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SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: So i(18m) been seeing this girl(18f) and fell in love. Need advice from you.
POST: So guys i (18m) need your help she (18f) drives me crazy... i fell in love.
I got to know her through my friends and we were at her house(with some other friends) and she suddenly asks me for a massage(of course i did it)
Sure everything was cool it didn't go further than that.
I started texting her knowing that she is very busy... she isnt even responding to: "hey how are you?" Only as i asked if i am really that unattrictive. She responded by(only) saying that she does her presentation(which she really does i know, we go to the same school).
Then i answered that i am downted by woman pretty fast. And again no answer.
(After that today at school no hug form her for the frist time)
Guys i need your help as u can see i am pretty young, have no clue how to handle the situation. i had no relationship before but i want one with her.
I'd appreciate your advices for me.
Going to meet her on friday on a friend's party
Thank you once again.
TL;DR: | need help with a girl(18f) which is ignoring me if i text her(read the story:p) |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What's the best way to maximize return of the security deposit for a rented apartment?
POST: Been in this apartment for 3 years. When I moved in, I filled out a sheet pointing out various little issues (certain switches/outlets weren't working, a screen on a window was kinda ripped, etc.) but I didn't mention some of the more "big picture" stuff - like the kitchen cabinets are extremely old, the carpet is ancient, etc.
We're vacating in about a week and a half and I'm meeting the landlord after we empty the apartment. To be fair, we did stain the carpet in some places. There are also some gray areas, like a kitchen drawer broke because it was so old - but it seems that would fall under wear and tear.
Anyway, my landlord has been mostly reasonable throughout renting here. If a repair was needed, I would pay for it and then send an invoice, and he would mail me a check. Once in awhile there were problems; for example, we needed an extra building key for $150 (not an ordinary key - a big "do not copy" kinda key), and he never reimbursed us for it. I emailed him multiple times and the most response I ever got was "Did you really need an extra key?" or something.
Anyway, I arranged a maid to clean the place after we empty the apartment. I think we'll rent one of those carpet cleaner thingies to see if we can knock out the carpet stains. Just throwing this Q out to redditors to see if there's anything else I can/should do.
TL;DR: | Moving out in a week and a half. What can I do to try to get as much deposit as possible back? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [Update] I [23F] got really drunk and accidentally hooked up with my best friend/roommate [23M]. The whole situation is super confusing. What the eff do I do now?
POST: Original Post:
So we talked about it, as you guys suggested, and he doesn't want to date. Kept saying how we're best friends and roommates and everything. I'm not sure if that's the real reason or just an excuse. I mean if he doesn't want to date that's fine, but it's so confusing because of how he acts towards me. He's really touchy feely and keeps trying to cuddle with me and everything, like last night. I tried to be like "no, friends don't do that, we talked about this" and he was like you're right but we should just do it to prove we can just be friends. Which doesn't really make sense... But then he said "this won't make you more attracted to me will it? I mean this is just purely physical right?" and I literally just said "yeah" because I didn't know what to say. So is he just being a douche or is he just confused about what he really wants? I'm thinking maybe I should just get pretty busy and kind of distant for the next few weeks so we aren't around each other all time and see if that changes anything. Or maybe I should just drop the whole thing. Anyone have advice from here?
TL;DR: | Roommate/best friend acts like he wants to date but says he doesn't and it's confusing as hell. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Hi Reddit, I'm in a very happy relationship of 10 months, however, when i get drunk i actively flirt etc with other girls. I've kept it from GF so far. Should i tell her? How can i stop?
POST: I'm at Uni at the moment and have an excellent GF (we are both 21y/o) who i care for deeply, more than any girl i have ever had before. This is probably my first ever genuinely serious relationship. However, i routinely get drunk without her, at least twice a week i go on AU socials with my rugby team and in the mix of the drinking and everything (girls do swan to the rugby team) i cannot help myself. PLEASE BE QUITE SURE, SOBER I WOULD NEVER DO THIS, just when i'm drunk. I've not actually slept with any of them yet, but have come pretty close, often i am egged on by my friends, who know i have a GF which is a problem. I have spoken to them about this, but when drunk, no one cares. I'm not going to stop playing rugby or seeing these boys, as they're a huge part of my life, nor am i particularly able to limit my drinking, anyone familiar with the politics of uni rugby teams will understand why.
What's the best course of action? Tell my GF? Because sooner or later, pictures of me being a prat will appear on Facebook i'm sure. Help Reddit!
TL;DR: | i get drunk and flirt with, kiss etc girls despite the fact i have a GF, one i care for deeply. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [18 M] with my Ex [18 F] of 1 year, she is attending a friends birthday party tonight and its making me anxious.
POST: -Using Fake Names-
Not going into detail with my relationship with Wendy, but while we were together she made out with a guy who promised her weed, lied about it.
Now has convinced herself it wasn't cheating.
Wendy and I were good together little to no problems. Before i found out she cheated Wendy wanted to be friends after we broke up but of course in most cases that is impossible. She broke up with me 3 or 4 months ago now.
She is attending my friends 18th, and i have no idea what to expect from her.
After most the people attending the 18th heard that she cheated they all condemned her and broke off all friendships so its a bit strange Wendy is coming.
All i'm wanting to know is what to expect and what to be prepared for.
TL;DR: | Didn't break up on good terms, don't know what to expect or how to handle seeing her at a party! |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I want to be a programmer but I've realised I suck at maths...
POST: Fuck... Well, I've always wanted to be a programmer and I know it's just dreams and aspirations etc but I've always wanted to work for a game creation studio e.g Bethesda, valvE, blah blah blah. Anyway... I've recently started college (United Kingdom) so I'm only 16 almost 17. I have taken A-Level Maths, physics, computer science and chemistry. I only got a B at GCSE maths but only because I'm a lazy fuck. I'm good at maths, I'm good with numbers and problem solving but lack in.... Motivation and effort, so I got lazy... And fucked up. Anyway, recently started A level maths which is still considered easy compared to the end of the course and I'm struggling a little where as everyone else in the class just aces it within seconds. What do you think I should do :( drop the subject? I'm just SO SO down about this and it's really getting to me, and I'm scared :D.. I'm scared that without this subject I won't be able to succeed in the career path I have set my eyes on... I have no idea where else to go, I actively use reddit for entertainment but now I'm bitching to it? I just need genuine advice from genuine people... :(
TL;DR: | IM A LAZY SHIT HEAD AND HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO AND IM SORRY FOR THIS BEING LONG |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [18/f] w/ disorders needs help friendzoning
POST: I have quite a few mental disorders, bulimia, depression, anxiety and others. i self harm and this guy i talk to knows about all of them aside from the bulimia. He has recently developed something that causes him to have depression for a few weeks every few months. He talks to me about it a lot because i want to help and i understand but it triggers me sometimes.
We have been to the cinema a few times with each other before he started to get these episodes and i know he wants to date me really badly even though the feeling is most certainly not mutual. I've also heard weird things about him from a while back, he's posted stones through his friends letterboxes if they're late for anything with him and hosed people windows etc.
I get really uncomfortable when he hints that he wants to see me and we only text even though he trusts me a lot. I'm not really one for being blunt when it comes to hurting someone's feelings so i haven't said anything to him but i need to somehow sever whatever it is i have with him bearing in mind he sort of has depression. Help?
TL;DR: | i have issues, so does he. don't want to hurt his feelings but need to make him stop talking to me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: SO[24F] of 2 years always stops [24M]e before she can orgasm. What do I do?
POST: My long distance GF and I have been having sex for about a year now. She lives about 4 hours away and we see each other once or twice a month for a weekend.
Whenever we get into doing anything physical, whether i'm giving her oral or vaginal, once she gets worked up enough she pushes herself off/away from me.
I know(at least i'm fairly certain) that she enjoys it, but it seems as if the pleasure is too much for her. She gets really out of breath and her feet/legs go numb/shake a little. When she is very out of breath it seems she reflexively pushes away from me.
She has never had an orgasm in her life, never watched porn. She refuses to masturbate.
I don't know what to think. Is it something in her head? Is there something physically wrong with her?
I always end up getting off, and that's great and all, but it gets old when its always a one way thing. I Don't want to stop enjoying the intimacy because she wont let me take her all the way. Does anyone have any advice for this situation?
TL;DR: | Girlfriend won't let me get her off. It seems like she can't help it. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: What do I [23/f] do with this LDR with [28/m]?
POST: [23/f] [28/m] relationship and semi-living together for about one year.
I left him because visa issues were a thing, he wasn't really being a part of the solution and so I just sort of knee jerk made a decision and left.
It's been two years. Three months ago we reconnected, and we talk all day every day on skype chat. I flew from California to London to see him. I stayed with a friend because he didn't want me staying with him, and we went on two dates.
I've asked him to come see me, and he said it's too far and he hates travelling. I asked him today if he could see us ending up together, and he refused to answer the question.
He told me he only saw the relationship working if I moved back to London. There are a number of visa issues with that, but I'm going to do my best. I asked him if he saw us living together when we got back, and he said I was being crazy.
What do I do? I love him. I really do. But I feel like I'm doing all the work.
TL;DR: | I'm doing all the work and I don't know if my ex/LDR is in it like I am. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 24m dating a single 25f mom 3 months in
POST: Iv been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now. She has a son who has just turned 2 this past December. Her last relationship which was with the biological father ended horribly. She was cheated on and he was both physically and mentally abusive. She has complete custody over her son. After about 2 months I finally decided I was ready to meet her son. She has the usual worries that I guess come with this type of thing.
Things like, am I good with kids, how will I react to being a role model in a child's life who isn't my own. Also. She's worried that her son is mixed and I will have issues there. I'm pretty safe to assume children of all races tend to act the same. A two year olds a two year old. Race isn't really a deterrence for me. I generally don't date others for reasons I'm not honestly sure. Its just not my thing. I'm by no means racist. To each their own.
The only issue I'm having a hard time with. Is even though her ex treated her like this. She wants him to be in her sons life. Which I'm not sure I could handle that.. I know it's not really my place but.. He's abusive. Drinks. And his family is racist. My gfs family was not allowed to her baby shower because of their color. If things progress well, which they are other than this topic, I'm not sure her ex being around is a great idea.
TL;DR: | gf wants abusive ex around her, me, and her son but im not comfortable with it. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (29f) husband (34m) wants me to take a job with a 1.5+ hour commute
POST: *
TL;DR: | Husband wants me to take a job with a terrible commute; moving would cost additional $1,000/month. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I (22M) tell best friend (22F) that I want to have a relationship with her? She is already in a very bad relationship.
POST: I like her more than a friend, and she likes me very much, she finds me sexually atractive as well. She has a boyfriend but their relationship is dead, but she won't break up because she doesn't want to be alone. And she has a crush on 6 years older man who is in a relationship.
I want to tell her that I love her and I want to be with her. So after the break up she wouldn't be alone, and I know that we would be very happy together, we have a lot in common and I know her very well, I know what does she need.
TL;DR: | I want to get together with my best friend, but she has a bf and has a crush on an other guy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [UK property law] Jointly owned land - getting out.
POST: Hi LegalAdvice. Throwaway because of reasons.
I am writing over growing dispute between my family on one hand and another formerly close family on the other over a plot of land that was purchased several years ago with each of us paying half the cost, and is co-owned between the both of us. One thing has led to another and my family wants out. My understanding is that in the event of us being unable to reach a buyout agreement, the courts could force sale of the land and split the money raised between us equally.
So far so good.
The complication in this arises in the fact that the other family has made several expensive improvements to the land, primarily by constructing a barn and several other small buildings (with our permission, implicit if not explicit). How does the law view such a situation - where a building with a singular owner is built on co-owned land? We would still rather reach an agreement without having to go to court, but negotiations are breaking down. Having an idea of what would happen if the issue was forced would help give some context.
TL;DR: | Andrew and Barry co-own land. Barry builds on the land. Andrew wants out. What happens? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with 22[F] known her for about a month, don't know what to think about her expression of liking me.
POST: So I live with my little brother, and he is into the EDM rave scene. One weekend (about 3 weeks ago) he comes back home from a show and invites a lot of his friends. The party went on until day break.
There is this girl that I find really attractive and of course I introduced myself (of course she was not the only one ). Anyways weeks go by and a couple of days ago my brother is like "What's her face, likes you. She thinks your hot. " Then proceeds to tell me she wants me to talk to her, so I do. That was end of last week. Since then we have been texting, but recently she has stopped. What should I think/do?
TL;DR: | Met girl at party at my house, started talking, but recently not as much. What should I think/do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (24M) mother is very very sick with cancer. I (27F) want to help and could use some advice.
POST: My bf's mom was diagnosed in the last year with breast cancer, stage III. It progressed far faster than anyone expected and her entire breast is essentially a tumor now. I do not expect her to go through further chemo/surgery/radiation at this point since they opted to do holistic treatment when the diagnosis was made. We have been dating a little over 2 years and I am close with most of his family.
I am so afraid for my boyfriend, he's so young to be facing the possibility of losing a parent. Anyone out there who has been with an SO who's parent passed away due to a terminal illness or was the person in a relationship who lost their parent? What can I do to prepare and help him when the time comes for her?
Any advice appreciated...
TL;DR: | BF's mom extremely sick with cancer and may pass soon. What can I do to help him and his family? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 M] with my wife [26 F] 7 years, we aren't intimate anymore and i feel tempted to stray.
POST: i have not cheated and don't plan to but I'm really frustrated here. also we have a child together.
me and my wife met in college she is was very beautiful (still is) and shy as well. we started dating and i met her parents and i learned a lot about her. she grew up extremely conservative, she only wears feminine clothes and only does girly things.
she cooked and cleaned for me and we seemed perfect for each other had a lot in common. we dated for 4 years before we got married she was so happy and so was i.
our sex life was........awkward she was a virgin (i had been with 3 other women before her) and didn't have any experience. after a few months she started enjoying it but still seemed closed off.
it wasn't long before after that she ended up pregnant i was nervous but excited none the less. we have a perfect healthy baby girl who i love so so much.
our sex life is completely dead now she is still affectionate with me (kisses cuddles etc.) but nothing beyond. i brought this up to her but she said she just isn't in the mood anymore.
it's been 9 months since we last did anything and I'm really getting frustrated. i feel horrible thinking about this but i have thought about straying i know it's wrong.
it's just I'm not sure what to do here can someone help me or give me advice?
TL;DR: | My wife never wants to hqve sex anymore and I'm thinking about straying. knock some sense into me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend (26m) for a year and a half says he thinks about cheating on me (23f)
POST: First off I am new here, so don't be too mean to me lol but, My boyfriend of a year and a half and father of my child said that he has thought and does think about cheating on me, but he doesn't want to ruin what he has with me. He said that he just feels like he needs something different sometimes, that he has never really been a one chick, long term relationship kind of guy. I guess I just don't know wheather to be happy he doesn't want to ruin what we have or be upset because I know very well if he was cheating I'd never catch him, he would be too good at covering his tracks. It's really been messing with my mind because I really lost all the trust I had for him when he told me that, I guess I just want to know if I should believe he hasn't cheated or am I right to worry that he has or will soon.
TL;DR: | !- boyfriend (26m) of a year and a half says he thinks about cheating on me (23f) |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: 401(K) Advice for a Millennial
POST: First off to get you up to speed on where I am currently at... I am a 21 y/o college student with no debt and a 401(K) plan from my previous part-time co-op employer. I believe it is though Principal Financial Group. Luckily, the company offered a match. That being said I have a little over $1,500 in a 401(K) plan that I am no longer contributing to (New internship does not offer any retirement benefits) and I would like to explore my options when it comes to investing it. Being young and hungry I wouldn't mind investments on the more risky side that can have higher returns. I have also have heard that I might want to transfer the money into a Roth IRA but I don't see why that would be my best option at this time in my life.
That being said, I do not know my next step. I am unsure of how to manage this pool of money or customize my investments. Any help or future investment and savings advice would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: | I am young and want to know my best option for investing ~$1,500 in my 401(K) Plan |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I once pretended to have a club foot to avoid giving a motorized shopping cart to a fat lady. What stupid lies have you made up in the heat of the moment?
POST: My son wanted to ride in the motorized shopping cart. It was late, the store was empty, he was four...so I thought, "WHY NOT!" We're scooting around when a very obese woman came up to me and said, "There it is, you have it! You don't need that give it to me!"
I was shocked and angry, so I said, "I do need it...I have a club foot." There was an awkward moment of silence as we both looked down at my feet, which were clad in embroidered pointy toed shoes."
"Come on Gabe!" I said, as me and my son drove off to find my husband. My husband was in the girl section with my daughter when I reached him. Just then I heard over the speakers, "Management to Customer Service."
"We gotta go! They're going to kick me out." My husband refused to leave because this wasn't the first time I did something impulsive that created an awkward situation. Screw it. Gabe (my son) and I scooted toward the front and prepared to exit. It was then I realized that I had to pretend I had a club foot.
"Come one Gabey," I said, as we limped all the way to the car.
TL;DR: | pretended to have a club foot so fat lady wouldn't take my scooter...had to limp out of the store. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [28 F (transgender)] and my wife [27 F] of >10 years need to separate but we don't know how.
POST: We have been together since the age of 16. I'm transgender and was still a boy when we met, and continued to behave as such for the majority of our relationship.
She has been very supportive of my need to transition and we are still best friends. However, for various reasons it looks unlikely that we can function as a married couple, and we have discussed separation multiple times as a result.
We have had no major arguments, and as we have two children, we hope to keep it that way by ending the relationship on our own terms.
We are facing two main problems; fear of change and practical concerns regarding our children. We've been through our options, but we can't seem to make anything stick.
Does anyone have any experience of advice towards ending a loving relationship? What is our best course of action?
TL;DR: | Parents and best friends need to separate. We can't bring ourselves to do it and/or don't know how. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Can i fuck my ex, even when no feelings?
POST: Let's start up with some story: I [male 18] had a supreme relationship with a superhot girl [female 20] for about 3 years. Like every other couple we had ups and downs.
About 1 year into our relationship she fucked another dude while she was drunk. She was deeply sorry and we managed to get over it and rebuild our relationship.
Our relationsship got even better after this and we were really close. But the it didnt last, she did it again.
There was also a factor that made it even worse. The day she cheated on me secound time was 5 days after my dad passed away from sickness. This made me go bananas and broke up with her without looking back.
I have met her a couple times after the breakup where we talked and fucked. She agrees to fuck if there is feelings involved ( i dont have feelings for her, but i know her and trick her to bed).
So is it wrong to fuck her? I feel like it's okay since she have been a dick to me.
TL;DR: | So can i keep on as long as possible or should i stop? Or mabye im a pshyco. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is your best April Fools prank/joke/story that you have lived to tell the tale.
POST: Mine was when I was first learning to drive. I have my permit for a few months when the 1st rolled around, it was at this time that I decided to prank my mother. I called her up between driving from morning practice to school to tell her I had a car accident and was pinned in the car. She at first didn't believe me, but at the time I had friend riding along with me and they were playing sound effects and screaming to make it appear more real. Needless to say she FREAKED OUT, and almost burst into tears. It took a little talking to calm her down even after I let her know it was a joke. She has yet to let me live it down and its been over 5 years. Though, she did get me back the following year by telling me and my brother she and my father were getting a divorce and showing me papers and my dad even was in on it. So she got her revenge
TL;DR: | I pranked my mom about a terrible car wreck, she gets me back by faking a divorce with my dad. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: What should I do
POST: I'm a male. Right now i'm 17 + exactly 6 months old, so in another 6 months i'll be 18. I don't think I've developed properly through puberty and i have a few questions.
I've always had a high voice, I thought it would go away, even now my voice is significantly higher than a lot of the people in my year level at school. It never really "Cracked" it just sort of when down a little bit. There are 20 people who look like full-grown men at 17, and then there are a few like me who could be confused for 14 year old boys.
Apart from that, I don't really have much hair. I have hair **down there**, per se, but not a "snail trail" or anything above the sort of groinal area, not a lot of hair on my legs ( I get regularly asked if i shave my legs, i never have, i just have never grown hair there), and NO armpit hair whatsoever. This is affecting my confidence because i feel different from everybody else, i thought i was a slow bloomer and i would be "normal" by now, but im nearly 18 and it's starting to look like it'll never happen. I'm scared to get close to girls because if we ever have relations i'm not sure if i'll size up compared to my peers. This sucks.
Should i discuss with my parents about going to visit the doctor to see whats up?
Will he prescribe me testosterone? Does this mean my testosterone will never develop and i will never have a beard/strength/manly man things or is it just developing at a slower rate.
TL;DR: | I'm nearly 18 and i dont have armpit hair or a low voice, should i go ask for testosterone? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Strategies against a workplace dominator?
POST: Hey all,
I'm working with some other contractors on a 3-month job.
Everything started out great, and I had started making friends with the younger folk, which was quite a nice change from my norm. (I'm in my late 20s, used to working with folks in their 30s+, but others on this job are only in their early 20s.)
Now there's another, younger dude (I'm a dude as well) who just goes out of his way to be a social butterfly, to the point where it's just obscene.
Before his appearance, I was able to get the team I had involved in a sub-project on the contract, and we were really making some great progress.
Since he's appeared though, we're getting less done; worse off, he belittles people and creates a negative work environment, yet they come running back to them. I don't get it.
So the way I see it, since we have similar, more dominant/leadership type personalities, we clash; but he's doing it better.
We've already verbally clashed once (I'll admit it, I lost my cool with him), and management knows about the situation. What they think exactly, well, I don't know.
Since this job is now already a wash (I had been looking forward to references, but I don't think that's going to happen,) **I'm willing to try whatever would be suggested as long as it doesn't get me fired.**
**Also, what's the key to going into a situation fresh like this and maintaining control and respect?
TL;DR: | I'm getting alpha'd by a guy who just fucks around, and losing ground because of it. What do?* |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [f15] friends and myself are dragging me down..
POST: As the title says I think my friends are dragging me down...
I'm in year 11 and doing NCEA Level 1 and I'm failing..I need to get 80 credits and so far I've only got 4.
In my classes no one I hang with really don't do any work so I don't and I talk to them
All we do at free periods and class breaks is smoke marijuana and tobacco.
I don't want to be this way I want to pass and I want to be healthy I don't want to be stressed I don't know what to do and I don't want to be dragged down from my friends even if it is my fault..
It doesn't help that my crush who sits on the field got a girlfriend and seeing him there every day doesn't help.
I don't know how to say no to smoking up, and in all honesty I like it.
I love my friends and I don't want to stop talking and hanging out with them but my education isn't doing good and I'm really failing.. I don't know what to do.
I just I really don't know what I'm supposed to do and I'm stressing out so much about it...
I have nothing going for me, I'm at the bad end in my BMI, I'm stupid, and I'm a people pleaser and can't stand up for myself.
I just want to pass reddit what do I do...
TL;DR: | I feel like my friends are dragging me down but I think it's just me but I don't know what to do |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by locking myself out of my own subreddit.
POST: This actually happened today. Yay, me.
A bit of backstory. I'm a freelance writer and a part-time paid GM for a D&D store in my town. I created a steampunk, sky in the world setting for a writing challenge, then had nearly all of my players want to start playing it. I was a little surprised and very happy that they were so interested, so I made a subreddit to post all of the lore and work I'd done on the setting.
About 16 hours into making the subreddit, I was hit with a massive wave of apathy, and considered just uploading the five hundred-ish .rtf files to MediaFire or something, and giving my players the link at our next session. Realizing that this would be significantly less work than making a subreddit, I decided to make the subreddit private.
Unfortunately, I had no idea what I was doing with moderator tools, and in a shitstorm of unprecedented stupidity, demodded myself.
I was the only moderator.
So now I'm waiting on a reply from the mods of /r/redditrequest to get my subreddit back.
TL;DR: | Made a subreddit for a D&D campaign, was hit with a momentary vibe of apathy and locked myself out. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21M] dating [20F]Girl who is leaving to go home to a different country to study. Do I cut it short, cherish what we have, or attempt long distance?
POST: I met a girl recently with a weird push from my mother (don't need to explain that). She's the whole package; smart, beautiful (to the point where I feel I am sort of out of my league), funny, and also thinks I'm funny too (a rarity). She is also from another country and is visiting as her summer break from studying.
We hit it off very well, had a few dates etc but tonight we had a talk about 'the future'. The big issue is that in late September her and I will have to go our separate ways where I will carry on my studies in my country and her studies in hers. We talked about having a 'good month' whereby we mean to enjoy each others company for the time we have and then sort of 'treasure it' after we part ways.
However, as you can imagine it sort of feels like a big friends with benefits thing. But as TV shows seem to go, I'm afraid we'll both feel more after the next month.
She said she has never had a long distance relationship before, and neither have I. I'm not sure it will be possible considering the flight distance for travelling.
Do I carry out this 'good month' and fear the result? or Do I cut it short as it's a bad idea?
TL;DR: | Met an amazing girl that's leaving to go back to a different country. Do we try it or cut it short? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I think if I tell my SO it will be a deal breaker. But I need to tell him :(
POST: To start off, I *did not cheat*. I realize the title sounds like that. Okay.
Me (f) and bf, 20. Dating 10 months.
He is very religious. He loves his church and it is the most important thing in his life.
I am not. I just don't see why it matters. If I had to label myself, I'd say I'm secular humanist. ( in case anybody is curious/doesn't know).
Now his church has this thing where you're not supposed to be with people outside of it. He assumes I'll join the church at some point (I have told him I'd consider it, but lately I know I never would).
If I tell him I never intend to join I'm pretty sure it'd be a deal breaker and he'd leave me. I love him and don't want to be apart, but should I tell him or just not mention anything? This doesn't affect any other aspects of our relationship.
TL;DR: | Bf is religious wants me to be, but I don't think I ever will be. Tell him or no? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: 25-year-old trying to have sex for the first time...Failed
POST: Out of nowhere a girl I really, really liked for a long time called me up to hang out. We went out, had a great time and went back to my place. It started getting more apparent that she was not interested in leaving at any time soon, so I (rightly) assumed that she wanted sex.
Now, for reasons I can't really understand, I'm still a virgin. Many opportunities presented themselves, but I was never confident enough to take them. Maybe a little chickenshit if you will. However I really wanted to take a big step in my life that night, but I couldn't get it done.
No matter what I did, I couldn't do it. I tried to masturbate - nothing. She gave me a hand - nothing. She gave me a blowjob - nothing. This girl is a hot as hell and I couldn't do anything to satisfy her. I just licked her cunt for a while.
She told me it was fine, that these things happen and that I probably had something on my mind or I was stressed, so I had to come up with a story how I was really stressed about something or other.
When she comes over next, I want to be ready and I want to fuck her brains out. What do I do in the meantime?
TL;DR: | hot girl calls me up, we go out, had a massive boner all night, until she took her clothes off |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: To let go of Mr Almost, in search of Mr Even Closer?
POST: My Boy friend and I have been dating for around a year and a half, and he's pretty fab. We talk often, hang out peacefully, do lots of different things and don't even fight often. What I found recently though is that on the occasions we do it feels like its ALWAYS me who has to get us talking properly again. i.e. I'll snap a him about something and he goes a bit quiet, from then on, never mind where we are, what we do, conversation becomes very "safe", boring or non-existent. And when its time to go home there is no "I love you" no proper hug or kiss, more just a "see you round". Until I call him later and persist with "what's wrong" and there are tears and hurt (and yet it will be over something that was initially SO TRIVIAL) it doesn't get "fixed". He's never the one to call and go - you were shitty when we were together, nor does he say "Sorry you're annoyed at this" when it first happens - Why does my day/week get ruined over something small like him being ten minutes late? (Last point - I don't snap often, and only when I really strongly feel about something - i.e. if you said a time, and you're going to be half an hour late send me a text saying you're going to be running half an hour late).
TL;DR: | Is being the one who always has to say "sorry" a deal-breaker? / How do I explain this to him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Weight Watchers Points?
POST: Hi there! I'm asking this question to anyone who may be familiar with Weight Watchers. I signed up today (in person), but I'm so tall that their computer system doesn't allow me to do anything. I'm 6'8", but they had to put me in as being 6'4". I'm 299.2 lbs., and I'm an 18 year-old male. According to their calculations (she did this using a hand WW calculator), I have a daily allowance of 68 PointsPlus. My sister, a lifetime member, says that's ridiculously high, and that I should never go above 50 points. I asked my Leader, and she said the number is correct, and that I should look for healthy foods that have high points values (like nuts). Do I have too many points?
TL;DR: | 18 years old, male, 299.2 lbs., 6'8", 68 daily PointsPlus. Is that too high? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: [Serious] Reddit, I desperately need your help/advice on "how to move out"?
POST: Umm, this is a long story so I'll give you my current situation. If you want any details feel free to ask. Now then, I'm 22 and living with my family. We live in a small 3.5 bedroom house. My youngest sister shares a room with my grandma, my parent's have their own, and my other sister lives in a makeshift room that was made by my dad who put up small dry wall to create a room. He did this because she had an unplanned pregnancy at 17 and it was all he could do to accommodate. **Now here's where I need your help**, I share a room with my brother and his girlfriend. Here's the kicker, she's about to burst with a baby of her own and they aren't looking to move out any time soon! I haven't moved out because I work part time at Starbucks and go to community college full time. Given the circumstances, I feel forced to move out. So Reddit, how do I go about doing this?
TL;DR: | You can't fit 3 grown adults and a baby in a small room. Help me get the fuck out of here! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (17m) boyfriend wants to take a break with me.. (16f) and I'm confused.
POST: So today my boyfriend (ex?) had a talk with me. He told me he wanted to take a break. We will both be starting a new school soon on August 28. Before that time he is going to a 10 day camp, then going to his fathers house for a few days and then we will be going to a new school. We have been together for a year and a half, friends for a year before we started our relationship. I know we are young and it may be wrong for me to be so upset, but this is hard for me. I love him so much and I am very confused. He says he just needs some time to think about things, and try not to focus his life so much on sex. He also wants to me to go out and think about things too. So my questions are; Are there any rules of taking a break? Am I not supposed to talk to him? Is it wrong for me to be so confused and distraught? How do I keep myself from going into dark places? I am a very emotional person and it is easy for me to slip into dark places with my feelings.. This break that he wants to take came completely out of nowhere and I had no idea that he wanted to do this. How do I cope? How do I deal with my sexual urges now?(I'm sorry I don't mean to be so blunt but I am a teenager) Right now I am crushed, and confused. Again I know I am young but I have deep feelings for this guy and I care for him very much.. he means a lot to me. I could very much use your help.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend (17m) wants to take a break, I (16f) am distraught, hurt, and have a lot of questions. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [34 M/F] of several months, needs advice with what to say during sex
POST: have been seeing this guy for a while and I really like him. I have had very limited sexual experience and I am also such an introvert that even when I hug, one arm comes up against my chest to push the person away against their chest while the other arm hugs. (I hope that makes sense?) Anyway at first he kept asking me why I was nervously laughing and I have no real answer, but that's how I am. So basically that was a prelude for the question I have as this type of person-- what can I say during sex? He wants me to say things, and I know you're just supposed to say what you feel but it's been the same repetitive thing for me, (it's so great, I love it, yes). Are there things that I can say to spice it up? Please tell me anything that you use or your partner uses; I would appreciate it so much. He keeps asking me what I like and I have no idea what to respond too. Thank you all
TL;DR: | Guy I'm seeing wants me to talk during sex; Please tell me what you can say that's sexy as a woman. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Crazy or romantic?
POST: I'm 21 and the girls 22. I've had this semi relationship with a girl for a couple months now and it wasn't really anything big but I guess we started feeling something for each other. We decided to get a bit more serious but she later changed her mind. We're still really close. I have a slight history of involvement with her best friend. Nothing has ever really happened between her best friend and I but the history itself made her go against it. She's said she liked me a lot, but doesn't want to put her friendship at risk. She seems really conflicted about it though and I think if I pushed it I might be able to change her mind.
I'm thinking I do something crazy. She doesn't live particularly close to me so I'm thinking I drive out to see her, surprise her and do something romantic like have her open the door and kiss her or something cheesy like that. I really do like this girl and I'd prefer to not lose her. Am I right in pursuing this or should I drop it? Could she be happy or just upset that I'm obsessive or something.
TL;DR: | I like this girl and don't want to let something get in the way of it, but should I let her go? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25 F] with my girlfriend [24 F] two months, the 'anniversary' of her abortion is coming up, not sure what to do.
POST: This Friday marks the two year date since my girlfriend had an abortion. Last year was hard for her, and she expects this year to be as well. Expressing to me that she didn't want to be alone for it, I took the day off of work in order to spend time with her.
I guess I'm just looking for advice as to how to spend this day with her. Would it be too much to play something kind of fun or nice to do? Does it make sense to try to help take her mind off of it, or is that trivializing? Should I just ask her what she would like?
TL;DR: | 'Anniversary' date of gf's abortion coming up, difficult day for her, not sure how to spend it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [33M] broke up with my girlfriend [24F] of 1yr but I want her back so much it hurts
POST: We've been together for exactly 1 year. We were magical, beautiful, everything I wanted. But then things took a turn and stopped being great. It became a toxic relationship, where we both just poisoned each other and made each other sad. I took the step and broke it off with her, sending us both into a deep hole of sadness and self destruction.
I don't know what to do with myself now. I'm absolutely destroyed. This was the one girl I thought would be the one for me, and somehow I ruined it. Adding to that I slept with someone else after we broke up. Some meaningless sex that just made me feel worse. Now all I have left is memories and guilt. I don't know if she will ever forgive me. I wouldn't.
I'm keeping NC for now but on the inside I am completely broken. What do I do now? I love her so much but everything got screwed up. I need to know if it can be fixed? Or is it hopeless?
TL;DR: | Broke up with my gf but I still want her in my life. She is everything to me. Can this be reversed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: [Denver,Colorado] Landlord's sister wants to do a random "walkthrough".
POST: My roommates and I have lived in this old house for about 20 months on a monthly lease. The landlord is the estranged aunt of one of the four residents living here.
The landlord(Lindsay) has a sister(Cruela). Since Lindsay lives about 2 hours away, Cruela is the one that often deals with issues that arise with the property like pipes bursting or lawn care.
Today, Cruela called saying that since we have not done a walk-through since we moved in that she wants to do one.
My roommates and I feel that this is an unnecessary breach of privacy. Never have I had a landlord want to just snoop around for no reason while I still lived there, let alone the landlord's relatives. When we moved in, there were rats in the house and when we told them they just told us to put out traps.
TL;DR: | There is no real reason the landlord's sister has to be doing a walk-through, do we have to comply? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: (X-Post AskMenAbove30) Do you think he's(30M) tired of taking care of me(26F) in this situation?
POST: My husband (married for a year together for nearly 5) works long hours and a lot. I'm a house wife. I clean everything for him, grocery shop, and make dinner. But once a month, when my period strikes, I'm bed ridden. I can't walk and I'm in a lot of pain. I get it coming out both ends and awful migraines to boot. I also am prescribed major pain killers while this happens. Luckily his sex drive is less than mine so when I'm able I **take care of him.** In this situation do you think you'd get tired of taking care of your lady? I feel awful that he has to do it. Is he going to get tired of me? I'm going through it right now so it's making me feel lower than usual. :(
Thanks for your comments and advice in advance.
TL;DR: | Would you get tired of taking care of your wife/SO if she was bed ridden once a month for a week? |
SUBREDDIT: r/self
TITLE: Help. I'm stuck in the back of a library and can't stop crying.
POST: I broke up with my girlfriend 3 months ago and since then have been very politely excluded from our shared social circle. I was the emotionally stronger one and I mostly broke up with her (after seeing that our relationship wasn't going anywhere) AND they were mostly her friends first. So I backed off and made sure everyone was focused on making sure she was okay. Everyone said that they still wanted to be friends with both of us and they just would hang out with us separately. Since then, that has meant that I just feel awkward and fake around them and am constantly trying to keep up the pretense that I'm okay and that everything's fine. We're all in the same club and I see them every other day during practice. I almost always feel like crying after practice, but I can't seem to reach out to anyone, both because I don't know how to ask for help and because they're all single guys (I'm a girl).
TL;DR: | Broke up with SO in a shared social circle, and now I'm being ever so nicely iced out of the group. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [34M] with my girlfriend [29F], been dating 5 months, we have trouble sleeping properly when we share a bed.
POST: Just for clarity since it involves "sharing a bed", this is not a sex life question, this is sleeping related.
So, my girlfriend and I live an hour apart, and sometimes after date nights one will sleepover at the other's house, sharing the bed.
I guess because we're both accustomed to sleeping alone for the majority of nights, we don't always sleep soundly when sharing the bed together.
Two weekends ago I woke up in the morning to find her sleeping on her couch instead of in bed (which made me feel fucking awful even though she's assured me it's not a problem.), and after sharing the bed each night of this past weekend on an extended stayover, I found out she was having trouble sleeping because I apparently "manspread" in my sleep.
What I want to know is, what can I do to adjust or change how I sleep? I don't want to have every stayover we share end up in her having a bad night's sleep. :(
TL;DR: | My girlfriend doesn't get a good night's sleep because I hog the bed. How can I change how I sleep? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What should I do reddit?
POST: Where do I begin...
I have a fiancee, and a baby on the way. However there is this woman who was hardcore flirting with me at work, but I didn't shut her down right away. She asked me out to the movies and I obliged. We ended up kissing, and I'm having MAJOR regrets. After a long fight with my fiancee, after telling her in the matter of a few hours because I felt so bad, I realized I had another big predicament on my hands. Work. I have a feeling that she is a huge gossiper because my work place is filled with teens. How do I avoid getting fired from work? Should I even go to work tomorrow? Should I just deny everything if it's brought up? WAT DO REDDIT?
TL;DR: | I am engaged. Kissed a co-worker outside of work. She gossips. How do I not get fired? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19F] with him [18M]. Does he want more?
POST: We've known each other since a while through an online game (about 1.5 years) but since some months we got closer to each other. We're skyping all day long, which i really like to do. We even stay on skype and fall asleep together.
Last weekend we met up the third time and i went to his home. We decided to watch some stuff together and play a bit. As we were sitting on the Couch, watching LOTR, he startet to tickle me and magically i suddendly was laying on his thighs. I was surprised, since he's pretty shy and i truly didnt expect this to happen but i didnt move, i liked that feeling tbh. I just came out of an relationship, so why not..
On the way home he had his hands around my waist. But im confused..
Since the day we first skyped 'till today, he keeps being "mean" to me. Saying stuff like "you're such a bad player" "you suck so badly damnit why do i even talk with you" but alway with his cute laughing. When he realizes i dont take it as a joke, he says "you know i really like you."
Guys, what do you think? Im not quite sure what to think, but since he made those typical "i need to hide a boner" stuff with his shirt and hands.. Maybe he could be attracted to me but thats all. He's a typical gamer, not really used to girls probably. But he has told me that i know more about him than any other... Argh!
TL;DR: | Gaming friend is maybe into me, maybe not. Dont know what to think, i'm pretty confused with him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend (20F) has told me (22M) she isn't sure if she is physically attracted to me.
POST: Bit more detail - I am her first boyfriend, and we have been going out a couple of months now. Since she is new to the idea and situation of a boyfriend we have been taking things quite slow, but we have built up to making out quite intensely. Every time I see her she seems very enthusiastic to make out or cuddle in front of a film, or talk in general. We get on very well, and she agrees to this, always saying she has a great time, enjoys kissing me etc.
So today she says she is confused if she is attracted to me. She says sometimes she isnt, but other times she enjoys spending time with me and talking about everything and is super-enthusiastic about kissing me. I'm now also confused.
I was hoping to find some advice as I'm kind of stuck. Normally in relationships I've had before these kinds of things have blossomed over time, but I'm not sure she understood what I meant when I mentioned that. Thank you for your time.
TL;DR: | gf says that she isn't sure if shes physically attracted to me, yet is very happy with me overall. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Paying Cash or Financing: Small Auto Loan
POST: I've been trying to do as much research as I can into this matter, but not sure if I can get a straight answer.
I'm buying a second, personal, pleasure car. Honda s2000. I've always loved these and they've become cheap enough where I feel more than comfortable purchasing one as a nice weekend car. It's used and about 7 years old, so it's started to plateau in depreciation.
Here's where I'm confused, should I pay cash for it or finance it? This is where I stand money-wise.
I have ~$38k invested in a variety of ETFs, they are there to grow, but also for me to be able to access whenever. Not for retirement. I invested in these in January (I moved from Mutual Funds to ETFs). Since January, this portfolio overall has grown nearly 5%.
If I pay cash for the car, the payment for the car will come out of that fund (probably about $14k).
I have shopped around and can get a used auto loan for @ 2.8% from Chase for 48 months, pretty low in my opinion. Over the course of the loan, I will pay roughly $810 in interest at this rate.
Does it make more sense for me to keep the money invested and take the loan? I feel like over the course of those 48 months, that $14k will earn far more than $810.
Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: | Take $14k out of invested ETFs that's grown very well or take out an auto loan at 2.8%? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [M/20] would like to invite a friend [21/F] to watch Netflix with me, however...
POST: ...I have been hashing it out as to whether or not it's a good idea. We have a very complicated history, which I will explain right now.
Met my freshman year of college, got close fast, but she had a guy, so I backed off. However, I had a few drunk moments where I vented about my feelings and she was super forgiving each time. We continued being friends until last December when she didn't want to get with me because of stuff. I threw a fit and went NC, but had extreme regret for what I did. I tried to apologize and it never worked out. Accidentally found each other on R4R and had a drunk conversation about feelings.
Then in August, I tried reaching out to her after Reddit told me to give it a go. I did, and now we are friends. However, even after I have been to hell and back trying to move on, I still have feelings for this woman. If I want to try and have a good friendship with her, I don't want to let emotions cloud my judgement.
So I leave it in your hands once again, Reddit. Should I ask my old flame to hang out with me, or should I just let it go?
TL;DR: | Met girl, didn't work out, now we're friends again, and I want to hang with her. Good idea or no? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by blow drying my hair
POST: This happened only about an hour ago...
I was blowdrying the roots of my hair upside down to give it some volume, because my hair is very thin and fine, in my bedroom with my Ikea sofa to my left.
Hair was dry enough so I whipped it back, but in doing so I somehow lost my balance and staggered backwards, falling against the edge of the sofa.
For a split second I thought all was ok before I thumped down off the sofa (onto wooden floors and earning myself a slightly bruised tailbone).
I wasn't finished there though. I still held the hairdryer in my left hand and as I transitioned from the sofa to the floor the fan part at the back slammed down on something lying on the sofa. The hairdryer was still on so I didn't hear the damage. I pulled myself to my feet and a horror caught my eye.
Yup. I cracked my phone screen pretty catastrophically ( like my screen is now 85% broken glass lines 15% glass). Only I could be so clumsy.
TL;DR: | a too energetic hair flip with a hairdryer in hand resulted in a bruise and a whole load of cracks. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: 29[M], GF (28) is upset I haven't said "I love you" after 4 months
POST: We were friends 2 years prior to dating, one of us was always in a relationship, but I think the attraction was always there.
We're 4 months into a relationship and she's told me she thinks we should "be there" by now. I've expressed that I take that kind of thing seriously and want to give it time before I say something like that. She's convinced that I should be more excited, and that if I was I would have said it by now.
We're long distance at the moment, she lives about 2 hours away (used to be closer) and she's moving back next week. I'm hoping her being nearby will help things out some, we'll get more quality time.
I feel like I am beginning to feel that way about her, but I don't feel like I'm there yet. Now that I know that's what she wants I'm not sure what I should do. I won't do it until I fell like I really mean it, not just butterflies etc. But I also worry that once I DO she'll just think I'm saying that because she wants to hear it.
What would you do in this situation?
TL;DR: | She want's to hear the 3 magic words after 4 months, and I don't think I'm quite there yet. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Cooking
TITLE: hey, my birthday is soon so I bought myself a steak, whats the best way to prepare it
POST: my birthday is tuesday, ive got the little guy thawing now in the fridge . I try to avoid telling folks about the birthday because i don't like a big hullabaloo. it is a bonless ribeye. .75lb according to the package. its thawing in the fridge now. what is a good way to marinate(im partial to Worcestershire based). and I'm thinking of preparing spinach and a sweet potatoe with it as a side(raised on southern cooking). i assume I will be drinking this with a bottle of jameson whiskey (something I wanted to add to my list of for me birthday presents). advice on how I can prepare this in the most ron swansonesque way are appreciated(even though vegetables are involved). I'm kinda broke (college kid) so seasonings might be limited
I've got a grill pan and i like my steak rare, like cold in the middle.
thanks if you've managed to read this far.
TL;DR: | whats a good way to cook a steak(3/4lb bnless ribeye) for yourself on your birthday. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Man [33] I am seeing admitted he thought I [24/f] was a teenager when he approached me. Not sure how to feel about that.
POST: I am starting to see this man more seriously, to the point that we are exclusive, and talking about making it "official". He is 33, so considerably older than myself (9 years). He looks younger than 33. We were talking about it, and I told him I was thinking closer to 27 or 28. He then told me that he thought I was 19 when he approached me, and that (insert mutual friend's name) had snuck me into the bar where we met.
I'm not sure how to feel about this. A 33-year-old man approaching a 19-year-old girl just seems skeezey to me, but I'm not sure whether or not I should consider this a red flag.
There have been a couple instances where he has gotten bossy with me, but I've made it clear I'll do as I please. Tuesday night, I was 6 minutes late to dinner, because my kid took her clothes off, right before we were going to leave the house, and he got short with me, and threatened to call it off. I recognize emotional manipulation, and I countered it by saying it was fine if he just wanted to leave. He recanted it quickly.
I don't think the thinking I was 19 would bug me so much, if I hadn't already experienced what seems like a need for control. I am a bit stumped at this point, though, and am not sure if I am just over thinking this.
TL;DR: | 33-year-old man thought I was 19 when he approached me. Not sure if that is a red flag. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the most awesome thing you've done that you can never prove to anyone?
POST: When I was about 16 I went to some resort with my parents and some girl there liked me and we ended up going on a little date there. We played a game of pool.
Here is the awesome: I made a jump shot that split 2 balls in to 2 end corners. 1 ball went straight in the corner pocked, and the other ball went in the other corner and knocked down a ball that was near the corner pocket already, before it fell in after it.
By far the best shot I've ever made in pool. The girl wasn't really paying that much attention. I have no idea who she was and have no way to ever prove this story.
TL;DR: | Playing pool I made a jump shot, that split 2 balls, and sunk 3 balls. IT REALLY HAPPENED! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I (29F) don't think I'm pretty enough for my BF (29m)
POST: I (29F) have always thought that my BF (29) was gorgeous. All of my female friends think so to. He is about 6' and I don't know what he weighs but hes not fat and is kind of muscly. The problem is that a lot of times I wonder why he likes me. I'm ok looking I think but I'm 5'3' and 150lbs (yes i need to lose weight) and my BF is like a model. I like going out and knowing that lots of other women are probably checking him out but then I think that they are probably wondering why he's with me. We've been going out for 6 months and he treats me nice and we have sex a couple of times a week (basicly whenever he can sleep over) Has anyone ever been in this situation before? I see pretty girls with ugly guys all of the time but never the other way around? Am I just lucky or should I be worried about something?
TL;DR: | I (29F) am worried that my BF (29M) is too good looking for me and will leave/cheat/is using me |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I need relationship advice. Not sure how to talk to bf or if I should call it quits.
POST: I have a wonderful bf, we've been together over 5 years. He lives at my house, helps with bills takes care of my daughter like she was her own. He even does chores.
However he likes to drink. 4-5 times a week, but about once a week he will get drunk to the point of blacking out. Sometimes he will do crazy things, say things that make me cry, try to start food fights, delete albums of photos. Last night he broke several things, all his. Toppled over a desk with his computers on it and smashed a few things. I didn't see it happen, but from the damage it looks intended.
I'm sure when he wakes up he won't remember. I've tried talking to him about this behavior before. In the mornings after he always agrees with me. He will stop for a week or two.
I'm starting to get scared. Not sure if I'm overreacting?
How do I talk to him? I'm thinking of telling him he needs to seek help or I'm done. I'm at my wits end.
TL;DR: | Great bf. Drinks frequently, blacks out on occasion and makes me cry or breaks stuff. What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How do I hook up with this girl in my college class?
POST: I was in class minding my own business on my laptop when she came down and sat next to me. I took one look at her and I knew I had to ask her out. She's and I are getting the same degree and we're both want to go for masters. Anyways I was talking to her after class and I got her number but it didn't help that I said "incase I have any questions about class" I know I am not a pro at this. I am new to this I never do this so I am not very good at it.
When we talked I got to know her a bit but I think I screwed up when I left early cuz I was running late. I think maybe she wanted something more or it looked that way but I could be wrong. I was thinking just tell her: I think your are beautiful, smart and I want to get to know you". But I have no idea if she's single or married and I dont want to make things awkward between us or scare her away. Help me out here what do I do? What should I say? Or do I just ask her out for coffee first? Idk.. hlp!
TL;DR: | Hot chick in my class, i want to ask her out, but I have no experience doing this... plz help! |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What are some creative ways to get the point across to my crazy neighbors that they are being loud assholes?
POST: To make a very long story short, I live in an apartment and the people across the hall from me frequently fight and yell. Myself and other neighbors have had to call the police many times in the last several months due to their insanity. Unfortunately, the woman who lives there usually lies and says they weren't fighting by the time the police show up. The police stay for a couple minutes and leave with nothing more than a verbal warning. The female that lives in the apartment is the instigator. She's bananas and screams at the top of her lungs when she's angry. It's been so bad, I thought a couple times that she was killing her boyfriend, or he was killing her. Also there are children in the house. I've already put in multiple complaints with the HOA and have started to document their fights by recording them through my front door peephole.
Since it's obvious the police are doing nothing and the HOA has yet to take action, what else can I do? I need a creative solution to this problem. I'm a woman who lives alone. I'm not going to confront them because they are obviously not reasonable people. So, reddit, please help me with your best ideas to get these crazy assholes to shut the hell up!
TL;DR: | Neighbors are loud assholes. I've done all I can, legally. What else should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: [21/m] My girlfriend[20/f] is afraid of commitment. Says she "doesnt want to hurt me"
POST: Quick history: We were friends for a little over year before starting to go on dates [side note: I was in a relationship when we became friends, but I did not rush into a new relationship (i.e. this is not a rebound for me)] Anyway, we became "official" about two months ago, which was a huge accomplishment considering her fear of commitment.
Things were going well until recently when the new semester started. She has been very busy with classes and activities and we have less time to see each other. I brought up my concern with her about not being together so often, hoping we could try figure out a schedule, or even time to skype. She agreed, but also brought up her concerns of herself being so busy. She doesnt want me to get too attached to her, because she isnt quite sure how busy she'll be with everything, and doesnt want to hurt me.
That's completely understandable and very thoughtful of her, but I feel as though the "protecting me" is also causing a little bit of harm. I know I can be clingy at times, and I really am working on it (she knows too).
Maybe someone could explain it all better to me or share any advice on how you and your SO dealt with a similar type of situation.
Thanks in advance!
TL;DR: | My[21/m] girlfriend[20/f] doesnt want me to become too attached for fear she might hurt me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: Best friend lied, and pretty badly too.
POST: Ok so I'm gonna give some back story to this, so my best friend wants to be a DJ. Now, he just started out, and he's really bad, like really bad, but that's enough of that. Anyways, I know two other people that want to be DJs, and they are far better than him. But, my best friend, whos been Dj'ing for less than a year now, just recently went into some sort of radio station, and supposedly got a deal from some person from a record label. This was apparently fairly recently. Now, here's where the story gets really interesting, today he told me about how he's going to a house party, specifically at 4 in the morning, with artists like Tiesto, Damian Marley, and The Les Twins. He was booked there, and he said that some people from a record label will be there. Alright so here's some specifics about my friend. He's 15, has zero friends outside of the small school he and I go to, and doesn't and has never had the correct equipment to make mixes. Everytime he has made a mix, he would use an app from his iPhone 6. I don't have a question, I just needed to vent because I'm super pissed that he would even think that I would believe him.
TL;DR: | my best friend dj's and is 15, and got booked at some sort of house party. he's lying. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [17 M] with my ex 1 month after 3 month relationship, After texting her to find out what went wrong, was I controlling?Personal issues
POST: Previous:
Due to some bad advice of a friend, I ended up breaking NC to find out what I did wrong. I was told I was too controlling and didn't trust her.
So assuming I was, was this behavior too controlling. After I start noticing the two talk more and more, I started to lose trust as it was my first one. She rather spent time with him rather than me near the end of the month (Still during "break"). She was telling/ texting him feelings, past, emotions that she doesn't want me to worry about.
Feeling threatened, after they hang out, one time I wanted to ask what they did, where she got defensive. I noticing this stopped and said if you feel threatened you don't have to tell me. She proceeded to hide when they hang out. I guess I felt threatened again and wanted to know when they do hang out as a heads up. So I told her to tell me when they hang out.
I guess my jealousy of him and due to the fact I haven't been able to hang out with her at all for a month, made me insecure. I want to target my actions and learn from it before I might make more toxic moves in the future and hurt who I love. Any advice?
TL;DR: | I think I was too controlling, advice on how to fix if I was. Don't want to hurt future SO. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How long does the slutty post-breakup phase last?
POST: So I [15 F] broke up with my boyfriend (15 M) around last week and a lot of my friends have been concerned about how quickly I've moved on and how my behaviour is somewhat too enthusiastic. I'm like ok about what happened I don't really care but I've noticed that I have the need to be overly provocative, like yesterday I ended up giving a very close friend (16 M) a handsy and it was then when I felt as if something was wrong. How long will this need to be a slut last and how can I quickly overcome this.
TL;DR: | Broke up last week, been a slut since, how long will this last and how do I get over it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by almost drowning my gf
POST: So this happened about a year or so ago. Ex gf goes to a nice college and she has to be all white girl on me when I first get there so I take her to Starbucks and get her some type of frappe I forget which flavor. Well I haven't seen my gf in a week and she's into some weird kinky stuff. Before thinks start getting heavy she wants me to tie her to the bed with handcuffs. Ok that's doable. Little making out and then she goes "babe I'm thirsty." Really, right fucking bnow? Whatever. I grab the frap and forgot it was much thicker then regular liquid and I just absolutely dump it all over her mouth, chest and bed. She is sitting there spitting it up heavy breathing while I'm sitting there in a semi shocked yet laughing state that I almost drowned my handcuffed gf with a Starbucks dairy drink.
TL;DR: | me and gf were getting into it I hancuffed her to bed I went to help her drink she nearly drowned. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Confessions of an Emotionally Dependent Girlfriend.
POST: My boyfriend (19) and I (19) have been dating for almost two years. He lives on one side of the country, and I on the other. Recently, he moved up here and lived in my house for a semester. He hated it though, for good reasons. He couldn't make any friends, everything was too expensive, and he missed his family. Finally, he decided to move back about a month ago. It's been difficult not having him around. He's never given me a reason to mistrust him, yet I find myself paranoid and nervous.
I feel empty a lot and I have to force myself to have fun. I've explained this to him and, while he tries to be understanding, he just makes me feel guilty for being so upset. It's like I've forgotten how to live without him. He's happy back home, and I partly resent him for it. I know, it's terrible. I mentally beat myself up for no reason and find myself creating these awful hypothetical situations in my mind. In fact, they become so vivid I start to believe that they might actually be happening, and my heart starts to frantically beat. I'm going to try therapy and work on doing things for myself, instead of relying on him, but if anyone has any advice, that would be great.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend and I are long distance. He's happy back home, but I'm miserable. Unsure what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My bf [33M] dominates conversations.
POST: Going to keep this short and sweet. I'm a 29 year old woman, and boyfriend in question is 33. We've been dating for about a year. He's always been this way but it's only recently become a real problem.
So he talks nonstop. Especially when he's had a drink too many. I don't mind that much, but when we have company over, I can tell that other people are bored and trying to find a way to get out of the conversation, but my SO is relentless. He's completely obnoxious and doesn't even let me talk, sometimes. The other day we had some acquaintances over for a small gathering, and he kept talking about his own work. He left to go to the bathroom and the other guy turned to me and tried to start a conversation but SO came back and continued saying what he was saying and interrupted me. It isn't an isolated event and it's starting to make me feel alienated/silenced.
I'm just thinking if there's any way for me to bring the matter up to him in a clear way without hurting his feelings. Any ideas?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend talks waaaay too much and it makes me feel ignored. How do I talk to him about it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [M/14] tell my friend [M/14] who my crush is?
POST: He is one of my good friends but I dont need and want him to tell everyone about it and I am not sure if I can trust him. I said I would tell him if he guessed right thinking he would not guess correctly but he actually did and just asked me on Skype. Normally I would ask my best friend [14/M] on his opinion and if not ask my second best friend [14/F] for hers. But unfortunately, they are both performing at a school concert tonight and I cant contact them to ask. So therefore I am asking Reddit. Call me immature and stuff but I really need some advice.
TL;DR: | Friend guessed who my crush is when I thought he wouldnt. Dont know if I should trust him or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: I (19m) am going head over heels for this person (21f)
POST: I just started my new job, and have been talking to this girl for 7 weeks, and I like her more and more every week. She surprises me in the smallest but best ways, and I know for a fact she likes me because she told me. The only problem is she is in the College Program that my job allows (in other words colleges from around the U.S. and even other countries come to work here for a little while, and get college credit). This means she isn't even from here and will be leaving back home in August. Plus she has a boyfriend up there. I do know that she is experiencing troubles with him and it really bothers me seeing her upset, mad, or troubled.
The distance we could potentially have doesn't bother me. The only thing that does is, is me liking her even completely worth it in the end because I honestly don't know what could happen.
TL;DR: | Really like a girl who is not from my state, and has bf, but I know she likes me, need help |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [M22] continue talking to my ex-gf [F22]?
POST: I recently broke up with my gf of a year. I had my reasons and I explained to her how I was feeling and I just did not want to be with her anymore. Its been a little more than a week now. she's keeps sending me long texts of how much she misses and still wants to try to work things out. I don't want to be an asshole but I feel that if I reply to her texts, I'll be leading her on and I don't want to do that, should I just completely cut her off, so her healing can begin and she can start to get over me? Or what should I do?
TL;DR: | broke up with my gf, she keeps trying to talk to me, should I not talk to her at all or should I? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] am dating my first girlfriend [22 F] for 2 months but I think I don't feel anything
POST: Yes, she is 4 years older than me. Actually I am a freshman at my university and she is a graduate student but we are cool with it. We were really close friends for an entire semester (4 months) and eventually we started to date.
The first big shock was when we first made out and when i kissed her (may be relevant: first kiss) I didn't really feel anything. I just tried to please her.
After that night the same thing happened every time; there was no pleasure in it (at least for me).
The issue, however, is that I really do like her. She is the person that I want to see after my crappy Biology class and its her text I want to receive before going to bed, but I just don't feel the pleasure I thought I was supposed to. I really do not feel any excitement when we kiss, its almost like I'm kissing my hand and I think there is something wrong about this.
TL;DR: | I got my first girlfriend and I really like her but there is no physical pleasure (for me) in it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me 27M with my FWB 25F of a month, we agreed to date but she still uses tinder
POST: I met a girl on tinder and we have been hanging out for about a month and a half now. She has always been saying that she really likes me and wants to date me. But I always told her that I was not emotionally ready for a relationship.
Fast forward to two nights ago, she brought up topic of dating again and this time I agreed that we should date.
Ever since we started hanging out she has been really sneaky with her phone. She would be texting people and suddenly hide it if I walked into the room. She will be talking to guys on the phone and if I asked who it was, she would say some female name like Sarah etc. This did bug me a little but as we were not dating, I did not say anything.
Last night, after we had sex. We were both laying in the bed and I fell asleep. I woke up a little later and she was using tinder on her phone while laying next to me. She just froze and tried to tilt the screen so I could not see what she was doing on her phone. But I had already seen. I did not say anything to her and pretended that I was still half asleep. But I feel it was disrespectful of her to be doing that.
I have been cheated on before and I am not sure if this is a red flag or if I am over reacting?
TL;DR: | Started dating my FWB. Found her using tinder while she thought I was sleeping. Is that a redflag? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by describing a date to a girl before asking her on one
POST: Throwaway cause my roommate knows this story and this actually happened today.
So I've been talking to this girl in my lab for a couple of weeks now and I feel that things are progressing enough for me to ask her on a date. Now, I've never ever asked a girl on a date before so I had run through the scenario in my head like 100 times the night before and I was super nervous. I plan on asking her to see this scary movie with me at the movies.
Anyway, we're talking and we get on the subject of movies and I think "this is a great transition into asking her out!" So I bring up the movie and start talking about how fun scary movies are at movie theaters and ask if she's ever seen one at a theater. She looks at me and says "No, that just doesn't seem like something I would enjoy."
At this point I'm like...crap...well I can't ask her now. So I just never ended up asking her on a date at all and have been beating myself up over it ever since.
TL;DR: | Described my planned date with a girl, she said she wouldn't enjoy it, never asked her on a date. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just got a letterfrom my ISP, basically stating that they caught me downloading a torrent(s)?
POST: I just got this today. I was bored a few weeks ago so I decided to try and torrent Just Cause 2. I couldn't get it to work, so I just bought it on Steam for $20.
So I get this letter stating that they caught me downloading it, but there's no clear answer on the letter as to what the penalties are? I'm kind of scared because I just torrented Adobe Lightroom 3 today. Should I get rid of it? God now I feel like there's someone watching everything I do on the internet :\
Help me out Reddit. Should I get rid of anything else I've torrented? There isn't that much...
TL;DR: | Torrented Just Cause 2, failed, so I bought it. Now I'm scared about other things I've downloaded. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: My GF [24/F] was grabbing her friends SO's bum last night. I [27/M] am very annoyed. Is this behaviour out of line? She thinks there is nothing wrong with it.
POST: I am in a tricky point in my life and cannot tell whether what I'm feeling is fair or not. Please advise.
My girlfriend was out with her friends last night. Her friend is seeing this guy. When I was with them earlier today they were all talking about how this guy is "so muscular and his bum is so nice, and that everyone was touching it". My girlfriend then said she didn't at which point her friend said she was touching more than anyone else.
This got me very angry. I think its immature, inappropriate and disrespectful. I would never dream of doing it if it were the other way round.
I know I am probably a little insecure but is this behaviour wrong anyway?
I kind of feel this girl isn't for me (too immature) and perhaps I am in denial about it. I am in a trick place in my life right now and think it would be devastating to break up with her.
TL;DR: | My GF [24/F] was grabbing her friends SO's bum last night. I [27/M] am very annoyed. Rightly so? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by trying to slap my dude friends ass
POST: I was recently in a College production. At the end of the show the cast stand on stage and bow, and then it goes blackout. I mean really blackout. Can't see your own hand in front of your face darkness.
My friend and I (both dudes) occasionally slap each others butts to weird each other out, or sometimes, as a congratulatory slap.
We lined up for the curtain call and I spied my friend (let's call him Larry) next to friend B. Larry was dressed as an oompa loompa. As the extreme darkness ensues I walk over to the oompa loompa next to friend B.
I went for the soft cupping action (haaaa GayYY), not the hard slap we usually go for. Something felt strange about Larry's Buttcheek.
It was not Larry. Larry squats. Larry squats a lot.
This butt was soft like a pillow.
Larry was not the only oompa loompa on stage that night.
To my horror I had grabbed a girls butt (lets call her Mary). Mary is someone who I had never spoken to, and we are both in relationships.
TL;DR: | I caressed a booty that was neither my best friend Larry's, nor my girlfriends. FTFO about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, my friends, siblings have all gone away to college, and I just got done working - but I've got two weeks until I start. What should I do?
POST: Basically, everyone I hang out with has left for school and I'm bored out of my mind. I've played video games, watched movies, finished an entire TV series, packed my stuff, checked my packed things, repacked my things... Eaten a lot, worked out a lot. What really awesome thing haven't I done yet?
I also reinstalled RollerCoaster Tycoon and played until the nostalgia got too bad...(just a side note)
Although sitting home and reading Reddit all day sounds in theory like it might be fun, I promise it gets old real fast.
I'm super bored and even video games are boring, tired of watching movies, I live in a town full of old people where everything closes at nine pm and all there is to do is eat at fancy restaurants.
What do I do, Reddit?
TL;DR: | My friends have gone to school and I am here, alone, with nothing to do - I leave in two weeks. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] was just told by my boyfriend [25M] of 2.5 years that he believes he is polyamorous by nature and can't do an exclusive relationship forever.
POST: After a 2.5 year exclusive relationship, my boyfriend has told me he is polyamorous. He says relationships can't work with just two people and that it can't work for anyone. I don't know how to move forward. He's also given me an ultimatum of "fixing myself" (losing weight, not being insecure anymore, etc) or breaking up, and then says if he broke up with me he'd be in a polyamorous relationship. I don't know what to do. I am just really confused and nervous. I don't want to deny him a lifestyle that would make him happy, but I also don't think that I'm in a place where it'd be healthy to even try it for him.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend wants to be polyamorous and says I need to fix myself. I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [30 M] is worried that I am doomed to be 'forever alone'.
POST: Not a lot to say, really just getting things off my chest.
I feel like a complete freak. People of all shapes, sizes, looks, intelligences, pretty much all humans eventually/occasionally meet people who they date or otherwise become romantically involved with to some level...but not me. I have never had problems talking to females, that sort of "I don't know how to talk to women" thing has never been a problem...its just that NOTHING ever leads to intimacy. I have been on 3 dates in my life, all of which went perfectly amicably but none led to a second date.
The lack of relationships, followed by feeling like a freak just sort of rolls downhill and it is now basically (or has been for like 5-10 years now) a self fulfilling prophecy.
I have made efforts in the last year to change my life (gym 3-5 days/week, left my terrible job, been making an effort on dating sites, trying "new things" like yoga) but it all just feels like I am spinning my wheels.
As much as anything else the thought of a discussion about relationships or my past terrifies me. I can't imagine any women in their right minds would hear "I have never had a serious relationship" and think anything other than "I need to get away from this person".
TL;DR: | Grew up fat...less fat now, but still hung up on it...never dated...think I may be FUBAR'd. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21F] with my BF [24M] 2 years, I found a suggestive photo of a mutual friend on his computer.
POST: So I've been dating this guy for over two years now, Isaac, and we've had some issues in the past when I found him making fakes of celebrities. I found it disrespectful to me and the women who's photos he was editing. It's been a while since that, and I think it's stopped, although who knows, maybe he just became more cautious about it.
Being honest here, I was snooping on his computer today and found an image of a girl with her ass to the camera. Did a reverse image search but wound up with no results. I was pretty certain that I knew her, went to her IG, and low and behold, I found the photo. However, the photo that Isaac had of it the background had been cropped out.
Now, for a little more context to this girl. She's dating a good friend of Isaac, who he was into while in high school. They never became anything because she's a lesbian. If she knew that he did this, she would be as livid as I am. I guess I'm just super repulsed because this crosses all lines and need some help from you guys. I'm really sorry if this is a mess, I'm just super devastated right now.
TL;DR: | My BF has a sexy photo that he edited on his computer of a girl we both know. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to deal with my(f20) boyfriend's (M21) roommates this fall?
POST: Me: f,20 SO: m,21 relationship: 4 years. Roommates: all male, ages 21-23
I've been with my SO for 4 years now and, this fall, he's moving in with 5 other guys. I know and get along well with all of them and consider them to be my friends. However, my boyfriend wants me to be over there all the time. They all seem to be okay with the idea, but it makes me very uncomfortable as I will not be paying any rent on the place and the 6 of them are.
How should I deal with this? I don't really want to offer to pay rent on the place as I have a apartment of my own that I'm already paying for and can't afford two places, but I still feel like I'm free loading.
Details about the place: they have a flat rate every month with water and electricity included so anything I use doesn't up their bills, same goes with internet. My SO has his own room so I will not be encroaching on another person's space. Advice?
TL;DR: | boyfriend wants me to be at his place all the time, but I'm not paying rent and feel bad about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Question About Purchasing a New ($37k) Car
POST: Hello, First post in r/personalfinance for me.
I'm about to buy a new car. I take home about 4k per month (sometimes it's as high as 4500, sometimes as low as 3600) and I pay $1750 in rent. I have ~400 in student loans I pay monthly. Monthly fixed expenses total around 200 per month. If you want the full breakdown of my budget, I can make a Google Doc or something.
Anyway, my question is how much I should put down on a $37k car. I have about $15k free and available, but I've read that the max that should be put down is 20%? I'll probably be looking at a 60 month payment plan, as that would put me around 4%, and 400 per month with 100 per month insurance.
TL;DR: | going to buy a car for around 37k and want to know how much to put down. I have 15k available. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How to tell if you actually want to get back with someone or if you're just grieving for the relationship?
POST: My now ex and I broke up before the weekend and it's really thrown me into a downward spiral. I'm trying to work out if I genuinely do want to be with her or not. I'll provide some context real quick
Basically, I'm suffering from some serious depression and I kept it to myself all summer. Without realising, it made me distant from her and we broke up under the reason of wanting different things. However, I'm now thinking that the only thing I actually want is to be with her whatever happens, but I'm struggling to work out if that's separate from the grief or if it's part of it.
Can anyone help me out or offer advice?
To fulfill the post guidelines: I'm a male. She's a female. We are both 20. The relationship lasted 6 months
TL;DR: | Idk if I should try to get back with my ex or if I'm just feeling guilty or want the security back. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Tifu by putting gloves in my pockets.
POST: I went out on the boat today to go for a dive and had these new gloves that I had just purchased and was going to test. I was getting all my stuff ready and the water got really choppy so I stuffed my new Dive Master gloves into the pocket of my BC. Get to the reef and hop in the water completely forgetting about gloves. I thought I left them on the bench on the boat so I holler at the Captain to toss them down and of course he says they're not there. I say oh well and go on my dive. Great dive, lots of pictures, plenty of air left, everything went great. Get back on the boat and that Captain says. "After you went down I saw your gloves float off. They're probably about half a mile west by now." Luckily they weren't expensive and I bought a new pair upon returning to the shop.
TL;DR: | Testing out new pair of SCUBA gloves. Forgot I put them in my BC pocket. They're now in Cuba. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [16 M] with my Crush [16 F] Recently ignoring me
POST: There's this girl I've known for a year and ever since I met her I'd seriously loved her personality, appearance and for some odd reason just creates positive vibes as soon as I see her. I'm in high school, so is she and recently she has started ignoring me.
I also know that a few other boys are going for her and seems like my chances are slim to zero.
When I message her she doesn't look like she's enjoying it so I think I'll stop messaging her all together.
What am I doing wrong? Because really this is stressing me out to much that life sucks.
TL;DR: | High school crush [16/F] ignores me on IM and flirts with other guys. Me [16/M] What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: To my "friends"
POST: Fuck you.
I can forgive the ones who managed to get out of this shit-tastic town. I can forgive them because I know if they were here, they would be with me, picking me up when I'm down. But the ones who are still here?
You've been nothing but a disappointment. You constantly make and then break plans with me, making me feel unwanted and like a loser for being a college girl stuck inside on the weekends. I'm not old enough to get into a bar, but you can't wait the five fucking months it will take me to be old enough. Instead, you hang out with everyone else and never bother to call me. I've been nothing but supportive of you, and you only care about yourselves. When I needed someone there, none of you were around. And yet you all know my fucking number when you need something, and can't seem to get back to me when I just need someone to hang out with. I'm not even surprised anymore. Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you.
I've never felt so alone in my life. I need my best friend and she's thousands of miles away, and the ones who are right here either ignore me or treat me like shit. I can't wait to get out of here and never talk to any of you stupid, selfish, flakey motherfuckers ever again.
TL;DR: | I'm lonely, I need a good friend to keep me company, and everyone I know is a selfish shitmonger. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend's (16/M) mother (age unknown) expects me (16/F) to be like his older brother's wife?
POST: It was brought up in conversation quite some time ago, but I began thinking on it and it just bothered me.
Her exact words were more along the lines of, "I said to B that he better find a girl like W." B being my boyfriend.
Now I'm expected to live up to an apparent high standard? I'm sure she didn't mean any harm by it, but I brought it up with my boyfriend and he simply said, "She just loves W."
I'm sure W is a smart, pretty, talented woman and though I'm sure his older brother already hates me because of an issue that happened long ago, I would like to meet her and at least say hi so she knows my face and knows that I'm not actually as mean as portrayed.
Am I over-thinking this? Should I just let it go?
TL;DR: | I feel as if I'm expected to be somebody I'm not by my boyfriend's mother. Should I just let it go? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[18/M] have a massive crush on my [17/F] best friend. Don't think she feels the same way.
POST: I've known her since 5th grade, we grew up together, and I've held a loooong crush on her for years. It's never been bad, it's sort a light crush, but, lately it's gotten bad. She's dropped a few hints that suggest to me she wants a relation. Anywhere from flirting with me, to hugging me.
What truly made me stop and think she may have feelings for me was when she and I were talking late one night. We described what we wanted to do once our senior year was done. She was going off to College out of state, and then we got into the subject of romance. She began describing her "prince charming", and oddly said Prince fit my personality to a T, hell even my description sorta.
I joked with her that her ideal guy sounded sorta like me. She laughed and told me how oddly coincidental and she wonders what it means. She didn't elaborate further, but, for her tone and the way she looked at me, I got the feeling she meant me.
Ahhh, but, what if I'm just being egotistical and beleiving what I want to hear? She's never before made any sort of romantic gesture towards me and since that night she's not done any "flirting" or elaborated further. Am I just being dense and misunderstanding her intentions?
TL;DR: | i'm in love with my best friend, but, I have no idea if she genuinely feels the same about me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] 6 months, sex life drying up
POST: Me: Inexperienced, she's one of my very few sexual partners
Her: She's had 10x more sexual partners than me, likely around 20
When we met, she was in to sex a lot. We knew each other for about 3 weeks, the night we started dating, we had sex. Some days, we've had sex up to 7 times a day, when she's on like this horny "spree". This would put us at around 15 times a week during some weeks.
Now we are 6 months into the relationship, we might have sex once or twice a week, sometimes none. Given she is one of my first relationships, I never really experienced this.
It's not that I don't initiate it, she's just like "okay, good night" as soon as I get in bed, like to the point where I don't even bother going to bed at 9 PM to watch TV some nights anymore, and I just stay up doing work.
This might be normal in some relationships I would think, but given she has a sexual past of enjoying sex with a number of people, I kind of thought she would still be into it still.
Is such a massive drop off normal after 6 months? Friends said it would die off, but I feel like what they say after being married for 20 years.
TL;DR: | 6 months into a relationship, sex life is 10% what it used to be. Is this normal at this stage? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My girlfriend [24F] has been stealing from me [28M]. Dating for 1.5 years, everything else is great, what do I do?
POST: I have a prescription for adderall that I keep in my car. I don't use the entire amount every month but I noticed I had significantly less than I had taken at one point and started keeping accurate records of how many I had, and when.
From what I was able to deduce, my girlfriend will use my car keys while I'm in the shower, take several out (I guess not enough that she thought I would notice), and then proceed to make me breakfast and be sweet as usual.
She is really great but this is very disturbing to me. Before anyone gets the wrong idea, she does NOT have a "drug problem," she's only taking a little and she's not addicted to any other drugs, etc.
I don't want to break up with her because she's very good to me but this weighs heavily on my mind. For certain I have to address this with her, but how? What do I say? What are some reactions she's likely to have? We generally have good communication but I really need help with this.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend is stealing a bit of my adderall. This disturbs me. How should I address it with her? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Found out my [22F] close group of friends [23F, 29M, 24F] had a party and didn't invite me
POST: So I'm not sure what to think. I'm very confused. These are my people, and we've been tight since we met almost 4 years ago. Two of them have been in a on/off relationship with each for 3 years, I was also briefly in a relationship with one of them, and the other is married. Everything has been great, no tension, we were all happy. Things are more awkward now, with everyone pretending things are ok. They kept it a secret, and I feel betrayed. We had always had this party together before.
Am I right in how I feel for being left out? Most importantly, is this whole scenario messed up? Would you have the same reaction if it was you, and your friends?
Thanks to everyone who reads this - you guys rock
TL;DR: | my bff's didn't tell me they threw a party. It's not like them, and I'm confused. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by snooping on my exs page and gloating about it :(
POST: So recently, I just got out of a terrible relationship, I mean I didn't even feel like I loved this girl anymore, I dragged it on and on for a year and three months, and I finally just broke up with her yesterday morning around midnight-ish... and after a day of having her fucking family post hateful shit on me, i decided to see what was posted for myself and I screenshotted a picture of the things that were said about me and sent it to a few friends, they had a good chuckle, then I sent it to a friend whom I've been talking to since last June, and she got upset because my ex's belligerent fat lazy illiterate welfare sucking bitch mother called her a whore, and my friend has a low self-esteem... and she gets upset and starts crying and right now I have no knowledge if I fucked this friendship up or not. :(
TL;DR: | Screenshotted nasty comments from ex's mom and sent them to a friend, she's crying, I'm crying. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] with my friend [22 M] I want to catch the train alone, can't get away.
POST: Thanks reddit!
After a full day of study at college I have a 1.5 hour train trip home, I use this time mostly for reading and listening to music and this is really the only time I have alone during that day.
Recenlty a guy in my class moved and now we catch the same train. He's an alright guy but I have mostly avoided seeing him on there.
Until now, as soon as class finishes he's announcing to me that we're catching the same train, I try to make excuses but he's not getting the hints. I go to the bathroom and he's waiting outside.
I'm getting increasingly edgy and so I tell him I have to meet up with a mate for a group assignment (making excuses) , he then tells me that he can wait. My blood is boiling at this point. I stall for about 30 mins and then we got catch the train home together.
I'm so angry the whole way home but obviously I don't show it, he has no idea. We make small talk etc, but I also ask if he knows how to use the trains, he says he doesn't. Confused I asked how he got here and he says he got here by a "helicopter". On three seperate occasions I asked this question and he said "helicopter", which is obviously untrue.
I am not sure what to do and I feel like I can't be mean to him but I also don't want to spend the next 3 years on the train with him. Am I being selfish/rude and should I just stick it out?
Thanks everyone!
TL;DR: | Want to catch the train alone, mate wants to come with me, give him hints but he's not getting it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by telling my GF there are many ethnic groups in China
POST: This happened a few weeks ago. FYI, I am Chinese and my girlfriend is mixed race (black and white). She hates it when people tells her she is not real black. We were talking about some news about immigration one evening, and she started telling me that China is not a very diverse country, with predominantly Chinese. Being the one who claims to know everything about China, I just had the urge to prove her wrong. "No, it's not true, we have a lot of ethnic groups in China. Some of them don't even look like Chinese. Some of them look like a mix between Han Chinese and Caucasians, you know, like, Uighurs." Just as I finished showing off my profound knowledge in China, I saw her face turned livid, and then she turned around and was about to cry, "XX, I am very disappointed that you would make fun of me like that!" "What?! No I did not!" I was very confused and little frustrated. Was she on her period? What just happened? Then suddenly it dawned on me that the word "Uighur" sounds just like "Wigger".
So of course, I have to google the word "Uighur" to show her that there is really such a word and I was not trying to make a stupid joke about her. Thank you Google for saving me!
TL;DR: | I told my GF there are Uighurs in China. She thought I said "wiggers" and she is mixed race. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (23 m) tried to break up with (21 f) of 13 months but I caved
POST: My girlfriend recently revealed that she wants kids in the future. I however do not and many fights have occured where im called selfish for not compromising with her and saying yes to kids.
I tried to break up with her yesterday saying that we have different views and I cant keep you from having a child that you want.
She was hysterical saying no and you cant do this to me.
Then she turns around and says its all her familys fault and they were pushing the idea into her head and now she wants to be together and not want kids suddenly.
I caved and said things were fine but I showed no affection.
I dont know if shes lying to me or telling the truth. I dont know why this kid issue was such a huge thing in her eyes before I wanted to break up but now suddenly its not.
I feel pretty weak willed to tell the truth :(
I might seem like less of a man for not sticking to my guns but I dont know why I cave.
TL;DR: | gf wanted kids 100%. I dont ever. Wanted to break it off because its better for both of us. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: He [M23] told me he likes me [F20] but he has a GF.
POST: Hi, I met this guy a couple months back at this weekly workshop, and I'm really into him, we share loads of similar interests ( 3D modeling and Digital Art) and he has a great sense of humor.He even made a painting for me which was really awesome. And he told me he always wants to see me smile, all that sweet stuff.
He Imed me up last night and we had a steady conversation going until the topic went to relationships. He told me he had a girlfriend for the past 3 months and things weren't that steady because the GF just came from a breakup and still talks to her ex.
He told me then that he wished I was a guy, because he feels guilty talking about his problems with me.
Here he tells me he's into me; he likes me, has a crush on me. I decide to be honest with him and tell him I like him too, but I don't do guys who are in a relationship already.
Although I did say that, I'm really into this guy. I'm not sure what to do, this is the first time I've really connected with someone like this.
I don't want to be the ' other woman' and if he breaks up with this gir to be with me, there's no way of telling he'll do it again.
Please help r/ relationships, I've only had one other relationship in my life so I'm kind of a noob here.
TL;DR: | I'm really into this guy who told me he likes me too but has a GF, I'm not sure how to proceed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: My Girlfriend never loved me...
POST: So here is my story: My 26 yo g/f and I (who is 24 yo male) started dating a little over a year ago. This is both our first real relationship we ever had and I've tried to have made it as memorable as possible.
After awhile I told her that I loved her(which I still do), but she couldn't tell me she felt the same way but, she *might* be able to tell me later. So I was patient and every so often I would tell her my feelings and I would receive a kiss but no "I love you" back.(fast forward to today) Recently I told her that I want to hear her tell me she loves me and that when I'm with her I get the feeling that she does but she can't say it. She then tells me that she doesn't feel that way about me, and that she was sorry for giving me that impression. So today we decided to go on a break. That way we can organize our thoughts. Was that the right thing to do? I have no idea what I'm doing. Please help!!
TL;DR: | I'm on a break with my girl who couldn't tell me she loves me. Was that the right thing to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I(21M) stop obsessively thinking over and assuming the worst with everything I do with women? (UPDATE)
POST: Link to my previous post
So I happened to look at her instagram tonight, and I see that she is still talking to her ex. They recently broke up (1-2) months max. The sentence that stuck out most to me was her responding to him saying, "OMG, I'm coming over now."
Guess i wasn't just being paranoid, there really was a reason she wasn't talking to me. I don't know how severe the relationship is, but it seems that she is in some degree still wrapped up in her ex. That about does it to me, the next time I see her I think I'm going to call it off. My gut tells me this is the right thing to do, what do you guys think?
TL;DR: | Girl (19) is still talking to her ex, possibly even seeing him. Do i(21M) immediately call it off? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I need some guidance reddit.
POST: So last friday I went to a party. There was a girl there, and we just instantly connected. She was giving me sweet looks, inviting me downstairs for drinking games (she actually came back up to ask me if I wanted to) hugging me, etc. I burned my hands on a ciggarette and she instantly saw and helped me take care of it (Im really dumb when it comes to anything medical). I really like her alot. We've been talking alot since then, and we're going to do something this weekend.
Only thing is, shes got a boyfriend. Hes a complete asshole to her. (If some of you are reading this, its the same girl from my last emo post).
Anyway, should I go for it? Or should I wait to see if they break up?
TL;DR: | I like a girl, shes got an asshole boyfriend, I wanna ask girl out, not sure if I should. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [32 M] broke up with a girl 1 year ago. I still have fights with her in my head. How can i let her go?
POST: I dated a girl, and I thought I met the love of my life. She dated me too but she evaluated me all the time and in the end didn't feel the same.
We had a great emotional and mental connection and it wasn't enough. We broke up and had a talk and then I moved on.
6 Months later I started dating someone new. She's wonderful and sweet and has been the best person i've ever dated. And yet, i keep thinking about my ex. Not even romantically. I keep having fights in my head with her about things that happened a year ago.
How do I let her go? How do I let whatever is going on in my head out and permanently gone?
TL;DR: | Dated a girl, lost a girl. Dated a new girl - still thinking about ex. How do I let her go?! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend (23) and I (22) been together for 6 years. He gets mad when I don't go see him.
POST: My boyfriend and I met in high school. I love him very much. He broke up with me 4 months ago because he was confused about the relationship. He came back and wanted to try again. Things have been going great for us.
He recently moved to another city an hour away from where I live because of his job. I'm also working full time so I only get to see him on weekends. Recently I've been having so many days off.
I would love to spend my days off with with my bf but I still live with my parents. My mom won't let me spend the night at his house. When I tell him I can't see him he gets mad and doesn't reply. But then again he doesn't ask me to move in with him.
TL;DR: | I don't know what to do or say to him. Sometimes I feel like he's being selfish and doesn't care. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: Boss confused by base salary with my potential earnings with bonus. Frustration.
POST: Hey r/personal finance, not sure if this is the appropriate place for this, but here goes.
A little background: I've been working my ass off the past year, gunning for a raise or a promotion, taking on new responsibilities, working odd/extra hours. A few weeks ago, I was informed by my boss that I was receiving a SUBSTANTIAL raise for my base salary (~18%). So I watched and waited for my bank account to reflect said raise, and it never did. I talked to my boss about this, and it turns out he got my base salary confused with my potential total earnings with bonuses. So it turns out it was more like a 3% raise.
In retrospect, an 18% raise is probably ridiculous and unrealistic, but I couldn't help but feel completely deflated after asking my boss and being informed about this miscommunication, especially after putting forth a ton of effort which I feel warrants more than a 3% raise.
I read some of u/drhorn 's writeups on salary negotiations and strategies for those, so I know I can make a plan on how to attack this situation in the future. I'm still feeling kind of miffed that I got my expectations up real high for 3 weeks, and now they're shot. Just needed to vent about this. Thanks
TL;DR: | Boss told me I got an 18% raise, really was only a 3% raise, OP's productivity for the day is gone. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Please someone help me. My pain is so bad and I can't function anymore. me, f(26) him 26, 4.5 year long relationship
POST: My ex of 4.5 years went on a "break" with me 2 months ago and texted me/called me pretty frequently up until 1.5 weeks ago. It was an agonizing decision to him to go on a break with me but he still did it; I was obviously devastated and always answered his calls/texts even though it never meant we were going to get back together. He would call me crying and telling me he loved me and wanted to see me but just couldn't get back together with me. We had a great 4.5 year relationship but he always had doubts about me and could never commit and that's why we went on a break.
He hasn't contacted me in 1.5 weeks. I look on facebook, and he is clearly starting to get into someone with some (very pretty) looking girl. I am just devastated. I knew he was sorta using me to feel better and now the truth is, he has dropped me since he met this new girl. I called him like 10 times tonight and he didn't answer. This pain now is so much worse than when we first broke up. It's like, real now, he has found someone else to share everything with (so it seems). His dog, his new apartment, everything. I can't stop thinking about it and crying nonstop. I was wondering why he stopped calling me, and now I have the reason. Please someone tell me something to make me feel better.
TL;DR: | boyfriend of 4.5 years took "break" with me; found someone else. Can't handle the pain. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My (21f) boyfriend (21m) of 2 yrs broke up with me because he was not sure. Now I don't know what to do with myself.
POST: We had a class together and that's how we met. I was his first gf ever and now he is gone. The reason being is he could not see us in the future because he did not know what he was doing with and for me was love or just himself. So now he wants to go out and find someone to see what his feelings for me are. I thought he was the one I'd spend the rest of my life with because of being so comfortable around him. Now that he's gone I don't know what to do with myself. Any suggestions on making a broken hearts girl better?
TL;DR: | I'm not sure what to do next. If I should have hope he'll come back or forget him all together. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My ex of a few months [22 F] has made me [22 M] her emotional center and it's hurting her, what do?
POST: My ex (also my best friend) and I broke up a few months ago, but she never stopped being emotionally invested in me, never stopped thinking about me, never stopped saying "I love you," and never stopped expecting relationship-type things of me. We still spend time together sometimes, which probably has kept her in that relationship paradigm.
None of this is exactly my problem, since we broke up, but as her words get more desperate I have to wonder if this is hurting her in the long run and if she would be better off if I stopped talking to her completely. She literally sent me a text after I went to bed that said "you are my biggest distraction in everything I do because I think about you every 30 seconds."
Should I cut her off completely, or do something else to help her? No chance of us getting back together.
TL;DR: | Ex I still hang out with is still madly in love with me, should I cut off contact to help her? |
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