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Husband was diagnosed last year. We found out as early as we possibly could have through an unusual trio of hospitalizations. No previous symptoms. Was told today chances of cure (which earlier tests suggested) is not on offer. If current treatment works, he’s been given three-ish years. I can’t even process…
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Hold out hope. So much has improved and changed for cancer treatment in just the last few years. There may be more miracles on the horizon. Also, I’m sure you have already- but get a second or even third opinion. I’m grateful I shopped around for options. Best wishes and many hugs to you and your husband.
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AITA for yelling at my mom after she removed my college refund from my bank account? I (21F) moved back home with my parents after being diagnosed with cancer last year (in remission now). I decided to stay home to attend community college since I don’t have enough money saved to move back to university. This month, I finally got my college refund disbursed. I was planning to use my refund to catch up on my student loans from the previous university I attended since my cancer treatment deferment was ending soon. Two days after I received my refund, I went to go check how much money I can use for my loan. I noticed that $500 from my account was missing and transferred to my mom’s bank account (I have a joint bank account with my mom since it was made when I was a minor, I didn’t mind her having access since she said it was a good idea for her to see my account for emergencies). I was confused and woke up my mom in the middle of the night to ask her why she removed $500 from my account. She said that she removed it because she thought it was a “final computation” or an extra refund from another class from my old university that my dad helped pay for (Context: I didn’t receive aid for a summer class I took last year in my previous school since I didn’t take enough units to qualify. I originally was enrolled in enough classes to qualify for aid, but had to drop them since I had to immediately get treatment for cancer). I was extremely confused because my dad let me use his card, then why would she think that a refund would go back into my bank account? Then, when I kept asking for an explanation, she said “I thought you would’ve noticed that your money is gone because I saw that you spent $5 at this store and $20 at another store, don’t you check your money before you buy anything?” and “I told your dad that I removed the $500 from your account because I thought it was an extra refund from your class”. I ended up yelling at her to put the money back in my account, that she can’t just remove it without saying or clarifying anything first, and wouldn’t stop until she gave me the money back. Even then, I just kept yelling at her out of frustration since I couldn’t understand why she thought she could remove it because the bank statement says that my refund came from my community college, not from the other university I attended. I was just so mad because she spent two days relying on me finding out by just checking my phone to see how much money I had. The second she saw me the next morning, she started yelling at me for waking her up just for a “small amount of money” and that I “should’ve asked her nicely” for her to give my money back. I honestly don’t know how to react at this point. AITA? Edit: I wanted to clarify that the refund I received is the leftover grant money from community college. I did not pull out any student loans this year. I am also considered an inactive student by my previous university since I was gone for a complete school year. I didn’t qualify to pull out a student loan or receive financial aid specifically during the summer of 2024, which was when I took the class my Dad helped pay for. My university already clarified to me that there was no extra loan or grant money was expected to be disbursed for that summer. Every refund that I have ever received was always disbursed within the first two weeks of the same quarter. If I did receive one, I would’ve received a notification that it was being disbursed and it wouldn’t have taken a year for my university to give me a refund.
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Stealing any quantity of money from your own child, when they don't only have loans to pay, but also going through cancer treatment is vile. I get that you're living at home and they are taking care of you financially, but still, it's disgusting. I'm sorry you're going through this, and I hope things get better for you ❤️ Maybe you could have dealt with things differently, or wait till the next morning, bit still, NTA. However, remove your mom from your bank account yesterday!!
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Wouldn't be enough to cover the engine at all. I agree with you wholeheartedly
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I commented elsewhere that you paid for the part of the coverage that got her any money back, so that justifies the money part right there. Another point is that you were the one who had to deal with the insurance company after the wreck, and the insurance adjuster, and doing the paperwork to file insurance claim, and you had to review the insurance offer, sign off on it, receive and cash the check… so you did all the work with your insurance company. Since the car was in your name, you could have been named in a lawsuit if she injured someone driving as well! That’s worth something. (I’m just trying to respond to your question, which was justifying to her keeping the payout! Good luck with everything. I’m glad you chose to get the added coverage and that it wasn’t worse.)
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I read this aloud to my husband and son. We can't wait to see it and suggest Kathy Bates for the lead.
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Read the comment I just left on /u/brutal_burn_dude 's reply.
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YTA - did you actually talk to Alexandra? She is a nanny, it is entirely possible that she's paid crap and her employer is too miserly to provide the supplies that your group requires. She is trying to make sure that the kid she watches, as a single, gets some peer interaction. Should she try another way that would be free? Yes if that's available. But do you need to humiliate her without speaking to her directly and privately? No, you don't.
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Holy fucking reaching, batman... or, perhaps, Alexandra?
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Do you have a butt? Read this. Every year, thousands of young people hear the words, “You have colorectal cancer” — cancer of the colon or rectum (parts of your digestive system). It’s terrifying. Colorectal cancer is the deadliest cancer in men under 50 and second in young women. But we’d be the assholes if we didn’t tell you the truth: It doesn’t have to be this way. Colorectal cancer, or CRC, is one of the most preventable cancers with screening and highly treatable if caught early. So why is it upending the lives of so many young people? In a word: *stigma*. Nobody likes talking about bowel habits, rectal bleeding, or colonoscopies. So… the conversation doesn’t happen. Too many people don’t know the symptoms. Too many symptoms get dismissed by healthcare providers. And too many diagnoses come late. Advanced colorectal cancer has a survival rate of just 13%. Science still hasn’t broken the code to cure every case of colorectal cancer. That’s why awareness, better screening access, and providers taking symptoms seriously are just as important as knowing the signs yourself. Here’s what you need to know: * CRC rates in under‑50s are rising. * Many are diagnosed in their 20s–40s — often after misdiagnoses. * A close family member with CRC doubles your risk. * Lynch syndrome or FAP = even higher risk. * Screening saves lives, and most people have testing options (including at-home tests). So why are *we* talking about this? r/AmItheAsshole is approaching 25 million members. To celebrate, we, the mods, have partnered with the Colorectal Cancer Alliance, a national nonprofit leading the mission to end this disease. Here’s how you can help: **1. Learn the symptoms.** Bleeding, persistent changes in bowel habits, unexplained weight loss, abdominal pain. Don’t ignore them. Advocate for yourself. **2. Get checked starting at 45.** If you’re average risk, you should start getting checked for CRC at age 45. Some people need to get checked earlier. The Alliance’s [screening quiz]( can provide you with a recommendation. **3. Support the mission.** Your donation funds prevention programs, patient support, and research to end colorectal cancer. Even a small gift could help someone get checked and survive. [Please donate here and show what 25 million people can do together]( If you or someone you love has faced CRC, share your story in the comments. You never know who you might help.
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Just a note about the chances being double if a close family member has / had CRC. You should start getting screened 10 years prior to the age when they were diagnosed (in the cases of early onset CRC). Say your family member was diagnosed at 42, then your screenings should start at 32.
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AITA for not bringing my daughter’s friend home and making her parents come get her? My daughter and I live about an hour outside NYC. Since she was a baby, I’ve taken her there most weekends. As she got older, she occasionally brought friends. They always know the rules: bring a bag with things for the train, carry your own stuff, stick together, expect lots of walking, and have fun. Phones are fine, but I encourage screen-free activities. I always speak to parents beforehand and emphasize the walking, we sometimes walk 45 minutes or more. For her 12th birthday last weekend, she wanted to go to the city with friends, visit favorite spots, have dinner, and maybe see a show. My mom helped pay for tickets and joined us. My daughter invited three girls: two longtime friends who know the routine and a new friend, “Leah.” I called Leah’s mom, explained the rules, warned about the walking, and suggested Leah bring something for the train since the signal is bad. Leah’s mom said she was excited. My daughter also explained expectations. On the train, Leah brought only her phone, got bored when the signal cut out, refused to chat or play games with the others, and complained. When we arrived, she immediately asked for a cab. My daughter reminded her we walk. As we browsed shops, Leah kept whining and asking for a cab. I stayed patient, offered water and snack breaks, and even suggested the subway to be nice, but she refused when she learned what it was. A few hours in, we stopped for dinner at a place with options for everyone. Leah complained again and said she wanted to go home. I pulled her aside to check if she was sick or upset; she just said it was boring. I told her we’d be there a few more hours for the show, but if she wanted to leave, she could call her mom. Leah called, and her mom asked me to bring her back. Even if my mom or I left with Leah and took a train back after we dropped her off, we’d miss the show, and my daughter wanted both of us there. I explained we wouldn’t head back until after the show. Leah’s mom didn’t want to pay for a train ticket or drive. She eventually sent Leah’s dad, who picked her up before the show. Leah stayed crabby through dinner. Afterward, Leah’s mom trashed me to the other moms, but they backed me up, saying they wouldn’t expect me to cut the trip short unless a child was sick or hurt (which I would do). Now Leah’s mom won’t let her hang out with my daughter. I can’t help wondering if I should’ve just sucked it up and taken her home. AITA?
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When my daughter was 12 we took her and a friend to Southern California from the Bay Area for our summer vacation. We had a 2 bedroom timeshare on the coast in Orange County. We had big plans each day. Day one at the San Diego zoo. This friend was unhappy and pouting almost as soon as we got there. She did not want to be there and kept moping she had a headache. I finally had enough and said fine let’s go back to the condo and poof she was suddenly fine. Talking and animated. The next day was a trip to Catalina. I was paying for her. I flat out told this princess that a plane ticket home was about the same price as the boat out to Catalina. She had her choice to be happy or go home. We repeated this threat each day as we headed to Disneyland and universal studios. That was 20 years ago and my daughter, husband and I still talk about what a nasty piece of work that little girl was. Ungrateful, entitled, and petulant. It ruined the friendship.
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I want to know how much OP spent. They said money is tight which is why I assume the aunt offered the code if the niece needed anything. They said they went ahead and bought more than they normally would have. If I were the aunt I would be annoyed I tried to help if not a lot of money but then OP bought a lot of items. It just feels like offer an inch take a mile.
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I'm still wearing all of the clothes I got on discount at a previous job more than half a decade ago-- it can be a smart investment move if the clothes are nice enough.
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