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About 6 months ago, my boyfriend was permanently disqualified during his application process to become a police officer. It was very odd as he's never had any legal trouble, he's never done drugs, there was really no reason to be disqualified. He has a criminal justice degree, he volunteered with the police department and he has background in security. The police refused to disclose why he was disqualified.
Well after hanging out with a mutual coworker, he very openly told me he was trying to ruin my boyfriends life and he filed a report saying my boyfriend threatened him and was very temperamental and aggressive and that he was scared of him. They worked together and went to highschool together.
He then told me to make sure I told my boyfriend because he wanted to start a physical altercation in order to get him arrested. He even told my boyfriend's brother, but he didn't say anythin because he didn't want to cause a fight.
I feel like I'm in a very bad position. Would showing the police our texts possibly get the disqualification reversed? Is there anything I can do legally? It's been about 6 months since the disqualification and I'm in arizona.
Edit: I wanted to add, his reasoning for doing this is because he wanted to also ruin our relationship because he wanted to be with me. | The guy actually texted you about this? And you have the texts?
Don’t go to the police yet.
Talk to an attorney ASAP - you have a defamation/slander case at the least.
Then you mention to your attorney that you’d also like to pursue criminal defamation charges - the statues vary by state and it’ll depend on each state whether defamation is actually criminal.
Let your attorney show the police the texts.
If he admitted to this over text and there’s nothing else besides these facts, your coworker has given you enough ammunition to ruin his own life |
Y’all. I’m so annoyed. we’ve been living in our new place for less than a full week and our landlord has popped up over here and tried to just walk in with his key three times. Today I drove up just as he was unlocking our door to walk in and I’m just like “what are you doing here?”
The first time I walked out of my bedroom up to see him just standing in my living room looking at my thermostat. Literally didn’t even acknowledge the fact that he was in the unit like by saying “anyone home” or anything. I was about to pepper spray the fuck out of him because his back was to me and I was home alone.
Today he said he needed to do maintenance on the a/c and proceeded to crane his neck to look in every room with a door open and rummage through my cabinets in my kitchen.
I really don’t wanna be THAT tenant but I can’t do this for a year. It’s always just him telling me some small shit that could have been said over the phone. The anxiety of thinking someone is in my house when I’m not home is too much. I’ve rented since I was 18 and never had a landlord who just pops up at all hours of the day. | Tell him, in very clear terms, to not come to your house without notice. |
I hired a well reviewed [rover.com](https://rover.com) dog sitter to watch my dog on Fri in order for me to work on a contract out of the city. I dropped my dog off at the sitter's house at noon on Fri, and at 8:30pm he sends me a message letting me know that my dog had escaped. (something about his girlfriend and a open door) I break my work contract and race back to the city to start looking for him, and posted his info on several social media sources to get as much exposure as possible. I find out through Bunz and FB that my dog was sighted about a kilometer away at 6:30pm, so this guy waited several hours before letting me know that my dog was missing.
I get into the city and start looking on foot. He informs me that he has called the police and TAS (toronto animal services) and has ordered a set of missing posters to put up in the neighbourhood trough Rover. He then tells me that he has a bunch of friends and family canvassing the neighbourhood looking for him. Great right? This is where things get unpleasant.
It's -10C outside and as it gets later and my search gets wider I realize that i'm the only one looking for my dog. I call [rover.com](https://rover.com) repeatedly and they say that all they can do on their end is encourage the sitter to go out and look, but apart from that their hands are tied. I get a tip from Facebook that a dog similar to mine was brought in to TAS, but I needed to call them for a more accurate description. I call TAS when they open on Sat morning at 8am, and discover that it isn't my dog. At that point they inform me that they never received a missing dog report for my dog the night before, and that I would have to submit one myself. (+12h after he went missing) This is the first confirmed lie from this dog sitter.
I continue my search throughout the morning with no leads, I double back into the neighbourhood and still don't see any missing posters or anyone else searching. I finally get a tip off to his location through Facebook and catch up with my dog at a park that he is semi-familiar with around lunch time. This is after 17h straight of walking in -10C weather. I covered every street & alleyway in a 3 sq kilometer area because I was scared to death that my dog was going to get hit by a car and/or freeze to death. I couldn't stand the thought of going home without him.
I speak to [rover.com](https://rover.com) again, and on a hunch ask for the missing poster order number and location. It turns out they were never collected from the Staples that printed them. So this guy never had any posters in his possession and was never distributing them. I have them now as evidence.
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Emotions aside, is there any course of action I can take to deal with this person? By lying about the search, the posters and the TAS report he delayed valuable search tools that I could have procured myself and used in the search immediately. I also lost $1000 by breaking this work contract and have documentation to that effect.
This guy really should not have any animal in his care, and pretending to go through the motions is worse than simple negligence like leaving a door unsecured. I'm at a loss for how to proceed. (If at all)
Edit: to clarify I did eventually find my dog, he’s safe but it was a hellish experience.
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​ | Your remedies are likely established in the Rover TOS. |
Pissed off. https://imgur.com/gallery/k2TLf2k
Apparently they are going after gas 1/2 mile east of our property but there was no road to the location so they are directional drilling from our property. We've paid an engineering firm to plat out our land to home builders, those plans were expensive and are worthless now. No one will buy a house with a gas well out their back door, lost every buyer we had lined up.
We haven't been paid a cent nor have they called us back to negotiate the cost of damages, trees taken, lot buyers that have now backed out, and acreage they have taken.
I feel it's hopeless going against big oil but I didn't know this was something that was possible in the "great" state of Texas.
Thank you for any responses. | This is above reddits pay grade but your gonna need a lawyer, a land surveyor and a arborist to get started |
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I've received a number of messages begging for an update, but as it's only been a few months, I can only give a partial one, due to the ongoing legal issues (my attorneys have advised me not to divulge too much to anyone).
1) The day after my post, I called a good friend of mine who has been my go to plumber since I inherited the property (we went to high school together), to ask for his help. He went to both houses the next day, saying that I had called him last week since the water bill seemed high, and asked him to come look at the pipes. He went through the houses, surreptitiously taking pictures, while "inspecting" the bathrooms/kitchens/water boilers, etc for leaks. Apparently while he was there they made a bunch of comments about me that included racial slurs (tldr: i'm biracial, and do not pass for white) and such about how I need to learn my place. After he'd inspected both houses he came over to mine, and gave me all the photos.
2) I conferred with an attorney regarding evicting them, and four days later both families were served with 7 day eviction notices. As expected, they blew up, and started throwing rocks at my house, slinging more racial epithets in my direction. I'd always grown up being terrified of angry racist white men twice my size, I never realized how unbelievably pathetic they actually are until I watched them crying like babies while being hauled off by the police on the video cameras.
3) The bride made a very angry post on facebook, followed up by standing up in church (small town, most of us go to the same church) during "prayers and concerns" to beg for prayers for her family because "Our landlord is evicting all of us because she's jealous that I'm getting married!" The pastor, feigning innocence, said "I thought she was evicting you all because your father and \[Groom\]'s father cut down \[My Great-Grandmother\]'s prize magnolias?" Hardest game of You-Laugh-You-Lose I've ever played, still proud I survived.
4) According to the arborists (yes plural. though my friend came out and did an assessment, my attorney for the suit over the trees advised selecting someone who isn't so close to me for the paperwork we'll submit to the court), based on the number of trees cut down and the number of trees damaged beyond repair, and how old/well-tended those trees were, the value of the trees alone is more than i could sell all three houses for in the current housing market around here. Then the attorney started talking about how the damages are multiplied and let's just say I would be quite happy with half that number, but I know when to zip my lips so I'll let my attorneys handle the negotiating.
5) They did, in fact, destroy the houses as best they could. I have enough savings/inheritance left that I can live without the rents for a while, so I'm using it as an excuse to have both houses renovated since they haven't had major renovations since well before I was born.
6) The bride and groom got married and had their reception in the church basement instead of the cul-de-sac. They had to cancel the honeymoon to spend the money on legal fees. (Am I a bad person for being amused?)
7) Hurricane Michael just gave me some wild thunderstorms, thankfully passed over us with the worst of it.
8) My boyfriend of seven years proposed (finally, goddamn).
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It's all solved. On Monday morning I sent photos of everything disgusting I could and of doug's furniture on the lawn to doug and his dad telling them it's beyond foul and I wouldn't be keeping any of it inside my house, and I'll dump it this week if they don't come get it.
Twenty minutes later I got a call from doug's *mother*. She asked if it was so bad could I send her some evidence, like photos. I told her I'd already sent them to her son and his dad. She yelled out in the background to one of them "She says she DID send photos" then she got off the phone.
Half an hour later she called me back and said they'd be down to pick up doug's stuff, and apologised. She asked if his books were OK. Apart from the mouse gnawing and droppings, yes. I'm not a barbarian, they were outside but under the eaves.
This morning they turned up from 600km away. doug and his dad wanted to begin packing in their pantech but doug's mum wasn't having any of that. They dumped 90% of it at the tip and came back & took just a few things home. Even the food in the freezers was off. His mum apologised and offered to make me good with cash, but she's already solved enough and I declined. She left it open ended and said if I needed anything fixed to call her.
I know I didn't follow legal advice, but this was the equivalent of someone asking you to hold onto a small keychain sized box for half a year, but instead they sneakily cover you in fifty kilos of feces you're not allowed to wash off until you get a lawyer and fill out all the right paperwork and wait a month. I just couldn't do it. I got lucky.
I've had words with my brother and changed the locks to my place too. He'd opened up and let doug and doug's mates in, then left the key behind with him. He didn't know how bad it was either.
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My first week working and I accepted a fake 50. Our shop owner is taking the money out of our collective tips that we earn. The owner was previously asked to buy detection devices to check bills but refused.
This seems fishy to me. Obviously it's morally reprehensible but is it illegal? | It is illegal. He can’t deduct your pay for that. File a wage claim. |
So I wrote about this last night just after it happened on another subreddit, and was advised by many of the comments to post here for some clarity on what recourse we could actually seek from this.
I won't be writing out the whole incident again in as much detail as before, but if anyone reads my earlier post and thinks I've missed out something crucial, I'll be happy to edit the post.
My boyfriend and I went out for lunch yesterday at a restaurant we have dined at before. My boyfriend is a diagnosed celiac and has been for many years, and when this place was recommended to us originally we were told the restaurant has specific gluten free items, and a specific area where such food was prepared to avoid cross contamination. We had a great time, and checked online before going back again yesterday and saw there were no complaints about people being 'glutened'. We arrived and ordered our meals, with my boyfriend specifically ordering a gluten free appetizer and entree, something that the waitress stated would come with a different sauce than advertised as the usual sauce was made in the general area of the kitchen and as such could be contaminated.
We have no issues until the entrees come, when my boyfriend is served a dish of pasta with the advertised sauce. The waitress thinks that there's been a mix up in the kitchen, and comes back a minute later to say that someone else has received his gluten free pasta and the kitchen were rushing out a new order. She said she'd comp our appetizers and try to get us a free dessert, something she'd have to check with the shift manager on first. We see her go over to someone we assume is the manager, and then minutes later the manager storms over and asks us what kind of scam we're pulling. She says that the pasta was definitely gluten free, and we tell her that because of my boyfriend's celiacs we were told that the normal sauce wasn't safe and were waiting on a new dish with a new sauce. She started to complain about fad eating and sensitive customers (something we attributed to us being young and therefore 'millennials'). The waitress came over with the new dish with the new sauce, but the manager snatched it from her and started to walk it back into the kitchen saying that the 'precious table' couldn't be served something that she hadn't checked. She came back a few minutes later with what we assumed was the same dish and wouldn't give it over to my boyfriend initially, sarcastically asking if she wasn't us to drag away the chef from their job and tell us ourselves it was safe. We said it was fine, and rushed to finish so we could get out of there, probably finishing our meals in about 10 minutes.
We flagged down our original waitress and asked for the check. She was a little while, and when she came back to us she looked like she'd seen a ghost. She told us that she'd gone back to the kitchen to check on another order, and noticed a pasta dish that looked exactly like the one my boyfriend had eaten sitting on the side. She asked if it needed to go out, and was told that it was the one the manager had brought back about 15 minutes before. The waitress said that she thought it had been brought back out to the customer, but was told that the manager had only come in and asked the chef working with pasta dishes to simply drain some normal, gluten-containing pasta and serve it with the gluten free sauce (my boyfriend had ordered a tortellini style dish and there was a similar one on the regular menu, so he wouldn't have noticed by appearance or taste alone).
The waitress had comped all of the food on our check, but I insisted that we paid for my dishes, and tipped her well over the average, just in case she was penalised for the manager's mistakes. She went above and beyond what was necessary by telling us the truth to help us in preparing for my boyfriend's future 'glutened' state.
My boyfriend started having a reaction just before we got home, and spent the rest of the evening locked in the bathroom having a serious response to eating a whole bowl of gluten. As of this morning the worst is over, but he is still having serious stomach pains that will be occurring for the next few weeks at the very least.
On my original post, I was given many different types of advice; I was told to both post and not post a scathing review, to sue and not sue the restaurant, and to get the police involved over a 'poisoning' incident or just go all vigilante on the manager. As I have been looking after my boyfriend all night, I have not been able to research any further, legal ways of dealing with this. As a note, my boyfriend has not and will not be going to the ER or doctor about this - we already have everything we could possibly need to manage this, and it would simply be wasting time and money. However, if people advise that we need medical 'proof', we will be happy to pursue that.
TL;DR - My celiac boyfriend was purposely 'glutened' by an irate manager who didn't believe he needed a specialist meal, who and what should we pursue to get this manager fired and the restaurant investigated? | The best thing would be to call several lawyers and get a consultation.
At the very least to build a promising case, you would need a medical note/record stating your bf ate gluten and suffered the ill effects on the date in question, proof of eating at the restaurant, and likely a sworn statement/witness from the server.
I'm curious why a manager would be so offended about dietary restrictions at a restaurant that seems to cater to GF customers? |
I post this a year ago.
https://np.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/5psadr/i_have_become_a_forgotten_employees_for_a_few/
Since that time I got denied for the second job and basically been coasting by until I landed another position and turned in my two weeks notice.
Recently I found a position at a tech firm that will allow me to work from home, is easier than what I used to do, and pays more. Basically tired of doing nothing even though Im getting paid for it.
The day after I mailed the keys to the satellite office back to the corporate office I got a phone call exactly at 8 AM. The head of HR for the former company wanted to speak with me in person. I asked her if there were any issues such as equipment that was not returned. She stated that there were no issues like that. They just had some questions about my job function over the last year.
I told her that they should have that information as head of HR and promptly disconnected stating I had to return back to work. She called back at 12:05 exactly.
I have been ducking her calls ever since. Her voicemails state that I am required to come into her office to discuss a few things. My emails with her have asked if there is anything that needs to be returned or issues with company property. Each time I am assured it is nothing like that, but that they need me to come into their office to discuss this with me in person. She calls at least once per day.
I am thinking I just need to ignore her until she either escalates or goes away.
How incredibly bad is that plan? Before anyone says it. I know... I know ok I should have quit a long time ago. I did not.
EDIT: Texas | After consulting with my HR and payroll department about this situation they say ignore the director. This is their fault. You can't be held liable, you were never fired. That's on them.
Also, my payroll manager says "Good job sticking it to the man"
I also agree that it wouldn't hurt to get an attorney though. |
I apologize for formatting/grammar errors. I am on my phone.
My post got a decent amount of attention. I thought I would update since I still get really sweet messages from people wishing me well/praying for me and my family.
My fiance, now husband did pull through! He's currently in our backyard setting up a tent to "camp out" with our 2 and 3 year old boys. He was in a coma for over a month and the doctor's were pretty sure he would never wake up. His recovery was slow and he still goes to physical therapy 4 times a week but he is pretty much back to normal now and we couldn't be happier! Although it was a horrible thing to go through it changed both of us for the better. You don't realize how much the small things matter until they're about to be taken from you.
He was appalled by his sisters actions when I finally discussed it with him. We recently both made wills and made sure there is no chance SIL or BIL will get any money if both of us were to pass, or God forbid our children too. We also chose godparents for our children and we are expecting a baby girl in 2018!
I really appreciate all of the sweet thoughtful messages I was sent. They definitely made me feel better on bad days to know how many people were praying for him! | For those interested, discussion is ongoing in the bestoflegaladvice thread [Update to Sistermother attempting to get her hands on brotherson's house. Husband pulled through!](https://www.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/70okap/update_to_sistermother_attempting_to_get_her/)
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My ex and I share custody of our daughter (age 6). When I picked her up today, she brought her phone that usually stays at her dad's house. She was showing me pictures she took, and as I was scrolling I found dozens of nude pictures and videos of men mastubating in her cloud. These pictures have been uploaded for the last 6 months at least, and she has had access to them.
If what I think is the case is true, then it seems like her grandfather has a dirty little secret, and because her phone is logged into the same account as his is their pictures sync to the same cloud. If this is true he probably has no clue that he has basically been giving her access to this stuff. However, like I said she has had access to these things for the last 6 months at least which is unacceptable and extremely worrisome.
What should I do? Is there any legal action I should take? She was extremely upset when I found them and tried to hide them. She also lied about not recognizing one of the men in the pictures. It is actually someone she knows very well. I am planning on trying to find a therapist maybe to talk to her about what all she may have seen, but I'm really at a loss right now. It's 2 am, and I don't know what to do. Also in Louisiana if that makes a difference.
EDIT: For those that are lucky enough to not have to coparent with a difficult ex or have not been through a divorce--here is some insight as to how custody orders work. As we have joint custody, we both have to agree on decisions regarding medical issues and education. Outside of those things, we each get to set the pace when our child is in our care. Ideally we would mostly be on the same page, but my ex is much more lax than I am about basically everything. Not only do I not want to change our moderately structured routine to match his lack of one, I have two additional kids in my home that thrive on it and changing it every other week to match his level of parenting would be terrible for them.
We had a conversation about the phone when they gave it to her two years ago (YES SHE HAD JUST TURNED 5), and I objected. If I had any actual legal grounds to prevent them from giving it to her, we wouldn't be in this situation. | Therapy is absolutely the right call here. Find a child therapist that deals in trauma and sexual abuse. They’ll help her understand the nature of what has happened often through methods of play and art which will help ease her transition into talking more openly about it. If the images are illegal or you believe they were put there intentionally - contact the police immediately. If you believe they were saved by the grandfather for his own gratification and he may not understand the technology then that is totally on your judgement whether or not to delete access to the account or get law enforcement involved. Best of luck and best wishes to your daughters recovery. |
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My husband caught a close friend of ours coming out of our 4 year old daughter’s bedroom during a family get-together last night while she was sleeping. We thought he went inside to grab a drink or use the bathroom. My husband decided he needed to use the bathroom as well so was waiting, but he was taking a while so he went inside to check. That’s when he caught him leaving the room.
When my husband demanded to know what he was doing in there, he was speechless and couldn’t give an answer. We fortunately keep a nanny cam in her room so we were able to go back and see that he crept in into her room, touched her face, then walked back out (presumably to check if anyone was coming), and then went back inside and grabbed her hand. Thats when my husband started walking towards the room. He was in my kids room for no longer than 2 minutes and, luckily, my daughter had no idea what happened.
There is no doubt in my mind that he was predating on my daughter and testing to see if she would wake up. My husband and brother-in-law immediately kicked him out of our home and he is permanently cut out of our lives. We will be filing a police report tonight, but do we have enough to file a civil restraining order as well?
I don’t think he’ll ever try to get access to my daughter again but I want to know if there are other options that we can pursue to make sure he never gets near her again, and also so that he doesn’t potentially get access to other kids. Any advice is greatly appreciated, thank you. | Can't give you exact info because I don't know your location, but I'm a police dispatcher. If this happened in my jurisdiction they'd take your statement, talk to him, note in the report that no offense occured. If you have the recordings submit those because it's evidence. You would not be able to get a restraining order but it's good to build a paper trail. I'd also privately talk to anyone else in your circle with kids. |
Update to [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/j57ybt/mail_lady_is_refusing_to_deliver_packages_im/)
**This is WAR!**
Monday, QBK gets off her ass and walks 2 small packages from the truck to the door. My dad is in a wheelchair and has been for most of his life. He was sitting on the porch enjoying his day when this happened. QBK brings the packages to the base of the porch, looks at the stairs, looks at my dad in the wheelchair, and sets the packages on the ground 3 steps down from him.
When he asks if she could please hand him the packages because he can't reach them, **she turns around and walks away!**
The packages sat there for the rest of the day until I got home.
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My kids are constantly covered in oils. She uses the diffusers in their rooms while they sleep and in the kitchen and living room. They basically breathe and wear oils all day. I can’t convince her to stop and the kids are always ill with breathing issues and skin rashes. She uses Young Living and maintains that since they are pure, they present no danger. She won’t hear anything to the contrary. Is there anything I can do legally to keep the oils away from the kids. We are still married and living in the same household. Location: California | Legal action? You're the father so you have as many rights as she does. I think the only thing you could do to grab her attention of it is take your kids to the doctor's and let them know about all these oils and hear from a doctor that it's the oils making your children ill with breathing problems and rashes. |
Trying to get this update out there proved to be harder than I thought. So I put my update here.
OP is still published at the bottom of this post
I know a lot of people were concerned about the reason behind my boyfriends house arrest sentence. Which led to an entire post on r/bestoflegaladvice being dedicated to how stupid I must be for believing his reasoning. Whelp! He got off house arrest on Tuesday (9/10) ((yay!! :)), I asked if he would mind if I uploaded his “certificate of completion” to reddit and he said that was fine.
[Certificate of Completion ](https://imgur.com/a/BY974wg)
A few people asked some really good questions so I’m going to try to be as clear as possible:
He really was not on probation or parole. When he went to trial he was given the option to “complete the program,” which was a year with a PRIVATELY OWNED house arrest company. If he failed to complete the program he would be sentenced to three years in prison.
The terms of his house arrest, as per the company’s rules, where that he was allowed one grocery store trip a week and needed to provide sign-in and sign-out sheets for his daily work shifts. He could not leave the house otherwise unless explicitly approved by the owner of the company. Every other week he was required to “check in,” which means he had to go into the house arrest place, sit down with someone, and provide receipts for his trips to the store as well as all of his work slips to prove that he was at the locations doing what he was supposed to be doing. He had to pay the company $60/week to be on house arrest with them (which was quite an expense but definitely better than prison).
Now that he has completed the program, he hands over his certificate to a judge to show that he served his time and he is now eligible to reapply for a drivers license (which was obviously revoked when he was “sentenced” due to DUS charges).
He was never on parole. He was never on probation. This entire ordeal was due to being a “habitual traffic offender.” A year of house arrest. For driving without insurance. He could not afford the insurance and was driving to get to work, to afford the insurance, he even switched up cars every time he drove. Does ANY of that make what he did okay? Absolutely not. But I did want to provide proof for those who were concerned that that is why he was put on house arrest and for no other reason.
TL;DR: My boyfriend was sentenced to a year on house arrest due to traffic violations, no other reason. He has completed the program and now we’re going to the beach.
Thank you for coming to my TEDtalk I hope this cleared things up. Sorry for the lengthy post.
[Certificate of Completion ](https://imgur.com/a/BY974wg)
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Title explains it all. What is our best course of action to prevent him from going to prison if his monitor dies before they open in the morning? I suggested maybe filming himself sitting at home for proof he didn’t go anywhere. He thinks maybe he should call the police and go into the station so that he can be supervised, maybe put in a holding cell overnight so that he has witnesses that he didn’t go anywhere.
Time is a factor. What do we do??
Edit: thanks everyone for your feedback. He called, left a voicemail, sent a text, sent a video recording of the monitor and charger not working (he has been on house arrest for 11.5 months we definitely know what it looks like when it’s supposed to be charging)((he gets off sep. 14! :)), his supervisor has an iPhone so we even shared his location with them. Everything we could think of.
At 12:29am we got this text back:
“Sorry so late.. I have been traveling today and not near a computer or cell coverage. I looked it up and it should have showed you on charge but hasn’t. Either it’s not connected or charger not working. Still showing low battery. Call the office at 9 and talk to greg about it. I’m sorry.”
Crisis averted. Sounds like we’ll just stay put until the office opens and then we’ll go in to get everything checked, and we’ll be sharing his iPhone location with them until then.
I would like to take a moment to address a few frequently asked questions:
1. We are in South Carolina.
2. He is not on probation or parole. He has never in his life been convicted of a crime. He was actually put on house arrest because he acquired too many traffic violations (none of which were DUIs, which in my opinion is absolutely ridiculous).
3. The house arrest company is a privately owned business. There is a man and wife who charge every person they keep on house arrest $60/WEEK. Capitalism ladies and gentlemen.
Thanks again for everything and if anything changes I’ll let y’all know.
Final edit: we went in to the house arrest place today after they opened, they gave him a new monitor, a new charger, a back up charger still in the box, and even knocked 4 days off his sentence!!! Horribly, horribly stressful event had a relatively happy ending. Thank you everyone who took the time to read and reply.
EDITEDIT: people are getting pretty mean, this got way out of hand. I want to genuinely thank everyone who responded to this post with helpful information when we were in need of advice, and our issue has resolved since then. I may make a separate post with all of the interesting information and developments that came about as a result of this once I get some more organized/tangible information, but honestly it’s late and hate mail takes a lot out of you. Thanks again to everyone who was sincere and wanted to help.
Absolutely, positively, nonnegotiable final edit: Okay kids, it’s been a long day. We laughed, we cried, we learned a lot about ourselves. But at the end of the day, after grilling him, background searching him, and even calling his mom, it has become abundantly and unquestionably clear that my bf’s current house arrest sentence is 100% due to three DUS (driving under suspension) arrests. He was pulled over driving without insurance, three times. Irresponsible? Oh absolutely, he’s known from the beginning how I feel about it. But, he is not, nor has he ever been, 1)in prison 2)on parole or 3)on probation. The disconnect was the difference between arrested and convicted, that is where I was confused and as a result confused some of y’all. He had been arrested several times when he was in his teens (a very, very long time ago) and all of them were for dumb teen stuff like petty shoplifting, which he never went to prison for. Was that stuff irresponsible? Yes. Illegal?? Also yes. But a long long time ago and entirely unrelated to his current house arrest sentence? You betcha. We had a good laugh about how dumb he was as a teen, he remembered a lot and I learned a lot. To everyone saying I’m dumb for believing him about his current situation: you had me really questioning things for a minute there and I’m sorry to disappoint you but that’s all there is to it. He will be getting off house arrest on September 10th, and to celebrate we’re going to the beach. The end. | Call the police station non-emergency line and ask them what to do. At least they can probably document the call if to show he made an effort to let someone know that the battery is dying and the case manager isn't responding. |
My cousin has been getting these terrible infections after having her first child. After trying a few treatments, her doctor informed her she's at serious risk of life-threatening hemorrhaging and she needs a hysterectomy. However, when her doctor tried to clear it with the insurance, their doctor (who has never met my cousin) informed her that he would not approve of her surgery **because she's young and shouldn't throw away her chance to have more children.** He said, "If you were 40, I'd approve this. But you're \[young\] and only have one child so far."
This seems incredibly wrong to me. I know people have tried taking on insurance companies before but how on earth would you start? Thank you for any support at all. She lives in Utah but the insurance company is based out of Minnesota.
Update: Thank you everyone, especially those of you who reached out including doctors, insurance specialist, nurses and everyone else. I relayed all the information on to my cousin. Her doctor had completed the peer to peer but she’s begun the appeal process with help from a lot of your comments. I really appreciate all your help and she does as well.
Edit: My cousin put out a video with more details but I can't include it as it has identifying personal information. I've also removed any mention of her exact age. | I am not a lawyer, but I am a doctor. This is something they literally teach you about in ethics lessons. It’s totally unacceptable.
First, get the full name, license number, and address of this doctor. Get him to send it to you in writing that he is denying coverage based on his opinion of your family planning. Usually, the second you ask for a license number, insurance doctors know it’s the real deal.
You can talk to a lawyer and find out the laws in your state. They’ll recommend how to proceed, both in court and with the state medical board |
I inherited my mom’s house when she died. A couple years ago, my then boyfriend moved in with me. But he turned abusive and after a particularly bad night about a year and a half ago, I fled and moved to another city. I just heard from a mutual friend that my ex moved out of state several months ago.
I went to my house over the weekend to check on it and make a plan to move back in but there’s another couple living there now. They said they bought the house and have all the paperwork to prove it. When I tried explaining that I actually owned the house they acted like I was crazy and threatened to call the police unless I left immediately.
I’m heartbroken because not only have I lost a place that is sentimental to me, but my abusive ex got all the money from the sale. Is there anything I can do? I’m in Maryland. | It’s possible they are squatters that are just lying to you.
Look up your property [here](https://sdat.dat.maryland.gov/RealProperty/Pages/default.aspx). Who does it list as the current owner?
You can view the actual land records, deeds, and mortgages [here](https://mdlandrec.net/main/), but have to register for a free account. |
My girlfriend(24f) moved in with me(26m) two years ago. My apartment was fully furnished when she moved in but we did buy a few things together like small appliances, small furniture accents etc. Even for those items because I almost always did the actual purchasing (my personal cards/accounts) I can probably establishes ownership in my favor but I don't want to assume anything.
Honestly, I don't care about those things. The biggest issue is that her family is trying to claim everything I own. It first started with them claiming that my girlfriend co-owned all of belongings so they were entitled to half. Now they want absolutely everything.
They're also generally bad people. I don't want to call them trailer trash but you get the idea. They don't work. The parents are alcoholics and brothers are also alcoholics and drug addicts. They're openly treating the situation as an opportunity to get paid.
I'm pretty sure they have no actual case but I just want to know how seriously I should be taking this. I can't exactly afford a lawyer but it would probably be less expensive than having to repurchase my entire life.
edit: typo
edit 2: Rather than respond directly I'm just going to make this edit.
I've read everyone's response and it seems like the unanimous consensus is to block them and try to move on with my life, so that's exactly what I'm going to do.
A lot of people expressed concern for my personal safety and property/residence which is not something I ever considered. It's disturbing to think about how common this behavior must be. Thankfully, I live about an hour away from them and my apartment is not accessible to the public. But I appreciate the concern.
This is a throwaway account so after this edit I'm going to close my browser and lose access to this account. I appreciate everyone's thoughts and help with this. | Disclaimer: I’m a lawyer, but not your lawyer. This information is merely for educational purposes, and is not meant as legal advice on your specific case. Always seek the advice of qualified legal counsel in your state.
Unless the family can prove ownership of these possessions, they really don’t have a case. Obviously, if you purchased most of the items, and have a paper trail that says so, they are likely not entitled to anything other than her personal effects which she did purchase/own.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. As others have said, I would block them and ensure proper security of your home. I feel that if they went to an attorney, the attorney would ask them for their proof that she owns these items. In any court proceeding, they would need proof. Once they find out that she did not own these items, they would not take the case. At least that’s what I would do in the scenario. |
My best friend is a single mom. The other day she had a mental breakdown and became suicidal. She has made an attempt on her life in the past years and years ago and knew if she didn't get help immediately, she would kill herself, and so she went directly to the emergency room. She has been moved to a behavioral health unit while she recovers mentally and is ready to go home.
She has requested that I take care of her children while she is gone. We are very close and her children love me. She trusts me completely with them. We have plans to move in together in soon. I am not a parent, but I have the means to take care of them and they would be happy.
I received an unnanounced visit from some of her family members (grandmother and cousin). They wanted to watch the children for a little bit. I was fine with this as I wanted to visit my friend to see how she was doing and stock up on food and supplies for the children. My friend was very upset that I let her cousin watch her children and requested I pick them up as soon as possible. She has always had difficulty with trusting her family and didn't want her cousin parenting her children.
Her family doesn't want to return the children to me. They claim they are worried about child protective services stepping in. They believe/claim if the children are found in custody of a friend rather than family member that the children would be taken as custody of the state.
What can I do in this case? Her children are in no way neglected and would be completely safe and cared for by me. I have taken time off work and will be with them 24/7. She even wants the children to be with me and not them. Does her will not matter to CPS? Would they actually take the children if found in care from a non family member? Or would I be completely fine caring for her children?
**Edit: I have received a lot of great advice. Thank you! I will be going to get the children asap. Many of you suggested getting the delegation of parental authority completed. I can attempt to do so but she is only allowed an hour of visitation per day. She also has no idea what is currently happening with her children and with her mental state I am worried of giving her extra stress knowing that I am having difficulty getting them back. Should I continue to have difficulty, I will have to get her to help with getting the documents signed. I would like to keep this as peaceful with her family as possible, which it has been so far. I understand their concern about CPS and I'm hoping that the advice I receive will help convince them that they have no need to be worried and CPS won'tbe an issue. Should I show them my home and that I am 100% capable of caring for the children to alleviate their concerns?**
**Edit 2: I have the children back. I talked with their mother on the phone and she assured me CPS was a non-issue. She even insured that her family were not listed as caregivers, and another close friend of hers is. Her friend is with me in this and believes I am fully fit to have them. Still facing a lot of opposition towards me having them and I'm working through getting the proper paperwork signed.**
**Edit 3: Thread has been locked but I have received plenty of helpful advice. Thank you for all of your well wishes. I have pumped up an air mattress for them as all the beds in my home are really tall, and they love it. The 3 year old calls it her balloon bed. I also found pillows that look like eyeballs and they think it'sthe coolest thing their bed has eyes. I am so happy to have them and relieved that they will be safe with me as we wait for their mother to return home.** | She made arrangements for her children, CPS would not have any need to step in nor to remove them from your home unless they were unsafe there.
If she does not wish for her children to be cared for by these people she can sign over a revocable temporary guardianship to you that also allows you to handle emergency medical care for the children should the need arise.
And she should probably do so before her family members file for emergency custody. |
This happened in San Antonio, Texas.
So at 3:30 am today, my boss texted me to come into work at 9 am. I was asleep and didn't check my phone until 3:30 pm. I responded by saying I was asleep when I got his text and if I had been awake, 5.5 hours is not enough time to sleep before a day of work(8.5 hour shift). I also asked him to please start giving me 24 hours of notice before work (he never posted a schedule, only texted me at most two days before he needed me to come in, though often less than a day's notice). I was never once 'on-call'.
I was a part-time, W-2 employee (I think, because tax deductions are on my paychecks, though I was never given a W-4), though I always drew my paychecks from the folder labeled 'contract labor'. I was employed from 7/30 until 11/11 (today).
As I understand it, the Fair Labor Standards act says employers need to give at least 24 hours notice before work, but I am in an at-will employment state and nothing I can find online tells me whether or not this federal act applies here. Is there grounds to sue for this?
Edit: Someone else mentioned to me this might count as retaliation. Is that true? | File for unemployment.
You don't really have grounds to sue, but you are almost certainly eligible for unemployment. Also, double check your paystubs and hang on to them. If you were improperly classified as a contractor you may need to contact the IRS. |
That happened about two weeks ago. It was initially pushed down to a guidance counselor as a "friends issue". My wife went to the school about a week ago because the issue had yet to be resolved; a group of girls were still picking on our daughter. Since then, one the assistant principals conducted an investigation. The girl that did the recording is still running around the campus with her phone, and now our daughter is labeled a snitch and bullied even more because of the way the school has handled it.
Needless to say, we're a bit pissed. Our daughter won't be going back to that school. We're not really sure what to do next. Do any of you fine folks out there have any advice on a way ahead?
Edit: Forgot to mention two important details:
1. The kid that did the recording...she admitted to doing it in a written statement to the school. She denied posting it to social media, but other kids have told our daughter they saw the video posted on music.ly.
2 . Our daughter has a 504 plan for anxiety and PTSD. | Is the school board aware that the principal considers students filming other students in bathroom stalls without their knowledge to be a "friends issue?" |
I just wanted to let everyone know that everything turned out fine!
The club president was prosecuted.
(I should have found it suspicious that the club was extremely friendly and insistant that I come to their meetings. Looking back now, I was their token brown person for the couple meetings I attended. But hey-free food.)
USCIS didn't give me a hard time about it-surprisingly. My lawyer was awesome and fully reported everything and documented everything. Having an email from the club president admitting to it was great.
I have sailed through the citizenship process and will be taking my citizenship oath in a couple weeks, finally ending my immigration journey.
And for the dozens of people that messaged me slurs and told me to kill myself- fuck you. I'm going to have a great life here and I'm never leaving the US. Die mad about it.
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A lot has happened since I posted.
I talked with my sister for a long time over the next week and she eventually agreed to talking to an adult at school. I went with her to talk to a teacher she was close with. After a lot of crying together she called the police and our school counselor and principal. They basically didn't let us go home that day from school.
We ended up getting a case worker and parents of my sister's best friend (NOT the mom who was constantly harassing us about going public) took us in temporarily. We are currently still with them.
The police visited my dad who won't admit to raping me or my sister, but they found a ton of child porn on his computer and other things they wouldn't tell us about. He has been arrested for the child porn. Unfortunately, that did make the news and everyone knows. It's extremely embarrassing and stressful to have people judge you all the time. People wouldn't shut up about it for like two weeks.
My sister moved to a different school that helps with troubled kids and special situations for while she is pregnant. We are hoping she can go back after she has the baby and continue at her first school... Ideally..
She and I both have gone through a lot of counseling and she is okay giving up the child for adoption now. Our case worker and counselor are both really great about this whole thing. Mom is still not in the picture.
I fully plan on changing my name to my mom's maiden name and so does my sister. My case worker says that's completely possible for us to do. Thanks for that advice reddit, I got that from here.
Anyway, thanks for the advice. It helped me talk her into how serious it was.
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A lot has happened over the last ten days.
I realized, shortly after making my initial post that my life, as it is, has become unsustainable. I cannot live like this anymore. And I mean that literally, because this realization came to me just before i hurt myself very badly.
I was sitting in my bathtub and it suddenly struck me that I was completely prepared to just stop living because I was too scared to find help. So I went and found help.
I took all of last week off and with my ex-husband's help, I found a good, understanding and very very patient therapist. I've also made an appointment to see a psychiatrist, to see what medication options are open to me.
When I finally went back to work, I took the head of the Fun Committee aside and talked to her. I explained to her that I have PTSD and some very severe anxiety issues and I apologized for not being more clear to her when I asked her not to do anything for my birthday.
And she cried. She wept openly and apologized, she told me she thought I was just shy, that she was just trying to help me fit in and she never intended to do anything hurtful to me.
Then, I spoke to my Manager and my workspace is being moved to a far less-populated part of the building, where I can just quietly do my work and be left alone. It is literally all I have ever wanted.
So, the moral of this story was, fucking talk to people about your shit before it gets so bad you feel like you have no choice but fucking die. Apparently.
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**EDIT** UPDATE AUG 22, 2024
They caught this cop harassing a person on video and blackmailing people for sexual acts. The cop left his body cam on. He got kicked off our local towns police force so he went to the next town over and became a cop and that’s where he caught these new charges.
I’m so glad to see this piece of shit get caught and exposed for what a terrible person he was. For anyone interested, his name is James Stokes. You can google James Stokes Seaman Ohio and it will show his charges and bring up everything about his crimes in the google results!!
Here is a YT link to the story:
https://youtu.be/HFQQu8hBp60?si=lpCdO8R1HlnNBIJV
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Holy wow this blew up. Thanks for the silver kind stranger! I received so many messages, so if I don't reply to your message I'm really sorry. I will go through and reply to as many as possible!
I have received so much amazing information on this post since I made it. Unfortunately it is a holiday today and I am going to try spending today with friends. I am, however, going to follow up tomorrow with the police department and see if we can’t figure this out. No updates or calls back as of yet... I’ll keep everyone posted.
As of 12/31 at 3:40PM EST I have called about filing a complaint with the police officer in question. I have yet to get a call back. I’ll update everyone here when I get a call back (if I do.)
Hello Legal Advice!
So, here’s some backstory:
Me and my fiancé moved into this new place back in April. We’ve been living here since then. The town I live in is incredibly small and only has around 150-200 people, maybe more. The cops around here are notorious for pulling people over. There is a major highway that runs between here and Cincinnati. They are most always out on that road because the city jurisdiction extends across that highway, they almost are never monitoring what’s happening in town.
Fast forward until now. There was a cop sitting at the 4 way in the middle of town that my fiancé had passed (she works with horses and drives a truck that’s kinda loud). She was pulled over (in our driveway) for this exhaust issue. She took the loud exhaust ticket, paid it, we put a new exhaust that helped quiet down the truck, all is good. Right? Nah.
Now, this guy knows where we live. He drives by all the time and he knows when my fiancé leaves for work. He follows me now, in my 2010 Honda Civic (it’s a completely legal car, no real reason for him to be following me) all the time as I do the speed limit, pay my taxes and abide by the law. There is an abandoned house across the road where he will sit at and “clock” people, however, it’s right across from our home.
Today was the last straw. When my fiancé was leaving for work, we was headed in from town from picking up our cat from the vet. He is sitting at the 4-way stop sign in town. He sees us and makes eye contact with us and then as I’m almost home begins pulling out. My fiancé needed to go to work, so I decided to let her use my car so that way there was no risk of her being pulled over in her truck (even though we fixed the exhaust like he asked).
On her way out, he sees her leaving and pulls up and blocks the driveway, not allowing my fiancé to leave. He sits there for about a minute and then drives down the road a bit, waiting for her to pull out so he can stop her. She calls me and says she’s afraid to leave, so I tell her to stay for a bit. He eventually pulled off and pulled over another loud truck.
Here’s the kicker. My ring doorbell has the entire occurrence of him blocking our driveway on camera. I’ve saved a copy to my phones storage. What can we do about this? This is clearly harassment and this guy doesn’t let up. It’s a shame when I’m fearful to leave the privacy of my home because this guys following us around in an unusual way. Is there any way I can make a city complaint against him to get him to stop? I only fear this will make things a lot worse. Cops are meant to protect and serve, not harass and observe.
Feeling lost here, could anyone give me some useful advice?
Thanks, sorry for the long post. | Call the state highway patrol and ask for help |
My cat was an indoor/outdoor and my 6 year old son and I were out doing yard work. We live in the country but have very close neighbors. Anyways My son was playing with the cat chasing it around when out of nowhere my neighbors great dane ran up and mauled my cat, And when my son slapped the dog on the back the dog turns and latched onto his arm really hard and started shaking him to the ground like a police dog. So i ran over took my handgun grabbed the dog by its collar to pull him away and put a single bullet in its head. My neighbor ran out with his shotgun and I apologetically explained the situation and he seemed to understand. My brother that lives with us even helped him bury his dog and my cat which also needed to be put down right there because his injuries were fatal and the nearest vet is 2 hours away and i had to rush my son to the hospital. My son needed several stitches and is still recovering from the emotional trauma.
Anyways a week later I get served papers and am getting sued by the very same neighbor that seemed to understand. Do i have a case? | The dog trespassed, mauled another animal to death and attacked your child. It would have been put down by animal control or the police, had they been involved.
You 100% have a case. Counter sue for your child and the death of your cat. |
I’m a high school teacher. I work in a very rural, very small school and have been here for 15 years. “Dan,” my “across the hall mate” has been here 8. His son,”Leo” has some serious development issues, and attended the school until he graduated three years ago. Leo was somewhat of a legend at the school. Since Dan was the football coach, Leo would serve as a manager at the games and the kids treated him well. Leo would often visit his dad’s classroom before and after school and I got to know him as well. Leo became somewhat independent after graduation and is able to hold down a very basic, part-time job that he can ride his bike to from his home.
This past summer, Dan and his wife went on a three week vacation for their anniversary. They asked me if I would be a source of support for Leo while they were away. While Leo was okay to stay by himself, he cannot drive, so I would take him to get groceries and drive him to work if it was raining. I also checked in on him every day with a text or a call. The last day I was to be in this role, Leo sent me a VERY inappropriate text that included a photo of his penis. I told Leo that was inappropriate and that I would be telling his father.
I showed Dan the text and he claimed that Leo’s phone must’ve been “hacked” or “played with” while Leo was at work. I didn’t believe that explanation, but I accepted it and moved on. The next day, my phone started blowing up with texts from Leo (more than 100 inside 4 hours) asking me if he could “hold on to me” and “take me for a ride on his 4 wheeler” and “kiss me gently.” I forwarded the texts to Dan and did not response to Leo.
Dan came to my house the next day and said that Leo was not sending those texts. He said he was going to take the phone and see what happens. Then, I started getting texts through some “unknown number” that were the same in tone and writing. A selfie of Leo nude was also sent. I called Dan, thinking this might be something happening at Leo’s job or something.
This didn’t stop. I was getting 100s of texts a day from different numbers. As soon as I blocked one, another popped up. I went down to the store where Leo worked and spoke with the manager. (I taught all of his children). He told me that Leo had been spending a lot of time on a coworker’s phone and he had already talked to Dan about it two weeks ago! So, Dan knew this was happening and did nothing.
I changed my number, then school started and everyone was sent contact information for all teachers. This included my new number. Dan, being in my department and a member of the faculty, got this information. The next thing I know, I’m getting crazy texts again. I said something to Dan at work. Dan said Leo was “harmless” and I should just respond to him because he liked me and the more I avoid him, the more miserable it makes Leo. Dan even said those days that my number stopped working Leo became very angry and Dan had to give him medication.
Last night, when I got home from work, my kids told me that Leo had come by looking for me. I was surprised that he had ridden his bike all the way out here. The kids said he arrived in a car, but not Dan’s car. My son guessed it was an Uber. I don’t want to sound like a paranoid nut, but this whole thing is unsettling.
Am I being stalked?
Am I being unsympathetic to Leo’s problems?
Is it wrong of me to expect Dan to manage his son’s problems?
What do I do next?
I’m not going anywhere, and I doubt Dan is, so we will be “across the hall mates” for another 10 years…
(I initially posted this to relationships but was told this was a better place for it.)
Thank you in advance for any suggestions. | You need to contact the police and get them to tell him to leave you alone. You also need to contact a superior at work since he likely got your number through your work.
Screw Dan's feelings. It will be awkward but Leo is escalating his behavior and I assume Dan is still listed as a guardian. Intellectual disability is not an excuse for his behavior. |
TW: Sex, Minor
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Throwaway for obvious reasons. I'm still shook and my boyfriend and I have been freaking out since we found out. I'm at the end of my rope and don't know what to do.
Our daughter is 11 years old. We found out she was pregnant. She had always been close with a boy from our neighborhood, he's 13. We never thought anything of it as we'd known him and his family for several years since we moved here.
It was clear she had a crush on him, but I never thought anything of it. Until she started complaining about things, I'd rather not go in to detail in, that were very familiar to me from when I had been pregnant.
I didn't jump to the conclusion, but I did ask in to what they do when they hang out.
They'd been having sex. God knows he knew about that stuff already but it had been going on for some time. I won't go in to details. Because I never wanted to imagine them myself.
We had the birds and the bees talk, so she knew where babies came from. My boyfriend was fuming after I told him, and went straight to talk to the parents.
They knew as much as we did of the whole thing. They were as shocked as we were. We've already talked together, and they agree we need to terminate the pregnancy, for many reasons.
But she keeps saying she wants a baby. And I just don't fucking know what to do. I tried to explain all the issues you deal with when pregnant, I was trying to be level headed. But she didn't seem to understand at all. We've scheduled several visits to the clinic already.
What can I do? Is the boy, or his parents liable? What can a doctor do? Can the pregnancy be ended without her consent, if she wasn't able to consent in the first place?
I'm at such a fucking loss. My world is crumbling.
We live in Minnesota, if state laws matter. | The most important thing you need to do IMO is to consult with a doctor and find out whether she actually CAN carry this child to term.
It is generally illegal to force a medical procedure on someone who is explicitly unwilling, and several states specifically have clauses to prevent forced abortions. There are potential exceptions if and only if her life is at risk. |
Advice? | Was this girl she knew from high school working at a doctors office, clinic, testing facility, etc? |
Location: Toronto Ontario
[Original Post](https://reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9prn30/tenant_is_renting_out_my_apartment_on_airbnb/)
[Follow Up #1](https://reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9qibro/update_tenant_is_renting_out_my_apartment_on/)
[Follow Up #2](https://reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9svjmr/update_2_tenant_is_renting_out_my_apartment_on/)
Officially as of today Jane has vacated my apartment, and building management has changed the locks. We were able to come to a signed agreement where she agreed to vacate the property within 7 days if i refunded her last two months of rent. (\~4200$). Which i did. Honestly between this and my other legal fees i am basically in the hole, and i would have been better off not having anyone rent my apartment.
I talked to someone who is doing a story on Jane, and they were able to confirm that she apparently works for a company rents out places on AirBNB (said person who was doing a story basically told me they weren't going to pursue this anymore due to time concerns). She isn't a grad student nor is she even a student.
I don't feel like i won, and honestly i just feel absolutely infuriated with the entire situation. AirBNB to this day still has my place being listed on AirBNB. Who knows why she doesn't have keys anymore.
My apartment is a disaster right now and from what my property manager has stated it seems like people definitely did smoke in my apartment. There are burns on my couch from cigarette, my dishwasher is broken, and pretty much everything needs a desperate deep clean. But my apartment is safe more or less.
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So this is part 3 and most likely the final update for now.
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So I was away for the holidays and I came back on Monday to find my project car was towed out of my driveway, my pond was emptied out and filled with gravel and sand and a fenced off 2 acres (2 chains by one furlong) of my property closest to HOA. I immediately called the police and filed a report regarding the stolen property. The car wasn't registered and was just an empty shell so I have no idea where it is nor will it be easy to track. It's not worth a lot (maybe $2,500?) but it's the principle of that jackass president of the HOA.
I had my lawyer draft up the C&D and sent it nearly 2 weeks ago and they haven't contacted me in any way except this. I hired a local salvage company to come tear up the fence this weekend and they are doing it free of charge since I'm letting them keep the fence to sell as scrap metal or whatever they do with it.
My lawyer suggested I send up a letter demanding payment to fix my pond as it was filled in with gravel and sand. A local landscape company quoted me nearly $8,000 to get the pond back to the way it was so that is what he suggested I ask and another $2,000 for loss of use of the pond. The HOA has lawyered up so I think it's best I no longer post anything else on here until it's settled. I didn't want to leave you all without some closure since you all have been an amazing help. I've put a picture of the layout since a few people asked. It's bad but should convey the land.
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Hi everyone,
I want to take a minute to say thank you to everyone who gave me advice and words of encouragement. I read every single comment on both threads about my situation and I really really appreciate the support and help. If not for the advice here, I probably would not have felt justified in leaving.
I'm sorry for taking so long to post, but I am now back home in NH with my parents. I feel like I'm coming out of a fog and I feel really stupid for believing everything; I guess I just justified it by assuming laws were different in the south.
I left with just my computer, my phone, my documents, and a few family heirlooms. I'm not concerned about my phone being tracked as I am still on my dad's phone plan. My husband has sent me about 200 texts and has filled my voicemail completely but I haven't spoken to him.
I managed to withdraw half the balance of two out of three joint accounts. The third is a local bank and I did not want to stay in the area any longer. My parents told me to just leave the money. They are going to help me get the medical procedures I need and then they are going to help me pay for a divorce attorney. I thought they would say I told you so because they told me not to get married, but they have been very supportive and even offered to pay for me to go back to college and finish my degree.
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I posted [earlier](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/6n6lrr/phd_student_here_being_accused_of_plagiarism_only/) about a plagiarism situation with the university in my PhD thesis.
To make it short, a few sentences in the thesis was too similar to what I had said in a couple of papers and my masters thesis. This wasn't a direct copy & paste, and it was 7 sentences (53 words) out of my thesis which was a little over 95,000 words.
Last week I got an automated email that an investigation has been started on the recommendation of the person that I talked to. The email explained that in case scientific misconduct is found, I will have a chance to defend my case to the board and the board will decide what to do, which vary from a simple revision and resubmission to presenting the case to the diciplinary committee for a serious offense.
I asked for appointments with a few people. Head of the department, dean of students, and a head tutor to ask for advice. I haven't managed to see any of them yet.
Today, I received an email that the investigation is over and they have found no evidence of misconduct or plagiarism. They apologized for the stress that this has caused. A little later, I received another email from the head of the committee personally apologizing for this mess, and explaining that the officer who I talked to had gone fishing rather than doing the standard practice which is not the policy.
So that's that. Now I can graduate in peace. I cancelled the appointments and decided not to pursue the potential racism situation as there's no point anymore. Thanks all for advice. | Discussion of this update is ongoing in BestofLegaladvice's [Autoerotic Plagiarism is Permitted](https://www.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/6p9boy/update_thread_autoerotic_plagiarism_is_permitted/) thread. |
I was eating at a diner with some friends at 3 am, the guy in the booth next to us started coughing and gagging. I realized he was choking and went to help him, I had Heimlich training at my place of work (I’m office safety manager for my floor). The guy managed to get the thing out and it flew across the booth. He looked really pissed, payed his bill and left. I felt like a little hero the rest of the dinner and then just kinda forgot about it. This was two weeks ago.
Today I got a letter from a law firm that I’m getting sued for battery, they said I bruised a rib, I have no clue how this guy figured out who I am. I thought I helped the guy seeing as he probably would have choked without help. How did he figure out who I am? I never actually spoke to him. Is this a real letter? Do I need a lawyer for this?
Edit: the language i used to describe him choking was wrong. He was choking, gagging sounds but otherwise silent and obviously distressing. | >Today I got a letter from a law firm that I’m getting sued for battery, they said I bruised a rib, I have no clue how this guy figured out who I am.
Call the law firm and confirm the authenticity of the letter.
>Do I need a lawyer for this?
Yes, if you actually get officially served and you'll need to response as well. Until then, do nothing. You attorney will guide you through the process.
I would think, though, you'd be covered under the good Samaritan laws if applicable in your state.
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(IA) I was sexually assaulted (while home over a break, not by another university student) and the trial of my attacker starts in two weeks.
I am a university student about five hours driving distance from my home town where the assault occurred, and I’ll need to travel there to testify at the trial.
I’d spoken to my advisor and all my professors notifying them of the days I’d be out, and everyone was understanding, giving me take home versions of any tests or work I’d be missing.
Unfortunately, one of the days I’ll likely need to be out coincides with midterms, so my professor was required to get approval from the academic dean and dean of the college to issue a take home midterm.
His request for the take home midterm was denied, and when it came to the attention of these deans, they contacted all my professors and informed me if I missed that many classes (it would be approximately two of each class, maybe three depending on some court scheduling, and four of another class but it meets every day of the week.)
My professors were comfortable marking these as “reported absences” which basically means there was a justification like a doctor’s note or other official documentation.
I showed the deans that I was in fact being called to testify by the defense so it wasn’t even really like I had a choice. I figured that would be enough documentation.
The dean said that “personal non-medical conflicts” could not be counted as reported absences and would be treated as unreported absences, (so, treated as the same thing as if I’d just slept through class). They suggested I apply for a leave of absence for the semester because otherwise I’d be dropped from my classes at the third absence and be on probation if dropped from two or more classes (school policy).
This attack took enough from me already, I went to great lengths to be sure I didn’t miss a day of school while recovering, I do not want this man to derail my life further by pushing back my graduation date.
I spoke to the title IX Office who’d promised me they could help, but it turns out their idea of helping was helping me plan my leave of absence.
I do not want to take a leave of absence. All my professors were ready and willing to work with me and I was/am entirely capable of keeping up with the work.
Do I have any legal recourse here against the school?
Thank you in advance. | Call the prosecutor for the case and tell them your story.
Perhaps they could
A) call the dean on your behalf
B) change the date of your testimony
C) see if video testimony could be allowed |
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It's been almost 3 months now and I thought I'd come in real quick to give an update.
Overall, the kid and I are doing great. I really expected the adjustment period to suck but I feel like maybe this poor kid really needed some structure and stability and totally glommed onto that. I try to just give her as much of my love, patience, structure and stability that I have to give. I've been learning a lot about attachment, trauma, and everything. It's been overwhelming but every night, no matter how exhausted I am, I get into bed and I thank God for her. I wouldnt trade her for anything in this world. I tell her every night she's my favorite thing.
Legally things are kind of boring. I did the DNA test, unsurprisingly got the result that she's mine biologically. The emergency order is still in place. Had mom is still in jail, she was offered the option of going to rehab and refused. She'll be in jail for at least a few more months, and after she's out we will make a parenting plan for visits with help from the social worker. Realistically i think she'll die before she gets clean. That sounds like a horrible thing to say but it is how it is.
It's been a wild ride. It's not easy. But it's joyful and it's really changed my life & made me want to be better in a lot of ways. | Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/ek0lyl/update_nearly_3_months_later_about_the_kid_i/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
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Hello all, my mother was in a car accident 2 years ago picking up my little sister from school. A car drove out of the feeder lane (parking lot) and T-boned my mother. The driver at the time had no license and wasn’t on the insurance. She was driving her mothers car, and the mother didn’t show up until an hour later and the mother began to claim that she was driving the vehicle. Which I’m sure is insurance fraud. My mother didn’t pursue legal action despite having a hand injury and going to the hospital.
2 years forward, my mother was served for the accident claiming the other drivers mother received injury and lost wages, when she wasn’t even driving the vehicle. How exactly do we move forward legally? | Inform your insurance. They should defend you |
NJ: I am an adult male and my boss (male, few years older) consistently touches me in front of dozens of other people in a professional office setting. He has put me in a headlock, he often grabs my shoulders or neck and shakes me, he tousles my hair, he often hipchecks me when I’m standing at someone else’s desk. I’ve told him to stop but that makes it worse. Other people have complained to HR and been fired for this exact complaint, so I feel like I have no recourse there.
On top of that he is a blatant racist and sexist, and says shit out loud in the office that I wouldn’t even say to my friends at the bar.
Should I get a hidden camera on my desk and present footage to him or to HR? or try the HR route myself? Should I just talk to him first and then get a camera? Not sure what the best path forward is. Interested to hear your thoughts. | New Jersey is a "one-party consent" state for recording audio. So you can legally record as much as you want.
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I'm a social worker, and work primarily with homeless teens. It's something I'm passionate about because I fled my mom's sexually abusive boyfriend when I was 13 and have been flying solo ever since, so I can really relate to what it's like being a street kid. I enjoy my job and feel like I'm really good at it. However, I only make about 29k/yr. I have a husband who's a forklift operator, and together we have four children, a cat, and a dog. Our household income is about 40-50% of the median income for Seattle, we live paycheck to paycheck. When crap hits the fan and unexpected expenses come up, we often need to use food banks, and then we normally use things like free clinics and the Salvation Army coat drive. It's not unheard of for me to run into current kids in the program and former clients from work when accessing these services.
My employer overheard some kids (clients) in the office talking about how they saw me with my children at the food bank over the weekend. I brushed it off like, oh yeah they're great folks, our car has been giving us trouble and we needed a little help. No big deal right? I naturally transitioned the conversation into other things that weren't about me.
So my boss pulls me into his office later and starts grilling me about why I'm using the foodbank. Uh, because you pay me 29k/yr? I have a family? My car keeps breaking down and I can't afford to replace it? It was like he was trying to shame me. He was acting like I was gaming the system because I'm a social worker, taking resources because I can, which couldn't be further from reality. He brought up the ethics of seeing clients outside of work and how I needed to be mindful of places I went, saying I shouldn't be going to the foodbanks and resources that we refer clients to--which, spoiler alert, is pretty much all of them in the city. I told him that I was eligible to use them based on my income, that my family depended on them to eat right now, that I wasn't using my employment status to garner any kind of favoritism, and that I went to the foodbanks closest to my house.
He basically told me that I need to stop going to the food bank or I'd be let go.
Is this legal? | Does your employer have an HR department or can you speak to someone above your boss? It would only be unethical if you are socializing with your clients outside of work. Seeing them at a grocery store or food bank accidentally is not socializing. They can still terminate your employment, so if they refuse to change their position start looking for new employment unless you stop using the food banks. Also in some areas you may be able to get food banks to deliver to your house, so check that out. |
I posted my dilemma [here] (https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/7gd18f/minc_bartender_took_my_real_id_and_passport_and/)
MI/NC
It turns out, I actually ended up calling the wrong police jurisdiction. This morning I called the East Lansing PD non-emergency line (whom I called the previous night), and I spoke to an officer who told me that they only have jurisdiction on campus and 3 blocks surrounding campus. The venue/bar I was attending is actually on the city line between East Lansing and Lansing, so the officer directed me to the Lansing PD.
The LPD officer told me that bar always calls about fake ID's and-- in his words-- "90% of the time, they're wrong" so he told me not to worry and he would get my identification back for me. Long story short, I got my stuff back and I got to rub it in the bartender and managers face that I was right all along. | For those interested, discussion of this update is ongoing in [this bestoflegaladvice thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/bestoflegaladvice/comments/7gjt9u/happy_update_to_the_story_where_ops_passport_and/). |
My friend was interning during her summer while she was studying at university in Pennsylvania. Her boss was always very nice to her, and asked her to get drinks with him on her last day of work. They went to a bar, and got sufficiently drunk - where he admitted he was attracted to her. She brought up the fact that he's married, and he acknowledged it. He wanted her to come to his house to meet his wife. She agreed, and so they went to his place. My friend met the wife, and they all drank some more. At this point, my friend blacked out and can't remember anything that happened after this point. She only remembers her boss saying, "you should take your pants off." She doesn't even remember if she did do that.
Next morning, the wife was dropping her off, and was extremely hostile with her. Turns out, the boss had sex with my friend, while the wife was watching. The wife also apparently made out with my friend. In the morning, the wife forced my friend to take a Plan B (apparently, the guy didn't use a condom). She somehow got a hold of my friend's phone number, social media handles etc., and harrasses her regularly - calls her names and insults her a lot.
My friend is afraid to take any kind of action as she does not want her parents to find out (she's an international student). What options does she have? Is it possible for her to proceed legally in the US without her parents ever finding out back home? | As a general rule, US media does not identify victims of sexual assault. So she should report the assault to police, and even if her testimony is required at trial it will have a good chance of never reaching her parents’ ears.
The wife should be blocked on all social media. |
I live in Maine. I severed ties with Spectrum when I moved. I continued to receive mail to my attention, and filled out the form on their website in early 2019 to remove myself from their mailing list. Mail finally ceased, but they then began to send their employees to my door.
I told the first two (who arrived together) they were not welcome, and that just because I asked the company to remove me from the mailing list does not mean I instead want them to come to my door. They were upset with my telling them this, but left. I work from home and make phone calls and they cause my dog to start barking, so this interrupts my work.
I presumed contact would stop. A few weeks later, another rep showed up. I told him I had already advised his company that their reps are not welcome and he is now trespassing. The rep stated, "yeah I know, but that wasn't \*me\*." He emphasized the "me" part of that, which told me the company was aware I told reps to leave, but planned to swap out reps and send new ones.
I called my local sheriff and the deputy told me that he could not go to Spectrum itself and serve them any sort of notice, as he could do with individuals. He said he would recommend I reach out to the company further.
I contacted Spectrum's chat (no corporate number available) and was escalated to a manager, and informed them that I have repeatedly told their agents to leave and any further agents they send are violating 17-A MRS §402 and are trespassing. I advised her I work from home and of the disruption. She verified my address and assured me that I was removed from further contacts. I saved screenshots of the chat.
Yesterday, another Spectrum agent arrived knocking at my door. I opened the door, took a picture of him, walked out and took a picture of his license plate, and called the sheriff, and asked a deputy to arrive to explain to this rep that this business cannot continue to do this. He arrived, took down the name and DOB of the rep, and said he can only issue criminal trespass notices to each rep. The Spectrum rep's manager called him and said he would be there. The agent asked for my number so the manager could call me, and I provided it to him. I advised the deputy he can meet with the manager, but if he doesn't feel I need to be around I am going back to work. He did so (I could see from the window) and I believed it resolved.
I received a call from the manager, which I thought would be apologetic. It was not. He advised me that since the house is a rental, if he takes it off the list for "service" (these are not service calls; they are sales) then no other tenants in the future could have service. I advised him that is not true, because those tenants could simply call Spectrum and change the status, since both he and the agent have told me this is a toggle-able feature in their system. He said he would not do that and I said that I hear him implying I have no rights as the tenant, and that the landlord needs to contact him, but he is not explicitly stating that; he is just stating he will not remove me from marketing because he wants to continue in spite of being told they are not welcome. He advised me he did not feel the call was productive at that point (at no point did I swear or curse) and I advised him at this point he is pushing me to a lawsuit. He said to go ahead and file my lawsuit. I told him that is never something a manager should tell a customer, and he said "yeah, hearsay buddy" and disconnected.
I am awestruck at this point. I have done everything I can think of and Spectrum has acknowledged the impact to my work, has acknowledged my multiple reports to the authorities, and because of the apparent unprofessional culture of their sales managers, they are going to continue to harass me at my residence.
Can anyone with knowledge of a person's rights in this sort of situation in Maine give me advice? I have no idea what to do at this point to avoid the continued harassment and trespassing. | Spectrum is regulated by a city and/or county and/or state body. Commonlysome sort of public utility commission.
File a complaint with their regulatory body. Include the police paper trail and the details of the phone call. |
Hey, my 17 year old son has T1 diabetes. He relies mainly on his phone for glucose monitoring. Yesterday the public school he attends took his phone. Their policy is that is you are “Using for your phone to much” they take it. First time 1 day. Second time 3 days. Third time 5 days. (End of school week) In the past is has not been a problem because after school I have been able to get it. I am out of the country on business and my wife is out of state as well. My wife called the school and they say the will only give the phone back to a “Parent or Legal Guardian” the school knows he has Diabetes. There is no documentation that he uses his phone for glucose. He offered to show the principal. Yesterday my son went to the drug store after school and got a finger pricker. He told me he would be “Fine”. I know how much he hates using one and it is not as good as the continuous glucose monitor on his phone. What legal rights do I have to make the achool give him back his phone before Thursday when My wife gets home?
I am in Alabama
Thank you all the support and advice. My son’s endo faxed an order and made multiple thinly veiled threats over the phone. My wife’s mother went and met my son at school today. They gave her his phone. We have his phone. All is good for now. However, to make sure this doesn’t happen again I am going to have a lawyer send a letter and hopefully scare them shitless. They are going into apologies and cover my ass mode. It is getting late here is Germany and I have a big day tomorrow. Thanks again! | You told the school over the phone that it is used for diabetes monitoring and they wouldnt give it back? Your quickest route to him getting the phone back is not through legal means, but just from calling the school administration and explaining the problem. Most of the time people are helpful about this type of stuff.
edit: IANAL. sorry, forgot to mention. |
[Wow, that last post got real popular it seems](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/aqylaa/co_my_ex_lied_about_vaccinating_our_immune/), for better and for worse. Seeing as you guys got were interested in it I thought I would come back with an update.
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Well, a lot has happened since that day. My daughter is safe with me and was let out of the hospital about a week ago. She is getting better every day. I know though, you guys want the full story so here it is
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After I made that post I took the advice given to me and the next time I saw my daughter I told her that it was wrong of me to ask her to keep secrets and that it's ok to tell her mom. Along with that I saw a lawyer recommended to me by a trusted party. When I went to see him he told me that this is "A case lawyers salivate over" and that my ex is in a lot of trouble. I immediately filed for emergency custody of my daughter. I also got into contact with the doctor again and explained the situation fully to him. He says that while he will not be getting lawyers involved that he wishes for me to submit the evidence to the police and file a report. Along with this, my lawyer has gotten into contact with the court that originally ordered us to vaccinate our daughter and has handed over everything I gave to him. He has advised me to stay quite on this matter so i'll leave it at my ex is in a lot of trouble with them.
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During this time, my ex started to get suspicious. Maybe it was because a friend told her about a post on reddit and she freaked out? Who knows. A few days later when I saw her at the hospital we had an altercation. She became hysterical and yelled various threats and insults at me. Including telling me that I want to "poison our daughter" right in front of our sick child. She was escorted out of the building and the head nurse had banned her from coming back. After this she sent me a barrage of texts telling me that I am a monster and that if she had vaccinated her that she would be dead now. This was sent to my lawyer. As he puts it, "she's what lawyers dream of when they hear who's on the other side of the court."
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Outside of this, i've been advised to stay as quite as possible so i'll leave it with this.
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This week I received emergency custody of my daughter until our custody hearing later this year. I have heard that the DA is slowly getting ready to move forward with a multitude of charges against my ex and that will land her in jail soonish.
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And that's really it for now. I'm going to follow the advice given by my lawyer and say nothing else to anyone. I do not want the media involved in this for a few reasons so i've left this as vague as possible. When this is all said and done, if the interest is still there I may come back again. But for now, thanks for the advice in the original thread, me and my daughter appreciate you all.
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If this is a repost, I apologize, but I could use help.
Mainly my issue is in the title, but some more info:
I'm pretty sure I was summoned because my Driver's License is still issued (MO), but I live in VA now. I've given proof of address in the form of utility bills, but they still won't let me excuse myself from the trial. I don't have the means to get back to MO before the jurors are decided, but I also don't want to be held in contempt of court.
Anything would be helpful, thanks!
Update: I found a line on my summons saying they would pay 7 cents per mile, so I sent an email saying I'd expect $146 if I ended up needing to go. It was quickly postponed. | Well, you are long-overdue to get your VA Driver's License (you only have 60 days), so I suggest you do so now. |
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Yup, you read this crazy title correctly. Awhile back I had some major health issues and required a few surgeries to resolve things, and because of that I had to take some time off work. Management knew the situation, why I would be out and when I would return to work. One manager sent an email to my coworkers, without realizing I was also on the email chain, saying that I was in the hospital because I had popped some pills and tried to overdose and end it all; he said I may not ever come back to work, since I may not wake up. I only know this because 1) I was on the email chain and 2) MANY coworkers starting reaching out, very very concerned for me and saying they hoped I would be alright and recover. This all seemed so odd to me until I saw the email chain. I have NO clue what compelled this manager to do this, other than I know he was very mad with me taking short term medical leave, because he told me that. But being suicidal and overdosing was NOT at all true, I was just having another surgery. When I came back to work things were just awkward with coworkers, trying to explain that somehow what this manager said was not true, many people welcomed me back and said they couldn’t believe I was alive - it was just so weird. I tried ignoring it but it really made the relationship with some coworkers a bit more awkward, as they really didn’t know what to believe, because why would a manager make something like that up? When I finally had the confidence to ask some general questions about all this to the manager he was clearly annoyed, he did not want to talk about it, and oddly enough the next morning I came in I was told I no longer had a job. Even though my contract was good for another year, it was abruptly ended, after I brought up my concerns about this entire situation to this manager. I could not help but think these are somehow related. Even if they are not, and they had a legitimate reason to get rid of me and my job, what was said about my health issues, the lies that were told, I think should have never happened. And now I worry that once I leave work, what this manager could try putting in my file that may prevent me from working elsewhere in the company in the future. If they were willing to spread something so atrocious and untrue, what else would they do? I’m struggling to figure out what I should do, if anything. Do I just forget it and move on? Tell HR so that my side of the story is documented? I have the emails and numerous coworkers who would vouch for what they were told, both via email and what he said to them in person. Is there anything I can do? As I said, I just can’t shake the feeling that me asking about what transpired, and seeing how annoyed that made him, that the very next day I’m unexpectedly told my position is over and ending early....
Any advice, even if it’s not entirely legal-advice is welcome. Thanks for reading this in advance. | FMLA, which is a federal law should protect you. If you have the emails, I would consult a labor attorney before you go HR. I have a feeling HR will try to hide this as much as possible. Did you ever sign a disciplinary document at work, previously? |
When I was in 7th grade a man slammed into the side of the car I was in and effectively smushed open the top of my head. There was glass in my brain and small pieces were smashed off. My left foot was pushed to my head effectively snapping my shin. My heart ended up stopping for a while and I was revived. I went through brain surgery, PT, and alot of therapy for the mental trauma of still being concious for parts of it...
I hate to bring this up at all but I know I was awarded a very large settlement to be awarded in blocks in the ages of 21, 23, then finally 25. Im grateful to be alive and I don't want to be a money grubber, but I feel that was rightfully mine or at least I have a right to know the details. My parents assured me that the settlement would be mine and it would pay for my college and grad school yet I'm about to be 23 and whenever I bring it up they tell me it's none of my business?
Again I really hate to do this but I'm not a money grubber. Ive paid rent since 14 and always paid my way through college. It's just I want to at least know the details of the case instead of being told its none of my business...also my dad has bought two new buildings with money I don't know came from. I'm not saying I'd ask for it back, for all I know it paid for my heavy medical bills...but I still have a right to know. How do I do that without help from my parents?
Edit: This happened in Missouri, STL.
(5/5) thanks for the legal advice and Ive been able to use case net to find my old case. Unfortunately it looks like it was dispositioned by both parties for an out of court settlement? But I do distinctly remember being awarded a settlement. Specifically when I was called into a corporate looking building to testify in front of alot of suits. I'll try and look into it by calling the courthouse and then lawyer.
But im also surprised by the mass of hate mail in my inbox. Some even depicting me to be a future serial killer headcase. Despite my head injury I'm fully able to lead a perfectly normal UN-serial killer life. Thank you. | Your parents have clearly been receiving and using the money. You'll want an attorney to sort all of this out since they're clearly not willing to disclose details. Since the money was awarded after age 18, you'll likely be entitled to get it back. You need to find out the details of the settlement, and the fastest way to do that is with an attorney. |
Update of my previous post:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/91hftj/i\_allowed\_my\_17\_year\_old\_sister\_to\_move\_in\_with/](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/91hftj/i_allowed_my_17_year_old_sister_to_move_in_with/)
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TLDR: I didn't get in trouble for taking in my little sister and a court order for child support was issued.
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So, I had my day in court today for the child support hearing. Dad actually showed up for court instead of using the option of conference call like my mother did. My sister (let's call her Valerie) wanted to sit in the courtroom in case the judge had any questions for her in particular (he didn't, but I'm proud of how brave my sister is for going to court when she didn't have to) because I could feel my heart beating in my throat the entire time.
The judge started out by saying he was unsure if a support order could be issued today given that Valerie is now 18 and in CT would be ineligible but in NY would be eligible until 21 but then began asking some some questions.
Dad did a lot of talking at first, mostly saying how he had a court order that gave him full custody of Valerie and that Mom was supposed to be paying him child support. Then he said how Valerie dropped out of high school and left the state to live with me without telling him or getting his permission and how he didn't know for a month after the fact. he complained that Mom never speaks to him about anything, that I make no effort to have a relationship with him and that Valerie doesn't either. Boo-hoo, we're all ganging up on him and he doesn't know what he did to deserve it, etc. Sure enough, as a few of you kind folks mentioned, the judge asked him "Why didn't you know where she was for a month if she was supposed to be in your custody?"
He then says that she was staying with her mother at the time but that she would've had a place with him and still does have a place with him if she had asked. At that point, sick of hearing him play the victim, I piped up and asked as calmly as I could manage "Why didn't she have a place with you 9 years ago when you dropped her off at Mom's house, didn't tell her you weren't coming back for her and then got rid of all her belongings?"
My mother on the phone confirmed what happened and said that she asked me if I could take in my sister because of my brother's violent behavior early in 2017. Valerie was 17 at the time she moved to NYS and is still attending high school to earn her diploma (better late than never) and I've been her sole source of support ever since.
The judge then reviewed the guidelines for monetary support. My mother, being disabled and on social security, was to pay no more than $50 per month for support. Dad was to pay no more than 17% of his income, which translated to to roughly $800 per month. The judge asked me what amount I was looking for. My answer was that I just wanted some help with the groceries and her medical bills so I asked for a total of $250 from Dad and the max $50 from Mom. Dad tried to haggle me down to $200 per month because he just bought a house last year (you should've seen the look on the judge's face). The judge reminded him that the guidelines recommended $800 a month and I held firm on $250. Dad sighed and said he'll have to give up smoking to afford it (this is supposed to make me feel bad?).
The judge made the order for support, effective until age 21 AND I never did get in trouble for allegedly "kidnapping" my little sister.
Thank you to everyone here that gave me encouragement to see this through and not fall for Dad's intimidation tactics.
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My Ex Wife and I had a rocky marriage, my alcoholism didn't help. She pushed for a divorce. We lived together during this divorce and one day I found out she was dating another man. I snapped and hit her, pretty hard. I was charged with assault, spent 3 months in jail, went to anger management and I was also issued a 3 yr restraining order.
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This was 2 yrs ago. I have since sobered up, met a wonderful woman and moved to a completely different apartment complex in a completely different part of the city and never had any further contact with my Ex Wife. I admit what I did was wrong, I paid the price, I've seen re-established myself. My current woman who I've been in a relationship with for 2 yrs is aware of this back ground story (which makes things slightly easier)
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Well unknown to me my ex moved into my apartment complex about 5 months ago with her now new husband (who had always lived here, I did not know this) I saw her in the lobby just before new years. She greeted me, I turned shocked and said hello. She asked me what I was doing in the lobby I said I was just coming in from work she told me that the restraining order is still in effect and I need to move out.
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I tried to reason with her and told her I'd be happy to steer clear of her, I know we don't live on the same floor (I don't even know what floor she lives on, I don't care to know) I told her if I saw her on an elevator I wouldn't get in and just wait for the next one. She told me she was going enforce the restraining order against me.
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My partner and I literally just signed a brand new 2 yr lease 6 months ago. We love the place we live in, and wouldn't want to move. And it feels unjust having to move/incur financial hardship because the person I had a restraining order against moved into my apartment complex.
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The reason why I'm bringing this up is cause last night building management was informed of the restraining order and told us we need to figure this out.
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Would she really be able to force me out of my home even though I lived here before her? As long as I do my best to avoid any contact with her (which I'm perfectly fine doing) shouldn't that be sufficient? I work a really early schedule and the fact is she was dating this guy and coming over to this apartment complex for the entire time I've been here, and we ran crossed paths, and she's been living here full time for 5 months and just recently crossed paths. Not sure what to do.
FYI this is New York City | I'm not a criminal law attorney but you have some good factors in your favor. You have abided by the order of protection for a long time (2 years!) without incident. You have sobered up and been through counseling. Judges want to hear that stuff. The best practical advice I can give you is that you should take the lead here. Get an attorney and get yourself back in front of the judge. Tell the judge your story first. If you wait and she drags you into court, you may be viewed with suspicion because, as others have noted, you're technically in violation of the protection order right now.
An attorney in your area will undoubtedly know more about what to ask for but if you take the lead the judge will probably be more sympathetic to your cause. Ask for the time of the order to be shortened (out of existence) or that the parameters be redefined so that you can live in the same complex but that you agree to not have purposeful contact with her. Bottom line: get out in front of this. |
Hi all I wanted to update on the outcome of this. Sorry, it's honestly a pretty boring outcome - no cool courtroom outbursts at all sadly. It turns out there were just some liars and there was never actually a legal problem in the first place, my dad was just the victim of the HOA trying to scam him.
[Here](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/gijkoz/iowa_my_dads_house_is_serviced_by_a_community/) is my original thread. The summary is that my dad lives in a house served by a community well that is next to an HOA (but my dad is not part of it). The HOA told my dad that they now own the well and that he needs to join the HOA and effectively pay them $800/mo to use the well service plus the actual water bill on top of it.
He did end up getting a lawyer to see him ASAP. The lawyer told him the first thing he needed to do was get records of ownership for the well and try to get his hands on the details of the sale. However after a couple days he said he was having issues getting up to date records and was waiting to hear back from a contact at the county because he wasn't sure if COVID had delayed records filing or what.
Then my dad got a surprise: a water bill from the original well servicer, right on time for their 3-times-a-year billing. Obviously that's odd considering he's been told that they don't own the well anymore, and he called them up.
It turns out he was just lied to. The well servicer was never looking to get out of the well business permanently, but rather was looking to contract out the day-to-day testing services of the well to another company because many of the wells they service now require more testing than they did years ago and they no longer have the manpower to do all of it themselves. But they were not selling the well, simply hiring an independent contractor to drive around and do well stuff all day.
During that time the HOA had asked them to attend an HOA meeting so residents could ask questions about things like filtration, and they mentioned it at that meeting to let residents know that they would be seeing a new person going around doing testing and wanted to let them know because the testing involves taking samples from individual properties and they didn't want anyone to be freaked out.
So when the HOA told my dad they now owned the well, they were just plain lying. When the HOA said they had a new company doing the servicing, they were half truthful: a new company was doing the testing, but the HOA had nothing to do with it, the contract is between the original well servicer and the individual guy they're contracting out to.
The original well servicer also told my dad that the HOA had reached out and informed them around the same time they were contacting my dad, that they were taking over handling billing, and that the well servicer should bill the HOA for all properties and the HOA would then include it in the HOA dues billing to "streamline" things for residents claiming it would make their residents' lives easier if they only had to keep track of one bill and not multiple. However the HOA actually has no authority to just declare this and the well servicer just outright told them no, they will continue to bill individual properties. The timing of this coincides with when they started contacting my dad, so they were just trying to pull a fast one on everyone.
The well servicer is confident that the HOA has 0 legal authority over the well situation and says they respected the HOA in an organizational capacity, like calling meetings so residents could ask questions, and were professionally annoyed with them trying to insert themselves into billing, but they were not aware that the HOA was claiming to own the well. They told my dad that he should not give the HOA any money for water servicing or accept water servicing related information from them in any way.
So going back around to the lawyer, my dad got an appointment with the lawyer to tell him all this and the lawyer had his own news that matched up entirely: The reason he wasn't finding up to date records following the supposed sale was because he doesn't believe a legitimate sale has happened, he thinks my dad was just getting scammed.
So all in all my dad will continue to use the well as he always has. He is pretty angry that he had to spend a bunch of money to find out what he already knew, that the HOA is made of dicks, but we are definitely breathing a sigh of relief.
Meanwhile as for the HOA my father's lawyer has suggested that there may be room for legal action against the HOA reps for what was basically fraudulent claims. My father doesn't want to spend the money persuing it at this time, but the well servicer did ask for copies of everything he received from the HOA because they want to review it with their own lawyer.
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Washington State, US. Rent was paid by check, Social Security number for me apparently taken from lease agreement.
Edit: Woke up to tons of responses thank you.
NOT disabled or even related to landlord. No care involved. Former landlord, not subsidized etc. Living elsewhere for a year now.
UPDATE: Wow did not expect this response, cannot thank you all enough. Trying to answer a few questions.
Concerning eviction/retaliation, I have not lived at the rental residence for a year now. I was in fact homeless and living in a tent for 7 months of last year and am only recently in assisted housing thanks to my state's Department of Social and Health Services. It took time, but I jumped through all the hoops and they deemed me worthy of housing assistance. I could not be more thankful.
I know she (former landlord) had filed me as a dependent as she admitted as much via text message. She claimed then (2 months ago) that she would correct it but has not as far as I can tell.
The housing was not assisted at that time and my mother was kind enough to pay for my rent for 5 months before I moved outside waiting for housing to come through. Paid by check. I have the copies.
How do I live on $200 month? Not very well. I recently bought underwear for the first time in years. I had to save up for it. My internet is 9.95/month through a low income program. My cel phone is free service also through low income program. I live at the grace of the state for now.
Not only was the landlord not a caregiver, but I cooked, did yard work, took care of the cats etc. She is 70.
Thank you again for all the information. I am starting with a hard copy tax return for last year and will go from there.
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My sister and I contacted the state department, the embassy and the consulate in Karachi. They were able to verify that she exists and she's a US citizen. We told them of what's happening to her and they were quite helpful in telling us what to do and being ready to help her as soon as possible.
The challenge was getting her into the consulate in Karachi but she actually got herself there (took weeks of planning) where they gave her travel documents to be able to come to the US. We bought tickets for her to go from Karachi to Doha and then to Boston where we picket her up from the airport.
By the time her parents realized what's what she was on the Doha to Boston flight. Her parents tried to apply for a visa to come to the US but their visa applications were refused. I'm not aware if the people at the embassy who refused it actually knew about my cousin's supituation or not but we're glad they weren't able to come here.
She currently lives with me and my sister and my sister has been granted guardianship over her. Her priority is to learn English.
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So there's this bar me and my bf semi-regularly go to, recently they changed the way they serve drinks. You used to have to go to the counter, order, they gave you your drink, you paid then and there, done. Now they have a server who goes to your table and it all works like in a restaurant. Except yesterday we kinda forgot that when we finished our drinks (a cocktail and a beer, about $4 all in all) and left. This morning it kinda occurred to my bf that we forgot to pay.
I know morally going back and paying is the right choice. But what if they won't take the money and instead want to get the cops involved? Because right now they don't have any identifying information of us aside from descriptions, but if I go back and essentially confess, that's pretty damning, so should I go back and pay our tab?
Edit: this all happened in Eastern Europe, part of the EU.
Update: I felt really guilty so I went back there around opening hours. They were extremely above and beyond nice about it. Apologized and explained the situation. They said it was nice of me to come back, but there was nothing missing from the till so there's no bother. I'm pretty sure we didn't pay so I insisted, but they were like "Don't sweat it, if you really didn't pay then this round was on the house." Tbh I'm so embarrassed I probably won't go back there for a long while, but I am glad I tried to do the right thing.
Thanks for all the advice. | In all probability over that small an amount the police probably wouldn’t care. The place might find it funny that you return to pay your tab.
If you are worried you can just tell them, you were used to the old system, you forgot to pay, here is the money. |
I graduated high school in Oklahoma, 2007. Hands shook, congratulations given, diploma awarded, and sent on my way. Shortly after completing school I joined the military and I’ve worked for the gov’t on some level ever since. Recently, I decided it was time to tackle some higher education. While contacting my old school to get transcripts sent over to the college I was informed that the transcripts indicate that I dropped out of school. “Nonsense!”, I tell them. “I have a diploma from the school!” The lady on the other line seemed as confused as I was. I emailed her pictures of the diploma, and was assured that the principal and superintendent of the district were taking it seriously and looking into it. The next day I received an email that said something like, “Supporting documents that accompany your transcript get destroyed after 5-7 years, so this is going to be tough, but we’ll continue to look into it.”
Not really the response I was hoping for, but I guess at very least they’re “looking into it”.
The other day I filed a complaint with the department of education, but I would really like options on what legal standing I have. This whole thing could have a ripple effect through my life in some pretty catastrophic ways, as well as being emotionally exhausting. It’s hard to imagine calling up your school nearly 13 years after leaving and hearing them tell you that you dropped out and that you’re not a high school graduate, even though you clearly did not, and nothing was said to you about it in over a decade, but take my word for it, it feels terrible.
Update: For those confused about college acceptance without a verifiable HS transcripts, I was told I could still enroll, but as a non degree seeking student, for only a set amount of hours, I believe. As far as the military goes, at the moment, I have requested all my paperwork on VETRECS and my transcripts to not show, only DD-214, Evals, medical reports, etc. AFVEC only appears to have my CCAF data, of which I have only completed 37 credit hours. I will call the recruiting station I went through tomorrow to see if they have access to records.
As far as names are concerned, it shouldn’t be an issue. There where 95 students in my graduating class and not a single other person with either my first or last name.
Update #2: I have called the recruiting command who I enlisted with after high school. They confirmed they have my diploma, but not my transcripts.
Update #3: The college has excepted my high school diploma, but still waiting to see if my job will accept me into an accredited management training program without them. | I would relax and allow the bureaucracy time to grind through this issue.
The big plus is that you have a diploma in your possession. Sometimes a high school may allow a student to walk in graduation even if some requirement is unmet, but they don’t hand out the diploma.
Give them two weeks unless you are desperate for a transcript now. |
This is the update to this post:
https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9z8ei4/sold_townhouse_a_year_later_ac_goes_out_new_owner/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
I know only a handful of people will read this but I figured why not do an update.
We were sued via small claims court for half of the amount of the AC unit. The case predictably was dismissed as we didn't misrepresent the condition of the 14 year old unit.
What was interesting is that he genuinely thought that we owed him the money. Almost to the point of self righteousness. The way he talked about us; what he supposedly was told with nothing evidentiary to back up his claims. Additionally stating that his lawyer said that his case was strong. His lawyer didn't manage to show up to court but still very strong case. Oh well. It's over.
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I want to thank everyone for the advise on my last post and to give a brief update. I spoke to an attorney about it and she started looking into it. First thing she said is that I am still the owner and that the eviction process was never completed. She also told me there's still a lien on the house, which is where it gets interesting.
My mortgage was ultimately sold to a 2nd mortgage company which no longer exists. The 2nd mortgage company that had my mortgage was absorbed by a 3rd company, which went bankrupt and collapsed. Because I've been maintaining the property and paying property taxes, coupled with no leinholder asserting their rights she believes she can get the leinholder removed from the title.
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I'm in nursing school. An arrest for a felony will put my financial aid and chance of getting a nursing license in jeopardy even though the charge was dropped. I didn't even have $1200 in my account and I have a receipt from the ATM showing that only $100 was withdrawn and my balance was $400 after the withdrawal.
I went into the bank as soon as I happened but the teller told me it was my money and so did the one beside her. They said the manager was not available. I went to another bank across town and I told the manger there but he said it was mine. I called their customer service twice and have recordings of both calls where they said it was mine. I mailed them a letter and I didn't spend the money.
Then 10 days later I was arrested for stealing the money from the bank. I was at my job as a waitress when I was arrested and they fired me when I went back after I was released. It was a Saturday afternoon and they told me I would be in court on Monday. I told them I tried to tell the bank but no one listened. On Monday morning I thought I was going to court but they gave me my stuff back and said I was free to go and the charge was dropped.
Is there anything I can do to get the mistaken arrest taken off my record? I have confirmed with the police that the charge was dropped but not the arrest of it. It would be under Michigan law. | Find the police report that records the reporting of the theft. Sue the bank if the person who filed it is at all related to the bank. |
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History: Myself with another girl did nude dancing at a private party with our best friends. In a private villa where expected things to be private. A pervert had followed us and traspassed and took a video from a window and posted it online. I asked if we have legal options against the person.
We went to the police. Myself, the other girl and the host of the party (owner of the property) to report it and see if the police will do something about it. They didn't. They said the uploaded video itself is not evidence for trasspassing and the nude/erotic nature of the video will not count as revenge porn, as there were people present at the party so we couldn't have an expectation of privacy.
It sucked. I didn't care about the video being out there as the chances of someone I know seeing it is probably less than getting hit by lightning (and even if they do it's not a big deal) but my friend was devastated because her family are very strict about these things.
BUT this didn't end there. This perv didn't stop. He tried to sneak into our other parties as well but we knew better now and we had security. They got him and handed him over to the police. So he was charged with trasspassing and they also found a camera on him with footage of women's bathrooms. They took his stuff and found out that he's been posting a lot of revenge, hacked and stolen porn and nudes online.
He's now locked up. Our video is also down and his accounts on porn sites are suspended.
It took many months and him fucking up again but we finally got him.
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So a guy I know work with somehow found revenge porn of me online. I thought I had gotten it all taken off the internet after a previous relationship but I guess he somehow found the video. We work in the finance industry and I do a lot of write ups and accounting for the firm. The guy is technically my boss, but he's about my age and it's always been more of a coworker relationship.
This is also because I went to high school with him, and we were preety good friends.
So, last week he calls me into his office and tells me, I'll just call myself H, he found revenge porn of me online. At first I was relieved that it was him cause I've known him for so many years and thought I could trust him. Then he goes behind me and puts his hands on my brests, thrusts his groin into my back and tries to kiss me on the neck. Horrified I push him away. He then tells me that he's had a crush on me forever and he'll delete the video if I come over to his place and have sex with him. Other wise he will upload it to every website he knows and share the link with my family and friends.
We're from the same town and used to be good friends so he knows preety much knows all my relatives and friends. That day I just went home and sobbed the whole night.
He's told me that I should come over to his place and have sex with him next weekend since he's doing me a favor. Over the past few days he's cornered me and tried to touch me in inappropriate areas and has also been sending me inappropriate emails from a random account.
I feel so betrayed, since I thought we were good friends. and I'm definitely not naive enough to think he'll stop. I've been very depressed and suicidal the last few days.
If anyone else has dealt with this, how did you deal with a situation like this?
Tl;Dr- Coworker found revenge porn of me online. He's been sexually harassing me and Is threatening to share it if I don't have sex with him.
Edit- Many people are telling me to go to the police. It's sadly not as simple as going to the police for me. He is from a very wealthy family that practically owns the company. He's told me he will sue me for false claims, make it impossible to find work and spread the video to everyone I know if I don't have sex with him.
Also he's left no text messages, and all emails have been from random temp accounts. I'm truly dealing with a sociopath with a lot of resources, connections and money.
Location- New York | Said this in another comment but:
In NY, as long as you're part of the conversation, you CAN record the other person *even if they do not consent.* In the hypo you're giving, you are legally allowed to talk to him while recording the conversation and get everything on tape: "New York makes it a crime to record to record or eavesdrop on an in-person or telephone conversation **unless one party to the conversation consents.** [N.Y. Penal Law §§ 250.00, 250.05.](http://public.leginfo.state.ny.us/menugetf.cgi?COMMONQUERY=LAWS)"
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in this case **you** are the "one party consenting".
In other states you need "all parties to consent", which would mean you need to tell him. But that's not the case in NY. Record away. |
Originally posted in /r/parenting, but it was suggested I post here... Edit per bot request: we are in California.
My son has been in the same church run daycare/preschool for about a year. At the time, we didn't love the place, but we were desperate because I needed to go back to work and it was the only place that would work with my part time schedule. (We didn't love it because it didn't seem as academic as others, but he was only two so we let it go).
He seems to really like it there. Most days he doesn't even say goodbye to me, he just runs into which ever room they have setup and starts playing. He seems to like some kids and teachers more than others, but that seems normal enough. He occasionally has rough/clingy mornings, but they are pretty rare and seem to correlate with story time on Fridays, but not every Friday.
I'm not sure if some of his new behaviors are unusual or just par for the course for a toddler/threenager. He never used to mind diaper changes, but started kicking and screaming during them sometimes after he started at the daycare. He's always been a strong willed kid, but screaming "I don't want to" and "put me down" are things he picked up at daycare for whatever reason. I thought it was odd that the church pastor would be reading to the kids sometimes when I dropped my kid off on Fridays, and even weirder that he sometimes had kids in his lap, but the teachers were always there and it was always a group activity.
We had some concerns, but nothing concrete and more that he was learning to hit/push than anything worse. Until today. We finish up dinner and I get the bath ready for our 1 year old, leaving the 3 year old at the dinner table with my husband. I'm minding my business, bathing the baby when my husband comes into the bathroom to relay something the 3 year old just did and said. It should be noted that our toddler doesn't yet speak in complete sentences or fully respond when asked questions (ex "what did you do at school today?" gets no answer while "did you paint at school today?" garners an appropriate "yep!" or "nope!"). Our toddler had finished his dinner and, after we had cleaned up his plate, he asked for peanut butter pretzels, one of his favorite snacks. Normally, we'd say no, but he'd been a good kid all day so my husband said "sure! But cheek kiss first" and leaned into our normally very affectionate kiddo. Our son slapped my husband across the face and said "no! Pretzels now!". Not great, but not out of the ordinary for him after a long day (we don't hit our kids, but he definitely struggles with hitting when he's frustrated). He did/said this twice and then said "get candy!". My husband said "no candy right now" and then asked "do you get candy at school?" Our son then grabbed two of my husband's fingers, rubbed the tips with his fingers several times, said "it's round, it's round" and then licked them repeatedly. He did this several times. (Just typing this is making me nauseous again). My husband asked if that's how he got candy and our son repeated the behavior/motion and then put his finger to his lips and said "shhhh!", then put his other pointer finger to my husband's lips and said "shhhh!" (We only ever use "shhh" to comfort them when crying and have never put our fingers to his or our lips). My husband tried to gently ask more questions, but our son just mumbled nonsense and then asked to get out of his highchair.
My husband came and told me immediately and we got the baby out of the tub, and tried to talk to the toddler again, but he'd moved on and just wanted to go sit on the couch. We didn't know what to do (this was around 730pm), so we called local PD dispatch and they sent over an officer who just told us to speak to the director of the school.
I've tried searching this sub and others and have come across a few sort of related posts, but I have no idea what to do. Local resources open in the morning, and we have already told our workplaces that we won't be in tomorrow due to a family emergency, but we don't know where to start. I can't in good conscience send him back there again.
Are we overreacting? Do we just confront the director? How do we handle this? I obviously don't know what or who exactly, but this definitely seems off. Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated.
Edit:
First, thanks to everyone for their supportive messages and comments and for taking the time to reply. We are truly blown away by your kindness and thoughtful words. We are also very grateful for all of the advice.
Second, an update. Our son didn't go to the school today and will not return in the future. We didn't contact the school and we don't plan to at all. We'll be out our deposit, but it's worth it at this point. I have another center that we will be touring next week, but we are also prepared for me to stay home with the kiddos for awhile.
This morning my husband called CPS and they said they only handle situations where the abuser is in the home. Next, he called the state licensing board and filed a complaint. The school has an otherwise squeaky clean record, but we were assured they would be opening up an investigation and interviewing every employee at the school. Finally, we called and then visited the local family advocacy center (basically relevant charities, social workers, law enforcement, etc under one roof). We met with a social worker and recounted the same points as above. When she was done taking notes, she called one of the onsite detectives who confirmed that without actual evidence (ie a verbal description of something from our son or physical evidence), there was nothing he could do. Without the cops getting involved, we will not be referred to a forensic psychologist or have the situation otherwise escalated. As frustrating as that is, we are almost fortunate in a way that that type of evidence doesn't seem to exist (or that we stepped in before it did). As many of you said, both the detective and the social worker agreed that the cop that came by yesterday handled it very poorly, but that there was nothing they could do about that either. The social worker mentioned that our son seemed to be a happy kid, not the withdrawn or angry type she's seen in more serious situations. We were referred to a center that specializes in play based therapy that we will be following up with as well. If anything comes out during those sessions, the situation will be handed over to the authorities at that time.
I think that covers everything that happened today. My husband had to go back to work so I've been at home on the couch cuddling my kiddos. If there are any developments, I'll update again, but that is it for now.
Thank you again for everything, Reddit. You truly came through in our time of need ❤️
| This isn't legal advice - I'm a teacher with child abuse prevention training.
Do not continue to question your child about this. Call Child Protective Services, tell them everything, and let them take that part over. They have a very specific way of talking with children to not ask leading questions, and any other conversations can color the child's memory. You want to be able to get the best information you can from your child so something can actually be done to the creep responsible.
Obviously, don't send your child back. Call CPS. Do not tell the daycare why you suddenly are not available, or if you feel uncomfortable, lie and say the child is sick.
I am so sorry. |
Let me break it down in bullet points.
\- I live in a building that has a mixture of regular and subsidized housing. About a year ago, a young mother moved in next door with her daughter. I am a 40yo man, working from home through Covid. She has confided in me that she struggles with heroin addiction, but was getting clean. I lent a kind ear and gave her a few bucks here and there. I have no interest in exploiting her. Dad is completely out of the picture. Grandparents too.
\- It started with her just 'running to the store' and leaving her child with me. That was fine. We set up a little play area and she is happy/quiet cute little girl with a good imagination.
\- There were times when she would go out and wouldn't come back for several hours. This escalated to a few times leaving her overnight. I've converted my office into a bedroom and got a bed from Craigslist. I always make sure she has breakfast, lunch, dinner and take her to the park or to the beach. Mom never compensated me, and the way she talks, it sometimes makes it sound like she's doing me a favor.
\- The thing is, I've always kind of wanted a kid but never got around to it. We have bonded. I think that this is most love and structure this girl has gotten her entire life. I've enrolled her in school this fall, which is online learning. I was able to get her social security and health information. I'm university educated and we have structured learning time. She is incredibly bright. I've also looked into getting her enrolled in dance, since she has shown an interest.
\- Mom hasn't been back in 4 days. I contacted the LL and apparently she hasn't paid rent in 3 months. Her phone has been disconnected as well.
\- I know I should contact child services, but she has grown so attached I know it would break her heart. We would both be heartbroken to have her taken away and put into the system. | If you want to keep this child, you need to do it the right way. Call CPS, tell them what happened, and immediately begin the process for becoming a licensed foster placement. The parent has already placed the child in your care and presumably the child is happy, so you have that going for you. You would be considered “fictive kin”, ie not blood related but close with the family. Often, as long as you pass a background check and have a good home, the child may be able to remain with you, as long as you allow access to your home and the child.
CPS will work with the mother and provide service she’s will need to complete before they will allow placement back with her. They will also attempt to contact the father. If the mother chooses to relinquish parental rights; that’s fine, but the father still has to be served, even if the mom doesn’t know who it is or where he is. If dad chooses not to appear in court after service, the judge can set the final hearing after your states waiting period. From there, you could take permanent managing conservatorship or adopt.
If you are serious, I *highly* suggest you find a foster care agency immediately and start the licensing process. Make sure that kid has a bedroom of her own, with a bed, clothes, toys, and so on. Keep DETAILED records of every time mom makes contact, who you talk to about mom (like the landlord), and any appointments you take the child to. I also suggest getting the child into the doctor, dentist, and a good therapist who deals with parental neglect and trauma in children. You may not be able to get her into Medicaid without CPS or mom, but she may already be in the system, so it’s worth a double check.
Work with CPS. Even if they do remove her from your home, ask for visitation and maintain contact with the caseworker, supervisor, guardian ad litem, and attorney ad litem. Ask for visitation. GO TO THE COURT HEARINGS. Show the judge you are serious about taking an active role in this child’s life. Continue the foster care licensing. Just stay on them. At a certain point, it may be worth speaking with an attorney about becoming an “intervenor” which means you are asking to be a legal party to the case and have a right to have your attorney represent you in the court hearings.
I worked for CPS in Texas. We never want to remove a kid from a safe, stable, appropriate home. Just be an advocate for this kid and she’ll do okay. |
So my sister decided to sell her mtg cards and the shop quoted her a total of 42,000 USD for the lot. Many were from the 90’s and were quite valuable. Now, the shop says they’ve determined they were counterfeit and refuse to pay or give the cards back. They have yet to provide substantial proof that they were fake
From my understanding, they have no legal grounds to hold the property. Obviously it would be illegal for my sister to sell potentially fake cards, but we want to have them tested by an independent party to the sale.
We do have reason to believe they may be real. The card shop *just so happened* to have listed the same cards for sale on their website after receiving my sister’s lot of cards. This could be a coincidence, but something rubs me the wrong way. Any advice would be appreciated!
Edit:
I appreciate all of the advice! As I said in some comments, I’ve confirmed at least some of the cards are fake so I’m inclined to believe the shop. While I don’t agree with the policy (and stand by my assessment that it’s technically illegal) I don’t think it’s unreasonable for them to have it in place. I will not be naming the shop as I have no interest in being an asshole to a store that’s just trying their best
Also, while I appreciate the advice, please stop private messaging me. I don’t know jack shit about mtg and there’s not much I can tell you that I haven’t said here. 🫶 | 42k is definitely lawyer territory.
This whole thing sounds really fishy. You would typically see major transactions on collectibles like this when the product has been sealed and rated by an authority. This would mean it has documentation and has been determined legitimate by that authority. Were your sister's card rated? Or were they just loose cards that she'd collected?
If the shop offered to pay that high a price for loose cards with no guarantee of authenticity, it starts to smell like a scam because that's a crazy way to operate. Even if your sister gets her cards back, how will you know they are the same cards and haven't been swapped out for frauds in the time they've been in the shops possession? This whole thing is very complicated by the fact that the shop already has her cards before you had a trusted 3rd party look at them. |
I am in West Virginia.
What on earth can I do? My wife is devestated. The photographer has lied and made excuses every couple of weeks with moving deadlines and “I sent it last week you didn’t get them?”
We received our sneak peak, which was only like 25 pictures, but it didn’t include any pictures of the bride and her family.
I understand a refund is a given, even though she has not offered it. (She offered a free family shoot... get the fuck out of here.)
Is there legal recourse on getting more than our refund back due to the impact this will cause and the fact we will NEVER have pictures of our wedding day?
Even the refund is going to have to go to court, I feel. The photographer made sure to mention in the apology message that she is “working 3 jobs and falling behind just trying to make ends meet.”
Edit:: hey guys. Too many replies to acknowledge. I have reached out to a lawyer. As many of you have implied, there is definitely more to this story. Something just isn’t right but I don’t know what happened on her side of things.
She has made so many excuses along the way. She even claimed at one point that she mailed the usb drive(it never came) and when we told her it never arrived, she claimed she would have to do the work all over again but she would ASAP.
She was young and fairly cheap, but not like $200 cheap. It was around $1000 total.
Everything has felt off the whole way (after the wedding that is. She was great that whole time) , but I never expected this
She claims that this morning she was trying to make us a new jump drive and that’s when she realized that JUST LAST NIGHT her whole system corrupted and she most all her files for the last year. All of her projects for all of her clients. It sounded pretty insane to me, and after reading other professionals comments here, I can see it is.
DOUBLE EDIT: We had a strict no cell phone/camera pictures rule. No one has any pictures | I’d take a look at your contract for insight into the legal remedy.
Also, I’d recommend that you calmly speak to the photog about what steps she’s taken thus far to recover the images. Unless she lost/destroyed the physical device that the images were on, it is likely that some if not all images could be recovered. Even if they’re on a computer that’s bricked. A lot of people don’t realize that unless overwritten, data is usually recoverable. It may be that you guys could work out bringing in a specialist to recover the files. |
While I am not wealthy, by any means, I have been investing my extra income for many years now. As my mother was on the verge of becoming homeless some years ago, I decided to use income generated from other properties to finance a condo for her in a retirement community. She was single at the time and the verbal agreement was that she could stay there as long as she needed but she had to pay for the utilities and condo fees.
A few years ago, she married a man who promptly moved in with her. I've had a strained relationship with my mother for many years and while this man seemed nice enough, we never became close. Before they got married, they sent a note to me and my siblings stating that the marriage wouldn't change how their assets were split up upon their deaths (e.g. his kids would get his stuff and her kids would get her stuff). My siblings and I didn't care either way and just wanted her to be happy (even though she was basically estranged from all of us at that point).
Early this fall, my mother passed away. My siblings and I all did what was expected during this difficult time but it was made clear to us that the new husband was running the show. After that took place, I decided that I would wait a month or so before telling the new husband that he needed to find a new place to live as I was going to be selling the condo. Before any of this could happen though, I got a very angry call from the husband about why I was listed as the owner of my mother's residence. I tried explaining what the reality of the matter was but he was having none of it. Things have now escalated to the point that his kids are calling and sending me quasi-threatening emails.
In the last communication, they stated that my ownership of the condo is fraudulent because my mother had been making the payments on it for all these years and I tricked her into signing it over to me when it was first purchased.
Do I have anything to worry about? I'm not very confrontational but I will stand up for myself and what's right when push comes to shove. I won't be able to sell the place until it is empty which means evicting this guy but that will likely get him even more riled up which I would like to avoid if at all possible.
Thanks in advance. | I'm sorry for your loss. Your mother was your tenant, and has no claim to the unit. The same is true of her heirs.
As your stepfather lives in the unit, he continues to be your tenant. The _Residential Tenancies Act_ would not apply to his existing tenancy, as he shared the unit with your mother, but if you continue his tenancy now that your mother has passed away, the _Act_ may apply in the future. Make some choices now about whether you want to have a hostile tenant or not, and if not, give him notice to vacate and talk to a lawyer about evicting a non-RTA tenant. The Law Society of Ontario does referrals.
It's unlikely, but it is possible, that your stepfather will sue you to try to force the transfer of the unit. Unless there's a promise in writing to effect that transfer, it won't go anywhere, but you'll still need to hire a lawyer and file a response if he does. |
US-CA United States - California
What the title says. Yesterday, I got back from a trip overseas back to US. At LAX airport, I was forced to provide my Social Media and WhatsApp information. When I asked why they needed it, they said "Social Media is the best way to get to know someone, we have to ask for this information to check you"
Is this legal? Would I be arrested if I kept refusing to provide this information?
After providing the information, i was thanked for my cooperation and allowed back into my country.
Thanks. | They can ask, and they can manipulate the situation in order to make you feel forced to comply. They can't *actually* bar you from entering the country or arrest you for failing to provide that information.
At least, not legally.
Unfortunately, people entering at airports are often tired, stressed, and have only limited knowledge of their rights. |
This has happened a few times but I work overnight so I’m usually not home around the time they come. I was home the past two times they showed up. First time, it was only two cops. Of course they knocked really hard and I live in a small community so it woke everyone up.
Last night, I counted five cops coming to my door at approximately 11:47 PM, banging my door down, “POLICE OPEN UP”. I jump out of bed and open the door. They don’t even have a warrant to search my home. Ask for “XX”. I say “he is the past tenant I’ve been here for x amount of months! I tell you guys this every time. Ask my landlord if you don’t believe it. Or come back with a warrant to check yourself!”
It’s becoming very disruptive for myself and my neighbors. I do not know my options. I’m young and alone with no friends or family so I do not know what to do. Any help is appreciated | call the department and ask to speak to the on duty sergeant or file a complaint. |
ETA: link to original post; https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/ea49nn/on_ca_mother_was_living_in_a_condo_i_purchased/
Some people have asked for an update so I thought I would provide one.
I ended up retaining the services of an attorney and this seems to have been the linchpin needed to get the wheels turning in my favour. Some time in mid January, my lawyer was notified that the condo would be vacated before the end of the month and they even turned over the keys through the building superintendent.
The condo was messy / dirty but nothing was damaged. A good cleaning and some fresh paint made everything look as good as new.
The condo fees were last paid for December so I had to get that taken care of once I got the locks changed. In the end, I will be out a few months condo fees and the cost of the attorney. There are some issues with the utilities which are i) still in my mother's name and ii) in arrears by a few months but I'm told this will all be resolved quickly (and I won't have to pay for the outstanding portions).
With any luck, the unit will be sold by the end of this month (thank you hot real estate market).
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Hi,
A couple on a community What’s App group chat were reaching out to hire a photographer for their wedding.
I knew a friend of mine who used to be a photographer and she was ok lending me her camera for the event, so I reached out to the couple to let them know I could do it.
They asked me if I had a portfolio, and I used to photograph college graduations part-time a few years ago, but no weddings. Due to this, they were really (I mean REALLLY) short-changing me.
They offered me a total of $80 to be a photographer at their wedding and reception, and cited that they were taking a risk by hiring me but wanted to give me a chance. I was hesitant, but that money goes a long way for me and I was down bad lately so I accepted.
They sent me a contract which had our names and location of the event and other boilerplate language and I signed it.
The venue was really far away almost 2.5 hours away, but I had a friend who lived there and he was currently visiting me and was going to be going there anyway so I was going to hitch a ride with him and stay at his place a few days before the wedding.
Everything was going smooth, until a few days before the wedding they said that there is a storm and possible tornado forecast and they can’t have the wedding venue at that location anymore since it was outdoors and they were going to move the wedding indoors in a church right next to my house. That was perfect since I now didn’t need a ride to the other city. I let my friend know, and a few days later he went to the city by himself.
3 days before the wedding, the couple decided to move the wedding back to the city 2.5 hours away since the forecast was looking better. I didn’t even have a ride anymore since my friend left. I told the couple that it won’t be possible for me and they ignored me for 3 days. I assumed they probably decided to go with someone else.
Literally on the day of the wedding the husband is blasting my texts asking me where I am and that I’m missing important moments from the wedding. I show him the text that I sent and he said he didn’t read it because he was busy with the wedding. He asked me to call an Uber, but those were insanely expensive and I’d actually be at a huge loss taking an Uber. He said he was not going to pay for it since it was my job.
I couldn’t do anything else. I asked if he knew someone still in town I could hitch a ride with and he said no. He then started sending rude texts and saying some crazy (and also racist) stuff. I block him and turn off my phone.
When I turn it back on, I find that I was apparently the only photographer at the wedding and they didn’t have anyone else. They now want to sue me for contract breach and emotional damage. I can’t afford a lawyer and I called 5 people in my area and all of them are asking for $300-$500 per hour to look over my contract.
The couple are also posting my profile picture all over facebook and tagging me and saying I ruined their wedding??? And their friends are also commenting mean things.
I’m not sure what to do at this point. Please any advice would be greatly appreciated.
| Let this be a reminder that you always need to charge proper prices for everything you do. You didn’t care about the event because it was such small potatoes, and they didn’t respect you because you allowed your time to be bought for so little. Everyone all around should have taken this a bit more seriously.
Anyway, wouldn’t bother paying a lawyer to review anything unless I absolutely had to, i.e. they were actively suing me. I agree emotional damages are probably not recoverable here. |
As the title says, 6 months ago it was 3am in British Columbia Canada and my friend was asleep in bed in her house she owns. A 19 year old drunk driver plowed into her house. The car went through the ground floor and she is lucky to be alive (the car demolished her bed side table, missing her bed by inches). The car couldn’t be moved for almost a month because the house may have fallen down due to how much damage it caused. My friend shared the house with her brother and disabled mother, who she is a full time career to, on top of working as a teacher.
6 months later, my friend has had no compensation. She has spent all of her life savings dealing with the repercussions. She is still paying the mortgage on her place which is completely unliveable, as well as rent on a temporary 2 bedroom place for her an her mother to live. She is having to pay contractors herself to fix the house. All of this is incredibly expensive in Vancouver Canada. She is a single salary teacher and is now having to borrow money from me in order to get by. If she didn’t have friends to support her, it’s very feasible her and her mother could be made homeless from this. The financial burden as well as the mental stress from nearly dying and then being displaced whilst having to look after her wheelchair bound mother is monumental.
The kid who drove the car is lawyered up to the eyeballs. The insurance company (ICBC) is being incredibly unhelpful, due to it being a drunk driving incident. The insurance company sent a representative to meet with my friend (I was present) and the rep admitted that, had the kid not been drunk, they would have paid out compensation quickly. Because it’s a drunk driving case they are saying the kids insurance is invalid and aren’t willing to pay out quickly to my friend.
My friend has met with a couple of lawyers (I wasn’t present) and in her words, they said she has a clear case but didn’t think they should take the case as they would charge 30% fee and they may not be necessary. This is the bit I’m unsure of, as 6 months down the line she has only been offered menial amounts by the insurance company (a couple of $1500 cheque’s, she hasn’t cashed) and her and her wheelchair bound mother are struggling to make ends meet.
Any advice is greatly appreciated. I feel like this case is pretty specific to ICBC, (a particularly poorly run insurance company with a monopoly in British Columbia. Recently ICBC tried to wrongly blame the death of a police officer that was killed by a drunk driver, on the the dead police officer... just to give you a taste of how they operate)
*EDIT*
First of all I want to say thank you everyone for all the advice, it is massively appreciated! I am currently travelling back to canada and haven’t had time to go through all of this but it seems the biggest question is regarding her home owners insurance... I need to speak to my friend to confirm but from what I remember she certainly has home owners insurance, she has attempted to get them involved but they have also been very unhelpful. They have said they won’t pay for certain things in the house, saying that even though it was destroyed, the place is over 10 years old and so the valuations are ridiculously low. They have also tried to shift the responsibility to ICBC. My friend has set up meetings with 5 different lawyers to get one of them involved ASAP. Honestly everyone, I’m blown away by all this help! Thank you. I will go though all the messages once I get back to Vancouver tomorrow and respond as needed. | First, your friend needs to stop talking to the insurance company's lawyer *immediately*. $1,500 is obviously not enough to cover serious damage to a house and her medical expenses, and any further conversations will only be to her detriment. They are not representing her interests, only their own.
Second, your friend needs to get her own insurance company involved; the right place to start is probably the homeowners insurance. She also should not cash any of the checks that ICBC has issued to date without first consulting her own insurance.
Third, your friend needs to make a list of all the expenses she has incurred.
The most important step is to get her own insurance company involved. This is what you pay the premiums for; it becomes their problem instead of hers. |
Today I was sitting in the waiting room at the hospital minding my own business looking at my phone. Suddenly a dog came around the corner and attacked me. He bit me on my leg. I did hit the dog in the head to get him off of me and grabbed him by the scruff of the neck and pinned him to the ground. I was sitting next to a little boy and didn't want the dog going after him or anyone else.
The police were called and 9 people in the waiting room made statements in regards to what happened. The owners stated that he was a service dog when they entered the building. The lady did slip and accidentally say he was an emotional support animal and couldn't answer the police when they asked what tasks he performed for her. They also tried to lie by saying the dog was her mom's and he was current on rabies. The dog was not current. The dog was wearing a vest that said service dog and was on a flexi leash. This is apparently the dogs second offense.
The police told me that the couple said they were going to sue me for hitting their dog and "detaining him against his wishes."
Should I be worried? I really can't afford a lawyer as I am currently disabled. From what I understand, lying about a service dog is illegal in Minnesota. I was just trying to protect myself and others, and honestly didn't injure the dog. I was a vet tech for over 20 years and this is the worst bite I've ever had. I feel bad that the dog has dumb owners and will probably end up euthanized.
UPDATE
Well, this escalated quickly. Just talked to the surgeon, and he said I do need surgery. From what they can tell on the scans, my lcl is destroyed and there is a lot of muscle damage. They aren't 100% sure about my other ligaments and tendons. The surgeon said this is the worst dog bite he has seen. Yay me. He asked if I passed out after this happened. I came pretty close to it! After they finally got their dog under control, the pain really hit me. I'm just so glad that the poor kid didn't get this. It's scary to think about.
UPDATE
Thanks for everyone's help (except for a couple self-righteous assholes). You really helped me feel better about what needs to be done. I've never been involved in anything like this and you guys really helped me out. I'm off to surgery. Thanks again! | You probably have a better lawsuit against them than they have against you. |
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Original Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9prn30/tenant\_is\_renting\_out\_my\_apartment\_on\_airbnb/](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9prn30/tenant_is_renting_out_my_apartment_on_airbnb/)
Just wanted to thank you all for your support/advice, i was really dumb and naivee when it comes to renting out my apartment. The last time i rented it out the tenant left on time, and i never actually thought about what could happen if they didn't leave.
I have started the process of evicting the tenant today, with support from a local lawyer who is going to handle a bunch of the paperwork for me, and represent me.
My condo board thankfully has been super understanding as soon as i outlined that it was being done without my knowledge, and they have agreed to wave the penalties. Apparently there were noise complaints on Friday relating to my apartment which annoyed our condo board. Our concierge service (we have someone at the front desk 24/7), will no longer be allowing people to leave keys for people at the front desk.
On Sunday two people came in to the building asking for keys to my unit, and our concierge service asked if they were AirBnB tenants, and they said yes. He then basically told them to leave right away, and they aren't welcome here.
Jane finally got in touch with me today, and basically accused me of numerous things, from harassing her renters, to just in general making her life difficult. She also stated that she will be going to the LTB to "make a formal complaint because banning AirBnB is not allowed". When i pointed out that as people have told me here that she needs to get my permission before renting out to other people. She went a rant about how she is doing this for numerous places and how she has never had a problem and "how stupid i am for making her my enemy".
I have a ton of proof of what she is doing, honestly my biggest concern is what is going to happen to my apartment. I asked a friend to book my room for one night through AirBnB for tomorrow (as it just apparently became available for rent), and take a look at the state of my apartment. | Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9qibro/update_tenant_is_renting_out_my_apartment_on/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
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My mother, whom I currently reside with, took a picture of me while I was changing in my room. My bedroom door was open bc I mistakingly thought I was home alone. The picture shows me facing away, wearing only a tank top so I am naked from the waist down.
She asked for my help with her phone which is when I discovered the picture, which she sent to my cousin via text message. I took a acreen shot.
I cannot afford an attorney. What steps should I take next? I live in Michigan and I am sure it is illegal to take photos of someone unclothed, without their knowledge and to send them to another person. | How old are you and what State do you live in? |
[Update]
The last 48 hours have been a rollercoaster of emotions to say the least. I kinda feel like I'm living in one of those crime novels. At one point, I seriously considered walking away from it all because there were enough things that took place to make me feel like it was a possibility I might find myself having some kind of "accident" in the near future.
I obviously won't be able to share too many details...at least not yet...but I do want to let everyone know I have an attorney, as well as a private investigator who is a retired FBI agent with a LOT of connections. As of today, I have finally been able to locate my mother's body and it has not been cremated. I also have been granted access to her property. A lot of things are missing. The vehicle has been reported as stolen as well as a few other items... which I'm sure the list will grow as we continue to go through her belongings.
Thank you to every single one of you who offered your help, resources, experiences, and condolences. I will never be able to express the amount of gratitude I have for your willingness to help a stranger you've never met. You guys are amazing!!
To those of you that called me a karma farmer and questioned the validity of my personal hell...I hope you step on legos barefooted and catch your pinky toe on the coffee table. When you do, think of me.
I'm not really sure what to make of all this and I could really use some insight on the matter. Evidently my mom passed away last Wednesday June 5th...I say evidently because my brother and I weren't notified until yesterday evening of her passing.
I'm not entirely clear on the details because the circumstances are not adding up and I'm afraid if I try and explain the chain of events... it'll become extremely confusing but I feel like the manner in which this was handled seems fishy.
We first learned of the news from a friend of our mother's who says she recieved a phone call yesterday (4 days after my mother's passing) from someone claiming to be a sheriff of the county my mother resided in, informing her my mother had passed away and asked if she happened to have keys to my mother's house because they were trying to locate next of kin. (See...weird huh?) He claims he found her number by going through my mother's phone (which would've been with her in her house, where they found her so why do they need keys) She told them she did not have keys but they could try calling her children (me and my brother) or her brother (my uncle) and that our numbers should also be in the same phone.
My mother's friend calls me to ask what was going on and did something happen to my mom and while I'm talking to her, my uncle calls me... which is odd because I haven't spoken to him in over 10 years and I wasn't even aware he had my number. He immediately goes into this whole story about how my mom passed away last Wednesday of a massive heart attack in her home and the police from her town contacted him after they were sent to her house to do a welfare check and found her. They supposedly went through her phone and saw he was the last person she talked to so they contacted him first. Then without skipping a beat or even giving me a chance to process all of this, he goes on to tell me that my mother had informed him on multiple occasions that she was leaving everything to him and that he was to make sure my brother and I, were to receive none her belongings and he kept mentioning his good friend Sheriff Whats-his-nuts ( fake name for obvious reasons) and HIS attorney have both informed him he was not to contact my brother or me about the situation and that since my mother left him everything, he needed to remove what he wanted from her home and donate the rest to Salvation Army. He was making arrangements to have her cremated and would let me know if he decides to do a funeral... then he hung up.
How is that even possible? Can he do that? I mean even if by some crazy off the wall chance my mother lost her mind and created a legal living will that named her brother... who's almost 15 years older than my mother by the way... the executor of her will and she left everything she owns to him...is there not some kind of reading of the will my brother and I are required to attend? Is this how this stuff goes down? I really can't be involved in making funeral arrangements for my own mother? Never once had our mother ever mentioned she had a will and I can not fathom her leaving everything to my uncle. But my feelings aside what is the legal process here? How could I find out for certain if there even is a will?
The situation gets a little crazier because after I called my brother, he calls my uncle and is told the same thing... they argue a little over the phone and it's now turned into my brother and I are allowed to accompany my uncle to my mother's house, and "rummage through what's left to see if there's anything we want" but it has to be this coming Wednesday because he has meetings all day Tuesday (today) with a probate attorney to iron out the details of my mother's estate. To my knowledge he's already taken her dog and her brand new car, into his possession.
This makes me think there is no will. If there was a will like he originally claimed, and my brother and I were to receive nothing... how are we all of the sudden allowed to look through what's left?
I'm extremely uncomfortable with this situation.
The most disturbing part of this whole ordeal is, I know my mother was working on the legal details of an invention she recently had patented and was in the process of interviewing manufacturers to fabricate her invention. She reviewed all the legal paperwork with my brother and me a few months ago...I'm worried that's why my uncle is in such a hurry to hire a probate attorney, and throw names of law enforcement friends of his (he himself is a retired police officer) which would also explain why it took him 4 days to notify my brother and me about her passing.
Isn't there some kind of chain of command that has to be followed when it comes to notifying next of kin? Is there a certain legal process that needs to happen when a person has a will?? Or even if they don't?? Sorry for the long post. I'm still trying to understand all of this. It just doesn't seem to make any sense. Who should I contact first? The police in her area? An attorney? What do I do?
Update: I can't respond to anyone now that its been locked but to answer a few questions. No I haven't seen the body though my own eyes and neither has my brother. He and I are getting together today to get a lawyer. This is in fact very real and I'm not making it up at all. I created a new account in hopes of not being recognized as this is turning into a very tricky situation. My brother and I are both very overwhelmed at the moment and we're in a bit if a situation where we aren't exactly sure who we can trust. As far as my motive behind mentioning my mother's invention...evidently that was precieved as making this entire thing seem like a made up story. All I can tell you is, sorry I didn't disclose that in a manner which made it more believable for you. I guess I'm poorly communicating the events i've been through recently and to be honest, I'm trying more so to get actual advice, not to make sure you believe me. | He took the car already?
Yeah.. That's not allowed.
You needed to hire a lawyer yesterday. Your uncle is probably robbing your mother's estate which may belong to you and your brother.
Stop listening to your uncle and get a lawyer and lock up that house. |
As per title, I operate a small fruit farm in France that specialises in rare and luxury oranges and other citrus fruits. These are produced in VERY small numbers, and are sold for very high prices to private buyers, restaurants, and upmarket hotels.
About 2-3 months ago about 15% of my crop had been sliced, squashed, crushed and left to rot on the ground. I liaised with local police at the time, but no one knew what had happened. The police suspected local vandals or perhaps migrants travelling North searching for some food. We have had several groups of people head towards Calais over the past few years. If the latter was the case I wouldn't have begrudged them taking some fruit. Refugees deserve to eat.
This morning I was linked to a video on Tiktok showing an American woman on my farm picking a citrus fruit off the tree, cutting it open and crushing it in her hand so the juices flowed out. Upon investigation there are approximately 4 accounts posting similar content from my farm.
It appears that they had been repeatedly squeezing my fruits trying to get a perfect shot as a girl can be seen in the background of one of the videos squeezing a fruit before lowering her camera and picking another from the tree.
Without getting into specific numbers I have suffered thousands of Euros in lost product, and thousands more from breaching contracts with hotels RE the supply of fruit.
Can I, as a European, prosecute American citizens for damages?
I have their identities from their Tiktok accounts. | >Can I, as a European, prosecute American citizens for damages?
Can you report the crime to local authorities? Absolutely.
Can you sue these people for your losses? Likely so, especially if you have video evidence of their destruction and can establish the links to your location and timing. Whether international litigation may be worthwhile or financially viable for "thousands of Euros" is another question.
Because of the daunting cost of litigation, I'd certainly start with police here and see what they do. |
My son has been bulled every day for the past 2 years by the same boy who literally goes on a manhunt to find him and just make his life hell.
Monday the bully kicked my son in the balls so hard he was down for at least 20 mins since he wasn't in class for afternoon count and took them 20 mins to find him (there's a running track this blind spot where the teacher can't find kids)
I went to the school and raised all kinds of hell with the principle and his teacher because I've been to they school countless times to discuss the bullying problem and they just give me the bs run around saying there's nothing we can do, blah blah blah
Well i kept him out of school to recover and sent him back today and told next time they corner you over there, do the same exact thing.
And he did, and obviously I was called to school and now he might face assault charges, but when it was my son absolutely nothing happened.
Anything I can do to fight this?
Edit: holy hell this blew up fast and why is everyone assuming I'm a girl | First take your, son, to the police station and file a police report for assault and battery, schools won't do it.
Second, make an appointment with an assistant superintendent at the district office, you are complaining about what happened to your son, and a principal that has lost control of the campus.
Third; You need to talk to a personal injury attorney, the named defendants will be the family of the child that kicked your son and the school district for failure to deal with the situation.
Fourth, every interaction your son has with this kid needs to be documented, you need to video him talking about each interaction the day it happens and keep a log. This may become a daily process when he comes home from school.
It is reasonable to expect the other child to be transferred.
Finally, your child is being tortured and emotionally traumatized by another person, therapy is almost a must at this point. |
I'm not sure what else to say. My best friend (we'll call her Amber) hadn't eaten all day, so I picked her up to grab some food. We got into a car crash by hydroplaning on the off ramp. We're both mostly alright; she might have a fractured/broken arm, we're not sure yet. Long story short, I had to leave the hospital and go home. When I got home, I got a message from Amber saying her mom is going to take me to court for attempted second degree murder, claiming that the car crash wasn't an accident at all. Am I the only one that thinks this is crazy? What do I even do about this, assuming she's not bluffing? | And this is why you have insurance. Not only does it pay for the injuries of others, it pays to defend you if someone sues you over the accident.
Do not engage with this woman, directly or indirectly. Provide your friend with a copy of your insurance card. Notify your insurer of the accident and that you and your friend were taken to hospital. If Mom shows up at your home, you are under no obligation to answer the door. If she is threatening or violent, call 911. |
My family has been living on this golf course for years. Everything was fine before the owner moved the tees, as the house had only been struck very rarely, but now the house is being hit at least 10 times a day. There is a lot of damage (12 broken windows, 2 severely dented garage doors, 6 plus dents in our cars, 2 seriously dented gutters, a glass door that has been broken 9 times) and family members have been hit by golf balls on numerous occasions including several near misses. After having balls narrowly miss hitting young children we no longer feels safe sitting outside during the day. We can't even use the back half of our property during business hours at all.
We have complained to the owner a half dozen times and he has made a lot of promises but never followed through with any of them. Other residents are very unhappy with the owner as he is very difficult and never follows through with anything he says he is going to do. All I was ever asking for was for him to find a way to prevent my house from being hit 10 or more times a day. Either put up a net to block the balls or move the tees back (or some other solution). I never even asked for any damages even though there are easily thousands of dollars worth of damage. I just want to be able to use my own home.
Do I have any legal standing to make the owner address this situation? | Are you filing insurance claims for all of this damage? I'd think at some point your insurance carrier would be wanting to take action against him.
But yeah, talk to a real estate attorney or a general civil attorney about this.
If you haven't been filing insurance claims, you should be able to file a small claims action against him. I think the limit in your state is $10,000. |
Hello everyone. I was driving to go see a friend and I got out of my driveway and turned. I didn’t even pass 4 houses when a small boy and girl both ran into the street and hit my quarter panel. Luckily I didn’t run them over, and I don’t see how I am at fault here.
Their mother, came out and started screeching at me and threw more insults than I can count. She called the police and paramedics and they arrived. All of that went well, but today, a week after this happened, I got someone knocking at my door asking for my name and gave me an envelope saying I am being sued.
I am only 18 so I don’t know how any of this works. I am waiting for my dad to get home because he works with stuff like this.
I do not have a dashcam unfortunately. I told the police I was going speed limit, and these two kids happened to run out into the street without looking both ways, and the big SUV parked on the street was blocking my view. They dismissed me and I left, so I do not know what they said to the mother.
But now I am getting sued, and I don’t know how to defend myself really, and we don’t have the budget for a lawyer right now. We do, but it’s not how we want to be spending money at the moment. I am thinking of taking a picture of my point of view with the SUV parked where it was but that’s all I really got.
Any help is appreciated. Thank you.
Edit: thanks to everyone who commented. I can’t respond to each individually but I’ve read all of them and I’m keeping everything in the back of my mind in case I need it! And yes, my diction was off. They ran into me, I technically didn’t hit them. I will refrain from saying that. | > we don’t have the budget for a lawyer right now
Your insurance provides the attorney. |
My landlord of six years ago sent me a letter with photocopies of old checks I had sent him. According to him, he forgot to cash said checks and is requesting new ones. There are several checks and the total amount is not insignificant.
I'm in a fairly tight spot myself at the moment handling a mortgage, house repairs, etc. I don't see how I could pay back the requested amount without causing undue stress on myself.
Can my former landlord pursue legal action against me? Is there some sort of statute of limitations on this?
EDIT:
I went to the bank and they confirmed with me all checks were cashed and gave me printouts stating as such. Thank you very much for your advice. | Go to your your local bank branch and reference the copies of the checks/checks #s he sent over and see if they were ever cashed. |
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Found out my sister contacted the police about this last night and whoever spoke with her brushed the entire ordeal off as a "small claims court" matter which disheartened her and my mother.
Following the suggestions from the thread, today we spoke with the deputy who was the first contact with my sister about this entire situation and he escalated it to his superior. The deputies then went to the hotel to set the manager straight. They essentially told him that he can't keep the belongings as leverage and that he'd have to pursue damages properly in civil court.
The hotel staff were very nice and understanding, but the manager's entire demeanor was extremely hostile and unprofessional. Apparently he was very rude to the officers. I did not like the way he spoke to his staff.
But we got their stuff back without any major further hassles.
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Ex was a one night stand with no protection. She gets pregnant and we assume its mine.
Things go to shit and we break up. Talk of custody and child support comes up and I tell her I was going to try for custody.
Three hours later I am picked up for questioning. I refuse to answer any questions, get a lawyer after release and find out I have a restraining order against me.
The kid is born. DNA test is done and its not mine.
Since all of this started I have been recording all phone calls on my cell phone because CYA has literally saved my job.
I just got a phone call from an unknown number. It was my ex. She said since she was using a friends phone and wanted to apologise. I told her we should not be talking. She agreed and apologized for lying to the police about the rape.
I immediately hung up the phone. I have her on recording admitting to false Rape reports to the police.
Will I get in trouble for this? I made no effort to call her and she called me. The call lated 1:28 seconds and I hung up on her.
Second question. What are the chances of using this recording to get restraining order dropped?
Third. What are the chances that Dallas police will arrest her for the false claim? | OP get with a lawyer today and take that recording. Do this now.
Filing a false report is a crime and she can face criminal or civil penalties. IF you have suffered damaged from this, monetary damages, you may be able to get some restitution from her. |
I live in Brooklyn.
I was going to the gym and returned what looked like a forgotten phone to the desk.
The man came looking for his phone and I told him I brought it to the front desk.
He became EXTREMELY agitated and demanded me to go get it.
When I said no, he became more enraged and threatened to beat me up.
He threatened to kill me several times.
He broke my headphones and when I approached the front desk for help he snapped my phone in half.
He threatened me several times and said he would kill me/snap my neck like the phone.
No one at the gym batted an eye, said anything or helped.
He never punched me, because I reminded him of the cameras and the police, but he was extremely imposing and like I said did threaten to assault me several times per minute.
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My question is should I go to the cops?
I just don't know if the Brooklyn police will do anything and I am worried that he or his friends would actually assault me should I go to the police.
I am also worried that the front desk might give away my information to him since he is a long time member. I think they only have my credit card info, but still.
I have what I believe to be his first name. | He destroyed your property on gym video camera? File a police report for destruction of property and harassment. |
I am in San Francisco California. My 14-month-old child was found unresponsive in his crib at daycare. He was pronounced dead at the hospital. Per the coroner’s report, the cause of death was Sudden Unexplained Death in Childhood (SUIDS).
The daycare workers did not call 911 when they found my child to be unresponsive. They called their boss, who didn't pick up his phone because he was at the bank. 20 minutes later, he got back to the daycare, started CPR and called 911. The coroner told me brain death occurs within 5 minutes if no CPR is administered.
A state facility evaluation report conducted two months later issued Type A citations for use of exersaucer/baby walker, accessible, bottled medications, **no staff member on-site having a current, valid, CPR certificate** and no fingerprint clearance for Caregiver 1.
The licensee was also cited Type B citations for incomplete staff records, no written proof of a completed emergency disaster drill, blankets attached to the outside of infants' cribs, no written proof of safe sleep logs for napping infants, and closed door to napping room while an infant was sleeping.
The facility was also identified as operating over their allowed ratio of children to adults.
**Questions**
1. Can any legal action be taken?
2. If yes, what type of lawyer would be best equipped to take on this case?
| A personal injury attorney would likely be best. You should speak to an attorney before anyone else and generally not talk to anyone about anything unless your lawyer approves. |
So, I'm 29 and my parents don't allow me to get a job or move out on my own and every time I try to, they threaten me with this. I do have mental disabilities, however I am fully functional and I also have never been diagnosed. This leads me to questioning the veracity of my parent's threats. I do remember my parents dragging me into an SSA office when I was younger and they made me sign some document without me reading it. They just told me to sign it without question and being my parents I didn't think to question them. Later they told me that I had signed away my rights (their phrasing) and that they now have power over me. Every time I try to run away they also threaten to call the cops and they tell me that since I'm disabled and I have no guardianship over myself, whoever I go to can be charged with kidnapping since my parents didn't consent. I'm also not allowed to have friends or anything because they use this to dictate my every move. They tell me I'm crazy and helpless and I can't be trusted and that's why for my own good they got this thing.
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Other things that might be important that make my question things:
They don't care about my well being. They don't allow me to go to therapy even when I've asked. They refuse to allow me to see a doctor and when I finally did, they threw away my medication because they claim it was bad for me. I know for sure I do have a mental disability, I just don't know what and once again, they've never took me to get diagnosed let alone therapy. They've always been controlling and I wonder if this is just another method. I get too scared to call Suicide Hotline when I'm depressed because they had me convinced for the longest time that, quote, "they'll lock you up in a mental asylum for life and take away your phone and never let you talk to the people you love ever again and they'll treat you like you're crazy." I've since learned this is obviously not true, but it's ingrained in me now and I have a hard time seeking help. I feel that this is also yet another form of control.
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Anyways, how do I go about verifying if they really do have this thing over me? What are their rights if this is true? What are my rights? Can I, I guess appeal (not sure if this is the right word)? What can I do about this?
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Is there any other legal advice y'all can offer that I haven't thought about asking for? Can I do anything about how controlling my parents are, legally speaking? Can they really deny me therapy and medical care?
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I should also I add they sabotage any jobs I try to work because of the POA thing. I currently help my mother around the store they own and they pay me randomly and I'm not on any official payroll that I know of. Is this also legal????
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I have so many questions and I feel so helpless and lost. I'm sorry.
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Thanks in advance | The first step is to contact Texas DFPS [Adult Protective Services](http://www.dfps.state.tx.us/Adult_Protection/) at 1-800-252-5400. They can evaluate your living situation and get you set up with social workers or a temporary guardian (if necessary) to help figure out your diagnosis (if needed) and get you enrolled in any social programs that might benefit you. They can also ensure that your parents no longer have control over your finances and employment (assuming you are competent, which it sounds like you are.)
If you feel you are in any immediate physical danger, don't hesitate to call the police right away. |
One of my ancestors donated money and land to a college in MA, in his will, with the stipulation that "any of his kin" can attend for free with proceeds from the donation given they are accepted with their own merit. The will is dated way more than a 100 years ago, but the college is still active with one of their building named after this man.
My grandmother always talked about this when I was younger (her maiden name is the same as this man), but me nor any of the family gave it any thought. Years later, after the internet became a thing, we were contacted by a distant relative doing research into the family background. After a lot of research I managed to find a copy of the will online and save it.
I am wondering if this is something worth pursuing for my son(2)? If so, where do I start? What kind of lawyer would even specialize in this? We live in MI | I would start by simply talking to the university without a lawyer. Maybe they will honor this. For all you know there may be a sticky note on every admissions advisor’s monitor that says “Yep, the McAlisters are free” |
I graduated from pharmacy school in June of 2018 and I was hired by a pharmacy chain to work in California. I went to school in a nearby state and had to move for this job.
My offer letter says that I have 90 days from graduation to get licensed. It is NOT possible to get a pharmacist license within 90 days of graduation in California. The process takes about 4 months. I was verbally told by my district manager that the letter is the same in every state and that they don't enforce that 90 day rule.
I moved, passed all the tests, and got licensed in October. I was put on the schedule for only 16 hours each week. The schedule is for several weeks ahead. I brought it to the attention of our scheduler and the district leader. I was told that I MIGHT get more hours at some point if I learn to work more efficiently.
I pointed out that my offer letter says full time work. He says the term isn't legally defined and it can be whatever the company defines as full time. He also said that the offer letter was void because I didn't get licensed within 90 days. He said that if I work with more urgency and get my speed-based metrics up, then everything will be just fine for me.
Is he correct about all this? I went on the company website and they define full time as 30+ hours in order to get health benefits.
I don't know a lot about the law, but it feels like it would be illegal to lure people with an offer letter that they know has requirements that are impossible. The board of pharmacy has lots of documents available online which show that a 90 day requirement is impossible to meet.
| Honestly, update your resume and start going on interviews elsewhere. If you’re only working 16 hours a week, you can go on tons. I don’t see this going anywhere for you - it’d be difficult and to expensive for you to pursue any legal case. If anything, does California offer a program that can supplement your income when you can’t get full time work? |
My girlfriend has lupus and asthma. One day about a week ago she had trouble breathing and it got bad enough an ambulance came out and gave her a breathing treatment. Since then her coworker who is an older woman has been causing scenes at work about her even when she's nowhere near her. Accusing her of putting everyone at risk, and refusing to go where she's been. The manager sent her coworker home one day because she wouldn't stop. Today she found out her coworker called the CDC and reported her and has been trying to get other employees on board to get rid of my girlfriend. My girlfriend shows no symptoms. Because of her condition she already took tons of steps to stay clean and healthy so we were already prepared when all this started. It has been extremely hard on her since she already hates being in the condition she's in. Is there anything we can do?
Edit: Thank you everyone for the advice. As of now she's filed a report with the store manager for harassment. Being a small company they don't have HR so from there there owner will be involved. Apparently they're saying the store is considered disaster relief so they are not shutting down. I will be talking to her about still taking time off though I know she's afraid of losing her job and or not being able to keep up with bills but we'll make it happen. Thanks guys! | Start with HR |
Question for you guys.
So I moved out of state but before I left I went into Planet Fitness to cancel my gym membership, signed the paper and everything. I noticed like 3 months later that they had still been debiting my bank account, so I called my bank who said they had my account/routing number and they would block future debits and refund it.
A month later I noticed that they had billed me AGAIN for the 3 months plus a fee. So I called my bank again who said this time they used my debit card and would refund the money and open a fraud dispute, since I cancelled it and did not permit these debits.
Just today I got a notice of legal action from my bank with documents from Planet Fitness saying that I had never cancelled my membership, and said I went to the gym on March 6, 2020 at 12:30pm and sent a picture of me walking in dated on March 6, 2020. Mind you I have been out of state since November and the picture showed me with very short hair and I have had extensions since September 2019, they sent an old pic and are lying about me checking in. I have proof I was at work in a different state that day they claim the picture was taken.
I am pretty positive it’ll get figured out with the bank, but my question is how could I let people know publicly about this fraudulent company without getting sued for slander or something. Also, could I sue them for blatantly lying??
TYIA!
Edit: Thanks for all the responses!! I absolutely have proof of all kinds on my credit card, being at work that day in another state, everything. I didn’t get a paper from the girl who did it, who seemed annoyed in the first place. But being that they now blatantly lied and I have evidence of that, their case wouldn’t stand either way. They even mailed it to my parents house, which hasn’t been my address for 7 months, and my mom was furious haha. I never thought to contact the attourney general and make sure they don’t get to keep doing this! Thanks all. | Contact your state attorney General about it. The last thing a business wants is the government coming after them. Bad pr is temporary... Government isn't. |
I will have been in this rental property for 10 years this year. In all that time, I've never actually met my land lord. He lives in another state. He used to have properties both in my state and in his state, but after the recession in 08 he mostly pulled everything back to his state. My original lease was for the first year here, after that we never signed another lease but we've never had any issues at all about that.
I've always paid the rent by making a deposit directly to his account at his bank. When anything goes wrong, he's quick to hire repairmen. We've had a good relationship for the last decade, even if we don't know what the other looks like in person.
Cue coronavirus. My SO and myself both work in the hospitality industry, and restaurant\bars have been shut down for a month now with no clear end in sight. Unemployment hasn't kicked in yet and we haven't gotten any stimulus check. Rent is due, but we wanted to talk to our landlord about postponing payments until we started working again.
The landlord's phone goes straight to voicemail. The voicemail box is full Everytime we call. He hasn't responded to texts or emails. We've been trying to get s hold of him for over 2 weeks now.
Although I've never seen him, he sounds like an older dude and I'm worried about him. I'm also worried about my household.
What happens if he's not okay? I can provide other details if they might be helpful.
Edit: My state is Florida. Landlord lives in Kentucky. At least, I hope he still does
Edit II: I found the property tax information and it only lists his middle initial and a PO box for my state and county.
Edit III: thanks to a lot of help, some info has been tracked down and I have an address that I'm pretty sure is my land Lords actual house (not just a PO box that might not be checked often). I'm going to send a certified letter over that way explaining my situation and proposing a payment plan for deferred rent. In the mean time, I'm going to keep as much money put aside as possible until I get cash coming in again, when payments will be resumed.
I'll let you guys know if I hear back.
Thank you to everyone who provided advice.
FINAL EDIT: he's okay!!! His cellphone got stolen and he's still waiting on a replacement. Probably the best possible outcome, I think.
Thanks again to everyone who reached out with resources and offers to help. | Along with what everyone said keep records of your attempts to call him (save phone bill when it comes out) and if you have a bank account keep that money to show that you are able to pay this month but wanted to discuss deferment option.
If something did happen to him then his estate representative or beneficiary (when estate is settled) will contact you. If he is hospitalized and he gets better he will contact you when he checks his voicemail. Keep trying every couple days. |
My boyfriend left his ex-girlfriend almost 2 years ago. They were together for about 5 years with no children together. They had just purchased a home together in the U.S. and have been going to court for a year and a half over it. He paid for almost everything, so the court said they must sell the house and awarded him a much higher percentage of the proceeds. She appealed on the grounds that the judge was unfair to her as a single mother (she had a 24 year old son) and although we are still waiting to hear back, it sounds like the court will probably stand by their original decision. All this really did was prolong this ordeal.
She emailed my boyfriend a few days ago and basically told him that because she can't keep the house, she is going to sue him for multiple reasons after they finish this round. Although I don't think she will win anything, we really can't afford to keep paying a lawyer to represent him for another year or two. He has already paid over 20k and we just can't do this much longer.
My question is, can she just sue him over and over? How do we handle this? His lawyer honestly has not been overly helpful.
Edit: we are in New Hampshire in the U.S.
**Thank you everyone for your advice and support. We have read through all of your comments and feel like we can handle this situation. We definitely would not have thought of everything you suggested. Fingers crossed. Thank you again! | If she keeps suing for the same thing, there are defenses such as res judicata and collateral estoppel. Essentially, it means "a court already decided this and with these parties". If she has a lawyer who is filing in her behalf, they should be aware of prior filings because filing bad faith claims is an ethical violation, and they could have their license suspended. |
I'm driving down a country road with a posted 55 speed limit. Cop car gets in behind me. Bad experiences with cops so I do everything by the books, change to the right lane and use autopilot to maintain the exact speed limit, letting the cop pass.
Cop changes to my lane and starts tailgating instead of passing. I maintain speed limit. After several minutes, the lights and sirens go on and I get pulled over. They search my car and repeatedly make me do several sobriety tests. I ask to blow into a breathalyzer to prove that I don't drink or do drugs but they didn't have one and kept making me do sobriety tests for around 10-20 minutes while searching my car.
They didn't find anything after wasting my time for half an hour, then gave me a traffic ticket for going 56 mph on a 55 mph road.
Not sure if this is legally relevant, but I'm a black male in my 20s with no criminal or traffic violation record. I also had an LSU sticker on the back of my car.
Is there anything I can do regarding this, or do I just chalk it up as part of the Alabama experience and just fly next time I need to pass through the state? I have a frontal dash cam which did not catch the tailgating behavior but can prove my speed. | In many rural areas out of state license plates are seen as open season for police harassment as few people will go to the trouble and expense of returning to the state to fight a ticket.
If the dashcam shows your speed you have a decent chance of eventually winning on appeal but it will be an expensive proposition to get there. |
I have a big family, with around 20 cousins, 10 aunts and uncles, and several others who always show up to family reunions. I'm a male in my 20s.
Last weekend we had a family reunion in a cabin resort in the woods. On the last night there, while everyone was sitting by the campfire, my uncle (by marriage), snuck up behind me and blasted an air horn about a foot or two away from the back of my head. This air horn was not a normal little one you often see at sporting events. This campground has bear around, so they keep several large air horns around the place to be used to scare off a bear in case they get too close.
As soon as he did it, everyone called him an asshole and got angry at him. He showed no remorse whatsoever. He laughed about it, telling us how he and his friends from work have blown air horns at each other before as a prank.
I was so furious when it happened that I didn't know what to do. I sat there quietly stewing in my rage for a while. I wanted to beat the shit out of him or hold him down while I emptied half of the air horn directly into his ear. But instead I walked away eventually and spent the rest of the night in my room. It's important to know that this uncle was hosting this reunion. It's a "corporate retreat campground" that his company lets employees use.
He clearly knew he fucked up because he attempted to apologize the next day, but it was a pretty shitty apology. While everyone was sitting down for breakfast, he snuck up behind me, put his arms on my shoulders and quietly said, "I heard your ears were ringing. Sorry about that." He didn't even say it to my face, or say it loud enough for anyone else to hear. I grumbled something about "it's okay," but I absolutely do not forgive him.
This happened last Saturday, a week ago. For the first couple days my ears were literally sore, and any loud noises were painful to hear. Since then, my ears have been constantly ringing. It's the worst when I'm in a quiet environment, like trying to work or go to sleep. I hear this high pitched sound that is driving me nuts. Sometimes it'll start to subside, but it still comes and goes. I think I could have permanent hearing damage.
This guy has been giving me shit since I was a young kid, so this was not a one time occurrence, though this was definitely the worst thing he's done to me by far. I've contacted a personal injury lawyer in my area to learn about my options, but I figured some people here might have good info as well. I won't hear back from the lawyer until tomorrow at the earliest. Any info is appreciated. Suing my uncle would tear a huge hole in my family, but I really don't care about that if I end up having a ringing in my ear for the rest of my life. It's interfering with my ability to sleep and work. Thanks for any help.
EDIT: I am seeing an audiologist and ENT this week. I will post an update here when I have one if the mods allow it. | You start this process by seeing a medical professional for your ears. Your uncle would very likely be responsible for your bills and could be held responsible for damage you suffered as a result of his asshattery. |
Back in April, I got pulled over for expired tags and got a ticket for failure to register my car. I didn't know how to, but it gave me the kick in the pants to get me to the DMV.
I swore my court date was on the 8th. I put it in my calendars. I took time from work. NOPE. It was the 6th. But I searched this sub, found out I needed to call. So I called first thing in the AM. They told me to come on Friday (today) and I could pay or I could reschedule my court date. I said I wanted to just pay and they told me my ticket would be $95. I asked if I had a warrant out because I missed, and they told me I wouldn't as long as I came and took care of it by 4:30 on Friday.
I went in, had to wait about 20 minutes while they got all the people ready to go into traffic court. Then they helped me. I paid $95 and was only 10 minutes late for work.
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When I got to work yesterday I was surprised by a $0 paycheck. Apparently our taxes haven't been done right since 2015. They were just audited. Here's the note that was attached https://imgur.com/a/yNjT4jm and my lovely paycheck https://imgur.com/a/f1Ra4jc . This only affected the servers. This is only my part time job, so I'm out about $100. Some of the servers though had worked over time and had $500+ checks that were zeroed. We were given no notice, and were informed that the people who had worked the most hours this year would miss another check. Is this legal? Can we do anything about this?
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We give our manager a sheet after each shift showing exactly how much in tips we made. They do the claiming for us. I talked to one of the owners, she was unaware that claiming 8% of sales was wrong and that she's been doing that for 30 years. It looks like this whole thing isn't illegal, just really shitty timing and poorly executed. | Bookkeeper/future accountant here. Legally, it all seems above board, but that doesn't mean it's not shitty. That's a colossal screw-up and I'd be wary to work for someone that disorganized. The good news is that she's saving you some future trouble when tax season comes around.
Personally, your employer would be wise to announce bonuses, unless (s)he wants a skeleton crew for the holiday season. I'd mention the B-word just to test the waters and probably update your resume. Sorry again.
In the future, check every paystub for accuracy. This probably could have been caught a lot sooner. A server taking home $500 on their check shouldn't really be happening in the US, assuming you have a nightly tip-out system. (Or unless they're getting stiffed by literally every guest.) There were red flags. |
My daughter was close friends with a girl for a few years and they had a falling out over ridiculous things. I don't want to go into too many details because the reasons are very specific and the family would immediately know I was talking about them.
The girl's mother is crazy and she likes to threaten people with legal action and throw her job title around (she does not work in law or any real position of power... She just has delusions of grandeur). The mother also believes her daughter is perfect and everyone is jealous and bullying her daughter because of their jealousy.
I will refer to the mother as Lorrie and the daughter as Katy so the rest of this is less confusing.
Lorrie has been to the school multiple times and accused my daughter and other students of bullying Katy. The assistant principal has pulled my daughter out of class to discuss Katy. I'm not sure if Lorrie had anything to do with the CPS report but I can not contact her directly. Lorrie refused to communicate with me when the girls first stopped being friends. I tried to contact her several times and she does not answer my calls and has been outwardly hostile to my daughter on more than one occasion.
Katy is a bully who says hurtful and dark natured stuff to try and appear "edgy" to her friends. My daughter has told me some pretty horrific stuff that Katy said and I advised my daughter to stay cautious throughout their friendship. When the friendship fell apart, Katy began to say pretty cruel things about my daughter, my son, and our home. My daughter would tell me about the worst of it.
One of the things Katy said about my 8 year old son was disgusting and completely out of line so my husband and I remembered it pretty vividly. My daughter told us about the comment about 3 or 4 months ago.
A few days ago, CPS knocked on our door while I was at work and told my husband that someone made a report to them about my son and the complaint was exactly what Katy was saying about him at school a few months ago. There is no one else who could have made this complaint. It was very specific and had no affiliation with anything based in reality. My husband said the CPS employee was very nice and they seemed like they knew that the report was ridiculous. I wasn't there so I don't know what the tone of the conversation was like.
The problem is I have no proof. The assistant principal at my daughter and Katy's high school is planning to interview some of the students that were around Katy when she made these comments about my son so I might have some backup which is great, but it's still just hearsay and there is no tangible evidence like text messages or recordings of her saying these things about my son.
What should I do? Is there anything I can do? Do I even have a leg to stand on? All I have is my word, my daughter's word and the possible words of a few 15 year old kids.
Any advice is welcome. I'm terrified.
I am in VA.
Edit: I'm not looking to sue anyone or anything. I just want to clear all of this up and I want Katy to be held accountable for making a false report. The things she reported could potentially hurt my son's reputation and damage his future. The allegations were not about me or my husband being neglectful or abusive. They were accusing my son of doing horrible things that he did not and would never do. | No need to be terrified. It's CPS' job to conduct an investigation even though it is based on an anonymous report. You don't need to prove anything to the CPS worker other than that your children live in a safe home with food on the table. As long as you cooperate and show CPS that your children are safe at home, the investigation will be wrapped up quickly as CPS has much more dire cases that they need to work on. |
I’m a senior. I’m on my period. I’m actively bleeding in my school chair while typing this.
The only accessible bathroom is in the office, which we aren’t allowed to bring any bags in there. If we’re in a stall for more than 5 minutes, it’s considered “suspicious behavior” and they have the right to search us.
The office is ten minutes away from any core classrooms because of how my school is organized. I shouldn’t have to miss 20 MINUTES of class to use the bathroom.
I don’t vape, I don’t loiter, I use the bathroom normally. I am small, I have a small bladder. I drink water all 8 hours of my school day.
If it isn’t obvious, I’m fuming. Others shouldn’t have to pay the price and suffer. I’m not going to comply, I have nothing to hide.
What can I do? I really have to piss while writing this, and walking to the other side of the school is too risky. | Your local health department will be very interested to hear that the school won’t allow students access to bathrooms.
Google your county name & local health department. Call them now & report it as an urgent public health issue. |
While I was getting my ass handed to me in [this post](https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9is8jh/refused_dna_test_california/), a coworker confessed to the assault. From what I hear, the dna tests were just a threat to put pressure on this one dude who they suspected, I don’t think they actually took anyone’s dna.
Many people pointed out that I sounded sketchy in my original post. That was probably true. I’m a recovering addict (three years clean and sober), and I did a lot of crazy stuff in my past- not raping anyone, but junkie shit like breaking and entering, squatting, getting in fights, etc. I didn’t know you could get a paternity test for an unborn baby, so I thought they were just going to put my dna in a database, and maybe things I never got caught for would come up. If I knew I was just being tested against a baby, I would have said sure.
I want to say that *because* of my past, I’m a squeaky clean employee- I never so much as swipe a snack from the pantry or an Advil from the med cart. We’re not supposed to ever be alone with members, and I never am, even if I’m just dropping off a tray in someone’s room, or if a member has work detail in the kitchen. I guess I was acting paranoid because I was pissed about being suspected when I’ve tried so hard to be straight, and that ended up making me seem more suspicious.
Hopefully now that the guy who did it was arrested, things can go back to normal. I hope the woman who was raped is doing okay (she’s not here anymore, and I don’t know what is happening). Sorry for the novel, but I wanted to let everyone know what was going on.
**Edit:** I think the reason everyone was so mad at me in the original post was because I was acting like *I* was the victim, even though obviously that was not the case. That is some of that addict mentality, that I’m still working on with my sponsor. | Thank you for posting an update! All update posts are automatically locked due to a historical lack of on-topic discussion. This is a forum for legal advice and if none is sought, none will be offered. If, however, your post also contains a new question, please [message the moderators](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/legaladvice&subject=Re-approve%20my%20comment&message=https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/9jcuyi/worlds_fastest_update_refused_dna_test_ca/%20\(please%20leave%20this%20so%20we%20can%20reference%20your%20comment\)) for a review.
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I checked into a mental health clinic after being at a lowpoint in my life and having some suicidal ideation. I was underage at the time so it was a legal requirement I go.
As I was being discharged, i was told I would not be going home with my grandfather or aunt and instead a DFCS (Georgia's Child protective services) would come to speak to me about group home placement. I was baffled because there's no reason that should happen. Eventually the worker decided I would go home with my grandfather, anyways.
I learned this was because the therapist at the hospital told my family I was a Pedophile and often "daydream of sexually assaulting children." It was determined that I was a risk to young kids and they refused to discharge me into my family's care due to the young toddlers in the home. This is absolutely not true! During my stay, I told the therapist I often had flashbacks or nightmares about how I was raped as a toddler. I disclosed that I often thought about the violence that occurred to me during the day because I was mentally scarred. This does NOT make me a pedo.
Is it legal for her to say that? Since this, my family has isolated me, uninvited me from family gatherings and tried to put me in foster care. I am not a pedo, I struggle with PTSD from my own child sexual abuse. Once I turn 18, can I sue? What's the limitations on that? Please help. | You need to talk to an attorney for real advice on this, as it is far more complicated than this forum can deal with. My additional suggestions would be not to wait until you are 18, and to report the therapist to their certifying agency so they can be disciplined and if appropriate lose their ability to practice. |
My employer held a fundraiser on my behalf last fall when I had a major medical issue. They solicited from a lot of my contacts, that were not aware of my condition. This forced me to disclose to people that I would not normally care to do so.
I told my employer that I did not like the idea, but did not resist.
I did not receive any of the proceeds, even though owner promised several times to get it to me. Also of note, the total he told me that was raised has decreased over time.
Yesterday I was laid off. Still, no proceeds disbursed to me.
What legal recourse can I take?
Edit: NC, USA
Edit 2: thank you all so much for the responses. I appreciate you taking the time to assist me.
I shared this post with a close friend, and they said that I should include the following info:
I notified my employer on Friday that my condition has returned. (My treatment team and insurance company are trying to figure out which risk is greater; to treat in hospital, or to wait until the current crisis subsides. ) Laid off on Monday, and found out today that a part time has been promoted to full time and is doing my former responsibilities.
I did not have health insurance through my employer. I was one of approximately 15 - 20 employees.
Again, thank you.
Edit 3: not sure why locked. | This is a form of fraud. You can go to the police but I’m not sure how much traction you’ll get with the current state of things. Do you know anyone who donated? I’d start asking around and letting people know that any money that was raised you never received. |
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