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SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: But I Shit Hot Fire
POST: OK so I love my hot sauce, especially really hot, habenero stuff, but without fail, every day after eating something with hot sauce the night before, I shit the hottest fire from the moment I wake up in the morning to the second I go to bed at night. And not only is it hot as the depths of a fiery furnace, I will shit this molten lava 4-5 times throughout the day. Shit, I've already shit 3 times this morning and it isn't even 9 AM!!
So the question is, what, if anything, can I do to alleviate the fire in my bottom? I love hot sauce too much to stop using it but the pain in my asshole is just too much.
TL;DR: | I eat hot sauce, now my asshole burns like the Sahara at noon, what can I do to stop the burn? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: A New Years conundrum, turning to Reddit for advice.
POST: Hello everyone,
Thanks for taking the time to read this and help me out, so i'll keep it short and to the point. I'm stuck between two options, on one hand my best friend and all my closest friends are having a huge blowout party at their place to ring in the new year as well as my best friends birthday. This sounds like a great time until you factor in that I can't bring the girl I'm extremely interested in and have also made loose plan, but still plans with to spend the new year with her. I can't really turn to either side for help because both are biased. The situation is further complicated by the fact that I am very, very interested in this girl and I feel if I was to blow her off that it would end any possibility together...
TL;DR: | Best bros are having a blowout party that I can't bring my "almost girlfriend" too. Need help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [24/f] have a huge crush on coworker [26/m] but have no desire to be with him?
POST: Basically I am wondering if anyone else has been in a situation similar to mine.
I began working in a new work place two months ago. Since day one I have fallen head-over-heels for a coworker of mine. He's very sweet, funny, cute, and we do have a lot in common. I try to make small talk, joke around, watch him... be a complete creep I'm sure. The last few weeks we have gotten around to talking more and more and realize he likes a lot of the same things/hobbies I do... but compatibility... I don't feel we'd have.
I do not party or drink or flirt much at all... he's the complete opposite. He's talked about his past a bit, and about what he wants for the near future and I feel that no matter what he says I cannot get past this high school crush I have over him.
Besides that, I consider him a mentor, a friend nothing I will act on .. just curious to know if anyone else has experience a crush (intense or not) but had no desire to actually hook up or date said person.
TL;DR: | I like a guy, guy flirts with me, I have no desire to get with him. Is that weird? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25 M]
POST: I was homeschooled, and due to shyness, degree choice, and some really bad injuries, I didn't socialize much in college.
My type is introverted (or at least 50% introverted) girls who are athletic, intelligent, and talkative. I love listening (to smart people), and I'm kinda an adrenalin-seeker. I'd much rather go sky diving than go to a party or go clubbing.
I've had few close female friends, and all have been super extroverted. I'm used to letting girls make all the moves, and I don't know what to do!
Now that my injuries are better, I'm trying some sports out, but it's hard for me because I'm super athletic, but I never played sports growing up. I also just get really shy, and only talk to guys and extroverted girls.
So, if you are an introverted, talkative girl and just met an introverted guy who seems nice, what would you like him to do???
TL;DR: | How do I talk to introverted girls? I'm used to letting extroverted girls make all the moves... |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: (Canadian) Lawyers of Reddit! I got hit by a car riding my bike and need legal advice.
POST: So this is the gist of the story. I was biking to work at 6:00 am, on the side of the road (as I think it's illegal to bike on sidewalks in Toronto), about a meter off the curb when I was rear ended by a taxi van.
I flew forward and fell off my bike and landed awkwardly on my elbow. I was shouting and yelling at him as I was getting up, and noticed he was on his phone when I approached the drivers side window. He eventually rolled down his window after trying to ignore me but then just apologized and asked if I was ok. Still mad, I shouted at him, pointed to my destroyed bike, and said no I'm not ok. I took out my phone to call the police, and take his insurance info down, when he rolled up his window and drove away.
I filed a police report, and they said they would charge him once they find out who was driving the van (I wrote down his license plate #).
I went to the hospital and turns out I have a broken radial cuff and will likely be in a sling for the next month. I probably will be unable to work for the time being as well.
What are my legal rights, can I sue him on top of the charges being laid on him (assuming they find him)?
TL;DR: | I got hit by a car biking (hit and run), broke my elbow, and want to sue. Advice please :) |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: Can I still go to college? What should I do?
POST: Can I still be accepted into my college? First of all I am taking AP Statistics and have been having a very hard time with this class since the beginning. First semester I was barely able to pull off a C in the class. I have a C- right know (~72%) and I just took my final which is worth 20% of my grade. I feel really bad about this final although I studied for hours on end for it. I don't know if I should blame myself or the lack of preparation our teacher gave us. Probably myself however, if I do, do bad enough on the final, where I do get a D, will there be any chance that I can still get into my college. Its not a very big college but it still is my first choice and I honestly do not want to go to community college.
I would like to add that my teacher doesn't even know what he is talking about half of the time and seems to put off a lot of questions that people ask him. He barely prepared us for this final because he has some delusion that everyone in that class has As and Bs when most of us have Cs.
TL;DR: | Might get a D in AP Stat because of final, can I still get into college? If not what do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Date spent whole time on candy crush saga... was I wrong to tell him to cut it out?
POST: I've known this guy for two years. I'm 20F, he's 28M. Today we went on a date to the zoo while he's in town. He has to work Saturday and Sunday but has Friday off.
He has spent all day on his phone. He texted his boss, his co-workers, his friends, and everyone else. When he wasn't texting he was on candy crush.
I told him midway through that I found it rude to do that, and asked him to talk to me. He seemed huffy, and I asked if he was sure he didn't have to work today and he reassured me He was off. He told me he's capable of multitasking and can text and play and talk all simultaneously. I didn't really have a response.
Who's wrong here? Was I expecting too much from a first date? Is it okay to multitask like that? Was I rude to ask him to stop?
TL;DR: | Asked a guy on a date, he spent it on his phone, I asked him to stop, who was rude here? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Need dating advice [18M]
POST: Hello /r/relationships,
I am [18m] in college. I have been out and partying a lot recently, and have met some nice freshman girls on my travels. One girl [18F] stands out above all of the rest. We have hung out a few times over a 2 week period, and each time makes me want her more. When I asked her about dating, she mentioned she isn't over her "summer fling" [20/M] from her hometown. I enjoy time with her over everyone else, but I still want to get out and "explore".
Essentially, my question is Would I look like an ass for hooking up with other girls while liking her? Could she be testing me to see whether I stick around? What should I do?
TL;DR: | Nice [18F] has an "fling" that is keeping her from getting serious. Should I stick around? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it reasonable for my parents [57M, 55F] to monitor my [F22] mail?
POST: I'm a college student (21F), and live about 2,500 miles from my parents (57M, 55F). I'm usually at their house for <6 weeks a year. Otherwise, I live alone.
During term, my parents pay for my tuition, room and board, but I must earn my own spending money. (yes, I know I'm lucky.)
When I'm at home, I play by their rules. This includes mail -- if I get mail, my parents demand to know what it is, and who it's from, and how expensive it is, and why I bought it (if I bought it), and generally justify my mail. All money spent on living expenses (like packages) are paid for by me.
It's not like I'm overbuying -- in the next three weeks, I should get a birthday present from my boyfriend, a book I won in a giveaway, and $10.55 ballet flats. So, not exactly unusual or problematic, even in parental eyes.
But they open every box, demand to see its contents, and explain my relationship with the sender. Even letters, my parents want to know the rough contents. I have no privacy at all, and for various reasons, I can't really go to brick-and-mortar stores. So, effectively, my parents monitor and make me explain in detail any purchase and mail contact.
Is this normal? It doesn't feel normal -- it feels really overbearing, but my parents disagree.
TL;DR: | F21 wants to know if her parents are being overbearing, or if this is just a part of being at home. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Ex-girlfriend and before that, best friend wants to meet. I need advice.
POST: Before I explain the situation, I'll fill you in on my backstory.
About two years ago, I started dating my best friend. It ended up being the most serious relationship I've had for a year, until she broke up with me, leaving me heartbroken for a month or two. We got together again for another month, but she said it wasn't gonna work out, so we went our separate ways.
After that I felt better about it, until she started dating a co-worker of ours. (we worked in the same place) because of how stressed and upset this was making me, I quit and haven't spoken to her much since.
Recently, we've been chatting far more online, and she said she'd like to try and become better friends again. As I said before, we were best friends before dating, so it's obvious why I'd want her back as a friend. I have no intentions of taking it further than that, and I'm sure she doesn't either, but I'm not sure if meeting her in person would open old wounds.
So what do you guys think? Should I give it a go and meet her (she suggested getting some friends together, not just the two of us) or should I let us drift apart?
TL;DR: | ex-gf is also ex-best friend. She wants to meet up and get our friendship working again, what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I just broke out of the friend zone with a girl I've been friends with for over a year (I was like her gay best friend). Reddit, what have you done that is commonly deemed as "undo-able?"
POST: This girl that I've been super close friends with for over a year now (would have tried for more but she was in a relationship for the first long bit of our friendship) and a couple of nights ago we were hanging out and then went to bed and cuddled (we did that all the time, like I said, gay friend basically, though she knew I wasn't gay). Then the cuddling got a little more intense and felt a little less like just friends laying together. Then, out of no where she just asks if she can kiss me and we start making out. The next night we had gone almost all the way and now we are in a relationship.
TL;DR: | Was girls "gay" best friend for a year, then we cuddled, she kissed me and now we are together. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Is it wrong to lie [19 F] about being in a relationship to an [25 M] acquaintance?
POST: Hi, so I just met this guy and we've only spoken a few times. I bumped into him a few nights ago and he asked me out to dinner, to which I accepted (mostly out of politeness). I'm not interested in him, and am not really sure why he's asking me out. He's weirdly insistent on paying for the dinner, which makes me slightly uncomfortable because we barely know each other. If he asks if I'm seeing anyone, would it be wrong to lie and say that I am? I don't want him to think it's a date but at the same time to tell him upfront that it isn't would seem really presumptuous, in my opinion.
TL;DR: | A guy I barely know asked me out to dinner. If he asks, is it wrong to say that I have a boyfriend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I(22F) met a guy(30M) and I want to ask him out. How soon is too soon?
POST: This morning I met a guy who works with me for a community based organization. We were able to chat a little bit and found out that we have very similar tastes in music. We joked with each other a bit, and his humor is great. After I left(he was coming in to fill my spot), I sent him a silly email that had a joke about a piece of music. He immediately added me on FB and praised me to a mutual coworker about my taste in music.
To keep it short, I already have a crush on him. When I know what I want, I know what I want. I wouldn't mind asking him out in person if I knew I would see him soon. I'm also impatient and aggressive, so there's that too.
I just don't want to scare him off or make him uncomfortable. If he doesn't reciprocate the same feelings for me, it isn't entirely likely that we'll run into each other again. I normally work a different day than him.
Would only a few hours after meeting someone be way too soon to ask them on a date?
TL;DR: | I want to ask a man on a date, but I don't want to freak him out or make things uncomfortable. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Being hit by my girlfriend?
POST: Hi all me and my gf have been together almost 2 yrs [m19][f16]. I'm not sure why she hits me sometimes, i don't know if its a joke or what but she'll hit me. sometimes in the face sometimes just in my arm or whatever. she sometimes does it if i make a joke or something like that. Or just take the piss a little, not in a harsh way, just as a jokey way.
Or sometimes I'm just a little silly, one time we were playing guitar and i was laughing and she hit me in the face. Is this a normal thing? This is my first relationship so i imagine im just overreacting and its a relatively common thing and is probably more than likely just a joke.
One time we were watching a film and there was a good looking lady in the film and i just sighed and she hit me for it. i don't know whether its because i made note that a hot lady was in the film or what.
Any help please?
TL;DR: | my gf hits me, not sure if its just a joke or not but is this normal? or is this ok? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Advice wanted; really difficult to lose weight after hitting 100 pound milestone
POST: Hey everyone!
I read through the FAQ, and I think this is within the rules.
Anyway! A little background;
I lost around 100 pounds through clean, not entirely strict paleo eating and working out hard. It was great! But I took a little break because I liked where I was at. I hve about 40 pounds left to lose, but I was okay with hanging around maintaining for a while.
Now, I've maintained that 100 lb loss, but I cannot lose another pound to save my life. Ive done strict paleo, strict keto, non strict paleo, regular calorie counting, weight watchers, super low calorie (800-1200 cals), etc. nothing is working anymore. I've been working out like a beast for the past two weeks (weight training with cardio instead of just cardio) and I've gained 6 pounds. I've been at this for about a year now, and I'm not bout to give up, but it's definitely disheartening.
I'm open to any and all suggestions.
TL;DR: | 27/f, lost 100 pounds a couple of years ago, cant fucking lose anymore weight no matter what I do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: How/When did you know what you wanted to do for a living?
POST: People of reddit, I am in the middle of reevaluating what to do for a living. I have a few ideas of where to go from here, but I am curious about the process that other people have used.
So here's my question:
***If you are enjoying what you do in life for a living, HOW/WHEN did you know what you wanted to do?***
If you can share also what is that you do, and your age.
And if you don't enjoy what you do, what is that you'd like to do, and are you working towards it, or it's just a dream?
TL;DR: | If you are enjoying what you do in life for a living, HOW/WHEN did you know what you wanted to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [30 F] have been with my boyfriend [36 M] for six months, he's on antidepressants and they affect our sex life
POST: Basically, he can get hard but he can't come. In the beginning of our relationship we had sex a lot and for as long as we could before we were both exhausted, but then it kind of fell into the routine of just stopping after I've come. I'd often ask him if he wanted to continue, but he'd say no.
Now he never initiates sex at all, and when I do, I feel like maybe he's only doing it to keep me happy... I've had to start faking it because I know he feels guilty about the situation and would only feel worse if he thought I didn't come every time either.
The thing is, the antidepressants are working for him, so I don't know whether I can ask him about switching to different ones...
Has anyone else dealt with this issue? I guess any ideas on what would be good to say to him or if anyone has any great sex tips that might help - am considering asking him if he wants a 'prostate massage' already FYI, but that's another thing I'm not sure how to bring up!!
TL;DR: | Boyfriend can't 'finish' when we have sex, don't know what to say or do about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Scale defeat after vacation.
POST: I started losing weight 2 months ago by using MFP and hitting the gym 2-3 times a week.
I lost 19 lbs in 2 months. Started at 6' 250lb.
Just spent a week on a much needed vacation in mexico. Decided to not bother counting calories or really worring about eating and drinking after 2 months of daily tracking.
Well I had lots of fish tacos, banana daiquiris and Dos esquis. Half of my meals were resort buffets and the others were at authentic mexican restaurants. I didn't snack at all between meals or eat at all after dinner.
Anyhow, I ended up gaining 7 lbs in those 6 days. Frustrating how hard it is to lose and ridiculously easy it is for me to gain. But I'm refocused and excited to get back to eating healthy. I ate 1556 calories today giving me 4 to spare but I'm done eating for the day.
So that's my story. Keep on keeping on losers.
TL;DR: | lost 19 lbs in 2 months. Gained 7 eating tacos and drinking daiquiris for 6 days in mexico. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by peeing GF's bed.
POST: I've had many fuck-ups in my time, this being the most recent (only yesterday).
So, I was staying at my girlfriend's house, watching a bit of TV before falling asleep.
During the night, her dog must have came into the room, jumped onto the bed and nudged it's way under the covers (as it often does).
A little through the night, I piss myself (yep. At 18 years of age, I pissed myself in my girlfriend's bed). I panic, I try to wipe it off with my socks which was on the floor. It didn't work. In my frantic behaviour I woke up my girlfriend. Not wanting to own up to pissing myself, I blame her dog.
She gets mad at her dog, kicks it out of the room.
Now the dog has to sleep in a kennel outside and isn't allowed upstairs at all. All because of me.
TL;DR: | Pissed my GF's bed, blamed the dog, now it has to sleep outside in a kennel. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Found out my (30m) bisexual GF (25f) of 4 years secretly wants a threesome. I am excited, but I'm not.
POST: So as all of these go, I have a past with this girl. I love her to death, she's awesome. That being said, we've had our rough patches. One of them being her drunkenly engaging in a lesbian encounter with a friend one night. I forgave her for it. I haven't **forgotten** about it, but it has not been an issue since. I trust her, and have no reasons to doubt her fidelity. Her phone is open to me, etc.
So recently I was at her place and used her laptop to search for something (with her permission! she said "go ahead!") and the first thing that popped up in her search history was how to convince ones boyfriend to have a threesome.
That got my head spinning. I don't know what to think. The idea of a threesome (MFF) sounds pretty damned exciting^w00t, but the potential complications worry me.
She doesn't know I know. I think I want to confront her about it...but I really am just looking for advice on what to do! Should I wait for her to propose it to me? I'm lost. Where do I go from here? With her past is this a big potential problem? I dunno. Help.
I'm heading to bed but will check when I wake up. Thanks in advance.
TL;DR: | GF searched how to convince me into a threesome. I'm worried, but want one at the same time. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20 M] am virgin, should I tell my gf [20F] who isn't?
POST: I've never dated anyone before this current girl. Never made out or had sex with anyone before.
Met this girl at work. Somehow all my social awkwardness disappeared with her. Two of us bonded immediately. I've never bonded this well with anyone in my life. I ended up asking her out about 3 weeks after meeting her and her words weren't just yes but, "what took you so long?" Needless to say there is a mutual attraction.
Been on three dates and she's beginning to wonder why I'm not making any moves so to speak. But I'm not sure how to approach the situation given the fact that I've never made out with anyone and that I'm a virgin. Do I just tell her upfront or should I just keep it a secret and wing it like I have been doing?
I know that she's not a virgin and she's experienced in the dating game if that helps at all.
TL;DR: | I'm a kissless virgin and I don't know if I should, or how I should tell this girl I'm seeing. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By Greeting A Midget-Amputee The Wrong Way
POST: So, around 5 hours ago, I was at a friends party. I recently met this friend so I'm kind of new around his town. Well, at his party, there were many people that I didn't meet yet, and I was kind of feeling uncomfortable/nervous to go. So, I get approached by my friend and a midget with an amputated arm. My friend says "Eric, meet Mathew" (I'm Eric).
I was not sure how I was going to greet him, and in a state of panic and uncomfortableness, I grabbed the stub where his arm should be, and shook it up and down. Needless to say, I have not heard from this friend again.
TL;DR: | I don't know anyone at the party, I'm introduced to a midget amputee, I shake his stub. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: I keep getting phone calls.
POST: Location: FL
I've been getting phone calls for about a year now.
Every day, my phone rings from 5-10 times. Sometimes it's an automated call that says "good bye" or "thank you." Most times, however, it's an indian guy (accent) calling trying to sell my viagra.
Whenever I refuse they are very insisting and say things like "I'm sure a guy like you needs a boost." Rarely, if I tell them they have the wrong number do they hang up only to call me again the next day.
The problem is that it's a DIFFERENT number every time. I've tried blocking a couple dozen but the calls keep coming in. How can I stop being harassed by viagra? Calls come in as early as 8am and as late as 10pm, sometimes 12.
TL;DR: | Get calls every day, 5-10, from a company trying to sell me viagra. What can I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: On Reddit, what are the boundaries that define karma-whoring and not karma-whoring? (confused redditor, dont post often).
POST: Okay, like lets start off by saying incase this post takes off (which really, not many do) that I have 103 karma at time of posting; most of which is from one picture I took of a mystery machine i saw while driving... aka... I'm not trying to "karma whore" by posting a thread about what "karma whore" is... I'm just confused.
Here's what I understand: its just someone who is posting something just for the karma. Obviously anyone who blatantly reposts their own posts can be called a karma whore but then with other posts in general where's the boundary drawn:
Here's a couple cases that I've thought up:
1. What happens if you legitimately do repost something you didnt realse someone got famous for posting a while back?
2. Posts that complain or make fun of what other people did and got popular?
3. Posts about karma whores?
...+any other weird case you've encountered that should be worth mentioning.
Cause I've been called out posting things that fall under those 3 categories and (deleted them) was called something along the lines of "oh youre just begging for karma"... but like I'm just trying to make you all laugh.... i dont care about some karma currency I just want to share the things I find in my life so that you can all enjoy them as well.
TL;DR: | Maybe I'm not as funny on the internet and you guys aren't havin it. I'd like to know why. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [20m] am stuck living with my ex [22m] and am not sure what to do.
POST: We broke up 2 weeks ago (dated for 2 years) and since then have kept it under the covers, waiting for the time he can move interstate next month to make it "official." We're both on the lease here and I love this apartment, and I'm leaving the country in 3 months anyway. My question is, should I bother moving out for just 3 months (which would put me out a lot money wise, not to mention trying to get off the lease and finding a place where I don't have to go on the lease) or should I deal with the emotional pain of seeing him every day for the next month and then work on getting over him once he leaves?
TL;DR: | Is it worth living with my ex, even for a miniscule amount of time, or should I just skedaddle? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Haven't had a relationship, how do I ask a girl I used to know out? [M20]
POST: I am 20, and have never had a serious relationship, so whenever I get interested in a girl, I get pretty nervous. I am at a university, and knew this girl my freshman year (2 years ago) decently well, but we didn't keep in touch at all last year.
However, i bumped into her after move-in, and we talked for a short while. She seems just as cool as I remember, and I'd like to ask her out, just to give it a shot, you know? I was wondering if I should try to re-establish contact, or just ask her out up front?
Additionally, I am terrible at planning dates, so I was wondering what I should ask her out to do. We're both pretty chill, and into anime and videogames, so I was thinking just dinner and a TV date or something. I don't know her super well anymore, but I just want a little advice and a push before I end up talking myself out of it.
TL;DR: | How do I ask a girl out that I haven't seen in over a year, but used to know pretty well? |
SUBREDDIT: r/travel
TITLE: Has anyone traveled SE Asia during monsoon season?
POST: So, I have a working holiday visa for Australia. The overall plan is to fly to Melbourne, travel up the east coast and settle in Brisbane.
Since I'm going to be down in that part of the world, I would love to go visit SE Asia as well. The only problem is that by the time I make it to Brisbane, I'm going to be very low on funds. So the idea is that I will work and save for ~6 months, which means beginning traveling around May.
Of course..this is the start of monsoon season for the peninsula. So my question is (also
TL;DR: | )....how shitty is it if I was going through Cambodia, Vietnam, Laos, etc. May-June-July? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: Me [21/M] Confused And Looking To End 5 Year On & Off Again Relationship With GF [21/F] What Should I Do?
POST: Me and my girlfriend have been in an on and off again relationship since we were freshmen in high school. We ended up going to the same college and started dating again our sophomore year. At first, things were going really well! However, as time went on, we started to have small arguments where she would just cry hysterically until I said I was sorry even if it wasn't my fault. All of these arguments and lack of compromise have caused me to become very anxious and resent the relationship.
So one night after a really bad fight, I decided to sack up and attempt to break up with her. Her tear-filled response was that **she wanted to marry me and have kids with me** along with repeating "I can't do it I can't do it I need you I need you". How the fuck do you break up with someone after they say something like that?!
Anyways, now she has none of her own friends at home nor at college except for me and my friends. If I were to break-up with her she would lose all of her friends that she has met through me.
What should I do? Should I stick it out until we graduate and hope for the best and continue to be unhappy, or rip the band-aid off?
TL;DR: | Unhappy relationship, decided to sack-up and break-up; she told me she wanted to have my babies. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend? [25 F] when is a good (the best?) time to have the "what are we" talk and how?
POST: So I have been seeing this girl for about a month now. Regularly hanging out, dates, netflix, hiking, regular sex and it seems to be going pretty well.
But I'm not really sure what we are. I am looking for a relationship, and one night (pretty early in seeing each other) after sex I drunkenly said something to the accord of "I like hanging out with you, this should be a regular thing, and I'm bad at these types of labels and whatever conversations but you know what I mean right?" She replied along the lines of "yeah I see this as something that could get there"
It's been about two weeks since that "conversation" and things have been going really well! At least as far as I can tell. I also don't want to fuck this up because I really like her and am terrible at having these conversations. I mean I wouldn't really know what to say or when or where but I feel that at this point we should sort of make it clear that we are exclusively dating.
The majority of my relationships at this point have been FWB or casual hook ups from parties/tinder etc. I haven't had real feelings for anyone since high school so I'm more than rusty.
TL;DR: | things seem to be going well but I don't know how or when to have the "what are we" talk. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: She [15F] said 'yes' but no reply after...[15 M]
POST: So there's this girl I like, and I thought she liked me, because of mixed signals that were being sent...
Anyways, so I asked her if she wanted to go to starbucks sometime via text message, and she hesitated a couple minutes before she said 'ya sure'
Unfortunately, I was too caught up in the moment to think straight, and I was excited so I immeaditly asked her if she was free tommorow at lunch.
She didn't reply, and I just realized that I have made a mistake and didn't take the hint.
What do you guys think? Is she not interested or just nervous??
Did I make a fool of myself?? If so, how much?
What should I do next time I see her at school tommorow?
And lastly, what do you think she thinks of me now?
Thanks a lot for reading this and taking time to answer!! :D
TL;DR: | Asked girl out for coffee, said 'ya sure', didn't pick up hint, no reply after... What to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/running
TITLE: Help! Knee Pain Like Whoa!
POST: First, a little background.
I've just started running again. It's been 3 years or so since I last ran (back in the Army days) and I've gained a lot of weight since then. I'm tired of being fat, so back to running it is.
I recently bought a pair of running shoes and insoles from one of those running stores that does an analysis on your arch-type, stride, etc. My feet are flat as a pancake, so they recommended motion control shoes and insoles. I figured great, got the gear, lets get back at it. Nope.
My knees and the arches of my feet hurt like a mother fucker. I ran 4 days a week for 4 years in the Army and have NEVER had pain like this. My knees just burn and burn and burn, even when I'm walking in those shoes. I think it might be the insoles, but I'm not sure. Does anyone have any advice?
TL;DR: | I'm fat and running again. Knees/arches hurt like a bitch, might be the gear. Help. |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I don't know what to do after losing my virginity. Any suggestions?
POST: So this chick and I met on an elevator at my college campus. She was from one of my classes last semester but I never spoke to her until we met on the elevator. We started talking about music and we both were fans of U2. We started talking about our favorite song, which was "I Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For" and used that to segue into an in depth conversation about our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ of Nazareth and how we celebrate our love for Him.
We have dated for about 4 months and decided that we should get engaged. Since we decided to dedicate the rest of our lives together, we found no problem in losing our virginity together.
We just got finished celebrating our love a few minutes ago and now she's leaving me. I've never been so confused. What did I do wrong? I was supposed to save my virginity for marriage, but I thought, "Oh what the heck, we're engaged." I don't know if I offended her or not. Please, Reddit. Help me out. What should I do now?
TL;DR: | I was fucking this chick and I shit on her tits real hard. Now she's leaving me. What should I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: It's my girlfriends birthday soon and I want to break up with her. What do I do
POST: Hello Reddit,
I have been dating a girl from my college for a year and a bit. We were really good friends and even moved in together (with a few other friends). Unfortunately, I have come to the realization that i'm not that into her. She is really into me and I just can't reciprocate the feelings. I have been in a few semi-long term relationships before (1 year+) and I have always felt way more committed than I do now.
Right now, I begin to write her a birthday card. But I have no idea what to write. I don't love her and neither of us have ever said we were "in love". How long should I wait after her birthday till I break up with her?
(I'm sorry, I'm sure I'm missing tons of details, so feel free to ask questions. Keep in mind I live in a house with her and I will live with her for at least another year due to my lease. this isn't a big issue to me. I feel no awkwardness ever but I have no idea how this will play out considering she is really into me. I don't want to hurt her, and she's a lovely person. She's just not for me)
TL;DR: | Girlfriends birthday coming up, want to break up she's into me I'm not into her. What do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU By breaking my crushes nose
POST: So I just turned 16 yesterday and for my birthday I got a new set of Hurling(A sport somewhat similar to Hockey but the ball is mainly in the air)gear and a new Hurl and sliotar (Hurling ball) I went down to the hurling pitch with my friends and my crush and we all messed around. What basically happened was me trying to act the hard man and I said that I would take it from the 65 line (65 yards from the goal) blindfolded and bet my helmet on it. We shook on it and I wrapped my jumper around my head. Everything went well until I heard a smack and a scream that could of broken glass. I pulled off my jumper and looked to where the scream had come from and it came from my friend and crush (Lets call her Lily) Lily. We sprinted over to her and when we got there blood was running down from her nose and onto her shirt. I'm freaking out now, apologizing like crazy and she's crying and my friends are either pissing themselves laughing or going looking for the sliotar. Her nose was basically pointing in a position it shouldn't have been pointed at. We went back to my house and put some ice on her nose to stop it from bleeding and then it hit me. I began to piss myself laughing, I actually fell onto the floor laughing and when I stopped, Lily got up and kicked me in the balls, called me a jackass and waited for her mam to pick her up. So basically I don't think I'll ever be talking to her again.
TL;DR: | Was a cocky prick, took a free, broke my crushes nose and got a kick in the balls for my birthday. |
SUBREDDIT: r/cats
TITLE: My cat's a little under the weather lately, can anyone give me any ideas as to what could be wrong?
POST: As per the title. Here are some more details:
For a few days now he's been quite under the weather which is very unlike him. Normally he's very energetic and bounces around the house as he pleases, but lately he's been very subdued and a bit fragile. He's still fairly young for a cat (a year or so old) so I doubt it's old age kicking in, but he does seem to bare some of the vestiges of an aging cat... :(
We think he may have fleas. We will treat him for it ASAP (within a few days), but could this be the root cause of the problem, or is it something else?
Thanks in advance to anyone who reads this and helps out.
TL;DR: | My cat seems ill; he has fleas - is that the cause of the issue or could it be something else? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: F(22) ex bf (23) ...he broke it off, leaves me confused and cares less....
POST: Little background.....and sorry about mistakes ....kinda been drinking, it has been regular nowadays... any who.
Started talking in November, via fB. January he says he wants to meet me. February is pure bliss we continue dating and make it official. March he says he loves me.
We have a LDR, I ask to make sure he is OK with this.... Everything is awesome, until July.
He breaks up with me, and says he is done. It was out of the blue. I recover kinda...night seems to be my only hurdle so far. Can't sleep much...but that's what beer is for.
I still give him his bday gift,tickets, and he says he wants me to still go with him.
My question....should I go with him? Seeing him won't change any progress I've made, just will reconfirm how much I miss him. He never treated me bad. If I don't go, he'll have no one else to go out with. Help.
TL;DR: | my ex broke it off before the concert. Still wants to go. Should I go with him? In the fence. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Help, I(16F)don't want to be in love with my teacher(35M)!
POST: Me and my science teacher are pretty close, as close as a student and teacher can be wthout intervention of the school at least. I know it seems stupid, but I think I fell in love with him.
I can't explain the feeling, but if he wasn't married with a kid I would go after him after I turned 18 and was out of highschool. I get disgusted with myself for liking someone who is married and I even get depressed when I think about it.
I need to not like him anymore, but I don't know how. How do I fall out of love with my teacher or at least stop getting depressed about it.
TL;DR: | Am in love with my science teacher, don't want to be, need to know how to not be in love. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [38 M] cheating on my wife [37 F] looking for resources for dealing with the 'Affair fog' as the cheater.
POST: Long story short: I've been cheating on my wife of 11 years with a coworker. I rationally know I'm suffering from the affair fog and infatuation with the coworker. I know it's all chemical. I know I need to stop. We have a good marriage (apart from me being a scumbag), and a 11 year old daughter who is awesome.
I don't want to ruin this, but also seriously feel in love with the other woman. I know that will wear off. But I can't walk away from it. We want to be together. It's a huge rush I don't get with my wife. I'm definitely experiencing everything that's described as 'affair fog', but I cannot find any resources about dealing with it from the side of the cheater!
I've tried CBT, I'm seeing a psychiatrist, I'm even on anti-depressants (even though I'm depressed because I'm cheating and can't/won't leave either one).
And I know, I know, I just need to end it, have the willpower, do the right thing, etc. But I don't seem to have that in me.
TL;DR: | Cheating on my wife, want to stop, need more advice than 'just leave her or do the right thing.' |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by dropping my girlfriend while damcing with her at Prom in front of everyone.
POST: So this happened a couple of hours ago. We were dancing and having a grand ole' time, and she goes out to spin. Keep in mind that the floors are like freshly oiled bowling lanes, and are smooth and slippery. Well she goes to spin, and she goes so fast I lose my grip, and before I could grasp her hand, she had already slipped and began falling. I immediately went to help her up after hearing the crowd "Oooooohh!" In unison. She and I are both very embarrassed and walk back to our table. For the rest of Prom and the hour and a half long ride home we say maybe 8 words. I feel like a horrible boyfriend and I was too embarrassed to tell anyone about this. The day was going so great until this one moment ruined it all.
TL;DR: | Danced with gf, gf had a great fall. I'm a terrible person/boyfriend/dancer. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 19/f I've had a thing for this guy for three years now. Fuck I'm drunk now and I need to know if anything is still possible with him.
POST: He just drove me home. He's one of my best friends. 3 years ago, during our junior year of high school he told me he has had a crush on me since he met me at the beginning of high school. I'm fucking stupid and was afraid of a relationship and eventually turned him down, probably broke his heart, and then lost one of the best friendships ive ever had. i know he probably doesnt feel the same way about me anymore, heck we go to different colleges. but we connect so much. this summer we went camping and when everyone went to sleep we stayed up talking until the sun came up again. just about stuff and it was so great. and whenever i think of things like that i know we'd be great for eachother but i dont want to once again ruin our friendship that took a year to rebuild after i fucked things up. ive always cared deeply about him. we're so alike, we have the same major in college and are just so goddamn similar in a lot of ways. what the fuck should i doooooooooooooo. i think about it all the time but i just cant get it off my mind right now and its killin me
TL;DR: | i fucked everything up 3-4 years ago when we were close and now i dont know if it will ever wokrr |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Web hosting/site like xkcd/other webcomics?
POST: So, I've recently started a web comic for myself (I won't post the link so that I don't seem like I'm advertising)
I wanted to know how I could set up a website that would work just like all the other webcomics. Where it would have a next, previous, first, last, and random button.
If there is a web developer that is willing to do it for me please message me. If you wish to be paid, I'm willing to pay to a certain extent. We can work that out later.
I just want something simple, if there is some kind of service online where I can do that, can someone please post me in that direction.
TL;DR: | I want to start a website for my webcomic like xkcd. Please point me in the right direction! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My boyfriend [22 M] broke up with me [23F] after 3 years together. He says its a break. Any stories of getting back together after a "break"?
POST: After three years together, my now ex-boyfriend decided to break things off with me. I guess things just got too difficult and he no longer felt like he could be in a relationship with me. I think its more due to personal problems than relational problems.
At first he said it was a breakup but later said it was a break.
I still believe we belong together and could make things work.
But since I was not the one who decided to break up, I have to respect his wishes.
We're working on giving each other space but we still talk occasionally due to living in the same apartment complex.
So, do you guys have any success stories of taking a break and ending up back together?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend broke up with me. Says its a break. Do breaks actually work or is this breaking up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: How do I (29f) get him (36m) to show more interest?
POST: We've been dating since January, officially bf/gf since May. He says he's just not a very touchy-feely/affectionate person but I'm starting to feel like I'm in a one-sided relationship. He has a lot of emotional baggage and I get that but I'm starting to feel like he's just... there.
If I don't make the plans or ask him to hang out, I won't see him. He works from home a lot or has a sport league the other nights. We may see each other once or twice during the week but it's mostly on the weekends.
When we are together he doesn't really touch me. I'm usually the one to initiate sex and he's flat out turned me down because he's tired. Or if he's been drinking. He also says I want it too often but I only see him a few times a week... that's too often?
I've asked if he wants to date other people, if he's not feeling it. He says no but I don't really feel wanted.
How do I get him to be more affectionate? Or rather, show more interest?
Side note: he got out of a 7 year on-again/off-again relationship over a year ago. We tried dating then but he clearly was not ready so we stopped talking for a while until he approached me again in January.
TL;DR: | he makes no effort but says he wants to be with me. How do I get him to make me feel wanted? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [25F] found my boyfriends [24M] POF.com account, hes looking to just hook up, debating on catfishing?
POST: So throw away bc reasons.
Backstory:
I had been with him for about 7-8 years. We were great together: sexually/mentally/emotionally. We have had a pretty dry sex life the past 2 years bc I am struggling with a lot of things (depression, shit work, close family member deaths). He has been particularly vocal about it and distant towards me the past 2 months. It seemed to me as though he and our roommate (my bff) had been getting close lately, so I was getting a bit insecure. And I might have gone into his browsing history and seen he signed up for POF.com. It mentions he is in a relationship and living with me and that hes only looking for sex.
I just need to know how stupid it is of me to pretend to be some fake girl and meet him somewhere and bust him.
Or see if he even does it. I have a looming sensation that he might not be cold hearted enough to go through with it.
TL;DR: | to catfish or not to catfish; what if i play pretend on POF.com and he doesnt go through with it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: Tifu by making love to a dirty women
POST: So Thursday night I was bored and a little extra lonely so I decided to go to a 'rub and tug'. So far worst decision of my life. I've always been conservative with the choice of my sexual partners and never been overly concerned with my previous sexual partners. I've never been to a rub and tug and didn't overly think it through. As I was laying on the table she asked if I wanted to go further and have sex. Out of fear of contracting something and what's left of my morals I declined. She then kept massaging and asked if I'd like to "play with her pussy" so an extra nominal fee. So being in the moment I obliged. After finishing I knew I felt dirty and an instant feeling of regret. Everything felt fine and Friday midday comes around and I feel an itch in the tip of my dick. I originally thought maybe it was rubbing on my pants causing irritation but at the same time worried I may have contracted an sti from this dirty bitch. The sensation didn't go away and as I stripped down for bed last night I took a closer look and what do you know... I've got the drip...
TL;DR: | Went to a rub and tug, now got the drip and sitting in the walk in clinic waiting to be diagnosed. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [20 M] met my now ex [20 F] of three years first time after breakup, can't handle my emotions.
POST: So one month ago while on a business trip i got a text from my SO basically telling me she could not cope anymore.
We've had some issues over the years but i thought we had a turning point two-three months ago and i was looking forward to a summer and all the things we had planned (festivals etc).
Being 800 miles from home and her, I was shocked and could not get myself together to call her. Things she wrote really got to me so i thought that maybe it was time to move on.
Now, three weeks later, I met her for the first time since she broke up with me. During these three weeks I've been in denial.
I Did my best to just forget all about us but when i met her today all the feelings came back to me. It felt wrong, it was just as before, she met me on the platform and we walked to her place and I could not comprehend that we were not together anymore.
We are still friends and there was no cheating or such involved in our relationship so we can still trust each other. But i feel hopeless.
I don't want to fall back in to depression but i don't know how to deal with my feelings. I still love her but we're done and that's a fact.
TL;DR: | She broke up via text, didn't talk or meet for three weeks, finally met; can't handle the feelings. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Reddit, I just broke up with my girlfriend of a year. Anything you can do to maybe make me feel better about it?
POST: I posted before in here saying this:
I'm 18 and in my freshman year of college, and I finally decided to end it with my girlfriend(17) because I legitimately felt like I might end up cheating on her, which I didn't want to do at all. It wouldn't have lasted much longer so I decided to just go through with it. It still depresses me because she's been such a huge part of my life for a pretty long time, so I was wondering if you guys had any advice on how to improve my overall mood? Thanks a lot.
TL;DR: | Broke up with girlfriend of a year, can you help me improve my mood/support it being a good idea? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: F/ 150 lbs, I feel horrible and don't know what to do :-(
POST: My "adverage" weight is about 110-115, and I'm a shorty at 5'1. I'm a school teacher and iv felt like the stress of the job as well the eat whatever you can when you can schedule has made me gain so much weight. I was ok with a little bit at first, but now I'm embarrassed to go out. I hate taking pictures of myself and I feel like my relationship is suffering due to my insecurities. Iv gained about 40 pounds and I can't stand to look at myself. School year is almost over so I do plan on hiking and swimming a lot. I'm getting older and it's harder to eat the foods I love without jiggling. (And I looooove food) I also have self control issues with food. Any fellow teachers or anyone in my situation with any advice? I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it, and this sub reddit has been a huge motivation. Thanks guys!
TL;DR: | Iv gained a lot of weight, and I can't find a diet or workout for my teacher life....HELP plz |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [26/M] think I'm falling for my friend [25/F] but fear I'll never escape the friendzone... and it'd be long distance
POST: A little backstory, I went to college with this girl and I've known her for about 4 years - she stayed in my hometown after college, I moved across the country to the east coast for work about 2.5 years ago. I live a few hour flight away, but I'm home every month or so - it wouldn't make a long distance relationship easy, but it'd hopefully help. I *do* have a plan to move back so a LDR would only be temporary - less than a year
We were always friends but for some reason something happened the past few times we've hung out and now I see her as a potential romantic interest. She's makes me laugh, she's smart, she can put a smile on my face, and we generally have a lot of fun together.
My question is, how do I break out of the friendzone without potentially wrecking our friendship if I get shot down? Is that even possible? Do I just go for it and see what happens?
TL;DR: | in a friendzone, want to break out and start long distance (temporarily), what's the best way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Why milk?
POST: When I weaned my first kid off breastmilk, I asked her pediatrician whether I could skip introducing cow's milk to her daily diet. She would still have yogurt and cheese and milk sometimes, just not every day. She never took a bottle except on the few times that I pumped. He didn't bat an eye, said it wasn't really necessary so long as I provided her with a balanced diet. So I did. At 3, she's bright and thriving and loves veggies, fish, falafel - whatever. She drinks milk sometimes, like with cookies or cereal. Sometimes she just asks for a glass. We buy the full fat organic kind.
Anyway, people find it strange that I never gave her milk! And that I am not giving it to my second, either.
"But how does she get to sleep at night?" (Bath & book routine.)
"But doesn't she miss/want the comfort of a warm bottle?" (I don't know.)
Does anyone else not give their kids warm milk at bedtime? I'm not anti-dairy or even anti-milk. And I didn't "substitute" with almond or soy, either. Just nada.
TL;DR: | I don't give my kids warm milk at bedtime (for no good reason) and people find it weird. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [UK] My ex [17/F] dumped me [25/M] to go partying with her friends and then got into a new relationship instantly.
POST: My now ex-gf who I've known since she was 13 (only really close friends at that time, who I helped through depression) dumped me to go partying with friends and try to hook up with guys. She dumped me last weekend to do that. We've been talking all this week where she's been telling me she still has feelings for me, and then this weekend she did the same and now has a new bf out of it, they even posted it to Facebook with comments saying how shes so happy. I'm so heart broken I've been sick a few times, this girl wasn't just someone I met and dated, it's someone who I've known for years and developed with and really opened up to, we even use to text each other everyday before we even dated, and say night to one another every night. I have no idea how to deal with this and just need advice.
TL;DR: | My GF left me to party, then said she still had feelings for me and then got a new bf instantly. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My GF (24/F) of 2.5 years is moving in 6 months. I (24/M) am not following her, and don't want a long-distance relationship. What do I do next?
POST: The reason for me not to follow her is that I have come to realize she's not the one.
This is not because of anything she's done wrong, or because she's abusive, or anything like that. She's great. She absolutely adores me, and we've had a very loving relationship for the last 1.5 years.
The year before that was a little shaky and we had hiccups and broke up, but for the following 18 months those problems have only made given us a stronger, more trusting, more honest relationship. Unfortunately, those problems that tore us apart are also the reason I know she's simply not, "the one." When I asked her to move in with me a couple months back, she said no, and that was sort of when I knew she wouldn't be, "the one."
The problem is that I still very much love her, and I know she very much loves me. We've both made it a priority to treat each other with respect, support, and all the gushy things that make couples happy, and it's great.
But again, she's simply not the one, and I have too many roots where I am to follow her when she moves. Unfortunately the thought of losing her crushes me, and when I think of how crushed she will be, I feel that much worse.
What do I next?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend is moving in 6 months and I don't want to follow her because she's not, "the one." |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27 M] with my FWB [19/F] for several months, made me lose a friend.
POST: I'm 27, and a late starter in college. Over summer semester a friend of mine essentially gave me the cold shoulder after I told him I have a FWB classmate who is 19.
He said I'm "taking advantage" of this girl who "doesn't know what she's doing". Yet, he knows nothing about her other than what she looks like.
For starters, she approached me. I explicitly told her my age, and that I'm not interested in dating with such an age gap. Yet she persisted and we worked out a FWB situation. It is 100% just casual, sexual fun. This girl knows exactly what she is doing. She is aware of how hot she is. It's working great for both of us, and I'm really disappointed that my friend would look down on me for this. ESPECIALLY since I'm sure he jerks it to 18 year olds in porn, as do millions of other men.
Then he has the gall to sit there and make me out to be some kind of predator. It's so backwards. I suspect that he is simply jealous.. He's not getting laid as of late.
I am so tired of him acting like my FWB situation is even remotely comparable to pedophilia.
BTW, there is a highly upvoted album of a sexy 18 year old from the 50s or something on Reddit today. If you condemn me, then please go into that thread and start calling people pedos.
TL;DR: | Friend is salty I'm nailin a 19 year old. Do people seriously think this is 'wrong' in any way? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [22M] with my [21/F] still early in the relationship but she seems not interested dispite still being flirtatious
POST: So me and her work at a nightclub, we started talking and everything was good. She expressed her seriousness for a relationship and not a fling because of her 1 year old daughter from a past relationship that ended bad. I had told her I never have dated someone who has had a kid before but was willing to be serious about it if she was. I gave her some time to think about it and after a couple days she still wanted to go out again. We went out for dinner and met her daughter. Everything seemed fine but just recently shes been very spoty at returning txts and avoids the topic of hanging out again despite still being flirty with me at work. I give her more than enough space and never try to pester her about it. I dont know what to do, I do like her and I dont have a problem with the fact she has a daughter
TL;DR: | Basicly, she has a daughter, im cool with it, thing were going good, now there not, idk what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: 24/f having issues over boyfriend 20/m cheating in the past.
POST: So this is a throwaway. Before I get started I know that 99.9% of the time cheating should automatically be grounds for ending a relationship.
So boyfriend cheated on me with a prostitute (he's been checked and is clean of diseases) several months ago. We have since reestablished a emotional connection, but no matter how much I try I have been unable to get past physically what he did. The very thought of him touching me makes me sick to my stomach. I do love him and emotionally we are as strong if not stronger than ever. I know that if I could just get to the point where I could think of him touching me or think of him sexually without being sick to my stomach than I could slowly work on actually getting physical for real in the future. I just don't know how to work towards that goal.
TL;DR: | BF cheated on me but am trying to make it work still, just don't know how to get past the feelings. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: GF thinks I cheated. Did I cheat?
POST: I have been dating my current girlfriend for about a year. Things are serious. Last week, I hosted a party, but GF did not attend because she had to work. Everyone had fun and got drunk.
At the end of the night, many people slept over instead of driving. Her BFF, who has a history of hooking up with several guys in our circle of friends, slept with me in my bed. It was strictly platonic and, obviously, nothing happened but drunken sleep.
The following morning, I told my girlfriend immediately about the sleeping arrangement. She claims I cheated on her by sleeping with her BFF. It should be noted that the three of us have shared a bed platonically in the past.
So Reddit... I ask you.. Did I cheat?
TL;DR: | Got drunk and shared a bed platonically with GF's BFF while GF was at work. Did I cheat? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [22F] Intimidated of relationship between SO [22M] and Friend.
POST: Hey guys,
I just need some advice. For a few weeks, I have been really intimidated (and slightly jealous) of the friendship between my SO and my friend (probably a PMS thing, but still). My SO and I will be together for 4 years in November (we are engaged and getting married in May). All of us always hang out together, so I'm sure that they are not involved by any means. They just get along so well... in fact, they are basically the exact same person. They are both really competitive, which I am not, so they are like two peas in a pod. We have been seeing a lot of my friend lately, but its just too much for my taste.
Here is the kicker-- she is moving in with us for two months while transitioning to a new place. And I'm just worried I'll get shut out, and since my friend is so reliant on human contact and CAN'T BE ALONE (EVER!), I'm afraid that they will become closer and my SO and I will distance due to lack of "relationship time".
I know this is really ridiculous, but I really just need some advice and comforting.
Thanks.
TL;DR: | Friend and SO are really close, and she is moving in. Not sure how I feel about it. What do I do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My first gf(f/18) is leaving to France.(m/19)
POST: So, I met her about 4 months ago, we are in a long distance relation, but I get the opportunity to see her at least twice a week sometimes. Before her I really had no idea I could love somebody so much, what is difficult for me to show thought, because of the fact that my parents left me when I was little, there was no much affection for me during my childhood, to the point that its difficult for me to grab her hand without my heart trying to come out from my chest. But anyways. Last week she told me that she's doing the paperwork and she might be leaving to France for college, I had no idea how to react, but in the moment I showed happy for her, but my heart was broken. I have about 6 months before she leaves, and I really want to make it special, any advice, how the hell do I go over this? and also, how do I make this 6 months special to her?
Reddit, you are the only thing I have, please help me.
TL;DR: | My first gf is leaving in 5 months, how to make it special, and what should I do about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Met a girl through a friend, haven't done this in awhile. Let alone with someone this different from me. Help?
POST: So, like the title says, I met this girl through a friend I study with about 1 1/2 weeks ago. The girl I'm interested in is my friends roommate. Their roommate group is really tight, they are always together. Me, my friend and the girl hung out this past weekend and I ended up dancing with/making out with the girl all night. Slept on their couch because she passed out and I stayed up talking to friend.
Hung out with just the girl a little bit tonight, but am unsure of how she feels and am worried about getting shut down because I like being friends with the group if nothing else.
Should I try to approach her about it? I mean, obviously she likes me enough to hang out with me after knowing what happened Saturday, but she's more outgoing, where I'm more shy so that makes it a little hard to know how she really feels about me. I feel like it would be hard to get her to do something outside of her roommate group.
Does anyone have any recommendations?
TL;DR: | Like a girl. She's outgoing, I'm not. I'm dumb and insecure; so she's hard to read. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Is it more beneficial to pay-off the remainder of my car payment or just continue to make higher monthly payments?
POST: I have an outstanding principal balance on a car loan that would cost close to $5000 to pay off. My credit was not great when I bought the car so interest is 8.64% and the maturity date is 5/10/2014. I have paid $2027 in interest so far so I estimate that I will lose another $1600 to interest over the course of the next 2.3 years.
Current minimum payment on the loan is $204.45 but I try to put another $50-$100 towards the additional principle reduction payment to pay off the loan sooner and reduce the amount of interest paid.
I don't have a ridiculous amount in the bank but enough to give me a little bit of a buffer if I pay this off. I also figure it will reduce my car insurance since it will be owned instead of financed. Also, I calculated that putting the money that I pay towards my monthly car payment into savings will get me back $3000 after the first year if I pay it off.
Some additional background: 27, no kids, no house (renting), job security, and no other debt outside of student loans which I don't plan on paying off anytime soon. So is it financially advisable to pay this off? Or just keep paying on top of the minimum to pay off sooner and keep the savings in case of an emergency or unforeseen expense?
TL;DR: | Car loan - $5000; Interest - 8.64%; maturity date - 5/2014; pay off or keep paying more p/month? |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: How do I stop seeing my ex as my boyfriend?
POST: Hi Reddit,
Short and sweet, here's the details: We're both in our early 20s and were together for 3 months. We just broke up two days ago after about two weeks of stressful interactions (in addition to sickness and midterms). We felt that we both needed to work on some individual things separately and decided that we should break up to work on those.
The thing is, Reddit, we haven't stopped talking since. We both still have really strong feelings for each other and wish that things weren't how they are, but we both see the immense value in taking some time apart. My problem is that every time we talk or see each other in person, I still see him as my boyfriend and have to physically stop myself from crossing the friend-boundary.
Before you go jumping to the "just stop talking to him" default answer, I should mention that we both desperately want to be friends. We enjoy one another's company and really enjoy supporting each other as friends.
He says he's already stopped seeing me as his girlfriend and now sees just his friend. HOW CAN I DO THIS, REDDIT, DO DON'T WANT TO SUFFER EVERY TIME I SEE OR TALK TO HIM.
hlelp meeee
TL;DR: | Boyfriend and I just broke up and want to be friends but I can't see him as only my friend. Help? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] am madly in love with the girl [24F] i'm dating, but she is in doubt and thinks she just loves the sex.
POST: Me, pjjv, 25 years old. Am dating a a lovely nice girl, let's call her Mimi. We have been seriously dating about 12 times now. Sometimes serious, going to dinner together or enjoying the park/beach. After 5 serious dates we ended up sleeping together. It was amazing for her. She really had the best time of her life (quoting here). I, at the start, was mostly pleased by her pleasure. But since we have been doing it more I can honestly say I think it is the best sex I have ever had.
I'm quite sure this is because I think everything is beautiful about her. I really have the feeling I can freely express my emotions with her. And I love the way she smiles. During the sex I feel extreemly close and loved by her. We have quite intimate sex.
The issue is however, that she says she likes me, but she is not sure if she is in love with me as a person, or if she is in love with the sex and all the cuddling (we do cuddle a lot). I asked myself the same question, because I think it's a very normal, valid question. And for me the answer is clear, someone else can't replace her in the way we cuddle and interact.
The question is however, how do I proceed? I'm kinda at a loss and afraid it will once again be a relationship build on sex. (I have had those before and it is not what I'm looking for at all).
TL;DR: | I [25M] love the girl [24F] I'm dating, but she thinks she just loves the sex. How do I proceed? |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: THANK GOODNESS I'M OUT. She went full crazy.
POST: Me: 16/M, her 16/F. Broke up 2 months ago after a ~10 month relationship. I consider her my first love. I posted about it here a couple times (thanks guys you were awesome!)
Anyways, thought I'd provide another update. I never realized just how completely batshit crazy she is until now. She's been with her current boyfriend (equally batshit crazy as you will see) for maybe a month now.
I get a call last night from a close friend of both of us, asking me if I knew what was up with her. I said I didn't and hadn't talked to her in a couple weeks. They told me I should go down and talk to her. So I'm like whatever, I'll go see what's up.
She's pregnant. On purpose. YUP. At 16 years old she decided that as a jobless teenager living at home, that she wanted to get pregnant with her 15 year old jobless boyfriend's kid. And he was ok with it. I'm still kinda in shock, but WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT??! How batshit crazy do you have to be to think you can handle a kid at 16 without a job?
She's excited and thinks she has it all figured out, when in reality she probabaly needs serious psychological help. She hasn't told her parents yet. That'll be interesting.
TL;DR: | 16 y/o ex gets pregnant on purpose with new 15 y/o boyfriend's kid. DAFUQ? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [28 F] with my friend [26 F] of 6ish years, She read through my instant message history and confronted me about things I said about her to someone else in the past.
POST: I gave my friend Gail my google login so she could use my account for some games. When I gave this to her I thought we had the mutual understanding that this was ONLY for the game. The other day she messaged me with a screenshot from a chat I had with a mutual friend that I sent a year ago. In it I said some pretty mean things about her but it was the heat of the moment and I quite honestly didn't remember I said that until she confronted me.
I wrote back to her saying that I was very upset that she invaded my privacy in such a way and this is completely unacceptable. I told her that I don't care what she saw, she should have never been looking in the first place. She claims it was an accident and it just "popped up" but she would have had to scroll pretty far back to even see that.
Now she is trying to turn it around on me and won't even listen to my side of the story. I don't know what to say to her fix this because I would very much like to keep her as a friend but obviously with strict boundaries now. Am I in the wrong for being upset here and does she have every right to be angry with me? I have no idea how to proceed.
TL;DR: | Friend saw a mean IM I sent about her to someone else a year ago and then got mad at me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [35F] high school sweetheart [35M] finally back in my life... but doesn't want more kids! :(
POST: So we were 19/20 when we went out in HS, first loves, I broke his heart but he ended up being 'the one that got away'. 15 years later & 1 ex wife (12 years) w/ 2 kids + 1 ex gf (2 years).... he finally contacts me recently to tell me he's single & always carried a torch for me. I feel the same. We make plans for NYE & text/snapchat all the time.
I was afraid to ask why he broke it off with the seemingly perfect ex gf with great relationship otherwise & it was as I feared... "I don't want more kids & she does".
I'd love to get a chance to be with him, but I absolutely definitely for sure want kids... I'm almost 36 & unfortunately... tick tock!
Won't I have the same problem as the ex gf & should back off now to save myself the hurt? Or pursue full force & see if I'm different & he'll change his mind?
Help!
(Some extra info, I think child support is draining him... I'd be willing to sign something to state I would not seek child support or basically sign ANYTHING to ease his mind/issues/financial stress.... would this help???)
TL;DR: | HS bf back in my life but doesn't want kids & left his ex for it. Is there hope for me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: GF (19F) broke up with me (20M) less than a week ago after dating for 6 months and begging for me to take her back. Looking for opinions
POST: Basically as the title states we were dating for a period since the Fall semester and recently she ended it. Now we had our fights occasionally but things were starting to look up when this happened. The only thing is she ended it so abruptly, without any hesitation. We were drinking at her dorm and she tries saying it was the alcohol but being drunk and doing something isn't something I would accept as an excuse.
It was a minor fight, voices weren't even being raised and then suddenly she just drops a "we're over" and storms out of the room without any explanation or any real provocation. She then texts me not an hour later saying she's coming to get her stuff the next day. All in all it was a cold breakup in my opinion.
However, now she's pretty much begging me to give her another chance. My major concern is if she could do it once so out of nowhere and cold she could pull it again. But I do really like this girl and I'm starting to feel terrible not giving her a second chance but at this point it's just a mess trying to figure out what the best thing to do is.
I honestly don't know what I expect out of this post but it feels good to just vent and any outside opinions are appreciated.
TL;DR: | gf of 6 months ends it suddenly, very coldly, blames alcohol and begs me to take her back. Wat do |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I'm (F25) in a serious 18 month relationship. Is it too soon to ask my boyfriend (M25) about living together?
POST: Throwaway... Boyfriend's a redditor.
I (F25) love my boyfriend (M25). Our relationship is wonderful and we're both extremely happy. We're coming up on 18 months and I'd like to talk to him about moving in together. But I don't know how. I know that sounds stupid but I really don't want to push him into anything that he doesn't want to do.
Plus, my boyfriend likes his space, which is another hurdle we have to overcome. He usually likes to hang out 2 or maybe 3 days a week if I'm lucky. But I'd like to hang out 7 days a week.
I also don't want to randomly drop this on him. **He's more accepting of things if I get him warmed up to the idea first (aka dropping hints).**
Any words of advice? Any good hints I can use?
TL;DR: | I want to move in together with my boyfriend. I don't know how to hint or bring up the topic. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18F] won't get to see my boyfriend [18M], of roughly 6 months, for a few weeks. How to deal with missing him?
POST: My boyfriend and I live in different cities, and generally see each other for 2 days every third week. I moved to my city to attend university, so I live temporarily with family and move back with my parents during the breaks. Because of this, I will be going home for 1 month starting tomorrow. My hometown is a 14 hour drive from his city.
While I'm back at home, my boyfriend will be going overseas for 15 days with his family. We've established that we'll likely not be able to talk everyday, and it'll be another two or three weeks before I get a chance to see him again.
I'd like some advice on how to deal with missing him. The problem is that my parents are constantly working, and my brother works long hours, so I won't always have someone to distract me. I'm looking into getting a job while I'm there, but night time seems to be the hardest time.
Any advice would be appreciated.
TL;DR: | Boyfriend and I won't be able to see each other for a few weeks. How to deal with missing him? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Reddit, can you help me figure out what this means/give advice?
POST: Okay, so I met some of my friends up at a bar. One of my friend's boyfriend had brought their friend. My friend informs me his is single and I should go for it. We hit it off. We have great conversation, his arms are around me the entire night, and he introduces me to all the people that came up to say hi to him. He didn't ask for my number, but gave me the vague we'll hang out again. Should I try to pursue it or let it go? We do have mutual friends, so he can easily get the number from them. Also, he is currently really busy at work.
TL;DR: | met a guy, hit it off, but he hasn't tried to hang out with me since. Is he just not that into me? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Soo I got back together with my ex and I need some advice
POST: I'm 23 f and hes 24 m. We were together for 2 years up until 2 months ago when we broke up because we got into a pretty bad rutt, although we were still in love.
So we got back together...just starting off "dating" again and seeing each other only on the weekends...taking it back to basics. And it was great and awesome until we got in this pattern of hanging out everyday. So tonight, I take a shower and get all sexy and smooth for him and go down to his apartment trying to be all sexy. And he lets me and then tells me he's busy doing a new art piece and work stuff and we can't hang out. Okay that's fine...but turns out he was really playing tf2.
So now after being naked in his kitchen and him feeling me up a little bit and him sending me home he tells me we've been seeing each other too much.
So why did he wait until tonight when I was naked and vulnerable in front of him to tell me this. He told me that hes been thinking it for a few days now and yesterday we hung out and had pizza together. So I don't understand why he waited until I was putting myself out there??
Is he just trying to make me feel bad or something on purpose?
I feel embarrassed and I feel like a fool.
TL;DR: | Just dating my ex boyfriend now and he rejected me tonight for tf2. He doesn't get why I'm upset. |
SUBREDDIT: r/offmychest
TITLE: The world's worst closer...
POST: Dear reddit, I am as of last night the world's worst closer. Seriously, last night, I was on a date with my crush. Yes, the one. We've known each other for three years, but on New Years Eve this year we started kissing. Or more accurately she started kissing me. We've met on several occasions after this, but never alone and nothing has ever happened since then. However, last night, I asked her out, and we went to the movies. We saw an horrible movie, the kind you don't see on Valentines day. It was a Norwegian horror-comedy movie called "Død Snø 2". Well during the movie, I felt kinda awkward about holding around her etc. The movie were all about killing zombies and showing as much blood and internal organs as possible. I asked her if she liked the movie, and surprisingly she said yes. After the movie we rushed to reach the bus back home.
There were never any awkwardness when we talked, but when I followed her to her door the awknardness came pretty fast. I don't know what happened, but I just hugged her, thanked her for the night and walked home. After that I just immediately facepalmed so hard. I know she is genuinly interested in me, and I'm pretty into her aswell. Why the f*** didn't I man up for once? Fuck me, reddit, fuck me. Thank you for reading, I just needed to get this off my chest. I'm out. We're both 17, in case you're wondering.
TL;DR: | Went on a date with my crush. She is into me, I'm into her. I didn't man up. Fuck me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me (m/31), long time friend (M/41) asked me for money.
POST: We've been pretty good pals since working together about 10 years ago (it was an overseas contract job in a really small tight knit community). I've traveled the world with this guy, been through a lot, and know him as well as a brother. He's in town helping his ill mother and while meeting up for drinks he asks me how I'd feel about lending him some money (about a grand).
I don't consider that this would be a "loan" as much as a gift and I don't know if it's okay to ask what it's for.
The guy does contract work here and there, but is currently unemployed, has a fairly significant gambling problem, etc. He promised that he'd be able to pay it back and was willing to draw up a contract, I said give me some time to think about it, made some joke about sexual favors and changed the subject.
I guess, I'm wondering if you all have a general opinions on loaning money to friends. The amount isn't really significant, but I certainly wouldn't want to just throw it away. I've generally avoided lending money to friends in the past. Will not lending money be as detrimental as lending it and not being paid back?
TL;DR: | Friend of 10 years asked for a $1k loan, I'm doubtful that it would be paid back. Tips? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21/F] am not sure if I have feelings for FWB[28 /M] or just lonely.
POST: I just ended a 5 year relationship 3 months ago and I changed a lot in my life, moved out for the first time and live alone for the first time in my life. Me and my boss started being FWB almost right after that. It started with just bjs and some touching but now we have been hanging out more and gotten to cuddling and a lot more sexual. At the start we both said no feelings , only sexual but now I am not sure if I am starting to like him or am just feeling lonely.
We have been hanging out a lot more and always have fun when we are together. Some nights that I stay over we don't even do anything sexual , just cuddle. I often think about him and I want to spent time with him and the other night when I heard that he had a girl come over I felt kinda jealous but it went away very fast.
I have never been really good at figuring out my feelings and if I am starting to develop feelings for him I want to deal with them the right way, should I tell him about this?
TL;DR: | Dont know if I am starting to fall for my FWB or just feel lonely. Should I tell my FWB? |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Figuring out my macros - am I doing this right?
POST: Hello!
New here - I'm just starting to get serious about my health/fitness and looking for some advice. I'm a 24F/5'9/150lbs looking to lose the extra fat and tone up a bit and I'm trying to figure out my macros. I was reading the FAQ nutrition portion of the xxfitness sub ( and followed those instructions to find my macros. I have an estimated TDEE of ~1,500 (with a sedentary activity level - I elliptical/take barre classes 4-5x a week, but I don't want to eat back my workouts) and to give myself a better deficit I went down to 1,200 (this may be too low, but I'm a go big or go home type). With that daily allowance based on the math in the FAQ are 34% protein/ 56% fat/ 10% carbs. That just seems like a really low carb amount. More like a very low carb/keto diet. I think I can do low carb, but compared to my diet of a lot of fruits/veggies/healthy grains now, that seems REAL low. Am I doing this right?
TL;DR: | are macros at 34/56/10 odd/extreme for a 24F/5'9/150 trying to slim down and tone up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/dating_advice
TITLE: Staying friends? [M] 22, [F]21
POST: About 9 months ago I met this girl online and we really hit it off. Since then we've talked almost every single day and eventually we came to realize we had feelings for each other. I live in America while she lives in England and the understanding came to be that I would fly over (wanted her parents to trust me) and see how things went from there even though we both love each other and are extremely close. She recently however got a boyfriend which obviously hurt me very much. I care for her and want her to be happy and despite trying I can't blame her for wanting to let go after so long. My question is should I try to stay friends with her and swallow how I feel or rather just let our relationship fade away. Since she told me things haven't been the same and she doesn't really even want to talk to me about it. I can tell she's upset and still cares for me, and I think this might be whats best for her. But I'm having trouble dealing with this when she won't even really talk to me about it and help me get some sort of closure. I think she wants to stay friends, but I don't want this to turn into a love triangle and even though she's not to real close to the guy now I wouldn't feel right being real close to someone else girl if they get there anyways.
TL;DR: | A girl I met online has waited a while for me, and I want whats best for her. Should I walk away? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [17 M] did a terrible job kissing this girl [16 F] on our first date. I am usually not a bad kisser, but I think I might have scared her off.
POST: We were watching Big Hero 6 and this was our first date (although we've known each other for over a year). We were holding hands and I was really nervous because my mouth was all dry. I had decided to wait and kiss her for the first time later, unfortunately, she made the first move during the credits, I panicked and did a pretty horrible kissing job. The rest of the date was fine, but without physical contact.
Now I think I might have scared her off with that terrible kiss. When I asked her what she *thought of the day* [in portuguese (we're brazilian)] via text, she just said "I really enjoyed the movie".
My question is, how to *control the damage*. I really like her and I think she really likes me, but the kiss might have made getting a second date kind of difficult for me. Should I tell her that I fucked up the kiss and that I usually am a decent kisser? I don't want to do it after asking her out on a second date because if she says no, it will sound like begging.
Oh, and I **missed** the goddamn after credits scene.
TL;DR: | She kissed me, I fucked up and now she thinks I am a bad kisser. How do I fix it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [21 M] might have drunkenly half-slept through my [21 F] girlfriend saying she loved me
POST: This is a weird one. I went out with my girl last night, had a great time, and we went home together as usual. As soon as we got home I got really tired and was struggling to keep my eyes open. I had a lot of strange dreams, but there is one thing I remember not being a dream.
I'm fairly certain at some point my girlfriend (who was still slightly buzzed) told me she loved me. However, I was mid-falling asleep so I didn't say anything back. Would it be wise to bring it up now? Or should i leave it, as maybe she's thankful I wasn't paying attention? For some context, we've had a strange on-again off-again type thing for the past half a year or so.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend said she loved me while I was dozing off, I didn't reply. Bring it up or leave it alone? |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Sold a fake antique advertised as real from a consignment shop. (NY)
POST: I was sold a compass labeled as WWII era for $60 from a local consignment shop in upstate New York. I don't know much about these items so I wanted to do some research before I wrapped it (it was supposed to be a Christmas present for my father). I quickly discovered that what I was sold was a cheap imitation worth less than 5 dollars. I'm so upset as we don't have much money and now I have nothing to give my father for Christmas. I plan on going to the store to confront them, but wanted to get some advice from you guys first. I imagine they have a "no refunds" policy, but if this is illegal, the law must supersede a store's policy, right?
Thanks!
TL;DR: | Was sold a "WWII compass" for $60. Turns out it's a toy worth <$5. Wondering if this is legal. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19M] with my gf [18F] 2 months. Her friends keep asking her to go to other fraternities parties. Am I correct in being upset if she went?
POST: I am in a fraternity at my school. We have parties all of the time. And my girlfriend just mentioned how her friends asked her to go out to another fraternity party, and she doesn't want to go "because she's tired". So now I'm worried that eventually she will ask me if she can go to their party.
My reasoning is, we both live right near each other and sleep over every other night, she can come to our parties(we usually don't because she doesn't like partying, which would also make me question why she'd want to go), and the only reason to go to another fraternity party is to find another guy.
So In my mind, going to another fraternity's party would be like me taking another girl to a function, or going out to one of mine without her while she's in town and dancing with other girls, which 100% is cheating to me.
TL;DR: | if she SAYS SHE'S GOING to another fraternity party, am I right in saying that's messed up? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: You have the chance to significantly impact someone's life. You can make a dying person's wish come true without ever getting any glory. Will you take that chance?
POST: My brother died from Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy at age 24. He was in great shape for his age, but a freak accident caused him to go sooner than we had anticipated. It's four years later and I still think of him every day and continuously try to find new ways to keep his memory alive and spread the word about DMD to aid in finding a cure.
Darius Weems also has DMD and he's turning 23 years old in four days. He made a documentary on living with DMD and I immediately jumped in and wanted to help his cause to spread the word to find a cure. It truly is a miracle for him to reach this age, as it was for my brother - most boys with DMD die in their teens. There is no cure for this disease - it is 100% fatal.
For his birthday, the crew of his movie are trying to make his birthday wish come true - making him a rap star overnight. He has recorded an awesome song that will be released on his birthday. You can help by pre-ordering his single (it only costs $1.29 on iTunes). Even if you don't listen to rap music, please pre-order it and spread the word. This young man will not live to see 30 but keeps his head up and spreads an inspirational message...let's help make his life as amazing as we can while he's here.
TL;DR: | [Pre-order] ) the single to make the birthday wish of a young man with a fatal disease come true. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [25M] have been with my first gf [25F] for two years, but I have never found her sexually attractive. Now we're moving across the country together, and I might be over my head.
POST: I care for her a lot, and don't want anything bad to happen to her. I just moved across the country for work and bought a house, and she's supposed to be flying out and moving in with me next week, and I'm not sure I'm doing the right thing. I feel I don't know if I love her because I have no other relationships to compare it to, or maybe my desire to want to separate is just due to selfish reasons.
I don't know how to handle this situation, I really care for her, she has nowhere else to go, she has no money or relatives who can take her in, but I feel like I'm lying to her.
TL;DR: | moved across country with gf whos great I'm not attracted to, don't know where to go from here. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Should I [21M] have to put up with my girlfriend's [23F] complaints about life?
POST: When someone charges her money for something she wasn't paying for. When her boss gives her reduced wages. When the council want their money back and various other money issues. Whatever the problem; I'm the one who sits and listens to her fucking moaning!
It's never "I have this problem and this is what I'm going to do or have done in order to solve it."
Instead it's "I have this problem. Why?! Why does this happen to me?! This asshole did this then that asshole did that!"
As her boyfriend of 3 years am I supposed to listen to her shit? I don't want to because it just drags me down too. I offer suggestions, advice and most of the time I help out if she is willing! But I have my own life too!
TL;DR: | Am I a bad person for not wanting to listen to her shit or is that one of my duties as a boyfriend? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Am I (18/M) simply being super, super oblivious about this girl (19/F) being into me?
POST: There's this girl that I have quite the big crush on, Abigail. We met a couple months ago but didn't really hang out much. A couple weeks ago, I was feeling ballsy so I hit her up out of the blue and asked if she wanted to hang out. She agreed, we hung out, had a fun time, and have been hanging out fairly consistently ever since.
Our "hangouts" consist of us sitting around, smoking weed, and talking. Nothing sexual/romantic. I have not made any sort of move towards her. I used to be good at this stuff, but I was broken up with fairly recently so my confidence is near-zero. I just can't bring myself to make a move on her, since the signs that she's into me aren't obvious.
My friends are frustrated with me because apparently I'm an "oblivious dumbass". Abigail and I went to the movies alone last weekend and my friends said that "no girl would go to the movies alone with a guy that she wasn't at least a little bit interested in". Is that true?
Also, she seems very friendly but (in my opinion), not quite flirty. Am I wrong here? How should I proceed?
TL;DR: | Girl I'm crushing on isn't obviously into me so I haven't made a move yet. Am I just oblivious? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: I would really like to see this universally here on Reddit. Do you guys think we can make it happen?
POST: I live in northern California and I notice that a lot of young people like to use the word 'GAY' to describe something that they think is stupid or to express distaste for something. I think that it could be offensive to a lot of people. However, a lot of people here have already been incorporating the use of this word into their everyday diction and I don't see an end in sight. With the young generation, it has essentially become a part of our accent. I see even more use of this word in a derogatory fashion online including here on REDDIT. I was thinking, it would be extremely impractical to ask people to stop using the word, because well, the wouldn't. So what if we kept the slang term and it's meaning but spelled them differently. We could create a homophone. We could have 'GHEY' for 'stupid, unlikeable, unappealing, ridiculous, et cetera' and have 'GAY' specifically reserved for homosexuality and it's original definition of 'happy.' I think overall it's a good idea that might be worth giving a go to make the world a better place. I understand it's only one small little thing, but every journey begins with a single step.
TL;DR: | Stop using the word 'GAY' in negative connotation and instead use 'GHEY' to avoid being offensive. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: My [26F] BF's [31M] room mate and best friend [33M] is in love with him.
POST: I am in the early stages of a relationship with a 31 year old heterosexual male.
He has shared an apartment with a 33 year old male for 2+ years They have lots of common interests and really have become very best friends; people have always joked about them as a couple as they have historically spent so much time together.
Our relationship has really blossomed and we are both very deeply happy. His room mate has been a little withdrawn as he has lost his "playmate" but it actually turns out is more than this.
He recently become very drunk on 2 separate occasions and has told my BF he loves him and wants a sexual relationship. On the second occasion he became violent and physically assaulted my BF.
Once sober he has never really apologised and they are in a "no talking" stage right now. The room mate used to, and has continued to, walk around the apartment in his underwear and sleeps naked with his door open.
My BF is embarrassed as it never occurred to him that there was anything more than guy friendship in play. He was not aware that his room mate is not heterosexual. He is also quite hurt that this person has been almost deceiving him.
It has come to a head as now I am on the scene he is feeling like a jilted lover.
TL;DR: | HELP, my bf's male room mate has declared he is in love with him. What do I/he/we do next? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [19 M] was caught trying to peek at my best friend [19 F] of 6 years, while she was in the bathroom
POST: A few days ago my best friend was staying the night at my house and I was having a really strong fit of sexual desire. My friend said she had to go to the bathroom and I the dumb ass that I am decided that it was a good idea to run all the way round my house to try to get a peek at her with her pants down. Needless to say she saw me and we didn't talk about it until now.
I hate myself so much for this and I don't know what to do. If I were to lose her I think I would probably do something drastic, like killing myself or some shit like that.
TL;DR: | I was caught trying to peek at my friend while she was in the bathroom and now she's mad. wat do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: What is the point/purpose of piercing/tattoos?
POST: I've been thinking about this recently because some people I know are suprised that I haven't added any art to my body. I really started to think why I feel like this and here I go. I might have a disconnect or there might be something that I am not thinking of. I'm hoping someone out there might provide some new insight.
Piercing - I don't get it. Ear's on women to me is normal. Guys no. Face piercings? They seem like they would really hurt and you got this piece of metal in your face like you survived an IED blast but they couldnt remove all the shrapnel. I don't get the purpose? Why would you want to do that? Most people eventually remove it anyways.
Tattoos - I can see if something means a lot to you to do it - like if you have a deep passion for something that drives you daily. But adding art that stays there forever? I don't think I would be satisfied with one image for the rest of my life, I would want to change it up. Also, it looks like shit when you get older so why fuck with that shit?
TL;DR: | I DON'T GET IT. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS TO THEMSELVES WHEN IN THE LONG RUN IT LOOKS LIKE SHIT. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [37M] with my girlfriend [42F] for 2 years, Serious break down with several issues.
POST: First off I do love my girlfriend. I really don't know how to word this because I don't like to complain.
Complaint 1: The feeling that I am being taking advantage of. My girlfriend has been living with me for the past year and half. She has never offered to help me with the utilities or household expenses. Also having to pay for her 2 boys every Sunday. Food, entertainment, and other stuff. Bleeds my account dry every payday.
Complaint 2: A few weeks ago she tells me that she was tested positive for HPV. And she came out that she had been tested in the past for the same issue. She claims that she told me in the past about this issue but I don't recall.
Complaint 3. Lack of communication. She always told me the Communication is key to a successful relationship... The problem with that is the she starts to cry whenever I start to discuss something negative about her. She does not like me to discuss relationship issues with family. I have caught her Facebook stalking...
Complaint 4: Lacks to the motivation to work. Only works one part-time job. Causes complain 1. She will not work a full time job, she claims its to stressful on her.
Complaint 5: Always comparing me to her ex-husband when we get in an argument.
Question below.
TL;DR: | Did I fall into a bad relationship and if so how do I get out of it without becoming the bad guy?. |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU by Destroying School Property
POST: Okay, so much like every other post this happened a few days ago; I'm lazy, sue me.
On the cold winters' morning of the FU I had a double period. On the break between classes i walked over to my friend, as we were talking i closed his laptop lid.
This fucker had no rubber/grip on the base of the laptop, so instead of shutting the lid his laptop slide straight off the desk. on the way down the screen smacked into the seat of the chair.
The result was a crack almost cleant dwon the center only vearing off 3/4 of the way up. The outcome of the whole ordeal was the leaft half of the screen not working and he was not able to continue his work.
And so began our slow walk to the IT Department. Very luckily my school has good insurance for these laptops and the first 'breakage' was free of charge, they simply gave him a replacement and switched out the hardrive.
TL;DR: | Broke my friends schoo laptop, emabarissing walked to IT, escaped by the hair of my balls. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: [NSV] I did it. I ran.
POST: Running... oh god running. My most dreaded enemy. I would do anything to get out of a run.
My roommate (and best friend) said that we had to go running. I had no say. Get dressed into workout clothes. Here's a water. Let's go.
I was breathing fire (thanks to my lovely asthma, despite puffs of my inhaler). My knees were screaming in agony. My shins felt like they were going to splinter and fall apart (shin splits from poor running posture and flat feet, helped by special shoes).
But... I did it. I actually ran. A half hour of running. Not straight, we did walking intervals. But it was a fast walk.
It's been an hour since, and I'm still shaking from that whole lack of oxygen thing. But despite the shaking. Despite the achy knees and shins... I FEEL FANTASTIC. What? I don't.... I don't even know. I'm just so happy. I don't understand why my stupid self never thinks to go for a run instead of eating. Eating makes me feel worse. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!
Still pondering that. Just wanted to get this all out there. And tell people. People that don't like running. LOOK AT ME. I'm a mess. I don't ever run. BUT I LOVED IT. Find someone to go with you. Or even go alone. The endorphins... They're like the best kind of high ever. I'm so happy.
TL;DR: | Running is my worst enemy, but is now also my drug. I hate it but I LOVE it. I have problems. |
SUBREDDIT: r/Advice
TITLE: I'm moving in an apartment. The roommate already living there is a female. I'm male. My mom assumes the roommate is male. I'm afraid of my mom, please help lol
POST: I think race is important here. I'm Asian. We have strict parents. Well at least moms. My dad doesn't care. I always referred to my roommate as "they" even when my mom asks about her using "he". I'm afraid to correct her because of what her reaction will be. She's gonna think this girl is a girlfriend I've been hiding from her. The girl is actually some random person from Craig's list. I don't know. I'm just scared. My mom is always like "don't fall in love until you graduate [college]". If I tell her I'm gonna hang out with some friends, she asks if they're girls in the group.
TL;DR: | My mom assumes my roommate is a guy. Roommate is actually a girl. I fear the wrath of my mom. |
SUBREDDIT: r/weddingplanning
TITLE: Moving right after the wedding, too far to drive. How do I deal with registry items?
POST: My SO and I are moving immediately after the wedding so I can go to school.
We cook together all the time, so normally we'd be super excited to receive a bunch of cutting boards that are way nicer than I'd normally buy, fancy german knives, non-Walmart cutlery, etc. but it will be extremely expensive to ship even a small amount of this stuff.
Moreover, both of our families are very traditional (his mom makes a regular habit of pointing out others' social faux pas by saying *"Oh, the horror!!"*) so I'm not sure that one of those money registries would be acceptable, or even accessible to less tech-savvy relatives.
How can I deal with this? Is it terrible of me to plan to return all of the items to the store and re-buy them once we move? And (for those of you who have registered at Crate & Barrel, particularly in Canada) what was your experience with returns at C&B of registry items?
TL;DR: | moving, can't move a bunch of blenders and toasters with us, what to do about the gift registry. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I need advice on Me [17M] and my friend [16F]
POST: So there is a girl I am interested in dating, but aside from the fear ill be friendzoned, I am worried I dont have what it takes to be a good boyfriend. Im a senior in high school taking harder and more challenging courses than I ever have before, so ill be leaving for college in less than a year. On top of that, I pay for everything I do because my parents want to teach me responsibility. I am worried that between schoolwork and my limited amount of cash that I wont have enough money or time to be a good boyfriend and it is preventing me from asking her out, yet at the same time I want to tell her how i feel so I dont end up regretting me being too timid in the future. What should I do? are my concerns reasonable?
TL;DR: | I like a girl, I am afraid to ask her out because I feel that time and money will be an issue. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Was I [27/M] ghosted by a friend [22/F] for being overly negative or am I overthinking it?
POST: So I've known this girl since April, and we hang out here and there. But most of all, we shoot the shit via messenger almost every day.
So yesterday, she was talking about recently getting ahold of one of her old friends, etc. And how the message went to another folder and such. I told her I have missed messages as well, and she replied with "Yeah, I could have made so many weed connects, haha." And I said "Yeah I feel ya."
Anyways, a few days ago, I ended up hitting a pothole and fucking up my muffler/tailpipe real bad. Yesterday, I finally was able to get it fixed, but the city refused to pay for it.
I sent her a message saying "Lol, my car is finally fixed but the city won't pay for it 😞 They said it was my fault, despite it being hidden as fuck."
I sent them as 2 separate messages though. Was I being desperate? Was I being negative? It's been 24 hours and no response. I'm trying to figure out what I said wrong? Can someone help me? My social anxiety is through the roof.
TL;DR: | I think I got ghosted by a friend due to no response in 24 hours. Not sure what I said was wrong. |
SUBREDDIT: r/college
TITLE: Hey guys, I need some advice for next semester.
POST: Hi, I'm a freshman at Gonzaga University and I'm used to getting pretty good grades in high school without trying. When I started the semester, I got assigned to take a 15 credit load of 6 classes. These were pretty simple. I'm a computer science major going for the B.S. route. Most of my classes are core classes though. My toughest one by far is Calculus I. I'm not very good at studying and I have not done it much throughout the semester. It is finals week now and I'm on track to fail Calculus. How much will this affect the rest of my college career?
TL;DR: | I'm going to fail calculus and I'm afraid I might not be able to succeed, what do i do now? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [28/F] with my [30/M] bf of 1 year, minor dispute over tv commentary - normal or no?
POST: We were watching Orange is the New Black last night (we just started watching the series) and I gasped at one point and asked who someone was/what was happening and he snapped at me to "calm down". I get that some people find talking during a show etc annoying but I would have shut up right after. We were discussing this the following day and I said making a comment while watching a show or movie with a partner is normal and he said "being vocal during movies or shows is not normal." I've never been with a bf that minded and most would also insert occasional comments. With an at home movie, I tend to stay fairly quiet, but with a show, I don't view it as abnormal. So who is right here?
TL;DR: | BF said it's not normal to talk during a show or movie at home. I disagree. Is it or isn't it? |
SUBREDDIT: r/Parenting
TITLE: Anyone else have super skinny babies? (EBF)
POST: My first (2 years old) was super skinny, even with formula, until about 6 months and he chubbed up a LITTLE. (I tried breastfeeding, never should've given up but I did because it was stressing me out so much =c He was given formula from a couple days old til ... I don't remember when but I stopped trying to breastfeed/pump when he was 4 months)
My 2nd (3 months old) is super skinny and no matter how much I feed her, she isnt really getting any chub. I breastfeed her only.
I'm also not losing any weight. I look a little bit thinner but I'm not losing any numbers on the scale.
So, I'm also wondering if any parents with skinny babies tried anything to help them gain a little more weight.
Or am I worrying to much about it?
TL;DR: | Did you do anything differently to make your milk fattier? Or did they chub up as they got older? |
SUBREDDIT: r/tifu
TITLE: TIFU my misspelling a syntax and crashed my computer slightly (WARNING: only tech wizards may understand this)
POST: I (like always) was on my computer fucking about when i realized, "Hey making my own codec could be fun"
So i fired up Eclipse and started working. the codec i was making was a sort of Python/My own code/C++ mash up and i called it Cobra++. yes punny i know. As i was messing around i failed when making a syntax and misspelled it so Python and C++ didn't know what was going on while my own coding bit knew it was a checksum. so it turned into a tug of war between all of the codecs and ended up crashing my compiler and made my computer lag like hell. i Ctrl+Alt+Del'd and checked CPU usage.... it read 90% the temp raised super high to the point where it auto shut off. 2 hours later i found the bug, it was a misspell, a single misspell that almost caused my shitty Toshiba Satalite to almost die.
The reason it took 2 hours, the file that crashed was the original Syntax Assignment File. 700 lines of code, i was a needle in a haystack of a nightmare.
TL;DR: | i fucked up a syntax and my laptop almost died and i found out 2HRs later that it was a misspell. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: [22] Move back home for relatively lower paying job but to be with friends and family, or stay at remote location to make more money?
POST: Hi guys,
Currently I'm in a construction job [but office work] that requires me to be out on site for 21-28 days straight, 12 hours a day, and then i get 7-10 days off. I just started this job. I would make about $125k-$145k per year depending upon my shift pre taxes.
I have another opportunity back home that I can take, but I would be making $70k-80k pre taxes. All my friends and family are back home in this city however, and I love it there.
I know on paper its a very easy decision, is to take keep my current high paying job but my question is, is it worth it to stay remote for the sake of extra savings? I am currently in a time zone that makes it very difficult for me to talk everyday with my friends and family and gf (ahead 4 hours of everyone back home) and I'm honestly contemplating if a slower rate of savings with love and friendship in my life is better than staying out here?
TL;DR: | Current job 21-28 days straight, 12 hours a day, $125k-$145k per year depending on my shift |
SUBREDDIT: r/AskReddit
TITLE: Alright, Reddit. What things were you oblivious to as a child, that are blatantly obvious to you now? I'll start.
POST: Alright, so I'm in 3rd grade, and my teacher is going to be gone for a week. The class is finally told that our teacher was out to, "Have surgery.", and not much else was told to us. So, after a week or so, my teacher comes back. Me, being the nosy kid I was, asked my teacher, "What did you have surgery on?". My teacher just stares at me for a second, then looks straight ahead. She then taps her sternum and answers, "My chest.". Being a 3rd grader, that answer satisfied me, and I went on about my day. Years later, I'm looking through my yearbooks, and notice that when I was in 2nd grade, my future 3rd grade teacher, had normal size boobs. In my 3rd grade yearbook, she had above average size boobs. I put two and two together, and realized my teacher had a boob job during the school year, and I had put her on the spot by asking her what she had surgery on.
TL;DR: | My 3rd grade teacher had a boob job during the school year. I didn't realize it until years later. |
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