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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Friend [F25] who once rejected me [M25] now says she likes me - Now that I have money.
POST: Three years ago in university, I told one of my best friends that I was in love with her. After pouring my heart out, she told me that she "like[s] tall guys." Being told that I wasn't tall enough hurt quite a lot, but she wasn't trying to be mean, just frank.
18 months ago I started a company that expanded very quickly and I now have over 30 employees. Obviously being the owner of a company this size, I now have a lot more money.
Anyway, over the years, we've stayed good friends. On Wednesday (3 days ago) she told me that she has feelings for me and wants to be together. She kissed me. We have a lot of history and I do still love her. I told her that I would have to think about it. I know that it's easy to assume that she just wants to use me, but is it possible that she now has real feelings for me? Can power make a man more attractive? I'm still the same person as before, I haven't changed at all. Part of me suspects she wants my money, but that the same time I love her so much and we've been close friends for a long time. It's just the worst timing ever because the money makes me question her motives.
TL;DR: | Friend [F25] who once rejected me [M25] now says she likes me - Now that I have money. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Investments and roth question, can't seem to figure it out
POST: So I have about 40k in a taxable investment fund that I was saving for a home. Long story short, I don't need to buy a house anymore.
So I have this 40k that's sitting in a mutual fund that I would like to get it out of, mostly because when I set it up I wasn't as savvy as I am now and the fees associated with it are insane. (1%-3%)
However, I understand that the Roth IRA contribution limit is $5,500 a year. I have a Roth 401k through my work, would that be part of the $5,500 or is for some reason this completely separate?
TL;DR: | I have 40k in an expensive mutual fund, I want to set it up for my retirement, not sure how? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19/M] with my cheating ex [17/F] - am I crazy for keeping her as a friend?
POST: Hi Reddit
I posted about this before with a different issue but that worked itself out. But now I have a bit of a different problem.
My gf and I had been going out for just under a year when she went abroad for summer. While she was away she texted we wanted a break - I did not agree to this but she enforced it regardless and since I couldn't speak to her in person there's nothing I could do - and then when she came home she told me she'd met someone else and kissed him, although this happened after she asked for a break (and I believe her). She claimed she felt the relationship was over and wanted to break up with me before she left, but was too afraid to do it, and then met this guy while she was away.
She apologised over and over and I was devastated. The relationship was over, we both accepted that, however she begged me to keep our friendship going as before we had started dating we were very good friends.
Initially I said no, the hurt was too bad. However as the days went past I knew I couldn't leave everything behind - it was only a year but I felt like we had a lot of history that just couldn't be erased. And I was also starting to believe that she wasn't in the wrong - to her the relationship was over and she simply acted upon her feelings.
Reddit am I mad? Am I right to keep this girl as my friend or should I cut her out of my life?
TL;DR: | Ex-GF cheated on me on trip abroad, but I have kept her as a very good friend. Am I mad? |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Me [18M] with my ex[17 F] apart for 2 months, I want to return some stuff to her, how to do that?
POST: We were together for 6 months, then she cheated on me, lied to me about it, sent nudes to another guys and so on. It's been 2 months and I'm kinda over her. It's obvious that she's not over me, because she's stalking my social media through mutual friend. I want to return her favourite t-shirt and shoes, which are still at my place. She said that she didn't want them but I know how much they meant to her and I want to return them. How should I contact her, letting her know I don't want anything with her anymore?
TL;DR: | I need to return her some items. What's the way to do that by letting her know I'm done with her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I (33M) got my girlfriend (27F) pregnant and I don't know what to do.
POST: We've been together for 9 years. She was pretty indifferent to the idea of having kids, but I was so sure I wanted to be a father. I finally convinced her to compromise and have just one kid. She went off her birth control and got pregnant pretty much immediately. Now she's about 21 weeks along, and I'm starting to realize I made a horrible mistake.
My girlfriend had been aging pretty well and always kept herself in good shape, but since she's been pregnant she's put on a good ten pounds (she's 5'7" and about 140lbs now, when before she was always 130 or below) and has developed acne. She's changed her skincare routine several times to try to combat the acne, but to no avail. And she refuses to do anything about the weight. I've told her, as gently as possible, that I'm not attracted to her anymore at this weight, that she's unrecognizable and needs to do something about it, but she refuses. She sleeps all the time and only exercises half as much as before. I can't stand how selfish she has become. It's too late to abort, but I can't be the father of her kid. I hate her guts. I'm actually hoping the kid isn't mine so I'm not stuck seeing her and paying for it the rest of my life. How do I fix this? I'm so desperately unhappy. I know I'm going to leave her, but what about being a dad? I can't do this.
TL;DR: | I got my gf pregnant but it made me not attracted to her and I regret it. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: WAY different calorie levels per BMR calc and myFitnesspal?
POST: Hey all,
Quick question about BMR and my myFitnesspal numbers. In order to lose ~2 lbs a week, fitnesspal is telling me I should be eating 1550 calories right now (at 279 lbs, 5 foot 7). When I go and calculate with the BMR calculator, I get massively higher numbers (2232 cals from one, and 2484 from another). Am I calculating this wrong? I'm assuming I'm mostly sedentary (I don't actively exercise, but I do full-time school, near full-time work, and the job tends to alternate between desk job and running around all day with stairs, and long walks).
I'm female, 24 years old, 279 lbs (down from SW of 305), and 5 foot 7. I don't know which number to trust here. The 1550 is starting to slowly get to me (though it's pushing me to eat healthier overall), but I'm nervous about what will happen as I continue to lose weight. I try to leave a 100 calorie "gap", so my "effective" daily calories I try to keep around 1450 right now.
I've been doing really good - I've only been doing this since early October and I've lost 25 pounds, so I'm happy with it. I don't want to raise my calorie count through wishful thinking, and completely stop my progress. It doesn't help that I'm plateauing hard, right now, and have been at 279 for about a week and a half now.
TL;DR: | BMR calculator's 2232 cals, or fitnesspals 1550. Who to trust/how to figure this out? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Not sure if I should ask this girl out (M19)
POST: Hey,
There's this girl I went to high school with, and I really liked her, although, I never asked her out. Sadly, after high school, we both went to separate colleges, and I haven't seen her much since. Recently, I have noticed that she has been liking a lot of the things that I post on Facebook, and noticed that she even went back through some of my older photos, and liked them too. I think that she might like me too. I kinda think that the next time I see her, I want to ask her if she wants to go on a date. I have never asked a girl to go on a date in my life, and I don't even know if I should. What do you think I should do?
TL;DR: | I want to know if I should ask a girl on a date, because I have never been on a date. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My BF [M/21] took my phone from my pocket, making me [F/19] think I'd lost it, so that he could go through messages. Not sure how to feel or what to think?
POST: First of all we've been together 13 months and living together about 11 months.
We've been distant for about six months as our sex life has disappeared since his new and stressful job. That side of things has now been fixed after he went through my phone as a couple of the messages were me complaining about the lack of sex. He said it was an eye opener and things have been getting better. And before you all say I should've just spoken to him about the sex - I did. Many times.
Anyway, I was walking up the stairs to our flat, with him behind me. When I reached the top I realised my phone was no longer in my pocket and figured maybe it wasn't in my pocket like I had thought. After searching my car he called down and said he had found it. He then admitted he had taken it and went through my messages.
I feel pretty shitty that he basically pick-pocketed me. That he doesn't trust me enough and felt the need to check up on me. I also feel like he thought I was cheating on him or something as he was clearly looking for something?
How do I go about this? Is it too late to bring up the whole stealing my phone thing even though the original problem is now fixed because of it?
TL;DR: | BF stole my phone to snoop. Is it too late to bring it up even though it fixed our main problem? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/m I like my friends ex (18/f)
POST: I like my friends ex girlfriend. They dated for 2 and a half years. Its been 2 months since they have broken up.
I am 18 same with the rest of the party members involved. I have been talking to her for a little while about 2 weeks. We have been hitting off. I hung out with her once and it was just so perfect and adorable. She is coming over tomorrow too.
There is a group of friends that my friend and i are part of and i dont want to lose all my friends in the group. I was just with him but didnt bring it up because i was really scared to bring it up to him.
I am really thinking of asking her out soon but i dont want to lose my friend. What would be the best thing to do in this situation?
TL;DR: | I like my friends ex but i dont know how to bring it up to him so i wont lose him as a friend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: 20y/o: What should I be doing for my future?
POST: I'm almost 21 and going into my third year of university education. I don't really save right now because I'm just financially "comfortable" meaning I'm going to school on a full scholarship, my parents help pay for my basic necessities, and I work about 20 hours/week during the school year for spending money. I'm saving nothing because I hardly have anything to save, but mainly because, well, I'm 20 and like to blow money.
Anyways, my parents have recently been throwing things at me like "we need to get you a Roth IRA" and "I think you should take out a term life insurance policy." My dad always says "I wish my parents had given me this advice when I was your age, I'd be so much more financially secure right now."
He says that, but really doesn't give me much advice other than suggesting I look into these things. Which brings me here. What should I do? Where should I be saving money? HOW should I be saving money? If I am putting money into something that I can't access right away and that I know may turn into a goldmine in my future (near or far), I am way more likely to save.
TL;DR: | I'm 20, don't save any money, but really should. For my future. What do I need to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Letting Drake take my Girlfriend
POST: This was a while ago... I'm a huge Drake fan and my girlfriend Hannah ( not her real name) seemed to like him too. After work I wanted to surprise Hannah with tickets to his concert (me being a huge fan I wanted to get back stage so I got back stage passes). I told her I got 2 tickets and we where both very stoked to see the 6 god in action. A couple of weeks go by and the day of the concert arrives. We show up of course the place is packed. The concert was great he played music off of his new mixtape/album (if you're reading this its too late). So happy (Besttimeofmylife.png).after the concert is done we both go back stage and meet the 6 god himself (this is there the fuck up happens). Drake see both of us and greets us in his back room. Hanna is star stuck and is immediately smitten with Drake and I sence that he's flirting with her. Drake then calls to get me out and has security take me away and hands me his album (if you're reading this its too late) I look at him and he says "sorry bruh". My girlfriend has spent the night with Drake and didn't come back until the morning. Needless to say I broke up with her and now have a never ending hate for Drake.
TL;DR: | Took gf to Drake concert, he then took gf away from me and she cheated on me with Drake. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, I want to move out of state what should I consider?
POST: I have lived in Missouri all my life, I love my life here but I have spent quite some time on the road and seen quite a bit of the U.S. and have decided Missouri is just a place I could never spend the rest of my life in. I would love to pack up and move to a new state and I would even have a couple friends that would go with me. but I don't know what I need to account for.
when looking for a new job in a new location is it considered normal to apply for a job in a location you want to move to but have yet to move, or should I save up my money move then go job hunting? in addition the location I would like to move to would be somewhere in california despite the high cost of living but I am open to suggestions.
Currently i'm a single 24yo male. my education is in network security but I feel comfortable with computer sciences in general. I do have 3+years of customer service/hospital registration experience.
I just want to know what I should anticipate before I make this move. I plan on making the move in a year or so depending on how much I'll need to put back in savings.
any suggestions Appreciated.
TL;DR: | I'm a 24yo single male looking to move out of state(missouri), what can reddit offer for advice? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] with my best friend [22 M] of four years started having sex now have a confusing status and I want more.
POST: So me and we will call him Joe have been best friends for the past four years, i've known him for 9 years. This year our relationship took a sexual turn when we expressed mutual attraction to each other. Since then we have been having frequent amazing sex. It doesn't feel like just sex and its really intimate most of the time.
Here is where I am confused:
We act as if we are together. We sleep at each others places, cuddle, partake in public PDA and are constantly together no matter what we are doing. When I ask what we are he simply responds that he doesn't know, and he doesn't want to know because this works. We both have been monogamous, though this never was stated. I have no idea what this means and I'm really confused because i'm in love with him. I don't like not knowing what this relationship is now or where it is going.
TL;DR: | Best friend and I have been hooking up but acting like bf/gf. I'm in love and confused. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long should I[M23] wait before I try to date a girl[F25] after she's been cheated on and left by her bf?
POST: Well the title sort of says it all. However to be more detailed, we'll call her HK had Bf who she was supporting to go to college. The deal was they'd move back to California after he got his degree and a job. So that she could finish her schooling over there. However she caught him cheating on her, and she broke up with and kicked him out. The guy has since found a job and left the state altogether. This whole ordeal happened about a month ago, the guy left a little over a week ago. I've been consoling her for about 2 weeks now.
If you need anymore info just let me know.
Anyway so should I just make a move? Or am I taking advantage of the situation?
TL;DR: | I want to make a move on a girl that just got cheated on. Don't know how long I should wait. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Redditors of Virginia/Maryland/D.C., recommend some things for a visiting Texan to do!
POST: Well I'm visiting my dad in Virginia for the next week, right next to Dahlgren Naval Base, which puts me about 15 minutes away from whateverthehell that bridge is that crosses the Potomac from Virginia to Maryland, and about an hour and a half away from D.C., where I will possibly be spending two days some time this weekend.
Anyways, I'm a 23 year old single guy, my vehicle is here, and in the times where I won't be spending time with my dad, is there anything in particular your recommend seeing? Not just touristy things and museums, please, I'm sure I'll be attending plenty of those with the family. What I'm looking for are things that are less well-known, but interesting, or just things a 23 year old single guy might be interested in doing.
I've been to D.C. a few times, seen most of the common attractions, but other than that I don't really know this area at all, or anyone up here.
Thanks in advance guys and gals! Otherwise I'll just have terrible internet and no video games to occupy my downtime! (Nothing too far away please! I don't really see myself driving more than an hour or so for anything.)
TL;DR: | 23 year old male Texan wants things to do around Dahlgren, Va, and the D.C. area. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [29 M] was cleaning our [26 F] bedroom and found the top of a condom wrapper (not mine). Help!
POST: I was cleaning the bedroom I share with my gf. On the side of her bed, I found the top corner of a condom wrapper. It was small enough I had to examine it to be sure it was from a condom wrapper, but some tiny print gave it a way. I've never used this brand. It's not mine.
My mind was rushing. I've never had a reason not to trust her. We've been talking a lot and even planning for marriage. Out of everyone I've ever been with, she's the least likely to cheat on me. The only things I can possibly think of is that maybe somehow either her or I dragged it in on our feet or, more likely, our dog may have found it and brought it in.
I have no idea how to handle this. I want to ask her about it, but I fear that, even if she denies it, I won't believe her. If you have advice as to how I should handle this, please share! Thank you!
TL;DR: | Found a condom wrapper on my g/fs side of the bed. She's very trustworthy. Could she be cheating? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Did any (UK) Doctors here start training when you were over 30?
POST: I'm having a wee bit of a career crisis, I started out in general IT after A levels (2xA's, Computing and Photography), didn't go to uni (I was seduced by earning cash). I now specialise in network design and have a well paid job which allows me to comfortable support my family. The thing is I am not finding my career very fulfilling, sure it has it's moments but I am basically doing it for the money. I can't get the idea out of my head that I should have become a doctor, not for the money but for the drive to fix people, I can't imagine anything more fulfilling. I am however fully aware the reality may be something completely different. I'd love to have a career that I actually care about rather than just being able to do.
The thing is, I'm now 32 and I just need to know if I've missed the boat and, if not, how much I will now have to sacrifice to actually become a doctor. For info I have a mortgage and a 1 year old son and we'd like another child too so I have to put their welfare first.
TL;DR: | Not happy with my career in IT/Comms, am I too old to become a doctor at 32 and is it worth it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Was I(22)M basically used? Or am I just a little dense?
POST: A few weeks ago while on OK Cupid I(22M) messaged a girl(21F) and started talking to her. Well as the weeks went by we were texting and flirting when we both agreed that we should meet. So last weekend I drove to her place (2.5 hours away) and went on a date that ended up at her place.
The following morning involved us cuddling on her couch and browsing reddit, making jokes and eating breakfast. I left around 2pm (after engaging in more sexitiem).
After getting back home she told me how happy she was to see me and had a great time and we should meet again, despite her sister "getting a bad vibe" from me.
Since then she has all but ignored any texts I've sent her. Is it likely that her sister's disapproval caused her to lose interest or that she was only after a one night stand?
TL;DR: | I met a girl IRL from Ok Cupid, had a great date and now she seems to have no interest. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [25/f] my boyfriend [28/m] won't come to bed until it's almost time for me to wake up.
POST: We have been together for over a year, and have been living in the same apartment for most of that. I work a normal day job 45 hours a week and take online classes. I value my sleep. My boyfriend takes a few classes a semester at the local University. He stays up every night until long after I have already gone to bed. Earliest he will usually sleep is 4am, latest I've noticed was 7:30am. I've talked to him about how this bothers me too many times to count, and every time he claims he will work on it. He never does. There is no reason for him to be up and not come to bed with me. He just plays video games. He is home literally the entire day, with the rare exception he actually has to go to a class for an hour. He can play his games then, I don't get why he chooses the time we have together to be involved in a game, and leave me in bed to fall asleep alone. It also screws up my sleep. He is either in the room making noise on his game, or if he is in the living room, when he finally does come in, it always wakes me. I've been perpetually tired for a year.
Am I wrong to be bothered by this? What advice can you give to get him to sleep (literally) with me?
TL;DR: | My boyfriend won't fall asleep at the same time as me, am i wrong to be bothered/what can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do you know if a one night stand was in fact a one night stand? (23 M & 21 F)
POST: Met a girl in a club who I'd met a few months back, she's a friend of the ex-girlfriend of one of my friends and had apparently thought I was hot back when we first met and pretty much as soon as we got talking within minutes we'd started kissing and couldn't keep off each other. Went back to hers, fooled around for a bit with her flatmates (I wanted to make sure she was alright before doing anything) had a great time, slept in until the early afternoon and then left amicably. It wasn't even that awkward, we just kind of laughed when we woke up, gave her a kiss and was on my merry way.
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This was Friday night/Saturday morning and I haven't text her yet nor she me. It'd be great to do it again but I don't want to mistake a fun night for more; even though I would be into that, she's pretty cool and someone I'd like to get to know more so I don't really know, chances are we're going to bump into each other again as we frequent the same club a lot so avoidance will not be easy.
TL;DR: | Had a night of fun with a girl, don't really know the etiquette now, is that it, how do I know? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My bf [24m, of 1.5yrs] at random decides I'm [23f] clingy, just because he's looking for alone time. I let him have it. What else can I do?
POST: We will be getting along great and having lots of fun together, and then all of a sudden, probably every few months, he gets all weird and standoffish.
As I've learned over our relationship, I just kind of clam up and wait it out so i don't annoy him. Sometimes it carries on for a while and i decide I'll check on him, as we live together.
Yesterday I asked if i could sit by him because i haven't talked to him much lately, and he said sure but didn't say anything else or make room for me on the couch. Took that as a pretty good indicator that he still wasn't feeling like it and just went to bed.
Today while we ate lunch, he brought up how i was guilting him about nit spending time together but then still went to bed and that he doesn't know i can't handle it when he needs alone time. I asked him what else i was supposed to do, and he said i shouldn't track him around the house. I don't even know what that means.
Reddit, help!
TL;DR: | when I give my bf alone time, he thinks I'm not doing it right. What should I be doing? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] one year, I'm pretty sure I was raped on a business trip, how do I tell her?
POST: I was on assignment in a country where there is no rule of law, per se, and no legal recourse (trust me, it doesn't end well when people go to the police about this matter). On my second night, I was staying at a flat that my company keeps for our staff here, and i got incredibly intoxicated (along with everyone else) and passed out only to come to with a colleague riding me. I never had any interest in sleeping with this woman, at any point during the evening, and I'm now losing my mind. I love my girlfriend, and this isn't me! I;m flying home tomorrow, how do I not let this ruin everything. I was in a happy monogamous relationship, and we have a place together and everything.
TL;DR: | I had sex when I was passed out, and I don't know how to tell my gf without ruining everything! |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Need advice on moving out?
POST: Thank you for opening this and wanting to help.
Long story short, I've lived with an abusive family all my life. My dad does the physical abuse (choking, shoving, pinning me against walls) and my mom has always done the emotional abuse (calling me a loser, stupid, telling me I'll never amount to anything.
I'm an 18 year old male, and I want out. I've put up with this shit all my life, and I just want to get out, be happy, and make my life my own. Here's the kicker though: My parents deliberately never taught me any life skills.
I don't know how to cook, pay bills, or practically anything that an adult needs to know how to do. I don't have a job because my parents don't allow me to have one.
The one thing I have is a personal drive, a fire under my ass, and I'm going to use it to do whatever I can to get out and prove my parents and everything they ever said about me wrong.
If you're still reading this, thank you so much for caring. Any direction you can point me, any advice you can give me, WHATEVER...it's so greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | Abusive parents, not educated in life skills, need to know how to get out and get my feet under me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by spending the night at my girlfriend's house.
POST: Obligatory this wasn't actually today but instead it was last Friday/Saturday.
Girlfriend requested that I spend the night at her place, this has happened several times and I didn't think anything of it. My fuck-up happened when I decided to park in front of her apartment in what I assumed to be visitor parking. (Same place I usually park when I visit her) While I understand most apartment complexes have some sort of restricted parking, I did not realize this specific complex did not have any visitor parking and instead requests that you park on the street just outside the actual complex. At 4:10AM a vehicle came around to check cars for parking permits and proceeded to tow my car. Where I live there are some pretty hefty towing/impounding fees. $160 tow fee, $30/day storage fee, $3.80/mile mileage fee and a $66 after hours pickup fee totaling me $278.80. Luckily, she offered to pay half since she forgot to tell me that there is no visitor parking.
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TL;DR: | Parked my car without a permit, got towed. Cost me $278.80 to get my car out of impound. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with guy [21M], not sure where to take it? Is he even interested?
POST: So, I've known this guy for about 2 months. We met at another friend's house and took part in a few RPGs together with other people. We seemed to get along just fine and chatted a bit, and we'd walk home together.
A message on facebook I sent him asking whether or not he wanted me to buy him a flag (he likes flags) began a convo and at one point we talked on and off for about 10 hours.
The thing is - I can't tell whether or not he's just being nice or whether he likes me. I don't want to come across as weird and stalker-y, but I always thought that the guy always had to be the one to send a message first. I'm afraid to make a move of any sort because I don't want to scare him off.
I don't want to be led on or strung along, but at the same time I don't want to make him feel awkward at the same time. What do I do??
TL;DR: | Met a lovely guy through an RPG. I like him. Not sure if its reciprocated. What do I do??? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My 23F SO has broken up with me (24M) by simply ignoring me for weeks. Not sure how to deal with it.
POST: We'd been dating for several months and all was going very well until we had an argument just over 2 weeks ago via text. It wasn't a big argument and admittedly I started it, but I tried to explain myself and apologised the next day and got no response. I assumed she was still a little mad so I left her alone for a couple more days then text her again and yet again received no response. Over 2 weeks have now passed and I've gotten no reply. She won't take my calls but she's been active on social media.
At this point I guess she doesn't have the guts to actually end the relationship so is taking the cowards way out. I understand I deserve better than this but what I can't shake is that how can someone just do this to another person? It's fucked up. What makes it worse is that there's no sense of justice here. She'll get away with this kind of behaviour and if I try telling her she's a terrible person she still won't respond. If I turn up to her house and call her out on all this she'll make it look like I'm some crazy ex. Also, the lack of closure is difficult but I know real closure is a rare thing in breakups.
Has anyone had experience with this? How do I deal with the anger? Is there any chance of justice here?
TL;DR: | GF seems to have broken up with me by ignoring me till I take the hint. How do I deal with this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by almost blinding myself with hydrochloric acid
POST: I work at a local pool during the summer. We have a toilet bowl cleaner (Misty Bolex) that is 23% hydrochloric acid. It's fairly strong. If you do so much as drip the diluted stuff that's in the toilet bowl onto your foot, you better be near a water faucet or you're gonna have a nice burn. We're probably not the smartest by using it, seeing as how most of us are in nothing but swim trunks. Anywho, I was assigned to clean the toilets one day. I grabbed all the stuff in one arm: paper towels, disinfectant, the toilet brush, and the toilet bowl cleaner. Now, the toilet bowl cleaner has one of those flip open lids with the spout, and whoever used it last didn't close the lid. So, as I go to set all the stuff up on the sink, the toilet bowl cleaner slips from my arm. Being the genius that I am, I looked straight down at it. As it hit the ground, a couple of nice, big drops shot out of the bottle, landing squarely in my left eye. I let out a little weird yelp-type thing and run outside, thinking I could yell at someone to get the key from my supervisor to get the eye-wash out of the chemical room, then realized what an idiot I was being and ran back inside the bathroom and immediately started flushing my eye out with water from the faucet. After 15 good minutes of flushing, my eye is swollen and still has 20/20 vision.
TL;DR: | Got toilet bowl cleaner (23% hydrochloric acid) in my eye, freaked out, douched it like a mofo. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 F] never dated, never kissed, never anything. I am not happy like this, and I want advice. Willing to just listen this time.
POST: So I tried this before and it didn't go too well. So I'm just going to shut up and listen this time and hope I get useful advice.
I am a 30 year old woman with no luck in the love/romance/sex department. Never kissed, dated, had sex, or a relationship. I'm scared things could always be this way and I may possibly be too picky and/or have unrealistic ideas about dating (no idea where I got them from, maybe from watching too much True Blood/Game of Thrones/reading too many fantasy books, I don't know). I get told I'm pretty often, but obviously pretty doesn't cut it. Nobody I liked ever liked me back, which is probably relevant.
I also struggle to make friends. I really don't have a group of friends per se. I have three childhood friends, one of whom is really my brother's BFF, who I see occasionally, and the other two I don't see at all anymore (one moved overseas and has a husband and child I've never met). So I have no "friend group" in the real sense of the word. I spend my days alone in my own head, and it is depressing, I won't pretend it isn't. Sometimes I feel like a loser that nobody wants, romantically or platonically. Deep down I feel that people just don't like me, and I often feel it's proven every day.
TL;DR: | 30 year old unkissed virgin who doesn't want to be this way anymore. What can I do to fix this? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by getting out of my friends car
POST: Today, I fucked up. While i was with my friend (Lets call him E) in his car, and we were on our way to pick up our other friend (Lets call him K). While we drove by K, he was walking down the street, we just stared at him as we walked by. Being the idiot 19 year old I am, my brain decided "I'm just going to get out of the car." As I opened the door, E slammed on the brakes (again, I don't know what i was thinking) and i just stepped out of the car. As I planted my foot on the ground the force just brought me straight down on my ass and I just sat there comprehending what i had just done.
All of us had a good laugh and contemplation of life for about 10 minutes. When i got home, I checked out the damage to find out pretty gnarly road rash on my ass.
TL;DR: | I got out of my friend's moving car, fell straight on my ass. I now have road rash on my ass. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Forget gender roles... I wanna propose.
POST: Ok, so I'm a 22f, and he's 24m. We have been together for almost 8 years. We are the geeky/nerd couple in our group of friends. We're also that sickeningly adorable couple that dated through 4years of high school, made it through long distance and college, and survived living together for 2 years. We've only dated each other, and we're even each other's first and only sexual relationship. We love Star Wars, Legos, and most of those things you'd expect from geeky kids from our generation. We're practically married already, just no documentation. He recently said I had to propose to him because he asked me out. He said it jokingly, but it got me thinking... Why not? I love him, and I want to spend my life with him. Why should he have to make that move? Why can't I? I know he loves me, and we've talked about getting married once I finish college. Why can't I have the fun of planning an awesome proposal? I even have his "engagement ring" picked out lol. It'll be the one Ring from Lord of the Rings. So my questions... Is it weird for the girl to propose? Or should I just forget the gender roles? We're not a normal couple anyway lol. And any geeky ideas to help me plan? =)
TL;DR: | I[f22] wanna propose to my bf[24]. Is that weird? If not, any geeky proposal ideas? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 F] and my boyfriend [26 M] just moved in together after 3 1/2 years of dating, I want to leave him.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together since I was a freshman in college and I just graduated and will be starting Graduate school in August. We decided 6 months ago to move in together.
Everything leading up to the move was great, we were so excited and seemed ready. However, it has been two weeks and I've never felt more distanced from him. I get annoyed at his presence, I feel more and more everyday that I don't want to spend the rest of my life with him.
He is very much in love with me, is looking at engagements rings, is ready to start a life together, but I don't want that anymore. I want something else. Someone else.
How should I handle this?
TL;DR: | Moved in with my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years and I'm starting to think I want something else. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with my boyfriend [23M] going on 3 years. Trouble in Paradise.
POST: My boyfriend and I met at a summer camp when we were both kids. We were good friends for a long time, dated other people and then decided we wanted to be together. We had an LDR for 2.5 years.
In September of this year, I moved six hours away from home for the first time and into a small apartment with him. We got a cat. My boyfriend goes to university and I've taken a year off school to get acquainted with being an adult and living in the big city. For some context, I'm used to living in a big house on a farm and now I'm living in a very small apartment in a very big city. It's very stressful for me.
I'm holding down two shitty minimum wage jobs as both a server and a gas station attendant. I miss my family and my farm and my animals so much. It's Christmas now and I'm home for the holidays and I'm starting to consider that maybe I don't want to go back to the big city. I like living at home and I'm getting kind of tired of working so hard to be with him. I have to be away from pretty much everything that makes me happy and work shitty jobs. But I love him so much and I've already put so much work into this. He is my best friend and I feel like my world would fall apart without him. I guess I just needed to vent, support and advice are welcome.
TL;DR: | LDR became in person relationship, had to give up a lot to be together, wondering if it's worth it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F [21] M [24] - I want to make him feel special
POST: Been together for 2 years now and everything is amazing. He treats me so well to the point where I don't think I could be happier. I've heard from friends he is also planning on proposing to me which makes me super excited, because if it happens I know i'll say yes. I want to spend my life with him. He ticks all the check boxes.
Here's where i'm worried. When we started dating he was a virgin and I was not. I had 2 sexual partners before him. Early on in the relationship we discussed things like sexual encounters and whatnot and he told me he was never into meaningless sex or one night stands and would rather make love and lose his virginity to the right girl. I found this so endearing and it was actually a massive plus in my eyes. We ended up making love and he lost his virginity to me.
The one thing that is on my mind is that, I lost my virginity to someone I regret doing it with, and after that I had a drunken sexual encounter, while he was able to hold off for 22 years of his life.
I guess my question is such: I want him to feel like he made the right decision and make him feel special, like I'm also giving him something... Am I overthinking this?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend lost his virginity to me, I don't want him to feel less special because he's my 3rd. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What should I do with this cat?
POST: Hey reddit,
So here's the deal. I was hanging out watching TV when this cat just swoops onto my deck and I'm like "Yes." My best friend/roommate and I have wanted a cat since we moved in. Everyone else in the house seemed pretty ok with it. So we've had it for a couple of days, sprayed it for fleas, washed it, fed it.
Now our one roommate turns out to be allergic. She's really nice and isn't like "Get rid of the cat." but I don't think it would be cool to keep it around and be like "let's just see how it goes/how much of this you can take before you stop breathing."
So I was going to take it to [PAWS] cause they're non-kill BUT they "rarely take animals from the public" because they're too busy saving animals from places that do kill. So now I kind of half-own this awesome cat and i don't want it to die but I don't want to make my one roommate suffer either.
TL;DR: | I have this [cat] What the fuck do I do with this [cat?] P.S. This cat is the [bomb.]( |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[30F] am not sure if long distance relationship is a good idea at my age with my boyfriend [32] 1.5 years
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years. I have a good stable career and dislike moving around while he has a very unstable academic trajectory which forces him to periodically move to different cities. I plan to be married before I'm 35 and have a child before then as well. With his location uncertainties, I would have to give up my career to move around with him. He is perfect for me in every other way except this uncertainty in geography. We're both attractive people, so is it better to break it off even though I love him due to practicality?
TL;DR: | I love my boyfriend but we'll be doing LDRs for an uncertain amount of years, should I break up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: I [23 FTM] am falling in love with my girlfriend [18 F] of two months, but keep getting stuck. How do I get this out?
POST: I have been dating my girlfriend now for a little over two months and I've known from the get go that this relationship has been different than anything I've ever had in the past. I'm out to her as Female to Male transgender (ftm) and she is amazing and completely supportive of me. We have been friends for about five months before dating and had long indepth talks about life, sex, our wants and needs in life, and those sorts of topics.
Lately I keep finding myself just looking at her in different moments and just thinking in my head "I love you". Whether we're just laying in bed being silly, making dinner, doing homework together, or dancing around my kitchen I keep wanting to say it. I just don't know how to. I've told her already that these feelings are coming and that she has no pressure to say it back to me if she doesn't feel it yet.
I guess my question is how do I get the courage to tell her "I love you". I've never said it to anyone before or felt feelings as strong as these. It scares and excites me, but I also don't want to scare her because we're still a fairly new relationship. Does this just slip out at some point or is there a moment when you just know it's the right time to say it?
TL;DR: | I've fallen in love with my girlfriend of two months and don't know how to say I love you outloud. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I Just Got Robbed By the Police. Any Advice?
POST: I got a call tonight, my friend is in jail. The bond set at $250.
I went down to the jail, and was told to pay $250 to bail him out.
I gave them the money, and was told to wait.
A few minutes later, they called me back up to the window.
They then told me that my friend was "not bondable."
When I asked them for my money back, they told me that since it was already put on his books, they couldn't give it back.
What?
You told me the deal ($250 an your friend gets bonded).
I lived up to my end of the deal.
You then tell me you can't live up to your end of the deal, but you can't refund my money.
Isn't this, by definition, theft by deception?
What the fuck?
Any advice or insight would be appreciated.
TL;DR: | Paid $250 to bail out a friend, then told he can't be bailed and I can't have my money back |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (23/f) am getting mixed signals with my (27/m) crush. How can I tell if he's really interested?
POST: So I met this guy about 3 weeks ago through friends and we were both clearly attracted to each other. We've been on 3 dates since, all of which have ended with kissing and have generally been great. Between our dates, our communication consists of brief texting, almost daily, but not consistent. When we're together, it seems like we're both into each other and having a great time but he hasn't really shown me that he's super interested in me.
I feel like he takes his time with reaching out to me and setting up another date. I'm not sure if he's playing hard to get or if he's just not that into me. I don't know anything about his relationship history or his intentions with me and that may have something to do with it... but there hasn't been a time where it felt natural to bring up. I'm just confused and don't know how to proceed.
Reddit, if you have any insight, this frustrated female would greatly appreciate it.
TL;DR: | Me (23/f) is really crushing on (27/m) but I'm getting mixed signals. How do I proceed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU-by insulting a strangers shoes
POST: So ealier today when my dad and I were walking around in adidas, I offered to buy him a pair of shoes since it's his birthday. I left him alone to pick out a pair he wants as I went some socks. When I came back, I saw my dads figure from behind. He was trying out the brightest, most flashiest pair of pink running shoes I have ever seen. This pair of shoe shined brighter than a flamingo that is genetically modified to glow pink. Knowing that my dad likes to dress conservatively by trying to avoid flashy clothing, I figured he wanted to joke around with me by making me think that those were the shoes he wanted. So I decided to play along, by using my loudest voice saying: "I know you want to feel young again, but those look absolutely hideous on you". As soon as he turned around, I knew that I fucked up big time. The man was not my dad, but was a complete stranger, rocking a ragged beard and staring at me with puppy eyes, full of sadness. I felt the whole store staring at me with punishing eyes as the color drained out of my face. Needless to say, I dashed out of the store faster than a constipated bear on speed. When I looked back, I saw a single teardrop rolling down the cheek of the poor man I just publicly humiliated.
TL;DR: | saw my dad try on a pair of flamingos, told my dad they were hideous. The man was not my dad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Fuck...I think I'm [25M] in love with my roommate [25F]
POST: I really wish I wasn't in this situation because I think it's one of those situations where no matter how it ends, it will end bad.
So I've been living with her for a few months and in the past month we have become really close. To the point where we snuggle and talk about everything but it never goes any further because we both know its not "like that" and we're just friends. Talks get really deep, though.
Anyways, I started to develop a crush on her and each day it grows bigger and bigger. I play it cool everytime I'm around her but inside, I'm completely foolish for her.
And I think there might be a chance (50/50) that she could be into me too. She started texting me a lot and always asks to hang out which didn't happen before I started crushing on her. We barely spoke that much before these feelings developed and now we talk all the time.
The reason this whole thing is bothering me is because if I tell her how I feel and she doesn't like me back, I don't want either of us to have to move out (which I feel would have to happen). I love living with her and I am perfectly fine with us being friends if she doesn't feel the same but we all know how these things always end up.
I kinda just want these feelings to go away and we just stay friends but I don't know if its gonna go away.
What do you guys think I should do?
TL;DR: | In love with roommate but if things don't work out, don't want her (or me) to have to move out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Just got a great new job, I hate it!
POST: I've had a number of menial jobs over the years. My last one was working in a post room. I worked there for 4months and although I was eager to leave eventually I grew to really enjoy it. This new position is in IT, I got it through and internal restructuring. It's a lot better paid, but literally from Day 1 I've hated it. It's only day 3 now and I feel awful, anxious and brutally depressed
Is it too early to ask for my old job back? I know people will stay to stick it out. But I'm struggling to finish the week at this point, let alone any longer. Thing is, I don't really know exactly why I hate it, I just do! I know there is another internal vacancy in HR which was my 2nd choice before. Should I ask about that?
TL;DR: | I hate my new, well paid, professional job. I want to go back to my old one! Is it unreasonable? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I feel like I can only love one person at a time, is there something wrong with me?
POST: I (18F) feel so very unattached to everyone but one person at a time.
I have a boyfriend currently, and love him very much, but I feel like he is the only person I would care about leaving if I up and moved to China tomorrow.
To be clear, I don't ditch my friends when I am in a relationship, I see them often and want the best for them. I just feel as if I wouldn't care if I left them.
This isn't just speculation, I transferred schools last year and left everyone I had known since elementary school, and I didn't care at all. Didn't keep in contact, didn't miss them.
This worries me. I think I should care for my friends and family and miss them if they were gone.
Am I broken? Is there something wrong with me?
My father's mother's marriage broke down because she was only capable of loving one person at a time. It was my grandfather, and then when my father was born, my grandfather no longer mattered.
I'm worried about myself and my future family.
TL;DR: | Is it wrong to only feel attached to one person at a time? I feel as if I can only love one person. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What should I have done?
POST: So I go out for a run by my apt. I'm out on a long easy day, so I'm running for just over an hour.
TL;DR: | While out on a run a gay guy hit on me. I'm straight and I didn't know how to react. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17/M] do not feel the same about my girlfriend [18/F] of nearly 10 months as I used to, but I do not know what to do.
POST: My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly 10 months now, but I just do not feel the same about her as I used to. I used to feel like she was the most amazing thing ever, but now I think of her almost like a good friend.
I kind of want to end our relationship, but it would be so awkward since we're both in high school still and sit together at lunch and see each other a lot during the day.
Prom is also coming up on April 30th and I do not want to leave her close to prom, since we already got tickets and she already got a dress. I've been talking to her about this and she said that if it came down to it she would still like to go to prom as friends, but I think that would be extremely awkward. I also hate hurting people emotionally and physically. What should I do?
TL;DR: | I don't feel the same way about my girlfriend, but I do not want to hurt her, what should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [f19] have doubt about continuing my relationship with my [m22] boyfriend of four months
POST: Sorry for the formatting, i'm on mobile and english isn't my native language.
So i've been dating this guy for a little more than four months and we recently DTR'ed. But now i'm not sure if i want to continue things, in the beginning i had doubts but i thought it was gone, but now it's back. I feel annoyed for no reason by him. I'm also terrified when he mentions things about next year, like literally pure panick.
I don't really know why i have this feeling, maybe it's because i 'got' him now or because the long time thing frightens me.
I feel terrible because it feels like i'm lying to him but i also feel like it's crazy and really unfair to end things. So i'm thinking about sitting some time out or something like that.
I'm really hoping someone can give me some advise. And i also like to mention that he is like my first 'relationship'.
TL;DR: | I'm not sure if i really don't have feelings for my bf anymore or if i'm overreacting. |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Reality check yesterday: I'm going bald
POST: So I got my hair cut yesterday and upon coming home my girlfriend asked me to turn my head and started looking at my hair up close. She then says, "I don't want to freak you out, but your hair is thinner back where guys get a bald spot. I think you're starting to lose your hair". We took video of my head up close so she could show me and sure enough, you can see my scalp more easily back there. This is a new development within the past year or two i guess.
I'm 25, always considered myself decent looking, whole family has hair. Now what? Rogaine? Propecia apparently is linked to low labido. I would rather have no hair than no erection. Any others have any tips/suggestions? Thanks.
TL;DR: | Got my haircut, gf noticed hair is thinning in back, I feel like life took a shit on me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Men of reddit: Have you ever regret dumping your ex gf only a year/years later? Me (19/M), EX GF (20/F)
POST: Have you ever regret dumping an ex girlfriend of 2 years (she's great, attractive, funny who loves you wholeheartedly and more!) because you felt that you're too young (about 19 years old) and missing out in life? That you felt that you're tied down because the relationship was serious?
And you felt that you've met the right person but at the wrong time and i know i won't ever get a girl like her again.
It's been about 5-6 months after the break up and i wondered if I would ever regret it in the future although I think I am doing okay now and enjoying my single life.
Is dumping a girl because you felt that you're too young is a bad excuse and i would definitely realize that its a big mistake years later?
TL;DR: | Possibility of regret dumping a great girl only a year/years later? Although I'm doing O.K now. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I have something REALLY stinky in my fridge, and I'm afraid to open it. What do I do?
POST: So, around the beginning of the semester, about three months ago, I unplugged my minifridge, which I thought to be empty and unused, so that I could plug in a lamp. Well, today, I needed something refridgerated, so I plugged the thing back in, and opened it up.
I was then greeted with the worst stench I have ever experienced in my life. Apparently, there's a glass bowl of...something...that had been sitting in there for god knows how long. I closed it as quickly as I could, and I haven't touched it since.
Obviously, I have to clean the damn thing out, but I'm afraid that I'll stink up my dorm permanently in the process. Is there anything I can do to stop that from happening?
TL;DR: | Rotten food in dorm minifridge, don't want room to be permanently stinky, wtf do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: How do I file taxes as a nanny?
POST: Hello everyone,
A little background: So I am a 22 year old college student in Illinois. I have been babysitting for my brother and sister-in-law for a little over a year. They finally decided to put the baby in daycare and I no longer caring for my nephew.
I did the math and received about 17k from them. I did some research and I see I need to fill out a form and have a pay stub. I will not be receiving a W2 form and I never received a pay stub. They gave me a check weekly and I would deposit it into my account. My question is do I really have to file my taxes? Couldn't I just say my brother gave me $10,000 as a gift and my sister-in-law gave me $7,000 as a gift? I read that gifts of $10k are allowed per person. I am fully aware if I do claim this money I would have to pay a hefty sum since no taxes were taken from me throughout the year. I just need more advice on what to do.
TL;DR: | Received 17k for babysitting. Should I claim it? Even if I don't have a pay stub or W2 form. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: My dog just got hit by a hit a run truck. Advice?
POST: I was outside smoking. Dakota was supposed to be in the back yard, gate shut. Suddenly a white truck speeding down the road hit something, and I heard a guy yell something about a dog. I run out there to find my dog had slipped out the gate and while going to greet the man walking across the street as a stupid but lovable dog does, she was hit. The truck did not slow down or anything. I am waiting for a call from the Animal Hospital. What can I do when I find the truck? Legally is there anything available for me? I see the truck every night speed down this road.
TL;DR: | Asshole on Christmas hit my dog, going well over the speed limit, and did not slow down. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I dumped a girl by walking out of a movie theater, told her I had pee. What is the worst break up story you have?
POST: We had had a few drinks and then sneaked some beer into the theater. The Dark Knight Rises, of course, I've had a hard on for it since last summer. She proceeds to get even more drunk and won't leave me alone, keeps trying to have a conversation, make out, touch my love gun, make me scratch her record. This goes on for 3/4 of the movie, so about 5 hours, then she starts talking to the couple 2 seats from us, tells the woman she thinks she is sexy. I lost it and ditched. She drove, I would never leave a girl stranded.
It was just the last straw, bad relationship to begin with.
TL;DR: | GF GOT DRUNK AND RUINED THE DARK KNIGHT RISES SO I LEFT HER AT THE THEATER |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [32 F] with my bf [32 M] of 1 year: I suck at jokes. Anyone have advice on how can I be more funny?
POST: My boyfriend of 1 year and I were friends before we dated, and I know his ex-gf as we all used to work together. She is legitimately a very funny woman, and he's talked her up as the "funniest woman he's ever met".
The problem is, I'm not really that funny. I'll get a good joke or zinger in there every now and again, and we do laugh with each other, but mostly over silliness and tickling and stuff like that. The best I can describe my sense of humor is like Pam from The Office. He usually laughs at me, not with me or because I'm an awesomely funny girlfriend.
I have lots of other great qualities, and our relationship is awesome in almost every other way; we communicate well, our sex life is ridic, we enjoy the same things intellectually, our spiritual lives are bolstered by the other person, etc. I just find myself wondering if there is anything I can do to be more genuinely funny, especially because knowing his ex was the "funniest woman he's ever met" doesn't really help my self esteem in this department. He often teases me gently and jokingly about not being funny, and its starting to get to me.
Anyone have any advice on how I can be more funny?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend's ex is the funniest woman alive, my jokes bomb hard. How do I not be so sucky. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: In a few weeks, I'll be moving in with a roommate for the first time ever. What are some golden rules for a happy co-existence?
POST: Hey Reddit,
In a few weeks, I'll be doing a long distance move, and going to be sharing a home with a friend of mine. I still have a lot of reservations about this, as I have never had a roommate, and I quite enjoy living by myself.
What advice would you give to someone in my situation? I'm a little worried since we're both kind of particular about things, so there could potentially be some conflict about silly little minutiae.
We share a lot of common interests, but is it better to avoid hanging out to give each other space?
If that matters, we're both male, I'm 25; the other dude is 28-ish. Oh, and I'll be working from home.
TL;DR: | How do I make sure I don't end up in of the "roommate from hell" stories on this subreddit? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Merry Christmas! He [19M] likes me, and I [20F] don't even know if I like espresso.
POST: Here's me hoping to GOD he doesn't have Reddit.
So if you look on my reddit history, you'll see 3 years of me being an absolute mess, where I talk about how the last 13 have been a mess. Well, I kinda got my shit together, went to college, and met a bunch of people.
One of those people was Panda. He's this really sweet, introverted, kind of awkward artist. He's also been through hell, and fought his ass off to get where he is. The last month my program has been hell, and he kind of came out of the blue and became a pretty solid friend. He's been coming over, checking on me, making sure I'm sleeping and doing okay, or just hugging me. Hell, the one night I was hella stressed and couldn't sleep, so he came over and cuddled with me, and held me till I fell asleep.
Well, we all went home for Christmas, and I proptly found out from Panda's best friend that he likes me. All I've wanted for months is a boyfriend or something so I feel less lonely, and now I have this guy who's so sweet, and I have no clue how I feel about him.
Even while he was holding me, half of me was like "THIS IS AWESOME" and the other half was just terrified, stressed and anxious that someone was holding me.
On a good day I can't decide on a damn hairstyle and now... I don't know what to do or feel. Do I talk to him? His best friend? Like, damn dude.
TL;DR: | Guy might like me. I don't know if I like him. Or socks. Or how to even figure this out. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [36 M] with my wife [34 F] make my wife feel hot again
POST: I have been married to my wife for 10 years and we have been together for 15. We have two kids and I feel my wife is very hot. She on the other hand has had body issues since she was a teenager. After our second child (6 years ago) her body has changed a lot. Her boobs are not the same and she some changes to physical aspects of her body that go along with child birth. She works out everyday and teaches fitness classes. She is smoking hot but she doesn't feel that way. She is not happy withe way she looks. I tell her everyday at various times that she is beautiful and I think that she looks just as good as she did when we started dating. Our sex life has slowed down because of this. We still have sex but not as often as before and she doesn't like me to see her body at all. I just wanted to know if there was any other suggestions on how to let my wife know she is still looks amazing.
TL;DR: | My wife doesn't like her body; She looks amazing how can I tell her that and make her believe me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How can I access the content of a banned subreddit?
POST: I know what you may be thinking and no it's not a porn one. It was a self-help community where one of the moderators tried to scam people so the subreddit was banned. The community there was incredibly vibrant and there was a ton of awesome content that was put up through a lot of hard work by the whole community. I would love to go back and access it.
I understand deleting all the content if the content was of an illegal nature but otherwise should it not still be accessible? I don't expect the sub to be put back up. Just the ability to access things I wrote along with the work of others.
Thanks for your help.
TL;DR: | SUBREDDIT WITH LEGAL CONTENT WAS BANNED AND I WOULD LIKE TO BE ABLE TO ACCESS IT AGAIN |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [29 M] with my wife [28 F] of 2 years, getting divorce but I'm still in love with her
POST: We've been living apart for a few months now, separated, and in the final stages of filing for divorce. We've both come to the same conclusion that we are not happy being married. She and I both have said that we still love each other, but due to a number of issues we've grown too far apart to be able to stay married without eventually growing to hate each other.
The hard part is that I am still in love with my wife and I still want to have a relationship with her. She mentioned initially that it might not be out of the question either. I love that woman more than I've ever loved another person, and it's very difficult to see this dissolving in front of my eyes. I realize that holding onto hope that she and I can ever be more than just acquaintances moving forward is foolish, and that I'm probably better off reminding myself of all the good times she and I have had together instead of trying to recreate them. I know she wants to stay close and keep things casual, but I guess I'm still not sure what that really means anymore. I know I'm probably still in shock even though this has been in the works for months now, but every time she leaves it still rips into me like a axe to the ribcage.
TL;DR: | Wife and I Divorcing, still in love with her. Not looking for answers, just need to vent I guess. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Pets
TITLE: How to get my cat to not hate me?
POST: My cat recently got an eye infection. He gets them often but this one was way worse. We had him on three meds three times a day and he reacted horribly to those.
We went back and the vet changed it to two meds three times a day, one twice a day and one once a day. This adds up to four times a day I have to grab him and medicate him (both orally and in the eye).
I have already noticed a change in behavior as he is more skiddish around me now. And I honestly cant blame him since for the last four days every time I have touched him has been to be medicated or go in the crate for the vet.
How can I keep some of his trust through this process? I don't want to lose it because he is a scared cat and it takes a lot to gain his trust. I'm keeping his feeding schedule, keeping his litter box extra clean and trying to praise and give him treats as much as possible. Unfortunately he hasn't been in the mood to play much as that is how I've got his trust before.
TL;DR: | Cat is on meds four times a day and I don't want him to hate me and lose my trust for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How has karma (IRL) paid you back?
POST: About a month ago, on my way out to class, an old lady was waiting inside a train station before the turnstiles. She only spoke Chinese and probably didn't have any money on her person. She asked everyone that walked by if they had an extra fare for her to get into the station. I happened to have a spare round-trip metrocard and I gave it to her. She thanked me as I left. Fast forward to today, again on my way to class, some lady walks out of the station with a metrocard in hand. "Are you going to take the train? Here take it, it's my monthly metrocard and it's expires today!" she says and hands me the card. Karma paid me back exactly $4.50.
TL;DR: | Gave $4.50 to an old lady for subway fare one month ago and karma returns my $4.50. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my friend [17 F] first date?
POST: I have talked with this girl for a while. I really like her and we have had a class for the semester but did not really talk too much in class, but we started to talk near the end of the semester. She hinted she wanted something that I won and I gave it to her. She then gave me back something in return when we had a secret santa kind of thing in class.
I got her number on the last day of class. We stayed after school and talked for about thirty minutes and got to know each other a little better and she had good vibes.
I texted her that I wanted to take her out friday night after finals (we would never see each other again so I had to ask over text(I couldn't call either because she uses an ipod to text)). She accepted and seemed to be excited. I am taking her to a light event show this friday night, and it will be cold outside, but fun none of the less because we both haven't been to it before.
How do I elevate the moment to hold her hand etc.?
TL;DR: | Have talked to her for a bit, good vibes, got her number, asked her out. How do I escalate? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25 M] [24 M/F] Girlfriends bad experience with ex from 2 1/2 years ago still giving her attachment issues
POST: My girlfriend and I are very open about our past sex lives with each other. She knows she's my first ever sexual partner, and I know she's had one in the past.
The problem is, even though she doesn't have feelings for that 1 other partner anymore [as it was about 3 years ago] she's still very skeptic of her own feelings now. She fell in love, but it wasn't reciprocated at all; he did take advantage of it though ((came on her chest one time, quickly too apparently. This part gets to me, a lot, but nonetheless...))
The main issue is that she doesn't want to fall too hard for me because of that, and I don't know what to do about it. It's driving me ballistic that this dude that she fell for a few years ago damaged her ability to believe her feelings.
She's stubborn, won't listen to anything I've told her so far. Figured i'd give reddit a shot. At the very least I'd like to know how to ease my ~~absolutle rage~~ *ahem* anger towards the guy, and how to get past that.
TL;DR: | 2 years ago a fuckhead made her fall in love & now she's a skeptic when it comes to her feelings |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16M] commented on my crush pic [16F] for the first time BUT REMOVED it, and what do I do now?
POST: I'm a guy [16M] and I commented my crush, who is a girl [16F], facebook pic for the first time.
It was something like ''What a Hottie'' and some smileyhearteyes.
She got a boyfriend [18M], they've been together for almost a year now and I didn't wanna get in to trouble, so I removed it.
She responded to everyone else (5 people) except me and it got me sad and my confidence sank to the bottom.
I am wondering if I'm just going to let it go or like give her a text with like ''Screw what happend the other day, can we just forget it like it never happend''?
Or should I do something else? Please let me know what you guys think.
TL;DR: | Me [16M] commented a crushs pic [16F], removed it due to she have a boyfriend and what do I do now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 M] wonders how to ask about safe sex/ sex history with [23 F] partner
POST: So I met this girl recently off a dating app and we hit it off super well. After a short "lets make sure neither of us is being catfished" date I quickly set up a second date to which she agreed to immediately.
2nd date got really hot towards the end of the night. We made out and did a lot of foreplay but did not have sex- mostly due to me forgetting my condoms.
3rd date is her coming over to my place for dinner and Netflix & chill session. (Yes I used those exact words and she hilariously agreed.)
Now I really like this girl, and from what I've seen so far wouldn't mind dating her. However I'm kind of paranoid about STD's after one of my best friends got herpes about a year ago. She hasn't given me any signs that she's anymore promiscuous than your average 20 something or anything like that, but I just remember all the high school bio lectures drilling the safe sex triage questions into my head.
I'm not cancelling our date and still am very attracted to her. I'm just wondering how do you ask someone about sexual past and if/when they've been tested without ruining the mood.
TL;DR: | How do you ask if they've been tested w/o ruing the mood on a date that you know will lead to sex? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Help! On and off, 2 year realtionship. Solid for a year now. My (28f) boyfriend (30m), just made a weird request
POST: So, about an hour ago, my bf called me to say that his boss needed to stay at ours for a week. The problem is, we have a 2 bedroom apartment and both rooms are occupied. He then said he'll have to put me and our child into a hotel so his boss could stay here. As I explained this was a discussion we could have later, he was dismissive and we ended the call.
My question is, why is this his easy solution? Why can his boss not stay in a hotel?
He will be home in a couple hours so quick insight would be great!
Any insight would be appreciated.
TL;DR: | bf wants to put me and child in a hotel for a week so his boss can stay in our child's room. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Husband [M24] has been acting really clingy. Told me [F26] not to ask about it anymore.
POST: 3 nights ago, my husband came home from work pretty late - normal time for him to get home as he travels from the city. I was in bed. I heard him come in and get undressed then he got in bed and pulled me really tightly against him. I gave him a kiss and asked if he was okay he said he was fine. Throughout the night I could just feel him pulling me tighter and tighter against him. Like really tight, struggling to breath tight. His chest was trembling like he was scared. What would he be scared of though?
He's done the same thing for the last 3 nights. I asked him to tell me what was wrong a few times , eventually he just told me to "stop asking." I'm not really sure what to do. He's never done anything like this before. He barely talks in the morning. He's just really clingy.
TL;DR: | Husband [M24] has been acting really clingy. Told me [F26] not to ask about it anymore. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Should I move from NJ to FL. Need help weighing the pros and cons
POST: Ok so heres the back story. Im 21 years old and a senior in college. Ive lived with my mom the whole time and never went away to college so needless to say living at home is getting a little old. My step mom has a place on the coast of Florida and has offered for me to live there (by myself or with a roommate) after i graduate in May. If i move there I would probably live there a year then start grad school or just see how it goes and move back if i dont want to start grad school
Heres my problems with moving there...Id be far away from my family, Id be leaving behind all my friends and god knows if id make new ones, Id need to find a job, and I dont have a roommate quite yet that would move with me so id pretty much be alone.
Here are the pros though....Its right near the beach, Id get to reinvent myself, Itd be a nice change of scenery, and Id finally be out of the house.
Hopefully you guys can give me some help and help me make somewhat of a decision
TL;DR: | have an option of a place to live in florida but cant decide on whether its a good idea just yet. |
SUBREDDIT: r/GetMotivated
TITLE: Thank You
POST: I've been reading to this subreddit for about a month now. In that month I've managed to lose 15 pounds, start the Couch to 5k program, and asked out the girl that I've been pining after since January (which I did today). Unfortunately, she was not single like I had thought, but the fact that I managed to man up and ask her is a reward in itself.
Had this been last year, or even two months ago, I would currently be starting a crippling cycle of self-hatred and defeat that would last anywhere from a month to 6 months. Instead, I will not allow this to bring me down. I'll take this weekend to reflect on my mistakes (as well of the triumph of actually asking), then use the lessons I've learned to better myself. And it's all thanks to you guys.
TL;DR: | I manned up, asked a girl out, got beat to the punch, and won't let it bring me down. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By Standing In an Ant Bed
POST: So Reddit, this was technically last night, but none the less.
My dad was working on building a shelter for our AC unit, and was cutting 2x4s with a table saw. He needed my help because he was scared of the boards catching and flying up and hitting him in the head, so he asked for my help.
Being the good son I am, I happily agreed, even though it was 10 at night and dark. I threw on my flip flops and walked outside, he has me on one side and him on the other holding each end of the board.
The first board we cut without incident, so we go to the second one, and this is where the shit went to the fan. We're in the middle of cutting it and I feel something crawling on my leg and my foot starts to sting, I can't see what it is and I start freaking out. I take one hand off the board to get whatever it is off and WHAM! My glasses fly one way, half the 2x4 shoots out to the side and the other half shoots up and uppercuts me with the force of a thousand suns.
I sat there in shock for a few seconds trying to see if my jaw was still there, luckily it was, and now I'm sitting here with an upper lip similar to Angelina Jolie's and a sore mouth.
The worst part is my dad started laughing..
TL;DR: | ant bites me, get in a fist fight with a 2x4, 2x4 wins, free plastic surgery. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is she [17 F] flirting with me [17 M] or is she just being overly friendly?
POST: The girl I currently have a crush on flirts with me an insane amount and I just never seem to catch on until after it happens. Hell, I don't even know if it's flirting or she just considers us good enough friends to push the boundaries. When we're in class, whenever a guy and a girl seem to be getting along she comments on how flirty they are, when we do the exact same thing all the time. She rests her foot on mine under the desk. I playfully hit her on the arm with one of those bendy rulers once and she teasingly said that she was 'into it'. One time she took my pencil and I went to grab it and she made sure to comment how I 'almost touched her boob'. In fact, she talks about her boobs a hell of a lot. One time she tried to figure out whether I've kissed anyone before (I haven't), but I never told her that. Probably the biggest one though is the fact that I made her a list of movies/TV shows she should watch, which she does, but one day she kept talking about how she 'loves cosy movie days and nights with people'. I was pretty sure she was trying to hint at me to invite her over, but wasn't sure enough to ask. There's been a couple of occasions like that where even I know she's flirting, but I panic too much to come up with something good to say back. So, is she for sure flirting with me or not?
TL;DR: | Girl flirts with me a lot, but I can't tell if she's just being friendly a lot. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I have a friend who believes they have a very unique form of memory loss, can anyone help?
POST: This past weekend a friend opened up to me about something that had bothered them all their life. It was 8pm this saturday and for the 3rd time in 30 min she had repeated the same question. I half jokingly asked her if she had short term memory loss and never expected her to tell me this:
-If she is tired or under the influence of alcohol (even just a little) she forgets conversations.
-She never remembers people's names or faces even after meeting them numerous times. (She's self diagnosed herself with something called 'prosopagnosia')
-She has lived in one place for 18 years and still has difficulty with directions to places within a few miles of her house.
-She can't remember things like her multiplication tables no matter how hard she tries (she learned to cope by counting on her fingers)
-She's talked to a therapist and psychiatrist who say there is no possible treatment for it, and doctors who she asks about it say she is making a big deal out of nothing.
She's scared for her future career as she'd never remember a patients face and believes it's hopeless. Please Reddit does anyone know ways to cope or even a doctor with a diagnosis for something like this?
TL;DR: | Friend cannot remember faces, even of family sometimes. Thinks it's prosopagnosia, what can we do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M] have been friends with a girl [20 F] for years, things have been getting flirty and weird.
POST: So I've been friends with this girl since high school, and up until recently its been fairly platonic. However, over the last few months, whenever we would get drunk together (once every few weeks or so always at parties), we'd end up getting pretty flirty. One night a few weeks ago when she was drunk she texted me straight up saying she liked me. However, every following day, she says to disregard everything and acts like everything was just us being drunk.
A few weeks ago I decided to just ask her out on a date via text but she said no because she felt like it would change things too much and could just make things weird between us.
Since then we hadn't really talked too much up until last night. We were both drunk at a party and kissed a couple of times just for a couple of seconds each time. But again she texted me today saying to just disregard everything from last night.
I've kinda always had a thing for her but I was fine just being friends up until all the flirting started to happen. I just feel like I'm getting mixed messages and I'm not sure what I should do about it. I don't even really know what I want out of our relationship but I know I don't like mixed signals I'm getting now.
TL;DR: | Things get flirty when we're drunk, but not when we're sober, and I don't know what to do about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Family hates my bf(19) (f19) . We've been together for a year.
POST: Some background on my family. I'm mexican and he's white. My family (including aunts, uncles, etc) have always looked down on white just because a select few "screwed them over". So now they think they are low pricks who just take advantage of minorities. They are asses and I hate the way they treat him.
Now to the important matter he has been around a lot family parties mainly because I can't stand my family. I can never face them alone without flipping out. So I either go with him or not at all. They are always talking smack about him because he's white. They purposefully miss say his name in front of him to embaress him. Also they says that he's "useless" "not worthy" and so much bull shit. I've talked to them about how it bothers me but they still do it. And it's in the worst way possible. Please any advice will help.
TL;DR: | family hates bf. Treat him like scum. I've tried talking to them but they won't stop. Please help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/f] Don't know what to do about a distant boyfriend (19/m)
POST: So I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months and in the beginning everything was perfect. But starting from a couple months ago we started fighting more, with fights usually ending witn him jinting abiut breaking up. The fights usually are cause he wasn't texting me or calling me enough. Then last month, because we were both busy (I go to highschool and had a trip one weekend, and he's in the navy and we live an hour and a half away from each other) we didn't see each other. So we see each other last weekend and everything's fine, and he's talking like he's planning on seeing me this weekend. Then on Friday he tells me he's going to the beach with his friends. Lately he takes forever to reply back to my texts (granted, the cell service is practically non-existent on the snip). We only have two months together until he's deployed and I go off to college. I got upset again and we ended up in a huge fight. Am I wrong in wishing he cared a little more or am I just being overly sensitive, and how do I make him care more?
TL;DR: | I feel like my boyfriend doesn't care, am I just over analyzing, and how do I make him care again? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my boyfriend [21m] of 3 years had a sex shop discussion blow up into something big.
POST: Me and my bf have been dating for three years now and things obviously aren't perfect. It doesn't help that I'm insecure (something I have been working very hard on improving)
So the issue at had is that he has a female friend (let's call her Sarah) whom I have met only once. He told me they were talking and decided that we should all go to a sex shop (bf, me, Sarah and Sarah's friend)
I don't know why but this made me uncomfortable, I barely know this girl or her friend. I feel like visiting a sex shop should be someth between my boyfriend and I. He thinks it's all good fun and I should be okay with it because "it's not a big deal". I think it's wrong but can't find the words to explain why.
This argument spiraled into a big issue.
Am I wrong to be upset? Should I just get over it?
TL;DR: | boyfriend wants to go to a sex shop with me and two of his female friends, I think it's wrong. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20/f] asked him [22/m] to hang out tonight and I think I'm getting blown off, do I follow up or just let it go?
POST: I've known this guy for a while, always had a bit of a crush on him. He's asked me out a few times before, but the timing of our other relationships was never quite right.
TL;DR: | I asked a guy out, he said he wanted to go and he would get back to me tomorrow, he never did. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Who are the biggest d-bags on reddit?
POST: I was browsing r/new when I happened upon a really dumb post on r/funny that wasn't funny. I clicked on the username to see if this guy was had anything funny, or if he is just a complete moron. Turns out he's a complete moron. The username is [Shadywack] After searching through his history, out of sheer boredom, I see that this guy hangs out in r/AmISexy, r/AmIUgly, r/gonewild, etc, telling girls they are fat, or ugly, or have weird looking chins. I understand that r/AmISexy is looking for reinforcement or feedback, but when these people are hardly overweight, he tells them they are disgustingly obese. I wouldn't mind so much if he were telling fat slobs that they are fat slobs, but he's calling average sized women fat slobs.
TL;DR: | [Shadywack] tells average size, pretty women, that they are fat and ugly. I think he's a d-bag. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: When should I [25m] think about getting married to my GF [22F]
POST: I thought this might be interesting to ask & talk about. As it's something on my mind.
While I'm not in any immediate rush to get married, I'm interesting to know when you think the right time is? Do you have a minimum time constraints, Issues to sort out with your partner before moving onto that stage, etc?
I'm curious, I was with a girl for 2.5 years and never saw that potential so it ended eventually. With someone for 6 months and things are good & I see that potential. I know time isn't always an indicator.
I'm after advice on what to look for, as I don't to waste time anymore.
TL;DR: | In a relationship, hoping it's the real deal, what should I start to look for to see if it is? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just caught a glimpse at what America is turning into. Whats the most asshole-y thing someone has done to you recently?
POST: So my dad and I went canoeing over the weekend, something we both very much enjoy. As we were drifting down the Harpeth, we pass a bunch of college guys drinking and partying on the side of the river. This was no problem, except they simply disposed of beer cans, pizza boxes, and other shit by throwing in the river. We ignored there assholishniss and continued enjoying the scenery. When we get to the end of the trip, it turns out they were right behind us the entire time (the river was to winding to see). As we get out and head back to our car, continue to follow us. Turns out they had parked right next to us in an older Mercedes SUV. Right as we are about to pull out, the driver slams his door against my dad's car, denting it pretty badly. Of course my dad rolls down his window to confront the guy, only to hear him yell quite loudly, "FUCK OBAMA!" after looking at the stickers on the side of our car. Then, without saying anything else, he drove off at a moronic speed over grass. To top it off, he almost drove into us at 50 mph on the single lane road back to town. If my dad hadn't of swerved, he would have clipped or side pretty damn hard. I do have his license plate number if anyone knows how to track him down.
TL;DR: | Drunk guy dented my dad's car, yelled at him, and then tried to hit him on the way back to town |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, what is the most unintentionally creepy thing you have ever done?
POST: As a preface, i should probably mention that i have been told that i have the axe murderer look. Anyway, my story occured not too long ago. One day, on my way to visit a friend I decided to buy a bottle of water from a coffee shop, I noticed an attractive girl standing in front of me in the queue. She turns and smiles at me and I smile back, she leaves about a minute before me. As I am walking, just staring down the street, kind of just lost in my own thoughts. I notice the girl several feet in front of me. She turns around and her smile just morphs into a face of absolute terror. She starts to walk faster and crosses the street, unfortunately for me I had to also cross the street to get to my friend's house. I assume by this point she thought I was following her. Anyway, I don't know what I was thinking, but I decided to run ahead of her to somehow show her that I was not following her and hopefully, she would just think I was late for something. Well... I could not catch up to her and eventually she noticed me running after her. So I just decided to take a diversion which took me an extra 15 minutes to get to my destination.
TL;DR: | Did not realise I was following a girl and now I will forever be a creep to her. Sigh... D: |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [23M] with [21F], dating for a month, she's having a hard time and I don't know how much to get involved
POST: Met this girl a while back and we started dating right away. We've been on five dates, and she's pretty shy. In the last few days she's been hinting at some intense stuff going on in her life, but I honestly have no idea what she's dealing with. She seems sad, had an argument with a friend that went sour, and I honestly have no idea whether I should ask, and try to be there for her or just leave it alone and try to keep the focus of the conversation on positive things until she's ready to share. I normally hang out with extroverts who can pick up on the cues I give them that I'm willing to listen and are comfortable sharing the things that trouble them.
What I really want is to get together with her in person so we can just talk face to face, because I'm bad at interpreting texts, but we haven't planned our next date yet and I feel weird just saying "hey, let's go on a date on _____" out of the blue.
TL;DR: | Do I try to get a shy girl to open up, or should I just keep being me and wait for her to share? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: 20 year old mom and wife in tough spot- should I enlist? (X-post from r/parenting)
POST: Hey there! So to give you some background, I got married at 18 to my husband who was 24. We had a baby 7 months ago and I've been staying home with her, which I love. It's a less than ideal situation because my husband has to work 60 to 70 hours a week. But I don't want my daughter in daycare. However, at this point, we are barely getting by, I never see my husband (he works 2nd shift) and there is no hope for a better future in sight. I am willing to do anything. My husband can't join the military because of a DUI he was arrested but not convicted for and because of terrible credit (our car was totalled, insurance wouldn't cover it, we couldn't make the payments). He isn't done with school and he can't go back right now because of money and his schedule, but he has $35000 in student loans. I, however, have decent credit, no speeding tickets, no debt, no nothing. Joining the military would let my hubby finish school, help us with money problems, and give us security. What should I do?
TL;DR: | My family is in a financial rut with no means to get out. Husband can't join military- should I? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: stuck in a shitty family situation
POST: Ok reddit, ill get right to it. I am supposed to go to school in china in 2 weeks, but if I leave my family will implode and my dad will get completely fucked over. Basically my parents marriage is being held together by my little sister and I, but if I leave i know my mom is going to pull some sneaky shit and get that poor 14 year old on her side instead of the middle.
I am the only one keeping the balance, but it is my fault that everything is fucked up in the first place. I was a real piece of shit when I was a teenager and would play them off each other, get in their heads, pretty much manipulate them so i would always get my way. I didn't realize what I was doing for two years until I realized that my mom hated my dad, and its all my fault.
Anyway, my dad has lost his mind a little from being so lonely, and my mom is really fucking manipulating, now she just kind of fucks with him. But for some crazy reason he loves her unconditionally and would lose his mind completely if she left. Im really the only one he can talk to and keep him sane, and my little sister is becoming a teenager and just has no interest in any of this.
If I leave, he loses his wife and sanity. If I stay, I wont be able to follow my dream of living in China (cheesy I know but thats how it is) and i will not have another chance to do something like this again, i think
WTF do I do
TL;DR: | if i go to china my family splits up but if i stay i miss out on the best opportunity ill ever have |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, have you ever set up a date with the wrong guy/girl?
POST: I just did and I'll explain: Began texting this girl I had met in the dorms the year before after bumping into her on campus the other day. I play my cards right and land a coffee date. As I'm siting at the coffee shop waiting for her I see this other girl that by the same name come into the shop briefly, look around and then leave to the other side (split by a wall). I think for a few minutes, then realize: I had been texting the wrong "Molly". This was the one I had met in my math class the year before who I was not interested in. I made like a tree and GTFO'd. Sent her a text saying I mixed up the days we were supposed to go get coffee.
TL;DR: | Set up date with wrong girl, found out at beginning of date, she didn't see me. I got out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: donating my egg...what do I tell my boss?
POST: Today I have a meeting with my boss, and I'm planning on telling him about my upcoming egg donation. I'm a high school teacher and I'll be required to show up late to school about 3-6 times, since I'll be getting ultrasounds done every other morning during a 12 day process prior to egg retrieval...so I have to have a clarification of my absence. Just so you know, these ultrasounds MUST be done in the mornings, so it's not like I can just go after I get out of work. He's not a judgmental man, but I'm not exactly sure how to phrase it to him. "I'm donating an egg...can I show up to work late a few times during this 12 day process???" Advice?
TL;DR: | I'm donating an egg, which will cause me to show up late to work 3-6 times. What do I tell my boss? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Seeking advice as things get more serious between me [25 M] and the woman [45 F] I've been dating.
POST: So for the past 6 weeks I [25M American] have been casually dating a 45 year old Japanese woman. No, we have not had sex. Yes, we both understand there's romantic interest. No, there's no age/ethnicity fetish between us, we're both fairly vanilla/sexually conservative people.
As far as dating is concerned: we get along like we've been best friends for life, enjoy each other's company, and really the only thing holding us back from getting more serious (or open) about our dating is each others trepidation about getting romantically involved with a 20 year age gap. Yes, we've talked openly about this but have preferred the 'see how things go approach'. At this point it seems like things are moving in a more serious direction and just this weekend we went together to a BBQ her friends were hosting.
All in all I'm pretty satisfied with the direction things are going but I'm also a bit nervous. I was wondering if anyone in the /r/relationships world had been through anything similar and could give me any advice or warnings. I've talked to friends but, as much of I love my friends, most of them are useless at advice here
TL;DR: | [Me]Younger guy + [Her]Older woman = Some slight anxiety over our developing relationship. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I(27/f) should feel something for him(28/m) after four dates right?
POST: So I (f27) went on four dates with a guy (28) after talking online and a few days of texting.
He was great, really sweet, generous, good looking, fun, and intelligent. But I wasn't feeling it. I didn't get butterflies, my heart didn't beat faster with him, there was no pull. I liked hanging out with him, but I didn't feel it.
I ended it after our fourth date, because I knew he did feel more than me and I didn't want to lead him on. Especially since I had just been lead on for two months by someone else. It's not fun.
My fear since then is that I didn't give it enough time. Maybe if I got to know him even better those feelings would have come.
What do you think? Was i right to end it, or should I have maybe given it more time?
TL;DR: | Dated a guy four times, didn't feel "butterflies", ended it. Should I have given it more time? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/m] My friend [18/f] sent me a picture of her breasts.
POST: I originally posted this to /r/askreddit and was sent here, and I was told you could help.
Okay so my friend who is in a committed relationship showed me her breasts. Now I am a virgin who has done anything beyond light making out (hands to yourself, a little tongue) And she knows this. She is in a committed relationship and she is a huge flirt. I have had a crush on her for a very long time and she said that if she were to break up with her boyfriend that we would probably have sex (She said there was a lot of people she would sleep around with), but the chances of this break up are slim to none. I guess my question is, now that I have all of this information, where does our friendship go from here. I don't what to do with our friendship from here. Any advice or help of any kind would be appreciated. Also sorry if I'm in the wrong subreddit, I didn't know where else to go.
TL;DR: | I have a crush on a friend of mine, she showed me her breasts, I don't know where to go from here. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: MOAs (and anyone else whom this applies to), can you please shed some light on what your job is like working in the clinic/hospital that you work in? Would you recommend it as a good environment to work in?
POST: I'm going through the process of becoming a medical office assistant and have to start figuring out what type of environment I want to work in. I can't decided between a hospital or one of the many options for a clinic. I know it depends on interests but I'm pretty open minded and find most options quite interesting. I was leaning towards a hospital but am also considering specialty clinics such as x-ray/ultrasound, pediatrics, psychology, genetics, women's health/OBGYN...
Just wondering what your experiences are with different work environments and different branches of medicine to shed some more light on all these options. Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
TL;DR: | I want to hear about your job in a clinic/hospital to help me decide where I should work as a MOA. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my bestfriend [16 F] are thinking of a solution to be together
POST: So here's the situation. This girl is my best friend. There is instantly a connection when we hangout and have known each other for just over a month. I have feelings for my best friend, let's call her sam, and she has feelings for me as well. She's everything you could ask for in a girl, beautiful, sweet, smart, understand, very funny, etc etc.
Here's the problem. She is very close with my ex of a year and a half, and she's scared of her reaction if we get together. She's scared of losing her which I totally understand, and neither of us know what to do in this situation.
Any help is appreciated, thank you.
TL;DR: | best friend and I have feelings for each other but she's close with my ex, don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: New friend at university[M18] suddenly stops all communication with me [F18]
POST: About me: I am a university freshman, asexual in orientation, Female, and 18 years old.
I'm taking a first year German course with a group of about fifty students, we are all basically strangers. After the first week a guy starts sitting next to me in the almost empty first row of the theatre and breaks the ice by commenting on a desktop background I have, its of an online cartoon series that he tunes into as well. Since I felt pretty much alone at the new university( I am the only one of my friends who has gone out of state for university besides one of my guy friends who a city over), I felt like I was beginning to make my first friend. We'd do all the group in-class assignments together and see each other in the hallways a bit and chat. I've been getting the feeling he might have liked me but I really wasn't sure ( I've never dated before.) We dont really know anything about each other beyond names and basic classes/profs we have in common.
About a month and a half after the course has started he suddenly stops talking to me and sits on the opposite side of the lecture theatre. I've tried to approach him a couple of times after class but he just packs up his things and literally runs out of there. Do you think I may have scared him off somehow?
TL;DR: | new friend [M18] suddenly stops talking to me [F18] after a month of being class buddies. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: A job I love or a job that pays the bills?
POST: So r/personalfinance, here is my dilemma:
I work a job that I don't like but pays pretty well (hourly but I pick up overtime), about $60k take home.
I got a job offer from my old place of employment in the music industry that I loved working at but left because of the low pay ($30k). But now, they might be offering me a new job making about a $50k salary.
I'm considering taking it but I don't know if I can afford it due to:
1. student loan - $556 (50 payments left)
2. car loan - $280 (20 payments left)
3. rent - $1175
I would be willing to find a new place to live if I needed to but in my area it wouldn't be much cheaper.
I honestly don't know what to do, choosing between doing something I love or something I don't because of money.
Any advise is appreciated!
TL;DR: | 60k take home (with overtime, hourly pay) vs 50k salary Can I afford to take a job I'd love? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Advice for a 24yr (f) Wasting my time?
POST: So I've been interested in this 24 yr (m) for almost a year. We work at the same facility, indirectly. At first he seemed interested, but gradually became distant. I sometimes feel like rumors have been exchanged about me. I can't honestly say what is is, but I digress. Every time him and I make plans he cancels them day of and has an excuse. I've even decided to abstain for this asshole. I understand that things happen and you can't change that, but he's consistent with putting me on a shelf. Should I openly express my feelings for him? Or is this just a waste of my time?
TL;DR: | 24 (f) interested in 24 (m) who keeps blowing me off after asking me out. Waste of time? Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Broke up after 2.5 years...just became her bestfriend - what to do?
POST: So a few days ago my girlfriend[18F] and I[20M] broke up after being together for two and a half years. She said that it was even becoming hard for her to kiss me and it didn't feel good anymore...even though the weekend before we had an amazing time and didn't see this coming.
Now she just wants to stay friends and still do everything we did minus the "boyfriend" stuff because she still really loves me and doesn't want me to disappear from her life. She wants to stay single for the coming months and says "maybe i'll figure out i was wrong about this"
People of reddit...what do I need to do?
TL;DR: | Broke up after 2.5 years,she still loves me but just became her bestfriend - what to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: How do I tell this girl that I like her?
POST: I am 18 and male. There is a girl my age who goes to my school who I really like. A couple weeks ago she gave me her phone number, and now I text her every so often just to talk with her.
I would like to tell her I like her, and I have given it some thought, but I am a bit lost. I am not sure when or how to tell her.
She is in two of my classes, but I do not walk with her in the hallways or talk to her alone at any point in the day. Occasionally I see her in the hallway and we both say hi to each other, but that is about it.
I really do like her a lot and it seems like she likes me, but I am not sure if she likes me enough to date me. I would like to tell her, but I do not know how I would do it. I would like to tell her in person, but I'm not sure how I can. And we don't hangout with each other at all. So do I text her? Or would that not be a good idea? What do you think I should do?
Also, our prom is in early May. Do I tell her I like her before then, do I try and ask her to prom?
My biggest fear is telling her too early (if that even makes sense) and her not liking me as much. However I am willing to tell her, I am just looking for some guidance.
TL;DR: | I am 18, male. I really like a girl in my grade, and I want to tell her, how do I do it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Reddit TIFU by being an asshole for a few months
POST: "Notice this was about 2 years ago"
So i was at a mma place at 2013 then this new guy came to the dojo he looked about my height and age so I got that competitive ass attitude against him. So once I spared with him and I started hitting him really hard then he got hurt but actually after speaking to him for a while he was the nicest guy I met like really. I left the place in 2014, but I can never forget how nice that dude was and how much of an ass I was.
So reddit never judge someone until you actually know them TRUST ME.
TL;DR: | tifu by being an asshole to a guy but turned out to be the nicest guy and new good friend. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 M] with my [24 F] dating for over 7 months, I need some genuine advice to approach this situation
POST: Been dating this wonderful woman for more than 7 months now. She is away visiting family for holidays and we both are still in school. Over new years eve I kissed some one at midnight. Someone I barely knew for a few days. I was quite inebriated. But I know it was a peck on the lips that lasted probably one second( Complete honesty). I feel terribly guilty about it in retrospect and I need to tell her about it.
What is the best way to approach this?(someone with an unfortunate experience like this?) She is still away and I can't wait to see her so I can get this off my chest. Most importantly, I have dated a lot of people casually, but this feeling of sadness that it happened is killing me. I think it also tells me how much I am into her. I would love to hear some advice and just possible ways to approach it. (Sorry for bad grammar and poor sentence construction)
Thank you
TL;DR: | Kissed a girl (Peck on the lips!) for newyears who isnt GF. I have to tell GF. need some advice! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do you handle the first break up correctly? (M20)
POST: Hi. I'm at the point in our relationship where I don't see us contuing this anymore. We've been dating for a bit over 2 year but the last year we've encountered multiple issues..
I tried communicating better but it seems whatever I say to her(F19) goes in in one ear and out the other. She has such a low self esteem and no confidence in herself and it's been dragging me down for the past year.
I tried multiple things to make her feel better about herself but its no use. She doesn't seem to want to listen too me.
The last few weeks have been frustrating. I care alot about her but all the love I had is gone. I feel some extent of frustration every time we try to meet because I know we'll just lie on the couch watch tv and go to sleep early. While she sat at home all day doing nothing and me doing a holiday job at a grocery store. So I want to go out in the evening, to a movie, go for drinks, anything. But she doesn't ever want to.
I don't know where to go next. I feel like breaking up is what I want but I still care about her. She's been my first in everything and I don't know..
TL;DR: | I don't know how to break up with 2y+ gf because I still care about her but the love is gone. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I [19M] break up with [19F] Gf of 4 years?
POST: Ok so basically I still love her and we have been through basically everything together. We are long distance and made it work through the first year of college and everything was great.
But as the year ended and summer was starting we started to fight a lot more and things just kept going downhill. She was like forcing us to spend all our time together. And I really messed up and lost some trust by texting a friend that I thought another girl was hot. But she violated my trust by going through my phone and snooping on it.
Now nothing really feels the same anymore unless we are doing something fun. Like we went on an awesome vacation with my family.
I thought we would be together forever but it feels different like we are reaching an expiration date. With that in mind what should I do? And how should I do it? I've never broken up with somebody and I am terrified that I will not find another girl like her.
TL;DR: | I think I need to break up with HS sweetheart but don't know how and don't have the courage to. |
SUBREDDIT: r/askwomenadvice
TITLE: Life long friend.
POST: So as the title states, this girl (F21) and me(M21) have been friends since we were born, our mothers are best friends so we saw eachother alot in the younger years.fast forward to our teeneage years i hear from her friends and my mother(sigh) that she is into me, but as a shy teenager i dident make a move.
Now however she moved out to study and ill start studying in the same town from september, and last monday she invited me for dinner at her appartment last wedensday and i went there and we had some great food and talked about everything, just sitting there close with her under my left arm. But since i dident wanna make a move nothing really happened. But now my question, could she still be into me, after the date i feel like i might be falling for her aswell, but i really dont wanna make a move if it will destroy a life long friendship.
TL;DR: | Friends for a life time, shes been into me before, invites me to her appartmant, talked all night. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (23/f) boyfriend (24/M) are in a Long Distance Relationship. We haven't met and I think he might propose.
POST: So my boyfriend, Darin, and I, have been together for a little over a year. We haven't met and we won't meet until this summer. We are really happy together, and I love him more than anything. When we "met" we hit it off really well.
Now a year later, we have made plans for me to move after I finish school. My issue is, I don't want to make a promise to marry without knowing for sure we'll make it. No one knows the future, and I worry about something happening. I also don't want to spend more than half of our engagement apart. Not to mention we would have only met and been together one time. I want to be sure he's the one, although I'm fairly certain.
If he were to ask, I know that if I said no, he would be crushed. I would really like to say yes, but I don't want to say it just to appease and make him happy. I would be ecstatic to say yes, but I would like it to be on the terms that I cannot live without him and know that he and I are going to spend our lives together. I don't want to rush things. I realize it's been a year, but I still really want to get to know him in person before I do commit and marry him.
Edits for clarification: I'm visiting in the summer, not moving to his state! I have another year of school left before moving.
TL;DR: | Think my BF of 1 year (LDR) wants to propose when I visit in the summer. Not quite sure what to do. |
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