', 'body': 'Do they have an evening IOP option? Or is it during the day time?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T07:06:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1j8zjvx'}, {'comment_id': 'mh9msjl', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'in person is better for me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T02:02:27', 'parent_id': 't1_mh9kv9v'}, {'comment_id': 'mhbdw20', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'have only seen daytime here', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-12T07:24:40', 'parent_id': 't1_mhbaly8'}]"
1j7m8o3,2025-03-10T06:05:58,Do children really worth all this pain?,"""Everyone says that kids are the biggest blessing in life, but the reality seems the opposite! No rest, constant stress, endless demands… and now that I’m 7 weeks pregnant, I feel it even more. The nausea is unbearable—I feel sick all the time, can’t stand any smells, and just can’t explain how awful it feels afyer combining it all with anxiety. I’ve officially given up on the dream of rest. I chose to get pregnant this time, but now I’m wondering—are these my true thoughts, or am I just feeling this way because of the sickness? Parents, be honest—is it worth it, or just another illusion?""

",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j7m8o3/do_children_really_worth_all_this_pain/,"[{'comment_id': 'mgz891y', 'author': 'bennynthejetsss', 'body': 'Okay first off… you’re in the thick of it. 7 weeks is fucking awful. Aside from the poor souls who have HG, the nausea and the fatigue improve a lot in the second trimester.\n\nWorth it…? Yes. Fucking hard? Yup.', 'score': 9, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T10:56:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mgyh21h', 'author': 'writekit', 'body': ""Overall, I have a better time with my kids after they're born than while they're growing in my body.\n\nFirst trimester symptoms can be really unpleasant. I tend to do a bit better starting around week 14. I've had okay third trimesters (feeling a bit uncomfortable, waking up to pee, etc.) but honestly prefer the newborn stage to third trimester.\n\nI have no regrets, though I definitely experience some days that are hard. My 4 year old is so imaginative and fun (and constantly pushing boundaries and sometimes not so nice to people). My newborn is as cool as a newborn can be. I don't want to rush ahead, but universe willing, there will be two more cool adults in the world someday because of me and my partner.\n\nI am also on anti-anxiety meds and seeing a therapist who specializes in pregnant and postpartum moms. I'm *also* on maternity leave so I don't have to worry about work nonsense for a few months."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T07:41:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mgyhqm8', 'author': 'InternationalRoad225', 'body': 'It’s worth it for me personally. The first trimester is very tough though. Hugs.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T07:45:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mgyicd3', 'author': 'uppercasenoises', 'body': 'Pregnancy was the worst i have ever felt, but I love everything about being a mom. Everyone told me that I would forget how bad it was and miss being pregnant, or think “it won’t be so bad to do that again”. They were wrong about that part, it is still horrible to remember and I would like another child but I don’t know how I am going to survive pregnancy again.  While I was pregnant I seriously regretted it some days, and I used IVF. But I would do it again for my son, now that I know him.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T07:49:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mh15a6l', 'author': 'daisyduck19', 'body': 'Being pregnant can sometimes really suck and be awful. It’s uncomfortable, painful, and can be filled with anxiety. But, yea, kids are pretty amazing. Exhausting, but amazing.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T20:31:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mh2q8ow', 'author': 'waitingforgooddoge', 'body': ""Being pregnant is rough! Especially 1st trimester. It's hard to compare that discomfort and exhaustion with the reality of a baby, toddler, little kid, big kid... once they're out of your body and you feel like yourself again, the real fun part begins, and you can share the burden with your partner/village. Pregnancy is especially hard because you're in it alone. \n\nWorth it for me and my family! Everyone's experience is different but a lot of the awful parts of pregnancy will go away as soon as baby is born."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-11T01:02:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1j7m8o3'}, {'comment_id': 'mh0d4a4', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Exactly. Completely worth it, completely exhausting and difficult', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-03-10T17:41:41', 'parent_id': 't1_mgz891y'}]"
1j3snn5,2025-03-05T07:58:15,How many of you got PPD or PPA after birth?,"Hello! I’m 26 weeks pregnant with a history of depression, anxiety, and OCD. I have a great psych and therapist and manage very well on meds but I am so scared about getting PPD, PPA, or even psychosis after birth. My pregnancy has been so good to me mental health wise, I really thought I’d be down bad with anxiety but my mind is clear and quit most days. I asked my psych and he said an indicator of how you feel postpartum is how you feel during your pregnancy after around 24 weeks and on. Idk if I believe that and wanted to see if it rings true or not true for you guys. ",MentalHealthBabies,5,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j3snn5/how_many_of_you_got_ppd_or_ppa_after_birth/,"[{'comment_id': 'mg2zpig', 'author': 'RTJ333', 'body': ""I've had two children now, and took my medications, mood stabilizers throughout my pregnancies. have bipolar 2. Thankfully, I did not get Postpartum depression/bipolar/psychosis although, like you, I was aware of the increased risk. I do think my medications played a role in my good mental health post partum and my children are and were very healthy. Healthy mom, healthy babies they say. All that said, I did plan with my husband to prioritize sleep and do other things to make our lives easier. We hired a night doula a few times a week for the first couple of months to help us prioritize sleep for our first, and we hired a mother's helper to assist for our second.\n\nGood luck to you."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T08:29:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg42we6', 'author': 'friendsintheFDA', 'body': 'I’ve always been so nervous about how I would feel postpartum and my biggest fear was not being able to connect with my baby because of depression. I kept taking my Lamictal through pregnancy and I’m 7 weeks PP now and still feel great! I also get a good chunk of sleep at night doing shifts overnight with my husband and definitely think that helps. Good luck mama you got this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T13:14:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg91cnm', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I had PPD after birth and it was my first experience with diagnosed mental illness. I believe I probably had some form of mental illness before the PPD, but couldn’t ignore it anymore when my symptoms got so bad after the birth of my daughter. I am now pregnant again and feel very hopeful that I won’t have PPD again. \n\nWith therapy, meds, and lifestyle changes, I believe that PPD is very preventable and/or treatable. In my experience my PPD was terrible because I truly was not prepared and had no idea how to deal with my mental health. I think the fact that you even have this question and concern may be a good sign that you are taking your mental health seriously and it seems like you are doing everything to be prepared. I think you will be fine ❤️. And if you do have PPD symptoms, you already have a good team to help you manage and treat those before they get out of hand.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T06:32:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg3zk78', 'author': 'Altixan', 'body': 'Ah that’s a good tip from your team. I felt anxious as fuck, though not depressed during my last trimester. Stopped driving and using public transport. In hindsight those were some big signs and I feel like my team failed me. Sadly I did develop post partum anxiety and still struggling. Luckily no psychosis which my mom did have, so I was worried.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T12:42:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg4f2jr', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'My ocd went wild at about 3 months PP, but nothing crazy (changing the thermostat from 69 to 72 obsessively, checking his breathing all night) My mental health during pregnancy was also fine, don’t worry about postpartum. You’ll just be so overwhelmed with love that it will feel like intense anxiety (initially) because it’s NEW, and you’ll be like “omg. If anything ever happened to this child I wouldn’t survive” but tbh I wouldn’t change that for anything.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T15:20:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mg6quor', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I have a history of anxiety and depression, possibly OCD. I had bad depression in my first trimester, and very severe anxiety in my third trimester, but after the first 3-4 weeks postpartum, I was more or less fine. So I guess that does fit your psych's pattern, in that I was doing pretty well in my second trimester, and I did pretty well postpartum, all things considered. I don't think I ever fit the criteria for PPA or PPD, though I was very emotional the first 3-4 weeks of my baby's life, that seems to be pretty much normal."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T23:45:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mgbdvim', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'I’m usually sooooo down,depressed,hopeless,anxiety filled and I have been so chipper and happy this entire pregnancy. So laid back and hopeful. I hope it last I’m 35 weeks so nearing the end', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-06T17:35:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}, {'comment_id': 'mgfyy8w', 'author': 'blanket-hoarder', 'body': 'I have anxiety and PCOS. My hormones felt more balanced during pregnancy (anxiety was still existent). I stayed on Zoloft and went to therapy though. I had no diagnosed PPD or PPA.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-07T08:00:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1j3snn5'}]"
1j1v2jx,2025-03-02T22:12:32,intensive outpatient,has anyone done an intensive outpatient program? my anxiety (especially health-related) has been skyrocketing. i’m maxed out on meds. i need to get a handle on this and regular therapy isn’t enough.,MentalHealthBabies,2,12,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1j1v2jx/intensive_outpatient/,"[{'comment_id': 'mfn371t', 'author': 'katecometrue0122', 'body': 'I have a few times! Never while pregnant. I have found them very helpful', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:30:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn55tw', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I have done it and found it immensely helpful! It’s hard work and changes don’t happen overnight, but it may have saved my life.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:40:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mg6mhp7', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'I’m doing a PHP (partial hospitalization program) which is an all day outpatient program. It has helped me with my anxiety and depression. I’m not perfect but I am better than I was when I started.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-05T23:25:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mhxofi5', 'author': 'Friendly_Performer76', 'body': 'I am also doing a mom and baby part hospitalization program. I am pregnant (no kids, yet) but went a week having non stop panic attacks that needed to be addressed quickly. My panic/anxiety revolves around sleep. I think it’s 100% worth it if you are at the end of your rope and need the extra help to get back on track.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T21:09:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mfmsdx1', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I haven’t but I recently started TMS. Can’t say if it’s going to work or not but I totally understand the out of control anxiety and it’s been really tough to deal with', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T22:37:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1j1v2jx'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn56wb', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good to hear. my son is 4.5 but i have so many worries about him and my 12.5 cat :/', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:40:17', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn371t'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn5zjn', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good to hear. i want to reclaim my life. i’m so sick of the anxiety.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:44:08', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn55tw'}, {'comment_id': 'mhxu0tg', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'ugh so sorry. i had prenatal psychosis/SI. it was HORRIBLE. feel better!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-15T21:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_mhxofi5'}, {'comment_id': 'mfmvt8h', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'what’s TMS?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T22:54:19', 'parent_id': 't1_mfmsdx1'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn5lk3', 'author': 'katecometrue0122', 'body': 'Well if it’s IOP you would only be there for a certain amount of time during the day, so you’d need childcare but the kitty would be fine for that amount of time. Some places even have different hours, like mornings or evenings that could be helpful to work around your schedule. I’m sorry you’re struggling, I have severe health focused OCD and I’m very lucky to have gotten it under control (for now) in the last couple years. I know how debilitating it is ❤️\u200d🩹', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:42:13', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn56wb'}, {'comment_id': 'mfulgae', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Transcrainal magnetic stimulation. It's another non drug treatment option for depression."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-03-04T02:53:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mfmvt8h'}, {'comment_id': 'mfn6ru9', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'it’s torture!!!!! my son does legitimately have a rare genetic disorder and loads of issues. my cat has weird health issues (currently an IBD flare - that’s what we think is happening?). luckily i’m a SAHM and my mom has offered to take time off work to watch my son. i’m very thankful. it’s been hard finding an IOP here. going to speak to my therapist tomorrow.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T23:47:58', 'parent_id': 't1_mfn5lk3'}]"
1iznb8l,2025-02-28T00:22:13,Any successful klonapin stories during Pregnancy? I am on 0.5 3 times a day with 50 mg of Zoloft as I have anxiety and panic disorder. I always notice my burping and belching calms down the moment I take klonapin.,,MentalHealthBabies,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1iznb8l/any_successful_klonapin_stories_during_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'mf5nl7e', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Im also on 50mg zoloft daily and klonopin as needed. We can talk', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-28T04:35:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1iznb8l'}]"
1izhn41,2025-02-27T20:27:24,Pregnancy/Postpartum Psychiatric Hotline Resource,"Hey everyone! Just a heads-up that many states have free psychiatry phone support for both healthcare providers and community members. If you're looking for help, try searching for a ""Perinatal Psychiatry Hotline"" in your state. 

For those in Arizona, there's the Arizona Psychiatry Access Line (APAL): Providers can consult with psychiatrists about pregnancy and postpartum mental health. Patients can get one-time direct consults (must be referred by your doctor). Soon, APAL will also offer resource referrals for both providers and community members. Check it out here: [apal.arizona.edu](http://apal.arizona.edu) Hope this helps someone! 💙",MentalHealthBabies,5,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1izhn41/pregnancypostpartum_psychiatric_hotline_resource/,[]
1izdukm,2025-02-27T17:13:47,Klonopin (clonazepam) & 5 weeks pregnant!,"I am currently 5 weeks pregnant and have been prescribed Rivotril (clonazepam) for my worse ancxiety to the point I am thinking to end this pregnancy but I love my baby already. My doctor gave me the option to either take 0.1 mg daily or 0.5 mg once a week. I typically get a worse anxiety attack once a week, and then I take 5 drops to manage it. After that, I have a good week, but the attacks come back again. Next week I have an appointment for a heartbeat detection, and I’m afraid if the medication could cause any problems. I’m concerned about the potential risks to my pregnancy and baby. Which option would be safer for my baby? I’ve been told it’s okay either way, but I’d love to hear advice or experiences from others who have taken Rivotril during pregnancy.

",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1izdukm/klonopin_clonazepam_5_weeks_pregnant/,"[{'comment_id': 'mf2dljw', 'author': 'lifes-not-fair', 'body': 'I don’t have personal experience with an ongoing pregnancy, but when I was pregnant (ended in a MC), I was told that Ativan in small doses is the safest option for a benzodiazepine during pregnancy.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T18:54:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2wjk6', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Ativan proven safe even daily use in pregnancy', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T20:40:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2o8jp', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I took .5 mg every night as directed by two different specialists in this field and have a happy healthy 1.5 year old. My reproductive psychiatrist assured me it’s safe at these low doses. The doses your doctor is suggesting are even more conservative.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T19:56:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2oaik', 'author': 'vampirenurse', 'body': 'Here is some good information to read: https://mothertobaby.org/fact-sheets/clonazepam/\n\nIt would be a good idea to find a perinatal psych provider that does med management to help with options and optimizing what you’re taking throughout pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T19:56:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mfly39w', 'author': 'RamblingRose91', 'body': ""If you don't have a therapist, I highly recommend seeing one for perinatal anxiety. Pregnancy hormones can alter experiences of anxiety, and with a history of anxiety, you're more likely to experience postpartum anxiety, which most doctors and obs don't really screen for (they mostly look for depression). A therapist can help you by holding space for you to talk and teaching you anxiety coping skills to use in this stage of your life.\nPostpartum support international is a great resource and has a provider index you can use to find a therapist near you. https://psidirectory.com/"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-02T20:02:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1izdukm'}, {'comment_id': 'mf2l0r1', 'author': 'Aggravating-Task-959', 'body': 'My dr prescribed me Ativan since I’ve been ttc!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T19:38:21', 'parent_id': 't1_mf2dljw'}, {'comment_id': 'mf3dzti', 'author': 'beetlemammal', 'body': 'Did you take for delivery too?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-27T22:05:36', 'parent_id': 't1_mf2wjk6'}, {'comment_id': 'mf4dxct', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Night before I had', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-28T00:54:34', 'parent_id': 't1_mf3dzti'}]"
1iv17pb,2025-02-22T02:15:49,I want to change my meds. I feel like they don’t even help,"I’ve been on them over a year now and just found they haven’t helped. I’m seeing my dr in a few weeks and will be talking to him about the changes. What do you recommend taking with ttc, pregnancy and then breastfeeding? 

I’ve been taking lots of vitamins too. I’ve been taking probiotics, apple cider vinegar, omega 3, coq10, magnesium bisglycinate, vitamin d3, prenatal, and choline & inositol. 

The meds I am on is for my depression, anxiety, bpd, and sleep which is lamotrigine, Seroquel, and venlafaxine. I also have Ativan and I take metformin for my acne rash I get.",MentalHealthBabies,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1iv17pb/i_want_to_change_my_meds_i_feel_like_they_dont/,"[{'comment_id': 'me26br0', 'author': 'Diankapie', 'body': 'Same issue. Are you pregnant now? Usually lower doses don’t help during pregnancy because they get metabolized quicker by the liver?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T02:55:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1iv17pb'}, {'comment_id': 'me39sf0', 'author': 'InternationalRoad225', 'body': 'What meds have you tried in the past?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T07:08:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1iv17pb'}, {'comment_id': 'me40msv', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Try a perinatal psychiatrist for getting mediation managment during pregnancy.\n\nHonestly - you didn't give anyone enough information to reliably help so not sure what you were expecting."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T09:57:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1iv17pb'}, {'comment_id': 'me26yc6', 'author': 'Aggravating-Task-959', 'body': 'No I’m not pregnant right now, sadly 😅 we been trying though. I don’t even feel like Ativan does anything for me too. I’m on high dosages too for the other meds.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-22T02:58:18', 'parent_id': 't1_me26br0'}]"
1itffsz,2025-02-20T01:48:20,"Zoloft + Xanax, sharing notes from postpartum","6 week update:

Baby continues to be doing very well. He began rolling from stomach to back, on both sides, at three weeks and hasn't stopped. He eats well, and sleeps OK. His neck muscle muscles are very strong and he's able to hold his head up (obviously I support in the back, but he's fully able to use his own strength to hold himself up), and is a champ at tummy time. He's very alert and has started giving a few baby smiles. I originally worried about low muscle tone when taking Xanax, but upon a lot of reading felt that the risk of that was probably low because of the small dosage that I was taking; I don't think baby is showing any signs of low muscle tone at all and seems very strong.

Original post:

I have so much gratitude towards this sub.  I used the anecdotes and scientific studies posted here to form my own risk tolerance for taking medication during pregnancy. I read many, many studies on various medications and how they can affect pregnancy and a child in the long run, and I did not take the decision lightly.

Dosage:

I began taking 25 mg of Zoloft daily in my second trimester, and bumped it up to 37.6 mg and then 50 mg by my third trimester. I also took .5 mg of Xanax as needed, but usually took .25 mg. There were a few times that I took a .5mg, but that was rare. I usually took it a few times a week. I had very severe work related stress. My OB, internal medicine doc (my PCP), and therapist all supported my medication journey + advised along the way. 

Birth prep/weaning down:

As I got closer to birth, I weaned down to 37.5 mg of Zoloft. I tried to go down to 25 mg but the toll on my mental health was pretty immediate. I also stopped taking any Xanax about a month out from my scheduled C-section. I told my doctor that I was pretty nervous about the upcoming C-section, and she gave me a small prescription of buspar to take in the week leading up to the C-section. I took my first dose at 7.5 mg, and then took two tablets for a total of 15 mg each evening for a few evenings leading up to the C-section.

Birth and baby effects:

Baby was born small for gestational age, and full term at 39 weeks. My first child was IUGR (intrauterine growth restriction) without any behavioral or other meds, so my second baby was bigger with meds. Go figure. I asked my doctor why my babies were so small, and she said some people just have small babies. The pediatrician that met with me after baby was born assured me that I was doing the right thing by taking care of my mental health. Baby did have withdrawal symptoms (my greatest fear), and had  minor shakes in the first 48 hours. He didn't seem to be bothered by them at all, and otherwise is eating like a champ and sleeping very well, and did not need any NICU time or other interventions. My first child, again with no medications taken during pregnancy, needed some time under the heater to warm him up and had low white blood cell count, so this second baby seemed to do better than my first. Everything else looks great. He's very alert, follows things with his eyes, great hearing test, etc.

Feel free to ask q's. 


",MentalHealthBabies,16,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1itffsz/zoloft_xanax_sharing_notes_from_postpartum/,"[{'comment_id': 'mdolf4w', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T02:22:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1itffsz'}, {'comment_id': 'mdom8mq', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""This is awesome, thanks for sharing. I take ativan as needed and have a history of post partum psychosis, so the potential to be taking big drugs during my next pregnancy - it is always so reassuring to see people who've actually had their babies while taking meds and that most of the time, everything goes just fine."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T02:25:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1itffsz'}, {'comment_id': 'mdpbwpg', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for sharing this! So happy for you! 🫶🏻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T04:23:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1itffsz'}, {'comment_id': 'mdqxebs', 'author': 'Public_Decision_3093', 'body': 'He would startle when let out of his swaddle, and then shake for a second or two. Definitely not non-stop. I think they can be normal for newborns esp if they are pre-term.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-20T09:44:12', 'parent_id': 't1_mdolf4w'}]"
1it0m7g,2025-02-19T13:50:25,Why can’t I think clearly when I actually want to?," frustrating when you want to think, but your brain just refuses to cooperate. It's called ""mental block "". This can happen for several reasons:  

 1. Overthinking & Pressure  
- When you force yourself to think, your brain can freeze up.  
- Fix: Try freewriting or speaking your thoughts out loud. No pressure, just let ideas flow.  

 2. Mental Fatigue & Stress  
- If you’re overwhelmed, your brain might just shut down.  
- Fix: Take a break, go for a walk, or do something relaxing to reset.  

3. Lack of Stimulation  
- Sometimes, the brain needs external input (reading, music, conversations) to get going.  
- Fix: Read an article, watch a video, or brainstorm with someone else.  

4. Fear of Thinking Wrong  
- If you're afraid of making mistakes, your mind avoids thinking at all.  
- Fix: Remind yourself that thinking is a process, and bad ideas often lead to good ones.  

5. Brain Fog & Anxiety
- Anxiety can cloud your thoughts and make focusing difficult.  
- Fix: Try deep breathing, meditation, or even writing down your worries to clear space in your mind.  

6. Distractions & Overstimulation  
- Social media, noise, and multitasking can make it hard to focus.  
- Fix: Find a quiet place, turn off notifications, and focus on one thought at a time.  

It always happened with me. Does this happen with anyone else as well?

",MentalHealthBabies,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1it0m7g/why_cant_i_think_clearly_when_i_actually_want_to/,[]
1il7v69,2025-02-09T11:12:35,Starting Zoloft,"Hi so I am 7 weeks pregnant. I have a 6 month old baby. I’ve always had anxiety, depression, and OCD but after having my baby it’s gotten so so bad. I feel like I can’t connect with my baby fully cuz I just am in rage and I know I need help. After getting pregnant again it got even worse. I talked to my OB and she said to start Zoloft, the one thing concerning me is she told me that it will take 2 weeks to kick in, and I won’t even notice any difference at first when I start taking it. She didn’t tell me about any side effects. But all the stuff I read online people say there is side effects until it fully kicks in? Has anyone ever taken it and had no negative side effects? I just get worried I’ll take it and the adjustment period will be tough, since I have a baby to take care of all day. My husband helps me but only in the evenings since he works.",MentalHealthBabies,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1il7v69/starting_zoloft/,"[{'comment_id': 'mbsk00b', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""The OB is starting you off low, and that's good.\n\nSide effects can occur with any medication. There should be a list of side effects on the patient leaflet of your prescription.\n\nMost common side effects are mild (think like dry mouth) so it's generally fine to start whenever. Some side effects can get better with time, but dont have anything to do with the drug working (so its not like you have bad side effects and then the drug magically works 2 weeks later). Some people definitely don't have any major side effects and feel better even on the low initial starting dose.\n\nIn the unlikely event you have major side effects, call your doctor. Sometimes people need to try a few antidepressants before they find the right one, so you may also want to seek support from a perinatal psychiatrist or a regular psychiatrist as well if the zoloft isn't working great for you.\n\nAlso, just a recommendation, if you can ERP therapy for OCD is definitely another good treatment option."", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T11:20:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbsj2pp', 'author': 'DegreePale404', 'body': 'I wanted to start it tomorrow', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T11:13:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbswai4', 'author': 'Piinj_1234', 'body': 'I’ve started Zoloft both my pregnancies and my side effects have been very mild and only lasted a short while. My only comment is to keep your expectations low on effects after two weeks. My dr told me the same but it took me about 6 weeks to start to feel better the first time, while also doing ERP. If you go to r/zoloft you will see that for most people it takes more like 4-8 weeks to start to notice a change. Zoloft was a life saver for me! So happy it exists!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T13:08:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbsy52w', 'author': 'destacadogato', 'body': 'Zoloft works amazingly well for me! You may even start to notice it working sooner. I also have ocd, anxiety and depression. The Zoloft really helped ease my over thinking brain. I feel more present and go with the flow. \n\nSometimes your symptoms can get worse before they improve when starting anew medication, but remember it’s only temporary and relief is coming! It is worth it', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T13:25:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbuld35', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'It worked in 3 weeks for me with minimal side effects. Good luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T21:03:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}, {'comment_id': 'mbvk02d', 'author': 'Quiet-Picture828', 'body': 'Zoloft has been incredible for me! I felt so hopeless and depressed before starting and really debated not taking it because I was scared of side effects. I noticed relief within 3 days of starting it! I’m so glad I started it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-09T23:47:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1il7v69'}]"
1ig6mew,2025-02-03T01:51:53,Anxiety and Depression First Trimester,"I’m 12 weeks pregnant. Since I found out I was pregnant I have been dealing with tons of anxiety and depression. At the time I found out I was on 200mg Zoloft for anxiety, depression and panic disorder. It was determined that was no longer working for me (and probably hadn’t for years.) I had been on it since I was 12-13 and I’m 39 now. 

The psychiatrist switched me to Lexapro and Hydroxozine (as needed for anxiety). I started on a low dose of Lexapro and have worked up to 20mg. I have been on the 20mg for 12 days. 

The last week and a half I experienced the worst depression and anxiety to the point where I thought I couldn’t continue the pregnancy. Has anyone had a similar experience on Lexapro? If so, did you find that Lexapro eventually worked for you? I am meeting with my psychiatrist this week to talk about it and see if maybe I need to be on something additional as well. My whole pregnancy so far has been a nightmare of anxiety and panic attacks. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ig6mew/anxiety_and_depression_first_trimester/,"[{'comment_id': 'mam6msr', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had SI and prepartum psychosis in my first trimester, just like my mom did. i can’t even describe the anguish i suffered - and it was a planned pregnancy. i THINK i was on lexapro (been almost 5 years and i don’t recall). i’ve had to change meds and doses a TON over my lifetime. see if you can titrate your dose. may just need to tweak a bit. FWIW the hormones settled in the 2nd tri. feel better!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T02:02:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamnrb9', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I'm not on Lexapro, but I did need to modify my SSRI dose near the end of the first trimester. The hormones are wild, and my brain needed a little extra support. Perhaps your doc can help modify your dosing?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:26:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamqduu', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'A lot of times you have to increase your meds. My psychiatrist bumped me up to Zoloft 300 mg by the end of pregnancy. We increased twice.\nI would see if you could consult a perinatal psychiatrist', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:39:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamrfm5', 'author': 'Material-Use6673', 'body': 'Also 12 weeks + really struggled between weeks 4-11 with anxiety. As everyone as said, the hormones are no joke. I finally feel like I’m turning a corner as I enter the second tri. I hope the same goes for you, and as your taper on lexapro goes up. Wishing you health and a peaceful anxiety free anxiety. ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:44:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'maooc3r', 'author': 'destacadogato', 'body': 'So when I was in my first trimester, I was on 100 mg of  zoloft and I experienced a really bad, temporary depression that eventually went away. It was all the hormonal imbalance. They up to me to 150 mg which helped but that like month and a half long depression was brutal. I cried every day and it felt like somebody in my life had just passed away every day I woke up.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T10:02:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'maprg34', 'author': 'tikibarnurse', 'body': ""So sorry to hear this. You describe symptoms possibly associated with Antidepressant Discontinuation Syndrome (ADS). Were you gradually tapered off Zoloft? You had been on it for so long that I do hope so. I also hope that you had been offered some adjunct, weekly individual perinatal psychotherapy in the context of your increasing anxiety and depression during pregnancy like Interpersonal Psychotherapy before it was determined that Zoloft wasn't working for you. Pregnancy is a time of so much physiologic change and medication approach to these changes really need to be approached cautiously. I would really recommend finding either a perinatal psychiatrist or perinatal mental health nurse practitioner if possible for a second opinion and/or expert in perinatal psychiatry, especially with how you have been feeling."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T15:53:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mapz6vi', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'The only thing that stopped the panic attacks in my pregnancy was as-needed Ativan. Usually about 5-10 pills total in a7 day period of the lowest dose.\n\nSSRIs like lexapro give me a type of anxiety that borders on psychosis and sends me to the ER. Only strong antipsychotics and benzos can stop an attack an SSRI causes me.\n\nHaving said that, Wellbutrin is an antidepressant that has worked very well for me for over 9 years. It barely affects serotonin, mostly just norepinephrine and to some degree dopamine.\n\nGabapentin helps a lot of peoples and while it helps me to some degree, I still wish I was never put on it because being off of it has so far proven impossible', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T17:07:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1ig6mew'}, {'comment_id': 'mamrol0', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'Thanks for the info! I have a perinatal psychiatrist. She’s just been difficult to meet with but I’m finally meeting with her this week.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:45:51', 'parent_id': 't1_mamqduu'}, {'comment_id': 'manhisl', 'author': 'sunkiss038', 'body': '+1 — hormones during pregnancy make you metabolize SSRIs faster, so the same dose becomes less effective. My reproductive psychiatrist pushed my dosage up for the second time this pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T06:02:01', 'parent_id': 't1_mamqduu'}, {'comment_id': 'mamrqz7', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'Thank you! I’m sorry you have struggled too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T03:46:11', 'parent_id': 't1_mamrfm5'}, {'comment_id': 'mi01abm', 'author': 'MorningShowerScotch', 'body': 'It’s really helpful to read this, thank you.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-16T04:44:13', 'parent_id': 't1_maooc3r'}, {'comment_id': 'mapu4zr', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'I was gradually tapered off the Zoloft and then slowly transitioned to the Lexapro. Thanks for your insight! I did have some therapy (not a ton) and they decided to make my medicine change. I ended up in the hospital after I found out about the pregnancy because I was in such a panic and hadn’t slept in a few days. When I was at the hospital they decided to make the change because my anxiety and panic was so out of control.  I do have a perinatal psychiatrist that I am working with now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-03T16:20:34', 'parent_id': 't1_maprg34'}, {'comment_id': 'mavifyk', 'author': 'tikibarnurse', 'body': ""I'm glad to hear that you were gradually tapered off. I'm specializing in perinatal psychiatry now and have two psychiatrists that are currently training me. I highly recommend advocating for weekly individual psychotherapy for you (either in person or virtual) alongside your SSRI treatment from now until the first year of baby's life for maximum results in navigating your increasing anxiety and mood symptoms and role change/parenting. I see the difference in clinic with my pregnant patients, especially those with trauma histories and anxiety,  in just a matter of a few weeks. If you are open to a birth or postpartum doula, that would be great, too for additional support. I hope it all goes well for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-04T10:43:46', 'parent_id': 't1_mapu4zr'}, {'comment_id': 'mazs638', 'author': 'AnxiousinVA', 'body': 'Thank you. I am actually getting ready to start a women’s partial hospitalization program to get better medication management and more intense therapy now. Once I finish my two weeks in the program I will go back to meeting with my psychiatrist and my therapist on a regular schedule.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-05T02:56:25', 'parent_id': 't1_mavifyk'}]"
1ic4wog,2025-01-28T21:34:11,40 mg Vyvanse breastfeeding 9 month old,"Everyone in my family is worried about this. I’m also a little worried. We’ve had a few days with my taking it and she was normal 2 out of 3 days. Today’s the 4th and we’ll see. I take other medications: Wellbutrin, Latuda, and gabapentin. Other moms breast feeding babies on Vyvanse and other meds and notice everything being normal or… not?

Update:
So far everything seems to be mostly fine. Some nights she’s more active (wakes asking for milk more frequently), some not. Demeanor and development stuff seem totally normal during day. 

I get muscle tension from it, but the side effects are lessening every day. Trying to stick with it because my family has reported that I already seem SO much more together/with it/involved and calm. I guess I feel that too but also the side effects like dry mouth. Doctor said side effects should be mostly gone within two weeks. Here’s hoping! 

Going to pediatrician soon and will have a good talk about it all. 

THANK YOU all so much for responding to my post. I feel so comforted knowing I’m part of a community that is balancing their needs as individuals and as parents and being able to share experiences together.",MentalHealthBabies,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ic4wog/40_mg_vyvanse_breastfeeding_9_month_old/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9o8vue', 'author': 'johnmiltonfanatic', 'body': 'My psychiatrist ok’d both Wellbutrin and adderall while breastfeeding.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T23:25:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9nwka9', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You can find a reproductive psychiatrist who specializes in the medication management during pregnancy and breastfeeding using post partum support international (PSI)'s provider directory.\n\nDr Kristin Lasseter is also a reproductive psychiatrist who posts a lot for the public on instagram."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T22:27:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9rce7m', 'author': 'Dontbeanaholeguys', 'body': 'I have been on 40 mg of Vyvanse throughout my pregnancy and breastfeeding as well as lexapro. My LO is 2.5 months and he is doing amazingly! He’s in the 75th percentile for weight and is hitting all his milestones early. He also has no problem sleeping and has been giving us 6-7 hour stretches at night. He is very chill and happy all around. I was on 60 mg before I got pregnant and will be going back to work when he is 4 months old. I just got the okay from his pediatrician to try increasing back to 60 and see how he does.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T08:33:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9nzta3', 'author': 'QueenSashimi', 'body': ""I breastfed my son while taking elvanse (UK version of vyvanse I think) and he had no problems. All the evidence, such that there is, points to it not causing issues if taken at therapeutic doses. It's when people abuse the medication and go beyond what they're prescribed that problems can arise."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T22:43:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9rssal', 'author': 'cutiepuffjunior', 'body': 'I switched from Vyvanse to methylphenidate (Concerta/ Ritalin) when I had my baby because less of it transfers into breast milk than lis/dexamphetamine.\n\n\nYou can check Lactmed for more information.\n\n\n\n\n\nMy baby was very premature so I was especially worried about any impact to her.\n\n\n\n\n\nIs that an option for you? You may need to check interactions with your other meds.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T10:15:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9r8ahj', 'author': 'fromagefort', 'body': 'I took a similar dose and my psychiatrist was monitoring the whole time. Infant Risk Center is a fantastic resource on medications while breastfeeding: https://infantrisk.com/content/adhd-medications-and-breastfeeding\n\nThey break down what data is available and what the studies actually said. Some doctors are overly conservative, and are usually looking at outcomes of studies from women that abuse amphetamines (and sometimes other drugs too), not the data on prescribed use. \n\nThe data is limited and imperfect, so you’re not wrong to be cautious. But it was sufficient that I decided a mentally unwell mother posed a higher risk to my kid than the breastmilk coming through meds.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T08:10:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1ic4wog'}, {'comment_id': 'm9px1c0', 'author': 'pb-jellybean', 'body': 'Yes, your whole family doesn’t need to know exactly what medications you are taking, especially if they are prone to using Dr. Google.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T04:02:14', 'parent_id': 't1_m9o8vue'}]"
1iat5ng,2025-01-27T04:31:09,Positive stories with Zoloft / Klonopin,"
I have been on Zoloft for both my pregnancy, both ended in miscarriages 1 at 6 weeks & one at 11 weeks. (Babies heart stopped beating). 

I am now off Zoloft completely but my anxiety is crippling so i feel it is a 2 edge sword. 

I am worried me off Zoloft could affect the baby even more than me being on it. 

I get conflicting information from multiple OBGYNs. 

I am very lost & looking for some positive stories (if there are any) of successful pregnancies on either Zoloft or Klonopin ",MentalHealthBabies,10,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1iat5ng/positive_stories_with_zoloft_klonopin/,"[{'comment_id': 'm9cxp3i', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Was on Zoloft and Klonopin my entire pregnancy. Normal pregnancy and had a healthy baby girl on Dec 23. NICU was at my delivery for safety but she was normal.\nBeing anxious and depressed has more complications for baby than not. Baby needs a mom with a good mental health state! I would suggest seeing a perinatal psychiatrist if you can. \nThe best data my psychiatrist gave me is from womensmentalhealth.org and she told me not to look anywhere else. If your OB doesn’t support you, get a new OB.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T05:13:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9crvdx', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm still pregnant but I was on Klonopin until the beginning of my second trimester and so far baby looks good via ultrasound and blood tests.  There are a lot of reassuring stories up here so just know you aren't alone ❤️"", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T04:44:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9dm558', 'author': 'themehboat', 'body': ""I was on Klonopin for my whole pregnancy except the last two weeks. In the beginning I was on a pretty high dose (3 mg), but I slowly tapered down. My 6 week old baby is perfectly healthy as far as I can tell. I'm still scared about learning disabilities, but so far he's just like my other two kids were during whose pregnancies I didn't take it."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T07:15:09', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9d77cp', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': 'Please ask for the RPL panel for recurrent miscarriages to check thyroid and rule out APS lipid syndrome. I needed Lovenox and baby aspirin during pregnancy becuse of positivr APS antibodies on bloodwork without any symptoms.  i wouldnt presume zoloft or klonipin causing issues. you might want a work up with a fertility doctor to rule out issues.  \n\nthis is best pysch med rreference online\n\n[https://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/antidepressants-during-pregnancy/](https://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/antidepressants-during-pregnancy/)\n\ngood luck!!!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T06:00:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9db9eo', 'author': 'FrshmnYrMdtrms', 'body': 'On Zoloft entire pregnancy. Upped my dosage twice even. Baby is about 1.5 months old and she is healthy and thriving. FWIW my perinatologist said continuing Zoloft is almost always better for his patients than going unmedicated. Sending hugs!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T06:20:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9lu80s', 'author': 'boopixie', 'body': 'I took 2mg Klonopin (and Wellbutrin, Buspar, and Lamictal) every day of my pregnancy.  She was born happy and healthy, and is now 20 months old.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T13:59:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9mra0d', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'If you look at my post history, I took Zoloft, Xanax and vyvanse during my whole pregnancy and my healthy boy is 6 months old! No withdrawl no issues whatsoever.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T18:55:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9dmmsk', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""I'm 29 weeks along, and have been on Zoloft the whole time. No issues so far, fingers crossed for a smooth remaining couple months."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T07:17:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9f7ot0', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'I took klonopin my entire pregnancy. Happy. Healthy. Perfect. 18 month old.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T14:02:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9h5qnz', 'author': 'Kind_Ad5931', 'body': 'I was on 50 mg Zoloft at the start of pregnancy, and by the start of the second trimester i was on 200 mg because it turned my anxiety and depression so bad. I’m now 7 months PP with a healthy baby', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T22:09:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9koeev', 'author': 'daisyduck19', 'body': 'On Zoloft (150-200 mg) with Ativan entire pregnancy. Have a beautiful and healthy 3 year old. \n\nI’m so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. I can imagine the anxiety going forward, but as I’m sure you know Zoloft is one of the most studied meds during pregnancy. Hopefully you get some support and clarification soon.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-28T08:33:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9rblod', 'author': 'wybi3e', 'body': 'was on 50mg zoloft for over a year before getting pregnant and all throughout pregnancy and breastfeeding. baby was born healthy as ever despite being on the smaller side at 5.4lbs. she’s almost 2 now and has caught up on her weight, and is so so bright, funny, and intelligent.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-29T08:29:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'm9er4t4', 'author': 'neuesmama', 'body': 'I was on Zoloft my second pregnancy and had a healthy amazing baby girl. My pregnancy was so much more enjoyable as well as postpartum thanks to the med. hang in there. I know it’s scary. I’ve also had 2 miscarriages (1 on Zoloft, one not on it). If the drugs are working for you, you need to stay on them. It will do more harm than good to get off. Your baby deserves a healthy mama. Congrats❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T11:24:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'mb35god', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I was on both my entire pregnancy. I have a happy healthy 5 month old. I would suggest talking to a maternal fetal \xa0medicine doctor. Your mental health is important in pregnancy and after! Healthy mom = healthy baby', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-05T16:34:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1iat5ng'}, {'comment_id': 'mcanscb', 'author': 'Diankapie', 'body': 'So happy for you! What doses weee the meds?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-12T07:30:26', 'parent_id': 't1_m9cxp3i'}, {'comment_id': 'mcqt539', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Thank you! I started on Zoloft 200 mg and was up to 300 mg by the end of pregnancy.\nKlonopin was 0.5 mg. 1/2 tab to 1 tab twice a day as needed', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-02-14T21:05:42', 'parent_id': 't1_mcanscb'}]"
1i103ah,2025-01-14T12:09:38,"On the search: two providers outright vetoed Klonopin & Adderall being continued once pregnant (currently TTC), need advice","From what I've seen, taking a low dose of both these medications regularly throughout pregnancy is relatively fine. Nothing is risk free of course, but they aren't proven to be terrible if taken correctly.

I cannot stress enough how much these meds improve my life, and how I would lose my independence without them (or some form of substitute). 

Been on the hunt for a provider, in-network, who will okay it and so far no luck. 

I cannot find an actual psychiatrist in-network, only NPs. 

Any advice? I feel like I'm just wasting time with these appointments. In case I'm lucky and someone reading this has the same insurance/can recommend a provider: I have IEHP in California.",MentalHealthBabies,7,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1i103ah/on_the_search_two_providers_outright_vetoed/,"[{'comment_id': 'm72kukm', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Can you find a maternal fetal medicine psychiatric specialist? Do a psychology today search on their special separate psychiatry page to find doctors treating pregnant and postpartum moms, esp those specializing in anxiety and ADHD?', 'score': 13, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T14:34:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm73bt3a', 'author': 'banana1060', 'body': 'I say this as someone with an NP—I’d see a doctor to manage your psych meds. 7 meds is a lot to balance as is taking meds considered risker for pregnancy. Also, a doctor is likely to be more comfortable with higher risk meds as they have more training/a broader scope. You might need to pay out of pocket for the right person, even if just for preconception consult and during pregnancy. \n\nI took 3 psych meds—one of which is lithium—during pregnancy and pay out of pocket to see a perinatal psychopharmacologist. It’s such a privilege I was able to do it, but if there’s any possible way that you can, I would. \n\nAlso, have you called your insurance provider rather than searching online. If you can get through to a person, it can be helpful.', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T18:42:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm72lnmb', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': 'Try to find a reproductive psychiatrist/maternal mental health provider. One of the resources in this [directory](https://womensmentalhealth.org/resource/patient-support-services/) (scroll down to get to your state) may be able to help you.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T14:43:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm727fng', 'author': 'deucetreblequinn', 'body': 'Good NPs can prescribe these drugs and your OB doesn\'t have to approve what you are taking. You just say you are prescribed these meds by a psychiatric specialist and don\'t talk about it during OB visits other than ""these are the meds I\'m prescribed."" Why do they have to okay it?', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T12:14:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm74zfut', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Post partum support international (PSI) has a free to provider consultation line for them to reach a reproductive psychiatrist who specializes in psycological medication managment during pregnancy.\n\nMost repro psych don't take insurance, so if you need insurance coverage I'd just have your existing provider call the line for a free consultation."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T23:58:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm73rcdo', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'My Klonopin was green lighted by maternal fetal medicine and reproductive/prenatal psychiatry. Try to find a specialist MD. My daughter is perfect and healthy. Best of luck!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T20:18:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm77slwz', 'author': 'MollyKule', 'body': 'My behavioral heath Doctor continued to prescribe my Adderall and duloxetine throughout my pregnancy. We both tested positive for amphetamines at birth so don’t lie  about it, just let your OB know. They may not even be able to prescribe class 2s', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T09:03:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm7eu3iy', 'author': 'Tasty-Wear-4055', 'body': ""I'm on IEHP and once I got pregnant, my doctor made me drop my klonopins and never prescribed them again because controlled substance :/ IEHP kinda sucks lol"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-16T12:02:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm79hyh2', 'author': 'chrissymad', 'body': 'Your OB should be able to prescribe these for you - mine was.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T18:17:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm75gfcg', 'author': 'Doctor0ctagon', 'body': ""I was allowed a very low dose of klonopin through both pregnancies (.125mg/day). However, none of my doctors in either state I've been pregnant in (NY and TX) have allowed ADD meds. :("", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T01:20:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1i103ah'}, {'comment_id': 'm72rb8l', 'author': 'SubliminallyTwisted', 'body': ""I did try this and reached out to a bunch of people via email, I'll do some calling around tomorrow instead. Unfortunately when I search under psychiatry all that comes up is NPs, and the one person who got back to me stating she specialized in pregnancy/postpartum was the one who didn't want me on Klonopin/Adderall.\n\nAfter doing some more research I'm not 100% on board with the controlled substances anymore, what I can find says that it does increase risk but doesn't note by how much. It also states the studies had some pretty large inconsistencies/weren't controlled.\n\nI can live without them, it will just be extremely hard. At this point I don't know what to advocate for, I just want a healthy baby and a not terrible pregnancy."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T15:45:35', 'parent_id': 't1_m72kukm'}, {'comment_id': 'm727xb4', 'author': 'SubliminallyTwisted', 'body': ""Its the NPs who will not okay it during pregnancy.\n\nI've discussed that we are TTC and the NPs both said I absolutely must come off those meds, one NP wanted me to go from 7 meds down to 2 (which I was fine with outside of the fact she wanted to also get rid of the Adderall and Klonopin). \n\nI don't really mind it not being fine with an OB, just my psych prescriber."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T12:19:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m727fng'}, {'comment_id': 'm77sytm', 'author': 'MollyKule', 'body': 'This is such great advice!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T09:05:26', 'parent_id': 't1_m74zfut'}, {'comment_id': 'm7eum6s', 'author': 'SubliminallyTwisted', 'body': ""Exact issue I'm running into. \n\nNo matter who I speak with - they all require dropping controlled substances, and one of them told me its because they could technically be held liable in some form if our baby came out with a disability. Unsure of how true that is, but I suppose it makes sense.\n\nI refuse to work with any provider who won't promise they will prescribe my controlled substances after giving birth though, that's my worst nightmare. Takes so long to find a provider who isn't afraid to give you a controlled substance, even after proving you need it. :/"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-16T12:07:05', 'parent_id': 't1_m7eu3iy'}, {'comment_id': 'm73w5db', 'author': 'catsonpluto', 'body': 'FYI there is research showing no ill effects from therapeutic doses of stimulants during pregnancy. There’s a big difference between prescribed Adderall and meth use. \n\nI am 37 weeks pregnant and have stayed on Wellbutrin, Zoloft, Vyvanse and Adderall my whole pregnancy. Baby is doing great. My OB and psychiatrist agreed that me being unmedicated for my ADHD would be worse than taking the meds. So it is possible to stay on them. \n\nI am not on your health plan but am in CA. There’s a provider in LA called Insight Choices that has specialists in adult ADHD. They may be able to help you. No advice on the Klonopin as I don’t have personal experience with that but they are fine with stims, particularly if you bring unmedicated would put your safety or employment at risk.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T20:44:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m72rb8l'}, {'comment_id': 'm72rlun', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': ""Well, I had a terrible pregnancy without either, but a healthy baby. It's a tough call"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T15:48:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m72rb8l'}]"
1hzcdoc,2025-01-12T07:45:55,Severe anxiety and I'm so afraid to take my meds ,I have super bad anxiety. I was on 2mg Ativan 2x daily before pregnancy. I've switched to clonazepam with my psych (she's actually a NP). My OBGYN said I shouldn't take and need to stop cold turkey. I'm so afraid to miscarry if I'm taking the Klonopin. But I'm also so anxious I'm barely functional. I'm also on Wellbutrin for depression. I was on Pristiq but was told I needed to switch. I stopped taking my Adderrall. And I have no motivation. I'm paralyzed by anxiety. I just have no idea what to do. I'd love to hear from people whose docs said it was ok to take benzodiazepines during pregnancy ,MentalHealthBabies,7,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hzcdoc/severe_anxiety_and_im_so_afraid_to_take_my_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'm6olva0', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'Hi I took Ativan during my pregnancy as needed! I do see a perinatal psych who told me if any OB gave me shit for it she would call them directly. I’m now having my baby Monday (elective/planned c section due to preexisting condition) and she’s hit every milestone spectacularly. I also took 40mg of Prozac daily.  I felt so so guilty for taking it but as everyone says it truly is way better for the baby when you take care of your mental health - the risks of these medications are so so marginal and of course if you can avoid them it’s recommended but that’s not everyone’s reality. My anxiety was so severe my normally very medically conservative husband ended up “forcing” me to take them. Taking care of you is taking care of baby - you got this 💖', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:11:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6on71l', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'I am on 150 mg of Zoloft, 7.5 mg of mirtazapine, and 2 mg of Ativan as needed. Ok by both my MFM OBGYN and my perinatal psychiatrist', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:19:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6qlu3f', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Search the sub. I had two specialists green light my daily Clonazepam (.5) and have a wonderfully healthy child.\n\nSeek a second opinion. I saw maternal fetal medicine and reproductive/prenatal psychiatry. Not sure your OB is up to date on current research.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T18:40:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm7lv315', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""This isn't what you asked, but I stayed on adderall through both pregnancies with the support of my OB and psychiatrist and a neonatologist I met with to discuss medications, and both of my babies were/are healthy. \n\nI'm mentioning this because being untreated for ADHD can make your anxiety worse."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T15:53:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6pewgc', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'I took about .5 mg for the entire half of my first trimester and .25 for the second half. In second trimester now and I take .125 daily and .5 if I have a panic attack. This was approved by my psychiatrist who is a specialist in mental health disorders during pregnancy. Baby is doing great and many others here have stories of their babies doing well too. My doctor said the chances of withdrawals or birth defects are next to none with the current plan I’m on and that she’s had other patients take much higher doses with no problems. \n\nNot a doctor but I think taking it as needed has very little risk from the info I’ve researched and gotten from my doctor.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T11:37:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6q1ups', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': ""Ativan safe during pregnancy but it's so much weaker than Klonopin. My body went nuts forced back onto Ativan after a month on Klonopin. I would say you would need a higher dose now of Ativan than you used to before switching to Klonopin. This is just based on what happened to me"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T15:29:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm9frz4l', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I was on klonopin my entire pregnancy, my little girl was born healthy, no withdrawals and is now a very happy and healthy 19 week old.\nTake care of yourself. Healthy mom = healthy baby. 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-27T17:22:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm71g9c6', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'I am taking 20mg of add. If I went off i would be non functional. Multiple doctors have said it is fine, better than taking daily benzodiazepines.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T08:53:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzcdoc'}, {'comment_id': 'm6om136', 'author': 'FalseRow5812', 'body': 'Thank you! 😭 I needed this so badly. How did you find a perinatal psych? I am struggling so hard', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:12:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m6olva0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6v6esp', 'author': 'daisydukers', 'body': 'You gave me so much peace of mind during my pregnancy when I had to take klonopin for a part of it. Happy to see you still posting on here. Thank you', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-13T09:12:16', 'parent_id': 't1_m6qlu3f'}, {'comment_id': 'md0g8up', 'author': 'Diankapie', 'body': 'How much mgs did you take?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-16T08:27:01', 'parent_id': 't1_m9frz4l'}, {'comment_id': 'm6ongta', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I went through my insurance company to find someone - saw a totally random doc via zoom maybe 3 times throughout the pregnancy. I found them probably mid way through the first trimester after the OB told me blanketed “no” to everything and I was like Im going to need to understand a little more than that... Next time I saw my OB I told her I’m seeing a perinatal psych who ok’d my meds and she didn’t bat an eye. I did actually get shit from the pharmacist everytime I picked up a prescription which at the time made me feel horrible but now just makes me really annoyed.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T08:21:23', 'parent_id': 't1_m6om136'}, {'comment_id': 'm6ynmk0', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': ':) howd everything turn out for you? I do it to pay it forward since people on here reassured me when I was pregnant and so scared about it.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T00:11:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m6v6esp'}, {'comment_id': 'm6qlj83', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'Omg the pharmacist did this to me too. It made me soooo angry. And then I lost my baby at 20 weeks and she continued to do it and I was like I TOLD YOU IM NOT PREGNANT ANYMORE', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T18:38:10', 'parent_id': 't1_m6ongta'}, {'comment_id': 'm7ksyf2', 'author': 'daisydukers', 'body': 'Everything turned out perfect! Baby needed like 3 hours of CPAP at delivery but now he’s over a year old and thriving! I’m actually pregnant again and this one has been much easier on me mentally (so far and fingers crossed it stays that way). We sacrifice so much to get these babies here!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T09:53:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m6ynmk0'}, {'comment_id': 'm6rufwq', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I’m so sorry for your loss. but, yeah like what a question!! Fill my meds and let me go plz ty', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-12T22:54:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m6qlj83'}]"
1hzc2xc,2025-01-12T07:30:09,"On unsafe/possibly unsafe for pregnancy psych medications, prescriber won't switch to safer alternatives",,MentalHealthBabies,2,1,/r/TryingForABaby/comments/1hzbssk/on_unsafepossibly_unsafe_for_pregnancy_psych/,"[{'comment_id': 'm7luksq', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""You should meet with a reproductive psychiatrist who will be able to give you a better idea of what the safest options are for you and your baby. This is a better way to handle things than to just advocate for yourself with someone who is not experienced in managing mental illness during pregnancy. \n\nYou might be surprised by what they say! You mentioned needing to stop adderall, but it's actually pretty likely that you can keep taking it. I did through both of my pregnancies, and I have two healthy babies. \n\nIf you're in the US, scroll down from [this link](https://womensmentalhealth.org/resource/patient-support-services/) to find potential reproductive mental health care practices. You can also search the same website [(MGH Center for Women's Mental Health)](http://womensmentalhealth.org) for the names of your medications if you'd like to read some of the research about their use during pregnancy. \n\nIf you're not in the US, you might have the best luck reaching out to [Postpartum Support International](http://postpartum.net) (even though I know you're not pregnant yet). They have a provider directory that should include people familiar with managing medications during pregnancy. \n\nIt's hard to have a healthy baby if you're not pregnant, and that includes being mentally healthy. I would not recommend trying to come off all of your medications without the support of someone who is very qualified to determine that that is necessary."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-17T15:48:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1hzc2xc'}]"
1hvactp,2025-01-07T02:55:47,PTSD / Disoriented when woken for feedings,"Hi! what strategies would you recommend for getting up and doing night feedings when baby cries? (breastFeeding on demand). My friend has PTSD that was treated and well controlled, but the hormonal shifts and sleep deprivation of the postpartum have brought back some nighttime symptoms. When woken for night feedings (by baby crying or by husband who was woken by baby crying) she is having flashback and dissociation symptoms (thinking there is a threat present, scared, accusing husband of trying to hurt her). Just looking for strategies other moms with mental health needs have used to fully wake up and attend to night feedings — especially amid PTSD symptoms occurring at night :) ",MentalHealthBabies,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hvactp/ptsd_disoriented_when_woken_for_feedings/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5sogzl', 'author': 'Anxietyandprovolone', 'body': 'She needs sleep.  Period.  I’ve lived this Hell and having come thru the other side, I’d do anything to have had someone take the baby for one of their feedings so I could get some unbroken sleep.  \n\nIf she can pump enough breast milk, her partner can bottle-feed baby while she gets precious consecutive hours of uninterrupted sleep.  \n\nIf she can’t pump, formula feed one time a day for the sake of everyone’s welfare.  It won’t matter, I promise you.  \n\nDon’t let her be like me.  I nearly killed myself and starved my newborn because I could not form rational thoughts or produce enough milk.  My mind and body were spent.  I needed rest.  Thank God we survived but it didn’t have to be like that.   \n\nI hope she can find some relief.  It is so hard.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T06:37:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1hvactp'}, {'comment_id': 'm5t13jk', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""If it's not well controlled anymore, she needs to go back to her medical team and reevaluate medication and therapy options.\n\nPTSD is a legitimate medical issue - but so is PPA and PPD and they do have overlapping symptoms. You can't really DIY strategize your way out of any medical issue (and self diagnosis isnt really the best), so she really needs to take the increase in symptoms seriously and go back to her health care team. \n\nMental health issues are just as legitimate as physical ones. You wouldn't try to recommend DIY strategies for a friend who was having cardiovascular issues post baby. This isn't different becuase it's mental health."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T07:48:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1hvactp'}]"
1huof5u,2025-01-06T07:55:47,OBGYN and psych recs ,"Hey everyone,

I have been struggling with really severe panic attacks since I’ve been pregnant and they’re absolutely debilitating. I’ve spoken with my psychiatrist and OBGYN and both said no benzos. But honestly I’m not sure how I’m going to get through this pregnancy without them. I don’t think I need them daily but when the panic sets in it’s incredibly difficult to come back down. 

I’ve been looking up research on the effects of benzos during pregnancy and the newer research seems to support the use of them or state they find no increase risk of fetal developmental issues, etc. my OBGYN and Psych don’t seem to share the same sentiments.

I’m at wits end. Does anyone have experience with this and a doctor they could recommend in the DFW area? Maybe someone who specializes in mental health/pregnancy that might be up to date on the newer research? Any advice is appreciated ",MentalHealthBabies,8,28,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1huof5u/obgyn_and_psych_recs/,"[{'comment_id': 'm5mswkm', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had prepartum psychosis with suicidal ideation when i was newly pregnant (it got better around 14 weeks). i was on lexapro for the duration.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T08:01:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5nklys', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'I’m taking klonopin during my pregnancy. Approved by both my perinatal psych and obgyn who work together through UCLA (one of the best hospitals in the US and very up to date on current research). I’m taking as small of a dose as possible (about .125 mg) daily and up to .5 as needed for panic attacks. I recommend reading others experiences here as well.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T10:55:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5o19in', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""The MGH [Center for Women's Mental Health ](https://womensmentalhealth.org/resource/patient-support-services/) has a list of resources for this. If you scroll down to your state, you can find links that might be able to help you."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T13:32:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5n4oo7', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I saw a perinatal psychiatrist before becoming pregnant and during pregnancy. She assured me that taking Xanax was okay, up until I went into labor. My OB was also OK with me taking benzodiazepines as needed. Unfortunately not all doctors are as up to date on current research. I do suggest looking into an SSRI, especially since postpartum is a wild ride.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T09:09:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5r2k94', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I took 2 mg klonopin every night pregnant. He’s 10 months and thriving..', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T01:39:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5nfoed', 'author': 'vapidpurpledragon', 'body': 'Unfortunately most panic medications aren’t considered safe in pregnancy. Yes newer research shows it may be safe, but unfortunately the form of research acceptable for pregnancy (essentially data review ) is considered low quality evidence. Which makes providers wary of jumping onboard (especially since OB is one of the most litigious fields of medicine). So your best bet is adjusting your ssri for prevention. Focusing on therapy and controlling what triggers you can. Hug. I hope this pregnancy gets easier and that you and baby stay safe', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T10:18:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5n1mlz', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'Lexapro. I’ve had 6 doctors tell me I can’t take benzodiazepines for pregnancy', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T08:51:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5najcd', 'author': 'RestaurantDazzling35', 'body': 'Cymbalta (60mg daily) was able to keep my panic attacks at bay while I was pregnant. I’d get worked up but not go over the edge if that makes sense. Went to a high risk OB Gyn, they said no Xanax while preg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T09:44:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5o4nf0', 'author': 'Krybxby', 'body': 'My psychiatrist said for me to keep taking my 1mg of clonazepam, he told me not to worry and around 8 months if I’m comfortable we will try to taper down some before delivery. I go to speak to my OBGYN tomorrow. I know they’re going to be against it. Not sure what to expect really or what they will expect from me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T14:08:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5ok4w9', 'author': 'SnooGoats5767', 'body': 'Not pregnant but had pretty serious panic disorder, the ssri Luvox was a game changer for me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T16:53:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5psvd4', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'My doctor is high risk MFM and has no problem with me taking Ativan as needed. She said absolutely do not not take your medicine because your pregnant', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T21:53:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5st41k', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'One more thought- get the name of someone in Austin and see if they can do a virtual meeting. Pay out of pocket. It will be expensive, but I saw you make a good income. Make sure it’s a reproductive or prenatal psych that deals with pregnant women specifically.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T07:03:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm6c4ec0', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'See a perinatal psych. Mine is amazing. I took klonopin, Buspar, Adderall XR and Zoloft during pregnancy. Postpartum I’m taking Zoloft, Buspar, Klonopin as needed, and seroquel. I have a healthy baby girl and no issues with breastfeeding!\nI highly recommend MGH center for women’s health. They are the only website I trust with info too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-10T07:55:32', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm6zd3vu', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': ""I'll DM you"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-14T02:14:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5n4ezk', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You want post partum support international's provider directory. Psychatrists who specialize in prescribing to pregnant women are called reprodutive Psychatrists. I'd suggest also trying a maternal mental health therapist if you don't have one already to try therapy as a non drug approach, since it can help make the case that you need medication. Both will be listed in the directory."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T09:07:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1huof5u'}, {'comment_id': 'm5pxsuh', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thanks. I am going to try lexapro. Did you feel it made a big difference? I was put on Zoloft but my panic attacks started ramping up and I wasn’t sure if it was related or not. They also recommended TMS which at this point I’ll try anything so I might do that option', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:18:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m5mswkm'}, {'comment_id': 'm5pyx2b', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thank you this is helpful I’ll be checking this out', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:23:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m5o19in'}, {'comment_id': 'm5r4ydq', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I’m glad to hear that. I’ve honestly considered going out of state to terminate the pregnancy because how bad things have gotten. Im just trying to make it out of the first trimester to see if the panic attacks improve but it’s taking everything I’ve got at this point', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T01:50:48', 'parent_id': 't1_m5r2k94'}, {'comment_id': 'm5pz9oh', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'I’ve been adjusting my medications and working with a therapist but it doesn’t do much for in the moment attacks which have honestly been so brutal', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:25:25', 'parent_id': 't1_m5nfoed'}, {'comment_id': 'm5r591a', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'How has the lexapro helped you? Have you noticed a difference?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T01:52:14', 'parent_id': 't1_m5n1mlz'}, {'comment_id': 'm6ks5ra', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'How frequently did you take the klonopin?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-11T19:38:41', 'parent_id': 't1_m6c4ec0'}, {'comment_id': 'm5q27aa', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'lexapro worked for me during pregnancy but i’ve since switched several times in my 4yr postpartum. it can take awhile to find a good drug combo!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:39:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m5pxsuh'}, {'comment_id': 'm5sqklc', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'Zoloft did not work for me either. Cymbalta worked best and currently I am pregnant and taking 30mg of Prozac. Had been taking Ativan 0.25 almost daily, but knew I didn’t really need it. Went of of it two weeks into pregnancy after trying to keep going lower. Sorry you are struggling. I have had success with doctors that are female at any major hospital in a large city\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T06:49:33', 'parent_id': 't1_m5pxsuh'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rhjkj', 'author': 'Prestigious-Ear-8552', 'body': 'Dr. Nonacs is great!!! Highly recommend her', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T02:50:49', 'parent_id': 't1_m5pyx2b'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rgj2h', 'author': 'Informal_Heat8834', 'body': 'I apologize I don’t have any super great advice I just wanted to send an internet hug. I skimmed your post hx and you’ve been going through such an extremely difficult time and I’m really sorry for all the things you’ve been put through. Please keep speaking up for yourself, please give yourself grace. You’re a stranger but holy smokes I am blown away at your strength and courage. There has got to be a fuckin OBGYN/ physician near you that will listen and is well educated and will HELP you. If there are any of those Facebook pages for your area where people post looking for different recommendations or resources, try to find one and post anonymously about what you’re trying to find. My sister finally found a GI doctor who listened and ran tests via Facebook recommendations. I’m praying and sending you hugs. You are being so strong girl please keep fighting the fight', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T02:46:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m5r4ydq'}, {'comment_id': 'm5u1eyr', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'Yeah lexapro has helped. It takes like 2 weeks to start working. 🩵 I was taking benzodiazepines before I got pregnant daily and I had to immediately stop taking them. I have a full support team at cedar sinai and they all said no to benzos. Pregnancy is hard. I feel for you! Hang in there', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T11:55:55', 'parent_id': 't1_m5r591a'}, {'comment_id': 'm5rqoeu', 'author': 'Status_Garden_3288', 'body': 'Thank you ♥️ I’m really trying my best but it’s been difficult. It’s hard because I do see people on here taking medications that I know would help with good success and without impact on their pregnancy but no one will prescribe them. I had a horrible panic attack last night and it’s been a struggle. I spoke with my Dr about starting TMS since is a non medication alternative but it takes time and my insurance needs to approve it with a prior authorization. I’m trying to do what’s best but cannot believe how difficult it’s been to get help.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T03:35:17', 'parent_id': 't1_m5rgj2h'}, {'comment_id': 'm5sr3jf', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'I would try and get refereed to a maternal fetal med specialist, but more importantly a perinatal or reproductive psych or a young and informed gyno linked to a university.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T06:52:28', 'parent_id': 't1_m5rqoeu'}]"
1ho3e2x,2024-12-28T16:23:11,Still been trying to get on an anxiety med while pregnant.  Reactions have been super abnormal.  Losing confidence.  ,"Last year I tried Zoloft twice and after the startup it helped my anxiety and mood a whole lot.   There was some apathy but I could deal.  It made me feel less anxious and ocd and like I was warm and cozy in a cocoon and could relax.  

However zoloft made me have bladder problems and I’d retain urine and UTIs and pain.  It sucked.   IC flares and retention just awful pain.   

With the approval of my MFM I’ve tried Prozac this pregnancy as well as lexapro.  They even let me try a couple lesser used antidepressants bc of my bad ocd and anxiety and history of PPA.  That includes a couple tries of low dose trintellix and viibryd, with extreme caution after an ok anatomy scan.   My reactions to them were intolerable and I couldn’t stay on them.   I just have severe startup anxiety already and I was too terrified of staring a lesser studied medication that can have third tri effects.   

For some reason I’m like almost allergic to lexapro and celexa now.   I also got what must be akathisia.   It was unbearable.   And this also happened with Prozac.  Like physically incapable of sitting in a chair, acting like I’m on a stimulant.    

I couldn’t tolerate this like I couldn’t sleep.  All of the above I’ve had issues with.  I’d been trying to find the right med for a year before I got pregnant and there would always be a problem. 

I suffer from migraines and partial seizures so Wellbutrin hasn’t been an option for me.  Basically ive tried a lot of things.  

Right now im not sleeping middle of the night because this akathisia like feeling from Prozac is so unbearable.   All my back and neck and arm muscles are tensing up against my will.   My legs and arms are restless. 

This isn’t the reaction I had to it when not pregnant.  Same with lexapro.


I’m starting to feel so hopeless.   I tried Zoloft as a Hail Mary to see if the bladder issues had resolved but it made me have suicidal thoughts.  That didn’t used to happen when I was on it and not pregnant. 

So I guess I have had some prenatal depression and nothing is working?  I guess the Prozac slightly pulled my mood up but in a way that is deeply unbearable with the severe increased anxiety and the akathisia.  Akathisia is really scary and I’m terrified to risk that affecting me and not resolving in its own.  I can’t see that being something I tolerate for 6-8 weeks in the off chance it gets better.   I’m like in physical muscular pain bc my body won’t relax and ofc increased anxiety.  I take all these vitamins too and they aren’t stopping it.    The one time I tried Prozac before pregnancy I found it really stimulating but it wasn’t like this.   I ended up going back on Zoloft the second time but Prozac occasionally helped although less with anxiety.  But this tension and agitation thing is insane and I’m guessing something with pregnancy and it’s just unbearable. 

I am at a loss.  I almost want to ask for Paxil.  It triggered a focal seizure the one single time I took it.   But that could have also been triggered by anxiety.    I know it’s cat D and they’ll probably say no I just don’t know if it’s ok 3rd tri.  I just like the idea it could be sedating instead of over stimulating but then there’s the opposite issue of being so sleepy i can’t drive.  That’s what happened to me with Luvox.   

I’m just having an extremely hard time with anxiety and depression.   And I’m struggling not to envy people who simply got on Zoloft and feel awesome now.  Zoloft was a really good balance for me of not too stimulating but not too sedating.   I just landed in the ER with the bladder stuff and this time while pregnant it triggered depression.     I am especially bummed bc Zoloft made me sleep amazingly.  And for the first time I didn’t have anxiety when falling asleep.   Lexapro Prozac celexa viibryd and trintellix all made it hard to sleep which as a high risk pregnancy I can’t deal with right now.   Luvox helped me sleep but I was almost narcoleptic.   

I’m so all over the place. 

I know moms mental health should be managed etc but staring a new med pregnant is really different from already being on one that’s working for you.  

I’m 25 weeks.  Idk this is just so weird and exhausting.   I’ve been taking vitamins and magnesium and other things for side effects but it’s just always something so unbearable like akathisia or worse depression or severe anxiety and I can’t take Ativan, hydrazine is ok but isn’t that great, buspar makes me super emotionally unstable.  

I’m at the point where I have actual dreams about miraculously one medication working for my anxiety and depression.  I also have pretty bad OCD and only ever found meds to take the edge off that, never therapy alone.

And everything except the commonly approved Zoloft just makes me so incredibly anxious that I could be harming the baby either now or after birth.   Because obviously I process these meds strangely I get so worried they are building up in my system.   I also noticed changes in baby movement on a couple of them which yea it’s too early to expect regular movement and yes the baby was likely just sleepy esp from med changes but that causes a level of anxiety it’s just hard to tolerate.   

And yes before you ask YES I have done genesight and it doesn’t seem relevant at all.  A lot of this happens with meds that had the ok.   

Anyway I’m tired.   I wish one of my dreams where something worked out would come true.   ",MentalHealthBabies,5,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1ho3e2x/still_been_trying_to_get_on_an_anxiety_med_while/,"[{'comment_id': 'm46ifdh', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'I have no advice but just want to say I’m so sorry you’re going through all this. Med changes can be so tough and with the added considerations of pregnancy it can be really anxiety inducing. It sounds like you are doing a great job of listening to your body and tracking your symptoms to work with your psychiatrist. I hope that you are able to find some relief soon.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T17:13:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm46w2zm', 'author': 'Terrible-Copy-6384', 'body': 'I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Have you ever trialed Remeron, or has your doctor mentioned it? It’s the only thing that has worked for me.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T19:15:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm47x7zp', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""I wonder if you're experiencing some hypomania/mania from the antidepressants. Are you working with a psychiatrist or just the MFM doc? I would ask about trying a mood stabilizer like lamictal, which is reasonably safe in pregnancy. Or maybe an atypical antipsychotic. Also, at 25 weeks, you might want to try to just ride it out with some ativan or klonopin until you deliver."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T23:02:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm4bgkab', 'author': 'ToesInDiffAreaCodes', 'body': 'Luvox and Ritalin or Wellbutrin is a great combo for me and my OCD. The fatigue is rough but worth it for my sanity.\xa0', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T11:51:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm47jz85', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""Have you tried looking at TMS and ECT? ECT is literally the most effective option we have for depression, and TMS is basically ECT with magnets. Neither are drug options, but insurnace will usually pay for it when mutliple options haven't worked"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T21:49:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm4vkte5', 'author': 'IndependenceOdd2024', 'body': 'You sound like me! \nI take Effexor ( love it) and Adderall XR but obviously didn’t take the adderall during pregnancy. \n\nIt helped my OCD symptoms and obsessive thinking. Thoughts still come but I don’t ruminate anymore. \n\nGood luck! I was able to stay on Effexor during pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-01T23:18:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm5stuc2', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'Could they try remeron? I normally can’t increase a med unless I Ativan. When I got off cymbalta and started Prozac prior to getting pregnant I had very weird intrusive thoughts that were hysterical and violent despite my having no clue where they were coming from. They finally went away. I had access to Ativan and that was really the only thing that gave me any relief at the time. Perhaps you are trying too many meds too quickly? So sorry you are struggling.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-07T07:07:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'ma2fngu', 'author': 'Seiten93', 'body': 'I am currently taking Venlafaxine. Not pregnant, just planning. I plan to take it during pregnancy. Because without it I feel like shit, terrible anxiety and lack of motivation', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-31T01:24:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'mairmd9', 'author': 'Trinityfoxspice9494', 'body': 'I actually had horrible postpartum anxiety/depression and was put on so many meds that did not work for me. Eventually I had my doctor do the gene test to see why I was doing so bad with these meds. It turns out I can’t metabolize SSRIs. They literally do nothing for me. They were able to see that with the test. They gave me Ativan for sleep anxiety and that worked wonders. If you have seizures Ativan can be used for your anxiety and seizures. They should have suggested that for you. Anyways I ended up taking 5HTP and that did work for me. It didn’t magically fix me overnight but it made me have a more positive attitude towards my anxiety. I was able to allow it to be there and not let it get to me and eventually it did go away because I stopped giving it attention. That’s sort of what I think the SSRI does. It just helps you battle it but in the end it’s still up to you. I’ve had anxiety my whole life but it never became crippling until I had my baby. I learned a lot about why it happens and certain mind tricks to get out of it. I’m definitely in a better place now and medication free :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-02T13:17:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1ho3e2x'}, {'comment_id': 'm46ipxw', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'I appreciate this a lot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T17:16:09', 'parent_id': 't1_m46ifdh'}, {'comment_id': 'm47s5so', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'Maybe PP.  the MFM wasn’t comfortable with me starting that class of AD while pregnant', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T22:35:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m46w2zm'}, {'comment_id': 'm48cpr8', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'No im not.  I have epilepsy.  I was on Lamictal for that for a long time until we realized it was the wrong sure med for me.  Severe anxiety OCD worsening and shortness of breath.    Increased anger.  Not really stabilizing except helped the seizures and depression.   \n\nEpilepsy has a LOT of mood comorbidities.   One psych thought I’m ADHD as well which would explain some of this but of course we really don’t want to try stimulants yet.   \n\nI may discuss just Ativan as needed for acute anxiety until I deliver because my brain is obviously so weird right now due to hormones.  That’s a good idea.   I’m also touching base with the MFM about if I could try Paxil now we’re out of first tri. \n\nThanks', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T00:26:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m47x7zp'}, {'comment_id': 'm48cxy4', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'Oh yes I have a psych who knows all my history.   I’ve even specially asked the hypomania questions bc part of my anxiety is health and mental health anxiety and fear of going crazy.  She and my therapist are adamant they don’t think it’s that.   I also have a neurologist managing the focal aware seizures with a pregnancy safe medication.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T00:27:32', 'parent_id': 't1_m47x7zp'}, {'comment_id': 'm4dcoow', 'author': 'Regular-Reindeer', 'body': 'Thank you 🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-29T21:43:24', 'parent_id': 't1_m4bgkab'}, {'comment_id': 'm8x0i6h', 'author': 'Numerous-Water-1541', 'body': ""It's time consuming and you need to be nearby your do it everyday."", 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T20:13:21', 'parent_id': 't1_m47jz85'}]"
1hm7i5y,2024-12-26T01:14:57,Klonopin usage while pregnant,"Hi all- My husband, mother and OB have made me convinced my baby is going to come out not okay.

I’ve read through some posts on here regarding moms taking Klonopin during their pregnancy and have felt immense relief. I tapered off my prescription a few weeks ago, as I entered week 20. I was prescribed 2mg / day. My first OB encouraged me to keep taking it as he was younger and said the research is outdated, etc as some of you lovely mommas have reassured other expecting moms on here. This is my first pregnancy (out of 4 ) that has it to the second trimester. My anatomy scan was great. No complications or issues at all so far. 

My question may seem backwards but I am asking for my sense of relief and for my mother and husband as this is becoming an every day discussion of how I “already ruined our son/grandson’s life” and my anxiety over this is almost becoming debilitating: 
 Is there anything you did to try to reverse the possible effects of taking Xanax / klonopin during your pregnancy? Has anyone noticed side effects after having their baby? I am very very nervous that he is going to have issues because of my usage. I would appreciate any and all stories, good or bad, and advice, you have. Thank you 🙏🏻 ",MentalHealthBabies,9,42,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hm7i5y/klonopin_usage_while_pregnant/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3sber5', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I took .5 every night of my pregnancy. I have the most perfect kid. I also had the support of specialists who know this field- reproductive psychiatrist and maternal fetal medicine. I wonder if your OB is up to date? No one on my care team had any concerns (top US research hospital.) feel free to message me! I agonized over this.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:50:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3skwmf', 'author': 'Mindless-Minute7296', 'body': 'I have a reproductive psychiatrist who prescribed me both xanax and Rexulti. I was obviously very anxious and felt guilty having to take medications, worried about ruining my son. I spoke to my psychiatrist about this and she told me that they would not prescribe the medication if it would harm me or baby and the best thing to do for baby is to take care of myself. I’m 22 weeks, baby is perfectly healthy and moves around lots! Don’t feel bad because you need medication. I’d highly suggest talking to a reproductive psychiatrist if you are not already as they can give you, your husband and grandma information to calm everyone’s anxieties.', 'score': 10, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:52:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sii6x', 'author': 'Altixan', 'body': 'I used it up to the second trimester (tapering was pretty hellish) but my doctors were happy to let me take it during the whole pregnancy. Baby girl is almost 1,5 years now! \nAlso, it sounds very hard to me that they tell you you are ruining your son’s life. Not very supportive!', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:36:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s5zf1', 'author': 'sexualcatperson', 'body': ""I took Xanax my second and third trimesters with my daughter and she is completely normal and was full-term. I didn't take it the first trimester due to the risks of birth defects but I literally took it the morning of my induction and took it 3-4 times a week."", 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:15:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tdh2b', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You need to refer your OB to Post partum support international's free to provider consultation line for a perinatal psychiatrist.\n\nYou can also use the PSI directory to find a reproductive psychiatrist (also known as perinatal psychiatry) on your own to get a consultation with an actual doctor who does psychiatric medication management during pregnancy. \n\nThis is a literal MD specialization for this, so go to the people who actually studied for this. Don't ask your MIL. Don't ask your husband. Don't ask reddit. Get the actual answer from someone who studied this and literally has an MD in psychiatric medication management in pregnancy. \n\nAnd, as I mentioned, the PSI consultation is free to providers so there's literally no reason for your OB not to be doing the consultation."", 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T07:10:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tej0n', 'author': 'writekit', 'body': ""Um. Your mother and husband are not being healthy people to be around. Also how do they expect you to get anxiety under control when they're actively sabotaging your sense of calm?\n\nWhat I'm concerned about is: all pregnancies have some inherent risk. If your closest support people are ALREADY stressing you out over this, I don't trust them to be helpful if you *need* them for something."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T07:17:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3slqie', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I take 1 mg daily and all things are going smooth & healthy. Healthy mom equals healthy baby, and yes lots of the research is outdated and ill informed. I’ve spoken with many moms who took klonopin or Ativan throughout their pregnancies and have healthy & happy children. Far better for mama and baby to avoid panic attacks.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:58:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xojr3', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I took 2.5 mg every single night pregnant and not pregnant he’s perfectly healthy he’s 10 months old now', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T03:03:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm467vjk', 'author': 'boopixie', 'body': 'Please don’t let them get to you. The research IS outdated. I took 2mg per day the whole time I was pregnant and while I was breastfeeding. No issues at all.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T15:15:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s3uzb', 'author': 'corvus_caurinus_', 'body': 'I am only in my first trimester, but I have been taking this medication nightly for a rare neurological/sleep condition. Like everything, there is risk involved, and your medical team will help guide you.\n\nAnecdotally, I can tell you about my experience. I have undergone IVF, and because of my medical condition I couldn’t even start treatment until I had approval from a maternal fetal medicine doctor. I have had an OB, sleep doctor, reproductive endocrinologist and fetal medicine doctor all give me the okay to continue taking my medicine. I have been warned that most likely known effects could be low birth weight, and my fetal med doctor has suggested more frequent scans to check up.\n\nOf course, I still feel doing nerves and guilt, I think that’s pretty normal considering the gravity of cresting a new person. But just my two cents to say I have had a whole team of doctors in varying specialties sign off on this.\n\nBe gentle with yourself 🤍', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:02:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tcxn3', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Not at the end of my pregnancy yet but wanted to let you know my story echoes yours, even quitting at the second trimester & everything.  Anatomy scan is perfect.  No abnormalities detected.  My OB has not been supportive at all & berated me at my last appointment to the point I quit cold turkey after.  She told me I've messed up my baby & drug tested me at that appointment as well, almost made me feel like a damn criminal tbh.  It's been very very hard, especially quitting cold turkey. I know it's not helpful that I don't have any reassurance yet but you aren't alone in it at least and these comments have helped me feel a lot better so thank you for posting 💖"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T07:06:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm5o4ue9', 'author': 'Krybxby', 'body': 'My psychiatrist gave me the green light to continue my 1 mg daily of clonazepam, he told me it was safe and that around 8 months, if I’m comfortable we will start trying to taper down some until delivery.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T14:10:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xvpz4', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""I basically went through my pregnancy without anything (I took Prozac but it didn't help my anxiety) and my psychiatrist did offer me anxiety meds but I refused. \n\nLet me say,\n\nIt's not worth it. Don't live in anxiety, that can be harmful for the baby AND YOU. I had a panic attack while driving when I was pregnant with my son and almost wrecked my car. I got horribly depressed and I have no real history of depression. I had horrible thoughts when I was pregnant. \n\nWith respect towards your family, they do not know what they're talking about. Unless you live through it, you don't know. \n\n\nThere are moms who take Xanax to keep their anxiety down. There are moms who take a antidepressants (which do carry some risk) to keep themselves from self harm. \n\nWhen it comes to mental health conditions that lead to addiction: There are moms (like me) who had to chew nicotine gum for the first 15 weeks to quit vaping while pregnant. There are also moms who are addicts and take methadone their entire pregnancy to get them off of drugs. \n\nAll of these things are OK under the supervision of a doctor. If they know you're taking it, they can properly monitor the risk/benefit ratio for you and your baby. \n\nWe need to end this stigma around women asking for help and being honest when they're pregnant. \n\nHave your husband sit down with your doctor and talk about how the medication works and it's benefits to you and the baby."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T03:44:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1hm7i5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sc0ek', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:54:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sber5'}, {'comment_id': 'm3z7zmk', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'Can I please message you? I’m feeling really down. I have to take clonazepam only for flights and I will only be using it for the flight out of the country and the flight back into the country. A lot of nurses etc. have told me I will harm my baby and cause miscarriage or serious birth defects. I’m also a nurse so I feel bad that I need to take this. I have to take it in emergencies and the flights are HUGE for me. That’s the only time I will be taking the benzo.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T08:47:35', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sber5'}, {'comment_id': 'm3slo6c', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵 also, congratulations ☺️ I am looking into ones in my area now! I really appreciate the advice. Ps, we are on the same timeline for our boys!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:58:08', 'parent_id': 't1_m3skwmf'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sji8m', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵 tapering definitely sucked. It is, but I will admit I was having an anxiety attack while posting this so I probably shouldn’t have mentioned that. Definitely not looking for sympathy regarding that but thank you thank you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:43:26', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sii6x'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s655j', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:16:23', 'parent_id': 't1_m3s5zf1'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tpnm5', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you, I really appreciate the advice 🙏🏻🩵', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:42:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tdh2b'}, {'comment_id': 'm3toyvl', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Agreed. My mother is just a victim to old school thinking and Google. My husband is a different story.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:36:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tej0n'}, {'comment_id': 'm3slxdz', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵 I agree with healthy mom = healthy baby! I definitely only stopped for the people in my life', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T03:59:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slqie'}, {'comment_id': 'm3smhh3', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'Did you take it in the first trimester?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:03:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slqie'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xondh', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🙏🏻🩵', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T03:04:33', 'parent_id': 't1_m3xojr3'}, {'comment_id': 'mdhof7s', 'author': 'gabrielle100', 'body': 'Hey I know this is old! But just curious if you breastfed while still taking klonopin or not?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-19T01:52:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3xojr3'}, {'comment_id': 'm4lh5qu', 'author': 'Sea-Jelly-6543', 'body': 'Even in first trimester?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-31T03:53:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m467vjk'}, {'comment_id': 'm5q1ugx', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'Did you take it the day you went into labor as well?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T22:38:07', 'parent_id': 't1_m467vjk'}, {'comment_id': 'm46sowh', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you thank you 🙏🏻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T18:49:09', 'parent_id': 't1_m467vjk'}, {'comment_id': 'm3s64od', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you 🩵', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T02:16:18', 'parent_id': 't1_m3s3uzb'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tqdx3', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'If you would have said your OB was a man I would be questioning if it was the same one! Lol. I’m SO sorry we had such similar experiences… mine threatened to call CPS on me, which resulted in a panic attack immediately leaving the appointment, ofc lol. I’m going to message you!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:47:50', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tcxn3'}, {'comment_id': 'm3zhgjd', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'You won’t harm your baby. I have a healthy happy PERFECT 17 month old. Thriving. No withdrawals. Easiest natural birth, no complications  (I’m not just saying that, it was my first and I had a uniquely positive experience and it was fast!) In fact the OB that delievered my baby (not my regular OB, they were out) was amazing and not the least bit concerened about klonopin. In fact, it was on my meds list and given to me day of birth, and the 2 days  following (along with my lexapro) Our baby is ahead milestone wise, the sweetest my snugly and adorable PERFECT being. I attribute this (in part) to me being my *best self* (which is medicated) during pregnancy and postpartum. If you are okay, your baby will be okay. Please remember that. And use a specialist psych, OBs know nothing about this topic, they are not trained in this, I had  my psych communicate w my OB Directly. Just be honest, always. Have no shame in taking care of yourself.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T09:52:33', 'parent_id': 't1_m3z7zmk'}, {'comment_id': 'm40ycuc', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Yes message me! I’m an academic so science and data really matters to me. The specialists went over the recent researched and assured me there was no risk at low doses.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T18:31:20', 'parent_id': 't1_m3z7zmk'}, {'comment_id': 'm3t9ok8', 'author': 'Mindless-Minute7296', 'body': 'Thank you! Aw ☺️💙 spring babies everywhere! I hope everything gets better, you got this', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T06:42:32', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slo6c'}, {'comment_id': 'm3sm6bf', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'I implore you to have them view these comments to ease their mind and support you in maintaining positive mental health and therefore a positive environment for growing a child!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:01:30', 'parent_id': 't1_m3slxdz'}, {'comment_id': 'm3smmnx', 'author': 'No_Internal_1234', 'body': 'Yes, i started tapering but was afflicted with anxiety & panic attacks and ended up remaining on it at my psychiatrists advicw', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:04:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3smhh3'}, {'comment_id': 'mdjj7l7', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I didn’t breastfeed because I never produced much milk like with my first child I never produced with her either.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-19T07:30:49', 'parent_id': 't1_mdhof7s'}, {'comment_id': 'm6d7q5a', 'author': 'boopixie', 'body': 'I did. They provided it to me in the hospital as well and I was an exclusively breastfeeding mom.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-10T12:33:07', 'parent_id': 't1_m5q1ugx'}, {'comment_id': 'm76bwqh', 'author': 'relevancybox', 'body': 'I truly can’t believe your OB threatened to call CPS on you because of this.   That’s awful and I’m sorry.  I don’t understand how they wouldn’t be able to see that causing you to feel that bad might also be a pregnancy risk\n\n* edited to say I’m not implying that you’re at risk because of the panic attack 🤦\u200d♀️.   I just meant that the risk associated with bullying a person about their medication is likely just as bad if not worse than the risk posed by certain medications', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T04:03:19', 'parent_id': 't1_m3tqdx3'}, {'comment_id': 'm3zi60k', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'This is very insightful thank you! I think I’m nervous because I’m still only 9 weeks. Did you happen to take any benzos in early pregnancy? So happy to hear your birth went smooth and your baby is perfect!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T09:57:49', 'parent_id': 't1_m3zhgjd'}, {'comment_id': 'm3tqn1o', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you, I appreciate it more than you know!! Happy holidays ☺️🩵', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T08:49:49', 'parent_id': 't1_m3t9ok8'}, {'comment_id': 'm3snuab', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'I have had my mother actively reading as everyone’s comments have come in!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T04:12:34', 'parent_id': 't1_m3sm6bf'}, {'comment_id': 'm76ckh8', 'author': 'Odd-Student-2484', 'body': 'Thank you! I plan on telling him that at my apt this week. Not being able to take the klonopin, I’ve fainted four times in the last month.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-15T04:06:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m76bwqh'}, {'comment_id': 'm4n7p46', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'Yes I was prescribed pre pregnancy and took it as prescribed throughout.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-31T10:00:28', 'parent_id': 't1_m3zi60k'}]"
1hjzv6a,2024-12-22T20:17:28,"Struggling, need hope ","Hi, I’ve just completed 3 weeks with an increased dose of Lexapro (upped to 10mg), due to depression and anxiety. My baby is 5 weeks old.
Somehow the last few days I’ve been feeling even worse, just hopeless and my anxiety is through the roof. I had a few days shortly after starting lexapro where is felt surprisingly decent, maybe that’s the honeymoon period people talk about.

Anyone else experience a rough patch before coming out the other side? I’m speaking to my psychiatrist tomorrow so this is purely for anecdotal purposes, I’m not looking for medical advice of course.

Thank you 🙏 ",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hjzv6a/struggling_need_hope/,"[{'comment_id': 'm3akmdl', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'you’re in the throes of postpartum hormonal changes. i’d give it time and speak to your doc. i’ve switched meds many times in my 4yr postpartum in order to find the right cocktail.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:03:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1hjzv6a'}, {'comment_id': 'm3b994q', 'author': 'tuba_baby23', 'body': 'Give yourself grace. You will talk to your psychiatrist tomorrow and hopefully they can help. You may need another dose increase or to change/add a medication and that’s okay. Postpartum does crazy things to our bodies. But you will get through this. Hang in there.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T23:25:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1hjzv6a'}, {'comment_id': 'm3bmabc', 'author': 'AngryBeaverFace88', 'body': 'It’s the hormones, I swear. Give it time and it will eventually go away. In the meantime, search for Postpartum International, which is a free organization that provides non-medication based support for specifically helping people going through this. Hang in there!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T00:35:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1hjzv6a'}, {'comment_id': 'm3alr7x', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thanks. I am hoping that if I stick with the Lexapro I’ll see results but also scared ofc that it will be for nothing, I tend to catastrophize unfortunately.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:10:18', 'parent_id': 't1_m3akmdl'}, {'comment_id': 'm3bfyyb', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thank you ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T00:02:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m3b994q'}, {'comment_id': 'm3bp3qs', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Omg thanks so much! Means a lot, checking it out now ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-23T00:50:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m3bmabc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3am6ut', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'ah mental illness is fun, innit?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:12:58', 'parent_id': 't1_m3alr7x'}, {'comment_id': 'm3an0de', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Innit just', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-22T21:17:54', 'parent_id': 't1_m3am6ut'}]"
1hj7afl,2024-12-21T16:04:42,"For those of you taking Klonopin, what dosage and frequency prescribed?",My doctor prescribed 0.5 mg three times a day. Should be handling my anxiety right? Well it’s losing efficacy. What dosage are you on? I’ve heard as high as 1 mg three times a day,MentalHealthBabies,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hj7afl/for_those_of_you_taking_klonopin_what_dosage_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'meusyyi', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Hi dear. Just read your post. How are you doing? Im on the same boat. Thought we could help each other', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-26T14:05:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1hj7afl'}]"
1hfo0zx,2024-12-16T22:44:33,Unbelievable depressive episode ,"Up front, can’t take SSRIs like Prozac, Zoloft. Won’t go into into the agony they cause. 

I’m on Wellbutrin xl 300 (8 years now), gabapentin 1500-2400, latuda 20 mg, and between 1.5-4 mg Klonopin. 

I don’t know what’s going on but I’m suddenly suffering panic attacks daily while also having insufferable fatigue. 

It’s been about 2 weeks now and it’s like… I can’t get off the couch. I can’t even watch TV. I can’t do anything. I have three kids I’m struggling to care for including a baby, but my mother in law is having to do all cooking and cleaning. 

What medications and behaviors helped others on an acute anxiety-depression episode?",MentalHealthBabies,7,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hfo0zx/unbelievable_depressive_episode/,"[{'comment_id': 'm2fvypj', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Have you tried SNRIs? I also do poorly on SSRIs but did well with Pristiq, an SNRI.\n\nI find klonopin helpful for dealing with anxiety that I have every day but not for panic attacks. Klonopin can take 1-4 hours to reach its full effect whereas a shorter acting benzo like Xanax or Ativan can work quickly for panic attacks. \n\nFinally, it looks like you’re about 8 months pp from your post history. You would be eligible for Zuranolone(Zurzuvae) which is specifically approved for postpartum depression. My doctor described it as a “hard reset” but many doctors don’t know what it is so it is worth searching out a doctor who knows about it. I personally took it at about 2.5 months postpartum and think it helped with my most severe symptoms. \n\nAlso always worth asking for a blood work up since you are postpartum. Things like your thyroid or low iron could be causing fatigue. \n\nWishing you the best❤️', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T09:04:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm2cyeo6', 'author': 'Maxifer20', 'body': 'Don’t have any suggestions other than to talk to your treatment team, but wanted to say I’m really sorry this is happening and I pray that things will get better for you. It really sounds like you’re going through the wringer. It may sound extreme, but would you consider a short inpatient stay to get regulated? I don’t know if that is even a possibility for you.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-12-16T23:12:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm32x20f', 'author': 'AngryBeaverFace88', 'body': 'When I was in the depths of hell, this organization’s services probably saved my life: https://www.postpartum.net/get-help/help-for-moms/\n\nI recommend the it to everyone, particularly their support groups (both virtual and in person) but also their text line etc. \n\nI hope you feel better. I’ve been there.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T08:19:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm3355xr', 'author': 'deucetreblequinn', 'body': 'What about an atypical antidepressant like Trintellix or an older tca like elavil? My worst anxiety depressive episode ever I was brought out of by Trintellix. I had already been taking elavil nightly and Xanax as needed but the first time I was ever depressed, the atypical worked. I cannot take SSRIs either. \n\nXanax for panic and anxiety \nElavil for insomnia and ocd\nTrintellix for depression and insomnia.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T09:18:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1hfo0zx'}, {'comment_id': 'm2hfxfd', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Thank you so much for going into these details ❤️. My doctor switched me from Ativan to Klonopin and at first it was a miracle drug!!! Then about ten days in the effect went kind of south.\n\nMy doctor wants me to do Zurzuvae. I’m afraid to try it. Do you think it really benefited you?? I see mixed reviews. Optum has denied it twice as well. I tried snris with bad results unfortunately. Made me very panicky☹️.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T17:54:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m2fvypj'}, {'comment_id': 'miqmi0t', 'author': 'Wrong-Reference5327', 'body': 'How do you find a doctor that’s willing to prescribe this? I’m terrified of going and being reported to CPS (I’m not a risk to myself or my child, just depressed and anxious).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-20T08:59:40', 'parent_id': 't1_m2fvypj'}, {'comment_id': 'm2dc8ze', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Thank you— I’ve contacted doctors and awaiting their replies 😭', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T00:23:44', 'parent_id': 't1_m2cyeo6'}, {'comment_id': 'm344esl', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Thank you friend', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T14:55:46', 'parent_id': 't1_m32x20f'}, {'comment_id': 'm3448sl', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'I’m going to ask my doctor immediately , thank you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-21T14:53:52', 'parent_id': 't1_m3355xr'}, {'comment_id': 'm2iwude', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'I by no means think zurzuvae is a cure-all, especially if you have pre-existing anxiety and depression. It did, however, help me with my most debilitating symptoms. For me that was really scary intrusive thoughts and debilitating depression similar to what you described where it was difficult to get up and do anything. Honestly I think it’s worth trying but I will say it made me even more tired for the two weeks I took it. I do not think it really did much for my anxiety and I’ve been in an on-going battle of trying to manage that and insomnia since I had my baby (also 8 months ago!). Currently on a low dose of klonopin since I’m pregnant again and seroquel at night which has helped but not completely eliminated symptoms.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T23:12:41', 'parent_id': 't1_m2hfxfd'}, {'comment_id': 'm2dihw2', 'author': 'Maxifer20', 'body': 'I’m glad you have some support - lean on them and don’t let the negative self-talk drag you down further. This isn’t anything you can control and your body and brain are going through so much right now. Hope you hear from the MD’s soon!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-17T00:55:45', 'parent_id': 't1_m2dc8ze'}, {'comment_id': 'm2n0h3d', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'So far insurance repeatedly denying it anyway, but I’m sure Doctor will keep trying', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-18T15:57:01', 'parent_id': 't1_m2iwude'}, {'comment_id': 'm2syax3', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Btw congratulations on your new pregnancy and wowza, you are amazing! I couldn’t do both right now. But I’m 40 yo', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-19T16:03:22', 'parent_id': 't1_m2iwude'}, {'comment_id': 'm5oq8wq', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Hi! Just updating that I had stated Zurzuvae with good psychological results but because it’s a steroid it activated dormant oral herpes and I’ve been battling a brutal outbreak that strong antivirals aren’t touching. I dropped the Zurzuvae and am so upset that I have to— it was positive for my ppd. But herpes virus is often fatal to infants and my baby is endangered. I’m desperately trying to get the outbreak under control, including frequently applying alcohol to my hands, face, all surfaces, as well as taking rx for it. Really unfortunate. Such an expensive medication too', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T17:48:13', 'parent_id': 't1_m2iwude'}]"
1hez05n,2024-12-16T00:04:44,Klonopin and pregnancy.,"39 years old, 1mg of klonopin daily for about 2 years now. I take it for a panic disorder. Just found out I’m pregnant a few days ago, my anxiety has been even worse, it almost feels unmanaged by my medication now but I’m worried it is due to the nodules on my adrenal glands. I don’t even know where to start. I have an appointment with my endocrinologist on the 31st of January. They will likely want to remove at least one of the nodules as it’s over 4cm. Apparently it’s super risky to be pregnant and have these nodules because the increase in hormones can actually be deadly. I don’t even know what to do, anyone else experience anything similar to either of these issues?",MentalHealthBabies,8,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1hez05n/klonopin_and_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'm27f995', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I can only speak to the Klonopin in pregnancy.\n\nWith the full support of two doctors (specialists), I stayed on my daily .5 mg my whole pregnancy and have a healthy, happy, smart 1.5 year old now.\n\nIf you search the sub under Klonpin/Clonazepam/benzo you will find there are plenty of us. Find a specialist who can give you support and up to date information.', 'score': 13, 'timestamp': '2024-12-16T00:16:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1hez05n'}, {'comment_id': 'm29c33e', 'author': 'ultracilantro', 'body': ""You can start with a reproductive psychiatrist. Post partum support international has a directory if you need to find a new provider, and they have a free to provider consultation line if you already have a psychatrist.\n\nI also like this MFM on insta and she's got links to post partum support international and a reprodcutive psychatrist you can also follow on insta who posts some good stuff: https://www.babiesafter35.com/articles/psychiatric-medications-in-pregnancy"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-16T06:35:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1hez05n'}]"
1h53s4r,2024-12-03T01:14:33,Need positive stories—clonazepam,"Hi everyone. I’m currently 12 weeks pregnant. I found out about this surprise pregnancy a day before my daughter turned 6 months old so I’m technically still postpartum as well. I had a really tough postpartum and struggled with debilitating insomnia and anxiety which led my perinatal psychiatrist to put me on .5 klonopin after taking zuranolone. It really helped. However now I’m pregnant.

I tapered from .5 to .125 in the first trimester which I’m really happy with but am struggling to get down further and having anxiety issues again. My doctor tells me this is such a small dose and she would rather me take this for the rest of my pregnancy than increase my stress with withdrawal as I had preeclampsia last pregnancy and am already showing symptoms for it this pregnancy and she said untreated anxiety can make preeclampsia worse.

I’m just so terrified of my baby going through withdrawals or having something wrong with him. Please tell me your stories ",MentalHealthBabies,5,22,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1h53s4r/need_positive_storiesclonazepam/,"[{'comment_id': 'm03gtcc', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Search the sub and you should find old posts or comments of mine.\n\nTo summarize, I saw both a maternal fetal medicine specialist and a reproductive psychiatrist and they gave the green light to continue Clonazepam/Klonopin .5 mg/day (what I was taking, sometimes more). They said the current research does NOT show birth defects or longterm learning problems but that Google and perhaps even the average OB might not be up to date on that. They assured me it was safe.\n\nI agonized over this but fast forward to now I have a healthy, happy, smart 1.5 year old who was born in perfect shape. Feel free to message me. I know the agony of the decision.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T02:34:19', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm072r70', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'I took .5mg Xanax daily my whole pregnancy (for the most part) and my little guy is almost 5 months and thriving.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T18:53:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm03g151', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'Sending you hugs and positive vibes!! I was very against taking meds while pregnant but was eventually put on Zoloft during the first trimester  and increased the dose several times. My baby boy had very slight tremors for a day or two postpartum but the nurses thought it was from getting him circumcised. I don’t have any experience with clonazepam, but I’m 100% pro medication during pregnancy!! A happy mom is a happy baby', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T02:30:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm04qbtr', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Right there with you.  I\'m 18 weeks & still taking my Klonopin & it\'s been a huge fight with my OBs to stay on it.  I finally got switched over to an OB who agreed to let me stay on it as needed but urged me not to take it if I could handle it.  He told me about the possible alleged birth defects & by the time he & I met it was already out of the first trimester so essentially if it happened the ""damage is done"" but he wants me to be careful taking it because the baby can go through withdrawal. \n\nFrom everything I\'ve researched & from all the anecdotal stories I\'ve heard, you\'ll be okay & so will baby.  A lot of OBs & psychiatrists are apparently using outdated info & it\'s been studied more thoroughly & proven that there is very little risk from taking Klonopin while pregnant.\n\nI am currently on 1mg, & have been my entire pregnancy aside from the days I could manage .5mg or none at all.  I go for my anatomy scan in 2 days & I will update here if you\'d like.  I\'d be lying if I said I wasn\'t a ball of nerves about it, but I\'m praying that my baby is okay & that my story can help reassure others who have been through this. \n\nMy anxiety was so debilitating that for the short time I was off my Klonopin, during my first prenatal appointment my vitals were through the roof so bad that they sent me to the hospital to have my heart monitored & an EKG.  I was SO anxious that it sent my blood pressure through the roof, put me in tachycardia, & caused left atrial heart enlargement.  They scheduled me a cardiologist appointment, to which I finally decided to take my Klonopin the day of just to see if there was even a difference.  I needed to know for my sanity, is it my heart, or is it my anxiety.  Sure enough, it was my anxiety.  My cardiologist told me ""well, you have your diagnosis, it\'s extreme untreated anxiety causing literally all of your heart & BP problems."" The new OB I saw understood this better than my other one & decided to work with me, but is pressuring me to get on SSRIs.  I\'m not going to because they make me suicidal & don\'t help at all.  So I\'m testing out Klonopin during pregnancy.  I hope I\'ll be in here sharing my positive outcome by the end of all this. \n\nIf you have any questions feel free to message me at any time.  We are in this together.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T06:54:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm04qjt3', 'author': 'rdasq8', 'body': 'I don’t know if you’ve had time to search this sub but there are definitely stories about positive outcomes when taking a benzo while pregnant. I’ll see if I can find any of them.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T06:56:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm06jk7a', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'I took Ativan my whole pregnancy and everything was great', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T16:05:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mw60f', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’ve been taking 0.25 mg to 1 mg my whole pregnancy. Baby girl is perfect and completely normal. It’s helped to have something to take the edge off because pregnancy is so fucking hard. \nI’m nervous about birth but NICU will be at my delivery and everyone is aware.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:49:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mwfh2', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Also I would encourage checking out this website. It’s the only one my perinatal psychiatrist told me to use! \nhttps://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/prenatal-exposure-to-benzodiazepines-sleep-drugs-2/', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:50:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1h53s4r'}, {'comment_id': 'm03n7h0', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Thanks I will message you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T03:07:47', 'parent_id': 't1_m03gtcc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3znuj9', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'I needed to see this. Feeling horrible because I will be taking this medication twice in my pregnancy. One for a flight out of country and another for a flight back into country. Feeling super guilty', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T10:41:42', 'parent_id': 't1_m03gtcc'}, {'comment_id': 'm072uqq', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'No withdrawals at birth either. I was also on Zoloft and vyvanse my whole pregnancy as well.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T18:54:37', 'parent_id': 't1_m072r70'}, {'comment_id': 'm03n5ht', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Thank you 💕', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T03:07:30', 'parent_id': 't1_m03g151'}, {'comment_id': 'm04r7g2', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Praying all goes well with your anatomy scan 🙏 I had the exact same issues with SSRIs. They just don’t work for me. Solidarity!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T07:00:00', 'parent_id': 't1_m04qbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'm1b3fhg', 'author': 'AnxiousAndAesthetic', 'body': 'Did your anatomy scan come back ok?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-10T09:20:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m04qbtr'}, {'comment_id': 'm04r2n0', 'author': 'deargdue_', 'body': 'Ya someone was actually kind enough to dm me their experience and it was really reassuring!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T06:59:13', 'parent_id': 't1_m04qjt3'}, {'comment_id': 'm06jv7w', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'PS I direct messaged you about the zuranalone— I had a question about it because my doc is recommending it to me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-03T16:08:43', 'parent_id': 't1_m06jk7a'}, {'comment_id': 'm44js3n', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'It’s going to be okay.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-28T06:57:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m3znuj9'}, {'comment_id': 'm0bg74z', 'author': 'InevitableIdeal954', 'body': 'Good to know about the vyvanse stimulant. I take 60mg of adderall and I’m 30 weeks pregnant. My ob and mfm drs okayed the adderall but told me I had to stop my 1mg Xanax daily and didn’t offer me any alternatives. I was grateful they were allowing me to continue the adderall but Google was making me feel very guilty and scared about it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-04T09:36:12', 'parent_id': 't1_m072uqq'}, {'comment_id': 'm0olkw7', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Vyvanse here as well! If you don’t mind what mg were you on and how often did you need to take it?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T14:46:15', 'parent_id': 't1_m072uqq'}, {'comment_id': 'm1z8eke', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Yes it did!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-14T11:09:18', 'parent_id': 't1_m1b3fhg'}, {'comment_id': 'm0p6i2q', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': '50mg! And I take it daily as my ADHD is a big part of my anxiety.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T18:13:47', 'parent_id': 't1_m0olkw7'}, {'comment_id': 'meftpjr', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-24T06:20:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m0p6i2q'}, {'comment_id': 'mefxvo0', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Of course!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-24T06:44:15', 'parent_id': 't1_meftpjr'}]"
1gxqh98,2024-11-23T09:05:57,Healthy baby girl,"Hello just wanted to share my story and hope it helps others during their pregnancy that take anxiety medication. During my pregnancy I was on Zoloft and clonazepam. Throughout the pregnancy I had to raise my dose all the way up to 200mg. Clonazepam I started on .5mg only as needed. But end of second trimester I found myself having panic attacks and crying every single day and was put on 2.5mg everyday until I gave birth 11/11 
My baby girl was under weight (4 lbs 14oz) but I also had to be induced at 37 weeks because of cholestasis. These pills kept me SANE and mentally stable
(Still cried because of hormones and other fears) but it was a Godsend. My baby is doing good thank God! She’s slowly gaining her weight and all the doctors said she was a healthy baby and did not suffer withdrawal symptoms. So whoever NEEDS medication during pregnancy’s do not feel guilty about needing it. You need to
Be mentally stable to be able to help your little baby. I spent my pregnancy worried all the time. But she okay! So don’t feel like you need to come off of them or don’t let anyone make you feel shame for taking it. ",MentalHealthBabies,75,6,https://i.redd.it/atryotfank2e1.jpeg,"[{'comment_id': 'lyjgr5c', 'author': 'awkwardaster', 'body': 'Congratulations! She’s gorgeous! So proud of you for taking care of your mental health, and encouraging us all to do what’s best for us 💜', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-23T11:37:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'lymx913', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Thank you so much for sharing this!!! She's precious!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T02:29:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'lyps77t', 'author': 'Lucky_Apricot5735', 'body': 'Aw, wonderful 🥰 Welcome to the world, baby girl.\nThank you for sharing this! As someone with chronic severe insomnia and OCD I need to take medication too, which is making me feel incredibly bad, but on the other hand I wouldn’t be sleeping at all without it, which wouldn’t be helpful either :-(\nAll the best for you and your baby girl.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T14:43:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'lyvt413', 'author': 'rentingumbrellas', 'body': ""Congratulations! And you did a fantastic job of taking care of yourself! We often think it's bad to do so when we are pregnant and/or have a baby but self-care is caring for our child. She's beautiful!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-25T15:14:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'm0gabms', 'author': 'jonpothan', 'body': 'Congratulations!! so happy for you and healthy babygirl. My gf is currently going through some light itchiness, determined to be cholestasis. Fortunately meds are working and she’s fine but it’s a relief to see others with same situation and positive outcomes :). I hope all is well and praying for your family’s health 🙏🏻.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-05T04:52:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}, {'comment_id': 'm1edszh', 'author': 'sexyporkribletteforu', 'body': 'Congrats!!! Do you think that the increase in anxiety was due to the Zoloft being increased repeatedly? I found it felt really scared and nuts on it.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-11T00:15:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1gxqh98'}]"
1gwl1w8,2024-11-21T23:05:46,How long did you give it to settle?,"Hi beautiful community. How long did it take in general to get over the insane hormonal cascade post partum and all the emotions that come with being flung into parenthood? I’m a STM so it’s not my first rodeo but man, I had forgotten. 

I just want to know roughly what is considered a  NORMAL adjustment period compared to when I may need to ask for some medical intervention. I completely forget that I’m only 4 days postpartum and because I’m feeling so overwhelmed (despite pregnancy being very stable overall), I feel like I should get a bloody grip like NOW.

",MentalHealthBabies,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gwl1w8/how_long_did_you_give_it_to_settle/,"[{'comment_id': 'lyaaegi', 'author': 'NommyNomms', 'body': 'It takes me about a year before I start to feel like myself again. 🙃 give yourself some grace', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T00:05:20', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}, {'comment_id': 'lyaxage', 'author': 'Doctor0ctagon', 'body': 'It takes me YEARS to feel like myself again, but the really scary, panicky, what-have-I-done feeling usually starts around day 4 or 5 and goes away 10 days later. I was told if it lasts longer then 7-14 days to seek intervention.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T02:00:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}, {'comment_id': 'lyb08ml', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I think it's pretty normal to feel a bit crazy for about 4-6 weeks, then you start to consider PPD/PPA. I personally was a mess for 3 weeks, then the clouds started to clear after that and I felt like I had a (loose) handle on things by weeks 4-5. I have friends who continued to feel worse around 6-8 weeks and all ended up diagnosed with PPD or PPA."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T02:15:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}, {'comment_id': 'lzyehq1', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""I think it's considered outside of normal if it continues beyond 2 weeks, but if you had PPD, PPA, PPP, PPOCD... last time, or you just feel overwhelmed this time, it's not too early to ask for help."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-02T05:29:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1gwl1w8'}]"
1gri1ei,2024-11-15T04:38:36,Antipsychotic and Mood Stabilizer for Autistic Irritability - Which is best in Pregnancy  ,"I am excited to find this sub that is positive about neurodiversity and pregnancy. Hi folks, I'm a childhood diagnosed autistic (diagnosed in the 1980s) who has aggression, meltdowns and behaviors, and I was in special ed for 13 years.

My views on autism are different from the majority of the ""autistic community"" because I was diagnosed very young and grew up in the special needs community. I do not think it's just a quirky little difference, fidget spinner, Sheldon, whatever, and acceptance campaigns are really a bandaid over a gunshot wound. To put it frankly, I want to take responsibility for my behaviors and be a good mom. 

Nota Bene: I'm looking into antipsychotics because most autistics I know take them. I do not actually have psychosis. I have 30 seconds to 15 minutes of mood lability which is not how it works for bipolar people. I do not hear voices.

I'm trying to stop the behaviors by trying different meds, I am working toward getting married in the future and am working on my mental health, becoming a better person. So far everything they gave me is for attention deficit and anxiety and that doesn't cut it.

I feel didn't give me the most effective meds because my parents are very judgemental about heavyset people and I was already obese growing up as the doctor understood my cultural background's negative view about obesity. I've lost much of the weight.

What antipsychotic and mood stabilizer stack is best for me during the IVF/IUI process (I'm over 40) and during pregnancy? Someone told me Risperdal, which is what most autistics take, doesn't cut it and I should try Invega. My non autistic, but neurodivergent friend took Lamictal but that was the only thing she took. Is that good for autistic irritability or does it have to be combined with something else?

Is there a doctor who specializes in the intersection of these topics and takes a referral from United HMO? TIA",MentalHealthBabies,5,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gri1ei/antipsychotic_and_mood_stabilizer_for_autistic/,"[{'comment_id': 'lx64d10', 'author': 'Trintron', 'body': ""I took abilify 4mg during pregnancy and it's also prescribed for aggression with ASD.\xa0\n\n\nI am autistic but take it for anxiety/panic, I have noticed a side effect of losing my temper less. My anger is largely rooted in anxiety, so YMMV."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T04:49:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1gri1ei'}, {'comment_id': 'lx8w16c', 'author': 'avengewednesday', 'body': ""I was taking Risperdal when I became pregnant and was advised to cease it as per it's status as a Category C medication in Australia [link](https://www.tga.gov.au/products/medicines/find-information-about-medicine/prescribing-medicines-pregnancy-database)\n\nI didn't take anything for about 8 weeks then started taking Sertraline, which is also Category C but safer I suppose? It seemed to help, though at the time I was struggling the most with anxiety and depression symptoms. \n\nHopefully you can find a good GP or psychiatrist to support you 🧡"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T16:48:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1gri1ei'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk4p5o', 'author': 'SoundingAlarm234', 'body': 'Look into geodon or latuda', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:01:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1gri1ei'}, {'comment_id': 'lx65eji', 'author': 'SquirrelofLIL', 'body': 'Ok. I\'ve heard good things about abilify and that\'s a ""mainstream"" medication for people with depression and anxiety as well, so there should be more studies on it.\n\nI don\'t think it\'s strong enough for me because quite frankly, it\'s marketed toward neurotypicals with depression and anxiety. Do you have any information on Invega, or Risperdal itself during pregnancy? Thanks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T04:55:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lx64d10'}, {'comment_id': 'lxhondy', 'author': 'Trintron', 'body': ""Sorry, I don't have information on the other medications you listed.\xa0\n\n\nHave you consulted with a psychiatrist who specializes in reproductive care?\xa0\n\n\nI've seen them under titles like reproductive life cycles psychiatrists, perinatal psychiatrists, etc.\xa0\n\n\nI did a consult with a specialist in this area before conceiving to talk about risks vs benefits."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-17T02:30:39', 'parent_id': 't1_lx65eji'}, {'comment_id': 'lxhou7i', 'author': 'Trintron', 'body': ""Side note, I agree re autism isn't a cute personality quirk. It's a lifelong disability that can be very challenging to manage. I didn't mention that in my first comment.\xa0\n\n\nI hope you find a solution that works for you."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-17T02:31:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lx65eji'}, {'comment_id': 'lxhx9if', 'author': 'SquirrelofLIL', 'body': 'Thanks\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-17T03:17:53', 'parent_id': 't1_lxhou7i'}]"
1gq7has,2024-11-13T12:52:12,40 weeks and need insights on sleeping aids ,"Hi there,
Currently 40 weeks and have recently been triggered back into an old ocd spiral that’s just letting up. I’ve been having horrible insomnia as a result because my anxiety is nuts. 

My usual dormidina isn’t doing jack shit, I doubled the dose last night and still only got an hr.

I will call my obstetrician later but was just wondering if any of you were permitted to take short term anxiety and sleep medications? I’m hoping as I’m 40 weeks, that maybe I’ll get sth like zopiclone for a few days, even during high anxiety spells it usually gives me 5 hrs ish which is way better than what I’m getting now.

I can’t believe I almost made it to the finish line and now my ocd is taking over again. I’m usually pretty stoic but I’m definitely feeling sorry for myself right now. 🫠",MentalHealthBabies,3,21,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gq7has/40_weeks_and_need_insights_on_sleeping_aids/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwyfrsg', 'author': 'Jacksoncheyenne2008', 'body': 'Seroquel is only thing that works for me', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T23:58:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lx2m73e', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'Sending you lots of hugs!!! I was prescribed Risperidone to take when I can’t get out off the intrusive thought merry-go-round. I was told it’s completely pregnancy safe and it really helps me sleep when my OCD makes me spiral out. It’s taken as needed in addition to my Zoloft. You’re so close to the finish line you’ve got this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T17:10:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mx9s7', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’ve used ambien and it’s helped. It lets me get 6 hours consecutively and I’m 35 weeks.\nThis is a great website! \nhttps://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/essential-reads-the-use-of-sedative-hypnotic-drugs-during-pregnancy/', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:55:59', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lwvydxo', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'I was prescribed amitriptyline in pregnancy for insomnia. I don’t think there’s much known information about zopiclone in pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T13:38:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7ezi', 'author': 'Lucky_Apricot5735', 'body': 'Wow that’s exactly me right now. I am 36 weeks and my OCD came back worse than ever and making me not being able to sleep. I’ve read that taking Zopiclone short term is ok in pregnancy. But your doctor might know more about it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:21:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1gq7has'}, {'comment_id': 'lwypfb5', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Did it work quickly for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:47:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lwyfrsg'}, {'comment_id': 'lx80uyk', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thanks so much for the advice and words of encouragement, really appreciate it ❤️❤️❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-15T11:47:57', 'parent_id': 't1_lx2m73e'}, {'comment_id': 'm0mxcrc', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Plus sleep is restorative and necessary. My psychiatrist reiterated that to me when I expressed guilt over taking it', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T06:56:28', 'parent_id': 't1_m0mx9s7'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7mq9', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Okay thanks. I went to the urgent care department at the maternal hospital and they said to breathe in to the count of 7 and out to the count of 7. 🤣 useful.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:24:13', 'parent_id': 't1_lwvydxo'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7l0o', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Sorry to hear you’re struggling. What are your coping mechanisms?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:23:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7ezi'}, {'comment_id': 'm3vcqvp', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Hey! How have you been? You likely have given birth or any moment now. Reach out via chat if you need someone to talk to', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T18:46:28', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7ezi'}, {'comment_id': 'lwypqvc', 'author': 'Jacksoncheyenne2008', 'body': 'Yes. And I tried most other things. I was taking it before pregnancy though. Definitely something to get your doctor to sign off on', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:48:56', 'parent_id': 't1_lwypfb5'}, {'comment_id': 'lww9k04', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'I’m sorry, that sounds unhelpful considering you’ve almost definitely already tried that.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:45:31', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7mq9'}, {'comment_id': 'lwyli8j', 'author': 'Lucky_Apricot5735', 'body': 'Not really having one since being pregnant is making everything even harder for me to cope with the OCD. What about you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:27:33', 'parent_id': 't1_lww7l0o'}, {'comment_id': 'lx251h4', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Thank you! 🙏', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T14:07:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lwypqvc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3vbsu1', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Me again. I’m on seroquel now but I really don’t like it. What dose are you on if I may ask?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T18:38:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lwypqvc'}, {'comment_id': 'm3vcg7x', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Did the amitryptaline help? I’m trying to collate all options to discuss with my psychiatrist. She currently has me on seroquel and I don’t like it at all. I am also taking lexapro though so not sure how that would work with the addition of amitryptaline, I’ll ask her.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-26T18:44:02', 'parent_id': 't1_lww9k04'}, {'comment_id': 'lwyoyf2', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I’ve generally been pretty stable the whole pregnancy. A few wobbles in the first trimester but then pretty chill until recently close to full term. So I think my coping mechanism is working closely with my therapist. I’m just in too overwhelmed a state to really be able to absorb any of the help and guidance. Probably the pregnancy hormonal cocktail is at least partly at play. \nFor me I spiral when my sleep gets messed up. I can be a great functioning human one day, but a few sleepless nights and I completely freak and lose it. So not completely sure how to get that back at this point in pregnancy as short term medication options are limited.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:44:57', 'parent_id': 't1_lwyli8j'}, {'comment_id': 'lwyp99f', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I completely understand how you’re feeling by the way, you’re doing so so so great. You’ve made it to 36 weeks, the finish line is in sight! That’s a massive achievement, I hope you can feel proud of yourself despite the OCD trying to hijack your brain.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-14T00:46:29', 'parent_id': 't1_lwyli8j'}, {'comment_id': 'm3xm528', 'author': 'CluckyAF', 'body': 'Yes, amitriptyline helps me sleep. I’m back on it for my 2nd pregnancy and it is helping.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T02:50:36', 'parent_id': 't1_m3vcg7x'}, {'comment_id': 'm40a8wz', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Great thank you!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-27T14:22:23', 'parent_id': 't1_m3xm528'}]"
1go3b5c,2024-11-10T21:07:15,Lamictal dose decrease while pregnant?,"Hi all,
I am a bipolar patient and am on lamictal 150 mg twice daily. Also on Zoloft 50 mg once daily for anxiety.

I have heard that many women can go down on their lamictal while pregnant, that the hormones will make them feel more normal. From the horrific nausea I have only been able to take my meds once daily and I feel pretty damn good (aside from nausea). This is also a very wanted baby, 10 years in waiting and the magical product of IVF. 

Looking for any other bipolar moms to chime in. Not concerned with birth defects and lamictal but just intrigued with feeling better without as much meds.

 About 5 years ago I was only on lamictal 100 mg once daily. Then found a psych (not a GP) that informed me that I need it twice a day. Some major stressors and life changes/job related changes had me increase over the last 5 years. Can anyone share their experiences?",MentalHealthBabies,4,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1go3b5c/lamictal_dose_decrease_while_pregnant/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwgbkjv', 'author': 'lem830', 'body': 'I’m not bipolar but take lamictal for mood /depression(same dose as you). I didn’t decrease my lamictal at all and mood has been super stable. I’ve probably been more stable during pregnancy than any other time(which psychiatrist said is common). I’d rather keep it where it’s at to prepare for post partum than adjust now.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T00:22:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1go3b5c'}, {'comment_id': 'lwfatux', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'I’m bipolar 1 and am pregnant on my regular meds. Lamictal 300mg, 5mg Abilify, 40mg Prozac\nand Vyvanse 50mg. I’m super stable, more stable than I normally, on the same meds.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T21:14:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1go3b5c'}, {'comment_id': 'lwi0tex', 'author': 'Important_Trainer_49', 'body': 'Fellow bipolar, pregnant person. I kept my Lamictal dose the same through the majority of my pregnancy and actually just started tapering down at 34 weeks. My mood has also been the most stable it’s been in years while pregnant. But, if you’d told me a few months ago I’d taper down towards the end I would’ve said “no way” due to fears of destabilizing and concerns about being less medicated going into post-partum. Absolutely personal choice, but I decided it was worth a shot because I’d like to pump and feed breast milk if possible and that’s a lot easier if my Lamictal levels are lower postpartum and I don’t have to worry about how much baby is getting. \n\nCounterpoint - there is a pretty well documented relationship between estrogen and Lamictal. An increase in either can lower the concentration of the other. I’ve had Lamictal levels taken multiple times during my pregnancy (blood draws) and my overall levels have dropped even though I’ve stayed on the same dose. Natural increase in estrogen during pregnancy = lower concentration of Lamictal in blood. That said, my psychiatrist was of the mindset that as long as I was doing well there was no need to up the Lamictal dose to compensate. \n\nWould also check-in with your provider about taking your meds just once a day if you haven’t already. The pretty serious, albeit uncommon rash, that’s a potential side effect of going on Lamictal can also occur if you taper too much too quickly. \n\nAlways want to say thanks to bipolar moms for posting because it can feel pretty lonely sometimes. Congrats on your pregnancy!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T05:42:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1go3b5c'}]"
1go1i1y,2024-11-10T19:42:07,Rapid Heart Rate (Anxiety or Pregnancy?),"So grateful to have found this sub that is so specific and niche to us! I have GAD + OCD and have experienced depression in the past. I shifted from Lexapro to Zoloft (only have been on Zoloft for 6weeks) and I just found out I’m pregnant a little over a week ago. 

I’m struggling so much with what’s pregnancy symptom, what’s anxiety, and what’s potentially a Zoloft side effect. Since starting Zoloft, I’ve noticed my heart rate and anxiety has been higher, however, now learning I’m almost 6 weeks pregnant, it could very well be that. I wake up with such a fast heart rate and even throughout the day it’s high. It is giving me anxiety not knowing what the cause is which is likely all 3, and it has me in this state of confusion (am I just anxious? Is it pregnancy hormones? Am I still adjusting to Zoloft?) I even brought a Fitbit just to help track myself.

I have my OBGYN appointment this week so I can ask to confirm and my next psych appointment isn’t until December. I’m trying to give myself grace knowing that your heart pumps more when pregnant but wow it just triggers me because I always associate fast heart to anxiety or working out! 

Any similar experiences you can share? Hugs to all. 🤗🫂",MentalHealthBabies,4,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1go1i1y/rapid_heart_rate_anxiety_or_pregnancy/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwexudc', 'author': 'themehboat', 'body': ""Your body makes about 50% more blood when you're pregnant, so your heart has to work harder and beat faster. My heart rate is always really high--110--when I'm pregnant."", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:00:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwew0l0', 'author': 'SingMeAwake', 'body': ""My heart rate was high my entire pregnancy. My dr had me do an EKG just to be safe, but no issues were found and it went right back down postpartum. She said sometimes an underlying heart issue can be exposed during pregnancy, but usually it's totally normal."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T19:48:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwez852', 'author': 'iMightBeACunt', 'body': ""Echoing others, my heart rate was so high when I was pregnant! Before pregnancy my resting heart rate was 50 or so and during, it was like 80 or 90, it was crazy!! So I'm going to guess it's that."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:08:55', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwezgxm', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'My resting heart rate went up during my first pregnancy and continued to go up throughout. It is normal for your resting heart rate to go up 10-20 bpm, but I believe this is by the end of your pregnancy. \n\nHow is your resting heart rate?\n\nI am currently 13 weeks and my resting heart rate has gone up 2 bpm. My heart rate spikes throughout the day much easier too. Taking the laundry upstairs will bring my heart rate to the 120s. I’m not worried about this even though it’s annoying.\n\nWhen you say your heart rate is going high, I think sharing the values could be beneficial. While everyone is different, if your bpm is going into the 150s randomly, you definitely need to talk to your doctor.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:10:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwhic0g', 'author': 'sarasarasarak', 'body': 'My RHR was below 60 pre-pregnancy. The week I got a positive test it jumped to ~70 and then went back down. It then continued to climb for the next 8 months, dropping 6 weeks before my water broke and now at 2w postpartum is returning to normal. You have nothing to worry about!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T03:57:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1go1i1y'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf1o6f', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'This is my first pregnancy and to be honest I never wore any kind of fitness tracker previous to this to know what my original resting heart rate was. I bought a Fitbit earlier this week to monitor because I just felt it in my chest so much! Thanks for your words!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:23:25', 'parent_id': 't1_lwexudc'}, {'comment_id': 'lwhiy0q', 'author': 'preciousflight', 'body': 'Ditto! I had a really fast heart rate while pregnant, did an EKG to be safe, and I was fine. But I completely understand the anxiety about it, it feels scary.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T04:00:32', 'parent_id': 't1_lwew0l0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf1g3z', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thank you for your response! I’m definitely excited to chat with the doctor about this and get her take on if I need to do any other tests, it could very well just be both pregnancy and anxiety working together. 😅', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:22:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lwew0l0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf2d3n', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thanks for your response! I unfortunately am unsure what my RHR was prior to pregnancy but it seems like I’m within a normal range currently. It straddles the high 90s and goes to the 120s if I’m moving around a lot.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:27:24', 'parent_id': 't1_lwez852'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf26lb', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thanks for your response! Prior to this I didn’t wear any fitness trackers so I’m not sure what my previous RHR was but now according to Fitbit my RHR averages in the mid 80s but throughout the day it’s closer to 100 and goes up to 130 if I’m walking the dog, going up and down stairs, etc. To your point, I also got the Fitbit to monitor in case it goes to a severely high rate to bring it up to my doctor. Since this is my first pregnancy, I think I’m being hyper aware about checking in on my body which is likely why I’m so cognizant of this!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:26:23', 'parent_id': 't1_lwezgxm'}, {'comment_id': 'lwhqrf3', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'Thank you for your kind reassurance! Hope you and baby are doing well postpartum!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T04:43:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lwhic0g'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf3jdh', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'Have you had routine blood work done? A RHR of 60-100 is within normal range, but afaik a higher RHR even within that range can signify something like anemia. If you haven’t had one yet you’ll get one from your doctor soon!\n\nAlso OBs are use to questions about things that turn out to be normal. There is no harm in ever asking your doctor!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:34:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lwf26lb'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf4vam', 'author': 'pinkslippers1021', 'body': 'I did blood work earlier in spring but going to get more blood work done this week and 100% bringing my concerns up to the doctor as well! 🤞', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:41:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lwf3jdh'}, {'comment_id': 'lwf4xyj', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'Best of luck!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-10T20:42:12', 'parent_id': 't1_lwf4vam'}]"
1gm7inn,2024-11-08T07:29:11,"Prozac, Wellbutrin, Vyvanse ","I feel so guilty that I’m considering staying on all 3 through pregnancy and am looking for anyone who had a successful pregnancy on these 3 medications? I’m currently on 
40mg Prozac
300mg Wellbutrin 
30mg Vyvanse 
(But I feel the same if I take 150mg
Wellbutrin and 40-50mg Vyvanse. Not sure what’s better for baby.) 
Obviously I am working with a doctor I just need to know someone’s personal experience!!! ",MentalHealthBabies,3,9,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gm7inn/prozac_wellbutrin_vyvanse/,"[{'comment_id': 'lwt1kyr', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I take Zoloft, Adderall XR, Buspar, and Klonopin. 31w4d and baby girl is perfect so far. No growth issues, all tests normal 🙂 They will have NICU at my delivery since babies on SSRIs can come out and be floppy or less responsive. This resolves within 1-4 days so it’s just a precaution.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T02:05:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'lwn06ng', 'author': 'Boycott2015', 'body': 'My doctor recommended not taking vyvanse during pregnancy, especially during the first trimester. Are you planning on breastfeeding?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-12T02:09:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'lw3cjfq', 'author': 'Conscious-Green1934', 'body': 'Idk how long you’ve been on Prozac but whatever you do, don’t cold Turkey it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T21:03:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'm0tbmdu', 'author': 'InternationalRoad225', 'body': 'I’m on Wellbutrin and cymbalta', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T08:45:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7inn'}, {'comment_id': 'lxumwdm', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'May I ask the dosage of your klonopin? Do you take it daily and did you take it in the first trimester?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T06:21:28', 'parent_id': 't1_lwt1kyr'}, {'comment_id': 'lwn09bo', 'author': 'Antique_Pirate_4040', 'body': 'No probably not. Maybe a bit but not primarily bf', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-12T02:09:35', 'parent_id': 't1_lwn06ng'}, {'comment_id': 'lxxkqdr', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Hi! I took 0.25-0.5 mg 3-4x a week in my first trimester. In September, I had a lot of family drama along. So around 22ish weeks I started taking 0.25-1 mg daily. Still taking it as needed.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T20:10:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lxumwdm'}, {'comment_id': 'lxxnuub', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'That’s a very low dose. I took 1 mg sometimes 1.5 mg along with propranolol 40 mg with all 3 of my pregnancies and babies had absolutely no issues. Good luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T20:27:32', 'parent_id': 't1_lxxkqdr'}, {'comment_id': 'lybztqz', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Thank you so much!! Your comment definitely gives me comfort and peace ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T05:29:46', 'parent_id': 't1_lxxnuub'}]"
1gm7dl7,2024-11-08T07:21:54,Your experience with medication ,"Hi! I work with my doctors on this of course, but I’m wondering if anyone can share their anecdotal experience with medication through pregnancy? 

I took both Prozac and Wellbutrin through my first pregnancy and my toddler is perfect. So smart, so wonderful. 

I added Vyvanse after my pregnancy and found it to be life changing. I don’t love that I’m on 3 medications but I feel normal and good for the first time in my life! 

I’m trying to go off of Vyvanse but my mental health is terrible. ",MentalHealthBabies,1,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gm7dl7/your_experience_with_medication/,"[{'comment_id': 'lw0cfyx', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'took a lot. had no issues. there’s a very small question of whether my son’s slight difficult waking up at birth was from my meds or extra epidural or something else entirely.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T07:39:38', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw8alb0', 'author': 'sailorboyblm', 'body': 'Wellbutrin and Buspar every day. It was the meds or my life, and my baby girls life. She\'s 4 now. Healthy, happy, asshole, beautiful baby. \nI had a doctor tell me it would be better ""if I could just not take it"" and I told him that I would rather live to see the birth of my baby. He took a step back. I went to see him for an emergent meds adjustment when my normal Dr couldn\'t see me. \n\nDo what keeps you alive. Having my husband turn the water off to the house so I couldn\'t drown myself while he was at work was really difficult for both of us. I\'m so thankful for medication and a good partner.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T15:57:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw151yw', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I was on Prozac my entire pregnancy and increased the dose a few times. I also had Xanax, which both my psychiatrist and OB said was perfectly safe to take. I never took it (able to manage with Prozac increase), but the fact that they were so supportive (and encouraging) helped ease my mind about medications. They always reminded me that a happy, healthy mom was top priority, too. I don’t see why you should struggle, especially if you’re being monitored and supported by your drs.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T10:34:34', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw20jj3', 'author': 'Super-Bathroom-8192', 'body': 'Wellbutrin, Latuda, high dose grab gabapentin, low dose Ativan not every day\n\nPerfect six month old baby', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T15:35:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lwidqtd', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'Lexapro, klonopin, adderal. Entire pregnancy. Supervised by psych specialist. 16 month old daughter is ahead on every milestone. Vision issues but attributed to her father and I having the same exact issues (at the same age).', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T06:59:08', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw76758', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm on Adderall and Klonopin, I stopped the Adderall in the first trimester but have taken it twice in the second trimester. (I'm 16 weeks) I've taken Klonopin pretty much the entire pregnancy.  My baby isn't here yet but the ultrasounds are reading good.  Some of the doctors I've seen have been VERY against this, some have encouraged it & said the risk is so, soooo minimal.  I'm hoping for the best and will absolutely update this entire subreddit when I have my baby. \n\nMy current OB said the biggest concern is withdrawal at birth and skeletal malformations when taken in the first trimester (Klonopin). He said it's very low, but that's the literature he has on it currently.  I've also been told by another medical professional that the withdrawal is really the only concerning thing.  As far as the Adderall, they said it's generally safe especially after the first trimester but if I can stay off it they advise it (similar to Vyvanse).  I've been getting a lot of conflicting advice, but all I can say is go with your gut & you know what is harder on your body.  The stress of not being on medication definitely exceeds the minimal risks, especially with your medications from all accounts I've heard."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T09:27:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1gm7dl7'}, {'comment_id': 'lw0e4mj', 'author': 'Antique_Pirate_4040', 'body': 'What meds?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T07:49:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lw0cfyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lwiek6h', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'This. Moms, your baby will be okay if you’re okay. Say it again, and again. Mental health IS HEALTH. I would not have survived pregnancy or postpartum unmedicated. I’m grateful that I gave birth during a time where the  world is finally recognizing that pregnancy is not a “protected time” for moms (how many times have we heard “you won’t be anxious or depressed while pregnant ! The hormones help!”)', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T07:04:00', 'parent_id': 't1_lw8alb0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwie8hv', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'Don’t worry, just take care of yourself. OB cares about baby (that’s okay, it’s their job) but mom look out for mom. I was on the same meds + lexapro entire pregnancy and as a precaution the nicu was there for birth. Birth was vaginal, epidural, fast, no “withdrawal” whatsoever. Worth mentioning that of all the above meds the biggest concern for withdrawal was lexapro, not klonopin, nonetheless, our daughter is exceptional.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T07:02:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lw8alb0'}, {'comment_id': 'lwj1zx9', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'When did you start the buspar and how many mg did you take? Anxious about starting the buspar. I’m 23 weeks.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T09:27:13', 'parent_id': 't1_lw8alb0'}, {'comment_id': 'lxuq1aj', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'How many mg of klonopin? Daily?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T06:39:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lwidqtd'}, {'comment_id': 'lw0gfpj', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i’ve switched so many times i don’t remember. but they were safe for pregnancy. i’ve had a really hard time finding a good cocktail.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T08:02:25', 'parent_id': 't1_lw0e4mj'}, {'comment_id': 'lwj2dzi', 'author': 'sailorboyblm', 'body': 'Probably around 14 weeks. I was on a pretty heavy dose back then too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T09:29:51', 'parent_id': 't1_lwj1zx9'}, {'comment_id': 'lydznk2', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': '.5 mg 40mg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T14:22:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lxuq1aj'}]"
1glkk4e,2024-11-07T12:20:16,What the heck ,"I’m 39 weeks and since yesterday my mood has gone nuts. High anxiety, intrusive thoughts that I haven’t had in years resurfacing, low mood, feeling like I want to cry and scream but too tired to even try and just generally yuck. 
I’ve actually been very stable throughout this pregnancy, so for it to suddenly hit like this now is a little disconcerting. I have a history of ocd and depression but it’s been mostly manageable over the years.

So what gives? The sudden change makes me think it’s hormones starting to crash or change pre labour?

Anyone else experience an uptick in their mental health symptoms close to labour?

Thanks 🙏 ",MentalHealthBabies,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1glkk4e/what_the_heck/,"[{'comment_id': 'lvws3ft', 'author': 'Kind_Ad5931', 'body': 'Super super normal! Every one of my friends and myself included were so panicked and anxious and just frantic the last week or two of pregnancy. It’s so normal. Your life is about to change. You’re about to give birth and it’s kinda just dangled over your head right now! And if you don’t have a c section planned you don’t know WHEN you’ll go into labor and give birth. It’s a crazy crazy time!', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T21:00:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lvyf0f1', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I had the worst mental health of my life in my third trimester. surprisingly, I did better postpartum, and though I had about 3-4 weeks of very big emotions after giving birth, I've actually been doing great in the year since my son was born. So there's hope! I think some of us just get the wonky hormones before birth instead of after"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T01:39:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lvvy8u8', 'author': 'donkerbruin', 'body': 'I’m wondering if this has more to do with recent events in the US rather than hormonal issues.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T18:09:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lwte19f', 'author': 'Remarkable-Series309', 'body': ""Have you checked your blood pressure? FWIW, with my first, I had preeclampsia and my main observable symptom was increased anxiety and falling back into old thought patterns. Baby was born at 34w6d and things got better immediately. I did have terrible PPD, but that didn't set in until 2 months after delivery.\n\nI'm now 33w2d with my second, and so far so good this time"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T03:14:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1glkk4e'}, {'comment_id': 'lvx8jr5', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'This helps a lot, thank you!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T22:20:52', 'parent_id': 't1_lvws3ft'}, {'comment_id': 'lvyksbl', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I’m happy to hear that you’ve been doing great postpartum, and well done for getting through such a rough time in your third trimester, I’m sorry you had to go through that. \nI feel we’re all kind of warriors here. Proud of us.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-08T02:06:38', 'parent_id': 't1_lvyf0f1'}, {'comment_id': 'lvx8ib1', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'I was thinking that but I live in Spain and whilst it will influence us to a certain extent, I don’t think it will be felt as intensely here as what people from the US have gone through', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T22:20:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lvvy8u8'}, {'comment_id': 'lww7hua', 'author': 'Alternative-Turnip28', 'body': 'Blood pressure perfect so far. I’m just very triggerable at the moment which makes sense based on where I am in the pregnancy. Thank you for adding your thoughts ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-13T15:22:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lwte19f'}]"
1gk5lks,2024-11-05T18:03:28,Panic Attacks & Perinatal Depression,"Hi Everyone. I’m really struggling with my pregnancy - I’m a FTM, about 8 weeks pregnant. 

I have severe anxiety and panic disorder and have also been suffering from perinatal depression. This baby was what my husband and I wanted and tried for over 5 months. Now though, I can’t get through a single morning without a panic attack. Week 6 I was in the hospital due to a particularly bad one and they gave me 1mg Ativan. Since then, I’ve been taking Ativan everyday - started with 2mg and now I’m back down to 1mg. 

I truly don’t know if I can mentally handle doing this pregnancy. My husband gets sad when I talk about terminating saying it’s not what he wants but he will support me no matter what. But I can’t handle these panic attacks. My OB wants me to wean off Ativan and I don’t think I can or I’m scared I’ll lose my mind. 

I do see a therapist regularly and we’ve upped my Zoloft to 100mg but even still I’m relying on the Ativan to help me with the panic. I’m feeling out of control of my body and I just want to go back to being myself and I feel like I regret being pregnant even though it was all I wanted. 

Has anyone been in a similar situation and got an abortion? I don’t want to ever be pregnant again after this experience. How did you feel after terminating? ",MentalHealthBabies,10,14,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gk5lks/panic_attacks_perinatal_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'lvk3oey', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Just wanted to echo what others were saying here, the first 13 weeks or so were awful. I was on 20mg of Vyvanse prior which did wonders in alleviating my ADHD and depression symptoms. I stopped cold turkey after finding out at 6 weeks. \n\nMy symptoms came back with an absolute vengeance on top of the exhaustion, nausea, aversions, & took my depression from mild to severe. I was pretty miserable and was probably the closest I’d gotten to unaliving. I was crying daily, was bedridden, non-functional, and in pretty bad shape. Got the ok from all doctors to get back on my meds at around week 12 but I did notice that at about 14-15 weeks I felt much much much better physically and mentally (at least mood wise) and had my energy back.\n\nSo no pressure either way but I personally did feel better during the second trimester to the point where I’m back to forgetting that I’m pregnant lol', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T23:24:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvnhals', 'author': 'annabanahna', 'body': 'I felt all of these things… plus horrible intrusive thoughts about abusing my baby (SA… like truly horrific intrusive thoughts. I’m thankful I knew they were intrusive thoughts but even so.) My husband mentioned termination because he couldn’t stand to see me like that. It started around week 5, worst 5-8. 8-12 a little better and then second tri onwards I felt much better, and can even say I enjoyed pregnancy. My daughter is two now and I can’t imagine not having her here. I even intend to go through it again soon. But my god was it the worst pain I’ve ever been in early on.\xa0', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T10:23:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvimlfs', 'author': 'dangermuff', 'body': 'I’m sorry you are going through this. I’m 12 weeks, my depression symptoms have only recently started to get better. I still do not feel nearly as good as I did prior to this pregnancy. I take bupropion.\n\nIs there a psychologist you can see (vs a therapist)? There may be another treatment for you. I have heard of psychologists that specialize in maternal health.\n\nI don’t mean this to sound like I am pressuring you to endure. There is a path forward no matter what you choose. Lean on your husband and support network as much as you can. Wishing you all the best babe.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T18:47:46', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvjth2m', 'author': 'Ok_Valuable6074', 'body': 'The hormones during my first trimester made my anxiety meds (cymbalta) completely ineffective and it was one of the most depressed periods of my life. In the second trimester as the hormones changed I began to feel like myself again. If you really want this baby and think you can make it a few more weeks, you may feel significantly better after 12 weeks!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T22:34:44', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvj78wc', 'author': 'rdasq8', 'body': 'I don’t really have any advice but what you are going through was my worst fear. I was so fortunate that somehow being pregnant made me feel slightly better in terms of anxiety and depression. I wasn’t as freaked out as I thought I would be. I was worried I would feel trapped while pregnant but somehow that didn’t happen.I did continue with my antidepressants and took an extremely small dose of a benzo as needed and it worked out.  I worked with a perinatal psychiatrist that helped with understanding the medications impact on baby. The ob didn’t want me on any benzo but with the psych they supported me and deferred to the expert in that area. I wish the best and am so sorry you are going through this.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T20:45:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvk3lhz', 'author': 'writekit', 'body': 'I\'m in a different situation, but my feeling of ""I am in over my head and unsure how I feel about my ability to continue this very wanted pregnancy"" subsided around 14 weeks as my nausea lessened and ""the placenta took over.""\n\nI can\'t weigh in on termination or regret - and I want to make clear that I think it\'s good to have that choice. I do know that even though I feel a lot better, I am pretty convinced at this point that I am Two And Through (assuming/hoping this pregnancy results in a living child). I never want another first trimester like I just went through.\n\nIf it feels like you have to choose between taking Ativan and being pregnant, based on the resource below, I would take the Ativan as long as you need it to help you. Some OBs are more okay with meds than others. \nhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK582801/\n\nIf you just feel like the experience you\'re having in your body is unmanageable and you want or need to terminate - that is okay and understandable.\n\n(I\'m also working with a team that specializes in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders. Whatever your path forward is, if you can find a similar resource, I can\'t recommend it highly enough.)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-05T23:23:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvl6nl5', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'I’ve dealt with anxiety and depression since I was 10 years old. I’m not going to lie, the first trimester was the hardest because I was switched to Zoloft and had to go through the phase of getting it in my system. Once it kicked in, my OB said as pregnancy progresses I would need dosages increased. Second trimester was bearable because what helped me through was clonazepam. I had a breath of relief. Now coming through third trimester i got hit by a ton of bricks with anxiety and depression but I have to talk to my psychiatrist about it, I’ve been delaying since I’m almost due but I can’t handle\nIt either. The meds are not effective on me, it’s got VERY little effect. But that’s why it’s important to talk to a psychiatrist and if you have to be on a benzo to be mentally sane then by all means go for it. It’s better for you to be okay so baby can be okay. So first and second trimester I was only able to pull through because of clonazepam. But third trimester I guess I have to have my dosage upped even though I don’t want to but I can’t be like this anymore', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T02:33:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvv1vm6', 'author': 'NeverCleanEnough', 'body': 'Hi! Sending you lots of mental hugs and peace. I also had perinatal depression (not really anxiety) the panic attacks you are having sound awful, truly! Like others here, the first trimester was terrible, I had many conversations about abortion and met with my doctor to discuss it. She prescribed Wellbutrin but I ended up not taking it because I had never taken medication before and she said people on it are prone to anxiety. \n\nThat being said, I had to find ways to mitigate my symptoms, for me it was depression, extreme nausea, fatigue and lethargy. It didn’t go away until 18 weeks, probably started around week 7-8. Every week was terrible but it disappeared by the time I was 5 weeks into second tri. \n\nThings that helped:\nGoing daily on long walks\nAcupuncture (I did this 2x a week bc my insurance covered it) \nCold showers \nMassage \nEating healthy \nYoga \nBooking an early baby moon so I had something to look forward to \n\nIt gets better, I promise! 🧡💙', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-07T12:53:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1gk5lks'}, {'comment_id': 'lvl9f0k', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'Did you keep taking the pills even if they were ineffective? Or did you get a dosage increase?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T02:46:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lvjth2m'}, {'comment_id': 'm0w5jg8', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'What was your benzo dosage?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T22:26:52', 'parent_id': 't1_lvl6nl5'}, {'comment_id': 'lvlhtq2', 'author': 'Ok_Valuable6074', 'body': 'I was already at the max I was comfortable with during pregnancy so I stayed on and didn’t increase. Eventually as the hormones changed they started working again, so I’m definitely glad I stayed on it. I’m planning to entirely formula feed so that I can safely increase my dose if needed post partum without worrying about it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T03:27:14', 'parent_id': 't1_lvl9f0k'}, {'comment_id': 'lvlqgk0', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'Oh okay that’s a relief, I’m going to be induced in 2 weeks and I’m debating whether or not to increase my dosage because they became ineffective for me\nI’m not totally insane but I cry everyday and have high anxiety and depression and I want relief but I also want my baby to be okay and not put her at more risk with a dosage increase. In not on max dose and have been really thinking about it but I really don’t know what do to. My hormones feel out of wack that’s for sure', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T04:11:20', 'parent_id': 't1_lvlhtq2'}, {'comment_id': 'lvlxtkq', 'author': 'Ok_Valuable6074', 'body': 'If your doctor is saying it’s safe to increase dose it sounds like you may want to consider it! My psychiatrist and OB agreed I was at the max safe dose for pregnancy (but not max dose safe for me, so yeah definitely increasing after birth to avoid the post partum swings!)\n\nETA good luck with your induction and hope you are feeling better soon!! 🫂', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-06T04:51:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lvlqgk0'}]"
1gg2hwe,2024-10-31T06:28:53,severe anxiety and depression,"hey all, I'm 21 weeks. Had a hard talk with my husband that brought up a lot of trauma and I'm really struggling. I can't stop having panic attacks, heart palpitations, you name it. Hydroxyzine is not working, Zoloft is not working either. What do I do to get through this rough patch? I can't sleep at night due to my mind racing. It's terrible. I'm at a loss and so scared.",MentalHealthBabies,3,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gg2hwe/severe_anxiety_and_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'lumqlre', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had psychosis with suicidal ideation due to pregnancy hormones messing with my anxiety and depression. my OB was fine with medication - she’d rather have an alive mom than a dead one.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:36:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lumijqm', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'Hi, I’m so sorry you’re having a hard time. I don’t have any immediate suggestions but I really benefitted from increasing my antidepressant. I’m on Prozac and went from 30 mg to 40 mg then 60 mg. Doubling it really helped; my psychiatrist said our blood volume increases so much, which makes our medication less effective. Could you talk to your dr about getting a benzodiazepine? My OB and psych both OK’ed taking Xanax as needed. You will get through this 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T06:50:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lur5r0f', 'author': 'mitochondriaDonor', 'body': 'You need to establish with psych that specializes in woman’s behavioral health for better and stronger options', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T02:00:37', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lusrq85', 'author': 'tsebetzis', 'body': 'Hey I just want to give you a sense of community in knowing that you’re not alone at all. I’m only at 5 weeks and now being put on medication because my anxiety and depression were so bad that I was about to check myself into a psych overnight hospital , mind you, I was completely normal last month. The shock of pregnancy and feelings of doom just wouldn’t stop for me. I’ve read alot of posts for reassurance on here and there is hope and a light at the end of the tunnel. I’m sorry you’re feeling this way and I hope you get a second opinion because your mental health is worth it. Don’t stop advocating for yourself', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T07:59:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'luoxkd5', 'author': 'Alofdapope', 'body': 'I would definitely seek another opinion, your OB should be pro mommas health before anything. I’m on Prozac 60 mg and trazedone 50 mg (for sleeping) and I’m 7 weeks. I will admit I still have trouble sleeping, but I started doing yoga, I am taking a magnesium supplement, and downloaded Headspace to use before bed. I slept 6 hours last night which is an improvement from the 2 I was getting every night! We upped my Prozac and it did wonders. Your health is important to keep baby happy too. Please look out for yourself, you are loved and needed in this world.', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T18:54:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1gg2hwe'}, {'comment_id': 'lumqqis', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'How did you disclose your suicide ideation that didn’t land you in patient? And what medication did you take?\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:37:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lumqlre'}, {'comment_id': 'lumpj2q', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'My OB is very anti medication and they feel like they have prescribed me with what they can (hydroxyzine and Zoloft). I upped the Zoloft but it can take weeks to let that work through my system unfortunately. I need something immediate and temporary.\xa0\n\nHow often were you taking Xanax? And at what dose? And how many weeks are you? Who prescribed it to you? Your psych or OB? Lol sorry for all the questions. I wish my OB were more open to things… I am really struggling.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:30:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lumijqm'}, {'comment_id': 'lumtyxs', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'inpatient was never discussed at that time. can’t remember what cocktail i was on but it was safe (as safe as can be) for baby. he was fine at birth, a little groggy from either the epidural or medicine hangover. but it passed quickly. had a recurrance 4 years later and now take viibryd and lithium.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:56:12', 'parent_id': 't1_lumqqis'}, {'comment_id': 'lupp5on', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'For me, all of my doctors (OB, perinatal specialist, psychiatrist) were initially hesitant until I was transparent about the suicidal ideation which my therapist was actually insistent I be. She said if I don’t advocate for myself and let myself be vulnerable in front of my doctors I might not get the help I need. \n\nAnd she was right, most of them denied me at first until I disclosed where I was truly at and they were 100% on board once they saw the severity. Typically they ask if I had plans and intent to, but when I said no they were all fully on board. I think it’s only when you have a plan and are active would they push for inpatient.\n\nI’m on Vyvanse!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T21:25:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lumqqis'}, {'comment_id': 'lumtmty', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I’ve been seeing a perinatal psychiatrist, who was 100% committed to making sure I was okay so that baby would be okay. I’ve had Xanax (.25 mg) from the very beginning and the only thing she said was to not use it right before delivery. I ended up not using any because upping my Prozac really helped.   It did take 1-2 weeks but I managed. My current OB was also totally on board with the Xanax and I’m sure she would have prescribed it herself if my psych hadn’t. I delivered nearly three weeks ago and baby is doing great. No complications. Even though I never took the Xanax, they always reassured me that it was okay if I felt like I needed to take one. I strongly recommend finding a perinatal psychiatrist. Prior to getting pregnant, I saw an OB that didn’t want me on any medication. I think it’s an old school way of thinking; there’s a lot of information out there that shows very little risk to the baby!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-31T07:54:13', 'parent_id': 't1_lumpj2q'}]"
1gcy150,2024-10-27T05:07:54,Clonidine in exchange for Klonopin? ,"So I had such a bad panic attack at my last OB appointment that they sent me to cardiology for an EKG, etc.  I told my OB that the reason why this was happening is because my mental illness is not being treated currently because they wanted me off of my Klonopin cold turkey.  She prescribed me Clonidine instead and told me not to take the Klonopin whatsoever and that it's not safe, But reading up on the Clonidine it seems like the ""risks"" for it are just as speculated as the ones for Klonopin? 

I ended up taking the Klonopin to make sure that I actually wasn't having a heart problem because my OB said there's no way anxiety could be causing my issues, lo and behold the Klonopin fixed everything.  I talked to another medical specialist who told me that my treatment by my OB was not right and that I needed to be taking the medication that I know works for me and that the risk if any is incredibly low.  I told them that I was concerned because my OB is adamant about drug testing me but they reassured me that since I have a prescription I can't get in trouble for taking it regardless of if they tell me not to take it during pregnancy or not. 

Basically what I'm looking for is positive stories with Klonopin use during pregnancy because I've decided I'm going to continue... and any opinions on why my OB would prescribe Clonidine instead when I told her that it literally makes me faint and it seemingly has the same kind of risks as Klonopin use? Is this solely just a stigma behind benzodiazepines? Or is it really as harmful as she makes it out? ",MentalHealthBabies,6,22,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gcy150/clonidine_in_exchange_for_klonopin/,"[{'comment_id': 'ltxmt3w', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Search benzo or Klonopin/Clonazepam in the sub. I’ve posted before about taking it nightly during my pregnancy which was totally healthy with a perfectly healthy smart child now. The difference is I had support from 3 doctors, my OB, a reproductive psychiatrist, and maternal fetal medicine. I strongly suggest you see a specialist as they are so much more versed in these medications than the average OB and it will really help to be able to continue under a doctor’s supervision if you can. But yeah in my anecdotal experience everything turned out fine. Feel free to message me.', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T05:40:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltxrysn', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'I was taking 0.5mg of klonopin as needed during my pregnancy and while breastfeeding. My OB was working with my psychiatrist to get a better picture of my mental health. I was also sent to MFM for additional scans to make sure nothing was off. The risks of having uncontrolled panic attacks is more dangerous to the fetus than the risks of taking klonopin.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T06:13:02', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'luen3s3', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’ve been taking Klonopin my whole pregnancy and baby girl is perfect. I’m 29w5d. My psychiatrist assured me it’s fine. I would either get a reproductive psych opinion or change OBs. That OB needs to stop shaming you. \nAlso women’s mental health.org is a great resource', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-30T01:43:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'lxyinex', 'author': 'Kbogzxo', 'body': 'I took it my entire pregnancy. My son is healthy, just turned 1, has never even had a cold, has hit every milestone on point and did not go through NAS', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-19T23:04:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltxplud', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Here are some articles on the topic which suggest that risks are low at a low and controlled dosage. I am not a doctor and can't advise you on whether or not you should or shouldn't take this medication, but many doctors do prescribe benzodiazepines during pregnancy. Higher doses do have very bad effects. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35909254/ https://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/prenatal-exposure-to-benzodiazepines-and-neurodevelopmental-outcomes/"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T05:58:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltyh6ds', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'How far along are you?? Like are you at the beginning??', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T09:02:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltyuza0', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'We had a big conversation at length', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T11:00:11', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'm0v6wgb', 'author': 'FeatherDust11', 'body': 'My doctor offered me Ativan during pregnancy vs Xanax which is what I usually use on an as needed basis. Ativan has a short half life and seems to be the preferred benzodiazepine for pregnancy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T19:04:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'micv6sb', 'author': 'bravedave109', 'body': 'Valium', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T05:59:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1gcy150'}, {'comment_id': 'ltxno2c', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm starting to think that my location is different than others because I've heard of so many people not having any issues with their doctors having them on benzos during pregnancy, but my area seems to be so so so different about it.  I'm definitely going to try to get into a specialist but unfortunately in my area the specialists do not take my insurance and I'm sure as we all know in this economy it is very hard to pay out of pocket for stuff like this.  I feel like I'm just kind of screwed no matter what I do at this point.  🥺 I have searched in this sub a lot though and it is very reassuring, I've even reached out to one member and they've been very helpful! I just don't understand why my dr would prescribe something that seemingly has the same risks as Klonopin but is known to affect my physical health negatively? \n\nI wish I could be mentally better for my poor little baby in there.  😭 Thank you so much for your comment.  🩵"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T05:45:34', 'parent_id': 't1_ltxmt3w'}, {'comment_id': 'ltycxfc', 'author': 'Lostnwanderlnd7', 'body': 'Question what was outcome with breastfeeding? I am on alprazolam.25mg only at bedtime and have been putting off having a second child because I’m worried about coming off of it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T08:31:49', 'parent_id': 't1_ltxrysn'}, {'comment_id': 'ly6ys0t', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'I needed this!!! 🩷🥺', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-21T08:37:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lxyinex'}, {'comment_id': 'lu2cg4y', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I'm currently 13 weeks, but I've had a very hard time quitting so I haven't been off it entirely.  I went from 1 mg 3 times a day to .5 a day."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-28T01:45:26', 'parent_id': 't1_ltyh6ds'}, {'comment_id': 'lurm83c', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'I went to the doctor today and 5th doctor told me to stay away from Klonopin if possible. Your doctor probably wants you to try to use that other medication because they think it’s safer for the baby. I hope you’re doing okay!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T03:34:10', 'parent_id': 't1_ltxno2c'}, {'comment_id': 'lu00y7v', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'Everything is totally fine. My son’s pediatrician was aware and he wasn’t worried. The main concern was making sure I was able to handle the baby while on the med and not dropping him. But I take as needed. I’m also on effexor and my OB was fine with.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T18:13:34', 'parent_id': 't1_ltycxfc'}, {'comment_id': 'lyde97c', 'author': 'Kbogzxo', 'body': 'And btw do not take the clonidine. It lowers your blood pressure sometimes to a point where it’s dangerously low and you could faint/fall and god forbid you were to land on your belly. The dr trying to push clonidine on you is just a stigma thing. And it does not work at all like klonopin does. Neither does vistaril if you are offered that, it’s essentially prescription Benadryl just a higher dosage.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-11-22T10:53:16', 'parent_id': 't1_ly6ys0t'}, {'comment_id': 'lu3oabb', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'I had 4 doctors tell me I had to quit cold turkey immediately and I did at 3 weeks. I did do research though and there’s lots of testimonies that moms have taken it and the baby turned out healthy!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-28T06:05:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lu2cg4y'}, {'comment_id': 'luvy9du', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Phew, I've been on Klonopin the whole time so I'm definitely not ok reading this 🥲🥹😭 the other medication makes me faint so I can't use it either.  I'm going to try to wean, I'm seeing a cardiologist today because my heart is what they're worried about but I don't have any issues with my heart at all as long as I'm on my Klonopin so I've been taking it thinking that was better for the baby than me hitting stroke levels of vitals every day.  I think I messed up.  😭😭😭"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T22:50:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lurm83c'}, {'comment_id': 'lymzc2u', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""I told my OB this!! I was prescribed two different beta blockers before my pregnancy for my PVCs & they both made my BP plummet & I fainted with both medications.  One of the times embarrassingly enough was in a store! 😮\u200d💨 I also read up on the risks of taking it while pregnant& they're pretty much the same as taking Klonopin?!? I figured it was a stigma thing.  The state I'm in already is very anti-benzodiapines outside of pregnancy so I figured it was going to be hard to find a doctor who would listen& understand.  & I already told them I couldn't take vistaril or any antihistamine for that matter because I have paradoxical reactions & they give me tachycardia.  They didn't believe me until my last C-section & they gave me an antihistamine during it & watched my heart rate go into tachycardia on the monitor which is why I now see a cardiologist.  😮\u200d💨😮\u200d💨 Why do doctors think we are lying??? I don't *want* to *have* to take medications at all.  😩 They make me feel so guilty for it. \n\nI'm still on my Klonopin, I have a new OB & he said to take it as needed & told me the risk factors, which have already been done if it does happen because they happen in the first trimester.  He was hesitant to let me stay on it & urges me to try to find a psych to get an SSRI, but SSRIs made me insane & even suicidal.  I just want to manage my anxiety safely.  I'm hoping & even praying every day my sweet baby is ok."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T02:41:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lyde97c'}, {'comment_id': 'luw60e9', 'author': 'kelsosmama', 'body': 'No it’s okay!!! I think doctors might be scared to give the green light because they don’t want you to sue them !! Do what’s best for your mental health.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-01T23:30:17', 'parent_id': 't1_luvy9du'}, {'comment_id': 'lyna57i', 'author': 'Kbogzxo', 'body': 'Your baby will be ok. I will keep you and baby in my prayers. There are just as many risks with SSRIS and pregnancy as there are with benzos, sometimes even more. The issue is there is not enough research done so drs really don’t know how to handle it and often times handle it with stigma. Wishing you all the best! Private message me anytime!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-24T03:42:33', 'parent_id': 't1_lymzc2u'}]"
1gb8ton,2024-10-24T23:23:29,Has anyone seen this paper about Xanax during pregnancy (2022) which associates Xanax exposure to adverse pregnancy and neonatal outcomes?,"I am 36 y/o, 17 weeks pregnant. I take Xanax about once a week due to panic disorder. (I also take other medications: Bupropion, Lamotrigine, and Zoloft).  I just saw [this paper](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9081603/#Tfn2) and it really freaked me out. I know everyone (including my psychiatrist) says I need to prioritize my mental health and take the meds I need, but sometimes I also feel like that I *could* try to go off of some of my medications. The thing that freaks me out about this paper is its saying that the median gestational age that people *stopped* taking Xanax was around 4 weeks. I am still taking Xanax, along with my other meds. Additionally in the first trimester I was having my most severe panic attacks, and there were a few times that I had to take around 3mg or 4mg in one dose. I honestly just don't want to be putting my head in the sand about this stuff, if I could be taking less medication than I am.

***I guess I am just hoping that someone can tell me why this paper is flawed, or not a good study, rather than just saying I need to be prioritizing my mental health.***",MentalHealthBabies,2,32,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gb8ton/has_anyone_seen_this_paper_about_xanax_during/,"[{'comment_id': 'ltjsz5b', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:28:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjyi13', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I took Xanax during my pregnancy and I have a healthy beautiful baby girl ♥️', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:56:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltk10t6', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""Woof! That is so tough. I can understand why that paper freaked you out, it would freak me out too. If you're using the Xanax for sleep sometimes, you could ask your psychiatrist about using Unisom/doxylamine instead. It does not help anxiety but it makes you quite sleepy and is safe for pregnancy and breast feeding. \n\nIf you do continue with the xanax, I think making your best effort to take it only when you really feel you need it is very reasonable. So maybe whenever you'd usually take it, you give yourself an extra 30 minutes or an hour to see if you can manage without. It's true that we need to prioritize our mental health, and it's also true that we have to do what we can to take care of ourselves in a way that is minimally harmful to our babies. It's really a stressful balance to maintain.\n\nOne study is not necessarily the whole picture. Here is a website I really trust, and that has been recommended to me by a couple OBs and psychiatrists:\n\n[https://mothertobaby.org/fact-sheets/alprazolam/](https://mothertobaby.org/fact-sheets/alprazolam/)"", 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T00:08:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltk0e5y', 'author': 'Complete_Drama_5215', 'body': 'I took a different benzo (Ativan) my whole pregnancy, and I have a perfectly healthy little boy. I sometimes had to to take 2-3mg a day after a traumatic life event happened at 20 weeks pregnant.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T00:05:40', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltkv71c', 'author': 'sexualcatperson', 'body': ""My psych and ob didn't let me take Xanax for the first trimester but I spent my second and third taking it frequently and even took it the day of my induction, which was smack dab on 40 weeks because I wanted my daughter out. \n\nShe's perfectly fine, highly intelligent and hits all of her milestones early. She has ADHD but that's genetics from her dad's side, so not from meds."", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T02:39:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltn6o62', 'author': 'gothtopus12345', 'body': 'are you seeing a reproductive psychiatrist or reproductive arnp? it’s a wonderful specialty for thinking through questions like this and often they are far more sophisticated about understanding the risks of meds in pregnancy versus a general practitioner. i would also recommend sending the paper you read to your OB and asking for their input. presumably they have known you are on xanax the whole pregnancy, and they haven’t raised red flags, right? i would just double back tho in case they were overlooking it which is not helpful of them.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T11:51:48', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltptank', 'author': 'Substantial_Still335', 'body': 'Not Xanax, but I maintained 1 - 2mg of lorazepam through both of my pregnancies and have two healthy children.  \nI tried to wean off an began experiencing derealization and dread. NOT worth it. I also breastfed both on this amount.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T23:04:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'm0q7z12', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'Hi any updates? I’m currently 9weeks and trying to ween  off of 2mgs Xanax.. I was taking it daily until 6 weeks pregnant I’m having severe panic attacks about my baby coming out with congenital birth defects.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T21:59:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltps904', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'I took Xanax my whole pregnancy and my little guy is healthy. My MFM even approved it and didn’t seem worried whatsoever', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-25T22:59:07', 'parent_id': 't3_1gb8ton'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjtvgd', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': ""I just like don't know to what extent I should be prioritizing my mental health over the baby's health. Like for example, I sometimes take Xanax if I feel like I'm getting bad anxiety and will not be able to sleep, even though I know its not going to turn into a panic attack. Like is this level of prioritizing my mental health worth it? I totally think its worth it if I am having a full on panic attack because its the most awful thing I have ever experienced and theres basically like no way to get through it without Xanax. But should I really be taking it once a week, when I am not panicking?"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:33:13', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjsz5b'}, {'comment_id': 'm9602ev', 'author': 'DependentChange797', 'body': 'How much did you take? I’m currently having to stay on them', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-26T03:48:20', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjyi13'}, {'comment_id': 'm0q8ew4', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'How often would you take it and what dose? I’m on 2mg about 2-3 times a week 9weeks and I’m having terrible anxiety attacks about my baby having birth defects or front lobe development problems ….❤️\u200d🩹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T22:02:08', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjyi13'}, {'comment_id': 'mievic5', 'author': 'Liznardo1', 'body': 'How old is your little one? How early in pregnancy did you take it?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T15:47:50', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjyi13'}, {'comment_id': 'm9606ul', 'author': 'DependentChange797', 'body': 'Thank you for sharing this', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-26T03:49:00', 'parent_id': 't1_ltk0e5y'}, {'comment_id': 'm0q8v7v', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'What is 2mg ox Xanax in lorazepam? 😢 going to ask my ob if she can switch me..', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-06T22:04:31', 'parent_id': 't1_ltptank'}, {'comment_id': 'm13qypp', 'author': 'Grand-Consequence790', 'body': 'I came here because I’m 15 weeks and currently take .5mg as needed. My providing NP said I am totally safe to do so but one of the OB’s I saw recently shook her head and looked at me like I said I was doing crack. I felt so ashamed. I’ve done my own research over the past several weeks and what I’ve learned is that I am safe doing what I am doing. My mental health needs to be in check for me to have a successful pregnancy. Plenty of studies have been done where babies are perfectly healthy after taking low doses of xanax. People love to judge.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-12-09T04:09:21', 'parent_id': 't1_m0q7z12'}, {'comment_id': 'm1vlwxm', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': 'I have been taking Xanax as needed for panic attacks (once a week ish) ? I’m 25 wks now and estimated weight of baby is measuring about 50th percentile.  There’s been some other issues with my pregnancy but I don’t think it has anything to do with Xanax.\n\nBut I totally get how you feel about panicking about congenital defects. You could opt for extra testing like do an amnio , get the microarray and genome sequencing, karyotyping etc. there’s also the NIPT (which for me wasn’t reassuring enough which is why I opted for more testing). But it’s been tough — every little result causes me anxiety and it has been kind of debilitating', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-13T21:47:59', 'parent_id': 't1_m0q7z12'}, {'comment_id': 'ltuecbr', 'author': 'Square_Carpenter4816', 'body': 'I checked out your other post and you have quite literally saved my sanity today. I’ve had to take between .25-.5 of xanex throughout my pregnancy, I’m 35 weeks and she looks perfect but I’ve been a nervous wreck as of late. They had to put me on Zoloft for intrusive thoughts and depression. The guilt has been debilitating. Thank you. ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T18:30:06', 'parent_id': 't1_ltps904'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjxzxd', 'author': 'banana1060', 'body': 'Your mental health and baby’s health are inextricably linked. It’s not one or the other. You could try delaying taking xanax if you don’t feel panicked to see what happens or talking to your doc about the risks of taking Xanax vs something like unisom for sleep. I think it’s much more helpful to look at composites of data rather than individual studies especially when sample sizes are small—you might find [this](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK582567/)one helpful.', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:53:45', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjtvgd'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjuahq', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:35:17', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjtvgd'}, {'comment_id': 'm967eis', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'I was taking .05mg as needed, maybe 2-3 times per week', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-26T04:28:03', 'parent_id': 't1_m9602ev'}, {'comment_id': 'mifh4ud', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'She is 1.5 years old and soooooo brilliant! 😍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T18:31:22', 'parent_id': 't1_mievic5'}, {'comment_id': 'm0ttj8j', 'author': 'Substantial_Still335', 'body': 'I’m not sure - they have different half lives and I know that impacts dosing. Definitely speak with your doctor.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-07T11:03:38', 'parent_id': 't1_m0q8v7v'}, {'comment_id': 'm1vmr8e', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': 'Is it just one of the OBs in the practice you’re going to? You shouldn’t have to endure feeling judged by your doctor. Maybe you can switch to another OB or an MFM that knows more about this kind of thing', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-13T21:52:25', 'parent_id': 't1_m13qypp'}, {'comment_id': 'm5dg01w', 'author': 'littlesexyred47', 'body': 'Thank you! I see a specialist on Monday I’m now 13 weeks, I haven’t taken my 2mg since 11 weeks and I’ve been doing I guess ok 😭 I’ll definitely ask for those tests.\nI’d still really like to hear stories from someone who’s had their baby and had same struggles as us!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-04T22:02:14', 'parent_id': 't1_m1vlwxm'}, {'comment_id': 'mievtax', 'author': 'Liznardo1', 'body': 'You can just ask for amnio with all the testing?!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T15:50:45', 'parent_id': 't1_m1vlwxm'}, {'comment_id': 'ltv02p3', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Your comment is exactly why I posted that! I am so glad my experience could ease your mind. I really feel that when it comes to mental health, they prioritize the baby over the mother and while I understand that’s necessary sometimes, it should never be a blanket direction. \nI was actually a part of a study while pregnant so they can study the effects of Xanax on pregnant women and the babies. \nHopefully in the future, more OB’s will be open to treating mental health with “controversial” medications during pregnancy if the outcomes are favorable in the risk/benefit analysis.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-26T20:43:42', 'parent_id': 't1_ltuecbr'}, {'comment_id': 'ltjuxvd', 'author': 'CapableCarry3659', 'body': ""It is awful, and paradoxically the people that need it the most, are probably also the ones that are most anxious about taking it, since we are already so anxious lol. Its the worst 🫤. I just wish I could be normal and not need to take all these medications. I just keep feeling like that I am sacrificing my babies health for my own benefit, and that doesn't feel like I am starting off as a good mother. But ironically, its also for my own benefit that my baby be healthy as he can be, so its not like I care about his health just for his health's sake, its also for my sake. Not to mention, I just read today that pregnant ppl should be eating more than 175g of carbs per day for the babies brain development. I have been eating about half that.... it just seems like I am doing all of these things that is putting my baby at risk for not being as healthy as he could be, before he is even born. I also have other disease like type 1 diabetes which doesn't help either."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T23:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_ltjuahq'}, {'comment_id': 'mifhltp', 'author': 'Liznardo1', 'body': 'Omg thank god!! 🥰❤️Did you take it during first tri?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T18:34:18', 'parent_id': 't1_mifh4ud'}, {'comment_id': 'm1wq17l', 'author': 'Grand-Consequence790', 'body': 'I see a different one every time. This one was very rude in particular so I just think it’s her', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-12-14T01:20:08', 'parent_id': 't1_m1vmr8e'}, {'comment_id': 'ltwzpw0', 'author': 'Square_Carpenter4816', 'body': 'MFM approved it for me as well, but at my appointment yesterday I met the OB that will be overseeing my delivery and the look of judgement when she asked about the xanex nearly broke me. My MFM doctor did speak up and say she & her superior felt the benefit far outweighed the risk and that I’ve displayed other mental health factors that support their decision, but the OB began rambling off the possible side effects at birth & the potential for a longer NICU stay, even saying the baby may not be discharged with me. I was shaking! My MFM doctor reiterated that in a dose as low as mine they haven’t seen any of these issues and it’s just protocol to mention the risks. I struggled my entire pregnancy with the decision to stay on this low dose. Your post really gave me some peace of mind. It’s so appreciated!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T03:16:39', 'parent_id': 't1_ltv02p3'}, {'comment_id': 'm4xgxph', 'author': 'Unable-Border7478', 'body': 'I needed to see this. Gonna take Xanax for a flight tomorrow. I usually take klonopin and I did on the flight out of the country but I ran out and all I have is Xanax on the flight back in so I’m all worried about taking that now,', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-02T05:28:00', 'parent_id': 't1_ltv02p3'}, {'comment_id': 'mifhs06', 'author': 'nanecie', 'body': 'Yep absolutely, this is when my anxiety was the worse !', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-18T18:35:20', 'parent_id': 't1_mifhltp'}, {'comment_id': 'lty65zx', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Wow. The comment from your OB infuriates me because my first OB (I switched after her judgmental attitude) was the same way. She made me feel like I was nearly committing neglect or abuse for taking it. I even asked her if CPS would be involved (I was terrified) and she basically said “ 🤷\u200d♀️ maybe”. \nI switched to an OB that was far more experienced and knowledgeable and made me feel better. \n\nFor the record, they didn’t even drug test my baby and there was no issues whatsoever. I’m so sorry your ob made you feel judged. Try to remember, they will always make the decision in THEIR best interest…so anything that isn’t recommended for pregnancy they’ll be against for liability reasons. It’s sad but true.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-27T07:46:04', 'parent_id': 't1_ltwzpw0'}]"
1gafofg,2024-10-23T22:34:00,Up and Down,"Hey mamas! I posted in here awhile ago about having bad anxiety attacks which prompted my increase of lexapro from 10mg to 15mg. So far that has been the correct choice and I feel my mood has been a lot better. I have noticed that it seems like I get anxiety every few weeks and it usually upticks with symptoms like vomiting, smell aversions, and weepy-ness. Anyone have this experience? Is this hormonal fluctuations? Thanks! ",MentalHealthBabies,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1gafofg/up_and_down/,[]
1g9v6l3,2024-10-23T04:07:08,What helped your decision to get on meds?,"Hi guys! 13 weeks along, and it’s been a roller coaster ride to say the least. I was diagnosed with depression and ADHD and had been in therapy and a revolving door of meds for the past year to manage my symptoms and I finally found a set that worked for me! Yay! 

Then, I find out I’m 6 weeks pregnant. I had been in such a good state at that point that I didn’t feel like I would miss the meds too much and so cold turkeyed off of it. But ofc the hormones, nausea, fatigue, and unmanaged symptoms ramped up real quick and a lot of my old symptoms returned with a vengeance. Intense suicidal ideation, crying spells, general lethargy and an inability to do anything. I stopped cooking or really living my life as I did before

I’ve spoken with my therapist on this and she insists I go back on my medication, so after speaking with my psych and OB I’ve been referred to a perinatal specialist to discuss.

But honestly I’m still at the edge. I have days where I’m good, and on those days I wonder if I was just being dramatic and why would I put my baby through the risks of the medication and also the finances of going to these extra doctors and appointments (I’m not able to go to my hospital of choice where a friend works as a nurse because they don’t have a specialist there) but I’m on my bad days I endlessly fantasize about not existing anymore that it keeps me up at night. I’m like is it worth the danger because I can’t handle normal pregnancy hormones.

I don’t know. I have no concept of what’s normal or not, what’s normal to white knuckle through or not. I see on social media that a lot of pregnant people suffer from the fatigue and the nausea and it sucks for everyone. what helped you make the decision for yourself? Was there a final straw?

To note I was taking Vyvanse 20mg",MentalHealthBabies,3,10,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g9v6l3/what_helped_your_decision_to_get_on_meds/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt92gy0', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'My OB made the decision for me when I showed up for my first ultrasound and had a break down filling out the depression form in the lobby. Pregnancy hormones were not kind to my mind. Now I know I have perinatal OCD so even though I was hesitant to go on meds while pregnant I’m so incredibly grateful I did. That was during the first trimester of my first pregnancy and now I’m in the first trimester of my second pregnancy on an even higher dose of Zoloft plus another pill to take as needed if I start obsessing over things and can’t stop. Everyone from my OB to my maternal health psychiatrist to my regular therapist are supportive of me being on meds. My opinion? If they’re pregnancy safe and helpful to you don’t hesitate to take them! I honestly don’t know where I’d be now if I didn’t.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T04:22:12', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'lta0fr1', 'author': 'SingMeAwake', 'body': 'For me, I felt great about it after talking to the perinatal psych. I wanted to stay on my meds and she really supported that and also said the risks were really low anyway. I stayed on cymbalta, adderall, and trazodone through my whole pregnancy and am now thriving with my 6 week old!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T07:41:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'lta6nnv', 'author': 'RestaurantDazzling35', 'body': 'Ok so I have the most perfect, smart, healthy son… and I have a history of major depression and panic attacks. I stayed on my 60 Cymbalta and 300 Wellbutrin and I still had a terrible time being pregnant and postpartum. I imagine it would have been 100x worse if I stopped my meds (which I initially wanted to out of concern for baby). My OB is also a high risk dr so that gave me some reassurance because he told me to stay on my meds. I also got a second anatomy scan (just to make sure no abnormalities because I was paranoid- $500 out of pocket fml but did make me feel better to see everything was fine) and a fetal cardiogram (not by my dr, but one at the hospital they affiliate with, also out of pocket I think was about $600). I didn’t really have the money for those but decided it was money well spent because it put my mind at ease. Staying on your meds is ok!!!!!! You’re not drinking liters of liquor a day, or smoking crack. That’s what my dr told me when I went into his office and was hysterical about deciding about the meds. Hope this helps to hear!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:19:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'ltfv1ks', 'author': 'theoffice-enthusiast', 'body': 'I stayed on my Adhd meds with my second pregnancy under the guidance of a perinatal psychiatrist and this pregnancy has been great so far. I tried to go off but it was horrific for me and I could not function at work. \n\nI went off everything with my first and ironically he was a premie because of a placenta issue that’s completely uncontrollable. \n\nFrom the research I’ve done and talked to my doctor about, Most of the risks are seriously low. I really don’t  think doctors would not prescribe them if not it would be too risky for them. Your health matters too for both you and baby! 🥰🥰🥰 good luck!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T06:42:57', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9v6l3'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9eu3v', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Thank you for the response!! This has been helpful in alleviating some of the worry! \n\nI literally just came back from a breakdown at the perinatal specialist office and god, I hate crying in front of people 😣 \n\nI’m so glad that it worked out well for you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T05:34:04', 'parent_id': 't1_lt92gy0'}, {'comment_id': 'lta3d6u', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Yay!! This really gives me hope esp seeing you’re also on stims as well! \n\nWhat was the process for you if you don’t mind me asking? Did you also do monthly ultrasounds? I’m worried about costs as well, were the extra visits costly', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T07:59:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lta0fr1'}, {'comment_id': 'ltg66rj', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Thanks for sharing! It’s nice to also hear from a fellow ADHD-er and so happy that your second pregnancy is coming along well :) if you don’t mind me asking which med/dosage were you taking and how often? Did you do it through all trimesters?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T07:49:50', 'parent_id': 't1_ltfv1ks'}, {'comment_id': 'ltbpknh', 'author': 'EmmyA54', 'body': 'Of course! I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I’m glad I was able to alleviate some of your worry. You didn’t mention if this was a planned pregnancy or not, but that can be a factor in how you’re feeling as well. Mine was planned and I still had many, many days where I wished I wasn’t pregnant so these thoughts don’t discriminate. But if you weren’t trying to get pregnant your depression symptoms could definitely worsen. Not to mention the stopping your meds cold turkey instead of weaning. It’s no wonder you’re having such strong feelings. Please take care of yourself until you get to meet with the specialist ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T16:59:06', 'parent_id': 't1_lt9eu3v'}, {'comment_id': 'lta4qda', 'author': 'SingMeAwake', 'body': ""It was very straightforward actually. I didn't have any extra ultrasounds or appointments pertaining to my medications, my pregnancy was just monitored as normal. I kept seeing my normal psych every 3 months for my prescriptions and she checked in about the pregnancy to make sure there were no concerns (mostly watching for fetal growth issues with the stimulant. Baby was 10 lbs at birth so no issues there, lol.)"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:07:08', 'parent_id': 't1_lta3d6u'}, {'comment_id': 'lthy6rt', 'author': 'theoffice-enthusiast', 'body': 'Will PM!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T17:25:51', 'parent_id': 't1_ltg66rj'}]"
1g9niva,2024-10-22T22:46:31,Need someone to talk to - Zopiclone,"Hello people 🩷
I am currently 33 weeks pregnant and had a wonderful pregnancy so far without any issues at all.
Unfortunately I am suffering from OCD and chronic severe insomnia to the extend, that I needed to take Zopiclone every night in order to catch a few hours of sleep. I’ve really tried every trick in the book, I tried every herbal remedy existing, also almost every antidepressant and antipsychotic, did therapy, my sleep hygiene is perfect.. Zopiclone was really the only thing that helped me.
The insomnia started 2021 and finally last year it started getting a little bit better and I was able to reduce the amount of Zopiclone and eventually got pregnant.
I told my gynaecologist about it and she recommended me to continue tapering, which I did throughout the first trimester.
In the second trimester I only needed to take the Zopiclone every now and then, but ever since the 3. trimester started, my OCD came back massively, which leaves me in a hopeless spiral right now. 
My OCD is telling me, that I should have stopped the Zopiclone completely in the first trimester and that I can’t let it be undone again in case my baby will be having any birth defect. And guess what? This is keeping me sleepless, which is making me taking the Zopiclone again, which I don’t want, because I am feeling guilty 😭😭 You are seeing, I am really trapped in that situation. And this is why I am asking you here - does anybody have experience with taking sleeping pills during pregnancy?
I’ve had two special anatomy ultrasounds already, which were all perfekt. But I am still so so scared, that there could be something wrong with my baby :-(
Thank you!",MentalHealthBabies,6,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g9niva/need_someone_to_talk_to_zopiclone/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt9ob3g', 'author': 'nostromosigningoff', 'body': ""There are toxins in the world all around us, all the time - our babies are being exposed to things in utero and after they're born, for their entire lives. We can only do our best to *reduce*, but never to *eliminate,* exposure to environmental toxins. Your baby has been exposed to this drug in utero, but think of the countless things that other babies may be exposed to which yours will not be - alcohol, cigarettes, or maybe other things like medications for blood pressure or epilepsy or multiple sclerosis or crohns disease. Or babies whose mothers live right next to major freeways and breathe lots of exhaust fumes. Or babies whose mothers live in neighborhoods with big industrial plants. Or mothers who eat lots of processed foods. Or mothers who get viral infections during pregnancy. On and on and on. It's literally *impossible* to avoid exposing our unborn babies to any of these hazards. So we can only do our best to limit them. You've done your best. Your in-utero environment may have more of that particular drug but it will have less of countless other hazards that other babies are exposed to, whether their mothers know it or not."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T06:29:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9niva'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9g8ny', 'author': 'mdzzl94', 'body': 'Hello! I didn’t have experience with sleep meds specifically but I was taking vyvanse up to until 6 weeks which is when I found out I was pregnant. I’ve had 3 ultra sounds since then at 13 weeks and he/she is on track and everything is looking good still!! \n\nBut I know that even with the evidence, it’s hard to alleviate those fears, so just want to say that I am here with you. \n\nSometimes what helps me is that I have a friend who works as a labor and delivery nurse in a bad part of town and she tells me that she delivers crack babies all the time that come out totally healthy and normal, so when I start getting in my head I try to remind myself that if those babies can survive those conditions, and all my doctors are saying everything is good, then a good outcome is favorable', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T05:42:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9niva'}, {'comment_id': 'mk2v08z', 'author': 'Firm-Commercial8636', 'body': ""Hi!! I've just read your post and it resonated so much bc I'm going through the exact same thing you described. HOW is your baby? Is she/he healthy? Did you take zopiclon again in the 3rd trimester?\nI'm currently 2weeks pregnant (ivf) and tapering off zopiclon and as a result not sleeping more than 2,3 hours. It really is a hellride. I hope that you and your baby and healthy!💗"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-28T03:14:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9niva'}]"
1g9mid1,2024-10-22T22:05:02,Started Buspar for prenatal anxiety!,"Currently 20 weeks and I’ve been dealing with awful prenatal anxiety and I finally decided to do something about it. My new psychiatrist even specializes in prenatal/postpartum treatment, even called my OBGYN during my appointment to confirm our plan of action. I finally feel heard and listened to! She also wants to start me on sertraline once baby is born to prevent postpartum depression.

Did anyone else take Buspar/Buspirone during their pregnancy and after? Or sertraline once baby was born? Any success stories? I’m the biggest ball of anxiety you’ll ever meet so I’d love some reassurance 😂

",MentalHealthBabies,5,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g9mid1/started_buspar_for_prenatal_anxiety/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt755xo', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I’m on Prozac (a different SSRI) and I don’t think I could have gotten through my pregnancy without it. I’m far from a doctor, but just in my experience, it may take some time for sertraline to “kick in.” I increased my dose a couple of weeks before my daughter was born to combat increased anxiety and potential ppd/ppa. You may want to further discuss timing with your psychiatrist, just to ensure you’re not going through the big hormonal shift AND still adjusting to the meds. Good luck ❤️', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T22:19:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7a30i', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good for you!! there’s no need to suffer during pregnancy.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T22:45:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9ly6m', 'author': 'gothtopus12345', 'body': 'thank you for sharing this. i’m on sertraline during pregnancy and have been repeatedly told it’s safe :) i wonder if your psych might be holding off on sertraline bc she doesn’t want you to have to deal with the side fx of starting an ssri while also being pregnant, (startup side fx sometimes include headaches, sometimes tummy problems, different for anyone but i increased my dose super slowly and wasn’t impacted). otherwise i’m unsure what the justification would be for waiting to give you an ssri for another 20 weeks, but please know i am notttt a psychiatrist or psych nurse so my thoughts and pondering hold zero value and asking your doctor might reveal a super good reason. i was on buspar in my last pregnancy and found it helpful (it was combined with an ssri) but my doctor eventually took me off it bc my dose got pretty high and overall buspar has fewer studies indicating prehnancy safety compared to ssri’s. yay for treating our MH during pregnancy!! 🤰🏼💗', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T06:15:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt75wbo', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""I haven't taken sertraline, but I have taken Buspar during and after both pregnancies (while breastfeeding) if you have any more questions about that."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T22:23:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lta46gd', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Women’s mental health.org is the only research you should be looking at! Buspar is safe as far as we know but we do have limited human studies. Animal studies showed no issue. If you can, I would try to join the MGH prenatal program where they monitor you and you can participate in research!\n\nI’m on sertaline, Adderall, Klonopin and Buspar and baby girl is growing perfectly at 28w4d! I highly suggest consulting a perinatal or reproductive psych for piece of mind.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:04:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lta46p8', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'Women’s mental health.org is the only research you should be looking at! Buspar is safe as far as we know but we do have limited human studies. Animal studies showed no issue. If you can, I would try to join the MGH prenatal program where they monitor you and you can participate in research!\n\nI’m on sertaline, Adderall, Klonopin and Buspar and baby girl is growing perfectly at 28w4d! I highly suggest consulting a perinatal or reproductive psych for piece of mind.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T08:04:06', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lw67xdm', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'Hi! I’m about to start buspar. Wondering how things are going for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T05:53:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7kmaz', 'author': 'DeliciousEase3', 'body': 'Buspar made me so tired, but switching to Prozac has been great. We changed my dosage postpartum and I’m grateful these medications exist.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T23:39:14', 'parent_id': 't3_1g9mid1'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7rcka', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I have another appointment with my psychiatrist next month so I think I’m gonna see if I can maybe get on that antidepressant before giving birth to baby. I also have an OB appointment tomorrow so I definitely want my doctor’s input on that as well.\n\nIt’s been awhile since I’ve tried an antidepressant but you make a really good point about it taking time to kick in! \n\nDo you feel like being on antidepressant helped you postpartum? :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:14:12', 'parent_id': 't1_lt755xo'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7reu6', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I was really trying to raw dog life but it just wasn’t working out 😂', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:14:32', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7a30i'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7qss8', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I’d love more info! I’m interested to hear how it helped you postpartum?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:11:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lt75wbo'}, {'comment_id': 'lw680ru', 'author': 'couchpotat03', 'body': 'I am 23 weeks! Doctor prescribed 15mg 3x a day but I will slowly increase dosage\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-09T05:53:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lw67xdm'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7rt32', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I’ve been hearing great things about Prozac too! I’m pretty open to trying any antidepressant, I just reallllly don’t want to go through any intense postpartum depression. \n\nDid it make the newborn days easier for you?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:16:36', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7kmaz'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7u97m', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'I’m definitely experiencing some postpartum anxiety (only 11 days pp), but I think it’s inevitable with the huge hormonal shift and life change. I’m still very functional and I only had two very tearful days lol I’m riding it out and hoping it eases up in the next few weeks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:29:10', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7rcka'}, {'comment_id': 'lt7siwh', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'seriously…don’t. better living through pharmacology! you will feel SO much better.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T00:20:17', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7reu6'}, {'comment_id': 'ltfc3hn', 'author': 'Sea_Juice_285', 'body': ""I developed some increased anxiety starting a few weeks after birth the first time. I don't think it was PPA, but I was recovering from a fairly traumatic pregnancy. I ended up increasing the dose of Buspar around 4 months postpartum (it took a while to get an appointment because my previous psychiatrist died) from 5mg 3x/day to 10mg, and it made a big difference. \n\nIt just made things easier to manage, and I didn't feel like I wanted to cry all the time. I ended up going down to 7.5mg 3x/day a few months later, and I've been on that dosage since then. This postpartum period has been less anxiety-filled, so it's definitely doing what I need it to do."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T04:51:06', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7qss8'}, {'comment_id': 'lwgku8n', 'author': 'MoonFae69', 'body': 'I’d say things are maybe like 15-20% better but I’m only on 5mg 2x a day so hopefully we’ll increase my dose at my next appointment 😂', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-11T01:08:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lw680ru'}, {'comment_id': 'lt9nke8', 'author': 'DeliciousEase3', 'body': 'I think it helped with the newborn days for sure. It was still an incredibly difficult time so I can’t imagine what it would have been like without it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-23T06:24:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lt7rt32'}]"
1g8vtdy,2024-10-21T23:14:08,Benzo baby?,"Can somebody put my mind at ease a bit? My reproductive psychiatrist says to take Ativan while I’m optimizing my Lexapro (was going to be Sertraline but went with Lexapro/Escitalopram). I have severe anxiety and multiple panic attacks a day starting at 5-6 weeks (with some history of them in the past). I’m trying my hardest to trust her. She wants me taking 1mg twice daily. Any comments from anyone who has taken benzodiazepines in 1st trimester would be great. Thank you and hope you’re all well with your own battles 🙏🏻 

Thank you everyone for your info. TW - nothing to do with meds - but my 9 week u/s shows no heartbeat. Wishing you all some beautiful time with your pregnancies and babies ♥️ ",MentalHealthBabies,6,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g8vtdy/benzo_baby/,"[{'comment_id': 'lt1j5rv', 'author': 'spottedgreenhippo', 'body': 'No one is (likely) more qualified to speak on this matter than a reproductive psychiatrist! With meds and pregnancy you are weighing the  *potential* risks to baby with the benefits to moms mental health. \n\nI took sertraline while pregnant and that worked for me and my anxiety at the advice of my psychiatrist.', 'score': 12, 'timestamp': '2024-10-21T23:34:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt1o0g9', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'Yes! I took Klonopin .5-1 mg nightly. I have a 15 month old now. She is smart and healthy as can be. Her birth was perfectly healthy too. I saw a reproductive psychiatrist and a maternal fetal medicine doctor and they both said the recent research indicates no (or extremely low risk)harm at low doses. They also said Google would tell me otherwise so try to avoid that.\nI AGONIZED over this and felt so guilty. But she’s perfect and I had a healthy happy pregnancy. Feel free to message me!', 'score': 8, 'timestamp': '2024-10-21T23:59:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt48vom', 'author': 'Crims0n_Curse1', 'body': 'I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant and take Lexapro 20mg daily and Lorazepam .5mg as needed. I used to have to take 1mg of Ativan once everyday at least, but I slowly weaned it to half the dosage and now only take it if im REALLY not able to come down from a panic attack. It’s more serious towards the end of pregnancy because it can cause some babies to have withdrawals. It’s ultimately up to you and your doctor. When I discussed it with my doctors, they agreed that a panic attack and anxiety was more harmful than a a small percentage of a chance of withdrawals at birth. It’s a double edged sword. Just remember if you ever feel guilty; some women are literally doing crack while pregnant. You’re doing what you need to do to survive and that’s ok! ❤️', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T08:47:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt1vheh', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Here are some articles on the topic which suggest that risks are low at a low and controlled dosage. I am not a doctor and can't advise you on whether or not you should or shouldn't take this medication, but many doctors do prescribe benzodiazepines during pregnancy. \n\nhttps://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35909254/\n\nhttps://womensmentalhealth.org/posts/prenatal-exposure-to-benzodiazepines-and-neurodevelopmental-outcomes/"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T00:37:50', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt2oqpo', 'author': 'chrissymad', 'body': 'There is nothing foolproof when it comes to being pregnant and medication safety - and that goes for everything. But I would trust a mental health professional who specializes in this. \n\n\nI took my adhd meds, Prozac (even had my dose upped during pregnancy) among other things - including certain topical pain killers (mostly lidocaine patches) because I had a severe herniated disc in my lower spine. My kid may not be the model of great health but it’s not because of any of that. You gotta do what’s good for you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T03:05:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'ltdtyki', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""I didn't take benzos despite being offered them (by my psychiatrist) during my second pregnancy, but let me say, having panic attacks while pregnant is horrendous. I spent the first 20 weeks of my pregnancy in fight or flight and I could not get myself calm. I was constantly thinking about how my brain was hurting the baby. How terrible I was for not being able to calm down. I would just spiral every single day. It was terrible. \n\nLooking back I probably should have taken it but I have a bad history with benzos (I abused them as a teenager) so I didn't want to risk it becoming a problem. Im in my 30s now so I should have just trusted myself more but my anxiety was paralyzing. \n\nMy son is okay, he was born huge and normal. But looking back I wish I would have managed my anxiety better. I would say trust your doctor. If you're worried get a second opinion but even my psychiatrist offered them to me when I was pregnant. \n\nIt's important to manage your anxiety the best you can and using the tools given to you.\n\n\nEdit: I didnt read the second half when I was reading.....\n\nI'm so sorry for your loss. I really hope you find strength during this time."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T00:04:21', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'mjsupss', 'author': 'Business-Weight-4495', 'body': 'I took .5 - 1mg daily and our 20 month old is thriving, all milestones, social, adorable, happy. Take care of yourself and baby will be okay. I promise you.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-26T13:53:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1g8vtdy'}, {'comment_id': 'lt2ozgm', 'author': 'chrissymad', 'body': 'Best thing I can recommend to anyone is not to google shit if you’re already in this sub with very few exceptions. It’s super hard to avoid doing but trust me, it’s way better for your mental health (and as a result, better for your kiddo!)', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-10-22T03:06:46', 'parent_id': 't1_lt1o0g9'}]"
1g5fvuk,2024-10-17T07:17:29,Dissertation Study Recruitment Request,"Hello All,

Thank you so much for reading this! My name is Alanna Barnes, and I am currently enrolled in the Clinical Psychology doctoral program (Psy.D.) at Chaminade University. I am seeking participants for my dissertation research study. My study aims to create a novel measure of psychological safety. This measure would be used in the psychotherapeutic setting to assess if a client/patient perceives their therapist to have created a psychologically safe environment. To participate, I am asking for individuals to complete an anonymous ten-minute survey. There will also be a raffle for one of three $50 Visa gift cards for any participant who would be comfortable sharing their email address. The email address will be kept confidential and only used for the raffle. Upon the completion of the raffle, all email addresses will be deleted.

To qualify as a participant, here are my inclusion criteria:

* Must be over the age of 18
* Must be located within the United States
* Must be English-speaking
* Must be currently receiving psychotherapy from a licensed mental health professional OR it has been less than a year from your most recent session with a licensed mental health professional 
* At the time of the study, one must have completed at least two sessions with a licensed mental health professional

If you know someone or a group that would be interested in taking this survey, please forward. **Lastly, if you qualify to participate and want to participate, please use this** [link](https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd9KDbgV_QYQWA6yrfYlU5aui5rbGYQGe2RO-pkdx0M6ZsNHA/viewform).

This study was approved by the Chaminade IRB on September 30th, 2024 with Protocol Number: CUH 449 2024.

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",MentalHealthBabies,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g5fvuk/dissertation_study_recruitment_request/,"[{'comment_id': 'lsx6t9w', 'author': 'vampirenurse', 'body': 'Mod approved', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-21T04:41:26', 'parent_id': 't3_1g5fvuk'}]"
1g1uot9,2024-10-12T12:42:01,Starting Zoloft (sertraline) expectations??,"Hi everyone, 1st post here. I’m so grateful to have found this sub 🥺.

I’m meeting with a reproductive psychiatrist on Tuesday. I’m 7 weeks and having severe anxiety/panic attacks and hopeless depression. It’s f’ing real and debilitating and way too much. I’m a nurse, and I’m presuming they will suggest Zoloft. I’ve been on Lexapro in the past for anxiety and didn’t feel much of a change when I went off it so figured a new one wouldn’t hurt to try. I’ve heard side effects can be bad to start and I’m sensitive to meds, specifically increased anxiety/panic? I don’t know if I can handle that tbh. Just looking for some advice around that - starting low and slow? How did it go for you? Maybe they will prescribe some Hydroxyzine? I’ve been taking super small doses of leftover diazepam and feeling guilty for that, even though my IVF doctor said it’s ok if that’s what’s taking care of ME. Also curious from any IVF peeps out there if reducing/stopping hormones like progesterone helped? I’m hopeful for that….
Thanks for any input on any or all of the above including low dose benzo’s. 🙏🏻 ",MentalHealthBabies,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1g1uot9/starting_zoloft_sertraline_expectations/,"[{'comment_id': 'lrjl0ie', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Message me if you want. I’m here to talk, I was on Benzos and Zoloft my whole pregnancy 🩷', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T15:19:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrjzixd', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'good for you for getting help. i had prepartum psychosis with suicidal ideation and it was NOT FUN. turns out my mom had it too. i was on a drug cocktail my entire preg and baby was fine. a little slow to wake up right at birth but it also could have been the epidural.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T17:44:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrk6p74', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': ""Hey, so sorry you're going through this! I'm 14 weeks right now with an IVF fresh transfer,  and I've been on zoloft for years, as well as using hydroxyzine as needed for bad episodes.\n\nStarting Zoloft can be a little rough for the first couple weeks. I had more success taking mine at night, since I was able to sleep through the worst of the side effects. You may end up on a slightly higher dose when pregnant, because of the way your body is working (I just had to increase my dose after three years of being stable).\n\nAs to coming off progesterone and estrogen, I don't know that I noticed a huge difference, tbh. The idea for IVF is that you are supplementing until the placenta is developed and is making these hormones on its own. I have noticed a small improvement now that I've made it to the second tri, likely because I'm not battling as much fatigue and nausea anymore. \n\nDo not feel bad about doing what you need to do to take care of yourself. It's better for baby to have you comfortable and healthy! My doc keeps reassuring me as well."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T18:37:53', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrl8ara', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'I take hydroxyzine and low dose clonzepam OB approved I’m 13 weeks and baby is great. Hope you find something that works! ❤️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T22:23:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrot2qx', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'I had been on Citalopram for 8 years, it stopped working and in the first weeks of my pregnancy I was so, so anxious and depressed. Switched to fluoxetin (prozac) and am feeling soo much better!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T13:04:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1g1uot9'}, {'comment_id': 'lsef0i6', 'author': 'WarmBath8', 'body': 'Thank you so much for all this info. We decided to restart my Lexapro and see how it goes under these new circumstances instead of trying something I’ve never been on before because I’m quite vulnerable right now. She has also given me 0.5-1mg Ativan to use twice daily. She said 1mg twice daily while I increase my Lexapro to 10 (goal of 20) but I’m trying to keep it to 0.5 when I can. \n\nWhat did the Hydroxizine do for you? Like what did it feel like? I feel bad about the benzo but can already feel a difference  since I’ve started taking them…', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-17T23:37:26', 'parent_id': 't1_lrk6p74'}]"
1fzltfa,2024-10-09T12:52:38,TTC in 6 months. Question about antidepressants! ,"Hi all, 

I hope this is okay to ask in this group, please let me know if it isn’t and I will delete. 

I am 30F, I turn 31 at the end of the year. My partner and I hope  to TTC in about March/April 2025.

I was on 30mg of duloxetine for anxiety for many years (maybe 9 years with a brief break). I weaned off the medication about 6 months ago once I started taking a low dose of Endep for chronic pain. Unfortunately in the last couple of months I can feel my anxiety starting to ramp up. I feel myself getting anxious and panicky in situations that have never bothered me previously. I’ve done some CBT in the past and I have a few tools in my toolbox. Unfortunately sometimes these don’t work. I’m also starting to experience some anxiety around the thought of TTC and becoming a parent, I also have some health challenges which make me worry I won’t cope physically or mentally. My partner is very supportive and acknowledges my concerns and assures me that he will support me during pregnancy and when we have our baby. Overall I am leaning towards trying a new antidepressant to optimise my mental health before and during TTC/pregnancy. I’ve heard Zoloft and Lexapro are pregnancy safe. I’ve read a few posts here from people who have taken these medications and found them helpful. For anyone willing to share, would you suggest I take one over the other? Did you find one worked better for you? Did anyone get on antidepressants to help manage their mental health before TTC/pregnancy or during pregnancy and did it help? 
Thank you 🙏🏻 ",MentalHealthBabies,2,15,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fzltfa/ttc_in_6_months_question_about_antidepressants/,"[{'comment_id': 'lr34hds', 'author': 'Piinj_1234', 'body': 'I started Zoloft during pregnancy and it was a life saver for me. I stopped taking them after I stopped breastfeeding and felt I didn’t need them anymore. Now I’m pregnant again with no2 and starting Zoloft again as the same anxiety is creeping back.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T18:44:24', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr29j4g', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'I started my pregnancy on Citalopram, as I have been on it for about 8 years. I always suspected it was no longer doing it’s job and it became very clear once I got pregnant, my anxiety went through the roof. Switched to prozac and my anxiety is gone :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T13:54:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr3k2vf', 'author': 'Mundane_Finding_6368', 'body': 'I started Zoloft while TTC and found it very helpful! Just 25mg. I stayed on it for about 6 months post partum until I was feeling more balanced hormonally and emotionally. I’m pregnant with my second now and just decided to start it back up due to feeling more anxious and sad than usual. I’m hoping it prevents any postpartum depression and anxiety as well and plan to eventually go off once I feel like myself again.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T20:17:56', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr3oev8', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'I was on venlafaxine when I was pregnant and continued into pp. Baby came out perfect. Had a lot of mental health issues get amplified by pregnancy and general life stress. See if you can get referred to a reproductive psychiatrist. My OB referred me to the MFM department which was helpful!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-09T20:41:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr5ex1a', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I’m on Prozac have been for quite a while - so I  didn’t introduce anything new in pregnancy but I have ocd / health anxiety and all things considered this pregnancy has been very tolerable. I have my days - anyone would. But I’m able to cope in away I would not be without Prozac. I was on lexapro in the past as well but did not feel it has the same positive effects for me. In terms of conception - we had a sticky baby on the very first try (April 2024) and she’s growing perfect now at 25 weeks. There’s a level of guilt I carry about being medicated - but I know whole heartedly the massive cortisol dumps from my panic attacks are more detrimental to the babe than my ssri. Also - it takes time to know how a medication will affect you. So I think your timeline is perfect for getting your footing with something and then seeing how you like it before getting pregnant. I know every experience is different - but from one mental health girlie to another, use the resources and it’s really all going to be okay. You’re not alone in all of the fears and if anything being proactive about managing it makes you more equipped than most.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-10T02:14:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lrbk6zb', 'author': 'BruiseLikeAPeachTree', 'body': 'I have been on escitalopram (lexapro) for years and before TTC I weaned my dose down to 10mg from 20. I felt stable and had no issues. It was a difficult decision to stay on rather than trying to come off, but everything I’ve read says there’s a high risk of post partum depression/anxiety in people who stop and it’s less risk to just stay on some low dose meds. \n\nAfter childbirth I decided to up my dose again about 8 weeks post partum when I finally acknowledged I had post partum anxiety. \n\nI hope to TTC again next year and my plan is to do the same thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-11T03:32:29', 'parent_id': 't3_1fzltfa'}, {'comment_id': 'lr8bjrm', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'So good to hear it helped. Good on you for prioritising your mental health, best of luck with baby number 2 💖', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-10T15:53:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lr34hds'}, {'comment_id': 'lr8bnhc', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Amazing, how long did it take for it to start working?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-10T15:54:51', 'parent_id': 't1_lr29j4g'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp5rzk', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Thank you for your reply! Good on you for starting them again, I hope you’re feeling more like yourself soon 🙏🏻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:31:55', 'parent_id': 't1_lr3k2vf'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp5uht', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Thank you, I am keen to speak to an OBGYN about a referral, I have a pre conception appointment soon :)', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:32:43', 'parent_id': 't1_lr3oev8'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp61tr', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'That’s what I’ve also heard, it’s better for mum to be calm  and take medication than for her to be struggling with mental health. That means a lot, thank you so much. On some days I feel I can tackle the world and on others I feel so unsettled and anxious. I’m also trying positive self talk which I hope helps 🤞🏻', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:35:06', 'parent_id': 't1_lr5ex1a'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp66up', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'Thanks for your comment! Do you feel like the 10mg held you? Ideally I’d like to start low & see how I fair. My friend is on 10mg and thinks it’s a great dosage for them (not pregnant).', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:36:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lrbk6zb'}, {'comment_id': 'lrotmtc', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'Sorry for late replies! It was probably no more than a week, I did a cross-taper. Lowering Citalopram\nwhile adding a low dose prozac, then stopping cit and upping prozac. My stomach used to burn from anxiety but it’s completely gone', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T13:11:02', 'parent_id': 't1_lr8bnhc'}, {'comment_id': 'lrplkra', 'author': 'BruiseLikeAPeachTree', 'body': '10mg definitely did the trick during pregnancy. When I first started the med, 10mg was a life changer and I was on it for quite a while before I upped my dose from life stressors', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T18:07:04', 'parent_id': 't1_lrp66up'}, {'comment_id': 'lrp6c79', 'author': 'Sun-flowerr-', 'body': 'No problem at all, thank you for taking the time to respond. That’s a good idea, while I reduced my duloxetine I started the endep. Ouch, that sounds painful. I have a ‘’functional gut disorder’’ (they don’t know what’s wrong lol) and notice my anxiety can cause severe abdominal pain & vice versa. Hopefully the antidepressant will help with this also.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T15:38:29', 'parent_id': 't1_lrotmtc'}]"
1fu59ln,2024-10-02T07:27:17,Sertraline progress,"Hi!

Just wanted to share as I’ve started sertraline in week 20. I tried to power through without meds but only got worse with my anxiety and obsessiveness with cleanliness. I have crippling health anxiety that is only related to the baby. 

So I’m on day 6 on 12,5 mg (tried 25 mg once but got severe anxiety and the worst panic I’ve ever experienced).
I typically get super tired right after having the pill. Then about 4-8 hours after I get heightened anxiety, it’s terrible but I try to power through. After that I become a little clearer and can actually see my compulsiveness and can get it down a notch. But then I sleep and the whole cycle begins again. Hopefully the tiredness and heightened anxiety will go away soon.

Just wanted to share. What’s your experience with the medication?",MentalHealthBabies,9,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fu59ln/sertraline_progress/,"[{'comment_id': 'lpz9wk3', 'author': 'tostopthespin', 'body': 'The adjustment period is tough, but hang in there! I took about 2 weeks to adjust to mine, then it really did help.\n\nSomething that helped me was switching to take it at night -- I was able to sleep through most of the side effects that way.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:49:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1fu59ln'}, {'comment_id': 'lpwvzn6', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'It will get better! Zoloft saved me not only during pregnancy but now In postpartum. You got this mama!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T07:32:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1fu59ln'}, {'comment_id': 'lpxduiw', 'author': 'Top_Advisor3542', 'body': 'It will get better but I know these early days are rough - took me about 2 weeks to adjust. Had a lot of dry mouth and headaches too - drink lots of water! Combined with therapy, Zoloft really saved me after two losses, then throughout pregnancy, and now in postpartum too. And baby was just fine, zero signs of SSRI withdrawal', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T09:34:27', 'parent_id': 't3_1fu59ln'}, {'comment_id': 'lq04a23', 'author': 'Mundane_Finding_6368', 'body': 'Was going to say the same! Taking at night definitely helps!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T22:31:40', 'parent_id': 't1_lpz9wk3'}]"
1fsqoez,2024-09-30T13:56:32,Need assurance from those who already gave birth,38 weeks and was told I could give birth any moment from now. Just thinking about giving birth already gives me anxiety. Will I be able to handle the pain? Will I make it? What if I go on panic attack while on labor or while giving birth? So many what ifs. How did you moms manage it? ,MentalHealthBabies,11,28,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fsqoez/need_assurance_from_those_who_already_gave_birth/,"[{'comment_id': 'lpoogqx', 'author': 'AngryBeaverFace88', 'body': 'I didn’t understand this until it happened to me and like you, I was terrified of how I was going to get through it. But you’re thinking about it wrong. You’re imagining going into labor as if it’s something that would happen to you in your current mindset, 100% stone cold sober and scared and aware. \n\nWhen it actually happens, you’re so hopped up on hormones and drugs that you’re barely there. The people in the room are going to be more freaked out than you will be because they’re not the ones actively giving birth. Your body just sort of takes over and it’s something that happens to you and you’re just along for the ride. \n\nEspecially if you have an epidural, it’s extremely tolerable. I was having a casual conversation with the nurses at the time. They had to inform me when the baby was actually out of me and I was like oh that’s it? It’s such a relief.\n\nThe days and weeks leading up to childbirth are a million times more painful/uncomfortable/stressful in my experience. You’re going to feel SO GLAD once the baby is out of you.\n\nGood luck!!', 'score': 19, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T23:36:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpmk079', 'author': 'booksandowls', 'body': 'You’ll be ok. Your body and brain have ways of powering through when it’s an emergency - that’s what I believe, anyway. And afterwards? I had a total panic attack and they gave me Ativan. Then I was right as rain.', 'score': 11, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T15:12:28', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpra05j', 'author': 'CoolCatLadyy', 'body': 'Do you have access or are you considering an epidural? I was a panicked and terrified person during labor until I got an epidural. Not saying it is for everyone, but it certainly was for me even though I was against it at first.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T08:37:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpn8d8c', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I had the same fears as a first time mom. My LO was born at 37/4 and I was very nervous, I had to put trust In my medical team, I also got an epidural which helped a lot. Nobody has the same two birthing experience and you have to embrace that there are unknowns. You can’t change that, worrying won’t change it. Labor is not fun, but it’s an experience that is beautiful in its own way. Meeting your baby will make it the best day of your life, I can’t describe that feeling. Try to think of that, ask for help, get support.\nThat’s all any of us can do… also realize what a badass you are. Women are AMAZING and you got this Mama!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T18:44:41', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpmwwwm', 'author': 'Mustyfox', 'body': 'First of all, congratulations!! 🎉 Wishing you all the best during this time! \nI gave birth in June. I went through all the “what ifs” during the end of my pregnancy as well. Try to remember that you are surrounded by professionals and it’s their job to help you when you need it. \nI’d suggest having a birth plan that addresses what you want to happen if* certain situations arise. Keep in mind that sometimes birth plans can’t go exactly how we want them to in unexpected situations. Before and during my birth I didn’t even pull out my plan cause I knew there was no way it would be followed in my situation. But my fiance knew what to do / say if needed.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T17:20:05', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpr9b6k', 'author': 'FLRocketBaby', 'body': 'You will be ok! Honestly, giving birth was the least bad part of being pregnant. It was just one day, which in retrospect was nothing compared to weeks and weeks of nausea, heartburn, hip pain, fatigue, and being constantly overheated. The only time my labor was bad was when my epidural was delayed because my baby’s heart rate kept dropping, but the nurses and midwife got me through it and everything got better once the epidural kicked in 😊\n\nI was also very scared of having a panic attack during labor. You should definitely tell your care team about your anxiety and try to think of some specific things they can do to help. Like for me, in uncomfortable medical situations it helps to know when we’re about halfway done, and it helps to have them give me frequent reassurance that things are going well. It definitely does NOT help me when they narrate what they’re doing, which is often what doctors and nurses are told to do for anxious patients. So for my birth plan I had a printed page that just briefly explained my anxiety and had a bullet point list of the things that help me. My nurses & midwife did everything I asked and it made a huge difference!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T08:32:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpt7049', 'author': 'Stateach', 'body': 'You’re too busy to have any anxious thoughts when it’s happening. Your body just kind of takes over. You’re going to do great', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T19:10:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpp4vte', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'It helped me to think about the pain as the worst cramp of my life. They suck and it hurts but in the end it will pass. I would recommend laboring at home for as long as possible. If you can try looking up some counter pressure techniques that your partner can do. It really does help with the cramping. \n\nI gave birth at exactly 38 weeks and I was so incredibly sick of being pregnant that by the time I was pushing, I really could not care how painful it was or anything else as long as it got the baby out of me. The hospital is boring, the beds are uncomfortable, and all I wanted to do was to eat some fried chicken and go home.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T01:02:16', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lprgm2l', 'author': 'Bookaholicforever', 'body': 'The pain wasn’t great and I kept saying I couldn’t do it. Then I did it. I was in full panic mode in the last 30 minutes. My husband just sacrificed his hand to my death grip and the nurses were being amazing', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T09:25:42', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpsjozc', 'author': 'millionsofpeaches17', 'body': 'Not sure if you have access to one,  but I met with a birth coach/educator ahead of giving birth and it was a game changer. She addressed all of my fears, walked me through different scenarios, and helped me get comfortable with my options and ability to ask questions or say no. She is also an L&D nurse, so her experience was super helpful.\n\nI also hoped to go into spontaneous labor, but ended up getting induced at 40+2. I got an epidural ASAP and it made it so much easier and more chill. I had some intense stuff happen and I was able to just ride through it and feel fine about it all because I was a. prepared and b. on drugs.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T16:16:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lwn3pml', 'author': 'Boycott2015', 'body': 'I had a vaginal birth with no epidural, or any other medication. I was really scared in the lead up to the birth but once I went into labour, I felt confident and calm. My body knew what to do and the pain was very manageable. I used a TENS machine which I would really recommend. It helps massively during contractions. \nIn the end you have a beautiful baby and it all feels worth it.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-11-12T02:27:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1fsqoez'}, {'comment_id': 'lpqiwdf', 'author': '_fast_n_curious_', 'body': 'Totally agree. The minute my daughter was born, I said to my husband, “oh yeah we are doing this again!”', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-10-01T05:47:59', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'lpz9x09', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you so much for this!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:49:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'lq5br6s', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Yes you totally go to like “la la labor land” especially when things get intense', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-03T20:34:14', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'm5q8prq', 'author': 'Illustrious_File4804', 'body': 'Needed this, thanks for writing it', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2025-01-06T23:11:39', 'parent_id': 't1_lpoogqx'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzb3uh', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:56:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lpmk079'}, {'comment_id': 'lpz9ta8', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Epidural is expensive here in my country 🥲', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:48:59', 'parent_id': 't1_lpra05j'}, {'comment_id': 'lpoqleb', 'author': 'smorz419', 'body': 'This was so thoughtfully written. It helped ease my own anxiety!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-30T23:47:36', 'parent_id': 't1_lpn8d8c'}, {'comment_id': 'lpza7zw', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you so much 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:51:19', 'parent_id': 't1_lpn8d8c'}, {'comment_id': 'lpza1hm', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:50:17', 'parent_id': 't1_lpmwwwm'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzas5l', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you so much!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:54:29', 'parent_id': 't1_lpr9b6k'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzaay7', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'Thank you! 🥹', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:51:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lpt7049'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzb22y', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': ""I don't even know if I know how to push. It also adds to my anxiety 😂 anyway thank you so much!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:56:02', 'parent_id': 't1_lpp4vte'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzanmx', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': ""In our local hospital husbands aren't allowed in the delivery room that's why it added to my anxiety 😂"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:53:47', 'parent_id': 't1_lprgm2l'}, {'comment_id': 'lpzah5n', 'author': 'Any_Lunch_7459', 'body': 'I wish I lived in a country with all those access. Thank you for the response 🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T19:52:46', 'parent_id': 't1_lpsjozc'}, {'comment_id': 'lq086kv', 'author': 'Stateach', 'body': 'Assuming USA? Is it expensive elsewhere? My first born was 10k and second was 8k. Epidural is worth the payment plan if you want one!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-02T22:52:21', 'parent_id': 't1_lpz9ta8'}, {'comment_id': 'lq276c5', 'author': 'Bookaholicforever', 'body': 'Oh really? Yeah that would have sent my anxiety sky high!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-03T05:33:49', 'parent_id': 't1_lpzanmx'}]"
1fqngow,2024-09-27T18:45:47,"Increasing SSRI at 36 weeks, feeling guilty ","I honestly have no clue what is a normal pregnancy symptom vs my own preexisting anxiety/depression. I’m not really excited anymore; I have this dread/anxiety creeping in and I’m also terrified of PPD/PPA. My psych wants me to bump from 40 mg to 60 mg of Prozac, which I’ve accepted. This would be my second increase this pregnancy. Everything was going great and now I feel like I’m failing at the very end and won’t be able to enjoy her arrival. ",MentalHealthBabies,6,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fqngow/increasing_ssri_at_36_weeks_feeling_guilty/,"[{'comment_id': 'lp8qtt7', 'author': 'Malgayne', 'body': 'I just want to mention two things in addition to what the others have said here: \n\n1. Prozac, and SSRI’s in general, are generally considered to be pretty safe drugs during pregnancy.\n\n2. As pregnancy progresses, your total volume of blood in your body drastically increases—meaning you often need a higher dose of the same medication to get the same effect. My wife has a pain condition and (with the supervision of a doctor) continued to take her opioid pain medicine during pregnancy. We WANTED to stop, but the doctor pointed out that going through withdrawal while pregnant would be more disruptive than maintaining the medication. But around the third trimester she started to experience withdrawal symptoms even without adjusting her dosage, so we wound up going up on the painkillers. Our little one is now 16 months, and developmentally she’s doing exceptionally well. It’s gonna be okay.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T02:11:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lp83ub5', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'You’re doing nothing wrong ❤️ Your mental health matters oh so much, you’re doing yourself and baby a favour by listening to your doc that wants nothing but the best for you ❤️\n\nI have bipolar and was spiraling fast, I am on FOUR psych meds. But it’s what’s needed to keep me stable, and I won’t be a good mom if I’m not.\n\nYou got this💪', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T00:04:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lp6owbp', 'author': 'sammyxorae', 'body': 'I just want to say, I hear you and understand. My goal was to get off my WellButrin after I give birth in January, and now I’m realizing I may need to increase it again. Just remember, if it’s helping you, it’s helping baby :)', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-27T19:28:47', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lpawe4t', 'author': 'SurrenderNPray', 'body': 'Pregnancy changes your body! You have nothing to feel guilty about. I needed to double my Zoloft and increase my seizure med- Keppra 4x when I was pregnant. They did blood tests and it showed that my metabolism had totally changed and I needed more. My baby is healthy and your mental health matters so much. The only thing I regret now is not doing it with my first and going through severe PPA. Prayers!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T11:26:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lp77jji', 'author': 'ZeldaTheGreyt', 'body': 'It’s so normal to feel stressed and anxious, especially as you get closer to the due date! It’s a huge life change, and so many things are going through your brain—pregnancy, delivery, going home, the enormousness of all of it, the short-term, the long-term…\n\nDon’t feel guilty for taking meds to feel better. Happy mom=happy baby! You don’t have to feel bad for securing your own oxygen mask first.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-27T21:11:18', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lpcc9g6', 'author': 'millionsofpeaches17', 'body': ""By monitoring your mental health and keeping up with your meds, you're not failing at all. You're doing what needs to be done to stay healthy for you and your baby. Like someone else said, your blood volume increases massively, so increasing a dose is pretty common to offset this. It's hard, but you're doing the right thing. ❤️"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-28T19:47:45', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}, {'comment_id': 'lpfni73', 'author': 'Aggressive_Clerk7755', 'body': ""I did basically the exact same thing (increased SSRI at 36 weeks) and am SO glad I did. Was feeling very anxious beginning at around 20 weeks,and dreading the arrival of my baby. I was also really fearing post partum depression throughout my pregnancy. I am SO glad I upped my meds before his arrival, I am 10 days post partum, and to my surprise, no current depressive symptoms. I think, at least in my case, the increased meds toward the end of my pregnancy really helped with countering the effects of the hormone crash post partum (in addition to helping with my depression/anxiety at the end of pregnancy). Without the increased dose, I would have had such a different (read bad) experience with the birth and days following the birth. IMHO you're doing the right thing for you AND baby!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-29T07:55:00', 'parent_id': 't3_1fqngow'}]"
1fozvyp,2024-09-25T14:27:02,Could my antidepressant suddenly stop working?,I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant and have been on 40 mg of Prozac (fluoxetine). I had to bump my dose up from 30 mg to 40 mg pretty early on in my pregnancy due to an increase in depressive/anxiety symptoms. Everything has been great up until last night. I started to feel bouts of OCD/intrusive thoughts set in and then today I started to feel panicky. Could my meds just not be working because of the hormones? I’m so scared to do any harm to my baby. We’re almost at the end and I have no clue why I’m starting to feel so shitty when everything was going so well. ,MentalHealthBabies,2,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fozvyp/could_my_antidepressant_suddenly_stop_working/,"[{'comment_id': 'lou5e2g', 'author': 'thebabeatthebingo', 'body': 'Your blood volume doubles during pregnancy that makes your medications wayyy less effective. You may have to go higher. I had to switch from Celexa to Prozac just recently (am 15 weeks), because I was spiraling downwards faaast.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-25T16:43:51', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'love8oj', 'author': 'throwaway184736283', 'body': 'This happened toward the end of my last pregnancy as well. It all went away and I was great after having the baby. I told my husband it was as if a fog was lifted off me and I felt 1000x better.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-25T21:19:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'low1dag', 'author': 'Evitalovee11', 'body': 'My OB said as pregnancy progresses, I will need to up my dose for my anxiety meds. I started at 50mg of Zoloft (was switched) and now at 30 weeks im at 150 mg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-25T23:19:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mfvy2kf', 'author': 'Status_Meet_4001', 'body': 'My psych said that many people find they need to increase their psych meds during pregnancy for this reason.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-04T07:09:35', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}, {'comment_id': 'mjk4zyv', 'author': 'SoundingAlarm234', 'body': 'I had to go up to 80mg of Prozac while pregnant with my son I was mentally a total mess', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-03-25T04:03:04', 'parent_id': 't3_1fozvyp'}]"
1finwn2,2024-09-17T08:19:19,Need positive stories,I am 20 weeks pregnant with a wanted and planned pregnancy. I had a very rough first trimester and am still sick daily. This has been so hard on me mentally. I’ve been dealing with anxiety and depression which I have been previously diagnosed with and managed with 10mg lexapro. I’ve had such an intense week of anxiety I decided finally to up it to 15 and had to take .25mg Ativan. At this point I’m just terrified of the future. It feels like I have 20 more weeks of potential hell ahead. Does anyone relate and have positive stories? Has anyone had to start new meds or just start taking benzos halfway to manage? ,MentalHealthBabies,6,17,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1finwn2/need_positive_stories/,"[{'comment_id': 'lnj36ae', 'author': 'jabroni3469', 'body': 'I can definitely relate. 22w I am on 40mg of Prozac and Ativan .5 as needed. Look on my post history if you want to see a proper spiral lol. We will both get through this. I keep reminding myself that pregnancy is a temporary condition. I may have anxiety my whole life but these unique challenges will only occur a handful of times and I’m confident I can stick it out. You got this 💖', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T11:06:39', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnjw4g9', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I can relate to this, I developed OCD during pregnancy. I was on 100 mgs of Zoloft and 3 mgs of klonopin up until the last month and I weaned down to 1 mg. I worried myself sick even though the drs told me she would be fine. I had her yesterday at 37/4 and she is beautiful, healthy, and we BOTH are doing well. No withdrawal or birth defects. Take care of yourself.\nListen to your medical team. Don’t Google… and remember healthy mom = healthy baby! You got this mama. 🩷🩷', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T16:32:36', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnkfzgj', 'author': 'theoffice-enthusiast', 'body': 'I’m on adhd meds at a lower dose and felt this way at the beginning of pregnancy (8months now) but baby is doing great and I talk to my therapist / husband when the guilt creeps in. I went off meds with my first and he ended up having complications and was premie and now with this pregnancy so far everything has looked good, she’s already bigger than my son was and growing healthy. I do think taking care of yourself is an important way to take care of your baby! You’re doing great!', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T18:58:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnsdd58', 'author': 'blueslidingdoors', 'body': 'I have CPTSD, depression, anxiety, and was actively self harming during the first half of pregnancy. I was pretty much circling the drain for the majority of my pregnancy. I had to up my Effexor to 225mg and got put on .5mg of klonopin. My baby came out perfectly healthy and is even ahead of schedule on some milestones! And by some miracle, he’s a really chill and happy baby. Labor went quickly and with no complications. I was fully expecting to be crippled with PPD/PPA, but for once my brain decided to not be a total fucker and i only had some passing baby blues. Pregnancy is just a garbage time in life, but it is temporary even though it feels like for fucking ever. But at least giving birth will be the biggest relief!', 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2024-09-19T01:34:43', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnjzhay', 'author': 'DisastrousFlower', 'body': 'i had prepartum psychosis with suicidal ideation in first trimester. i switched my meds and did a LOT more therapy. baby was fine. i’ve had a lot of difficulty in the ensuing 4 years but am continually working on it.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-17T17:01:54', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnse00j', 'author': 'kdine222', 'body': 'Thank you everyone for your sweet replies. I have upped my dose and am starting to feel relief. I think I’ve realized that pregnancy can make you feel really trapped in your mental health struggles. Anyone relate to that?', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-19T01:38:01', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnql0f1', 'author': 'pnutcats', 'body': ""I had really rough mental health during my pregnancy, depression in the first trimester then severe anxiety in the third trimester. I started taking lexapro around 32 weeks and finally started feeling a bit better around 37-38 weeks. It took a while for the meds to work. Surprisingly to me, though I had a very emotional first 4 weeks of motherhood, I didn't end up with any postpartum mental health issues and my baby is almost one and my mental health has actually been better than my pre-pregnancy normal for most of the year."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T19:56:33', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lo4p8cc', 'author': 'Pistachios_3434', 'body': 'I started talking 20 mg Lexapro around 16 weeks for severe anxiety. I’ve struggled with depression, anxiety and OCD my whole life and was med-free prior to pregnancy. The Lexapro helped a lot for me. Your mental health is SO important, and good job doing what you need to do to help yourself. I struggled with anxiety after birth even on the Lexapro but I know it would’ve been much worse had I not taken it. I’ve had weekly therapy since LO was 3 months old. He’s 2 now and thriving. Everyone is different but for me parenthood has been beautiful AND hard as hell. Taking care of yourself as a parent cannot be understated. You’re already ahead of the game 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-21T04:54:10', 'parent_id': 't3_1finwn2'}, {'comment_id': 'lnmov6t', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'This is so nice to hear … I’m on .25 klonopin rn for as needed severe insomnia and scared myself to death but u had a beautiful baby girl! Thank you for sharing', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T02:09:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lnjw4g9'}, {'comment_id': 'lrj65xi', 'author': 'WarmBath8', 'body': 'Just want to say I 100% relate. Your post has helped me a lot tonight. I’ve been having the most intense anxiety/panic attacks with hopeless depression feelings for a week now. I’m 7 weeks. I see a reproductive psychiatrist and am going to see if I can start Zoloft. I’ve been taking small doses of left over diazepam I had from IVF procedures and even though I’ve been assured this is ‘ok’, I’m riddled with guilt. So glad I found this sub. I have felt completely trapped - even had intrusive thoughts about abortion and this is an IVF baby. I am SURE it will ‘never end’ when I spiral. My friends try but it’s tough for most of them to understand. Anyway, thanks again for your post and being vulnerable.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-12T12:23:10', 'parent_id': 't1_lnse00j'}, {'comment_id': 'lo4zsrd', 'author': 'kdine222', 'body': 'Thanks for this response. I am already feeling a bit better since upping my dose. I have hope :-)', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-21T06:04:24', 'parent_id': 't1_lo4p8cc'}, {'comment_id': 'lnnddgl', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'That’s a really low dose. If your providers are supportive, I would go with that and try to just make sure you get your rest. That is super important 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T04:28:23', 'parent_id': 't1_lnmov6t'}, {'comment_id': 'lrm1yg9', 'author': 'kdine222', 'body': 'This is quite literally how I felt and I just want to say it’s been a month since upping my antidepressant and I feel SO MUCH better. I have been smiling and excited for baby now. I know if I panic again I have both my obgyn and psychs approval to take Ativan and that it IS temprorary. I also finally stopped puking so much which has been a lovely cherry on top. I have thought about abortion multiple times throughout this process and now I can’t even get back into that headspace. Please have hope and I pray it will get better for you!!!!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-10-13T01:06:50', 'parent_id': 't1_lrj65xi'}, {'comment_id': 'ls4zdi0', 'author': 'WarmBath8', 'body': 'Update: had appt today, starting Lexapro and was given 0.5-1mg Ativan to take twice per day as I increase and optimize the Lexapro. She showed me up to date evidence and things that make me more comfortable taking these right now. As the Lexapro increases (goal is 20) I *should* be able to taper slowly down off of the Ativan. I’m still feeling guilt and fear - but I know I need help. Which means my baby needs help. I hope you are feeling more confident ♥️', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-10-16T07:28:05', 'parent_id': 't1_lrj65xi'}, {'comment_id': 'lnnopss', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I agree. I have to sleep', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T05:38:28', 'parent_id': 't1_lnnddgl'}, {'comment_id': 'lnnpuk4', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Absolutely!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-18T05:45:30', 'parent_id': 't1_lnnopss'}]"
1fe2g4k,2024-09-11T10:40:46,Thoughts on the Australian Mental Health Care System?,,MentalHealthBabies,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fe2g4k/thoughts_on_the_australian_mental_health_care/,[]
1fcaq96,2024-09-09T04:25:37,I'm having a really hard time and need positivity please.. ,"Can anyone share positive experiences with taking Klonopin still in early pregnancy or just in pregnancy in general? I'm trying so hard to wean off of it, I've successfully tapered from 3mg a day to .5 a day and I'm 7 weeks. 

I was trying to just stop from there and hadn't taken any in a day, but my anxiety is through the roof to the point my heart literally feels like it's hurting and about to explode and I feel like I can't breathe.  I feel so guilty and I don't know what to do.  I feel like I'm harming my baby and it's eating me alive.. I have been shaking all day, my palpations are insane.  This always happens to me in early pregnancy but this is the first time I've been on medication in the beginning and had to taper.  

I'm just looking for positive stories with this medication or reassurance, or honestly advice... Anything. ",MentalHealthBabies,5,29,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fcaq96/im_having_a_really_hard_time_and_need_positivity/,"[{'comment_id': 'lm7cp14', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Oh honey, I was THERE!!! This is my first pregnancy and I’ve been on 3mgs on klonopin for decades due to severe panic disorder. I talked with many obs, my med provider and finally a maternal fetal medicine doctor. They ALL supported me because I was told the anxiety was worse for the baby. My mental health had to be taken into account. I tried to wean also!! I was having heart palpitations and freaking out!! I am now 37 weeks and still scared sometimes. Birth defects have been debunked. The only thing they mentioned to me was that baby could have TEMPORARY withdrawal if taken close to labor. I have felt SO much guilt over this. I totally understand you!! I have heard so many positive stories on here. They are heartfelt and supportive. The best thing you can do is talk to your medical team. Google will make things worse. I know because I would go down rabbit holes and obsess. Mother to baby.org is good and they have a chat and phone number to talk to people. I wish I had a on the other side story for you but I don’t yet. Others will. I’ve gotten down to 1mg a day and I feel scared still but I know if I had not taken my meds… my baby may not be doing as well as she is right now. I asked for extra ultrasounds which was supported by maternal fetal medicine. They have been all good. Her anatomy scan was great too, honestly.  Being pregnant doesn’t mean you have to suffer.  There is a lot of stigma but try to tune it out. That’s my biggest challenge everyday. Healthy mom=healthy baby. Please don’t neglect your wellbeing. I KNOW how hard it is, please message me if you need support. You’re not alone!', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T05:54:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7ug60', 'author': 'darksideofthem00n', 'body': 'Not klonopin but I took Xanax throughout my entire pregnancy! 0.5mg a day. I’m currently holding and feeding my healthy 6 week old. \n\nWhen I saw a maternal fetal medicine doctor (for unrelated reasons) she didn’t even bat an eye when I told her my medications I took daily (also took vyvanse & Zoloft) and she said she’s been doing this for 30 years & baby would be fine. She was right. Don’t feel guilty!!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T07:51:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7l6tz', 'author': 'Relevant_Post_1519', 'body': 'I don’t have advice, just commiseration.. I was not on as high of a dose but I did stop when I found out and my anxiety is killing me.. I’m a little over 5 weeks and I am not able to see a prenatal psychiatrist until next month. My regular psychiatrist said my other meds are fine but isn’t sure about klonopin, so some days have been extremely difficult, including right now. I feel like panic attacks and not sleeping aren’t good for the baby either.. ugh. I hope it gets better for us soon!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:50:15', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm90r0u', 'author': 'chocolatetherapy012', 'body': 'I’m taking .25mg a day (and up to 1.5 if I really need it, which hasn’t been often) and baby is 28 weeks and doing so well! I believe they are doing well because I stayed on meds that helped me mentally. My maternal fetal medicine doc didn’t even bat an eye at this during my preconception appointment when I talked to him about how much I could take or if I could take it at all. He’s even doing this for 40 years and I felt so much better with his reassurance. Take as much as u you need to feel ok, your health is so important!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T14:33:49', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmbs1t9', 'author': 'pinkink623', 'body': 'I’m on klonopin my whole pregnancy. 22 weeks perfectly normal baby girl so far!\nI saw a perinatal psychiatrist which was very helpful. She said don’t google or look around anything!\nThe best website she recommended was https://womensmentalhealth.org', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T01:23:23', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmazxb5', 'author': 'Strange-Tart1629', 'body': 'I took klonopin 2.5 mg my entire pregnancy', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T22:53:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmb2h95', 'author': 'BookDoctor1975', 'body': 'I did .5-1 mg nightly. Healthy baby. Feel free to message me.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T23:06:58', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lmca9i0', 'author': 'spookymilks', 'body': 'I took it very early in pregnancy as I weaned off and began a ""safer"" medication and my baby was full term and healthy! Meeting all milestones. It\'s a risk vs benefits. I finally stopped at .125!\n\nGo from the .5 you\'re at now, to .25, to .125\n\nYou will need a pill cutter.\n\nThat\'s how I did it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T02:58:31', 'parent_id': 't3_1fcaq96'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7ekyx', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Thank you omg thank you 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Google has been TERRIFYING ME and I even posted in the 'what to expect' community forum and did not get positive responses at all, there was a lot of shaming and a lot of responses telling me that I was going to cause my baby defects.  My anxiety is so, so, so bad and being off just the .5 I was shaking uncontrollably and my heart palpations were insane to the point I felt like I was legitimately having a heart attack.  All of my pregnancies have been this way and I normally just suffer but this one has been WAY worse because I developed severe PPA after my last baby that I fear is still present paired with my history of panic disorder.\n\nYour comment just helped me more than you know, especially since you have the support you do behind it all to back it up.  I likely will be messaging you in the future!!! I'm seeing my OB next week and I know I'm obviously going to test positive for my Klonopin and I'm scared just over that alone even though she knew I was on it the last I saw her and told her I was possibly TTC... I just didn't realize it would happen this fast tbh.  I thought I had more time to get my mental right.  I'm hoping she will be understanding.  😭 My blood pressure also is VERY high from anxiety but when I'm on my meds it's completely normal so I know it can't be good for the baby for my physical health to be suffering as bad as it does when I'm unmedicated.  I'm trying to reassure myself as much as I can until I see my doctor.  I hate anxiety.  😭"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:07:07', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7cp14'}, {'comment_id': 'lm82ieo', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Thank you for sharing! This isn’t easy!! 🩷', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T08:47:11', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ug60'}, {'comment_id': 'lmao56y', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for this!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T21:46:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ug60'}, {'comment_id': 'lm82blk', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'So sorry to hear you’re going through this. Benzos can be dangerous to stop taking. Please check with your doctor. You still need to take care of you. I am not a doctor, just a mom who hates seeing others go through what I did. I wish my little girl was here ( 37 weeks now) so I could tell you all with absolute certainty how it all turned out, what I can say is every Dr I have asked and even a labor and delivery nurse were not overly concerned. I can say that my ultrasounds have been wonderful. I can say minus mental health stuff, my pregnancy so far has been healthy. I worry too, however I have to make sure I’m ok, so she is ok. It’s so hard and i understand. I hope you can find a way to get the care YOU need, so you can try to enjoy some of this pregnancy, it’s a LONG road. Sending hugs!! Be strong mama and don’t forget that taking care of YOU is taking care of your baby. 🩷🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T08:45:48', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7l6tz'}, {'comment_id': 'lmantjn', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'This reassured me SO SO so much', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T21:44:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lm90r0u'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcvacy', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for this!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:01:03', 'parent_id': 't1_lmbs1t9'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcve9x', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'Thank you so much for sharing your experience!! This had been incredibly helpful 😭🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:01:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lmazxb5'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcvch1', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': 'I absolutely will!!! My mind has been so bad off', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:01:25', 'parent_id': 't1_lmb2h95'}, {'comment_id': 'meutl5a', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'Hi dear. Can I dm? Im in so much pain and neeed help', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-26T14:11:55', 'parent_id': 't1_lmb2h95'}, {'comment_id': 'lmcv9ca', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""Thank you!!! I'm going to do this!  About how many weeks did you fully wean??"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:00:52', 'parent_id': 't1_lmca9i0'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7fddq', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Please take your medicine honey. What’s happening to your central nervous system is worse. Cold turkeying this med is BAD. Please breathe, take your meds, talk to your dr. Message me. It’s ok. You have time. I promise 🩷', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:12:18', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ekyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lm7lcui', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Also. Zoloft really helped me. Once that kicked in, I felt a lot better and was able to take less klonopin.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T06:51:22', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ekyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfbhny', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I just had my baby this morning! She is a healthy baby girl. Take care of yourself 🩷', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T21:21:34', 'parent_id': 't1_lm7ekyx'}, {'comment_id': 'lma2r6c', 'author': 'Relevant_Post_1519', 'body': ' ❤️😭Thank you, this means so much and I needed to read that. ❤️ Wishing you a happy and healthy rest of your pregnancy!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T19:44:57', 'parent_id': 't1_lm82blk'}, {'comment_id': 'meutgv6', 'author': 'Full_Professional349', 'body': 'How are you doing dear?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-02-26T14:10:41', 'parent_id': 't1_lm82blk'}, {'comment_id': 'lmd0ue8', 'author': 'spookymilks', 'body': ""I want to say I was on .25 for maybe two weeks, then about 2 more weeks on .125 to be completely off! But I want to add that I was only on Klonopin for about 6-8 weeks total, so it may take you longer, and that's okay. Be patient with yourself! You were also initially taking a higher dose than I ever was too, which is another thing to consider. It may take some time and that's ok. Your baby is going to be just fine!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:34:51', 'parent_id': 't1_lmcv9ca'}, {'comment_id': 'lmd12uf', 'author': 'spookymilks', 'body': 'I know some people will claim that anything under .5 won\'t even ""do anything"" but I could not just go from even .5 to nothing. So it was absolutely doing SOMETHING. Weaning by going to that super teeny dose worked for me well.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-10T05:36:15', 'parent_id': 't1_lmcv9ca'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfosfr', 'author': 'JustThrowMeInZeTrash', 'body': ""This update!!! Thank you!!!!! I needed this so much.  I'm so happy for you.  Thank you again for being so honest & open.  🩷🩷🩷🩷"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T22:32:53', 'parent_id': 't1_lnfbhny'}, {'comment_id': 'lmahye4', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'You too, sweetie!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-09T21:10:27', 'parent_id': 't1_lma2r6c'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfayrr', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'I just had my baby! She’s healthy!! Take care of yourself love!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T21:18:45', 'parent_id': 't1_lma2r6c'}, {'comment_id': 'lnfeo7j', 'author': 'Relevant_Post_1519', 'body': 'Congrats!!! I’m so happy to hear of your update ❤️', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-16T21:38:44', 'parent_id': 't1_lnfayrr'}]"
1fao6ze,2024-09-07T01:19:09,Cymbalta (Duloxetine) while Pregnant ,"I am 10 weeks pregnant. I was on duloxetine but stopped when I found out I was pregnant, which was around 5 weeks. So far, the pregnancy is healthy and seems to be progressing good other than a subchorionic hematoma, which seems to be resolving. I had my first OB appointment yesterday and my OB said I could go back to taking duloxetine if I wanted to. I suffer from anxiety and had a major loss in my family last month. The stress and my anxiety have been crippling but I was trying to stay off any meds. I am conflicted on what to do. I felt so much better while taking duloxetine but I have read controversial things about it. I know I need to make the best choice for my mental health but in no way could I do it at the expense of my baby’s health. Please let me know your experiences. I’m so lost and overwhelmed. ",MentalHealthBabies,4,16,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthBabies/comments/1fao6ze/cymbalta_duloxetine_while_pregnant/,"[{'comment_id': 'llulntq', 'author': 'Spiritual-Ad-9516', 'body': 'Took duloxetine throughout pregnancy, except for a few weeks where I followed some very poor medical advice to stop taking it and became very mentally unwell. Resumed it and I have a very healthy 2.5year old who has exceeded or met all of her milestones.', 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T01:43:30', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'llujkav', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'You’re not alone. Many of us feel this way. I am in week 36 of my pregnancy and have had to be on Zoloft and klonopin because of my mental health. Pregnancy made my anxiety worse. My depression worse. I was also diagnosed with ocd. Ultimately your team will know what’s best for you, the internet is a slippery slope with that. I still feel guilty for the meds I’m on despite being told by many doctors it will\nBe ok. I was told a healthy mom means a healthy baby. I believe this to be true. Google has personally made me 10 times worse about many things. My advice is to listen to your team. They know YOU and YOUR situation. I have also found mothertobaby online to be helpful. Please take care of yourself, we love our babies.. all of us! We have amazing hearts, we care so much about our children already. That’s more than a lot can say. But we must also care for ourselves…. The stigma on this is very sad. Just know many people are behind you.  Sending hugs mama.\nYou got this!', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T01:32:17', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'lluu0ah', 'author': 'SingMeAwake', 'body': 'I am 40 weeks and have been taking 90mg duloxetine my entire pregnancy. No issues at all and I would honestly not have been open to going without.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T02:28:22', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'llv1uel', 'author': 'paperpaperclip', 'body': 'I took 90mg/day of Duloxetine through two full pregnancies. I had consulted with two fetal medicine specialists, and both unanimously told me that if the medication works for me there was no reason to come off it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T03:12:13', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'llvolov', 'author': 'sshhenanigans', 'body': 'I took it my entire pregnancy and did not have any issues. I decreased my dose from 120 to 60. Everything went well with my pregnancy and baby.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T05:29:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'llvtnmr', 'author': 'FrancisVoom', 'body': 'I also took 60mg entire pregnancy, had zero complications and now have a beautiful and healthy 7 month old! 🩵', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T06:02:03', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'llw6e19', 'author': 'Substantial_Pack_510', 'body': 'You all have given me so much hope. Thank you! 💛', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T07:23:25', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'lm01508', 'author': 'foreveritsharry', 'body': ""I started taking Zoloft about 3 months into my pregnancy, and now my child just turned two. He is the sweetest, a very smart and energetic baby. Your OB would not be recommending something that is dangerous for your baby's health."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-08T01:01:52', 'parent_id': 't3_1fao6ze'}, {'comment_id': 'llvp40w', 'author': 'Substantial_Pack_510', 'body': 'Thank you for sharing!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T05:33:09', 'parent_id': 't1_llulntq'}, {'comment_id': 'llvp0ri', 'author': 'Substantial_Pack_510', 'body': 'Thank you!! I have been scouring the internet for days trying to read everyone’s stories so I can make the best decision for myself and for the baby. I just want to be healthy but also have a healthy baby.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T05:32:35', 'parent_id': 't1_llujkav'}, {'comment_id': 'llvorgb', 'author': 'Substantial_Pack_510', 'body': 'I appreciate you taking the time to respond. Thank you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T05:30:54', 'parent_id': 't1_lluu0ah'}, {'comment_id': 'llvosaw', 'author': 'Substantial_Pack_510', 'body': 'Thank you for responding!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T05:31:03', 'parent_id': 't1_llv1uel'}, {'comment_id': 'llvotm5', 'author': 'Substantial_Pack_510', 'body': 'Thank you for sharing your experience. It helps me a lot.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T05:31:17', 'parent_id': 't1_llvolov'}, {'comment_id': 'lswleaz', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-21T02:38:39', 'parent_id': 't1_llvolov'}, {'comment_id': 'm8se50r', 'author': 'PinksPinky', 'body': 'What made you decrease? My dr just recommended me to up the dosage to 120. I honestly believe 120 of cymbalta is going to make me feel alive 😩90 is working well but I’m itching to start the 120.\xa0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-24T02:04:43', 'parent_id': 't1_llvolov'}, {'comment_id': 'llwaftq', 'author': 'Far-Refrigerator212', 'body': 'Of course! Healthy mom.. healthy baby. Message me if you ever need support. 🩷', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2024-09-07T07:50:25', 'parent_id': 't1_llvp0ri'}, {'comment_id': 'ltf78hc', 'author': 'sshhenanigans', 'body': 'No. She was totally fine! There were no noticeable withdrawal symptoms.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-10-24T04:22:43', 'parent_id': 't1_lswleaz'}]"
ufwf4d,2022-05-01T15:10:17,Seeking Clinical Psychologists & Psychotherapists (Trainees/Interns are welcome) for research on adoption readiness and willingness to use e-Mental Health (18+)," Hello!

You are invited to participate in an online study being conducted as part of my thesis for the MSc in Cyberpsychology at the Dún Laoghaire Institute of Art, Design & Technology (Dublin Ireland).

This study is investigating clinical psychologists and psychotherapists' demographic characteristics and readiness to adopt e-Mental Health tools, as well as their willingness to use specific technologies, such as computers, mobile, virtual reality, and augmented reality, to deliver mental healthcare.

Participants must be **clinical psychologists or psychotherapists (interns/trainees are welcome to participate!)**. A good understanding of English is also required. If you choose to participate, you will be asked to complete a survey that takes **approximately 10 minutes**. Your participation is voluntary, confidential, and anonymous. You may withdraw at any time for any reason without penalty.

If you have any concerns, questions, or comments, please contact me. If you know someone who could be interested in this study and is able to participate, please share this study with them!

Your participation and help are greatly appreciated!

Link: [https://forms.office.com/r/3fjAa4jMPk](https://forms.office.com/r/3fjAa4jMPk)",MentalHealthProviders,6,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ufwf4d/seeking_clinical_psychologists_psychotherapists/,"[{'comment_id': 'i6w008b', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-05-01T15:10:17', 'parent_id': 't3_ufwf4d'}]"
sto84i,2022-02-16T11:11:24,Mental Health Providers needed for research study,"Hello,

I would like to invite you to participate in a research study I, Leslie Chaires am conducting for my graduate program under the supervision of Dr. Anissa Rogers, Professor in the School of Social Work at CSUSB. The study I am conducting is looking into the adverse mental/ behavioral health effects of children who have witnessed child abuse on siblings. Mental health providers working with children who have witnessed abuse are missing in the literature on child abuse and mental health. Your participation is needed to further explore the topic. This study consists of a short survey and a 30minute to an hour interview via zoom. A short survey can be completed through the flyer attached, to set up an interview via Zoom. Thank you!

[Survey link](https://qfreeaccountssjc1.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8ljxP90YZc48RiC)

[Flyer](https://www.canva.com/design/DAEw_DL2LZ8/3AmmPhYPWac2_7nrzn9guw/view?utm_content=DAEw_DL2LZ8&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelink)",MentalHealthProviders,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/sto84i/mental_health_providers_needed_for_research_study/,"[{'comment_id': 'hx50nr6', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-16T11:11:24', 'parent_id': 't3_sto84i'}]"
s75o87,2022-01-19T01:01:11,Record Keeping - Testing Protocols,"I work for a mental health private practice that provides testing for numerous behavioral issues, developmental delays, etc. I'm trying to move everything from paper to digital and moving all older charts to a secured warehouse. While going through this, we do still use testing protocols that are paper only. Is it okay to scan these into a patient's chart and then shred the protocol or does it need to be kept as paper until the patient ages out?",MentalHealthProviders,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/s75o87/record_keeping_testing_protocols/,"[{'comment_id': 'ht7sy9t', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-19T01:01:11', 'parent_id': 't3_s75o87'}]"
r1bzcu,2021-11-25T00:09:37,ATTN: California Providers who work in substance use,"Hi all,

I am a current social worker and PhD student at UCSD/SDSU and I am looking for California social workers who work with clients who have a substance use disorder to participate in my dissertation study. This survey is also open to CA providers who are not social workers, but work with clients who have substance use disorders, so if you feel inclined, please share it! I am in dire need of participants in order to graduate!

This survey is looking at providers' attitudes toward barriers to treatment, evidence based practice, and telehealth. It has been approved by the San Diego State University IRB. If you have any questions, please feel free to email me at [mnicholls7003@sdsu.edu](mailto:mnicholls7003@sdsu.edu).

If you want to take the survey, you will be enrolled in a raffle with a 1 in 10 chance to win a $50 Amazon gift card.

Please consider taking this survey and sharing it with other people in CA who work in substance use. Thank you so much and feel free to email me or comment with any questions!

[https://sdsu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_2nn7UX1vbEkrdBQ](https://sdsu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_2nn7UX1vbEkrdBQ)",MentalHealthProviders,0,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/r1bzcu/attn_california_providers_who_work_in_substance/,"[{'comment_id': 'hlxktpk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-25T00:09:38', 'parent_id': 't3_r1bzcu'}]"
qu8ueh,2021-11-15T10:45:52,Thoughts on Providers seeking their own mental health?,"I am a Program Manager and find that lately especially since Covid-19, my peers, as well as providers on my caseload feel they need some sort of therapy or counseling. Their comments to me are they feel like they are failing if they seek this help. 

I am starting therapy again for my own mental health, which is health. While I don't feel comfortable sharing my own personal stuff because I believe in my own boundaries with peers.  

What other ways do you guys find it to be encouraging when it isn't a person  you serve, and it's someone in management alongside you?",MentalHealthProviders,8,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/qu8ueh/thoughts_on_providers_seeking_their_own_mental/,"[{'comment_id': 'hkopg6x', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-15T10:45:52', 'parent_id': 't3_qu8ueh'}, {'comment_id': 'hky43dj', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I’m a psychiatrist with a psychiatrist. I know very few shrinks without a shrink of their own. We can’t do what we do on a daily basis without having that support (especially in forensics, where I work).\n\nI could ramble on about the subconscious vilification of the mentally ill by mental health providers, making them the “other”. How many times have you heard “borderline” tossed around like a pejorative? All of this exponentially increases the likelihood of severe self-stigmatisation when one feels they may need professional help of their own. \n\nI have a bunch of resilience and destigmatisation  literature that we provided to our provides as a way to get a foot in re: discussing getting treatment of their own. We did it in email blasts to everyone and they ranged from silly word searches (with the employee assistance program and mental health referral lines at the bottom) to one-pagers about burnout warning signs. \n\nI’ll screenshot this post as a reminder to find those resources for you at work in the morning. \n\nBest of luck in your own therapy journey! You deserve it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-11-17T09:36:51', 'parent_id': 't3_qu8ueh'}, {'comment_id': 'hkyf39y', 'author': '19BabyJay', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-17T11:19:17', 'parent_id': 't1_hky43dj'}]"
qh0se6,2021-10-27T22:08:47,"Mental healthcare professionals, please ELI5: What's the difference (in outcomes) between counseling and psychotherapy?","I think most laypersons like me are pretty fuzzy about choosing the right kind of mental healthcare, especially if one was brought up in an environment that considered mental illness taboo.

I know counselors are cheaper than psychotherapists and psychiatrists prescribe drugs. What I'm not clear about:

- Do therapists and counselors treat different aspects of mental illness? 
- Is it contextual/situational like going to the ER vs seeing your PCP? 
- What types of problems are better suited for counselors than therapists and vice versa? 
- Since psychiatrists focus almost exclusively on using drugs to treat patients, is it generally recommended people also see a psychotherapist in conjunction with talking to a psychiatrist?

Tyvm for the replies!",MentalHealthProviders,7,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/qh0se6/mental_healthcare_professionals_please_eli5_whats/,"[{'comment_id': 'hi9koew', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-10-27T22:08:47', 'parent_id': 't3_qh0se6'}, {'comment_id': 'hib7h3u', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Hey what's up? Counselor here. Not saying these are all the right answers but they are my opinion....\n\nDo therapists and counselors treat different aspects of mental illness? Not really. Counselors and therapists can both provide therapy. They may be trained differently or specialize in a certain condition. \n\nIs it contextual/situational like going to the ER vs seeing your PCP? Not 100% sure I know what you mean here, but therapy can be contextual/ situational. It can long term, short term, somewhere in the middle.\n\nWhat types of problems are better suited for counselors than therapists and vice versa? See answer to #1. If you have something you'd like to talk to someone about a therapist or counselor can help.\n\nSince psychiatrists focus almost exclusively on using drugs to treat patients, is it generally recommended people also see a psychotherapist in conjunction with talking to a psychiatrist? This is entirely up to you and can't give a blanket answer. You could start with therapy/ counseling and they can always refer you to a psychiatrist.\n\nI sincerely hope you are ok, and it's great to ask questions like this!"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T04:37:02', 'parent_id': 't3_qh0se6'}, {'comment_id': 'hibb7ff', 'author': 'Skeptical_JN68', 'body': 'Thanks, although TBH I still don\'t understand. Maybe it would help if I explained: a family member was recently urging me to try psychotherapy. I expressed my exasperation b/c I suspected I was one of these ""therapy resistant"" people Ive heard about. Long story short: I\'ve seen counselors before over the years (on again off again), and haven\'t seen much overall improvement (severe depression). Fam insists it was b/c I was seeing the wrong type of provider, so I\'m trying to figure this out.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T05:05:18', 'parent_id': 't1_hib7h3u'}, {'comment_id': 'm8m5xdh', 'author': 'Logical-Jury-1256', 'body': 'Counseling intern. Counselors and therapists do the same work. The difference is a counselor may see a patient for a short period of time, and a therapist may see a client for months or years. More and more they are being called therapist or psychotherapist.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T03:22:19', 'parent_id': 't1_hib7h3u'}, {'comment_id': 'hibk80v', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Ok, I get it. If you find someone who is Independently Licensed in your area you should be good. The therapy/ counseling process is peculiar. For me, I think it's more about your relationship with the therapist than anything else. A client has to trust the therapist, the therapist has to create an environment conducive to the process, and you both have to commit. That being said, I don't think therapy works for everybody. Some people can find things like yoga, meditation, self directed work, and other things to be as effective. It's hard work!"", 'score': 5, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T06:11:55', 'parent_id': 't1_hibb7ff'}, {'comment_id': 'hibkd82', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Also, with something like depression there may need to be a medication intervention either instead or also. There's isn't one way to do it which is pretty frustrating TBH"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T06:12:58', 'parent_id': 't1_hibk80v'}]"
p2m2m4,2021-08-12T02:32:55,Mental health service scam?,"Throwaway account. 

My organization was recently approached by a new mental health practice to offer free therapy sessions to our staff. I like the idea, but the more I do my research, I am concerned that this may be a new scam. This office address on Google is obviously fake (it's a major landmark), and the only provider I can find any information on is using a false name and has zero credentials that can be verified. There is a full website and all, it looks great but nothing to back up claims of ""years of clinical expertise"". Does this sound familiar to any of you? What am I missing?",MentalHealthProviders,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/p2m2m4/mental_health_service_scam/,"[{'comment_id': 'h8n8w4i', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""You could try to do a license lookup in your state's professional regulation site."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-08-12T17:40:38', 'parent_id': 't3_p2m2m4'}]"
ozc0zv,2021-08-06T23:32:44,LCSW vs psych np,Hi everyone! I am currently a full-time registered nurse I work with adolescents suffering from eating disorders in The hospital setting. During this job I have realized how much I love counseling adolescence and helping them with their eating disorders and other mental health issues. I want to become a therapist and help patients and their families. I was thinking of going back to school for my MSW but now wondering if doing a psychiatric Nurse practitioner route would be better for me. I’m not really wanting to prescribe medicine but I do really want to counsel adolescence with eating disorders and mental health struggles. I know an MSW is a lot of work and would prefer to go back to school for a smaller amount of time since I am now 35 and wanting to also start a family soon. Any input would be great! Thank you,MentalHealthProviders,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ozc0zv/lcsw_vs_psych_np/,"[{'comment_id': 'h933b67', 'author': 'arbor-vitae-', 'body': ""If you know you don't want to prescribe, I'd go the MSW route.  Any psych NP is going to be expected to prescribe.  It will be nearly impossible to be hired for a counseling job because of billing.  Every job I've ever applied for (NP) was hiring me to prescribe.  \n\nIt sounds like the MSW will take more time when looking at it at face value -- 2 years vs 1 year --  but factor in how much more time you'll need after a post MSN to get therapy training (something you won't get enough of in school to be competent for an entry-level counseling position).  The time ends up being more comparable."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-08-16T03:57:34', 'parent_id': 't3_ozc0zv'}]"
oyz455,2021-08-06T09:32:12,Sex Therapy Book Recommendations,"Hi there, I would like to get AASECT certified at some point, however I am working on finishing my PhD before I start a new goal. I was wondering if anyone has good sex therapy book recommendations for someone interested in sex therapy and eventually getting certified. Thanks in advance!",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/oyz455/sex_therapy_book_recommendations/,[]
orq6g2,2021-07-26T08:38:21,"To advocate and educate for mental health, I have an instagram (@Mental.Shape) and Etsy based around all that ❤️",,MentalHealthProviders,10,0,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/orq2ll,[]
oqforr,2021-07-24T06:27:34,Hey guys. I’m wanting to becoming a LMFT and I’m wondering if I can do that with getting my masters in Clinical Mental Health or if the masters specifically as to be in Marriage and Family? I’ve searched through so many google results and can’t find the answer.,,MentalHealthProviders,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/oqforr/hey_guys_im_wanting_to_becoming_a_lmft_and_im/,"[{'comment_id': 'h6cyrxx', 'author': 'Kiramadera', 'body': 'There’s a education and training mega thread over on r/psychotherapy where you could search previous questions or ask this one. Good luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-07-24T18:11:07', 'parent_id': 't3_oqforr'}, {'comment_id': 'h6dmcpi', 'author': 'Oven-Representative', 'body': 'Depending on the state you may have take additional courses if you get a MHC masters to be licensed as an MFT or work a certain number of years as a LMHC to sit for the LMFT test. If you know you want to do MFT then go for that specifically.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-07-24T21:42:58', 'parent_id': 't3_oqforr'}]"
oib51e,2021-07-12T01:11:55,Mental Health First Aid Course - First in Israel,,MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://youtu.be/h6q8PCgZTjA,[]
ocvgqc,2021-07-03T15:53:57,"Thinking about starting a pyschotherapy private practice, what are somethings you wish you knew before opening up?",,MentalHealthProviders,10,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ocvgqc/thinking_about_starting_a_pyschotherapy_private/,[]
obxe82,2021-07-02T04:27:29,Extrapyramidal Side Effects in a Patient with Alcohol Withdrawal Symptoms: A Reflection of Quality of the Mental Health Care System," We use a case to discuss an ongoing problem of poor management of patients with [\#addiction](https://www.linkedin.com/feed/hashtag/?keywords=addiction&highlightedUpdateUrns=urn%3Ali%3Aactivity%3A6816498304445108224) problems. We give a detailed discussion of how best we can handle the consequences i.e. extrapyramidal side effects EPS. Click the link for more details. 

[https://www.researchgate.net/publication/352401809\_Extrapyramidal\_Side\_Effects\_in\_a\_Patient\_with\_Alcohol\_Withdrawal\_Symptoms\_A\_Reflection\_of\_Quality\_of\_the\_Mental\_Health\_Care\_System](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/352401809_Extrapyramidal_Side_Effects_in_a_Patient_with_Alcohol_Withdrawal_Symptoms_A_Reflection_of_Quality_of_the_Mental_Health_Care_System)",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/obxe82/extrapyramidal_side_effects_in_a_patient_with/,[]
nwggk6,2021-06-10T11:33:20,Simplifying Addiction,,MentalHealthProviders,2,0,https://doi.org/10.2147/SAR.S307387,[]
nktyf4,2021-05-25T22:04:41,EHR Systems,"Is there an EHR system that you prefer for a mental health facility, more specifically for a pediatric psych office?

We currently use way too many systems that was fine for a small private practice, but as we grow, we need something that is more organized and easier to navigate.",MentalHealthProviders,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/nktyf4/ehr_systems/,"[{'comment_id': 'h15l3q5', 'author': 'InSync-EHR', 'body': ""We're in that space so I'd be happy to answer any questions you might have."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-06-09T19:42:07', 'parent_id': 't3_nktyf4'}]"
n88myc,2021-05-09T12:22:19,Share your experiences,"It’s mental health month. Come share your stories and experiences in the Prepr CARE Lab & Challenge, and help us build a collection of experiences that can help bring people together in today’s isolated and increasingly digital society. 

Check out  [https://prepr.org/care-lab/](https://prepr.org/care-lab/)  for more info",MentalHealthProviders,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/n88myc/share_your_experiences/,[]
n4nxfk,2021-05-04T18:38:30,Mental health awareness,,MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://i.redd.it/7d4wfqzsr3x61.jpg,[]
mv9cyr,2021-04-21T11:25:26,FMLA Question,"Hello everyone,

I have a question about taking a paid sick leave in Washington state USA, for mental health/ burnout. I have the approval from my employer, they said I just need to get a note from my primary care physician. I guess my question is, will a doctor write me a note for leave from my job for mental health reasons? I am feeling like maybe they will think I don't need it. But that could just be self doubt and feeling like I am unworthy of time off.

Any insight into this process or what information should be provided to my doctor is a huge help.

Thank you!",MentalHealthProviders,4,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/mv9cyr/fmla_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'gvbcg0w', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""You won't get one if you don't ask. Most PCPs I know are very tuned I to the anxiety associated with working in the helping field and are willing to write reasonable notes. \n\nThe only times I've seen docs refuse to write notes are when people are asking for unreasonable things like every Friday off, release to work but can't work directly with clients, etc."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2021-04-21T17:40:42', 'parent_id': 't3_mv9cyr'}, {'comment_id': 'gvcuqu7', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'Your employer should have the paperwork for your PCP to fill out. Certain diagnoses are eligible for FMLA, and your provider will designate the appropriate amount of time you need off per week/month', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T00:33:11', 'parent_id': 't3_mv9cyr'}, {'comment_id': 'gvdv0uy', 'author': 'dazzle_dee_daisyray', 'body': ' I have never taken time off like this. Your words have been very reassuring for me to read. I have an appointment tomorrow with my PCP regarding my leave and mental health. I will be asking for an extended leave of 2 months or more, to get my health on track. everyone at my job is supportive and actually wants me to take the leave, because they can see my decline in performance and overall well being. \n\nThank you so much for taking the time to help me out, I really appreciate it!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T05:05:53', 'parent_id': 't1_gvbcg0w'}, {'comment_id': 'gvdvg0q', 'author': 'dazzle_dee_daisyray', 'body': 'Thank you for replying. I just talked to my HR today and they are going to take care of the paperwork and all I need to provide is a note from my PCP. I have an appointment tomorrow, which is very fortunate to be so soon. I hope I am able to talk and get this all sorted out.\n\nThank you so much for your response, It encouraged me to inquire and understand more about this process.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T05:09:23', 'parent_id': 't1_gvcuqu7'}, {'comment_id': 'gvdwos5', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'I’m glad I could be helpful:) I’ve had FMLA for years so I’m pretty well versed in the process. Good luck to you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T05:19:42', 'parent_id': 't1_gvdvg0q'}]"
mr89rn,2021-04-15T10:54:40,Coricidin and Triple C addiction treatment,"Looking for any insight on working with individuals addicted to Triple C. 

Triple C is a street name for Coricidin HBP Cough & Cold, a popular brand of cough and cold medicine that is commonly abused by teens.",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/mr89rn/coricidin_and_triple_c_addiction_treatment/,[]
merun3,2021-03-28T07:14:18,Uninsured and in need of bipolar medication,"My not quite step-daughter (she is the daughter of my ex-husband born during our marriage when he was also married to someone else). Anyway, she is a lovely girl and lives near my daughter (that I had with my ex) in Maryland.

She is in the US on a student visa. Graduated in May but continued to take classes because she was applying to US law schools and wanted to stay in the states. She was on student insurance until this month. She is bipolar but was doing great on Abilify - but now can't get a prescription because she has no insurance. 

Mom lives in Asia. She cannot help financially with insurance or anything else. 

Dad lives in Africa with wife #5 (while still married to wife #4) and he is a POS in case you didn't already guess.

I will pay for her meds but how can she get a prescription? I have tried a couple of organization but she doesn't seem to qualify because she isn't a citizen. 

Any help appreciated!",MentalHealthProviders,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/merun3/uninsured_and_in_need_of_bipolar_medication/,"[{'comment_id': 'gu3zei6', 'author': 'Matt_Performance_Art', 'body': 'Try plush care. They provide telemedicine and may be able to help if she has prior records https://plushcare.com/mental-health/', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-04-11T08:19:02', 'parent_id': 't3_merun3'}]"
mdv1dt,2021-03-26T23:56:46,Venting... mental health provider stigma / expectation,"This is a post venting about American work place / mental health (MH) provider stigma / American health system. 
I am working for a group practice and see about 6-8 clients a day, 5 days/week. Usually my schedule is booked for 8 clients a day and the idea is to wait for no shows or late cancellations. We don’t get time for documentation so it piles up especially on the 7-8 client days. Sessions are at least 51 min so  I usually only have enough time to go to the restroom, maybe get a snack, before the next session. Most of my day is spent in an office without windows staring at a computer... telling my clients to get outside and enjoy their lives. I believe we can make a better life through improved well being hence I became a therapist, but its frustrating when my job is what is bringing me down. 

I’m aware that most insurances do not reimburse for documentation time which is why most companies are focused on face to face billable time. But it’s creating burnout very quickly and documentation is an important part of our jobs. 

I feel disappointed with how MH providers are not supported. I appreciate that the general public has increased discussion around MH; however, I rarely see discussion about MH providers. Particularly  amidst the pandemic. (I also recognize that several fields and service jobs have been greatly impacted). If more people are receiving MH support, that means MH providers are seeing more people. 

In addition, I don’t even get MH covered by my insurance. When my coworker and I have attempted to problem solve our concerns with our director, we’re usually met with an attitude of “that’s just how it is”. Including from other support systems such as family or friends who don’t understand the extent of our jobs. “You just sit and talk to people” kind of response. 

Anyone in this boat?",MentalHealthProviders,11,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/mdv1dt/venting_mental_health_provider_stigma_expectation/,"[{'comment_id': 'gsd6kq1', 'author': 'MossWatson', 'body': 'I feel you.  Your situation sounds a little more intense than mine, but everything you’re saying is very familiar.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-03-27T06:46:39', 'parent_id': 't3_mdv1dt'}, {'comment_id': 'gtwhfui', 'author': 'PsychNurse6685', 'body': 'Oh boy. I feel ya. I do home visits and provide LAIs in peoples homes and do mental health care  RN type things and my goodness the documentation- just.... just kills me. I was in peoples homes during the pandemic because we take care of some very sick folks who don’t leave their homes so I go to them. Oh man. I was so burnt out. I completely feel you on this. Worst part about it was nobody would let me use the bathroom so I’d have to drive back to my hospital to pee! I had so much documentation at the end of the day I absolutely hated the job!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-04-09T11:36:17', 'parent_id': 't3_mdv1dt'}, {'comment_id': 'gsg0usl', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""You have great points OP. I work at a CMHC and it's the same. I think your Director is right even if it's not the answer we want to hear. This is the system that has been created over many years. Insurance companies will tell you though that the time for documentation is calculated in their rates."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-03-27T18:53:20', 'parent_id': 't3_mdv1dt'}]"
lsyxvg,2021-02-26T20:07:33,Too Little Being Done About Mental Health Of Tired Teens,,MentalHealthProviders,4,0,https://www.insynchcs.com/blog/too-little-being-done-about-mental-health-of-tired-teens,[]
kvsgle,2021-01-12T19:47:09,An Adolescent’s Use of Veterinary Medicines: A Case Report Exploring Addiction,"  ***a case report about an adolescent who repeatedly self-injected herself with veterinary medicine in an attempt to commit suicide***. 

  [An Adolescent’s Use of Veterinary Medicines: A Case Report Exploring Addiction](http://url310.tandfonline.com/ls/click?upn=odl8Fji2pFaByYDqV3bjGMQo8st9of2228V6AcSFNq3t86qU90pAx-2BEad4OTI0D62GFeD8sauusho8zGZl82wgTLnYDfx4UNf-2FH-2FT3q7CqU-3DArzs_jlA-2B5h02VpHmxVpwmmDmUlySgHVkVbUY0R5AVJz-2Fv2yBTZk8um8cD9NIXtJq7lhFF4Sztt7WIjNQp-2Bh4McH9ruGKJydmxqg50V91Uwex1wDBipA-2Fq06cZ3bRLYFV13dOUQRzPxrGAsAPkry-2B-2FDoQqS3OrZqAeSahBPvSewcsa6TW3k8LDnll0j8FFSTm1-2BRbhugoPKrRcldVwvGeL2cqplxEgTHdLWQmOVaqRl-2FYaYg1sNhf4tarnKo-2Bq371HzWVcCB0vl79ohlpgkLtDnhFmo-2Bd39MkdEkevczGMv8o9Gs-3D) 

    The story
    A 17-year old adolescent girl was admitted to the
    psychiatry ward with a six-month history of functional
    decline, positive psychotic symptoms, chronic self-harming
    behaviors and suicidal ideation, as well as
    neurovegetative symptoms. She had no previous mental
    health concerns nor admissions to a psychiatric
    facility. She also denied having any acute or chronic
    medical problems and did not take any regularly prescribed
    medications. During the initial admission interview,
    she acknowledged having repeatedly made
    suicide attempts by injecting her thigh with a mixture
    of veterinary medications accessed at her parents’
    chicken farm with the intent to die. She showed the
    interviewing clinician a tea bottle where she concealed
    the veterinary medication composite which consisted
    of vitamins, vaccines, antibiotics, and anthelmiintics. In
    exploring her first suicide attempt with the injectable veterinary medication, she reported profound sadness
    about not completing suicide, believing that she was
    a failure in her family and that they would be much
    better off if she was dead. She also reported symptoms
    including lack of sleep, refusal to eat, anhedonia, fatigue,
    and had been isolated from the rest of the family.
    She also described having extreme sadness, fear, and
    paranoia, believing that her family members were
    traitors.
    The numerous suicide attempts by self-injecting the
    medications were described as being done with the
    intent to die. However, they were also associated with
    brief periods of relief from depressive symptoms, a self-reported
    sense of euphoria, and a temporary sense of
    the relaxation that occurred during the injection. Following
    this unexpected experience of achieving temporary relief
    from her emotional suffering from the feeling of physical
    pain associated with injecting, she reported an increasing
    urge to self-administer injections as a way of relieving
    all negative emotions. The injections were typically
    followed by periods of intense, prolonged sadness, guilt,
    and self-loathing. The patient described experiences of
    boredom, anger, or loneliness as triggering an urge to
    self-inject which would be temporarily relieved through
    self-administering of the veterinary medications. Over
    time, she developed patterns of self-injection that
    occurred up to multiple times daily, however, reported
    no discomfort associated with the injections. She
    described not being able to cope without having access
    to the mixture to the extent that she smuggled it into her
    boarding school, disguised in tea bottles, which she
    understood would be a serious offence if discovered
    and could compromise her ability to remain at
    a prestigious boarding school. Eventually, while at
    school, fellow students observed her injecting herself
    with unfamiliar medicine and informed the school
    authorities. The authorities then contacted her parents
    who were made aware of these behaviours and subsequently
    removed her access to the medications and the
    syringe.
    Prior to hospitalization, the patient reported hearing
    strange commanding voices not heard by others around
    her that would provide a running, derogatory, and abusive
    commentary about her. These voices were identified
    as belonging to her mother and reportedly prevented her
    from experiencing any happiness that she had historically
    felt. The voices kept reminding her of how ugly she
    was, what a failure she had been, and discouraged her in
    any positive efforts. The patient was clear that the onset
    of the voices occurred following the use of injectable
    veterinary medications. It was also determined that the
    patient had insight, judgment, and cognitive abilities
    such that she was capable of providing a reliable history.
    Despite having no previous history of substance use,
    she described wanting to experiment with more serious
    drugs of abuse such as cocaine or marijuana to mitigate
    the experience of critical voices and sad feelings. She was
    aware that these kinds of substance seeking inclinations
    were a serious cultural taboo for a person of her age and
    gender in the Ugandan setting. However, she was insistent
    that she wanted to experiment with these substances

in the future as a way of self-medicating despite the

social and physical risks involved. She denied using or

adding other substances in addition to the veterinary

mixture.

During her hospitalization, she participated in sessions

with a hospital psychologist (NS) and a number of

stressors originating within context of the patient’s

family were uncovered. The patient was the middle

child in a family with 5 children. There were many

descriptions of hard feelings in the family, and all of

the children were described as having conflicted relationships

with their parents. Whenever the patient

reflected on these relational challenges, she reported

worsening of sadness relieved through self-injections.

The patient’s parents both worked as teachers who

were described as hardworking and wanted their children

to achieve the best in life. The parents had a poultry

farm as a side business to boost their income, which also

assisted them in being able to enrol their children in

good private schools within the country. The parents

described trying to instil good habits and morals in their

children using a disciplinary approach they believed

would achieve success. They endorsed using parenting

strategies such as heavy punishment, making their children

work on the poultry farm, as well as reading books.

The patient’s mother was described as having very high

expectations and was reportedly unhappy with the

patient’s performance in her senior high exams (i.e.,

O — level) despite her above-average grades. The patient

reported feeling as though her mother was critical of her

looks, her body appearance, and her dress code, such

that she could never please her mother. The mother

reportedly accused the patient of becoming pregnant as

a reason for her poor performance and was described as

intrusive to the extent that she would wake her daughter

in the night to palpate her abdomen in order to confirm

her suspicion of pregnancy, which was later determined

to be untrue. The patient’s parents indicated that they

wondered if the patient was fabricating symptoms.

Overall, the patient experienced her mother as harsh

and demanding, with few experiences of feeling loved

and accepted. In light of this, she has preferred to live

with relatives, away from her nuclear family. This was

the preferred option since it reduced her access to veterinary

medicine, injections, and put her in a less stressful environment. While she reported that she wanted to

continue self-injecting, she also recognized the need to

engage in these types of harm reduction techniques to

assist with her recovery. When asking the patient about

potential Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) symptoms,

she reported ongoing efforts to avoid her parents’

rejection and perceived abandonment. She also

endorsed recurrent self-harming/suicidal behaviors,

affective instability, and a chronic feeling of emptiness.

The patient’s brother reported that she had stable relationships

with her friends, and historically was able to

control her emotions in front of the mother despite her

conflicted feelings. Despite the non-life-threatening verbal

trauma she experienced from the mother, the patient

experienced other symptoms of PTSD including intrusive

and upsetting memories, nightmares about her

experiences with her mother, physical reactions in

response to traumatic reminders of her mother’s abuse.

On physical examination, the patient had normal

vital signs. At no point were there any concerns about

her cardiac, respiratory, hepatic, or renal functioning.

There were multiple injection sites visible on her thighs

with no marked swelling or redness. The patient was in

good physical health with no other complaints except

psychological distress. All basic baseline afforded investigations

were normal, including liver functional tests,

renal functional tests, complete hemogram, and

urinalysis.

During her 4-day stay on the psychiatry ward, she was

given antipsychotics (trifluoperazine 10 mg a day),

which greatly reduced the voices, and an antidepressant

(amitriptyline 75 mg), which helped with improvements

in sleep, increased appetite, and reduction in depressive

symptoms. She also reportedly engaged in self-injection

of the veterinary medication while she was on the psychiatric

ward. During her stay in the ward, she was

offered psychotherapy to explore and understand her

problems using short-term psychoanalysis. However, at

discharge, she was given fluoxetine 20 mg to reduce the

chances of a lethal overdose with tricyclic

antidepressants.",MentalHealthProviders,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/kvsgle/an_adolescents_use_of_veterinary_medicines_a_case/,"[{'comment_id': 'gj01u6b', 'author': 'hotlinehelpbot', 'body': '\nIf you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline\n\nUSA: 18002738255\nUS Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME\n\nUnited Kingdom: 116 123\n\nTrans Lifeline (877-565-8860)\n\nOthers: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines\n\nhttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-01-12T19:47:22', 'parent_id': 't3_kvsgle'}, {'comment_id': 'gj01xb9', 'author': 'kmarkmohan', 'body': 'Please you can also read my article for further details and discussions', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-01-12T19:48:09', 'parent_id': 't3_kvsgle'}]"
k4bcdq,2020-12-01T07:47:56,Advice on Career Path,I was wondering what school and major is best to become a psychotherapist? I’m applying to grad school now and deciding between msw and counseling psych but concerned about which one will better train me for counseling individuals and maybe families (i’m still waiting to decide on future specializations). how do both differ in the path that leads up to a private practice? any input would be soooo appreciated. Also if anyone knows what advantages Ed.M. has over other programs?,MentalHealthProviders,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/k4bcdq/advice_on_career_path/,"[{'comment_id': 'ge98lcn', 'author': 'tpeeeps', 'body': 'If you want to work with families I’d highly recommend an MFT program!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-12-01T18:56:57', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'ge7uwyk', 'author': 'Meg5987', 'body': 'If you know you for sure want to be a mental health counselor- always go the route that is a program specifically for counseling. MSW is usually a broad, broad program and yes it goes you get some training on counseling but it’s not the main focus. The main focus of a counseling program is counseling alone. So it’s more in depth and hyper focused. If you want to be a chef, you’re gonna go to culinary school. If you want to be a vet, you go to veterinary school. If there’s a specialized program for exactly what you want to do, do that.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-01T07:50:59', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'geafkkd', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I am a Psychotherapist. MSW was my choice. While Social Work is broad, you can choose to focus solely on psychotherapy if you choose. The Dallas Society for Psychoanalytic Psychology is comprised mostly of Psychologists, then Social Workers. Counselors are usually not as respected.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-02T01:00:48', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'ihbn5hi', 'author': 'Internal-Ad-9363', 'body': 'What I tell clients when they ask about the myriad of initials behind peoples names is this: each certification represents a particular perspective. Social Work (MSW) looks at the person within their environment, considering that one’s environment and how you interact with that environment is a primary factor in functioning; counseling, and psychology degrees focus on the internal experience as being the primary factor in functioning; marriage and family degrees (MFT) focus on families as the primary factor involved in functioning; exploring which area of focus feels most relevant to you may help; on a practical level a MSW (full disclosure, this is my degree) provides a lot of flexibility in how you can use this degree and is a terminal practice degree, this means that once certified (LCSW) you are able to practice independently(meaning you don’t need another professional (psychologist, psychiatrist, etc. to sign off on your work) are recognized by all insurances, the government (for instance the bulk of mental health services at the VA are provided by LCSW) and other agencies. I hope this helps. Good luck with your career.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-23T19:29:40', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'geukktf', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-06T22:45:10', 'parent_id': 't1_ge98lcn'}, {'comment_id': 'ihbnyyo', 'author': 'RAD-iance', 'body': 'This is great information and perfect timing. I am started a social work program this fall so this really helped me feel at ease with my decision. From your academic experience, did they include any internal factors or anything along the psychological aspect regardless if it’s a social work program? Because I’m also interested in learning the psychological aspect but primarily chose social work because of it’s flexibility like you’ve mentioned.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-23T19:36:09', 'parent_id': 't1_ihbn5hi'}, {'comment_id': 'gg6h7sl', 'author': 'tpeeeps', 'body': 'Sure, people do all sorts of things. Family therapy is a unique approach just like CBT or EMDR and you should have the proper training for anything you’re doing. An MFT program will give you a different theoretical background and clinical skills than any other program. Feel free to message me with any specific questions!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-18T02:25:05', 'parent_id': 't1_geukktf'}, {'comment_id': 'ihbpfso', 'author': 'Internal-Ad-9363', 'body': 'Congratulations on selecting your program and welcome to a wonderful profession. Yes, depending on your program you can focus on psychotherapy or other specialty; when you are evaluating grad schools it is important to know whether the program is a “Generalist” program or a “Concentration” program; a generalist program will give you a base of knowledge in many practice areas and typically has more of a research focus, a concentration program will ask you to pick a practice area (psychotherapy, social justice, etc.). My school has a generalist program and I am now practicing as a psychotherapist in an integrated family medicine clinic, so you can get where you want to go either way.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-23T19:47:50', 'parent_id': 't1_ihbnyyo'}]"
jyb2kz,2020-11-21T19:22:37,Reasons for Conducting Webinars in Mental Health,,MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://blog.psychonline.com/reasons-for-conducting-webinars-in-mental-health/,[]
jxk18h,2020-11-20T11:53:34,free event by mental health professionals - might be helpful,"Hey guys! I came across some really cool events surrounding Mental Health, so I thought I’d share if anyone’s interested. Given that these past few months haven’t been the easiest, it might be nice to hear from professionals who are here to help out, like Asha Murphy, who specialises in emerging adulthood, LGBTQ issues, college mental health, generational differences, and anxiety disorders with a focus on social anxiety. Another seminar that seemed really interesting was with Ashleigh Di Lello who developed Bio Emotional Healing, a process based in neuroscience that reprograms our brains to have a new filter to think differently (could really use some of that). I thought I’d share as it could be helpful for some people. More details are given here - [https://www.wavelf.org/events](https://www.wavelf.org/events)",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jxk18h/free_event_by_mental_health_professionals_might/,[]
jna2f6,2020-11-03T18:46:01,Workplace,Have you ever experienced mental health issues due to your workplace?,MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jna2f6/workplace/,[]
jmp0e4,2020-11-02T20:33:54,Need to Interview American Mental Health Provider for Grad School. Anyone Interested?,Need to Interview American Mental Health Provider for Grad School. Anyone Interested?,MentalHealthProviders,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jmp0e4/need_to_interview_american_mental_health_provider/,"[{'comment_id': 'gaxtzc5', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': 'What level of provider? Prescriber? Therapist? Leadership?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:09:00', 'parent_id': 't3_jmp0e4'}, {'comment_id': 'gaxuii1', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Ok, I'm a Counselor but I'm also in a leadership position at a community mental health center. If that works for you let me know. Otherwise, best of luck!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:13:24', 'parent_id': 't3_jmp0e4'}, {'comment_id': 'gaxuard', 'author': 'Magicalmbeth', 'body': ""I need therapist/counselor level. It doesn't need to be a licensed supervisor or a psychiatrist."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:11:39', 'parent_id': 't1_gaxtzc5'}, {'comment_id': 'gaxv1ij', 'author': 'Magicalmbeth', 'body': ""I'll have to check with the professor if that works but even if it doesn't, thanks!!!!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:17:43', 'parent_id': 't1_gaxuii1'}]"
jefj9p,2020-10-20T06:49:55,Hired as a MHT & Nervous,"Hi!! I was recently hired as a Mental Health Tech  and begin training in two days, at a substance abuse rehab organization. It’s my first time working in this environment and I don’t know what to expect. Any tips for starting out? What do you wish you knew before starting your job?",MentalHealthProviders,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jefj9p/hired_as_a_mht_nervous/,[]
iurmzu,2020-09-18T01:55:40,National Physician Suicide Awareness Day - Caretaker Mental Health is Important!,"Today is National Physician Suicide Awareness Day, a reminder that we must do more to support the mental health of physicians - especially during this global health crisis.

When 44% of physicians are burned out and 300+ physicians die by suicide every year, mental health should be a huge priority in the field of medicine. Instead we see a culture of silence, in which physicians keep their mental health struggles under the radar to escape scrutiny by licensing boards, residency programs, employers or even their peers, or when mental health issues may be seen as red flags by adcoms for those aspiring to enter the medical profession. Breaking this culture of silence is the first step in dismantling stigma.

**Medical Minds Matter** is a [newly founded](https://medicalmindsmatter.org/) non-profit focused on mental health advocacy in the medical field - an important cause especially now when our doctors are under an immense amount of stress with the COVID-19 pandemic.

One of our most critical needs is **finding board members** to help provide oversight and guidance for our young team. **We hope to find passionate members of the medical and psychiatry community to help steer our organization's mission!** Please fill out this interest form if you are interested in getting involved: [https://forms.gle/LVEvHL4Pn9B5VPdZ7](https://forms.gle/LVEvHL4Pn9B5VPdZ7).

**We also want to hear YOUR story!** Medical Minds Matters offers a platform for physicians and medical students to share their struggles with mental health, with the option of remaining anonymous. Share your story [here](https://medicalmindsmatter.org/the-anonymed-initiative) \- stories will be posted on our Instagram (@medical.minds.matter).

\---------

**Comment below - why does mental health matter to YOU as a caretaker?**",MentalHealthProviders,6,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/iurmzu/national_physician_suicide_awareness_day/,[]
ihv4pe,2020-08-28T04:02:40,What was the most surprising thing about your clients as a Mental Health Counselor?,,MentalHealthProviders,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ihv4pe/what_was_the_most_surprising_thing_about_your/,"[{'comment_id': 'g34229v', 'author': 'Slytherpuff94', 'body': 'I would with children with mental health disorders. The hardest/ most surprising think about some of my clients is how their past royally f**Ked them up. I have one who has had such a hard life I\'m not sure if he will ever have a ""normal"" life. It brakes you heart, but I have faith he will keep getting better as the years go one and pray one day he will be alright.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-28T12:44:25', 'parent_id': 't3_ihv4pe'}, {'comment_id': 'g354ncl', 'author': 'iroQuai', 'body': ""I've worked with youth for almost a decade now and I recognize what you describe. Some kids just are born in the wrong system and won't even get a fair chance that way. But that is not what amazes me the most. It's their resilience to develop very sane ideas and grow up fairly normal in spite of that rotten system."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-08-28T20:49:46', 'parent_id': 't1_g34229v'}]"
i7zc3h,2020-08-12T01:53:39,"Mental Health Billing - Minute Mental Health Billing Tips, Beginner's Guide (Part 1)",,MentalHealthProviders,4,3,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PAWbKRDwZvE,"[{'comment_id': 'g150825', 'author': 'epsychbilling', 'body': ""Hope this helps, and if it doesn't serve the group, please private message me and I will remove it!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-12T01:54:28', 'parent_id': 't3_i7zc3h'}, {'comment_id': 'g15f7g3', 'author': 'levelupmentalhealth', 'body': 'Great info, nice and quick.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-12T03:46:36', 'parent_id': 't3_i7zc3h'}, {'comment_id': 'g15gp3u', 'author': 'epsychbilling', 'body': 'awesome!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-12T03:58:17', 'parent_id': 't1_g15f7g3'}]"
i0pwmc,2020-07-30T22:41:22,New study that shows how mental healthcare access as well as attitudes towards regular and tele-mental healthcare differ state by state. Some really interesting stats here for providers to consider.,,MentalHealthProviders,4,0,https://unitedwaynca.org/stories/mental-health-care-access/,[]
hd9bt7,2020-06-21T21:33:11,Is there such thing as mental health quality assurance?,"I've recently been laid off from a casework supervisor job with a small non profit. Luckily I'm in an excellent position financially (a miracle, honestly) which means I'm taking some time to be intentional about my next career move.  

I've done direct care and supervision for the last ten years but I have a passion for systems of care and finding ways to make sure teams use them effectively to help clients.  My strength has always been understanding barriers to success and finding creative and effective poeple-centric solutions to engagement and investment of systems and skills.

I feel like this is a move towards quality assurance, best practice audits and training but I don't know enough! Is there such a thing as a mental health SOC auditor?",MentalHealthProviders,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/hd9bt7/is_there_such_thing_as_mental_health_quality/,"[{'comment_id': 'fvl57tz', 'author': 'squid_actually', 'body': ""Yes. A lot of times I've seen it referred to as Quality Improvement or Continuing Quality Improvement (CQI). Your discussion of systems really sounds like Macro Social Work."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-06-22T05:26:03', 'parent_id': 't3_hd9bt7'}, {'comment_id': 'fvl5fsv', 'author': 'Orfewatson', 'body': 'Thank you! The correct vocabulary is extremely helpful in understanding what to research.  I appreciate your reply 👍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-06-22T05:28:18', 'parent_id': 't1_fvl57tz'}]"
gn19d7,2020-05-20T06:17:12,got offered my first job as a psychologist on a closed ward,"Hey r/MentalHealthProviders,
I am a young psychologist from germany currently writing my master thesis and I've been offered a job in a psychiatric hospital where I've spent my intership for half a year already.
Back then I've been working on general psychiatric wards and I really enjoyed working with patients in that context.
I can see myself taking the road of a typical clinical psychologist in a psychiatric hospital so right now, just before finishing my M.Sc. I've been offered to join their team on a closed ward.

It's not that I wouldn't feel ready for it (at least as far as you could say you feel ready after just finishing university) but I'm wondering if such a station would really be the optimal first workplace for someone with so little experience.
My first thought was 'Uff, no way I'm able to work there' but after sleeping on it I can feel some kind of excitement about working there creeping into my mind.
I've already voiced my concerns to our chief physician and they told me it's much less psychotherapy-heavy work than the 'ordinary' wards I'm already familiar with.

So yeah, what do you fellow health professionals think about someone fresh from university starting out on a closed ward?",MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/gn19d7/got_offered_my_first_job_as_a_psychologist_on_a/,[]
gm6eqc,2020-05-18T23:23:24,What would be for me?,"I don’t really know if this is the right sub for this, but I have a bunch of questions as I’m filling stuff out and planning everything for college now. 
I’ve always known that I’d wanted to get into the mental health field, more specifically clinical psychology. But I’ve also heard getting a Masters in Social Work is more versatile than one in Psychology. I can’t decide between THOSE two, and I also want to look into psychiatry for the pay. Pay is important because I want to go to a really good school and my grades are good enough as I have a 4.1 GPA:( Im nervous about psychiatry because idk if it needs a lot of chemistry? Physics? Bc I took AP Biology so thats obviously more my strongsuit... Ik it’s a lot. I just need some guidance:( Idk whats more for me. I know that I want to talk to people directly and help them for sure tho, if that helps. Thank you guys:(",MentalHealthProviders,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/gm6eqc/what_would_be_for_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'fr4507h', 'author': 'redfox-_-', 'body': 'Go you for wanting to get into the mental health field!\n\nDifferent countries will have different requirements, so not necessarily all I say here will be relevant to you, but it might be food for thought.\n\nA psychiatrist is a doctor. You go to med school for years and years-- that\'s why they get so well paid. In my country, mostly all they do is assess, diagnose and prescribe meds, no therapeutic work. \n\nA clinical psychologist assesses and diagnoses. They may do some therapeutic work, but most of that would be in extreme cases-- complex trauma, PTSD, high risk or where there\'s other complications for effective therapy such as the client having autism. If you can get traction working privately, there\'s big bucks in this field as well, tho again, years and years of study to get there. \n\nHere you can become a psychologist without being a ""clinical"" psychologist, which means you don\'t tend to diagnose, and you do more therapy, but again with the more complex clients. I don\'t think they have to study quite as long, but still above and beyond a degree in psych.\n\nCounsellors (or therapists of various types) generally work with less high risk and complex clients. I\'m a counsellor currently working in a school, and most of my clients are in the ""moderate"" realm with some higher risk and complexity that I can\'t get more specialised support for, for whatever reason. Here you need a minimum of a 3yr degree to register now, but when I studied I only did a 2yr diploma. Counsellors don\'t diagnose (tho we may explore potential diagnoses if appropriate, but we are not trained in the DSM at all). Counsellors pretty much only do therapeutic work. \n\nSocial workers are very different to all of these. They are involved when there are issues around safety, security, housing, food, etc. They are far more about solving everyday living issues, rather than working with issues that require therapy. While most get trained in basic counselling skills, if they want to do therapy then they should really get some additional training. In my country you need to study for 4yrs to get a S/W degree.\n\nIf you made it to this point in my comment, go you! Keep in mind this is all based on how things work here.\n\nTLDR; they all do really different jobs. Read up about what those jobs look like where you live.\n\nMaybe think about who you want to help the most. You can also reach out to those working in the field to hear what it\'s like in action.\n\nPersonally, I love being a counsellor, I get paid decently, and I couldn\'t do any of the other jobs I listed as they just aren\'t me.\n\nEdit: also worth looking into what registration looks like for each of these roles. Make sure you pick a course that will lead you to registration, otherwise you\'ve wasted a ton of money on a worthless piece of paper.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-19T13:43:40', 'parent_id': 't3_gm6eqc'}, {'comment_id': 'fr50n21', 'author': 'prancypantsallnight', 'body': 'Licensed clinical social worker here. I am in the USA FWIW. I assess, diagnose, and treat mental illness. I can bill insurance companies and Medicare for my services. Like any other practitioner I need to stay within my scope ethically and that means if I have no training or experience treating a specific disorder I’d need to refer someone to someone who is competent. \n\nIf I get tired of being a therapist either for an agency or my own private practice I can work in MANY other jobs from child welfare to medical social work to school social work. It’s a very diverse degree! \n\nHope this helps and good luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-19T20:29:32', 'parent_id': 't3_gm6eqc'}, {'comment_id': 'fr942gh', 'author': 'CriticalDance7', 'body': 'that means a lot thank you so much! the one thing holding me back from pursuing psychiatry is i’m afraid of not being able to pass the MCAT. or so many years of school...  im afraid of failing:(', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-20T21:45:13', 'parent_id': 't1_fr4507h'}, {'comment_id': 'fr9454p', 'author': 'CriticalDance7', 'body': 'thank you so much!!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-05-20T21:45:48', 'parent_id': 't1_fr50n21'}]"
gm3967,2020-05-18T20:42:50,Requirements for QMHP in NC,"Trying to do research on the requirements to be a Qualified Mental Health Professional in the State of North Carolina, but I'm only getting results from 2013. Does anyone know if the requirements are the same, specifically that you must be a Certified Peer Support Specialist, and/or any info about NCI Certificifation as well? Sources are appreciated! 

Context: I have Bachelors in Psychology, and am starting a job in Direct support. I am curious about  what steps I need to make over the next 2 years to become a QMHP and move up in this career.",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/gm3967/requirements_for_qmhp_in_nc/,[]
g96c39,2020-04-27T23:57:12,Reluctance to telehealth?,"Hi all,

I'm an LMFT based in California with a specialty in anxiety. I typically receive about 1-2 new inquiries a week.

Given the crisis, I've switched my practice to telehealth, and have offered this as an option to these potential new inquiries. None have signed up. Given the many uncertainties around COVID, I'm worried about maintaining a healthy case load in the long-term.

Wondering if anyone has experienced something similar? Any luck getting new people to commit to telehealth-based therapy? Beyond technical difficulties and perhaps a less comfortable setting - what other reasons do you think there is hesitancy to begin therapy virtually?

Thanks so much for any insight you can offer!",MentalHealthProviders,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/g96c39/reluctance_to_telehealth/,"[{'comment_id': 'fotey8g', 'author': 'GM_Organism', 'body': ""Client perspective here. Three main points as to why I'm not engaging with telehealth, despite seeing my psych for years now and being very happy with her support/service at large. \n\n* I have (not very obvious) autism and one of the ways it manifests is in my reluctance to communicate over the phone or via videocall. By those mediums, I have to use a heavily-scripted persona, or I can't communicate at all. It's anxiety inducing and overwhelming. I absolutely cannot engage with psychology in that context. \n\n* Another factor is that it's much easier to speak openly/more objectively about my life when I'm removed from it. When I'm physically still in the spaces where I am experiencing my problems, it's much much more difficult for me to engage with curiosity/observation about them. I can't see the forest for the trees and I know it - not to mention I'm worried about being overheard by people I might need to talk about. \n\n* I'm also acutely aware that my current ongoing psych is partly so effective because of her ability to read my body and check how it matches up (or doesn't) with the words she and I are both saying. I feel very strongly that without that ability, she won't be nearly as effective.  Basically, I feel like she wouldn't be able to do her job properly with me without that set of in-person cues. \n\nTelehealth works for some people. I'm just not one of them. I think a lot of people inquiring about new support don't want to take the risk of engaging with mental health support and then frustratingly/expensively finding out telehealth won't work for them, either."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-28T11:02:52', 'parent_id': 't3_g96c39'}, {'comment_id': 'forphzz', 'author': 'ShneedlezKupo', 'body': ""Hello! I am a front office coordinator for a mental health practice in the US. We have about 10 in office therapists, and insurance was a pain but we managed to transition a lot of our current clients into virtual sessions for the time being. The inquiries are definitely not as frequent/flooded as they would have been before the pandemic, so I'm thinking people are preoccupied, maybe low on money and can't afford copays, and some clients have even just told me that telehealth doesn't sound like a comfortable setting (maybe technology distrust.) \nA few of our therapists set up the office to maintain the 6ft apart rule for people comfortable coming in. This has kept a somewhat steady balance, but I know our therapists are struggling a little bit and have a decent amount of availability that unfortunately isn't being filled very quickly.\n\nNot sure if this provides you with some comfort and insight! I know a few of our therapists also utilize BetterHelp, so that could be an option if you want to maintain social distancing for a while?\n\nHope this helps!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-28T01:07:02', 'parent_id': 't3_g96c39'}, {'comment_id': 'fs8o0i6', 'author': 'JulieJohnsonLPCC-S', 'body': 'I wonder where you are advertising and how you are advertising. Telehealth has been effective for years in the same respect as in person. My practice is very full for individuals and couples. Letting clients know they just need a private space and can even use their car in any location they choose. They can drive to a pretty place and use phone. Also it helps with a positive attitude speaking to clients that you feel it is effective and the safest choice. You can read body language, gather information from their background,  and insurance if you take it are waiving a lot of the client fees at this time which is also helpful for clients to understand.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-30T02:28:10', 'parent_id': 't3_g96c39'}, {'comment_id': 'fovrxz2', 'author': 'charlie1015', 'body': ""Thank you so much for this insight! Your reasoning makes a lot of sense to me, and I'm sure many others feel the same way. Appreciate your openness and hoping you can return to in-person sessions as soon as possible (if you aren't currently able to right now)."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-29T02:11:25', 'parent_id': 't1_fotey8g'}, {'comment_id': 'forwmke', 'author': 'charlie1015', 'body': ""Thank you! Super helpful. I agree that although telehealth is a fantastic tool during this time - I think some clients just don't trust the tech quite yet, especially with the news around Zoom not being secure (not that I use Zoom, but just this idea in general that video conferencing might not be private)."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-28T02:06:38', 'parent_id': 't1_forphzz'}]"
g8s8eo,2020-04-27T08:22:58,Question about CE credits,"I found a website called ""The National Child Traumatic Ttress Network"". They give Continuong Education Hours (CE credit) , and a printable certificate. I'm asking those who are in the field of mental health/social work this particular question.

I am trying to make myself look better on resumes. I'm in the process of getting my Associates in Addiction Studies, but want to add certificates on for potential employers to see. If I go onto that website and watch the videos/take the test, get the certificate, will that make me look better to potential employers? Or is it not worth it because I am not licensed at all yet.",MentalHealthProviders,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/g8s8eo/question_about_ce_credits/,"[{'comment_id': 'fopcqst', 'author': 'Mentalization', 'body': 'I would leave them off in general, but include them if you are trying for a spot which focuses on that subspecialty.\n\nCE are not high level discussion. I would not include them beyond your first job as they are not indicative of anything more than ""I saw/participated in a course"" unless they are  particularly noteworthy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-27T09:00:47', 'parent_id': 't3_g8s8eo'}]"
fzj9m0,2020-04-12T02:42:44,MSW student here,"Hi I'm studying the way that different generations access mental health resources and was hoping for yalls professional input. Would you be willing to take this quick survey? 

Thanks!

 [https://www.reddit.com/user/sapaja/draft/1c534f3c-7c38-11ea-ba32-8a051421b131](https://www.reddit.com/user/sapaja/draft/1c534f3c-7c38-11ea-ba32-8a051421b131)",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/fzj9m0/msw_student_here/,[]
ftr1ve,2020-04-02T23:27:08,Can't make up my mind on whether or not to enter the mental health field! Please give me your input,"Hello!

I am a 25 year old female currently in the field of Human Resources and I am as miserable as can be, therefore I've decided I need to start thinking about my next career goal. Though the pay is great (I'm at 60k at the age of 25) HR is just not for me, I hate the repetitive work, having to figure everything out for management and dealing with petty employee complaints. I have always been interested in the mental health field to the point I received my bachelors in psychology but didn't continue it because I thought HR was what I wanted to do. I am now at the point where I'm seriously considering entering the mental health field perhaps as a counselor due to my devotion to mental health and my interest in helping others. I've been through a few mental struggles myself, which I still deal with, and I truly have the desire to help those dealing with such challenges...Now the issue I keep running into is that I find ways to talk myself out of pursuing this field because all of the negative talk regarding the pay in this field. Any time I've done research on mental health counseling one of the top cons about the field is how low the pay is, to the point mental health counselors struggle to maintain themselves. I know this isn't a field one would go into to become rich which is not what I'm looking for but obviously one would want to be able to live through life without having to live paycheck to paycheck, especially after obtaining a masters degree. I honestly believe I'm scared of the pay cut simply because I've gotten used to the good wages in my current field. 

My question are:

\-are these low salaries truly accurate? 

\-Are all mental health counselors who first enter the field, paid such low wages?

\-Have you or anyone you know in this field been able to make a decent living?

I've shared some of my concerns with family and friends while venting to them about my struggle with my career path and of course they encourage me to go into the field because it's what I have a passion for and they've mentioned I could always find a second source of income perhaps through opening my own business. But I wanted to hear from those who are actually in the field, like you! Thank you for your help",MentalHealthProviders,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ftr1ve/cant_make_up_my_mind_on_whether_or_not_to_enter/,"[{'comment_id': 'fma3h1n', 'author': 'Micrenee', 'body': 'Pay definitely varies by state, and if you’re unionized. I was a mental health worker for 6.5 years, part of a union, and my pay upon leaving was $22/hr. I’d start as a per diem mental health worker if you’re not dependent on benefits. You get paid more hourly, and sometimes you get incentives. Also starting off with less hours might be beneficial to see if it’s something you’d like. It’s a tough job, but VERY much needed. Very rewarding, very draining physically and mentally. Definitely look into partial programs as well as inpatient! Let me know if you have any other questions, I’d be more than happy to answer! 😊', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T08:31:22', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fmawup4', 'author': 'redfox-_-', 'body': ""I live in New Zealand, so my experience may not match yours, but I thought I'd chip in :)\nThere are not a lot of counsellors that work full-time. Most work part-time for an agency or school, then many will also do private practice as well. Counselling is exhausting, particularly initially. \nI work in a high school in an wealthy-ish area full-time. I have my own m/h stuff and chronic fatigue that has flared up big time this year. Many weeks I wonder if I've bitten off more than I can chew.\nBut, I earn enough to be the sole income for my household (2 adults 1 child), renting a nice house. We live week to week, as I'm paying back a massive student loan and I don't get paid in the school holidays so we have to put money aside for those weeks.\nIn NZ I think to earn a decent wage from counselling you'd either have to work in a school/for crisis m/h services, or be epic at running your own private practice. There's plenty of agency work out there, but they don't tend to pay as well."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T16:19:28', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fm8tg47', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T00:58:21', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fm9iqie', 'author': 'therealslimsh4dyy', 'body': 'I’m a 26 yr old F. I work in Ontario, Canada in the Justice/mental health sector. I absolutely love my job! I can’t see myself doing anything else. There is tons of admin work to do and I spend a a lot of time in my office. However, the other half of my time is spent in the community meeting individuals at coffee shops for check-ins, house visits, in the prison, or supporting them in court. \n\nI have a degree in crim/psych and also a 1 year post graduate certificate in mental health & addictions. I had to work shitty jobs in human services (behavioural group homes and shelters) in order to build my resume and gain experience in the field to get to where I am now. Even though I now work in a professional role, I only make $26/hr. \n\nI have colleagues that make over 60k a year but they are in professional roles that took years of experience to get to. OR.. they have their masters and work in either hospital/prison/government. \n\nI hope this helps!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T04:49:22', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fm9cvxk', 'author': 'helpagirlout101', 'body': ""Thank you for you insight!\n\nAs far as the crossover with HR, I wouldn't have an issue with those things because it's not the focus of the work. Whereas in HR it is. My main dislike about HR is the employee relations portion where I'm having to listen to people complain about the silliest things and having to do a whole investigation and resolving it. As long as I don't have to that in counseling I'm ok haha. I know with counseling I would be listening to peoples problems but I doubt I would get irritated about someone talking about their trauma compared to an employee snitching on a coworker because they're stealing time :)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T03:52:49', 'parent_id': 't1_fm8tg47'}]"
fm7nja,2020-03-21T07:49:18,Needing resources,"I am a children’s mental health case manager, usually based in the schools, but the recent closing of schools and now my company having us work from home and do televideo appointments because of COVID-19. I’m doing this until further notice, but I’m slightly at a loss on how to keep kids engaged in appointments. Usually we would do a workbook, then crafts/games, or even homework while we talk. I have the workbooks that I need for kids, but I want to continue to make the appointments entertaining for the them, but I am not sure how to do this over video. Would anybody be able to give me advice or resources to use to keep kids engaged and entertained through out however many weeks I have to do this? Anything is appreciated.",MentalHealthProviders,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/fm7nja/needing_resources/,"[{'comment_id': 'fl3py5o', 'author': 'Bandaid74', 'body': 'https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/podcast/0159-online-play-therapy-2/\n\nAnd look up tele-play therapy on facebook. \n\nI’m on this learning curve too!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T18:12:24', 'parent_id': 't3_fm7nja'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3q4d8', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'Not sure what platform your boss is having you use but this telesessions platform has a lot of options for children like interactive white boards, screen sharing (for work pages etc), it has built in games. \n\nhttps://www.theraplatform.com/features/hipaa-compliant-video-conferencing\n\nHowever if that’s not an option maybe speaking to the parents before hand to get items ready for the therapy appointment. Like play doh or certain games etc. also utilize https://www.therapistaid.com/ for online worksheets. \n\nNot sure if it’s too late for this but maybe seeing if you or a few clinicians can stop by your office and create therapy packages that the parents can pick up so the kids are ready for their sessions. These packages can have clay or colored pencils or paints or worksheet or whatever in them. Parents were doing that last week picking up school supplies for kids doing distance learning. \n\nJust a few ideas.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T18:15:14', 'parent_id': 't3_fm7nja'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3xmyu', 'author': 'Chelsea0027', 'body': 'Thank you!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:00:36', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3py5o'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3xswu', 'author': 'Chelsea0027', 'body': 'Thank you! I appreciate it! It’s something In our company that we have never had to do before, our options are Zoom, Skype, or FaceTime, so we are kind of limited on what we can actually do to interact other than just the video feed.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:02:36', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3q4d8'}, {'comment_id': 'fl7486o', 'author': 'Bandaid74', 'body': 'Found something else...psychologist sharing how she preps for online \n\n\nhttps://youtu.be/kmZJdC0eTbc', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-22T21:47:51', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3xmyu'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3xzpx', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'I think zoom and Skype offer screen sharing so if you have any materials on the computer you can share it with them.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:04:50', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3xswu'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3y1xk', 'author': 'Chelsea0027', 'body': 'Oh great! I will have to experiment with it a little more!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:05:35', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3xzpx'}]"
f64nkz,2020-02-19T09:10:36,Aspiring Counselor afraid to take first steps,"Hello everyone!

I have been out of school for 10yrs, have a BA in Sociology, and experience with various populations, (from toddlers to geriatrics). I know I want to pursue a career in counseling (wanting to 1st become a licensed clinical mental health counselor and then get my PsyD), but I have been told it is a dead end after the masters and the only way to be successful is to get your PsyD directly, which carries a lot of debt. Getting my MSW would be a ""better idea"" , a ""sure thing"", and is ""practically the same"", but I am not buying it....but maybe I should? 

I would really appreciate some insight into the process and what I am really getting myself into (and if anyone wanted to be a mentor...I would be estatic!). 

Thank you and I look forward to hearing insight from anyone willing to share!",MentalHealthProviders,1,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/f64nkz/aspiring_counselor_afraid_to_take_first_steps/,"[{'comment_id': 'fi4sv3p', 'author': 'prancypantsallnight', 'body': 'Here is an idea-get an MSW, do the clinical hours for an LCSW, then if you want later go back for the PsyD. I have an MSW and am an independently licensed therapist (LCSW) and have considered going back for a PsyD but ultimately decided it’s not worth it for me (I’d rather engage in hobbies than go back to school—and it won’t make me feel more competent, just add more income and debt). If you decide the PsyD is your journey then go for it. If you don’t you have an MSW and can do therapy, be a school social worker, do discharge planning, or any number of career paths.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T02:59:20', 'parent_id': 't3_f64nkz'}, {'comment_id': 'fi5i52l', 'author': 'Brina388', 'body': 'Thank you!!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T07:24:05', 'parent_id': 't3_f64nkz'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3qp67', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'Not sure if you still want replies to this but I’m a LMHC. And planning on getting a PsyD. I think first you need to evaluate why you want the PsyD. I was just reading an article about this a few weeks ago. But basically if you want to do counseling a masters level is sufficient. I may be partial but I really prefer mental health counseling degrees over MSW if you definitely want to be just a therapist. A MSW prepares you to be a social worker and yes there are some counseling courses but a degree in counseling is all about counseling. Going back to the PsyD, the article I was reading basically said that doctorates are expensive and unless you want to be a professor, do extensive research or do psychological testing the ROI won’t be there. If you get your masters in mental in counseling then you can work right away and get your clinical hours, sit for your national licensing exam, get your license and then go back to school for a PsyD. Or don’t go back to school and live a great life as an LMHC.\n\nSo why do you want your PsyD?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T18:24:24', 'parent_id': 't3_f64nkz'}, {'comment_id': 'fi4xuxo', 'author': 'Brina388', 'body': 'Wait wait wait wait wait....hold up....this is a game changer right here\n\nYou are telling me that I can go for my MSW, get clinical hours...and then go for my PsyD!? Will I need to take some filler classes? Do universities usually accept that...an MSW to get a PsyD?\n\nIf this is so....I am doing it! I thought you could only get a PsyD with counseling or psychology!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T03:47:33', 'parent_id': 't1_fi4sv3p'}, {'comment_id': 'fi58z3k', 'author': 'prancypantsallnight', 'body': 'I’m sure it depends on the PsyD program but the one I looked at—Western Kentucky University—also takes related master’s degrees AKA the MSW. So I’d say look at the program(s) where you plan to apply.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T05:43:43', 'parent_id': 't1_fi4xuxo'}]"
esnwqn,2020-01-23T09:36:24,I believe they are grouping lots of different counseling degrees under the umbrella of psychology. The salary ranges make me sad though.,,MentalHealthProviders,0,0,https://i.redd.it/v03q0ncuv7c41.jpg,[]
e7gucb,2019-12-07T22:41:19,Insurance billing question,For those who bill health insurance. When you see a couple in therapy do you bill both of their insurances or one insurance?,MentalHealthProviders,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/e7gucb/insurance_billing_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'fa0ngz2', 'author': 'k8e6897', 'body': 'You only bill one plan, if you bill both it would be technically double billing and umm illegal haha. Just speak with the couple about what plan they would want to bill. Cheers!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-12-08T03:58:15', 'parent_id': 't3_e7gucb'}, {'comment_id': 'fpktxc9', 'author': 'hard8hopping', 'body': ""If you saw them both in a session, that would be correctly billed as one family therapy session using CPT code 90847. If you saw each of them sequentially, one session each, then you would bill each for 90834 or 90837 depending upon the session length, although many therapists may say you shouldn't see both individually and as a couple. For a married couple, you should always inquire if they have separate policies and which is the primary insurance for each. The insurers care very much about you billing the primary first and then the secondary for what was not covered by the primary."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-05T23:19:33', 'parent_id': 't3_e7gucb'}, {'comment_id': 'faey059', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'I bill one person now but I had a disagreement with a social worker at an insurance company about this, which to me sounded like double billing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-12-11T02:11:40', 'parent_id': 't1_fa0ngz2'}, {'comment_id': 'fpkx9sx', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'Thanks. Mainly I was asking because I got into a bit of a back and forth with a health insurance quality insurance person about this. Unmarried couple, see them as a couple but bill HIS insurance which is a different insurance company than HERS. She has Medicaid managed plan and they do random quality assurance audits and one of his critiques is that I wasn’t billing couples sessions even though I say in the notes that state that certain issues were addressed in couples. I don’t want to argue with the insurance QA person but he was being ridiculous. When they do these audits they pick sometimes a 3 -6 month time frame of session notes and treatment plans etc but where it said couples treatment was being billed under his insurance was in notes before the period they were asking for. Therapeutically it made sense to meet with her individually and also in couples. So I was billing her 90834/90837 and billing him the 90847s. QA guy was being stubborn and refusing to back down about how couples therapy was indicated and why wasn’t I seeing her in couples, even when I told him I was just not using her insurance. So I wanted to make sure I wasn’t missing something.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-05-05T23:47:11', 'parent_id': 't1_fpktxc9'}]"
e5as89,2019-12-03T08:53:40,Practitioner who works with Veterans,"If this allowed, please delete. 

I am in search of someone to interview for a class that works with veterans. Specifically in the mental health area. Thank you!",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/e5as89/practitioner_who_works_with_veterans/,[]
d8fr4e,2019-09-24T06:17:14,Both sides of the couch,I am currently a social worker that works at an alternative school with high schoolers with social emotional needs. My job can be exhausting just as all of ours can be. The thing I’m wondering is if anyone else out there also faces current challenges of their own mental illness. I am currently in therapy and on medications and have been for many years. I have been hospitalized multiple times in the past and still face urges. My challenge is going to work every day and having to hide that from everyone. It is so hard to sit across from a student and basically say to as I say not as I do. I love my job and it keeps me going but at the same time it is hard to be on both sides of the couch. Does anyone else face this challenge and what do you do?,MentalHealthProviders,6,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/d8fr4e/both_sides_of_the_couch/,"[{'comment_id': 'f1cchcp', 'author': 'MiladyBanana', 'body': 'I call myself a ‘hybrid model’, working in mental health but with my own significant diagnoses.  Luckily, I work in a place where (appropriate) disclosure is valued, so I speak about my experiences frequently with clients.  I think that it is very important for folks with mental illness to see examples of people who are doing well in life, to help break down the stigma and stereotypes about what a person with a diagnosis can/can’t  accomplish.  I am open about the fact that I am still symptomatic, but consider myself to be in recovery because I keep looking for ways to improve my self, and my ability to function effectively in life.  I have had to develop excellent boundaries, because I don’t want clients feeling like they need to focus on me once they know my story, and also to keep my disclosure in the helpful realm instead of crossing the line into disclosure to meet my own needs.  \n\nI do find it difficult when my symptoms are really acting up, and I’m with clients whose current issues are either very minor, or have been unchanged for years.  In those moments, my compassion and empathy are quite tested.  So far, I’ve managed to keep it professional even while struggling.  \n\nI’m just now returning to work after a 2 month leave of absence for mental health reasons.  I’ve told the clients why I was off, and encouraged their empathetic responses.  They know that I’m not okay yet, but I’m okay enough to do my job.  I’ve been using my most recent experience to open dialogues about post-crisis planning, and preparing the way for their own transitions back into recovery after an episode.  \n\n It definitely isn’t easy being a hybrid model, but I think that we offer a lot to the field, in perspective, in practical coping strategies, and in role modelling recovery.  Keep up the good work, even if there are some extra squishy moments that get in the way!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-09-25T01:21:44', 'parent_id': 't3_d8fr4e'}, {'comment_id': 'f1cpg5o', 'author': 'journey83', 'body': 'Thank you so much for your input... I like the idea of hybrid model. I wish I could disclose information because I do think it would be helpful to the students. I also wish I could let my supervisor know that I am going through a hard time but in the past that has back fired on me and I ended up having to leave my job because I was targeted for having a mental illness so i am afraid and don’t want to take the chance especially since I am a mental health provider now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-09-25T03:33:47', 'parent_id': 't1_f1cchcp'}, {'comment_id': 'f1cur6q', 'author': 'MiladyBanana', 'body': 'It s definitely risky to disclose.  I chose to get extensive training in peer support strategies before I approached my manager about using disclosure as part of my therapeutic work.  The peer support training is largely about safe and helpful disclosure of self to help others, something that is either not taught in most therapeutic degrees, or is actively discouraged.  \n\nDisclosing to supervisors is risky too.  I was the first openly diagnosed employee, but since then, others have come forward.  I have never been targeted at work, but I have been rejected post-interview from jobs that I was qualified for because I refuse to cover my healed scars (which is kinda illegal in the human rights anti-discrimination for disabilities arena).  My strategy is to be spectacular at my job, so that the minor detail of me being somewhat fucked up is less important than having a great employee!  If disclosure is something you want to explore, maybe try looking at your employer’s non-discrimination policies, and ask around to see what other people’s experiences have been with identifying themselves as someone with a disability (physical or mental health).  We definitely need more champions of awesomeness in the workplace, but it’s a big scary undertaking to be the first...  not a task that’s a good fit for everyone.  My struggles are visible on my skin, and I’m comfortable explaining how they came to be, so I figured I might as well be a stigma buster (also I have a big stupid mouth and I would have said something sooner or later to challenge people’s outdated comments).  One of my favourite things now, is doing guest lectures for med students and health professionals - halfway through, I’ll out myself and the looks on their faces are priceless!  \n\nYou do what’s right for you, and do it phenomenally!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-09-25T04:36:28', 'parent_id': 't1_f1cpg5o'}]"
cjpgf4,2019-07-30T15:15:51,"FREE Telepractice Webinar, Sat 8/3","Hi all! I'm a SLP working exclusively in telepractice. I see a huge increase in mental health providers serving online. This delivery model has huge potential, but I've seen there is still a huge gap between great tech and great therapy.   


So, to help others who may be in the same boat and want to learn more about telepractice, check out my **free** webinar next Saturday, August 3rd at 9:00 EST. We'll go over getting started in tele, how to find clients and contracts, and even how you may think about starting your own business.

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c38sc5,2019-06-21T15:38:58,Has anyone worked with youths at a mental health institute?,"I've received an opportunity to work with youths overnight at a mental health institute and was curious if anyone else has done the same and what their experiences were.

I've never worked with kids or anyone for that matter. (except for my siblings) so Im interested on what usually takes place.",MentalHealthProviders,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/c38sc5/has_anyone_worked_with_youths_at_a_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'erpjepg', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'I was an inpatient counselor for children and adolescents. Worked with kids 3-19, but most typically 10-17.\n\nI guess the biggest suggestions I have are:  keep a sense of humor, learn to be flexible, don’t get into power battles, maintain good boundaries. \n\nI’d be happy to answer any specific questions, feel free to PM.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-06-21T17:49:47', 'parent_id': 't3_c38sc5'}, {'comment_id': 'est38jz', 'author': 'BHCSLlc', 'body': ""I have been working with children/adolescents the past 10 years (ages 3 and up). I am a therapist and I specialize in trauma therapy for children. \n\nDefinitely keep a sense of humor.  Be open minded as you can learn so much through a child's eyes. You do not always need to have an answer. Allowing anyone to tell their story, can be therapeutic in itself. They think it, they speak it and they then hear their own words out loud. That's 3 times rapidly they processed the information in just moments. They begin to hear their own stories and process more than they even realize. Use their humor to help when needed and appreciate.  You will be amazed at what a child can teach an adult as long as you are open to hearing their story.  One last thing, do not take their pain and make it your own. This is their journey and as providers, we can try to move debris out of the path and eluminate their path to make it more bearable to travel. But ultimately, it is their journey to learn from. You will be amazed."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-04T23:02:46', 'parent_id': 't3_c38sc5'}]"
bpxkx8,2019-05-18T03:49:36,Not sure how to handle this therapist?,"So a new therapist I was planning to see (who is also a coworker) I know, I shouldn't have scheduled with her. However she seemed different, and claimed she was not like other therapists. She incorporates spiritual and other things into her practice. However, when I originally scheduled with her I expressed I was having issues with my husband, I provided a brief explanation and she immediately sent me pictures of ""symptoms of codependancy"". Now - We have been in therapy, and I have a therapist, and the therapist currently has never said anything about this. Me and my husband have even talked about very honestly if we're codependant. No one else has ever said this about us. She does not even know the entire story, and started to ""diagnose"". That was a red flag but I let it go. 

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A week later, on her facebook she posted a VERY inflammatory article (very far on one side of political spectruum - abortion etc) on her facebook. Now, I should not have reacted, but I did. I commented on it sort of saying, how I felt articles like this cause division etc. NOW - REGARDLESS of my opinion, a therapist, posting something like this? I don't know. It is a free country. But it was inflammatory. The conversation got a bit weird, and she ended up saying something a long the lines of:

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""As someone who has been raped etc, I feel (insert opinion here).""

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I became ENRAGED and very upset, as I have been raped, and have a past history of abuse with more than one incident. I backed out of the conversation because I felt myself becoming angry.

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She told me she hoped I healed and found peace, and that it was good of me to speak out on hard issues, after bringing up not only 1 inflammatory article, but a triggering issue such as abuse.

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Later, I see a post she makes on her own facebook along the lines of:

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With all the fighting on facebook lately (insert rant about not fighting, not projecting issues, etc)

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Now my question here is. How do I handle someone, who has not only completely turned a situation around on someone who has a differing opinion, who is also a therapist, and who I have an upcoming appointment with! I want to cancel it. I don't feel comfortable around her now at all. I also do NOT want a therapist who posts inflammatory articles, and then later gets on a soap box about the fighting that was created by her own choice to post something inflammatory?

Also, my boss liked and put hearts by all her comments, disregarded mine (fine we all have different points of view, right?) and now my boss today is on my case about work related issues that previously were never a problem. I feel extremely uncomfortable and unwelcome..This seems all unprofessional and weird.

I KNOW I'm not perfect. But this just seems like a messed up situation.",MentalHealthProviders,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/bpxkx8/not_sure_how_to_handle_this_therapist/,"[{'comment_id': 'enyupki', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'Wow, there are so many boundary violations across the board here, it’s challenging to unpack. Did your supervisor approve this therapist treating you prior to your first session? Have you addressed the social media disagreement in person?  \n\nI’d also suggest making sure you’re maintaining healthy boundaries with your own clients, given the bending of pretty hard and fast lines.', 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T04:53:49', 'parent_id': 't3_bpxkx8'}, {'comment_id': 'ev91x7r', 'author': 'littlefunman', 'body': ""She doesn't even sound like she would be a good friend, let alone a therapist. Walk away, she is toxic"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-28T13:45:18', 'parent_id': 't3_bpxkx8'}, {'comment_id': 'f5r07wy', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Her post on Facebook is a violation of being aware enough to treat others. Never speak to her again, your boss is also equally an idiot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-10-30T03:22:43', 'parent_id': 't3_bpxkx8'}, {'comment_id': 'enyyd01', 'author': 'BeautifulDisaster69', 'body': 'Thanks for the input, I will try and address these issues. To be clear I am not a mental health provider. I was looking for input from them as I felt it is all unprofessional.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T05:36:17', 'parent_id': 't1_enyupki'}, {'comment_id': 'enyzlx5', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'Thanks for clarifying. It makes a little more sense why you’d consent to seeing this therapist. It also makes sense why you don’t have a background in the ethics of boundaries. \n\nHer agreeing to take you on in the first place as a client was very inappropriate. If the supervisor knew, it’s even more problematic. I know the Facebook banter may be upsetting you more than these initial boundary violations, however these are exactly what created the vulnerable situation you’ve now put yourself into. \n\nIt’s not ethical to be social media friends with clients. It is unethical to share client information with others in a public arena. This should never have even happened - why? You never should have been a client and/OR a friend on social media. \n\nNow, past all of that. Sure, we have the ability to speak our political opinions on social media and engage with peoples who we disagree. This type discourse is NOT appropriate in a client/therapist relationship. \n\nYou’ve said you have been in therapy. Please continue with the previous therapist or find a new one. Discontinue working with your coworker as a provider. I’d suggest keeping it professional and short, especially since you’re employed there. \n\nDepending on how uncomfortable you are, you might want to speak with HR or other supervising clinical staff.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T05:50:52', 'parent_id': 't1_enyyd01'}, {'comment_id': 'enz0f7t', 'author': 'BeautifulDisaster69', 'body': ""Thanks! Yes I have not seen her yet. I will tell her it is inappropriate. I actually mentioned it was a concern of mine and she said it was fine. We don't have an HR rep at my work I don't believe. it is a small family owned business. Any issue is addressed with my boss. I am intimidated by her but that is my own issue. I deactivated my facebook because I simply don't know how to handle any of this right now. Everyone is friends on facebook. They all have different opinions than me, every since we joined facebook the treatment is definitely not the same. I don't feel welcome anymore. I would rather just not have facebook. I don't want to delete them all because they will get offended. they got offended when other people who used to work there deleted them. maybe it is just dysfunctional in general."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T06:00:31', 'parent_id': 't1_enyzlx5'}, {'comment_id': 'enz19zv', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'From what you’ve written, dysfunctional sounds to be a fitting description. \n\nI’d suggest if they ask, keep it brief. “I deactivated my account.”  Why? “Decided to take a break from social media.”  \n\n“I’m seeing my previous therapist.”  Why?  “I think there are some confusing boundaries in seeing a coworker for treatment.”  \n\nGood luck.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T06:10:44', 'parent_id': 't1_enz0f7t'}]"
bilydl,2019-04-29T11:14:12,"I'm flabbergasted by this facility, input needed.","Ok, so 1, here's my reddit post cherry, and 2. Omfg I don't even know. 

So, I work at a residential facility for the mentally ill,  primarily bi-polar and schizophrenic blah blah blah. I've been here for 2 years, with the prior 10 years being in SNF and after 2 years I still can't believe what is allowed and just wondering if this is the norm. 

Client 1: 21 year old schizophrenic and mild autism and bipolar.  While working on his independent living skills goals, he decides he doesn't want to do them and instead tells, screams, says he's hearing voices (which only pop up when he doesn't want to do something) starts looking for a knife,  can't find one and leaves facility grounds to go ""run in traffic"". Now my training tells me to provide him a safe environment,  KEEP HIM ON GROUNDS, remove harmful items, and wait for him to calm down then return to the task.... NOPE. I get nagged out by the admin for it. ""Just let him go, he'll be back. You just finish the task so its done""... what?... wtf... 

My problems with this are 
1. He has just voiced sucidal ideology, if he gets hit by a car then isn't the facility liable? 
2. Isn't this just teaching him that if he throws a fit when he doesn't want to do something, then he won't have to do it (this is not an isolated issue)
And 3. How does that teach independent skills?

Repeat the basics of the scenario for 13 clients... nothing is standardized,  staff are allowed to follow/not follow protocol when it suits them, clients are allowed to do whatever. Is this the norm? Because if it is omg no wonder there's a mental health crisis. 

We have a meeting every other week, with our next being this Friday. Any pointers you higher level mental health workers can provide? Thanks in advance.",MentalHealthProviders,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/bilydl/im_flabbergasted_by_this_facility_input_needed/,"[{'comment_id': 'enm89nu', 'author': 'misbri0509', 'body': 'I know this post is older but I have been having somewhat the same issue with outpatient clients. One of the things I’m considering is contacting state politicians about mental health in my community. But another thing I started doing is keeping a “grievance book” \nThe structure of my book (a regular notebook)\n1)time / date\n2)person(s) who causes issues/grievance\n3)direct quotes\n\nThen if you feel like things are serious like unethical contact the state to run an investigation. You should be able to do this anonymously.\n\nA less severe this to do is to look of the laws. Which you should find on the Department of Health site for your area. \nPs DO NOT TELL ANYONE ABOUT YOUR GRIEVANCE BOOK. My mom taught me this she worked for Chicago police department and she had one and someone broke into her locker at work and stole it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-15T19:24:19', 'parent_id': 't3_bilydl'}, {'comment_id': 'eohgfcw', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""This can be the norm depending on the provider, but it more just sounds like the provider you're working for is lazy. \n\nIf companies have it in their policy that they will intervene to protect from imminent danger, then they must. However, companies can have a complete hands off policy and if that's the case then the provider can actually get in trouble for laying hands on the individual.\n\nYou should check your company's policy on this as well as the individuals programming. If they're not doing what it says, you should report them and you cannot be punished for that."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T08:38:23', 'parent_id': 't3_bilydl'}, {'comment_id': 'eoihm62', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""The office of ombudsmen would be a good way to go about it or just call the Common entry point to make a verbal report. I think you should just follow what's written. They can get mad at you for it all they want but they can't fire you for following policy. Also, family run organizations like that are a nightmare. Id suggest getting out."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T19:28:11', 'parent_id': 't3_bilydl'}, {'comment_id': 'eohr9nh', 'author': 'ajkennedy330', 'body': 'The written policy is that each client will have a behavior intervention plan within their IPP, where a verbal prompt will be given 3 times, then the BIP will be initiated. \n\nThe verbal policy is ""that\'s too much paper work to track, just do your best.\n\nThe IPP\'s are literally copies of each other through the clients, just describing the resident rights restrictions. (I work tomorrow night, I\'ll post a redacted photo so you can see what I mean) if it wasn\'t for the names, you wouldn\'t be able to tell which client their for.\n\nIt\'s a small company where the Administrator is also the president/CEO, his brother is the treasurer,  and their mother is a founding member... \n\nHonestly it wouldn\'t be so bad if 1. The Administrator was actually there to deal with the clients, 2. He didn\'t change his mind every week, and 3. If we didn\'t get in trouble for doing the thing he told us to do the week before. \n\nWho do you call to report this type of thing? Is that to the state abundsman?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T11:07:33', 'parent_id': 't1_eohgfcw'}, {'comment_id': 'eoijrk5', 'author': 'ajkennedy330', 'body': ""I'll give them a call.\n\nAnd I can't follow what's written,  because there are no BIPs written. The care coordinator doesn't right them, she just plays ok her phone all day. (BTW,  she used to date the Administrator for 10+ years. He's still trying to get back with her)"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T19:50:43', 'parent_id': 't1_eoihm62'}, {'comment_id': 'eok7sa9', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Ish. That's a bad situation. Definitely report them."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-24T03:25:07', 'parent_id': 't1_eoijrk5'}]"
bhitz0,2019-04-26T11:17:23,Applying for a job for a psychiatric hospital when you have a diagnosis of mental illness?,"I’m hoping this is ok to post in here, but I have always been really fascinated with the field, my mother was admitted a few times to a psych ward and every time I visited, it would just reaffirm my interest in it all.

I’m looking to apply for a mental health aide trainee position, however I did come across the disclaimer of a health exam which included a psych exam to see if I had anything that would prevent me from being able to perform the job.

I do have bipolar type 2, anxiety, and AADHD. However I have been been under a psychiatrists care for about 2 years now and she states all are stable and under control with the treatment plan I’m on.

I have never been hospitalized, taken to CPEP, or anything of the sort. I just wanted to take care of myself and seek treatment to better myself.

Should I still apply? Anyone have better insight on what they look for to make someone unqualified? Surely that since I have proactively taken care of my own mental health without any hospitalizations, etc... would be something to consider as a reason not to reject me, right? Or is it too much of a risk to take?",MentalHealthProviders,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/bhitz0/applying_for_a_job_for_a_psychiatric_hospital/,"[{'comment_id': 'eltcgam', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'I don’t know how they could possibly use that against an applicant, that is super discriminatory if they’d use your medical history against you. I work at an inpatient forensic psych hospital and we had no such requirement in the hiring process. In fact, I’m convinced a good number of our employees do have severe mental illness, but I digress', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T12:41:16', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'eltziy7', 'author': 'twocats83', 'body': ""I've worked as a mental health nurse, had to quit as my bipolar symptoms was getting in way of work. Took me a while to learn how to manage my illness. \nI'm taking a return to nursing course this autumn.\n\nIn your case, working with occupational health and HR is a good idea.  \n\nIf I can do it, you can do it. All best.\n\nPost in r/bipolar for more advice."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T19:49:48', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'elw48js', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I worked in a psych hospital and I have bipolar. Wasn’t a big deal.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-27T09:57:43', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'eohgv1v', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Apply for the job. Those exams aren't to weed out people with mental illnesses. If they were, there would be a lot less people in the field. Good luck!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T08:43:48', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'epwp16m', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I work at a psych hospital and have plenty of co-workers with mental illnesses! It would be completely wrong for the hospital to deny you a job BECAUSE of your mental illness, so I say GO FOR IT!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-06-03T22:30:56', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'est4ro7', 'author': 'BHCSLlc', 'body': ""Definitely apply! You are not your diagnosis.  You did not ask to have this mental illness. From the sounds of it, you are perfectly fit to get this position. Never let your diagnosis gender your wants, your dreams and so on. You sound like you have been doing all the right things to take care of yourself (kudos to you!) The psych exam will ask the same questions in a different way to check for consistency,  to ensure you're being truthful. It is not to see if you have a mental health disorder or what kind. I can see why that would make you nervous when not knowing the purpose of this exam. But not to worry, you will be fine! Good luck to you on getting the job!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-04T23:13:25', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'eltnt32', 'author': 'anewvogue', 'body': 'Yeah, it may be because it’s a NY state job rather than a privately run establishment? I’m not sure.  I would be looking at taking a pay cut for the first year from my current job but in turn I’d be getting infertility benefits of 50,000 so it’s really tempting. I’m not sure if you could answer this but there is the hiring rate for a MHTA trainee then there are steps 1-6 and then finally job rate.... but after a year you go to the rate of a MHTA classification which also has steps 1-6 and then job rate.... how do these steps work? Is it like a progressive raise?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T17:05:59', 'parent_id': 't1_eltcgam'}, {'comment_id': 'eltnvg0', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'I’m not sure, my job is a state job. Even though it’s a privately run establishment, your mental health status is a federally protected thing and they can’t base hiring decisions off of that', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T17:07:22', 'parent_id': 't1_eltnt32'}]"
b9zc81,2019-04-06T07:04:28,Mental Health job question,I just applied to a job that is for a non-profit healthcare place and I don't understand what the job is. What is an Associate clinician? I can't find it anywhere on google. Is it like a Mental Health Clinician?,MentalHealthProviders,3,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/b9zc81/mental_health_job_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'ek80szj', 'author': 'lilythenoodlebabby', 'body': 'What did the job description say? Seems like a really broad job title so I would think the description should offer some much more specific insight.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T07:36:00', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek934ri', 'author': 'KeatonJazz3', 'body': 'It sounds like they are referring to a clinician who is not yet licensed but has graduated with a Masters and has an intern #.   Call the clinical manager/supervisor/ or Director  and ask questions about the job.  If you can meet with them for an informational interview, that would be great.   Most managers who are hiring would be delighted to talk to,potentially interested candidates.   You can clarify what associate refers to, salary range or where to find it, etc.   Prepare 3-4 good questions, not too many, since people are busy.   Good luck, from a clinical manager at a county mental health. ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T21:05:03', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek86r62', 'author': 'misbri0509', 'body': 'Make sure the company has mobility. I work in community mental health, my pay is low but I’m suppose to get a raise every year. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T09:12:16', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek8xf92', 'author': 'SociologyHill', 'body': ""There's also the opportunity to get mentoring and increased supervision if it's a a small agency. Could be a good place to sharpen your skills before trying to apply somewhere else "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T19:42:52', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek81c8m', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""The description is this: Will be responsible for general daily care of program individuals. Provides counseling and advocacy in therapeutic setting assisting young adult through geriatric individuals with chronic mental illness and co-occurring disorders, achieve social, economic, emotional, and personal independence in order to live in the community.\n\nI'm trying to look up the salary because they don't post it, but I can't find it anywhere."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T07:43:46', 'parent_id': 't1_ek80szj'}, {'comment_id': 'eka52ik', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""Huh. It says the only requirements are a bachelors degree. I don't have a Masters and I don't plan on going to get one for awhile. Thanks for the assistance. I'll be sure to ask some very good questions."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-07T05:34:31', 'parent_id': 't1_ek934ri'}, {'comment_id': 'ek88rvl', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""From what I'm reading in reviews there isn't much mobility or getting raises. It seems to be an improvement in pay on my current job if my research is correct."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T09:49:43', 'parent_id': 't1_ek86r62'}, {'comment_id': 'eka5795', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""It's a non-profit and it has locations in different states. Delaware, Massachusetts, Rhode Island. I can't tell how big it is, but they have been around since 1975. So they are well based at least."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-07T05:36:29', 'parent_id': 't1_ek8xf92'}, {'comment_id': 'ek83aja', 'author': 'lilythenoodlebabby', 'body': ""It sounds like a counseling position for a newer mental health clinician to me. If you meet minimum requirements and have the opportunity to interview I'm sure you'll have the opportunity to get clarification. I'd follow up by looking in-depth at the website and services they provide to get a better idea of things.\n\nYou can probably expect the pay to be low(ish) but if you're needing experience it'll probably be an opportunity to challenge yourself quite a bit!"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T08:13:46', 'parent_id': 't1_ek81c8m'}, {'comment_id': 'eka6ex0', 'author': 'SociologyHill', 'body': 'My agency is part of a state network and has been around for a while but we have plenty of room for growth and progression. Maybebtrybtobfeelnitbiutbin an interview. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-07T05:52:40', 'parent_id': 't1_eka5795'}, {'comment_id': 'ek84uky', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""Yes! I have the opportunity to interview and I've researched the company. The reviews say low pay, but honestly it can't be worse than what I'm making as a sales person that doesn't make commission."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T08:39:41', 'parent_id': 't1_ek83aja'}]"
b8le5h,2019-04-02T21:53:51,The importance of holding space for people with suicidal thoughts...,,MentalHealthProviders,4,0,https://youtu.be/xg-pIN0o6NA,[]
azyppl,2019-03-12T02:30:32,Hi! Looking for info?,"Hello! I am currently a third year undergrad working towards a bachelors in psychology. I am hoping to get some info on working in the field (or be pointed to a better fitting sub). 

I have struggles with mental health issues, myself, for years and as a result I have quite a few scars on my forearms (these are the ones visible to all when I wear t-shirts or scrubs without long sleeves underneath). I was wondering if anyone could tell me of any experiences or tips for working in the mental health field as a Psych Tech or in a hospital or as a crisis management worker with these scars? Is it going to be a big deal or a dealbreaker for future employers? If anyone has personal experience, how it has been handled by both patients and employers/coworkers? 

I would appreciate literally ANY input here :) ",MentalHealthProviders,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/azyppl/hi_looking_for_info/,"[{'comment_id': 'ejs1w1r', 'author': 'Johnny_Carsonogen', 'body': ""A bit different, but similar enough where I believe I can help. \n\nI'm graduating in May with my bachelors in psych and am scheduled to take the GREs this summer, and ultimately plan on attending a PsyD program next fall. I am currently working as a mental health tech in an inpatient mental health hospital (which isn't my desired field of a career, but it does itch that 'helping others' bug and I gain experience with some of the population I want to research later on). \n\nAny way, I don't have self inflicted scars on my arms, but I do have tattoos and have a scar from the war that I want to keep hidden as well, so I wear sleeves. Its policy to cover any tattoos, and I'd rather not have to explain my tattoos, nor my scar, to every patient and coworker. I run hot so I found these arm sleeves on Amazon. \n\nI recommend getting dark colored ones as the lighter color arm sleeves are pretty transparent. \n\nSelf harm scars can be triggering to patients. We had a patient who was on 1:1 (having a tech or nurse with them at all times) for 3 months, even though we are a short term facility, because the patient couldn't stop from hurting themselves. Sadly, the voices told the patient that if they didn't repeatedly hurt themselves and pick reopen the healing wounds, the patient's mother would die. One day the patient say the self harm scars on another patient and it was very triggering. Patient tried to self harm more that day than any other. \n\nBut, as long as you have long sleeves or at least your arms are covered, it is ok. And your employer doesn't have to know about your past or your scars. \n\nThat is, of course, as long as you are not in mental distress. Especially in inpatient mental health, many patients are difficult, antagonistic, and downright shitty. What makes it worse is that, in many cases, it isn't their fault either. It's not always like the movies or the way we think it'll be. We have a few patients now that are so far beyond delusional that every day is a struggle and is very stressful. One minute they love you for helping them and listening to them, and the next, you are the worst person in the world because they KNOW you caused their relationship to end or that you are the reason the world is falling apart and that you control the voices in their head. It takes a toll on you. \n\nJust wanted to put that part in because when I started, I had no idea it would be like that. Figured there would be a few here and there that would test my empathy, but it happens a lot sometimes. \n\nThen there are the amazing patients who truly care about getting better and love you for your good work. And then, the most delusional patient finally has the read medications and they can see and act clearly. Those are the most rewarding cases. \n\nI know I got a bit off topic but I think it is very important to emphasize this part of working in such a hands on field of mental health tech/counseling. Good luck, and just keep your wits about you and maintain self care. "", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-03-31T07:39:34', 'parent_id': 't3_azyppl'}, {'comment_id': 'eibcnvc', 'author': 'TotesMessenger', 'body': ""I'm a bot, *bleep*, *bloop*. Someone has linked to this thread from another place on reddit:\n\n- [/r/psychologystudents] [Decided to crosspost to a bigger sub :)](https://www.reddit.com/r/psychologystudents/comments/b00kz8/decided_to_crosspost_to_a_bigger_sub/)\n\n&nbsp;*^(If you follow any of the above links, please respect the rules of reddit and don't vote in the other threads.) ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose?to=/r/TotesMessenger))*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-12T05:10:45', 'parent_id': 't3_azyppl'}, {'comment_id': 'eic5lyv', 'author': 'floeds', 'body': ""If you can't help yourself, how are you supposed to help someone else? Especially when it's someone dealing with similar problems.\n\nOnce you've moved past this time in your life, you will be the person your clients might look up to. You would have been like them, but you moved on, therefor so can they.\n\nSo in my opinion it can definitely be a positive thing, as long as it's in your past. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-12T12:47:59', 'parent_id': 't3_azyppl'}, {'comment_id': 'enyyn4i', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'I wish I could upvote this a thousand times. If your own mental health is in a state of recovery where you’re able to use your struggles as a tool for advocating and providing care to clients, it should be no issue. That said, scars can be a trigger for patients actively struggling. As long as the scars are covered, there should be no problem. \n\nI had a former colleague with many old scars, and some coworkers brought this up to the manager. The official  opinion from The nurse manager was that “people should not gossip about her and leave her alone.” It defends on the clientele, the culture, the acuity, and so much more. \n\nI think the biggest mistake I’ve seen former coworkers with self injury scars make is trying to use these scars to align themselves with clients as a “see, I get you and we are in this together” type of approach. Which is not appropriate unless you’re in a Peer Mentor position.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T05:39:30', 'parent_id': 't1_ejs1w1r'}, {'comment_id': 'eic5m44', 'author': 'CommonMisspellingBot', 'body': ""Hey, floeds, just a quick heads-up:  \n**therefor** is actually spelled **therefore**. You can remember it by **ends with -fore**.  \nHave a nice day!\n\n^^^^The ^^^^parent ^^^^commenter ^^^^can ^^^^reply ^^^^with ^^^^'delete' ^^^^to ^^^^delete ^^^^this ^^^^comment."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-12T12:48:06', 'parent_id': 't1_eic5lyv'}, {'comment_id': 'enz8q3o', 'author': 'Johnny_Carsonogen', 'body': 'Thank you, and I agree with the relating to patients via scars issue. Or any other type. There are ways to let the patients know that you understand where they are coming from, and iterate that you understand on a more personal level, but going so far as to show them the scars is a line we shouldn\'t cross. Of course there will be patients who would benefit from knowing that their direct caretaker has gone through similar issues, but there are also patients who will use this to their advantage. Many patients have criminal tendencies or have mental issues that make them dangerous, and this leads to them pushing the limits sometimes. Some patients have come through the penal systems and know how to squeeze workers and get special privileges if they have ""dirt"" on them.\n\nDoesn\'t always happen like that, but I\'ve seen similar instances. The best way to show patients that you can relate without showing them scars or revealing personal information is through our empathy. We can let the patient know we are truly there for them and will help them because we understand them through our actions and how we interact with them. I believe that is our best tool when working through this field.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T07:06:04', 'parent_id': 't1_enyyn4i'}]"
avirq8,2019-02-28T03:06:24,St Andrews Hospital bosses criticised by inspectors over child and mental health service in Northampton,,MentalHealthProviders,2,0,https://nenequirer.com/2019/02/27/st-andrews-hospital-bosses-criticised-by-inspectors-over-child-and-mental-health-service-in-northampton/,[]
apwna5,2019-02-13T00:13:40,Want Info on Different Kinds of Mental Health Hospitals,"Hi. I am looking for some information on what are the different kinds of mental hospitals that people go into today for extended periods of time. (I almost used the phrase ""mental institution"" but I stopped myself, because that feels outdated. I'm not sure what other phrases to use to really clarify what I am talking about.)  


I'm thinking along the lines of the kind of thing we see in movies like *Girl, Interrupted*. I know that is a weird example and that movie is probably bursting with inaccuracies and historical anachronisms, but that is the best thing I could come up with.   


Do we still have the kinds of facilities where people can be checked in and stay for a long period of time, say, even, a few years? And wouldn't these kinds of institutions costs enormous amounts of money?   


Talking about those we have in the US.   


This is for a research project that I'm working on, I've been doing research, but I still feel sort of confused when it comes to what we have. ",MentalHealthProviders,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/apwna5/want_info_on_different_kinds_of_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'egcjzia', 'author': 'bananawit123', 'body': 'In the uk we have acute wards which aren’t supposed to be long stay and then rehabilitation wards where you could stay for longer. There is also picu (psychiatric intensive care unit) for those requiring a higher level of care. We have forensic wards for those with mental health issues that have come in to contact with the criminal justice system. These can be low, medium or high secure. We have mother and baby units for mothers experiencing post party’s depression or psychosis. We have older people mental health wards, mainly for those with dementia. Then we have children and adolescents wards. Some of these wards are all within the same hospital and some are stand alone units. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-02-13T06:25:17', 'parent_id': 't3_apwna5'}, {'comment_id': 'egcka1q', 'author': 'bananawit123', 'body': 'Sorry I didn’t really answer your questions the rehabilitation wards should have around a 1 year stay but are often longer if there is no where suitable for the client to go.\nThere has been a move over the last ten years to move care in to the community so a lot of people who would have been in institutions for their whole life now live in supported accommodation in the community and have carers go in to their home to support them.\nPeople who are in forensic units maybe in there for their whole lives as their movements are decided by the ministry of justice based on how much of a risk to the public they are. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-02-13T06:29:07', 'parent_id': 't3_apwna5'}, {'comment_id': 'egckfue', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'Girl, Interrupted was filmed at McLean in Belmont, MA. Most inpatient admissions there are brief, days to several weeks. There are situations where someone may stay longer, for example if they are waiting for continuing care, especially for a state hospital bed. In MA, we have Tewksbury and Worcester.  Using McLean as an example, there are inpatient units, outpatient partial hospital programs, outpatient doctor and therapist offices. There are also self-paid, longer term residential programs. \n\nMany community and research hospitals have inpatient psychiatric units within their facilities. These are also focused on immediate stabilization so people can work on chronic problems with their outpatient providers. \n\nThere’s also a very complex history of deinstitutionalization and increased homelessness and incarceration of mentally ill. The debate is nuanced with patients’ rights.   People still can be under court orders for treatment (e.g. Roger Orders).  Worth looking up these topics of you are writing on changes in lengths of stay, treatment modalities, etc. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-02-13T06:31:16', 'parent_id': 't3_apwna5'}]"
9kpd7p,2018-10-02T15:40:37,Best therapeutic interventions for an explosively angry narcissist in for marriage counseling?,What are the best interventions for a narcissist in couples counseling? All the problems are the “fault” of the non narcissistic partner and NP is not interested in being referred out for anger management because “he’s not an angry person”. He is. ,MentalHealthProviders,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/9kpd7p/best_therapeutic_interventions_for_an_explosively/,"[{'comment_id': 'e71pqko', 'author': 'ItIsWritten777', 'body': 'A back-handed bitch slap...I wish, but In all seriousness, these clients must have boundaries placed upon them by the therapist, ideally in the first session, but if not, it can definitely happen in subsequent sessions. It’s never too late to establish boundaries and this can be done by saying things like, “we are not going to use that type of language or that tone in this office; it’s unacceptable.” Also, in terms of interventions, Gestalt based here and now interventions are good for these types of people in marriage sessions, so exposing their behavior in session as a teachable moment for the client himself, by saying something like, “I noticed just then, it seemed like that dosent sit well with you, what are you feeling in this moment?”\nGood luck, these are tough clients!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-10-03T01:12:11', 'parent_id': 't3_9kpd7p'}, {'comment_id': 'e7o64x8', 'author': 'nanaimo', 'body': ""I creeped your post history after you replied to me about my mom. NPD was the other half of her mental health problems (and the half that made me break contact with her).\n\nUnfortunately, people with NPD tend to be resistant to treatment in general. If he angrily insists he's not an angry person...it will be a long, hard road for that to actually change.\n\n"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-10-13T07:15:45', 'parent_id': 't3_9kpd7p'}, {'comment_id': 'e722w7q', 'author': 'FreshLeggings', 'body': 'Thanks! I tried a type of call out like that and he fumed. I’ll keep trying. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-10-03T04:19:02', 'parent_id': 't1_e71pqko'}]"
9kk4b8,2018-10-02T02:08:42,we may get overwhelmed sometimes with the amount of stuff we may have to do! Here I wanted to share with you three of my tips to allow you to stop feeling overwhelmed and get more done!,,MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://youtu.be/jvSgykSN4JM,[]
9i25tl,2018-09-23T00:33:21,"Music and Mental Health, - The Amazing Benefits - OMG News Today",,MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://omgnews.today/music-mental-health-amazing-benefits/#.W6aRwlkLx68.reddit,[]
ufwf4d,2022-05-01T15:10:17,Seeking Clinical Psychologists & Psychotherapists (Trainees/Interns are welcome) for research on adoption readiness and willingness to use e-Mental Health (18+)," Hello!

You are invited to participate in an online study being conducted as part of my thesis for the MSc in Cyberpsychology at the Dún Laoghaire Institute of Art, Design & Technology (Dublin Ireland).

This study is investigating clinical psychologists and psychotherapists' demographic characteristics and readiness to adopt e-Mental Health tools, as well as their willingness to use specific technologies, such as computers, mobile, virtual reality, and augmented reality, to deliver mental healthcare.

Participants must be **clinical psychologists or psychotherapists (interns/trainees are welcome to participate!)**. A good understanding of English is also required. If you choose to participate, you will be asked to complete a survey that takes **approximately 10 minutes**. Your participation is voluntary, confidential, and anonymous. You may withdraw at any time for any reason without penalty.

If you have any concerns, questions, or comments, please contact me. If you know someone who could be interested in this study and is able to participate, please share this study with them!

Your participation and help are greatly appreciated!

Link: [https://forms.office.com/r/3fjAa4jMPk](https://forms.office.com/r/3fjAa4jMPk)",MentalHealthProviders,7,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ufwf4d/seeking_clinical_psychologists_psychotherapists/,"[{'comment_id': 'i6w008b', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-05-01T15:10:17', 'parent_id': 't3_ufwf4d'}]"
sto84i,2022-02-16T11:11:24,Mental Health Providers needed for research study,"Hello,

I would like to invite you to participate in a research study I, Leslie Chaires am conducting for my graduate program under the supervision of Dr. Anissa Rogers, Professor in the School of Social Work at CSUSB. The study I am conducting is looking into the adverse mental/ behavioral health effects of children who have witnessed child abuse on siblings. Mental health providers working with children who have witnessed abuse are missing in the literature on child abuse and mental health. Your participation is needed to further explore the topic. This study consists of a short survey and a 30minute to an hour interview via zoom. A short survey can be completed through the flyer attached, to set up an interview via Zoom. Thank you!

[Survey link](https://qfreeaccountssjc1.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8ljxP90YZc48RiC)

[Flyer](https://www.canva.com/design/DAEw_DL2LZ8/3AmmPhYPWac2_7nrzn9guw/view?utm_content=DAEw_DL2LZ8&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=publishsharelink)",MentalHealthProviders,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/sto84i/mental_health_providers_needed_for_research_study/,"[{'comment_id': 'hx50nr6', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-16T11:11:24', 'parent_id': 't3_sto84i'}]"
s75o87,2022-01-19T01:01:11,Record Keeping - Testing Protocols,"I work for a mental health private practice that provides testing for numerous behavioral issues, developmental delays, etc. I'm trying to move everything from paper to digital and moving all older charts to a secured warehouse. While going through this, we do still use testing protocols that are paper only. Is it okay to scan these into a patient's chart and then shred the protocol or does it need to be kept as paper until the patient ages out?",MentalHealthProviders,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/s75o87/record_keeping_testing_protocols/,"[{'comment_id': 'ht7sy9t', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-19T01:01:11', 'parent_id': 't3_s75o87'}]"
r1bzcu,2021-11-25T00:09:37,ATTN: California Providers who work in substance use,"Hi all,

I am a current social worker and PhD student at UCSD/SDSU and I am looking for California social workers who work with clients who have a substance use disorder to participate in my dissertation study. This survey is also open to CA providers who are not social workers, but work with clients who have substance use disorders, so if you feel inclined, please share it! I am in dire need of participants in order to graduate!

This survey is looking at providers' attitudes toward barriers to treatment, evidence based practice, and telehealth. It has been approved by the San Diego State University IRB. If you have any questions, please feel free to email me at [mnicholls7003@sdsu.edu](mailto:mnicholls7003@sdsu.edu).

If you want to take the survey, you will be enrolled in a raffle with a 1 in 10 chance to win a $50 Amazon gift card.

Please consider taking this survey and sharing it with other people in CA who work in substance use. Thank you so much and feel free to email me or comment with any questions!

[https://sdsu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_2nn7UX1vbEkrdBQ](https://sdsu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_2nn7UX1vbEkrdBQ)",MentalHealthProviders,0,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/r1bzcu/attn_california_providers_who_work_in_substance/,"[{'comment_id': 'hlxktpk', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-25T00:09:38', 'parent_id': 't3_r1bzcu'}]"
qu8ueh,2021-11-15T10:45:52,Thoughts on Providers seeking their own mental health?,"I am a Program Manager and find that lately especially since Covid-19, my peers, as well as providers on my caseload feel they need some sort of therapy or counseling. Their comments to me are they feel like they are failing if they seek this help. 

I am starting therapy again for my own mental health, which is health. While I don't feel comfortable sharing my own personal stuff because I believe in my own boundaries with peers.  

What other ways do you guys find it to be encouraging when it isn't a person  you serve, and it's someone in management alongside you?",MentalHealthProviders,8,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/qu8ueh/thoughts_on_providers_seeking_their_own_mental/,"[{'comment_id': 'hkopg6x', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-15T10:45:52', 'parent_id': 't3_qu8ueh'}, {'comment_id': 'hky43dj', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I’m a psychiatrist with a psychiatrist. I know very few shrinks without a shrink of their own. We can’t do what we do on a daily basis without having that support (especially in forensics, where I work).\n\nI could ramble on about the subconscious vilification of the mentally ill by mental health providers, making them the “other”. How many times have you heard “borderline” tossed around like a pejorative? All of this exponentially increases the likelihood of severe self-stigmatisation when one feels they may need professional help of their own. \n\nI have a bunch of resilience and destigmatisation  literature that we provided to our provides as a way to get a foot in re: discussing getting treatment of their own. We did it in email blasts to everyone and they ranged from silly word searches (with the employee assistance program and mental health referral lines at the bottom) to one-pagers about burnout warning signs. \n\nI’ll screenshot this post as a reminder to find those resources for you at work in the morning. \n\nBest of luck in your own therapy journey! You deserve it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-11-17T09:36:51', 'parent_id': 't3_qu8ueh'}, {'comment_id': 'hkyf39y', 'author': '19BabyJay', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-17T11:19:17', 'parent_id': 't1_hky43dj'}]"
qh0se6,2021-10-27T22:08:47,"Mental healthcare professionals, please ELI5: What's the difference (in outcomes) between counseling and psychotherapy?","I think most laypersons like me are pretty fuzzy about choosing the right kind of mental healthcare, especially if one was brought up in an environment that considered mental illness taboo.

I know counselors are cheaper than psychotherapists and psychiatrists prescribe drugs. What I'm not clear about:

- Do therapists and counselors treat different aspects of mental illness? 
- Is it contextual/situational like going to the ER vs seeing your PCP? 
- What types of problems are better suited for counselors than therapists and vice versa? 
- Since psychiatrists focus almost exclusively on using drugs to treat patients, is it generally recommended people also see a psychotherapist in conjunction with talking to a psychiatrist?

Tyvm for the replies!",MentalHealthProviders,5,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/qh0se6/mental_healthcare_professionals_please_eli5_whats/,"[{'comment_id': 'hi9koew', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Remember to follow the rules listed in the sidebar and please use the report function to flag questionable comments so mods can review.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/MentalHealthProviders) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-10-27T22:08:47', 'parent_id': 't3_qh0se6'}, {'comment_id': 'hib7h3u', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Hey what's up? Counselor here. Not saying these are all the right answers but they are my opinion....\n\nDo therapists and counselors treat different aspects of mental illness? Not really. Counselors and therapists can both provide therapy. They may be trained differently or specialize in a certain condition. \n\nIs it contextual/situational like going to the ER vs seeing your PCP? Not 100% sure I know what you mean here, but therapy can be contextual/ situational. It can long term, short term, somewhere in the middle.\n\nWhat types of problems are better suited for counselors than therapists and vice versa? See answer to #1. If you have something you'd like to talk to someone about a therapist or counselor can help.\n\nSince psychiatrists focus almost exclusively on using drugs to treat patients, is it generally recommended people also see a psychotherapist in conjunction with talking to a psychiatrist? This is entirely up to you and can't give a blanket answer. You could start with therapy/ counseling and they can always refer you to a psychiatrist.\n\nI sincerely hope you are ok, and it's great to ask questions like this!"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T04:37:02', 'parent_id': 't3_qh0se6'}, {'comment_id': 'hibb7ff', 'author': 'Skeptical_JN68', 'body': 'Thanks, although TBH I still don\'t understand. Maybe it would help if I explained: a family member was recently urging me to try psychotherapy. I expressed my exasperation b/c I suspected I was one of these ""therapy resistant"" people Ive heard about. Long story short: I\'ve seen counselors before over the years (on again off again), and haven\'t seen much overall improvement (severe depression). Fam insists it was b/c I was seeing the wrong type of provider, so I\'m trying to figure this out.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T05:05:18', 'parent_id': 't1_hib7h3u'}, {'comment_id': 'm8m5xdh', 'author': 'Logical-Jury-1256', 'body': 'Counseling intern. Counselors and therapists do the same work. The difference is a counselor may see a patient for a short period of time, and a therapist may see a client for months or years. More and more they are being called therapist or psychotherapist.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2025-01-23T03:22:19', 'parent_id': 't1_hib7h3u'}, {'comment_id': 'hibk80v', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Ok, I get it. If you find someone who is Independently Licensed in your area you should be good. The therapy/ counseling process is peculiar. For me, I think it's more about your relationship with the therapist than anything else. A client has to trust the therapist, the therapist has to create an environment conducive to the process, and you both have to commit. That being said, I don't think therapy works for everybody. Some people can find things like yoga, meditation, self directed work, and other things to be as effective. It's hard work!"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T06:11:55', 'parent_id': 't1_hibb7ff'}, {'comment_id': 'hibkd82', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Also, with something like depression there may need to be a medication intervention either instead or also. There's isn't one way to do it which is pretty frustrating TBH"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-10-28T06:12:58', 'parent_id': 't1_hibk80v'}]"
p2m2m4,2021-08-12T02:32:55,Mental health service scam?,"Throwaway account. 

My organization was recently approached by a new mental health practice to offer free therapy sessions to our staff. I like the idea, but the more I do my research, I am concerned that this may be a new scam. This office address on Google is obviously fake (it's a major landmark), and the only provider I can find any information on is using a false name and has zero credentials that can be verified. There is a full website and all, it looks great but nothing to back up claims of ""years of clinical expertise"". Does this sound familiar to any of you? What am I missing?",MentalHealthProviders,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/p2m2m4/mental_health_service_scam/,"[{'comment_id': 'h8n8w4i', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""You could try to do a license lookup in your state's professional regulation site."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-08-12T17:40:38', 'parent_id': 't3_p2m2m4'}]"
ozc0zv,2021-08-06T23:32:44,LCSW vs psych np,Hi everyone! I am currently a full-time registered nurse I work with adolescents suffering from eating disorders in The hospital setting. During this job I have realized how much I love counseling adolescence and helping them with their eating disorders and other mental health issues. I want to become a therapist and help patients and their families. I was thinking of going back to school for my MSW but now wondering if doing a psychiatric Nurse practitioner route would be better for me. I’m not really wanting to prescribe medicine but I do really want to counsel adolescence with eating disorders and mental health struggles. I know an MSW is a lot of work and would prefer to go back to school for a smaller amount of time since I am now 35 and wanting to also start a family soon. Any input would be great! Thank you,MentalHealthProviders,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ozc0zv/lcsw_vs_psych_np/,"[{'comment_id': 'h933b67', 'author': 'arbor-vitae-', 'body': ""If you know you don't want to prescribe, I'd go the MSW route.  Any psych NP is going to be expected to prescribe.  It will be nearly impossible to be hired for a counseling job because of billing.  Every job I've ever applied for (NP) was hiring me to prescribe.  \n\nIt sounds like the MSW will take more time when looking at it at face value -- 2 years vs 1 year --  but factor in how much more time you'll need after a post MSN to get therapy training (something you won't get enough of in school to be competent for an entry-level counseling position).  The time ends up being more comparable."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-08-16T03:57:34', 'parent_id': 't3_ozc0zv'}]"
oyz455,2021-08-06T09:32:12,Sex Therapy Book Recommendations,"Hi there, I would like to get AASECT certified at some point, however I am working on finishing my PhD before I start a new goal. I was wondering if anyone has good sex therapy book recommendations for someone interested in sex therapy and eventually getting certified. Thanks in advance!",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/oyz455/sex_therapy_book_recommendations/,[]
orq6g2,2021-07-26T08:38:21,"To advocate and educate for mental health, I have an instagram (@Mental.Shape) and Etsy based around all that ❤️",,MentalHealthProviders,9,0,https://www.reddit.com/gallery/orq2ll,[]
oqforr,2021-07-24T06:27:34,Hey guys. I’m wanting to becoming a LMFT and I’m wondering if I can do that with getting my masters in Clinical Mental Health or if the masters specifically as to be in Marriage and Family? I’ve searched through so many google results and can’t find the answer.,,MentalHealthProviders,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/oqforr/hey_guys_im_wanting_to_becoming_a_lmft_and_im/,"[{'comment_id': 'h6cyrxx', 'author': 'Kiramadera', 'body': 'There’s a education and training mega thread over on r/psychotherapy where you could search previous questions or ask this one. Good luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-07-24T18:11:07', 'parent_id': 't3_oqforr'}, {'comment_id': 'h6dmcpi', 'author': 'Oven-Representative', 'body': 'Depending on the state you may have take additional courses if you get a MHC masters to be licensed as an MFT or work a certain number of years as a LMHC to sit for the LMFT test. If you know you want to do MFT then go for that specifically.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-07-24T21:42:58', 'parent_id': 't3_oqforr'}]"
oib51e,2021-07-12T01:11:55,Mental Health First Aid Course - First in Israel,,MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://youtu.be/h6q8PCgZTjA,[]
ocvgqc,2021-07-03T15:53:57,"Thinking about starting a pyschotherapy private practice, what are somethings you wish you knew before opening up?",,MentalHealthProviders,10,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ocvgqc/thinking_about_starting_a_pyschotherapy_private/,[]
obxe82,2021-07-02T04:27:29,Extrapyramidal Side Effects in a Patient with Alcohol Withdrawal Symptoms: A Reflection of Quality of the Mental Health Care System," We use a case to discuss an ongoing problem of poor management of patients with [\#addiction](https://www.linkedin.com/feed/hashtag/?keywords=addiction&highlightedUpdateUrns=urn%3Ali%3Aactivity%3A6816498304445108224) problems. We give a detailed discussion of how best we can handle the consequences i.e. extrapyramidal side effects EPS. Click the link for more details. 

[https://www.researchgate.net/publication/352401809\_Extrapyramidal\_Side\_Effects\_in\_a\_Patient\_with\_Alcohol\_Withdrawal\_Symptoms\_A\_Reflection\_of\_Quality\_of\_the\_Mental\_Health\_Care\_System](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/352401809_Extrapyramidal_Side_Effects_in_a_Patient_with_Alcohol_Withdrawal_Symptoms_A_Reflection_of_Quality_of_the_Mental_Health_Care_System)",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/obxe82/extrapyramidal_side_effects_in_a_patient_with/,[]
nwggk6,2021-06-10T11:33:20,Simplifying Addiction,,MentalHealthProviders,2,0,https://doi.org/10.2147/SAR.S307387,[]
nktyf4,2021-05-25T22:04:41,EHR Systems,"Is there an EHR system that you prefer for a mental health facility, more specifically for a pediatric psych office?

We currently use way too many systems that was fine for a small private practice, but as we grow, we need something that is more organized and easier to navigate.",MentalHealthProviders,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/nktyf4/ehr_systems/,"[{'comment_id': 'h15l3q5', 'author': 'InSync-EHR', 'body': ""We're in that space so I'd be happy to answer any questions you might have."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-06-09T19:42:07', 'parent_id': 't3_nktyf4'}]"
n88myc,2021-05-09T12:22:19,Share your experiences,"It’s mental health month. Come share your stories and experiences in the Prepr CARE Lab & Challenge, and help us build a collection of experiences that can help bring people together in today’s isolated and increasingly digital society. 

Check out  [https://prepr.org/care-lab/](https://prepr.org/care-lab/)  for more info",MentalHealthProviders,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/n88myc/share_your_experiences/,[]
n4nxfk,2021-05-04T18:38:30,Mental health awareness,,MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://i.redd.it/7d4wfqzsr3x61.jpg,[]
mv9cyr,2021-04-21T11:25:26,FMLA Question,"Hello everyone,

I have a question about taking a paid sick leave in Washington state USA, for mental health/ burnout. I have the approval from my employer, they said I just need to get a note from my primary care physician. I guess my question is, will a doctor write me a note for leave from my job for mental health reasons? I am feeling like maybe they will think I don't need it. But that could just be self doubt and feeling like I am unworthy of time off.

Any insight into this process or what information should be provided to my doctor is a huge help.

Thank you!",MentalHealthProviders,5,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/mv9cyr/fmla_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'gvbcg0w', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""You won't get one if you don't ask. Most PCPs I know are very tuned I to the anxiety associated with working in the helping field and are willing to write reasonable notes. \n\nThe only times I've seen docs refuse to write notes are when people are asking for unreasonable things like every Friday off, release to work but can't work directly with clients, etc."", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2021-04-21T17:40:42', 'parent_id': 't3_mv9cyr'}, {'comment_id': 'gvcuqu7', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'Your employer should have the paperwork for your PCP to fill out. Certain diagnoses are eligible for FMLA, and your provider will designate the appropriate amount of time you need off per week/month', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T00:33:11', 'parent_id': 't3_mv9cyr'}, {'comment_id': 'gvdv0uy', 'author': 'dazzle_dee_daisyray', 'body': ' I have never taken time off like this. Your words have been very reassuring for me to read. I have an appointment tomorrow with my PCP regarding my leave and mental health. I will be asking for an extended leave of 2 months or more, to get my health on track. everyone at my job is supportive and actually wants me to take the leave, because they can see my decline in performance and overall well being. \n\nThank you so much for taking the time to help me out, I really appreciate it!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T05:05:53', 'parent_id': 't1_gvbcg0w'}, {'comment_id': 'gvdvg0q', 'author': 'dazzle_dee_daisyray', 'body': 'Thank you for replying. I just talked to my HR today and they are going to take care of the paperwork and all I need to provide is a note from my PCP. I have an appointment tomorrow, which is very fortunate to be so soon. I hope I am able to talk and get this all sorted out.\n\nThank you so much for your response, It encouraged me to inquire and understand more about this process.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T05:09:23', 'parent_id': 't1_gvcuqu7'}, {'comment_id': 'gvdwos5', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'I’m glad I could be helpful:) I’ve had FMLA for years so I’m pretty well versed in the process. Good luck to you', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-04-22T05:19:42', 'parent_id': 't1_gvdvg0q'}]"
mr89rn,2021-04-15T10:54:40,Coricidin and Triple C addiction treatment,"Looking for any insight on working with individuals addicted to Triple C. 

Triple C is a street name for Coricidin HBP Cough & Cold, a popular brand of cough and cold medicine that is commonly abused by teens.",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/mr89rn/coricidin_and_triple_c_addiction_treatment/,[]
merun3,2021-03-28T07:14:18,Uninsured and in need of bipolar medication,"My not quite step-daughter (she is the daughter of my ex-husband born during our marriage when he was also married to someone else). Anyway, she is a lovely girl and lives near my daughter (that I had with my ex) in Maryland.

She is in the US on a student visa. Graduated in May but continued to take classes because she was applying to US law schools and wanted to stay in the states. She was on student insurance until this month. She is bipolar but was doing great on Abilify - but now can't get a prescription because she has no insurance. 

Mom lives in Asia. She cannot help financially with insurance or anything else. 

Dad lives in Africa with wife #5 (while still married to wife #4) and he is a POS in case you didn't already guess.

I will pay for her meds but how can she get a prescription? I have tried a couple of organization but she doesn't seem to qualify because she isn't a citizen. 

Any help appreciated!",MentalHealthProviders,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/merun3/uninsured_and_in_need_of_bipolar_medication/,"[{'comment_id': 'gu3zei6', 'author': 'Matt_Performance_Art', 'body': 'Try plush care. They provide telemedicine and may be able to help if she has prior records https://plushcare.com/mental-health/', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-04-11T08:19:02', 'parent_id': 't3_merun3'}]"
mdv1dt,2021-03-26T23:56:46,Venting... mental health provider stigma / expectation,"This is a post venting about American work place / mental health (MH) provider stigma / American health system. 
I am working for a group practice and see about 6-8 clients a day, 5 days/week. Usually my schedule is booked for 8 clients a day and the idea is to wait for no shows or late cancellations. We don’t get time for documentation so it piles up especially on the 7-8 client days. Sessions are at least 51 min so  I usually only have enough time to go to the restroom, maybe get a snack, before the next session. Most of my day is spent in an office without windows staring at a computer... telling my clients to get outside and enjoy their lives. I believe we can make a better life through improved well being hence I became a therapist, but its frustrating when my job is what is bringing me down. 

I’m aware that most insurances do not reimburse for documentation time which is why most companies are focused on face to face billable time. But it’s creating burnout very quickly and documentation is an important part of our jobs. 

I feel disappointed with how MH providers are not supported. I appreciate that the general public has increased discussion around MH; however, I rarely see discussion about MH providers. Particularly  amidst the pandemic. (I also recognize that several fields and service jobs have been greatly impacted). If more people are receiving MH support, that means MH providers are seeing more people. 

In addition, I don’t even get MH covered by my insurance. When my coworker and I have attempted to problem solve our concerns with our director, we’re usually met with an attitude of “that’s just how it is”. Including from other support systems such as family or friends who don’t understand the extent of our jobs. “You just sit and talk to people” kind of response. 

Anyone in this boat?",MentalHealthProviders,12,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/mdv1dt/venting_mental_health_provider_stigma_expectation/,"[{'comment_id': 'gsd6kq1', 'author': 'MossWatson', 'body': 'I feel you.  Your situation sounds a little more intense than mine, but everything you’re saying is very familiar.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-03-27T06:46:39', 'parent_id': 't3_mdv1dt'}, {'comment_id': 'gtwhfui', 'author': 'PsychNurse6685', 'body': 'Oh boy. I feel ya. I do home visits and provide LAIs in peoples homes and do mental health care  RN type things and my goodness the documentation- just.... just kills me. I was in peoples homes during the pandemic because we take care of some very sick folks who don’t leave their homes so I go to them. Oh man. I was so burnt out. I completely feel you on this. Worst part about it was nobody would let me use the bathroom so I’d have to drive back to my hospital to pee! I had so much documentation at the end of the day I absolutely hated the job!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-04-09T11:36:17', 'parent_id': 't3_mdv1dt'}, {'comment_id': 'gsg0usl', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""You have great points OP. I work at a CMHC and it's the same. I think your Director is right even if it's not the answer we want to hear. This is the system that has been created over many years. Insurance companies will tell you though that the time for documentation is calculated in their rates."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-03-27T18:53:20', 'parent_id': 't3_mdv1dt'}]"
lsyxvg,2021-02-26T20:07:33,Too Little Being Done About Mental Health Of Tired Teens,,MentalHealthProviders,4,0,https://www.insynchcs.com/blog/too-little-being-done-about-mental-health-of-tired-teens,[]
kvsgle,2021-01-12T19:47:09,An Adolescent’s Use of Veterinary Medicines: A Case Report Exploring Addiction,"  ***a case report about an adolescent who repeatedly self-injected herself with veterinary medicine in an attempt to commit suicide***. 

  [An Adolescent’s Use of Veterinary Medicines: A Case Report Exploring Addiction](http://url310.tandfonline.com/ls/click?upn=odl8Fji2pFaByYDqV3bjGMQo8st9of2228V6AcSFNq3t86qU90pAx-2BEad4OTI0D62GFeD8sauusho8zGZl82wgTLnYDfx4UNf-2FH-2FT3q7CqU-3DArzs_jlA-2B5h02VpHmxVpwmmDmUlySgHVkVbUY0R5AVJz-2Fv2yBTZk8um8cD9NIXtJq7lhFF4Sztt7WIjNQp-2Bh4McH9ruGKJydmxqg50V91Uwex1wDBipA-2Fq06cZ3bRLYFV13dOUQRzPxrGAsAPkry-2B-2FDoQqS3OrZqAeSahBPvSewcsa6TW3k8LDnll0j8FFSTm1-2BRbhugoPKrRcldVwvGeL2cqplxEgTHdLWQmOVaqRl-2FYaYg1sNhf4tarnKo-2Bq371HzWVcCB0vl79ohlpgkLtDnhFmo-2Bd39MkdEkevczGMv8o9Gs-3D) 

    The story
    A 17-year old adolescent girl was admitted to the
    psychiatry ward with a six-month history of functional
    decline, positive psychotic symptoms, chronic self-harming
    behaviors and suicidal ideation, as well as
    neurovegetative symptoms. She had no previous mental
    health concerns nor admissions to a psychiatric
    facility. She also denied having any acute or chronic
    medical problems and did not take any regularly prescribed
    medications. During the initial admission interview,
    she acknowledged having repeatedly made
    suicide attempts by injecting her thigh with a mixture
    of veterinary medications accessed at her parents’
    chicken farm with the intent to die. She showed the
    interviewing clinician a tea bottle where she concealed
    the veterinary medication composite which consisted
    of vitamins, vaccines, antibiotics, and anthelmiintics. In
    exploring her first suicide attempt with the injectable veterinary medication, she reported profound sadness
    about not completing suicide, believing that she was
    a failure in her family and that they would be much
    better off if she was dead. She also reported symptoms
    including lack of sleep, refusal to eat, anhedonia, fatigue,
    and had been isolated from the rest of the family.
    She also described having extreme sadness, fear, and
    paranoia, believing that her family members were
    traitors.
    The numerous suicide attempts by self-injecting the
    medications were described as being done with the
    intent to die. However, they were also associated with
    brief periods of relief from depressive symptoms, a self-reported
    sense of euphoria, and a temporary sense of
    the relaxation that occurred during the injection. Following
    this unexpected experience of achieving temporary relief
    from her emotional suffering from the feeling of physical
    pain associated with injecting, she reported an increasing
    urge to self-administer injections as a way of relieving
    all negative emotions. The injections were typically
    followed by periods of intense, prolonged sadness, guilt,
    and self-loathing. The patient described experiences of
    boredom, anger, or loneliness as triggering an urge to
    self-inject which would be temporarily relieved through
    self-administering of the veterinary medications. Over
    time, she developed patterns of self-injection that
    occurred up to multiple times daily, however, reported
    no discomfort associated with the injections. She
    described not being able to cope without having access
    to the mixture to the extent that she smuggled it into her
    boarding school, disguised in tea bottles, which she
    understood would be a serious offence if discovered
    and could compromise her ability to remain at
    a prestigious boarding school. Eventually, while at
    school, fellow students observed her injecting herself
    with unfamiliar medicine and informed the school
    authorities. The authorities then contacted her parents
    who were made aware of these behaviours and subsequently
    removed her access to the medications and the
    syringe.
    Prior to hospitalization, the patient reported hearing
    strange commanding voices not heard by others around
    her that would provide a running, derogatory, and abusive
    commentary about her. These voices were identified
    as belonging to her mother and reportedly prevented her
    from experiencing any happiness that she had historically
    felt. The voices kept reminding her of how ugly she
    was, what a failure she had been, and discouraged her in
    any positive efforts. The patient was clear that the onset
    of the voices occurred following the use of injectable
    veterinary medications. It was also determined that the
    patient had insight, judgment, and cognitive abilities
    such that she was capable of providing a reliable history.
    Despite having no previous history of substance use,
    she described wanting to experiment with more serious
    drugs of abuse such as cocaine or marijuana to mitigate
    the experience of critical voices and sad feelings. She was
    aware that these kinds of substance seeking inclinations
    were a serious cultural taboo for a person of her age and
    gender in the Ugandan setting. However, she was insistent
    that she wanted to experiment with these substances

in the future as a way of self-medicating despite the

social and physical risks involved. She denied using or

adding other substances in addition to the veterinary

mixture.

During her hospitalization, she participated in sessions

with a hospital psychologist (NS) and a number of

stressors originating within context of the patient’s

family were uncovered. The patient was the middle

child in a family with 5 children. There were many

descriptions of hard feelings in the family, and all of

the children were described as having conflicted relationships

with their parents. Whenever the patient

reflected on these relational challenges, she reported

worsening of sadness relieved through self-injections.

The patient’s parents both worked as teachers who

were described as hardworking and wanted their children

to achieve the best in life. The parents had a poultry

farm as a side business to boost their income, which also

assisted them in being able to enrol their children in

good private schools within the country. The parents

described trying to instil good habits and morals in their

children using a disciplinary approach they believed

would achieve success. They endorsed using parenting

strategies such as heavy punishment, making their children

work on the poultry farm, as well as reading books.

The patient’s mother was described as having very high

expectations and was reportedly unhappy with the

patient’s performance in her senior high exams (i.e.,

O — level) despite her above-average grades. The patient

reported feeling as though her mother was critical of her

looks, her body appearance, and her dress code, such

that she could never please her mother. The mother

reportedly accused the patient of becoming pregnant as

a reason for her poor performance and was described as

intrusive to the extent that she would wake her daughter

in the night to palpate her abdomen in order to confirm

her suspicion of pregnancy, which was later determined

to be untrue. The patient’s parents indicated that they

wondered if the patient was fabricating symptoms.

Overall, the patient experienced her mother as harsh

and demanding, with few experiences of feeling loved

and accepted. In light of this, she has preferred to live

with relatives, away from her nuclear family. This was

the preferred option since it reduced her access to veterinary

medicine, injections, and put her in a less stressful environment. While she reported that she wanted to

continue self-injecting, she also recognized the need to

engage in these types of harm reduction techniques to

assist with her recovery. When asking the patient about

potential Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) symptoms,

she reported ongoing efforts to avoid her parents’

rejection and perceived abandonment. She also

endorsed recurrent self-harming/suicidal behaviors,

affective instability, and a chronic feeling of emptiness.

The patient’s brother reported that she had stable relationships

with her friends, and historically was able to

control her emotions in front of the mother despite her

conflicted feelings. Despite the non-life-threatening verbal

trauma she experienced from the mother, the patient

experienced other symptoms of PTSD including intrusive

and upsetting memories, nightmares about her

experiences with her mother, physical reactions in

response to traumatic reminders of her mother’s abuse.

On physical examination, the patient had normal

vital signs. At no point were there any concerns about

her cardiac, respiratory, hepatic, or renal functioning.

There were multiple injection sites visible on her thighs

with no marked swelling or redness. The patient was in

good physical health with no other complaints except

psychological distress. All basic baseline afforded investigations

were normal, including liver functional tests,

renal functional tests, complete hemogram, and

urinalysis.

During her 4-day stay on the psychiatry ward, she was

given antipsychotics (trifluoperazine 10 mg a day),

which greatly reduced the voices, and an antidepressant

(amitriptyline 75 mg), which helped with improvements

in sleep, increased appetite, and reduction in depressive

symptoms. She also reportedly engaged in self-injection

of the veterinary medication while she was on the psychiatric

ward. During her stay in the ward, she was

offered psychotherapy to explore and understand her

problems using short-term psychoanalysis. However, at

discharge, she was given fluoxetine 20 mg to reduce the

chances of a lethal overdose with tricyclic

antidepressants.",MentalHealthProviders,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/kvsgle/an_adolescents_use_of_veterinary_medicines_a_case/,"[{'comment_id': 'gj01u6b', 'author': 'hotlinehelpbot', 'body': '\nIf you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline\n\nUSA: 18002738255\nUS Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME\n\nUnited Kingdom: 116 123\n\nTrans Lifeline (877-565-8860)\n\nOthers: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines\n\nhttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-01-12T19:47:22', 'parent_id': 't3_kvsgle'}, {'comment_id': 'gj01xb9', 'author': 'kmarkmohan', 'body': 'Please you can also read my article for further details and discussions', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-01-12T19:48:09', 'parent_id': 't3_kvsgle'}]"
k4bcdq,2020-12-01T07:47:56,Advice on Career Path,I was wondering what school and major is best to become a psychotherapist? I’m applying to grad school now and deciding between msw and counseling psych but concerned about which one will better train me for counseling individuals and maybe families (i’m still waiting to decide on future specializations). how do both differ in the path that leads up to a private practice? any input would be soooo appreciated. Also if anyone knows what advantages Ed.M. has over other programs?,MentalHealthProviders,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/k4bcdq/advice_on_career_path/,"[{'comment_id': 'ge98lcn', 'author': 'tpeeeps', 'body': 'If you want to work with families I’d highly recommend an MFT program!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-12-01T18:56:57', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'ge7uwyk', 'author': 'Meg5987', 'body': 'If you know you for sure want to be a mental health counselor- always go the route that is a program specifically for counseling. MSW is usually a broad, broad program and yes it goes you get some training on counseling but it’s not the main focus. The main focus of a counseling program is counseling alone. So it’s more in depth and hyper focused. If you want to be a chef, you’re gonna go to culinary school. If you want to be a vet, you go to veterinary school. If there’s a specialized program for exactly what you want to do, do that.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-01T07:50:59', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'geafkkd', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I am a Psychotherapist. MSW was my choice. While Social Work is broad, you can choose to focus solely on psychotherapy if you choose. The Dallas Society for Psychoanalytic Psychology is comprised mostly of Psychologists, then Social Workers. Counselors are usually not as respected.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-02T01:00:48', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'ihbn5hi', 'author': 'Internal-Ad-9363', 'body': 'What I tell clients when they ask about the myriad of initials behind peoples names is this: each certification represents a particular perspective. Social Work (MSW) looks at the person within their environment, considering that one’s environment and how you interact with that environment is a primary factor in functioning; counseling, and psychology degrees focus on the internal experience as being the primary factor in functioning; marriage and family degrees (MFT) focus on families as the primary factor involved in functioning; exploring which area of focus feels most relevant to you may help; on a practical level a MSW (full disclosure, this is my degree) provides a lot of flexibility in how you can use this degree and is a terminal practice degree, this means that once certified (LCSW) you are able to practice independently(meaning you don’t need another professional (psychologist, psychiatrist, etc. to sign off on your work) are recognized by all insurances, the government (for instance the bulk of mental health services at the VA are provided by LCSW) and other agencies. I hope this helps. Good luck with your career.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-23T19:29:40', 'parent_id': 't3_k4bcdq'}, {'comment_id': 'geukktf', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-06T22:45:10', 'parent_id': 't1_ge98lcn'}, {'comment_id': 'ihbnyyo', 'author': 'RAD-iance', 'body': 'This is great information and perfect timing. I am started a social work program this fall so this really helped me feel at ease with my decision. From your academic experience, did they include any internal factors or anything along the psychological aspect regardless if it’s a social work program? Because I’m also interested in learning the psychological aspect but primarily chose social work because of it’s flexibility like you’ve mentioned.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-23T19:36:09', 'parent_id': 't1_ihbn5hi'}, {'comment_id': 'gg6h7sl', 'author': 'tpeeeps', 'body': 'Sure, people do all sorts of things. Family therapy is a unique approach just like CBT or EMDR and you should have the proper training for anything you’re doing. An MFT program will give you a different theoretical background and clinical skills than any other program. Feel free to message me with any specific questions!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-12-18T02:25:05', 'parent_id': 't1_geukktf'}, {'comment_id': 'ihbpfso', 'author': 'Internal-Ad-9363', 'body': 'Congratulations on selecting your program and welcome to a wonderful profession. Yes, depending on your program you can focus on psychotherapy or other specialty; when you are evaluating grad schools it is important to know whether the program is a “Generalist” program or a “Concentration” program; a generalist program will give you a base of knowledge in many practice areas and typically has more of a research focus, a concentration program will ask you to pick a practice area (psychotherapy, social justice, etc.). My school has a generalist program and I am now practicing as a psychotherapist in an integrated family medicine clinic, so you can get where you want to go either way.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-23T19:47:50', 'parent_id': 't1_ihbnyyo'}]"
jyb2kz,2020-11-21T19:22:37,Reasons for Conducting Webinars in Mental Health,,MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://blog.psychonline.com/reasons-for-conducting-webinars-in-mental-health/,[]
jxk18h,2020-11-20T11:53:34,free event by mental health professionals - might be helpful,"Hey guys! I came across some really cool events surrounding Mental Health, so I thought I’d share if anyone’s interested. Given that these past few months haven’t been the easiest, it might be nice to hear from professionals who are here to help out, like Asha Murphy, who specialises in emerging adulthood, LGBTQ issues, college mental health, generational differences, and anxiety disorders with a focus on social anxiety. Another seminar that seemed really interesting was with Ashleigh Di Lello who developed Bio Emotional Healing, a process based in neuroscience that reprograms our brains to have a new filter to think differently (could really use some of that). I thought I’d share as it could be helpful for some people. More details are given here - [https://www.wavelf.org/events](https://www.wavelf.org/events)",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jxk18h/free_event_by_mental_health_professionals_might/,[]
jna2f6,2020-11-03T18:46:01,Workplace,Have you ever experienced mental health issues due to your workplace?,MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jna2f6/workplace/,[]
jmp0e4,2020-11-02T20:33:54,Need to Interview American Mental Health Provider for Grad School. Anyone Interested?,Need to Interview American Mental Health Provider for Grad School. Anyone Interested?,MentalHealthProviders,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jmp0e4/need_to_interview_american_mental_health_provider/,"[{'comment_id': 'gaxtzc5', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': 'What level of provider? Prescriber? Therapist? Leadership?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:09:00', 'parent_id': 't3_jmp0e4'}, {'comment_id': 'gaxuii1', 'author': 'UpvoteBecauseReasons', 'body': ""Ok, I'm a Counselor but I'm also in a leadership position at a community mental health center. If that works for you let me know. Otherwise, best of luck!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:13:24', 'parent_id': 't3_jmp0e4'}, {'comment_id': 'gaxuard', 'author': 'Magicalmbeth', 'body': ""I need therapist/counselor level. It doesn't need to be a licensed supervisor or a psychiatrist."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:11:39', 'parent_id': 't1_gaxtzc5'}, {'comment_id': 'gaxv1ij', 'author': 'Magicalmbeth', 'body': ""I'll have to check with the professor if that works but even if it doesn't, thanks!!!!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-11-03T03:17:43', 'parent_id': 't1_gaxuii1'}]"
jefj9p,2020-10-20T06:49:55,Hired as a MHT & Nervous,"Hi!! I was recently hired as a Mental Health Tech  and begin training in two days, at a substance abuse rehab organization. It’s my first time working in this environment and I don’t know what to expect. Any tips for starting out? What do you wish you knew before starting your job?",MentalHealthProviders,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/jefj9p/hired_as_a_mht_nervous/,[]
iurmzu,2020-09-18T01:55:40,National Physician Suicide Awareness Day - Caretaker Mental Health is Important!,"Today is National Physician Suicide Awareness Day, a reminder that we must do more to support the mental health of physicians - especially during this global health crisis.

When 44% of physicians are burned out and 300+ physicians die by suicide every year, mental health should be a huge priority in the field of medicine. Instead we see a culture of silence, in which physicians keep their mental health struggles under the radar to escape scrutiny by licensing boards, residency programs, employers or even their peers, or when mental health issues may be seen as red flags by adcoms for those aspiring to enter the medical profession. Breaking this culture of silence is the first step in dismantling stigma.

**Medical Minds Matter** is a [newly founded](https://medicalmindsmatter.org/) non-profit focused on mental health advocacy in the medical field - an important cause especially now when our doctors are under an immense amount of stress with the COVID-19 pandemic.

One of our most critical needs is **finding board members** to help provide oversight and guidance for our young team. **We hope to find passionate members of the medical and psychiatry community to help steer our organization's mission!** Please fill out this interest form if you are interested in getting involved: [https://forms.gle/LVEvHL4Pn9B5VPdZ7](https://forms.gle/LVEvHL4Pn9B5VPdZ7).

**We also want to hear YOUR story!** Medical Minds Matters offers a platform for physicians and medical students to share their struggles with mental health, with the option of remaining anonymous. Share your story [here](https://medicalmindsmatter.org/the-anonymed-initiative) \- stories will be posted on our Instagram (@medical.minds.matter).

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**Comment below - why does mental health matter to YOU as a caretaker?**",MentalHealthProviders,6,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/iurmzu/national_physician_suicide_awareness_day/,[]
ihv4pe,2020-08-28T04:02:40,What was the most surprising thing about your clients as a Mental Health Counselor?,,MentalHealthProviders,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ihv4pe/what_was_the_most_surprising_thing_about_your/,"[{'comment_id': 'g34229v', 'author': 'Slytherpuff94', 'body': 'I would with children with mental health disorders. The hardest/ most surprising think about some of my clients is how their past royally f**Ked them up. I have one who has had such a hard life I\'m not sure if he will ever have a ""normal"" life. It brakes you heart, but I have faith he will keep getting better as the years go one and pray one day he will be alright.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-28T12:44:25', 'parent_id': 't3_ihv4pe'}, {'comment_id': 'g354ncl', 'author': 'iroQuai', 'body': ""I've worked with youth for almost a decade now and I recognize what you describe. Some kids just are born in the wrong system and won't even get a fair chance that way. But that is not what amazes me the most. It's their resilience to develop very sane ideas and grow up fairly normal in spite of that rotten system."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-08-28T20:49:46', 'parent_id': 't1_g34229v'}]"
i7zc3h,2020-08-12T01:53:39,"Mental Health Billing - Minute Mental Health Billing Tips, Beginner's Guide (Part 1)",,MentalHealthProviders,4,3,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PAWbKRDwZvE,"[{'comment_id': 'g150825', 'author': 'epsychbilling', 'body': ""Hope this helps, and if it doesn't serve the group, please private message me and I will remove it!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-12T01:54:28', 'parent_id': 't3_i7zc3h'}, {'comment_id': 'g15f7g3', 'author': 'levelupmentalhealth', 'body': 'Great info, nice and quick.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-12T03:46:36', 'parent_id': 't3_i7zc3h'}, {'comment_id': 'g15gp3u', 'author': 'epsychbilling', 'body': 'awesome!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-08-12T03:58:17', 'parent_id': 't1_g15f7g3'}]"
i0pwmc,2020-07-30T22:41:22,New study that shows how mental healthcare access as well as attitudes towards regular and tele-mental healthcare differ state by state. Some really interesting stats here for providers to consider.,,MentalHealthProviders,4,0,https://unitedwaynca.org/stories/mental-health-care-access/,[]
hd9bt7,2020-06-21T21:33:11,Is there such thing as mental health quality assurance?,"I've recently been laid off from a casework supervisor job with a small non profit. Luckily I'm in an excellent position financially (a miracle, honestly) which means I'm taking some time to be intentional about my next career move.  

I've done direct care and supervision for the last ten years but I have a passion for systems of care and finding ways to make sure teams use them effectively to help clients.  My strength has always been understanding barriers to success and finding creative and effective poeple-centric solutions to engagement and investment of systems and skills.

I feel like this is a move towards quality assurance, best practice audits and training but I don't know enough! Is there such a thing as a mental health SOC auditor?",MentalHealthProviders,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/hd9bt7/is_there_such_thing_as_mental_health_quality/,"[{'comment_id': 'fvl57tz', 'author': 'squid_actually', 'body': ""Yes. A lot of times I've seen it referred to as Quality Improvement or Continuing Quality Improvement (CQI). Your discussion of systems really sounds like Macro Social Work."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-06-22T05:26:03', 'parent_id': 't3_hd9bt7'}, {'comment_id': 'fvl5fsv', 'author': 'Orfewatson', 'body': 'Thank you! The correct vocabulary is extremely helpful in understanding what to research.  I appreciate your reply 👍', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-06-22T05:28:18', 'parent_id': 't1_fvl57tz'}]"
gn19d7,2020-05-20T06:17:12,got offered my first job as a psychologist on a closed ward,"Hey r/MentalHealthProviders,
I am a young psychologist from germany currently writing my master thesis and I've been offered a job in a psychiatric hospital where I've spent my intership for half a year already.
Back then I've been working on general psychiatric wards and I really enjoyed working with patients in that context.
I can see myself taking the road of a typical clinical psychologist in a psychiatric hospital so right now, just before finishing my M.Sc. I've been offered to join their team on a closed ward.

It's not that I wouldn't feel ready for it (at least as far as you could say you feel ready after just finishing university) but I'm wondering if such a station would really be the optimal first workplace for someone with so little experience.
My first thought was 'Uff, no way I'm able to work there' but after sleeping on it I can feel some kind of excitement about working there creeping into my mind.
I've already voiced my concerns to our chief physician and they told me it's much less psychotherapy-heavy work than the 'ordinary' wards I'm already familiar with.

So yeah, what do you fellow health professionals think about someone fresh from university starting out on a closed ward?",MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/gn19d7/got_offered_my_first_job_as_a_psychologist_on_a/,[]
gm6eqc,2020-05-18T23:23:24,What would be for me?,"I don’t really know if this is the right sub for this, but I have a bunch of questions as I’m filling stuff out and planning everything for college now. 
I’ve always known that I’d wanted to get into the mental health field, more specifically clinical psychology. But I’ve also heard getting a Masters in Social Work is more versatile than one in Psychology. I can’t decide between THOSE two, and I also want to look into psychiatry for the pay. Pay is important because I want to go to a really good school and my grades are good enough as I have a 4.1 GPA:( Im nervous about psychiatry because idk if it needs a lot of chemistry? Physics? Bc I took AP Biology so thats obviously more my strongsuit... Ik it’s a lot. I just need some guidance:( Idk whats more for me. I know that I want to talk to people directly and help them for sure tho, if that helps. Thank you guys:(",MentalHealthProviders,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/gm6eqc/what_would_be_for_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'fr4507h', 'author': 'redfox-_-', 'body': 'Go you for wanting to get into the mental health field!\n\nDifferent countries will have different requirements, so not necessarily all I say here will be relevant to you, but it might be food for thought.\n\nA psychiatrist is a doctor. You go to med school for years and years-- that\'s why they get so well paid. In my country, mostly all they do is assess, diagnose and prescribe meds, no therapeutic work. \n\nA clinical psychologist assesses and diagnoses. They may do some therapeutic work, but most of that would be in extreme cases-- complex trauma, PTSD, high risk or where there\'s other complications for effective therapy such as the client having autism. If you can get traction working privately, there\'s big bucks in this field as well, tho again, years and years of study to get there. \n\nHere you can become a psychologist without being a ""clinical"" psychologist, which means you don\'t tend to diagnose, and you do more therapy, but again with the more complex clients. I don\'t think they have to study quite as long, but still above and beyond a degree in psych.\n\nCounsellors (or therapists of various types) generally work with less high risk and complex clients. I\'m a counsellor currently working in a school, and most of my clients are in the ""moderate"" realm with some higher risk and complexity that I can\'t get more specialised support for, for whatever reason. Here you need a minimum of a 3yr degree to register now, but when I studied I only did a 2yr diploma. Counsellors don\'t diagnose (tho we may explore potential diagnoses if appropriate, but we are not trained in the DSM at all). Counsellors pretty much only do therapeutic work. \n\nSocial workers are very different to all of these. They are involved when there are issues around safety, security, housing, food, etc. They are far more about solving everyday living issues, rather than working with issues that require therapy. While most get trained in basic counselling skills, if they want to do therapy then they should really get some additional training. In my country you need to study for 4yrs to get a S/W degree.\n\nIf you made it to this point in my comment, go you! Keep in mind this is all based on how things work here.\n\nTLDR; they all do really different jobs. Read up about what those jobs look like where you live.\n\nMaybe think about who you want to help the most. You can also reach out to those working in the field to hear what it\'s like in action.\n\nPersonally, I love being a counsellor, I get paid decently, and I couldn\'t do any of the other jobs I listed as they just aren\'t me.\n\nEdit: also worth looking into what registration looks like for each of these roles. Make sure you pick a course that will lead you to registration, otherwise you\'ve wasted a ton of money on a worthless piece of paper.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-19T13:43:40', 'parent_id': 't3_gm6eqc'}, {'comment_id': 'fr50n21', 'author': 'prancypantsallnight', 'body': 'Licensed clinical social worker here. I am in the USA FWIW. I assess, diagnose, and treat mental illness. I can bill insurance companies and Medicare for my services. Like any other practitioner I need to stay within my scope ethically and that means if I have no training or experience treating a specific disorder I’d need to refer someone to someone who is competent. \n\nIf I get tired of being a therapist either for an agency or my own private practice I can work in MANY other jobs from child welfare to medical social work to school social work. It’s a very diverse degree! \n\nHope this helps and good luck!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-19T20:29:32', 'parent_id': 't3_gm6eqc'}, {'comment_id': 'fr942gh', 'author': 'CriticalDance7', 'body': 'that means a lot thank you so much! the one thing holding me back from pursuing psychiatry is i’m afraid of not being able to pass the MCAT. or so many years of school...  im afraid of failing:(', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-20T21:45:13', 'parent_id': 't1_fr4507h'}, {'comment_id': 'fr9454p', 'author': 'CriticalDance7', 'body': 'thank you so much!!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-05-20T21:45:48', 'parent_id': 't1_fr50n21'}]"
gm3967,2020-05-18T20:42:50,Requirements for QMHP in NC,"Trying to do research on the requirements to be a Qualified Mental Health Professional in the State of North Carolina, but I'm only getting results from 2013. Does anyone know if the requirements are the same, specifically that you must be a Certified Peer Support Specialist, and/or any info about NCI Certificifation as well? Sources are appreciated! 

Context: I have Bachelors in Psychology, and am starting a job in Direct support. I am curious about  what steps I need to make over the next 2 years to become a QMHP and move up in this career.",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/gm3967/requirements_for_qmhp_in_nc/,[]
g96c39,2020-04-27T23:57:12,Reluctance to telehealth?,"Hi all,

I'm an LMFT based in California with a specialty in anxiety. I typically receive about 1-2 new inquiries a week.

Given the crisis, I've switched my practice to telehealth, and have offered this as an option to these potential new inquiries. None have signed up. Given the many uncertainties around COVID, I'm worried about maintaining a healthy case load in the long-term.

Wondering if anyone has experienced something similar? Any luck getting new people to commit to telehealth-based therapy? Beyond technical difficulties and perhaps a less comfortable setting - what other reasons do you think there is hesitancy to begin therapy virtually?

Thanks so much for any insight you can offer!",MentalHealthProviders,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/g96c39/reluctance_to_telehealth/,"[{'comment_id': 'fotey8g', 'author': 'GM_Organism', 'body': ""Client perspective here. Three main points as to why I'm not engaging with telehealth, despite seeing my psych for years now and being very happy with her support/service at large. \n\n* I have (not very obvious) autism and one of the ways it manifests is in my reluctance to communicate over the phone or via videocall. By those mediums, I have to use a heavily-scripted persona, or I can't communicate at all. It's anxiety inducing and overwhelming. I absolutely cannot engage with psychology in that context. \n\n* Another factor is that it's much easier to speak openly/more objectively about my life when I'm removed from it. When I'm physically still in the spaces where I am experiencing my problems, it's much much more difficult for me to engage with curiosity/observation about them. I can't see the forest for the trees and I know it - not to mention I'm worried about being overheard by people I might need to talk about. \n\n* I'm also acutely aware that my current ongoing psych is partly so effective because of her ability to read my body and check how it matches up (or doesn't) with the words she and I are both saying. I feel very strongly that without that ability, she won't be nearly as effective.  Basically, I feel like she wouldn't be able to do her job properly with me without that set of in-person cues. \n\nTelehealth works for some people. I'm just not one of them. I think a lot of people inquiring about new support don't want to take the risk of engaging with mental health support and then frustratingly/expensively finding out telehealth won't work for them, either."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-28T11:02:52', 'parent_id': 't3_g96c39'}, {'comment_id': 'forphzz', 'author': 'ShneedlezKupo', 'body': ""Hello! I am a front office coordinator for a mental health practice in the US. We have about 10 in office therapists, and insurance was a pain but we managed to transition a lot of our current clients into virtual sessions for the time being. The inquiries are definitely not as frequent/flooded as they would have been before the pandemic, so I'm thinking people are preoccupied, maybe low on money and can't afford copays, and some clients have even just told me that telehealth doesn't sound like a comfortable setting (maybe technology distrust.) \nA few of our therapists set up the office to maintain the 6ft apart rule for people comfortable coming in. This has kept a somewhat steady balance, but I know our therapists are struggling a little bit and have a decent amount of availability that unfortunately isn't being filled very quickly.\n\nNot sure if this provides you with some comfort and insight! I know a few of our therapists also utilize BetterHelp, so that could be an option if you want to maintain social distancing for a while?\n\nHope this helps!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-28T01:07:02', 'parent_id': 't3_g96c39'}, {'comment_id': 'fs8o0i6', 'author': 'JulieJohnsonLPCC-S', 'body': 'I wonder where you are advertising and how you are advertising. Telehealth has been effective for years in the same respect as in person. My practice is very full for individuals and couples. Letting clients know they just need a private space and can even use their car in any location they choose. They can drive to a pretty place and use phone. Also it helps with a positive attitude speaking to clients that you feel it is effective and the safest choice. You can read body language, gather information from their background,  and insurance if you take it are waiving a lot of the client fees at this time which is also helpful for clients to understand.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-30T02:28:10', 'parent_id': 't3_g96c39'}, {'comment_id': 'fovrxz2', 'author': 'charlie1015', 'body': ""Thank you so much for this insight! Your reasoning makes a lot of sense to me, and I'm sure many others feel the same way. Appreciate your openness and hoping you can return to in-person sessions as soon as possible (if you aren't currently able to right now)."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-29T02:11:25', 'parent_id': 't1_fotey8g'}, {'comment_id': 'forwmke', 'author': 'charlie1015', 'body': ""Thank you! Super helpful. I agree that although telehealth is a fantastic tool during this time - I think some clients just don't trust the tech quite yet, especially with the news around Zoom not being secure (not that I use Zoom, but just this idea in general that video conferencing might not be private)."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-28T02:06:38', 'parent_id': 't1_forphzz'}]"
g8s8eo,2020-04-27T08:22:58,Question about CE credits,"I found a website called ""The National Child Traumatic Ttress Network"". They give Continuong Education Hours (CE credit) , and a printable certificate. I'm asking those who are in the field of mental health/social work this particular question.

I am trying to make myself look better on resumes. I'm in the process of getting my Associates in Addiction Studies, but want to add certificates on for potential employers to see. If I go onto that website and watch the videos/take the test, get the certificate, will that make me look better to potential employers? Or is it not worth it because I am not licensed at all yet.",MentalHealthProviders,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/g8s8eo/question_about_ce_credits/,"[{'comment_id': 'fopcqst', 'author': 'Mentalization', 'body': 'I would leave them off in general, but include them if you are trying for a spot which focuses on that subspecialty.\n\nCE are not high level discussion. I would not include them beyond your first job as they are not indicative of anything more than ""I saw/participated in a course"" unless they are  particularly noteworthy.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-27T09:00:47', 'parent_id': 't3_g8s8eo'}]"
fzj9m0,2020-04-12T02:42:44,MSW student here,"Hi I'm studying the way that different generations access mental health resources and was hoping for yalls professional input. Would you be willing to take this quick survey? 

Thanks!

 [https://www.reddit.com/user/sapaja/draft/1c534f3c-7c38-11ea-ba32-8a051421b131](https://www.reddit.com/user/sapaja/draft/1c534f3c-7c38-11ea-ba32-8a051421b131)",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/fzj9m0/msw_student_here/,[]
ftr1ve,2020-04-02T23:27:08,Can't make up my mind on whether or not to enter the mental health field! Please give me your input,"Hello!

I am a 25 year old female currently in the field of Human Resources and I am as miserable as can be, therefore I've decided I need to start thinking about my next career goal. Though the pay is great (I'm at 60k at the age of 25) HR is just not for me, I hate the repetitive work, having to figure everything out for management and dealing with petty employee complaints. I have always been interested in the mental health field to the point I received my bachelors in psychology but didn't continue it because I thought HR was what I wanted to do. I am now at the point where I'm seriously considering entering the mental health field perhaps as a counselor due to my devotion to mental health and my interest in helping others. I've been through a few mental struggles myself, which I still deal with, and I truly have the desire to help those dealing with such challenges...Now the issue I keep running into is that I find ways to talk myself out of pursuing this field because all of the negative talk regarding the pay in this field. Any time I've done research on mental health counseling one of the top cons about the field is how low the pay is, to the point mental health counselors struggle to maintain themselves. I know this isn't a field one would go into to become rich which is not what I'm looking for but obviously one would want to be able to live through life without having to live paycheck to paycheck, especially after obtaining a masters degree. I honestly believe I'm scared of the pay cut simply because I've gotten used to the good wages in my current field. 

My question are:

\-are these low salaries truly accurate? 

\-Are all mental health counselors who first enter the field, paid such low wages?

\-Have you or anyone you know in this field been able to make a decent living?

I've shared some of my concerns with family and friends while venting to them about my struggle with my career path and of course they encourage me to go into the field because it's what I have a passion for and they've mentioned I could always find a second source of income perhaps through opening my own business. But I wanted to hear from those who are actually in the field, like you! Thank you for your help",MentalHealthProviders,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/ftr1ve/cant_make_up_my_mind_on_whether_or_not_to_enter/,"[{'comment_id': 'fma3h1n', 'author': 'Micrenee', 'body': 'Pay definitely varies by state, and if you’re unionized. I was a mental health worker for 6.5 years, part of a union, and my pay upon leaving was $22/hr. I’d start as a per diem mental health worker if you’re not dependent on benefits. You get paid more hourly, and sometimes you get incentives. Also starting off with less hours might be beneficial to see if it’s something you’d like. It’s a tough job, but VERY much needed. Very rewarding, very draining physically and mentally. Definitely look into partial programs as well as inpatient! Let me know if you have any other questions, I’d be more than happy to answer! 😊', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T08:31:22', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fmawup4', 'author': 'redfox-_-', 'body': ""I live in New Zealand, so my experience may not match yours, but I thought I'd chip in :)\nThere are not a lot of counsellors that work full-time. Most work part-time for an agency or school, then many will also do private practice as well. Counselling is exhausting, particularly initially. \nI work in a high school in an wealthy-ish area full-time. I have my own m/h stuff and chronic fatigue that has flared up big time this year. Many weeks I wonder if I've bitten off more than I can chew.\nBut, I earn enough to be the sole income for my household (2 adults 1 child), renting a nice house. We live week to week, as I'm paying back a massive student loan and I don't get paid in the school holidays so we have to put money aside for those weeks.\nIn NZ I think to earn a decent wage from counselling you'd either have to work in a school/for crisis m/h services, or be epic at running your own private practice. There's plenty of agency work out there, but they don't tend to pay as well."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T16:19:28', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fm8tg47', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T00:58:21', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fm9iqie', 'author': 'therealslimsh4dyy', 'body': 'I’m a 26 yr old F. I work in Ontario, Canada in the Justice/mental health sector. I absolutely love my job! I can’t see myself doing anything else. There is tons of admin work to do and I spend a a lot of time in my office. However, the other half of my time is spent in the community meeting individuals at coffee shops for check-ins, house visits, in the prison, or supporting them in court. \n\nI have a degree in crim/psych and also a 1 year post graduate certificate in mental health & addictions. I had to work shitty jobs in human services (behavioural group homes and shelters) in order to build my resume and gain experience in the field to get to where I am now. Even though I now work in a professional role, I only make $26/hr. \n\nI have colleagues that make over 60k a year but they are in professional roles that took years of experience to get to. OR.. they have their masters and work in either hospital/prison/government. \n\nI hope this helps!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T04:49:22', 'parent_id': 't3_ftr1ve'}, {'comment_id': 'fm9cvxk', 'author': 'helpagirlout101', 'body': ""Thank you for you insight!\n\nAs far as the crossover with HR, I wouldn't have an issue with those things because it's not the focus of the work. Whereas in HR it is. My main dislike about HR is the employee relations portion where I'm having to listen to people complain about the silliest things and having to do a whole investigation and resolving it. As long as I don't have to that in counseling I'm ok haha. I know with counseling I would be listening to peoples problems but I doubt I would get irritated about someone talking about their trauma compared to an employee snitching on a coworker because they're stealing time :)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-04-03T03:52:49', 'parent_id': 't1_fm8tg47'}]"
fm7nja,2020-03-21T07:49:18,Needing resources,"I am a children’s mental health case manager, usually based in the schools, but the recent closing of schools and now my company having us work from home and do televideo appointments because of COVID-19. I’m doing this until further notice, but I’m slightly at a loss on how to keep kids engaged in appointments. Usually we would do a workbook, then crafts/games, or even homework while we talk. I have the workbooks that I need for kids, but I want to continue to make the appointments entertaining for the them, but I am not sure how to do this over video. Would anybody be able to give me advice or resources to use to keep kids engaged and entertained through out however many weeks I have to do this? Anything is appreciated.",MentalHealthProviders,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/fm7nja/needing_resources/,"[{'comment_id': 'fl3py5o', 'author': 'Bandaid74', 'body': 'https://abundancepracticebuilding.com/podcast/0159-online-play-therapy-2/\n\nAnd look up tele-play therapy on facebook. \n\nI’m on this learning curve too!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T18:12:24', 'parent_id': 't3_fm7nja'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3q4d8', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'Not sure what platform your boss is having you use but this telesessions platform has a lot of options for children like interactive white boards, screen sharing (for work pages etc), it has built in games. \n\nhttps://www.theraplatform.com/features/hipaa-compliant-video-conferencing\n\nHowever if that’s not an option maybe speaking to the parents before hand to get items ready for the therapy appointment. Like play doh or certain games etc. also utilize https://www.therapistaid.com/ for online worksheets. \n\nNot sure if it’s too late for this but maybe seeing if you or a few clinicians can stop by your office and create therapy packages that the parents can pick up so the kids are ready for their sessions. These packages can have clay or colored pencils or paints or worksheet or whatever in them. Parents were doing that last week picking up school supplies for kids doing distance learning. \n\nJust a few ideas.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T18:15:14', 'parent_id': 't3_fm7nja'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3xmyu', 'author': 'Chelsea0027', 'body': 'Thank you!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:00:36', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3py5o'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3xswu', 'author': 'Chelsea0027', 'body': 'Thank you! I appreciate it! It’s something In our company that we have never had to do before, our options are Zoom, Skype, or FaceTime, so we are kind of limited on what we can actually do to interact other than just the video feed.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:02:36', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3q4d8'}, {'comment_id': 'fl7486o', 'author': 'Bandaid74', 'body': 'Found something else...psychologist sharing how she preps for online \n\n\nhttps://youtu.be/kmZJdC0eTbc', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-22T21:47:51', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3xmyu'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3xzpx', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'I think zoom and Skype offer screen sharing so if you have any materials on the computer you can share it with them.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:04:50', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3xswu'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3y1xk', 'author': 'Chelsea0027', 'body': 'Oh great! I will have to experiment with it a little more!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T20:05:35', 'parent_id': 't1_fl3xzpx'}]"
f64nkz,2020-02-19T09:10:36,Aspiring Counselor afraid to take first steps,"Hello everyone!

I have been out of school for 10yrs, have a BA in Sociology, and experience with various populations, (from toddlers to geriatrics). I know I want to pursue a career in counseling (wanting to 1st become a licensed clinical mental health counselor and then get my PsyD), but I have been told it is a dead end after the masters and the only way to be successful is to get your PsyD directly, which carries a lot of debt. Getting my MSW would be a ""better idea"" , a ""sure thing"", and is ""practically the same"", but I am not buying it....but maybe I should? 

I would really appreciate some insight into the process and what I am really getting myself into (and if anyone wanted to be a mentor...I would be estatic!). 

Thank you and I look forward to hearing insight from anyone willing to share!",MentalHealthProviders,1,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/f64nkz/aspiring_counselor_afraid_to_take_first_steps/,"[{'comment_id': 'fi4sv3p', 'author': 'prancypantsallnight', 'body': 'Here is an idea-get an MSW, do the clinical hours for an LCSW, then if you want later go back for the PsyD. I have an MSW and am an independently licensed therapist (LCSW) and have considered going back for a PsyD but ultimately decided it’s not worth it for me (I’d rather engage in hobbies than go back to school—and it won’t make me feel more competent, just add more income and debt). If you decide the PsyD is your journey then go for it. If you don’t you have an MSW and can do therapy, be a school social worker, do discharge planning, or any number of career paths.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T02:59:20', 'parent_id': 't3_f64nkz'}, {'comment_id': 'fi5i52l', 'author': 'Brina388', 'body': 'Thank you!!!!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T07:24:05', 'parent_id': 't3_f64nkz'}, {'comment_id': 'fl3qp67', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'Not sure if you still want replies to this but I’m a LMHC. And planning on getting a PsyD. I think first you need to evaluate why you want the PsyD. I was just reading an article about this a few weeks ago. But basically if you want to do counseling a masters level is sufficient. I may be partial but I really prefer mental health counseling degrees over MSW if you definitely want to be just a therapist. A MSW prepares you to be a social worker and yes there are some counseling courses but a degree in counseling is all about counseling. Going back to the PsyD, the article I was reading basically said that doctorates are expensive and unless you want to be a professor, do extensive research or do psychological testing the ROI won’t be there. If you get your masters in mental in counseling then you can work right away and get your clinical hours, sit for your national licensing exam, get your license and then go back to school for a PsyD. Or don’t go back to school and live a great life as an LMHC.\n\nSo why do you want your PsyD?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-21T18:24:24', 'parent_id': 't3_f64nkz'}, {'comment_id': 'fi4xuxo', 'author': 'Brina388', 'body': 'Wait wait wait wait wait....hold up....this is a game changer right here\n\nYou are telling me that I can go for my MSW, get clinical hours...and then go for my PsyD!? Will I need to take some filler classes? Do universities usually accept that...an MSW to get a PsyD?\n\nIf this is so....I am doing it! I thought you could only get a PsyD with counseling or psychology!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T03:47:33', 'parent_id': 't1_fi4sv3p'}, {'comment_id': 'fi58z3k', 'author': 'prancypantsallnight', 'body': 'I’m sure it depends on the PsyD program but the one I looked at—Western Kentucky University—also takes related master’s degrees AKA the MSW. So I’d say look at the program(s) where you plan to apply.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-02-20T05:43:43', 'parent_id': 't1_fi4xuxo'}]"
esnwqn,2020-01-23T09:36:24,I believe they are grouping lots of different counseling degrees under the umbrella of psychology. The salary ranges make me sad though.,,MentalHealthProviders,0,0,https://i.redd.it/v03q0ncuv7c41.jpg,[]
e7gucb,2019-12-07T22:41:19,Insurance billing question,For those who bill health insurance. When you see a couple in therapy do you bill both of their insurances or one insurance?,MentalHealthProviders,1,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/e7gucb/insurance_billing_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'fa0ngz2', 'author': 'k8e6897', 'body': 'You only bill one plan, if you bill both it would be technically double billing and umm illegal haha. Just speak with the couple about what plan they would want to bill. Cheers!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-12-08T03:58:15', 'parent_id': 't3_e7gucb'}, {'comment_id': 'fpktxc9', 'author': 'hard8hopping', 'body': ""If you saw them both in a session, that would be correctly billed as one family therapy session using CPT code 90847. If you saw each of them sequentially, one session each, then you would bill each for 90834 or 90837 depending upon the session length, although many therapists may say you shouldn't see both individually and as a couple. For a married couple, you should always inquire if they have separate policies and which is the primary insurance for each. The insurers care very much about you billing the primary first and then the secondary for what was not covered by the primary."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-05-05T23:19:33', 'parent_id': 't3_e7gucb'}, {'comment_id': 'faey059', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'I bill one person now but I had a disagreement with a social worker at an insurance company about this, which to me sounded like double billing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-12-11T02:11:40', 'parent_id': 't1_fa0ngz2'}, {'comment_id': 'fpkx9sx', 'author': 'Lexecution', 'body': 'Thanks. Mainly I was asking because I got into a bit of a back and forth with a health insurance quality insurance person about this. Unmarried couple, see them as a couple but bill HIS insurance which is a different insurance company than HERS. She has Medicaid managed plan and they do random quality assurance audits and one of his critiques is that I wasn’t billing couples sessions even though I say in the notes that state that certain issues were addressed in couples. I don’t want to argue with the insurance QA person but he was being ridiculous. When they do these audits they pick sometimes a 3 -6 month time frame of session notes and treatment plans etc but where it said couples treatment was being billed under his insurance was in notes before the period they were asking for. Therapeutically it made sense to meet with her individually and also in couples. So I was billing her 90834/90837 and billing him the 90847s. QA guy was being stubborn and refusing to back down about how couples therapy was indicated and why wasn’t I seeing her in couples, even when I told him I was just not using her insurance. So I wanted to make sure I wasn’t missing something.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-05-05T23:47:11', 'parent_id': 't1_fpktxc9'}]"
e5as89,2019-12-03T08:53:40,Practitioner who works with Veterans,"If this allowed, please delete. 

I am in search of someone to interview for a class that works with veterans. Specifically in the mental health area. Thank you!",MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/e5as89/practitioner_who_works_with_veterans/,[]
d8fr4e,2019-09-24T06:17:14,Both sides of the couch,I am currently a social worker that works at an alternative school with high schoolers with social emotional needs. My job can be exhausting just as all of ours can be. The thing I’m wondering is if anyone else out there also faces current challenges of their own mental illness. I am currently in therapy and on medications and have been for many years. I have been hospitalized multiple times in the past and still face urges. My challenge is going to work every day and having to hide that from everyone. It is so hard to sit across from a student and basically say to as I say not as I do. I love my job and it keeps me going but at the same time it is hard to be on both sides of the couch. Does anyone else face this challenge and what do you do?,MentalHealthProviders,5,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/d8fr4e/both_sides_of_the_couch/,"[{'comment_id': 'f1cchcp', 'author': 'MiladyBanana', 'body': 'I call myself a ‘hybrid model’, working in mental health but with my own significant diagnoses.  Luckily, I work in a place where (appropriate) disclosure is valued, so I speak about my experiences frequently with clients.  I think that it is very important for folks with mental illness to see examples of people who are doing well in life, to help break down the stigma and stereotypes about what a person with a diagnosis can/can’t  accomplish.  I am open about the fact that I am still symptomatic, but consider myself to be in recovery because I keep looking for ways to improve my self, and my ability to function effectively in life.  I have had to develop excellent boundaries, because I don’t want clients feeling like they need to focus on me once they know my story, and also to keep my disclosure in the helpful realm instead of crossing the line into disclosure to meet my own needs.  \n\nI do find it difficult when my symptoms are really acting up, and I’m with clients whose current issues are either very minor, or have been unchanged for years.  In those moments, my compassion and empathy are quite tested.  So far, I’ve managed to keep it professional even while struggling.  \n\nI’m just now returning to work after a 2 month leave of absence for mental health reasons.  I’ve told the clients why I was off, and encouraged their empathetic responses.  They know that I’m not okay yet, but I’m okay enough to do my job.  I’ve been using my most recent experience to open dialogues about post-crisis planning, and preparing the way for their own transitions back into recovery after an episode.  \n\n It definitely isn’t easy being a hybrid model, but I think that we offer a lot to the field, in perspective, in practical coping strategies, and in role modelling recovery.  Keep up the good work, even if there are some extra squishy moments that get in the way!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-09-25T01:21:44', 'parent_id': 't3_d8fr4e'}, {'comment_id': 'f1cpg5o', 'author': 'journey83', 'body': 'Thank you so much for your input... I like the idea of hybrid model. I wish I could disclose information because I do think it would be helpful to the students. I also wish I could let my supervisor know that I am going through a hard time but in the past that has back fired on me and I ended up having to leave my job because I was targeted for having a mental illness so i am afraid and don’t want to take the chance especially since I am a mental health provider now.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-09-25T03:33:47', 'parent_id': 't1_f1cchcp'}, {'comment_id': 'f1cur6q', 'author': 'MiladyBanana', 'body': 'It s definitely risky to disclose.  I chose to get extensive training in peer support strategies before I approached my manager about using disclosure as part of my therapeutic work.  The peer support training is largely about safe and helpful disclosure of self to help others, something that is either not taught in most therapeutic degrees, or is actively discouraged.  \n\nDisclosing to supervisors is risky too.  I was the first openly diagnosed employee, but since then, others have come forward.  I have never been targeted at work, but I have been rejected post-interview from jobs that I was qualified for because I refuse to cover my healed scars (which is kinda illegal in the human rights anti-discrimination for disabilities arena).  My strategy is to be spectacular at my job, so that the minor detail of me being somewhat fucked up is less important than having a great employee!  If disclosure is something you want to explore, maybe try looking at your employer’s non-discrimination policies, and ask around to see what other people’s experiences have been with identifying themselves as someone with a disability (physical or mental health).  We definitely need more champions of awesomeness in the workplace, but it’s a big scary undertaking to be the first...  not a task that’s a good fit for everyone.  My struggles are visible on my skin, and I’m comfortable explaining how they came to be, so I figured I might as well be a stigma buster (also I have a big stupid mouth and I would have said something sooner or later to challenge people’s outdated comments).  One of my favourite things now, is doing guest lectures for med students and health professionals - halfway through, I’ll out myself and the looks on their faces are priceless!  \n\nYou do what’s right for you, and do it phenomenally!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-09-25T04:36:28', 'parent_id': 't1_f1cpg5o'}]"
cjpgf4,2019-07-30T15:15:51,"FREE Telepractice Webinar, Sat 8/3","Hi all! I'm a SLP working exclusively in telepractice. I see a huge increase in mental health providers serving online. This delivery model has huge potential, but I've seen there is still a huge gap between great tech and great therapy.   


So, to help others who may be in the same boat and want to learn more about telepractice, check out my **free** webinar next Saturday, August 3rd at 9:00 EST. We'll go over getting started in tele, how to find clients and contracts, and even how you may think about starting your own business.

 [https://events.mindmint.com/7112/58782/telepractice-and-you](https://events.mindmint.com/7112/58782/telepractice-and-you) 

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I hope to publish more webinars in the future, so if there's anything you'd like to know, post in comments or PM me!

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c38sc5,2019-06-21T15:38:58,Has anyone worked with youths at a mental health institute?,"I've received an opportunity to work with youths overnight at a mental health institute and was curious if anyone else has done the same and what their experiences were.

I've never worked with kids or anyone for that matter. (except for my siblings) so Im interested on what usually takes place.",MentalHealthProviders,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/c38sc5/has_anyone_worked_with_youths_at_a_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'erpjepg', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'I was an inpatient counselor for children and adolescents. Worked with kids 3-19, but most typically 10-17.\n\nI guess the biggest suggestions I have are:  keep a sense of humor, learn to be flexible, don’t get into power battles, maintain good boundaries. \n\nI’d be happy to answer any specific questions, feel free to PM.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-06-21T17:49:47', 'parent_id': 't3_c38sc5'}, {'comment_id': 'est38jz', 'author': 'BHCSLlc', 'body': ""I have been working with children/adolescents the past 10 years (ages 3 and up). I am a therapist and I specialize in trauma therapy for children. \n\nDefinitely keep a sense of humor.  Be open minded as you can learn so much through a child's eyes. You do not always need to have an answer. Allowing anyone to tell their story, can be therapeutic in itself. They think it, they speak it and they then hear their own words out loud. That's 3 times rapidly they processed the information in just moments. They begin to hear their own stories and process more than they even realize. Use their humor to help when needed and appreciate.  You will be amazed at what a child can teach an adult as long as you are open to hearing their story.  One last thing, do not take their pain and make it your own. This is their journey and as providers, we can try to move debris out of the path and eluminate their path to make it more bearable to travel. But ultimately, it is their journey to learn from. You will be amazed."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-04T23:02:46', 'parent_id': 't3_c38sc5'}]"
bpxkx8,2019-05-18T03:49:36,Not sure how to handle this therapist?,"So a new therapist I was planning to see (who is also a coworker) I know, I shouldn't have scheduled with her. However she seemed different, and claimed she was not like other therapists. She incorporates spiritual and other things into her practice. However, when I originally scheduled with her I expressed I was having issues with my husband, I provided a brief explanation and she immediately sent me pictures of ""symptoms of codependancy"". Now - We have been in therapy, and I have a therapist, and the therapist currently has never said anything about this. Me and my husband have even talked about very honestly if we're codependant. No one else has ever said this about us. She does not even know the entire story, and started to ""diagnose"". That was a red flag but I let it go. 

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A week later, on her facebook she posted a VERY inflammatory article (very far on one side of political spectruum - abortion etc) on her facebook. Now, I should not have reacted, but I did. I commented on it sort of saying, how I felt articles like this cause division etc. NOW - REGARDLESS of my opinion, a therapist, posting something like this? I don't know. It is a free country. But it was inflammatory. The conversation got a bit weird, and she ended up saying something a long the lines of:

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""As someone who has been raped etc, I feel (insert opinion here).""

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I became ENRAGED and very upset, as I have been raped, and have a past history of abuse with more than one incident. I backed out of the conversation because I felt myself becoming angry.

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She told me she hoped I healed and found peace, and that it was good of me to speak out on hard issues, after bringing up not only 1 inflammatory article, but a triggering issue such as abuse.

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Later, I see a post she makes on her own facebook along the lines of:

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With all the fighting on facebook lately (insert rant about not fighting, not projecting issues, etc)

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Now my question here is. How do I handle someone, who has not only completely turned a situation around on someone who has a differing opinion, who is also a therapist, and who I have an upcoming appointment with! I want to cancel it. I don't feel comfortable around her now at all. I also do NOT want a therapist who posts inflammatory articles, and then later gets on a soap box about the fighting that was created by her own choice to post something inflammatory?

Also, my boss liked and put hearts by all her comments, disregarded mine (fine we all have different points of view, right?) and now my boss today is on my case about work related issues that previously were never a problem. I feel extremely uncomfortable and unwelcome..This seems all unprofessional and weird.

I KNOW I'm not perfect. But this just seems like a messed up situation.",MentalHealthProviders,2,7,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/bpxkx8/not_sure_how_to_handle_this_therapist/,"[{'comment_id': 'enyupki', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'Wow, there are so many boundary violations across the board here, it’s challenging to unpack. Did your supervisor approve this therapist treating you prior to your first session? Have you addressed the social media disagreement in person?  \n\nI’d also suggest making sure you’re maintaining healthy boundaries with your own clients, given the bending of pretty hard and fast lines.', 'score': 7, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T04:53:49', 'parent_id': 't3_bpxkx8'}, {'comment_id': 'ev91x7r', 'author': 'littlefunman', 'body': ""She doesn't even sound like she would be a good friend, let alone a therapist. Walk away, she is toxic"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-28T13:45:18', 'parent_id': 't3_bpxkx8'}, {'comment_id': 'f5r07wy', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Her post on Facebook is a violation of being aware enough to treat others. Never speak to her again, your boss is also equally an idiot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-10-30T03:22:43', 'parent_id': 't3_bpxkx8'}, {'comment_id': 'enyyd01', 'author': 'BeautifulDisaster69', 'body': 'Thanks for the input, I will try and address these issues. To be clear I am not a mental health provider. I was looking for input from them as I felt it is all unprofessional.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T05:36:17', 'parent_id': 't1_enyupki'}, {'comment_id': 'enyzlx5', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'Thanks for clarifying. It makes a little more sense why you’d consent to seeing this therapist. It also makes sense why you don’t have a background in the ethics of boundaries. \n\nHer agreeing to take you on in the first place as a client was very inappropriate. If the supervisor knew, it’s even more problematic. I know the Facebook banter may be upsetting you more than these initial boundary violations, however these are exactly what created the vulnerable situation you’ve now put yourself into. \n\nIt’s not ethical to be social media friends with clients. It is unethical to share client information with others in a public arena. This should never have even happened - why? You never should have been a client and/OR a friend on social media. \n\nNow, past all of that. Sure, we have the ability to speak our political opinions on social media and engage with peoples who we disagree. This type discourse is NOT appropriate in a client/therapist relationship. \n\nYou’ve said you have been in therapy. Please continue with the previous therapist or find a new one. Discontinue working with your coworker as a provider. I’d suggest keeping it professional and short, especially since you’re employed there. \n\nDepending on how uncomfortable you are, you might want to speak with HR or other supervising clinical staff.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T05:50:52', 'parent_id': 't1_enyyd01'}, {'comment_id': 'enz0f7t', 'author': 'BeautifulDisaster69', 'body': ""Thanks! Yes I have not seen her yet. I will tell her it is inappropriate. I actually mentioned it was a concern of mine and she said it was fine. We don't have an HR rep at my work I don't believe. it is a small family owned business. Any issue is addressed with my boss. I am intimidated by her but that is my own issue. I deactivated my facebook because I simply don't know how to handle any of this right now. Everyone is friends on facebook. They all have different opinions than me, every since we joined facebook the treatment is definitely not the same. I don't feel welcome anymore. I would rather just not have facebook. I don't want to delete them all because they will get offended. they got offended when other people who used to work there deleted them. maybe it is just dysfunctional in general."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T06:00:31', 'parent_id': 't1_enyzlx5'}, {'comment_id': 'enz19zv', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'From what you’ve written, dysfunctional sounds to be a fitting description. \n\nI’d suggest if they ask, keep it brief. “I deactivated my account.”  Why? “Decided to take a break from social media.”  \n\n“I’m seeing my previous therapist.”  Why?  “I think there are some confusing boundaries in seeing a coworker for treatment.”  \n\nGood luck.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T06:10:44', 'parent_id': 't1_enz0f7t'}]"
bilydl,2019-04-29T11:14:12,"I'm flabbergasted by this facility, input needed.","Ok, so 1, here's my reddit post cherry, and 2. Omfg I don't even know. 

So, I work at a residential facility for the mentally ill,  primarily bi-polar and schizophrenic blah blah blah. I've been here for 2 years, with the prior 10 years being in SNF and after 2 years I still can't believe what is allowed and just wondering if this is the norm. 

Client 1: 21 year old schizophrenic and mild autism and bipolar.  While working on his independent living skills goals, he decides he doesn't want to do them and instead tells, screams, says he's hearing voices (which only pop up when he doesn't want to do something) starts looking for a knife,  can't find one and leaves facility grounds to go ""run in traffic"". Now my training tells me to provide him a safe environment,  KEEP HIM ON GROUNDS, remove harmful items, and wait for him to calm down then return to the task.... NOPE. I get nagged out by the admin for it. ""Just let him go, he'll be back. You just finish the task so its done""... what?... wtf... 

My problems with this are 
1. He has just voiced sucidal ideology, if he gets hit by a car then isn't the facility liable? 
2. Isn't this just teaching him that if he throws a fit when he doesn't want to do something, then he won't have to do it (this is not an isolated issue)
And 3. How does that teach independent skills?

Repeat the basics of the scenario for 13 clients... nothing is standardized,  staff are allowed to follow/not follow protocol when it suits them, clients are allowed to do whatever. Is this the norm? Because if it is omg no wonder there's a mental health crisis. 

We have a meeting every other week, with our next being this Friday. Any pointers you higher level mental health workers can provide? Thanks in advance.",MentalHealthProviders,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/bilydl/im_flabbergasted_by_this_facility_input_needed/,"[{'comment_id': 'enm89nu', 'author': 'misbri0509', 'body': 'I know this post is older but I have been having somewhat the same issue with outpatient clients. One of the things I’m considering is contacting state politicians about mental health in my community. But another thing I started doing is keeping a “grievance book” \nThe structure of my book (a regular notebook)\n1)time / date\n2)person(s) who causes issues/grievance\n3)direct quotes\n\nThen if you feel like things are serious like unethical contact the state to run an investigation. You should be able to do this anonymously.\n\nA less severe this to do is to look of the laws. Which you should find on the Department of Health site for your area. \nPs DO NOT TELL ANYONE ABOUT YOUR GRIEVANCE BOOK. My mom taught me this she worked for Chicago police department and she had one and someone broke into her locker at work and stole it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-15T19:24:19', 'parent_id': 't3_bilydl'}, {'comment_id': 'eohgfcw', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""This can be the norm depending on the provider, but it more just sounds like the provider you're working for is lazy. \n\nIf companies have it in their policy that they will intervene to protect from imminent danger, then they must. However, companies can have a complete hands off policy and if that's the case then the provider can actually get in trouble for laying hands on the individual.\n\nYou should check your company's policy on this as well as the individuals programming. If they're not doing what it says, you should report them and you cannot be punished for that."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T08:38:23', 'parent_id': 't3_bilydl'}, {'comment_id': 'eoihm62', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""The office of ombudsmen would be a good way to go about it or just call the Common entry point to make a verbal report. I think you should just follow what's written. They can get mad at you for it all they want but they can't fire you for following policy. Also, family run organizations like that are a nightmare. Id suggest getting out."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T19:28:11', 'parent_id': 't3_bilydl'}, {'comment_id': 'eohr9nh', 'author': 'ajkennedy330', 'body': 'The written policy is that each client will have a behavior intervention plan within their IPP, where a verbal prompt will be given 3 times, then the BIP will be initiated. \n\nThe verbal policy is ""that\'s too much paper work to track, just do your best.\n\nThe IPP\'s are literally copies of each other through the clients, just describing the resident rights restrictions. (I work tomorrow night, I\'ll post a redacted photo so you can see what I mean) if it wasn\'t for the names, you wouldn\'t be able to tell which client their for.\n\nIt\'s a small company where the Administrator is also the president/CEO, his brother is the treasurer,  and their mother is a founding member... \n\nHonestly it wouldn\'t be so bad if 1. The Administrator was actually there to deal with the clients, 2. He didn\'t change his mind every week, and 3. If we didn\'t get in trouble for doing the thing he told us to do the week before. \n\nWho do you call to report this type of thing? Is that to the state abundsman?', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T11:07:33', 'parent_id': 't1_eohgfcw'}, {'comment_id': 'eoijrk5', 'author': 'ajkennedy330', 'body': ""I'll give them a call.\n\nAnd I can't follow what's written,  because there are no BIPs written. The care coordinator doesn't right them, she just plays ok her phone all day. (BTW,  she used to date the Administrator for 10+ years. He's still trying to get back with her)"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T19:50:43', 'parent_id': 't1_eoihm62'}, {'comment_id': 'eok7sa9', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Ish. That's a bad situation. Definitely report them."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-24T03:25:07', 'parent_id': 't1_eoijrk5'}]"
bhitz0,2019-04-26T11:17:23,Applying for a job for a psychiatric hospital when you have a diagnosis of mental illness?,"I’m hoping this is ok to post in here, but I have always been really fascinated with the field, my mother was admitted a few times to a psych ward and every time I visited, it would just reaffirm my interest in it all.

I’m looking to apply for a mental health aide trainee position, however I did come across the disclaimer of a health exam which included a psych exam to see if I had anything that would prevent me from being able to perform the job.

I do have bipolar type 2, anxiety, and AADHD. However I have been been under a psychiatrists care for about 2 years now and she states all are stable and under control with the treatment plan I’m on.

I have never been hospitalized, taken to CPEP, or anything of the sort. I just wanted to take care of myself and seek treatment to better myself.

Should I still apply? Anyone have better insight on what they look for to make someone unqualified? Surely that since I have proactively taken care of my own mental health without any hospitalizations, etc... would be something to consider as a reason not to reject me, right? Or is it too much of a risk to take?",MentalHealthProviders,3,8,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/bhitz0/applying_for_a_job_for_a_psychiatric_hospital/,"[{'comment_id': 'eltcgam', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'I don’t know how they could possibly use that against an applicant, that is super discriminatory if they’d use your medical history against you. I work at an inpatient forensic psych hospital and we had no such requirement in the hiring process. In fact, I’m convinced a good number of our employees do have severe mental illness, but I digress', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T12:41:16', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'eltziy7', 'author': 'twocats83', 'body': ""I've worked as a mental health nurse, had to quit as my bipolar symptoms was getting in way of work. Took me a while to learn how to manage my illness. \nI'm taking a return to nursing course this autumn.\n\nIn your case, working with occupational health and HR is a good idea.  \n\nIf I can do it, you can do it. All best.\n\nPost in r/bipolar for more advice."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T19:49:48', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'elw48js', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I worked in a psych hospital and I have bipolar. Wasn’t a big deal.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-27T09:57:43', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'eohgv1v', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Apply for the job. Those exams aren't to weed out people with mental illnesses. If they were, there would be a lot less people in the field. Good luck!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-05-23T08:43:48', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'epwp16m', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'I work at a psych hospital and have plenty of co-workers with mental illnesses! It would be completely wrong for the hospital to deny you a job BECAUSE of your mental illness, so I say GO FOR IT!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-06-03T22:30:56', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'est4ro7', 'author': 'BHCSLlc', 'body': ""Definitely apply! You are not your diagnosis.  You did not ask to have this mental illness. From the sounds of it, you are perfectly fit to get this position. Never let your diagnosis gender your wants, your dreams and so on. You sound like you have been doing all the right things to take care of yourself (kudos to you!) The psych exam will ask the same questions in a different way to check for consistency,  to ensure you're being truthful. It is not to see if you have a mental health disorder or what kind. I can see why that would make you nervous when not knowing the purpose of this exam. But not to worry, you will be fine! Good luck to you on getting the job!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-04T23:13:25', 'parent_id': 't3_bhitz0'}, {'comment_id': 'eltnt32', 'author': 'anewvogue', 'body': 'Yeah, it may be because it’s a NY state job rather than a privately run establishment? I’m not sure.  I would be looking at taking a pay cut for the first year from my current job but in turn I’d be getting infertility benefits of 50,000 so it’s really tempting. I’m not sure if you could answer this but there is the hiring rate for a MHTA trainee then there are steps 1-6 and then finally job rate.... but after a year you go to the rate of a MHTA classification which also has steps 1-6 and then job rate.... how do these steps work? Is it like a progressive raise?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T17:05:59', 'parent_id': 't1_eltcgam'}, {'comment_id': 'eltnvg0', 'author': 'diegoldenenjude', 'body': 'I’m not sure, my job is a state job. Even though it’s a privately run establishment, your mental health status is a federally protected thing and they can’t base hiring decisions off of that', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-26T17:07:22', 'parent_id': 't1_eltnt32'}]"
b9zc81,2019-04-06T07:04:28,Mental Health job question,I just applied to a job that is for a non-profit healthcare place and I don't understand what the job is. What is an Associate clinician? I can't find it anywhere on google. Is it like a Mental Health Clinician?,MentalHealthProviders,3,11,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/b9zc81/mental_health_job_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'ek80szj', 'author': 'lilythenoodlebabby', 'body': 'What did the job description say? Seems like a really broad job title so I would think the description should offer some much more specific insight.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T07:36:00', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek934ri', 'author': 'KeatonJazz3', 'body': 'It sounds like they are referring to a clinician who is not yet licensed but has graduated with a Masters and has an intern #.   Call the clinical manager/supervisor/ or Director  and ask questions about the job.  If you can meet with them for an informational interview, that would be great.   Most managers who are hiring would be delighted to talk to,potentially interested candidates.   You can clarify what associate refers to, salary range or where to find it, etc.   Prepare 3-4 good questions, not too many, since people are busy.   Good luck, from a clinical manager at a county mental health. ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T21:05:03', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek86r62', 'author': 'misbri0509', 'body': 'Make sure the company has mobility. I work in community mental health, my pay is low but I’m suppose to get a raise every year. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T09:12:16', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek8xf92', 'author': 'SociologyHill', 'body': ""There's also the opportunity to get mentoring and increased supervision if it's a a small agency. Could be a good place to sharpen your skills before trying to apply somewhere else "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T19:42:52', 'parent_id': 't3_b9zc81'}, {'comment_id': 'ek81c8m', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""The description is this: Will be responsible for general daily care of program individuals. Provides counseling and advocacy in therapeutic setting assisting young adult through geriatric individuals with chronic mental illness and co-occurring disorders, achieve social, economic, emotional, and personal independence in order to live in the community.\n\nI'm trying to look up the salary because they don't post it, but I can't find it anywhere."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T07:43:46', 'parent_id': 't1_ek80szj'}, {'comment_id': 'eka52ik', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""Huh. It says the only requirements are a bachelors degree. I don't have a Masters and I don't plan on going to get one for awhile. Thanks for the assistance. I'll be sure to ask some very good questions."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-07T05:34:31', 'parent_id': 't1_ek934ri'}, {'comment_id': 'ek88rvl', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""From what I'm reading in reviews there isn't much mobility or getting raises. It seems to be an improvement in pay on my current job if my research is correct."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T09:49:43', 'parent_id': 't1_ek86r62'}, {'comment_id': 'eka5795', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""It's a non-profit and it has locations in different states. Delaware, Massachusetts, Rhode Island. I can't tell how big it is, but they have been around since 1975. So they are well based at least."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-07T05:36:29', 'parent_id': 't1_ek8xf92'}, {'comment_id': 'ek83aja', 'author': 'lilythenoodlebabby', 'body': ""It sounds like a counseling position for a newer mental health clinician to me. If you meet minimum requirements and have the opportunity to interview I'm sure you'll have the opportunity to get clarification. I'd follow up by looking in-depth at the website and services they provide to get a better idea of things.\n\nYou can probably expect the pay to be low(ish) but if you're needing experience it'll probably be an opportunity to challenge yourself quite a bit!"", 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T08:13:46', 'parent_id': 't1_ek81c8m'}, {'comment_id': 'eka6ex0', 'author': 'SociologyHill', 'body': 'My agency is part of a state network and has been around for a while but we have plenty of room for growth and progression. Maybebtrybtobfeelnitbiutbin an interview. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-07T05:52:40', 'parent_id': 't1_eka5795'}, {'comment_id': 'ek84uky', 'author': 'Smeckldorfthestrange', 'body': ""Yes! I have the opportunity to interview and I've researched the company. The reviews say low pay, but honestly it can't be worse than what I'm making as a sales person that doesn't make commission."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-04-06T08:39:41', 'parent_id': 't1_ek83aja'}]"
b8le5h,2019-04-02T21:53:51,The importance of holding space for people with suicidal thoughts...,,MentalHealthProviders,3,0,https://youtu.be/xg-pIN0o6NA,[]
azyppl,2019-03-12T02:30:32,Hi! Looking for info?,"Hello! I am currently a third year undergrad working towards a bachelors in psychology. I am hoping to get some info on working in the field (or be pointed to a better fitting sub). 

I have struggles with mental health issues, myself, for years and as a result I have quite a few scars on my forearms (these are the ones visible to all when I wear t-shirts or scrubs without long sleeves underneath). I was wondering if anyone could tell me of any experiences or tips for working in the mental health field as a Psych Tech or in a hospital or as a crisis management worker with these scars? Is it going to be a big deal or a dealbreaker for future employers? If anyone has personal experience, how it has been handled by both patients and employers/coworkers? 

I would appreciate literally ANY input here :) ",MentalHealthProviders,2,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/azyppl/hi_looking_for_info/,"[{'comment_id': 'ejs1w1r', 'author': 'Johnny_Carsonogen', 'body': ""A bit different, but similar enough where I believe I can help. \n\nI'm graduating in May with my bachelors in psych and am scheduled to take the GREs this summer, and ultimately plan on attending a PsyD program next fall. I am currently working as a mental health tech in an inpatient mental health hospital (which isn't my desired field of a career, but it does itch that 'helping others' bug and I gain experience with some of the population I want to research later on). \n\nAny way, I don't have self inflicted scars on my arms, but I do have tattoos and have a scar from the war that I want to keep hidden as well, so I wear sleeves. Its policy to cover any tattoos, and I'd rather not have to explain my tattoos, nor my scar, to every patient and coworker. I run hot so I found these arm sleeves on Amazon. \n\nI recommend getting dark colored ones as the lighter color arm sleeves are pretty transparent. \n\nSelf harm scars can be triggering to patients. We had a patient who was on 1:1 (having a tech or nurse with them at all times) for 3 months, even though we are a short term facility, because the patient couldn't stop from hurting themselves. Sadly, the voices told the patient that if they didn't repeatedly hurt themselves and pick reopen the healing wounds, the patient's mother would die. One day the patient say the self harm scars on another patient and it was very triggering. Patient tried to self harm more that day than any other. \n\nBut, as long as you have long sleeves or at least your arms are covered, it is ok. And your employer doesn't have to know about your past or your scars. \n\nThat is, of course, as long as you are not in mental distress. Especially in inpatient mental health, many patients are difficult, antagonistic, and downright shitty. What makes it worse is that, in many cases, it isn't their fault either. It's not always like the movies or the way we think it'll be. We have a few patients now that are so far beyond delusional that every day is a struggle and is very stressful. One minute they love you for helping them and listening to them, and the next, you are the worst person in the world because they KNOW you caused their relationship to end or that you are the reason the world is falling apart and that you control the voices in their head. It takes a toll on you. \n\nJust wanted to put that part in because when I started, I had no idea it would be like that. Figured there would be a few here and there that would test my empathy, but it happens a lot sometimes. \n\nThen there are the amazing patients who truly care about getting better and love you for your good work. And then, the most delusional patient finally has the read medications and they can see and act clearly. Those are the most rewarding cases. \n\nI know I got a bit off topic but I think it is very important to emphasize this part of working in such a hands on field of mental health tech/counseling. Good luck, and just keep your wits about you and maintain self care. "", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-03-31T07:39:34', 'parent_id': 't3_azyppl'}, {'comment_id': 'eibcnvc', 'author': 'TotesMessenger', 'body': ""I'm a bot, *bleep*, *bloop*. Someone has linked to this thread from another place on reddit:\n\n- [/r/psychologystudents] [Decided to crosspost to a bigger sub :)](https://www.reddit.com/r/psychologystudents/comments/b00kz8/decided_to_crosspost_to_a_bigger_sub/)\n\n&nbsp;*^(If you follow any of the above links, please respect the rules of reddit and don't vote in the other threads.) ^\\([Info](/r/TotesMessenger) ^/ ^[Contact](/message/compose?to=/r/TotesMessenger))*"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-12T05:10:45', 'parent_id': 't3_azyppl'}, {'comment_id': 'eic5lyv', 'author': 'floeds', 'body': ""If you can't help yourself, how are you supposed to help someone else? Especially when it's someone dealing with similar problems.\n\nOnce you've moved past this time in your life, you will be the person your clients might look up to. You would have been like them, but you moved on, therefor so can they.\n\nSo in my opinion it can definitely be a positive thing, as long as it's in your past. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-12T12:47:59', 'parent_id': 't3_azyppl'}, {'comment_id': 'enyyn4i', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'I wish I could upvote this a thousand times. If your own mental health is in a state of recovery where you’re able to use your struggles as a tool for advocating and providing care to clients, it should be no issue. That said, scars can be a trigger for patients actively struggling. As long as the scars are covered, there should be no problem. \n\nI had a former colleague with many old scars, and some coworkers brought this up to the manager. The official  opinion from The nurse manager was that “people should not gossip about her and leave her alone.” It defends on the clientele, the culture, the acuity, and so much more. \n\nI think the biggest mistake I’ve seen former coworkers with self injury scars make is trying to use these scars to align themselves with clients as a “see, I get you and we are in this together” type of approach. Which is not appropriate unless you’re in a Peer Mentor position.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T05:39:30', 'parent_id': 't1_ejs1w1r'}, {'comment_id': 'eic5m44', 'author': 'CommonMisspellingBot', 'body': ""Hey, floeds, just a quick heads-up:  \n**therefor** is actually spelled **therefore**. You can remember it by **ends with -fore**.  \nHave a nice day!\n\n^^^^The ^^^^parent ^^^^commenter ^^^^can ^^^^reply ^^^^with ^^^^'delete' ^^^^to ^^^^delete ^^^^this ^^^^comment."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-12T12:48:06', 'parent_id': 't1_eic5lyv'}, {'comment_id': 'enz8q3o', 'author': 'Johnny_Carsonogen', 'body': 'Thank you, and I agree with the relating to patients via scars issue. Or any other type. There are ways to let the patients know that you understand where they are coming from, and iterate that you understand on a more personal level, but going so far as to show them the scars is a line we shouldn\'t cross. Of course there will be patients who would benefit from knowing that their direct caretaker has gone through similar issues, but there are also patients who will use this to their advantage. Many patients have criminal tendencies or have mental issues that make them dangerous, and this leads to them pushing the limits sometimes. Some patients have come through the penal systems and know how to squeeze workers and get special privileges if they have ""dirt"" on them.\n\nDoesn\'t always happen like that, but I\'ve seen similar instances. The best way to show patients that you can relate without showing them scars or revealing personal information is through our empathy. We can let the patient know we are truly there for them and will help them because we understand them through our actions and how we interact with them. I believe that is our best tool when working through this field.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-05-18T07:06:04', 'parent_id': 't1_enyyn4i'}]"
avirq8,2019-02-28T03:06:24,St Andrews Hospital bosses criticised by inspectors over child and mental health service in Northampton,,MentalHealthProviders,2,0,https://nenequirer.com/2019/02/27/st-andrews-hospital-bosses-criticised-by-inspectors-over-child-and-mental-health-service-in-northampton/,[]
apwna5,2019-02-13T00:13:40,Want Info on Different Kinds of Mental Health Hospitals,"Hi. I am looking for some information on what are the different kinds of mental hospitals that people go into today for extended periods of time. (I almost used the phrase ""mental institution"" but I stopped myself, because that feels outdated. I'm not sure what other phrases to use to really clarify what I am talking about.)  


I'm thinking along the lines of the kind of thing we see in movies like *Girl, Interrupted*. I know that is a weird example and that movie is probably bursting with inaccuracies and historical anachronisms, but that is the best thing I could come up with.   


Do we still have the kinds of facilities where people can be checked in and stay for a long period of time, say, even, a few years? And wouldn't these kinds of institutions costs enormous amounts of money?   


Talking about those we have in the US.   


This is for a research project that I'm working on, I've been doing research, but I still feel sort of confused when it comes to what we have. ",MentalHealthProviders,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/apwna5/want_info_on_different_kinds_of_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'egcjzia', 'author': 'bananawit123', 'body': 'In the uk we have acute wards which aren’t supposed to be long stay and then rehabilitation wards where you could stay for longer. There is also picu (psychiatric intensive care unit) for those requiring a higher level of care. We have forensic wards for those with mental health issues that have come in to contact with the criminal justice system. These can be low, medium or high secure. We have mother and baby units for mothers experiencing post party’s depression or psychosis. We have older people mental health wards, mainly for those with dementia. Then we have children and adolescents wards. Some of these wards are all within the same hospital and some are stand alone units. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-02-13T06:25:17', 'parent_id': 't3_apwna5'}, {'comment_id': 'egcka1q', 'author': 'bananawit123', 'body': 'Sorry I didn’t really answer your questions the rehabilitation wards should have around a 1 year stay but are often longer if there is no where suitable for the client to go.\nThere has been a move over the last ten years to move care in to the community so a lot of people who would have been in institutions for their whole life now live in supported accommodation in the community and have carers go in to their home to support them.\nPeople who are in forensic units maybe in there for their whole lives as their movements are decided by the ministry of justice based on how much of a risk to the public they are. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-02-13T06:29:07', 'parent_id': 't3_apwna5'}, {'comment_id': 'egckfue', 'author': 'aMilii', 'body': 'Girl, Interrupted was filmed at McLean in Belmont, MA. Most inpatient admissions there are brief, days to several weeks. There are situations where someone may stay longer, for example if they are waiting for continuing care, especially for a state hospital bed. In MA, we have Tewksbury and Worcester.  Using McLean as an example, there are inpatient units, outpatient partial hospital programs, outpatient doctor and therapist offices. There are also self-paid, longer term residential programs. \n\nMany community and research hospitals have inpatient psychiatric units within their facilities. These are also focused on immediate stabilization so people can work on chronic problems with their outpatient providers. \n\nThere’s also a very complex history of deinstitutionalization and increased homelessness and incarceration of mentally ill. The debate is nuanced with patients’ rights.   People still can be under court orders for treatment (e.g. Roger Orders).  Worth looking up these topics of you are writing on changes in lengths of stay, treatment modalities, etc. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-02-13T06:31:16', 'parent_id': 't3_apwna5'}]"
9kpd7p,2018-10-02T15:40:37,Best therapeutic interventions for an explosively angry narcissist in for marriage counseling?,What are the best interventions for a narcissist in couples counseling? All the problems are the “fault” of the non narcissistic partner and NP is not interested in being referred out for anger management because “he’s not an angry person”. He is. ,MentalHealthProviders,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthProviders/comments/9kpd7p/best_therapeutic_interventions_for_an_explosively/,"[{'comment_id': 'e71pqko', 'author': 'ItIsWritten777', 'body': 'A back-handed bitch slap...I wish, but In all seriousness, these clients must have boundaries placed upon them by the therapist, ideally in the first session, but if not, it can definitely happen in subsequent sessions. It’s never too late to establish boundaries and this can be done by saying things like, “we are not going to use that type of language or that tone in this office; it’s unacceptable.” Also, in terms of interventions, Gestalt based here and now interventions are good for these types of people in marriage sessions, so exposing their behavior in session as a teachable moment for the client himself, by saying something like, “I noticed just then, it seemed like that dosent sit well with you, what are you feeling in this moment?”\nGood luck, these are tough clients!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-10-03T01:12:11', 'parent_id': 't3_9kpd7p'}, {'comment_id': 'e7o64x8', 'author': 'nanaimo', 'body': ""I creeped your post history after you replied to me about my mom. NPD was the other half of her mental health problems (and the half that made me break contact with her).\n\nUnfortunately, people with NPD tend to be resistant to treatment in general. If he angrily insists he's not an angry person...it will be a long, hard road for that to actually change.\n\n"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-10-13T07:15:45', 'parent_id': 't3_9kpd7p'}, {'comment_id': 'e722w7q', 'author': 'FreshLeggings', 'body': 'Thanks! I tried a type of call out like that and he fumed. I’ll keep trying. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-10-03T04:19:02', 'parent_id': 't1_e71pqko'}]"
9kk4b8,2018-10-02T02:08:42,we may get overwhelmed sometimes with the amount of stuff we may have to do! Here I wanted to share with you three of my tips to allow you to stop feeling overwhelmed and get more done!,,MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://youtu.be/jvSgykSN4JM,[]
9i25tl,2018-09-23T00:33:21,"Music and Mental Health, - The Amazing Benefits - OMG News Today",,MentalHealthProviders,1,0,https://omgnews.today/music-mental-health-amazing-benefits/#.W6aRwlkLx68.reddit,[]
1c5l7g2,2024-04-16T22:29:49,Haitian Focused Dissertation,"Hello and God bless you all. I am a Haitian American doctoral student working to improve the mental health of Haitian adults living in the US. Please help me by completing and sharing the survey. Thank you! [https://alliant.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_1YsOh4RlTvwrhr0](https://alliant.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1YsOh4RlTvwrhr0)

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ghhnh9,2020-05-11T11:06:32,Mental health question,"So all my life I’ve felt depressed some days handled things differently and worse than everyone, had self destructive behavior since I can remember, constantly have mood swings, and am always having trouble showing my emotions. So a few months ago I was on YouTube and it was about a reddit post that was talking about the op having bpd (borderline personality disorder) and so I poked and prodded around the internet for anything I could find about bpd, as I was able to find very clear similarities between my problems and theirs. And so when I determined that there’s a high chance I may have bpd I asked my mom about it and she just shut the whole idea down. The reason this has been brought back up with me is there’s been a slow change in my life but it just got a whole lot worse in every area and I was thinking to myself, “what could it be?” And so now this idea is stuck in my head and I’m wondering what I should do. Should I ask my school counselor about it through email and attempt to set up a session of some kind? Should I listen to my mother about this whole ordeal and chalk it up as me being a teen? I’m just worried about myself because I’ve felt like this my entire life and I wanna find out what’s wrong.",MentalHealthPros,6,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ghhnh9/mental_health_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'fq9uo50', 'author': 'apologetic_poster', 'body': ""Heya. I'm a therapist who works with teens—I am assuming that's your age range because you mention a school therapist. \n\nPersonality disorders are not formally diagnosed until someone is 18+. The reason for this is to make sure these are true personality traits that are stable over time, and not just due to adolescence. Some developmentally normal behaviors during adolescence can look like bpd, such as mood swings. In my opinion, the symptoms you listed are not necessarily indicative of clear borderline traits. If I were the one doing a diagnostic interview with you, I would also want to rule out several other things, such as trauma, depression/anxiety, codependency, bipolar, and so on.\n\nI mention this not to invalidate your feelings that something feels off with your mental health. It does sound like your symptoms are causing some suffering in your life, and I applaud you for wanting to look into this and take care of yourself. I'd absolutely recommend seeing your school counselor to talk about your concerns. Not necessarily to collect a diagnosis, but to get some support in coping with these struggles you're having. Your school counselor is a trained mental health expert and will be able to guide you in next steps you can take. \n\nIf you do have some borderline personality traits, look into Dialectal Behavior Therapy (DBT) as it is considered the golden standard of treatment for bpd. Good luck, OP!"", 'score': 4, 'timestamp': '2020-05-11T19:59:58', 'parent_id': 't3_ghhnh9'}, {'comment_id': 'lk7zvm1', 'author': 'JujuLoveCats', 'body': 'Hello! I’m so sorry you are going through this, I went through something similar. The best advice I would give you is try to find resources that are free that could help you. I use this app called Quabble and it sounds silly but it truly helps!. There is this cute duck you get to take care of by taking care of yourself, there is also mind exercises like the proud dandelion where you put something you did today that your are proud of and it’s all free. I think it’s amazing with this app can do because I’ve always talked to therapist and none helped it just felt out of place. Hope this information helps!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-08-28T00:44:25', 'parent_id': 't3_ghhnh9'}]"
fpjmb8,2020-03-27T02:33:24,Advice needed,"My parents are divorced. My dad was (maybe still is) an alcoholic. My mom was stalked. Her situation rubbed off on me. She was friends with a guy, he started stalking her. She let him back in the house, believe it or not. She talked to him and went places with him behind my back. He started stalking her again. Now he has been fined and has an extended PPO on him. I've had dreams about him, I don't remember if they were violent or not. When he came back in the house to hang out I wanted to smash his head into the table, but I played it off like I forgot about his stalking. My dad has anxiety, depression, and anger issues. I have bad anxiety at times, mild depression, and definitely anger/annoyance issues. I also have bad misophonia. I only get really irritated around my mom, specifically due to her letting the stalker back in and because she eats loudly and coughs a lot, which triggers my misophonia. I saw and heard pretty rough things during my parents full marital decline. I witnessed my dad down a bottle of anxiety meds. I need advice so I don't make any stupid mistakes, and I also want to help others who have had similar experiences.",MentalHealthPros,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/fpjmb8/advice_needed/,[]
fognfr,2020-03-25T05:56:50,Survey for Mental health professionals,"Hi, I am a student and am currently taking ENC1102. In this class, all students were put into groups for a project. My group’s project regards mental health professionals and how their relationships with their patients affects their own mental health. The link below contains a survey that we need to conduct for our project. It is completely anonymous and will really go a long way to helping us with our research. Please only take the survey if you currently, or previously, have worked in the mental health field. (Ex: Therapists, psychiatrist, worked in a mental health hospital, nurse with experience with mental health patients, etc.) Thank you for your time.

https://forms.office.com/Pages/ResponsePage.aspx?id=FFGz-HlgdkKsIq6A0d-6mCRXYsL9PPNBu66K76PylwFUMTRRWUxNS0tWWlFUTFRGMFM0R0pYVlkzVi4u",MentalHealthPros,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/fognfr/survey_for_mental_health_professionals/,"[{'comment_id': 'flgnsaj', 'author': 'super-sonic-hiccups', 'body': 'Not a mental health professional. \n\nAre you allowed to and willing to share the data you receive? (While keeping identifying info anonymous of course) Or at least share your findings? I am very interested in this', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-25T20:02:11', 'parent_id': 't3_fognfr'}, {'comment_id': 'flt2kn0', 'author': 'baskinrobins2', 'body': ""I will have to check with the group I am working with to see if I can share our findings but I don't see why we shouldn't be able to share our findings, while of course keeping any identifying info anonymous."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-03-29T10:19:15', 'parent_id': 't1_flgnsaj'}, {'comment_id': 'flt2q4q', 'author': 'super-sonic-hiccups', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-29T10:21:23', 'parent_id': 't1_flt2kn0'}]"
ff69nq,2020-03-08T08:21:44,Help me please,"I have adhd autism anxiety and body dysphoria  I'm on vyvvance  and zoloft but I've been having other symptoms  idk if they are side affects or what but I've been having insomnia, fatigue, mood swings, irritable, empty feeling, dizziness, headaches, fastening pulse, twitches, urges to rule my eyes and move basically any other body part, shakiness, cold sweats without fever, constantly thirsty,  the urge to bite, cut, and scratch myself,  acne, fidgety, red dots on feet are not itchy and don't hurt, eczema, asthma attacks come on faster, spacing out for minutes at a time,  

If this has any relevance I recently  stopped  cutting and started seeing a therapist I also have what I think is a melanoma  on my back.  I also have no sense of no you shouldn't/ shouldn't have done/do that also the emptiness is on and off one day I will be empty the next day  I could be fine or I could  be empty  again pls pm me if u have any idea  of what's going on I also recently  developed  a stutter
I am a masochist and a sadist, I feel like most of my friends are gonna abandon me and I have been told that I am toxic by a bff of three years, I have been emotionally and sexually abused by online ""friends"" I have never knew my grandfather  and I have been emotionally abused by irl friends, whenever I ruin a relationship  I feel nothing not empty just nothing. My crush is going through things rn and I can't  stand to see her in pain. But she is going to abandon me like everyone else and I just know it. I have also been hearing whispers I think my friends are talking shit behind  my back, I'm mentally and physically  falling apart",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ff69nq/help_me_please/,"[{'comment_id': 'fjwmvsw', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'It sounds like you are going through a lot more than a few words on the internet can help with. I\'m glad to hear that you have a therapist, but if your self harm returns I would encourage you visit an emergency room. \n\nOtherwise there are online therapies such as Talkspace and Betterhelp. If you need something more immediate then I would try the Crisis Text Line by texting ""Home"" to  741741. There you can converse with someone trained and with confidentiality. \n\nGood luck and hang in there!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-08T09:51:53', 'parent_id': 't3_ff69nq'}]"
f4dtgl,2020-02-16T00:25:44,Therapists with Personal Trauma - Research,"Hello, r/MentalHealthPros, I am recruiting mental health professionals (i.e., those who do therapy with clients, and not currently still students) who have personal trauma, and also currently work with traumatized clients for my dissertation. Please see below for more information and a link to the brief, anonymous survey.

Hello, my name is Leslie Stapley Taylor. I am a PhD student at the University of Missouri – Kansas City. My faculty advisor is Dr. Nancy Murdock. **I am seeking mental health professionals with license-eligible degrees who have experienced their own personal trauma at some point in their lifetime, and who are currently treating at least one client with a presenting concern of trauma.** You do not have to be in this study if you do not want to. This study is completely voluntary. If you choose to be in this study, you will complete a survey that will take approximately 15 minutes. This study is anonymous which means that you will not be identified by your answers on the survey. If you would like to take part in this study please click on the link below and complete the survey. **As a thank you for participation, I have acquired funding to commit a $1.00 donation to a trauma-focused charity for each participant who completes my survey.** Participants will have the opportunity to choose which charity they would like the donation to go towards! I hope to recruit at least 300 participants, which will result in $300 donated across four reputable trauma-focused charities.

If you have any questions about this study please contact me at 678-559-9768 or Dr. Murdock at 816-235-2495. If you have any questions about your rights as a research participant please contact the UMKC Institutional Review Board at 816-235-5927.

Survey link: [https://umkc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_dcJcgMc2hyjoPU9](https://umkc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_dcJcgMc2hyjoPU9)",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/f4dtgl/therapists_with_personal_trauma_research/,[]
eyot64,2020-02-04T17:09:49,Can I still be a psychologist?," So, I know that I really want to work with kids and teens and help them.  I've had a bad childhood and I had a few teachers who really helped me  and set me on that path. However, teachers earn very little where I  live, and studying to be one takes little time, so I can always change  paths when I'm older. I thought of being a social worker, but they earn  even less in my country, and I come from a low middle class family, so I  really don't have any financial support and I'm terrified of ending up  in debt like my parents. So I thought being a psychologist would be  great. But the thing is, I want to help kids and teens with problems  like mine - depression, anxiety, eating disorders, trauma... But I'm  afraid it will cause me harm and trigger me. I don't know what to do.  Help?",MentalHealthPros,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/eyot64/can_i_still_be_a_psychologist/,"[{'comment_id': 'flj635e', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Many mental health professionals come from difficult pasts. Some argue this helps them be more empathic. However, it should be a goal to work through your known struggles because inevitably you will be faced with triggers you dont even know are there. So if psychology is something you want to dedicate yourself to start with yourself and experience it first hand. In my school program attending a personal counseling was required.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-26T10:51:21', 'parent_id': 't3_eyot64'}, {'comment_id': 'flokpkh', 'author': 'sensualsanta', 'body': ""Honestly part of why I'm studying to become a therapist is due to my own anxiety, depression and difficult past. I think  experiencing these things and feeling them may actually be an asset, as we are more able to understand and empathize with our clients. Things can definitely be triggering, so having self-care and your own mental health support is essential!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-28T01:46:12', 'parent_id': 't3_eyot64'}, {'comment_id': 'izj9lrb', 'author': 'interpretation99', 'body': 'professionals come from difficult pasts.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-12-09T20:24:56', 'parent_id': 't3_eyot64'}]"
ee6742,2019-12-22T21:10:03,How can I help my mother who is managing a decades-long depression?,"My mother married young and her entire identity was defined by her relationship with my father. When they got divorced (because he was cheating on her) 17 years ago, her depression took over her life. She stopped taking care of herself, of her space, of me and my sister. If she wasn't at work, she was either in bed or watching TV. My sister and I grew up on a cycle of fast food, in a house that was never clean, and with a family that just didn't talk to each other or anyone else.

My sister and I both moved on. I got out of the house as soon as I could and learned how to take care of myself through a whole lot of trial and error. My sister just bought her own house with her fiance. We're doing well.

Every time I visit home, though, I find my mom living in filth. If the house was bad when my sister and I were living there, it's uninhabitable now. There's trash everywhere, moldy leftovers in the fridge, I can't even describe the bathroom. I try to do what I can while I'm home. This week I tried cleaning the living room from top to bottom until I found black mold on the window sill.

Beyond that, she's on her way to morbidly obese and her body is deteriorating. She has back problems, her feet swell after walking for only ten minutes, she can't stand up without help.

I've tried to talk to her about it, encourage her to go to therapy, to take care of herself, to value herself enough to want a better life, but she just shuts down and I almost always end up snapping. I get so frustrated so easily and though I recognize that she's dealing with chronic depression that can't be fixed with the power of a positive attitude, I get pissed off and defeated when she makes endless excuses for why she can't cook herself dinner or do the dishes or take herself for a ten minute walk before sitting down to watch TV. My sister says the overly emotional response is a result of the trauma we went through growing up how we did and that staying in this house again (which she refuses to do no matter how much it upsets my mom that she never comes home for more than an afternoon at a time) is triggering for us.

I want to help but I live two states away and it seems like she needs active, sustained support for months, if not years, if she's ever going to get to a better place. I don't know what to do because I can't give that. I can barely come home for a week for Christmas without regressing to my teenage maturity levels. I'm thinking about hiring a cleaning service to at least get the house safe and clean for five minutes, but I know she'll take it as an insult.

What can I do?",MentalHealthPros,4,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ee6742/how_can_i_help_my_mother_who_is_managing_a/,[]
e4rvu4,2019-12-02T07:36:14,Seeking to interview someone for paper,"If this not okay, please delete.

I am searching for a practitioner who works with veterans and ptsd to interview for a paper in my MSW class. If anyone is interested or could help me out, please let me know. Thank you!",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/e4rvu4/seeking_to_interview_someone_for_paper/,[]
cz6pjv,2019-09-03T21:23:55,Confusion about past,"I’m an 18 (F) year old who has been having a lot of confusion with my past, and have no idea what is going on. I have very few memories, with majority of my life being blank from 12/13 and backwards. If I think *really* hard I can remember some things, and every now and then something will then trigger the memory of another thing I otherwise had completely forgotten, but I know for sure that I’m 100% blank from around 10 and under. For a few years (probably 2-3?) ending at around 12, my dad came into my life and was quite emotionally abusive and manipulative. I remember few things once again, but I know that he’d call me princess, and any time anyone called me the same thing I’d get really angry and tell them to never call me that again. Another thing is he used to hold the back of my neck in public and kind of massage it and it was very painful but I was too scared to say anything. I don’t really remember anyone else doing anything traumatising to me and to my knowledge the only type of abuse he dealt was emotional, yet I’ve found I get incredibly triggered by anything that mentions sexual assault/abuse/anything along those lines, and I really don’t know why. It’s scaring me, and I’d like to know if this is all normal or not? I had a mildly scary incident at a party a few years ago, and also have a debilitating chronic illness which completely stops me from having sex (not that I would, because the thought actually repulses me) and basically all medical people under the sun have asked me multiple times if I’ve experienced any sexual abuse etc, which makes you wonder I guess. I can also remember I was an odd child, waaaay hyper sexual at a very young age and also have been told I was really angry. I’ve been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder, if that’s anything to add. Every and any type of help/opinion/possible answer would be so, so appreciated❤️",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/cz6pjv/confusion_about_past/,[]
ct85xo,2019-08-21T04:54:12,Advice for me [26f] to give my much younger sister [16f] about body positivity?,"I need advice for how to carefully approach a subject with a family member. I’m [26f] worried about my little sister [16f] developing an eating disorder, if she hasn’t already. I no longer live at home but my sister obviously does. My mom recently told me that my sister started an unspecified diet about one or two weeks ago and that she burst into tears recently because she ate some cake, called herself a bunch of fat-shaming things, and then said she was going to try to not eat for the next 24h. The thing is, she’s thin. She doesn’t look like one of those too-skinny Instagram models that I’m assuming she’s comparing herself to, but she still has to be like 120 at most (she’s 5’7”ish tall), and she’s fit (our family is naturally kind of muscular, we’re Scottish). My sister has extreme anxiety and already sees a therapist. My mom is hesitant to say anything to my sister for fear of making it worse somehow. She’s not sure if the therapist knows. I’m one of the only people my sister will take advice from. I already tried to tell her as kindly as I could that I think her opinion of what a body should look like is clearly coming from social media and it’s a self-deprecating mentality to have. I tried to explain that being too underweight is just as dangerous as being too overweight and that her goal should just be to be healthy, not to be skinny. Im worried that this is going to quickly turn into an eating disorder and my mom won’t be able to prevent it. What can I say to her to encourage her?",MentalHealthPros,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ct85xo/advice_for_me_26f_to_give_my_much_younger_sister/,"[{'comment_id': 'exm15qe', 'author': 'purplebuttercupXL', 'body': 'A. Mom needs to talk to her therapist about this now. Collateral contacts are super important to understanding what is going on with our patients. If her therapist is any good, she will help your mother by giving her specific advice in relation to your sisters situation.\n\nB. Advise her to lose social media. Studies prove that social media use in young adults and adolescents correlate with higher rates of mental illness and suicide. I know it\'s easier said than done, you can try to spend more time with her. Go out to eat with her and be naggy about phone useage. The more you can keep her away from it the better off she will be.\n\nC. In some situations it\'s good to be blunt and just say ""hey, I\'m worried about you...yadda yadda"" but her therapist will have better insight on her and what will work best. Cheers to you for caring so much about your sister, keep it up!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-08-22T02:55:04', 'parent_id': 't3_ct85xo'}, {'comment_id': 'eyupeyg', 'author': 'spndd', 'body': 'Thank you so much, I’ll bring these all up to my mom and hopefully we can bring my sister out of this mentality she’s sunk into', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-09-03T05:25:21', 'parent_id': 't1_exm15qe'}]"
cmnomf,2019-08-06T13:23:40,Family has emotionally abused and neglected me? What should i do? Please help!,"I am a 16 years old girl from Romania and i struggle with depression and social anxiety. I currently live with my mother but we used to live together with my grandmother.

TL;DR at the bottom!

I was born mixed race and with syndactyly. I was bullied for my skin color at school, being called a gypsy, monkey, gorilla etc. I was also bullied for my birth defect.

I've been living in Romania with mom and grandmother ever since i was 4. I never had a childhood. I have been enrolled in countless activities like modelling, dancing, countless choirs and taking piano and percussion lessons. It all started from piano lessons being recommended by a doctor to help improve strength and flexibility in my afected hand (the syndactyly severely affected my bone growth in that hand). It was incredibly overwhelming and tiring but they wouldn't listen because ""they are good for me"" and because i'd be ""better than everyone else"" because ""who in this country does as many activities as you"".

My grandmother was incredibly controlling of me and mom, and verbally abusive to me. Especially between 5th and 8th grade. In 8th grade it was the worst, since we have a very important exam then which decides your future (if you get in a good highschool, if you get in the major you want in etc. It's very hard to change highschools or majors after that). I was under incredible stress. Especially from grandmother and then mom who was stressed by grandmother, as in being called all day by her at work by grandmother to complaij about every little thing i did that she didn't aprove on from clothing to homework (which we either didn't have, was going to do after i finished my current task or already done) and starting to argue with mom as soon as she set foot in the house.

Grandmother was and still is the major stress source in our family. She never let me go to school alone, even if it was 5 minutes away, and then complained of being tired. She called me every name possible: gypsy, retarded, useless, worthless, lazy, stupid, that i and mom would have never done anything good withouth her, that we would have ended up on the streets without her etc. I was never allowed to make decisions and my opinion was ignored. 

In grade 6 and 7 i was cutting myself, i still have all the scars on my left hand. I would have breakdowns with screaming, crying, throwing things because i couldn't take it anymore. She'd scream at me, pull me by the arms sometimes even bang herself in the head with her palms or fists, pulling her own hair out and threathening to throw herself out the window (we lived on the 8th floor). Saying that i was embarrassing them, that the neighbours will hear etc. 

When she was arguing with mom she even caused mom to break down and mom almost threw herself out the window. The neighbours barged in to try and hold her and they called 112 (our version of 911). She was taken into psychiatric hold and i was taken to the er because i was chewing through my lip due to stress and was bleeding a lot. There, grandmother acted like the victim and as if nothing happened.

I had multiple attempts at my life but i always got too scared halfway through: almost letting myself get hit by cars, trying to jump during a breakdown, considering buying sleeping pills etc. 

In 9th grade i and mom moved 7km away but i still had to go to grandmother 1-2 hrs before school because of the distance and our timing. I've had breakdowns then too and now i began having panic attacks. While i was shaking on the floor in the bathroom and crying she'd nudge or kick me with her foot yelling to ""cut it out"". She called emergency multiple times telling me it'll take me away and ""lock me up with the insane people"". The doctors were mostly sympathetic and they all told me to leave me and mom alone but she wouldn't listen cuz ""he's some dumb arab"" or ""she's just a woman what does she know"" etc.

Mom started being controlling too, telling me that ""grandma took care of me for 14 years are you gonna just abandon her like that?"" ""We're family"" ""it's just how she is you must accept her"". I begged for months to be taken to a psichiatrist or psychologist but she kept saying that ""they are only after our money"" and ""i can tell you the same things they say for free"". She ignored me when i said i was sick and needed help, that everything is because of that ""damned phone"".

I was never good enough and she'd (and still does) yell at me for every mistake i did because ""it annoys her"". She refuses or is just simply unable to understand that i have severe issues that ruin my life. I can't get up in the morning for hours sometimes, i'm always so void of energy, even though i want to do so much more, to draw, to work out, to do homework but i simply can't. I waste away in bed or on the phone because the friends i talk to there are the only contact i have (she is at work from 8 am to even 9 pm at times). I have no siblings and i'm too tired and simply can't go hang out no matter how much i want to and i see the time rushing by and i'm acomplishing nothing. 

She denies every wrong she does and blames everything on the phone, even though it saved my life more times and was more supportive than she ever was. My friends helped me stop cutting, they helped me from doing stupif things and they listened to everything i had to say, meanwhile she'd just get angry or was never ""in the mood"".

I can't feel anything. Nothing at all. I can't feel empathy for anyone, even for friends. If a friend were to drop dead in front of me or should some horrible tragedy happen right in front of me i would feel nothing. I'd know what happened is bad but i would feel nothing for anyone now matter how close they are to me. I am unable to cry no matter how much i want or need too. I can only feel happy for 1-2 hours and then nothing. I have anger issues, i get angry for everything that isn't perfect, even if a pen drops on the floor. I constantly feel lonely because i have little to no physical contact with anyone. I have next to no social skills, i am afraid of talking to people, anxious, and longer social interactions tire me greatly. I grew paranoid at one point believing they are watching me through my toys' eyes, or that certain characters i draw can see me through the eyes. I would and still am turning around toys with bead or plastic eyes because i feel very anxious in my own room. I feel watched through mirrors, especially after i heard that there are mirrors that are seethrough on one side.

I waste away in front of my phone because it's the only comfort i have. I have to constantlt listen to music or youtube videos otherwise i get overloaded with thoughts. Whenever it's quiet i just feel like my mind is filled with questions and answers, questions and answers, ""What if i did that?"" ""What if i did this?"" ""What should i do?"" ""What's this?"" ""What's that?"" ""I could go stand and wait for the train to hit me"" ""What if i died?"" ""Nobody cares about me"" ""I'm so worthless, i can't even do x"" etc. I fall asleep after hours of tossing and turning because i can't shut those thoughts off and it's like a horrible white noise that won't shut up.

I started lying to her about minor mistakes i do because i know she always getd mad, but then she gets mad because i lied. I don't know how to react when people are affectionate or compliment me because i'm so unused to it. 

I'm so tired and scared of her getting mad at me that i started pissing in a cup at night or enduring period pains at night so i don't have to leave the room because we have a dog that sleeps with her and starts barking, biting blindly and chasing around its tail when it hears any noise, and my door handle creaks loudly. This wakes her up and starts yelling at me to let her sleep.

I know she is very stressed because of her work (she works almost 12 hours a day), grandma, the romanian system, economy, healthcare etc. 

I don't know what to do. Should i leave? Is my best bet leaving for college in the us? (I have us citizenship and dad is there. He is very happy and able to let me stay with him while i'm in college). I was thinking of involving cps at one point but i don't really want that since the cps is pretty bad here and more oftenly they do worse than good. What should i do?

TL;DR: Grandmother emotionally abuses me. Mom does the same short time after and refuses providing mental care. I am now unable to feel anything, angry all the time, i am unable to carry out basic human interactions, be productive etc. What should i do?",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/cmnomf/family_has_emotionally_abused_and_neglected_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'ewsq592', 'author': 'netfix09870', 'body': 'I’m deeply sorry on my behalf as a human on how you have been treated, I would advise you to seek help online. You can start by searching for free advice on mental health, You can also find hobbies or tasks to keep your mind away from the mental toll and stress.\n\nPlease do remember at your age that we do all grow, This may be a season of pain, sorrow and despair, but once it is over I am sure you will find joy and prosperity!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-08-14T03:17:50', 'parent_id': 't3_cmnomf'}]"
bpym5j,2019-05-18T05:28:22,Seeking Job Info from Mental Health First Aid Instructors,"Your job sounds really cool! But it also seems to be a newer job and there is no information on glassdoor or anywhere else about salary, hours, where to apply, etc... 

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I know a little about being certified as an instructor but aside from price and title mums the word. 

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I am located in NYC but any information, even counselors in other countries who can just tell me what the job is like for them, would be amazing.  

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Thank you!",MentalHealthPros,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/bpym5j/seeking_job_info_from_mental_health_first_aid/,"[{'comment_id': 'etd8904', 'author': 'CaliGirlLMFT', 'body': 'I’m sorry no one has commented yet. If the program that you are speaking about is the what I’m familiar with, it was just passed through congress about two weeks ago. However, I believe that they did have a different component educating communities. This last proposal is for business owners in the community to have instructors from the MHFA (if requested), provide information about mental health, symptoms, and what to do in crisis situations with another employee or the public. They are calling it Mental Health First Aid because it is a small amount of information (like a band aid), or just enough to help before professionals can respond, or they are taking to the emergency room. May I ask your interest? What profession are you currently in? I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Temecula, CA. I would be happy to explain how to go about obtaining this licensure, or perhaps another mental health license. You can DM me, and I will get back to with any info I can help you with. Suffice to say, we desperately need more mental health professionals in our country. \nI hope this helped.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-10T01:11:04', 'parent_id': 't3_bpym5j'}, {'comment_id': 'etd8elp', 'author': 'CaliGirlLMFT', 'body': 'My apologies, you are in New York City, but I can still assist you if you have questions about this career path.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-10T01:12:38', 'parent_id': 't3_bpym5j'}, {'comment_id': 'etj969j', 'author': 'tj1226', 'body': ""Thank you for responding! \n\nI was hoping for someone who had the certification and could explain more about what the job is like. \n\nI ended up getting a promotion with the company I'm currently with so I'm no longer consodering that job."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-11T23:42:04', 'parent_id': 't1_etd8elp'}]"
azawgn,2019-03-10T07:30:19,Therapy Budget,"My spouse is looking into therapy for childhood trauma. I want to be supportive and I really believe this is a need; but it's also very expensive. I know it isn't concrete and can be very case by case, but how long should we expect the therapy to last? I'm sorry for anything I said that wasn't sensitive, I just am trying to understand. ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/azawgn/therapy_budget/,"[{'comment_id': 'ei7pktb', 'author': 'GreenHermitt', 'body': 'Does your spouse have insurance or paying out of pocket? ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-10T21:51:17', 'parent_id': 't3_azawgn'}, {'comment_id': 'ei7pp95', 'author': 'peeswheniburn', 'body': ""We have insurance, but it is PEIA. Most services require you to meet a $750 copay before insurance is able kick in. We're looking at online services, like BetterHelp.com, and they are about 200 a month. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-10T21:52:52', 'parent_id': 't1_ei7pktb'}]"
alwvrp,2019-02-01T07:20:00,My Social Anxiety Story,,MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHpi_H0_UFw,[]
aitjgb,2019-01-23T05:44:10,How to overcome social anxiety,"I don't know if i am allowed to post this, so if i'm not- please forgive me! But i have struggled a lot with social Anxiety in my life, so that's why i did this video. Hopefully it can help someone!

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCPD42wTF2o&t=14s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCPD42wTF2o&t=14s)",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/aitjgb/how_to_overcome_social_anxiety/,[]
92g7k5,2018-07-28T02:16:49,Doc prescribed me Lithium 300mg today,"I have actually detested subs relating to depression, or mental health, since well, its anecdotes, hearsay, or pseudoscience with heavy persuasion. But it seems I might actually find a pro here, so,

\[This post is way longer than I had expected it to be, I apologize for any annoying redundancy; I couldn't come up with a TLDR so thank you for all the time spent reading it\]

I was officially diagnosed with Depression(I haven't been told to what 'degree'). I essentially had a complete breakdown, that my dad had to come over to my college to literally pick up the pieces, so that I can properly function(I was suicidal), after my advisor heard about this, she heavily nudged me to visit the counselling center, where I met my (amazing) therapist( I think she's one of the directors) who saw how visibly broken I was.

That was 8 months ago, I soon went on Wellbutrin 300mg, I was a bit apprehensive, but I think that stemmed from lack of self-compassion among other things(so I gather). Taking it religiously was the best thing I ever did, and needless to say my cognitive function skyrocketed(this was very noticeable since my major is highly demanding ), and I was able to properly live.

a while ago my therapist, and my psychiatrist told me(kinda) to keep an eye out for mood swings. Now, I have noticed them, it used to be all down and depressive, but now the swings are more apparent since some of the crests break through the depression ceiling(I noticed I started to feel nicer). It became apparent that I felt like I cycled through one positive, and one relatively negative state in one day, and the general trend on average used to cycle every week(the average emotion used to vary by the week); I'm not fully sure, and no one's told me anything concrete for sure, but i'm fairly confident that this is the case; I don't know if this is normal, I think I asked, but I didn't receive a proper response from my therapist.

In the past two months, I had started to drink a fifth whiskey, every other weekend, some were consecutive weekends, others were three weeks apart. I guess what was concerning was that I used to finish the fifth(750ml i think) in 24 hours give or take, i think it qualifies as a bender. Honestly, I don't know why, its more of an impulsive thing, since i don't want to drink cause it kinda sabotages my medication/ treatment. and I never had a tendancy to consume alchohol.

So today my psychiatrist told me that he thinks a mood stabilizer would help me, and prescribed 'small' dosage(he said) of Lithium Carbonate 300mg. I am very apprehensive to take this, since I don't want it to jeopardize any cognitive improvement from the wellbutrin. I trust my doc, a lot, he prescribed me the med that essentially saved my life.

But I wonder if I described stuff accurately in our meeting. I strongly feel my description of past emotions are heavily influenced by current ones, but saying that, i realize my emotions are great enough to influence my actions. So I don't know maybe he's right. and also the fact that he's VERY experienced and has A LOT of accolades (I think he's a director of the university counselling center), so he might have seen through all of what I just said.

I just don't think my emotional states swing that much, or affect the stuff i do that I need a mood stabilizer(which leads me to believe i might have some degree of bipolar??) But then again I think i'm incapable of expressing, and even being cognizant of my current/past emotional state.

so essentially this is it, I'm scared of starting lithium because it may jeopardize all of wellbutrin's good stuff, but I'm also scared that I may not be reaping the benefits of Lithium which my doc says will help me, and I fully trust him, and respect him, so much so that at before talking to him, i'm scared of talking to him cause I might embarrass myself; so he knows his stuff, and sees thru all what has been happening with me, so I should blindly trust him, shouldn't I? You know cause he has helped me so much before? but I'm also a bit scared of not doing what he told me (he's a very friendly, nice, and gives off a caring vibe, but it's just that what he gave me helped me a lot, so i owe this i guess)

I wanted to run this by my therapist, in two weeks, I just realized that I actually trust her, cause it wsa one of the first things that ran through my mind.

I think the post is lang enough that any more explaining would be redundant.

Thank you for your time.",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/92g7k5/doc_prescribed_me_lithium_300mg_today/,[]
8afjg5,2018-04-07T09:13:07,Coping mechanisms for compulsivity?,"Compulsive spending, compulsive eating, makung important decisions out of nowhere. How do you cope with extremely compulsive behavior?",MentalHealthPros,0,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/8afjg5/coping_mechanisms_for_compulsivity/,"[{'comment_id': 'dwzyy6f', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'You may want to see a doctor to rule out something like bipolar disorder.  As far as coping skills check out Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-04-08T08:28:55', 'parent_id': 't3_8afjg5'}]"
80jtj7,2018-02-27T10:35:18,How can we improve mental health in America?,"I’ve been somewhat of a mental health advocate since childhood but lately the question that’s been relentlessly presenting itself in my brain is “how can I do more?” So, I wanted to ask you professionals, what are the biggest obstacles (specifically in America) to diagnosing/treating, etc. mental health issues? ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/80jtj7/how_can_we_improve_mental_health_in_america/,[]
7zz0oy,2018-02-25T01:19:46,"Stressed, bitchy, and needing advice","Stressed, bitchy, and in need of help


Hi people of reddit, this is my first post ever! And it's because I'm spiraling and need some serious help. Here is what my situation (buckle in, this is a long one):


Work - Last July, I was fired from my job as a team lead who supported a total of 3 managers and 40 associates for a large insurance company. I made a bad call to help out an associate that was struggling in their personal life. Workplace politics being what it is, an associate who was gunning for the promotion I got found out and reported me. No big, lesson learned. I moved on and fell into a role as a receptionist with a middle market insurance agency. I took this job because I wanted to try something less stressful and see how it felt. I wanted more time to refocus on photography and my fitness. I quickly discovered I HATED a less stressful role. I was done with my work by 10am (working 8-5) and was going crazy. The operations manager and president recognized my potential and I was promoted after 3 months to the health benefits department.


 The role I was promoted for was the marketing role. This is quoting coverages and putting together presentations for our sales agents. Quickly, sales agents agendas came to play and now I find myself fulfilling the roles of three people. I'm an account agent who helps maintain client relations, administration of groups and coverages, claims and billing, etc. I'm in the marketing role and I'm now in charge of our benefits admin system we are selling clients. I love this system! I won't go into many details but it brings benefit admin, enrollment, etc into the 21st century and it's way more efficient. This role charges me with building online portals, training our employees as well as group HR manager and their employees how to use it. 


I'm technically only on two teams but am finding myself being pulled to all of the teams because I am smart, efficient, and a problem solver. I'm finding myself becoming extremely overwhelmed and my wage doesn't reflect to work I'm doing. The wage I'm making now is the one I made as a receptionist, but I don't feel like I'm in a position to negotiate my wage because I'm still so new and learning. That being said, I'm doing the job of three people, picking up slack so others don't fail, get more and more work on my desk every day, and I spent three months working my ass off to get licensed (passed the test in a breeze, no big).


Personal life: around the time I started this job, I had to move back home with my parents. I took a significant pay cut, my roommate was a shit bag, and I just needed to get out. The cost of living here is going up every month and I just can't afford a place of my own. I don't have the best relationship with my dad, my parents have kind of given up on life so I take up all the housework, which i don't mind. My sister is getting married in June and lives in Hawaii. I pay a third of my parents rent and am saving for her wedding, so financially it's really tight. I'm overweight and am working really hard towards my weight loss. I spend 1.5 - 2 hours in the gym every night. I'm also a full time online student. I don't really have friends anymore because I quit drinking and my friends have over and over again taken advantage of me or haven't really been there when I needed them. So lesson learned, I'm picky about who I'm friends with now and at this point it's really no one. 


Relationship: I started casually seeing a guy in July and we got serious pretty quickly. He's my best friend, moved in with me pretty quick and moved with me to my parents. He is pursuing his own business adventures and moved to Phoenix in December to be with his venture partner. This is good because we are both so busy that we are working towards our own personal goals while simultaneously working towards our relationship goals. I was out visiting him a couple weeks ago and Phoenix felt like home, being with him felt like home. Shortly after I got back, he told me that he loves our time together but he doesn't know if he can truly ever allow himself to be in a deep love again because his ex fucked him up. This threw me for a loop because he was the happiest I have seen him in a while when I was there and kept sayijg things like ""this is the most fun ive had since moving here"" and ""youre my escape"". We decided to stay together because we haven't been dating a crazy long time and it seems insane to put the love label anywhere and we are happy together. I'm just doubting my position in my relationship with him, now. If it's not going to develop into deeper love, what's the point right? On the other hand, he is my best friend and truly feels like my partner in life.


What I'm getting at is this:


I can't sleep. I haven't been. I get maybe 4 hours a sleep every couple days and the rest of the time I'm laying awake or doing work at home. I just can't sleep. I've started taking melatonin every night and that's been helping, but I don't want to be dependent on that all the time.


I'm spending longer and longer at the gym because this feeling of anxiety and being overwhelmed keeps keeping up. I spent three hours there last night. I'm working out so much because I'm trying to run out the anxiety and work that tension out of my body. This uses to help, but it's not anymore.


My temper is flaring so much quicker now. I find myself becoming irratble in 2 seconds and my pantience ce for stupid, for lack of effort, so lack of self efficiency has deteriorated into nothing. I'm being asked for help at work more and more and I give it because I don't want to see anyone fail, but my work is falling behind and people assume I'll end up doing their work for them. 


I've been lashing out at the boyfriend because I don't feel emotionally supported. I don't feel like he is emotionally available anymore and my overthinking mind perceives his stress as annoyance at me, which i KNOW is not the case but I keep convincing myself of otherwise. I'm worried he's going to leave me so I'm pushing him away so it makes it easier for me. I didn't want to be into another relationship for this exact feeling but when I met him, I decided to take a chance and find myself in the same boat I didn't want to be in in the first place. 


I'm not dealing with my stress well and all I want to do is go get hammered. But I don't want to drink so I'm resisting, but my tools are no longer working. Suicidal thoughts are creaping in. Not like ""you have to do this now"" but passing thoughts of ""if I ran my car into that tree that would be okay"" or ""I wouldn't mind so much if I just didn't wake up"". I don't have anyone really to talk to because my parents are the suck it up and stop whining types and my boyfriend is dealing with his own stress and his grandma just died, so I don't want to burden him with my shit. 


I'm overwhelmed and that is turning me into a bitchy, negative person. I was so happy and positive before, able to push through depression pretty easily. Now I'm feeling lost, trapped. I want to move to AZ or to UT, but I'm just not in a financial position to get out yet. I'm lashing out at everyone, my boyfriend included, and I do not like who I'm turning into. 


I need some advice. Anything will help 

",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7zz0oy/stressed_bitchy_and_needing_advice/,"[{'comment_id': 'dusm38w', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'It sounds as though you are struggling in various parts of your life with uncertainty and feeling overwhelmed. From your post it also seems as though you may be becoming increasingly isolated from others. So while you are asking for advice, I would rather be ethical and offer you some resources.\n\n1st here is a [link to the Healthy Mind Platter](http://www.mindplatter.com/). This is a resource that focuses on overall well-being. Incorporating each category into your life will help with improving your internal balance and self-care. \n\n2nd I would like to encourage you to reach out to the [crisistextline](https://www.crisistextline.org/) when you are having suicidal thoughts. Their trained crisis counselors are great at listening, empathizing, and problem solving. They can serve as a resource in real-time when you are feeling isolated from others.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-25T12:47:39', 'parent_id': 't3_7zz0oy'}]"
7vd0ce,2018-02-05T12:13:54,I think I'm going mental over a girl,"So about a week or two ago I submitted a text about my whole love issue, and how I thought I was developing depression (if that's the correct term). Well, the days after that I posted have been complete hell for me. I didn't eat anything for about 3 days, felt like not doing anything at all, and cried every time I was alone. I kept thinking about her. Every minute of the day, and even when I was sleeping. I thought it was just a heartbreak situation (but if you've read my last text input, she literally didn't do anything. It was just my anxiety the entire time.) and it sucked really bad. 

On Wednesday (or Thursday) I got a chance to talk to my dad with just me and him. He told me a story about how my mom friend zoned him when they first started dating, and when they started dating two years later she had a guy friend that she would hang with, and that boosted his depression. She didn't do anything with the guy, but my dad was so in love with her and was afraid she would move on. He stopped eating, he was sad all the time, and would take these walks outside around 2am just to try and clear his mind. He finished his talk with me saying that he thinks I still have a chance with this girl, but that I need to somewhat move on and talk to other girls. I totally agree with him, and it's very obvious to other people, but for some reason I would find myself comparing girls to Her. It's going to be very difficult for me to date other people and not compare them to her. Well, after that talk with my dad I thought of solutions other than pot. 

I listened to Joe Rogans podcast on Isolation Tanks. It really amazed me and became a ""need"" in my life. I ended up selling one of my guitars to pay for it hoping it would give me some sort of guidance with this. I haven't done it yet, but I'm planning on doing it next week. 

If you're still reading this, thanks! I've never experienced depression this hard, and to be honest it's kicking my ass. It's just this heavy weight on my shoulders that I don't know how to get rid of. It wasn't so bad on Friday and Saturday, but last night was weird. I went out with some friends to go get food and then do laser tag. I didn't feel up to it, but did it anyways. I ate some edibles before to help the anxious feeling that kept popping up. It was a fun night and I didn't think of her that much, which was a good thing for me. But like everyday I talk about, it took a weird turn. 

I was scrolling through my Snap Chat stories while waiting for a friend to show up and came across a picture she posted on her story. It was just her and her friend doing a selfie thing, which is just normal story-type things. But it triggered something in my head where I thought she wasn't interested in me and yet again, I ended up thinking of her the entire night. When I got home my family was still up and I knew I had to hurry to my bed before I broke down in front of them. I got up to my room and went straight to my bed. I tried so hard to fall asleep, but her face and my fucked up thoughts kept me up for about an hour. I woke up pretty early in the morning and when I tried to go back asleep, but out of nowhere started balling thinking about suicide. It was just a scary thought, but I knew I wasn't going through with it. I fell back asleep about an hour after.
The issue is that I'm definitely in love, but I know I have to move on. It's so hard to think about move on. But I keep thinking about every detail of her that is beautiful, but following that thought with me not being with her. I know this is unhealthy. It's freaking me out. I just need some type of help. I want therapy, but I don't have a job. I don't want to ask my parents because it will worry them and they'll want to talk about it. The reason I turned to reddit is because I can say all these things (even though I have terrible structure to my texts, and that probably makes it hard to read) and I don't have to face anyone while saying these things. If you guys/ girls finished this story, it would really help me if you gave some advice. Even if it's ""you're a fucking weirdo, go get help"", it's still advice. I'm not doing this to be reddit famous or whatever, I just really need help guys. 

Thanks for spending your time reading this.",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7vd0ce/i_think_im_going_mental_over_a_girl/,"[{'comment_id': 'dtstsbh', 'author': 'askyou1892', 'body': 'you are not alone.  please don’t feel crazy.  you have a working heart, and that’s so special for anyone to have this day in age.  a challenge, yes- but to love deeply is a gift.  i’m in the same boat, nursing a broken heart resulting from unrequited love.  we will get through this.  if it helps you to get an understanding of why, check out adult attachment theories to reinforce that what’s happening to you isn’t your fault.  be strong.  ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-02-06T06:56:10', 'parent_id': 't3_7vd0ce'}, {'comment_id': 'dtwqohi', 'author': 'InternationalProcess', 'body': 'Thank you! I really appreciate the advice!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-08T07:11:59', 'parent_id': 't1_dtstsbh'}]"
7tr5jn,2018-01-29T14:49:52,The closer I got to my family the more I realized they are all going to die eventually.,"I went to visit some family the last week, some of who I haven't seen in over 6 years, when I got there I was really happy and exited to see them and hang out with the them, a bit of anxiety over the inevitable questioning about my daily life and relationships, of the lack of them.
As I was traveling back to my home, I felt this weird feeling of desolation and a bit of panic, and fear, a heavy heart and sadness.
The realization that we all eventually are going to die, that in fact I do love my family, even if I don't see them often.
This feeling is very strange since I've never felt this way before, I have this uneasiness that I can't shake for some reason, as if something is going to happen to them, even knowing that in the many years that I haven't seen them nothing has happen.
Is there an underlining base for this? Is it guilt? I can't really figure this out by myself, any comment or explanation based on the why this is happening to me would be greatly appreciated.     ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7tr5jn/the_closer_i_got_to_my_family_the_more_i_realized/,"[{'comment_id': 'dtrdngz', 'author': 'InternationalProcess', 'body': ""I suffer from thoughts such as yours. I've had that thought many times, mostly when I'm going to sleep because it's just me and my mind. Death terrifies me. And since I'm not religious anymore, I have the thought that once we die, were gone forever. I think the issue is not being able to accept death. I recently started meditation, which has totally helped so far (check out the app headspace, it's free and helps with daily meditation) and I'm going to try out the Isolation Tank thing to help sort out my thoughts. Maybe some sort of meditation will help with you. Hope you find your solution!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-05T12:28:52', 'parent_id': 't3_7tr5jn'}, {'comment_id': 'du2z1bu', 'author': 'NosFeratu_Heliophob', 'body': ""Hey, thanks for the reply, I'm pretty OK with death I think, is just that  at that moment it kind of looked so damn real all of the sudden.\nI'm not religious in the slightness, but I do think death is just part of life and part of a bigger circle, but the thought of my family going first is like being left behind at a terminal in the airport while holding my own ticket.\nAlso, I've done meditation all my life, and it does help me focus in identifying the source of those fears and thoughts.\nI'm a big fan of JRE so the tank is a no-brainer I guess, kind of nervous to try it for the first time, but I just saw a deal on groupon that I think I'm going to try. Good Luck with your thoughts and feelings, thanks for the response it really just made my morning. "", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-02-11T20:50:41', 'parent_id': 't1_dtrdngz'}]"
7lfajx,2017-12-22T10:37:40,Masters in Clinical Mental Health Programs,"Hi all! So I've spent the last week glued to the CACREP site trying to narrow down my list. I'd love some feedback on my choices. Thoughts on the program? Are some worth the tuition? Internships etc. So I picked NYU, CU Denver, Cal State Fullerton, U of Tennessee, U of Central Florida, Northern AZ U, Indiana, Old Dominion and LSU. I realize I'm all over the country - I don't have a preference on geographical area. I want a great program. Any feedback would be awesome!",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7lfajx/masters_in_clinical_mental_health_programs/,"[{'comment_id': 'dtstabc', 'author': 'thevirginiatheater', 'body': 'Where are you from? The Western Graduate Exchange has reduced tuition to some programs, including NAU, if you’re from specific states.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-06T06:47:08', 'parent_id': 't3_7lfajx'}]"
7ihyvu,2017-12-09T02:32:50,My cat is dying but I don't feel anything...,"My cat has been sick with what our vet thought was Inflamed Bowel Disease for about a year, but a little over a month ago my parents called me and told that me that a different vet has diagnosed her with liver cancer and she doesn't have much longer. I cried for two days and spent the next few weeks obsessively searching for anyway to help her live a little longer. I had been really nervous about leaving her to go to college and knowing that she got so much worse after I left made me blame myself and I couldn't imagine a world without my cat.

I ended up going home for thanksgiving and was able to see my cat then. She was nearly half the weight she was when I had seen her last and it broke my heart to have to leave her again.

Its now a few weeks later and my dad called me to tell me that she had a very bad night and the vet has recommended we either put her down or give her pain medication so she can go peacefully at home. Given the fact that I had broken down just a month earlier about just the idea of her leaving us soon, you'd think I'd break down again knowing its actually happening now... and yet I don't feel anything. Its as if I don't even remember her at all! I feel numb and confused, almost as if its someone else's cat that is dying. But even then I don't even feel the remorse I would have from empathizing with someone that lost their cat... Why is this happening??? Is this normal???

tl;dr: A month ago when I found out my cat was near dying I broke down and cried for two days, but now that its actually happening I don't feel anything. WHY?",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7ihyvu/my_cat_is_dying_but_i_dont_feel_anything/,[]
7ibzyr,2017-12-08T08:54:53,A Former Business Partner Revealed a Blind Spot I Never Knew I Had. Seeking Constructive Feedback on Improving.,"I suffer from anxiety and bipolar disorder, but have no intention of letting those become excuses not to perform at my best or achieve my goals in life.

On a business I’m working on, I formerly worked with someone who I pushed away and who quit because of me. Tonight, I had dinner with my former business partner to ask what I did to push him away. The crux of what he told me boils down to the following:

1. I was unable to understand the crucial points of the tech we’re building, and didn’t get my numbers straight on the scope of the market opportunity

*More relevant to this thread:*
2. I didn’t read social cues well enough to know when a conversation wasn’t going to get to a solution, and that I made him feel a conversation had to end with of us both being satisfied in the end, which isn’t always realistic.

I was really grateful for this information, since I’ve never gotten feedback about my behavior in a way I could rationally digest and take action on. My whole life, people’s reactions have been to either:

•Yell at me and later ask why I’m “not getting it” (parents)
•Ignore/never talk to me again without telling me why (peers)
•Criticize/exclude without offering input beforehand (classmates/past business partners)

After leaving the bar, the first thought I had was to call/text my current cofounder and tell him about our conversation, apologize (we recently had a difficult conversation about him staying with the business), and ask his thoughts. But, I think that’s too much at once, and will just end up pushing him away again.

Tonight, I was shown the grey area between full resolution and separation as being short, sweet, and pointed discussion aimed at getting both people to do 1 thing, reviewing progress, and then repeating that process to simultaneously build the relationship and the business.

What I think I should do now is text my cofounder with just a few words, offer happy hour on me, and when we meet, 

a) Either 
1. Apologize for the things I didn’t do, or
2. Share what you and I talked about and ask how much of it mirrors his experience with me

b) Tell him I’m actively working on improving, and ask his input on where he wants to go from here

c) Discuss and agree on doing 1 next thing, do that, and then chat after the holidays to keep it going.

I think asking you “if it were you, is that what would sit well with you” is the wrong question, so instead I’ll just ask if that sounds like something that makes good social sense in a way that could improve the relationship with the average person in a business relationship?

With professional matters I’ve felt all relevant people have to come to the table 100% well-adjusted and qualified enough to arrive at the desired result. But I may be wrong. What are people’s thoughts on these points? I would love to hear any constructive feedback people here have.",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7ibzyr/a_former_business_partner_revealed_a_blind_spot_i/,[]
6x9nnr,2017-09-01T02:15:09,International Bipolar Foundation - A Place for Resources,"Hello reddit! We're new here and wanted to reach out to as many advocacy and help forums as we can to connect with the mental health community. We were founded in 2007 by the parents of children diagnosed with bipolar disorder and we seek to help those in need connect to important information around the world! Our goal is to educate the public and facilitate conversations about mental health, stigma busting, and medical information. We have connected with many people in foreign countries by sending them our free book, Healthy Living With Bipolar Disorder. If you, or anyone you know, are interested in the book please check out our website at ibpf.org . We truly value the input of the public and want to hear from people around the world about their experiences, either personally or in a caregiver role, with bipolar disorder.",MentalHealthPros,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6x9nnr/international_bipolar_foundation_a_place_for/,[]
6wpe36,2017-08-29T11:42:16,can mental help help me with post acute withdrawals without misdiagnosing me and giving me even more drug-related problems in life?,"I'm in bad shape now. some of it is probably mental illness, and that some of it is probably a lot worse than id ever like to admit. I used to be pretty intelligent, idk anymore, I was super capable of functioning at super high levels, beyond most average people, and covering it up.

ive had lots of bad drug abuse problems for years, and I stand by self medication with pot, but I'm not sure anymore. I don't mind recreational, but things have gotten so bad I rely on having it when I cant and it becomes a problem.

its not normal for me. I'm having way way worse symptoms, because I'm actually clean off opiates now. I IVd for a long time, switched to suboxone in rehab which I always also IVd.

then I said no more. I switched to kratom, but relied on it for a long long time. a year and half. and then I promised I would get clean before school and not rely on drugs any more.

and taper off and quit I did. even pot doesn't really help anymore. and I know even though I feel better physically mentally I'm still in for a row because of post acute withdrawl. my opiate receptors have dug in paths from years of wear. I know its not over.

I'm destroying my life, saying hateful crazy insane dangerous things I don't mean, contemplating suicide, and I feel 100000x worse than ever. I don't even know where the symptoms of one problem end and the other begin.

am I actually losing my mind? is this it? is it just post acute withdrawal syndrome?

probably all of the above on some level. ive never been willing to give mental help a chance in hell. ive gone to hospitals and outpatients and check myself out. Inpatient is a fucking conspiracy to shut people up and that's the gods honest truth. almost nothing they do there is humane and the doctors don't listen to you when you tell them its insane to take last ditch seizure meds as a 'mood stabilizer' off label and that you want to talk to him to find out what your problems are rather than just be shoved off on an RN at the door.

even most outpatients just have me talk at them and throw ssris in my face like candy (if I'm lucky). when I was a kid they insisted I had adhd and drugged me on speed and I had to brutally fight my parents in order to force them to take me off.

I rose to the top 10% of students in my state, and also the top 10% (I said 90, but meant 90th percentile) of all kids who took the asvab in the country in that year. military still wants me, too bad bout my record and disbelief in fighting wars for this government.

all my professors always told me I was brilliant but had a problem. I like to compare myself to all the drug addled innovators and authors, artists and poets and philosophers of history. or at least I used to.

but there is something wrong and its holding me back. I don't know if I am going to make it through this and actually stay clean.

but if someone actually can help me. help the anxiety and the pain I'm suffering stop. even if its only until I get into a better place and can quit the drugs later, I might accept that.

I might be willing to try. but I am not willing to lose my freedom of choice in the matter.

maybe its a tough thing to say, and illegal to accept, but I want to choose my own destiny. id rather be my crazy self and try my ice cubes chance in hell way of struggling through it myself than to be a zombie or get labeled for life if I'm honest.

If I cant have true happiness out of life. if I cant actually be satisfied with myself as I am, I want the right to leave when I cant handle it anymore and to make the ultimate escape from life.

I cant handle being locked away ever again, especially not now. it will get way worse if that happens. at this point I would become violent and suicidal beyond any hope if that happened.

I worked so hard to get another chance at life. id rather die continuing to try than just give that up now.
",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6wpe36/can_mental_help_help_me_with_post_acute/,[]
6v6rmf,2017-08-22T04:21:54,It Gets Better?,"Hey guys,

I’m basically just reaching out into the void for some reassurance here. I recently graduated with my BS in psychology, hoping to become a therapist one day. My plan was to take a year off before I go to grad school, so that I can dip my toes into the water and get a sense of the field before I get my next degree. Since then I have held two jobs - one as a tech at a psychiatric hospital on the child and adolescent unit, and another as a “teacher” of sorts in an alternative learning middle school where I lead groups. Both of these have been very challenging for me, and have basically taught me that I don’t want to work with children with behavioral issues lol. I just want to know, does it get better? I want to work with people who are depressed, struggling with their sexuality, maybe couples therapy - something where the clients I work with are reasonable, and I feel like I can connect with them without having to endure the disrespect that these kids can dish out. Will I be able to find a job working in mental health where I’m happy? Because in my experience, mental health is actually behavioral health, and my job is to treat behaviors, not the precipitating issue. I just want to know if I should continue in this field or not.",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6v6rmf/it_gets_better/,"[{'comment_id': 'dn8t6ai', 'author': 'fee1786', 'body': ""Only you will know if it's truly the field for you. The beauty of going into the field of psychology is that you can specialize in certain areas, like the ones you mentioned being interested in. You are more pigeon holed in job selection with a bachelors in psychology, causing you to have to take direct care jobs, and teaching at alternative schools. \n\nWhen I was perusing my Ph.D., I had to take those types of jobs as well. Once you get a masters, many more doors will open for you. You will be able to get licensed and treat clients with depression, anxiety etc through individual and group therapy, while receiving supervision from a licensed clinical psychologist. \n\nI just graduated and so many doors have opened up for me. I'm pleasantly surprised, but believe me I paid my dues and worked very difficult jobs, making little wages. Now I am able to choose what setting I work in, what hours and what population. Good luck. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-09-20T07:59:52', 'parent_id': 't3_6v6rmf'}]"
6tpmbk,2017-08-15T03:01:06,Possible Bipolar II disorder,"Hello, 
This may be long but I really need help.

So I'm a 20 year old female in America. I think I might have bipolar II depression. I have gone through a lot in the past few years and at first I thought it was just situational depression, however my symptoms didn't quite fit the definition of clinical depression. In order for it to be considered clinical depression I'd have to experience the symptoms for 2 or more weeks.

However, I experience the symptoms for about a week and a half. I experience irritability, hopelessness, thoughts of death though not necessarily suicide, constantly on the verge of crying, feeling detached from myself as though my body is just going though the actions out of habit while I was emotionally detached from everything, feeling numb, anxiety.

Then for a day to a few days I feel elated, I suddenly go from needing 12 hours of sleep to only being able to sleep for 2-4 hours. But because I'm not getting enough sleep I feel irritable, but extremely energetic and wired. I feel like this is hypomania because I never lose touch with reality but it's so different from the depression. 

Last school year I was going through these cycles really quickly towards the end and I was having mental breakdowns every week. I do not want to go back to that. It was really scary and it made me feel like I needed to be locked away because I'm crazy.

I went to a mental health professional that my mom said would be free because it's through her work. This person told me they can't diagnose me because they only diagnose employees. She also was very condescending and told me I'm probably just not acting happy enough.

I was fine throughout the summer and was in abnormal mood. However I feel myself being irritable for no reason for many days again and I'm worried I'm slipping into again.

I should mention we also think my dad has it but he refuses to go get help so there's no way for us to know for sure. 

What should I do?",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6tpmbk/possible_bipolar_ii_disorder/,"[{'comment_id': 'dlmiqea', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'While Bipolar disorder is a possible diagnosis, but I would recommend tracking your mood and sleep cycles. Then seek out a professional counselor (a different one, that is for you) or a psychiatrist.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2017-08-15T03:21:39', 'parent_id': 't3_6tpmbk'}]"
6qpccy,2017-07-31T21:29:30,"My mental health story, any help would be appreciated.","I have been struggling with mental health for countless years, this is me wanting to reach out to others and show them that they are not alone. I may not be an expert in mental health, but do not be scared to reach out and have a talk with me I will always be here to talk. I have created a blog for others to read about my struggle, and would love others stories and issues. I would love to build a community where everyone feels open to talk. Check it out and leave your thoughts https://freethought33.wordpress.com/.",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6qpccy/my_mental_health_story_any_help_would_be/,[]
6m4e9d,2017-07-09T05:35:22,Thinking of becoming an RBT,"I am a college student who plans on majoring in psychology. I live in Texas and recently found out that I could become a mental health technician at a local hospital and I want to go into this line of work. Along the way of doing my research on this I discovered what a licensed RBT is.
I've also been considering possibly going through with this as a career to carry me through college. 

I guess what I'm asking for here is advice about what I should expect as an RBT. And I also need advice that would be helpful for me to start as a tech at my local hospital.
",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6m4e9d/thinking_of_becoming_an_rbt/,[]
6jwhr7,2017-06-28T04:30:37,How can I dodge an unjust involuntary court commitment to Mental Health,"I'm not directly asking for advice:  When I first spoke to a mental health physician I told him about an acid invoked experience and told him I had never done street drugs. He diagnosed me as a paranoid schizophrenic. Today, when I try to explain to the doctors they either don't understand why I want off the medication or refuse to see the truth entirely. I'm going to have to bring a lawyer into the whole mess. ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6jwhr7/how_can_i_dodge_an_unjust_involuntary_court/,[]
6jmce1,2017-06-26T22:25:09,Helping a BPD(+schizoaffective) client get over a broken heart,Hi! Title says it all - I'm struggling with a client who had a broken heart and can't move on. Any advice?,MentalHealthPros,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6jmce1/helping_a_bpdschizoaffective_client_get_over_a/,"[{'comment_id': 'djg1g68', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'If it\'s pervasive focus on the loss, then I would explore Grief & Loss materials. If the individual more distressed by an increase in mental health symptoms, I would focus on self-care. While both are likely impacting each other, having a starting point is important for instilling hope. Work on the ""easier"" stuff first and then focus on the ""overwhelming"" things at a later time.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-27T07:15:12', 'parent_id': 't3_6jmce1'}, {'comment_id': 'djg1tbl', 'author': 'cgb33', 'body': 'Great! Thanks. That was what I thought my approach should be to start. Grief and loss is a great idea. Thank you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-27T07:22:47', 'parent_id': 't1_djg1g68'}]"
6ismc1,2017-06-22T15:55:55,I've been type 1 diabetic for 6 years and the worst of it haunts me every day,"When I was 10, I was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes.. When I was diagnosed I had to stay in the hospital for 3 days which seemed like forever. The first insulin shot I ever took was probably one of the most horrifying experiences of my life. I was still petrified of needles at the time, so I fought desperately to keep the diabetes-free life I've always seemed to have but to no avail. Then I spent the next 3 days in the hospital having to be around babies dying of cancer, other diabetics which were mostly younger than me, and disabled people that couldn't have been any older than 9. It was a horrible sight because no one deserves such a thing, let alone at that young of an age. Fast forward to after we get out of the hospital: my mom and I have become very different people because the tragic day of my diagnosis molded us and forced us to think differently. I began thinking about other people more than myself and losing my self esteem to the idea that I must have done something horrible to have something like this happen to me. The day I went to school after this was exhausting.. I had to tell everyone what happened no matter how uncomfortable or insecure I was with it. We were only in 5th grade so some people didn't know what the disease is. Those that did mostly cried in front of me that day, and so did I. Then throughout the year, I started to get used to everything but I would deny the fact that it hurt me so much mentally because I was a 10 year old boy that thought emotions/pain/sensitivity = weakness. Fast forward one year later. I've gotten into 6th grade, my first full year of being diabetic in school, and also my very first year of middle school. It wasn't that bad at all at first though. I became the class clown to hide the fact that I was actually suffering from depression knowing I'll never be cured of the disease that now runs through my blood. Very few people knew how I felt underneath all of the humor I would use to make the class crack up at me instead of pity me, however everyone knew that I am diabetic. Some people who were in their douche bag phase made fun of my diabetes, but that wasn't a very good idea on their part. I was still taking 4 needles every day, and one day at lunch someone handed me a piece of celery and told me it'll cure my diabetes so since the lunch aids were not looking, I grabbed him by the throat and scaled him up the wall. Then, I said to ""Dont you make fun of my disease or you'll see what I can do."" Before putting him down. During this, my mom seemed emotionally unavailable and since I'm a part of a Christian family, my mom would always tell me to stop being ungrateful before God takes away everything I Have. This was obviously very unsupportive of my situation and only drove me deeper into depression. The only people I could really talk to about my problem were my father and a handful of my friends. I also used to go to therapy for professionally diagnosed depression. Then when I was 11, I was out to thanksgiving dinner with my family and my cousin with her boyfriend, now husband. My cousin's boyfriend is diabetic as well and he's been on shots a lot longer than I have. I went to ask him how he manages to be such a Happy person despite having to take needles every day like I did. He took this as a joke, and proceeded to mock my condition. That night I decided enough was enough and attempted suicide which was obviously unsuccessful. Fast forward to when I was 12. We learned about an alternative to shots which was an insulin pump so we started taking classes at the hospital for it. 5 months later, we finally got it. I felt like I was never diabetic in the first place. I'd have to say the summer that year was the absolute best I've ever had in my life to date. However, it wasn't until August that I realized exactly how much being on shots for 2 years damaged me. I felt as if something had blown a hole in me. Eventually it came time to test blood a couple of years later and I was struck with flashbacks of what used to be. I would remember the times I was on shots and start screaming phrases like ""she wasn't there for me"" or ""stop it I'm only 10/11/12 I don't want to be diabetic"". Then I realized that the damage has been done. I still can't be near needles without having a damn panic attack. I try to go to therapy for what could very possibly be PTSD but my parents are divorced now, and they're too busy to take me. To this day, this problem still exists and despite this all being 4-6 years ago, I am still haunted by the days I used to use 4 insulin needles every day just to get by. I am trying to get help in any way I can other than therapy because it's unavailable to me given the fact that  both of my parents are too busy to take me. I'm 16 now, however I don't have a car yet let alone a driver's permit or a license. My outlets are limited to my father, friends, significant other, and seeking help online. I just had to get this off of my chest and I hope someone reads this fully and is willing to give me advice at a bare minimum. I can't even look at childhood pictures or remember things from those times without almost breaking down.. It makes me feel like an empty shell of the cheerful and bright person I once was.

Note:(Any comments saying anything along the lines of at least it isn't cancer or get over it will be deleted.)",MentalHealthPros,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6ismc1/ive_been_type_1_diabetic_for_6_years_and_the/,"[{'comment_id': 'dj8q527', 'author': 'prowlr1', 'body': 'Sending Love!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-22T16:06:00', 'parent_id': 't3_6ismc1'}, {'comment_id': 'dj8q3wa', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-22T16:04:39', 'parent_id': 't3_6ismc1'}, {'comment_id': 'dj8y2oq', 'author': 'justxvan', 'body': ""> Its not your fault its terrible foods that our society says is healthy. Its not. eat only whole foods. if it dosen't grow don't eat it.\n\nUhh, Type 1 has NOTHING to do wirh diet or lifestyle, it is an autoimmune condition.\n\nIt's ignorant comments like yours which contribute to the depression that type 1s suffer from."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-22T19:46:16', 'parent_id': 't1_dj8q3wa'}, {'comment_id': 'dja19ib', 'author': 'xEdgeLordx', 'body': ""I understand what youre saying has good intentions, but justxvan is completely right that you have the wrong idea about what I'm dealing with."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-23T07:29:52', 'parent_id': 't1_dj8q3wa'}]"
6f0v70,2017-06-03T17:35:41,Really depressed,"I'm extremely depressed my girlfriend of 2 year packed up and left me last night and took our 7moth old daughter with her the loneliness is killing me I could really use someone to talk to and occupy my time 
",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6f0v70/really_depressed/,"[{'comment_id': 'dkrwllg', 'author': 'throwawaywardson2', 'body': 'Hello, are you all right?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-07-27T07:20:47', 'parent_id': 't3_6f0v70'}]"
6f0ttn,2017-06-03T17:25:41,Suicide in the family,"This is going to be kinda long and personal so please bear with me. My dad is making me feel really bad about not wanting to move back home after my brother shot and killed himself with a hunting rifle 5 months ago. I mean, we go there during the day to eat dinner and lunch there then around bed time we go to my grandpa's where we've been living since. I can't help but feel like I'm in hell when I'm there, my anxiety is high and I'm super jumpy, I can't focus, and all I want is to go back to my grandpa's because my house no longer feels like home to me. He was in his room when it happened and mine is right next door to him, I was almost asleep when I heard a gun shot and my parents rushing to his room. Since his room is next door to mine it was almost inevitable for me not to see the aftermath. Since then I was diagnosed with ptsd, I already had been diagnosed with depression and anxiety before he passed and that got worse. Anyways, I was wondering if it was normal for me to feel this way and dreading staying there anymore. What do you think about my situation, is it really bullshit for me to still be at my grandpa's and not back home?",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6f0ttn/suicide_in_the_family/,"[{'comment_id': 'dietssu', 'author': 'gemmasaunt1906', 'body': ""I want to start by telling you that 1. I am a therapist and 2. it's perfectly normal and valid to experience the feelings you described.  Please don't let anyone invalidate your feelings. You have been through a severely traumatizing experience and it sounds like, even though you're dealing with grief, PTSD, anxiety, and depression, that you're dealing and coping with this experience well.  If you were my client, I'd tell you to try to slowly ease back into living in your childhood home. There are a number of ways to go about doing that, but maybe you could try staying in a different room for a while. And then gradually work your way up to staying in your old room.  It's always a good idea to see a therapist for your preexisting conditions as well as the grief and PTSD.  Keep in mind that change will not happen overnight (and quite frankly you don't want it to happen too quickly), so try to remind yourself and your family that you, and they, need time to recover from this.  Also if you're ever feeling so overwhelmed to the point that you're thinking of harming yourself or someone else, you can call your state's mental health crisis and/or suicide line or 911 (if you live in the US.  I'm in the US so I don't know the protocol for other countries).  It takes a lot of courage to reach out like this so I can tell you're a strong person. Remind yourself of this fact often and stay strong! I hope this helps! "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-03T22:44:19', 'parent_id': 't3_6f0ttn'}]"
6ejt25,2017-06-01T07:51:45,Is this what depression recovery feels like?,"So I started taking medication for depression and OCD about 3 months ago and it's been a long and painful process, But I think I'm slowly starting to experience the effects. I still have episodes of anxiety and depression, but it's like I'm waking up from A bad dream. I still feel that sensation in my throat that feels like I am about to cry from time to time, But in all Honestly, half the time I can't tell if it's ""tears"" of sadness, fear, or relief. It's like I am experiencing relief from my depression, But fear and frustration from when/if it will come back. It's a very overwhelming and confusing experience. But I'm starting to feel more ""at home"" even when I'm not at home. I'm still not 100% by any means, But I'm definitely feeling more and more at peace of mind every day. I figured this is all a fairly good sign but I wanted to put it out there to see what other insight people might have.",MentalHealthPros,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6ejt25/is_this_what_depression_recovery_feels_like/,"[{'comment_id': 'dollake', 'author': 'katatl', 'body': ""hi sorry i'm seeing this so late but yes!!! this is what it feels like. it's slow, it's a marathon, but bit by bit things get better and your head feels clearer. \n\nhope you're continuing down this positive path. reach out for support if you need it! xo"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-10-19T23:57:10', 'parent_id': 't3_6ejt25'}]"
6b0lkz,2017-05-14T03:58:57,Need advice on helping someone.,"Not  sure if it's the right place, hope it is!

Because of low self esteem/issues with her body as well as other stuff, my friend needs to see a doctor and mental health professional. But her parents kind of frown upon that stuff in a way and won't take her. She's a minor so she can't go herself and doesn't have the money. All of this has her feeling like she has to move out when she can since she will most likely be judged by her parents for even going to see a doctor or anything. But there's a problem there too since she doesn't have the money to live on her own, nor does she have anyone to live with or have as a roommate to try and make something work. 

What should she do?",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6b0lkz/need_advice_on_helping_someone/,"[{'comment_id': 'dhja2b8', 'author': 'FILIPANESE', 'body': ""Hello,\n\nShe could try community mental health. It is free. Or their help groups. She could talk to her school counselor and they would help her parents understand what she is going through. Check if her parents have health insurance and if she is under their policy, it's possible she could use it to see a provider. If she has good coverage the cost could be less and she would pay a $20 copay for instance. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-05-14T11:40:49', 'parent_id': 't3_6b0lkz'}]"
67iwpa,2017-04-26T01:04:46,New App for Anxiety/Depression *Mood Triggers*,"Researchers at Penn State University have just created an app that helps people identify the triggers of their anxious and depressed moods in order to better understand what is triggering them so they can break the cycle. It's a free application, with no ads. I have linked below the Mood Triggers App in the Google Play Store and Amazon Play Store if you would like to download and a youtube video outlining how the app works! 

Link to Google Play Store: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.nick.moodtriggers.anxietyanddepressionapp Link to 

Amazon Play Store Listing: https://www.amazon.com/Nick-Jacobson-Mood-Triggers/dp/B06ZZ9SYG9/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1492552577&sr=8-1&keywords=mood+triggers Link to 

YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lx-hqXYDEGE;",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/67iwpa/new_app_for_anxietydepression_mood_triggers/,[]
60ppmq,2017-03-22T00:57:11,The Changes Needed to Fix the Mental Healthcare System in the U.S.,,MentalHealthPros,1,0,http://www.pasadenavilla.com/2015/03/03/fixing-the-united-states-mental-healthcare-system-3-changes-that-need-to-happen/,[]
5ts5qe,2017-02-13T15:50:50,Am I depressed?,"Hi, I'm a male in his early 30's struggling with light dyslexia so excuse my punctuality  

I've recently broken up with a girl I'd been with for over 10 years and have 4 kids with her oldest being 7,youngest being just over 1 month. (We broke up due to my alcohol issues) Which has gotten me banned from seeing my kids until I sort it out ..I've always had anxiety problems too for example, I can't walk down the street without thinking people are looking at me and laughing at the way I walk (slight limp) which gets me paranoid and nervous so I want to get home A.S.A.P. I haven't slept properly in a long time and I don't eat right ether, 1 meal a day that I can't finish even if my stomach is rumbling as I eat, I get about half way through and just can't eat anymore. 

I have a zero hour contract job so I'm lucky to get 2 days every couple months, this although not the best, kinda suited me because I don't have to be around people and feel inadequate (I feel I'm not smart like the other guys) I'm terrible at maths I have problems with knowing my left from my right, I have to think back to my childhood sonic game and repeat the sequence ""up,down,left,right, A,B,C, Start. Then I know which is left or right. I can't look at a clock without having to count in 5's (obviously not digital)

I can't talk to people because I haven't been to a dentist in over 15 years so my teeth are yellow and not in great shape which makes me paranoid that they are thinking ""it's nasty"" I also have that recurring dream that my teeth all fall out in my had something's I pull them all out.

To top it all off I'm now having panic attacks every morning when I wake up and also through out the day, my heart starts racing my fingers start tingling and my body shakes, can a doctor help me and if so how? Someone please help me understand this 
 
Thank you for taking the time to read this  and thank you in advance for any replies. ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5ts5qe/am_i_depressed/,"[{'comment_id': 'ddpgoqe', 'author': 'Tip718', 'body': 'Hey Man \n\nThis sub is pretty dead and we wouldnt diagnose any way, my suggestion is this. If you feel that you have a problem(s), you should go consult with a therapist or doctor. \n', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-02-14T04:08:57', 'parent_id': 't3_5ts5qe'}, {'comment_id': 'ddphrmt', 'author': 'strugglingwithmyself', 'body': ""Thank you, I have an appointment to see a doctor but it's in a weeks time , wasn't sure if I would be waisting the doctors time. I just needed to hear (read in this case) someone tell me I should go. Thank you "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-02-14T04:31:23', 'parent_id': 't1_ddpgoqe'}]"
5tgge2,2017-02-11T23:44:06,ONLINE THERAPY,What's the most you'd be willing to pay for online therapy? I don't know if online is similar to in person so I want to know your opinions. ,MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5tgge2/online_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'ddnj7x2', 'author': 'ashleykr', 'body': ""Wouldn't pay for it"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-02-12T22:38:57', 'parent_id': 't3_5tgge2'}]"
5rnko3,2017-02-02T21:31:21,Still seeking couples therapists to participate in research on PLAY and Couples Therapy. Survey is brief (10-15 min). Use your voice to contribute to a growing body of research on PLAY and Couples Therapy!,"Hello Fellow Mental Health Professionals,
Presently, I am working on my Master's thesis at Smith College for Social Work and am seeking research participants to complete my short survey.

My study focuses on gathering information about couples therapists perceptions of the value and their use of play in couples therapy. My study also seeks to understand couples therapists inspiration for using play in the therapeutic encounter. This includes asking couples therapists to report on what resources and/or experiences have been influential in their use of play with couples. Play in the context of couples therapy is different than play therapy with children, although it is arguable that they serve similar purposes. Potential participants will be asked their consent to participate in the study but WILL NOT be asked for their names or any other identifying information.
If you answer “yes” to each of these questions, you are eligible to participate in this research. 

- Are you a current or former licensed couples therapist who practices(d) as a MSW/LCSW/LICSW, LPC, MFT, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, or Christian Counselor? 
- Have you practiced as a licensed Couples Counselor for at least one year?

What will participants do? Participants complete a confidential online questionnaire that takes between 10-15 minutes. To review the informed consent, and complete the questionnaire, go to this web link: 
https://smithcollege.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_9MLJRxknRF4aWcB

What is the benefit of participation? Participants could help to illuminate the little discussed or researched value and use of play in couples therapy as well as give voice to the implications and benefits of play in couples work.

If you meet criteria for participating, please consider participating in my study. If you do not meet inclusion criteria PLEASE pass this survey along to others through sharing on social media or emailing.

This study has been reviewed and approved by the Smith College School for Social Work Human Subjects Review Committee (HSRC).     

Thank you for your time, assistance, and interest in my research topic!   

Sincerely,
Teresa Musick",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5rnko3/still_seeking_couples_therapists_to_participate/,[]
5ou7v6,2017-01-19T08:50:55,Question about the quality of mental health facilities,"Hi, sorry if this is not the right place for this. I'm an interior design student and I'm about to start a project designing a mental health facility. For my project, I am trying to gather some research about current design trends and how those could be improved. As professionals in the industry, what issues have you noticed in facilities and how do you think they could be changed to better suit patients? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated! ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5ou7v6/question_about_the_quality_of_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'dcnjuer', 'author': 'BrokenBootLaces', 'body': 'I cannot provide any research but I want to follow this thread. I would suggest in open concepts with a lot of space for belongings that are secure. Many of my previous individuals would get upset with their peers and essentially live in tight quarters with them. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-20T07:00:57', 'parent_id': 't3_5ou7v6'}, {'comment_id': 'dct73ci', 'author': 'Poopy__McGee', 'body': ""That's a great tip, thank you! "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-24T01:58:04', 'parent_id': 't1_dcnjuer'}]"
5op333,2017-01-18T18:02:38,Other Jobs You Can Get with Counseling Degree,"I'll start off saying that a lot of this is me venting because I have been too afraid to talk to anyone about this, but I also would really like some advice. I graduated from undergrad with a Bachelors in Psychology, and then went on to complete a Masters of Education in Counseling and Personnel Services with a concentration in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. During my internship while in graduate school I provided outpatient therapy to adults, and after graduating I was hired for a job providing school-based therapy to children. I graduated with my M.Ed. in August and have only been working at my current job for about 4 months, and already I have been feeling very unhappy. If I am honest, I had a lot of doubts throughout my graduate program and my internship about if this was the right fit, but didn't listen to those doubts and kept on with my program. I was afraid to quit in the middle of the program because I didn't know what else to do, had already put time and money into it, and thought maybe I would like it once I got started. I see now that this was probably not the right course of action, and that I should have been honest with myself and talked to someone about this to see what other options I might have. I guess I was also afraid to quit due to fear that my family and friends would be disappointed in me, as I have always had a plan and had things together.
Basically, I got into psychology because I found human behavior interesting, and felt like I had good interpersonal skills and insight. I was involved in research during undergrad, but didn't really enjoy it, and decided I wanted to do counseling. Once I started my internship during my grad program I found that I had high anxiety about seeing clients, but passed it off as being a new therapist in training. Problem is, I still have that anxiety, I don't find myself getting satisfaction from my work, I don't know if I am even good at this. I somehow fooled myself into thinking that this would be a good career for me, but the truth is that I find it emotionally draining and I want out. I dread going to work, I'm anxious all the time thinking about work (I know I need to look into getting my own counseling), and I don't feel like I can take pride in my work because I don't know how to measure my own ""success"" other than client progress, which is obviously dependent on the client more than myself. 
I am wondering if a position related to human resources might be a better fit, but am also looking for any suggestions on alternative jobs/careers that I can get into with my degree. 

TL;DR: I have a Masters in Counseling, had doubts and anxiety during my program about whether this was the right fit for me, and have confirmed for myself shortly after graduating and getting my first job that I do not like working in this position at all, and am looking for alternative jobs/careers.
",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5op333/other_jobs_you_can_get_with_counseling_degree/,[]
5m8nrg,2017-01-06T01:29:42,Are you a couples therapist or are you connected to couples therapists? Fill out my survey below to help me complete my thesis!,"Hello Fellow Mental Health Professionals,

Presently, I am working on my Master's thesis at Smith College for Social Work and am seeking research participants to complete my short survey. 
-----
My study focuses on gathering information about couples therapists perceptions of the value and their use of play in couples therapy. My study also seeks to understand couples therapists inspiration for using play in the therapeutic encounter. This includes asking couples therapists to report on what resources and/or experiences have been influential in their use of play with couples. Play in the context of couples therapy is different than play therapy with children, although it is arguable that they serve similar purposes. Potential participants will be asked their consent to participate in the study but WILL NOT be asked for their names or any other identifying information.

If you answer “yes” to each of these questions, you are eligible to participate in this research. 

Are you a current or former licensed couples therapist who practices(d) as a MSW/LCSW/LICSW, LPC, MFT, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, or Christian Counselor?

Have you practiced as a licensed Couples Counselor for at least one year? 

What will participants do? Participants complete a confidential online questionnaire that takes between 20-25 minutes. To review the informed consent, and complete the questionnaire, go to this web link: https://smithcollege.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_9MLJRxknRF4aWcB 

What is the benefit of participation? Participants could help to illuminate the little discussed or researched value and use of play in couples therapy as well as give voice to the implications and benefits of play in couples work.

If you meet criteria for participating, please consider participating in my study. If you do not meet inclusion criteria PLEASE pass this survey along to others through sharing on social media or emailing.
-----
This study has been reviewed and approved by the Smith College School for Social Work Human Subjects Review Committee (HSRC).  
 
Thank you for your time, assistance, and interest in my research topic!
 
Sincerely, 

Teresa Musick
",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5m8nrg/are_you_a_couples_therapist_or_are_you_connected/,[]
5l7hvd,2016-12-31T08:19:28,Can somebody help me with my Survivor's guilt?,"I'm not sure if this is the right place, but I don't have access to therapy. ",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5l7hvd/can_somebody_help_me_with_my_survivors_guilt/,"[{'comment_id': 'dikp4il', 'author': 'pretty_pist0l', 'body': 'Hi, have you tried community centers that provide mental health services? Its free.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-07T17:37:29', 'parent_id': 't3_5l7hvd'}]"
5kh859,2016-12-27T07:45:16,"""If you think you're going crazy, you're not."" This. Thoughts?","I have been reading a lot of true crime lately, and I have pretty severe anxiety that I don't take medication for (I just worry to the extreme). I read a couple autopsy reports of serial killers and quickly realized how disturbing it was. Now, I am absolutely terrified that I have traumatized myself mentally from reading these reports and reading true crime that I will go crazy. I am so scared, and have since stopped reading true crime. Thoughts?",MentalHealthPros,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5kh859/if_you_think_youre_going_crazy_youre_not_this/,"[{'comment_id': 'dbv7a7n', 'author': 'psycrock', 'body': 'suffering in same critical condition as well......I have to say....is there any one else to guide us.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-01-01T19:37:45', 'parent_id': 't3_5kh859'}, {'comment_id': 'dbz7uyo', 'author': 'psycrock', 'body': 'is there any medication for relive from mental stress ?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-04T11:41:18', 'parent_id': 't3_5kh859'}, {'comment_id': 'dbyaoxv', 'author': 'squidsquidsquid88', 'body': ""I've been thinking about it, and I think that the fact that we're scared that we could do harms means we probably won't, because people who do violent things don't know it's bad and therefore aren't afraid to do it. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-03T23:54:04', 'parent_id': 't1_dbv7a7n'}]"
5i2l94,2016-12-13T14:20:04,No insurance,"So I have to seek help from strangers online, my entire life ever since I can remember I struggled with depression and self harm. I used to hate my very existence but at the same time I still had hope and aspirations. But out of no where I stopped feeling anything. I truly feel blank I do not feel depressed no longer I do not have any of my same dreams and goals I do not feel any kind of sadness or happiness. I also have pushed almost every single family member I have away and I know that is wrong morally but I do not care. I don't feel bad about it. There are very few I still associate with. I feel like I only see things in an analytical way I have a hard time understanding how other would feel and their emotions and i try desperately to figure out which emotions I myself have left. There will be times something bad will happen and I'll feel a void like as if I should feel bad but instead I'll feel blank. I do not know what changed and why it did ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5i2l94/no_insurance/,[]
5i2hwx,2016-12-13T13:50:38,"Unsure where to look for resources , can someone help ?","Google is fine for finding recipes and craft projects . I am looking for mental health resources . All I can find is things that are either out of date or not what I was looking for . I'm not (I repeat not) in a crisis situation , I just want help for past issues before it becomes a crisis . I have never been one to ask for help so please only reply if you know of mental health services in the greater Cincinnati area . (Sorry if my writing skills suck) ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5i2hwx/unsure_where_to_look_for_resources_can_someone/,[]
5gdwc8,2016-12-04T10:33:57,is my 11 year old self harming?,"context: her dad molested her (and her siblings) for years, she hasn't had any contact with him for nearly 2 years now. This year she has really been dealing with it for the first time as she is at an age where she has a deeper understanding of it.  She has shown an amount of what i would call hypochondria; faking and exagerrating injuries but again, nothing too serious (might wear a bandage on her wrist for a few days, or limp for a few days.  a few times though, she has had small cuts, like papercuts, on her face, backs of her hands etc.  the most recent: backs of both her hands, small but multiple cuts.  her story is that the dog jumped up and scratched her with her claws but def not cuts from the dog.  I talk to her openly about mental health a lot, including talking to her about self harm, what it means, what it can lead to.  i have told her that it's like, the mental trauma is too hard for her brain to cope with and dealing with physical pain is easier so you do that.  she understands and has a couple of times, admitted that her injury is actually fake; it helps her to cope with crap, like a protection.

she isn't currently seeing a counsellor as she refuses but she knows that while she refuses she must talk to me openly (or her teacher etc).  so far she agrees and does this and we are very open with mental health etc.  but, i'm not a psych and i'm just not sure when i should be more concerned?  does this sound like self harm or attention seeking or something?  ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5gdwc8/is_my_11_year_old_self_harming/,[]
53phv9,2016-09-21T02:08:53,Advice for a Caretaker,"As is customary, sorry if this is the wrong sub for this type of post.

My younger brother was diagnosed with bipolar depression and general anxiety disorder about three years ago.  It probably started more like 10 years ago, though.  He's made a lot of progress, goes to therapy, is on medication that seems effective, and is generally stable compared to a few years ago.  But, he can still be very frustrating to deal with.  It feels impossible to know how he'll react to anything from a joke to a recommendation for partial care from his therapist.

Meanwhile, my father suffered a stroke in 2012.  He's able to walk with a cane, can clothe, bathe, and feed himself.  But he can't work anymore.  His speech is impaired.  I feel his mobility and situational awareness is insufficient for him to drive safely.  And his personality has changed in ways that are difficult to explain or assign a name to.  Its as if he's reverted a child-like state.  If we try to talk to him about something serious, he barely responds, makes animal noises, or gets angry.  Talk to him too long and he'll stop you mid-sentence to ask ""Can I go now, are we done?""  If my brother and I are discussing something he disagrees with in his presence, he actually cover his ears and shakes his head.  He complains about noises we can barely hear.  If I make fish for dinner, he's looking for tartar sauce.  I buy tartar sauce next time, now he's looking for potatoes.  If I ask him what he'd like for dinner, he has no ideas or wants hot dogs (my god, he's obsessed with hot dogs!).

And I'm so tired.  I'm tired of living with mental patients, of being a single parent to a 30 year old and a 63 year old.  I'm tired of being the only functional adult in my home.  

Would therapy help?  What kind of therapist or mental health professional would I seek out?  Would it even help?  My brother has a long road to being employable and self-sufficient, but at least I know he's trying.  I don't hate my father enough to dump him in any nursing home that accepts Medicaid, but I certainly can't afford anything better.  

Would seeing a therapist at least help me cope with or accept being resigned to a life of service?",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/53phv9/advice_for_a_caretaker/,"[{'comment_id': 'd7wrfip', 'author': 'IDare2ask', 'body': 'Of course you are tired. You should focuse on your own well-being first, and only then proceed to supporting your unlucky relatives more than what is absolutely necessary. Source: I am an exhausted caregiver.\n\nLately there is a trend to form support groups for caregivers. Search for one. Talking with people on the same boat should help relieve a lot of stress, and also get ideas.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2016-09-22T05:07:38', 'parent_id': 't3_53phv9'}, {'comment_id': 'd7vtzqj', 'author': 'BrokenBootLaces', 'body': ""I always recommend therapy. It's always nice to bounce your concerns to someone who listens and can help guide you. Find a therapist and meet with them. If you don't like the first one, go to a second. I have my first therapist four sessions before moving on to my second. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-09-21T16:08:40', 'parent_id': 't3_53phv9'}]"
50b48e,2016-08-30T19:00:29,"I see this sub isn't super active, but I was going for some education/career path advice or information.","So I've always wanted to be a therapist/counselor for troubled youth. I also am wildly interested in mental health and psychology. I'm graduating with my bachelor's in a few months, and I'm looking at programs for my masters, but I can't seem to choose. I don't know any people in all of these fields to ask and compare so I was hoping some of you here could help me out.

I'm considering school counseling, professional counseling, and social work. Leaning away from social work at this point. Do any of you have experience in these fields and/or advice on which path I should take according to my end goal? Thank you so much for any help!

TL;DR: want to counsel troubled youth, can't choose between school counseling, professional counseling, and social work.",MentalHealthPros,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/50b48e/i_see_this_sub_isnt_super_active_but_i_was_going/,"[{'comment_id': 'd734jaw', 'author': 'TawnyTail', 'body': 'Marriage and family therapy is another option. A Masters degree in that and you can start working. ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2016-08-31T02:35:46', 'parent_id': 't3_50b48e'}, {'comment_id': 'd743mqy', 'author': 'forfunstuff', 'body': 'I appreciate the response. I briefly considered that as well, but I am more interested in dealing with children than adults including families as a whole.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-31T21:09:54', 'parent_id': 't1_d734jaw'}, {'comment_id': 'd74hh41', 'author': 'TawnyTail', 'body': 'If working with children is your goal, I think MFT is a perfect fit because the basis of the practice is in systemic therapy. To help children, you have to help their families. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-09-01T01:56:37', 'parent_id': 't1_d743mqy'}]"
4xzbhc,2016-08-16T18:20:08,"Deciding on path to work with large local government, or federal?","Hi Reddit!

In the odd chance I have someone who understands this predicament, I'd very much like any $0.02 on the subject. 

My fiance works for a very large local government in the Northern Virginia area currently. Accepted to grad school and is trying to figure out if Federal work is even a consideration. Fiance is in grad school for an MPA, so that would open things up, though I don't think we have any real connections to the Feds at all.

Anyway. The current track with the local government seems to be great, lots of old heads who are going to need to be replaced eventually as well. 

Ideally the future goal is to head a large suicide prevention non-profit, but that may not be obtainable for a variety of reasons and working in mental health for the local/fed gov. would be sufficient. 

Does anyone have any input and experience working for the feds in mental health? How's the pay, demand, etc.?

Thanks!",MentalHealthPros,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4xzbhc/deciding_on_path_to_work_with_large_local/,"[{'comment_id': 'd6kgbjp', 'author': 'psychstudy84', 'body': ""I'm a psychologist for the federal government. The pay is openly published. Depending on experience, you'd start as a GS-11 or 12 and could probably get a hiring bonus of 15k to join the bureau of prisons. High demand if you're willing to work in crappy areas. Look for psychologist jobs on USAJOBS.gov. :-)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-17T05:36:04', 'parent_id': 't3_4xzbhc'}]"
4oz8zi,2016-06-20T20:52:20,Job Experience While in Grad School,"Hey, all. I'm in my third semester of my masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I really feel like I should get a job (part time or full time) that will help me get some experience while I'm in grad school. I've applied for mental health technician jobs at several in-patient hospitals but I have not had success. I think it might be because of my lack of experience. Does anyone have any experience with this? My bachelor's is in psychology. Any suggestions or personal experiences would be helpful.",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4oz8zi/job_experience_while_in_grad_school/,"[{'comment_id': 'd4gwksz', 'author': 'Halfury', 'body': ""I just graduated in May with my Master’s in MH Counseling, so based on my experience over the last 3 years, it is super important to finish your degree. School comes first always! Depending on the program, you may have a Practicum and an Internship towards the end of the program, which will help you to get some real-world experience while in school. If your prorgram offers any courses where you can be certified in a type of therapy, do it! Also check out PESI for training opportunities near you. They typically last a day and you can get certified in just about anything. The workshops are somewhat pricey but you have the benefit of getting the student discount. Trust me, it's worth it. Employers *love* to see certifications on your resume. \n\nI also suggest you try volunteer work. Yes, it sucks to not get paid and yes rent and food are necessary but if you can devote even 4 hours a week, like on a Saturday doing community work that helps a ton!  At the very least you can get your foot in the door while having flexibility with your hours.\n\nIf not volunteering, try looking for something part time. Seeing as you are 3rd semester (how long is your program?), I can tell you that the closer you are to the end, the coursework will only get harder and more demanding on your time. This may not apply to you but if you are having a hard time getting interviews for MH positions, try something in customer service. I was a banker while going to school and boy oh boy the stories I have to tell! (haha) Still, even though I wasn't in the MH field, I had plenty of relatable experiences that have since served me well. Plus it gave me an opportunity to test out what I was learning on my coworkers and customers (like solution - focused therapy).\n\nIn my case, I liked my internship site and the people I worked with so they were very eager to keep me on as a permanent employee. It doesn't always happen like that, though, so keep that in mind. Along those lines, when looking for an internship (or any job, really), here's some helpful advice: look for a place with a good environment. You probably won't get paid a lot anywhere you go pre-licensure, so when deciding where to intern or to work, consider where you will feel the most comfortable. What I liked about my site was the support I received from everyone, including the Program Coordinator. Also consider hours flexibility and review their benefits policies, like PTO, pay schedule, sick time, tuition reimbursement, licensure reimbursement, mileage/cell phone stipend, stuff like that, which could make up for the pay. \n\nI hope that helps!\n\nEDIT I forgot to mention in that last paragraph: when looking for work, also be on the lookout for how well the company trains its staff. Some are hit the ground running while others have an established training program. This is why it helps to seek out training through places like PESI. The American Red Cross offers a fantastic disaster training program, which will get you First Aid/CPR certified (again, employers love to see stuff like that bc it means they don't have to spend more on training you). The ARC also has a mental health track in their Disaster Action Team services, so it may be worth it to check that out!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-06-20T23:28:40', 'parent_id': 't3_4oz8zi'}]"
4m5ff7,2016-06-02T09:49:33,Alternative Careers For Counselors,"Greetings!

I am writing in hopes to gain some helpful feedback from my fellow mental health colleagues. I have been working in the mental health field for over seven years now, and as I have become self-aware of my needs, I recognize that taking a step back from direct care/counseling services would be helpful to me at this time (I provide outpatient therapy services currently, however have provided crisis, group, career, and community counseling in the past). I have enjoyed serving others, however I am looking for a new challenge at this point in my career.

My question is this- What career fields/positions are easily transferable given our education/training/experience? I received my masters degree in Mental Health Counseling, and I am also a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), as well as a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC). 

As I said, I thoroughly enjoy counseling, however feel a bit ""burnt out"" and am looking for opportunities to challenge myself in other career fields so that when I do return to counseling, I will be completely restored. 

Thanks in advance for your help, it is much appreciated!",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4m5ff7/alternative_careers_for_counselors/,"[{'comment_id': 'd6wohw2', 'author': 'darkjeremiad', 'body': ""Teaching at the undergraduate level. (Particularly in community colleges)\nIn states that have high needs, there are often programs to take people with MA's and move them laterally into Elementary and Secondary education through provisional certification.\nJust about any job that requires strong communication skills and the ability to create rapport.\nResearch\nHuman Resources\nPersonnel Management and Recruiting. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-26T03:20:37', 'parent_id': 't3_4m5ff7'}]"
4lnlg8,2016-05-30T08:26:47,Unpredictability is affecting my relationship,"I tend to feel overwhelmed with emotion a large part of the time.  My emotions can be unpredictable and it seems to be getting worse.  Some days I am super easy going and go with the flow, but other days I will get upset about the same things I had no problem with a few days before.  It starting to affect my relationship because my emotions aren't consistent and I often don't feel like I have control of them.  Any help in the right direction would be great.",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4lnlg8/unpredictability_is_affecting_my_relationship/,[]
4k4t3a,2016-05-20T02:53:40,My mom has no medicated bipolar and depression and self medicates with Xanax and pain pills help?,"My mom is very important person in my life. We're like the best of friends. but right now she's in a bad place. She gets pain pills from my grandpa (he gives them to her) which she's addicted to, and she's always addicted to Xanax.  she's uses them to ""cope"" she sayss, because she has bad bipolar, and depression, and she's been medicated for those two things ever since she was a child. And currently, she's not medicated at all. She keeps telling me she will make a doctors appoint to be put back on her medication but she doesn't. How can I help my mother? Has anyone else been in this situation with someone they love? She really wants to be better but her depression and bipolar is bad when she's not medicated and she thinks self medication is what she has to do right now until she can pay her doctor bill to go to the doctor.",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4k4t3a/my_mom_has_no_medicated_bipolar_and_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'd6k3vgi', 'author': 'TroubleDoll', 'body': ""The short answer is that you cannot help someone who does not want help or does not know how to seek/ask for help. \n\nAll you can do is offer supportive listening and encouragement and look into resources for them and give them the information. \n\nHowever -- if you believe she is in danger of hurting herself or others there may be steps you can take that involve getting her help without her consent, such as involuntary commitment. I want to stress that this is a decision that you should never take lightly. \n\nHave you looked into local mental health resources? Many places regardless of size have free resources available. Thy could help counsel you regarding your options, including taking care of yourself since this sounds like a stressful situation you're in to say the least. \n\nBut seek help from mental health/substance abuse professionals *in your community* ASAP. Online help can only do so much. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-17T00:54:12', 'parent_id': 't3_4k4t3a'}]"
4hbbp7,2016-05-02T01:58:14,How can mayor's increase access to mental health services?,"Hello,
I'm a psychology student and recently started communicating with my city's mayor about the serious lapse in mental health coverage in our state. She has been very responsive and genuinely wants to know ways in which she can go about ensuring more of the community gets mental health services...I've been looking around online for answers, but figured it couldn't hurt to ask people in the mental health profession what they think. 

Any advice, suggestions or resources you can send my way would be greatly appreciated. :). ",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4hbbp7/how_can_mayors_increase_access_to_mental_health/,[]
4e40qa,2016-04-10T07:04:57,Paranoia is ruining marriage,"Been married for almost nine years. The past two have been rough. Left military and found civilian success in the job market, but my marriage and my mind are bad. Wife made lots of new friends, but I haven't made any in our new town, and I have tried. I've become paranoid and angry about the idea that my wife is cheating on me. In clarity, I know this isn't the case, but once a while my mind starts running and looking for a reason to justify my thoughts and it builds to the point of depression and accusations. My wife is a wonderful woman, but I have pushed her to the edge and she is visibly upset. She cries and tells me that I am the only one she loves and wants to make happy. She also says the accusations have broken her self value because she feels like I think that she's a whole and a bad mother. VA therapy hasn't helped and I am tired of hurting my wife and feeling like this. How should I approach? Any help appreciated.",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4e40qa/paranoia_is_ruining_marriage/,"[{'comment_id': 'd28a3k1', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Wow, so sorry to see that there were no replies to this. Most likely, this is due to the fact that this sub is meant to be a place for mental health professionals to connect with and support each other, not a place for the public to be posting asking for advice. /r/needadvice and /r/mentalhealth would be better places to post this.\n\nSince no one got back and told you that though, I'll toss out that you should sit down with a good marriage and family therapist. Based on your comment that your mind is bad, I'm left wondering if you are subtly referring to some PTSD or other trauma issues from your time in the military. The anxiety that these can bring on often manifest in a variety of ways and in the relationship is a big and common one. If that is at all the case, finding one that specializes in military veterans and PTSD would be important.\n\nThere are a lot of moving parts here and the VA has been slow to bring on LMFTs who think more systemically about relationship issues, generally speaking, than most LPCs or LCSWs or Psychologists. You can find an LMFT by checking out http://therapistlocator.net."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-04-19T06:28:36', 'parent_id': 't3_4e40qa'}]"
3nl9vv,2015-10-05T21:56:06,Becoming a professional after graduate school,"I recently moved to the Marietta, GA area this past August after I graduate with a masters in mental health counseling.  My main concern is not being able to land a job around here or the Atlanta area soon.  Bills are piling and I don't want to think that I'm unable to get into my field.",MentalHealthPros,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3nl9vv/becoming_a_professional_after_graduate_school/,"[{'comment_id': 'cvyvv35', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Wow, I actually work in Marietta (not in the mental health field). I am pursuing a MS in Clinical mental health counseling, and I too am disheartened by the prospects (so much that I am considering a different career path all together).\n\nWould you like to sit down and discuss options?\n\n', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2015-10-14T06:50:03', 'parent_id': 't3_3nl9vv'}, {'comment_id': 'cw6didy', 'author': 'Kierkiguarded', 'body': 'Sure!  My biggest feat to overcome is getting back into the workforce to fight off my student loan debt.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-10-20T19:46:45', 'parent_id': 't1_cvyvv35'}, {'comment_id': 'cwok40p', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Still want to meet up?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-11-05T02:00:14', 'parent_id': 't1_cw6didy'}, {'comment_id': 'cxforbf', 'author': 'Kierkiguarded', 'body': 'Sorry for the late reply, yea, just name a time and place.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-11-28T19:04:07', 'parent_id': 't1_cwok40p'}]"
3hh8dk,2015-08-19T00:01:46,Mental Health resources for illegal immigrants?,"Hello, I'm hoping this subreddit can guide me in the right direction. My boyfriend, who does not have legal status in this country,  is suffering from depression and has admitted having serious suicidal thoughts.  He is open to finding professional help and we are not sure where to start.  His lack of legal status means he has no ID and thus no healthcare or proof of who he is.  I've been searching for mental health sources for illegal residents but all I am finding are medical studies, and I am desperate for some real advice on where to look.",MentalHealthPros,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3hh8dk/mental_health_resources_for_illegal_immigrants/,"[{'comment_id': 'cu87gso', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'Have you checked your local community mental health agency?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-19T18:51:08', 'parent_id': 't3_3hh8dk'}, {'comment_id': 'cu87i4g', 'author': 'laurenshapiro', 'body': ""Realistically, he'd probably have to look into private practice and pay out of pocket OR speak to local non-profit organizations in his area that provide services to undocumented individuals and see if they know of anything. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-19T18:52:26', 'parent_id': 't3_3hh8dk'}, {'comment_id': 'cu8cg37', 'author': 'Kmo307', 'body': 'This might be a stupid question but what exactly is a local community mental health agency?  I see a therapist but she is private and I found her through my insurance company.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-19T21:13:08', 'parent_id': 't1_cu87gso'}, {'comment_id': 'cu9fqwy', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'Where are you located? ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-20T19:00:19', 'parent_id': 't1_cu8cg37'}, {'comment_id': 'cuatz8e', 'author': 'Kmo307', 'body': 'NYC', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-21T22:20:41', 'parent_id': 't1_cu9fqwy'}, {'comment_id': 'cubgjqi', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'Try giving the Lifenet hotline a call, they should be able to point you in the right direction.\n\nhttp://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/html/mental/mental.shtml\n\n\nOr this is a directory of state resources \n\nhttp://bi.omh.ny.gov/bridges/index', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-22T08:56:47', 'parent_id': 't1_cuatz8e'}]"
3g1fyz,2015-08-07T00:47:03,Are Mental Health Therapy Aides drug tested?,"Hello, I've recently replied to a canvas letter in the State of New York to become a Mental Health Therapy Aide and I have been a heavy smoker for years, I have abstained for four weeks so far and still do not show up clean on at home drug tests. I am very nervous as some say they may not drug test and some say they may. If anyone knows if MHTAs (Mental Health Therapy Aides) are drug tested id greatly appreciate an answer! Thank you!!!:) ",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3g1fyz/are_mental_health_therapy_aides_drug_tested/,"[{'comment_id': 'ctuf8vz', 'author': 'Hazc', 'body': ""I'm not in NY, and I don't know what a mental health therapy aide is, bit they probably are, and they definitely should be."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-07T09:03:38', 'parent_id': 't3_3g1fyz'}]"
3fitzz,2015-08-02T22:26:14,Beginning a practica placement and need advice on acute inpatient group therapy.,"Hello everyone. This is my first time posting to Reddit. I am beginning my first practica placement for my first year of my PsyD program. I have my masters and have performed one-on-one counseling based in CBT, motivational interviewing, and humanistic techniques. I will be building an inpatient group therapy program from scratch for my placement. I have no experience with group therapy, but I have been reading Yalom's book and since the average patient stay is 3 days I plan on using a lot of psycho-educational and MI aspects to therapy. I was hoping some of you have experience in group therapy and could point me towards some more information on acute group therapy and if you have any advice that would be even better! Thank you! ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3fitzz/beginning_a_practica_placement_and_need_advice_on/,"[{'comment_id': 'cu6x9qn', 'author': 'LadyLynari', 'body': 'I don\'t have a whole lot of helpful information to give you, but I wanted to wish you luck.  Psychoeducation groups are good, but for the actual group therapy (I don\'t consider psychoed to be therapy, per se), I\'d pick a topic that you know a lot about -- ones I would choose would be things like self-care, healthy ways to cope with overwhelming emotions, etc. -- and then lead a group on that.  State at the beginning that there are rules (i.e., that everyone needs to listen to everyone else respectfully, disagreements are okay if they\'re stated respectfully, and that everyone will have an opportunity to say something if they want but they won\'t be forced to), and then do a basic group check-in (""how are you guys feeling today?"" is usually an okay way to ask, though you\'ll probably get a few people snapping ""we\'re in the hospital, how do you THINK we\'re feeling?"").  Also, running a group that focuses on meditation/calming techniques is good, and if you can, one that focuses on gentle movements (calm yoga has been popular in hospitals).  I know this probably isn\'t what you\'re looking for, but I hope this helps at least a little!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-18T16:58:03', 'parent_id': 't3_3fitzz'}, {'comment_id': 'cysxujc', 'author': 'psychstudy84', 'body': ""You probably already figured it out since you posted five months ago.  What did you decide on?  I'd have recommended you pick up the Seeking Safety manual.  You can administer the group modules in any order, choosing what feels most relevant to you after you learn a little bit about your patients in the group.  People could attend any module during their inpatient stay, and could still get a lot from it.  Good luck!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-01-10T21:30:33', 'parent_id': 't3_3fitzz'}]"
1c5l7g2,2024-04-16T22:29:49,Haitian Focused Dissertation,"Hello and God bless you all. I am a Haitian American doctoral student working to improve the mental health of Haitian adults living in the US. Please help me by completing and sharing the survey. Thank you! [https://alliant.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_1YsOh4RlTvwrhr0](https://alliant.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_1YsOh4RlTvwrhr0)

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https://preview.redd.it/zzxizft8hvuc1.png?width=1545&format=png&auto=webp&s=d6343dbe6499108047d6a07902e2893dfb5f2639",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/1c5l7g2/haitian_focused_dissertation/,[]
ghhnh9,2020-05-11T11:06:32,Mental health question,"So all my life I’ve felt depressed some days handled things differently and worse than everyone, had self destructive behavior since I can remember, constantly have mood swings, and am always having trouble showing my emotions. So a few months ago I was on YouTube and it was about a reddit post that was talking about the op having bpd (borderline personality disorder) and so I poked and prodded around the internet for anything I could find about bpd, as I was able to find very clear similarities between my problems and theirs. And so when I determined that there’s a high chance I may have bpd I asked my mom about it and she just shut the whole idea down. The reason this has been brought back up with me is there’s been a slow change in my life but it just got a whole lot worse in every area and I was thinking to myself, “what could it be?” And so now this idea is stuck in my head and I’m wondering what I should do. Should I ask my school counselor about it through email and attempt to set up a session of some kind? Should I listen to my mother about this whole ordeal and chalk it up as me being a teen? I’m just worried about myself because I’ve felt like this my entire life and I wanna find out what’s wrong.",MentalHealthPros,6,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ghhnh9/mental_health_question/,"[{'comment_id': 'fq9uo50', 'author': 'apologetic_poster', 'body': ""Heya. I'm a therapist who works with teens—I am assuming that's your age range because you mention a school therapist. \n\nPersonality disorders are not formally diagnosed until someone is 18+. The reason for this is to make sure these are true personality traits that are stable over time, and not just due to adolescence. Some developmentally normal behaviors during adolescence can look like bpd, such as mood swings. In my opinion, the symptoms you listed are not necessarily indicative of clear borderline traits. If I were the one doing a diagnostic interview with you, I would also want to rule out several other things, such as trauma, depression/anxiety, codependency, bipolar, and so on.\n\nI mention this not to invalidate your feelings that something feels off with your mental health. It does sound like your symptoms are causing some suffering in your life, and I applaud you for wanting to look into this and take care of yourself. I'd absolutely recommend seeing your school counselor to talk about your concerns. Not necessarily to collect a diagnosis, but to get some support in coping with these struggles you're having. Your school counselor is a trained mental health expert and will be able to guide you in next steps you can take. \n\nIf you do have some borderline personality traits, look into Dialectal Behavior Therapy (DBT) as it is considered the golden standard of treatment for bpd. Good luck, OP!"", 'score': 6, 'timestamp': '2020-05-11T19:59:58', 'parent_id': 't3_ghhnh9'}, {'comment_id': 'lk7zvm1', 'author': 'JujuLoveCats', 'body': 'Hello! I’m so sorry you are going through this, I went through something similar. The best advice I would give you is try to find resources that are free that could help you. I use this app called Quabble and it sounds silly but it truly helps!. There is this cute duck you get to take care of by taking care of yourself, there is also mind exercises like the proud dandelion where you put something you did today that your are proud of and it’s all free. I think it’s amazing with this app can do because I’ve always talked to therapist and none helped it just felt out of place. Hope this information helps!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-08-28T00:44:25', 'parent_id': 't3_ghhnh9'}]"
fpjmb8,2020-03-27T02:33:24,Advice needed,"My parents are divorced. My dad was (maybe still is) an alcoholic. My mom was stalked. Her situation rubbed off on me. She was friends with a guy, he started stalking her. She let him back in the house, believe it or not. She talked to him and went places with him behind my back. He started stalking her again. Now he has been fined and has an extended PPO on him. I've had dreams about him, I don't remember if they were violent or not. When he came back in the house to hang out I wanted to smash his head into the table, but I played it off like I forgot about his stalking. My dad has anxiety, depression, and anger issues. I have bad anxiety at times, mild depression, and definitely anger/annoyance issues. I also have bad misophonia. I only get really irritated around my mom, specifically due to her letting the stalker back in and because she eats loudly and coughs a lot, which triggers my misophonia. I saw and heard pretty rough things during my parents full marital decline. I witnessed my dad down a bottle of anxiety meds. I need advice so I don't make any stupid mistakes, and I also want to help others who have had similar experiences.",MentalHealthPros,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/fpjmb8/advice_needed/,[]
fognfr,2020-03-25T05:56:50,Survey for Mental health professionals,"Hi, I am a student and am currently taking ENC1102. In this class, all students were put into groups for a project. My group’s project regards mental health professionals and how their relationships with their patients affects their own mental health. The link below contains a survey that we need to conduct for our project. It is completely anonymous and will really go a long way to helping us with our research. Please only take the survey if you currently, or previously, have worked in the mental health field. (Ex: Therapists, psychiatrist, worked in a mental health hospital, nurse with experience with mental health patients, etc.) Thank you for your time.

https://forms.office.com/Pages/ResponsePage.aspx?id=FFGz-HlgdkKsIq6A0d-6mCRXYsL9PPNBu66K76PylwFUMTRRWUxNS0tWWlFUTFRGMFM0R0pYVlkzVi4u",MentalHealthPros,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/fognfr/survey_for_mental_health_professionals/,"[{'comment_id': 'flgnsaj', 'author': 'super-sonic-hiccups', 'body': 'Not a mental health professional. \n\nAre you allowed to and willing to share the data you receive? (While keeping identifying info anonymous of course) Or at least share your findings? I am very interested in this', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-25T20:02:11', 'parent_id': 't3_fognfr'}, {'comment_id': 'flt2kn0', 'author': 'baskinrobins2', 'body': ""I will have to check with the group I am working with to see if I can share our findings but I don't see why we shouldn't be able to share our findings, while of course keeping any identifying info anonymous."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2020-03-29T10:19:15', 'parent_id': 't1_flgnsaj'}, {'comment_id': 'flt2q4q', 'author': 'super-sonic-hiccups', 'body': 'Thank you!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-29T10:21:23', 'parent_id': 't1_flt2kn0'}]"
ff69nq,2020-03-08T08:21:44,Help me please,"I have adhd autism anxiety and body dysphoria  I'm on vyvvance  and zoloft but I've been having other symptoms  idk if they are side affects or what but I've been having insomnia, fatigue, mood swings, irritable, empty feeling, dizziness, headaches, fastening pulse, twitches, urges to rule my eyes and move basically any other body part, shakiness, cold sweats without fever, constantly thirsty,  the urge to bite, cut, and scratch myself,  acne, fidgety, red dots on feet are not itchy and don't hurt, eczema, asthma attacks come on faster, spacing out for minutes at a time,  

If this has any relevance I recently  stopped  cutting and started seeing a therapist I also have what I think is a melanoma  on my back.  I also have no sense of no you shouldn't/ shouldn't have done/do that also the emptiness is on and off one day I will be empty the next day  I could be fine or I could  be empty  again pls pm me if u have any idea  of what's going on I also recently  developed  a stutter
I am a masochist and a sadist, I feel like most of my friends are gonna abandon me and I have been told that I am toxic by a bff of three years, I have been emotionally and sexually abused by online ""friends"" I have never knew my grandfather  and I have been emotionally abused by irl friends, whenever I ruin a relationship  I feel nothing not empty just nothing. My crush is going through things rn and I can't  stand to see her in pain. But she is going to abandon me like everyone else and I just know it. I have also been hearing whispers I think my friends are talking shit behind  my back, I'm mentally and physically  falling apart",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ff69nq/help_me_please/,"[{'comment_id': 'fjwmvsw', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'It sounds like you are going through a lot more than a few words on the internet can help with. I\'m glad to hear that you have a therapist, but if your self harm returns I would encourage you visit an emergency room. \n\nOtherwise there are online therapies such as Talkspace and Betterhelp. If you need something more immediate then I would try the Crisis Text Line by texting ""Home"" to  741741. There you can converse with someone trained and with confidentiality. \n\nGood luck and hang in there!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-08T09:51:53', 'parent_id': 't3_ff69nq'}]"
f4dtgl,2020-02-16T00:25:44,Therapists with Personal Trauma - Research,"Hello, r/MentalHealthPros, I am recruiting mental health professionals (i.e., those who do therapy with clients, and not currently still students) who have personal trauma, and also currently work with traumatized clients for my dissertation. Please see below for more information and a link to the brief, anonymous survey.

Hello, my name is Leslie Stapley Taylor. I am a PhD student at the University of Missouri – Kansas City. My faculty advisor is Dr. Nancy Murdock. **I am seeking mental health professionals with license-eligible degrees who have experienced their own personal trauma at some point in their lifetime, and who are currently treating at least one client with a presenting concern of trauma.** You do not have to be in this study if you do not want to. This study is completely voluntary. If you choose to be in this study, you will complete a survey that will take approximately 15 minutes. This study is anonymous which means that you will not be identified by your answers on the survey. If you would like to take part in this study please click on the link below and complete the survey. **As a thank you for participation, I have acquired funding to commit a $1.00 donation to a trauma-focused charity for each participant who completes my survey.** Participants will have the opportunity to choose which charity they would like the donation to go towards! I hope to recruit at least 300 participants, which will result in $300 donated across four reputable trauma-focused charities.

If you have any questions about this study please contact me at 678-559-9768 or Dr. Murdock at 816-235-2495. If you have any questions about your rights as a research participant please contact the UMKC Institutional Review Board at 816-235-5927.

Survey link: [https://umkc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV\_dcJcgMc2hyjoPU9](https://umkc.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_dcJcgMc2hyjoPU9)",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/f4dtgl/therapists_with_personal_trauma_research/,[]
eyot64,2020-02-04T17:09:49,Can I still be a psychologist?," So, I know that I really want to work with kids and teens and help them.  I've had a bad childhood and I had a few teachers who really helped me  and set me on that path. However, teachers earn very little where I  live, and studying to be one takes little time, so I can always change  paths when I'm older. I thought of being a social worker, but they earn  even less in my country, and I come from a low middle class family, so I  really don't have any financial support and I'm terrified of ending up  in debt like my parents. So I thought being a psychologist would be  great. But the thing is, I want to help kids and teens with problems  like mine - depression, anxiety, eating disorders, trauma... But I'm  afraid it will cause me harm and trigger me. I don't know what to do.  Help?",MentalHealthPros,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/eyot64/can_i_still_be_a_psychologist/,"[{'comment_id': 'flj635e', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Many mental health professionals come from difficult pasts. Some argue this helps them be more empathic. However, it should be a goal to work through your known struggles because inevitably you will be faced with triggers you dont even know are there. So if psychology is something you want to dedicate yourself to start with yourself and experience it first hand. In my school program attending a personal counseling was required.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-26T10:51:21', 'parent_id': 't3_eyot64'}, {'comment_id': 'flokpkh', 'author': 'sensualsanta', 'body': ""Honestly part of why I'm studying to become a therapist is due to my own anxiety, depression and difficult past. I think  experiencing these things and feeling them may actually be an asset, as we are more able to understand and empathize with our clients. Things can definitely be triggering, so having self-care and your own mental health support is essential!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2020-03-28T01:46:12', 'parent_id': 't3_eyot64'}, {'comment_id': 'izj9lrb', 'author': 'interpretation99', 'body': 'professionals come from difficult pasts.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-12-09T20:24:56', 'parent_id': 't3_eyot64'}]"
ee6742,2019-12-22T21:10:03,How can I help my mother who is managing a decades-long depression?,"My mother married young and her entire identity was defined by her relationship with my father. When they got divorced (because he was cheating on her) 17 years ago, her depression took over her life. She stopped taking care of herself, of her space, of me and my sister. If she wasn't at work, she was either in bed or watching TV. My sister and I grew up on a cycle of fast food, in a house that was never clean, and with a family that just didn't talk to each other or anyone else.

My sister and I both moved on. I got out of the house as soon as I could and learned how to take care of myself through a whole lot of trial and error. My sister just bought her own house with her fiance. We're doing well.

Every time I visit home, though, I find my mom living in filth. If the house was bad when my sister and I were living there, it's uninhabitable now. There's trash everywhere, moldy leftovers in the fridge, I can't even describe the bathroom. I try to do what I can while I'm home. This week I tried cleaning the living room from top to bottom until I found black mold on the window sill.

Beyond that, she's on her way to morbidly obese and her body is deteriorating. She has back problems, her feet swell after walking for only ten minutes, she can't stand up without help.

I've tried to talk to her about it, encourage her to go to therapy, to take care of herself, to value herself enough to want a better life, but she just shuts down and I almost always end up snapping. I get so frustrated so easily and though I recognize that she's dealing with chronic depression that can't be fixed with the power of a positive attitude, I get pissed off and defeated when she makes endless excuses for why she can't cook herself dinner or do the dishes or take herself for a ten minute walk before sitting down to watch TV. My sister says the overly emotional response is a result of the trauma we went through growing up how we did and that staying in this house again (which she refuses to do no matter how much it upsets my mom that she never comes home for more than an afternoon at a time) is triggering for us.

I want to help but I live two states away and it seems like she needs active, sustained support for months, if not years, if she's ever going to get to a better place. I don't know what to do because I can't give that. I can barely come home for a week for Christmas without regressing to my teenage maturity levels. I'm thinking about hiring a cleaning service to at least get the house safe and clean for five minutes, but I know she'll take it as an insult.

What can I do?",MentalHealthPros,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ee6742/how_can_i_help_my_mother_who_is_managing_a/,[]
e4rvu4,2019-12-02T07:36:14,Seeking to interview someone for paper,"If this not okay, please delete.

I am searching for a practitioner who works with veterans and ptsd to interview for a paper in my MSW class. If anyone is interested or could help me out, please let me know. Thank you!",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/e4rvu4/seeking_to_interview_someone_for_paper/,[]
cz6pjv,2019-09-03T21:23:55,Confusion about past,"I’m an 18 (F) year old who has been having a lot of confusion with my past, and have no idea what is going on. I have very few memories, with majority of my life being blank from 12/13 and backwards. If I think *really* hard I can remember some things, and every now and then something will then trigger the memory of another thing I otherwise had completely forgotten, but I know for sure that I’m 100% blank from around 10 and under. For a few years (probably 2-3?) ending at around 12, my dad came into my life and was quite emotionally abusive and manipulative. I remember few things once again, but I know that he’d call me princess, and any time anyone called me the same thing I’d get really angry and tell them to never call me that again. Another thing is he used to hold the back of my neck in public and kind of massage it and it was very painful but I was too scared to say anything. I don’t really remember anyone else doing anything traumatising to me and to my knowledge the only type of abuse he dealt was emotional, yet I’ve found I get incredibly triggered by anything that mentions sexual assault/abuse/anything along those lines, and I really don’t know why. It’s scaring me, and I’d like to know if this is all normal or not? I had a mildly scary incident at a party a few years ago, and also have a debilitating chronic illness which completely stops me from having sex (not that I would, because the thought actually repulses me) and basically all medical people under the sun have asked me multiple times if I’ve experienced any sexual abuse etc, which makes you wonder I guess. I can also remember I was an odd child, waaaay hyper sexual at a very young age and also have been told I was really angry. I’ve been diagnosed with depression, anxiety and borderline personality disorder, if that’s anything to add. Every and any type of help/opinion/possible answer would be so, so appreciated❤️",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/cz6pjv/confusion_about_past/,[]
ct85xo,2019-08-21T04:54:12,Advice for me [26f] to give my much younger sister [16f] about body positivity?,"I need advice for how to carefully approach a subject with a family member. I’m [26f] worried about my little sister [16f] developing an eating disorder, if she hasn’t already. I no longer live at home but my sister obviously does. My mom recently told me that my sister started an unspecified diet about one or two weeks ago and that she burst into tears recently because she ate some cake, called herself a bunch of fat-shaming things, and then said she was going to try to not eat for the next 24h. The thing is, she’s thin. She doesn’t look like one of those too-skinny Instagram models that I’m assuming she’s comparing herself to, but she still has to be like 120 at most (she’s 5’7”ish tall), and she’s fit (our family is naturally kind of muscular, we’re Scottish). My sister has extreme anxiety and already sees a therapist. My mom is hesitant to say anything to my sister for fear of making it worse somehow. She’s not sure if the therapist knows. I’m one of the only people my sister will take advice from. I already tried to tell her as kindly as I could that I think her opinion of what a body should look like is clearly coming from social media and it’s a self-deprecating mentality to have. I tried to explain that being too underweight is just as dangerous as being too overweight and that her goal should just be to be healthy, not to be skinny. Im worried that this is going to quickly turn into an eating disorder and my mom won’t be able to prevent it. What can I say to her to encourage her?",MentalHealthPros,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/ct85xo/advice_for_me_26f_to_give_my_much_younger_sister/,"[{'comment_id': 'exm15qe', 'author': 'purplebuttercupXL', 'body': 'A. Mom needs to talk to her therapist about this now. Collateral contacts are super important to understanding what is going on with our patients. If her therapist is any good, she will help your mother by giving her specific advice in relation to your sisters situation.\n\nB. Advise her to lose social media. Studies prove that social media use in young adults and adolescents correlate with higher rates of mental illness and suicide. I know it\'s easier said than done, you can try to spend more time with her. Go out to eat with her and be naggy about phone useage. The more you can keep her away from it the better off she will be.\n\nC. In some situations it\'s good to be blunt and just say ""hey, I\'m worried about you...yadda yadda"" but her therapist will have better insight on her and what will work best. Cheers to you for caring so much about your sister, keep it up!!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-08-22T02:55:04', 'parent_id': 't3_ct85xo'}, {'comment_id': 'eyupeyg', 'author': 'spndd', 'body': 'Thank you so much, I’ll bring these all up to my mom and hopefully we can bring my sister out of this mentality she’s sunk into', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-09-03T05:25:21', 'parent_id': 't1_exm15qe'}]"
cmnomf,2019-08-06T13:23:40,Family has emotionally abused and neglected me? What should i do? Please help!,"I am a 16 years old girl from Romania and i struggle with depression and social anxiety. I currently live with my mother but we used to live together with my grandmother.

TL;DR at the bottom!

I was born mixed race and with syndactyly. I was bullied for my skin color at school, being called a gypsy, monkey, gorilla etc. I was also bullied for my birth defect.

I've been living in Romania with mom and grandmother ever since i was 4. I never had a childhood. I have been enrolled in countless activities like modelling, dancing, countless choirs and taking piano and percussion lessons. It all started from piano lessons being recommended by a doctor to help improve strength and flexibility in my afected hand (the syndactyly severely affected my bone growth in that hand). It was incredibly overwhelming and tiring but they wouldn't listen because ""they are good for me"" and because i'd be ""better than everyone else"" because ""who in this country does as many activities as you"".

My grandmother was incredibly controlling of me and mom, and verbally abusive to me. Especially between 5th and 8th grade. In 8th grade it was the worst, since we have a very important exam then which decides your future (if you get in a good highschool, if you get in the major you want in etc. It's very hard to change highschools or majors after that). I was under incredible stress. Especially from grandmother and then mom who was stressed by grandmother, as in being called all day by her at work by grandmother to complaij about every little thing i did that she didn't aprove on from clothing to homework (which we either didn't have, was going to do after i finished my current task or already done) and starting to argue with mom as soon as she set foot in the house.

Grandmother was and still is the major stress source in our family. She never let me go to school alone, even if it was 5 minutes away, and then complained of being tired. She called me every name possible: gypsy, retarded, useless, worthless, lazy, stupid, that i and mom would have never done anything good withouth her, that we would have ended up on the streets without her etc. I was never allowed to make decisions and my opinion was ignored. 

In grade 6 and 7 i was cutting myself, i still have all the scars on my left hand. I would have breakdowns with screaming, crying, throwing things because i couldn't take it anymore. She'd scream at me, pull me by the arms sometimes even bang herself in the head with her palms or fists, pulling her own hair out and threathening to throw herself out the window (we lived on the 8th floor). Saying that i was embarrassing them, that the neighbours will hear etc. 

When she was arguing with mom she even caused mom to break down and mom almost threw herself out the window. The neighbours barged in to try and hold her and they called 112 (our version of 911). She was taken into psychiatric hold and i was taken to the er because i was chewing through my lip due to stress and was bleeding a lot. There, grandmother acted like the victim and as if nothing happened.

I had multiple attempts at my life but i always got too scared halfway through: almost letting myself get hit by cars, trying to jump during a breakdown, considering buying sleeping pills etc. 

In 9th grade i and mom moved 7km away but i still had to go to grandmother 1-2 hrs before school because of the distance and our timing. I've had breakdowns then too and now i began having panic attacks. While i was shaking on the floor in the bathroom and crying she'd nudge or kick me with her foot yelling to ""cut it out"". She called emergency multiple times telling me it'll take me away and ""lock me up with the insane people"". The doctors were mostly sympathetic and they all told me to leave me and mom alone but she wouldn't listen cuz ""he's some dumb arab"" or ""she's just a woman what does she know"" etc.

Mom started being controlling too, telling me that ""grandma took care of me for 14 years are you gonna just abandon her like that?"" ""We're family"" ""it's just how she is you must accept her"". I begged for months to be taken to a psichiatrist or psychologist but she kept saying that ""they are only after our money"" and ""i can tell you the same things they say for free"". She ignored me when i said i was sick and needed help, that everything is because of that ""damned phone"".

I was never good enough and she'd (and still does) yell at me for every mistake i did because ""it annoys her"". She refuses or is just simply unable to understand that i have severe issues that ruin my life. I can't get up in the morning for hours sometimes, i'm always so void of energy, even though i want to do so much more, to draw, to work out, to do homework but i simply can't. I waste away in bed or on the phone because the friends i talk to there are the only contact i have (she is at work from 8 am to even 9 pm at times). I have no siblings and i'm too tired and simply can't go hang out no matter how much i want to and i see the time rushing by and i'm acomplishing nothing. 

She denies every wrong she does and blames everything on the phone, even though it saved my life more times and was more supportive than she ever was. My friends helped me stop cutting, they helped me from doing stupif things and they listened to everything i had to say, meanwhile she'd just get angry or was never ""in the mood"".

I can't feel anything. Nothing at all. I can't feel empathy for anyone, even for friends. If a friend were to drop dead in front of me or should some horrible tragedy happen right in front of me i would feel nothing. I'd know what happened is bad but i would feel nothing for anyone now matter how close they are to me. I am unable to cry no matter how much i want or need too. I can only feel happy for 1-2 hours and then nothing. I have anger issues, i get angry for everything that isn't perfect, even if a pen drops on the floor. I constantly feel lonely because i have little to no physical contact with anyone. I have next to no social skills, i am afraid of talking to people, anxious, and longer social interactions tire me greatly. I grew paranoid at one point believing they are watching me through my toys' eyes, or that certain characters i draw can see me through the eyes. I would and still am turning around toys with bead or plastic eyes because i feel very anxious in my own room. I feel watched through mirrors, especially after i heard that there are mirrors that are seethrough on one side.

I waste away in front of my phone because it's the only comfort i have. I have to constantlt listen to music or youtube videos otherwise i get overloaded with thoughts. Whenever it's quiet i just feel like my mind is filled with questions and answers, questions and answers, ""What if i did that?"" ""What if i did this?"" ""What should i do?"" ""What's this?"" ""What's that?"" ""I could go stand and wait for the train to hit me"" ""What if i died?"" ""Nobody cares about me"" ""I'm so worthless, i can't even do x"" etc. I fall asleep after hours of tossing and turning because i can't shut those thoughts off and it's like a horrible white noise that won't shut up.

I started lying to her about minor mistakes i do because i know she always getd mad, but then she gets mad because i lied. I don't know how to react when people are affectionate or compliment me because i'm so unused to it. 

I'm so tired and scared of her getting mad at me that i started pissing in a cup at night or enduring period pains at night so i don't have to leave the room because we have a dog that sleeps with her and starts barking, biting blindly and chasing around its tail when it hears any noise, and my door handle creaks loudly. This wakes her up and starts yelling at me to let her sleep.

I know she is very stressed because of her work (she works almost 12 hours a day), grandma, the romanian system, economy, healthcare etc. 

I don't know what to do. Should i leave? Is my best bet leaving for college in the us? (I have us citizenship and dad is there. He is very happy and able to let me stay with him while i'm in college). I was thinking of involving cps at one point but i don't really want that since the cps is pretty bad here and more oftenly they do worse than good. What should i do?

TL;DR: Grandmother emotionally abuses me. Mom does the same short time after and refuses providing mental care. I am now unable to feel anything, angry all the time, i am unable to carry out basic human interactions, be productive etc. What should i do?",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/cmnomf/family_has_emotionally_abused_and_neglected_me/,"[{'comment_id': 'ewsq592', 'author': 'netfix09870', 'body': 'I’m deeply sorry on my behalf as a human on how you have been treated, I would advise you to seek help online. You can start by searching for free advice on mental health, You can also find hobbies or tasks to keep your mind away from the mental toll and stress.\n\nPlease do remember at your age that we do all grow, This may be a season of pain, sorrow and despair, but once it is over I am sure you will find joy and prosperity!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2019-08-14T03:17:50', 'parent_id': 't3_cmnomf'}]"
bpym5j,2019-05-18T05:28:22,Seeking Job Info from Mental Health First Aid Instructors,"Your job sounds really cool! But it also seems to be a newer job and there is no information on glassdoor or anywhere else about salary, hours, where to apply, etc... 

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I know a little about being certified as an instructor but aside from price and title mums the word. 

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I am located in NYC but any information, even counselors in other countries who can just tell me what the job is like for them, would be amazing.  

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Thank you!",MentalHealthPros,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/bpym5j/seeking_job_info_from_mental_health_first_aid/,"[{'comment_id': 'etd8904', 'author': 'CaliGirlLMFT', 'body': 'I’m sorry no one has commented yet. If the program that you are speaking about is the what I’m familiar with, it was just passed through congress about two weeks ago. However, I believe that they did have a different component educating communities. This last proposal is for business owners in the community to have instructors from the MHFA (if requested), provide information about mental health, symptoms, and what to do in crisis situations with another employee or the public. They are calling it Mental Health First Aid because it is a small amount of information (like a band aid), or just enough to help before professionals can respond, or they are taking to the emergency room. May I ask your interest? What profession are you currently in? I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Temecula, CA. I would be happy to explain how to go about obtaining this licensure, or perhaps another mental health license. You can DM me, and I will get back to with any info I can help you with. Suffice to say, we desperately need more mental health professionals in our country. \nI hope this helped.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-10T01:11:04', 'parent_id': 't3_bpym5j'}, {'comment_id': 'etd8elp', 'author': 'CaliGirlLMFT', 'body': 'My apologies, you are in New York City, but I can still assist you if you have questions about this career path.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-10T01:12:38', 'parent_id': 't3_bpym5j'}, {'comment_id': 'etj969j', 'author': 'tj1226', 'body': ""Thank you for responding! \n\nI was hoping for someone who had the certification and could explain more about what the job is like. \n\nI ended up getting a promotion with the company I'm currently with so I'm no longer consodering that job."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-07-11T23:42:04', 'parent_id': 't1_etd8elp'}]"
azawgn,2019-03-10T07:30:19,Therapy Budget,"My spouse is looking into therapy for childhood trauma. I want to be supportive and I really believe this is a need; but it's also very expensive. I know it isn't concrete and can be very case by case, but how long should we expect the therapy to last? I'm sorry for anything I said that wasn't sensitive, I just am trying to understand. ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/azawgn/therapy_budget/,"[{'comment_id': 'ei7pktb', 'author': 'GreenHermitt', 'body': 'Does your spouse have insurance or paying out of pocket? ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-10T21:51:17', 'parent_id': 't3_azawgn'}, {'comment_id': 'ei7pp95', 'author': 'peeswheniburn', 'body': ""We have insurance, but it is PEIA. Most services require you to meet a $750 copay before insurance is able kick in. We're looking at online services, like BetterHelp.com, and they are about 200 a month. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2019-03-10T21:52:52', 'parent_id': 't1_ei7pktb'}]"
alwvrp,2019-02-01T07:20:00,My Social Anxiety Story,,MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jHpi_H0_UFw,[]
aitjgb,2019-01-23T05:44:10,How to overcome social anxiety,"I don't know if i am allowed to post this, so if i'm not- please forgive me! But i have struggled a lot with social Anxiety in my life, so that's why i did this video. Hopefully it can help someone!

[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCPD42wTF2o&t=14s](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CCPD42wTF2o&t=14s)",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/aitjgb/how_to_overcome_social_anxiety/,[]
92g7k5,2018-07-28T02:16:49,Doc prescribed me Lithium 300mg today,"I have actually detested subs relating to depression, or mental health, since well, its anecdotes, hearsay, or pseudoscience with heavy persuasion. But it seems I might actually find a pro here, so,

\[This post is way longer than I had expected it to be, I apologize for any annoying redundancy; I couldn't come up with a TLDR so thank you for all the time spent reading it\]

I was officially diagnosed with Depression(I haven't been told to what 'degree'). I essentially had a complete breakdown, that my dad had to come over to my college to literally pick up the pieces, so that I can properly function(I was suicidal), after my advisor heard about this, she heavily nudged me to visit the counselling center, where I met my (amazing) therapist( I think she's one of the directors) who saw how visibly broken I was.

That was 8 months ago, I soon went on Wellbutrin 300mg, I was a bit apprehensive, but I think that stemmed from lack of self-compassion among other things(so I gather). Taking it religiously was the best thing I ever did, and needless to say my cognitive function skyrocketed(this was very noticeable since my major is highly demanding ), and I was able to properly live.

a while ago my therapist, and my psychiatrist told me(kinda) to keep an eye out for mood swings. Now, I have noticed them, it used to be all down and depressive, but now the swings are more apparent since some of the crests break through the depression ceiling(I noticed I started to feel nicer). It became apparent that I felt like I cycled through one positive, and one relatively negative state in one day, and the general trend on average used to cycle every week(the average emotion used to vary by the week); I'm not fully sure, and no one's told me anything concrete for sure, but i'm fairly confident that this is the case; I don't know if this is normal, I think I asked, but I didn't receive a proper response from my therapist.

In the past two months, I had started to drink a fifth whiskey, every other weekend, some were consecutive weekends, others were three weeks apart. I guess what was concerning was that I used to finish the fifth(750ml i think) in 24 hours give or take, i think it qualifies as a bender. Honestly, I don't know why, its more of an impulsive thing, since i don't want to drink cause it kinda sabotages my medication/ treatment. and I never had a tendancy to consume alchohol.

So today my psychiatrist told me that he thinks a mood stabilizer would help me, and prescribed 'small' dosage(he said) of Lithium Carbonate 300mg. I am very apprehensive to take this, since I don't want it to jeopardize any cognitive improvement from the wellbutrin. I trust my doc, a lot, he prescribed me the med that essentially saved my life.

But I wonder if I described stuff accurately in our meeting. I strongly feel my description of past emotions are heavily influenced by current ones, but saying that, i realize my emotions are great enough to influence my actions. So I don't know maybe he's right. and also the fact that he's VERY experienced and has A LOT of accolades (I think he's a director of the university counselling center), so he might have seen through all of what I just said.

I just don't think my emotional states swing that much, or affect the stuff i do that I need a mood stabilizer(which leads me to believe i might have some degree of bipolar??) But then again I think i'm incapable of expressing, and even being cognizant of my current/past emotional state.

so essentially this is it, I'm scared of starting lithium because it may jeopardize all of wellbutrin's good stuff, but I'm also scared that I may not be reaping the benefits of Lithium which my doc says will help me, and I fully trust him, and respect him, so much so that at before talking to him, i'm scared of talking to him cause I might embarrass myself; so he knows his stuff, and sees thru all what has been happening with me, so I should blindly trust him, shouldn't I? You know cause he has helped me so much before? but I'm also a bit scared of not doing what he told me (he's a very friendly, nice, and gives off a caring vibe, but it's just that what he gave me helped me a lot, so i owe this i guess)

I wanted to run this by my therapist, in two weeks, I just realized that I actually trust her, cause it wsa one of the first things that ran through my mind.

I think the post is lang enough that any more explaining would be redundant.

Thank you for your time.",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/92g7k5/doc_prescribed_me_lithium_300mg_today/,[]
8afjg5,2018-04-07T09:13:07,Coping mechanisms for compulsivity?,"Compulsive spending, compulsive eating, makung important decisions out of nowhere. How do you cope with extremely compulsive behavior?",MentalHealthPros,0,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/8afjg5/coping_mechanisms_for_compulsivity/,"[{'comment_id': 'dwzyy6f', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'You may want to see a doctor to rule out something like bipolar disorder.  As far as coping skills check out Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-04-08T08:28:55', 'parent_id': 't3_8afjg5'}]"
80jtj7,2018-02-27T10:35:18,How can we improve mental health in America?,"I’ve been somewhat of a mental health advocate since childhood but lately the question that’s been relentlessly presenting itself in my brain is “how can I do more?” So, I wanted to ask you professionals, what are the biggest obstacles (specifically in America) to diagnosing/treating, etc. mental health issues? ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/80jtj7/how_can_we_improve_mental_health_in_america/,[]
7zz0oy,2018-02-25T01:19:46,"Stressed, bitchy, and needing advice","Stressed, bitchy, and in need of help


Hi people of reddit, this is my first post ever! And it's because I'm spiraling and need some serious help. Here is what my situation (buckle in, this is a long one):


Work - Last July, I was fired from my job as a team lead who supported a total of 3 managers and 40 associates for a large insurance company. I made a bad call to help out an associate that was struggling in their personal life. Workplace politics being what it is, an associate who was gunning for the promotion I got found out and reported me. No big, lesson learned. I moved on and fell into a role as a receptionist with a middle market insurance agency. I took this job because I wanted to try something less stressful and see how it felt. I wanted more time to refocus on photography and my fitness. I quickly discovered I HATED a less stressful role. I was done with my work by 10am (working 8-5) and was going crazy. The operations manager and president recognized my potential and I was promoted after 3 months to the health benefits department.


 The role I was promoted for was the marketing role. This is quoting coverages and putting together presentations for our sales agents. Quickly, sales agents agendas came to play and now I find myself fulfilling the roles of three people. I'm an account agent who helps maintain client relations, administration of groups and coverages, claims and billing, etc. I'm in the marketing role and I'm now in charge of our benefits admin system we are selling clients. I love this system! I won't go into many details but it brings benefit admin, enrollment, etc into the 21st century and it's way more efficient. This role charges me with building online portals, training our employees as well as group HR manager and their employees how to use it. 


I'm technically only on two teams but am finding myself being pulled to all of the teams because I am smart, efficient, and a problem solver. I'm finding myself becoming extremely overwhelmed and my wage doesn't reflect to work I'm doing. The wage I'm making now is the one I made as a receptionist, but I don't feel like I'm in a position to negotiate my wage because I'm still so new and learning. That being said, I'm doing the job of three people, picking up slack so others don't fail, get more and more work on my desk every day, and I spent three months working my ass off to get licensed (passed the test in a breeze, no big).


Personal life: around the time I started this job, I had to move back home with my parents. I took a significant pay cut, my roommate was a shit bag, and I just needed to get out. The cost of living here is going up every month and I just can't afford a place of my own. I don't have the best relationship with my dad, my parents have kind of given up on life so I take up all the housework, which i don't mind. My sister is getting married in June and lives in Hawaii. I pay a third of my parents rent and am saving for her wedding, so financially it's really tight. I'm overweight and am working really hard towards my weight loss. I spend 1.5 - 2 hours in the gym every night. I'm also a full time online student. I don't really have friends anymore because I quit drinking and my friends have over and over again taken advantage of me or haven't really been there when I needed them. So lesson learned, I'm picky about who I'm friends with now and at this point it's really no one. 


Relationship: I started casually seeing a guy in July and we got serious pretty quickly. He's my best friend, moved in with me pretty quick and moved with me to my parents. He is pursuing his own business adventures and moved to Phoenix in December to be with his venture partner. This is good because we are both so busy that we are working towards our own personal goals while simultaneously working towards our relationship goals. I was out visiting him a couple weeks ago and Phoenix felt like home, being with him felt like home. Shortly after I got back, he told me that he loves our time together but he doesn't know if he can truly ever allow himself to be in a deep love again because his ex fucked him up. This threw me for a loop because he was the happiest I have seen him in a while when I was there and kept sayijg things like ""this is the most fun ive had since moving here"" and ""youre my escape"". We decided to stay together because we haven't been dating a crazy long time and it seems insane to put the love label anywhere and we are happy together. I'm just doubting my position in my relationship with him, now. If it's not going to develop into deeper love, what's the point right? On the other hand, he is my best friend and truly feels like my partner in life.


What I'm getting at is this:


I can't sleep. I haven't been. I get maybe 4 hours a sleep every couple days and the rest of the time I'm laying awake or doing work at home. I just can't sleep. I've started taking melatonin every night and that's been helping, but I don't want to be dependent on that all the time.


I'm spending longer and longer at the gym because this feeling of anxiety and being overwhelmed keeps keeping up. I spent three hours there last night. I'm working out so much because I'm trying to run out the anxiety and work that tension out of my body. This uses to help, but it's not anymore.


My temper is flaring so much quicker now. I find myself becoming irratble in 2 seconds and my pantience ce for stupid, for lack of effort, so lack of self efficiency has deteriorated into nothing. I'm being asked for help at work more and more and I give it because I don't want to see anyone fail, but my work is falling behind and people assume I'll end up doing their work for them. 


I've been lashing out at the boyfriend because I don't feel emotionally supported. I don't feel like he is emotionally available anymore and my overthinking mind perceives his stress as annoyance at me, which i KNOW is not the case but I keep convincing myself of otherwise. I'm worried he's going to leave me so I'm pushing him away so it makes it easier for me. I didn't want to be into another relationship for this exact feeling but when I met him, I decided to take a chance and find myself in the same boat I didn't want to be in in the first place. 


I'm not dealing with my stress well and all I want to do is go get hammered. But I don't want to drink so I'm resisting, but my tools are no longer working. Suicidal thoughts are creaping in. Not like ""you have to do this now"" but passing thoughts of ""if I ran my car into that tree that would be okay"" or ""I wouldn't mind so much if I just didn't wake up"". I don't have anyone really to talk to because my parents are the suck it up and stop whining types and my boyfriend is dealing with his own stress and his grandma just died, so I don't want to burden him with my shit. 


I'm overwhelmed and that is turning me into a bitchy, negative person. I was so happy and positive before, able to push through depression pretty easily. Now I'm feeling lost, trapped. I want to move to AZ or to UT, but I'm just not in a financial position to get out yet. I'm lashing out at everyone, my boyfriend included, and I do not like who I'm turning into. 


I need some advice. Anything will help 

",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7zz0oy/stressed_bitchy_and_needing_advice/,"[{'comment_id': 'dusm38w', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'It sounds as though you are struggling in various parts of your life with uncertainty and feeling overwhelmed. From your post it also seems as though you may be becoming increasingly isolated from others. So while you are asking for advice, I would rather be ethical and offer you some resources.\n\n1st here is a [link to the Healthy Mind Platter](http://www.mindplatter.com/). This is a resource that focuses on overall well-being. Incorporating each category into your life will help with improving your internal balance and self-care. \n\n2nd I would like to encourage you to reach out to the [crisistextline](https://www.crisistextline.org/) when you are having suicidal thoughts. Their trained crisis counselors are great at listening, empathizing, and problem solving. They can serve as a resource in real-time when you are feeling isolated from others.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-25T12:47:39', 'parent_id': 't3_7zz0oy'}]"
7vd0ce,2018-02-05T12:13:54,I think I'm going mental over a girl,"So about a week or two ago I submitted a text about my whole love issue, and how I thought I was developing depression (if that's the correct term). Well, the days after that I posted have been complete hell for me. I didn't eat anything for about 3 days, felt like not doing anything at all, and cried every time I was alone. I kept thinking about her. Every minute of the day, and even when I was sleeping. I thought it was just a heartbreak situation (but if you've read my last text input, she literally didn't do anything. It was just my anxiety the entire time.) and it sucked really bad. 

On Wednesday (or Thursday) I got a chance to talk to my dad with just me and him. He told me a story about how my mom friend zoned him when they first started dating, and when they started dating two years later she had a guy friend that she would hang with, and that boosted his depression. She didn't do anything with the guy, but my dad was so in love with her and was afraid she would move on. He stopped eating, he was sad all the time, and would take these walks outside around 2am just to try and clear his mind. He finished his talk with me saying that he thinks I still have a chance with this girl, but that I need to somewhat move on and talk to other girls. I totally agree with him, and it's very obvious to other people, but for some reason I would find myself comparing girls to Her. It's going to be very difficult for me to date other people and not compare them to her. Well, after that talk with my dad I thought of solutions other than pot. 

I listened to Joe Rogans podcast on Isolation Tanks. It really amazed me and became a ""need"" in my life. I ended up selling one of my guitars to pay for it hoping it would give me some sort of guidance with this. I haven't done it yet, but I'm planning on doing it next week. 

If you're still reading this, thanks! I've never experienced depression this hard, and to be honest it's kicking my ass. It's just this heavy weight on my shoulders that I don't know how to get rid of. It wasn't so bad on Friday and Saturday, but last night was weird. I went out with some friends to go get food and then do laser tag. I didn't feel up to it, but did it anyways. I ate some edibles before to help the anxious feeling that kept popping up. It was a fun night and I didn't think of her that much, which was a good thing for me. But like everyday I talk about, it took a weird turn. 

I was scrolling through my Snap Chat stories while waiting for a friend to show up and came across a picture she posted on her story. It was just her and her friend doing a selfie thing, which is just normal story-type things. But it triggered something in my head where I thought she wasn't interested in me and yet again, I ended up thinking of her the entire night. When I got home my family was still up and I knew I had to hurry to my bed before I broke down in front of them. I got up to my room and went straight to my bed. I tried so hard to fall asleep, but her face and my fucked up thoughts kept me up for about an hour. I woke up pretty early in the morning and when I tried to go back asleep, but out of nowhere started balling thinking about suicide. It was just a scary thought, but I knew I wasn't going through with it. I fell back asleep about an hour after.
The issue is that I'm definitely in love, but I know I have to move on. It's so hard to think about move on. But I keep thinking about every detail of her that is beautiful, but following that thought with me not being with her. I know this is unhealthy. It's freaking me out. I just need some type of help. I want therapy, but I don't have a job. I don't want to ask my parents because it will worry them and they'll want to talk about it. The reason I turned to reddit is because I can say all these things (even though I have terrible structure to my texts, and that probably makes it hard to read) and I don't have to face anyone while saying these things. If you guys/ girls finished this story, it would really help me if you gave some advice. Even if it's ""you're a fucking weirdo, go get help"", it's still advice. I'm not doing this to be reddit famous or whatever, I just really need help guys. 

Thanks for spending your time reading this.",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7vd0ce/i_think_im_going_mental_over_a_girl/,"[{'comment_id': 'dtstsbh', 'author': 'askyou1892', 'body': 'you are not alone.  please don’t feel crazy.  you have a working heart, and that’s so special for anyone to have this day in age.  a challenge, yes- but to love deeply is a gift.  i’m in the same boat, nursing a broken heart resulting from unrequited love.  we will get through this.  if it helps you to get an understanding of why, check out adult attachment theories to reinforce that what’s happening to you isn’t your fault.  be strong.  ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-02-06T06:56:10', 'parent_id': 't3_7vd0ce'}, {'comment_id': 'dtwqohi', 'author': 'InternationalProcess', 'body': 'Thank you! I really appreciate the advice!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-08T07:11:59', 'parent_id': 't1_dtstsbh'}]"
7tr5jn,2018-01-29T14:49:52,The closer I got to my family the more I realized they are all going to die eventually.,"I went to visit some family the last week, some of who I haven't seen in over 6 years, when I got there I was really happy and exited to see them and hang out with the them, a bit of anxiety over the inevitable questioning about my daily life and relationships, of the lack of them.
As I was traveling back to my home, I felt this weird feeling of desolation and a bit of panic, and fear, a heavy heart and sadness.
The realization that we all eventually are going to die, that in fact I do love my family, even if I don't see them often.
This feeling is very strange since I've never felt this way before, I have this uneasiness that I can't shake for some reason, as if something is going to happen to them, even knowing that in the many years that I haven't seen them nothing has happen.
Is there an underlining base for this? Is it guilt? I can't really figure this out by myself, any comment or explanation based on the why this is happening to me would be greatly appreciated.     ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7tr5jn/the_closer_i_got_to_my_family_the_more_i_realized/,"[{'comment_id': 'dtrdngz', 'author': 'InternationalProcess', 'body': ""I suffer from thoughts such as yours. I've had that thought many times, mostly when I'm going to sleep because it's just me and my mind. Death terrifies me. And since I'm not religious anymore, I have the thought that once we die, were gone forever. I think the issue is not being able to accept death. I recently started meditation, which has totally helped so far (check out the app headspace, it's free and helps with daily meditation) and I'm going to try out the Isolation Tank thing to help sort out my thoughts. Maybe some sort of meditation will help with you. Hope you find your solution!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-05T12:28:52', 'parent_id': 't3_7tr5jn'}, {'comment_id': 'du2z1bu', 'author': 'NosFeratu_Heliophob', 'body': ""Hey, thanks for the reply, I'm pretty OK with death I think, is just that  at that moment it kind of looked so damn real all of the sudden.\nI'm not religious in the slightness, but I do think death is just part of life and part of a bigger circle, but the thought of my family going first is like being left behind at a terminal in the airport while holding my own ticket.\nAlso, I've done meditation all my life, and it does help me focus in identifying the source of those fears and thoughts.\nI'm a big fan of JRE so the tank is a no-brainer I guess, kind of nervous to try it for the first time, but I just saw a deal on groupon that I think I'm going to try. Good Luck with your thoughts and feelings, thanks for the response it really just made my morning. "", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2018-02-11T20:50:41', 'parent_id': 't1_dtrdngz'}]"
7lfajx,2017-12-22T10:37:40,Masters in Clinical Mental Health Programs,"Hi all! So I've spent the last week glued to the CACREP site trying to narrow down my list. I'd love some feedback on my choices. Thoughts on the program? Are some worth the tuition? Internships etc. So I picked NYU, CU Denver, Cal State Fullerton, U of Tennessee, U of Central Florida, Northern AZ U, Indiana, Old Dominion and LSU. I realize I'm all over the country - I don't have a preference on geographical area. I want a great program. Any feedback would be awesome!",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7lfajx/masters_in_clinical_mental_health_programs/,"[{'comment_id': 'dtstabc', 'author': 'thevirginiatheater', 'body': 'Where are you from? The Western Graduate Exchange has reduced tuition to some programs, including NAU, if you’re from specific states.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2018-02-06T06:47:08', 'parent_id': 't3_7lfajx'}]"
7ihyvu,2017-12-09T02:32:50,My cat is dying but I don't feel anything...,"My cat has been sick with what our vet thought was Inflamed Bowel Disease for about a year, but a little over a month ago my parents called me and told that me that a different vet has diagnosed her with liver cancer and she doesn't have much longer. I cried for two days and spent the next few weeks obsessively searching for anyway to help her live a little longer. I had been really nervous about leaving her to go to college and knowing that she got so much worse after I left made me blame myself and I couldn't imagine a world without my cat.

I ended up going home for thanksgiving and was able to see my cat then. She was nearly half the weight she was when I had seen her last and it broke my heart to have to leave her again.

Its now a few weeks later and my dad called me to tell me that she had a very bad night and the vet has recommended we either put her down or give her pain medication so she can go peacefully at home. Given the fact that I had broken down just a month earlier about just the idea of her leaving us soon, you'd think I'd break down again knowing its actually happening now... and yet I don't feel anything. Its as if I don't even remember her at all! I feel numb and confused, almost as if its someone else's cat that is dying. But even then I don't even feel the remorse I would have from empathizing with someone that lost their cat... Why is this happening??? Is this normal???

tl;dr: A month ago when I found out my cat was near dying I broke down and cried for two days, but now that its actually happening I don't feel anything. WHY?",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7ihyvu/my_cat_is_dying_but_i_dont_feel_anything/,[]
7ibzyr,2017-12-08T08:54:53,A Former Business Partner Revealed a Blind Spot I Never Knew I Had. Seeking Constructive Feedback on Improving.,"I suffer from anxiety and bipolar disorder, but have no intention of letting those become excuses not to perform at my best or achieve my goals in life.

On a business I’m working on, I formerly worked with someone who I pushed away and who quit because of me. Tonight, I had dinner with my former business partner to ask what I did to push him away. The crux of what he told me boils down to the following:

1. I was unable to understand the crucial points of the tech we’re building, and didn’t get my numbers straight on the scope of the market opportunity

*More relevant to this thread:*
2. I didn’t read social cues well enough to know when a conversation wasn’t going to get to a solution, and that I made him feel a conversation had to end with of us both being satisfied in the end, which isn’t always realistic.

I was really grateful for this information, since I’ve never gotten feedback about my behavior in a way I could rationally digest and take action on. My whole life, people’s reactions have been to either:

•Yell at me and later ask why I’m “not getting it” (parents)
•Ignore/never talk to me again without telling me why (peers)
•Criticize/exclude without offering input beforehand (classmates/past business partners)

After leaving the bar, the first thought I had was to call/text my current cofounder and tell him about our conversation, apologize (we recently had a difficult conversation about him staying with the business), and ask his thoughts. But, I think that’s too much at once, and will just end up pushing him away again.

Tonight, I was shown the grey area between full resolution and separation as being short, sweet, and pointed discussion aimed at getting both people to do 1 thing, reviewing progress, and then repeating that process to simultaneously build the relationship and the business.

What I think I should do now is text my cofounder with just a few words, offer happy hour on me, and when we meet, 

a) Either 
1. Apologize for the things I didn’t do, or
2. Share what you and I talked about and ask how much of it mirrors his experience with me

b) Tell him I’m actively working on improving, and ask his input on where he wants to go from here

c) Discuss and agree on doing 1 next thing, do that, and then chat after the holidays to keep it going.

I think asking you “if it were you, is that what would sit well with you” is the wrong question, so instead I’ll just ask if that sounds like something that makes good social sense in a way that could improve the relationship with the average person in a business relationship?

With professional matters I’ve felt all relevant people have to come to the table 100% well-adjusted and qualified enough to arrive at the desired result. But I may be wrong. What are people’s thoughts on these points? I would love to hear any constructive feedback people here have.",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/7ibzyr/a_former_business_partner_revealed_a_blind_spot_i/,[]
6x9nnr,2017-09-01T02:15:09,International Bipolar Foundation - A Place for Resources,"Hello reddit! We're new here and wanted to reach out to as many advocacy and help forums as we can to connect with the mental health community. We were founded in 2007 by the parents of children diagnosed with bipolar disorder and we seek to help those in need connect to important information around the world! Our goal is to educate the public and facilitate conversations about mental health, stigma busting, and medical information. We have connected with many people in foreign countries by sending them our free book, Healthy Living With Bipolar Disorder. If you, or anyone you know, are interested in the book please check out our website at ibpf.org . We truly value the input of the public and want to hear from people around the world about their experiences, either personally or in a caregiver role, with bipolar disorder.",MentalHealthPros,4,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6x9nnr/international_bipolar_foundation_a_place_for/,[]
6wpe36,2017-08-29T11:42:16,can mental help help me with post acute withdrawals without misdiagnosing me and giving me even more drug-related problems in life?,"I'm in bad shape now. some of it is probably mental illness, and that some of it is probably a lot worse than id ever like to admit. I used to be pretty intelligent, idk anymore, I was super capable of functioning at super high levels, beyond most average people, and covering it up.

ive had lots of bad drug abuse problems for years, and I stand by self medication with pot, but I'm not sure anymore. I don't mind recreational, but things have gotten so bad I rely on having it when I cant and it becomes a problem.

its not normal for me. I'm having way way worse symptoms, because I'm actually clean off opiates now. I IVd for a long time, switched to suboxone in rehab which I always also IVd.

then I said no more. I switched to kratom, but relied on it for a long long time. a year and half. and then I promised I would get clean before school and not rely on drugs any more.

and taper off and quit I did. even pot doesn't really help anymore. and I know even though I feel better physically mentally I'm still in for a row because of post acute withdrawl. my opiate receptors have dug in paths from years of wear. I know its not over.

I'm destroying my life, saying hateful crazy insane dangerous things I don't mean, contemplating suicide, and I feel 100000x worse than ever. I don't even know where the symptoms of one problem end and the other begin.

am I actually losing my mind? is this it? is it just post acute withdrawal syndrome?

probably all of the above on some level. ive never been willing to give mental help a chance in hell. ive gone to hospitals and outpatients and check myself out. Inpatient is a fucking conspiracy to shut people up and that's the gods honest truth. almost nothing they do there is humane and the doctors don't listen to you when you tell them its insane to take last ditch seizure meds as a 'mood stabilizer' off label and that you want to talk to him to find out what your problems are rather than just be shoved off on an RN at the door.

even most outpatients just have me talk at them and throw ssris in my face like candy (if I'm lucky). when I was a kid they insisted I had adhd and drugged me on speed and I had to brutally fight my parents in order to force them to take me off.

I rose to the top 10% of students in my state, and also the top 10% (I said 90, but meant 90th percentile) of all kids who took the asvab in the country in that year. military still wants me, too bad bout my record and disbelief in fighting wars for this government.

all my professors always told me I was brilliant but had a problem. I like to compare myself to all the drug addled innovators and authors, artists and poets and philosophers of history. or at least I used to.

but there is something wrong and its holding me back. I don't know if I am going to make it through this and actually stay clean.

but if someone actually can help me. help the anxiety and the pain I'm suffering stop. even if its only until I get into a better place and can quit the drugs later, I might accept that.

I might be willing to try. but I am not willing to lose my freedom of choice in the matter.

maybe its a tough thing to say, and illegal to accept, but I want to choose my own destiny. id rather be my crazy self and try my ice cubes chance in hell way of struggling through it myself than to be a zombie or get labeled for life if I'm honest.

If I cant have true happiness out of life. if I cant actually be satisfied with myself as I am, I want the right to leave when I cant handle it anymore and to make the ultimate escape from life.

I cant handle being locked away ever again, especially not now. it will get way worse if that happens. at this point I would become violent and suicidal beyond any hope if that happened.

I worked so hard to get another chance at life. id rather die continuing to try than just give that up now.
",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6wpe36/can_mental_help_help_me_with_post_acute/,[]
6v6rmf,2017-08-22T04:21:54,It Gets Better?,"Hey guys,

I’m basically just reaching out into the void for some reassurance here. I recently graduated with my BS in psychology, hoping to become a therapist one day. My plan was to take a year off before I go to grad school, so that I can dip my toes into the water and get a sense of the field before I get my next degree. Since then I have held two jobs - one as a tech at a psychiatric hospital on the child and adolescent unit, and another as a “teacher” of sorts in an alternative learning middle school where I lead groups. Both of these have been very challenging for me, and have basically taught me that I don’t want to work with children with behavioral issues lol. I just want to know, does it get better? I want to work with people who are depressed, struggling with their sexuality, maybe couples therapy - something where the clients I work with are reasonable, and I feel like I can connect with them without having to endure the disrespect that these kids can dish out. Will I be able to find a job working in mental health where I’m happy? Because in my experience, mental health is actually behavioral health, and my job is to treat behaviors, not the precipitating issue. I just want to know if I should continue in this field or not.",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6v6rmf/it_gets_better/,"[{'comment_id': 'dn8t6ai', 'author': 'fee1786', 'body': ""Only you will know if it's truly the field for you. The beauty of going into the field of psychology is that you can specialize in certain areas, like the ones you mentioned being interested in. You are more pigeon holed in job selection with a bachelors in psychology, causing you to have to take direct care jobs, and teaching at alternative schools. \n\nWhen I was perusing my Ph.D., I had to take those types of jobs as well. Once you get a masters, many more doors will open for you. You will be able to get licensed and treat clients with depression, anxiety etc through individual and group therapy, while receiving supervision from a licensed clinical psychologist. \n\nI just graduated and so many doors have opened up for me. I'm pleasantly surprised, but believe me I paid my dues and worked very difficult jobs, making little wages. Now I am able to choose what setting I work in, what hours and what population. Good luck. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-09-20T07:59:52', 'parent_id': 't3_6v6rmf'}]"
6tpmbk,2017-08-15T03:01:06,Possible Bipolar II disorder,"Hello, 
This may be long but I really need help.

So I'm a 20 year old female in America. I think I might have bipolar II depression. I have gone through a lot in the past few years and at first I thought it was just situational depression, however my symptoms didn't quite fit the definition of clinical depression. In order for it to be considered clinical depression I'd have to experience the symptoms for 2 or more weeks.

However, I experience the symptoms for about a week and a half. I experience irritability, hopelessness, thoughts of death though not necessarily suicide, constantly on the verge of crying, feeling detached from myself as though my body is just going though the actions out of habit while I was emotionally detached from everything, feeling numb, anxiety.

Then for a day to a few days I feel elated, I suddenly go from needing 12 hours of sleep to only being able to sleep for 2-4 hours. But because I'm not getting enough sleep I feel irritable, but extremely energetic and wired. I feel like this is hypomania because I never lose touch with reality but it's so different from the depression. 

Last school year I was going through these cycles really quickly towards the end and I was having mental breakdowns every week. I do not want to go back to that. It was really scary and it made me feel like I needed to be locked away because I'm crazy.

I went to a mental health professional that my mom said would be free because it's through her work. This person told me they can't diagnose me because they only diagnose employees. She also was very condescending and told me I'm probably just not acting happy enough.

I was fine throughout the summer and was in abnormal mood. However I feel myself being irritable for no reason for many days again and I'm worried I'm slipping into again.

I should mention we also think my dad has it but he refuses to go get help so there's no way for us to know for sure. 

What should I do?",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6tpmbk/possible_bipolar_ii_disorder/,"[{'comment_id': 'dlmiqea', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'While Bipolar disorder is a possible diagnosis, but I would recommend tracking your mood and sleep cycles. Then seek out a professional counselor (a different one, that is for you) or a psychiatrist.', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2017-08-15T03:21:39', 'parent_id': 't3_6tpmbk'}]"
6qpccy,2017-07-31T21:29:30,"My mental health story, any help would be appreciated.","I have been struggling with mental health for countless years, this is me wanting to reach out to others and show them that they are not alone. I may not be an expert in mental health, but do not be scared to reach out and have a talk with me I will always be here to talk. I have created a blog for others to read about my struggle, and would love others stories and issues. I would love to build a community where everyone feels open to talk. Check it out and leave your thoughts https://freethought33.wordpress.com/.",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6qpccy/my_mental_health_story_any_help_would_be/,[]
6m4e9d,2017-07-09T05:35:22,Thinking of becoming an RBT,"I am a college student who plans on majoring in psychology. I live in Texas and recently found out that I could become a mental health technician at a local hospital and I want to go into this line of work. Along the way of doing my research on this I discovered what a licensed RBT is.
I've also been considering possibly going through with this as a career to carry me through college. 

I guess what I'm asking for here is advice about what I should expect as an RBT. And I also need advice that would be helpful for me to start as a tech at my local hospital.
",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6m4e9d/thinking_of_becoming_an_rbt/,[]
6jwhr7,2017-06-28T04:30:37,How can I dodge an unjust involuntary court commitment to Mental Health,"I'm not directly asking for advice:  When I first spoke to a mental health physician I told him about an acid invoked experience and told him I had never done street drugs. He diagnosed me as a paranoid schizophrenic. Today, when I try to explain to the doctors they either don't understand why I want off the medication or refuse to see the truth entirely. I'm going to have to bring a lawyer into the whole mess. ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6jwhr7/how_can_i_dodge_an_unjust_involuntary_court/,[]
6jmce1,2017-06-26T22:25:09,Helping a BPD(+schizoaffective) client get over a broken heart,Hi! Title says it all - I'm struggling with a client who had a broken heart and can't move on. Any advice?,MentalHealthPros,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6jmce1/helping_a_bpdschizoaffective_client_get_over_a/,"[{'comment_id': 'djg1g68', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'If it\'s pervasive focus on the loss, then I would explore Grief & Loss materials. If the individual more distressed by an increase in mental health symptoms, I would focus on self-care. While both are likely impacting each other, having a starting point is important for instilling hope. Work on the ""easier"" stuff first and then focus on the ""overwhelming"" things at a later time.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-27T07:15:12', 'parent_id': 't3_6jmce1'}, {'comment_id': 'djg1tbl', 'author': 'cgb33', 'body': 'Great! Thanks. That was what I thought my approach should be to start. Grief and loss is a great idea. Thank you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-27T07:22:47', 'parent_id': 't1_djg1g68'}]"
6ismc1,2017-06-22T15:55:55,I've been type 1 diabetic for 6 years and the worst of it haunts me every day,"When I was 10, I was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes.. When I was diagnosed I had to stay in the hospital for 3 days which seemed like forever. The first insulin shot I ever took was probably one of the most horrifying experiences of my life. I was still petrified of needles at the time, so I fought desperately to keep the diabetes-free life I've always seemed to have but to no avail. Then I spent the next 3 days in the hospital having to be around babies dying of cancer, other diabetics which were mostly younger than me, and disabled people that couldn't have been any older than 9. It was a horrible sight because no one deserves such a thing, let alone at that young of an age. Fast forward to after we get out of the hospital: my mom and I have become very different people because the tragic day of my diagnosis molded us and forced us to think differently. I began thinking about other people more than myself and losing my self esteem to the idea that I must have done something horrible to have something like this happen to me. The day I went to school after this was exhausting.. I had to tell everyone what happened no matter how uncomfortable or insecure I was with it. We were only in 5th grade so some people didn't know what the disease is. Those that did mostly cried in front of me that day, and so did I. Then throughout the year, I started to get used to everything but I would deny the fact that it hurt me so much mentally because I was a 10 year old boy that thought emotions/pain/sensitivity = weakness. Fast forward one year later. I've gotten into 6th grade, my first full year of being diabetic in school, and also my very first year of middle school. It wasn't that bad at all at first though. I became the class clown to hide the fact that I was actually suffering from depression knowing I'll never be cured of the disease that now runs through my blood. Very few people knew how I felt underneath all of the humor I would use to make the class crack up at me instead of pity me, however everyone knew that I am diabetic. Some people who were in their douche bag phase made fun of my diabetes, but that wasn't a very good idea on their part. I was still taking 4 needles every day, and one day at lunch someone handed me a piece of celery and told me it'll cure my diabetes so since the lunch aids were not looking, I grabbed him by the throat and scaled him up the wall. Then, I said to ""Dont you make fun of my disease or you'll see what I can do."" Before putting him down. During this, my mom seemed emotionally unavailable and since I'm a part of a Christian family, my mom would always tell me to stop being ungrateful before God takes away everything I Have. This was obviously very unsupportive of my situation and only drove me deeper into depression. The only people I could really talk to about my problem were my father and a handful of my friends. I also used to go to therapy for professionally diagnosed depression. Then when I was 11, I was out to thanksgiving dinner with my family and my cousin with her boyfriend, now husband. My cousin's boyfriend is diabetic as well and he's been on shots a lot longer than I have. I went to ask him how he manages to be such a Happy person despite having to take needles every day like I did. He took this as a joke, and proceeded to mock my condition. That night I decided enough was enough and attempted suicide which was obviously unsuccessful. Fast forward to when I was 12. We learned about an alternative to shots which was an insulin pump so we started taking classes at the hospital for it. 5 months later, we finally got it. I felt like I was never diabetic in the first place. I'd have to say the summer that year was the absolute best I've ever had in my life to date. However, it wasn't until August that I realized exactly how much being on shots for 2 years damaged me. I felt as if something had blown a hole in me. Eventually it came time to test blood a couple of years later and I was struck with flashbacks of what used to be. I would remember the times I was on shots and start screaming phrases like ""she wasn't there for me"" or ""stop it I'm only 10/11/12 I don't want to be diabetic"". Then I realized that the damage has been done. I still can't be near needles without having a damn panic attack. I try to go to therapy for what could very possibly be PTSD but my parents are divorced now, and they're too busy to take me. To this day, this problem still exists and despite this all being 4-6 years ago, I am still haunted by the days I used to use 4 insulin needles every day just to get by. I am trying to get help in any way I can other than therapy because it's unavailable to me given the fact that  both of my parents are too busy to take me. I'm 16 now, however I don't have a car yet let alone a driver's permit or a license. My outlets are limited to my father, friends, significant other, and seeking help online. I just had to get this off of my chest and I hope someone reads this fully and is willing to give me advice at a bare minimum. I can't even look at childhood pictures or remember things from those times without almost breaking down.. It makes me feel like an empty shell of the cheerful and bright person I once was.

Note:(Any comments saying anything along the lines of at least it isn't cancer or get over it will be deleted.)",MentalHealthPros,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6ismc1/ive_been_type_1_diabetic_for_6_years_and_the/,"[{'comment_id': 'dj8q527', 'author': 'prowlr1', 'body': 'Sending Love!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-22T16:06:00', 'parent_id': 't3_6ismc1'}, {'comment_id': 'dj8q3wa', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-22T16:04:39', 'parent_id': 't3_6ismc1'}, {'comment_id': 'dj8y2oq', 'author': 'justxvan', 'body': ""> Its not your fault its terrible foods that our society says is healthy. Its not. eat only whole foods. if it dosen't grow don't eat it.\n\nUhh, Type 1 has NOTHING to do wirh diet or lifestyle, it is an autoimmune condition.\n\nIt's ignorant comments like yours which contribute to the depression that type 1s suffer from."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-06-22T19:46:16', 'parent_id': 't1_dj8q3wa'}, {'comment_id': 'dja19ib', 'author': 'xEdgeLordx', 'body': ""I understand what youre saying has good intentions, but justxvan is completely right that you have the wrong idea about what I'm dealing with."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-23T07:29:52', 'parent_id': 't1_dj8q3wa'}]"
6f0v70,2017-06-03T17:35:41,Really depressed,"I'm extremely depressed my girlfriend of 2 year packed up and left me last night and took our 7moth old daughter with her the loneliness is killing me I could really use someone to talk to and occupy my time 
",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6f0v70/really_depressed/,"[{'comment_id': 'dkrwllg', 'author': 'throwawaywardson2', 'body': 'Hello, are you all right?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-07-27T07:20:47', 'parent_id': 't3_6f0v70'}]"
6f0ttn,2017-06-03T17:25:41,Suicide in the family,"This is going to be kinda long and personal so please bear with me. My dad is making me feel really bad about not wanting to move back home after my brother shot and killed himself with a hunting rifle 5 months ago. I mean, we go there during the day to eat dinner and lunch there then around bed time we go to my grandpa's where we've been living since. I can't help but feel like I'm in hell when I'm there, my anxiety is high and I'm super jumpy, I can't focus, and all I want is to go back to my grandpa's because my house no longer feels like home to me. He was in his room when it happened and mine is right next door to him, I was almost asleep when I heard a gun shot and my parents rushing to his room. Since his room is next door to mine it was almost inevitable for me not to see the aftermath. Since then I was diagnosed with ptsd, I already had been diagnosed with depression and anxiety before he passed and that got worse. Anyways, I was wondering if it was normal for me to feel this way and dreading staying there anymore. What do you think about my situation, is it really bullshit for me to still be at my grandpa's and not back home?",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6f0ttn/suicide_in_the_family/,"[{'comment_id': 'dietssu', 'author': 'gemmasaunt1906', 'body': ""I want to start by telling you that 1. I am a therapist and 2. it's perfectly normal and valid to experience the feelings you described.  Please don't let anyone invalidate your feelings. You have been through a severely traumatizing experience and it sounds like, even though you're dealing with grief, PTSD, anxiety, and depression, that you're dealing and coping with this experience well.  If you were my client, I'd tell you to try to slowly ease back into living in your childhood home. There are a number of ways to go about doing that, but maybe you could try staying in a different room for a while. And then gradually work your way up to staying in your old room.  It's always a good idea to see a therapist for your preexisting conditions as well as the grief and PTSD.  Keep in mind that change will not happen overnight (and quite frankly you don't want it to happen too quickly), so try to remind yourself and your family that you, and they, need time to recover from this.  Also if you're ever feeling so overwhelmed to the point that you're thinking of harming yourself or someone else, you can call your state's mental health crisis and/or suicide line or 911 (if you live in the US.  I'm in the US so I don't know the protocol for other countries).  It takes a lot of courage to reach out like this so I can tell you're a strong person. Remind yourself of this fact often and stay strong! I hope this helps! "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-03T22:44:19', 'parent_id': 't3_6f0ttn'}]"
6ejt25,2017-06-01T07:51:45,Is this what depression recovery feels like?,"So I started taking medication for depression and OCD about 3 months ago and it's been a long and painful process, But I think I'm slowly starting to experience the effects. I still have episodes of anxiety and depression, but it's like I'm waking up from A bad dream. I still feel that sensation in my throat that feels like I am about to cry from time to time, But in all Honestly, half the time I can't tell if it's ""tears"" of sadness, fear, or relief. It's like I am experiencing relief from my depression, But fear and frustration from when/if it will come back. It's a very overwhelming and confusing experience. But I'm starting to feel more ""at home"" even when I'm not at home. I'm still not 100% by any means, But I'm definitely feeling more and more at peace of mind every day. I figured this is all a fairly good sign but I wanted to put it out there to see what other insight people might have.",MentalHealthPros,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6ejt25/is_this_what_depression_recovery_feels_like/,"[{'comment_id': 'dollake', 'author': 'katatl', 'body': ""hi sorry i'm seeing this so late but yes!!! this is what it feels like. it's slow, it's a marathon, but bit by bit things get better and your head feels clearer. \n\nhope you're continuing down this positive path. reach out for support if you need it! xo"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-10-19T23:57:10', 'parent_id': 't3_6ejt25'}]"
6b0lkz,2017-05-14T03:58:57,Need advice on helping someone.,"Not  sure if it's the right place, hope it is!

Because of low self esteem/issues with her body as well as other stuff, my friend needs to see a doctor and mental health professional. But her parents kind of frown upon that stuff in a way and won't take her. She's a minor so she can't go herself and doesn't have the money. All of this has her feeling like she has to move out when she can since she will most likely be judged by her parents for even going to see a doctor or anything. But there's a problem there too since she doesn't have the money to live on her own, nor does she have anyone to live with or have as a roommate to try and make something work. 

What should she do?",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/6b0lkz/need_advice_on_helping_someone/,"[{'comment_id': 'dhja2b8', 'author': 'FILIPANESE', 'body': ""Hello,\n\nShe could try community mental health. It is free. Or their help groups. She could talk to her school counselor and they would help her parents understand what she is going through. Check if her parents have health insurance and if she is under their policy, it's possible she could use it to see a provider. If she has good coverage the cost could be less and she would pay a $20 copay for instance. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-05-14T11:40:49', 'parent_id': 't3_6b0lkz'}]"
67iwpa,2017-04-26T01:04:46,New App for Anxiety/Depression *Mood Triggers*,"Researchers at Penn State University have just created an app that helps people identify the triggers of their anxious and depressed moods in order to better understand what is triggering them so they can break the cycle. It's a free application, with no ads. I have linked below the Mood Triggers App in the Google Play Store and Amazon Play Store if you would like to download and a youtube video outlining how the app works! 

Link to Google Play Store: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.nick.moodtriggers.anxietyanddepressionapp Link to 

Amazon Play Store Listing: https://www.amazon.com/Nick-Jacobson-Mood-Triggers/dp/B06ZZ9SYG9/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1492552577&sr=8-1&keywords=mood+triggers Link to 

YouTube Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lx-hqXYDEGE;",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/67iwpa/new_app_for_anxietydepression_mood_triggers/,[]
60ppmq,2017-03-22T00:57:11,The Changes Needed to Fix the Mental Healthcare System in the U.S.,,MentalHealthPros,1,0,http://www.pasadenavilla.com/2015/03/03/fixing-the-united-states-mental-healthcare-system-3-changes-that-need-to-happen/,[]
5ts5qe,2017-02-13T15:50:50,Am I depressed?,"Hi, I'm a male in his early 30's struggling with light dyslexia so excuse my punctuality  

I've recently broken up with a girl I'd been with for over 10 years and have 4 kids with her oldest being 7,youngest being just over 1 month. (We broke up due to my alcohol issues) Which has gotten me banned from seeing my kids until I sort it out ..I've always had anxiety problems too for example, I can't walk down the street without thinking people are looking at me and laughing at the way I walk (slight limp) which gets me paranoid and nervous so I want to get home A.S.A.P. I haven't slept properly in a long time and I don't eat right ether, 1 meal a day that I can't finish even if my stomach is rumbling as I eat, I get about half way through and just can't eat anymore. 

I have a zero hour contract job so I'm lucky to get 2 days every couple months, this although not the best, kinda suited me because I don't have to be around people and feel inadequate (I feel I'm not smart like the other guys) I'm terrible at maths I have problems with knowing my left from my right, I have to think back to my childhood sonic game and repeat the sequence ""up,down,left,right, A,B,C, Start. Then I know which is left or right. I can't look at a clock without having to count in 5's (obviously not digital)

I can't talk to people because I haven't been to a dentist in over 15 years so my teeth are yellow and not in great shape which makes me paranoid that they are thinking ""it's nasty"" I also have that recurring dream that my teeth all fall out in my had something's I pull them all out.

To top it all off I'm now having panic attacks every morning when I wake up and also through out the day, my heart starts racing my fingers start tingling and my body shakes, can a doctor help me and if so how? Someone please help me understand this 
 
Thank you for taking the time to read this  and thank you in advance for any replies. ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5ts5qe/am_i_depressed/,"[{'comment_id': 'ddpgoqe', 'author': 'Tip718', 'body': 'Hey Man \n\nThis sub is pretty dead and we wouldnt diagnose any way, my suggestion is this. If you feel that you have a problem(s), you should go consult with a therapist or doctor. \n', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-02-14T04:08:57', 'parent_id': 't3_5ts5qe'}, {'comment_id': 'ddphrmt', 'author': 'strugglingwithmyself', 'body': ""Thank you, I have an appointment to see a doctor but it's in a weeks time , wasn't sure if I would be waisting the doctors time. I just needed to hear (read in this case) someone tell me I should go. Thank you "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-02-14T04:31:23', 'parent_id': 't1_ddpgoqe'}]"
5tgge2,2017-02-11T23:44:06,ONLINE THERAPY,What's the most you'd be willing to pay for online therapy? I don't know if online is similar to in person so I want to know your opinions. ,MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5tgge2/online_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'ddnj7x2', 'author': 'ashleykr', 'body': ""Wouldn't pay for it"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-02-12T22:38:57', 'parent_id': 't3_5tgge2'}]"
5rnko3,2017-02-02T21:31:21,Still seeking couples therapists to participate in research on PLAY and Couples Therapy. Survey is brief (10-15 min). Use your voice to contribute to a growing body of research on PLAY and Couples Therapy!,"Hello Fellow Mental Health Professionals,
Presently, I am working on my Master's thesis at Smith College for Social Work and am seeking research participants to complete my short survey.

My study focuses on gathering information about couples therapists perceptions of the value and their use of play in couples therapy. My study also seeks to understand couples therapists inspiration for using play in the therapeutic encounter. This includes asking couples therapists to report on what resources and/or experiences have been influential in their use of play with couples. Play in the context of couples therapy is different than play therapy with children, although it is arguable that they serve similar purposes. Potential participants will be asked their consent to participate in the study but WILL NOT be asked for their names or any other identifying information.
If you answer “yes” to each of these questions, you are eligible to participate in this research. 

- Are you a current or former licensed couples therapist who practices(d) as a MSW/LCSW/LICSW, LPC, MFT, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, or Christian Counselor? 
- Have you practiced as a licensed Couples Counselor for at least one year?

What will participants do? Participants complete a confidential online questionnaire that takes between 10-15 minutes. To review the informed consent, and complete the questionnaire, go to this web link: 
https://smithcollege.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_9MLJRxknRF4aWcB

What is the benefit of participation? Participants could help to illuminate the little discussed or researched value and use of play in couples therapy as well as give voice to the implications and benefits of play in couples work.

If you meet criteria for participating, please consider participating in my study. If you do not meet inclusion criteria PLEASE pass this survey along to others through sharing on social media or emailing.

This study has been reviewed and approved by the Smith College School for Social Work Human Subjects Review Committee (HSRC).     

Thank you for your time, assistance, and interest in my research topic!   

Sincerely,
Teresa Musick",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5rnko3/still_seeking_couples_therapists_to_participate/,[]
5ou7v6,2017-01-19T08:50:55,Question about the quality of mental health facilities,"Hi, sorry if this is not the right place for this. I'm an interior design student and I'm about to start a project designing a mental health facility. For my project, I am trying to gather some research about current design trends and how those could be improved. As professionals in the industry, what issues have you noticed in facilities and how do you think they could be changed to better suit patients? Any opinions would be greatly appreciated! ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5ou7v6/question_about_the_quality_of_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'dcnjuer', 'author': 'BrokenBootLaces', 'body': 'I cannot provide any research but I want to follow this thread. I would suggest in open concepts with a lot of space for belongings that are secure. Many of my previous individuals would get upset with their peers and essentially live in tight quarters with them. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-20T07:00:57', 'parent_id': 't3_5ou7v6'}, {'comment_id': 'dct73ci', 'author': 'Poopy__McGee', 'body': ""That's a great tip, thank you! "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-24T01:58:04', 'parent_id': 't1_dcnjuer'}]"
5op333,2017-01-18T18:02:38,Other Jobs You Can Get with Counseling Degree,"I'll start off saying that a lot of this is me venting because I have been too afraid to talk to anyone about this, but I also would really like some advice. I graduated from undergrad with a Bachelors in Psychology, and then went on to complete a Masters of Education in Counseling and Personnel Services with a concentration in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. During my internship while in graduate school I provided outpatient therapy to adults, and after graduating I was hired for a job providing school-based therapy to children. I graduated with my M.Ed. in August and have only been working at my current job for about 4 months, and already I have been feeling very unhappy. If I am honest, I had a lot of doubts throughout my graduate program and my internship about if this was the right fit, but didn't listen to those doubts and kept on with my program. I was afraid to quit in the middle of the program because I didn't know what else to do, had already put time and money into it, and thought maybe I would like it once I got started. I see now that this was probably not the right course of action, and that I should have been honest with myself and talked to someone about this to see what other options I might have. I guess I was also afraid to quit due to fear that my family and friends would be disappointed in me, as I have always had a plan and had things together.
Basically, I got into psychology because I found human behavior interesting, and felt like I had good interpersonal skills and insight. I was involved in research during undergrad, but didn't really enjoy it, and decided I wanted to do counseling. Once I started my internship during my grad program I found that I had high anxiety about seeing clients, but passed it off as being a new therapist in training. Problem is, I still have that anxiety, I don't find myself getting satisfaction from my work, I don't know if I am even good at this. I somehow fooled myself into thinking that this would be a good career for me, but the truth is that I find it emotionally draining and I want out. I dread going to work, I'm anxious all the time thinking about work (I know I need to look into getting my own counseling), and I don't feel like I can take pride in my work because I don't know how to measure my own ""success"" other than client progress, which is obviously dependent on the client more than myself. 
I am wondering if a position related to human resources might be a better fit, but am also looking for any suggestions on alternative jobs/careers that I can get into with my degree. 

TL;DR: I have a Masters in Counseling, had doubts and anxiety during my program about whether this was the right fit for me, and have confirmed for myself shortly after graduating and getting my first job that I do not like working in this position at all, and am looking for alternative jobs/careers.
",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5op333/other_jobs_you_can_get_with_counseling_degree/,[]
5m8nrg,2017-01-06T01:29:42,Are you a couples therapist or are you connected to couples therapists? Fill out my survey below to help me complete my thesis!,"Hello Fellow Mental Health Professionals,

Presently, I am working on my Master's thesis at Smith College for Social Work and am seeking research participants to complete my short survey. 
-----
My study focuses on gathering information about couples therapists perceptions of the value and their use of play in couples therapy. My study also seeks to understand couples therapists inspiration for using play in the therapeutic encounter. This includes asking couples therapists to report on what resources and/or experiences have been influential in their use of play with couples. Play in the context of couples therapy is different than play therapy with children, although it is arguable that they serve similar purposes. Potential participants will be asked their consent to participate in the study but WILL NOT be asked for their names or any other identifying information.

If you answer “yes” to each of these questions, you are eligible to participate in this research. 

Are you a current or former licensed couples therapist who practices(d) as a MSW/LCSW/LICSW, LPC, MFT, Psychologist, Psychiatrist, or Christian Counselor?

Have you practiced as a licensed Couples Counselor for at least one year? 

What will participants do? Participants complete a confidential online questionnaire that takes between 20-25 minutes. To review the informed consent, and complete the questionnaire, go to this web link: https://smithcollege.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_9MLJRxknRF4aWcB 

What is the benefit of participation? Participants could help to illuminate the little discussed or researched value and use of play in couples therapy as well as give voice to the implications and benefits of play in couples work.

If you meet criteria for participating, please consider participating in my study. If you do not meet inclusion criteria PLEASE pass this survey along to others through sharing on social media or emailing.
-----
This study has been reviewed and approved by the Smith College School for Social Work Human Subjects Review Committee (HSRC).  
 
Thank you for your time, assistance, and interest in my research topic!
 
Sincerely, 

Teresa Musick
",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5m8nrg/are_you_a_couples_therapist_or_are_you_connected/,[]
5l7hvd,2016-12-31T08:19:28,Can somebody help me with my Survivor's guilt?,"I'm not sure if this is the right place, but I don't have access to therapy. ",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5l7hvd/can_somebody_help_me_with_my_survivors_guilt/,"[{'comment_id': 'dikp4il', 'author': 'pretty_pist0l', 'body': 'Hi, have you tried community centers that provide mental health services? Its free.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-06-07T17:37:29', 'parent_id': 't3_5l7hvd'}]"
5kh859,2016-12-27T07:45:16,"""If you think you're going crazy, you're not."" This. Thoughts?","I have been reading a lot of true crime lately, and I have pretty severe anxiety that I don't take medication for (I just worry to the extreme). I read a couple autopsy reports of serial killers and quickly realized how disturbing it was. Now, I am absolutely terrified that I have traumatized myself mentally from reading these reports and reading true crime that I will go crazy. I am so scared, and have since stopped reading true crime. Thoughts?",MentalHealthPros,3,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5kh859/if_you_think_youre_going_crazy_youre_not_this/,"[{'comment_id': 'dbv7a7n', 'author': 'psycrock', 'body': 'suffering in same critical condition as well......I have to say....is there any one else to guide us.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2017-01-01T19:37:45', 'parent_id': 't3_5kh859'}, {'comment_id': 'dbz7uyo', 'author': 'psycrock', 'body': 'is there any medication for relive from mental stress ?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-04T11:41:18', 'parent_id': 't3_5kh859'}, {'comment_id': 'dbyaoxv', 'author': 'squidsquidsquid88', 'body': ""I've been thinking about it, and I think that the fact that we're scared that we could do harms means we probably won't, because people who do violent things don't know it's bad and therefore aren't afraid to do it. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2017-01-03T23:54:04', 'parent_id': 't1_dbv7a7n'}]"
5i2l94,2016-12-13T14:20:04,No insurance,"So I have to seek help from strangers online, my entire life ever since I can remember I struggled with depression and self harm. I used to hate my very existence but at the same time I still had hope and aspirations. But out of no where I stopped feeling anything. I truly feel blank I do not feel depressed no longer I do not have any of my same dreams and goals I do not feel any kind of sadness or happiness. I also have pushed almost every single family member I have away and I know that is wrong morally but I do not care. I don't feel bad about it. There are very few I still associate with. I feel like I only see things in an analytical way I have a hard time understanding how other would feel and their emotions and i try desperately to figure out which emotions I myself have left. There will be times something bad will happen and I'll feel a void like as if I should feel bad but instead I'll feel blank. I do not know what changed and why it did ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5i2l94/no_insurance/,[]
5i2hwx,2016-12-13T13:50:38,"Unsure where to look for resources , can someone help ?","Google is fine for finding recipes and craft projects . I am looking for mental health resources . All I can find is things that are either out of date or not what I was looking for . I'm not (I repeat not) in a crisis situation , I just want help for past issues before it becomes a crisis . I have never been one to ask for help so please only reply if you know of mental health services in the greater Cincinnati area . (Sorry if my writing skills suck) ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5i2hwx/unsure_where_to_look_for_resources_can_someone/,[]
5gdwc8,2016-12-04T10:33:57,is my 11 year old self harming?,"context: her dad molested her (and her siblings) for years, she hasn't had any contact with him for nearly 2 years now. This year she has really been dealing with it for the first time as she is at an age where she has a deeper understanding of it.  She has shown an amount of what i would call hypochondria; faking and exagerrating injuries but again, nothing too serious (might wear a bandage on her wrist for a few days, or limp for a few days.  a few times though, she has had small cuts, like papercuts, on her face, backs of her hands etc.  the most recent: backs of both her hands, small but multiple cuts.  her story is that the dog jumped up and scratched her with her claws but def not cuts from the dog.  I talk to her openly about mental health a lot, including talking to her about self harm, what it means, what it can lead to.  i have told her that it's like, the mental trauma is too hard for her brain to cope with and dealing with physical pain is easier so you do that.  she understands and has a couple of times, admitted that her injury is actually fake; it helps her to cope with crap, like a protection.

she isn't currently seeing a counsellor as she refuses but she knows that while she refuses she must talk to me openly (or her teacher etc).  so far she agrees and does this and we are very open with mental health etc.  but, i'm not a psych and i'm just not sure when i should be more concerned?  does this sound like self harm or attention seeking or something?  ",MentalHealthPros,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/5gdwc8/is_my_11_year_old_self_harming/,[]
53phv9,2016-09-21T02:08:53,Advice for a Caretaker,"As is customary, sorry if this is the wrong sub for this type of post.

My younger brother was diagnosed with bipolar depression and general anxiety disorder about three years ago.  It probably started more like 10 years ago, though.  He's made a lot of progress, goes to therapy, is on medication that seems effective, and is generally stable compared to a few years ago.  But, he can still be very frustrating to deal with.  It feels impossible to know how he'll react to anything from a joke to a recommendation for partial care from his therapist.

Meanwhile, my father suffered a stroke in 2012.  He's able to walk with a cane, can clothe, bathe, and feed himself.  But he can't work anymore.  His speech is impaired.  I feel his mobility and situational awareness is insufficient for him to drive safely.  And his personality has changed in ways that are difficult to explain or assign a name to.  Its as if he's reverted a child-like state.  If we try to talk to him about something serious, he barely responds, makes animal noises, or gets angry.  Talk to him too long and he'll stop you mid-sentence to ask ""Can I go now, are we done?""  If my brother and I are discussing something he disagrees with in his presence, he actually cover his ears and shakes his head.  He complains about noises we can barely hear.  If I make fish for dinner, he's looking for tartar sauce.  I buy tartar sauce next time, now he's looking for potatoes.  If I ask him what he'd like for dinner, he has no ideas or wants hot dogs (my god, he's obsessed with hot dogs!).

And I'm so tired.  I'm tired of living with mental patients, of being a single parent to a 30 year old and a 63 year old.  I'm tired of being the only functional adult in my home.  

Would therapy help?  What kind of therapist or mental health professional would I seek out?  Would it even help?  My brother has a long road to being employable and self-sufficient, but at least I know he's trying.  I don't hate my father enough to dump him in any nursing home that accepts Medicaid, but I certainly can't afford anything better.  

Would seeing a therapist at least help me cope with or accept being resigned to a life of service?",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/53phv9/advice_for_a_caretaker/,"[{'comment_id': 'd7wrfip', 'author': 'IDare2ask', 'body': 'Of course you are tired. You should focuse on your own well-being first, and only then proceed to supporting your unlucky relatives more than what is absolutely necessary. Source: I am an exhausted caregiver.\n\nLately there is a trend to form support groups for caregivers. Search for one. Talking with people on the same boat should help relieve a lot of stress, and also get ideas.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2016-09-22T05:07:38', 'parent_id': 't3_53phv9'}, {'comment_id': 'd7vtzqj', 'author': 'BrokenBootLaces', 'body': ""I always recommend therapy. It's always nice to bounce your concerns to someone who listens and can help guide you. Find a therapist and meet with them. If you don't like the first one, go to a second. I have my first therapist four sessions before moving on to my second. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-09-21T16:08:40', 'parent_id': 't3_53phv9'}]"
50b48e,2016-08-30T19:00:29,"I see this sub isn't super active, but I was going for some education/career path advice or information.","So I've always wanted to be a therapist/counselor for troubled youth. I also am wildly interested in mental health and psychology. I'm graduating with my bachelor's in a few months, and I'm looking at programs for my masters, but I can't seem to choose. I don't know any people in all of these fields to ask and compare so I was hoping some of you here could help me out.

I'm considering school counseling, professional counseling, and social work. Leaning away from social work at this point. Do any of you have experience in these fields and/or advice on which path I should take according to my end goal? Thank you so much for any help!

TL;DR: want to counsel troubled youth, can't choose between school counseling, professional counseling, and social work.",MentalHealthPros,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/50b48e/i_see_this_sub_isnt_super_active_but_i_was_going/,"[{'comment_id': 'd734jaw', 'author': 'TawnyTail', 'body': 'Marriage and family therapy is another option. A Masters degree in that and you can start working. ', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2016-08-31T02:35:46', 'parent_id': 't3_50b48e'}, {'comment_id': 'd743mqy', 'author': 'forfunstuff', 'body': 'I appreciate the response. I briefly considered that as well, but I am more interested in dealing with children than adults including families as a whole.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-31T21:09:54', 'parent_id': 't1_d734jaw'}, {'comment_id': 'd74hh41', 'author': 'TawnyTail', 'body': 'If working with children is your goal, I think MFT is a perfect fit because the basis of the practice is in systemic therapy. To help children, you have to help their families. ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-09-01T01:56:37', 'parent_id': 't1_d743mqy'}]"
4xzbhc,2016-08-16T18:20:08,"Deciding on path to work with large local government, or federal?","Hi Reddit!

In the odd chance I have someone who understands this predicament, I'd very much like any $0.02 on the subject. 

My fiance works for a very large local government in the Northern Virginia area currently. Accepted to grad school and is trying to figure out if Federal work is even a consideration. Fiance is in grad school for an MPA, so that would open things up, though I don't think we have any real connections to the Feds at all.

Anyway. The current track with the local government seems to be great, lots of old heads who are going to need to be replaced eventually as well. 

Ideally the future goal is to head a large suicide prevention non-profit, but that may not be obtainable for a variety of reasons and working in mental health for the local/fed gov. would be sufficient. 

Does anyone have any input and experience working for the feds in mental health? How's the pay, demand, etc.?

Thanks!",MentalHealthPros,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4xzbhc/deciding_on_path_to_work_with_large_local/,"[{'comment_id': 'd6kgbjp', 'author': 'psychstudy84', 'body': ""I'm a psychologist for the federal government. The pay is openly published. Depending on experience, you'd start as a GS-11 or 12 and could probably get a hiring bonus of 15k to join the bureau of prisons. High demand if you're willing to work in crappy areas. Look for psychologist jobs on USAJOBS.gov. :-)"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-17T05:36:04', 'parent_id': 't3_4xzbhc'}]"
4oz8zi,2016-06-20T20:52:20,Job Experience While in Grad School,"Hey, all. I'm in my third semester of my masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I really feel like I should get a job (part time or full time) that will help me get some experience while I'm in grad school. I've applied for mental health technician jobs at several in-patient hospitals but I have not had success. I think it might be because of my lack of experience. Does anyone have any experience with this? My bachelor's is in psychology. Any suggestions or personal experiences would be helpful.",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4oz8zi/job_experience_while_in_grad_school/,"[{'comment_id': 'd4gwksz', 'author': 'Halfury', 'body': ""I just graduated in May with my Master’s in MH Counseling, so based on my experience over the last 3 years, it is super important to finish your degree. School comes first always! Depending on the program, you may have a Practicum and an Internship towards the end of the program, which will help you to get some real-world experience while in school. If your prorgram offers any courses where you can be certified in a type of therapy, do it! Also check out PESI for training opportunities near you. They typically last a day and you can get certified in just about anything. The workshops are somewhat pricey but you have the benefit of getting the student discount. Trust me, it's worth it. Employers *love* to see certifications on your resume. \n\nI also suggest you try volunteer work. Yes, it sucks to not get paid and yes rent and food are necessary but if you can devote even 4 hours a week, like on a Saturday doing community work that helps a ton!  At the very least you can get your foot in the door while having flexibility with your hours.\n\nIf not volunteering, try looking for something part time. Seeing as you are 3rd semester (how long is your program?), I can tell you that the closer you are to the end, the coursework will only get harder and more demanding on your time. This may not apply to you but if you are having a hard time getting interviews for MH positions, try something in customer service. I was a banker while going to school and boy oh boy the stories I have to tell! (haha) Still, even though I wasn't in the MH field, I had plenty of relatable experiences that have since served me well. Plus it gave me an opportunity to test out what I was learning on my coworkers and customers (like solution - focused therapy).\n\nIn my case, I liked my internship site and the people I worked with so they were very eager to keep me on as a permanent employee. It doesn't always happen like that, though, so keep that in mind. Along those lines, when looking for an internship (or any job, really), here's some helpful advice: look for a place with a good environment. You probably won't get paid a lot anywhere you go pre-licensure, so when deciding where to intern or to work, consider where you will feel the most comfortable. What I liked about my site was the support I received from everyone, including the Program Coordinator. Also consider hours flexibility and review their benefits policies, like PTO, pay schedule, sick time, tuition reimbursement, licensure reimbursement, mileage/cell phone stipend, stuff like that, which could make up for the pay. \n\nI hope that helps!\n\nEDIT I forgot to mention in that last paragraph: when looking for work, also be on the lookout for how well the company trains its staff. Some are hit the ground running while others have an established training program. This is why it helps to seek out training through places like PESI. The American Red Cross offers a fantastic disaster training program, which will get you First Aid/CPR certified (again, employers love to see stuff like that bc it means they don't have to spend more on training you). The ARC also has a mental health track in their Disaster Action Team services, so it may be worth it to check that out!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-06-20T23:28:40', 'parent_id': 't3_4oz8zi'}]"
4m5ff7,2016-06-02T09:49:33,Alternative Careers For Counselors,"Greetings!

I am writing in hopes to gain some helpful feedback from my fellow mental health colleagues. I have been working in the mental health field for over seven years now, and as I have become self-aware of my needs, I recognize that taking a step back from direct care/counseling services would be helpful to me at this time (I provide outpatient therapy services currently, however have provided crisis, group, career, and community counseling in the past). I have enjoyed serving others, however I am looking for a new challenge at this point in my career.

My question is this- What career fields/positions are easily transferable given our education/training/experience? I received my masters degree in Mental Health Counseling, and I am also a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC), as well as a Nationally Certified Counselor (NCC). 

As I said, I thoroughly enjoy counseling, however feel a bit ""burnt out"" and am looking for opportunities to challenge myself in other career fields so that when I do return to counseling, I will be completely restored. 

Thanks in advance for your help, it is much appreciated!",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4m5ff7/alternative_careers_for_counselors/,"[{'comment_id': 'd6wohw2', 'author': 'darkjeremiad', 'body': ""Teaching at the undergraduate level. (Particularly in community colleges)\nIn states that have high needs, there are often programs to take people with MA's and move them laterally into Elementary and Secondary education through provisional certification.\nJust about any job that requires strong communication skills and the ability to create rapport.\nResearch\nHuman Resources\nPersonnel Management and Recruiting. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-26T03:20:37', 'parent_id': 't3_4m5ff7'}]"
4lnlg8,2016-05-30T08:26:47,Unpredictability is affecting my relationship,"I tend to feel overwhelmed with emotion a large part of the time.  My emotions can be unpredictable and it seems to be getting worse.  Some days I am super easy going and go with the flow, but other days I will get upset about the same things I had no problem with a few days before.  It starting to affect my relationship because my emotions aren't consistent and I often don't feel like I have control of them.  Any help in the right direction would be great.",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4lnlg8/unpredictability_is_affecting_my_relationship/,[]
4k4t3a,2016-05-20T02:53:40,My mom has no medicated bipolar and depression and self medicates with Xanax and pain pills help?,"My mom is very important person in my life. We're like the best of friends. but right now she's in a bad place. She gets pain pills from my grandpa (he gives them to her) which she's addicted to, and she's always addicted to Xanax.  she's uses them to ""cope"" she sayss, because she has bad bipolar, and depression, and she's been medicated for those two things ever since she was a child. And currently, she's not medicated at all. She keeps telling me she will make a doctors appoint to be put back on her medication but she doesn't. How can I help my mother? Has anyone else been in this situation with someone they love? She really wants to be better but her depression and bipolar is bad when she's not medicated and she thinks self medication is what she has to do right now until she can pay her doctor bill to go to the doctor.",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4k4t3a/my_mom_has_no_medicated_bipolar_and_depression/,"[{'comment_id': 'd6k3vgi', 'author': 'TroubleDoll', 'body': ""The short answer is that you cannot help someone who does not want help or does not know how to seek/ask for help. \n\nAll you can do is offer supportive listening and encouragement and look into resources for them and give them the information. \n\nHowever -- if you believe she is in danger of hurting herself or others there may be steps you can take that involve getting her help without her consent, such as involuntary commitment. I want to stress that this is a decision that you should never take lightly. \n\nHave you looked into local mental health resources? Many places regardless of size have free resources available. Thy could help counsel you regarding your options, including taking care of yourself since this sounds like a stressful situation you're in to say the least. \n\nBut seek help from mental health/substance abuse professionals *in your community* ASAP. Online help can only do so much. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-08-17T00:54:12', 'parent_id': 't3_4k4t3a'}]"
4hbbp7,2016-05-02T01:58:14,How can mayor's increase access to mental health services?,"Hello,
I'm a psychology student and recently started communicating with my city's mayor about the serious lapse in mental health coverage in our state. She has been very responsive and genuinely wants to know ways in which she can go about ensuring more of the community gets mental health services...I've been looking around online for answers, but figured it couldn't hurt to ask people in the mental health profession what they think. 

Any advice, suggestions or resources you can send my way would be greatly appreciated. :). ",MentalHealthPros,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4hbbp7/how_can_mayors_increase_access_to_mental_health/,[]
4e40qa,2016-04-10T07:04:57,Paranoia is ruining marriage,"Been married for almost nine years. The past two have been rough. Left military and found civilian success in the job market, but my marriage and my mind are bad. Wife made lots of new friends, but I haven't made any in our new town, and I have tried. I've become paranoid and angry about the idea that my wife is cheating on me. In clarity, I know this isn't the case, but once a while my mind starts running and looking for a reason to justify my thoughts and it builds to the point of depression and accusations. My wife is a wonderful woman, but I have pushed her to the edge and she is visibly upset. She cries and tells me that I am the only one she loves and wants to make happy. She also says the accusations have broken her self value because she feels like I think that she's a whole and a bad mother. VA therapy hasn't helped and I am tired of hurting my wife and feeling like this. How should I approach? Any help appreciated.",MentalHealthPros,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/4e40qa/paranoia_is_ruining_marriage/,"[{'comment_id': 'd28a3k1', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': ""Wow, so sorry to see that there were no replies to this. Most likely, this is due to the fact that this sub is meant to be a place for mental health professionals to connect with and support each other, not a place for the public to be posting asking for advice. /r/needadvice and /r/mentalhealth would be better places to post this.\n\nSince no one got back and told you that though, I'll toss out that you should sit down with a good marriage and family therapist. Based on your comment that your mind is bad, I'm left wondering if you are subtly referring to some PTSD or other trauma issues from your time in the military. The anxiety that these can bring on often manifest in a variety of ways and in the relationship is a big and common one. If that is at all the case, finding one that specializes in military veterans and PTSD would be important.\n\nThere are a lot of moving parts here and the VA has been slow to bring on LMFTs who think more systemically about relationship issues, generally speaking, than most LPCs or LCSWs or Psychologists. You can find an LMFT by checking out http://therapistlocator.net."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-04-19T06:28:36', 'parent_id': 't3_4e40qa'}]"
3nl9vv,2015-10-05T21:56:06,Becoming a professional after graduate school,"I recently moved to the Marietta, GA area this past August after I graduate with a masters in mental health counseling.  My main concern is not being able to land a job around here or the Atlanta area soon.  Bills are piling and I don't want to think that I'm unable to get into my field.",MentalHealthPros,3,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3nl9vv/becoming_a_professional_after_graduate_school/,"[{'comment_id': 'cvyvv35', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Wow, I actually work in Marietta (not in the mental health field). I am pursuing a MS in Clinical mental health counseling, and I too am disheartened by the prospects (so much that I am considering a different career path all together).\n\nWould you like to sit down and discuss options?\n\n', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2015-10-14T06:50:03', 'parent_id': 't3_3nl9vv'}, {'comment_id': 'cw6didy', 'author': 'Kierkiguarded', 'body': 'Sure!  My biggest feat to overcome is getting back into the workforce to fight off my student loan debt.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-10-20T19:46:45', 'parent_id': 't1_cvyvv35'}, {'comment_id': 'cwok40p', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Still want to meet up?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-11-05T02:00:14', 'parent_id': 't1_cw6didy'}, {'comment_id': 'cxforbf', 'author': 'Kierkiguarded', 'body': 'Sorry for the late reply, yea, just name a time and place.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-11-28T19:04:07', 'parent_id': 't1_cwok40p'}]"
3hh8dk,2015-08-19T00:01:46,Mental Health resources for illegal immigrants?,"Hello, I'm hoping this subreddit can guide me in the right direction. My boyfriend, who does not have legal status in this country,  is suffering from depression and has admitted having serious suicidal thoughts.  He is open to finding professional help and we are not sure where to start.  His lack of legal status means he has no ID and thus no healthcare or proof of who he is.  I've been searching for mental health sources for illegal residents but all I am finding are medical studies, and I am desperate for some real advice on where to look.",MentalHealthPros,1,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3hh8dk/mental_health_resources_for_illegal_immigrants/,"[{'comment_id': 'cu87gso', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'Have you checked your local community mental health agency?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-19T18:51:08', 'parent_id': 't3_3hh8dk'}, {'comment_id': 'cu87i4g', 'author': 'laurenshapiro', 'body': ""Realistically, he'd probably have to look into private practice and pay out of pocket OR speak to local non-profit organizations in his area that provide services to undocumented individuals and see if they know of anything. "", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-19T18:52:26', 'parent_id': 't3_3hh8dk'}, {'comment_id': 'cu8cg37', 'author': 'Kmo307', 'body': 'This might be a stupid question but what exactly is a local community mental health agency?  I see a therapist but she is private and I found her through my insurance company.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-19T21:13:08', 'parent_id': 't1_cu87gso'}, {'comment_id': 'cu9fqwy', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'Where are you located? ', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-20T19:00:19', 'parent_id': 't1_cu8cg37'}, {'comment_id': 'cuatz8e', 'author': 'Kmo307', 'body': 'NYC', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-21T22:20:41', 'parent_id': 't1_cu9fqwy'}, {'comment_id': 'cubgjqi', 'author': 'Shell831', 'body': 'Try giving the Lifenet hotline a call, they should be able to point you in the right direction.\n\nhttp://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/html/mental/mental.shtml\n\n\nOr this is a directory of state resources \n\nhttp://bi.omh.ny.gov/bridges/index', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-22T08:56:47', 'parent_id': 't1_cuatz8e'}]"
3g1fyz,2015-08-07T00:47:03,Are Mental Health Therapy Aides drug tested?,"Hello, I've recently replied to a canvas letter in the State of New York to become a Mental Health Therapy Aide and I have been a heavy smoker for years, I have abstained for four weeks so far and still do not show up clean on at home drug tests. I am very nervous as some say they may not drug test and some say they may. If anyone knows if MHTAs (Mental Health Therapy Aides) are drug tested id greatly appreciate an answer! Thank you!!!:) ",MentalHealthPros,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3g1fyz/are_mental_health_therapy_aides_drug_tested/,"[{'comment_id': 'ctuf8vz', 'author': 'Hazc', 'body': ""I'm not in NY, and I don't know what a mental health therapy aide is, bit they probably are, and they definitely should be."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-07T09:03:38', 'parent_id': 't3_3g1fyz'}]"
3fitzz,2015-08-02T22:26:14,Beginning a practica placement and need advice on acute inpatient group therapy.,"Hello everyone. This is my first time posting to Reddit. I am beginning my first practica placement for my first year of my PsyD program. I have my masters and have performed one-on-one counseling based in CBT, motivational interviewing, and humanistic techniques. I will be building an inpatient group therapy program from scratch for my placement. I have no experience with group therapy, but I have been reading Yalom's book and since the average patient stay is 3 days I plan on using a lot of psycho-educational and MI aspects to therapy. I was hoping some of you have experience in group therapy and could point me towards some more information on acute group therapy and if you have any advice that would be even better! Thank you! ",MentalHealthPros,1,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/MentalHealthPros/comments/3fitzz/beginning_a_practica_placement_and_need_advice_on/,"[{'comment_id': 'cu6x9qn', 'author': 'LadyLynari', 'body': 'I don\'t have a whole lot of helpful information to give you, but I wanted to wish you luck.  Psychoeducation groups are good, but for the actual group therapy (I don\'t consider psychoed to be therapy, per se), I\'d pick a topic that you know a lot about -- ones I would choose would be things like self-care, healthy ways to cope with overwhelming emotions, etc. -- and then lead a group on that.  State at the beginning that there are rules (i.e., that everyone needs to listen to everyone else respectfully, disagreements are okay if they\'re stated respectfully, and that everyone will have an opportunity to say something if they want but they won\'t be forced to), and then do a basic group check-in (""how are you guys feeling today?"" is usually an okay way to ask, though you\'ll probably get a few people snapping ""we\'re in the hospital, how do you THINK we\'re feeling?"").  Also, running a group that focuses on meditation/calming techniques is good, and if you can, one that focuses on gentle movements (calm yoga has been popular in hospitals).  I know this probably isn\'t what you\'re looking for, but I hope this helps at least a little!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2015-08-18T16:58:03', 'parent_id': 't3_3fitzz'}, {'comment_id': 'cysxujc', 'author': 'psychstudy84', 'body': ""You probably already figured it out since you posted five months ago.  What did you decide on?  I'd have recommended you pick up the Seeking Safety manual.  You can administer the group modules in any order, choosing what feels most relevant to you after you learn a little bit about your patients in the group.  People could attend any module during their inpatient stay, and could still get a lot from it.  Good luck!"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2016-01-10T21:30:33', 'parent_id': 't3_3fitzz'}]"
181m9id,2023-11-23T04:23:27,Everyone’s situation is different,What’s the one thing you struggle the most with in mental health and what are you currently doing about it?,mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/181m9id/everyones_situation_is_different/,"[{'comment_id': 'kx1jrnl', 'author': 'sillybeardude', 'body': 'Self sabotage 100%, im trying really hard tho recently to see the signs of self sabotage and stopping myself before i make things bad for myself', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-03-29T06:19:58', 'parent_id': 't3_181m9id'}]"
17sjumy,2023-11-11T07:18:55,Therapy,"Is guided imagery, mindfulness and meditation something you personally practice in your own life? If not, is it something you’ve wanted to learn?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/17sjumy/therapy/,[]
17hctja,2023-10-27T07:29:57,Exposure Therapy,"For those suffering from PTSD, OCD, GAD, Panic Disorders, phobias, hypochondriasis or other similar issues.... give exposure therapy a try. I was completely closed off to this until over time I started seeing the positive effects slowly but surely. Face the feared object head on whatever it may be, fact check your surroundings, imagine the object in your head and see if its as scary as your portraying it to be in real life, become engulfed with your body sensations and everything your feeling and then process the situation through your most effective coping techniques after you leave the situation. These are all obviously generic and modified, but this is a very short and concise version on some steps that can work if done correctly!",mentalhealthadvice,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/17hctja/exposure_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'k7a9s36', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-11-01T02:58:59', 'parent_id': 't3_17hctja'}, {'comment_id': 'k7a9s5c', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Your comment has been removed from our community for the following reason: \n  - Spam, Blogspam, and other low effort content. Short top-level comments are not permitted.\n\nPlease message the moderators if you think this is incorrect.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealthadvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-11-01T02:59:00', 'parent_id': 't1_k7a9s36'}]"
164pp8q,2023-08-29T23:38:17,Exposure Therapy,"For those suffering from PTSD, OCD, GAD, Panic Disorders, phobias, hypochondriasis or other similar issues.... give exposure therapy a try. I was completely closed off to this until over time I started seeing the positive effects slowly but surely. Face the feared object head on whatever it may be, fact check your surroundings, imagine the object in your head and see if its as scary as your portraying it to be in real life, become engulfed with your body sensations and everything your feeling and then process the situation through your most effective coping techniques after you leave the situation. These are all obviously generic and modified, but this is a very short and concise version on some steps that can work if done correctly!",mentalhealthadvice,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/164pp8q/exposure_therapy/,[]
14p83n8,2023-07-03T09:22:14,"It may not be a big deal to others but for you, it can be traumatizing.","I hate it when people say ""it wasn't that bad."" It's actually pretty traumatizing for others. No one else gets to decide what is traumatic and not traumatic for you.",mentalhealthadvice,6,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/14p83n8/it_may_not_be_a_big_deal_to_others_but_for_you_it/,"[{'comment_id': 'jqhz9vo', 'author': 'Farie_2003', 'body': ""Exactly💯. I've had traumas and i mean loads of it. It leads me to depression when i have flashbacks sometimes. It gets me anxious about my upcoming days. I usually don't talk about my traumas to people. I'm keeping them inside bc i see no point in ranting on my traumatic incidents plus what can they do? Nothing and i don't wanna burden or sadden anyone with my problems."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2023-07-03T18:16:05', 'parent_id': 't3_14p83n8'}]"
14l5w40,2023-06-28T16:01:38,How do you handle stressful situations?,"Hi, I know that having depression and anxiety makes us very vulnerable emotionally but how do you handle stressful situations?",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/14l5w40/how_do_you_handle_stressful_situations/,[]
13isbym,2023-05-16T07:55:29,How do i go about asking my parents for help regarding mental health stuff?,"I'm 16 and originally i was planning on just waiting until i was an adult to see if there's anything actually wrong but it has become more difficult to ignore. Without going into too much detail in order to keep this short, i was able to ignore a lot of mental health stuff when i was younger because i thought it was normal and it didn't bother me that much but recently its been a lot harder. A friend even picked up on a couple weird habits i have and told me apparently it's not normal??

I feel like it might come off as i'm faking it for attention, especially if it just turns out to be nothing and i got all panicky and dramatic over something i made up in my head. Also, i don't even know if my parents would take me seriously bc it would be kind of sudden and out of the blue. I don't think they'd understand what i'm trying to tell them and even so the thought of having that awkward conversation makes me want to vomit.

Any advise?",mentalhealthadvice,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/13isbym/how_do_i_go_about_asking_my_parents_for_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'jlmws07', 'author': 'Vegetable_Pin2255', 'body': 'Hey! I actually was in a similar situation myself. I’m 19 now and I grew up half Asian.  “change your mindset” was normally the response I got when I got older and finally felt comfortable coming to my parents about my depression and anxiety. In my own experience so far as a 16 year old you are able to make your own doctors appt and they are normally very understanding of mental health troubles. They will give you guidance if you feel you can’t get support from your parents. Same thing with the guidance counsellor at school. Just be warned that any time you bring up the topic of self harm or suicide they will try to get more involved with family and support on your behalf. It sounds like you may just have some anxiety although you didn’t give much detail about your own troubles. You are also young so I’d recommend staying away from meds until you are sure nothing else can work (scary messing with hormones when you’re not done developing) but at the very least just start to bring up the topic of mental health around your parents and see how they react. I knew by the way my mom criticized people with anxiety that she would say the same things to me and I was correct. I hid everything from her after that from age 13 to now. Recently I told her I am being medicated and she was very understanding and gave me a hug. Things can change and your parents love you so as long as you gauge it properly with them and are able to talk to them about it calmly (without seeming like you’re being dramatic) they will listen. Last bit of advice would be to come to them first because if they notice you’re a bit off and come to you first it can be scary to not be prepared for it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2023-05-26T05:38:12', 'parent_id': 't3_13isbym'}, {'comment_id': 'k8a1ulu', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': 'Don\'t worry about it coming off as faking it. You know you aren\'t, and a Doctor (most doctors\\*) would never assume you\'re faking a symptom you tell them is happening to you. It\'s always better to go to a Doctor, even if it\'s ""nothing."" When I was younger, I felt the same, though. So I hope this response may help you feel a bit better. Doctors hear so many crazy things throughout their day...and it\'s what they are trained to do! Doctors love helping people, and I\'m certain a Doctor would not reprimand you for wanting to feel happier and healthier. \n\nPlease, see someone. When I got on SSRIs at 16, It was my miracle cure--not that this is the case for everyone, but seeing a doctor can help you find your peace too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-11-08T04:10:27', 'parent_id': 't3_13isbym'}]"
12yq1mw,2023-04-25T22:58:47,"My mental state influences my job choice, it’s a problem.","I am not diagnosed with anything but will see a doctor soon. I need to get this off my mind and maybe some advice. I know it’s a lot to read, but please hear me out. Thanks.

**tl;dr: I do risky thinks and put myself in danger because I want to push myself too far into overwork and getting overwhelmed. Suffering feels not only like being alive but being worth anything. It makes me feel recognized, I want people to look at me and see my effort and my worth. That’s why I think I am not in a position to become a doctor of any kind, I don’t do it to save someone, just to feel worthy by making myself suffer from overwork.**

I show many symptoms of the white knight syndrome, seems like I have a hero complex and it influences my job choice. I soon have to decide what job I want to do, therefore what I need to study. My grades are average, I’m not a bad student but not super hard working either. I live in the middle of almost nowhere but I could move, and probably have to, to study at a university of choice if I even get that far. I love series like Doctor House and other similar ones. I am not very sensitive with injuries or body fluids etc. This only adds to my problem.

First of all, it’s very difficult to decide what job I want to do in general, I wake up with different ideas too often and get bored of those after a short time. I can’t stick to a plan but I have to decide soon. My current dream job is pathologist, this requires excellent grades and a long long time studying for it. I believe I am capable of it but I am worried.

The human and everything around it fascinates me, about the mind, psychology, surgeries, toxicology, organs, biology, neuroscience, and so much more.  I am also very interested in anything with weapons, guns, knives, all kinds of martial arts, my last job idea was to join the army and become a sniper. (I’m not from the us, I’m from Europe) That’s also a rather extreme profession, very difficult, I’d need to be super fit physically and mentally.

I don’t exactly know why, but I can’t help wanting to put myself in these dangerous situations, overwhelming and stressful ones. Deep down I want to prove that I am capable to deal with it, that I can be the greatest and that I would be invincible. I can’t help but imagine myself in these situations where I am the hero at the end, often suffering too.  It is sadistic sometimes and makes me feel like a madman. I’ve been like this since I was a child, always imagining that people around me suffer so that I could shine while saving them. Only in my early teens it happened that I started putting/imagining myself in danger or self-injurious behavior too.  That’s why I am scared (regardless of if my grades would be good enough) that these are wrong jobs for me.

I can’t help but find it “cool” to be the one saving someone even if it includes failing. It’s not about saving someone, saving someone’s life or fighting for my country, it’s about me getting feeling good about myself.  This morning I drifted off into a daydream about someone taking too many drugs, (I dont know much about medical stuff so this might not be realistic) he had heart failure, was clinically dead and ofc I was the one to help first, did cpr, didn’t help, tried giving him any antidote I magically had with me and after a very stressful period of time he was alive but very weak. Since it was so stressful I broke down too, almost fainted and had to be saved as well.  As you can see, it’s childish and dumb, it’s not about me saving someone’s life, it’s about me getting attention and feeling good about myself.I  made another post about this, I can’t help but overwork myself.I mentioned that I’m not a hard working student, I have always been fond of people who worked hard. There was a time when I felt I wasn’t worth anything just because I never really had to work hard for anything, I was always lucky and spoiled.I workout until I am dizzy, I fainted because of this, when I’m hungry I don’t eat sometimes. I think “a bit longer won’t hurt” but very deep down it’s just “you don’t deserve to eat, you should suffer“. I am healthy overall, guess I am lucky. My bmi is normal I am very happy with my looks, so I don’t have an eating disorder. It’s also not that people being worried about me “oh, you didn’t eat anything all day, are you okay?” is why I do this. I say that I want to be recognized but I don’t even want people to interfere with my life that much or influence it or be worried about me, working out until I get dizzy and almost faint isn’t in order for people to see me weak like that, it makes me and my existence feel valid and good when I am like that. People shouldn’t notice it, they would make too much drama of it.

I do risky thinks and put myself in danger because I want to push myself too far into overwork and getting overwhelmed. Suffering feels not only like being alive but being worth anything. It makes me feel recognized, I want people to look at me and see my effort and my worth.

Read the other post if you want more infos, but it’s a very long post. This is a second private account.

This is why I don’t think that being a doctor of any kind (a pathologist at least doesn’t need to save anyone like a normal doctor and usually works with dead people) or being a soldier is any good.

Feels hard to say it, but I can’t do a job simply because I want to get attention from it + I know my daydreams are nothing like real life and just movie inspired. Attention in terms of people recognizing me, suffering and being the hero seems to me like people look at me. They don’t have to care, just notice. I don’t want to entertain people, just that I am the center of attention. God it feels so bad to write this, I wish I weren’t so selfish but in the end it is what it is… I just want to feel like I am worth anything. Having a job that I like doesn’t even occur to me, I don’t have any hobbies, in my free time I sit around all day, stay in bed or workout. I wouldn’t know what else I like to do. And I am stick of my lifestyle, I’d rather do something exhausting. I don’t mind getting up in the middle of the night for work, putting myself in danger or anything like that.But saying that also feels wrong, if my thoughts weren’t like this and wouldn’t tell me that I need to do this to be valid, I’d just want a normal life. No putting myself in danger. I don’t even care that much about people as that I’d really put my life in danger to save theirs.

I feel so bad about this, I don’t know what to do. I can draw well, that kinda my talent and my mom wants me to do something artistic. That isn’t my cup of tea at all, it’s so boring. How could I feel alive like that? Having such a normal job, not being recognized. Even if I were a famous artist and people would look at me and know me it wouldn’t be the same. There’s no suffering in that. There’s not worth in that. There is no need to step out of my comfort zone or overwhelming work or anything in that. There is no life in that. That’s what I feel like, I don’t want to insult anyone. I admire passionate people. I am not passionate about anything really.

Also, I don’t want to invalidate anyone else’s problems and pain and suffering. I am sure there’s something wrong with me, I had a normal childhood and was never abused. I do lack emotional closeness to my parents but except that, everything in my life is normal. It’s all going well, as I said, I’ve always been lucky. Things just came to me without me having to do much for them, it’s like I didn’t put any effort into anything. So I feel like I should suffer too to deserve it, to deserve life. Apart from it being one of the only things that makes me feel alive. But it also makes me feel bad for people who had to sacrifice their childhood or teenage years or anything else to achieve or live up to their or someone else’s expectations. It shouldn’t be like that. I hate expectations, I just want to do what I want without having to justify it to anyone. But I don’t want to harm anyone because I am being selfish. I need help.

Just what do I do? I’m f, 18.",mentalhealthadvice,4,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/12yq1mw/my_mental_state_influences_my_job_choice_its_a/,[]
11gcp8e,2023-03-03T01:45:09,Am i lazy,"So I'm in school and have shity grades like i pass but its like the bare minimum. And now the big exams are close so I'm trying to study. Like I can understand some stuff but mostly I'm really not doing good and the problem is when I'm in class and I have like an assignment I most likely do very little because I just can't concentrate on it like it feels like I can understand what needs to be done but I just cant, like my brain is on fire and I just cant do it(ofc I finish it some time and then its not that hard most of the time but i need to study in school bc at home i can bearly get to it if i dont have some sort of deadline). 

Like i would love it if i could just study normally. But I just can't concentrate and I really try. And honestly, if someone who knows something about mental health issues could tell me I'm just lazy or not would be good so I can either fully embrace being lazy or maybe actually get help or something and start living normaly.

And like I have thought oh maybe I have adhd or something but personally, i don't think the symptoms match up that much like the only thing is not being able to concentrate on stuff like biology, math and other ""smart"" subjects, so it just sounds dumb. I have heard that for people born females ( im a trans guy), the signs are different from the male ones but idk.",mentalhealthadvice,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/11gcp8e/am_i_lazy/,"[{'comment_id': 'jeszbg9', 'author': 'squidsquideet', 'body': 'Hey is just like to say that although it probably doesn’t feel like it I think what you’re experiencing is very normal and it sounds like you’re putting too much pressure on yourself and being too hard! \n\nI think it’s a hugely normal experience having trouble concentrating and struggling to get motivation and get work done and study even though you understand the concepts and understand what you need to do! I think these problems are especially normal is school where you’re studying a huge range of things! Some of them you’ll find easy naturally and interesting and some of them won’t be suited to how your brain works and you’ll find extra difficult, it’s very normal to find the things you enjoy are good at and that you find interesting easier and everyone’s different!\n\nIf anything I’d try to look at the things you find easier and more interesting and see if there’s a common theme, for example I always found concrete things like maths and science with right or wrong answers very difficult and more conceptual things like philosophy, psychology etc more interesting and a lot easier. Once you find out what you’re good at if you want to study after school you can focus on those things, no job involves all the subjects like school does and it’s a part of life that people find what they’re good at and focus in on that honing their natural talent, skills and interests into something they can be good at and enjoy. No one is good at everything across the board! \n\nIf it’s any consolation, when I studied something I found really interesting even the subjects that weren’t suited to me were HEAPS easier to focus on because they were related to my interest and I could see a way that learning would be applicable and used in my life. School isn’t like that, you learn a lot of things you’ll never use again and without seeing yourself using them in the future and getting you towards your goal, it makes sense that it’d be hard to concentrate and hard to study!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-04-03T22:11:43', 'parent_id': 't3_11gcp8e'}]"
z5krwa,2022-11-27T04:37:00,How do I handle getting bad news nearly everyday?,"For the past few months, everyday has been receiving bad news. Failing classes. Family issues. Health issues. Health issues with my family. Struggles with making friends. Money issues. Essentially, the hole of darkness grows deeper. This year has had more bad than good, and I feel like I am cycling through the stages of grief on repeat. Any advice for coping with bad news so frequently. I feel like there is no joy in my life. I am in counseling and seeking medical attention, but I would like to hear how others deal with it.",mentalhealthadvice,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/z5krwa/how_do_i_handle_getting_bad_news_nearly_everyday/,"[{'comment_id': 'j2ynmdn', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'When it rains, it pours. Truest shit ever. \n\nThe thing that helped the most was like documentaries about literal starving African children. Seriously. I leaned real deep into gratitude.  It helped that it wasn\'t even for myself... I had to come up with ways to encourage my loved ones to keep going. Reminders of how much worse it could be seemed to bring comfort to all of us. Some people would kill for your life. \n\nAnd I thought about the millions before me who walked my path and how if they could do it, I could do it. And if it was good enough for them, it was good enough for me. I thought about how rough my grandparents\' lives were and all my ancestors before them. \n\nAnd I thought about how life is just like a movie. Just like a horror movie. Just sights and sounds and sensatations and love followed by heartbreak. \n\nAnd I screamed and cried and acted like a bitch in between.  Sometimes you just feel bad. \n\nSome people got this unshakeable faith things will get better. That a plot twist is due, and everything will turn around. I\'m not like that tho. I deal with what is.\n\nOh, and I forced myself into other people\'s lives. I didn\'t wait for them to offer to talk or see me. I talked *at* them and asked to come over.  I took control of my social needs, surrounded myself with confederates, fought the constant impulse for ""me time"" (binging on the internet in bed).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-01-05T02:58:56', 'parent_id': 't3_z5krwa'}, {'comment_id': 'jet04vu', 'author': 'squidsquideet', 'body': 'The biggest thing that helped me was taking time out of my day every single day to focus on the good things even if all I could think of was that I have food and shelter that day. It’s like excercise for your brain, the more you focus on the good the more it becomes visible to you without even trying. Our brains are wired to recognise patterns for survival and they’re very quick to learn and efficient at doing so. Your brain can very easily be trained to see only the bad things everywhere but almost as easily trained to see the good. I don’t think it’s so much learning how to cope with bad news as bad news will always be there, it’s more about learning to also focus on the good! Your brain is mouldable like your body and you can train it to be and do things you want it to if you’re consistent and that’s super empowering, it just takes alot of time and effort! Fight against having yourself and your life being defined by all the bad and spend some more time focusing on the good, you can do it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-04-03T22:17:02', 'parent_id': 't3_z5krwa'}]"
y0z4fe,2022-10-11T09:33:30,I'm avoiding dealing with what I think is schizophrenia.,"To be clear, I am NOT self-diagnosing schizophrenia.  I am, however, showing many of what I think are symptoms of schizophrenia.  Depersonalization, mania, disorganized thinking, word salad, auditory hallucinations, anxiety, paranoia, and thought blocking to be specific.  I'm also at the age when symptoms of schizophrenia begin to present in adults.  I know I should talk to my psychiatrist about this, but I'm hesitant because if it actually is schizophrenia, I really don't want to be labeled as crazy.  Most of the people who know me know I've spent time in a mental hospital and that I'm already mentally and emotionally unstable with manic tendencies.  I'm pretty sure people already think I'm nuts, but adding schizophrenia to that is only going to double down on people's already existing thoughts that I'm crazy.  I know avoiding it and waiting for it to go away is unhealthy and counterintuitive, but I'm not at a point where I can bring myself to reach out to a professional and get help for it.  What should I do?",mentalhealthadvice,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/y0z4fe/im_avoiding_dealing_with_what_i_think_is/,"[{'comment_id': 'irvlf0q', 'author': 'Opposite-Birthday69', 'body': 'You need to talk to a psychiatrist. Honestly the symptoms could also be bipolar, schizoaffective, PTSD. Ether way you need to talk to someone about it because if you truly think it’s schizophrenia then you need to get it diagnosed because being unmediated without the correct medication can have areas of your brain go away like how dimeta (can’t spell) does to peoples brains. The areas will shrink over time', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-10-11T17:03:15', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'iwvxh0u', 'author': 'Littlerainbow02', 'body': 'You definitely should go and talk to a professional. Not going will not change the fact that you battle a mental illness, it will only make things worse. Not going is literally just suffering much more then is needed. A professional can help you understand what is happening and help you find ways that work for you, as well as help you manage your symptoms and can also give you medication to increase your comfort', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-11-19T00:56:54', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'iznrlum', 'author': 'interpretation99', 'body': 'you find ways that work for you, i know you can do that', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-12-10T19:45:52', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'j0o8pbb', 'author': 'Utterly_Togetic', 'body': 'Hello friend! Psych nurse here. First, thank you for sharing; this must be so scary for you, and it\'s gotta be hard to talk about this.\n\nAs others have mentioned here, what you\'re going through could be a number of things, including schizophrenia. However, it\'s not uncommon for mood disorders like major depressive and bipolar to present with what are called psychotic features (a name that might bring a lot of preconceived notions to mind, but what\'s important is that these are signs/symptoms that just mean ""disorganized thinking""). These symptoms can also be caused by the use of some substances or medications.\n\nWhile we can\'t be certain what might be going on without testing by a physician, the insight you\'ve given here is a hopeful sign imho. It can be very difficult for us to discern what is and what isn\'t really there when experiencing these scary things, and having some level of recognition re: symptoms of psychosis is often associated with positive outcomes. Keep us updated how you\'re doing, if you\'d like! We\'re rooting for you 🌻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-12-18T09:42:42', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'j7tqsj0', 'author': 'wisely_lined56', 'body': 'Being able to recognize the difference between what is real and what is imagined during these terrifying experiences is crucial.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-02-09T15:23:30', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'jetll0x', 'author': 'squidsquideet', 'body': 'It sounds like you have really good insight into your symptoms. I totally understood your resistance to the stigma that can come along with some of these symptoms and your self consciousness at how you are perceived by others. Getting support for these symptoms and getting them under control with professional help will only help with how you feel about yourself and how others view you. If you do receive a diagnosis there is no need to share that with others if you are worried about how they may react, and there is also no reason why these symptoms in themselves or a diagnosis would mean you need to be hospitalised. It sounds like you absolutely need some support and guidance, you don’t need to manage these things by yourself and a good doctor will treat you with respect and commend you for your insight and proactivity in getting some help!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-04-04T00:37:01', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}]"
xv0hiw,2022-10-04T06:10:32,Friend Advice,"Hey everyone! Recently my friend has started to really decline in his mental health and started to use unhealthy coping mechanisms to cope, the kind where if we were in say middle school I would report him to Guidance or possibly tell his parents, however we're both at that age where you are expected to figure things out for yourself. I've always tried to remind him that I'm here for him, and that he's not alone, but I'm a kid. I'm not a licensed therapist, or his dad, I can't heal whatever is going on with him, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't mad at him for declining so rapidly, especially since this is something that could easily be prevented (For reference he is dealing with prediagnosed mental illness, not any sort of outer triggers) if he talked to an adult, or told his mom he really wasn't doing well. I know I sound like an asshole saying this, but I'm tired of him relying on other people to fix this for him, especially since ever since I was little I've been expected to be independent mental-health-wise and find a way to feel better myself. I'm tired of being the one to hold him, especially since I know if I wasn't there he could just find someone to replace me. But I also want him to feel safe and to get better. Sorry this was so long, but does anyone have advice?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/xv0hiw/friend_advice/,[]
xu0k2m,2022-10-03T03:04:33,What is Therapy? Helping Humans Heal,,mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://youtube.com/watch?v=ighJIt8fuz0&feature=share,"[{'comment_id': 'iqt0036', 'author': 'luckis4losersz', 'body': ""Hey everyone my name is Syed, I am a PhD student in psychology who creates videos related to my research area and clinical work. In today's video, I delve into 'therapy' as a metaphysical concept and practical aspects such as what elements from my experience as a developing psychologist are most conducive to 'good therapy'. I zero in on multi-modal assessment, therapeutic alliance, personality factors and what an individual should look for in a health professional. I touch on my own experience working with youth who often do not believe they have an issue (i.e, they are volunteered on behalf of parents/teachers). I use clips from 'Split', 'the Departed', 'Seinfeld', 'the Sopranos', 'the Wire' & ‘Patch Adams.’"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-10-03T03:04:47', 'parent_id': 't3_xu0k2m'}]"
wz603f,2022-08-27T21:14:22,Im scared and confused,"Using a throwaway as my boyfriend also has access to this laptop and i dont want to scare him - also a trigger warning for suicidal thoughts, abuse, and depression.

I have struggled with my mental health my entire life, my dad was emtionally/mentally abusive, other family issues, i have been suicidal a lot of my life after 15 years old, and have struggled with anixety my entire life so severe that i am often delusional about things that are meant to be normal (example, my anxiety focuses on embarrasment and the fear of so much that i often struggle to  cross a road even if there is no cars there, because if i get hit by a car, to me that would be so horribly embarassing) - theres a lot going on in my brain 24/7 and yet i still have one unanswered question that bothers me.

When the dperession comes again as it does so often, there seems to be no in between when it comes to being fine and suicidal - i dont feel depression without suicidal thoughts, and it seems to turn dark very quickly. i have never attempted but have been very close many many times. I just feel the need to find an answer as to why i cant just be depressed without it being so dark.

If anyone has any ideas i would really appreciate it, and sorry if this is way too much information, i just never know exactly what needs to be said. -E",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wz603f/im_scared_and_confused/,"[{'comment_id': 'iqx0ztv', 'author': 'Blackfox_357', 'body': 'I am really carefull with giving advice bc i am no therapist. You should probably talk open about it with your boyfriend. Bc he will definitely get the hints when you are down. He maybe can help you. And then I am recommending to search help from a therapist. I hope I can help. Greetings from Germany.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-10-04T00:13:08', 'parent_id': 't3_wz603f'}]"
wy2rwg,2022-08-26T13:06:38,Where is my mind?,"I had a crazy roller over a year and a half ago. It really threw my perception of reality off , I wasn't hurt whatsoever , basically I sped at 110 hit a dip in the road , caught a bit of air time. Fish tailed crazy, almost hit another car on the highway, aimed at a landline I uttered "" the wheels in your hands jesus "" maybe as a manifestation who knows? Glared at my rosary I had at the time and spun the roulette wheel ( I spun the sterling wheel the opposite direction ) 
Instead of hitting the landlines I rolled over the road , then rolled over 2 more times. 

I come out of the vehicle unscaved,  the sun breaks the clouds and the gent I almost head on collisioned flipped a bitch, checked on me, told me to go to church that Sunday, called the local authorities.

After this I was in a surrealistic state. I met a girl and it opened me up a bit. I got a close connection without a relationship, a few months which my sister died. I ghosted her and everyone I knew in some cloud of depression with suicidal thoughts. I let this all ride me in this crazy overwhelming cocktail. We connected a few months after I ghosted her. We got together , she moved in. I realized we had similar vices. Wasted time on such, not the best with rent. We had gotten jobs together,  chose a place way far out and it wrecked our finances with gas plus pre explained poor prioritization. I was living on my own for almost 2 years no issues. I got too depressed let stress of this whole ordeal get the better of me. I let myself turn this seed that could've bloomed bright into a toxic night, mare. 

A few months in, she got harassed at work. ( whole other issue not necessary to explain). We both quit, unemployed for a bit. She moved out. We digressed. Communication digressed.  We weren't benefiting each other through communication.  Arguments ensured, we made a lot of love ( apologize for tmi) we both questioned if it was just lust.

A part of me is so deeply bound towards what I felt when we had sex. I'm sorry to sound so vain or lustful. Self centered or whatever. I've had a mismatched life. A few months into our relationship her grandma died. ( very close ). My mother died a month after ( I want the closest, she was a drug addiction. OD Ed in jail ) 

Either or, ik death can bring the worst out in us. 
She felt like my soulmate. 
I feel like I dropped the ball so many times
Near the end of the relationship she was way more reserved. Very cut off emotionally, I felt like I kept trying to smoothen things out. I'd fall through communication sometimes,  I'd be too frustrated a bit and come off a bit rude and we'd argue. Finally it digressed and 2 nights ago she had assaulted me given I told her she shouldn't drive intoxicated home. I offered to call her mom or an uber , as well as drive her she declined. No license, dirty regirstion no insurance . She left , I called 988 ( Google it ) she came back.



Screamed who is that on the phone? At the random operator lady helping me I suppose. Either way I hung up, said she lost her phone.shes arguing , rude , still drunk. We walk around for her phone. I check everywhere good. Old lady tenant by where I checked told us to leave if we didn't live there. She yelled at the old lady called her names. A couple in their 40s 50s had tired to assist verbally with the tension but they sorta minded themselves watching. We checked her car again, she slapped me very badly, very obviously. Eventually we got back mid complex where my unit is , we sat. I talked to her. She got upset, she tried to claw me. I dodged them. She was shaking crying she lost her phone her stuff w her grandma. It felt different, like I'd fallen out of love I didn't know who I was looking at. 

At this point it milds  out, she goes into the unit. On my bed , knock knock policia  

I was faded coming down from being a bit high off a thc pen. Anxiety high after all of that realism.  I accidentally say she's in the unit they go to talk to her. I think it's up I'm going to jail damn. I told them she acted in self defense I didn't let her leave since she's drunk. I didn't want her to get a dui since I've gotten one before. Cop was a bit 6 6 gent. Both stern men, I could see their glares. Eventually after the 2nd spoke to her, the tallest one I was speaking to said she's going to jail. I was shocked I mentioned again I held her. I pushed her a few times. She was scared for her life it felt. 

This guy basically had me understand how fucked up I looked. And told me to realize she looks fine. I'm a victim

A grown man telling you that, man to man is a crazy gut check. I lost some morals and standards along the journey so far. I'm not sure how to feel. This relationship at the end , had opened an old addiction. Subconsciously maybe I thought it'd be a saving grace, or the opposite to relapse. The coin flip sadly lands on usage either fork of the road. I've gone through rehab classes for a past dui, no advice needed on vices. This ordeal demolished urges to use whatever. I feel very flat

I feel direct. I feel like a rock bottom has been hit.
Emotionally I'm not sure. I loved her. We tried for a kid idk why for a few months. I felt close to her, I feel as if genuinely I was very intrusive and toxic which fucked us up bad. I let my prioties go when I could've been a rock. She is a good girl, she tired until her Witts  end. I hate to have seen someone so vibrant dull out their sparkle so much. I can't be the blame in total with her own respective grievance. 




Any advice guys? I love her, it feel so deep and sorrown.  I hate to admit despite the loss of drive to use I've relapsed with drinking smoking etc. I feel numb all together.
An eviction enuses,, a friend at work I've vented to lately and has been through similar ordeals is letting me crash at their place temporarily hopefully a roomate situation In a 2 bed. Either way

God let me live through a car crash
God gave me the opportunity to save some money living with a coworker possibly a stable condition in a 2 bed
It feels lie
God gave me her, 
And I misused the blessing 
I hadn't watered it effectively 
The soil I planted wasn't the purest foundation I could've put forth into a relationship 


I'm torn between , eviction facing me means I may lose these pets of mine dog 🐕 🐈 
Idk if that matters,  been homeless before. My brother is, mother way before she passed

Life's a trip and I feel like I can get some good vibrant waves to surf yet I don't let myself ride them out whole heartedly. I fall in the ocean and choke on the water a bit as if I can't swim, I've let myself divulge into terrible self destructive habits that hindered a solid opportunity for something I think was genuine at first. 

Dualialsatically guys, it was good sex. I hate to sound brainwashed by hormones.  But it was the driving force to get to know her sorta, always noticed we hadn't much in common

From the grt I noticed we had opposing personalities. Besides that w her pineal gland cyst she was very hormonallly imbalanced would get mad or pissy easy. I hate to think I let a seed ( relationship ) with so much potential falter. 
Her mother called me an hr or 2 after her arrest. She said why weren't you arrested why was she, I explained the officer told me I was the victim ( poorly phrased have you) ex GF old 80 yr old uncle said your lucky I don't go over and shoot you. The mom said you know she has 2 unless not in prison right? ( loose threat ) , other 2 uncles in prison are degenerative ex junkies or are wild cards. Don't get me wrong I can fight , I've boxed amongst other things.  Possibly I could get a legal fire arm for self defense. However it is eery to feel I need to have an excessive guard. It nice to hopefully not have a place in my name but a coworkers for however long for incognitive purposes. But what? I just ignore this shit? Idk how to roll through the dough of this thick flower


Any advice ?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wy2rwg/where_is_my_mind/,[]
wjfkxx,2022-08-08T23:31:12,Should I get my Mother Help?,"I'm in my early 40's and recently had a realization that my mother has suffered from mental health issues. A couple years ago her husband, my step-father passed away and she flew into a negativity spiral. This happened from time to time in the past and I had always just looked at it as ""that's the way mom is sometimes"". This time, since her husband was gone she had no one else to help her through this episode and it all fell to me. I became the focus of her pain and anger.

I reached out to a therapist for advice on how to help her. The therapist gave me some advice but it was mostly around how to manage our communication and set boundaries, etc. It was only after speaking with the therapist that I started to realize that my mother's outbursts throughout my life may not be normal, they might be a sign of mental illness. 

Many years ago my mother made me promise her that I would never put her in a home. She was emphatic about this and in her typically over-the-top fashion said she would rather die than be put in a home. I didn't think much of it at the time. Since then I've realized that she is likely aware of her illness and does not want to risk being ""found out"" through any sort of medical facility. She was always very hesitant to go to a hospital even if it was for someone else. She was especially resistant to any type of therapy.

I remember vividly being sent to a therapist when I was an adolescent. The combination of puberty and my mother had taken a severe mental toll on me and I was quite depressed. My mother was fed up and took me to see a therapist. I broke down completely during the session and the therapist asked me to send my mother in to talk before our next session. I relayed the message, my mother went in to speak with the therapist before my session. When my mother came out she grabbed my arm and dragged me out of the office fuming and said ""well, you're never going back there again!""

It's been two years since my step-father passed and the only communication I have with my mother is a text message or ten every few months. Usually saying something incredibly hurtful, racist, or expressing her pain and disappointment with me. Using the tips from the therapist I spoke with I've tried to set boundaries but that's no longer working. I even had to block my mother's number for my own mental health. After that, she continued the barrage via email. My last communication with her stated that if she wanted to continue to communicate with me in this way, I will have to break the promise I made so long ago and treat her outburst as a cry for help. Basically, telling her that if she continued to send hateful messages to me I would get her mental health help. There's been no communication since then.

I could go on and on about all the things she's said and done over my life and more recently since her husband passed, but only if it's helpful to anyone reading this. It causes me stress to think about the past and I am also stressed about how to help, or not help now and in the future. I don't want to burden my family with this issue. I tried telling my father (they've been divorced for nearly 40 years) and he broke down crying when I started telling him some of this.

I don't think my mother is going to hurt herself or anyone else. She occasionally threatens people but it's all a big dramatic show. For example, she was selling her husbands car to a family friend and when the buyer told her she was missing a specific document to finalize the sale she announced to the entire room (they were in a AAA office) that she was going to get a gun and come back and shoot everyone. Of course she didn't, she doesn't own a gun, as far as I know. But that's the type of over-the-top statements she can make.

So all that lead up for a simple question. Should I get my mom help? Fully realizing that this would be against her will and breaking a promise I made to her.

Thanks to anyone who reads this and wants to help.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wjfkxx/should_i_get_my_mother_help/,[]
wf3hwj,2022-08-03T16:25:02,Why do i think I'm having a heart attack if my chest hurts???,"My brain immediately goes to negative thoughts health wise, I've looked and Haven't found anything talking about this, i don't even know if it's anxiety related but please tell me I'm not alone

Multiple times i have felt a pain in my side or a hurting stomach and my brain immediately says ""what if your internally bleeding? I've tried sleeping many times but couldn't until i checked in light that i wasn't. 
I've had a pain in my head the reasonable answer was probably a migraine but my brain said ""what if it's a tumor? What if it's a brain bleed? "" and just like in my title i have a chest pain and my brain thinks it's a heart attack. Why is that?  What is this???",mentalhealthadvice,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wf3hwj/why_do_i_think_im_having_a_heart_attack_if_my/,"[{'comment_id': 'iiun69d', 'author': 'gettingby02', 'body': 'So, there\'s technically two terms for this with overlapping features, but there are distinctions that you\'ll see as I explain it.   \n\nThe first being Health Anxiety, also known as Hypochondria or Illness Anxiety Disorder. It\'s a specific subset of Anxiety in which the focus of your anxiety is on your health, especially illnesses, disabilities, etc. For some, this could be having intrusive thoughts / anxiety about their symptoms or potential disorders, while for others, they may actually diagnose themselves or see doctors excessively about their symptoms. They may exaggerate symptoms in their mind or by the way they talk about it / act. Others may try to avoid seeing doctors or talking about symptoms / illnesses due to their anxiety. Some even have increased anxiety, heart rate, etc. in the presence of doctors. This may or may not be caused by or increased due to increased exposure to health information / PSAs or having a family member that is obsessed with health in some way.   \n\nThis anxiety may or may not come with the second term, which is Somatic Intrusive Thoughts. These thoughts can be experienced even if you don\'t have Health Anxiety -- there\'s a subset of OCD focused on this type of thought, and you can have them without either disorder. These thoughts are focused on the body and its processes, like blinking rate, breathing rate, heart rate, digestion, etc. You may or may not have compulsions / rituals like people with OCD do to try and dissuade the thoughts, and they may be more like ""Pure O"" OCD in which compulsions are internal. I have this type of intrusive thought myself, but it\'s rarer and usually under more stress than normal. It\'s usually my heart rate, being able to ""feel my veins"" more (which is like being hyperaware of them), breathing rate, being hyperaware of my spit-swallowing, etc. \n\nHope this helps! :>', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-08-04T05:34:42', 'parent_id': 't3_wf3hwj'}, {'comment_id': 'iivd2hd', 'author': 'NannoIsNanno', 'body': 'Thank you very much!  I appreciate it :))', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-08-04T08:58:41', 'parent_id': 't1_iiun69d'}]"
w2cj5o,2022-07-19T04:14:01,I need advice. I’m pretty sure my sister (30f) is going to try to kill herself.,"My (28f) sister is very depressed. She is constantly telling me how tired and exhausted she is from our family and how she wishes she had the motivation to get her life together. I should add that she has tried to kill herself once before when she was 19 and was diagnosed as bipolar but she refused to take the meds prescribed to her. She refuses to go see any one about it, and the times we have convinced her to go see someone, the doctors have completely missed the point or she put on a face where she is completely fine. I don’t know what to do. I can’t legally do anything. Every time I even bring up therapy she get really angry with me. I fear that before I can even do anything to help she will be dead. Please help",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/w2cj5o/i_need_advice_im_pretty_sure_my_sister_30f_is/,[]
w06w4b,2022-07-16T08:55:35,A downward Spiral with Depression . Maybe a mental health day,"So I recently started a job it very simple. I deal with severe depression and anxiety. It hasn't been right since losing my last job. Anyways, they treat me like crap and make me feel useless today which has make me want to quit. Teasing and leaving me by myself to do some of the orders. I'm thinking about taking tomorrow off just for mental health. I really just want to be alone from everyone just to like reset. How should I go about it with my boss?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/w06w4b/a_downward_spiral_with_depression_maybe_a_mental/,[]
vou3em,2022-07-01T12:04:03,can a therapist have to report anything to a legal guardian without telling a minor?,The text answers the entire question but I'm thinking about getting therapy and am worried that they'll say something to my parents. So is a therapist is allowed to say anything to my parents? I don't want my parents finding out since they're a big reason as to why I want to get therapy.,mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vou3em/can_a_therapist_have_to_report_anything_to_a/,"[{'comment_id': 'iehk1dw', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'When I went, my therapist had to get permission from me to even answer a phone call from my mom. Unless you’re threatening to harm yourself or others, I’m pretty sure they do not say anything without your permission.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-02T00:36:26', 'parent_id': 't3_vou3em'}]"
vncct2,2022-06-29T15:44:25,Severe Anxiety,"Long story ahead

Almost 2 years ago, I moved 50 miles away from the small town where I'd lived my whole life to a much more populated area. I Shortly thereafter totaled my car and couldn't afford to buy a new one. For reasons I don't want to get into, I didn't have health insurance when I first moved, so I had to stop taking my anxiety medicine. I have had severe anxiety my whole life. I had to wait a long time to start receiving health benefits from my new job. I haven't been to a checkup in 2 years and haven't been to a GP that wasn't my small town doctor. 

But recently my anxiety has gotten so bad that it's been hard to leave my apartment at all, even to go for a walk. My anxiety has made my job very difficult,  as it does involve talking to people a lot. My anxiety has also made me irritable. I stress all the time and regularly have severe panic attacks at work. 

Here's my question.  How I go about explaining all this to a new doctor without sounding like I'm just trying to get pills? Also, will they let me get a prescription for my old medicine on the first appointment? (My mom was a helicopter parent and wouldn't even let me make my own doctors appointments.  Also, I have severe anxiety involving doctors, talking on the phone, and uber, which I'll have to do since I don't have a cat.) 

Any advice helps!",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vncct2/severe_anxiety/,[]
vlkeo1,2022-06-27T07:39:22,Is it still a mental breakdown if i'm not crying?,"Tw: slight sh mention?

 Is it still mental breakdown if i'm not crying or would it just be normal depression? Its like, if i've been struggling with really bad depression for awhile and theres just a really really big spike like, i'm pulling my hair and feel like i'm gonna cry but i don't, is it still a mental breakdown?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vlkeo1/is_it_still_a_mental_breakdown_if_im_not_crying/,[]
vjb0kl,2022-06-24T05:40:14,Is this normal?,"Hi, so I’m 20(they/them) and I feel as though I’ve come the realization that I am very incapable of slowing down. I just don’t know how. Like it might be bc I’m scared to feel my emotions yes but I’m ready to feel them now😭. Basically I can’t even keep a routine bc just knowing I did that same thing yesterday or whatever makes me feel horrible. If I’m distracted or I’m doing something else to make it different or fun then it’s fine ig but this is rlly starting to become a problem. I can’t keep a job for too long bc I get so bored and burnt out. I would suck it up like idc if it’s boring but it’s physically painful for some reason. I’m not sure I have an actual question I’m just confused. I do have several diagnoses like depression, anxiety, bipolar II, adhd, panic disorder + Cptsd. Also p sure I have bpd or like some schizophrenic/dissociative disorder and other things but that’s that. Okay that sounds like a lot but I’m seemingly normal haha. Just could use some advice on how to help this issue, thanks <3",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vjb0kl/is_this_normal/,[]
v9amg4,2022-06-10T21:14:04,Anyone interested in FREE COUNSELING? I need a participant for my graduate school assignment!,"Hi everyone!

My name is Clare and I’m a graduate student currently working towards getting my Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling to become a therapist/counselor. So for one of my courses this semester I’m supposed to find a willing participant to provide free counseling services to for an assignment (this will last about 6 weeks with a total of 6 sessions) and we can do this via chat, Zoom, etc. And of course, we can talk about whatever you like! Let me know what is currently troubling you and I will do my very best to assist you! If you’re interested in some FREE counseling with a therapist/counselor-in-training please DM me and we can discuss! And I'd also be more than happy to answer any questions you may have! Additionally, I have an Informed Consent form that you would need to sign electronically as well! Thanks so much in advance for assisting me with my assignment! :)",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v9amg4/anyone_interested_in_free_counseling_i_need_a/,[]
v7q0ac,2022-06-08T19:15:08,Need advice on how to help someone drive safe and take care of themselves,"Not sure if this is the right sub for this but maybe someone can point me in the right direction.

I have a family member dealing with bipolar depression and I am not sure what medication they are on. However, they do take their medication on a regular basis. This individual has stopped taking care of themselves (aka doesn't shower or maintain cleanliness in their living space). It is difficult for my siblings to compel this person to do these basic tasks as we have collectively confronted them on the matter previously. Their odor is extremely hard to ignore. I am a couple weeks out from becoming a parent and i want my child to know their family but their current situation would be problematic for all parties involved. What can we do to help them want to take care of themselves?

There is also the issue of their driving. Several neighbors have complained about erratic driving. My siblings and I fear the worst might happen if they continue to drive as they do but at the same time we acknowledge how significant driving privileges are. My siblings and I have families and full-time jobs and would be able to chauffeur this person around. Anyone else dealing with a similar situation or have any suggestions on how to confront these issues?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v7q0ac/need_advice_on_how_to_help_someone_drive_safe_and/,[]
v715ea,2022-06-07T22:21:49,Hi does anyone know how to get diagnosed online?,"I am unable to physically go to a doctor but my mental health is really bad I'd like to at least know what was up, does anyone know any website that could help?",mentalhealthadvice,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v715ea/hi_does_anyone_know_how_to_get_diagnosed_online/,"[{'comment_id': 'icozfw9', 'author': 'SaltyMelon97', 'body': ""Where are you from? I know there's an app called livi where you can talk to a GP via video call which might help? But I am from the UK so it might just be for that area. Sorry if that doesn't help, I hope you get the help you need x"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-17T16:04:46', 'parent_id': 't3_v715ea'}, {'comment_id': 'icxtegr', 'author': 'ThrowawayForSlackers', 'body': 'im also from the uk, thank you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-19T18:18:36', 'parent_id': 't1_icozfw9'}]"
v4olsx,2022-06-04T18:42:04,"Hi I’m new to Reddit and I’m just needing a bit of advice. I’m from the UK and have struggled with my mental health for a while now. I have been on antidepressants, had countless therapies and nothing seems to be working for me, leading me to think it may be more than depression_",Help pls <3,mentalhealthadvice,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v4olsx/hi_im_new_to_reddit_and_im_just_needing_a_bit_of/,"[{'comment_id': 'ib566re', 'author': 'Ambz111angelface', 'body': '_Does anybody know how I would go about seeking an assessment from a proper psychiatrist? I am willing to go private if the NHS route is longer, I just don’t know where to start. Thanks', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-04T18:42:28', 'parent_id': 't3_v4olsx'}, {'comment_id': 'icp08ef', 'author': 'SaltyMelon97', 'body': 'Hello, I am also from the UK. Ive been diagnosed with ADHD through psychiatry UK. If that is something you are looking at. There\'s this thing called ""right to choose"" where you can get your go to refer you to a private medical practitioner, I find it hard to explain so I\'ve linked the website on it. https://adhduk.co.uk/right-to-choose/ I\'m not sure if this applies to other mental health issues.\n\nI recommend researching different types of therapies as there are so many out there, some I\'d never heard of before. Systematic desensitisation, Rational emotive therapy, Gestalt therapy are some that I didn\'t know about, for example. \n\nI\'d recommend doing as much research yourself because honestly the system for mental health isn\'t the best, it\'s not been around for as long as other things and doctors can deal with it badly, based on mine and others personal experiences. \n\nI wish you all the best in finding the help you need x', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-17T16:14:52', 'parent_id': 't3_v4olsx'}]"
uzqxeo,2022-05-28T22:03:02,in need of reassurance,"I feel like every time I'm not doing great (at the moment I've got covid and have to quarentine and I'm struggling with lack of socialising) I come back to this feeling that deep down no one really likes me that much. I have loads of friends and I'm always busy but I feel like I don't make as meaningful connections with others as everyone else seems to have. I wanted to know if others feel this way? Where you think it might come from? And if there's any truth in it? Or am I jusy getting in my head? 
It probably seems silly that I can't tell for myself but even though I imagine it's probably just a bad thought pattern, I can't help but feel that it is true. I end up thinking negatively about all my relationships, like they're not really real and I don't know how to stop it. Sometimes it takes me a while of feeling badly about a relationship before I get to the bottom of it and realise that this same thought pattern has popped up again.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/uzqxeo/in_need_of_reassurance/,[]
us1hak,2022-05-18T06:51:48,I feel responsible for my friends mentalhealth...sos,"My roommate/best friend has alot going on in regards to mental illness, as do I, but it feels like I am completely responsible for them. They recently were cut off from their family (who was extremely toxic) and has been in terrible head spaces since. For at least 3 years I have been their rock and always put them first, but that has taken its toll on me as well and I have begun taking my mental health into account above all. Because of that their mental health has been declining even before the cut contact of their family and it just all feels like they are getting worse because I can't just suck it up and suffer so that they can be happy. I'm so stuck and feel so helpless at this point. Whatever I try to do to heal myself, feels like a double edged sword that comes back to cut them down. My husband has been supportive and reassuring, but it feels like we are watching our friend slowly slide back into the worst mental state we've seen them in. How do I enforce proper boundaries while also not making them feel like a burden? It doesn't help that our rooms are 20ft away, so they treat it like it was in college (before I was married) and don't knock or let mine and my husband's room feel like a private area.....help",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/us1hak/i_feel_responsible_for_my_friends_mentalhealthsos/,"[{'comment_id': 'i9qkrq5', 'author': 'sickbunbunn', 'body': 'This sounds like a tough situation but you are in no way responsible for someone else’s problems/ life. I understand that you want to support this person but sometimes it’s really not worth the suffering that it causes yourself. In reality there is probably nothing you can do if you yourself are struggling as well. I suggest maybe encouraging them to seek professional help if you are really worried about them. If they can’t help themselves you can’t let them take you down with them. That is not what friends are for. Friends lift each other up… and it’s not just a one way thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-05-24T03:55:53', 'parent_id': 't3_us1hak'}]"
un53pk,2022-05-11T13:59:54,How can I and my best friends help our best friend (F23) who has an emotional disorder?,"We are a group of 2 pairs of best friends, who met each other and became couples. Now I gonna call our best friend (F23) who has an emotional disorder like X to keep this thread as short as I can.

My girlfriend and her best friend (X) have already been BFFs since they are little before they met my bro (BF of X). Then we hang out as a group of best friends.

X had already gone to a therapy section for diagnosis and confirmed that she got an 'emotional disorder'.We are well aware of that and we tried not to push the emotional level when we had arguments. And when X has her time to calm down or at her normal level, she is one of the most rational I have ever known and always puts us on her priorities. She (with my girl and my bro) actually saved me from the darkest time of my life.  


But we also have our limits too and we aren't psychologists. We are well aware that this is her mental stage and not means to harm us. 

All the things X said when she gets into an emotionally unstable stage hurt us, especially my GF (also X's bestie). Most of the time, the argument can go from 0 to 100 really quick because of some minor details. Like we said something with no mean in it and she make up that we tried to put her down or something like that. And it's frustrated to talk logically or get to the important point when the argument goes like that.

And the worst part is when the emotional level goes too high, she always chose the worst options (telling us to shut up, trying to hurt us with words, running away, and saying she doesn't want this friendship, she never wants to see us again..). 

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So the routine is always like this: We have arguments, she got emotional explosions, we have breaks sometimes and wait for her to cool down, then we tried to get back to her, both sides apologize and sit down for little talks, done.

But the problem is 3 of us never have the space to say what we must and the next argument always comes back to the old routine. And now, my girl can't take it anymore cause of all the frustrations (which had already been built up for years).

We know we will never let her go, but we have to find a way to work this out. We can't let things come back on the same path. 

So, does anyone been through the same situation or got an idea to work this out? I appreciate any advice or sharing.

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Thanks for reading this. Just writing this down already to calm me down. So if you guys have just been here are already helping me a lot.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/un53pk/how_can_i_and_my_best_friends_help_our_best/,[]
ukvx2y,2022-05-08T12:10:04,What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I exist in reality?,"I posted this in another group but no one responded. I’m not complaining - just desperate for advice. 

TW// past trauma and sexual abuse mention


For context, I am diagnosed with bipolar 2, PTSD, major depressive disorder, anxiety, and ADHD (I know  anxiety can be a factor of ADHD, but my psychiatrist has them separate). I grew up in a traumatizing household of violence from both parents and a brother as well as sexual abuse from my father. I couldn't trust anybody and I raised myself. All promises kept were broken and no one told the truth - EVER. 

I am in a relationship with the most amazing man on the planet. I am in such a good place with my life too - I'm in one of the top universities for my major, I have really good friends, and I'm traveling the country for a few years. So why is my mind hurting me?

I'm always getting these really intrusive thoughts about lies/broken promises the people in my life could be committing against me. Things that would destroy the relationships I have with people. I see it happening in my head (I'm a visual thinker) and I get all of the emotions from it. It becomes a reality and I have to fight to push it away, but it always comes back. My mind decides these thoughts are reality and it finds ""logical"" ways to prove it. I have to shut my eyes, cover them with my hands, and cover my ears with my thumbs to push it away, and it could take minutes. It's so hard to explain - it's like there are two of me. The one that knows the truth and the other that sees the Bad Truth. I know it's fake but it's real at the same time. I've tried imagining the actual truth in an attempt to get the Bad Truth out of my head, but it never works. 

Does anyone else experience this or is there something wrong with me? What do I do? I'm on all of my meds (except I can't afford my Adderall), and I take them as prescribed. I'm so exhausted and I just want to trust the people in my life. It's so hard.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ukvx2y/whats_wrong_with_me_why_cant_i_exist_in_reality/,[]
ukhhq9,2022-05-07T22:27:12,How to deal with emotional bluntness and numbness,"I've been emotionally blunt for so long, sometimes I'm able to have times where I'll be happy but most of the time it feels fake

Usually I will have a monthly(usually 1-2 months apart) ""mental breakdown"" I usually cry for no reason or I will cry for no reason but then I find a reason to cry even more. This always happens at night and rarely but sometimes I'll wake up and go to school just sad for the whole day, always on the verge of tears. But the next day or even at night I'll be completely numb, and then I'll be emotionally blunt for another month to even half a year

it's getting tiring, I've asked for help online before, but people just tell me I need to not hold in my emotions or that I need to wait cuz this is all a coping mechanism for all the stress in my life

But I'm not trying to hold in my emotions, I sometimes just want to cry or even scream with how tired I am of being emotionally numb or blunt. 

I don't have a lot of stress in my life, at least I don't think I do. My brother can be physically and mentally/verbally abusive, but I don't get to affect by it to bad, and my mom can stress me out sometimes cuz she can be homophobic and transphobic sometimes but nothing supper crazy. I'm doing fine in school and my friendship with people is fine kinda(I only got 1-3 friends so nothing much)

I just hate feeling nothing positive or negative. I hate feeling in the middle, it's basically feeling nothing. It's not suffocating, it's boring and tiring waiting to feel anything other than nothing.

I've even tried to force myself to feel happiness, but it usually it is a very short amount of time, feels fake, or I just won't feel happy no matter what. So, I have tried to force myself to feel sad, it used to work but it's getting harder, and my monthly/half-yearly night ""mental breakdowns"" have been happening less. And those were the times I would have the most emotions even if it would last only an hour or two or even less than an hour.

I'm not suicidal and I have not intentions of SH, I am actually a year and 2-3 months clean(yay) but I'm just tired of it. I'm even scared of becoming suicidal like in the past

I'm becoming more blunt, and I just hate it, I'll even get mad at myself sometimes or I'll just be mad, and just want to scream. I'll sometimes have the want to scream at school, home/in my room, even around my parents/family. It's like I'm getting more mad from being numb and emotionally blunt all the time 

I'm just asking if anyone knows how to deal with this?

Or even someone to tell me I'm not alone even if I am

and I'm sorry for venting, it's just getting a little tough and I needed to tell someone",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ukhhq9/how_to_deal_with_emotional_bluntness_and_numbness/,"[{'comment_id': 'i8j9rwa', 'author': 'sillynewdle', 'body': 'i came here to write something similar. Waves of crying everyday to trying so hard to cry and nothing coming out. The need to cry to release the numbness but seems impossible. You’re definitely not alone. I see it as, if everything is held inside for too long without a proper outlet, it turns to anger and frustration. crying is a good example but so hard and it can’t b forced? sometimes looking at myself in the mirror makes me cry other times it does nothing. hit or miss on that one.  going somewhere and just screaming out loud also feels good. listening to music and dancing alone.  surrounding urself with people you actually enjoy. journaling is good too but hard if u live with snoopy people, somewhere u can write what ur feeling or not feeling. take something that mildly interests you and learn all abt it. Living in a toxic household does wonders at creating numbness, it’s awful, im sorry you’re going through this. sending u my love.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-05-14T08:40:00', 'parent_id': 't3_ukhhq9'}]"
uhhv7f,2022-05-03T20:23:17,Is my insurance the only one that has long gaps between sessions?,"I'm currently in the process of being treated for ADHD. I've always had issues focusing and many of the other symptoms. Lately it has gotten far far worse.

To get an appointment with a psychiatrist, it has been 6 months.

I also needed to see a therapist to discuss some things and figure out some issues I'm having. They only have appointments once every 2 to 3 months. 

I don't get how someone is supposed to get mental health this way with this kind of frequency. Is this normal?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/uhhv7f/is_my_insurance_the_only_one_that_has_long_gaps/,[]
u3upbo,2022-04-15T05:15:37,I need help,"I live w my mam grandad stepdad nd 3 siblings. I'm 16 years old and have been kicked out multiple times. I've been in Foster care for 2 and a half months in 2020. I was struggle with sh and now my mam is always giving out to me, no matter what she despises me I don't knkw why. I don't know how I'm gonna live to see tomorrow or the day after I can't take all the fighting, the dirty looks, the addiction to sh. Plz gimme sum advice",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/u3upbo/i_need_help/,[]
u3jb8x,2022-04-14T20:22:15,I think I have a problem and I need help,"Hi (sorry, non-native speaker here) I am a 22yo woman and i daydream/fantasize about torturing rapists/abusers, especially p*dophiles. My fantasies are quite graphic, and i feel good when i think about it (it actually provides me joy and relief???). I’ve been formerly groomed and abused multiple times, but I think it could have been worse for me. I haven’t fulfilled any of my fantasies and I think I will never do - not because of my ethics, but rather because I don’t think I have the required strength/I won’t have any occasions in my life. I do feel empathy, would never hurt an animal, a child, or any adult person that i do not see as abusive. Nevertheless, i hold the deepest grudge against abusers, both men and women (but especially men). I am afraid to talk about this because I creeped out my boyfriend when i told him that i « dreamt once» about torturing my abuser. He told me that it was weird and creepy, and i feel like i cannot deny it. I don’t know what to do, and i am afraid to bring up the subject with anyone, even my therapist. I don’t want to creep them out. I know that I might have a problem, I am quite impulsive and I have anger management issues. I lie about my mental state to everyone, and everyone thinks I have a well- balanced mental health, but even as a child, I always felt like I would burst out of rage one day - but I don’t know when. What should I do ? Is it normal for SA survivors or should I be concerned ?",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/u3jb8x/i_think_i_have_a_problem_and_i_need_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'i9qlvb4', 'author': 'sickbunbunn', 'body': 'I am in no way a mental health professional but I wouldn’t be surprised if this is a common thing. I really think you should get up the courage to talk to your therapist about it. I know it might feel a bit shameful to have these types of thoughts but you are not your thoughts. And It doesn’t make you any less of a good person that you are having these thoughts. I really hope you open up about this to a medical professional', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-05-24T04:04:42', 'parent_id': 't3_u3jb8x'}]"
u074ui,2022-04-10T06:59:35,hi guys,"so if u enjoy psychological stuff and diagnostic terms and all that goodness, can u try and make a differential diagnosis for me or like how would u describe my condition?

so basically at 12yo (im a female) my depression started up. i was acting like a psycho. quickly, my BPD symptoms started showing. gor a couple years my diagnosis was depressive bpd and heavy depression. but now im hallucinating, for a couple of months, im 17 now. i feel like im not real most of the time. i feel like this isnt just bpd anymore. ive had sleep paralysis for the first time a couple days back. for the past two years, i started having really bad nightmares, and when they turned daily, i started havin heavy sleep problems a year ago and to this day. i dont trust anyone anymore. i dnt trust police, doctors, sometimes my boyfriend, i constantly switch between friend groups because i feel like they are grouping against me. i have a constant buzz in my ear. my surface behaviour is normal/bpd or depressive like, so you cant tell from looking at me whats going on. 
also ive selfharmed and attempted to off myself over the years some times but i stopped trying recently.

i know i have a personality disorder, but which one do you think i would have? my mother has bpd and substance abuse disorder, my dad has depression, my sister is anxious bpd and adhd, and my cousin has pd as well. and maybe worth mebtioning my other cousin is also neurodivergent but he is autistic. ive been abused, raised by a person with narcissistic personality disorder, molested, neglected all my life and then disowned. i also have clear signs of ptsd BUT i dont have anxiety.

what mix of personality or other disorders do u think i couldbe developing? 
any advice?
any stories? :)
i needed to rant so i would be glad to converse with someone about things like this <3 have a nice day :)",mentalhealthadvice,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/u074ui/hi_guys/,"[{'comment_id': 'i450mhr', 'author': 'Individual-Past-4958', 'body': 'You’re not a physical person, you are a beautiful soul that is currently inhabiting a physical body. We are all guests on this Earth.\n\nYou are not your disorders either. They only exist in your mind - and you’re not your mind. It’s completely natural for humans to have disorders and health problems, look at our way of life. We’re told our name, who we are, what to do and how to behave. We’re not allowed to figure any of it for ourselves if we want to be a part of the society. We’re constantly repressing our emotions, our purpose, our true selves. From little things such as quietly sitting in school when we would love to run and sing and scream, to bigger things, such as repressing hate for the people who raised us, instead of just letting it go. Our minds are schizophrenic, and it’s not at all surprising. But it’s also not something we cannot change.\n\nYour mind and body are tools for your soul to gain experience in this world. We need experience in order to grow, to become aware, to be able to spread love.\n\nHave you tried meditation? Or spending some quiet, alone time somewhere in nature? Have you tried closing your eyes, putting your hands on your heart, feeling your gentle soul inside you, and telling it with your breath that it’s beautiful and loved? If you haven’t, please try! I hope it will help you the way it helped me.\n\nWe all have difficult times. Life is a bundle of experiences and we need to learn to accept all of them, even the ones that are not easy to accept.\n\nYou have your own story, you’re unique. Your struggle is unique. But don’t think that you’re it. You are much more, an immortal soul 🌈\n\nI’m sending Love your way and hope you get better and better with every new day! ❤️🍀', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-04-10T13:12:49', 'parent_id': 't3_u074ui'}, {'comment_id': 'i43y0cy', 'author': 'maybedead526', 'body': 'and i forgot to mention dissociation, ive dissociated very heavy often some years, but now recently i dont know when i am dissociating because i always feel like that. i dont feel real or like a physical thinking person.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-04-10T07:06:32', 'parent_id': 't3_u074ui'}]"
tt7epd,2022-04-01T00:49:50,I'm having really bad mental health,I felt really depressed the past month and I haven't been able to bring myself to shower or anything like that but I've finally managed to brush my teeth just not shower yet... the only person that seems to care about me is my best friend... no one else cares...,mentalhealthadvice,4,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/tt7epd/im_having_really_bad_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'i3zvvvh', 'author': 'PsychologicalClock28', 'body': 'I recently got an app on my ohone called Finch. \n\nBasically it has a little finch that you have to look after - the way you look after it is by looking after yourself and tracking it - so like every time you brush your teeth or have a shower it looks after the bird. It really helped me start showering!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-04-09T10:03:52', 'parent_id': 't3_tt7epd'}, {'comment_id': 'i43xep5', 'author': 'maybedead526', 'body': 'im so proud of u for brushing ur teeth hun :3 hope u are well <3', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-04-10T07:01:37', 'parent_id': 't3_tt7epd'}]"
trvnap,2022-03-30T07:30:54,struggling uni student,"i am a university student struggling with my mental health, i was wondering does any one have any advice on ways to help improve it? i’ve had counselling and therapy in the past, currently on antidepressants… any advice is welcome!",mentalhealthadvice,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/trvnap/struggling_uni_student/,"[{'comment_id': 'i2o9xfq', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': ' I honestly had to withdraw from my university this semester for mental health reasons even though I was supposed to graduate in May', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-30T09:26:06', 'parent_id': 't3_trvnap'}, {'comment_id': 'i2p3nds', 'author': 'insanityinhumanity', 'body': 'omg im so sorry it got to that :( have you withdrawn completely from the university or do you get to go back in the next semester? i’ve thought about trying to take the rest of this year out', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-30T15:39:15', 'parent_id': 't1_i2o9xfq'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rmx0b', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'I’m taking one class rn (easy online one) for the credit but withdrew from my final class in my major because I just could not handle everything I had to do for it (75 min presentation, 2 15 min ones, a research proposal presentation) . I also rushed through graduating, doing 2.5 years instead of 4 so I honestly think I just burnt myself out a lot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T02:55:10', 'parent_id': 't1_i2p3nds'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rpnu0', 'author': 'insanityinhumanity', 'body': 'wow yeah that sounds like a lot! definitely sounds like you burnt yourself out! hope things feel a bit less stressful now you withdrew!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T03:14:03', 'parent_id': 't1_i2rmx0b'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rpyhn', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'Thank you! I was off antidepressants 2 years at that point and I was a mess and had to get back on them. I was having crying spells, had no motivation, fatigue, etc. Ended up switching my major to avoid that class even though I’m about to graduate 🤣 withdrawing really helped my mental health', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T03:16:07', 'parent_id': 't1_i2rpnu0'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rzi9q', 'author': 'insanityinhumanity', 'body': 'it definitely sounds like it was the right thing to do! you shouldn’t have had to go through that !!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T04:25:28', 'parent_id': 't1_i2rpyhn'}]"
tm5vzv,2022-03-24T17:59:50,Can't deal with change,"I (22 M) just moved to a new city because management decided that working from office is better, been having panic attacks and anxiety attacks since, it's been only 2 days but I've had about 6 anxiety attacks and a panic attack, broke down several times. The fact that I'm alone in my room in a new city where I know no one is making it worse. Don't know how to deal with these thoughts and it just keeps getting worse.

Tried to keep myself occupied with apartment hunting but as soon as I was back in the hotel it started again. I've lived alone before too, was away for 3 years for college before covid showed up, then I was at home for the following 2, but this is something I never faced before.

Don't know how to deal with it.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/tm5vzv/cant_deal_with_change/,[]
tbf5co,2022-03-11T07:30:58,I have a great life.,"I am a sixteen year old boy and have always struggled with ADD. My amazing Mom has never given up on me no matter what and I feel terrible about it. I have put her through so much stress. She is such an amazing person I love her so much but she has bad anxiety about everything. My younger brother has depression and my sister does too. I hate being another thing for Her to stress about she has put me in an alternative school were I feel like everyone there has it so much worse than me yet I still can't get my crap together
 I'm afraid that I've been using my ADD as an excuse to be lazy I've tried to change so many times I just can't seem to get my life together. I don't feel like I should struggling as much as I do when people have it so much worse that I do. Sorry if this was all over the place I just need some help. I feel so unmotivated when it comes to school I don't see the point the only reason Im still trying to graduate is because I trust my amazing mother when she says it's worth it. Sorry again for not making a lot of sense. Thanks for reading!",mentalhealthadvice,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/tbf5co/i_have_a_great_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'i0gmd4y', 'author': 'grass-whore', 'body': ""okay listen to me rn, you're a great kid, but it doesn't seem like you have a great life right now. that's because you're 16, mentally ill, and in high school. you're putting too much pressure on yourself, no one has their crap together at 16. ADD/ADHD comes with free add ons that are hard to uninstall such as: low self-esteem, foggy head, and guilt (over things that aren't your fault.) try researching more about your ADD so you can understand what you're going through better, and get tips on working through this. try to graduate if you can, but if you can't, don't beat yourself up, you have to work much harder than other students do to get the same results, and that's not your fault. if you end up getting a GED, that will have no ill effect on your ability to find a job. comparing yourself to others is a hard habit to break but if you can catch yourself doing it, try to tell yourself that you're your own person, and life is not a race because everyone has different obstacles, you're not taking advantage of your mom, I feel like if she saw this post she'd tell you the same thing."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-03-13T11:14:49', 'parent_id': 't3_tbf5co'}]"
t8aj0q,2022-03-07T04:13:30,Can’t deal with Injury,"

hey guys,I  really need to get this off my chest/need advice.

Background:
I (F/18) tore my ligament in my right ankle last week, it’s not anything life threatening obviously but I’m stuck at home for now. I live with my parents and they have been great at helping me. I also either somehow contracted COVID the same night as the incident or am just sick.( My test as of yesterday have been negative but I kinda feel like I have it, a friend I was with that night also testet positive)

I’ve been really depressed about this injury. It’s not like I am a athlete but I enjoyed going to the gym. I also had to cancel 5 Job offers I got because of this. (I would have really needed them I’m trying to save for Uni). Some of my friends are on vacation right now, they know that I’m sick and injured but only one of them reached out asking how I am. I feel so lonely, I haven’t really talked to anyone. I know if I would tell them how I am they would try to help, but I feel like I am such a bother. I’m really exhausted mentally and physically. Right now it seems like my life will be on hold for 5 weeks and although I know it’s not really much it feels like an eternity. I really don’t know what to do. I can’t even go outside really cause walking on crutches is exhausting. I’ve just been sitting in bed all day alternating between playing different video games, watching tv or listing to music. I just get up for the toilet and eating with my parents.

I know people have it worse then me, how do you guys do it? It feels so horrible. Does anyone have suggestions on how I can improve my mental state right now? I would be so thankful.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/t8aj0q/cant_deal_with_injury/,[]
t0gcbf,2022-02-24T22:54:53,"Discovering I have bpd, not sure how to cope (tw: brief mention of suicide ideation)","So, I've been noticing my emotions getting really intense, overpowering even. I read thru all the symptoms and characteristics of borderline personality disorder, and it very much describes what I've been going thru for the past few years, but most noticeably in the past year or so.

While I have a mental health intake appt in April, I'm not sure how to manage the emotions and symptoms. Like, I'm very very good at hiding it/keeping it inside/moving slower with things/not talking about how much my brain/i see suicide as an answer to most inconveniences/etc, but the overpowering emotions are a lot to feel practically constantly. (Not currently of concern of *actually* committing suicide, for a variad of reasons, the impulse is just getting hella more frequent and hella more intense.) And right now, my body's only coping mechanism has been to literally turn off ALL emotions.

Does anyone (particularly anyone with bpd) have advice on managing the emotions and internal turmoil?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/t0gcbf/discovering_i_have_bpd_not_sure_how_to_cope_tw/,[]
suco68,2022-02-17T07:20:16,College & mental health,"Hi. I have recently started my second and last senior semester of college. I’m a psychology major and the last class is senior seminar. I recently got back on antidepressants because my depression symptoms have come back. This made me upset when I realized because I was off medication for over a year and doing good. It was super random. Anyways, ever since, I’ve been extremely struggling with anxiety. The class I’m in requires 4 presentations. 2 of them are 15 mins (no powerpoint, just kinda some notes), a research proposal (PowerPoint), and a 75 minute proposal (no PowerPoint, basically an outline with some notes). Since I’ve been feeling this way, I’ve been debating on withdrawing for the semester. I truly feel like I need a break because I’m so burnt out. I’ve been taking summer & January classes ever since I started. It is also taking a toll on my mental health. I’m supposed to be graduating in may, which I was really excited about, but if I withdraw I’d graduate in December. My academic adviser also said to take care of myself first and that I’m so much more than classes and grades. I feel like I need to work on myself to be successful in school because I honestly have no motivation or confidence right now to complete my work. Basically, my question is, do you think it’s an ok idea to withdraw from college to focus on my mental health and work on myself?",mentalhealthadvice,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/suco68/college_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'hxkhh72', 'author': 'Individual-Past-4958', 'body': 'First of all, breathe. When you inhale, try to feel the goodness of it. When you exhale, feel that vibration. \n\nYou know that feeling when your nose is stuffy and you suddenly become aware of how good it feels to NOT have a stuffy nose? Try to become aware of it now. You are able to breathe. There’s nothing stopping you. It’s pretty wonderful. \n\nOf course it’s ok to postpone your graduation. You’re not running a marathon. You’re learning new things. You’re gaining new experiences. That’s what college is about, right? If you graduate a couple months later, that’s just more experience. There’s nothing negative about it.\n\nI encourage you to spend as much time as possible in nature. If you have a forest somewhere close to where you live - go there. Listen to the trees. Let their calmness come over you. The forest will never judge you or put pressure on you. Create a special place in your heart for that feeling and try to remember it every day. \n\nNothing is that serious. When you realise this, with all your mind, soul and body - you’ll be a step closer to freedom.\n\nGood luck 🍀', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2022-02-19T17:32:09', 'parent_id': 't3_suco68'}, {'comment_id': 'hxmtorh', 'author': 'First-Hawk3746', 'body': 'I seen your post and I decided to make a video about my thoughts. I hope this helps. You can do anything you put your mind too. \n\nHELPING A REDDIT USER OVERCOME DEPRESSION!!!\nhttps://youtu.be/upXJfbyIvM0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-20T04:11:44', 'parent_id': 't3_suco68'}, {'comment_id': 'hxmyu5d', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'Thanks for the video, I appreciate it. I met with my professor who is the chair of the department of my major (funny I’m a psych major which is why I dig myself even deeper in a dark hole lol). I cried in his office for a while, and he ended up switching my first presentation (15 mins) with another student so I could see how they present. I did end up withdrawing after a lot of thinking and crying. There is no way for me to get out of the 75 min, it’s required for all psych majors. I’m was supposed to be graduating a year early but now only a semester early because I’m graduating in December now. I just want to take this time to work on my anxiety so I can feel confident going into this class again. Im planning on doing mock presentations, since I know what the criteria for them is and just working on myself. I’m super disappointed but I believe it was the best decision for my mental health', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-02-20T04:50:47', 'parent_id': 't1_hxmtorh'}, {'comment_id': 'hxobrtl', 'author': 'First-Hawk3746', 'body': 'No problem it’s the least I could do & regarding your decision you did what’s best for you. That’s the best thing you could ever do. The great thing is you know what you gotta do and how to attack it. \nAs for the anxiety. You have to learn to be present. If you’re always worrying about the future you’re going to constantly have those feelings of anxiousness shrouding you. My suggestion would be meditation. I started around November and about a week ago (2months into it) I’ve been feeling a really huge decline in anxiety and I’m becoming aware of my thoughts. \nI will warn you it’s really difficult at first but I PROMISE it’ll be worth it.  Here’s where I started. I hope this helps. \n\nhttps://youtu.be/U9YKY7fdwyg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-20T12:01:42', 'parent_id': 't1_hxmyu5d'}]"
sanbpf,2022-01-23T12:09:27,I feel terrible and I don't know what to do.,"\[I'm putting a general trigger warning here, I don't want to send anyone spiraling over what I say. I'm writing this purely in seek of help, and advice.\]

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I'll preface this with a few things first. I made an anon account to hopefully get a bit of help before I take whatever I'm dealing with to a family doctor or someone else who can help me, but I just want a second opinion on everything I've experienced, as I'm very uneasy on even admitting that there might be something wrong with me. I loathe the fact that I may need to talk to someone, and I don't want those around me worrying, but I feel stuck in this constant cycle of feeling like shit and it feels like it only gets worse and worse as the years go on. This is probably going to be long, I'm going to give as much context as possible, any and all advice is gladly welcome because I'm not sure where else to turn (though one could argue internet forums aren't the right choice). I'm also sorry if any of this sounds too dramatic, I really just don't know how else to explain what I'm feeling.

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As of writing this, I'm in my 20s. I've been feeling whatever 'this' is since I was about 16, or that's when I really remember my mental health starting to take a toll on me. I have various other issues including but not limited to OCD and Anxiety, which I was diagnosed and helped through at the time but have persisted to this day. Underlying all of this however I've felt there's this indescribable whirlwind of angriness, sadness, and melancholy that I carry with me all the time. I've only shared this information with one close friend who also has mental health issues, who seems convinced I'm just depressed. But I still have good days, or even moments where I feel fine and happy so I almost don't feel that it's ""valid"" enough to be depression. I know it sounds really stupid, but I don't want to go tell a doctor I'm depressed, just to get told I'm fine because I'm feeling OK that day, and now I'm wasting someone's time who might really need it more than me. 

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I think it's important to mention that I've also struggled with what I can only describe as random moments of self harm and suicidal thoughts. I mean it's gotten to the point that I have a plan of exactly what to do if I were to ever decide that I'm just done one day. It almost doesn't feel real typing that, because I'm not sure what would even set that off, but it's there, and I've thought about it. As far as self harm goes it's progressed over the years, not in frequency but severity. I used to bite and scratch myself a lot, enough to break skin. More recently, I'd say the past two years or so I've resorted to cutting the upper parts of my arms, and I almost always immediately regret it. In the heat of the moment however, my mind just feels like it goes blank and everything is telling me to reach for the blade (which is actually a sharp, flat cuticle trimmer, not even a real blade) . I've caught myself way off guard because of how deep it's gone before, and I always end up having to hide it because it for obvious reasons it's embarrassing, so I'll be wearing sweaters in 70 degree weather.

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I think it's worth mentioning that while my childhood wasn't exactly terrible, it wasn't ideal either. My parents split when I was young and as far back as I can remember they were always fighting, always screaming over the phone and waging wars in custody battles. I always wanted to be with my mother but my father held legal rights to me and it took years as well as family court for me to live with my mother only after middle school. While I wouldn't describe my father as a bad person (he's always provided for me), I honestly think he's a narcissist and living around him feels tiring, and draining. It always has throughout my childhood, and even interacting with him today yields the same behaviors. There's so many personal problems I have that I attribute to him because I was raised under that constant stress, so I learned and adapted to that scenario. I have no idea if that has any affect on any of this, but I felt it's at the very least worth mentioning, as it's the biggest source of misery I've had in my life to date.

 

I've tried looking up what's wrong with me in the past before I go to a doctor, because I'd hate to show up and when they ask me what's wrong all I can say is ""I don't know"" then it gets brushed off. In the same vein, as I mentioned earlier I don't want to waste peoples time, especially if there's others who need the help more than me. I've gotten search results for everything from depression to BPD when I look things up but I refuse to even come close to self diagnosing, which is why I'm asking for second opinions here before I go seek help out in person. All I know for certain is it never feels like a good day can just be a good day. Sometimes I get happy for longer periods of time but I always wonder in the back of my head when it's going to come crashing down, because it always does, something always sets me off and I'll end up shifting into feeling like shit again.

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On a smaller note, I think I should also mention I do use various substances as a coping mechanism. I started sneaking alcohol in high school when I started to feel this way, and that's persisted to this day. I'll often get blackout and finish entire bottles in a night. If it's not that, I rely on weed, or smoking to try and level me out and make things feel just a little better. I'd honestly have to say I lean on weed the most at this point, because alcohol makes me too sad or aggressive and weed just seems to calm me down for a while. I hate smoking, but if there's nothing else then I just do that. Since I don't know where else to put this, I think I should also mention that whatever I'm dealing with has hindered my relationships. I've lost partners because of it, because of my self destructive behaviors and inability to properly describe what I'm going through. I feel like I end up just pushing people away and treating them badly because I don't want them to experience this shit that really goes on behind the scenes, and it feels like even when I want to tell them somethings wrong I can't, because I don't know what it is or how they'll even react, so it comes out as this messy list of issues that just sounds like blanket complaints more than anything. 

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As a closing statement, I just want to say I'm open to responding to questions if it helps at all. I also want to state that I do plan on getting in person help 100%, because I hate feeling like this. I know I've done and thought some pretty serious shit but I've also made my one friend aware and they constantly check in to make sure I'm not doing anything stupid. I'm also just really worried about telling this to a doctor and ending up in a psych ward, because that's the last thing I need at this point.

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Thank you to anyone who reads and/or responds to this. I really appreciate your time. I'm going to try and post this in a few places, if you have any suggestions where I might get more good advice at this point I'm all ears. <3",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/sanbpf/i_feel_terrible_and_i_dont_know_what_to_do/,"[{'comment_id': 'hxkol25', 'author': 'Individual-Past-4958', 'body': 'You don’t have to justify your feelings and actions to ANYONE. You are very intelligent and very scared. What are you scared of? You know how you’re feeling. No one can change that, no matter what they think or say. Don’t bother with opinions of others. Most people are just big kids in adult clothes, pretending to know what they’re doing. Trust me, no one knows what they’re doing, not even those who claim they know. I’d even say that the more someone is convinced they’ve figured life out - the less they are actually in touch with reality and their true selves.\n\nYour ego is very strong, but you’re very humble. That’s a good start. Work on your ego. It needs your love. And remember - you are NOT your ego, you are NOT your thoughts or feeling, you are NOT your mind. You are the consciousness that’s observing all of this. Your soul. And your soul is infinite. Your soul is full of love. Your sould would never hurt anyone. Your soul would never cut skin. It’s gentle and weightless and it’s radiating love. It needs to be unleashed, and you can only do this when your ego is out of the way.\n\nMind is limited, soul is limitless. Mind dies, soul is infinite. Mind can be controlled, soul is free. Mind is programmed by the society, soul is ancient and independent of any culture. \n\nDon’t rely on your mind so much. Don’t give it such importance. It’s really trivial. Try to find your soul, your self. Try to feel the beauty of silence, of existing in the moment. Close your eyes right now and feel the moment. Hear the sounds, smell the smells, but don’t make any judgements. It’s damn hard, but we have to try. Our minds, our egos will fight until the end. The ego doesn’t want to die. Its roots are very deep and it’s going to take time and effort to get to your soul. But trying is in itself a beautiful experience. Just be easy on yourself and breathe. Breathing is the easiest method of practicing consciousness. Learning to observe without judging is also very helpful.\n\nLetting go of your ego means letting go of your posessions, diplomas, friends, family, your name, your age, all of that. This doesn’t mean you have to stop talking to your parents - it just means you’re not afraid of losing them, you’re not clinging to them. If you can walk the streets without being aware that you are XYZ, born in XYZ, who is XYZ years old and works at XYZ, then you are on a good way to freedom.\n\nBy the way, your father is not responsible for your feelings. He has lots and lots of his own problems, and he’s probably not even aware of them. His actions are controlled by his ego. He also has a soul, the real him, hiding underneath all of the bullshit. If you look closely, you’ll be able to see it. He doesn’t owe you anything because he’s your dad. It’s a social construct. It’s the same society that tells men not to cry and women not to be aggressive. It’s all crap. Any kind of negative feeling towards your father will just make you feel worse. It’s not his fault, it’s not anyone’s fault. \n\nYou’re very smart, but smartness will not get you answers. Intelligence will not lead you to the truth. But it can help you find methods you can use to get there.\n\nGood luck 🍀', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-19T18:50:35', 'parent_id': 't3_sanbpf'}]"
ru08kn,2022-01-02T08:50:40,"[My mom is depressed, I don't know how to help.]","Hello, this is my first reddit post so apologies if this is a little all over the place. 

I am living with my mom until I move in with my partner and I am the only one in the house. My brother and sister have moved out and my parents divorced a few years ago. So it's just me and my mom. She has been depressed for years, seen psychologists, psychiatrists, and pretty much all the -ists out there. Nothing seems to have helped. She is really into hiking which always makes her feel good. But having depression myself, I understand the not wanting to get out of bed for days and not wanting to do the things you love. So I don't push her very hard because I want hiking to be something she always enjoys and it doesn't feel like a chore. She just broke up with her boyfriend two days after her birthday. She just told me today that she feels like she has nothing. 

It is hard seeing her in so much pain everyday and I feel like I have given her all the advice I can give that she asks for. I give her support and listen to her when she just wants to be listened to. But I feel helpless and guilty that I can't help her because nothing ever changes. It's hard to be around her because, without trying to sound insensitive, it's draining being her therapist. I will always be there for her to the best of my ability but it is starting to take a toll on my mental health. Knowing I can't do anything to make a difference regarding her mental health. I just feel lost and am hoping to hear if there is any advice anyone can give me to help with this. The thought of moving out breaks my heart because of how lonely she is and it is making me second guess doing it. Again, sorry for being all over the place. Any advice is greatly appreciated.",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ru08kn/my_mom_is_depressed_i_dont_know_how_to_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'hse4l09', 'author': 'WonderWonderer', 'body': 'I feel you. My father is depressed for over a decade now and recently I got diagnosed with depression. It\'s a burden a child should never carry and never feel acountable for. I may have not resolved my issues with him but my advice for you is to talk about depression exactly as it is; an illness. Depression is not a fail of character, nothing to be shamed about. Constant awareness of her state and healthy habits can make her feel better over time. My father never talked to me about it, never even mention it (I heard about it from another family member). It created a void between us. \n\nYour only obligation to her is to love her. There is nothing else you can do to save her. To protect yourself from her negativity stop (as you put it) being her therapist. Listen to her problems, but not to the point of neglecting your well being. Just say ""mom, I love you but I can\'t listen anymore"", stand and leave as hard as it may sounds. Even if she is left behind there is not point into folowing her to the same fate. \n\nEncourage her to spend time with friends and other family members and change perspective  by glimsing the lifes of others. Tell her that depression doesn\'t mean she is alone or lost, or forgotten. Of course hiking is good for mental health, but not only hiking. Any contact with Mother Nature causes feelings of peace and acceptance. Maybe moving close to Her manages to stabilize her condition (I know Nature helped me dramatically). \n\nAt last, depression is a condition she may never fully recover. What are you going to do, stay with her forever? You won\'t help her by being depressed with her, it might even get worse (it did get worse in my case).  I am not a therapist, I know nothing, but I believe there is a way out if your mom trully and fully wants to change and doesn\'t get justified by your behaviour towards her. Love her, but love yourself more, so she can too. \n\nI send you my hopes for the best <3', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-13T01:37:39', 'parent_id': 't3_ru08kn'}]"
rsc0eq,2021-12-31T02:28:13,Is it just hormones?,"Speaking from personal experience when I’ve tried to speak up about how I’m feeling I get told it’s just hormones. One bad reaction to go opening up could give people the mind set that its not there mental health and it’s what everyone goes through. I know tat when you feel low life gets extremely tough and it’s hard to find the motivation to do most things. Take more of an interest in things you feel motivated to do or enjoy, step by step add on to these things until you are able to get through the day in a healthy way. For some of us, mental health takes a downfall towards there appearance. For most of us it’s hard to look in the mirror and be happy with the way we look, if you are unhappy then you could consider changing for the better. Work on yourself to try and make yourself the best you that you can think of. There is no shame in making mistakes (even if it feels like it), everyone does!  No one will fully ever understand your mental health but one bad reaction doesn’t mean all the rest will be.",mentalhealthadvice,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rsc0eq/is_it_just_hormones/,[]
rq540m,2021-12-28T08:40:07,How Do I Deal with My Intrusive Thoughts and Fears of Faking?,"Hi, fellow Redditors in need of advice… care to weigh in?

Bit of context: I, (F16), have been struggling with a lot of things lately, but my two major problems are this:

I’ve been struggling with intrusive thoughts as of late. Not good stuff, either. These stupid little voices in my head keep on telling me I’m… worthless and telling me to do things I would never do, like jumping off of a stairwell or walking in front of a bus, and I don’t know how to get them to stop.

Secondly, I think I may have ADHD, and severe ADHD at that. I’ve always been referred to as the “weird kid”, I struggle with paying attention, little details, loosing things all the time, my brain can feel as if it’s running on literal fumes to feeling as if it could run forever, focusing so much time and energy on the same thing that I forget about everything else that ever existed. Through hour after hour of research, I’ve found that I identify with well over 95% of the symptoms, apparently family doctors have mentioned to my parents that they think I may have it, school counselors have made comments, and that it very likely runs in my family (my dad displays a host of symptoms, and my grandfather did as well). 

However, despite all of that, I remain undiagnosed due to my parents having differing views over the subject. I feel as if I’m loosing my mind, desperate to know if it’s real or not, and as I’ve waited longer and longer, I’ve started to wonder if maybe I’m faking these symptoms or if they’re just in my head. I don’t know what to do: I legitimately swing back and forth from feeling as if there is no way I don’t have this issue, to being unable to move on the floor because I’m so consumed by thoughts of whether or not I’m faking all of this to feel better about myself, to have an excuse, something like that.

Has/Does anybody feel the same way? Does anyone, anybody know how to feel about this situation, or what I should do/think? Am I actually faking? How do I get the intrusive thoughts to shut up? I just desperately need someone else to weigh in on this, please.",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rq540m/how_do_i_deal_with_my_intrusive_thoughts_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'husb2fo', 'author': 'Misty_mg', 'body': 'listen, i have been diagnosed with ADHD since 2016 and i can tell you that i feel the EXACT same way. now im not a doctor and i cant diagnose you but i can say that the symptoms for ADHD are normal things that people do but people with ADHD have them but increased 10x and if people have been pointing it out then i suggest that you tell youre parents and/or try to get a diagnosis.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-30T05:37:32', 'parent_id': 't3_rq540m'}]"
rmgt6j,2021-12-23T04:13:16,Tips to help mental health until therapy is possible.,"Hello everyone!! The title is the basic jist of it. I am currently unable to afford therapy (I have bipolar disorder, and I'm sure a few other diagnosis, although again with no therapy whose to know). 

I was wondering if anyone has any advice,  steps or tips I can do to aid myself until therapy is possible. I already take meds for my bipolar and anxiety BTW. And I have been to therapy before. I know meditation can help with anxiety but I just cannot sit still enough to do so. I have been so scattered in thought, have awful negative self talk, and am becoming more and more irritable, impulsive,  and angry. Overall I fear I'm becoming an abusive person, and I know therapy could help. It just sucks that it's not an option right now. Anyways sorry for rambling, and thank you in advance for the help.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rmgt6j/tips_to_help_mental_health_until_therapy_is/,[]
rjip3e,2021-12-19T04:21:03,whats wrong with me can someone help ?,"Hey , my name is Elisa Germaine  i don't usually open up about my mental health not even to friends and family i feel like its easier to open up to strangers about whats going on at the momment and what has been going on for awhile now , i would really love if perhaps you can read about what started all of this and how its effected me and why am i still feeling like this .

background story: when i was 17  over the summer   i had  a  full time job as a nanny in apartments  looking after mainly a 2 year old and a 6 year old  the parents was really strict  especially the mother everything   i did i had to do it  exactly how she does it and how she does it at 17 everything was too precise i had to present the meals a certain way   and more but it is to be expected as i am going into someone home looking after there children anyway  i would  have eyes on me all time again if somthing wasnt how the mother liked it or how she would do it i would get a few snarky comments directed at me  i was so nervous  to do things and ended up making really embarssing mistakes and silly mistakes the 6 year old was  nasty he would tell the mum i didnt feed her and she would make fun of my hair the 2 year old was very clingy to the mother and when left alone there would be fully of trantrums and crying but i loved her so much  i always felt like  i was being watched and i so desperately wanted the mother approval i wanted her to like me  i would work 5 days a week monday to fridays and would usually go without a break i only got a break if the 2 year old has a nap which was very rare  now here is where the incident comes in i was taking the 2 year old out for a walk i was offered for the 2 year old to stay at home while i get the buggy all ready but i so wanted to impress the mother   i decided to do it all at once i out the 2 year old shoes on and she started having  tantrum like she usually did crying screaming while i was getting the buggy ready she fell off the steps infront of the door and these was big steps and smacked her head on the concreate  and it gave her a massive bruise and bump on her head i remember feeling so overwhelmed it was my fault  i didnt know what to do  and i even considered putting her in her buggy and going on for that walk to calm her down like an idiot the dad came down stairs  as he herd all the  commotion  i remember going to the bathroom and just cried on the same day  the mother left a bottle of  calpol open on the side of the cot while cleaning the bedroom i missed this  and while putting the 2 year old to bed she got ahold of it and ended up drinking it (she was okay ) while checking on her i ended up finding it and alerting the mother she said (why would you leave her alone)  but  i was told to put her to bed  the 2 year old will scream and cry after the accident more than she ever did   i feel like she is scared of me 

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now: i still  feel so incredibly guilty after what happened but for some reason now the guilt has got worse  she could have died i cant stop thinking about it everyday that accident just eats me up and i  dont know whats wrong with me i just keep getting flashbacks of her head smacking on the ground    my friends niece came over and started crying near me  and i couldnt even hold her when my friend brought her to me to sit on my lap   and  i dont even know why i am starting to get anxitey from it   i walk past that apartment everday in my mind and i just see them stairs i cant stop thinking about i opened up to my friends about it and they found it funny and somtimes joke that i ""threw her"" down the stairs i am 17   and i think about it literally everyday and its been months i feel like an irresponsible idiot its my fault it really was an i accept it  in my head i thought she was safer on the stairs as she would run into the road if left without my hand to hold",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rjip3e/whats_wrong_with_me_can_someone_help/,[]
rbcscn,2021-12-08T05:07:38,How to tell the difference between growing up and depression,"I cannot tell if what I'm experiencing is normal or if it's depression. Everything just feels so boring. I try to go do things that I hope will be exciting and I often just don't feel anything. But It's not that I feel low... I just don't feel very much at all. It sucks. I am afraid that this is just my brain developing and adulthood is just so boring that it's suffocating. I'm afraid of going to a therapist or psychologist and being told there's nothing really wrong with me, I just have to learn to live with this blah existence. For context, I turned 20 in September. I think a big part of this is I can't help but compare how I feel now to how I felt in high school, and it feels so boring. I feel so disconnected from others and so unemotional and cold. Maybe this is all my brain's way of coping with everything that's happened with covid too? My whole life plans got ruined by covid and I've lost all my passion for life since then. My dad had a stroke too last year, and is luckily okay all things considered but it sucks. Sometimes I think this is all some weird form of a grief response. Not to actual death, but to the loss of a life I never get to live now. I had all of these dreams to be a performer and it all got snuffed out during covid. I got into the school of my dreams but I didn't go because I was afraid of wasting like $30,000 on something I wasn't sure of (the school went bankrupt and was looking kinda shady for a small private college. Fired almost everyone and restarted, and I just didn't trust it anymore.) Now I don't know what I'm doing. Life is aimless for me and I just don't know what direction to turn. I don't want to pick a career but I also don't really want to be working retail/food for the rest of my life. But like... I don't even know if I'm depressed. I can't tell. I just know everything was brighter before, and I got truly excited, and now it's dimmed down and most of the time when I act excited it's kind of fake. The only thing that gives me any kind of reward anymore is other people, and I do have friends. I like hanging out with them but it feels like a bad thing that I seem to only be able to enjoy myself when I'm with them, like I'm only enjoying myself because I'm distracting myself. I'll play a character that I can just believe - fake it til you make it, and I act fun and bubbly and people enjoy it and I do get positive feelings from them enjoying my presence. It's just that everything feels... less? than it used to. And I don't feel genuinely excited for stuff like I used to. It just really sucks. Is that just growing up? Does everything just feel... meh.. forever? I'm not in the depths of despair by any means I just feel so empty and I want to feel something so badly but it doesn't happen most of the time. Even sex and relationships, I want in theory, but when I go on dates I never seem to connect with anyone like I want and it all feels useless.",mentalhealthadvice,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rbcscn/how_to_tell_the_difference_between_growing_up_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'ho179ql', 'author': 'SingleLonelyGuy', 'body': 'Write a TL DR and use line breaks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T02:15:03', 'parent_id': 't3_rbcscn'}, {'comment_id': 'hqy1i35', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-02T21:26:21', 'parent_id': 't3_rbcscn'}, {'comment_id': 'ho1g7m4', 'author': 'danger_n000dle', 'body': 'very helpful thanks king', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T03:14:09', 'parent_id': 't1_ho179ql'}, {'comment_id': 'ho1hpwo', 'author': 'danger_n000dle', 'body': ""TL;DR: this comment was annoying and unnecessary\n\nI hope you're proud of yourself lol, are you a mod or something? \n\nOr are you just bitter? \n\nThis comment definitely made my day slightly worse lmao just know that. Like if a fly got into my apartment and was buzzing around by my ears. Not that bad but just slightly worse"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T03:24:16', 'parent_id': 't1_ho179ql'}, {'comment_id': 'hr07iep', 'author': 'danger_n000dle', 'body': ""the implication of this is funny because I probably spend like 15 minutes at most a day on Reddit lol. Other social medias have infiltrated my mind more. But I'll look into the vid"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-03T05:45:04', 'parent_id': 't1_hqy1i35'}, {'comment_id': 'ho1jk57', 'author': 'SingleLonelyGuy', 'body': 'Is a reply necessary?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T03:36:40', 'parent_id': 't1_ho1hpwo'}]"
rb5593,2021-12-07T23:41:02,Where does an undiagnosed cognitively disabled person go for one-to-one support in filing bankruptcy and organizing their legal and financial life?,"TL;DR -  Because of PTSD and dyscalculia I desperately need personal one-to-one help to file bankruptcy and organize my financial problems, but I can't afford to pay for that help, so it has to come from someone being paid by someone else. Who helps people like me? 

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Because of my dyscalculia and trauma-responses from growing up with a financially abusive parent, I lack the cognitive functioning to deal with the countless entities who are entitled to my money.

A bankruptcy would be a huge help but the bankruptcy process keeps involving money I can't pay and questions I can't answer (because I either don't know, or I can't estimate due to dyscalculia).

I don't know how many entities I owe money to, and I don't know if or how they are empowered by law to punish me for not paying them what I owe them

I don't know what to do to prevent further punishment, and I don't think I have the knowledge to figure out what to do without making matters worse (I am often taken advantage of)

I don't know if I owe the IRS money or if the IRS owes me money, and I don't know how to find out

I have only ever received one \[illness I'm not allowed to mention\] stimulus check, and I don't remember when that was, nor do I know how much stimulus money I have been denied, and I don't know where someone is supposed to find out this information

I'm about to have student loans re-added to this nightmare mix now that the \[illness I'm not allowed to mention\] break is ending, and I need to make sure I fill out the right paperwork, on time, and properly, to pay as little as possible

Every time I try to take the initiative to fill out a form to solve any of these problems, I am confronted with confusing questions that don't make logical sense, and there is never anyone available to ask for help. The only option is to make something up, but since I don't understand how the data is going to be interpreted, there is anxiety that I will put a made-up answer that only denies me the help I need, and often this is exactly what happens.

Looking back at about a million aspects of my life I had zero control over, it makes perfect sense that my life turned out this way. If your brain can't deal with money in a world that's run by money, and you have a parent that takes advantage of that fact to control you, how else could things possibly turn out? That being the case, I just can't be alone in this. What are people in my position supposed to do?

Do I need an official diagnosis of dyscalculia to qualify for one-to-one help? If so how do I get one?

Thank you.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rb5593/where_does_an_undiagnosed_cognitively_disabled/,[]
r279jv,2021-11-26T03:14:25,I get depressed/infuriated at the thought of alcohol. My girlfriend's family drinks. [TW: Substance Abuse] [VENT],"I don't know where it came from or why it happens. I honestly think it's a mixture of a whole lot of problems and events that all led up to this. I was raised in a cult that heavily despised drinking, was with a girl a while back who would get drunk and mistreat me at times, met that girl's father who was a scary drinker, know that people get hurt and taken advantage of when drunk and I'm already beginning to have addiction problems myself while also having BPD.

As someone with BPD, I can get triggered and when triggered, I dissociate. I sometimes feel like I'm not real, am living a dream-life (like VR) and everything seems weird. I can usually keep doing what I'm doing but all of the thoughts in my mind are just pondering whether or not I exist or what the point of everything is. 

Turns out, the mere mention of drunkenness of a loved one makes me depressed and dissociate. It makes me feel like shit that my brain and body's reaction to the idea of alcohol is to shut down and be pissed. I really wish I didn't feel this way, y'know?

Fast forward to this past Saturday. My girlfriend told me that she might be available to text during my break (for context, she was at a wedding). I texted her that I was on break and didn't get a response. I decided to get Bang to keep myself awake. A few hours later, I'm mentally exhausted from work and as I'm checking the time to clock out, I read (not verbatim) is 

>""hehehehe hiii babeee! I’m so sorry for any typos j may or may not have been drinking wiyh my famly haha but I MIsS YOU AND I LOUE YOUUUU"".

My heart immediately sank. The world around me felt unreal, my head started to hurt, everything felt loud, I was randomly irritable and I felt like almost everything was meaningless. I started to forget who I was. I felt like I was living someone else's life. I didn't feel well at all. Before I got in my car, I texted her

>Sorry if I don't respond much tonight. I'm not feeling too hot. I love you too.

I got in the car, turned off the radio and just went on autopilot (as in mentally checking out, not like a Tesla). I heard my phone buzzing. I didn't care to check it. I knew it wouldn't help. I get home and sit on my bed, staring at the wall. My brain is telling me that I should sleep it off but, I can't. The Bang from earlier was kicking in. All I could do was stare at my wall. 

Some time passes and I'm snapping out of it. I see that she was worried, apologizing and blaming herself and telling me that she gets really sad that she upset me. I let her know everything is okay and that I'm sorry for not answering for a few hours. She's just happy to hear from me again and reaffirm that she loves me and that she's sorry. I again, tell her everything is okay and let her know I really do love her too.

\-

Again, I feel awful that my initial reaction was to dissociate but I had very little control over any of my emotions at the time. My dissociating's gotten really bad. It's so bad that I cannot legally consent. 

I love my girlfriend. I love her family. They're all amazing and fun people. They really love me too and always want me to come over. Yet, when it comes to them drinking alcohol, I get really uncomfortable and depressed. I'm still not entirely sure why. It's really hurting me and other people. It's gotten to a point where I rely on energy drinks and soda to feel something. I drank Bang, Monster and Red Bull as a joke but I'm scared that I'm going to be addicted / already addicted. 

I don't know what to do and if I'm in the fault for feeling this way. Has anyone been through a similar position? Is what I'm feeling normal? 

If you have been through something similar, what's helping you now?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/r279jv/i_get_depressedinfuriated_at_the_thought_of/,[]
r0uttg,2021-11-24T08:39:01,Am I in the wrong?,"I have recently gone through a lot, not because of any traumatic experience or anything it’s just like one tiny thing happened and everything came falling down, I got diagnosed with severe anx1ety, @dhd, d3pressi0n, and a gene mutation all within two months of each other and having to deal with that and all my responsibilities was *very* difficult. I probably would’ve have made it through that time if I hadn’t gone to therapy. (I’m fine and better than ever now tho) In fact I know I wouldn’t have. So now whenever my S/O or my friends talk to me about things like mental issues and how badly they’re struggling, I always immediately tell them to ask for therapy. Even just singles session to see if there are any diagnoses that need to be made yk? And it’s not like I’m saying this to anyone I’m saying it to people I’ve known for years and I know their family situations and finances and I know it wouldn’t be a problem if they just asked. But they seem to get annoyed when I say this, and when I give them any other advice from the strategies I’ve learned and been taught they always say that doesn’t work for me, which is completely valid I just feel like I’m constantly being shot down when I’m trying to help. Am I being selfish??",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/r0uttg/am_i_in_the_wrong/,[]
qy8ub0,2021-11-20T21:46:07,When I am around my boyfriend I feel like a woman but when I am around anyone else I feel like a man.,"Let me first introduce myself.

I am a 30 yo female from eastern Europe. I never had a normal family. My parents divorced, I was raised by grandma and all my siblings are half siblings even for eachother. I always needed to do everything by myself. I was harrased by step mothers family. My mother was a monster who only wanted to gain cash not raise children. Me and my sister almost died coz of it. Lets say my childhood was a nightmare, I even lost contact with my sister for 10 years (we are good now).

I was always treated like a burden, everyone even grandma sometimes were telling me I am a failure yet I finished my master degree on technical university and I have a really good job. The point is... I am lost. I know my mental health is fucked up and I am trying to work on it but there is something that is so weird for me that I cannot get it.

I am bisexual or even pansexual. I do not look at people by their gender only by what a person they are. I can fall in love with anyone, no matter if this would be man, woman, transgender... does not matter! Point is I am now with my boyfriernd (M25) for almost 5 years. It is a relationship which has it ups and downs but we are still together. When I am with him I feel like a woman. I can tell I am a woman and I behave like one (in my eyes). I acknowledge him as a man and everything is fine. When I am not with him I act like I am a man. I even walk differently, speak differently. I am less scared, more ""butch"". My whole behaviour is different! I realized that when I saw how I was sitting once. I feel like I have 2 people inside me, a man and a woman. Is this normal? Because of it I sometimes have this emptyness in me. When Im around my bf I do not think about anyone else but when I am alone I sometimes think how it would be to date someone more femine again. Maybe this would be a stupid example but I recently watched Arcane on netflix (yeah, I love games and lore stuff). This whole storyline with Caitlyn and Vi made me feel... something. I dont know what is this. I was just happy for them and it was nice to watch it grow. I could totaly see myself in this situation as those two had but also I am happy with my bf. 

I just feel.. lost in my mind. 

Any advice?

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Sorry if my english was not good sometimes. Not my first language",mentalhealthadvice,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qy8ub0/when_i_am_around_my_boyfriend_i_feel_like_a_woman/,"[{'comment_id': 'hlhy9j7', 'author': 'rnaggie53', 'body': 'I think it’s important you express yourself how you feel comfortable. Most people behave differently depending on their audience, maybe think about aspects from each side of yourself that you like most & try to integrate them into both characters. \n\nWhat you’re saying about only feeling like a woman around your boyfriend is just this magical thing that men can do (that we don’t talk about enough). I think one of the greatest things men can provide is that feeling of making you the only woman in their world. I totally know what you mean bc I’ve experienced this to. If you can find a man that makes you feel like a strong, powerful woman but also sensitive & elegant, you gotta keep him around.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-21T16:50:39', 'parent_id': 't3_qy8ub0'}]"
qqhz1w,2021-11-10T06:22:05,Should I suggest my sister goes to a facility? What can I say?,"My sister (25F) is having some kind of mental health break. She has always struggled a lot with anger, paranoia, and is now starting to accuse my family of things that never happened. She has mostly alienated herself from the family, but her and I mostly get along (on her timing). Recently she has experienced some trauma & broke up with her on/off boyfriend. She says she hasn’t slept in days, everyone is so worried about her. She said my family is performing human experiments on her. 

Anyways due to her acting this way, we are worried that she is going to be a threat to herself or others. It’s like it’s building up to an explosive situation, I can just feel it. She has never wanted to seek a diagnosis, has always denied mental help. We contacted a mental health advocate who said that we can either do two things to get her treatment: we can force her by calling the police or she can go voluntarily. They said that the best way is to get someone she trusts to suggest it, which sort of lands in my plate. 

We are not the absolute closest of sisters but she definitely trusts me more than my other family members. I feel like I should talk to her because I really think it will help her. She is in a dangerous place. 
But I also feel like if I suggest it, she denies the offer, then the police forcibly take her, it will almost be like it’s directly my fault/responsibility how this is dealt with. What is the right thing to do in this situation? If I do talk to her, how can I approach it? She is typically a very hot tempered, defensive type. 

She has a friend I could reach out to, but their friendship is on/ off as well. She doesn’t have many people who she keeps close.",mentalhealthadvice,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qqhz1w/should_i_suggest_my_sister_goes_to_a_facility/,"[{'comment_id': 'hkvsi2i', 'author': 'PaulDosMucho', 'body': 'I so can relate to your post right now, currently going thru a near exact scenario with my sister, she\'s 28. Downside of this entire ordeal tho is that she lives with me and has a child. My entire family is so worried and scared of what she may do next, like your sister she hasn\'t slept or eaten in days that we know of. It\'s really taken a toll on all of us. As far as help is concerned, on our end we did call 911 for a mental health check, unfortunately because she wasn\'t cooperating with them and she wasn\'t ""threatening"" to harm herself they cant take her against her will.  Im at the end of the rope with her... I find myself questioning weather i should make peace with that fact that she does not want help and let her self destruct? Its tough. I wish you and your family well.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-11-16T23:49:38', 'parent_id': 't3_qqhz1w'}, {'comment_id': 'hk0dpz3', 'author': 'rnaggie53', 'body': 'It’s very likely that the conversation will not be received well no matter how careful my words are. I am very good at talking to people in a sensitive way, but I’m not good at dealing with abrasive people. I have never had the energy to argue with her, which is why she tolerates me more than my other family members. \n\nI think I am the only candidate to this from the family, but that doesn’t make me a good candidate in general. I think just because I’m the next best thing to the police, it will still result in an explosive situation.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-10T06:35:39', 'parent_id': 't3_qqhz1w'}, {'comment_id': 'hkw3c38', 'author': 'rnaggie53', 'body': 'Wow it means the world though just to know there’s some one else who can relate. We’re in very similar situations. Wishing you and your family the best. All we can hope is the universe guides them in the right direction. \n\nThe unfortunate thing is that the worst is yet to come, but we can’t act on anything before it happens. Hope the holidays go ok for you guys. Sending peace & hope.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-17T01:00:33', 'parent_id': 't1_hkvsi2i'}]"
qkfuqq,2021-11-01T20:30:51,Everything feels like it's falling apart,"It's been hard lately like a lot of things are building up and the past is surfacing so I'll try to write out everything that's been happening. 

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Self/Family: So I've lived my life where I kept a lot of things to myself growing up, not because I wanted to but more so, i realized that I'm only like this because of how my parents treated me. I still love my parents and family a lot but they've emotionally neglected me my whole childhood because they were busy working on their own business. My brother who's 7 years older than me also hated me for most of my childhood and at times, bullied me too. I think a lot of this affected me to the point where I shut down and kept everything to myself to the point where it manifested into a lot of... thoughts. Through this, I developed anxiety and depression but because I kept everything to myself, i started to sweep everything under the rug and ignore my own feelings/emotions. 

My family would get to the point where they would blame me for any mistake because they didn't want to take responsibility for their own mistake. An example is when I was a kid, my mom told me to get out of the car so she could park on the driveway. She scraped the side of the car on a pillar and my family blamed me for not looking out for her. Another example is when my dad had to fill out passport renewal forms for my grandma and when we were told the form was filled out incorrectly, I was blamed for not double checking. A lot of these small things built up overtime to the point where I find myself apologizing for things even out of my control and even if I'm aware of it, my habits continue. 

I've recently told my parents about my anxiety and depression along with me visiting a therapist (I've mentioned about my anxiety/depression a few times throughout the years but the response I got was always ""okay""). At first, they thought I was seeing a therapist because they thought it was caused by my recent relationship breakup. They were surprised when I told them that I've been seeing one for 2 years and even then, my dad's response was simply ""I thought I always told you to control it. Always making me worried"". With that response, a part of me just gave up on wanting to talk about anything mental health related to my parents. Even with my birthday dinner with my family recently, I find that I couldn't even smile or laugh with them anymore, like something has shut off. 

This kinda leads into this...

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Relationship: I met a girl during CoVid this past year. We started really fast and everything felt so natural and we dated for a year. We broke up back in July 2021 but within 2-3 weeks, we started talking again and we're now back to... acting like we're together. At first, the reasons she broke up with me were very small and fixable but it was only a few weeks ago where she told me the real reason, which was that her depression and her upbringing made her believe that she never deserved anything good in life and when she was with me, she felt guilty because she felt like she couldn't do much for me when I was able to do a lot for her. She's always had a habit of self-sabotage, ruining the good in her life because she believed she deserved the bad. If people treat her bad, she thinks ""yeah this is what i deserve"" (it's bad). But even though things are progressing back to normal right now, she's made me realize and become more aware of my own insecurities and flaws, which all connect back to the habits that had been created with my own upbringing. I find that I'm quite insecure about myself with her, despite her constantly telling me that I shouldn't be insecure because she thinks I'm great. My anxiety and overthinking has been going off the charts and I've finally learned to address it and even tell her what goes on in my head and trust me, I've only shown her maybe 1% of what goes on in my overthinking and she got drained out. I had to find a better way of expressing it rather than draining her. 

The good news recently, though, is that despite how much she dislikes her mom, she told her mom about me and her mom likes me, even calling her to talk to me to... thank me for helping take care of her and even calling her another time to say happy birthday to me. The other good thing was that she mentioned how she wanted to spend more birthdays with me and wanted me to spend more birthdays with her. She ended up even saying that she wanted us to work hard so we could get a place together. 

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But even with the good that's been happening lately with her, everything in my own life and family seems to be falling apart. I try to maintain hope to think maybe things need to fall apart so that maybe they can fall into place somewhere else. I'm not sure how to fix my relationship with my family because I know they love and care for me, I know they did the best that they could and I know I need to step up myself now to continue my own journey but it's almost like pushing a boulder up a wall now. 

I've even started CBT lately to help with anxiety and depression, my friend who's in psychology gifted me a book as well to tackle my negative overthinking. I've been trying to journal and use deep breathing but these have only been temporary solutions. 

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For myself, my family, and for my significant other, I really want to get better because I constantly feel like I burden everyone around me. I want to be better so that I can stop thinking like that. Sometimes the feeling of being a burden gets so bad, i get thoughts about disappearing because maybe everyone would live better lives if I was gone. 

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TLDR; family doesn't understand mental health, relationship is full of uncertainty despite going well lately, wanting to get better because i want to stop feeling like this and being like a burden to those i care about.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qkfuqq/everything_feels_like_its_falling_apart/,[]
qhf4a8,2021-10-28T10:12:03,Nightmares,"Hello! I need advice, because I keep having these terrifying nightmares after a man tried to break into my house. I am currently a college student and I moved into a house off campus with a few other girls, I wasn't really close to them before moving in but so far its been pretty good. The other day I fell asleep on the couch and a man was trying to get into the house, he kept banging on the door and shaking the door handle and making this grunting/gagging sound? At first I thought it was someone's booty call but then he didnt go away O.O There is a window in front of my house so I thought he could see me and so I hid under the blanket. When he moved around the house, I ran to my roommates room. We called 911 but I thought I heard him break in so I hid under her bed, and I was really scared. It ended up fine once the police came. But, now I keep having these nightmares of these scary people, sometimes a man or demon or woman, and they watch me in my room or house and then try to break in. Sometimes they kill me and I scream and then I wake up, and I am in another dream of someone trying to break in again. I never get nightmares, so this is really weird and I already have anxiety but I don't know how to make it stop. I keep waking up while I sleep and I feel more scared in my house now :/ I don't know if this is a trauma response, because nothing really bad happened to me? Like he didn't actually break in or anything.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qhf4a8/nightmares/,[]
qgtx5p,2021-10-27T16:21:08,Really big stress advice,"Hi! I am a 30 yo female who always loved to drive cars and smaller motorbikes. I wanted to get my licence on normal motorbikes because I already am able to drive legally on smallers ones. While I am training before exam I do everything fine, I do not have any problems at all! But when the exam is on... I cant do anything right. I am angry, sad and just... hopeless. I always go there and thing of worst and it just happen. What can I do to block all of those negative emotions?! I know am a good driver... I never had an accident on road. I drive for almost 15 years now. It is just this exam is so stressful for me I cant even egzist normally. Please give me some advice how to get rid of all of this from my head so I can finally make my dreams come true.

Note: I am a depressed person, I was trying to make it better with meds and theraphy. I am now able to fulfil my dreams and it really helps with it but this time... I just cant. I feel useless and even if I have skills I wont be able to do anything. It is killing me from inside.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qgtx5p/really_big_stress_advice/,[]
putcis,2021-09-25T03:19:05,how do i help my boyfriend be his own person and love himself," 

i really love my boyfriend. and i wanna help him grow as a person. i know he's not being healthy right now and i'm really worried. he has a very low view of himself. today he told me he wants me to use him cuz he feels unworthy of me and that would be the only way he'd feel usefull to me. he said that if we're not talking he just sleeps and waits for me. staring at the screen till i reply. i know he had a very hard life. everything makes him feel unsafe and he's scared i'll leave if he does't prove himself usefull. he told me he probably won't tell me if he doesn't want something out of fear of me leaving.

i don't want to leave him. i do know this isn't healthy and he needs therapy but that's someting that's not possible right now. so i wanna try my best to do what i can to help. i know i can't ""fix"" himbut i wanna try to help.

i know this will get difficult and i understand how he's feeling cuz i'm also a perosn with abandonment isseus and anxiety but i'm in therapy and i've learned how to deal with it a bit better. i want this relationship to work out and be healthy.

thanks for reading.",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/putcis/how_do_i_help_my_boyfriend_be_his_own_person_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'hhmf4nw', 'author': 'cranberryseal', 'body': 'Sounds like you already know that that relationship isn’t healthy so that’s good. You can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself and that is just toxic for the both of you. Ik you love him but my only advice for you is to try to get him some help from someone that’s not you because like you said, you can’t fix him and shouldn’t be expected to', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-10-22T19:44:41', 'parent_id': 't3_putcis'}]"
ps9ur7,2021-09-21T08:19:07,"I’m not asking for a diagnosis, I just want to see if anyone recognizes these symptoms as anything","I’ve been having such a rough time lately. I’ve always been like this, for as long as I can remember. Basically, I’m either the happiest most outgoing person ever, or I’m like, suicidal and having anxiety attacks. Like, within a day my mood switches out so many times it’s impossible to even function anymore. I can’t just be medium. It’s just super intense emotions all the time. It ruins all my friendships and relationships because I’m so territorial of all my friends and can’t control my emotions. Please help.",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ps9ur7/im_not_asking_for_a_diagnosis_i_just_want_to_see/,"[{'comment_id': 'hejzvbn', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-28T09:16:34', 'parent_id': 't3_ps9ur7'}, {'comment_id': 'hgaokbo', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': ""Be sure to factor in your age. I had this same thought process, and a lot of what I thought were major bipolar or bpd symptoms were just hormones and mood shifts due to anxiety. Aside from that, the symptoms of quickly changing moods could be a huge number of things. Anywhere from BPD, Bipolar (all though it doesn't sound too much like that due to the timelines), to symptoms of Depressive disorders or PTSD. I'd say see a Psychiatrist. A standards doctor's visit isn't reccomended for mental health related things."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-10-12T06:17:48', 'parent_id': 't1_hejzvbn'}]"
poigpw,2021-09-15T09:19:46,Was I Molested?,"I remember twice in my childhood my sister (3 years older) asked me to touch private parts on her body. The first time was when i was 6 or 7 and we acame back from the beach and she asked me to look at and touch her vagina in the hotel room, and another time when i was like 9 or 10 she asked me to touch her breasts.  Now when i look back on these memories i feel disgust and shame with such an intensity that i feel like the only way to be free would be if i were lobotomized and these memories removed from my head.  I think my sister is a well adjusted person and i have no concerns about her actually molesting children, i want to make that clear....but i also don't know how to deal with these memories.  I think they might be the source of my intense sexual anxiety that renders me almost totally impotent when im trying to have sex. Before i had beleived it to be the result of too much porn, but even when i quit masturbating to porn for months i still had difficulty in having a sexual relationship with a girl that i had had a crush on for over a year.  Has anyone had similar distressing memories in this grey zone where it isn't really sexual abuse, but it is sexually disturbing, and if so, how did you move past it? Meditation, therapy, some kind of mental block? I don't know if this is the right sub for this, but the shame is so intense i can't imagine discussing it with anyone in person without immediately wanting to kill myself afterwards.",mentalhealthadvice,6,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/poigpw/was_i_molested/,"[{'comment_id': 'hcwrq24', 'author': 'hotlinehelpbot', 'body': '\nIf you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline\n\nUSA: 18002738255\nUS Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME\n\nUnited Kingdom: 116 123\n\nTrans Lifeline (877-565-8860)\n\nOthers: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines\n\nhttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2021-09-15T09:20:03', 'parent_id': 't3_poigpw'}, {'comment_id': 'hd2kz0f', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'i personally wouldn’t consider this a gray zone. sexual assault is any unwanted sexual contact. i think by definition, yeah, this is molestation. i don’t think your sisters age matters in it’s effect on you.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-16T18:06:58', 'parent_id': 't3_poigpw'}, {'comment_id': 'hdajgy1', 'author': 'Big_dingus_Throwaway', 'body': ""She was still pretty young in both scenarios...i don't know if she knew how it would affect either of us when she suggested it."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-18T09:20:25', 'parent_id': 't1_hd2kz0f'}, {'comment_id': 'hdhrbrt', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Oh yeah of course- she likely didn’t know. But whether she was aware or not, it’s still assault with the same type of emotional effect of intentional assault.  I didn’t mean to insinuate that she is bad or predatory- she was a child. I was intending more to validate the way that you feel rather than demonize your sister', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-09-19T23:55:19', 'parent_id': 't1_hdajgy1'}]"
pmfds4,2021-09-12T02:33:13,How to set boundaries with alcoholic parent,"Hi,

I am a 25 year old and my mother (56) is an alcoholic. My mom recently got out of 30day in-patient treatment and my brother (28) and I decided it would be best if she lived with one of us while taking her journey through recovery. Her previous living conditions were toxic and drove her to start drinking again. As such, she moved into my home.

I set rules such as:
- need to look for a job
- need to find a therapist 
- go to AA meetings 
- be active outside of the house (she is depressed and will sit at home all day)
- no alcohol in the house

My boundary was: as long as she is actively working on her recovery and taking initiative to get better, she can stay with me until she can afford her own apartment.

Her first 2 days out of rehab, I gave her space to get comfortable. After 3 days, I helped her apply for jobs. I ended up applying for her while she barely paid attention.

4 days in, I sat down to help her find a therapist. Same thing. I looked them up, gave her the phone numbers, and had her call with very little help from her.

She did not go to any AA meetings because she felt sick. 

5 days in, I found a bottle of rum in her room and confronted her. I took her car keys. I live in a city with a bus stop right down the street from my home. She made promises to start actively trying to get better.

After 10 days, she continues to sit on my couch and just watch TV. On the 10th day, I told her that she couldn't stay here anymore. I can't sleep and I can feel myself getting physically sick from the stress and worry and my own codependent behaviors that I've worked on started resurfacing with her living with me. 

I need advice: did I not give her enough time? I feel selfish and guilty for kicking her out after 10 days. I can't help but feel bitter that at 25years old, I have the responsibility of caring for a parent already. But shes made me feel like a prisoner in my own home. Adding to this, my dad (55) died 2 years ago after battling with alcohol addiction my entire life. Am I being too hasty in kicking her out already?

(Note: she will be staying with my brother now, but he doesn't have an extra bed so she will be sleeping on an air mattress in the spare office)",mentalhealthadvice,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/pmfds4/how_to_set_boundaries_with_alcoholic_parent/,"[{'comment_id': 'hcozuem', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': ""It's important to note that there is no definitive right or wrong answer here, and for that reason, it can be tough to give advice. So instead, I'll add an opinion. I think you are right for setting clear boundaries. Knowing what you want from a relationship is important. You do not owe your mom anything just because she is your mom. It's important for your mom to understand you are serious in your boundaries. Seeing she has another home to sleep in, I don't think you did anything wrong."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-13T19:55:52', 'parent_id': 't3_pmfds4'}]"
p6whjl,2021-08-18T23:28:28,Nausea everytime I am very upset or depressed,"I have a therapist and he's never mentioned me having anything but I know I have general anxiety. Everytime I start to get depressed or very upset and angry about something I feel sick and nauseous. Is this just a symptom of anxiety? Any recs for how to make this better?

I get anxious so often it's more common that I'm anxious than not so it's hard to compare the feeling on a scale.",mentalhealthadvice,4,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/p6whjl/nausea_everytime_i_am_very_upset_or_depressed/,"[{'comment_id': 'hcp10jr', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': ""It's pretty common to get sick or feel sick from anxiety. Sometimes, when we have very strong emotions, we feel nauseous. What helped me was some anti-anxiety medication. I do not reccomend SSRI's for this, as a symptom of them is usually nausea. However, in your case, it may be different. All medications effect people differntly, so definitely see a doctor. If you want a more natural route, I reccomend eating some ginger or chewing gum, something that always helps me. Best of luck."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-09-13T20:04:18', 'parent_id': 't3_p6whjl'}, {'comment_id': 'h9liehu', 'author': 'UnpopularGooseChase', 'body': ""Hi,\n\nYes, it can be a symptom of anxiety. I know it's a terrible feeling. I've been there myself. Im not a doctor so I can't really give you recommendations, but try some mediation - I find that doing this when I'm more stressed helps me a bit\n\nBut don't just write it off to anxiety - get it checked out by your doctor if you feel these symptoms often, as they can rule out anything else."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-08-20T05:06:07', 'parent_id': 't3_p6whjl'}, {'comment_id': 'hcs6qh8', 'author': 'oh_hereagain', 'body': 'Thank you! I will try that out and look into it', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-14T09:53:23', 'parent_id': 't1_hcp10jr'}, {'comment_id': 'hanf69y', 'author': 'oh_hereagain', 'body': 'Okay, thank you for the reply', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-08-28T10:55:07', 'parent_id': 't1_h9liehu'}]"
ot5p63,2021-07-28T13:54:10,I think I'm having a break down but I don't know how to ask for help,I think I'm having a breakdown because of stress from work. I've been having extreme suicidal thoughts and have started cutting. But I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone in my family what I'm going through.,mentalhealthadvice,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ot5p63/i_think_im_having_a_break_down_but_i_dont_know/,"[{'comment_id': 'h6ynamu', 'author': 'Genroll_Dolphin', 'body': ""Hey DM me and we can talk about it. If you don't want to talk to me, please call the national helpline number:  1-800-662-HELP (4357). It might be difficult to do, but you could seriously use someone to talk to and you know it is the right choice for your health and well being."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-07-29T20:21:57', 'parent_id': 't3_ot5p63'}]"
181m9id,2023-11-23T04:23:27,Everyone’s situation is different,What’s the one thing you struggle the most with in mental health and what are you currently doing about it?,mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/181m9id/everyones_situation_is_different/,"[{'comment_id': 'kx1jrnl', 'author': 'sillybeardude', 'body': 'Self sabotage 100%, im trying really hard tho recently to see the signs of self sabotage and stopping myself before i make things bad for myself', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2024-03-29T06:19:58', 'parent_id': 't3_181m9id'}]"
17sjumy,2023-11-11T07:18:55,Therapy,"Is guided imagery, mindfulness and meditation something you personally practice in your own life? If not, is it something you’ve wanted to learn?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/17sjumy/therapy/,[]
17hctja,2023-10-27T07:29:57,Exposure Therapy,"For those suffering from PTSD, OCD, GAD, Panic Disorders, phobias, hypochondriasis or other similar issues.... give exposure therapy a try. I was completely closed off to this until over time I started seeing the positive effects slowly but surely. Face the feared object head on whatever it may be, fact check your surroundings, imagine the object in your head and see if its as scary as your portraying it to be in real life, become engulfed with your body sensations and everything your feeling and then process the situation through your most effective coping techniques after you leave the situation. These are all obviously generic and modified, but this is a very short and concise version on some steps that can work if done correctly!",mentalhealthadvice,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/17hctja/exposure_therapy/,"[{'comment_id': 'k7a9s36', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-11-01T02:58:59', 'parent_id': 't3_17hctja'}, {'comment_id': 'k7a9s5c', 'author': 'AutoModerator', 'body': 'Your comment has been removed from our community for the following reason: \n  - Spam, Blogspam, and other low effort content. Short top-level comments are not permitted.\n\nPlease message the moderators if you think this is incorrect.\n\n*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/mentalhealthadvice) if you have any questions or concerns.*', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-11-01T02:59:00', 'parent_id': 't1_k7a9s36'}]"
164pp8q,2023-08-29T23:38:17,Exposure Therapy,"For those suffering from PTSD, OCD, GAD, Panic Disorders, phobias, hypochondriasis or other similar issues.... give exposure therapy a try. I was completely closed off to this until over time I started seeing the positive effects slowly but surely. Face the feared object head on whatever it may be, fact check your surroundings, imagine the object in your head and see if its as scary as your portraying it to be in real life, become engulfed with your body sensations and everything your feeling and then process the situation through your most effective coping techniques after you leave the situation. These are all obviously generic and modified, but this is a very short and concise version on some steps that can work if done correctly!",mentalhealthadvice,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/164pp8q/exposure_therapy/,[]
14p83n8,2023-07-03T09:22:14,"It may not be a big deal to others but for you, it can be traumatizing.","I hate it when people say ""it wasn't that bad."" It's actually pretty traumatizing for others. No one else gets to decide what is traumatic and not traumatic for you.",mentalhealthadvice,7,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/14p83n8/it_may_not_be_a_big_deal_to_others_but_for_you_it/,"[{'comment_id': 'jqhz9vo', 'author': 'Farie_2003', 'body': ""Exactly💯. I've had traumas and i mean loads of it. It leads me to depression when i have flashbacks sometimes. It gets me anxious about my upcoming days. I usually don't talk about my traumas to people. I'm keeping them inside bc i see no point in ranting on my traumatic incidents plus what can they do? Nothing and i don't wanna burden or sadden anyone with my problems."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2023-07-03T18:16:05', 'parent_id': 't3_14p83n8'}]"
14l5w40,2023-06-28T16:01:38,How do you handle stressful situations?,"Hi, I know that having depression and anxiety makes us very vulnerable emotionally but how do you handle stressful situations?",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/14l5w40/how_do_you_handle_stressful_situations/,[]
13isbym,2023-05-16T07:55:29,How do i go about asking my parents for help regarding mental health stuff?,"I'm 16 and originally i was planning on just waiting until i was an adult to see if there's anything actually wrong but it has become more difficult to ignore. Without going into too much detail in order to keep this short, i was able to ignore a lot of mental health stuff when i was younger because i thought it was normal and it didn't bother me that much but recently its been a lot harder. A friend even picked up on a couple weird habits i have and told me apparently it's not normal??

I feel like it might come off as i'm faking it for attention, especially if it just turns out to be nothing and i got all panicky and dramatic over something i made up in my head. Also, i don't even know if my parents would take me seriously bc it would be kind of sudden and out of the blue. I don't think they'd understand what i'm trying to tell them and even so the thought of having that awkward conversation makes me want to vomit.

Any advise?",mentalhealthadvice,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/13isbym/how_do_i_go_about_asking_my_parents_for_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'jlmws07', 'author': 'Vegetable_Pin2255', 'body': 'Hey! I actually was in a similar situation myself. I’m 19 now and I grew up half Asian.  “change your mindset” was normally the response I got when I got older and finally felt comfortable coming to my parents about my depression and anxiety. In my own experience so far as a 16 year old you are able to make your own doctors appt and they are normally very understanding of mental health troubles. They will give you guidance if you feel you can’t get support from your parents. Same thing with the guidance counsellor at school. Just be warned that any time you bring up the topic of self harm or suicide they will try to get more involved with family and support on your behalf. It sounds like you may just have some anxiety although you didn’t give much detail about your own troubles. You are also young so I’d recommend staying away from meds until you are sure nothing else can work (scary messing with hormones when you’re not done developing) but at the very least just start to bring up the topic of mental health around your parents and see how they react. I knew by the way my mom criticized people with anxiety that she would say the same things to me and I was correct. I hid everything from her after that from age 13 to now. Recently I told her I am being medicated and she was very understanding and gave me a hug. Things can change and your parents love you so as long as you gauge it properly with them and are able to talk to them about it calmly (without seeming like you’re being dramatic) they will listen. Last bit of advice would be to come to them first because if they notice you’re a bit off and come to you first it can be scary to not be prepared for it.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2023-05-26T05:38:12', 'parent_id': 't3_13isbym'}, {'comment_id': 'k8a1ulu', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': 'Don\'t worry about it coming off as faking it. You know you aren\'t, and a Doctor (most doctors\\*) would never assume you\'re faking a symptom you tell them is happening to you. It\'s always better to go to a Doctor, even if it\'s ""nothing."" When I was younger, I felt the same, though. So I hope this response may help you feel a bit better. Doctors hear so many crazy things throughout their day...and it\'s what they are trained to do! Doctors love helping people, and I\'m certain a Doctor would not reprimand you for wanting to feel happier and healthier. \n\nPlease, see someone. When I got on SSRIs at 16, It was my miracle cure--not that this is the case for everyone, but seeing a doctor can help you find your peace too.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-11-08T04:10:27', 'parent_id': 't3_13isbym'}]"
12yq1mw,2023-04-25T22:58:47,"My mental state influences my job choice, it’s a problem.","I am not diagnosed with anything but will see a doctor soon. I need to get this off my mind and maybe some advice. I know it’s a lot to read, but please hear me out. Thanks.

**tl;dr: I do risky thinks and put myself in danger because I want to push myself too far into overwork and getting overwhelmed. Suffering feels not only like being alive but being worth anything. It makes me feel recognized, I want people to look at me and see my effort and my worth. That’s why I think I am not in a position to become a doctor of any kind, I don’t do it to save someone, just to feel worthy by making myself suffer from overwork.**

I show many symptoms of the white knight syndrome, seems like I have a hero complex and it influences my job choice. I soon have to decide what job I want to do, therefore what I need to study. My grades are average, I’m not a bad student but not super hard working either. I live in the middle of almost nowhere but I could move, and probably have to, to study at a university of choice if I even get that far. I love series like Doctor House and other similar ones. I am not very sensitive with injuries or body fluids etc. This only adds to my problem.

First of all, it’s very difficult to decide what job I want to do in general, I wake up with different ideas too often and get bored of those after a short time. I can’t stick to a plan but I have to decide soon. My current dream job is pathologist, this requires excellent grades and a long long time studying for it. I believe I am capable of it but I am worried.

The human and everything around it fascinates me, about the mind, psychology, surgeries, toxicology, organs, biology, neuroscience, and so much more.  I am also very interested in anything with weapons, guns, knives, all kinds of martial arts, my last job idea was to join the army and become a sniper. (I’m not from the us, I’m from Europe) That’s also a rather extreme profession, very difficult, I’d need to be super fit physically and mentally.

I don’t exactly know why, but I can’t help wanting to put myself in these dangerous situations, overwhelming and stressful ones. Deep down I want to prove that I am capable to deal with it, that I can be the greatest and that I would be invincible. I can’t help but imagine myself in these situations where I am the hero at the end, often suffering too.  It is sadistic sometimes and makes me feel like a madman. I’ve been like this since I was a child, always imagining that people around me suffer so that I could shine while saving them. Only in my early teens it happened that I started putting/imagining myself in danger or self-injurious behavior too.  That’s why I am scared (regardless of if my grades would be good enough) that these are wrong jobs for me.

I can’t help but find it “cool” to be the one saving someone even if it includes failing. It’s not about saving someone, saving someone’s life or fighting for my country, it’s about me getting feeling good about myself.  This morning I drifted off into a daydream about someone taking too many drugs, (I dont know much about medical stuff so this might not be realistic) he had heart failure, was clinically dead and ofc I was the one to help first, did cpr, didn’t help, tried giving him any antidote I magically had with me and after a very stressful period of time he was alive but very weak. Since it was so stressful I broke down too, almost fainted and had to be saved as well.  As you can see, it’s childish and dumb, it’s not about me saving someone’s life, it’s about me getting attention and feeling good about myself.I  made another post about this, I can’t help but overwork myself.I mentioned that I’m not a hard working student, I have always been fond of people who worked hard. There was a time when I felt I wasn’t worth anything just because I never really had to work hard for anything, I was always lucky and spoiled.I workout until I am dizzy, I fainted because of this, when I’m hungry I don’t eat sometimes. I think “a bit longer won’t hurt” but very deep down it’s just “you don’t deserve to eat, you should suffer“. I am healthy overall, guess I am lucky. My bmi is normal I am very happy with my looks, so I don’t have an eating disorder. It’s also not that people being worried about me “oh, you didn’t eat anything all day, are you okay?” is why I do this. I say that I want to be recognized but I don’t even want people to interfere with my life that much or influence it or be worried about me, working out until I get dizzy and almost faint isn’t in order for people to see me weak like that, it makes me and my existence feel valid and good when I am like that. People shouldn’t notice it, they would make too much drama of it.

I do risky thinks and put myself in danger because I want to push myself too far into overwork and getting overwhelmed. Suffering feels not only like being alive but being worth anything. It makes me feel recognized, I want people to look at me and see my effort and my worth.

Read the other post if you want more infos, but it’s a very long post. This is a second private account.

This is why I don’t think that being a doctor of any kind (a pathologist at least doesn’t need to save anyone like a normal doctor and usually works with dead people) or being a soldier is any good.

Feels hard to say it, but I can’t do a job simply because I want to get attention from it + I know my daydreams are nothing like real life and just movie inspired. Attention in terms of people recognizing me, suffering and being the hero seems to me like people look at me. They don’t have to care, just notice. I don’t want to entertain people, just that I am the center of attention. God it feels so bad to write this, I wish I weren’t so selfish but in the end it is what it is… I just want to feel like I am worth anything. Having a job that I like doesn’t even occur to me, I don’t have any hobbies, in my free time I sit around all day, stay in bed or workout. I wouldn’t know what else I like to do. And I am stick of my lifestyle, I’d rather do something exhausting. I don’t mind getting up in the middle of the night for work, putting myself in danger or anything like that.But saying that also feels wrong, if my thoughts weren’t like this and wouldn’t tell me that I need to do this to be valid, I’d just want a normal life. No putting myself in danger. I don’t even care that much about people as that I’d really put my life in danger to save theirs.

I feel so bad about this, I don’t know what to do. I can draw well, that kinda my talent and my mom wants me to do something artistic. That isn’t my cup of tea at all, it’s so boring. How could I feel alive like that? Having such a normal job, not being recognized. Even if I were a famous artist and people would look at me and know me it wouldn’t be the same. There’s no suffering in that. There’s not worth in that. There is no need to step out of my comfort zone or overwhelming work or anything in that. There is no life in that. That’s what I feel like, I don’t want to insult anyone. I admire passionate people. I am not passionate about anything really.

Also, I don’t want to invalidate anyone else’s problems and pain and suffering. I am sure there’s something wrong with me, I had a normal childhood and was never abused. I do lack emotional closeness to my parents but except that, everything in my life is normal. It’s all going well, as I said, I’ve always been lucky. Things just came to me without me having to do much for them, it’s like I didn’t put any effort into anything. So I feel like I should suffer too to deserve it, to deserve life. Apart from it being one of the only things that makes me feel alive. But it also makes me feel bad for people who had to sacrifice their childhood or teenage years or anything else to achieve or live up to their or someone else’s expectations. It shouldn’t be like that. I hate expectations, I just want to do what I want without having to justify it to anyone. But I don’t want to harm anyone because I am being selfish. I need help.

Just what do I do? I’m f, 18.",mentalhealthadvice,4,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/12yq1mw/my_mental_state_influences_my_job_choice_its_a/,[]
11gcp8e,2023-03-03T01:45:09,Am i lazy,"So I'm in school and have shity grades like i pass but its like the bare minimum. And now the big exams are close so I'm trying to study. Like I can understand some stuff but mostly I'm really not doing good and the problem is when I'm in class and I have like an assignment I most likely do very little because I just can't concentrate on it like it feels like I can understand what needs to be done but I just cant, like my brain is on fire and I just cant do it(ofc I finish it some time and then its not that hard most of the time but i need to study in school bc at home i can bearly get to it if i dont have some sort of deadline). 

Like i would love it if i could just study normally. But I just can't concentrate and I really try. And honestly, if someone who knows something about mental health issues could tell me I'm just lazy or not would be good so I can either fully embrace being lazy or maybe actually get help or something and start living normaly.

And like I have thought oh maybe I have adhd or something but personally, i don't think the symptoms match up that much like the only thing is not being able to concentrate on stuff like biology, math and other ""smart"" subjects, so it just sounds dumb. I have heard that for people born females ( im a trans guy), the signs are different from the male ones but idk.",mentalhealthadvice,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/11gcp8e/am_i_lazy/,"[{'comment_id': 'jeszbg9', 'author': 'squidsquideet', 'body': 'Hey is just like to say that although it probably doesn’t feel like it I think what you’re experiencing is very normal and it sounds like you’re putting too much pressure on yourself and being too hard! \n\nI think it’s a hugely normal experience having trouble concentrating and struggling to get motivation and get work done and study even though you understand the concepts and understand what you need to do! I think these problems are especially normal is school where you’re studying a huge range of things! Some of them you’ll find easy naturally and interesting and some of them won’t be suited to how your brain works and you’ll find extra difficult, it’s very normal to find the things you enjoy are good at and that you find interesting easier and everyone’s different!\n\nIf anything I’d try to look at the things you find easier and more interesting and see if there’s a common theme, for example I always found concrete things like maths and science with right or wrong answers very difficult and more conceptual things like philosophy, psychology etc more interesting and a lot easier. Once you find out what you’re good at if you want to study after school you can focus on those things, no job involves all the subjects like school does and it’s a part of life that people find what they’re good at and focus in on that honing their natural talent, skills and interests into something they can be good at and enjoy. No one is good at everything across the board! \n\nIf it’s any consolation, when I studied something I found really interesting even the subjects that weren’t suited to me were HEAPS easier to focus on because they were related to my interest and I could see a way that learning would be applicable and used in my life. School isn’t like that, you learn a lot of things you’ll never use again and without seeing yourself using them in the future and getting you towards your goal, it makes sense that it’d be hard to concentrate and hard to study!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-04-03T22:11:43', 'parent_id': 't3_11gcp8e'}]"
z5krwa,2022-11-27T04:37:00,How do I handle getting bad news nearly everyday?,"For the past few months, everyday has been receiving bad news. Failing classes. Family issues. Health issues. Health issues with my family. Struggles with making friends. Money issues. Essentially, the hole of darkness grows deeper. This year has had more bad than good, and I feel like I am cycling through the stages of grief on repeat. Any advice for coping with bad news so frequently. I feel like there is no joy in my life. I am in counseling and seeking medical attention, but I would like to hear how others deal with it.",mentalhealthadvice,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/z5krwa/how_do_i_handle_getting_bad_news_nearly_everyday/,"[{'comment_id': 'j2ynmdn', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'When it rains, it pours. Truest shit ever. \n\nThe thing that helped the most was like documentaries about literal starving African children. Seriously. I leaned real deep into gratitude.  It helped that it wasn\'t even for myself... I had to come up with ways to encourage my loved ones to keep going. Reminders of how much worse it could be seemed to bring comfort to all of us. Some people would kill for your life. \n\nAnd I thought about the millions before me who walked my path and how if they could do it, I could do it. And if it was good enough for them, it was good enough for me. I thought about how rough my grandparents\' lives were and all my ancestors before them. \n\nAnd I thought about how life is just like a movie. Just like a horror movie. Just sights and sounds and sensatations and love followed by heartbreak. \n\nAnd I screamed and cried and acted like a bitch in between.  Sometimes you just feel bad. \n\nSome people got this unshakeable faith things will get better. That a plot twist is due, and everything will turn around. I\'m not like that tho. I deal with what is.\n\nOh, and I forced myself into other people\'s lives. I didn\'t wait for them to offer to talk or see me. I talked *at* them and asked to come over.  I took control of my social needs, surrounded myself with confederates, fought the constant impulse for ""me time"" (binging on the internet in bed).', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-01-05T02:58:56', 'parent_id': 't3_z5krwa'}, {'comment_id': 'jet04vu', 'author': 'squidsquideet', 'body': 'The biggest thing that helped me was taking time out of my day every single day to focus on the good things even if all I could think of was that I have food and shelter that day. It’s like excercise for your brain, the more you focus on the good the more it becomes visible to you without even trying. Our brains are wired to recognise patterns for survival and they’re very quick to learn and efficient at doing so. Your brain can very easily be trained to see only the bad things everywhere but almost as easily trained to see the good. I don’t think it’s so much learning how to cope with bad news as bad news will always be there, it’s more about learning to also focus on the good! Your brain is mouldable like your body and you can train it to be and do things you want it to if you’re consistent and that’s super empowering, it just takes alot of time and effort! Fight against having yourself and your life being defined by all the bad and spend some more time focusing on the good, you can do it!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-04-03T22:17:02', 'parent_id': 't3_z5krwa'}]"
y0z4fe,2022-10-11T09:33:30,I'm avoiding dealing with what I think is schizophrenia.,"To be clear, I am NOT self-diagnosing schizophrenia.  I am, however, showing many of what I think are symptoms of schizophrenia.  Depersonalization, mania, disorganized thinking, word salad, auditory hallucinations, anxiety, paranoia, and thought blocking to be specific.  I'm also at the age when symptoms of schizophrenia begin to present in adults.  I know I should talk to my psychiatrist about this, but I'm hesitant because if it actually is schizophrenia, I really don't want to be labeled as crazy.  Most of the people who know me know I've spent time in a mental hospital and that I'm already mentally and emotionally unstable with manic tendencies.  I'm pretty sure people already think I'm nuts, but adding schizophrenia to that is only going to double down on people's already existing thoughts that I'm crazy.  I know avoiding it and waiting for it to go away is unhealthy and counterintuitive, but I'm not at a point where I can bring myself to reach out to a professional and get help for it.  What should I do?",mentalhealthadvice,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/y0z4fe/im_avoiding_dealing_with_what_i_think_is/,"[{'comment_id': 'irvlf0q', 'author': 'Opposite-Birthday69', 'body': 'You need to talk to a psychiatrist. Honestly the symptoms could also be bipolar, schizoaffective, PTSD. Ether way you need to talk to someone about it because if you truly think it’s schizophrenia then you need to get it diagnosed because being unmediated without the correct medication can have areas of your brain go away like how dimeta (can’t spell) does to peoples brains. The areas will shrink over time', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-10-11T17:03:15', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'iwvxh0u', 'author': 'Littlerainbow02', 'body': 'You definitely should go and talk to a professional. Not going will not change the fact that you battle a mental illness, it will only make things worse. Not going is literally just suffering much more then is needed. A professional can help you understand what is happening and help you find ways that work for you, as well as help you manage your symptoms and can also give you medication to increase your comfort', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-11-19T00:56:54', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'iznrlum', 'author': 'interpretation99', 'body': 'you find ways that work for you, i know you can do that', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-12-10T19:45:52', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'j0o8pbb', 'author': 'Utterly_Togetic', 'body': 'Hello friend! Psych nurse here. First, thank you for sharing; this must be so scary for you, and it\'s gotta be hard to talk about this.\n\nAs others have mentioned here, what you\'re going through could be a number of things, including schizophrenia. However, it\'s not uncommon for mood disorders like major depressive and bipolar to present with what are called psychotic features (a name that might bring a lot of preconceived notions to mind, but what\'s important is that these are signs/symptoms that just mean ""disorganized thinking""). These symptoms can also be caused by the use of some substances or medications.\n\nWhile we can\'t be certain what might be going on without testing by a physician, the insight you\'ve given here is a hopeful sign imho. It can be very difficult for us to discern what is and what isn\'t really there when experiencing these scary things, and having some level of recognition re: symptoms of psychosis is often associated with positive outcomes. Keep us updated how you\'re doing, if you\'d like! We\'re rooting for you 🌻', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-12-18T09:42:42', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'j7tqsj0', 'author': 'wisely_lined56', 'body': 'Being able to recognize the difference between what is real and what is imagined during these terrifying experiences is crucial.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-02-09T15:23:30', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}, {'comment_id': 'jetll0x', 'author': 'squidsquideet', 'body': 'It sounds like you have really good insight into your symptoms. I totally understood your resistance to the stigma that can come along with some of these symptoms and your self consciousness at how you are perceived by others. Getting support for these symptoms and getting them under control with professional help will only help with how you feel about yourself and how others view you. If you do receive a diagnosis there is no need to share that with others if you are worried about how they may react, and there is also no reason why these symptoms in themselves or a diagnosis would mean you need to be hospitalised. It sounds like you absolutely need some support and guidance, you don’t need to manage these things by yourself and a good doctor will treat you with respect and commend you for your insight and proactivity in getting some help!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2023-04-04T00:37:01', 'parent_id': 't3_y0z4fe'}]"
xv0hiw,2022-10-04T06:10:32,Friend Advice,"Hey everyone! Recently my friend has started to really decline in his mental health and started to use unhealthy coping mechanisms to cope, the kind where if we were in say middle school I would report him to Guidance or possibly tell his parents, however we're both at that age where you are expected to figure things out for yourself. I've always tried to remind him that I'm here for him, and that he's not alone, but I'm a kid. I'm not a licensed therapist, or his dad, I can't heal whatever is going on with him, and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't mad at him for declining so rapidly, especially since this is something that could easily be prevented (For reference he is dealing with prediagnosed mental illness, not any sort of outer triggers) if he talked to an adult, or told his mom he really wasn't doing well. I know I sound like an asshole saying this, but I'm tired of him relying on other people to fix this for him, especially since ever since I was little I've been expected to be independent mental-health-wise and find a way to feel better myself. I'm tired of being the one to hold him, especially since I know if I wasn't there he could just find someone to replace me. But I also want him to feel safe and to get better. Sorry this was so long, but does anyone have advice?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/xv0hiw/friend_advice/,[]
xu0k2m,2022-10-03T03:04:33,What is Therapy? Helping Humans Heal,,mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://youtube.com/watch?v=ighJIt8fuz0&feature=share,"[{'comment_id': 'iqt0036', 'author': 'luckis4losersz', 'body': ""Hey everyone my name is Syed, I am a PhD student in psychology who creates videos related to my research area and clinical work. In today's video, I delve into 'therapy' as a metaphysical concept and practical aspects such as what elements from my experience as a developing psychologist are most conducive to 'good therapy'. I zero in on multi-modal assessment, therapeutic alliance, personality factors and what an individual should look for in a health professional. I touch on my own experience working with youth who often do not believe they have an issue (i.e, they are volunteered on behalf of parents/teachers). I use clips from 'Split', 'the Departed', 'Seinfeld', 'the Sopranos', 'the Wire' & ‘Patch Adams.’"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-10-03T03:04:47', 'parent_id': 't3_xu0k2m'}]"
wz603f,2022-08-27T21:14:22,Im scared and confused,"Using a throwaway as my boyfriend also has access to this laptop and i dont want to scare him - also a trigger warning for suicidal thoughts, abuse, and depression.

I have struggled with my mental health my entire life, my dad was emtionally/mentally abusive, other family issues, i have been suicidal a lot of my life after 15 years old, and have struggled with anixety my entire life so severe that i am often delusional about things that are meant to be normal (example, my anxiety focuses on embarrasment and the fear of so much that i often struggle to  cross a road even if there is no cars there, because if i get hit by a car, to me that would be so horribly embarassing) - theres a lot going on in my brain 24/7 and yet i still have one unanswered question that bothers me.

When the dperession comes again as it does so often, there seems to be no in between when it comes to being fine and suicidal - i dont feel depression without suicidal thoughts, and it seems to turn dark very quickly. i have never attempted but have been very close many many times. I just feel the need to find an answer as to why i cant just be depressed without it being so dark.

If anyone has any ideas i would really appreciate it, and sorry if this is way too much information, i just never know exactly what needs to be said. -E",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wz603f/im_scared_and_confused/,"[{'comment_id': 'iqx0ztv', 'author': 'Blackfox_357', 'body': 'I am really carefull with giving advice bc i am no therapist. You should probably talk open about it with your boyfriend. Bc he will definitely get the hints when you are down. He maybe can help you. And then I am recommending to search help from a therapist. I hope I can help. Greetings from Germany.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-10-04T00:13:08', 'parent_id': 't3_wz603f'}]"
wy2rwg,2022-08-26T13:06:38,Where is my mind?,"I had a crazy roller over a year and a half ago. It really threw my perception of reality off , I wasn't hurt whatsoever , basically I sped at 110 hit a dip in the road , caught a bit of air time. Fish tailed crazy, almost hit another car on the highway, aimed at a landline I uttered "" the wheels in your hands jesus "" maybe as a manifestation who knows? Glared at my rosary I had at the time and spun the roulette wheel ( I spun the sterling wheel the opposite direction ) 
Instead of hitting the landlines I rolled over the road , then rolled over 2 more times. 

I come out of the vehicle unscaved,  the sun breaks the clouds and the gent I almost head on collisioned flipped a bitch, checked on me, told me to go to church that Sunday, called the local authorities.

After this I was in a surrealistic state. I met a girl and it opened me up a bit. I got a close connection without a relationship, a few months which my sister died. I ghosted her and everyone I knew in some cloud of depression with suicidal thoughts. I let this all ride me in this crazy overwhelming cocktail. We connected a few months after I ghosted her. We got together , she moved in. I realized we had similar vices. Wasted time on such, not the best with rent. We had gotten jobs together,  chose a place way far out and it wrecked our finances with gas plus pre explained poor prioritization. I was living on my own for almost 2 years no issues. I got too depressed let stress of this whole ordeal get the better of me. I let myself turn this seed that could've bloomed bright into a toxic night, mare. 

A few months in, she got harassed at work. ( whole other issue not necessary to explain). We both quit, unemployed for a bit. She moved out. We digressed. Communication digressed.  We weren't benefiting each other through communication.  Arguments ensured, we made a lot of love ( apologize for tmi) we both questioned if it was just lust.

A part of me is so deeply bound towards what I felt when we had sex. I'm sorry to sound so vain or lustful. Self centered or whatever. I've had a mismatched life. A few months into our relationship her grandma died. ( very close ). My mother died a month after ( I want the closest, she was a drug addiction. OD Ed in jail ) 

Either or, ik death can bring the worst out in us. 
She felt like my soulmate. 
I feel like I dropped the ball so many times
Near the end of the relationship she was way more reserved. Very cut off emotionally, I felt like I kept trying to smoothen things out. I'd fall through communication sometimes,  I'd be too frustrated a bit and come off a bit rude and we'd argue. Finally it digressed and 2 nights ago she had assaulted me given I told her she shouldn't drive intoxicated home. I offered to call her mom or an uber , as well as drive her she declined. No license, dirty regirstion no insurance . She left , I called 988 ( Google it ) she came back.



Screamed who is that on the phone? At the random operator lady helping me I suppose. Either way I hung up, said she lost her phone.shes arguing , rude , still drunk. We walk around for her phone. I check everywhere good. Old lady tenant by where I checked told us to leave if we didn't live there. She yelled at the old lady called her names. A couple in their 40s 50s had tired to assist verbally with the tension but they sorta minded themselves watching. We checked her car again, she slapped me very badly, very obviously. Eventually we got back mid complex where my unit is , we sat. I talked to her. She got upset, she tried to claw me. I dodged them. She was shaking crying she lost her phone her stuff w her grandma. It felt different, like I'd fallen out of love I didn't know who I was looking at. 

At this point it milds  out, she goes into the unit. On my bed , knock knock policia  

I was faded coming down from being a bit high off a thc pen. Anxiety high after all of that realism.  I accidentally say she's in the unit they go to talk to her. I think it's up I'm going to jail damn. I told them she acted in self defense I didn't let her leave since she's drunk. I didn't want her to get a dui since I've gotten one before. Cop was a bit 6 6 gent. Both stern men, I could see their glares. Eventually after the 2nd spoke to her, the tallest one I was speaking to said she's going to jail. I was shocked I mentioned again I held her. I pushed her a few times. She was scared for her life it felt. 

This guy basically had me understand how fucked up I looked. And told me to realize she looks fine. I'm a victim

A grown man telling you that, man to man is a crazy gut check. I lost some morals and standards along the journey so far. I'm not sure how to feel. This relationship at the end , had opened an old addiction. Subconsciously maybe I thought it'd be a saving grace, or the opposite to relapse. The coin flip sadly lands on usage either fork of the road. I've gone through rehab classes for a past dui, no advice needed on vices. This ordeal demolished urges to use whatever. I feel very flat

I feel direct. I feel like a rock bottom has been hit.
Emotionally I'm not sure. I loved her. We tried for a kid idk why for a few months. I felt close to her, I feel as if genuinely I was very intrusive and toxic which fucked us up bad. I let my prioties go when I could've been a rock. She is a good girl, she tired until her Witts  end. I hate to have seen someone so vibrant dull out their sparkle so much. I can't be the blame in total with her own respective grievance. 




Any advice guys? I love her, it feel so deep and sorrown.  I hate to admit despite the loss of drive to use I've relapsed with drinking smoking etc. I feel numb all together.
An eviction enuses,, a friend at work I've vented to lately and has been through similar ordeals is letting me crash at their place temporarily hopefully a roomate situation In a 2 bed. Either way

God let me live through a car crash
God gave me the opportunity to save some money living with a coworker possibly a stable condition in a 2 bed
It feels lie
God gave me her, 
And I misused the blessing 
I hadn't watered it effectively 
The soil I planted wasn't the purest foundation I could've put forth into a relationship 


I'm torn between , eviction facing me means I may lose these pets of mine dog 🐕 🐈 
Idk if that matters,  been homeless before. My brother is, mother way before she passed

Life's a trip and I feel like I can get some good vibrant waves to surf yet I don't let myself ride them out whole heartedly. I fall in the ocean and choke on the water a bit as if I can't swim, I've let myself divulge into terrible self destructive habits that hindered a solid opportunity for something I think was genuine at first. 

Dualialsatically guys, it was good sex. I hate to sound brainwashed by hormones.  But it was the driving force to get to know her sorta, always noticed we hadn't much in common

From the grt I noticed we had opposing personalities. Besides that w her pineal gland cyst she was very hormonallly imbalanced would get mad or pissy easy. I hate to think I let a seed ( relationship ) with so much potential falter. 
Her mother called me an hr or 2 after her arrest. She said why weren't you arrested why was she, I explained the officer told me I was the victim ( poorly phrased have you) ex GF old 80 yr old uncle said your lucky I don't go over and shoot you. The mom said you know she has 2 unless not in prison right? ( loose threat ) , other 2 uncles in prison are degenerative ex junkies or are wild cards. Don't get me wrong I can fight , I've boxed amongst other things.  Possibly I could get a legal fire arm for self defense. However it is eery to feel I need to have an excessive guard. It nice to hopefully not have a place in my name but a coworkers for however long for incognitive purposes. But what? I just ignore this shit? Idk how to roll through the dough of this thick flower


Any advice ?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wy2rwg/where_is_my_mind/,[]
wjfkxx,2022-08-08T23:31:12,Should I get my Mother Help?,"I'm in my early 40's and recently had a realization that my mother has suffered from mental health issues. A couple years ago her husband, my step-father passed away and she flew into a negativity spiral. This happened from time to time in the past and I had always just looked at it as ""that's the way mom is sometimes"". This time, since her husband was gone she had no one else to help her through this episode and it all fell to me. I became the focus of her pain and anger.

I reached out to a therapist for advice on how to help her. The therapist gave me some advice but it was mostly around how to manage our communication and set boundaries, etc. It was only after speaking with the therapist that I started to realize that my mother's outbursts throughout my life may not be normal, they might be a sign of mental illness. 

Many years ago my mother made me promise her that I would never put her in a home. She was emphatic about this and in her typically over-the-top fashion said she would rather die than be put in a home. I didn't think much of it at the time. Since then I've realized that she is likely aware of her illness and does not want to risk being ""found out"" through any sort of medical facility. She was always very hesitant to go to a hospital even if it was for someone else. She was especially resistant to any type of therapy.

I remember vividly being sent to a therapist when I was an adolescent. The combination of puberty and my mother had taken a severe mental toll on me and I was quite depressed. My mother was fed up and took me to see a therapist. I broke down completely during the session and the therapist asked me to send my mother in to talk before our next session. I relayed the message, my mother went in to speak with the therapist before my session. When my mother came out she grabbed my arm and dragged me out of the office fuming and said ""well, you're never going back there again!""

It's been two years since my step-father passed and the only communication I have with my mother is a text message or ten every few months. Usually saying something incredibly hurtful, racist, or expressing her pain and disappointment with me. Using the tips from the therapist I spoke with I've tried to set boundaries but that's no longer working. I even had to block my mother's number for my own mental health. After that, she continued the barrage via email. My last communication with her stated that if she wanted to continue to communicate with me in this way, I will have to break the promise I made so long ago and treat her outburst as a cry for help. Basically, telling her that if she continued to send hateful messages to me I would get her mental health help. There's been no communication since then.

I could go on and on about all the things she's said and done over my life and more recently since her husband passed, but only if it's helpful to anyone reading this. It causes me stress to think about the past and I am also stressed about how to help, or not help now and in the future. I don't want to burden my family with this issue. I tried telling my father (they've been divorced for nearly 40 years) and he broke down crying when I started telling him some of this.

I don't think my mother is going to hurt herself or anyone else. She occasionally threatens people but it's all a big dramatic show. For example, she was selling her husbands car to a family friend and when the buyer told her she was missing a specific document to finalize the sale she announced to the entire room (they were in a AAA office) that she was going to get a gun and come back and shoot everyone. Of course she didn't, she doesn't own a gun, as far as I know. But that's the type of over-the-top statements she can make.

So all that lead up for a simple question. Should I get my mom help? Fully realizing that this would be against her will and breaking a promise I made to her.

Thanks to anyone who reads this and wants to help.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wjfkxx/should_i_get_my_mother_help/,[]
wf3hwj,2022-08-03T16:25:02,Why do i think I'm having a heart attack if my chest hurts???,"My brain immediately goes to negative thoughts health wise, I've looked and Haven't found anything talking about this, i don't even know if it's anxiety related but please tell me I'm not alone

Multiple times i have felt a pain in my side or a hurting stomach and my brain immediately says ""what if your internally bleeding? I've tried sleeping many times but couldn't until i checked in light that i wasn't. 
I've had a pain in my head the reasonable answer was probably a migraine but my brain said ""what if it's a tumor? What if it's a brain bleed? "" and just like in my title i have a chest pain and my brain thinks it's a heart attack. Why is that?  What is this???",mentalhealthadvice,2,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/wf3hwj/why_do_i_think_im_having_a_heart_attack_if_my/,"[{'comment_id': 'iiun69d', 'author': 'gettingby02', 'body': 'So, there\'s technically two terms for this with overlapping features, but there are distinctions that you\'ll see as I explain it.   \n\nThe first being Health Anxiety, also known as Hypochondria or Illness Anxiety Disorder. It\'s a specific subset of Anxiety in which the focus of your anxiety is on your health, especially illnesses, disabilities, etc. For some, this could be having intrusive thoughts / anxiety about their symptoms or potential disorders, while for others, they may actually diagnose themselves or see doctors excessively about their symptoms. They may exaggerate symptoms in their mind or by the way they talk about it / act. Others may try to avoid seeing doctors or talking about symptoms / illnesses due to their anxiety. Some even have increased anxiety, heart rate, etc. in the presence of doctors. This may or may not be caused by or increased due to increased exposure to health information / PSAs or having a family member that is obsessed with health in some way.   \n\nThis anxiety may or may not come with the second term, which is Somatic Intrusive Thoughts. These thoughts can be experienced even if you don\'t have Health Anxiety -- there\'s a subset of OCD focused on this type of thought, and you can have them without either disorder. These thoughts are focused on the body and its processes, like blinking rate, breathing rate, heart rate, digestion, etc. You may or may not have compulsions / rituals like people with OCD do to try and dissuade the thoughts, and they may be more like ""Pure O"" OCD in which compulsions are internal. I have this type of intrusive thought myself, but it\'s rarer and usually under more stress than normal. It\'s usually my heart rate, being able to ""feel my veins"" more (which is like being hyperaware of them), breathing rate, being hyperaware of my spit-swallowing, etc. \n\nHope this helps! :>', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-08-04T05:34:42', 'parent_id': 't3_wf3hwj'}, {'comment_id': 'iivd2hd', 'author': 'NannoIsNanno', 'body': 'Thank you very much!  I appreciate it :))', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-08-04T08:58:41', 'parent_id': 't1_iiun69d'}]"
w2cj5o,2022-07-19T04:14:01,I need advice. I’m pretty sure my sister (30f) is going to try to kill herself.,"My (28f) sister is very depressed. She is constantly telling me how tired and exhausted she is from our family and how she wishes she had the motivation to get her life together. I should add that she has tried to kill herself once before when she was 19 and was diagnosed as bipolar but she refused to take the meds prescribed to her. She refuses to go see any one about it, and the times we have convinced her to go see someone, the doctors have completely missed the point or she put on a face where she is completely fine. I don’t know what to do. I can’t legally do anything. Every time I even bring up therapy she get really angry with me. I fear that before I can even do anything to help she will be dead. Please help",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/w2cj5o/i_need_advice_im_pretty_sure_my_sister_30f_is/,[]
w06w4b,2022-07-16T08:55:35,A downward Spiral with Depression . Maybe a mental health day,"So I recently started a job it very simple. I deal with severe depression and anxiety. It hasn't been right since losing my last job. Anyways, they treat me like crap and make me feel useless today which has make me want to quit. Teasing and leaving me by myself to do some of the orders. I'm thinking about taking tomorrow off just for mental health. I really just want to be alone from everyone just to like reset. How should I go about it with my boss?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/w06w4b/a_downward_spiral_with_depression_maybe_a_mental/,[]
vou3em,2022-07-01T12:04:03,can a therapist have to report anything to a legal guardian without telling a minor?,The text answers the entire question but I'm thinking about getting therapy and am worried that they'll say something to my parents. So is a therapist is allowed to say anything to my parents? I don't want my parents finding out since they're a big reason as to why I want to get therapy.,mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vou3em/can_a_therapist_have_to_report_anything_to_a/,"[{'comment_id': 'iehk1dw', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'When I went, my therapist had to get permission from me to even answer a phone call from my mom. Unless you’re threatening to harm yourself or others, I’m pretty sure they do not say anything without your permission.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-07-02T00:36:26', 'parent_id': 't3_vou3em'}]"
vncct2,2022-06-29T15:44:25,Severe Anxiety,"Long story ahead

Almost 2 years ago, I moved 50 miles away from the small town where I'd lived my whole life to a much more populated area. I Shortly thereafter totaled my car and couldn't afford to buy a new one. For reasons I don't want to get into, I didn't have health insurance when I first moved, so I had to stop taking my anxiety medicine. I have had severe anxiety my whole life. I had to wait a long time to start receiving health benefits from my new job. I haven't been to a checkup in 2 years and haven't been to a GP that wasn't my small town doctor. 

But recently my anxiety has gotten so bad that it's been hard to leave my apartment at all, even to go for a walk. My anxiety has made my job very difficult,  as it does involve talking to people a lot. My anxiety has also made me irritable. I stress all the time and regularly have severe panic attacks at work. 

Here's my question.  How I go about explaining all this to a new doctor without sounding like I'm just trying to get pills? Also, will they let me get a prescription for my old medicine on the first appointment? (My mom was a helicopter parent and wouldn't even let me make my own doctors appointments.  Also, I have severe anxiety involving doctors, talking on the phone, and uber, which I'll have to do since I don't have a cat.) 

Any advice helps!",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vncct2/severe_anxiety/,[]
vlkeo1,2022-06-27T07:39:22,Is it still a mental breakdown if i'm not crying?,"Tw: slight sh mention?

 Is it still mental breakdown if i'm not crying or would it just be normal depression? Its like, if i've been struggling with really bad depression for awhile and theres just a really really big spike like, i'm pulling my hair and feel like i'm gonna cry but i don't, is it still a mental breakdown?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vlkeo1/is_it_still_a_mental_breakdown_if_im_not_crying/,[]
vjb0kl,2022-06-24T05:40:14,Is this normal?,"Hi, so I’m 20(they/them) and I feel as though I’ve come the realization that I am very incapable of slowing down. I just don’t know how. Like it might be bc I’m scared to feel my emotions yes but I’m ready to feel them now😭. Basically I can’t even keep a routine bc just knowing I did that same thing yesterday or whatever makes me feel horrible. If I’m distracted or I’m doing something else to make it different or fun then it’s fine ig but this is rlly starting to become a problem. I can’t keep a job for too long bc I get so bored and burnt out. I would suck it up like idc if it’s boring but it’s physically painful for some reason. I’m not sure I have an actual question I’m just confused. I do have several diagnoses like depression, anxiety, bipolar II, adhd, panic disorder + Cptsd. Also p sure I have bpd or like some schizophrenic/dissociative disorder and other things but that’s that. Okay that sounds like a lot but I’m seemingly normal haha. Just could use some advice on how to help this issue, thanks <3",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/vjb0kl/is_this_normal/,[]
v9amg4,2022-06-10T21:14:04,Anyone interested in FREE COUNSELING? I need a participant for my graduate school assignment!,"Hi everyone!

My name is Clare and I’m a graduate student currently working towards getting my Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling to become a therapist/counselor. So for one of my courses this semester I’m supposed to find a willing participant to provide free counseling services to for an assignment (this will last about 6 weeks with a total of 6 sessions) and we can do this via chat, Zoom, etc. And of course, we can talk about whatever you like! Let me know what is currently troubling you and I will do my very best to assist you! If you’re interested in some FREE counseling with a therapist/counselor-in-training please DM me and we can discuss! And I'd also be more than happy to answer any questions you may have! Additionally, I have an Informed Consent form that you would need to sign electronically as well! Thanks so much in advance for assisting me with my assignment! :)",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v9amg4/anyone_interested_in_free_counseling_i_need_a/,[]
v7q0ac,2022-06-08T19:15:08,Need advice on how to help someone drive safe and take care of themselves,"Not sure if this is the right sub for this but maybe someone can point me in the right direction.

I have a family member dealing with bipolar depression and I am not sure what medication they are on. However, they do take their medication on a regular basis. This individual has stopped taking care of themselves (aka doesn't shower or maintain cleanliness in their living space). It is difficult for my siblings to compel this person to do these basic tasks as we have collectively confronted them on the matter previously. Their odor is extremely hard to ignore. I am a couple weeks out from becoming a parent and i want my child to know their family but their current situation would be problematic for all parties involved. What can we do to help them want to take care of themselves?

There is also the issue of their driving. Several neighbors have complained about erratic driving. My siblings and I fear the worst might happen if they continue to drive as they do but at the same time we acknowledge how significant driving privileges are. My siblings and I have families and full-time jobs and would be able to chauffeur this person around. Anyone else dealing with a similar situation or have any suggestions on how to confront these issues?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v7q0ac/need_advice_on_how_to_help_someone_drive_safe_and/,[]
v715ea,2022-06-07T22:21:49,Hi does anyone know how to get diagnosed online?,"I am unable to physically go to a doctor but my mental health is really bad I'd like to at least know what was up, does anyone know any website that could help?",mentalhealthadvice,3,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v715ea/hi_does_anyone_know_how_to_get_diagnosed_online/,"[{'comment_id': 'icozfw9', 'author': 'SaltyMelon97', 'body': ""Where are you from? I know there's an app called livi where you can talk to a GP via video call which might help? But I am from the UK so it might just be for that area. Sorry if that doesn't help, I hope you get the help you need x"", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-17T16:04:46', 'parent_id': 't3_v715ea'}, {'comment_id': 'icxtegr', 'author': 'ThrowawayForSlackers', 'body': 'im also from the uk, thank you!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-19T18:18:36', 'parent_id': 't1_icozfw9'}]"
v4olsx,2022-06-04T18:42:04,"Hi I’m new to Reddit and I’m just needing a bit of advice. I’m from the UK and have struggled with my mental health for a while now. I have been on antidepressants, had countless therapies and nothing seems to be working for me, leading me to think it may be more than depression_",Help pls <3,mentalhealthadvice,2,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/v4olsx/hi_im_new_to_reddit_and_im_just_needing_a_bit_of/,"[{'comment_id': 'ib566re', 'author': 'Ambz111angelface', 'body': '_Does anybody know how I would go about seeking an assessment from a proper psychiatrist? I am willing to go private if the NHS route is longer, I just don’t know where to start. Thanks', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-04T18:42:28', 'parent_id': 't3_v4olsx'}, {'comment_id': 'icp08ef', 'author': 'SaltyMelon97', 'body': 'Hello, I am also from the UK. Ive been diagnosed with ADHD through psychiatry UK. If that is something you are looking at. There\'s this thing called ""right to choose"" where you can get your go to refer you to a private medical practitioner, I find it hard to explain so I\'ve linked the website on it. https://adhduk.co.uk/right-to-choose/ I\'m not sure if this applies to other mental health issues.\n\nI recommend researching different types of therapies as there are so many out there, some I\'d never heard of before. Systematic desensitisation, Rational emotive therapy, Gestalt therapy are some that I didn\'t know about, for example. \n\nI\'d recommend doing as much research yourself because honestly the system for mental health isn\'t the best, it\'s not been around for as long as other things and doctors can deal with it badly, based on mine and others personal experiences. \n\nI wish you all the best in finding the help you need x', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-06-17T16:14:52', 'parent_id': 't3_v4olsx'}]"
uzqxeo,2022-05-28T22:03:02,in need of reassurance,"I feel like every time I'm not doing great (at the moment I've got covid and have to quarentine and I'm struggling with lack of socialising) I come back to this feeling that deep down no one really likes me that much. I have loads of friends and I'm always busy but I feel like I don't make as meaningful connections with others as everyone else seems to have. I wanted to know if others feel this way? Where you think it might come from? And if there's any truth in it? Or am I jusy getting in my head? 
It probably seems silly that I can't tell for myself but even though I imagine it's probably just a bad thought pattern, I can't help but feel that it is true. I end up thinking negatively about all my relationships, like they're not really real and I don't know how to stop it. Sometimes it takes me a while of feeling badly about a relationship before I get to the bottom of it and realise that this same thought pattern has popped up again.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/uzqxeo/in_need_of_reassurance/,[]
us1hak,2022-05-18T06:51:48,I feel responsible for my friends mentalhealth...sos,"My roommate/best friend has alot going on in regards to mental illness, as do I, but it feels like I am completely responsible for them. They recently were cut off from their family (who was extremely toxic) and has been in terrible head spaces since. For at least 3 years I have been their rock and always put them first, but that has taken its toll on me as well and I have begun taking my mental health into account above all. Because of that their mental health has been declining even before the cut contact of their family and it just all feels like they are getting worse because I can't just suck it up and suffer so that they can be happy. I'm so stuck and feel so helpless at this point. Whatever I try to do to heal myself, feels like a double edged sword that comes back to cut them down. My husband has been supportive and reassuring, but it feels like we are watching our friend slowly slide back into the worst mental state we've seen them in. How do I enforce proper boundaries while also not making them feel like a burden? It doesn't help that our rooms are 20ft away, so they treat it like it was in college (before I was married) and don't knock or let mine and my husband's room feel like a private area.....help",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/us1hak/i_feel_responsible_for_my_friends_mentalhealthsos/,"[{'comment_id': 'i9qkrq5', 'author': 'sickbunbunn', 'body': 'This sounds like a tough situation but you are in no way responsible for someone else’s problems/ life. I understand that you want to support this person but sometimes it’s really not worth the suffering that it causes yourself. In reality there is probably nothing you can do if you yourself are struggling as well. I suggest maybe encouraging them to seek professional help if you are really worried about them. If they can’t help themselves you can’t let them take you down with them. That is not what friends are for. Friends lift each other up… and it’s not just a one way thing.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-05-24T03:55:53', 'parent_id': 't3_us1hak'}]"
un53pk,2022-05-11T13:59:54,How can I and my best friends help our best friend (F23) who has an emotional disorder?,"We are a group of 2 pairs of best friends, who met each other and became couples. Now I gonna call our best friend (F23) who has an emotional disorder like X to keep this thread as short as I can.

My girlfriend and her best friend (X) have already been BFFs since they are little before they met my bro (BF of X). Then we hang out as a group of best friends.

X had already gone to a therapy section for diagnosis and confirmed that she got an 'emotional disorder'.We are well aware of that and we tried not to push the emotional level when we had arguments. And when X has her time to calm down or at her normal level, she is one of the most rational I have ever known and always puts us on her priorities. She (with my girl and my bro) actually saved me from the darkest time of my life.  


But we also have our limits too and we aren't psychologists. We are well aware that this is her mental stage and not means to harm us. 

All the things X said when she gets into an emotionally unstable stage hurt us, especially my GF (also X's bestie). Most of the time, the argument can go from 0 to 100 really quick because of some minor details. Like we said something with no mean in it and she make up that we tried to put her down or something like that. And it's frustrated to talk logically or get to the important point when the argument goes like that.

And the worst part is when the emotional level goes too high, she always chose the worst options (telling us to shut up, trying to hurt us with words, running away, and saying she doesn't want this friendship, she never wants to see us again..). 

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So the routine is always like this: We have arguments, she got emotional explosions, we have breaks sometimes and wait for her to cool down, then we tried to get back to her, both sides apologize and sit down for little talks, done.

But the problem is 3 of us never have the space to say what we must and the next argument always comes back to the old routine. And now, my girl can't take it anymore cause of all the frustrations (which had already been built up for years).

We know we will never let her go, but we have to find a way to work this out. We can't let things come back on the same path. 

So, does anyone been through the same situation or got an idea to work this out? I appreciate any advice or sharing.

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Thanks for reading this. Just writing this down already to calm me down. So if you guys have just been here are already helping me a lot.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/un53pk/how_can_i_and_my_best_friends_help_our_best/,[]
ukvx2y,2022-05-08T12:10:04,What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I exist in reality?,"I posted this in another group but no one responded. I’m not complaining - just desperate for advice. 

TW// past trauma and sexual abuse mention


For context, I am diagnosed with bipolar 2, PTSD, major depressive disorder, anxiety, and ADHD (I know  anxiety can be a factor of ADHD, but my psychiatrist has them separate). I grew up in a traumatizing household of violence from both parents and a brother as well as sexual abuse from my father. I couldn't trust anybody and I raised myself. All promises kept were broken and no one told the truth - EVER. 

I am in a relationship with the most amazing man on the planet. I am in such a good place with my life too - I'm in one of the top universities for my major, I have really good friends, and I'm traveling the country for a few years. So why is my mind hurting me?

I'm always getting these really intrusive thoughts about lies/broken promises the people in my life could be committing against me. Things that would destroy the relationships I have with people. I see it happening in my head (I'm a visual thinker) and I get all of the emotions from it. It becomes a reality and I have to fight to push it away, but it always comes back. My mind decides these thoughts are reality and it finds ""logical"" ways to prove it. I have to shut my eyes, cover them with my hands, and cover my ears with my thumbs to push it away, and it could take minutes. It's so hard to explain - it's like there are two of me. The one that knows the truth and the other that sees the Bad Truth. I know it's fake but it's real at the same time. I've tried imagining the actual truth in an attempt to get the Bad Truth out of my head, but it never works. 

Does anyone else experience this or is there something wrong with me? What do I do? I'm on all of my meds (except I can't afford my Adderall), and I take them as prescribed. I'm so exhausted and I just want to trust the people in my life. It's so hard.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ukvx2y/whats_wrong_with_me_why_cant_i_exist_in_reality/,[]
ukhhq9,2022-05-07T22:27:12,How to deal with emotional bluntness and numbness,"I've been emotionally blunt for so long, sometimes I'm able to have times where I'll be happy but most of the time it feels fake

Usually I will have a monthly(usually 1-2 months apart) ""mental breakdown"" I usually cry for no reason or I will cry for no reason but then I find a reason to cry even more. This always happens at night and rarely but sometimes I'll wake up and go to school just sad for the whole day, always on the verge of tears. But the next day or even at night I'll be completely numb, and then I'll be emotionally blunt for another month to even half a year

it's getting tiring, I've asked for help online before, but people just tell me I need to not hold in my emotions or that I need to wait cuz this is all a coping mechanism for all the stress in my life

But I'm not trying to hold in my emotions, I sometimes just want to cry or even scream with how tired I am of being emotionally numb or blunt. 

I don't have a lot of stress in my life, at least I don't think I do. My brother can be physically and mentally/verbally abusive, but I don't get to affect by it to bad, and my mom can stress me out sometimes cuz she can be homophobic and transphobic sometimes but nothing supper crazy. I'm doing fine in school and my friendship with people is fine kinda(I only got 1-3 friends so nothing much)

I just hate feeling nothing positive or negative. I hate feeling in the middle, it's basically feeling nothing. It's not suffocating, it's boring and tiring waiting to feel anything other than nothing.

I've even tried to force myself to feel happiness, but it usually it is a very short amount of time, feels fake, or I just won't feel happy no matter what. So, I have tried to force myself to feel sad, it used to work but it's getting harder, and my monthly/half-yearly night ""mental breakdowns"" have been happening less. And those were the times I would have the most emotions even if it would last only an hour or two or even less than an hour.

I'm not suicidal and I have not intentions of SH, I am actually a year and 2-3 months clean(yay) but I'm just tired of it. I'm even scared of becoming suicidal like in the past

I'm becoming more blunt, and I just hate it, I'll even get mad at myself sometimes or I'll just be mad, and just want to scream. I'll sometimes have the want to scream at school, home/in my room, even around my parents/family. It's like I'm getting more mad from being numb and emotionally blunt all the time 

I'm just asking if anyone knows how to deal with this?

Or even someone to tell me I'm not alone even if I am

and I'm sorry for venting, it's just getting a little tough and I needed to tell someone",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ukhhq9/how_to_deal_with_emotional_bluntness_and_numbness/,"[{'comment_id': 'i8j9rwa', 'author': 'sillynewdle', 'body': 'i came here to write something similar. Waves of crying everyday to trying so hard to cry and nothing coming out. The need to cry to release the numbness but seems impossible. You’re definitely not alone. I see it as, if everything is held inside for too long without a proper outlet, it turns to anger and frustration. crying is a good example but so hard and it can’t b forced? sometimes looking at myself in the mirror makes me cry other times it does nothing. hit or miss on that one.  going somewhere and just screaming out loud also feels good. listening to music and dancing alone.  surrounding urself with people you actually enjoy. journaling is good too but hard if u live with snoopy people, somewhere u can write what ur feeling or not feeling. take something that mildly interests you and learn all abt it. Living in a toxic household does wonders at creating numbness, it’s awful, im sorry you’re going through this. sending u my love.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-05-14T08:40:00', 'parent_id': 't3_ukhhq9'}]"
uhhv7f,2022-05-03T20:23:17,Is my insurance the only one that has long gaps between sessions?,"I'm currently in the process of being treated for ADHD. I've always had issues focusing and many of the other symptoms. Lately it has gotten far far worse.

To get an appointment with a psychiatrist, it has been 6 months.

I also needed to see a therapist to discuss some things and figure out some issues I'm having. They only have appointments once every 2 to 3 months. 

I don't get how someone is supposed to get mental health this way with this kind of frequency. Is this normal?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/uhhv7f/is_my_insurance_the_only_one_that_has_long_gaps/,[]
u3upbo,2022-04-15T05:15:37,I need help,"I live w my mam grandad stepdad nd 3 siblings. I'm 16 years old and have been kicked out multiple times. I've been in Foster care for 2 and a half months in 2020. I was struggle with sh and now my mam is always giving out to me, no matter what she despises me I don't knkw why. I don't know how I'm gonna live to see tomorrow or the day after I can't take all the fighting, the dirty looks, the addiction to sh. Plz gimme sum advice",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/u3upbo/i_need_help/,[]
u3jb8x,2022-04-14T20:22:15,I think I have a problem and I need help,"Hi (sorry, non-native speaker here) I am a 22yo woman and i daydream/fantasize about torturing rapists/abusers, especially p*dophiles. My fantasies are quite graphic, and i feel good when i think about it (it actually provides me joy and relief???). I’ve been formerly groomed and abused multiple times, but I think it could have been worse for me. I haven’t fulfilled any of my fantasies and I think I will never do - not because of my ethics, but rather because I don’t think I have the required strength/I won’t have any occasions in my life. I do feel empathy, would never hurt an animal, a child, or any adult person that i do not see as abusive. Nevertheless, i hold the deepest grudge against abusers, both men and women (but especially men). I am afraid to talk about this because I creeped out my boyfriend when i told him that i « dreamt once» about torturing my abuser. He told me that it was weird and creepy, and i feel like i cannot deny it. I don’t know what to do, and i am afraid to bring up the subject with anyone, even my therapist. I don’t want to creep them out. I know that I might have a problem, I am quite impulsive and I have anger management issues. I lie about my mental state to everyone, and everyone thinks I have a well- balanced mental health, but even as a child, I always felt like I would burst out of rage one day - but I don’t know when. What should I do ? Is it normal for SA survivors or should I be concerned ?",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/u3jb8x/i_think_i_have_a_problem_and_i_need_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'i9qlvb4', 'author': 'sickbunbunn', 'body': 'I am in no way a mental health professional but I wouldn’t be surprised if this is a common thing. I really think you should get up the courage to talk to your therapist about it. I know it might feel a bit shameful to have these types of thoughts but you are not your thoughts. And It doesn’t make you any less of a good person that you are having these thoughts. I really hope you open up about this to a medical professional', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-05-24T04:04:42', 'parent_id': 't3_u3jb8x'}]"
u074ui,2022-04-10T06:59:35,hi guys,"so if u enjoy psychological stuff and diagnostic terms and all that goodness, can u try and make a differential diagnosis for me or like how would u describe my condition?

so basically at 12yo (im a female) my depression started up. i was acting like a psycho. quickly, my BPD symptoms started showing. gor a couple years my diagnosis was depressive bpd and heavy depression. but now im hallucinating, for a couple of months, im 17 now. i feel like im not real most of the time. i feel like this isnt just bpd anymore. ive had sleep paralysis for the first time a couple days back. for the past two years, i started having really bad nightmares, and when they turned daily, i started havin heavy sleep problems a year ago and to this day. i dont trust anyone anymore. i dnt trust police, doctors, sometimes my boyfriend, i constantly switch between friend groups because i feel like they are grouping against me. i have a constant buzz in my ear. my surface behaviour is normal/bpd or depressive like, so you cant tell from looking at me whats going on. 
also ive selfharmed and attempted to off myself over the years some times but i stopped trying recently.

i know i have a personality disorder, but which one do you think i would have? my mother has bpd and substance abuse disorder, my dad has depression, my sister is anxious bpd and adhd, and my cousin has pd as well. and maybe worth mebtioning my other cousin is also neurodivergent but he is autistic. ive been abused, raised by a person with narcissistic personality disorder, molested, neglected all my life and then disowned. i also have clear signs of ptsd BUT i dont have anxiety.

what mix of personality or other disorders do u think i couldbe developing? 
any advice?
any stories? :)
i needed to rant so i would be glad to converse with someone about things like this <3 have a nice day :)",mentalhealthadvice,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/u074ui/hi_guys/,"[{'comment_id': 'i450mhr', 'author': 'Individual-Past-4958', 'body': 'You’re not a physical person, you are a beautiful soul that is currently inhabiting a physical body. We are all guests on this Earth.\n\nYou are not your disorders either. They only exist in your mind - and you’re not your mind. It’s completely natural for humans to have disorders and health problems, look at our way of life. We’re told our name, who we are, what to do and how to behave. We’re not allowed to figure any of it for ourselves if we want to be a part of the society. We’re constantly repressing our emotions, our purpose, our true selves. From little things such as quietly sitting in school when we would love to run and sing and scream, to bigger things, such as repressing hate for the people who raised us, instead of just letting it go. Our minds are schizophrenic, and it’s not at all surprising. But it’s also not something we cannot change.\n\nYour mind and body are tools for your soul to gain experience in this world. We need experience in order to grow, to become aware, to be able to spread love.\n\nHave you tried meditation? Or spending some quiet, alone time somewhere in nature? Have you tried closing your eyes, putting your hands on your heart, feeling your gentle soul inside you, and telling it with your breath that it’s beautiful and loved? If you haven’t, please try! I hope it will help you the way it helped me.\n\nWe all have difficult times. Life is a bundle of experiences and we need to learn to accept all of them, even the ones that are not easy to accept.\n\nYou have your own story, you’re unique. Your struggle is unique. But don’t think that you’re it. You are much more, an immortal soul 🌈\n\nI’m sending Love your way and hope you get better and better with every new day! ❤️🍀', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-04-10T13:12:49', 'parent_id': 't3_u074ui'}, {'comment_id': 'i43y0cy', 'author': 'maybedead526', 'body': 'and i forgot to mention dissociation, ive dissociated very heavy often some years, but now recently i dont know when i am dissociating because i always feel like that. i dont feel real or like a physical thinking person.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-04-10T07:06:32', 'parent_id': 't3_u074ui'}]"
tt7epd,2022-04-01T00:49:50,I'm having really bad mental health,I felt really depressed the past month and I haven't been able to bring myself to shower or anything like that but I've finally managed to brush my teeth just not shower yet... the only person that seems to care about me is my best friend... no one else cares...,mentalhealthadvice,6,2,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/tt7epd/im_having_really_bad_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'i3zvvvh', 'author': 'PsychologicalClock28', 'body': 'I recently got an app on my ohone called Finch. \n\nBasically it has a little finch that you have to look after - the way you look after it is by looking after yourself and tracking it - so like every time you brush your teeth or have a shower it looks after the bird. It really helped me start showering!', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-04-09T10:03:52', 'parent_id': 't3_tt7epd'}, {'comment_id': 'i43xep5', 'author': 'maybedead526', 'body': 'im so proud of u for brushing ur teeth hun :3 hope u are well <3', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-04-10T07:01:37', 'parent_id': 't3_tt7epd'}]"
trvnap,2022-03-30T07:30:54,struggling uni student,"i am a university student struggling with my mental health, i was wondering does any one have any advice on ways to help improve it? i’ve had counselling and therapy in the past, currently on antidepressants… any advice is welcome!",mentalhealthadvice,3,6,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/trvnap/struggling_uni_student/,"[{'comment_id': 'i2o9xfq', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': ' I honestly had to withdraw from my university this semester for mental health reasons even though I was supposed to graduate in May', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-30T09:26:06', 'parent_id': 't3_trvnap'}, {'comment_id': 'i2p3nds', 'author': 'insanityinhumanity', 'body': 'omg im so sorry it got to that :( have you withdrawn completely from the university or do you get to go back in the next semester? i’ve thought about trying to take the rest of this year out', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-30T15:39:15', 'parent_id': 't1_i2o9xfq'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rmx0b', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'I’m taking one class rn (easy online one) for the credit but withdrew from my final class in my major because I just could not handle everything I had to do for it (75 min presentation, 2 15 min ones, a research proposal presentation) . I also rushed through graduating, doing 2.5 years instead of 4 so I honestly think I just burnt myself out a lot', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T02:55:10', 'parent_id': 't1_i2p3nds'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rpnu0', 'author': 'insanityinhumanity', 'body': 'wow yeah that sounds like a lot! definitely sounds like you burnt yourself out! hope things feel a bit less stressful now you withdrew!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T03:14:03', 'parent_id': 't1_i2rmx0b'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rpyhn', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'Thank you! I was off antidepressants 2 years at that point and I was a mess and had to get back on them. I was having crying spells, had no motivation, fatigue, etc. Ended up switching my major to avoid that class even though I’m about to graduate 🤣 withdrawing really helped my mental health', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T03:16:07', 'parent_id': 't1_i2rpnu0'}, {'comment_id': 'i2rzi9q', 'author': 'insanityinhumanity', 'body': 'it definitely sounds like it was the right thing to do! you shouldn’t have had to go through that !!', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-03-31T04:25:28', 'parent_id': 't1_i2rpyhn'}]"
tm5vzv,2022-03-24T17:59:50,Can't deal with change,"I (22 M) just moved to a new city because management decided that working from office is better, been having panic attacks and anxiety attacks since, it's been only 2 days but I've had about 6 anxiety attacks and a panic attack, broke down several times. The fact that I'm alone in my room in a new city where I know no one is making it worse. Don't know how to deal with these thoughts and it just keeps getting worse.

Tried to keep myself occupied with apartment hunting but as soon as I was back in the hotel it started again. I've lived alone before too, was away for 3 years for college before covid showed up, then I was at home for the following 2, but this is something I never faced before.

Don't know how to deal with it.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/tm5vzv/cant_deal_with_change/,[]
tbf5co,2022-03-11T07:30:58,I have a great life.,"I am a sixteen year old boy and have always struggled with ADD. My amazing Mom has never given up on me no matter what and I feel terrible about it. I have put her through so much stress. She is such an amazing person I love her so much but she has bad anxiety about everything. My younger brother has depression and my sister does too. I hate being another thing for Her to stress about she has put me in an alternative school were I feel like everyone there has it so much worse than me yet I still can't get my crap together
 I'm afraid that I've been using my ADD as an excuse to be lazy I've tried to change so many times I just can't seem to get my life together. I don't feel like I should struggling as much as I do when people have it so much worse that I do. Sorry if this was all over the place I just need some help. I feel so unmotivated when it comes to school I don't see the point the only reason Im still trying to graduate is because I trust my amazing mother when she says it's worth it. Sorry again for not making a lot of sense. Thanks for reading!",mentalhealthadvice,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/tbf5co/i_have_a_great_life/,"[{'comment_id': 'i0gmd4y', 'author': 'grass-whore', 'body': ""okay listen to me rn, you're a great kid, but it doesn't seem like you have a great life right now. that's because you're 16, mentally ill, and in high school. you're putting too much pressure on yourself, no one has their crap together at 16. ADD/ADHD comes with free add ons that are hard to uninstall such as: low self-esteem, foggy head, and guilt (over things that aren't your fault.) try researching more about your ADD so you can understand what you're going through better, and get tips on working through this. try to graduate if you can, but if you can't, don't beat yourself up, you have to work much harder than other students do to get the same results, and that's not your fault. if you end up getting a GED, that will have no ill effect on your ability to find a job. comparing yourself to others is a hard habit to break but if you can catch yourself doing it, try to tell yourself that you're your own person, and life is not a race because everyone has different obstacles, you're not taking advantage of your mom, I feel like if she saw this post she'd tell you the same thing."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-03-13T11:14:49', 'parent_id': 't3_tbf5co'}]"
t8aj0q,2022-03-07T04:13:30,Can’t deal with Injury,"

hey guys,I  really need to get this off my chest/need advice.

Background:
I (F/18) tore my ligament in my right ankle last week, it’s not anything life threatening obviously but I’m stuck at home for now. I live with my parents and they have been great at helping me. I also either somehow contracted COVID the same night as the incident or am just sick.( My test as of yesterday have been negative but I kinda feel like I have it, a friend I was with that night also testet positive)

I’ve been really depressed about this injury. It’s not like I am a athlete but I enjoyed going to the gym. I also had to cancel 5 Job offers I got because of this. (I would have really needed them I’m trying to save for Uni). Some of my friends are on vacation right now, they know that I’m sick and injured but only one of them reached out asking how I am. I feel so lonely, I haven’t really talked to anyone. I know if I would tell them how I am they would try to help, but I feel like I am such a bother. I’m really exhausted mentally and physically. Right now it seems like my life will be on hold for 5 weeks and although I know it’s not really much it feels like an eternity. I really don’t know what to do. I can’t even go outside really cause walking on crutches is exhausting. I’ve just been sitting in bed all day alternating between playing different video games, watching tv or listing to music. I just get up for the toilet and eating with my parents.

I know people have it worse then me, how do you guys do it? It feels so horrible. Does anyone have suggestions on how I can improve my mental state right now? I would be so thankful.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/t8aj0q/cant_deal_with_injury/,[]
t0gcbf,2022-02-24T22:54:53,"Discovering I have bpd, not sure how to cope (tw: brief mention of suicide ideation)","So, I've been noticing my emotions getting really intense, overpowering even. I read thru all the symptoms and characteristics of borderline personality disorder, and it very much describes what I've been going thru for the past few years, but most noticeably in the past year or so.

While I have a mental health intake appt in April, I'm not sure how to manage the emotions and symptoms. Like, I'm very very good at hiding it/keeping it inside/moving slower with things/not talking about how much my brain/i see suicide as an answer to most inconveniences/etc, but the overpowering emotions are a lot to feel practically constantly. (Not currently of concern of *actually* committing suicide, for a variad of reasons, the impulse is just getting hella more frequent and hella more intense.) And right now, my body's only coping mechanism has been to literally turn off ALL emotions.

Does anyone (particularly anyone with bpd) have advice on managing the emotions and internal turmoil?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/t0gcbf/discovering_i_have_bpd_not_sure_how_to_cope_tw/,[]
suco68,2022-02-17T07:20:16,College & mental health,"Hi. I have recently started my second and last senior semester of college. I’m a psychology major and the last class is senior seminar. I recently got back on antidepressants because my depression symptoms have come back. This made me upset when I realized because I was off medication for over a year and doing good. It was super random. Anyways, ever since, I’ve been extremely struggling with anxiety. The class I’m in requires 4 presentations. 2 of them are 15 mins (no powerpoint, just kinda some notes), a research proposal (PowerPoint), and a 75 minute proposal (no PowerPoint, basically an outline with some notes). Since I’ve been feeling this way, I’ve been debating on withdrawing for the semester. I truly feel like I need a break because I’m so burnt out. I’ve been taking summer & January classes ever since I started. It is also taking a toll on my mental health. I’m supposed to be graduating in may, which I was really excited about, but if I withdraw I’d graduate in December. My academic adviser also said to take care of myself first and that I’m so much more than classes and grades. I feel like I need to work on myself to be successful in school because I honestly have no motivation or confidence right now to complete my work. Basically, my question is, do you think it’s an ok idea to withdraw from college to focus on my mental health and work on myself?",mentalhealthadvice,2,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/suco68/college_mental_health/,"[{'comment_id': 'hxkhh72', 'author': 'Individual-Past-4958', 'body': 'First of all, breathe. When you inhale, try to feel the goodness of it. When you exhale, feel that vibration. \n\nYou know that feeling when your nose is stuffy and you suddenly become aware of how good it feels to NOT have a stuffy nose? Try to become aware of it now. You are able to breathe. There’s nothing stopping you. It’s pretty wonderful. \n\nOf course it’s ok to postpone your graduation. You’re not running a marathon. You’re learning new things. You’re gaining new experiences. That’s what college is about, right? If you graduate a couple months later, that’s just more experience. There’s nothing negative about it.\n\nI encourage you to spend as much time as possible in nature. If you have a forest somewhere close to where you live - go there. Listen to the trees. Let their calmness come over you. The forest will never judge you or put pressure on you. Create a special place in your heart for that feeling and try to remember it every day. \n\nNothing is that serious. When you realise this, with all your mind, soul and body - you’ll be a step closer to freedom.\n\nGood luck 🍀', 'score': 3, 'timestamp': '2022-02-19T17:32:09', 'parent_id': 't3_suco68'}, {'comment_id': 'hxmtorh', 'author': 'First-Hawk3746', 'body': 'I seen your post and I decided to make a video about my thoughts. I hope this helps. You can do anything you put your mind too. \n\nHELPING A REDDIT USER OVERCOME DEPRESSION!!!\nhttps://youtu.be/upXJfbyIvM0', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-20T04:11:44', 'parent_id': 't3_suco68'}, {'comment_id': 'hxmyu5d', 'author': 'Any_Marionberry_534', 'body': 'Thanks for the video, I appreciate it. I met with my professor who is the chair of the department of my major (funny I’m a psych major which is why I dig myself even deeper in a dark hole lol). I cried in his office for a while, and he ended up switching my first presentation (15 mins) with another student so I could see how they present. I did end up withdrawing after a lot of thinking and crying. There is no way for me to get out of the 75 min, it’s required for all psych majors. I’m was supposed to be graduating a year early but now only a semester early because I’m graduating in December now. I just want to take this time to work on my anxiety so I can feel confident going into this class again. Im planning on doing mock presentations, since I know what the criteria for them is and just working on myself. I’m super disappointed but I believe it was the best decision for my mental health', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2022-02-20T04:50:47', 'parent_id': 't1_hxmtorh'}, {'comment_id': 'hxobrtl', 'author': 'First-Hawk3746', 'body': 'No problem it’s the least I could do & regarding your decision you did what’s best for you. That’s the best thing you could ever do. The great thing is you know what you gotta do and how to attack it. \nAs for the anxiety. You have to learn to be present. If you’re always worrying about the future you’re going to constantly have those feelings of anxiousness shrouding you. My suggestion would be meditation. I started around November and about a week ago (2months into it) I’ve been feeling a really huge decline in anxiety and I’m becoming aware of my thoughts. \nI will warn you it’s really difficult at first but I PROMISE it’ll be worth it.  Here’s where I started. I hope this helps. \n\nhttps://youtu.be/U9YKY7fdwyg', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-20T12:01:42', 'parent_id': 't1_hxmyu5d'}]"
sanbpf,2022-01-23T12:09:27,I feel terrible and I don't know what to do.,"\[I'm putting a general trigger warning here, I don't want to send anyone spiraling over what I say. I'm writing this purely in seek of help, and advice.\]

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I'll preface this with a few things first. I made an anon account to hopefully get a bit of help before I take whatever I'm dealing with to a family doctor or someone else who can help me, but I just want a second opinion on everything I've experienced, as I'm very uneasy on even admitting that there might be something wrong with me. I loathe the fact that I may need to talk to someone, and I don't want those around me worrying, but I feel stuck in this constant cycle of feeling like shit and it feels like it only gets worse and worse as the years go on. This is probably going to be long, I'm going to give as much context as possible, any and all advice is gladly welcome because I'm not sure where else to turn (though one could argue internet forums aren't the right choice). I'm also sorry if any of this sounds too dramatic, I really just don't know how else to explain what I'm feeling.

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As of writing this, I'm in my 20s. I've been feeling whatever 'this' is since I was about 16, or that's when I really remember my mental health starting to take a toll on me. I have various other issues including but not limited to OCD and Anxiety, which I was diagnosed and helped through at the time but have persisted to this day. Underlying all of this however I've felt there's this indescribable whirlwind of angriness, sadness, and melancholy that I carry with me all the time. I've only shared this information with one close friend who also has mental health issues, who seems convinced I'm just depressed. But I still have good days, or even moments where I feel fine and happy so I almost don't feel that it's ""valid"" enough to be depression. I know it sounds really stupid, but I don't want to go tell a doctor I'm depressed, just to get told I'm fine because I'm feeling OK that day, and now I'm wasting someone's time who might really need it more than me. 

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I think it's important to mention that I've also struggled with what I can only describe as random moments of self harm and suicidal thoughts. I mean it's gotten to the point that I have a plan of exactly what to do if I were to ever decide that I'm just done one day. It almost doesn't feel real typing that, because I'm not sure what would even set that off, but it's there, and I've thought about it. As far as self harm goes it's progressed over the years, not in frequency but severity. I used to bite and scratch myself a lot, enough to break skin. More recently, I'd say the past two years or so I've resorted to cutting the upper parts of my arms, and I almost always immediately regret it. In the heat of the moment however, my mind just feels like it goes blank and everything is telling me to reach for the blade (which is actually a sharp, flat cuticle trimmer, not even a real blade) . I've caught myself way off guard because of how deep it's gone before, and I always end up having to hide it because it for obvious reasons it's embarrassing, so I'll be wearing sweaters in 70 degree weather.

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I think it's worth mentioning that while my childhood wasn't exactly terrible, it wasn't ideal either. My parents split when I was young and as far back as I can remember they were always fighting, always screaming over the phone and waging wars in custody battles. I always wanted to be with my mother but my father held legal rights to me and it took years as well as family court for me to live with my mother only after middle school. While I wouldn't describe my father as a bad person (he's always provided for me), I honestly think he's a narcissist and living around him feels tiring, and draining. It always has throughout my childhood, and even interacting with him today yields the same behaviors. There's so many personal problems I have that I attribute to him because I was raised under that constant stress, so I learned and adapted to that scenario. I have no idea if that has any affect on any of this, but I felt it's at the very least worth mentioning, as it's the biggest source of misery I've had in my life to date.

 

I've tried looking up what's wrong with me in the past before I go to a doctor, because I'd hate to show up and when they ask me what's wrong all I can say is ""I don't know"" then it gets brushed off. In the same vein, as I mentioned earlier I don't want to waste peoples time, especially if there's others who need the help more than me. I've gotten search results for everything from depression to BPD when I look things up but I refuse to even come close to self diagnosing, which is why I'm asking for second opinions here before I go seek help out in person. All I know for certain is it never feels like a good day can just be a good day. Sometimes I get happy for longer periods of time but I always wonder in the back of my head when it's going to come crashing down, because it always does, something always sets me off and I'll end up shifting into feeling like shit again.

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On a smaller note, I think I should also mention I do use various substances as a coping mechanism. I started sneaking alcohol in high school when I started to feel this way, and that's persisted to this day. I'll often get blackout and finish entire bottles in a night. If it's not that, I rely on weed, or smoking to try and level me out and make things feel just a little better. I'd honestly have to say I lean on weed the most at this point, because alcohol makes me too sad or aggressive and weed just seems to calm me down for a while. I hate smoking, but if there's nothing else then I just do that. Since I don't know where else to put this, I think I should also mention that whatever I'm dealing with has hindered my relationships. I've lost partners because of it, because of my self destructive behaviors and inability to properly describe what I'm going through. I feel like I end up just pushing people away and treating them badly because I don't want them to experience this shit that really goes on behind the scenes, and it feels like even when I want to tell them somethings wrong I can't, because I don't know what it is or how they'll even react, so it comes out as this messy list of issues that just sounds like blanket complaints more than anything. 

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As a closing statement, I just want to say I'm open to responding to questions if it helps at all. I also want to state that I do plan on getting in person help 100%, because I hate feeling like this. I know I've done and thought some pretty serious shit but I've also made my one friend aware and they constantly check in to make sure I'm not doing anything stupid. I'm also just really worried about telling this to a doctor and ending up in a psych ward, because that's the last thing I need at this point.

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Thank you to anyone who reads and/or responds to this. I really appreciate your time. I'm going to try and post this in a few places, if you have any suggestions where I might get more good advice at this point I'm all ears. <3",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/sanbpf/i_feel_terrible_and_i_dont_know_what_to_do/,"[{'comment_id': 'hxkol25', 'author': 'Individual-Past-4958', 'body': 'You don’t have to justify your feelings and actions to ANYONE. You are very intelligent and very scared. What are you scared of? You know how you’re feeling. No one can change that, no matter what they think or say. Don’t bother with opinions of others. Most people are just big kids in adult clothes, pretending to know what they’re doing. Trust me, no one knows what they’re doing, not even those who claim they know. I’d even say that the more someone is convinced they’ve figured life out - the less they are actually in touch with reality and their true selves.\n\nYour ego is very strong, but you’re very humble. That’s a good start. Work on your ego. It needs your love. And remember - you are NOT your ego, you are NOT your thoughts or feeling, you are NOT your mind. You are the consciousness that’s observing all of this. Your soul. And your soul is infinite. Your soul is full of love. Your sould would never hurt anyone. Your soul would never cut skin. It’s gentle and weightless and it’s radiating love. It needs to be unleashed, and you can only do this when your ego is out of the way.\n\nMind is limited, soul is limitless. Mind dies, soul is infinite. Mind can be controlled, soul is free. Mind is programmed by the society, soul is ancient and independent of any culture. \n\nDon’t rely on your mind so much. Don’t give it such importance. It’s really trivial. Try to find your soul, your self. Try to feel the beauty of silence, of existing in the moment. Close your eyes right now and feel the moment. Hear the sounds, smell the smells, but don’t make any judgements. It’s damn hard, but we have to try. Our minds, our egos will fight until the end. The ego doesn’t want to die. Its roots are very deep and it’s going to take time and effort to get to your soul. But trying is in itself a beautiful experience. Just be easy on yourself and breathe. Breathing is the easiest method of practicing consciousness. Learning to observe without judging is also very helpful.\n\nLetting go of your ego means letting go of your posessions, diplomas, friends, family, your name, your age, all of that. This doesn’t mean you have to stop talking to your parents - it just means you’re not afraid of losing them, you’re not clinging to them. If you can walk the streets without being aware that you are XYZ, born in XYZ, who is XYZ years old and works at XYZ, then you are on a good way to freedom.\n\nBy the way, your father is not responsible for your feelings. He has lots and lots of his own problems, and he’s probably not even aware of them. His actions are controlled by his ego. He also has a soul, the real him, hiding underneath all of the bullshit. If you look closely, you’ll be able to see it. He doesn’t owe you anything because he’s your dad. It’s a social construct. It’s the same society that tells men not to cry and women not to be aggressive. It’s all crap. Any kind of negative feeling towards your father will just make you feel worse. It’s not his fault, it’s not anyone’s fault. \n\nYou’re very smart, but smartness will not get you answers. Intelligence will not lead you to the truth. But it can help you find methods you can use to get there.\n\nGood luck 🍀', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-02-19T18:50:35', 'parent_id': 't3_sanbpf'}]"
ru08kn,2022-01-02T08:50:40,"[My mom is depressed, I don't know how to help.]","Hello, this is my first reddit post so apologies if this is a little all over the place. 

I am living with my mom until I move in with my partner and I am the only one in the house. My brother and sister have moved out and my parents divorced a few years ago. So it's just me and my mom. She has been depressed for years, seen psychologists, psychiatrists, and pretty much all the -ists out there. Nothing seems to have helped. She is really into hiking which always makes her feel good. But having depression myself, I understand the not wanting to get out of bed for days and not wanting to do the things you love. So I don't push her very hard because I want hiking to be something she always enjoys and it doesn't feel like a chore. She just broke up with her boyfriend two days after her birthday. She just told me today that she feels like she has nothing. 

It is hard seeing her in so much pain everyday and I feel like I have given her all the advice I can give that she asks for. I give her support and listen to her when she just wants to be listened to. But I feel helpless and guilty that I can't help her because nothing ever changes. It's hard to be around her because, without trying to sound insensitive, it's draining being her therapist. I will always be there for her to the best of my ability but it is starting to take a toll on my mental health. Knowing I can't do anything to make a difference regarding her mental health. I just feel lost and am hoping to hear if there is any advice anyone can give me to help with this. The thought of moving out breaks my heart because of how lonely she is and it is making me second guess doing it. Again, sorry for being all over the place. Any advice is greatly appreciated.",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ru08kn/my_mom_is_depressed_i_dont_know_how_to_help/,"[{'comment_id': 'hse4l09', 'author': 'WonderWonderer', 'body': 'I feel you. My father is depressed for over a decade now and recently I got diagnosed with depression. It\'s a burden a child should never carry and never feel acountable for. I may have not resolved my issues with him but my advice for you is to talk about depression exactly as it is; an illness. Depression is not a fail of character, nothing to be shamed about. Constant awareness of her state and healthy habits can make her feel better over time. My father never talked to me about it, never even mention it (I heard about it from another family member). It created a void between us. \n\nYour only obligation to her is to love her. There is nothing else you can do to save her. To protect yourself from her negativity stop (as you put it) being her therapist. Listen to her problems, but not to the point of neglecting your well being. Just say ""mom, I love you but I can\'t listen anymore"", stand and leave as hard as it may sounds. Even if she is left behind there is not point into folowing her to the same fate. \n\nEncourage her to spend time with friends and other family members and change perspective  by glimsing the lifes of others. Tell her that depression doesn\'t mean she is alone or lost, or forgotten. Of course hiking is good for mental health, but not only hiking. Any contact with Mother Nature causes feelings of peace and acceptance. Maybe moving close to Her manages to stabilize her condition (I know Nature helped me dramatically). \n\nAt last, depression is a condition she may never fully recover. What are you going to do, stay with her forever? You won\'t help her by being depressed with her, it might even get worse (it did get worse in my case).  I am not a therapist, I know nothing, but I believe there is a way out if your mom trully and fully wants to change and doesn\'t get justified by your behaviour towards her. Love her, but love yourself more, so she can too. \n\nI send you my hopes for the best <3', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-13T01:37:39', 'parent_id': 't3_ru08kn'}]"
rsc0eq,2021-12-31T02:28:13,Is it just hormones?,"Speaking from personal experience when I’ve tried to speak up about how I’m feeling I get told it’s just hormones. One bad reaction to go opening up could give people the mind set that its not there mental health and it’s what everyone goes through. I know tat when you feel low life gets extremely tough and it’s hard to find the motivation to do most things. Take more of an interest in things you feel motivated to do or enjoy, step by step add on to these things until you are able to get through the day in a healthy way. For some of us, mental health takes a downfall towards there appearance. For most of us it’s hard to look in the mirror and be happy with the way we look, if you are unhappy then you could consider changing for the better. Work on yourself to try and make yourself the best you that you can think of. There is no shame in making mistakes (even if it feels like it), everyone does!  No one will fully ever understand your mental health but one bad reaction doesn’t mean all the rest will be.",mentalhealthadvice,3,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rsc0eq/is_it_just_hormones/,[]
rq540m,2021-12-28T08:40:07,How Do I Deal with My Intrusive Thoughts and Fears of Faking?,"Hi, fellow Redditors in need of advice… care to weigh in?

Bit of context: I, (F16), have been struggling with a lot of things lately, but my two major problems are this:

I’ve been struggling with intrusive thoughts as of late. Not good stuff, either. These stupid little voices in my head keep on telling me I’m… worthless and telling me to do things I would never do, like jumping off of a stairwell or walking in front of a bus, and I don’t know how to get them to stop.

Secondly, I think I may have ADHD, and severe ADHD at that. I’ve always been referred to as the “weird kid”, I struggle with paying attention, little details, loosing things all the time, my brain can feel as if it’s running on literal fumes to feeling as if it could run forever, focusing so much time and energy on the same thing that I forget about everything else that ever existed. Through hour after hour of research, I’ve found that I identify with well over 95% of the symptoms, apparently family doctors have mentioned to my parents that they think I may have it, school counselors have made comments, and that it very likely runs in my family (my dad displays a host of symptoms, and my grandfather did as well). 

However, despite all of that, I remain undiagnosed due to my parents having differing views over the subject. I feel as if I’m loosing my mind, desperate to know if it’s real or not, and as I’ve waited longer and longer, I’ve started to wonder if maybe I’m faking these symptoms or if they’re just in my head. I don’t know what to do: I legitimately swing back and forth from feeling as if there is no way I don’t have this issue, to being unable to move on the floor because I’m so consumed by thoughts of whether or not I’m faking all of this to feel better about myself, to have an excuse, something like that.

Has/Does anybody feel the same way? Does anyone, anybody know how to feel about this situation, or what I should do/think? Am I actually faking? How do I get the intrusive thoughts to shut up? I just desperately need someone else to weigh in on this, please.",mentalhealthadvice,2,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rq540m/how_do_i_deal_with_my_intrusive_thoughts_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'husb2fo', 'author': 'Misty_mg', 'body': 'listen, i have been diagnosed with ADHD since 2016 and i can tell you that i feel the EXACT same way. now im not a doctor and i cant diagnose you but i can say that the symptoms for ADHD are normal things that people do but people with ADHD have them but increased 10x and if people have been pointing it out then i suggest that you tell youre parents and/or try to get a diagnosis.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-30T05:37:32', 'parent_id': 't3_rq540m'}]"
rmgt6j,2021-12-23T04:13:16,Tips to help mental health until therapy is possible.,"Hello everyone!! The title is the basic jist of it. I am currently unable to afford therapy (I have bipolar disorder, and I'm sure a few other diagnosis, although again with no therapy whose to know). 

I was wondering if anyone has any advice,  steps or tips I can do to aid myself until therapy is possible. I already take meds for my bipolar and anxiety BTW. And I have been to therapy before. I know meditation can help with anxiety but I just cannot sit still enough to do so. I have been so scattered in thought, have awful negative self talk, and am becoming more and more irritable, impulsive,  and angry. Overall I fear I'm becoming an abusive person, and I know therapy could help. It just sucks that it's not an option right now. Anyways sorry for rambling, and thank you in advance for the help.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rmgt6j/tips_to_help_mental_health_until_therapy_is/,[]
rjip3e,2021-12-19T04:21:03,whats wrong with me can someone help ?,"Hey , my name is Elisa Germaine  i don't usually open up about my mental health not even to friends and family i feel like its easier to open up to strangers about whats going on at the momment and what has been going on for awhile now , i would really love if perhaps you can read about what started all of this and how its effected me and why am i still feeling like this .

background story: when i was 17  over the summer   i had  a  full time job as a nanny in apartments  looking after mainly a 2 year old and a 6 year old  the parents was really strict  especially the mother everything   i did i had to do it  exactly how she does it and how she does it at 17 everything was too precise i had to present the meals a certain way   and more but it is to be expected as i am going into someone home looking after there children anyway  i would  have eyes on me all time again if somthing wasnt how the mother liked it or how she would do it i would get a few snarky comments directed at me  i was so nervous  to do things and ended up making really embarssing mistakes and silly mistakes the 6 year old was  nasty he would tell the mum i didnt feed her and she would make fun of my hair the 2 year old was very clingy to the mother and when left alone there would be fully of trantrums and crying but i loved her so much  i always felt like  i was being watched and i so desperately wanted the mother approval i wanted her to like me  i would work 5 days a week monday to fridays and would usually go without a break i only got a break if the 2 year old has a nap which was very rare  now here is where the incident comes in i was taking the 2 year old out for a walk i was offered for the 2 year old to stay at home while i get the buggy all ready but i so wanted to impress the mother   i decided to do it all at once i out the 2 year old shoes on and she started having  tantrum like she usually did crying screaming while i was getting the buggy ready she fell off the steps infront of the door and these was big steps and smacked her head on the concreate  and it gave her a massive bruise and bump on her head i remember feeling so overwhelmed it was my fault  i didnt know what to do  and i even considered putting her in her buggy and going on for that walk to calm her down like an idiot the dad came down stairs  as he herd all the  commotion  i remember going to the bathroom and just cried on the same day  the mother left a bottle of  calpol open on the side of the cot while cleaning the bedroom i missed this  and while putting the 2 year old to bed she got ahold of it and ended up drinking it (she was okay ) while checking on her i ended up finding it and alerting the mother she said (why would you leave her alone)  but  i was told to put her to bed  the 2 year old will scream and cry after the accident more than she ever did   i feel like she is scared of me 

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now: i still  feel so incredibly guilty after what happened but for some reason now the guilt has got worse  she could have died i cant stop thinking about it everyday that accident just eats me up and i  dont know whats wrong with me i just keep getting flashbacks of her head smacking on the ground    my friends niece came over and started crying near me  and i couldnt even hold her when my friend brought her to me to sit on my lap   and  i dont even know why i am starting to get anxitey from it   i walk past that apartment everday in my mind and i just see them stairs i cant stop thinking about i opened up to my friends about it and they found it funny and somtimes joke that i ""threw her"" down the stairs i am 17   and i think about it literally everyday and its been months i feel like an irresponsible idiot its my fault it really was an i accept it  in my head i thought she was safer on the stairs as she would run into the road if left without my hand to hold",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rjip3e/whats_wrong_with_me_can_someone_help/,[]
rbcscn,2021-12-08T05:07:38,How to tell the difference between growing up and depression,"I cannot tell if what I'm experiencing is normal or if it's depression. Everything just feels so boring. I try to go do things that I hope will be exciting and I often just don't feel anything. But It's not that I feel low... I just don't feel very much at all. It sucks. I am afraid that this is just my brain developing and adulthood is just so boring that it's suffocating. I'm afraid of going to a therapist or psychologist and being told there's nothing really wrong with me, I just have to learn to live with this blah existence. For context, I turned 20 in September. I think a big part of this is I can't help but compare how I feel now to how I felt in high school, and it feels so boring. I feel so disconnected from others and so unemotional and cold. Maybe this is all my brain's way of coping with everything that's happened with covid too? My whole life plans got ruined by covid and I've lost all my passion for life since then. My dad had a stroke too last year, and is luckily okay all things considered but it sucks. Sometimes I think this is all some weird form of a grief response. Not to actual death, but to the loss of a life I never get to live now. I had all of these dreams to be a performer and it all got snuffed out during covid. I got into the school of my dreams but I didn't go because I was afraid of wasting like $30,000 on something I wasn't sure of (the school went bankrupt and was looking kinda shady for a small private college. Fired almost everyone and restarted, and I just didn't trust it anymore.) Now I don't know what I'm doing. Life is aimless for me and I just don't know what direction to turn. I don't want to pick a career but I also don't really want to be working retail/food for the rest of my life. But like... I don't even know if I'm depressed. I can't tell. I just know everything was brighter before, and I got truly excited, and now it's dimmed down and most of the time when I act excited it's kind of fake. The only thing that gives me any kind of reward anymore is other people, and I do have friends. I like hanging out with them but it feels like a bad thing that I seem to only be able to enjoy myself when I'm with them, like I'm only enjoying myself because I'm distracting myself. I'll play a character that I can just believe - fake it til you make it, and I act fun and bubbly and people enjoy it and I do get positive feelings from them enjoying my presence. It's just that everything feels... less? than it used to. And I don't feel genuinely excited for stuff like I used to. It just really sucks. Is that just growing up? Does everything just feel... meh.. forever? I'm not in the depths of despair by any means I just feel so empty and I want to feel something so badly but it doesn't happen most of the time. Even sex and relationships, I want in theory, but when I go on dates I never seem to connect with anyone like I want and it all feels useless.",mentalhealthadvice,3,5,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rbcscn/how_to_tell_the_difference_between_growing_up_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'ho179ql', 'author': 'SingleLonelyGuy', 'body': 'Write a TL DR and use line breaks.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T02:15:03', 'parent_id': 't3_rbcscn'}, {'comment_id': 'hqy1i35', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[removed]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-02T21:26:21', 'parent_id': 't3_rbcscn'}, {'comment_id': 'ho1g7m4', 'author': 'danger_n000dle', 'body': 'very helpful thanks king', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T03:14:09', 'parent_id': 't1_ho179ql'}, {'comment_id': 'ho1hpwo', 'author': 'danger_n000dle', 'body': ""TL;DR: this comment was annoying and unnecessary\n\nI hope you're proud of yourself lol, are you a mod or something? \n\nOr are you just bitter? \n\nThis comment definitely made my day slightly worse lmao just know that. Like if a fly got into my apartment and was buzzing around by my ears. Not that bad but just slightly worse"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T03:24:16', 'parent_id': 't1_ho179ql'}, {'comment_id': 'hr07iep', 'author': 'danger_n000dle', 'body': ""the implication of this is funny because I probably spend like 15 minutes at most a day on Reddit lol. Other social medias have infiltrated my mind more. But I'll look into the vid"", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2022-01-03T05:45:04', 'parent_id': 't1_hqy1i35'}, {'comment_id': 'ho1jk57', 'author': 'SingleLonelyGuy', 'body': 'Is a reply necessary?', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-12-11T03:36:40', 'parent_id': 't1_ho1hpwo'}]"
rb5593,2021-12-07T23:41:02,Where does an undiagnosed cognitively disabled person go for one-to-one support in filing bankruptcy and organizing their legal and financial life?,"TL;DR -  Because of PTSD and dyscalculia I desperately need personal one-to-one help to file bankruptcy and organize my financial problems, but I can't afford to pay for that help, so it has to come from someone being paid by someone else. Who helps people like me? 

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Because of my dyscalculia and trauma-responses from growing up with a financially abusive parent, I lack the cognitive functioning to deal with the countless entities who are entitled to my money.

A bankruptcy would be a huge help but the bankruptcy process keeps involving money I can't pay and questions I can't answer (because I either don't know, or I can't estimate due to dyscalculia).

I don't know how many entities I owe money to, and I don't know if or how they are empowered by law to punish me for not paying them what I owe them

I don't know what to do to prevent further punishment, and I don't think I have the knowledge to figure out what to do without making matters worse (I am often taken advantage of)

I don't know if I owe the IRS money or if the IRS owes me money, and I don't know how to find out

I have only ever received one \[illness I'm not allowed to mention\] stimulus check, and I don't remember when that was, nor do I know how much stimulus money I have been denied, and I don't know where someone is supposed to find out this information

I'm about to have student loans re-added to this nightmare mix now that the \[illness I'm not allowed to mention\] break is ending, and I need to make sure I fill out the right paperwork, on time, and properly, to pay as little as possible

Every time I try to take the initiative to fill out a form to solve any of these problems, I am confronted with confusing questions that don't make logical sense, and there is never anyone available to ask for help. The only option is to make something up, but since I don't understand how the data is going to be interpreted, there is anxiety that I will put a made-up answer that only denies me the help I need, and often this is exactly what happens.

Looking back at about a million aspects of my life I had zero control over, it makes perfect sense that my life turned out this way. If your brain can't deal with money in a world that's run by money, and you have a parent that takes advantage of that fact to control you, how else could things possibly turn out? That being the case, I just can't be alone in this. What are people in my position supposed to do?

Do I need an official diagnosis of dyscalculia to qualify for one-to-one help? If so how do I get one?

Thank you.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/rb5593/where_does_an_undiagnosed_cognitively_disabled/,[]
r279jv,2021-11-26T03:14:25,I get depressed/infuriated at the thought of alcohol. My girlfriend's family drinks. [TW: Substance Abuse] [VENT],"I don't know where it came from or why it happens. I honestly think it's a mixture of a whole lot of problems and events that all led up to this. I was raised in a cult that heavily despised drinking, was with a girl a while back who would get drunk and mistreat me at times, met that girl's father who was a scary drinker, know that people get hurt and taken advantage of when drunk and I'm already beginning to have addiction problems myself while also having BPD.

As someone with BPD, I can get triggered and when triggered, I dissociate. I sometimes feel like I'm not real, am living a dream-life (like VR) and everything seems weird. I can usually keep doing what I'm doing but all of the thoughts in my mind are just pondering whether or not I exist or what the point of everything is. 

Turns out, the mere mention of drunkenness of a loved one makes me depressed and dissociate. It makes me feel like shit that my brain and body's reaction to the idea of alcohol is to shut down and be pissed. I really wish I didn't feel this way, y'know?

Fast forward to this past Saturday. My girlfriend told me that she might be available to text during my break (for context, she was at a wedding). I texted her that I was on break and didn't get a response. I decided to get Bang to keep myself awake. A few hours later, I'm mentally exhausted from work and as I'm checking the time to clock out, I read (not verbatim) is 

>""hehehehe hiii babeee! I’m so sorry for any typos j may or may not have been drinking wiyh my famly haha but I MIsS YOU AND I LOUE YOUUUU"".

My heart immediately sank. The world around me felt unreal, my head started to hurt, everything felt loud, I was randomly irritable and I felt like almost everything was meaningless. I started to forget who I was. I felt like I was living someone else's life. I didn't feel well at all. Before I got in my car, I texted her

>Sorry if I don't respond much tonight. I'm not feeling too hot. I love you too.

I got in the car, turned off the radio and just went on autopilot (as in mentally checking out, not like a Tesla). I heard my phone buzzing. I didn't care to check it. I knew it wouldn't help. I get home and sit on my bed, staring at the wall. My brain is telling me that I should sleep it off but, I can't. The Bang from earlier was kicking in. All I could do was stare at my wall. 

Some time passes and I'm snapping out of it. I see that she was worried, apologizing and blaming herself and telling me that she gets really sad that she upset me. I let her know everything is okay and that I'm sorry for not answering for a few hours. She's just happy to hear from me again and reaffirm that she loves me and that she's sorry. I again, tell her everything is okay and let her know I really do love her too.

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Again, I feel awful that my initial reaction was to dissociate but I had very little control over any of my emotions at the time. My dissociating's gotten really bad. It's so bad that I cannot legally consent. 

I love my girlfriend. I love her family. They're all amazing and fun people. They really love me too and always want me to come over. Yet, when it comes to them drinking alcohol, I get really uncomfortable and depressed. I'm still not entirely sure why. It's really hurting me and other people. It's gotten to a point where I rely on energy drinks and soda to feel something. I drank Bang, Monster and Red Bull as a joke but I'm scared that I'm going to be addicted / already addicted. 

I don't know what to do and if I'm in the fault for feeling this way. Has anyone been through a similar position? Is what I'm feeling normal? 

If you have been through something similar, what's helping you now?",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/r279jv/i_get_depressedinfuriated_at_the_thought_of/,[]
r0uttg,2021-11-24T08:39:01,Am I in the wrong?,"I have recently gone through a lot, not because of any traumatic experience or anything it’s just like one tiny thing happened and everything came falling down, I got diagnosed with severe anx1ety, @dhd, d3pressi0n, and a gene mutation all within two months of each other and having to deal with that and all my responsibilities was *very* difficult. I probably would’ve have made it through that time if I hadn’t gone to therapy. (I’m fine and better than ever now tho) In fact I know I wouldn’t have. So now whenever my S/O or my friends talk to me about things like mental issues and how badly they’re struggling, I always immediately tell them to ask for therapy. Even just singles session to see if there are any diagnoses that need to be made yk? And it’s not like I’m saying this to anyone I’m saying it to people I’ve known for years and I know their family situations and finances and I know it wouldn’t be a problem if they just asked. But they seem to get annoyed when I say this, and when I give them any other advice from the strategies I’ve learned and been taught they always say that doesn’t work for me, which is completely valid I just feel like I’m constantly being shot down when I’m trying to help. Am I being selfish??",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/r0uttg/am_i_in_the_wrong/,[]
qy8ub0,2021-11-20T21:46:07,When I am around my boyfriend I feel like a woman but when I am around anyone else I feel like a man.,"Let me first introduce myself.

I am a 30 yo female from eastern Europe. I never had a normal family. My parents divorced, I was raised by grandma and all my siblings are half siblings even for eachother. I always needed to do everything by myself. I was harrased by step mothers family. My mother was a monster who only wanted to gain cash not raise children. Me and my sister almost died coz of it. Lets say my childhood was a nightmare, I even lost contact with my sister for 10 years (we are good now).

I was always treated like a burden, everyone even grandma sometimes were telling me I am a failure yet I finished my master degree on technical university and I have a really good job. The point is... I am lost. I know my mental health is fucked up and I am trying to work on it but there is something that is so weird for me that I cannot get it.

I am bisexual or even pansexual. I do not look at people by their gender only by what a person they are. I can fall in love with anyone, no matter if this would be man, woman, transgender... does not matter! Point is I am now with my boyfriernd (M25) for almost 5 years. It is a relationship which has it ups and downs but we are still together. When I am with him I feel like a woman. I can tell I am a woman and I behave like one (in my eyes). I acknowledge him as a man and everything is fine. When I am not with him I act like I am a man. I even walk differently, speak differently. I am less scared, more ""butch"". My whole behaviour is different! I realized that when I saw how I was sitting once. I feel like I have 2 people inside me, a man and a woman. Is this normal? Because of it I sometimes have this emptyness in me. When Im around my bf I do not think about anyone else but when I am alone I sometimes think how it would be to date someone more femine again. Maybe this would be a stupid example but I recently watched Arcane on netflix (yeah, I love games and lore stuff). This whole storyline with Caitlyn and Vi made me feel... something. I dont know what is this. I was just happy for them and it was nice to watch it grow. I could totaly see myself in this situation as those two had but also I am happy with my bf. 

I just feel.. lost in my mind. 

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Sorry if my english was not good sometimes. Not my first language",mentalhealthadvice,4,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qy8ub0/when_i_am_around_my_boyfriend_i_feel_like_a_woman/,"[{'comment_id': 'hlhy9j7', 'author': 'rnaggie53', 'body': 'I think it’s important you express yourself how you feel comfortable. Most people behave differently depending on their audience, maybe think about aspects from each side of yourself that you like most & try to integrate them into both characters. \n\nWhat you’re saying about only feeling like a woman around your boyfriend is just this magical thing that men can do (that we don’t talk about enough). I think one of the greatest things men can provide is that feeling of making you the only woman in their world. I totally know what you mean bc I’ve experienced this to. If you can find a man that makes you feel like a strong, powerful woman but also sensitive & elegant, you gotta keep him around.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-21T16:50:39', 'parent_id': 't3_qy8ub0'}]"
qqhz1w,2021-11-10T06:22:05,Should I suggest my sister goes to a facility? What can I say?,"My sister (25F) is having some kind of mental health break. She has always struggled a lot with anger, paranoia, and is now starting to accuse my family of things that never happened. She has mostly alienated herself from the family, but her and I mostly get along (on her timing). Recently she has experienced some trauma & broke up with her on/off boyfriend. She says she hasn’t slept in days, everyone is so worried about her. She said my family is performing human experiments on her. 

Anyways due to her acting this way, we are worried that she is going to be a threat to herself or others. It’s like it’s building up to an explosive situation, I can just feel it. She has never wanted to seek a diagnosis, has always denied mental help. We contacted a mental health advocate who said that we can either do two things to get her treatment: we can force her by calling the police or she can go voluntarily. They said that the best way is to get someone she trusts to suggest it, which sort of lands in my plate. 

We are not the absolute closest of sisters but she definitely trusts me more than my other family members. I feel like I should talk to her because I really think it will help her. She is in a dangerous place. 
But I also feel like if I suggest it, she denies the offer, then the police forcibly take her, it will almost be like it’s directly my fault/responsibility how this is dealt with. What is the right thing to do in this situation? If I do talk to her, how can I approach it? She is typically a very hot tempered, defensive type. 

She has a friend I could reach out to, but their friendship is on/ off as well. She doesn’t have many people who she keeps close.",mentalhealthadvice,1,3,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qqhz1w/should_i_suggest_my_sister_goes_to_a_facility/,"[{'comment_id': 'hkvsi2i', 'author': 'PaulDosMucho', 'body': 'I so can relate to your post right now, currently going thru a near exact scenario with my sister, she\'s 28. Downside of this entire ordeal tho is that she lives with me and has a child. My entire family is so worried and scared of what she may do next, like your sister she hasn\'t slept or eaten in days that we know of. It\'s really taken a toll on all of us. As far as help is concerned, on our end we did call 911 for a mental health check, unfortunately because she wasn\'t cooperating with them and she wasn\'t ""threatening"" to harm herself they cant take her against her will.  Im at the end of the rope with her... I find myself questioning weather i should make peace with that fact that she does not want help and let her self destruct? Its tough. I wish you and your family well.', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-11-16T23:49:38', 'parent_id': 't3_qqhz1w'}, {'comment_id': 'hk0dpz3', 'author': 'rnaggie53', 'body': 'It’s very likely that the conversation will not be received well no matter how careful my words are. I am very good at talking to people in a sensitive way, but I’m not good at dealing with abrasive people. I have never had the energy to argue with her, which is why she tolerates me more than my other family members. \n\nI think I am the only candidate to this from the family, but that doesn’t make me a good candidate in general. I think just because I’m the next best thing to the police, it will still result in an explosive situation.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-10T06:35:39', 'parent_id': 't3_qqhz1w'}, {'comment_id': 'hkw3c38', 'author': 'rnaggie53', 'body': 'Wow it means the world though just to know there’s some one else who can relate. We’re in very similar situations. Wishing you and your family the best. All we can hope is the universe guides them in the right direction. \n\nThe unfortunate thing is that the worst is yet to come, but we can’t act on anything before it happens. Hope the holidays go ok for you guys. Sending peace & hope.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-11-17T01:00:33', 'parent_id': 't1_hkvsi2i'}]"
qkfuqq,2021-11-01T20:30:51,Everything feels like it's falling apart,"It's been hard lately like a lot of things are building up and the past is surfacing so I'll try to write out everything that's been happening. 

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Self/Family: So I've lived my life where I kept a lot of things to myself growing up, not because I wanted to but more so, i realized that I'm only like this because of how my parents treated me. I still love my parents and family a lot but they've emotionally neglected me my whole childhood because they were busy working on their own business. My brother who's 7 years older than me also hated me for most of my childhood and at times, bullied me too. I think a lot of this affected me to the point where I shut down and kept everything to myself to the point where it manifested into a lot of... thoughts. Through this, I developed anxiety and depression but because I kept everything to myself, i started to sweep everything under the rug and ignore my own feelings/emotions. 

My family would get to the point where they would blame me for any mistake because they didn't want to take responsibility for their own mistake. An example is when I was a kid, my mom told me to get out of the car so she could park on the driveway. She scraped the side of the car on a pillar and my family blamed me for not looking out for her. Another example is when my dad had to fill out passport renewal forms for my grandma and when we were told the form was filled out incorrectly, I was blamed for not double checking. A lot of these small things built up overtime to the point where I find myself apologizing for things even out of my control and even if I'm aware of it, my habits continue. 

I've recently told my parents about my anxiety and depression along with me visiting a therapist (I've mentioned about my anxiety/depression a few times throughout the years but the response I got was always ""okay""). At first, they thought I was seeing a therapist because they thought it was caused by my recent relationship breakup. They were surprised when I told them that I've been seeing one for 2 years and even then, my dad's response was simply ""I thought I always told you to control it. Always making me worried"". With that response, a part of me just gave up on wanting to talk about anything mental health related to my parents. Even with my birthday dinner with my family recently, I find that I couldn't even smile or laugh with them anymore, like something has shut off. 

This kinda leads into this...

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Relationship: I met a girl during CoVid this past year. We started really fast and everything felt so natural and we dated for a year. We broke up back in July 2021 but within 2-3 weeks, we started talking again and we're now back to... acting like we're together. At first, the reasons she broke up with me were very small and fixable but it was only a few weeks ago where she told me the real reason, which was that her depression and her upbringing made her believe that she never deserved anything good in life and when she was with me, she felt guilty because she felt like she couldn't do much for me when I was able to do a lot for her. She's always had a habit of self-sabotage, ruining the good in her life because she believed she deserved the bad. If people treat her bad, she thinks ""yeah this is what i deserve"" (it's bad). But even though things are progressing back to normal right now, she's made me realize and become more aware of my own insecurities and flaws, which all connect back to the habits that had been created with my own upbringing. I find that I'm quite insecure about myself with her, despite her constantly telling me that I shouldn't be insecure because she thinks I'm great. My anxiety and overthinking has been going off the charts and I've finally learned to address it and even tell her what goes on in my head and trust me, I've only shown her maybe 1% of what goes on in my overthinking and she got drained out. I had to find a better way of expressing it rather than draining her. 

The good news recently, though, is that despite how much she dislikes her mom, she told her mom about me and her mom likes me, even calling her to talk to me to... thank me for helping take care of her and even calling her another time to say happy birthday to me. The other good thing was that she mentioned how she wanted to spend more birthdays with me and wanted me to spend more birthdays with her. She ended up even saying that she wanted us to work hard so we could get a place together. 

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But even with the good that's been happening lately with her, everything in my own life and family seems to be falling apart. I try to maintain hope to think maybe things need to fall apart so that maybe they can fall into place somewhere else. I'm not sure how to fix my relationship with my family because I know they love and care for me, I know they did the best that they could and I know I need to step up myself now to continue my own journey but it's almost like pushing a boulder up a wall now. 

I've even started CBT lately to help with anxiety and depression, my friend who's in psychology gifted me a book as well to tackle my negative overthinking. I've been trying to journal and use deep breathing but these have only been temporary solutions. 

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For myself, my family, and for my significant other, I really want to get better because I constantly feel like I burden everyone around me. I want to be better so that I can stop thinking like that. Sometimes the feeling of being a burden gets so bad, i get thoughts about disappearing because maybe everyone would live better lives if I was gone. 

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TLDR; family doesn't understand mental health, relationship is full of uncertainty despite going well lately, wanting to get better because i want to stop feeling like this and being like a burden to those i care about.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qkfuqq/everything_feels_like_its_falling_apart/,[]
qhf4a8,2021-10-28T10:12:03,Nightmares,"Hello! I need advice, because I keep having these terrifying nightmares after a man tried to break into my house. I am currently a college student and I moved into a house off campus with a few other girls, I wasn't really close to them before moving in but so far its been pretty good. The other day I fell asleep on the couch and a man was trying to get into the house, he kept banging on the door and shaking the door handle and making this grunting/gagging sound? At first I thought it was someone's booty call but then he didnt go away O.O There is a window in front of my house so I thought he could see me and so I hid under the blanket. When he moved around the house, I ran to my roommates room. We called 911 but I thought I heard him break in so I hid under her bed, and I was really scared. It ended up fine once the police came. But, now I keep having these nightmares of these scary people, sometimes a man or demon or woman, and they watch me in my room or house and then try to break in. Sometimes they kill me and I scream and then I wake up, and I am in another dream of someone trying to break in again. I never get nightmares, so this is really weird and I already have anxiety but I don't know how to make it stop. I keep waking up while I sleep and I feel more scared in my house now :/ I don't know if this is a trauma response, because nothing really bad happened to me? Like he didn't actually break in or anything.",mentalhealthadvice,2,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qhf4a8/nightmares/,[]
qgtx5p,2021-10-27T16:21:08,Really big stress advice,"Hi! I am a 30 yo female who always loved to drive cars and smaller motorbikes. I wanted to get my licence on normal motorbikes because I already am able to drive legally on smallers ones. While I am training before exam I do everything fine, I do not have any problems at all! But when the exam is on... I cant do anything right. I am angry, sad and just... hopeless. I always go there and thing of worst and it just happen. What can I do to block all of those negative emotions?! I know am a good driver... I never had an accident on road. I drive for almost 15 years now. It is just this exam is so stressful for me I cant even egzist normally. Please give me some advice how to get rid of all of this from my head so I can finally make my dreams come true.

Note: I am a depressed person, I was trying to make it better with meds and theraphy. I am now able to fulfil my dreams and it really helps with it but this time... I just cant. I feel useless and even if I have skills I wont be able to do anything. It is killing me from inside.",mentalhealthadvice,1,0,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/qgtx5p/really_big_stress_advice/,[]
putcis,2021-09-25T03:19:05,how do i help my boyfriend be his own person and love himself," 

i really love my boyfriend. and i wanna help him grow as a person. i know he's not being healthy right now and i'm really worried. he has a very low view of himself. today he told me he wants me to use him cuz he feels unworthy of me and that would be the only way he'd feel usefull to me. he said that if we're not talking he just sleeps and waits for me. staring at the screen till i reply. i know he had a very hard life. everything makes him feel unsafe and he's scared i'll leave if he does't prove himself usefull. he told me he probably won't tell me if he doesn't want something out of fear of me leaving.

i don't want to leave him. i do know this isn't healthy and he needs therapy but that's someting that's not possible right now. so i wanna try my best to do what i can to help. i know i can't ""fix"" himbut i wanna try to help.

i know this will get difficult and i understand how he's feeling cuz i'm also a perosn with abandonment isseus and anxiety but i'm in therapy and i've learned how to deal with it a bit better. i want this relationship to work out and be healthy.

thanks for reading.",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/putcis/how_do_i_help_my_boyfriend_be_his_own_person_and/,"[{'comment_id': 'hhmf4nw', 'author': 'cranberryseal', 'body': 'Sounds like you already know that that relationship isn’t healthy so that’s good. You can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself and that is just toxic for the both of you. Ik you love him but my only advice for you is to try to get him some help from someone that’s not you because like you said, you can’t fix him and shouldn’t be expected to', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-10-22T19:44:41', 'parent_id': 't3_putcis'}]"
ps9ur7,2021-09-21T08:19:07,"I’m not asking for a diagnosis, I just want to see if anyone recognizes these symptoms as anything","I’ve been having such a rough time lately. I’ve always been like this, for as long as I can remember. Basically, I’m either the happiest most outgoing person ever, or I’m like, suicidal and having anxiety attacks. Like, within a day my mood switches out so many times it’s impossible to even function anymore. I can’t just be medium. It’s just super intense emotions all the time. It ruins all my friendships and relationships because I’m so territorial of all my friends and can’t control my emotions. Please help.",mentalhealthadvice,1,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ps9ur7/im_not_asking_for_a_diagnosis_i_just_want_to_see/,"[{'comment_id': 'hejzvbn', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': '[deleted]', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-28T09:16:34', 'parent_id': 't3_ps9ur7'}, {'comment_id': 'hgaokbo', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': ""Be sure to factor in your age. I had this same thought process, and a lot of what I thought were major bipolar or bpd symptoms were just hormones and mood shifts due to anxiety. Aside from that, the symptoms of quickly changing moods could be a huge number of things. Anywhere from BPD, Bipolar (all though it doesn't sound too much like that due to the timelines), to symptoms of Depressive disorders or PTSD. I'd say see a Psychiatrist. A standards doctor's visit isn't reccomended for mental health related things."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-10-12T06:17:48', 'parent_id': 't1_hejzvbn'}]"
poigpw,2021-09-15T09:19:46,Was I Molested?,"I remember twice in my childhood my sister (3 years older) asked me to touch private parts on her body. The first time was when i was 6 or 7 and we acame back from the beach and she asked me to look at and touch her vagina in the hotel room, and another time when i was like 9 or 10 she asked me to touch her breasts.  Now when i look back on these memories i feel disgust and shame with such an intensity that i feel like the only way to be free would be if i were lobotomized and these memories removed from my head.  I think my sister is a well adjusted person and i have no concerns about her actually molesting children, i want to make that clear....but i also don't know how to deal with these memories.  I think they might be the source of my intense sexual anxiety that renders me almost totally impotent when im trying to have sex. Before i had beleived it to be the result of too much porn, but even when i quit masturbating to porn for months i still had difficulty in having a sexual relationship with a girl that i had had a crush on for over a year.  Has anyone had similar distressing memories in this grey zone where it isn't really sexual abuse, but it is sexually disturbing, and if so, how did you move past it? Meditation, therapy, some kind of mental block? I don't know if this is the right sub for this, but the shame is so intense i can't imagine discussing it with anyone in person without immediately wanting to kill myself afterwards.",mentalhealthadvice,6,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/poigpw/was_i_molested/,"[{'comment_id': 'hcwrq24', 'author': 'hotlinehelpbot', 'body': '\nIf you or someone you know is contemplating suicide, please reach out. You can find help at a National Suicide Prevention Lifeline\n\nUSA: 18002738255\nUS Crisis textline: 741741 text HOME\n\nUnited Kingdom: 116 123\n\nTrans Lifeline (877-565-8860)\n\nOthers: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines\n\nhttps://suicidepreventionlifeline.org', 'score': 0, 'timestamp': '2021-09-15T09:20:03', 'parent_id': 't3_poigpw'}, {'comment_id': 'hd2kz0f', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'i personally wouldn’t consider this a gray zone. sexual assault is any unwanted sexual contact. i think by definition, yeah, this is molestation. i don’t think your sisters age matters in it’s effect on you.', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-16T18:06:58', 'parent_id': 't3_poigpw'}, {'comment_id': 'hdajgy1', 'author': 'Big_dingus_Throwaway', 'body': ""She was still pretty young in both scenarios...i don't know if she knew how it would affect either of us when she suggested it."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-18T09:20:25', 'parent_id': 't1_hd2kz0f'}, {'comment_id': 'hdhrbrt', 'author': '[deleted]', 'body': 'Oh yeah of course- she likely didn’t know. But whether she was aware or not, it’s still assault with the same type of emotional effect of intentional assault.  I didn’t mean to insinuate that she is bad or predatory- she was a child. I was intending more to validate the way that you feel rather than demonize your sister', 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-09-19T23:55:19', 'parent_id': 't1_hdajgy1'}]"
pmfds4,2021-09-12T02:33:13,How to set boundaries with alcoholic parent,"Hi,

I am a 25 year old and my mother (56) is an alcoholic. My mom recently got out of 30day in-patient treatment and my brother (28) and I decided it would be best if she lived with one of us while taking her journey through recovery. Her previous living conditions were toxic and drove her to start drinking again. As such, she moved into my home.

I set rules such as:
- need to look for a job
- need to find a therapist 
- go to AA meetings 
- be active outside of the house (she is depressed and will sit at home all day)
- no alcohol in the house

My boundary was: as long as she is actively working on her recovery and taking initiative to get better, she can stay with me until she can afford her own apartment.

Her first 2 days out of rehab, I gave her space to get comfortable. After 3 days, I helped her apply for jobs. I ended up applying for her while she barely paid attention.

4 days in, I sat down to help her find a therapist. Same thing. I looked them up, gave her the phone numbers, and had her call with very little help from her.

She did not go to any AA meetings because she felt sick. 

5 days in, I found a bottle of rum in her room and confronted her. I took her car keys. I live in a city with a bus stop right down the street from my home. She made promises to start actively trying to get better.

After 10 days, she continues to sit on my couch and just watch TV. On the 10th day, I told her that she couldn't stay here anymore. I can't sleep and I can feel myself getting physically sick from the stress and worry and my own codependent behaviors that I've worked on started resurfacing with her living with me. 

I need advice: did I not give her enough time? I feel selfish and guilty for kicking her out after 10 days. I can't help but feel bitter that at 25years old, I have the responsibility of caring for a parent already. But shes made me feel like a prisoner in my own home. Adding to this, my dad (55) died 2 years ago after battling with alcohol addiction my entire life. Am I being too hasty in kicking her out already?

(Note: she will be staying with my brother now, but he doesn't have an extra bed so she will be sleeping on an air mattress in the spare office)",mentalhealthadvice,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/pmfds4/how_to_set_boundaries_with_alcoholic_parent/,"[{'comment_id': 'hcozuem', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': ""It's important to note that there is no definitive right or wrong answer here, and for that reason, it can be tough to give advice. So instead, I'll add an opinion. I think you are right for setting clear boundaries. Knowing what you want from a relationship is important. You do not owe your mom anything just because she is your mom. It's important for your mom to understand you are serious in your boundaries. Seeing she has another home to sleep in, I don't think you did anything wrong."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-13T19:55:52', 'parent_id': 't3_pmfds4'}]"
p6whjl,2021-08-18T23:28:28,Nausea everytime I am very upset or depressed,"I have a therapist and he's never mentioned me having anything but I know I have general anxiety. Everytime I start to get depressed or very upset and angry about something I feel sick and nauseous. Is this just a symptom of anxiety? Any recs for how to make this better?

I get anxious so often it's more common that I'm anxious than not so it's hard to compare the feeling on a scale.",mentalhealthadvice,5,4,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/p6whjl/nausea_everytime_i_am_very_upset_or_depressed/,"[{'comment_id': 'hcp10jr', 'author': 'diabla-duerme', 'body': ""It's pretty common to get sick or feel sick from anxiety. Sometimes, when we have very strong emotions, we feel nauseous. What helped me was some anti-anxiety medication. I do not reccomend SSRI's for this, as a symptom of them is usually nausea. However, in your case, it may be different. All medications effect people differntly, so definitely see a doctor. If you want a more natural route, I reccomend eating some ginger or chewing gum, something that always helps me. Best of luck."", 'score': 2, 'timestamp': '2021-09-13T20:04:18', 'parent_id': 't3_p6whjl'}, {'comment_id': 'h9liehu', 'author': 'UnpopularGooseChase', 'body': ""Hi,\n\nYes, it can be a symptom of anxiety. I know it's a terrible feeling. I've been there myself. Im not a doctor so I can't really give you recommendations, but try some mediation - I find that doing this when I'm more stressed helps me a bit\n\nBut don't just write it off to anxiety - get it checked out by your doctor if you feel these symptoms often, as they can rule out anything else."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-08-20T05:06:07', 'parent_id': 't3_p6whjl'}, {'comment_id': 'hcs6qh8', 'author': 'oh_hereagain', 'body': 'Thank you! I will try that out and look into it', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-09-14T09:53:23', 'parent_id': 't1_hcp10jr'}, {'comment_id': 'hanf69y', 'author': 'oh_hereagain', 'body': 'Okay, thank you for the reply', 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-08-28T10:55:07', 'parent_id': 't1_h9liehu'}]"
ot5p63,2021-07-28T13:54:10,I think I'm having a break down but I don't know how to ask for help,I think I'm having a breakdown because of stress from work. I've been having extreme suicidal thoughts and have started cutting. But I'm too embarrassed to tell anyone in my family what I'm going through.,mentalhealthadvice,3,1,https://www.reddit.com/r/mentalhealthadvice/comments/ot5p63/i_think_im_having_a_break_down_but_i_dont_know/,"[{'comment_id': 'h6ynamu', 'author': 'Genroll_Dolphin', 'body': ""Hey DM me and we can talk about it. If you don't want to talk to me, please call the national helpline number:  1-800-662-HELP (4357). It might be difficult to do, but you could seriously use someone to talk to and you know it is the right choice for your health and well being."", 'score': 1, 'timestamp': '2021-07-29T20:21:57', 'parent_id': 't3_ot5p63'}]"